Personal Style Mistakes you may be making and SHOULD STOP
ฝัง
- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 5 มิ.ย. 2024
- #styleinspo #styleblogger #minimalistfashion #slowfashion
Today's episode speaks to personal fashion style mistakes for Women's fashion and Men's Fashion coming from your favorite Fashion Blogger ;-) personal mistakes and provide advice on how to avoid them. We cover everything from fashion trends to sustainable fashion to outfit ideas, and fashion tips. Whether you're into Vintage clothing, sustainable fashion or the hottest fashion trends. You'll leave this video feeling confident in your fashion choices and ready to create a fashionable closet or capsule wardrobe (envy of celebrity fashion, fashion magazines, fashion shows) that suits your personality and lifestyle.
SIGN UP FOR MY "Hey Fashion Friends" NEWSLETTER HERE:
hey-fashion-friends-bd1f74.be...
MY LOOK (affiliate links listed below, thanks for your support):
Everlane Oversized Blazer www.gopjn.com/t/8-9711-183033...
Everlane Crewneck Long sleeve tee www.gopjn.com/t/8-9711-183033...
Necklace (heirloom necklace)
Makeup:
Kosas Skin Improving Foundation rstyle.me/+xK0EMYGQr0PCHzJ3LA...
Ilia Concealer rstyle.me/+rurnDyp12kvGPVIGdq...
Ilia Bronzer rstyle.me/+PbgaBvRLlC8A_K-Zbr...
Ilia Mascara rstyle.me/+JIQEWlyxauvml5p2kK...
Sephora Lip Liner rstyle.me/+18uhkHYplIJIFavNCL...
Ilia Liquid Eyeliner rstyle.me/+NAGpMI9rzlyW47ikAI...
Anastasia Brow Pen rstyle.me/+NZ3RNdwX_b7pCMvNj1...
My Instagram - / imemilywheatley
My Pinterest - / _saved
My Music- dyalla.bandcamp.com/album/fre... - แนวปฏิบัติและการใช้ชีวิต
So so true! Why do we save our best for last?!? We may never wear them! This has to stop!!!
Definitely!
Emily, this is such a sisterhood because I think we have all made all of these mistakes. Thank you for making us feel we belong☺️
So true , we have all done all of these😅 just love all your videos
Oh I love that!! We are a sisterhood!! :-)
So true! The guilt that comes when I realize I’ve made these mistakes and as a result struggle with decision fatigue…I need to turn around my mindset and just move forth with what works for me and donate what doesn’t.
Thank you for reminding me not to ask my husband for fashion advice. 🕺🏻✨😂
Ha Ha...so right...
Best advice ever for me as a retiree “wear your good clothes”. Truly resonates with me. Thank you.
You are so welcome!
I have always saved the best for last! Not anymore, I started wearing my “good clothes” everyday a few months ago. I found I was getting rid of clothes I barely wore.
You couldn't be more right about dressing for yourself.
I want to start this of my prefacing the fact that my personal style hasn't changed since I was 11 years old 😂
I live in a part of Australia where literally everyone dresses exactly the same. I am a minimal goth and always tone down (even more) what I'm wearing as to not draw attention to myself in public. On top of this, I have an extremely strict and religious mother who hates every item of clothing I put on my body because it's not light, colourful or "feminine".
It has taken me until turning 30 to stop worrying about what other people think and to fully lean into my personal style and guess what!? My co-workers are my biggest support group. No matter what I put on in the morning, everyone loves it and we even joke about how if other people wore my outfits, they wouldn't be able to pull them off because they are so curated for my personal style. I love it.
This confidence boost from my work life has spilled out into my personal life, my gym life, etc. and finally, my family has come around. To the point of now asking me for style and shopping advice because everything I have learnt from you, Emily Wheatley.
Thank you for your knowledge and inspiration 🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤
Wow! I love this so much! I'm so glad you've started dressing for yourself and letting your true style come out. I hope more people have your bravery so they too can discovery how amazing it feels to be themselves!! Thank you so much for sharing this story with me, makes it all worth it for me!!
i love the "goth" hearts at the end!!!!!
Yey for you ! ❤
Bravo Emily Wheatley! Well done!
I love that you talked about your husband hating on your high rise jeans! Mine does the same. The truth is his style is more preppy and mine is more edgy. I have accepted that the things he wears are not my style and vice versa. And it’s ok! But it took me a looong time to get there.
Yea it's hard to let go of for sure.
Thank you! I am so guilty of "saving my nice clothes" and just feeling boring, bland, and lazy in what I wear. Recently, I have been working on building my capsule wardrobe thanks to your videos. I just bought my first pairs of wide-leg pants and they make me feel amazing! But since they were pricy and I want to "make them last," I've only worn them once since I got them. You are right -- I should wear the pieces I love so I can love them more often!
Yes definitely!! Wear them pants and wear them again and again!!
I used to make this mistake all the time. But if you want to think practically, what is the point of spending a lot of money on something you don't wear lots. That makes it one hugely expensive item!!!!!!! I used to have a job that required I dress expensively, leaving me no cash for non-working wardrobe. Now I try to spend the most on what I wear most often. You can always borrow or hire a dress for a wedding etc but you need the best everyday clothes you can afford.
As a plus size woman I used to buy clothes that fit but then not wearing them because I couldn't make an outfit out of those pieces. Now instead of thinking about my clothes as individual items, I look at clothes like a wardrobe. I buy clothing with the idea that they should be interchangeable. Tops and bottoms need to be able to work together. Instead of having mixed matched clothes. Not only did this save my wallet, it gave me confidence and the gift of time. I can pick out my clothes in the morning without struggling and feel good about how I look. And I stopped wasting my money.
I stopped saving stuff for best and I never ask my husband about clothes he has the fashion sense of a gnat!
The first one resonated. I saved a dress for months for a wedding (4-5 hrs) and wasted most of the summer by not wearing it before.
I've saved clothes for so long that I don't fit them and couldn't even wear them!! 😢
Oh no! bummer!
Excellent guidelines and advice! Thank you. BTW I am 75 years of age and do agree with much you said; learning vie trial 'n error.
Such wonderful information. I never knew all this about dressing. Now I am learning about it and it is fascinating!
One of my fave quotes is by Margaret Oliphant - 'Oh, never mind the fashion. When one has a style of one's own, it is always twenty times better.' I have it on the back of my business cards!
Oh I love that!!
Great post! I dress for other people at special events like weddings, and miss out on opportunities to feel like the best version of myself.
I use to do the same! The last couple weddings I went to I wore what I wanted (which wasn't dresses) and felt AH-MAZE-ZING!!!
Coming from a remote area in northern Canada, and being a little ''chubby'' in my early teens and having a lot of handme down from neighbors and my older sister, it was mind blowing in my late 20's when I heard my friend talking about wearing clothing based on her ''aesthetic'. I remember just thinking - ''what you dont buy clothes just because they fit you!?!?!?!?!'' strangely enough, I lot of my friends who knew me back then, told me they always thought I was well dress and always look original (in a good way). I'm in my 40s now and not to say i never do any Style Mistakes (because I do, sometimes I think you can learn from your mistakes) I always have a clear view of the image I want to project to the world and when I buy a piece of clothing it need to adhere to that image. I have to say, dressing for other people, is a big one I see for young girl dressing sexy when they go out. I always question myself as, are you dressing like that because YOU want to feel sexy (and go for it girl) or because you want the ''other'' to see you as sexy...
Ugh, toooootally!! That is such a great point about young women dressing sexy. Unfortunately when we're younger I think it's the ladder.
Your story about hubby not liking highrise jeans. Whether it's jeans, clothing style or hair. You are so spot on. In the end, feeling confident can be very attractive.
Yes, exactly!! :-)
Thank you, Emily.
Only once have I bought an item in a color that I would have never chosen because the color I wanted (gray) wasn’t in store in my size….so I settled: mustard. Did order the gray on line. Found I wear the mustard ones much more than the gray….me, who once only wore all black.
Noise in the closet!!!! ME!!!
My style is “styles”. I love fashion and save clothes to a fault. I pulled 15-20 pieces this week to start the cleaning out process. First to go are prints which I no longer buy. Thank you my dear for another good video.
Good for you, 15-20 pieces is fantastic!
So valid all these points Emily😊...thank you for the reminder; my style mistake is that I've learnt these things also after many decades working with fashion but at times, with changes to body, etc, with ageing, I lose confidence and FORGET!!! ..so a big thank you for this reminder...you are right on all counts!!
What are some hot weather alternatives to jeans, t shirts and blazers? Favorite premium denim brands? Thank you.
We are guilty if all these at one point in our lives.. as we get older we learn to embrace what weve got and wear what makes us feel empowered and our best.. unlike our younger selves we stop caring what other people think .. lol
hate so much when the item is on sale only for certain colours. and you'll be waiting for your colour preference to go on sale. yet upon waiting they're sold out lmfao 😭😭☠️
I think high rise looks amazing on you! You always pull off the best balance with them.
Thank you Sarah!! :-)
I see you’re “back in the saddle again”. Insightful informative sparkling video-I loved it! Thank you
Oh I'm so glad you liked it! Thank you Irene!
Personally, in my younger years I've made the mistake of buying things only because they were really cheap or on sale and not loving my wardrobe on me.
It relates back to what you said about buying the wrong color because it was on sale
Excellent points and advice!
Great discussion. Finding our own style is an ever evolving journey. ❤
I too have made these mistakes. Trying to let go of some of them. A good reminder Emily. Thank you! 👍☺️
I recently bought two of the Pima cotton turtlenecks from Everlane, because of you, and it was a great addition to my wardrobe. Living in Michigan, and although it’s Spring, I have already worn them quite a bit.
Oh good! I'm so glad it was a good buy!
Great video!! ❤
Also I love the email! Keep it up!
Awesome posting🙏🏻
❤Yes! Thanks, Emily!
So true!!! I watch influencers to get ideas and get out of my style ruts and that’s a great thing but now I have pieces that I’ve gotten so that my wardrobe is more diverse and I end up not wearing them and they do clutter my closet. I think that I am honing in on my personal style though thanks to your great advice😉
Oh good, I'm so glad to hear that Charlotte!! Good luck on the rest of your personal style journey!
Great insights! Thank you for sharing.
And hi from Southern California 😊
I have definitely made ALL these mistakes and still working on the "having too much variety" one as I am still influenced by the fashion videos I watch... It is too bad that unlike you it took me years to correct my style mistakes!!!!
It took me a while as well. At least you got there now!
Thanks very much, for another helpful video: especially because, I am sorting my closet this week. Yikes ! 😂
I started wearing my best clothes on sundays and I love it. I mean, If I have it why not wear it ! I recycle my blah clothes for better clothes these days and I'm soon gonna own pieces that I really feel good in. Thanks for your video, it confirms that's what stylish folks should want to do.
I have learnt a lot from you Emily, many thanks. I realised I use your phrases in my internal dialogue: "Now add a little pop, some edge..." when putting on bright green socks with all black😁. Have a great day!
You don't have to stick to one kind of asthetic your whole life I've gone through a wide range of different styles in my lifetime from goth the classic and everything in-between do what makes you happy and feel good and change up your style if you get bored have a few of those pieces in your wardrobe and change it up every now and then I have a very classic style now but I buy trendy pieces and mix them with my more classic pieces you can wear two different styles in one outfit if you want to don't stock to the "rules" if you think it looks good and makes you feel good then they go together and wear them because it makes you happy
My story is the reverse, I would always buy the more expensive designer item because I thought it would be better, but learnt that I don’t need to pay silly prices and I can get the same effect with a cheaper high street brand.
Point 4. Yes.
Your words are totally true, I have to much noise in my closet, but is very difficult for me to donate the clothes for which I have paid a lot, I am learning my lesson 🥹
Try selling the clothes that are more expensive. Either on ebay or poshmark or local thrift stores. That helps to make the sting a little less when getting rid of clothes you paid a lot for.
I stopped donating my clothes regularly, because I realized I was buying the same things over and over again. I now do a "discovery system" I heard about from Hannah Louise Poston, I think. Basically, I have some clothes I "banish" to another closet or a tote for a time, and then "go shopping" for when I want something "new"...or is more often the case, I need a different size. It works. Of course, I've never had a huge amount of clothing anyway 🤷♀️.
The only thing about wearing the good clothes is that most of the time they need to be dry cleaned so that raises your cleaning bills, that’s the way I look at it
if you’re wearing your good linen you’re not going to throw that in the washing machine you’re wearing your good cashmere you’re not gonna throw that in the washing machine. Thoughts anyone?
LOve the sayings at the end❤️
Oh good, I'm glad you saw them :-)
Busted! Thanks for so much food for fashion thought. Saving my nice clothes. Buying for price, or because I found something close to what I want at a thrift store and can't trust anything better will ever come along. FEH! I'm packing for a big trip and where I'm receiving an award. Going through my clothes to pick the wardrobe, you just gave me permission to bring what I want and like to wear, not what I think I need to wear to create an impression. Thank you!
Love that! Yes, if ever a time to wear what makes you feel amazing than when accepting an award. Congratulations!!
Thank you for taking the time to make this video. I have definitely bought things I knew I didn't love because I liked the price. I end up buying five things I don't like at $20, when I could have saved that money to buy one thing I loved for $100. Getting high quality doesn't have to mean spending more- maybe just fewer things! I sometimes choose not to wear things out of the house that my husband says looks weird. I should work on this. And, to know what quality is can really change things, agreed! When I first started watching your channel I still did not know exactly what nice jeans were. I took myself to Nordstrom and found out. Now that I have tried those quality jeans on, I can confirm that higher quality clothing makes you feel better!
I'm loving all your videos and now your blog! I have to know, though... What, and where can I find that belt that wraps up and over your shoulders? I absolutely love that! 😍❤️
Ha, my husband also teased me about high rise jeans. He also now tells me low rise are back in style, "hint, hint". My body at 43 is not what it was at 23 (and that's ok!) and I am not going back to low rise, he just has to deal with it. I tell him high rise highlights my butt so much better ;)
I love all you brought up! Thank you!
Glad you enjoyed it!
My issue is too many choices. Thanks for such good info.
Yes! She helps so much with decision fatigue!
Glad you liked it Tracy!
I feel these so much. Been there, done that... all of these. I think you can apply all of your tips to make up too. My collection is so much smaller now and I never find myself not knowing what kind of make up look I wanna go for or not liking my make up. This would also work for skincare, haircare etc. Buy what you really love, what really works for you, what does what you want it to do, no matter the trends, no matter the hype, no matter the suggestions for whatever and whatnot. Of course it's fun to try out new things, but only to a certain extend. There's a fine line between it being fun and it being stressful and overwhelming. I personally am in a transitional state in terms of my style right now, because I am just getting the hang of what I really love wearing, but I know I am going in the right direction because I never felt so much like myself when dressing, doing my hair and make up. And part of that is thanks to your amazing videos. You explain everything so well, I was finally able to understand why I never really felt at home with my own wardrobe. You helped me turn the switch to understand and honor my own personal preferences when it comes to how I look. Thank you so much for your amazing work, Emily.
Yay!! I'm so glad that the videos have helped you. That makes me so happy!! And I totally agree, these tips can be applied to pretty everything. Thank you so much for your comment Julia!!
These are all great suggestions. Especially the one about wearing the good clothes. Sometimes I just keep them in my closet because they’re too good to wear. And I enjoy looking at it there. But if you are not wearing it now, then when. 👍🏻
Exactly!! Happy wearing!!
I find you so interesting Emily!! Love your work!!🧡
Thank you so much! :-)
I am now 33 years old. Since my late 20s I have struggled to find my own style. As a teenager I liked to wear jeans with a metal shirt. But now I don't always find it appropriate.
When I watch your video I find myself making 3 mistakes:
1) too much variety
2) don't invest in the best. That has something to do with number 1. For now I don't dare to buy more expensive pieces, since I'm still looking for my "thing". I liked it when you said to be patient. I think that's my biggest flaw that makes my closet overflowing with too much variety.
3) Dress up for someone else. I try to combine clothes in a different way so that I can wear them more often. I'll ask my friend for advice. Usually he doesn't like it. He tells me I look like Beverly Goldberg or like a "boring mom". Keep it simple, he says. Easier said than done
Yea all 3 are hard ones to break. Non of us will ever be perfect with these mistakes. But as long as we are aware of them and do the best we can that's all that matters. Bring back those metal tees :-) That was my go to too
Great video, Emily! 100%.
Thank you Barbara!
Informative as always. Enjoy your channel so much.
Thanks so much!
I dress for myself now but I still get looks
I also get a lot of compliments 😂
I get the side eye looks as well :-) I embrace them now though.
Great list Emily! 🖤 after I started working from home due to COVID quarantine I got rid of all my clothes and now just wear what I really like to wear 😃 Tshirts and leggings and oversized sweaters with sneakers.
Love love it!!! Good for you!!
@@EmilyWheatley 😆 💕
Going to spend sometime in my closet. 🤔🤔🤔 Thanks for the challenge. 👍🏻
Yay! Have fun!
outstanding video/message❤
Thank you Veronica!
Emily, i love your style and watching your videos! I find it difficult to stick to how i want to dress and my personal style as my personal style if quite comfortable and snazy. But my office has a smart dress code 😢 x
That's always tough when you have to adhere to a dress code. See what you can get away with style wise while still staying in the dress code.
Please tell me more about these high-quality designer jeans! 🧐
Thank you, Emily, for encouraging each of us to embrace what we like and what we feel good in.
My denim/pants wardrobe consists of pull-on & stretch (I know….cringe). I carry my weight in the middle, but my hips and legs are relatively smaller. So…when it fits my waist I usually look like I’m swimming in fabric. I don’t want to wear these pants, but I’m majorly stuck in a rut (X 6 years). 😩
I too have the challenge of finding jeans or pants that fit my shape which is similar to yours. When I was young, I usually bought boys Levis because they actually fit me better. Not even sure where to look for jeans at this point?
@@SHines-qk9qj I also wore men’s jeans, my favorite were from the Gap (that was 30 yrs ago)!
Maybe try a mid rise jean that it's a bootcut or a cropped flare. If it was me I'd then style it with a v-neck drapey tee with an effortless tuck into the waist band to emphasize the waist. But the jeans cut can really be anything. I think they main thing is cinching in your waist.
I’m old enough to remember when Levi started making a fit for women….they were pricey. Two darts added-double the price. My little brother wore them once with a can of Copenhagen snuff in the back pocket and caused a round wear mark …..furious.
I recently purchased a pair of Madewell with button fly….was terrified that I wouldn’t be able to get them off in time (if you get my drift). Also the warning label stating the color could rub off on upholstery….they have become my favorite jeans.
Hi Emily, I've only just started on my capsule wardrobe journey (thanks to you!) and already feel so much more confidant and put-together. Since you believe in fewer, higher-quality pieces, could you show us some tips for how you take care of everything? Going from "cheap shoes and synthetics" to real leather boots and linen clothes has been a hard transition for me because I'm investing in expensive, quality pieces but have to research how to take care of each one.
Yea, I can definitely add it to my list!
@@EmilyWheatley Thank you! I feel like some people need "obvious" tips like "hang dry your shirts" lol. I only just realized that I shouldn't be throwing all my nice dark jeans in the dryer... and that I don't need to wash everything after only 1 wear.
@@okashi10 I totally get it. The obvious tips are sometimes the most unknown. Took me a while to discover a lot of them.
What is a luxury jeans brand?
I have some high waisted nude shaping panties I wear under dresses because they make my look so much better in dresses. But my husband calls them granny panties. HOWEVER, he loves me in dresses. I wear dresses more often because of these panties so they stay....
Never liked that "suspender" belt . I commented a while back it looked perv. Sorry !
Will wear my good clothes. Thanx.