It’s been more than a decade since my husband’s indiscretions. We’re about to get therapy together for my PTSD. Better late than never. I suffer greatly, especially when I’m triggered by certain surroundings and circumstances. It’s awful!!!
@@feliciaforde5750 My husband and I will be getting therapy, not just for his issues, but for my PTSD which is off the charts. My husband is a repeat offender and always told me to get over it until I found Dr. Weiss on TH-cam. My husband saw all of his videos, especially about gaslighting the betrayed wife. He doesn’t dare gaslight me anymore. I’m hopeful that these extensive Christian therapy sessions will deal with our issues. I don’t trust my husband as far as I can throw him. I trust in the Lord to guide me through this storm. Time doesn’t heal anything either.
@feliciaforde5750 I have same anxiety as well. I even get triggered if I'm shopping for groceries and see a pretty woman and I get thankful that my husband wasn't with me to see her. It happens off and on. Sometimes I talk myself into saying saying it's just human nature, and other times I wish the planet was void of every woman. It's super hard.
@@cynthiadelgado1317 as for your reply, it's almost just as hard to find help. I've tried two counselors and one had the gall to say maybe I should have a more open mind and give in to my husband's idea of threesom, for example. The second one was very disconnected and made me feel like my story bored her. So, I just found this video and decided to try to handle it myself. I've never been more lonely and betrayed over and over. I'm now reclusive, and can hardly function
I've had all 3 traumas. Over 18 yes I've suffered in silence. Using drugs as a bandaid which has of course made it worse... I'm at a point now that my life is in severe jeopardy. I do need help. I feel hopeless.
I am so sorry you have gone through this. I, too, have had all three traumas and have lived with many effects. I started with self care as I had neglected my health. Talking to God helps me. My dog helps me. Music helps me. I was angry at myself for staying and the amount of time I lost in all of this. Yes, I was angry at my spouse. I can't change him. I wish you love, peace and joy overflowing. You deserve it.
I'm sad to hear this has been happening in your life, your pain is legitimate. If my team can help you in any way, please reach out to our office at 719-278-3708 and we can connect you with a certified therapist to help you process the trauma and heal. The Partner Betrayal Trauma book and workbook would helpful as they provide validation and guidance in dealing with what you have experienced: www.drdougweiss.com/product/partner-betrayal-trauma-ebook/ www.drdougweiss.com/product/partner-betrayal-trauma-workbook-ebook/ You can connect with the free Partners group we have on Facebook for support as well. You are not alone in this: facebook.com/groups/partnersofsa/?_ga=2.104303107.2022917597.1712585280-1670047649.1702073164
As a man I have experienced this from my female partner this started in September of 2023 and I feel utterly lost, alone, dead inside, unloved, unwanted. All this started from picking her phone up and I can’t unsee what I saw. All I want is to feel loved by her again and not like the ghost I have been made to feel like since then. What can I do?
I'm sad that you have gone through this devastating betrayal, your pain is real. You can start getting healing and support for yourself in order to work through this. You can call Heart To Heart Counseling at 719-278-3708 and get booked with one of our male partner betrayal trauma therapists who will help you process this and heal.
I need something specifically for my type of situation. I have the workbooks and they have helped some but I need something for marriage over due to him performing oral sex on a gay man. I saw a coach who recommened the books but I need more. Almost 39 years of marriage and he threw it all away. He took all of the money and I'm in the process of getting a divorce.
It's not always sexual. Could be the first time they hit you. Could be when the honeymoon phase ends with a bang, catching you off guard and you're suddenly trapped being massively humiliated in public with no way out. Walking on eggshells once you find out that at the drop of a hat your Dr Jekyll can suddenly become Mr Hyde. The first time you are the deer and they are the headlights yet the normal emotions that would be the brakes never happen.
I'm sorry that you have faced all these traumas, your pain is legitimate. If there's anything my team can do, please reach out to our office at 719-278-3708 and we can connect you with a certified therapist to help you work through these traumas and find healing. You might find the Partner Betrayal Trauma book and workbook helpful for validation and guidance on your journey: www.drdougweiss.com/product/partner-betrayal-trauma-ebook/ www.drdougweiss.com/product/partner-betrayal-trauma-workbook-ebook/ You can also join our free Partners Facebook group to receive support from a community of women. You are not alone in this: facebook.com/groups/partnersofsa/
I’m damaged goods. I literally start shaking and become very cold with my PTSD. I need to flee from the situation that is provoking my anxiety and agony!
You are not damaged goods. You are not. Don't believe that lie. I know the pain, I've dealt with it for 18 years with my husband. I, too, I have felt that way too, so I know how you feel. God is the only thing that has gotten me through all of this. You can do it, too. Broken pieces can be put back together.
My heart goes out to you as I hear that what you are going through in your marriage. Your partner betrayal trauma and the pain that comes with it are real. Know that your husband did is not your fault and you are not damaged goods. I'm glad to hear that you are about to get counseling to help with this. Although, it would be best if the therapist you go see is trained in partner betrayal trauma so that they can understand and validate what you have gone through. He should also get help to recover from his actions and have accountability. If you're interested, you can contact our office at 719-278-3708 and we can provide counseling options for the two of you. If he is willing, the two of you can get the Helping Her Heal Set, as it would help him to better understand how his actions have impacted you and how to properly validate your feelings and help you and the marriage heal. www.drdougweiss.com/product/helping-her-heal-set/ The feelings of PTSD, anxiety, and the like that you are experiencing are quite common for those who have been betrayed in this way. You might want to check out the DVD "Triggered" since it covers the issue of trauma and how to manage triggers. www.drdougweiss.com/product/triggered-video-download/ We have a Partner Betrayal Trauma book/DVD and workbook that you would find helpful too, as they would validate what you have gone through and help you work through it and heal. www.drdougweiss.com/product/partner-betrayal-trauma-ebook/ www.drdougweiss.com/product/partner-betrayal-trauma-video-download/ www.drdougweiss.com/product/partner-betrayal-trauma-workbook-ebook/ You can also join our free Partners Facebook group to connect with a community of women who have gone through similar experiences and receive support from them. You are not alone in this: facebook.com/groups/partnersofsa/
As women, we are the ones seeking answers, asking God to help us. "There's a workbook for her" ugh!! Yes, it will help because you are seeking answers but it "might" help him understand? That is a tough one to get past. I am still separated and "working on things" I hate all the pain that women have suffered. Yes, there are reasons for men to behave this way but it is far past time that they admit to the problem and ask for help...on their own.
@@jennifersowers5428 My husband’s indiscretions, which I discovered, have broken my spirit. I will never have the same opinion about him. I thought I could trust him because he was part of God’s Kingdom. His secret life was uncovered by the grace of God. I moaned like an ailing animal shot by a machine gun.
What if the other person never supports your parenting responsibilities. As a family we agreed on healthy rules and boundaries with our children. She just sat back and betrayed me on so many levels. I was not at home because of my work schedule. I was supportive of everything she did but over and over she would set me up as someone I was not. I became the whipping boy for just saying no that is not right or healthy to allow drugs or abusive language towards myself or my wife. I'm just so very hurt about her mind set not standing up with me and being a parent and help mate.
That is indeed a difficult situation to be in. The pain and betrayal that you have experienced are real and it's unfortunate to hear how this is affecting your family. If you haven't already, I would suggest the two of you do counseling to receive guidance and see if you can resolve these issues, or at the very least, you can get healing and support for yourself. If you're interested, you can contact Heart To Heart Counseling Center at 719-278-3708 and we can get you started. We offer individual and couples in person (you can ask if we have someone in your local area) or virtually. We also have a 3 and 5 day intensive program that help expediate the process by providing a lot of counseling over a short period. You don't have to go through this alone.
Yes, our center offers phone and virtual therapy, as well as phone/Facebook support groups that you can join. You can call us at 719-278-3708 and my staff would be happy to answer any questions you may have about getting started.
Those that do it just for the money, but not everyone does. Coming from someone that has experienced all three of these by my husband for the past 18 years. Do you know how amazing it is that Dr W and his group talk about this stuff now?! No one had books or videos several years ago. I felt so alone and like no one else knew how I felt. So I am grateful for Dr W and his program.
This guy only seems to be interested in women. His content is good but it’s just weird how he revolves everything around women experiencing trauma. Like WE MEN DEFINITELY SUFFER BETRAYAL TRAUMA TOO! I know he acknowledges men’s trauma but he quickly glosses over it. Please be more neutral!
Men indeed suffer from betrayal trauma too. I have a playlist of videos that addresses the betrayals that men go through in relationships that you can check out here: th-cam.com/play/PLoQAJVqvxAfhtNr1iU_Ce4EXYpp-ylC-l.html
It’s been more than a decade since my husband’s indiscretions. We’re about to get therapy together for my PTSD. Better late than never. I suffer greatly, especially when I’m triggered by certain surroundings and circumstances. It’s awful!!!
Me too!! It’s very very hard to be in public. EVERYTHING and every woman is a threat. My husband is attracted to everyone. It’s terrible
@@feliciaforde5750
My husband and I will be getting therapy, not just for his issues, but for my PTSD which is off the charts. My husband is a repeat offender and always told me to get over it until I found Dr. Weiss on TH-cam. My husband saw all of his videos, especially about gaslighting the betrayed wife. He doesn’t dare gaslight me anymore. I’m hopeful that these extensive Christian therapy sessions will deal with our issues. I don’t trust my husband as far as I can throw him. I trust in the Lord to guide me through this storm. Time doesn’t heal anything either.
@@feliciaforde5750
Are you getting help?
@feliciaforde5750 I have same anxiety as well. I even get triggered if I'm shopping for groceries and see a pretty woman and I get thankful that my husband wasn't with me to see her. It happens off and on. Sometimes I talk myself into saying saying it's just human nature, and other times I wish the planet was void of every woman. It's super hard.
@@cynthiadelgado1317 as for your reply, it's almost just as hard to find help. I've tried two counselors and one had the gall to say maybe I should have a more open mind and give in to my husband's idea of threesom, for example. The second one was very disconnected and made me feel like my story bored her. So, I just found this video and decided to try to handle it myself. I've never been more lonely and betrayed over and over. I'm now reclusive, and can hardly function
I CAN ONLY SPEAK FOR MYSELF ……AND THE ANSWER IS ……NEVER !!!
So sorry to hear this 😢
From Europe, thank you man of God.
Definitely can't afford that😢
I've had all 3 traumas. Over 18 yes I've suffered in silence. Using drugs as a bandaid which has of course made it worse... I'm at a point now that my life is in severe jeopardy. I do need help. I feel hopeless.
I am so sorry you have gone through this. I, too, have had all three traumas and have lived with many effects. I started with self care as I had neglected my health. Talking to God helps me. My dog helps me. Music helps me.
I was angry at myself for staying and the amount of time I lost in all of this. Yes, I was angry at my spouse. I can't change him.
I wish you love, peace and joy overflowing. You deserve it.
I'm sad to hear this has been happening in your life, your pain is legitimate. If my team can help you in any way, please reach out to our office at 719-278-3708 and we can connect you with a certified therapist to help you process the trauma and heal.
The Partner Betrayal Trauma book and workbook would helpful as they provide validation and guidance in dealing with what you have experienced:
www.drdougweiss.com/product/partner-betrayal-trauma-ebook/
www.drdougweiss.com/product/partner-betrayal-trauma-workbook-ebook/
You can connect with the free Partners group we have on Facebook for support as well. You are not alone in this:
facebook.com/groups/partnersofsa/?_ga=2.104303107.2022917597.1712585280-1670047649.1702073164
0@@DrDougWeiss
Yeah... Drugs are my escape too
Can you do a video where the woman is the bad guy covert narcissist??
Thank you for helping❤
As a man I have experienced this from my female partner this started in September of 2023 and I feel utterly lost, alone, dead inside, unloved, unwanted. All this started from picking her phone up and I can’t unsee what I saw. All I want is to feel loved by her again and not like the ghost I have been made to feel like since then. What can I do?
I'm sad that you have gone through this devastating betrayal, your pain is real. You can start getting healing and support for yourself in order to work through this. You can call Heart To Heart Counseling at 719-278-3708 and get booked with one of our male partner betrayal trauma therapists who will help you process this and heal.
I need something specifically for my type of situation. I have the workbooks and they have helped some but I need something for marriage over due to him performing oral sex on a gay man. I saw a coach who recommened the books but I need more. Almost 39 years of marriage and he threw it all away. He took all of the money and I'm in the process of getting a divorce.
It's not always sexual. Could be the first time they hit you. Could be when the honeymoon phase ends with a bang, catching you off guard and you're suddenly trapped being massively humiliated in public with no way out. Walking on eggshells once you find out that at the drop of a hat your Dr Jekyll can suddenly become Mr Hyde. The first time you are the deer and they are the headlights yet the normal emotions that would be the brakes never happen.
I've had all 3 traumas.
I'm sorry that you have faced all these traumas, your pain is legitimate. If there's anything my team can do, please reach out to our office at 719-278-3708 and we can connect you with a certified therapist to help you work through these traumas and find healing.
You might find the Partner Betrayal Trauma book and workbook helpful for validation and guidance on your journey:
www.drdougweiss.com/product/partner-betrayal-trauma-ebook/
www.drdougweiss.com/product/partner-betrayal-trauma-workbook-ebook/
You can also join our free Partners Facebook group to receive support from a community of women. You are not alone in this:
facebook.com/groups/partnersofsa/
I wish I could get this therapy, but I can’t afford it.
I’m damaged goods. I literally start shaking and become very cold with my PTSD. I need to flee from the situation that is provoking my anxiety and agony!
You are not damaged goods. You are not. Don't believe that lie. I know the pain, I've dealt with it for 18 years with my husband. I, too, I have felt that way too, so I know how you feel. God is the only thing that has gotten me through all of this. You can do it, too. Broken pieces can be put back together.
My heart goes out to you as I hear that what you are going through in your marriage. Your partner betrayal trauma and the pain that comes with it are real. Know that your husband did is not your fault and you are not damaged goods.
I'm glad to hear that you are about to get counseling to help with this. Although, it would be best if the therapist you go see is trained in partner betrayal trauma so that they can understand and validate what you have gone through. He should also get help to recover from his actions and have accountability. If you're interested, you can contact our office at 719-278-3708 and we can provide counseling options for the two of you.
If he is willing, the two of you can get the Helping Her Heal Set, as it would help him to better understand how his actions have impacted you and how to properly validate your feelings and help you and the marriage heal.
www.drdougweiss.com/product/helping-her-heal-set/
The feelings of PTSD, anxiety, and the like that you are experiencing are quite common for those who have been betrayed in this way. You might want to check out the DVD "Triggered" since it covers the issue of trauma and how to manage triggers.
www.drdougweiss.com/product/triggered-video-download/
We have a Partner Betrayal Trauma book/DVD and workbook that you would find helpful too, as they would validate what you have gone through and help you work through it and heal.
www.drdougweiss.com/product/partner-betrayal-trauma-ebook/
www.drdougweiss.com/product/partner-betrayal-trauma-video-download/
www.drdougweiss.com/product/partner-betrayal-trauma-workbook-ebook/
You can also join our free Partners Facebook group to connect with a community of women who have gone through similar experiences and receive support from them. You are not alone in this:
facebook.com/groups/partnersofsa/
As women, we are the ones seeking answers, asking God to help us. "There's a workbook for her" ugh!! Yes, it will help because you are seeking answers but it "might" help him understand? That is a tough one to get past. I am still separated and "working on things" I hate all the pain that women have suffered. Yes, there are reasons for men to behave this way but it is far past time that they admit to the problem and ask for help...on their own.
@@jennifersowers5428
My husband’s indiscretions, which I discovered, have broken my spirit. I will never have the same opinion about him. I thought I could trust him because he was part of God’s Kingdom. His secret life was uncovered by the grace of God. I moaned like an ailing animal shot by a machine gun.
What if the other person never supports your parenting responsibilities. As a family we agreed on healthy rules and boundaries with our children. She just sat back and betrayed me on so many levels. I was not at home because of my work schedule. I was supportive of everything she did but over and over she would set me up as someone I was not. I became the whipping boy for just saying no that is not right or healthy to allow drugs or abusive language towards myself or my wife. I'm just so very hurt about her mind set not standing up with me and being a parent and help mate.
That is indeed a difficult situation to be in. The pain and betrayal that you have experienced are real and it's unfortunate to hear how this is affecting your family. If you haven't already, I would suggest the two of you do counseling to receive guidance and see if you can resolve these issues, or at the very least, you can get healing and support for yourself.
If you're interested, you can contact Heart To Heart Counseling Center at 719-278-3708 and we can get you started. We offer individual and couples in person (you can ask if we have someone in your local area) or virtually. We also have a 3 and 5 day intensive program that help expediate the process by providing a lot of counseling over a short period. You don't have to go through this alone.
Do u do therapy for people overseas?
Yes, our center offers phone and virtual therapy, as well as phone/Facebook support groups that you can join. You can call us at 719-278-3708 and my staff would be happy to answer any questions you may have about getting started.
How much does these therapy cost?
You can call my office at 719-278-3708, and my staff will be able to answer your questions regarding counseling and prices.
There’s a lot of money some people make out of heartbroken spouses..
I wish I could afford it.
Those that do it just for the money, but not everyone does. Coming from someone that has experienced all three of these by my husband for the past 18 years. Do you know how amazing it is that Dr W and his group talk about this stuff now?! No one had books or videos several years ago. I felt so alone and like no one else knew how I felt. So I am grateful for Dr W and his program.
This guy only seems to be interested in women. His content is good but it’s just weird how he revolves everything around women experiencing trauma. Like WE MEN DEFINITELY SUFFER BETRAYAL TRAUMA TOO! I know he acknowledges men’s trauma but he quickly glosses over it. Please be more neutral!
Men indeed suffer from betrayal trauma too. I have a playlist of videos that addresses the betrayals that men go through in relationships that you can check out here: th-cam.com/play/PLoQAJVqvxAfhtNr1iU_Ce4EXYpp-ylC-l.html
In the name of Jesus it can! Jesus heals all things.