It’s sad that a lot of black women don’t want to be with some of these men but when they see those same men with another woman they get upset. They feel like you have to wait decades until they get ready, after the trauma, kids, dustyness.
They are delusional. Time waits for no man, they think it will wait for them? They want to go thru their ho phase. Bad boy days having them beat it out to come give you left over turkey meat. All beat up, dug up and gutted inside. Nah the brothers are tired of it, n so many other women who are tight, n ......let me stop getting away from my self lol but I feel u on this tip
Y'ALL CAN HAVE THEM. MOST BLK. WOMEN DONT GIVE A RATS ASS. IF YOU'RE THAT DUMB TO BE WITH MASSA DAUGHTER. THINKING YOU'RE MAKING MOST BLK. WOMEN JEALOUS. THEN YOUR IN A SERIOUS DELUSIONAL STATE. IT'S YOUR CHOICE, YOUR SOUL, YOUR SALVATION. MEN THAT RUN TO MASSA DAUGHTER USUALLY ARE FREAKING WEAK MEN. THOSE NO COLOR WOMEN ALLOW THEM TO DO AS THEY WILL. THEREFORE WHENEVER I SEE WHERE THEIR NO COLOR WOMEN MURDER THEM. I FEEL NOTHING 👈👈
Men, life is hard enough as it is. Be with a woman that extends your life, not one who shortens it. No matter her race or what outsiders thinks. ALL MEN DESERVE PEACE.
So damn true! Modern black women are only out for themselves, not all, but most, and will drag you in the ground just to steal your money, so be careful!
All women deserve peace it doesn't mean we have to do backflips just to keep a man. Telling us what to say how to say it who to speak to who not to speak to. I dated outside of my race and I have never had to go through that with them. When I dated black men they didn't want me speaking to certain people don't speak to that guy the guy was my cousin but he still didn't want me to speak to him. It was crazy then he became verbally abusive and when he hit me I had to backslap and punch him in his stomach then kick him in his testicles and let him know you don't touch me and then my brother worked them over.
To think women of other races won’t stress you or make life hard for you is ignorant. It’s not the race that’s the problem, it’s the culture. I love Black women. I’m not that naive to think all black women are troublemakers. That’s an excuse to date outside your race
I definitely agree, but no black woman will ever shame me enough to only date them if a white or whatever other race of woman were to come around and treat me well and black women haven’t, also most black women don’t have that energy for black women that get passed around by white men.🤷🏾♂️
@@mikedavis9295 I think it's what your use to. Most black men who date white women were around multi cultural backgrounds maybe church, work, or school. Especially church how your raised in culture can create an attraction of different races.
we still have to contend with the reality that 70% of black kids are born out of wedlock and over 75% of black women are never married. The culture needs re examination.
But there might not be at all. There isn't always someone for everyone. You ight not meet someone you want who also wants you. Nevertheless, it only bolsters the point there's no guarantee you'll meet someone right for you of your own race.
Black men need to step up and stop simping And become alpha males that's the only way things will stabilise in the community and make it unify because that's true strength in a community unity is strength
What exactly is the definition of this "Black community" everyone keeps mentioning? I know what it looked like back in the 80s and that's NOT what I see today......
True story: I once had an interest in a coworker who passed me over for a dude she later married and had a baby from. A year or two later she was divorcing him and boomerang her way back to me by expressing interest again. I was hesitant because by then I had evolved into dating outside my race and become serious about investing into real estate. So serious that I decided to keep my car for at least ten years although the air went out in it. I agreed to date under the pretense that we were just going to pass the time and maybe create a “soft landing” for her. In other words We bump booties and I still stay on my investing course. I scratch her back and she scratches mine. A wins a win. Big mistake. I picked her up on our first date and she clowned me about my car not having any air conditioning all night long. I explained about my Real estate plans and saving money. She scoffed at it and rolled her eyes. I learned a big lesson that day. Just because you are the same color doesn’t mean you have the same values.
Listen…..I’ve dated SOOOO many women in my 40yrs on this earth. It ain’t easy finding the best fit regardless of race. So if I find someone that meets the majority of my requirements n we have peace, IDGAF about what her race is….I couldn’t care less. F what anybody gotta say about it
@@lindaavant4665 Maybe, but many women who are pretty and single ogre have deal breakers, the women who are wife material are overweight. I’ll wait or Passover single. Have a great life Linda ✌🏾
@battletested2934 It's a real disconnect between black men and women.. I find it very sad.... It seems we're the only people on planet Earth that can't seem to get it right.... Why????? Eighty percent of our children are born out of wedlock, and only one and four black women will get married.... Too much casual sex is happening without birth control..... My grandmother advised me to find a good mate..that didn't happen.... I people watch and very seldom do I see older black couples... I blame it on the single parent syndrome.... I have a neice, and she's biracial... We were having a conversation, and she said those white girls have racist parents, and they get with black guys and have nxxxxx babies.. to get back at their parents.. My son, nephews, and cousins are with white girls... I don't approve, but I don't say anything... It's been drama with them... Family gathering Nope, they don't come... Their bad behavior is tolerated, but not ours.. They always have a soft place to fall.........
Black man here. For me, it’s a long story…but to sum it up, dated outside my race when younger. Married outside my race. Marriage was pretty bad & ended up divorced. Met a Black woman and she has treated me better than ANY woman of any other race. So I hear what Shannon is saying but for me personally, a Black woman has been the BEST!
There’s so much to unpack regarding this conversation. What troubles me is that black men (I’m a black man) publicly disrespect and degrade black women but treat white women with tenderness and carefulness. We have completely lost historical perspective on our relationship to both black and white women. We have forgotten who was by our side and who was responsible for the blood on the leaves.
@@relaxingambientsounds7365 If and when we come together as a people it will be because black men have led the way. We are the leaders in our homes, we are the leaders in our community, and we are 100% responsible for it’s present condition. Until we take that responsibility, man-up, and stop shifting the blame to black women who follow our lead for better or worse, we will continue to be in this mess.
@@PsalmsPoetic you never been on these social medias app where white women are disowning/disorienting white men. The other communities are the same. Although we shouldn’t focus on them, but obviously people stick with their own longer than any other. Plain and simple.
@@markelraya10 I don’t speak on what happens with other communities for 2 reasons, 1 I don’t deal with them in relationships so I don’t have the expertise, and 2 black relationships are the only relationships that have been specifically conspired against from slavery to mass incarceration. My major concern is the healing of black families. I agree, people commit and stay with their own at a much higher rate.
@@PsalmsPoetic like cuz said, that shyt goes both ways, it seems like you're trying to absolve bw of accountability by talking about bm being leaders, idk where you been for the last 50+ years, but you can't lead what don't listen. For years I've seen bm talking to bw about certain behaviors ect, and their response is mind your business, stop policing bw, stay out of bw business. Over the past few years bw with a platform been calling them out also and said they're out of control and dysfunctional. The same thing sister Sharazad Ali said 40+ years ago, you're giving me Derrick jaxn vibes with all of that pandering, acting like you don't know what's really going on
They need therapy. They avoid therapy because of the “stigma” but go run to pastor and preacher and think their going to fix their inner issues. Preacher ain’t a licensed clinician. More black men need to vote with their feet. Don’t provide for and protect what doesn’t deserve it
@@kingkoopa2831 I agree. Pastor/Preacher messes them up even more. What happens between them with Pastor/Preacher is what David Carroll used to talk about regularly.
I was born in the USA and I’m Latino. And I have to say men are wasting there time dating these modern USA western women. The West is currently in a hook up culture and women do not care about families no more all they want is to claim they are “independent” with a high paying job while these women try and get themselves a rich man who pay for everything while she saves money for her own retirement and send dudes to divorce courts. Men need to get there money, hit the gym,get there passport and leave the West and go to a different country and retire there with there future foreign wife who is a good woman and not bring her to the USA. 💯
Some of what you say is true this is a hookup culture. Men have made it that way women have obliged them. Women always thought and was raised to get married have children and be a housewife but because of the wars and the mental illnesses and the shortage of men we're all over the place. If we need two people in a family to work and to make ends meet then you do what you have to do for the love and sake of your family. Black men get money and they do exactly what the white man does he has a lot of women he goes out and parties but the thing is white men know when to cut it off. Black men and other men of color don't y'all think that the epitome of success is to marry anybody that does not look like you. But the thing about men of color and black men or should I say the difference is men of color have realized that they're being used by these wws and no one can make you look good just because there are certain race. Latina women Asian women black women want the same thing they want men from their background to love them to take care of them not cheat on them. We all want the same thing. if you stuck to your family values we wouldn't be having this conversation at the end of the day I don't give a s*** who marries who. I would marry a man that's not black any day as long as he treated me with kindness and respect.
@@lisa196409 Its woman who made it that way with feminism so called sexual freedom.Woman control sex if all of you today wake and say no sex before marriage the next millionaires wont be tech but wedding venue and wending planners. Man will do what it takes to get sex but if its free no one buys a cow when the milk is free.
You are absolutely right. These racists are in the woods plotting, planning and target practicing 24/7, and these clowns are talking about dating their daughters. These racists are now driving hundreds of miles to destroy us. They have even started hanging bm in Europe. And these clowns are saying, "you can't help who you love". They are silly, naive, pitiful, childlike and foolish. This is the reason no one takes bm serious when they cry racism. And wasn't Shannon Sharpe shacked up with a white woman who became pregnant by another bm with MONEY? She was still living with him when she got pregnant by another Black man. And he doesn't even date BW so what is he talking about? smh. I am now beginning to think that some of these ppl are being PAID to keep us distracted in order to keep us losing. And too many of these men FEAR wm because they are dependent upon them. Even this clown on this channel calls HIMSELF, "your BOY". That is a dog whistle to the white supremacists that he is indeed NOT A THREAT. And if anything, he will ASSIST them with the DIVISION of his own ppl. Shannon included. This is what bm are doing while a WAR is being waged against us.
Did he forget Christian Obumseli? But that's fine. More black women are marrying white and non-black men. Black men must stop talking about black women when they are with white women. Okay. We got the message. Date whoever you want. Just like we do.
Black Men Definitely Need To First And Foremost Better Ourselves And Become Successful. But Many Of Us Also Want A Partner That Loves, Admires And Respects Us, To Share Our Success With.
I've always felt like people should chase the person who values them, respects them, loves them, honors them, grows them, and inspires them to be happy. Conflict is easier to navigate when they all match up as they don't want to hurt you to be right. Some get this from their own race. Others gotta look elsewhere. Do you and find/make your own happiness.
@@curtiswilson4737 It really is. I see a lot of y'all not happy. Hell I remember years ago talking someone I knew through a really dark head space. His black wife cheated and he was not ok. He was afraid of what he wanted to do. When asked if I was a bit scared of him too right then, I admitted it. He thought it was because he was black and I was like, "... No. It's because you are twice as big as me, built like a tank, your arms are as thick as my thighs, talking about wanting to hurt and kill people while on your knees hugging me while crying. You could snap me like a twig if you actually wanted to right now. I think anyone would be a bit nervous right now." When he asked why I didn't run like anyone else would I was just like "because if you wanted to be this person you are afraid of being, you would not be right here hoping someone stops you. Right?" "Yeah but... You should run. I'm no good." "If I run right now, I don't see anyone else staring that darkness down. So you gonna get this out of your system, go home, and be the you that you have chosen to be. Because you ain't psycho from what I've observed 'til now. Whatever happens between you and your wife is your business. I won't tell you what to do because I don't know your wife. Fix it or break it. That ball is yours but you gotta do something." "You make it sound easy." "It probably ain't. But it's the call you gotta make for your own peace. I'm your friend's girlfriend- not your side bitch so I have no stakes here. And staring this shit down I guess makes me your friend, too, now." I got him to laugh and he calmed down and went home after getting all the ranting out. I never asked what happened with his wife but he stopped wearing his wedding ring. He was in a much better head space for it, though. My then boyfriend kinda threw him at me when I got home from work that night. Mouthed "help. I am not good at this." He told his friend, "I will tell you what. I'm not good at this but she is. She will help you. I'm... Gonna be back in the morning. **grabs his shit and bolts**" Insert me giving him a look of "wait... What am I being elected for?" So that is how that conversation even happened. 😅 Ultimately, I think I told him what he needed though. I guess I wonder how many of y'all need to hear the same thing though. I feel like I'm seeing a lot of situations like that and more people need it. 😕
@@bryanbailey961 **shrugs** Do you still applies here. Some of y'all are happier single. Some like to chase, be chased, mutual chasing, or just straight up none. It really does not matter much which route you go. It's your life anyway. Only ones who are going to be mad are those who can't use you and planned on such or misread your intentions and got the wrong idea.
I'm a grown ass black man and I'll never let anybody make me feel guilty for who I date regardless of their race. You don't like my choices then get the F on✌
Damn straight brother ppl only sell to steal your joy and disturb your peace most now a days. So if you wind up with a white girl then so long as she loves you and compliments you then I'm happy
where was all that cultural pride when you needed somebody to March for your behind for George Floyd this is why I am so glad a lot of us are not caping anymore cultural loyalty has been dead a long time ago and you killed it.
Married a sista gave her the bougie suburban life, she cheated on me with a pookie. While I was at war. Sold out and haven't looked back. To much trauma from almost every black woman in my life. Now I am in the top 10%, all I get is shade from our people but I will take peace over shade any day.
Same thing happened to me, not only that I was working two jobs, taking care of my son and going to school to make our lives better. Will NEVER do that again. My wife and I are about to separate and I will never date or marry another BW again after this experience. I’ve been to too many other countries to be miserable with a group of people who only see me as a utility.
Black folks have to understand that anyone from any race will hurt you and black people never speak about that. Just because you're dating outside your race doesn't make things or them better! I wish black folks would realize that we are so fast to fight and or make excuses to love other people outside of our race. But so quickly dismissing our people says a lot about us in my opinion.
Generation of black people having a picture of a white Jesus hanging on the wall of their homes IMHO was the main downfall. That was the birth of all this self hate that's been manifesting within black folk
Other black folks have to understand that we can touch on community lifting and family structure and all of that but nobody OWES the fact that they have to date within their race. Damn that shit...that "you have to marry within the race" and you have a responsibility to the black community cause "Yo mama black" and "yo sister black"..Meanwhile, you have black women calling black men dusty, scrub, no romance without finance, and other nonsense. The hard-working mechanic who is making $30,000 a year - The BW don't want him. BW only want the man making 7 figures and if he marries outside of the race then "he forgot where he came from". After all "yo mama black" and you giving up on "sistas"...even though the "sista" has 3 kids from 3 different baby daddies, extra weight, masculine, and entitled. Maybe she doesn't have all of that. Maybe she has a Ph.D. and she feels that we can be "partners" and the man MUST make more than she does. Even then she must still run shit and swing her d**k emasculating the BM. NO BM don't let these crazy ass people let you think you "owe' the community" by marriage. Marry the best person for you or don't get married at all. Instead of saying that we making excuses to love other people maybe black people need to get their shit together collectively as a people. We the first in the club and the last to vote. We are the quickest to not only fight but to shoot. We are the worst when it comes to health and going to the gym. Add to that you have modern women that want traditional outcomes and here we are.
Unfortunately I think we are starting to see how the “strong independent woman” mantra is affecting our community and it’s not in a positive way. I think black women need therapy to undo what our grandmas, aunties, and mothers have taught us about black men. Black men are valuable and are needed to keep this society going. Unfortunately, I see a lot of black women losing sight on how important it is to keep the black community going because of pride and ego. I just hope that we won’t be the demise of our own race.
Show you can lead and naturally they will follow. You’re not going to get with someone starve and be homeless because you want to allow their skin and gender to lead… with the resources we have you’ll get up and get it yourself to keep your unit afloat… that’s the point… Carry and support your family be it man or women. Women are the back bone.
King Koopa heard it my whole life it's like a broken record stuck on repeat don't forget you have mommy issues well wouldn't that make the mom look bad black men tell people out preference is a woman physically in shape no attitude or kids .then we get looked at side eyed
@@malikwilson7387 Cam Newton is a multi millionaire and stated his preference for how he prefers a woman he’s with to act and black women tore him a new one like “how dare you think you can tell me how to act, don’t you know we all kwanns”
If you find a woman who is attracted to you and the feelings are mutual go for it. No matter the race. Find someone who makes you happy. The hell with the haters. Misery loves company. Don’t join in the misery when you don’t have to.
The hilarious part about this is, Shannon Sharpe's gf was white. She got pregnant by another bm with MONEY while living with Shannon. So what in the heck is he talking about? 😅😅😅
The hell with the haters? The only ones hating and ACTING on that hatred are the WS. BM are now being hung. Even in Europe now, a bm was hung a few days ago. The WS are in the woods target practicing, plotting and planning, and the ONLY thing these clowns are planning is to date their daughters. These racists are now driving hundreds of miles to destroy them, and these clowns are talking about , "you can't help who you love". Just pitiful. smh
Did he forget Christian Obumseli? But that's fine. More black women are marrying white and non-black men. Black men must stop talking about black women when they are with white women. Okay. We got the message. Date whoever you want. Just like we do.
@@amirwilliams3454 they can complain about the incarceration rates, but they are often behind a lot of BM in jail - directly and indirectly. The whole “protect BW” thing is a reflection of that.
asian's do have the same type of community black people have. The Hispanics and white people though are different. My guess is they're more experienced with it.
He's speaking facts. Who in their right mind wants to date these "I know I'm a handful but I'm worth it" sistas when you can be treated like a king from women of other races.
smooth cassanova being a handful not gonna get them married that's why most of them single moms now if they out that effort that they put into worrying about who brothers date they would be married. Brothers want something different and see how it feels to be treated with respect
Keep believing that until you get stabbed and killed by a youtuber. It's all in black men's minds. Thankfully there are a lot of examples of black love, companionship out there. Do what you want, but stop blaming black women.
As a Black woman, we have already figured what has been going on. Many of us have been opening our horizons. Sad to say, the loyalty to Black men outside of our families aren't our focus. Do what you must, we will do what works best for us as well🤷🏾♀️.
We are the only group of men expected to limit ourselves in mentality and actions to appease people who don't offer any tangible benefit to us...Glad to see more young brothers breaking the chains. #SYSBM
Scarlet Twin30 facts they know is black men produce the mot so they try to box us in but we got Unlimted resources when it comes to women white Asian latinas
You never see ww crying about wm dating asian women or asian women complaining about their men being with ww or Latinas complaining about their men dating out
After KS passed away and BW started to celebrate it on all social media platforms (even dating apps) i realized this "community" and "black love" is long gone . But if you do have a FBI sista with no baggage and low mileage..you have a ultra rare Pokémon, and do your best to keep her.
I personally have no spiritual connection with other races of women but im sticking with the sistas and to each its own , date who you want to date and be happy but its just sad how we attack eachother while claiming youre happy obviously not because you still in these topics trying to convince yourselves that you made the right choice
See that’s the thing, I also do not have a spiritual connection with other races; but the chaotic psychology of modern black women is too toxic for healthy black men. It’s a catch 22. I want to abide by the natural order, but I am risking my mental health in the process.
@@chazzanderson520 Yeah its not just modern blk women, didn’t blk dude just get kill by his white gal. Men in general but especially Brothas need to understand the misandrist base to some women’s mentally. Men are just doers for women who also happen to be expendable. Big O just did a vid on Sly Stallone. As for love who you want, make sure the love bus rides bk and forth not just outbound.
Black men date who you like,do NOT worry about what black people particularly BLACK WOMEN say or think.Thanks Shannon Sharpe for speaking the truth,and thank you as well Oshay for posting this.
"Most black people would rather you be miserable with with someone of your on race then go outside your race with someone that treats you respectfully and makes you happy"....end of story!!!
@Yriyah Yriyah BLACK WOMEN WANT THUGS! Pure and simple. THEY DON'T WANT A "GOOD MAN." The RGIII's, the Russell Wilson's, even the Bronny James'would be squares, cornballs and nerds to black girls in high school.
Russell Wilson is considered to be corny and a square whatever that means but he became the epitome of the ideal man because he saved his wife from her own antics ie dating men the so called culture found acceptable and also a couple photo ops with another dudes kid. A cuck is a cuck tho whether wealthy or not. You being a dude talking about dudes who are supposedly corny to these wayward women, is actually corny and reeks of pick me behavior.
I'm glad someone said this, I'll stick with black women no matter what. No other women compare imo Also unlike most westernised black men I'm aware of the agenda from the racist rich 1% to use propaganda and brainwashing to create a divide between black men and black women in order to eradicate us over the next few generations. Channels like this play up to this agenda
The hell with what anyone else thinks. I refuse to live my life being miserable when there’s a whole world of women willing and wanting to be feminine and cooperative. Who wants to argue or feel stressed all the time….that’s not healthy.
@@lisasligh1577 Why should a BM marry a BW he doesn't need the drama of baby momma attitude so shitty you fight the urge to Will Smith her!! Get the better version of BW get one from Africa Dominican Republic Columbia Brazil you will be happy like me!!!!
Why do BW feel threatened when BM talk about their issues in relationship ? You don't tell other races of men what they can talk about when they have issues with their women so don't tell BM.
As a black man that has been a square always on the right path, I've had more success with Hispanic women since middle school until this day. Only a handful of black women have ever considered giving me a change. Very small handful. No shade on black women, I'm just not the preferred type.
Same here man even in my fat days I always garnered more looks from Hispanic women the most, black women became attracted once i got buff and rip but Hispanic women were always drawn to me the most because of my values and morality and i was more family orientated plus they dont mind big dudes as long as you're a hard working man.
That’s real talk up until I met my wife the majority of the women I dealt with were Hispanic since kindergarten. It wasn’t because that was what I was looking for but the Hispanic women actually liked the dark skin and the fact I wasn’t trying to be in the streets. For the black girls that made me a lame up until 25
And I agree with him, we as black men need to find happiness above all else. If we ain’t getting it from our own women than so be it we can find it some place else it is what is🤷🏾♂️
You're supposed to find happiness without a woman, though. No one should be responsible for your happiness. A woman is supposed to be a help meet. If she's not doing her job, kick her to the curb.
That sellout BS never worked on me. I had well off relatives, and as a child I KNEW I was poor and did not want to be as an adult. All that anti-success crab in a bucket BS never held any sway. GTFOH.
The comments in here are very disheartening. I think as a people, there is a lot of trauma that needs to be addressed on both sides. I do believe people need to choose what makes them happy, as long as their choice is not a fetish or appealing to taboos. Furthermore, I can't even count how many conversations I have been a part of where these fetishes have been expressed. The best thing I ever did was travel to black population dense countries and gain perspective. I get you always have to look out for number one, but it's not as bleak out there as people make it.
Correct! We need healing on both sides. I dislike these pages that further drives us apart, it’s so ugly. As someone who has also traveled, it helped me see the different versions of blackness. It opens your mind. I do feel sorry for black men who have a hard time finding their Queen but just move. Expose yourself to the different types of women. We have so much love & encouragement within us. I hope everyone experiences that.
as long as its not a fetish, what if their fetish is what they want at the end of the day its what the person wants. who cares if its a fetish if she get my rocks off than so be it.
Ill say it from first hand experience. Dating became more fun once I started dating outside my race. I noticed very quickly women of other races wanted to get to know me as a person and what my values were compared to wanting to know my finances & what kind of car I drove. Once I started traveling internationally and experienced how women overseas(Germany, Ukraine, Mexico, Canada, Dominican republic) treated their men I never looked at American women the same again and started exclusively dating internationally.
I'm a black man and avoided dating and even interacting with black women altogether and my quality of life has dramatically increased. these modern black American women are lost stay away from them guys!!
I witnessed the results in real life, I remember seeing young African American males in their early 30's come in with severe hemorrhagic strokes. That's when I knew we need to take care of ourselves and ignore 99% of the people telling us how to live our lives. Those guys are gone, even with the ventilator doing all the work and feeding tubes, they never came back due to the damage to the brain. Stress in my experience is a major contribution to a lot of the illnesses we see.
These health issues that you are speaking of can be related to traumas; genetics and just everyday stress. Let’s not forget poor diet and health. It’s short-sighted and lacks substance to believe it’s caused by relationships. It’s important for Black people to seek mental health support to work through our issues. Keep it off social media and do the work.
@@catrathat08 Before you start calling me names, please read my comment again and show me where I mentioned relationships being the sole cause of the illnesses. Thanks for your input
@@mnkwazi Mostly healthy individuals from the test results, some were fit and had abs, There were a combination of factors that resulted in this, but the one standout thing I noticed they all had in common was stress. Your body is constantly fighting off infections and other things and one day all it takes is one little thing to push over the edge and the body gets overwhelmed. Monday's are known as stroke days as people are returning to a stressful job. There is a lot more info, but I'm trying to keep it short.
Now, in light of the big issues here, I personally date my own kind, however, my disposition towards them doesn't facilitate for any untoward behaviour of them to myself. This is my own experience... I focus my energy of desirability and love on my black women, I get extremely good results. Sometimes we need to check out what we're putting out towards each other.. There's a lot of us seeking us..... We also should not allow media sentiment to make it seem worse than it actually is!
Honestly I agree with him. I'm a black woman and my man is white and I've never been happier. I don't understand why mostly black women are upset about this. Especially since most of us are actually dating outside of the black community. Personally, I'm never going back. Black women stop the hate and date out. Expand your options!! You'll come out on the better end! Trust! 🤞🏾💯
He didn’t say black men are suffering dating black women he said people would rather see you suffering dating someone in you own race then happy with a person from another race it’s 2 different statements entirely
@@xamanbro826 it suggest if you move on to another person and they just happen to be white people would rather you be in that relationship that’s not good for you just because she’s black or whatever I’ve noticed a lot of stuff gets taken out of context.
I was told today by a black girl who graduated w/ a 4yr degree from FSU: “A degree is validation you do not have behind your name” Black women value these degrees over us and they try lead w/ their wallets and accomplishments. And as a 26yr old w/ a Net worth almost triple than the average in my age group, I laughed bc she thinks BM need a 4yr degree to prove we can think “logically” and tried to “challenge” my resume and professional skills. Knowing I’m 8yrs into my active duty Career 😂 Meanwhile you got Becky who works at Chili’s leading w/ her character and feminine nature and appreciating a hard working BM who has the work to show for it.
I was bullied by black women growing up calling me name like blacky etc.. but I said I will never date them 304$ once I get up!! Years later here they come!! 😂 but I got a black beautiful women now with 2 daughters!! Moral of the story she out there just keep grinding and never stop working on yourself and relationship
I do not think anyone should feel guilty about dating a person outside of their race. My issue is, you do not have to justify your reasons for dating non black women. Also, do not drag black women who date non black men. Everyone is entitled to their preferences.
What kills me about the whole Race loyalty when it comes to relationships is the SAME people who say you can’t date outside your Race are the same ones loud and proud in support of SAME SEX unions and such. Utterly ridiculous.
Black women have made it known that they do not like Black men . Chasing some one who does not want you is a waste of time. Black men with options are taking those options
Take the options, but I think this post is disingenuous. BW should explore their options more also, but most don't. Some are more recently starting to, but the majority of BW still saying they don't have an attraction to non-BM or want men who look like their father. Which is their prerogative too, but a lot of them especially the upper echalant, successful BW are waiting until their eggs dry up and die alone. I seen a BW on Twitter senior citizen aged talking she still waiting on a good BM 💀
Yea..when you look at the observable decades of mainstream disrespect-- overt and covertly, the ostracism of men in the lives of thier kids. The benign neglect they're subjected to socially, politically and more even by "their" women. The evidence its clear.
If blk women dating white men don’t have to explain themselves when dating outside their race, blk men shouldn’t have to explain themselves either. Blk women never check blk womyn for doing this.
There's a number of reasons of how we've gotten here but to put it simply, this should shock no one because neither brothas nor sistahs are taking responsibility for understanding much of the external trauma's we've suffered over the years has only manifested internally to the point of attacking each other and until >that< pain is dealt with, it will keep spiraling. Absolutely nothing wrong with loving who you love but under NO circumstance can you compare because those communities have NOT dealt with the legacy and trauma of enslavement, jim crow, civil rights, crack etc...
I've stopped dating BW back in 06. Too many games and wanted the clean up guy after having Ray-Ray baby. I know a few brother's who dated and married out. Shiiiiiit I've been married to a Latina since 2014. BM deserve happiness just like every other race of men. Sometimes you gotta find it elsewhere.....
We keep saying black women like the divorce rate isn’t over 50% a Black African man just got stabbed to death by a white woman we got “Karens” calling the cops on Black men yet we still think they are so great…it’s not black or white it’s the American culture this culture has taught women to not respect men…black men in particular…so if she’s American no matter what race as a man you will get nothing from a relationship/marriage
That's not what Shannon was saying. "WE" don't think they're "better." We just expand our options. I used to be exclusive to black women but I'm now open to all races and it's made me happier. After all, black men cannot be the only people that are into interracial dating if we get other races of women. Right?
You almost had me. Your right it’s an American mindset. But people so hurt they are being general which is dangerous. I date black men and I move had a few bad experiences but that doesn’t mean that I damn all black Men. Just gotta choose better man with character that match mine
We on this comment are in a minority. Some of these men are due hard swirlers and will cling to the flimsiest excuse to justify their snow bunny obsession.
I must say I passed on a none Black woman 25 years ago that I knew respected and loved me hoping to be with a Black woman with no kids, self respect, respect and love for me and a life together.... I'm 50 now and one of the 52% of Black men that KS talked about who has never been married and have no children. I'll never with whatever time I have left tell any Black man to do as I did 25 years ago.
Same here brother..I rejected plenty non black women that worshiped the ground I walked on chasing this "black love " pipe dream...the juice was never worth the squeeze
Words of the wise, if you get a black woman, she must be younger, no kids, had a father in the home that she respected and didn't grow up in black culture.
@@sjtalksandlife Never met too many bm with high standards when they talk about black love. Maybe we speaking too high when we say, you have to be fit (too many overweight or obese), maybe we are speaking too high when say you have to have no kids (70% of them already got kids out of wedlock), and maybe we are speaking too high when say you have to be submissive (most are into this bad bitch persona, even the ones in the middle to upper class neighborhood).
I remember back in the 90's when bw were on tv shows telling the WORLD there are no good black men available and most brothers were gay or in jail. No other race of woman would do that publicly. I knew it was the beginning of the end.
You were right to think that way because it is the beginning of the end for black men, in fact, it may already be the end for the black man! Black women have given us no choice, but to go elsewhere for love and respect!
The lack of respect and (not so) subtle disdain from most black women along with engaging destructive men in black communities (Pookies Rayrays and Tyrones) and making poor life choices are cause of this. Many Black Men have had enough and are thinking about their future, if black women are active choosing not to be apart of that future by being difficult to cooperate with so be it. No one should put their life on hold to please someone let alone a community that takes them for granted.
Most bw are out working at jobs and raising their kids while bm still are the most uneducated and least likely to require something as easy as a high school diploma. It’s safe to say most bm are pookies just like most bw are loud mouthed with attitudes according to y’all.
You're acting like white women aren't the same. All women from the west act the same maybe black women are a bit more aggressive but as far as mentality I don't see a big difference
@@stanleysimmonsreactions9056 all women from the west don’t even like men let alone date and come near y’all for you to make such a broad statement. All bw aren’t aggressive just like not all bm are murdering thugs. Y’all have to stop with that
Black men and women have been flirting with this disaster for a long time now. It's gone from us valuing lighter skinned over darker to flat out desiring white skinned. I value my black women but I understand I am a minority when comes to that way thinking and I was raised differently than most black people.
I'm not sure how white women got this wholesome image but there are a lot of Amber Heard's running around and Karen isn't just a name. The way to make our women respect us is by being on our shit and leading by example, select someone who is with your program.
It’s because people speak in generalities, you pointing out that there are a bunch of Amber heard’s means your not speaking generally as in collectively, youre speaking anecdotally as in individually. Thats the disconnect
Black men seem to not get that and they will continue to fault the women for being in her nature as a HELP MEET/ who is a support. she may be aggressive and rude because she is out of her nature. But she is out of her nature because WE ARE OUT OF OUR NATURE as HEAD OF THE WOMEN. Instead the WHITE PATRIARCHY is the head of the women and the black man has become his child. and like children we continue to do childish things because we don’t see black men do things like build empires and governments. We have lost our way and because we have lost our way we have resorted to blaming the black women who is as much of a victim of white Patriarchy as she is suppose to be a reflection of us and be our helpmeet. but we have given her nothing to help with, instead we have fallen more in more into the child role and are looking for a mother in the white woman. we have to get out of the mind of a child and figure out how to get this government thing figured out because we as black men will die out. If it ain’t the white man killing you, it will be us breeding ourselves out. And ain’t nothing cool about that!
@@kennethmoss7394 hell nah bro. They be rude AF. I almost caught a case wit one. She had fire cat but she was crazy af🤣them chicks in the nail shop be mad rude too. I went in there to pay for my girls' nails and them chicks talk to u crazy.
Most black people date black people, it's well documented. It's just a big deal when famous people date outside their race. All very attractive black women never have problems finding black men to date or marry.
You will never see a BM happier than when he is with a non-BW. Smiling, engaged and all-around joyful. The more BM seek out their true bliss, the better we will all be...
That’s too broad of a statement. I definitely know many black men who are or were happy with their black wives. Many I’m sure aren’t but not for many others.
@@chadalahio8266 The current marriage rate in the BC is 30%, and more than half of those marriages will end in divorce. We'd like to think that happy Black unions are common, however the numbers just don't bear that out.
I will say this, my first and overall preference is to be with a black woman. We are our own worst enemies against ourselves for why black relationships fail at such a fast rate and why some black men and women date outside their race. I would've considered date outside had it not been for the trauma and suffering our people have to deal with from racism because there are some cool people of others cultures that treat us better than our own and that's a shame.
@@you-fg1nl and how does your mom's past trauma has to do with the rest of us? She just chose the wrong man, you can't blame every man for what your mother been through. I'm sorry she went through that.
Let’s all be honest, we avoid women like our mothers! 💯 Loud, belligerent, masculine and bad attitudes! So glad our sons are figuring it out earlier than we did!
True. Very true. I would never date a bible thumping, loud-mouth, belligerent female like my mother. My dad was the first full tenured professor in the engineering department at the largest university in my home state. She treated him like trash, left him, and divorced him.
This ain't the 1980's and 90's no more my brothas, and these black women aren't even interested in 80% of us anyway. Have your fun with whatever race of woman you choose and enjoy your one life.
I noticed that too when you go out some where to a event and it can be 20 nice looking black women and none of them are interested when you try to approach them for conversation like they're too good for you but these same women will get mad and upset when they see you kick it with another race of women and it all goes well I just don't understand it it's enough black women around for black men to date within their own race but these women don't want us
@@kinglistosas5010 Just like that Mary J song goes, bad boys are no good,and good boys are no fun and you're right they want to give all of their best years to no good men and then come looking for the good men and then want to get in the church when they get old and used up you see the streets don't want them no more and they got to have some where to go these women need kaos in their life all that they can find until their time runs out
I’ve seen some black men suffer outside of their race. I have a black husband who is good to me and Vice versa. You attract who you are. I don’t care who you date…do you.
AMAZING? I went to Jackie Robinson's old JC, in Pasadena Calif, during the Vietnam war era Four professors said that a blackman had to be 4x better than a whiteman to pass their class, the first three were white, they looked me in the eye with hate and vengeance. The fourth was a 250 pound black woman, who had all the hate the others had but had a look of triumphalism ( Nothing will happen to her AND there was nothing I could do}. Another black woman said that her bro had enlisted in the Army ( the war WAS televised daily) and that if it was good enough for him, it ought to be good enough for me. I DID NOTSEE HER GET HER FAT BUTT IN THE WAR!! Nothing like being understanding, supportive, thoughtfull, considerate etc. I grad and went to Canada where black women would belittle you PUBLICLY!! That is after you treated them well s most of us do. Even if she had a good paying job, they wouldn"t even OFFER to pay for the tip much less the parking , gas etc. Is that AMAZING?? When I was a kid, my grandmother said that the gov was in the neighborhood offering women welfare provided they couldn't have a man in the house. Mid sixties. THEY TOOK THE MONEY , NOT the father or husband!!!!! What other women would do that?? No Asian, Muslim, or Latino( south American etc} because they are very family oriented. True or false??? Kevin Samuel said that if black men were so toxic, then being raised without them would result in better kids , RIGHT?? But what are the results? massive fail;ure, they produced a few 7 foot jump shooters and 3 quarterbacks. THE BLACK WOMAN AND THE BLACK WOMAN ALONE IS RESPONSIBLE FOR THE DESTRUCTION OF THE BLACK FAMILY!! Champ THAT is amazing. Fast forward, I lived in China a couple decades NEVER had a problem with the ladies, many of whom had NEVER met any bro. NONE of them would ever say I don't need no man!! Thats amazing too.
I love how the Hispanic and Asian community (for the most part) marry within! Nothings wrong with taking pride and marrying your own. Now disrespecting someone because they married outside of their race is foul! But rooting for blacks to be with blacks, nothings wrong with that
They only hating on those that dont. And wishing for chaos in those with seemingly respectful relationships (see Russell and Ciara…etc) Misery loves company
The only dudes who are cheering swirlers are weak ass bet males. Those dudes don't care anything about the community and those cowards won't be missed. Simple as that... FBA/B1
That is not exactly true for the most part according to the pew research center Asians and Hispanics have higher out marriage rates than American blacks and they tend to interracially date white people.
The problem is western women. Not just black women. Remember MGTOW is a thing and was a thing some time before red pill. We’re talking a group of men that we’re predominantly white, who decided their dating conditions was so bad that they opted to leave the market all together. Now logic would tell us that the white man would certainly understand the whites women far better that we would, right? With likely 20+ years of experience with them… I’d believe so. This is what a lot of black men don’t get. If you don’t have at least 20 years of experience dating out (especially white women) then you don’t know what you’re getting into. I can tell you from second hand experience. It ain’t what it looks like. There are a ton of Amber Heard’s out there that black men are getting ready to ruin their lives dealing with.
Just go date other races of women and be happy. But without bashing black women in the process though. Get them out of your head completely and avoid them at all cost.
You can't lead people who don't want to be led. BW don't want to be led by BM. So it's best to go with people who want to be led. f-nism is about freedom of choice. They chose to not want to be led. Soooo. Time to move on.
Would you want to be lead bus group of men who have shown time and time again that they do not value you enough to build a community for you to be a the beauty standard, protected and catered too. Move on to other races of women as they have been able to rest in there feminist as there men have built an environment for them to do that unlike black men who can’t co one second without complaining about being subjugated in another mans society
Feminism was started by the white people, not black woman. Furthermore, only some black women want to lead the man, I don't know what type of black woman you guys have in America. But I am sure there are plenty women of colour that have embraced a man correctly and have been left soaked in the rain, and likewise there are other young black women that are waiting to build healthy relationships but she is seeing some 'black' men like you. Now who is confused?
Thanks for calling out Maya Angelou. No disrespect. Just facts. She was married to an entire white man and it was rarely talked about while she was living or after her death. A black man in the same arena as Maya Angelou could never get away with marrying a white woman. He'd be thrown away so fast.
I'm sorry but she's a woman. For the most part. Women are not looked at as the leader of any race and communities. That's why it's not really a big deal when a woman is pro-black and dates out. It's more of an issue when a pro black man dates a white women. Because men are seen as the leaders of the community. They are meant to set the status quo and take pride in their race. Like every other race of men on this earth. Women generally don't have that kinda power and influence.
Once sistas see you dating a White, Asian, or Hispanic woman they act one of two ways. They either catch an attitude because they’re upset or they try to hit on you and win you over. Both reactions are corny.
I just ignore you people what's it to me you want a reaction outta me you want me to feel sometype of way I don't and I won't why should I care really why should I give a puck?
This conversation is gonna go on forever man. If black women aren’t making black men happy, it’s a no brainer to date interracially. Women of other cultures are now embracing black men like never before. And seem to allow the black man to lead. Times have changed and interracial dating will only increase. You go to any mall in America and you’ll see interracial dating HEAVY among teens. Errrybody better get use to it
The only race you should concern yourself with is the good people race. People who have your back at your lowest, the person who would donate resources to help you thrive, the person who would literally take any bullet for you, that's your tribe. If they are not helping you survive in this cold, dark twisted world they are not your tribe or your friends or relationship or dating material. Go where you are wanted and celebrated. Free Agent lifestyle
Exactly... I told a racist Brad that in the comments section of a Cassady Campbell video. He tried to come at me with the "your kind" ignorance. I told him that "my kind" are intelligent and reasonable people. He's scared.
I'm a black man and avoided dating and even interacting with black women altogether and my quality of life has dramatically increased. these modern black American women are lost stay away from them guys!!
I’m confused as to why black women are always brought up in these conversations… If you have a “preference”, fine but don’t bring up black women and disrespect them in the process. It seems like some of y’all are obsessed with black women. that you don’t even like.
I agree 100% with Shannon Sharpe I’m from the Caribbean but live in California my son has tried dating black women but they have said he’s lame because he has no kids he doesn’t drink or smoke or has a criminal record so he have dated white women and Hispanic, his girlfriend now is Mexican I have no problem with my son dating outside his race because I’ve always taught my son you judge people by their character and personality not by their skin color, or religion, or whatever. I always taught him go where you are wanted, live your life, and be happy.People need to let others live and live how they want to live their lives, and mind dem business nuh.
Right on. Only in the black community where a young guy make the right choices and gets mocked. 🤦🏿♂️My wife is black but I surely had to move 4 hours to another state to find that one that worth it. Glad he went where he was appreciated!
There we go again putting our race down whether it be black women or black men. White women and white men go through the same mess. They just do not advertise their business on line. Caucasian men beat and abuse their women as well. That white woman will stay with a man with money although he is abusing her allegedly. People are people good and bad in every race but we are only ones that puts our race down on social media and other places. Talk about our issues among ourselves like they do.
So your saying that black men are suffering being in a relationship with a black woman .And when he is with a white woman it's pure bliss. I've never heard so much nonsense 🙄. Just be honest and say I want to date and marry a white woman.
@@raheemsmallshorton2050 we have allot of allegedly strong Black men in the community that wine and complain about things they have no true over-standing about. I'd have more respect for Shay if he just said I'm just doing me.
I TOLD a once upon a time friend this and she disowned me. OUR CULTURE AS AFRICAN AMERICANS NEEDS TO CHANGE FROM ITS FOUNDATION IN ITS ENTIRETY. That's from the music to clothing to style to how we view each other, and how we speak and address each other. she called me a sell out lol but what's odd, is that no black man today really stop to think, we as a race once had black wall street and we are now in a position that if one of us decided to restart something like that, not only he would be ridiculed to the ends of the earth, but his own race would take a massive dump on him, from tell him that he thinks his white to "oh he thinks he's too good for us"
N bw would be the main agitators too, fuk around she would team up with zaddy, we all know those two never like to see any success story of any blk man. They made for each other n that is why brothers continue to explore your options, these women have only 1 specific type of blk men in our community, the F19s. They respect them why you think their more bastard children in our communities than from stable house holds? N if F19 doesn't work out she runs to another race of man n if she's really a itch! She may throw shade at blk men while with thebktherrace of men, too much talking I feel u. All this is well documented and discussed and beaten with a dead horse, at the end of the day. We know the odds are against us and we know the end results, do you, live your life n be with who makes u happy. These women have zero loyalty today, so don't even feel anyway if that Latina is showing signal. Go bag that.
@@SukhoiGC like literally, Whether it was our own doing or influenced by the powers that be, we let go and completely abandoned our morals, traditions, respect for each other. All because of some fame, or following people with some fame or money, or in most cases an EBT card. and black people don't get it. like remember when black lives matter protest, there were white people caught doing crazy things white dressed in all black including painting on their faces and we never realize we are a meme, a joke for all to laugh at.
Imo brother Oshay. The dudes who aren't loyal to our community don't really deserve our support . And I don't mean any ill-will by that but I don't think it's right for people to benefit off a community while not committing to it. Also I think the snow bunny culture gets some of us bm stuck in delusion but ONLY A SMALL MINORITY OF NON-BLK WOMEN WILL TAKE US SERIOUSLY. There's only so much of them to go around. MOST BM WILL END UP WITH BLACK WOMEN.
What support, they don’t need your support if they are happy! If you find a white woman who respects and loves you, would you pass her by? If you do, you’re a fool.
BW say stupid crap like this. There’s literally nothing appealing about the “Community” that’s ran by BW. You’re just a squirrel looking for a nut in their dysfunctional community.
I'm a Canadian black woman and I only date white men and Latino men. My background, environment and learning to speak multiple languages has opened many doors for me.
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It’s sad that a lot of black women don’t want to be with some of these men but when they see those same men with another woman they get upset. They feel like you have to wait decades until they get ready, after the trauma, kids, dustyness.
Exactly
They’d rather those men have no options AT ALL and be miserable then seeing them be happy with someone of another race.
They are delusional. Time waits for no man, they think it will wait for them? They want to go thru their ho phase. Bad boy days having them beat it out to come give you left over turkey meat. All beat up, dug up and gutted inside. Nah the brothers are tired of it, n so many other women who are tight, n ......let me stop getting away from my self lol but I feel u on this tip
Y'ALL CAN HAVE THEM. MOST BLK. WOMEN DONT GIVE A RATS ASS. IF YOU'RE THAT DUMB TO BE WITH MASSA DAUGHTER. THINKING YOU'RE MAKING MOST BLK. WOMEN JEALOUS. THEN YOUR IN A SERIOUS DELUSIONAL STATE. IT'S YOUR CHOICE, YOUR SOUL, YOUR SALVATION. MEN THAT RUN TO MASSA DAUGHTER USUALLY ARE FREAKING WEAK MEN. THOSE NO COLOR WOMEN ALLOW THEM TO DO AS THEY WILL. THEREFORE WHENEVER I SEE WHERE THEIR NO COLOR WOMEN MURDER THEM. I FEEL NOTHING 👈👈
Lived this for years. They don't want you until you're with an other than black woman.
Men, life is hard enough as it is. Be with a woman that extends your life, not one who shortens it. No matter her race or what outsiders thinks. ALL MEN DESERVE PEACE.
So damn true! Modern black women are only out for themselves, not all, but most, and will drag you in the ground just to steal your money, so be careful!
All women deserve peace it doesn't mean we have to do backflips just to keep a man. Telling us what to say how to say it who to speak to who not to speak to. I dated outside of my race and I have never had to go through that with them. When I dated black men they didn't want me speaking to certain people don't speak to that guy the guy was my cousin but he still didn't want me to speak to him. It was crazy then he became verbally abusive and when he hit me I had to backslap and punch him in his stomach then kick him in his testicles and let him know you don't touch me and then my brother worked them over.
All GOOD men deserve peace
@@lisa196409 Keep dating outside then
@@lisa196409 happy for you. no one needs to suffer everyone must get theirs both man and woman
To think women of other races won’t stress you or make life hard for you is ignorant. It’s not the race that’s the problem, it’s the culture. I love Black women. I’m not that naive to think all black women are troublemakers. That’s an excuse to date outside your race
I definitely agree, but no black woman will ever shame me enough to only date them if a white or whatever other race of woman were to come around and treat me well and black women haven’t, also most black women don’t have that energy for black women that get passed around by white men.🤷🏾♂️
exactly
@@mikedavis9295 Facts
@@mikedavis9295 I think it's what your use to. Most black men who date white women were around multi cultural backgrounds maybe church, work, or school. Especially church how your raised in culture can create an attraction of different races.
we still have to contend with the reality that 70% of black kids are born out of wedlock and over 75% of black women are never married.
The culture needs re examination.
As a black man I never had good chemistry with non black women. I’ve only attracted black women especially dark skinned ones. To each their own.
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@@lawanda2497 who is ''we''
⛔STOP⛔calling us ⚫Black⚫ or African American, we are INDIGENOUS ABORIGINAL Copper-Coloured People from this land. 🌟DANE CALLOWAY🌟
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I look at your comment as more of a preference because you can be any type of person no matter what your shade of hue is.❤🌎❤🌍❤🌏
There's someone out there that will treat you the way you should be treated. Whether or not you will ever meet them, is another story.
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But there might not be at all. There isn't always someone for everyone. You ight not meet someone you want who also wants you. Nevertheless, it only bolsters the point there's no guarantee you'll meet someone right for you of your own race.
This is a bible fact. And the truth is 90% will never find their other half and marry or date other ppls soulmate trying to make them their own.
Black men need to step up and stop simping
And become alpha males that's the only way things will stabilise in the community and make it unify because that's true strength in a community unity is strength
What exactly is the definition of this "Black community" everyone keeps mentioning? I know what it looked like back in the 80s and that's NOT what I see today......
Basically, it's the african diaspora
It doesn't mean anything. Everyone is doing their own thing. No one is working together for anything. There is no "community"
@@cxa011500 a commit unity of opinions
@@cxa011500 It depends who you're around. There def are a lot of ppl working together.
@One shot deal very true...We talk a good game but don’t live it.
True story: I once had an interest in a coworker who passed me over for a dude she later married and had a baby from. A year or two later she was divorcing him and boomerang her way back to me by expressing interest again. I was hesitant because by then I had evolved into dating outside my race and become serious about investing into real estate. So serious that I decided to keep my car for at least ten years although the air went out in it. I agreed to date under the pretense that we were just going to pass the time and maybe create a “soft landing” for her. In other words We bump booties and I still stay on my investing course. I scratch her back and she scratches mine. A wins a win. Big mistake. I picked her up on our first date and she clowned me about my car not having any air conditioning all night long. I explained about my Real estate plans and saving money. She scoffed at it and rolled her eyes. I learned a big lesson that day. Just because you are the same color doesn’t mean you have the same values.
You should have left her in the streets. Lesson learned.
This is what higher earning bm learn hence why so many are not with bw. They have reached a plateau that most bw will not understand.
You were wrong. Soft landing was for you to feel better about the situation.
Never date a single mothe. Also don't accept bs from any woman because the options are vast for men
Dude she probably passed u up for the same reason she divorced him: undesirable.
Choose yourself black women.
Black men will never HONOR you.
Listen…..I’ve dated SOOOO many women in my 40yrs on this earth. It ain’t easy finding the best fit regardless of race. So if I find someone that meets the majority of my requirements n we have peace, IDGAF about what her race is….I couldn’t care less. F what anybody gotta say about it
Best comment so far!!!!
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Maybe you're the problem......
@@lindaavant4665 Maybe, but many women who are pretty and single ogre have deal breakers, the women who are wife material are overweight. I’ll wait or Passover single. Have a great life Linda ✌🏾
@battletested2934 It's a real disconnect between black men and women.. I find it very sad.... It seems we're the only people on planet Earth that can't seem to get it right.... Why????? Eighty percent of our children are born out of wedlock, and only one and four black women will get married....
Too much casual sex is happening without birth control..... My grandmother advised me to find a good mate..that didn't happen....
I people watch and very seldom do I see older black couples... I blame it on the single parent syndrome....
I have a neice, and she's biracial... We were having a conversation, and she said those white girls have racist parents, and they get with black guys and have nxxxxx babies.. to get back at their parents..
My son, nephews, and cousins are with white girls... I don't approve, but I don't say anything... It's been drama with them... Family gathering Nope, they don't come... Their bad behavior is tolerated, but not ours..
They always have a soft place to fall.........
Black man here. For me, it’s a long story…but to sum it up, dated outside my race when younger. Married outside my race. Marriage was pretty bad & ended up divorced. Met a Black woman and she has treated me better than ANY woman of any other race. So I hear what Shannon is saying but for me personally, a Black woman has been the BEST!
I'm happy for you ❤
It was because she was a good woman. Women are not better because of their race.
Happy you share this 🙏
Needle in the hay stack though
God bless your relationship 😇
There’s so much to unpack regarding this conversation. What troubles me is that black men (I’m a black man) publicly disrespect and degrade black women but treat white women with tenderness and carefulness. We have completely lost historical perspective on our relationship to both black and white women. We have forgotten who was by our side and who was responsible for the blood on the leaves.
That shit goes both ways
@@relaxingambientsounds7365 If and when we come together as a people it will be because black men have led the way. We are the leaders in our homes, we are the leaders in our community, and we are 100% responsible for it’s present condition. Until we take that responsibility, man-up, and stop shifting the blame to black women who follow our lead for better or worse, we will continue to be in this mess.
@@PsalmsPoetic you never been on these social medias app where white women are disowning/disorienting white men. The other communities are the same. Although we shouldn’t focus on them, but obviously people stick with their own longer than any other. Plain and simple.
@@markelraya10 I don’t speak on what happens with other communities for 2 reasons, 1 I don’t deal with them in relationships so I don’t have the expertise, and 2 black relationships are the only relationships that have been specifically conspired against from slavery to mass incarceration. My major concern is the healing of black families. I agree, people commit and stay with their own at a much higher rate.
@@PsalmsPoetic like cuz said, that shyt goes both ways, it seems like you're trying to absolve bw of accountability by talking about bm being leaders, idk where you been for the last 50+ years, but you can't lead what don't listen. For years I've seen bm talking to bw about certain behaviors ect, and their response is mind your business, stop policing bw, stay out of bw business. Over the past few years bw with a platform been calling them out also and said they're out of control and dysfunctional. The same thing sister Sharazad Ali said 40+ years ago, you're giving me Derrick jaxn vibes with all of that pandering, acting like you don't know what's really going on
The most emotional hurt I’ve had has come from dating black women and it isn’t close. I wish it wasn’t this way.
They need therapy. They avoid therapy because of the “stigma” but go run to pastor and preacher and think their going to fix their inner issues. Preacher ain’t a licensed clinician. More black men need to vote with their feet. Don’t provide for and protect what doesn’t deserve it
CaUse you picked wrong. Can’t trust a big butt and a smile
@@kingkoopa2831 tell me what they do to you? I wanna know. I doubt that you were all innocent in your story
You are a liar and narcissistic if u are a black man
@@kingkoopa2831 I agree. Pastor/Preacher messes them up even more. What happens between them with Pastor/Preacher is what David Carroll used to talk about regularly.
No ones signing up to be disrespected or emasculated after a long day at work anymore. It is what it is.
You damn right!!
I come home from a hard day at work and get my plate served to me!!
Fuck that shit 🪬
No one wants to come home to a headache.
Fax
Yeah. Stuff like that was common with the “old heads”, if there are any left. Cats now want peace at all costs.
I was born in the USA and I’m Latino. And I have to say men are wasting there time dating these modern USA western women. The West is currently in a hook up culture and women do not care about families no more all they want is to claim they are “independent” with a high paying job while these women try and get themselves a rich man who pay for everything while she saves money for her own retirement and send dudes to divorce courts. Men need to get there money, hit the gym,get there passport and leave the West and go to a different country and retire there with there future foreign wife who is a good woman and not bring her to the USA. 💯
Key word, don’t bring her to the USA !!!
@@James_150 exactly! Don’t bring her to the USA…. Her mentality will be infiltrated and COMPROMISED like a CANCER!
100%
Some of what you say is true this is a hookup culture. Men have made it that way women have obliged them. Women always thought and was raised to get married have children and be a housewife but because of the wars and the mental illnesses and the shortage of men we're all over the place. If we need two people in a family to work and to make ends meet then you do what you have to do for the love and sake of your family. Black men get money and they do exactly what the white man does he has a lot of women he goes out and parties but the thing is white men know when to cut it off. Black men and other men of color don't y'all think that the epitome of success is to marry anybody that does not look like you. But the thing about men of color and black men or should I say the difference is men of color have realized that they're being used by these wws and no one can make you look good just because there are certain race. Latina women Asian women black women want the same thing they want men from their background to love them to take care of them not cheat on them. We all want the same thing. if you stuck to your family values we wouldn't be having this conversation at the end of the day I don't give a s*** who marries who. I would marry a man that's not black any day as long as he treated me with kindness and respect.
@@lisa196409 Its woman who made it that way with feminism so called sexual freedom.Woman control sex if all of you today wake and say no sex before marriage the next millionaires wont be tech but wedding venue and wending planners. Man will do what it takes to get sex but if its free no one buys a cow when the milk is free.
Instead of worrying about this, us black men need to better ourselves and become a level of successful. 💯✊🏾
You are absolutely right. These racists are in the woods plotting, planning and target practicing 24/7, and these clowns are talking about dating their daughters. These racists are now driving hundreds of miles to destroy us. They have even started hanging bm in Europe. And these clowns are saying, "you can't help who you love". They are silly, naive, pitiful, childlike and foolish. This is the reason no one takes bm serious when they cry racism. And wasn't Shannon Sharpe shacked up with a white woman who became pregnant by another bm with MONEY? She was still living with him when she got pregnant by another Black man. And he doesn't even date BW so what is he talking about? smh. I am now beginning to think that some of these ppl are being PAID to keep us distracted in order to keep us losing. And too many of these men FEAR wm because they are dependent upon them. Even this clown on this channel calls HIMSELF, "your BOY". That is a dog whistle to the white supremacists that he is indeed NOT A THREAT. And if anything, he will ASSIST them with the DIVISION of his own ppl. Shannon included. This is what bm are doing while a WAR is being waged against us.
Did he forget Christian Obumseli? But that's fine. More black women are marrying white and non-black men. Black men must stop talking about black women when they are with white women. Okay. We got the message. Date whoever you want. Just like we do.
Faaaaaacts
⛔STOP⛔calling us ⚫Black⚫ or African American, we are INDIGENOUS ABORIGINAL Copper-Coloured People from this land. 🌟DANE CALLOWAY🌟
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Black Men Definitely Need To First And Foremost Better Ourselves And Become Successful. But Many Of Us Also Want A Partner That Loves, Admires And Respects Us, To Share Our Success With.
I've always felt like people should chase the person who values them, respects them, loves them, honors them, grows them, and inspires them to be happy. Conflict is easier to navigate when they all match up as they don't want to hurt you to be right. Some get this from their own race. Others gotta look elsewhere. Do you and find/make your own happiness.
It's bad when you get better support from women of other races than women from your own race.
@@curtiswilson4737 It really is. I see a lot of y'all not happy. Hell I remember years ago talking someone I knew through a really dark head space. His black wife cheated and he was not ok. He was afraid of what he wanted to do. When asked if I was a bit scared of him too right then, I admitted it. He thought it was because he was black and I was like, "... No. It's because you are twice as big as me, built like a tank, your arms are as thick as my thighs, talking about wanting to hurt and kill people while on your knees hugging me while crying. You could snap me like a twig if you actually wanted to right now. I think anyone would be a bit nervous right now." When he asked why I didn't run like anyone else would I was just like "because if you wanted to be this person you are afraid of being, you would not be right here hoping someone stops you. Right?" "Yeah but... You should run. I'm no good." "If I run right now, I don't see anyone else staring that darkness down. So you gonna get this out of your system, go home, and be the you that you have chosen to be. Because you ain't psycho from what I've observed 'til now. Whatever happens between you and your wife is your business. I won't tell you what to do because I don't know your wife. Fix it or break it. That ball is yours but you gotta do something." "You make it sound easy." "It probably ain't. But it's the call you gotta make for your own peace. I'm your friend's girlfriend- not your side bitch so I have no stakes here. And staring this shit down I guess makes me your friend, too, now." I got him to laugh and he calmed down and went home after getting all the ranting out. I never asked what happened with his wife but he stopped wearing his wedding ring. He was in a much better head space for it, though. My then boyfriend kinda threw him at me when I got home from work that night. Mouthed "help. I am not good at this." He told his friend, "I will tell you what. I'm not good at this but she is. She will help you. I'm... Gonna be back in the morning. **grabs his shit and bolts**" Insert me giving him a look of "wait... What am I being elected for?" So that is how that conversation even happened. 😅 Ultimately, I think I told him what he needed though. I guess I wonder how many of y'all need to hear the same thing though. I feel like I'm seeing a lot of situations like that and more people need it. 😕
Forget chasing
@@bryanbailey961 **shrugs** Do you still applies here. Some of y'all are happier single. Some like to chase, be chased, mutual chasing, or just straight up none. It really does not matter much which route you go. It's your life anyway. Only ones who are going to be mad are those who can't use you and planned on such or misread your intentions and got the wrong idea.
I already did the chasing IT'S NOT PRODUCTIVE 🤔
I'm a grown ass black man and I'll never let anybody make me feel guilty for who I date regardless of their race. You don't like my choices then get the F on✌
Damn straight brother ppl only sell to steal your joy and disturb your peace most now a days. So if you wind up with a white girl then so long as she loves you and compliments you then I'm happy
Facts.
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Lol with the white hand 😂
where was all that cultural pride when you needed somebody to March for your behind for George Floyd this is why I am so glad a lot of us are not caping anymore cultural loyalty has been dead a long time ago and you killed it.
Married a sista gave her the bougie suburban life, she cheated on me with a pookie. While I was at war. Sold out and haven't looked back. To much trauma from almost every black woman in my life. Now I am in the top 10%, all I get is shade from our people but I will take peace over shade any day.
As a black man from California you don’t know how many times I’ve seen this story it’s sad bro pookies are the top choice
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That's horrible but I'm sure a nice Black woman is out there for you. 🖤
That's why they want a HVM..most of them date the pookies and build a boos
Same thing happened to me, not only that I was working two jobs, taking care of my son and going to school to make our lives better. Will NEVER do that again. My wife and I are about to separate and I will never date or marry another BW again after this experience. I’ve been to too many other countries to be miserable with a group of people who only see me as a utility.
@@BloodCrow1698 Damn, it’s looking ugly for BW.
I haven’t seen one black woman who actually cares about this.
Go to the comments under the actual photo of a Bronny.
I do,black men dating white /asian women are sell outs.
Black folks have to understand that anyone from any race will hurt you and black people never speak about that. Just because you're dating outside your race doesn't make things or them better! I wish black folks would realize that we are so fast to fight and or make excuses to love other people outside of our race. But so quickly dismissing our people says a lot about us in my opinion.
Generation of black people having a picture of a white Jesus hanging on the wall of their homes IMHO was the main downfall. That was the birth of all this self hate that's been manifesting within black folk
True but....
No other group has grown up with some much festering trauma. Its unwise to invest in those that dont want to invest in themselves.
Ill take my chances with a non bw any day...
Other black folks have to understand that we can touch on community lifting and family structure and all of that but nobody OWES the fact that they have to date within their race. Damn that shit...that "you have to marry within the race" and you have a responsibility to the black community cause "Yo mama black" and "yo sister black"..Meanwhile, you have black women calling black men dusty, scrub, no romance without finance, and other nonsense. The hard-working mechanic who is making $30,000 a year - The BW don't want him. BW only want the man making 7 figures and if he marries outside of the race then "he forgot where he came from". After all "yo mama black" and you giving up on "sistas"...even though the "sista" has 3 kids from 3 different baby daddies, extra weight, masculine, and entitled. Maybe she doesn't have all of that. Maybe she has a Ph.D. and she feels that we can be "partners" and the man MUST make more than she does. Even then she must still run shit and swing her d**k emasculating the BM. NO BM don't let these crazy ass people let you think you "owe' the community" by marriage. Marry the best person for you or don't get married at all. Instead of saying that we making excuses to love other people maybe black people need to get their shit together collectively as a people. We the first in the club and the last to vote. We are the quickest to not only fight but to shoot. We are the worst when it comes to health and going to the gym. Add to that you have modern women that want traditional outcomes and here we are.
@@brandoncass8810 do you, bro. I'll gamble with the sistas
Unfortunately I think we are starting to see how the “strong independent woman” mantra is affecting our community and it’s not in a positive way. I think black women need therapy to undo what our grandmas, aunties, and mothers have taught us about black men. Black men are valuable and are needed to keep this society going. Unfortunately, I see a lot of black women losing sight on how important it is to keep the black community going because of pride and ego. I just hope that we won’t be the demise of our own race.
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Too late
@Krotoa black men are 2,000,000 less than black women, but black men are 300,000 more marriages than black women.
The problem is not with the men.
Show you can lead and naturally they will follow. You’re not going to get with someone starve and be homeless because you want to allow their skin and gender to lead… with the resources we have you’ll get up and get it yourself to keep your unit afloat… that’s the point… Carry and support your family be it man or women. Women are the back bone.
@@TarshaS 🤣 you sound crazy
“Who hurt him, his mama black, he just hate women, he probably downlow”
Every strag response ever when confronted with their bad behavior
King Koopa heard it my whole life it's like a broken record stuck on repeat don't forget you have mommy issues well wouldn't that make the mom look bad black men tell people out preference is a woman physically in shape no attitude or kids .then we get looked at side eyed
@@malikwilson7387 Cam Newton is a multi millionaire and stated his preference for how he prefers a woman he’s with to act and black women tore him a new one like “how dare you think you can tell me how to act, don’t you know we all kwanns”
@@malikwilson7387 facts who hurt you are you gay !
@@kingkoopa2831 Cam listed 3 things and they had a problem with it lol SMH
Exactly 💯
If you find a woman who is attracted to you and the feelings are mutual go for it. No matter the race. Find someone who makes you happy. The hell with the haters. Misery loves company. Don’t join in the misery when you don’t have to.
word
Word!
The hilarious part about this is, Shannon Sharpe's gf was white. She got pregnant by another bm with MONEY while living with Shannon. So what in the heck is he talking about? 😅😅😅
The hell with the haters? The only ones hating and ACTING on that hatred are the WS. BM are now being hung. Even in Europe now, a bm was hung a few days ago. The WS are in the woods target practicing, plotting and planning, and the ONLY thing these clowns are planning is to date their daughters. These racists are now driving hundreds of miles to destroy them, and these clowns are talking about , "you can't help who you love". Just pitiful. smh
Did he forget Christian Obumseli? But that's fine. More black women are marrying white and non-black men. Black men must stop talking about black women when they are with white women. Okay. We got the message. Date whoever you want. Just like we do.
I get it most black women want a black man that’s willing to put his life at risk 24/7 and that’s exhausting🥶
lol
go get a Amber Heard for you. You 2 deserve each other. I'm a black woman and dislike black men. Y'all are dusty and cheators.
Well said Levi....well said
I swear these women get off on seeing us being killed.
@@amirwilliams3454 they can complain about the incarceration rates, but they are often behind a lot of BM in jail - directly and indirectly.
The whole “protect BW” thing is a reflection of that.
You don't see white, asian, and Hispanic women crying about their men dating and marrying out. I wonder why...
asian's do have the same type of community black people have. The Hispanics and white people though are different. My guess is they're more experienced with it.
That's because they don't
@@WonOldSoul exactly
Because some women in my culture are BULLIES👊🏽
Cause the rarely do. That’s why. They trust in they own
He's speaking facts. Who in their right mind wants to date these "I know I'm a handful but I'm worth it" sistas when you can be treated like a king from women of other races.
smooth cassanova being a handful not gonna get them married that's why most of them single moms now if they out that effort that they put into worrying about who brothers date they would be married. Brothers want something different and see how it feels to be treated with respect
If you ever hear a woman say "I need a man who can put me in my place". RUN.
@@malikwilson7387 How did they become single moms again?
Keep believing that until you get stabbed and killed by a youtuber. It's all in black men's minds. Thankfully there are a lot of examples of black love, companionship out there. Do what you want, but stop blaming black women.
@@dgw2490 I know a few White Pookies and Ray though. And a few single bw with mix babies. Is that what you mean?
As a Black woman, we have already figured what has been going on. Many of us have been opening our horizons. Sad to say, the loyalty to Black men outside of our families aren't our focus. Do what you must, we will do what works best for us as well🤷🏾♀️.
Hate to break it to you guys, but it's not a black thing. It's a women thing.
Race is actually important here too. It’s sad to say, but the modern day BW has a worse view of BM than non-BW.
Right. I'm married to a Japanese woman, and she stay on some shit . Like the late Kevin Samuels said "its the modern woman" .
@@themarathoncontinues4211 it's pretty even. You don't have any allies. People aren't counting the racist non bw. There are plenty
@@dontahinton7203 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Yeah but we're talking about black women right now!... So yes it's about black women!
We are the only group of men expected to limit ourselves in mentality and actions to appease people who don't offer any tangible benefit to us...Glad to see more young brothers breaking the chains. #SYSBM
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SYSBM!
Scarlet Twin30 facts they know is black men produce the mot so they try to box us in but we got Unlimted resources when it comes to women white Asian latinas
You never see ww crying about wm dating asian women or asian women complaining about their men being with ww or Latinas complaining about their men dating out
Big facts.
@@primeva7579 Absolutely right!
After KS passed away and BW started to celebrate it on all social media platforms (even dating apps) i realized this "community" and "black love" is long gone . But if you do have a FBI sista with no baggage and low mileage..you have a ultra rare Pokémon, and do your best to keep her.
You would have to use a masterball to catch that one because its very RARE!
Lol rare pokemon 😆💯
I started thinking about that them song when he said Pokémon 😂
We consider them shiny Pokémon
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I personally have no spiritual connection with other races of women but im sticking with the sistas and to each its own , date who you want to date and be happy but its just sad how we attack eachother while claiming youre happy obviously not because you still in these topics trying to convince yourselves that you made the right choice
See that’s the thing, I also do not have a spiritual connection with other races; but the chaotic psychology of modern black women is too toxic for healthy black men. It’s a catch 22. I want to abide by the natural order, but I am risking my mental health in the process.
@@chazzanderson520 Yeah its not just modern blk women, didn’t blk dude just get kill by his white gal. Men in general but especially Brothas need to understand the misandrist base to some women’s mentally. Men are just doers for women who also happen to be expendable. Big O just did a vid on Sly Stallone. As for love who you want, make sure the love bus rides bk and forth not just outbound.
@@chazzanderson520 get your passport
Black men date who you like,do NOT worry about what black people particularly BLACK WOMEN say or think.Thanks Shannon Sharpe for speaking the truth,and thank you as well Oshay for posting this.
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Just keep the same energy when thev police gun you down.
Exactly. Oshay, send this to that clown Dr. Umar
Black women are the only ones who can change this. They've decided that they don't need to change, so we need to save ourselves.
Facts
So it’s on us now?? You guys have been the ones destroying and dividing the community, but it’s up to us now..
Why is it they fault your crying and complaining maybe you could never pull one that's all
This is the truth right here 💯
@@otisyoungblood either you're a female, or you're a beta male who was raised by a single one. Your response spoke for itself.
"Most black people would rather you be miserable with with someone of your on race then go outside your race with someone that treats you respectfully and makes you happy"....end of story!!!
I would!!! I refuse to betray my people regardless of the outcome...we died together, we cried together. We are the true essence of existence
@@WonOldSoul Thanks for your reply and opinion be safe 🙏🏾
@@travisfreeman3353 name thz blk ppl you talking about
@@contrarianthinker I think about it then get back to you 😏 Be safe 🙏🏿
That's wild
Great point! Guys who are considered corny to black women will mostly get overlooked. Others will accept them so why not?
@Yriyah Yriyah BLACK WOMEN WANT THUGS! Pure and simple. THEY DON'T WANT A "GOOD MAN." The RGIII's, the Russell Wilson's, even the Bronny James'would be squares, cornballs and nerds to black girls in high school.
Because of the culture 🤣🤣🤣
Those black women who call BM corny, are themselves corney😂😂
Russell Wilson is considered to be corny and a square whatever that means but he became the epitome of the ideal man because he saved his wife from her own antics ie dating men the so called culture found acceptable and also a couple photo ops with another dudes kid. A cuck is a cuck tho whether wealthy or not. You being a dude talking about dudes who are supposedly corny to these wayward women, is actually corny and reeks of pick me behavior.
Pookie and ray ray is their Preference if you're not selling drugs or a gangbanger thug then don't even try dating black women
Don't care I'm still sticking with black women 😌😌
WORD!
I'm glad someone said this, I'll stick with black women no matter what. No other women compare imo
Also unlike most westernised black men I'm aware of the agenda from the racist rich 1% to use propaganda and brainwashing to create a divide between black men and black women in order to eradicate us over the next few generations. Channels like this play up to this agenda
Not me
The hell with what anyone else thinks. I refuse to live my life being miserable when there’s a whole world of women willing and wanting to be feminine and cooperative. Who wants to argue or feel stressed all the time….that’s not healthy.
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I agree that's why I believe that black women need to marry anybody but a black man.
@@lisasligh1577 🤣🤣🤡🤡
@@lisasligh1577 Wherever you go, you take you with you...I'm sure that you'll be a better woman for any man, but a BM. Go for it yourself.
@@lisasligh1577 Why should a BM marry a BW he doesn't need the drama of baby momma attitude so shitty you fight the urge to Will Smith her!! Get the better version of BW get one from Africa Dominican Republic Columbia Brazil you will be happy like me!!!!
Sister Shahrazad Ali told the mothers of the community over 30 yrs ago to get this right and they refused to listen
That feminism movement is a American one...brothas have to know that by now. Sistas are just low hanging fruit
I think some black women are actually starting to listen, Problem is it’s mostly baby momma’s
They’re not… noooot!!
Yes the baby mamas/ single moms are the big bullies for some odd reason
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It's my baby momma, she want child support, she get welfare checks, and I stay in court
That doesn't count. They need help. They have to do it when they are young and childless.
do y'all ever get tired of talking about what you don't like and why?
start taking about what you love without involving people you don't engage with.
Why do BW feel threatened when BM talk about their issues in relationship ? You don't tell other races of men what they can talk about when they have issues with their women so don't tell BM.
No we don't. So shut up, and listen.
black men try to do that, unfortunately black women always put their 2 cents in
Exactly it's like they hate us but they are obsessed with talking about us
@@breebreezy9980 aren’t we all entitled our opinions? 🤔
As a black man that has been a square always on the right path, I've had more success with Hispanic women since middle school until this day. Only a handful of black women have ever considered giving me a change. Very small handful. No shade on black women, I'm just not the preferred type.
Most black women don't look my way. At least not before they get a few kids and about a hundred pounds. Then they want to talk to me. No thanks.
Same here man even in my fat days I always garnered more looks from Hispanic women the most, black women became attracted once i got buff and rip but Hispanic women were always drawn to me the most because of my values and morality and i was more family orientated plus they dont mind big dudes as long as you're a hard working man.
Fax
I can empathize with you
That’s real talk up until I met my wife the majority of the women I dealt with were Hispanic since kindergarten. It wasn’t because that was what I was looking for but the Hispanic women actually liked the dark skin and the fact I wasn’t trying to be in the streets. For the black girls that made me a lame up until 25
And I agree with him, we as black men need to find happiness above all else. If we ain’t getting it from our own women than so be it we can find it some place else it is what is🤷🏾♂️
You're supposed to find happiness without a woman, though. No one should be responsible for your happiness. A woman is supposed to be a help meet. If she's not doing her job, kick her to the curb.
Well, that’s one point of view !
What’s funny is it’s black women saying the same EXACT thing on TH-cam in comment sections.
Go where you are appreciated and not tolerated.
Breed yourselves out black men 😂.
That sellout BS never worked on me. I had well off relatives, and as a child I KNEW I was poor and did not want to be as an adult. All that anti-success crab in a bucket BS never held any sway. GTFOH.
My question to u does marrying a white woman equate with success?
@@romey70able No.
I love White girls.
I (a Black woman) have been with my white husband for 37 yrs...I'm happy
Blessings💯💯💯
And ?
The subject is are : Black men happy ; not you
So are you happy for black men with white women?
@@visiow2691 I am happy that black men are actually concerned with their own happiness.
I genuinely think that more black men should date women of other races to be honest 💯
What do they gain by focusing on doing that?
I agree
@@COACH_HM83 most likely he'll live to be 90.
@@hassanshabazz3386 nothing supports that opinion as true brother
Get yourself together as a man b4 dating anybody.
The comments in here are very disheartening. I think as a people, there is a lot of trauma that needs to be addressed on both sides. I do believe people need to choose what makes them happy, as long as their choice is not a fetish or appealing to taboos. Furthermore, I can't even count how many conversations I have been a part of where these fetishes have been expressed. The best thing I ever did was travel to black population dense countries and gain perspective. I get you always have to look out for number one, but it's not as bleak out there as people make it.
Correct! We need healing on both sides. I dislike these pages that further drives us apart, it’s so ugly. As someone who has also traveled, it helped me see the different versions of blackness. It opens your mind. I do feel sorry for black men who have a hard time finding their Queen but just move. Expose yourself to the different types of women. We have so much love & encouragement within us. I hope everyone experiences that.
The only thing black men need to be doing is saving ourselves
as long as its not a fetish, what if their fetish is what they want at the end of the day its what the person wants. who cares if its a fetish if she get my rocks off than so be it.
Festishes. You hit the nail on the head.
@@itsmob4life yup, thats why I left and im not coming back.
Ill say it from first hand experience. Dating became more fun once I started dating outside my race. I noticed very quickly women of other races wanted to get to know me as a person and what my values were compared to wanting to know my finances & what kind of car I drove. Once I started traveling internationally and experienced how women overseas(Germany, Ukraine, Mexico, Canada, Dominican republic) treated their men I never looked at American women the same again and started exclusively dating internationally.
Let's get in contact bro. Are you part of any group currently?
Ditto, I frequent jamaica , dr and have been to Mexico, Canada and others and when I come back home to the states, I can't date anymore...
I wish I had the funds to travel
Have you been in a relationship with any of these foreign women or has it been more just vacation fun?
I'm a black man and avoided dating and even interacting with black women altogether and my quality of life has dramatically increased. these modern black American women are lost stay away from them guys!!
I witnessed the results in real life, I remember seeing young African American males in their early 30's come in with severe hemorrhagic strokes. That's when I knew we need to take care of ourselves and ignore 99% of the people telling us how to live our lives. Those guys are gone, even with the ventilator doing all the work and feeding tubes, they never came back due to the damage to the brain. Stress in my experience is a major contribution to a lot of the illnesses we see.
These health issues that you are speaking of can be related to traumas; genetics and just everyday stress. Let’s not forget poor diet and health. It’s short-sighted and lacks substance to believe it’s caused by relationships. It’s important for Black people to seek mental health support to work through our issues. Keep it off social media and do the work.
⛔STOP⛔calling us ⚫Black⚫ or African American, we are INDIGENOUS ABORIGINAL Copper-Coloured People from this land. 🌟DANE CALLOWAY🌟
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@@catrathat08 Before you start calling me names, please read my comment again and show me where I mentioned relationships being the sole cause of the illnesses. Thanks for your input
@@maximus2el Why were they having strokes so young? Are you just attributing this to poor lifestyle? Were they that unhealthy?
@@mnkwazi Mostly healthy individuals from the test results, some were fit and had abs, There were a combination of factors that resulted in this, but the one standout thing I noticed they all had in common was stress. Your body is constantly fighting off infections and other things and one day all it takes is one little thing to push over the edge and the body gets overwhelmed. Monday's are known as stroke days as people are returning to a stressful job. There is a lot more info, but I'm trying to keep it short.
I'll say it, "I don't want to date ANYONE like my mom."
Agreed… my mom is crazy; I don’t need to date have another crazy on top of crazy
Damnnn
For you all black women are like your mother?
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Factually. Did a great job raising me, BUT uhhh, if I could avoid certain aspects, fasho. I’ll take an Alondra or Mei Leng over that.
Now, in light of the big issues here, I personally date my own kind, however, my disposition towards them doesn't facilitate for any untoward behaviour of them to myself. This is my own experience... I focus my energy of desirability and love on my black women, I get extremely good results. Sometimes we need to check out what we're putting out towards each other.. There's a lot of us seeking us..... We also should not allow media sentiment to make it seem worse than it actually is!
And also remember that if that blk women ain't in church or talking about God, then its 100% she will be cheating on you
I agree
Honestly I agree with him. I'm a black woman and my man is white and I've never been happier. I don't understand why mostly black women are upset about this. Especially since most of us are actually dating outside of the black community. Personally, I'm never going back. Black women stop the hate and date out. Expand your options!! You'll come out on the better end! Trust! 🤞🏾💯
I know a few black woman that had a different experience. Some of the white guys don’t even play with their mixed kids.
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This is sad, and destructive. The scriptures are being ignored, and we are destroying ourselves.
I’m glad you’ve decided that White is right!
Girl bw are not mad!! You are letting these hateful bm who love bashing bw try and use this to attack bw!!!
He didn’t say black men are suffering dating black women he said people would rather see you suffering dating someone in you own race then happy with a person from another race it’s 2 different statements entirely
Agree! The headline is very misleading.
But the premise of the statement suggests that going to another race (White) will cause less suffering.
@@xamanbro826 probably if you can’t comprehend what’s being said and you dwell on specific trigger words only.
@@xamanbro826 it suggest if you move on to another person and they just happen to be white people would rather you be in that relationship that’s not good for you just because she’s black or whatever I’ve noticed a lot of stuff gets taken out of context.
@@Marsbound215 What you said made absolutely no sense. Reconsider your word choice before attempting to rebut me.
I was told today by a black girl who graduated w/ a 4yr degree from FSU:
“A degree is validation you do not have behind your name”
Black women value these degrees over us and they try lead w/ their wallets and accomplishments. And as a 26yr old w/ a Net worth almost triple than the average in my age group, I laughed bc she thinks BM need a 4yr degree to prove we can think “logically” and tried to “challenge” my resume and professional skills. Knowing I’m 8yrs into my active duty Career 😂
Meanwhile you got Becky who works at Chili’s leading w/ her character and feminine nature and appreciating a hard working BM who has the work to show for it.
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True
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Yeah a Becky who really view you as a ''fetish'' keep it 100
I like beckys. And Becky’s like me. 😜
I was bullied by black women growing up calling me name like blacky etc.. but I said I will never date them 304$ once I get up!! Years later here they come!! 😂 but I got a black beautiful women now with 2 daughters!! Moral of the story she out there just keep grinding and never stop working on yourself and relationship
Fr. They try to act as if BM weren’t made fun of for being darker skinned too
@@themarathoncontinues4211 you’re right I used to tell this dark skin girl burnt prune all throughout high school 😂
I do not think anyone should feel guilty about dating a person outside of their race. My issue is, you do not have to justify your reasons for dating non black women. Also, do not drag black women who date non black men. Everyone is entitled to their preferences.
Tell that to your sisters...Don't tell BM what to do.
Black men stop the crying. I too was dogged by our Black women, but God still granted me exactly what I wanted in a Black wife .
We ain’t crying. We are just tired of the bullcrap
@@miguelrobb5719 naw, yall crying like bitter women who got cheated on once so now "all men are trash".
What kills me about the whole Race loyalty when it comes to relationships is the SAME people who say you can’t date outside your Race are the same ones loud and proud in support of SAME SEX unions and such. Utterly ridiculous.
That’s literally not the same thing. lol
Ermm.. what?
U lost me chief
Never cared about what people said about me that don’t pay my bills. 🤷🏿♂️
I'mma black woman and I agreed.
@@domingas.teca0695 you think someone is going to pay your bills?
You gals aren't paying attention.
I thought the ladies were running circles around men. You don't need us remember that
You keep saying people but you with that mindset will make your man unhappy. Do you want a simp?
Y'all say some of the most ridiculous things. This is one of them. No one is going to pay your bills with a disposition like this.
Black women have made it known that they do not like Black men . Chasing some one who does not want you is a waste of time. Black men with options are taking those options
Take the options, but I think this post is disingenuous. BW should explore their options more also, but most don't. Some are more recently starting to, but the majority of BW still saying they don't have an attraction to non-BM or want men who look like their father. Which is their prerogative too, but a lot of them especially the upper echalant, successful BW are waiting until their eggs dry up and die alone. I seen a BW on Twitter senior citizen aged talking she still waiting on a good BM 💀
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That can be said on the reverse. Even more proof.
All of you have options, it's not like it's hard for black men to date out. We women do it all the time.
Yea..when you look at the observable decades of mainstream disrespect-- overt and covertly, the ostracism of men in the lives of thier kids. The benign neglect they're subjected to socially, politically and more even by "their" women. The evidence its clear.
If blk women dating white men don’t have to explain themselves when dating outside their race, blk men shouldn’t have to explain themselves either. Blk women never check blk womyn for doing this.
There's a number of reasons of how we've gotten here but to put it simply, this should shock no one because neither brothas nor sistahs are taking responsibility for understanding much of the external trauma's we've suffered over the years has only manifested internally to the point of attacking each other and until >that< pain is dealt with, it will keep spiraling. Absolutely nothing wrong with loving who you love but under NO circumstance can you compare because those communities have NOT dealt with the legacy and trauma of enslavement, jim crow, civil rights, crack etc...
Exactly!
Agreed, well put.
Play rewind repeat!
Having Said All That, At Some Point, Whether Male Or Female, You Get Tired Of Dealing With All That Trauma. You Start To Look For Peace.
This is so true
I've stopped dating BW back in 06. Too many games and wanted the clean up guy after having Ray-Ray baby. I know a few brother's who dated and married out. Shiiiiiit I've been married to a Latina since 2014. BM deserve happiness just like every other race of men. Sometimes you gotta find it elsewhere.....
Ignorant to generalize a whole race.
Facts
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Sometimes it is what it is BW is simply too broken to be loved or to love black men!
100%
I'm clapping chaps regardless of the color 😭
Real walkie talkie. Lmmfao!
Curtis Richie yep we dont discriminate over here any woman can get with it
Le goooo
Black don't necessarily mean "hood". That's what people gotta understand. Every black woman ain't looking for a thug.
We keep saying black women like the divorce rate isn’t over 50% a Black African man just got stabbed to death by a white woman we got “Karens” calling the cops on Black men yet we still think they are so great…it’s not black or white it’s the American culture this culture has taught women to not respect men…black men in particular…so if she’s American no matter what race as a man you will get nothing from a relationship/marriage
That's not what Shannon was saying. "WE" don't think they're "better." We just expand our options. I used to be exclusive to black women but I'm now open to all races and it's made me happier. After all, black men cannot be the only people that are into interracial dating if we get other races of women. Right?
Facts. Amerikkka is modern day Babylon/Sodom and Gomorrah .
You almost had me. Your right it’s an American mindset. But people so hurt they are being general which is dangerous. I date black men and I move had a few bad experiences but that doesn’t mean that I damn all black Men. Just gotta choose better man with character that match mine
These men are narrow minded and lack logical thinking skills
We on this comment are in a minority.
Some of these men are due hard swirlers and will cling to the flimsiest excuse to justify their snow bunny obsession.
Black, white don't matter women in general can bring you peace or drama. But find who ever brings you happiness
Facts. Women of any race or culture can be on the BS. It really isn't black and white. 😳🙄
Best - and most real comment yet....
this is what matters
Currently in a relationship with my Xbox one and work
I must say I passed on a none Black woman 25 years ago that I knew respected and loved me hoping to be with a Black woman with no kids, self respect, respect and love for me and a life together.... I'm 50 now and one of the 52% of Black men that KS talked about who has never been married and have no children. I'll never with whatever time I have left tell any Black man to do as I did 25 years ago.
Same here brother..I rejected plenty non black women that worshiped the ground I walked on chasing this "black love " pipe dream...the juice was never worth the squeeze
Words of the wise, if you get a black woman, she must be younger, no kids, had a father in the home that she respected and didn't grow up in black culture.
you probably passed on the black woman that could have been a good woman, because of high standards
@@sjtalksandlife Never met too many bm with high standards when they talk about black love. Maybe we speaking too high when we say, you have to be fit (too many overweight or obese), maybe we are speaking too high when say you have to have no kids (70% of them already got kids out of wedlock), and maybe we are speaking too high when say you have to be submissive (most are into this bad bitch persona, even the ones in the middle to upper class neighborhood).
@@sjtalksandlife bs
It's very alarming how many black men are talking low about black women.
What are you gonna do about it? 🤔
What are you gonna do about it? 🤔
I remember back in the 90's when bw were on tv shows telling the WORLD there are no good black men available and most brothers were gay or in jail. No other race of woman would do that publicly. I knew it was the beginning of the end.
But it was true..now it's even worst. Same as black men bashing black women on social media
That was PROGRAMMING PROPAGANDA by the white supremacist satanic government.
@@sjtalksandlife *worse.
@@sjtalksandlife No, it's not true. And yall deserve to be bashed.
You were right to think that way because it is the beginning of the end for black men, in fact, it may already be the end for the black man!
Black women have given us no choice, but to go elsewhere for love and respect!
"When something becomes completely negative, it destroys itself." -Dr. David M. Berry
The lack of respect and (not so) subtle disdain from most black women along with engaging destructive men in black communities (Pookies Rayrays and Tyrones) and making poor life choices are cause of this. Many Black Men have had enough and are thinking about their future, if black women are active choosing not to be apart of that future by being difficult to cooperate with so be it. No one should put their life on hold to please someone let alone a community that takes them for granted.
I don't think black men should wait, be with whatever race of women treats you right
Most bw are out working at jobs and raising their kids while bm still are the most uneducated and least likely to require something as easy as a high school diploma. It’s safe to say most bm are pookies just like most bw are loud mouthed with attitudes according to y’all.
You're acting like white women aren't the same. All women from the west act the same maybe black women are a bit more aggressive but as far as mentality I don't see a big difference
@@stanleysimmonsreactions9056 all women from the west don’t even like men let alone date and come near y’all for you to make such a broad statement. All bw aren’t aggressive just like not all bm are murdering thugs. Y’all have to stop with that
@@glocktaviusjones6113 What are you talking about? I don't even understand your point?
Black men and women have been flirting with this disaster for a long time now. It's gone from us valuing lighter skinned over darker to flat out desiring white skinned. I value my black women but I understand I am a minority when comes to that way thinking and I was raised differently than most black people.
I'm not sure how white women got this wholesome image but there are a lot of Amber Heard's running around and Karen isn't just a name. The way to make our women respect us is by being on our shit and leading by example, select someone who is with your program.
You said it. There are a lot of good black men and women out there and thankfully many are working together. All relationships take effort.
It’s because people speak in generalities, you pointing out that there are a bunch of Amber heard’s means your not speaking generally as in collectively, youre speaking anecdotally as in individually.
Thats the disconnect
Black men seem to not get that and they will continue to fault the women for being in her nature as a HELP MEET/ who is a support. she may be aggressive and rude because she is out of her nature. But she is out of her nature because WE ARE OUT OF OUR NATURE as HEAD OF THE WOMEN. Instead the WHITE PATRIARCHY is the head of the women and the black man has become his child. and like children we continue to do childish things because we don’t see black men do things like build empires and governments. We have lost our way and because we have lost our way we have resorted to blaming the black women who is as much of a victim of white Patriarchy as she is suppose to be a reflection of us and be our helpmeet. but we have given her nothing to help with, instead we have fallen more in more into the child role and are looking for a mother in the white woman. we have to get out of the mind of a child and figure out how to get this government thing figured out because we as black men will die out. If it ain’t the white man killing you, it will be us breeding ourselves out. And ain’t nothing cool about that!
Asian Women are the most feminine of all Women. Check out the traditionalist from ASIA!
@@kennethmoss7394 hell nah bro. They be rude AF. I almost caught a case wit one. She had fire cat but she was crazy af🤣them chicks in the nail shop be mad rude too. I went in there to pay for my girls' nails and them chicks talk to u crazy.
Most black people date black people, it's well documented. It's just a big deal when famous people date outside their race. All very attractive black women never have problems finding black men to date or marry.
the part they dont talk about is the same female complaining about colorism and stuff are chasing after the same bad boys that dont want them
@@zero1188 yep most bw chase the Same type of bm, leaving the rest. Then they complain that these bm date out, really and truly you didn’t them.
You will never see a BM happier than when he is with a non-BW. Smiling, engaged and all-around joyful. The more BM seek out their true bliss, the better we will all be...
That’s too broad of a statement. I definitely know many black men who are or were happy with their black wives. Many I’m sure aren’t but not for many others.
@@chadalahio8266 The current marriage rate in the BC is 30%, and more than half of those marriages will end in divorce.
We'd like to think that happy Black unions are common, however the numbers just don't bear that out.
Man yall are hilarious....same feminist mindset but a different package.
I will say this, my first and overall preference is to be with a black woman. We are our own worst enemies against ourselves for why black relationships fail at such a fast rate and why some black men and women date outside their race. I would've considered date outside had it not been for the trauma and suffering our people have to deal with from racism because there are some cool people of others cultures that treat us better than our own and that's a shame.
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@@you-fg1nl and how does your mom's past trauma has to do with the rest of us? She just chose the wrong man, you can't blame every man for what your mother been through. I'm sorry she went through that.
Let’s all be honest, we avoid women like our mothers! 💯
Loud, belligerent, masculine and bad attitudes!
So glad our sons are figuring it out earlier than we did!
so where was your dad? while your mother was acting like that?
@@blacklove804 ...avoiding the loudness, belligerence, masculinity and bad attitude.
True. Very true. I would never date a bible thumping, loud-mouth, belligerent female like my mother. My dad was the first full tenured professor in the engineering department at the largest university in my home state. She treated him like trash, left him, and divorced him.
Nah not true for everyone
Avoid the negative aspects of our mothers
This ain't the 1980's and 90's no more my brothas, and these black women aren't even interested in 80% of us anyway. Have your fun with whatever race of woman you choose and enjoy your one life.
I noticed that too when you go out some where to a event and it can be 20 nice looking black women and none of them are interested when you try to approach them for conversation like they're too good for you but these same women will get mad and upset when they see you kick it with another race of women and it all goes well I just don't understand it it's enough black women around for black men to date within their own race but these women don't want us
@@kinglistosas5010 Just like that Mary J song goes, bad boys are no good,and good boys are no fun and you're right they want to give all of their best years to no good men and then come looking for the good men and then want to get in the church when they get old and used up you see the streets don't want them no more and they got to have some where to go these women need kaos in their life all that they can find until their time runs out
I’ve seen some black men suffer outside of their race. I have a black husband who is good to me and Vice versa. You attract who you are. I don’t care who you date…do you.
That may he what you have seen but there are people who have seen the opposite as well.
Exactly, if you got issues it doesnt matter who you date because your relationships will fail because you dont even love yourself.
You don't attract what you are, you choose to accept what comes to you. You can't help who you attract. 🍊
Now that’s the truth
@@Petwayboy beat me to it ...
Why is it complicated🤷🏾♂️
Why do we make it so complicated🤷🏾♂️
Black women are so amazing🖤
Thanks!!!!
A few are. Most....eh...some horrible....a few SMH WORSE.... shifting balances dont favor peace, honesty ,love respect in marriage.
@@rogerringold616 What a disgusting generalization of someone just because of their skin colour
AMAZING? I went to Jackie Robinson's old JC, in Pasadena Calif, during the Vietnam war era Four professors said that a blackman had to be 4x better than a whiteman to pass their class, the first three were white, they looked me in the eye with hate and vengeance. The fourth was a 250 pound black woman, who had all the hate the others had but had a look of triumphalism ( Nothing will happen to her AND there was nothing I could do}. Another black woman said that her bro had enlisted in the Army ( the war WAS televised daily) and that if it was good enough for him, it ought to be good enough for me. I DID NOTSEE HER GET HER FAT BUTT IN THE WAR!! Nothing like being understanding, supportive, thoughtfull, considerate etc.
I grad and went to Canada where black women would belittle you PUBLICLY!! That is after you treated them well s most of us do. Even if she had a good paying job, they wouldn"t even OFFER to pay for the tip much less the parking , gas etc. Is that AMAZING??
When I was a kid, my grandmother said that the gov was in the neighborhood offering women welfare provided they couldn't have a man in the house. Mid sixties. THEY TOOK THE MONEY , NOT the father or husband!!!!! What other women would do that?? No Asian, Muslim, or Latino( south American etc} because they are very family oriented. True or false???
Kevin Samuel said that if black men were so toxic, then being raised without them would result in better kids , RIGHT?? But what are the results? massive fail;ure, they produced a few 7 foot jump shooters and 3 quarterbacks. THE BLACK WOMAN AND THE BLACK WOMAN ALONE IS RESPONSIBLE FOR THE DESTRUCTION OF THE BLACK FAMILY!! Champ THAT is amazing.
Fast forward, I lived in China a couple decades NEVER had a problem with the ladies, many of whom had NEVER met any bro. NONE of them would ever say I don't need no man!! Thats amazing too.
So marry them!
I love how the Hispanic and Asian community (for the most part) marry within!
Nothings wrong with taking pride and marrying your own.
Now disrespecting someone because they married outside of their race is foul! But rooting for blacks to be with blacks, nothings wrong with that
They only hating on those that dont. And wishing for chaos in those with seemingly respectful relationships (see Russell and Ciara…etc) Misery loves company
The only dudes who are cheering swirlers are weak ass bet males. Those dudes don't care anything about the community and those cowards won't be missed.
Simple as that...
FBA/B1
SalaamKhafid, Asians marry out more than black people and hispanic women marry out more than bw.
That is not exactly true for the most part according to the pew research center Asians and Hispanics have higher out marriage rates than American blacks and they tend to interracially date white people.
Catholicism, high infidelity.....some folks are faking
The problem is western women. Not just black women. Remember MGTOW is a thing and was a thing some time before red pill. We’re talking a group of men that we’re predominantly white, who decided their dating conditions was so bad that they opted to leave the market all together. Now logic would tell us that the white man would certainly understand the whites women far better that we would, right? With likely 20+ years of experience with them… I’d believe so. This is what a lot of black men don’t get. If you don’t have at least 20 years of experience dating out (especially white women) then you don’t know what you’re getting into. I can tell you from second hand experience. It ain’t what it looks like. There are a ton of Amber Heard’s out there that black men are getting ready to ruin their lives dealing with.
GREAT POINT! Finally someone using their whole brain.
Thank you. Let's not Scottie wife or Dwayne's wife or that white woman that killed her bf
The truth.
@@elladerosemee6787 yup crazy women come in all races just ask Johnny doo doo bed Depp lol.
That's why It doesn't matter the race ,all are capable of evil, so deal with the WOMAN, women that's best for you regardless, it's common sense lol.
Just go date other races of women and be happy. But without bashing black women in the process though. Get them out of your head completely and avoid them at all cost.
Stop it bruh they’re bashing Jamie fox and he never said one thing bad about black women
They won't change if they aren't made aware they're a problem. It's not bashing
@@Mrspintz some black men bash Jamie's fox's daughter for being white a white man 🤷🏾♀️ at the end of the day who cares lol
I agree 💯
@@Mrspintz Add Bronny (who's a kid) and Micheal B Jordan; they also never said anything negative , but are catching heat from sistahs
You can't lead people who don't want to be led. BW don't want to be led by BM. So it's best to go with people who want to be led. f-nism is about freedom of choice. They chose to not want to be led. Soooo. Time to move on.
Amen!!!
Would you want to be lead bus group of men who have shown time and time again that they do not value you enough to build a community for you to be a the beauty standard, protected and catered too. Move on to other races of women as they have been able to rest in there feminist as there men have built an environment for them to do that unlike black men who can’t co one second without complaining about being subjugated in another mans society
Feminism was started by the white people, not black woman. Furthermore, only some black women want to lead the man, I don't know what type of black woman you guys have in America. But I am sure there are plenty women of colour that have embraced a man correctly and have been left soaked in the rain, and likewise there are other young black women that are waiting to build healthy relationships but she is seeing some 'black' men like you. Now who is confused?
Kevin Samuels: “Like I been saying all along. You can’t make this stuff up.”
Oshay: “Preach!”
Thanks for calling out Maya Angelou. No disrespect. Just facts. She was married to an entire white man and it was rarely talked about while she was living or after her death. A black man in the same arena as Maya Angelou could never get away with marrying a white woman. He'd be thrown away so fast.
And yet harry belafonte has been married to several white women. So has quincy jones. They were not thrown away.
@@PhDiva02 Since when is Harry Belafonte or Quincy Jones in the same arena as Maya Angelou?
@@Only1Dizzle exactly. Neither one of them is held in the same regard as Maya Angelou.
I'm sorry but she's a woman. For the most part. Women are not looked at as the leader of any race and communities. That's why it's not really a big deal when a woman is pro-black and dates out. It's more of an issue when a pro black man dates a white women. Because men are seen as the leaders of the community. They are meant to set the status quo and take pride in their race. Like every other race of men on this earth. Women generally don't have that kinda power and influence.
Nina Simone, Alfre Woodard, Diana Ross
Once sistas see you dating a White, Asian, or Hispanic woman they act one of two ways. They either catch an attitude because they’re upset or they try to hit on you and win you over. Both reactions are corny.
I just ignore you people what's it to me you want a reaction outta me you want me to feel sometype of way I don't and I won't why should I care really why should I give a puck?
@@ashleywilson6093 The fact you wrote this shows your feathers have been ruffled. Walk away from the computer and go do some deep breathing exercises.
@@ashleywilson6093 he’s delusional lol most bw could not care less about them and their preference.
@@TheMissuz82 I see it all the time and it's usually the black men flirting with black women girl Ask nate the billionaire mind set
@@TheMissuz82 JUST BE QUIET AND STAY AWAY FROM BROTHAS!!! Bm don't give one damn. Universe is exposing the strong bw. #JUSTBEQUIET
Be where you’re accepted and feel appreciated kings, point blank period
This conversation is gonna go on forever man. If black women aren’t making black men happy, it’s a no brainer to date interracially. Women of other cultures are now embracing black men like never before. And seem to allow the black man to lead. Times have changed and interracial dating will only increase. You go to any mall in America and you’ll see interracial dating HEAVY among teens. Errrybody better get use to it
Where exactly are these women? They damn sure aren’t in South Dakota
@@Yup365 They are oversea in Latin America,Europe,Asia,and Africa
@@Yup365 in anything in South Dakota??
The only race you should concern yourself with is the good people race. People who have your back at your lowest, the person who would donate resources to help you thrive, the person who would literally take any bullet for you, that's your tribe. If they are not helping you survive in this cold, dark twisted world they are not your tribe or your friends or relationship or dating material. Go where you are wanted and celebrated. Free Agent lifestyle
Namaste Haribol Asewe!!
💯 realist comment I've seen on this thread
Exactly... I told a racist Brad that in the comments section of a Cassady Campbell video. He tried to come at me with the "your kind" ignorance. I told him that "my kind" are intelligent and reasonable people. He's scared.
Well said 👏 👌 👍 I wish I could give you 1,000,000 likes!!¡!
I agree 💯
*Bottom line....find your happiness regardless of anything 💯💯💯*
I'm a black man and avoided dating and even interacting with black women altogether and my quality of life has dramatically increased. these modern black American women are lost stay away from them guys!!
I’m confused as to why black women are always brought up in these conversations… If you have a “preference”, fine but don’t bring up black women and disrespect them in the process. It seems like some of y’all are obsessed with black women. that you don’t even like.
I agree 100% with Shannon Sharpe I’m from the Caribbean but live in California my son has tried dating black women but they have said he’s lame because he has no kids he doesn’t drink or smoke or has a criminal record so he have dated white women and Hispanic, his girlfriend now is Mexican I have no problem with my son dating outside his race because I’ve always taught my son you judge people by their character and personality not by their skin color, or religion, or whatever. I always taught him go where you are wanted, live your life, and be happy.People need to let others live and live how they want to live their lives, and mind dem business nuh.
Them white women ain't no better. They only see black men as some ''mandingo fetish''
The black women who said that was straight stupid. Thank God not all black women are not like that.
Right on. Only in the black community where a young guy make the right choices and gets mocked. 🤦🏿♂️My wife is black but I surely had to move 4 hours to another state to find that one that worth it. Glad he went where he was appreciated!
And the side benefit of having an extra mini fridge 🥤
You’re a good mum
Oshay, no lies were told! Black man go and be happy with whoever makes you happy!
Facts! What fool would keep trying to fix something that wants to stay broken? #SYSBM
BOOOOOM.
END OF STORY
Uncle Shay is the truth and speaking straight facts.
Yes indeed
There we go again putting our race down whether it be black women or black men. White women and white men go through the same mess. They just do not advertise their business on line. Caucasian men beat and abuse their women as well. That white woman will stay with a man with money although he is abusing her allegedly. People are people good and bad in every race but we are only ones that puts our race down on social media and other places. Talk about our issues among ourselves like they do.
So your saying that black men are suffering being in a relationship with a black woman .And when he is with a white woman it's pure bliss. I've never heard so much nonsense 🙄. Just be honest and say I want to date and marry a white woman.
I agree. I don't take em seriously at all. I just date my preferences. Don't worry we nor ww are not staying with them for long anyway lol.
I really like the style of video. Calm, rational and insightful.The Man really did a job on our community.
Yup. Our community is finished.
Our community is not finished...pple like Shay just like drama and complaining.
@@khefe-rayayatun2490 I pray that you're right.
@@khefe-rayayatun2490 what is he complaining about?
@@raheemsmallshorton2050 we have allot of allegedly strong Black men in the community that wine and complain about things they have no true over-standing about. I'd have more respect for Shay if he just said I'm just doing me.
I TOLD a once upon a time friend this and she disowned me.
OUR CULTURE AS AFRICAN AMERICANS NEEDS TO CHANGE FROM ITS FOUNDATION IN ITS ENTIRETY. That's from the music to clothing to style to how we view each other, and how we speak and address each other. she called me a sell out lol but what's odd, is that no black man today really stop to think, we as a race once had black wall street and we are now in a position that if one of us decided to restart something like that, not only he would be ridiculed to the ends of the earth, but his own race would take a massive dump on him, from tell him that he thinks his white to "oh he thinks he's too good for us"
It's scary to think how low we've fallen as a race huh? I think seeing the women of our community spit on Kev's grave was the last straw for me...
@@SukhoiGC ✅
N bw would be the main agitators too, fuk around she would team up with zaddy, we all know those two never like to see any success story of any blk man. They made for each other n that is why brothers continue to explore your options, these women have only 1 specific type of blk men in our community, the F19s. They respect them why you think their more bastard children in our communities than from stable house holds? N if F19 doesn't work out she runs to another race of man n if she's really a itch! She may throw shade at blk men while with thebktherrace of men, too much talking I feel u. All this is well documented and discussed and beaten with a dead horse, at the end of the day. We know the odds are against us and we know the end results, do you, live your life n be with who makes u happy. These women have zero loyalty today, so don't even feel anyway if that Latina is showing signal. Go bag that.
@@SukhoiGC
like literally,
Whether it was our own doing or influenced by the powers that be, we let go and completely abandoned our morals, traditions, respect for each other.
All because of some fame, or following people with some fame or money, or in most cases an EBT card.
and black people don't get it. like remember when black lives matter protest, there were white people caught doing crazy things white dressed in all black including painting on their faces and we never realize we are a meme, a joke for all to laugh at.
I too have seen evidence of this. The scientific term is crabs in a barrel.
Imo brother Oshay. The dudes who aren't loyal to our community don't really deserve our support . And I don't mean any ill-will by that but I don't think it's right for people to benefit off a community while not committing to it. Also I think the snow bunny culture gets some of us bm stuck in delusion but ONLY A SMALL MINORITY OF NON-BLK WOMEN WILL TAKE US SERIOUSLY. There's only so much of them to go around. MOST BM WILL END UP WITH BLACK WOMEN.
What benefit?
Unfortunately
What support, they don’t need your support if they are happy! If you find a white woman who respects and loves you, would you pass her by? If you do, you’re a fool.
@@Africanus1 Go back and get your country from the Asians bedbuck. Then get back to us 😲
BW say stupid crap like this. There’s literally nothing appealing about the “Community” that’s ran by BW. You’re just a squirrel looking for a nut in their dysfunctional community.
I'm a Canadian black woman and I only date white men and Latino men.
My background, environment and learning to speak multiple languages has opened many doors for me.
🤔???? That's your reason???
Good for you
Try Black and I PROMISE you will not go BACK.