I am down and stressed. Just an honest chat about past and traumatic experiences. Love you Guys!

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  • I am down, depressed and stressed.
    This is an honest chat about our past to try and exorcise some ghosts and demons that have been hurting us.. They say that it is a good thing to talk about the things that have harmed us on a physical, emotional and psychological level and that it is better to speak out rather then keep your emotions boiling and bottled inside, I attempt to put stuff out in the open. There is so much more I can say. but tried to keep it down to the things that have HURT us REALLY BADLY.
    I apologize if you do not want this kind of video from me {us} but this is the reality of our situation and I (we) need to vent. I feel we are damaged goods (even Layla) and it is important to talk.

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  • @OoLaLaFrenchGirl
    @OoLaLaFrenchGirl 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Awww I’m sorry you’re going through this, Cliff. I’m sending you and your lovely wife positive vibes. 💛

    • @CliffsDarkGems
      @CliffsDarkGems  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you so much for the kind words! Hopefully things will get better from here on out.

  • @BlueEyedMatt42
    @BlueEyedMatt42 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    My brother, I’m sorry you guys went through all this. You’ve become one of my favorite channels, and one of my favorite people to chat with. Take all the time you need. PTSD seems to be connected mostly to military, but it is a very real issue for many people. Much love to you, Anita, and your pooch.

    • @CliffsDarkGems
      @CliffsDarkGems  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Thank you for the kind and supportive words Matt! It has been rough but we are hoping that we are over the worst of it and things will get better moving forward.

  • @bookstalgic
    @bookstalgic 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Cliff, I’m so sorry you’re both been going through so much stress. All of that sounds so scary and it definitely sounds like you have some PTSD symptoms as a result from all of it. I hope you can find comfort in the days ahead and are able to put it past you. You are stronger than you think ❤. You guys will be in my thoughts and sending lots of comfort and peace your way✨.

    • @CliffsDarkGems
      @CliffsDarkGems  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you so much for the kind and supportive words Farrah. I am hoping that we have turned a corner and that better times lie ahead.♥

  • @Amethyst678
    @Amethyst678 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Oh gosh Cliff i’m so sorry you and your wife have been through so many awful events. I can totally understand why you’re feeling stressed. I hope you’re both feeling a bit better soon and if you're having a tough week and need to take some time for yourself we’ll all understand.

    • @CliffsDarkGems
      @CliffsDarkGems  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you so much for the kind words! Yes, it has been a stressful time for both of us but I definitely felt a bit better after posting the video. Thank you for your warmth, care and support.

  • @BrentDavis75
    @BrentDavis75 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    As a fellow South African I totally get it. My wife and I live in PE (now Gqeberha), and crime and corruption are the order of the day. All the best to the both of you.

    • @CliffsDarkGems
      @CliffsDarkGems  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you for the well wishes Brent. I grew up in PE and have heard that it has gone seriously downhill. All the best to you and your wife.

    • @BrentDavis75
      @BrentDavis75 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @CliffsDarkGems Thank you. 🖖

  • @blakebellis
    @blakebellis 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Hugs mate; lost my mom recently too. And sounds like you experienced a brutal experience. I'm so sorry friend.

    • @CliffsDarkGems
      @CliffsDarkGems  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you for the kind words Blake and big hugs to you too. Sending warm wishes and condolences your way.

  • @spookylittlebooknerd
    @spookylittlebooknerd 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I’m so sorry, Cliff! You and Anita have been through so much. This is all so horrible like something straight out of a horror novel. I can’t even imagine. You guys don’t deserve any of this. I hope things improve dramatically from here. 🖤

    • @CliffsDarkGems
      @CliffsDarkGems  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you so much for the kind and supportive words. I am sure things will get better.

  • @lesliepowell-mccarty7067
    @lesliepowell-mccarty7067 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I'm so sorry for all the things you two have had to deal with. Good folks like yourselves shouldn't have to go through those things. It's good to air your feelings so you don't become overwhelmed. We got you! ❤

    • @CliffsDarkGems
      @CliffsDarkGems  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you so much for the kind words my friend.♥ Yes, I really needed to do this and we both felt a bit better after posting this video. We really appreciate you! ♥

  • @Obsessive-reader
    @Obsessive-reader 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I’m so sorry to hear you are feeling down. It’s good that you can talk about it to let it out. We are always here to listen and help where we can. Take the time you need to feel better and send my love to Anita and her family. Stay strong Cliff you are one of the best booktubers around!

    • @CliffsDarkGems
      @CliffsDarkGems  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you so much for the kind words Vanessa. I felt a lot better after posting the video. We both really appreciate your warmth, care and support.

  • @fiberartsyreads
    @fiberartsyreads 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Cliff y’all have even through so much! I appreciate you sharing with us so we can understand a bit of what you’ve been dealing with. Sending lots of love your way!

    • @CliffsDarkGems
      @CliffsDarkGems  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you so much Crystal Sometimes it is better to let it out and I felt better for the sharing. Lots of love from all of us.

  • @literarylove123
    @literarylove123 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Cliff, I am so sorry to hear about the trauma and loss you and Anita have experienced. Sending you both lots of love and wishing you peace and healing as you move forward.

    • @CliffsDarkGems
      @CliffsDarkGems  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you so much for your kindness, warmth and support Jen! Sending you lots of love from all of us!

  • @RaynorReadsStuff
    @RaynorReadsStuff 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I am so sorry you have suffered such traumatic experiences. You have my heartfelt sympathies. Try to stay strong, hopefully it is all behind you now and better days are ahead. Much love

    • @CliffsDarkGems
      @CliffsDarkGems  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you so much for the kind and supportive words Raynor. We are both hoping that the future is brighter.

  • @Shelf-Esteem
    @Shelf-Esteem 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Brother I'm so sorry to hear about all the horrific things you and Anita have been going through these last couple of years! :( You're an amazing person and like many have mentioned here already, we are here for you! Take the time you need to process it all, and make sure to take care of yourselves

    • @CliffsDarkGems
      @CliffsDarkGems  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you for the kind and supportive words my friend! We really appreciate your warmth, care and love. It has been a horrible time but hopefully the tide has turned and the future will be brighter. Love from both of us my brother.

  • @royreadsanything
    @royreadsanything 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    So sorry you've been through all of that nightmare stuff - totally undeserved and horrible. I hope getting it off your chest helps at least a tiny bit. I totally get where you're coming from regarding time away from Anita.

    • @CliffsDarkGems
      @CliffsDarkGems  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you for your care and support Roy! It did help a bit. I think I just need to be as busy as possible to keep my mind occupied while Anita is away.

  • @anotherbibliophilereads
    @anotherbibliophilereads 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Sorry to hear about all those troubles, Cliff. You can always talk to the community on BookTube.

    • @CliffsDarkGems
      @CliffsDarkGems  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you so much Greg! It certainly did make me feel better when I posted this video.

  • @MysteryandMayhem-gr7nn
    @MysteryandMayhem-gr7nn 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    That all sounds horrifying, Cliff. I'm so sorry you both had to go through that.

    • @CliffsDarkGems
      @CliffsDarkGems  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you for the kind words Jim. Yes, it has been horrible but hopefully things will get a lot better in future.

    • @MysteryandMayhem-gr7nn
      @MysteryandMayhem-gr7nn 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @CliffsDarkGems I wish all the best for you and Anita. I used to work with someone who lived in S. Africa and she had some stories to tell. I hope that things get better for you soon, Cliff.

  • @katsnoveladventures1863
    @katsnoveladventures1863 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    You and Anita have been through a horrendous time. You both were traumatized, so it’s natural to feel stressed and depressed, especially if there isn’t an end in sight. I hope life will get much better VERY soon for ya’ll, so that ya’ll can heal and move forward. Sending lots of hugs, prayers, and positive vibes to you, Anita, and Layla. 🫂🙏🏻🥰

    • @CliffsDarkGems
      @CliffsDarkGems  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Thank you so much for your kindness, warmth and care Kat! Hopefully things will start looking up in 2025. All the best to you my friend from all of us. 🤗🤗

  • @DisquietandDragons
    @DisquietandDragons 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Hey Cliff, sorry to hear you're down and stressed, I hope things start to get better for you soon.
    I'm lucky to live in a decent area in a pretty mellow country and hearing what you've both been through was so upsetting, I really feel for you both. You know where I am if you ever need to talk.
    Take care my friend.

    • @CliffsDarkGems
      @CliffsDarkGems  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you so much for your kind and supportive words John. I am so lucky to count you as a friend in such a warm community. Thank you from all of us!

    • @DisquietandDragons
      @DisquietandDragons 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @CliffsDarkGems the friendships and community are what make booktube so special. You all take care and I truly hope things get better soon.

  • @nymunfashionablepoetry
    @nymunfashionablepoetry 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I am truly so sorry for the loss and horrifying trauma you two have been through. This is so upsetting. I hope that things look up for you very soon. Take all the time you need to rest and heal ❤

    • @CliffsDarkGems
      @CliffsDarkGems  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you so much for the kind and supportive words.♥It has been traumatic but we hope things will get better in future.

  • @ambythebooks
    @ambythebooks 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    My heart breaks hearing about what you've been going through. That's A LOT for one person/one couple to go through.... that's just brutal, absolutely brutal. These things can absolutely break a person. Thank you for finding the strength to share your story, and for being open, honest, and showing so much emotion. Don't worry about not showing "your best" side here on TH-cam. We're just humans needing human connection and support. If there's anything a stranger can do to help, let me know! Take all the time you need to rest and heal, wishing you both all the best.

    • @CliffsDarkGems
      @CliffsDarkGems  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you so much for the kind words! It has been really tough and I really needed to share our experiences, get things off my chest. I did feel better after sharing the video, I (we) have been feeling very low, and sometimes it is better to get stuff out in the open then keep it bottled inside. Thank you for your warmth, care and support.

  • @BookChatWithPat8668
    @BookChatWithPat8668 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I’m so sorry, Cliff and Anita, that you’ve had so many horrible events to deal with in these last several years. Take care, my friend.

    • @CliffsDarkGems
      @CliffsDarkGems  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you so much for the kind words Pat. Hopefully 2025 will be a good year for all of us.

    • @BookChatWithPat8668
      @BookChatWithPat8668 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @ I hope so…

  • @bluemaiden5
    @bluemaiden5 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    ((((( hugs))) to both of you! Take all the time you two need. ❤ Much love

    • @CliffsDarkGems
      @CliffsDarkGems  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you so much for the kind words Maria. ♥

  • @SuperStrangSshadow
    @SuperStrangSshadow 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    As a person living with dysthymia and chronic fatigue, I can relate. Not with the stresspart but the downpart. And also been through a lot with bullying and excluding over the years. It is like life throws everything at you. At least I got my books and my lame movies. Glad you guys are safe and that 2025 will be more normal.🌟

    • @CliffsDarkGems
      @CliffsDarkGems  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you so much for the kind words my friend. Wow, I really wish you all the best in future. Here's hoping for a calmer more stress-free 2025 for all of us.

  • @sueloguejohnson8929
    @sueloguejohnson8929 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I am so sorry. Sending gentle hugs.

    • @CliffsDarkGems
      @CliffsDarkGems  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you so much for the kind words. 🤗

  • @DarkVioletDreams
    @DarkVioletDreams 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I am so sorry you’ve gone through such heartbreaking and trying times. Keeping you both in my thoughts and prayers and sending lots of love your way! I hope you find peace and can rest easy. ♥️

    • @CliffsDarkGems
      @CliffsDarkGems  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you so much for the kind and supportive words. We really appreciate your warm and caring thoughts. ♥

  • @stuartgriffin1001
    @stuartgriffin1001 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Sorry you and your wife had to go through all that. That is way more than anyone should have to deal with. I hope you have a good long calm period going forward

    • @CliffsDarkGems
      @CliffsDarkGems  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you so much for the kind an supportive words Stuart! Yes, I'm sure things will get better going forward.

  • @michellesmelancholia
    @michellesmelancholia 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Sending my support, Cliff!

    • @CliffsDarkGems
      @CliffsDarkGems  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you so much Michelle.

  • @inmycraftyreadingroom
    @inmycraftyreadingroom 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I’m so sorry you guys had to go through those horrible situations! Sending you & Anita big hugs!!

    • @CliffsDarkGems
      @CliffsDarkGems  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you so much for your kind words. We appreciate your care and support! 🤗

  • @JasonsWeirdReads
    @JasonsWeirdReads 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    So sorry about all the bad things you guys are going through. I’m sending positive vibes and hoping that things improve for you soon.

    • @CliffsDarkGems
      @CliffsDarkGems  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you so much for the kind words Jason. I am hoping we have turned a corner and that 2025 will be a good year.

  • @Already-Overbooked
    @Already-Overbooked 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Cliff I am sorry you and Anita have been going through so much. Take care my friend

    • @CliffsDarkGems
      @CliffsDarkGems  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you for the kind words my friend!

  • @pleasereadyourbook
    @pleasereadyourbook 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Hi Cliff, that is really a lot to process. I hope you can find steady ground again and then keep moving forward.

    • @CliffsDarkGems
      @CliffsDarkGems  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you so much Carl! We are hoping things will improve in future.

  • @TheBookThing
    @TheBookThing 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Aw dude, what a catalogue of misfortune. It’s at testament to your strength as a couple that you’ve managed to live through all of that. Take the time to care of yourselves. We’ll all be here whenever you’re ready. Loads of love.

    • @CliffsDarkGems
      @CliffsDarkGems  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Aah, thank you so much for the kind and supportive words my friend. ♥ It has been terrible but hopefully we can start moving forward with more positivity in future.

  • @susanburgess820
    @susanburgess820 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Wow cliff. My heart's with you and your family😢

    • @CliffsDarkGems
      @CliffsDarkGems  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you for the lovely words Susan.

  • @Lemonburied
    @Lemonburied 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Hoping for the best for all of you 💗 thank you for being open with us and I hope life gets better for you so sorry things aren’t well right now :(

    • @CliffsDarkGems
      @CliffsDarkGems  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you for the kind and supportive words. ♥ It really did help a bit to share that with the community.

  • @bottleimpbooks
    @bottleimpbooks 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Sending all best wishes your way, Cliff. And condolences to Anita on the passing of her dad. My sister leaves in SA and the crime and corruption is so worrying. I hope you're all able to begin enjoying the beauty of the land, free from the legal problems, etc. - Matthew

    • @CliffsDarkGems
      @CliffsDarkGems  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you for the kind and supportive words Matthew. Agreed, hopefully our legal problems are finally a thing of the past. Best wishes from Cliff and Anita.

  • @marywilson3633
    @marywilson3633 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    What you and your wife have been through is absolutely horrific! Please take care! I admire you for sharing all this with us. Take the time you need.

    • @CliffsDarkGems
      @CliffsDarkGems  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you so much for warmth, care and support Mary. Sharing this made me feel a lot better- better then keeping it bottled inside.

  • @Cobaltdragon
    @Cobaltdragon 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Scary but thank goodness none of you were harmed. Yes PTSD is very real and sounds like you have been through some very horrific events and totally understandable that you need some time to take care of you. Big hugs and much love to you, Anita and Layla.

    • @CliffsDarkGems
      @CliffsDarkGems  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you so much for the kind and supportive words. We are hoping that the worst is over and that we can start moving on with our lives. Big hugs to you too from all of us. 🤗

  • @BryanM.R.-prionic1
    @BryanM.R.-prionic1 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    So sorry about the troubles, tragedies, and subsequent depression and anxiety. You show remarkable restraint in how you refer to certain people and events. I can only hope that you and your wife can find some measure of peace and a much better time moving forward. Take care.

    • @CliffsDarkGems
      @CliffsDarkGems  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you so much for the kind and supportive words Bryan. I am sure things will get easier in time, moving forward from here.

  • @BookishChas
    @BookishChas 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Oh wow Cliff, you’ve had a really rough go of it! I’m so sorry this whole thing happened to you, and condolences to you and your wife for the loss of her dad. Hugs to you, and hope things get better from here on out.

    • @CliffsDarkGems
      @CliffsDarkGems  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you so much for the kind words my friend! 🤗Hopefully we have turned a corner and things will get easier from here on out.

  • @NicolesBookishNook
    @NicolesBookishNook 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    So sorry to hear all that’s going on, Cliff. Big hugs ❤

    • @CliffsDarkGems
      @CliffsDarkGems  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you so much for the kind words Nicole! ♥

  • @michaelk.vaughan8617
    @michaelk.vaughan8617 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Holy Hell! No wonder you like horror novels. You’ve been living in one!

    • @CliffsDarkGems
      @CliffsDarkGems  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Absolutely Michael... but things can only get better.

  • @M-J
    @M-J 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Hang in there, Cliff. This community has your back.

    • @CliffsDarkGems
      @CliffsDarkGems  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you so much MJ. It helped to share this video and we appreciate the warmth and support of the community.

  • @mindysbookjourney
    @mindysbookjourney 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    So sorry it is a tough time. Take care of yourself.

    • @CliffsDarkGems
      @CliffsDarkGems  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you so much Mindy! Best wishes from all of us.

  • @444Raine
    @444Raine 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I'm glad you can talk about what happened to you and your wife. I'm so sorry to hear about the crimes perpetrated against you. I understand about feeling jumpy. I'm jumpy too. I deal with depression and trauma and have learned not to push myself when I feel overwhelmed. Take care of yourselves and I hope you can get lost in a very good book or two.

    • @CliffsDarkGems
      @CliffsDarkGems  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you so much for your kind and supportive words. That is very good advise and we wish you everything of the best too. Take care- from Cliff and Anita.

  • @romyespy6586
    @romyespy6586 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thoughts and prayers to you and your lovely wife. You have a whole bunch of people that want the best for you!!!

    • @CliffsDarkGems
      @CliffsDarkGems  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you so much for the kind words Romy! It helped to share this with all of you. We appreciate your warmth, care and support.

  • @Alicia-606
    @Alicia-606 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    ❤❤❤

    • @CliffsDarkGems
      @CliffsDarkGems  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you Alicia! ♥♥♥

  • @TheChapterConundrum
    @TheChapterConundrum 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I'm so sorry you've both had such a string of misfortune!
    Onwards and Upwards from here on in though 😊

    • @CliffsDarkGems
      @CliffsDarkGems  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you for the kind words! Absolutely, we hope things will get better.

  • @davidsbookreviews4983
    @davidsbookreviews4983 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I'm not sure what to say Cliff. Life and some people are terrible.

    • @CliffsDarkGems
      @CliffsDarkGems  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you for commenting David! Life has been terrible but we just hope things turn around in future. Sharing this was important for us and I did feel better after posting the video.

  • @susanburgess820
    @susanburgess820 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Oh my god cliff.😢😢😢

    • @CliffsDarkGems
      @CliffsDarkGems  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yes, it has been tough!