I appreciate that you are passionate & well organized in your teaching, which can be seen by your presentation. I refer to your intelligent, rare & unique videos again and again, inorder to get spiritual guidance on a daily basis. I thank God for you, because I use your tutorial videos as reference in my daily prayer. It is very descriptive & helpful. That is why it stands out among the rest. U deserve to be praised for all your hard work. Keep it up Ashley. God bless you dear.
Sometimes its easier to forgive others than it is to forgive yourself. Sometimes I carried guilt within myself of the past mistakes that I made. Learning to let it go now
How is it . . . Or IS it . . . that a truly born-again spirit-filled person can have unforgiveness in their heart . . . Often without even being aware of it? How then are their sins forgiven?
How do you forgive your husband when he keeps hurting you I forgave his affair but found out about strip clubs and a secret life. We are working on reconciliation but he keeps doing things to take me back etc. I have such anger cuz he won’t stop hurting me how can I forgive please help !!!
I am so sorry to hear that you are going through this. It’s a painful and traumatic situation. There are many steps to this process that you’re in right now. Firstly, it’s important that you recognize that you and your husband are two totally separate people. Yes you are joined in the union of marriage but you are still two separate people. He is making very bad decisions. You have not made those decisions. He has broken the marriage vows repeatedly and you must decide what you want to do. Secondly, your husband has shown you again and again that he does not have a trustworthy character right now. When he does not have a trustworthy character, it is very foolish for you to choose to trust him. When you keep trusting him in this, you allow yourself to be re-wounded by his bad decisions. Thirdly, boundaries need to be implemented in your heart and life to protect you and your sanity. Withdrawing from the relationship would be most appropriate while you take a breather with some wise counsel and decide what to do. You can’t control what he does but you can definitely control what you do. Fourthly, you need a counselor or therapist to help you walk through this. She will help to give you insight as to why you are tolerating this behavior. Also, joining a supportive community will comfort and strengthen you through this. In addition, you may want to break soul ties with him to protect your heart until he decides to take action to join a longtime recovery process. Only after he has taken consistent action to participate sincerely in a recovery process for many years AND you witness longtime redeemed character will you even start to have hope of trusting him again. Leslie Vernick, who wrote The Emotionally Destructive Marriage, has videos, a blog, classes and weekly email encouragement for women just like you. Reach out and get the support that you need. Ask the Lord to lead you.💜
This situation shows how concentrating on unforgiveness can be a form of victim blaming. No matter how much you forgive you still feel unreconciled right? So you haven't forgiven enough right?. So you are setup for failure. No. You are NOT holding onto unforgiveness but are holding onto the hope for an apology from your husband, repentance if you will, in order to reattach to your husband, to restore a torn relationship. There is the brief coverage in Luke 17 and a fuller one in Matt 18 (IIRC) which discusses reconciliation and it depends on your husband repenting, ie apologizing and making amends, before you forgive him. If he won't do that then the Matt version lays out the protocol: see him as no different than a tax collector. In other words end the relationship. You still need to forgive him, But not with the objective being to reattach to him. Instead the objective is to detach from him. This means handing him and his behaviours over to the Lord, who made him and whose failings are His responsibility, not yours. Then hand your hurt to the Lord, who is bearing it anyway! But then comes reconciling your hurt self to your prior self to heal. Again first comes acknowledgement followed by forgiveness. I'd wager you replay incidents in your mind saying to yourself "I should have done this when he did that etc". Your brain is searching for what you did wrong. Realize that you did something wrong: you trusted someone who was not trustworthy. Own that error of judgement. If you stop there the natural continuity is to never risk trusting anyone ever again. Don't want that. So forgive your past self for being too attached to the idea of perfection in someone not the Lord, forgive yourself. But again first your past self must accept and acknowledge your error. If you can't do that, and it is humbling, then you shouldn't expect your husband to do the same. Again, hand your pain to the Lord it is his. He is bearing it anyway. But no9w being his means it is no longer yours to dip back into and sup from to feed your resentment. When you catch yourself doing that quickly acknowledge your error and give it back. Seventy times 7. The heat will eventually drain away even if the memories remain, like the ashes after a fire. Or like watching a movie with the sound turned off. If OTOH he does repent it means he wishes to reattach to you then he deserves your forgiveness as part of the protocol. But as those two gospel pieces remind one don't expect an overnight result but be prepared for it to take 70 times 7 iterations.
Sure. Good idea! Many of the Boundary videos reference Galatians 5 fruit of the Spirit’s self-control being the only type of control that Scripture teaches. FYI
Thank you I was blessed by this. Praise God!
I appreciate that you are passionate & well organized in your teaching, which can be seen by your presentation. I refer to your intelligent, rare & unique videos again and again, inorder to get spiritual guidance on a daily basis. I thank God for you, because I use your tutorial videos as reference in my daily prayer. It is very descriptive & helpful. That is why it stands out among the rest. U deserve to be praised for all your hard work. Keep it up Ashley. God bless you dear.
Sometimes its easier to forgive others than it is to forgive yourself. Sometimes I carried guilt within myself of the past mistakes that I made. Learning to let it go now
Thank you Ashley & God bless you
Thank you. Excellent and clear explanation.
Great one. 👍 Shows that you really give thought to your content.
Brilliant video
So true. Thank you..
Are you doing these videos for me in particular? 😂 Amazing! Praise God, thank you once again Ashley. Peace to you sister.
How is it . . . Or IS it . . . that a truly born-again spirit-filled person can have unforgiveness in their heart . . . Often without even being aware of it?
How then are their sins forgiven?
emotional constipation... haha those are the exact words ive used to describe it in the past
How do you forgive your husband when he keeps hurting you I forgave his affair but found out about strip clubs and a secret life. We are working on reconciliation but he keeps doing things to take me back etc. I have such anger cuz he won’t stop hurting me how can I forgive please help !!!
I am so sorry to hear that you are going through this. It’s a painful and traumatic situation. There are many steps to this process that you’re in right now.
Firstly, it’s important that you recognize that you and your husband are two totally separate people. Yes you are joined in the union of marriage but you are still two separate people. He is making very bad decisions. You have not made those decisions. He has broken the marriage vows repeatedly and you must decide what you want to do.
Secondly, your husband has shown you again and again that he does not have a trustworthy character right now. When he does not have a trustworthy character, it is very foolish for you to choose to trust him. When you keep trusting him in this, you allow yourself to be re-wounded by his bad decisions.
Thirdly, boundaries need to be implemented in your heart and life to protect you and your sanity. Withdrawing from the relationship would be most appropriate while you take a breather with some wise counsel and decide what to do. You can’t control what he does but you can definitely control what you do.
Fourthly, you need a counselor or therapist to help you walk through this. She will help to give you insight as to why you are tolerating this behavior. Also, joining a supportive community will comfort and strengthen you through this.
In addition, you may want to break soul ties with him to protect your heart until he decides to take action to join a longtime recovery process.
Only after he has taken consistent action to participate sincerely in a recovery process for many years AND you witness longtime redeemed character will you even start to have hope of trusting him again.
Leslie Vernick, who wrote The Emotionally Destructive Marriage, has videos, a blog, classes and weekly email encouragement for women just like you. Reach out and get the support that you need. Ask the Lord to lead you.💜
Forgiveness will happen naturally as you see how this turns out, either way. The Lord will lead you.
This situation shows how concentrating on unforgiveness can be a form of victim blaming. No matter how much you forgive you still feel unreconciled right? So you haven't forgiven enough right?. So you are setup for failure. No. You are NOT holding onto unforgiveness but are holding onto the hope for an apology from your husband, repentance if you will, in order to reattach to your husband, to restore a torn relationship.
There is the brief coverage in Luke 17 and a fuller one in Matt 18 (IIRC) which discusses reconciliation and it depends on your husband repenting, ie apologizing and making amends, before you forgive him. If he won't do that then the Matt version lays out the protocol: see him as no different than a tax collector. In other words end the relationship. You still need to forgive him, But not with the objective being to reattach to him. Instead the objective is to detach from him. This means handing him and his behaviours over to the Lord, who made him and whose failings are His responsibility, not yours. Then hand your hurt to the Lord, who is bearing it anyway!
But then comes reconciling your hurt self to your prior self to heal. Again first comes acknowledgement followed by forgiveness. I'd wager you replay incidents in your mind saying to yourself "I should have done this when he did that etc". Your brain is searching for what you did wrong. Realize that you did something wrong: you trusted someone who was not trustworthy. Own that error of judgement. If you stop there the natural continuity is to never risk trusting anyone ever again. Don't want that. So forgive your past self for being too attached to the idea of perfection in someone not the Lord, forgive yourself. But again first your past self must accept and acknowledge your error. If you can't do that, and it is humbling, then you shouldn't expect your husband to do the same.
Again, hand your pain to the Lord it is his. He is bearing it anyway. But no9w being his means it is no longer yours to dip back into and sup from to feed your resentment. When you catch yourself doing that quickly acknowledge your error and give it back. Seventy times 7. The heat will eventually drain away even if the memories remain, like the ashes after a fire. Or like watching a movie with the sound turned off.
If OTOH he does repent it means he wishes to reattach to you then he deserves your forgiveness as part of the protocol. But as those two gospel pieces remind one don't expect an overnight result but be prepared for it to take 70 times 7 iterations.
Can you do a video on the scripture that speaks about how God gave mankind dominion over the animals and the earth NOT each other
Sure. Good idea!
Many of the Boundary videos reference Galatians 5 fruit of the Spirit’s self-control being the only type of control that Scripture teaches. FYI
@@ashleydwille love it, can't wait to hear/watch about that.. Thank you ❤
I'm working on borh of these. Don't want either of them.
Good for you! They do not belong in the believer’s heart.