10 Reasons Why I Thought I Was Autistic - Part 4 (Diagnosed In Middle Age)
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 16 พ.ย. 2024
- Hello! Join me for part 4 of my 'Reasons Why I Thought I Was Autistic' series of videos. Let me know if you can relate to any of the traits or reasons listed in this video - or those that you can't relate to.
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🧡 Videos mentioned in this one:
Autism & Employment - My Experience As A Late Diagnosed Autistic
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Autism & Driving (When The Autistic Mask Comes Off!) • When My Autistic Mask ...
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many of us laugh when we are in shock. smiling and laughing is appeasing behavior, so it makes sense if you see shock as a threat. we laugh as a fawn response. hope this gives you comfort.
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Seconded (or rather thirded); an outburst of laughter was my response to the surprise news that a former work colleague had died in a car accident. It just seemed so preposterous that anyone could suddenly not-be (apologies to Eric the Half-a-Bee); and, while I did feel a bit guilty and embarrassed for my reaction I also know it makes no difference to that person no longer living.🤷♂️
Thank you for the video, I relate to most of it. I definitely have the inappropriate emotion thing, I laugh at times when I shouldn’t - even though I don’t find the situation funny. I’ve noticed that you chuckle a lot while you’re talking - I do that too and I don’t really know why. I think I just feel awkward talking and I also do it as a way to minimise my problems or feelings when I’m talking about something serious or important to me.
Aww, thank you for this! I have wondered how long it would be before someone noticed my 'quiet chuckles' as I have no idea why I do it and absolutely cannot stop myself from doing it - and I sometimes wonder if it looks/seems really inappropriate while I'm discussing more serious issues in TH-cam videos (and I think you're right in regard to appearing more passive or to minimise problems, etc.)
I'm SO glad to know that you - and no doubt others - can relate to this. 🧡
@@CreativeAutistic yes it’s so nice to know other people do the same things 😊 I only realised I’m Autistic this year, at age 44. I’m on the waiting list for a formal diagnosis, but I have no doubt. Now so much of my life makes sense and can understand why I’m the way that I am. It’s great validation to know so many other people have had the same experiences as me, because it can be lonely thinking no one else gets it 🫶🏼
You have no idea how thankful I am for your channel. I’m 49 and just recently I got my initial autism diagnosis, and since most autistics on here are male or younger women, there’s not as much for me to relate to. Don’t get me wrong, I find their content quite useful, and I’m subscribed to many, but there are gaps that they cannot fill (being menopausal, gone sober and discovering I’m neurodivergent). Sorry for my rambling. So yeah, again, thank you for covering those areas and sharing your experience. Hugs from Spain!!💙💙
Aww, that's such lovely feedback, thank you! It's basically why I started this channel as, like you, I was finding it difficult to find middle-aged autistic women sharing their thoughts and experiences on TH-cam. Hugs back! 🧡
👍All highly relatable. On that last point, monotropism is such a strange state of mental molasses; it perfectly explains why I've always found mornings so challenging for any cognitive tasks, e.g. my 8 a.m. German class at uni was a special sort of hell, because undiagnosed autism and code-switching do NOT play nice together.
Apparently I just can't react quickly enough to anything demanding unexpected/immediate attention either in the morning generally or while immersed in any specific task, a condition which I imagine is akin to certain animals' ability to sleep on their feet (or while swimming, in the case of marine species.)
Yikes! This certainly explains why I've always been *terrible* at multi-tasking in jobs! 🤪
The "Sundays" is an absolute curse and I hate it. Feels awful to waste a day off but just can't do anything.
It's horrendous. I just don't get how people can seemingly ignore a stressful day/week ahead as, for me, it takes over *everything* 😩
Yes, the "Sunday scaries"! I have had that since I was a child thinking about having to go back to school the next day. I never knew there was a name for it, and that others experienced the same feeling. I related to everything you said. And I understand about the perfectionism completely, but I must say that I think you are an excellent communicator!
Aww, thank you so much for your lovely feedback. I'm glad to know others can relate 👍
This morning my partner said "can someone get me a nappy? (For the baby) Well the only two people available were me and our toddler (who is quite capable) so I waited a while to see if the toddler would respond. She asked again. I then checked, do you mean me? She said yes 😂 I'm like, please be more specific. Because I am a parent it was like a hint to do my parent duty but it was not very clear, she could have been asking the toddler to do a task!
Ha! I totally get the confusion! 🧡
I, for one, really like your videos. 😊 You are thoughtful, relatable, and soft-spoken. Very nice. There are several TH-cam channels that I like, that I can’t watch for very long, because they are too loud and speak too rapidly. I like their topics, but I just get too overwhelmed and lost. Haha So, I find your videos a good respite 😊👍
Aww, this is lovely feedback. Thank you so much, and I'm glad to hear you're enjoying my videos 🧡
@ you are welcome 😊
I’ve never heard of the Sunday thing, but I definitely felt it!! Another super relatable video- I can’t thank you enough for sharing and helping me to not feel alone in all this ❤
I'm glad others can relate on the *Sunday Scaries*! 😩 Thank you for your lovely feedback 🧡
The formal speech is interesting. I was bullied at primary school for speaking 'posh'.' In my mind I just spoke properly ie clearly and I think I felt strong accents were a choice. I also have allergies and intolerances and feel like an alien who doesn't fit in. Life often feels exhausting.
I’m sorry to hear that and yes, it can be exhausting for sure 🧡
I am always so in awe of how self aware you are of your traits and how they impact you and also your knowledge of autism in general. . I am learning lots but still find so many suprises in terms of realising my traits , even after my assessment this week. The assessor pointed out things I didn't even realise..🤣...including ways I use language, lots of using the words.."I guess" which I didn't know I did...I am also in awe of your ability to discuss it all so openly. Thank you for sharing, it really does help.
Aww, thank you so much Sarah. I sometimes wonder why I'm even making these videos so feedback like yours is really validating for me. And yes, I imagine they thought your (over)use of 'I guess' might be related to confidence issues. I've often used similar submissive language. 🧡
@@CreativeAutistic Yes sounds right. Always that self doubt...🤣🧡
Thank you so much for making this particular series of videos. My daughter received an autism diagnosis a few years ago. I started watching TH-cam contributors in an attempt to educate myself and what I've found has made me realise that I also needed to seek a diagnosis for myself. Some of your points actually made me laugh out loud as they exactly mirror my own lived experience!! I have never heard anyone articulate the things that I think before! It's nice to know it's not just me!😂 wishing you every success for your channel x
Oh wow, I'm really glad you've found them useful. Thank you so much for letting me know. I thought making this series was the best way to get everything off my chest and to kind of justify my diagnosis to myself really as it's a lot to process. All the very best in your newly-found discovery! 🧡
I mistake things wrongly my partner says to me quite often. We often can look back and have a giggle about it now.
Your solace and time away in bed comments made me emotional. Its probably what i relate to most, resting every muscle because life and people stress out every bit of me. As of yet unfortunately this is one thing my partner cannot understand.
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14:05 YES!!!!
10:40 People watching- this reminds me of the days I would go to the mall to get my favorite pretzel and smoothie just so I could sit in the farthest corner and watch how people interact. I never understood it because otherwise I hated the mall. 😂
Yep! Same! 🧡
At 19 to 20 years old,I spent nearly a whole academic year in bed.Reading.Sleeping in my cell- like student hall of residence.
Hello, thank you so much for sharing your journey. I’m 46, and I think I might be autistic. I can relate to most traits you talk about on your channel. I live in the UK, could you please share where/how did you get your diagnosis. How long did you have to wait for it? I’ sorry if I missed if you you had already shared this information, so perhaps you could point me to the right episode? I have a chronic illness, and find it hard to scroll, and search for the videos.
Thank you.
Hi there, I’ve a video called ‘What to do if you think you’re autistic’ which you may find useful 👍
Thank you!
Yes i can identify with a lot of what you said lizzie, i lived with a friend some years ago and he was so messy and he would never do the washing up , make his own bed! His Clothes were just thrown everywhere. And he would accumulate rubbish around his armchair, papers, cups, beer bottles etc😬 Also the laughing at things you shouldn't iv'e struggled with that a lot through my life in school and adulthood, i find it very strange because i am empathetic. I also find myself having laughing fits but i'm not feeling happy or in a good mood at all , just laughing😂. My autistic neighbour said she gets the same thing and i'ts nothing to do with being in a good mood she said it just happens. Iv'e heard my neighbour having laughing fits through the wall many times.🌟🙋♂️
Thanks for sharing, James. The laughing fits thing is interesting. I've not had this myself but I wonder if it's kind of like an unconscious stim, as laughing can feel really good for the mind and body? It's what Laughter Therapy taps into as it reduces stress, etc 🧡
It's not that emotions are inappropriate, it's how they're expressed that is. Sometimes I'll laugh at bad news because of the anxiety it creates which I don't know how to deal with. I've learned to pause now, and think what would be a more appropriate response. On # 10, I also tend to take things literally, and often miss the point of jokes and sarcasm.
The time a policeman said to me in a really grumpy and unimpressed tone of voice, "What are you laughing about? There is nothing funny about this situation!", I realised my usual, weird reaction was not "normal". Oops.
I can imagine how awkward/scary that would have been. It's so difficult to stop your brain **doing stuff** at times 😩
@@CreativeAutistic yes, exactly. Laughing at really inappropriate moments is something I still have difficulty with. 😬😬😬
I've just recently been considering the possibility that I may be on the autism spectrum. I've taken 5 online quizzes and most of them indicate a high probability of autism. I've been looking at many, many different You Tube creators who are autistic, and it struck me as strange that the vast majority of them (at least the ones I've been shown) are from the UK. I'm in the USA and there are a few content creators from here, but most have the British accent and live in the UK, and some from Australia. I'm wondering why this is.
I imagine that it's around having access to autism assessments. They're free here in England, but health insurance very often doesn't cover assessments in the US, and that's before trying to find assessors with an interest in autism in adults. (I'm not sure about Australia, however)
@@CreativeAutistic I hear it can take years to get an autism assessment, and that it's very expensive. Maybe I'll just remain self-disgnosed.
My studio has to be in order, where as I leave the rest of the house to my partner who insists on no order 😂 unfortunately since having children the entrance to the studio has become messy with kids stuff and I don't know whether I'm dealing with or breaking down right now.. 😅
It's a tough balance for sure! 🧡