How is it disrespectful to NOT pay back your partner & instead spending money on random naked women??? Mind you she paid his bills when he was struggling, when she struggling he at the strip club and oyu asking how its disrespectful? Some of yall aint shit for real.
Yeah but part of its on her; she was a fuck toy obviously not his girlfriend and she's trying to be his girl anyways. Gotta have more self respect than that.
They just hung out, late nights, after dinner. They were FWBs that turned into a relationship. Obviously, the man who's already getting everything he wants doesn't think he needs to try any harder. He didn't like her, he liked what she gave him. She gave it all up for free, and he took advantage of it as long as he could. Stop hooking up with bums. Or just stop hooking up in general.
My man has been facing financial difficulties for a year now.. but he still takes me to the park and buy me my favourite iced coffee to drink at the park, he randomly comes home with my favourite ice cream, he takes me on long drives site seeing cause i love that, he takes me to the beach. If a man wants to make you feel special, he will. Being broke isn’t an excuse
And the last thing any partner should do is ask you to pay the rent/mortgage, unless your living together like a married couple and its your mortgage or rent.
The problem was not him being broke... The real problem was that he was never her boyfriend, they were just in situationship ...He never liked her nor he care about her...
I only give what I'm comfortable with letting go, I think it's pretty important to give knowing you might not get it back. I learned the hard way but that mindset changed the way I act when people ask.
Exactly! I've always said, "Never loan what you can't afford to lose." Saves you a lot of stress. At least in the scenario you never get it back, you're not super mad at the person, you just know to never loan them anything again lol.
And also I was taught growing up that if you lend someone money and never see that person again consider it money well spent. It's the fee you paid to dispose of a fake friend. 😂
I mean, it probably didn’t start off THAT bad and if you listen , she basically couldn’t see his true colors until money was involved. And by that time there was a time investment so she tried to give it a shot. The shot missed so she left lol.
This . Most people complaining about this stuff it's usually financial related, or a unmet expectations. People love calling it standards but some people have unrealistic expectations/standards. @@notreallyafamousartist695
Maybe she’s a bum too? We only have her side, maybe her standards match what she is. I have one rule 1) Never believe a story online especially if it involves a crying woman or a woman talking about a man.
This is people pleasing at it finest, we’ve all done it from time to time but this is like the worst case scenario. Hopefully she learns to stop people pleasing because that shit kills.
Heavy on the last part 😔. There’s are even worse exploiting spirits out there than this guy and she’ll fall for the same or worse if she doesn’t learn.
@@Atlas365247 people pleasing. Even if her type is exactly how he looks, that wouldn’t explain why she stayed for so long and helped as much as she did. It’s only ever gonna be a people pleaser going above and beyond like that. Hopefully she doesn’t get exploited further for this because she seems to have a good heart but you gotta know or learn when you need to stop.
My wife was the same when we first started dating, EXTREME giver. I was a hobo in training. I never acted selfish and to this day I still thank her for helping me get on my feet. I’m glad this woman made the video. Even though breakups are hard it made it super easy to walk away and reflect
I’m sorry but her saying “I dated him” is taking me out because nothing she described sounds like more than a fuckboy’s booty call… the more she spoke, the more I was like oh babyyyy no 😭😭😭 I really wish the best for her, I hope at the very least her airing herself out like will help her get some standards and sense. I’m sure she’s a loving person but there needs to be wisdom to go with that charitable nature.
Yeah, comes over after dinner and she's paying his bills? He leaves her when she starts wanting to be seen with him? It's a situationship and chad left her.
When you are in love sometimes you can be blind, it is good to talk to other people and they help you out. Because she spoke out , im also learning from yall and getting advice. That's why narcissists try and cut you off from the world and isolate you, because they know those people will help you leave. With my sisters we have a rule, you can talk about your relationship but balance it out, complain and compliment. Not just one side
She says they're gonna be together forever, but she never gave him an example of him saying something like that. I think she's a bad communicator. His attitude with her bumper is the attitude he's had the whole time. She says she has a time frame, but it's too LONG. Asking for mortgage, strip clubs, no dates, all late nights... Really girl?
Let's be real. A female only accepts that level of degeneracy if that dude busting her down lol. Rationally no one would accept those standards by any other means. He was gutting her out and she got addickted to just that.
One of the only channels that I see that straight up fesses up to being wrong about something. You've done several videos like this and in a world where everyone tends to sweep things under the rug I respect the integrity.
@@WolfamongSheep626very what!? That's just dumb. The problem with broke guys is not even the lack of funds. It's their fragile ego and need to use the woman as a come up. That's why women tell each other to stay away from them. Let them buuld themselves up then go look for a girlfriend. No more playing Barbara the builder.
Your man spending time with you is not him doing you a favour, he should want to. Most men want to expierence things with their girl. Most men ENJOY doing activities with a woman they like.
giving yourself a timeline is an excellent way to keep you from going too far. There's a chance that this is how she grew up, watching her mom struggle with a guy who didn't have much, but gave just enough to get her to stay. I did what she did too... but my level of tolerance wouldn't go past 3 months. After that I just ghosted.
I was broke at 40, no shame there, life can really throw some curve balls. Would i be spending someone else's money? No. Even less if i had zero intention of paying it back. Was very upfront with ladies back then, we wouldn't be going for anything more than free or coffee, because that's what i could afford. And there's a LOT you can do on that budget, the most important, being together, which is free. If they really felt like doing something and wanted to pay, that's OK, as long as it wasn't an habit.
10:23 i get what aba is saying about sometimes you need to confide in friends because its easier and thats okay. but preach began his point about the internet. taking it to the internet for strangers who dont even know you are care about you was a crimson red flag and screams attention seeking or insecurity. also downright disrespect to your partner for airing out their personal business to potentially millions.
That man had no problem disrespecting her. As for making a video its a way to warn other women that might think being patient and giving for someone that lacks effort would change once a man gets on their feet. Believe a person is and will be based on how they treat you even a true homeless bum that likes a lady would have found a way to take a lady they are into out.
Perfect. I was looking for a video (for the whole family) to put on for my family this Thanksgiving. My young nephews, nieces, great aunt/uncle & grandparents will enjoy this. Put it on, full volume & NO ONE is allowed to talk through it. Once finished, go around in a circle & give their opinion on it. Yee haw. I love America. Yee Haw. Turkey & Yams.
The more me and my partner see how dating is nowadays or just how people are in general when it comes to relationships we literally thank each other and appreciate what we have. People REALLY don’t understand how dangerous or how exhausting looking for the right someone can be.
I hope you learn one day to stop taking what you see on the internet as if it's what's happening in real life most of the time because it isn't. What you see on dating on the internet is NOT normal dating shit that actually happens when you touch some grass. It's what happens in hyper condensed areas like Miami perhaps, but if you live in an area like that you should already have some kind of understanding of what goes on there and know what spots to avoid.
with all the whining I see online, dating seems like your a parent taking on a child with mental illness, well in those spaces anyway. Thank goodness there are grounded people out there when you touch grass.
Thing is this is not what she said in the last video. In the last one she made it seem like it WAS all about the money, it was that he couldn't afford to do things for her. Now we hear the situation was different. I'm having trouble reconciling what was said and implied in the last video to what she is saying here
honestly it could be both. she is claiming that she was paying his bills. she wants him to treat her on outings. we don't know the whole situation as it's only her talking. she need to either date him as he is without taking on his financial burdens or move on.
The amount of time ppl have taken advantage of me cause im too giving. N I'm at the point of going cold-hearted n never helping anyone again or..... ya don't know.
You will be shocked how people respect and treat you better when you are more selfish than giving. There is a healthy balance its fine to be kind to those who earned it while maintaining a high standard in giving to yourself. People seem to treat you on how you treat you
I like how she gave herself a timeline, sometimes you're not aware you're doing it, you're just doing it because it's in your nature, I totally understand. But giving yourself a timeline (don't let them know, this is like your internal permanent tolerance) and if they aren't progressing like you want, dip. In my case, I ghosted them because I was so drained that taking the energy to tell them we were through was too. much.
Maybe I am wrong , but analyzing her words this seems more like he viewed her as a jump off from the very beginning that ultimately came with financial benefits. For the first 6 months , she went to HIS place AFTER she ate . They would "they would do, like a late night type of thing." That seems like an Uber eats booty call than a relationship.
The girl obviously was stuck in her mind and wasn’t seeing the situation clearly (which is why she stayed with a shitty guy for so long). She literally would have been STUCK if the internet girls didn’t give her a new perspective.
I want to share some knowledge and I figure here is a great place...and I know this may break guy code, but it's knowledge that should be out there. Ladies, if a guy is seeing you but he isn't out socially with you, he doesn't hold you in the esteem he holds a partner in. This could be because he may feel embraced being with you, (because of his ego / game he might have spoke) or that he is trying to keep his options open. A guy's public exhibition of his partner is a kind of litmus test; if you are the one who isn't out socially with a guy, he doesn't truly value you as the partner he wants. Could be just private companionship, sex or even friendship with benefits. But, if he isn't showing you off or out with you, he is not committed to you. So leave him. Guy's it works both ways.
A guy’s public exhibition of his partner is a kind of litmus test? Hell no. Every guy isn’t trying to show off or flaunt a relationship. Different folks different strokes
@@weeymm2500a man who doesn't want to take his woman(girlfriend/wife not just dating) out anywhere or even introduce her to family at least once it is a cause for concern IN GENERAL. If you're just in the beginning stages of dating then all that isn't necessary until you have both got to know each other well. When you're proud of the person you're with, the natural inclination of anyone is to show them off. No matter what she looks like. If you are embarrassed to be with her then yes you will be VERY HESITANT to be seen with her. Point. Blank. Period. No one in a solid relationship will ever sit there and say "I will never show my woman/man off or ever take her out anywhere". The only reason you wouldn't do that is if you encountered situations in the past that have made you extremely cautious/insecure in doing that i.e. you don't get along with family or your friends once betrayed you by missing with her or even she betrayed you by messing around or the lady you messed with was a 304 and you took her thinking you can change her. No one is saying don't keep your relationship private or go online and show her off 24/7 but if you're going the extra mile to keep your relationship extremely private by not even doing anything with her in public then that is more a YOU problem than it is a HER problem.
Now....all the things she listed....this must have been a guy that she really liked PHYSICALLY and was "out of her league" physically. Women will throw money at dudes that they dont match in order to keep them around all the time. All the thing she said about how he didnt spend time with her out of even feed her screams he didnt like her like that and she was desperate. 🤷🏽♂ Pick better.
I don't believe a word she's saying....I think maybe it's a made up story just for clout. I don't fault her though, if that is the case then it's way better than if she were to falsely accuse the guy of grape or creepy behaviour of which these wannabe internet sensations have a tendency of doing.
@@MeCooper sounds like some I had when I was in my late teens early 20s working and in Uni, not really dating just smashing a bit on the regular over a few months.
He was wrong but she was also wrong for putting their business online. People need to realize that their followers aren’t their friends. Also this among other factors is why I don’t see myself in a relationship. I’m big on trust and Loyalty so it takes a good amount of time for me to consider moving into the dating phase.
Preach is right on the money with that imo, instead of talking to the guy himself she went online to tell strangers their business. Straight up the guy was a mug but at the same time most guys don’t want their private life broadcasted. If she got friends I can understand her telling them but filming yourself and telling strangers is another level to me.
I said this in the last video. She was not complaining because he was broke. She was complaining because being with him was making her broke. She was trying to be Barbara the Builder...probably.
@@ArThur_haraIt’s a reference. Barbara the builder is the woman who will stay with the guy for 5-10years without getting marriage, started dating the guy when he’s broke. Builds him up and once he’s is successful, he dumps the girl who build him and supported him. Then he gets a young girl and marry her after dating her only for few months.
@@jasmitharani9838 He can leave if hes not happy, but if they are married and share assets then well he will have to split that fairly with her, plus child support if she gets most of the custody if they have kids.
She got played. Pretty simple. Always do a background check if crap isn't lining up. Dude is probably paying child support for 4 kids and has a gambling problem.
u could see it as being a good person, but the way he took that for granted really just made her nothing more than a doormat. which makes her a bad person towards herself and potentially her close ones in the future. it's okay to be selfish sometimes, aslong as u don't misuse it.
Sorry but I don't have much sympathy for someone that was cool being a fuck toy for 6 months and then got mad that the guy wasn't taking her for dates when that was never their relationship paradigm. If you don't have any self respect why should I feel for you being disrespected?
Yea Aba I feel you. I just cut out my best friend of 25 years because he didn’t support and was a passive aggressive detriment to my last relationship. Then when me n my gf broke up, he still didn’t show up, after I was there for him in his past relationship and break up. Ditched me on two separate occasions after I drove 2 hours to see him, paid hotel fees, and he chose to go on dates with random women instead. Called the Palestinian struggle the flavor of the month…after I’ve listened to him vent about the black struggle for years. It took me way too long to realize what kind of person he is, but hey we’re here now 😕
Im glad she talked about this. People always talk about dating rich people and then women are stereotyped as gold diggers, yet there are so many women doing this. Especially since we are conditioned to be kind to a fault. The broke men want you to show if you are truly there for him and you love him not his money (should he ever have it). I have learnt to judge a man's character, his habits, his behaviors and try and see where that will take him in 3 to 5 yrs. It really cuts out the bums because talk is cheap but behavior and habits the best truth teller. I do that even for myself, the habits i have now, where are they taking me in the future.
I don't lend money often, I have an ex-friend that got japanese limited edition 3DS from a friend from Japan, he agreed he'd pay for it over time as he didn't have $300 at the time, monthes past and he didn't pay a cent but he was always buyin' games for it ,going to paid events he even outright bought an english 3DS because they're region locked (that really pissed me off I couldn't believe it). To this day years later, he still hasn't paid a cent.
Maybe i'm more of a prude than i thought but the fact she didn't have an issue with him going to the strip club even though they were dating is wild to me. Maybe dating means something different to her than it does to me.
@@Sephiroso.I don't think you're wrong. I don't exactly think it's as if he was going there to hook up or anything but like ... There are certain things a person should just naturally lose interest in when in a relationship
So she was going to a house dude owned for 6 months and doin nothing but smoking and suckin.... and she thought that was a relationship?? She was a jump off from the get go, then for some reason she started spending money on him, WITHOUT HIM ASKING MIND YOU. She set herself up. I cant fully feel bad for her.
The problem ia dating a f boy. Men and women both fall for narcissists. The hard part is growing up without growing bitter - and adjusting your criteria for picking people.
Yeah I don't feel for her. Anyone who watse a good amount of time with someone who drain your recourses without providing anything significant back. Only ending up just to make a video about it to call them broke. Is someone who's desperately trying to convince others she's some type of saint which probably not the reality of the situation. 🤷🏿♂️
@jarricah7920 I'll simplify it then. Everything in her video was designed to make her looked and him looked bad. From the title calling him broke. Think about it, she didn't say one nice thing about him. Even personality comment was a backhanded compliment at best. Cause she never explain why his personality was nice, just that it is. Now tell me why would a person stay with somebody that bad according to her explanation, outside of making yourself look like a saint in comparison? 🤔 🤔 🤔 🤔 🤔
I’ve blatantly used some girls and clearly didn’t like them by giving them negative effort and at the end they somehow still act like they are better than you and get gassed up. It’s shocking.
Older Women need to teach younger women how to successfully vet men and generate a rubric. Broke can be a temporary thing as in you have no money today but are working towards goals. Broke and a bum is JUST a burden
I don't trust any of it. The first video was complaining about him not having money but when she gets flamed for it now there's a whole new list of what he's doing wrong. I don't trust it because if he was doing all this stuff before why only bring it up after she finds out people think she's the bad guy?
The fact the dude didn't go out with her but went to strip clubs & she didn't dump him is CRAZY. She should have ditched his ass the moment she found out he was going to strip clubs but not take her somewhere on a date
13:07 I also think she’s admitting that his “nice personality” is why she stayed so long too. If she was with him for 6 months inside, and then for a while once it got nice again outside.. she was with him almost a year.
I was going out with this one girl i used to date from work. In the beginning, she use to take ME out, even though we made the same money. I may have not have taken her anywhere but i gave my time on a daily basis. Cooking, movies, being there after her accident etc... Basically going out or gifts were the only things i didn't do. After 7 months, she started asking me why I don't buy anything for her or take her out. Then she would invite me to go out with her and our colleagues and when I refuse (because i Don't like going out with them) she would go regardless and after she did that TWICE, everyone at work kept telling me that she was a bitch for being there without me and to leave her because she's for the streets. Now, I'm confused because a part of me is telling me, since I never did those things for over 6 months, i should show her now that I could do them. Another part of me (and all my friends) are telling me to let her go. There's a colleague from work who she's really good friends with who she would always turn to in our fights. She invited him over to her house one day and they were drinking while he was cooking there. The thing is though that we all live in hotels that are next to each other. She wasn't sneaking around with him, they were just chilling and she turned to him because of our messy break up because she had nobody else. My friends all said that was unacceptable and that she doesn't only belong to me she belongs to everyone. I really don't know what to do. I'm so confused and I just don't want to listen to rumors or regret my decision later.
I have a theory. The first video sounded like he was just not doing a few expensive things here and there that she had a problem with. and the second video sounded more like you know he was taking the piss. My theory as to why this is, having friends who are also going through this, is that she was in denial. I would take a guess that her friends were probably telling her how he treats her is ridiculous, but she in her head she was just seeing these red flags and being like. Oh it's fine. No it's not that big of a deal. That's why in her last video she didn't talk about all of his stuff cuz she was still in denial land, and to her those stuff wasn't worth bringing up. I would suspect she only talked about the thing that she was willing to accept which didn't make him look that bad. But now in this video she's having a little bit of come to Jesus moment and that's why she's now talking about it. Even at the end she's like he's still a good guy. She's in denial about how bad it really was. I have guy, friends and girl friends who are in this position, and sometimes they pick trash partners but they're so in love with them that they'll start talking to you, about maybe one or two problems that they are having that isn't that bad so you're trying to give them advice based of that. But as you go through the conversation, they kind of let slip about this other horrendous thing or something else which any normal person would break up with a person about. They talk about these issues in passing as if it was inconsequential. And you're just stood there. Like excuse me what... ? Can we circle back to that please. To give my example, I want spent 3 hours talking to my friend about how to get her boyfriend mental health support and get his workplace to be more supportive of his mental health struggles. Only to find out that he had not turn up to work on several occasions without even calling in and making unfair complaints about his boss about not being able to do sales. But she slides right past that as though that doesn't contribute to any of the situation.
@@WolfamongSheep626 Nothing Inspirational about Freeloaders regardless of their sex or the sex of the people they free load off. Hes a Free Loader and she was stupid and Naive. I have the same energy for women who just start seeing someone and demand they pay their rent and their bills just crazy BS.
@@DaMuss-e2w I absolutely agree with you it’s not inspirational at all. But I’m not the turn the other cheek type. If women want to string men along in friend zones, use them as foodie calls, and play them for money well don’t get angry at the environment you foster because both sides can play.
@@WolfamongSheep626 Men are not responsible as a collective for the actions of other men, nor are women responsible for the actions of other women. But you are responsible for your own actions and if you are bad to people because oh other people of the same sex do bad things to members of my own sex then you are a bad person full stop.
Sounds like they just were fwb, and when she continued to allow him to basically not have to put any effort in, he was like "sure" when that "are we together?" conversation happened. Owing your girlfriend money and then going to the strip club and spending money is a wild level of inconsiderate! Of course, this opinion is based on what she has said being the truth.
Woah I get bro wrong but how is going to the strip club disrespectful ?😂
How is it disrespectful to NOT pay back your partner & instead spending money on random naked women??? Mind you she paid his bills when he was struggling, when she struggling he at the strip club and oyu asking how its disrespectful? Some of yall aint shit for real.
You're kinda goofy u know that?
watch the video then read your sentence again
No common sense. Disgusting.
Pin of shame little boy, pin of shaaame
This has NOTHING to do with being poor 💀 He didn’t like her and used her 100%
I don't like a lot of people, even if I could I would not use them.
Nah he liked her. He just isnt rich
Yeah but part of its on her; she was a fuck toy obviously not his girlfriend and she's trying to be his girl anyways. Gotta have more self respect than that.
@@smokerx6291 you don't have to be rich to pay someone back
Considering her social media personality, this is the best she can do. She needs to work on herself, because she can't do better, if she's not better.
The girl was severely finessed. Pick me up a hint. He's popping bottles and making it rain as you pay his expenses. He doesn't really like you. Run
"He has a great personality" .....does he though.....
I was thinking the same thing!!
Even now shes in denial
She like users and abusers
Thats women code for he was clapping her real good 😂
He was hitting it right
They just hung out, late nights, after dinner. They were FWBs that turned into a relationship. Obviously, the man who's already getting everything he wants doesn't think he needs to try any harder. He didn't like her, he liked what she gave him. She gave it all up for free, and he took advantage of it as long as he could.
Stop hooking up with bums. Or just stop hooking up in general.
After months that no longer "hooking up" 😂
This dude is low-key incel, hardcore
@@ITSSKUDDUMMY still just hooking up
@@chimpo8663 you clearly don't know what incel means. if he's smashing, he's not an incel.
He didn't take advantage. She wasn't upfront, so he thought he she was okay with it. She shouldn't of let this go on.
Nahhh Preach got me weak I ain’t never hear someone call a person a clogged toilet 😂😂😂
Po'tera, its a common insult in my language a derogotory term especially towards women. .
😭😭😭💀 that took me out too
Thought he said "clout toilet"
A full Shitter?
The boyfriend was the high maintenance one in the relationship the whole time.
She was his drizzle drizzle he was getting his sprinkle sprinkle.
My man has been facing financial difficulties for a year now.. but he still takes me to the park and buy me my favourite iced coffee to drink at the park, he randomly comes home with my favourite ice cream, he takes me on long drives site seeing cause i love that, he takes me to the beach. If a man wants to make you feel special, he will. Being broke isn’t an excuse
And the last thing any partner should do is ask you to pay the rent/mortgage, unless your living together like a married couple and its your mortgage or rent.
How is he broke if he has a car? 😂
@@LiquidfirePUA some of y’all really don’t like using your brains hey
@@LiquidfirePUA 🤦♂
The problem was not him being broke... The real problem was that he was never her boyfriend, they were just in situationship ...He never liked her nor he care about her...
Aba are you trying to cosplay Kenny from South Park ? 😂
This is the classic Aba throwback hoodie look. The backshot Kanji with the clitoral hood is a CLASSIC 🤣🤣🤣
@@oldenoughtowatchify 😂😂 wild description
@@oldenoughtowatchifyayo 😅
Omg thy killed Kenny 😂
@@oldenoughtowatchify lmao nice
I think she set the bar too low in hopes that he would eventually treat her better. But the guy got used to the standard she set 😂
I only give what I'm comfortable with letting go, I think it's pretty important to give knowing you might not get it back. I learned the hard way but that mindset changed the way I act when people ask.
Exactly! I've always said, "Never loan what you can't afford to lose." Saves you a lot of stress. At least in the scenario you never get it back, you're not super mad at the person, you just know to never loan them anything again lol.
And also I was taught growing up that if you lend someone money and never see that person again consider it money well spent. It's the fee you paid to dispose of a fake friend. 😂
Is it a good time to say that I'm thankful for being a night owl?
No.. maybe after the next video
@@alexanderjackson8389 nahhh I want to go back to sleep why I'm watching this rn
Good morning from Germany
@@fztheamazighiya1047 Its 3am lol
Good morning from England
5:45 Preach is dissociating 😅
No cap
Facts! He knew Aba was gonna get triggered by the money bit 😂😂
Me when my boss starts talking about teamwork and accountability
Lmao he jus letting him talk his shi
Hahaha 😂
Goes to strip clubs but can't pay his own mortgage? Oh, hell no!
Yeahhh her standards are definitely in hell😭. He was a bum regardless of financial status
I mean, it probably didn’t start off THAT bad and if you listen , she basically couldn’t see his true colors until money was involved. And by that time there was a time investment so she tried to give it a shot. The shot missed so she left lol.
This . Most people complaining about this stuff it's usually financial related, or a unmet expectations. People love calling it standards but some people have unrealistic expectations/standards. @@notreallyafamousartist695
So were fresh and fit wrong? They speak so many truths!
Maybe she’s a bum too? We only have her side, maybe her standards match what she is. I have one rule
1) Never believe a story online especially if it involves a crying woman or a woman talking about a man.
You "all women are heroes" people are something else.
This brotha used the ancient art of tricknology. She is still convinced it was a relationship.
The spell is still in effect 😂
@@venuztrvpAncient magics 😂 indeed
Trickonometry at it's finest
dicknometry
Diknology
He was not poor because of his financials... He was poor because his mentality to finances is poor and she should have recognize that and leave early.
This is people pleasing at it finest, we’ve all done it from time to time but this is like the worst case scenario. Hopefully she learns to stop people pleasing because that shit kills.
Heavy on the last part 😔. There’s are even worse exploiting spirits out there than this guy and she’ll fall for the same or worse if she doesn’t learn.
Ppl please or he was her type?
@@Atlas365247 people pleasing. Even if her type is exactly how he looks, that wouldn’t explain why she stayed for so long and helped as much as she did. It’s only ever gonna be a people pleaser going above and beyond like that. Hopefully she doesn’t get exploited further for this because she seems to have a good heart but you gotta know or learn when you need to stop.
My wife was the same when we first started dating, EXTREME giver. I was a hobo in training. I never acted selfish and to this day I still thank her for helping me get on my feet.
I’m glad this woman made the video. Even though breakups are hard it made it super easy to walk away and reflect
Massive props to you and your wife. Keep being real with one another and open about this, more people need this hope. Grace and peace to you both.
@@boxuniversity2978 honestly, thank you for that. We’ve been together 19yrs at this point. I am more than blessed
@@boxuniversity2978agreed
Finally a good story
Here is the 🏆trophy you are clearly trying to get..... and a pat on the head. That's why you posted right? To be told how good you are right?
I’m sorry but her saying “I dated him” is taking me out because nothing she described sounds like more than a fuckboy’s booty call… the more she spoke, the more I was like oh babyyyy no 😭😭😭
I really wish the best for her, I hope at the very least her airing herself out like will help her get some standards and sense. I’m sure she’s a loving person but there needs to be wisdom to go with that charitable nature.
as long as you are sucking the money out of the guy, its okay, its only a problem when you pay
yes i agree!
I thought the same thing- he is inviting her over for sex and using her for money. That's not dating.
Yeah, comes over after dinner and she's paying his bills?
He leaves her when she starts wanting to be seen with him?
It's a situationship and chad left her.
@@rohitbadyal2871Do you also comment on videos about gold diggers things like "but many men beat their wives so it's okay"? Thought not.
When you are in love sometimes you can be blind, it is good to talk to other people and they help you out. Because she spoke out , im also learning from yall and getting advice. That's why narcissists try and cut you off from the world and isolate you, because they know those people will help you leave. With my sisters we have a rule, you can talk about your relationship but balance it out, complain and compliment. Not just one side
She says they're gonna be together forever, but she never gave him an example of him saying something like that. I think she's a bad communicator.
His attitude with her bumper is the attitude he's had the whole time. She says she has a time frame, but it's too LONG. Asking for mortgage, strip clubs, no dates, all late nights... Really girl?
Dude seen that video n probably said oh well this shit is over might as well ride high til it’s official.
As he should
Bring back shame. We know entirely too much about each other these days.
Well -I know entirely too much about other ppl cause I don't participate in airing out dirty laundry
People don’t care about shame anymore…so yh
shame will put truth into play
@@randillatrue…people’s personal lives should stay personal even if they tell you.
Naw I love how women snitch on themselves online it’s like a free hoefax.
Girl got finessed big time. Get a clue pickme. You paaying his bills and hes popping bottles and making it rain. He's not that into you. Run
Let's be real. A female only accepts that level of degeneracy if that dude busting her down lol. Rationally no one would accept those standards by any other means. He was gutting her out and she got addickted to just that.
One of the only channels that I see that straight up fesses up to being wrong about something. You've done several videos like this and in a world where everyone tends to sweep things under the rug I respect the integrity.
Tha floor keeps em in check xD! (It's a running joke)
Plz pin him :]... Hm no it would look arrogant
Please do a video that you guys were wrong about pal*****e
You should of seen the fat girl that got stood up, they also admitted they were wrong about her cat fishing
They didn't really say they were wrong about the Kris Tyson thing though. And in that video they were 100% wrong...
He found a convenient fool who is now advertising her foolishness to the next brokie. Girl, your charity work is not even tax deductible 😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅
This comment is harsh but accurate and I applaud it 👏
Maybe all of this will help her understand that her participation trophy's are also not real trophies.
Yeah, she's a real prize.
@@fatcatontario Broke dudes need love too…… you sound very brokephobic right now!!
@@WolfamongSheep626very what!? That's just dumb. The problem with broke guys is not even the lack of funds. It's their fragile ego and need to use the woman as a come up. That's why women tell each other to stay away from them. Let them buuld themselves up then go look for a girlfriend. No more playing Barbara the builder.
Your man spending time with you is not him doing you a favour, he should want to. Most men want to expierence things with their girl. Most men ENJOY doing activities with a woman they like.
giving yourself a timeline is an excellent way to keep you from going too far. There's a chance that this is how she grew up, watching her mom struggle with a guy who didn't have much, but gave just enough to get her to stay. I did what she did too... but my level of tolerance wouldn't go past 3 months. After that I just ghosted.
Her video title is wrong she didn't go out with a broke guy she was in love with someone that didn't love her and she skipped pass the red flags
Who in their right mind would wanna date an influencer ? Your business will be her content
I was broke at 40, no shame there, life can really throw some curve balls. Would i be spending someone else's money? No. Even less if i had zero intention of paying it back. Was very upfront with ladies back then, we wouldn't be going for anything more than free or coffee, because that's what i could afford. And there's a LOT you can do on that budget, the most important, being together, which is free. If they really felt like doing something and wanted to pay, that's OK, as long as it wasn't an habit.
10:23 i get what aba is saying about sometimes you need to confide in friends because its easier and thats okay. but preach began his point about the internet. taking it to the internet for strangers who dont even know you are care about you was a crimson red flag and screams attention seeking or insecurity. also downright disrespect to your partner for airing out their personal business to potentially millions.
That man had no problem disrespecting her. As for making a video its a way to warn other women that might think being patient and giving for someone that lacks effort would change once a man gets on their feet. Believe a person is and will be based on how they treat you even a true homeless bum that likes a lady would have found a way to take a lady they are into out.
@@bunnyboo6295 Paying someone elses rent or mortgage is a Solid no. Too many people out there normalizing this stuff.
Preach is right. If you the type of person to make a video about your relationship you don’t get to say you are low maintenance, ever.
Ngl 0:50 second in and it already sounds like she made herself too availabel for someone who wasn't investing back and now she blames him?
I’ve been there. Dating a broke guy is one thing but you don’t need money to make your woman feel special. Honestly.
I'm broke so I simply don't date anybody lol
Dawg get a job have a lil bit of motion🤨
He couldn’t afford the effort
Eating it is hard after she done worked a whole 16 hr shift to provide for us lol
Broke means you have unfavorable flaws like laziness, lack of drive, poor spending, etc. Nope, I would never date someone broke
Perfect. I was looking for a video (for the whole family) to put on for my family this Thanksgiving. My young nephews, nieces, great aunt/uncle & grandparents will enjoy this. Put it on, full volume & NO ONE is allowed to talk through it. Once finished, go around in a circle & give their opinion on it. Yee haw. I love America. Yee Haw. Turkey & Yams.
This is hilarious 😂
That AGAIN MYRON CLIP IS CLASSIC.RHAT SHIT AGED GRACEFULLY….😅
The more me and my partner see how dating is nowadays or just how people are in general when it comes to relationships we literally thank each other and appreciate what we have. People REALLY don’t understand how dangerous or how exhausting looking for the right someone can be.
I hope you learn one day to stop taking what you see on the internet as if it's what's happening in real life most of the time because it isn't. What you see on dating on the internet is NOT normal dating shit that actually happens when you touch some grass. It's what happens in hyper condensed areas like Miami perhaps, but if you live in an area like that you should already have some kind of understanding of what goes on there and know what spots to avoid.
Ain't that the Truth!!!!!!!!!!!!
@@Sephiroso.I never said anything about the internet?
with all the whining I see online, dating seems like your a parent taking on a child with mental illness, well in those spaces anyway. Thank goodness there are grounded people out there when you touch grass.
u can also become the right person ya feel me
She got finessed... Plain and simple😂
Thing is this is not what she said in the last video. In the last one she made it seem like it WAS all about the money, it was that he couldn't afford to do things for her. Now we hear the situation was different. I'm having trouble reconciling what was said and implied in the last video to what she is saying here
honestly it could be both. she is claiming that she was paying his bills. she wants him to treat her on outings. we don't know the whole situation as it's only her talking. she need to either date him as he is without taking on his financial burdens or move on.
I agree with Preach. People are way to comfortable putting their private lives out there. That's just gross and weird.
The amount of time ppl have taken advantage of me cause im too giving. N I'm at the point of going cold-hearted n never helping anyone again or..... ya don't know.
You will be shocked how people respect and treat you better when you are more selfish than giving.
There is a healthy balance its fine to be kind to those who earned it while maintaining a high standard in giving to yourself. People seem to treat you on how you treat you
Facts . Ppl talking about her but I feel bad . This hit on a personal level 💔💔🥺 .
I like how she gave herself a timeline, sometimes you're not aware you're doing it, you're just doing it because it's in your nature, I totally understand. But giving yourself a timeline (don't let them know, this is like your internal permanent tolerance) and if they aren't progressing like you want, dip.
In my case, I ghosted them because I was so drained that taking the energy to tell them we were through was too. much.
1:08 clogged toilet 🤣🤣 brand new insult I’m stealing
So he wasn't actually poor. He's just selfish!
13:53 me too, I can buy you lunch/ a meal, but I ain’t buying groceries and paying your bills that’s crazy.
Right, that has to be earned
Maybe I am wrong , but analyzing her words this seems more like he viewed her as a jump off from the very beginning that ultimately came with financial benefits. For the first 6 months , she went to HIS place AFTER she ate . They would "they would do, like a late night type of thing." That seems like an Uber eats booty call than a relationship.
The girl obviously was stuck in her mind and wasn’t seeing the situation clearly (which is why she stayed with a shitty guy for so long). She literally would have been STUCK if the internet girls didn’t give her a new perspective.
I want to share some knowledge and I figure here is a great place...and I know this may break guy code, but it's knowledge that should be out there.
Ladies, if a guy is seeing you but he isn't out socially with you, he doesn't hold you in the esteem he holds a partner in. This could be because he may feel embraced being with you, (because of his ego / game he might have spoke) or that he is trying to keep his options open.
A guy's public exhibition of his partner is a kind of litmus test; if you are the one who isn't out socially with a guy, he doesn't truly value you as the partner he wants. Could be just private companionship, sex or even friendship with benefits. But, if he isn't showing you off or out with you, he is not committed to you. So leave him.
Guy's it works both ways.
Why would they be with someone they are embarrassed to be seen with? Go date your dream arm candy.
Bro your a super simp. What the hell is a partner? They are girlfriends or wives.
A guy’s public exhibition of his partner is a kind of litmus test? Hell no. Every guy isn’t trying to show off or flaunt a relationship. Different folks different strokes
@@nightwishisthegreatestband6355 Why? Many men are evil and will use anyone they can. That women was paying for his lifestyle so he used her kindness
@@weeymm2500a man who doesn't want to take his woman(girlfriend/wife not just dating) out anywhere or even introduce her to family at least once it is a cause for concern IN GENERAL. If you're just in the beginning stages of dating then all that isn't necessary until you have both got to know each other well.
When you're proud of the person you're with, the natural inclination of anyone is to show them off. No matter what she looks like. If you are embarrassed to be with her then yes you will be VERY HESITANT to be seen with her. Point. Blank. Period.
No one in a solid relationship will ever sit there and say "I will never show my woman/man off or ever take her out anywhere".
The only reason you wouldn't do that is if you encountered situations in the past that have made you extremely cautious/insecure in doing that i.e. you don't get along with family or your friends once betrayed you by missing with her or even she betrayed you by messing around or the lady you messed with was a 304 and you took her thinking you can change her.
No one is saying don't keep your relationship private or go online and show her off 24/7 but if you're going the extra mile to keep your relationship extremely private by not even doing anything with her in public then that is more a YOU problem than it is a HER problem.
Going to the internet on your partner is crazy, and also he was a user.... two things can be true.
Now....all the things she listed....this must have been a guy that she really liked PHYSICALLY and was "out of her league" physically. Women will throw money at dudes that they dont match in order to keep them around all the time. All the thing she said about how he didnt spend time with her out of even feed her screams he didnt like her like that and she was desperate. 🤷🏽♂ Pick better.
Amen...Case closed
I don't believe a word she's saying....I think maybe it's a made up story just for clout. I don't fault her though, if that is the case then it's way better than if she were to falsely accuse the guy of grape or creepy behaviour of which these wannabe internet sensations have a tendency of doing.
Owning a property is a big asset. He's not broke!
Then he's a jerk that doesn't value her.
@@janebaker4912Ok but I mean ... For 6 months they never went out and she only came around after dinner?
🤔 Were they even dating?
The house isn't liquidated so it's not money he can do anything with yet
@@MeCooper sounds like some I had when I was in my late teens early 20s working and in Uni, not really dating just smashing a bit on the regular over a few months.
@@MeCooperof course not. She just can’t handle the truth. She’s starting to look a little crazy tbh
He was wrong but she was also wrong for putting their business online. People need to realize that their followers aren’t their friends. Also this among other factors is why I don’t see myself in a relationship. I’m big on trust and Loyalty so it takes a good amount of time for me to consider moving into the dating phase.
10:28 Preach preaching
Preach is right on the money with that imo, instead of talking to the guy himself she went online to tell strangers their business. Straight up the guy was a mug but at the same time most guys don’t want their private life broadcasted. If she got friends I can understand her telling them but filming yourself and telling strangers is another level to me.
3:58........ Yeah, you ain't gettin' that money back.
Sounds like a situationship that she took way too seriously. Hope she learns from this and avoids repeating this in the future.
1:09 "You focking clogged toilet" WOW I'm gonna remember that one ! It's BRILLIANT !!!
BROTHER BEAR LOVES ABA AND PREACH TOO 😂 we're destined to remain tight 🙏 🎉
"you f**n clogged toilet" bro what? 🤣
Love it I'm stealing dat shiiii 😂😂😂😂
AGAIN!?!?
9:59 FACTS ....REAL COMMUNICATION IS TALKING TO YOUR PARTNER MATE SIGNIFICANT OTHER
I said this in the last video. She was not complaining because he was broke. She was complaining because being with him was making her broke. She was trying to be Barbara the Builder...probably.
Barbara the builder?
@@ArThur_hara is that bobs wife? they in the same business? Never saw her on his show🤣🤣
@@ArThur_haraIt’s a reference. Barbara the builder is the woman who will stay with the guy for 5-10years without getting marriage, started dating the guy when he’s broke. Builds him up and once he’s is successful, he dumps the girl who build him and supported him. Then he gets a young girl and marry her after dating her only for few months.
@@jasmitharani9838 Oh thats why we have heard of Bob but not Barabara, she built up Bob then he ditched her when he got successful.
@@jasmitharani9838 He can leave if hes not happy, but if they are married and share assets then well he will have to split that fairly with her, plus child support if she gets most of the custody if they have kids.
as Khia Simone Thug Missus says ( my neck my back 🎶) says, 'Read The Signs'
Is that 2 or 3 videos in one day? And each one still a banger
Facts
I was just about to fall asleep at work, this saves me😂
Making videos about your partner is pretty high maintenance im gonna agree with Preach on this one
Preach was preaching at 9:03 🔥
She got played. Pretty simple. Always do a background check if crap isn't lining up. Dude is probably paying child support for 4 kids and has a gambling problem.
and a stripper addiction.
She let this guy get over on her. She paid his mortgage?! She's a good person but also a goofy.
I need a girl like this honestly😂😂
I think this girl is lying. She never lend him money.
@@d-8664 I don’t believe also nothing she said. We just heard one side.
u could see it as being a good person, but the way he took that for granted really just made her nothing more than a doormat. which makes her a bad person towards herself and potentially her close ones in the future. it's okay to be selfish sometimes, aslong as u don't misuse it.
@@ignoremychannel697why would she lie bout paying his mortgage
Sorry but I don't have much sympathy for someone that was cool being a fuck toy for 6 months and then got mad that the guy wasn't taking her for dates when that was never their relationship paradigm. If you don't have any self respect why should I feel for you being disrespected?
This was an Everybody Loves Raymond episode. Robert goes to Vegas.
Yea Aba I feel you. I just cut out my best friend of 25 years because he didn’t support and was a passive aggressive detriment to my last relationship. Then when me n my gf broke up, he still didn’t show up, after I was there for him in his past relationship and break up. Ditched me on two separate occasions after I drove 2 hours to see him, paid hotel fees, and he chose to go on dates with random women instead. Called the Palestinian struggle the flavor of the month…after I’ve listened to him vent about the black struggle for years.
It took me way too long to realize what kind of person he is, but hey we’re here now 😕
Shorty got fleeced 😂
In his eyes they was never in a relationship
Im glad she talked about this. People always talk about dating rich people and then women are stereotyped as gold diggers, yet there are so many women doing this. Especially since we are conditioned to be kind to a fault. The broke men want you to show if you are truly there for him and you love him not his money (should he ever have it). I have learnt to judge a man's character, his habits, his behaviors and try and see where that will take him in 3 to 5 yrs. It really cuts out the bums because talk is cheap but behavior and habits the best truth teller. I do that even for myself, the habits i have now, where are they taking me in the future.
Yes, truth even the poorest man would find a way to do things for his lady. A man that likes a women would be embarrassed to ask them to support them.
@@bunnyboo6295 The poorest man or woman if they have any pride wont be having someone else pay their rent or mortgage!
I don't lend money often, I have an ex-friend that got japanese limited edition 3DS from a friend from Japan, he agreed he'd pay for it over time as he didn't have $300 at the time, monthes past and he didn't pay a cent but he was always buyin' games for it ,going to paid events he even outright bought an english 3DS because they're region locked (that really pissed me off I couldn't believe it). To this day years later, he still hasn't paid a cent.
Sounds like she was the side chick and didn't know it 🤷🏽♂️
Maybe i'm more of a prude than i thought but the fact she didn't have an issue with him going to the strip club even though they were dating is wild to me. Maybe dating means something different to her than it does to me.
@@Sephiroso.I don't think you're wrong.
I don't exactly think it's as if he was going there to hook up or anything but like ... There are certain things a person should just naturally lose interest in when in a relationship
Bingo!
She wasn’t a side chick, just a temporary situation
More like a booty call
So she was going to a house dude owned for 6 months and doin nothing but smoking and suckin.... and she thought that was a relationship?? She was a jump off from the get go, then for some reason she started spending money on him, WITHOUT HIM ASKING MIND YOU. She set herself up. I cant fully feel bad for her.
The problem ia dating a f boy. Men and women both fall for narcissists. The hard part is growing up without growing bitter - and adjusting your criteria for picking people.
Yeah I don't feel for her. Anyone who watse a good amount of time with someone who drain your recourses without providing anything significant back. Only ending up just to make a video about it to call them broke. Is someone who's desperately trying to convince others she's some type of saint which probably not the reality of the situation. 🤷🏿♂️
You made no sense
@jarricah7920 I'll simplify it then. Everything in her video was designed to make her looked and him looked bad. From the title calling him broke. Think about it, she didn't say one nice thing about him. Even personality comment was a backhanded compliment at best. Cause she never explain why his personality was nice, just that it is. Now tell me why would a person stay with somebody that bad according to her explanation, outside of making yourself look like a saint in comparison? 🤔 🤔 🤔 🤔 🤔
drizzle drizzle
Waste her time. Make her pockets hurt
I’ve blatantly used some girls and clearly didn’t like them by giving them negative effort and at the end they somehow still act like they are better than you and get gassed up. It’s shocking.
DID YOU FORGET THAT HE CELEBRATED HER BIRTHDAY MONTHHHHHH. SHE IS PLAYING VICTIM. REWATCH THE OLD VIDEO.
Sorry caps.
Older Women need to teach younger women how to successfully vet men and generate a rubric. Broke can be a temporary thing as in you have no money today but are working towards goals. Broke and a bum is JUST a burden
"I'm low maintenance" biggest lie ever told
I don't trust any of it. The first video was complaining about him not having money but when she gets flamed for it now there's a whole new list of what he's doing wrong. I don't trust it because if he was doing all this stuff before why only bring it up after she finds out people think she's the bad guy?
The fact the dude didn't go out with her but went to strip clubs & she didn't dump him is CRAZY.
She should have ditched his ass the moment she found out he was going to strip clubs but not take her somewhere on a date
He was very attractive and way out of her league thats why she was willing to accept the disrespect.
Aba n preach with the double no tripple? upload in one day?. it must be christmas
Oh not this again😂
13:07 I also think she’s admitting that his “nice personality” is why she stayed so long too.
If she was with him for 6 months inside, and then for a while once it got nice again outside.. she was with him almost a year.
AGAIN
I was going out with this one girl i used to date from work. In the beginning, she use to take ME out, even though we made the same money. I may have not have taken her anywhere but i gave my time on a daily basis. Cooking, movies, being there after her accident etc... Basically going out or gifts were the only things i didn't do. After 7 months, she started asking me why I don't buy anything for her or take her out. Then she would invite me to go out with her and our colleagues and when I refuse (because i Don't like going out with them) she would go regardless and after she did that TWICE, everyone at work kept telling me that she was a bitch for being there without me and to leave her because she's for the streets. Now, I'm confused because a part of me is telling me, since I never did those things for over 6 months, i should show her now that I could do them. Another part of me (and all my friends) are telling me to let her go. There's a colleague from work who she's really good friends with who she would always turn to in our fights. She invited him over to her house one day and they were drinking while he was cooking there. The thing is though that we all live in hotels that are next to each other. She wasn't sneaking around with him, they were just chilling and she turned to him because of our messy break up because she had nobody else. My friends all said that was unacceptable and that she doesn't only belong to me she belongs to everyone. I really don't know what to do. I'm so confused and I just don't want to listen to rumors or regret my decision later.
😂😂u clogged toilet 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I. Using this as we speak
I have a theory. The first video sounded like he was just not doing a few expensive things here and there that she had a problem with. and the second video sounded more like you know he was taking the piss.
My theory as to why this is, having friends who are also going through this, is that she was in denial. I would take a guess that her friends were probably telling her how he treats her is ridiculous, but she in her head she was just seeing these red flags and being like. Oh it's fine. No it's not that big of a deal. That's why in her last video she didn't talk about all of his stuff cuz she was still in denial land, and to her those stuff wasn't worth bringing up. I would suspect she only talked about the thing that she was willing to accept which didn't make him look that bad. But now in this video she's having a little bit of come to Jesus moment and that's why she's now talking about it. Even at the end she's like he's still a good guy. She's in denial about how bad it really was.
I have guy, friends and girl friends who are in this position, and sometimes they pick trash partners but they're so in love with them that they'll start talking to you, about maybe one or two problems that they are having that isn't that bad so you're trying to give them advice based of that. But as you go through the conversation, they kind of let slip about this other horrendous thing or something else which any normal person would break up with a person about. They talk about these issues in passing as if it was inconsequential. And you're just stood there. Like excuse me what... ? Can we circle back to that please. To give my example, I want spent 3 hours talking to my friend about how to get her boyfriend mental health support and get his workplace to be more supportive of his mental health struggles. Only to find out that he had not turn up to work on several occasions without even calling in and making unfair complaints about his boss about not being able to do sales. But she slides right past that as though that doesn't contribute to any of the situation.
Naw preach is right
You really have to be careful what expectations you set in a relationship especially when it comes to money matters that can get messy very quick.
He finessed her so well she still thought he was broke 😂 Drizzle drizzle huh
She calls him broke, I call him inspirational!!
@@WolfamongSheep626 Nothing Inspirational about Freeloaders regardless of their sex or the sex of the people they free load off. Hes a Free Loader and she was stupid and Naive. I have the same energy for women who just start seeing someone and demand they pay their rent and their bills just crazy BS.
@@DaMuss-e2w I absolutely agree with you it’s not inspirational at all. But I’m not the turn the other cheek type. If women want to string men along in friend zones, use them as foodie calls, and play them for money well don’t get angry at the environment you foster because both sides can play.
@@WolfamongSheep626 Men are not responsible as a collective for the actions of other men, nor are women responsible for the actions of other women. But you are responsible for your own actions and if you are bad to people because oh other people of the same sex do bad things to members of my own sex then you are a bad person full stop.
@@WolfamongSheep626 well said, what goes around comes around.
Sounds like they just were fwb, and when she continued to allow him to basically not have to put any effort in, he was like "sure" when that "are we together?" conversation happened. Owing your girlfriend money and then going to the strip club and spending money is a wild level of inconsiderate! Of course, this opinion is based on what she has said being the truth.
Surprised Pikachu face...
Girl was buying that guy's love
Idk I like staying in the house myself but i find things we can do at home. She was just taking BS