How is it disrespectful to NOT pay back your partner & instead spending money on random naked women??? Mind you she paid his bills when he was struggling, when she struggling he at the strip club and oyu asking how its disrespectful? Some of yall aint shit for real.
@@kennymichaelalanya7134I have a friend that recently broke up with her ex. This guy was a heroine addict and when asked why she was with him she would hit me with "He's cute". Never want to hear ever again that women don't select based off of looks lol
She liked his looks and the fantasy of being together with him that’s what makes sense. That guy has no personality like she claims nor has a caring heart She’s delusional because of social media that always tells her that broke guy is the problem when it’s actually the guy that doesn’t know how to love
Yeah but part of its on her; she was a fuck toy obviously not his girlfriend and she's trying to be his girl anyways. Gotta have more self respect than that.
My man has been facing financial difficulties for a year now.. but he still takes me to the park and buy me my favourite iced coffee to drink at the park, he randomly comes home with my favourite ice cream, he takes me on long drives site seeing cause i love that, he takes me to the beach. If a man wants to make you feel special, he will. Being broke isn’t an excuse
And the last thing any partner should do is ask you to pay the rent/mortgage, unless your living together like a married couple and its your mortgage or rent.
The problem was not him being broke... The real problem was that he was never her boyfriend, they were just in situationship ...He never liked her nor he care about her...
They just hung out, late nights, after dinner. They were FWBs that turned into a relationship. Obviously, the man who's already getting everything he wants doesn't think he needs to try any harder. He didn't like her, he liked what she gave him. She gave it all up for free, and he took advantage of it as long as he could. Stop hooking up with bums. Or just stop hooking up in general.
"Great personality": - splurges in strip clubs - takes advantage of women who are 10 years younger - no financial security - no intention when dating - no initiative other than Netflix&chill I feel disgusted just trying to imagine this dude, let along _being in a relationship_ with him
@@hiverbleu8878 1. Chill. 2. Most people are not psychologically healthy, me included. 3. Did I say only women fall for a manipulative person? No. It's just that we're talking about a girl falling for the BS of a guy rn.
@@hiverbleu8878 And sidetrack: As a man, "men are simple" sounds pretty accurate to me. It means our specific instinctive pulls are pretty clear, accepted and understood by everybody. While some female behaviors tend to seem more covert and contradictory. And on the emotional part, there is some bad on a lot of men not being in touch with their emotions. But there is also some good in a lot of them not being too neurotic, overthinking on every interaction, which is the other end of the spectrum where we tend to find a lot of women.
Years ago, I supported my ex-fiance through his sickness for 2 years when he had to leave his job. Neglected my own bills to help him with his and take us out on dates to lift his spirits. To the point that my car was repossessed twice. When he was healthy enough to return to work, they offered him his job back with extra pay, and he turned it down. That was the decision that brought me to make him my ex. I learned a lot about what I don't want in a relationship from the 5 years I was with him. I also learned a lot about financial responsibilities through my immature naivety.
Being a provider for an unmotivated man is a canon event that unfortunately a lot of us had to experience to become more financially responsible. It’s never a loss, just a lesson.
Some people are so desperate to have love that they ignore every bad thing for a small fraction of affection. I blame this on parents because kids never learn to express their own boundaries and later in life they can’t do it
That was the mistake, setting the bar too low. The lesson learnt, set the bar at the standard you are happy to accept. Yeah I've learnt that lesson. Once learnt there is never going back to low bars. Heck single is better than putting up with a low bar.
5:40 no matter what your parents did one thing I can say after watching you guys for a while is you are raised very well. I love the way you think and I absolutely agree. Some people have no respect and no shame and they will keep being that way because people with low self esteem let them.
Your man spending time with you is not him doing you a favour, he should want to. Most men want to expierence things with their girl. Most men ENJOY doing activities with a woman they like.
the whole he's a great guy with great personality is not to protect him or whatsoever, it's to protect herself because she can't accept he took advantage off her. how he treated her, he does not have a great personality. in the first video i was thinking it's all about her high standards because she never spezified the issues just he is too broke to do things. now with her examples i get the feeling he was just not interested in her but took her money as long she stayed. she does not really want to accept that she fell for him and maybe thought the relationship was more than he did ....
3:49 lol. She was finessed. They were not dating. She was an f buddy. He was not going to be seen out in case another girl saw him. This wasn't a relationship. Ask her when he proposed or such.
She was not finessed. 😅😂 He did so obviously not care for her. If she had fallen for this it just shows how gullible she is. 😂😂 But in no way was it “finesse”, he ain’t that clever. 😅
My wife was the same when we first started dating, EXTREME giver. I was a hobo in training. I never acted selfish and to this day I still thank her for helping me get on my feet. I’m glad this woman made the video. Even though breakups are hard it made it super easy to walk away and reflect
I’m sorry but her saying “I dated him” is taking me out because nothing she described sounds like more than a fuckboy’s booty call… the more she spoke, the more I was like oh babyyyy no 😭😭😭 I really wish the best for her, I hope at the very least her airing herself out like will help her get some standards and sense. I’m sure she’s a loving person but there needs to be wisdom to go with that charitable nature.
Yeah, comes over after dinner and she's paying his bills? He leaves her when she starts wanting to be seen with him? It's a situationship and chad left her.
She got played. Pretty simple. Always do a background check if crap isn't lining up. Dude is probably paying child support for 4 kids and has a gambling problem.
It drives me nuts when I see people complaining about the opposite gender, and you see who they put their trust in and you think “yeah, that explains a lot”
She really said he's poor, then mentioned that he goes to the strip club and has a mortgage. Just say you were dating an idiot who didn't gaf about you 😂
When she finally woke up and smelled the coffee it hurt. She got used and now doesn't want to admit it. She loses Boss Babe points for being so stupid.
4:49 I had a friend that did the same thing to me. After hurricane Katrina friend came back to New Orleans and was trying to get his lights together. I had a personal car and a work car so I gave him my personal car unsupervised. While he did not trash my car but he did do a couple of things I didn't like and he lost my car key and my house key. I had to pay to get both of them back. The last words I ever heard from him was, "I'm sorry I'll pay you this money back. I won't let this get between our friendship" here we are about 17 years later. I haven't heard from him since and I don't want to
I mean, it probably didn’t start off THAT bad and if you listen , she basically couldn’t see his true colors until money was involved. And by that time there was a time investment so she tried to give it a shot. The shot missed so she left lol.
This . Most people complaining about this stuff it's usually financial related, or a unmet expectations. People love calling it standards but some people have unrealistic expectations/standards. @@notreallyafamousartist695
Maybe she’s a bum too? We only have her side, maybe her standards match what she is. I have one rule 1) Never believe a story online especially if it involves a crying woman or a woman talking about a man.
One of the only channels that I see that straight up fesses up to being wrong about something. You've done several videos like this and in a world where everyone tends to sweep things under the rug I respect the integrity.
I hit $113k today. Thank you for all the knowledge and nuggets you had thrown my way over the last months. Started last month 2024. Financial education is indeed required for more than 70% of the society in the country as very few are literate on the subject.
It's essential for you to have a mentor to keep you accountable. Myself, I'm guided by Evelyn Vera. for years and highly recommend her I focus on her. To be honest, I almost didn't buy the idea of letting someone handle growing my finance, but so glad I did.
I was broke at 40, no shame there, life can really throw some curve balls. Would i be spending someone else's money? No. Even less if i had zero intention of paying it back. Was very upfront with ladies back then, we wouldn't be going for anything more than free or coffee, because that's what i could afford. And there's a LOT you can do on that budget, the most important, being together, which is free. If they really felt like doing something and wanted to pay, that's OK, as long as it wasn't an habit.
Exacly, me and my wife had our own business we had to shut down because covid. We lost RACKS! And you are right, he could have cooked meals together at home with her, even if they coulnd't afford to eat out. Me and my wife would to to the movies during the matinee when I was broke, mess was like 6 bucks a ticket back in the day.
giving yourself a timeline is an excellent way to keep you from going too far. There's a chance that this is how she grew up, watching her mom struggle with a guy who didn't have much, but gave just enough to get her to stay. I did what she did too... but my level of tolerance wouldn't go past 3 months. After that I just ghosted.
I was in a similar situation with my ex. However, he had severe depression and anxiety. Never wanted to leave the house. Door dashed every night. We ended on good terms but I couldn’t handle it anymore.
I only give what I'm comfortable with letting go, I think it's pretty important to give knowing you might not get it back. I learned the hard way but that mindset changed the way I act when people ask.
Exactly! I've always said, "Never loan what you can't afford to lose." Saves you a lot of stress. At least in the scenario you never get it back, you're not super mad at the person, you just know to never loan them anything again lol.
And also I was taught growing up that if you lend someone money and never see that person again consider it money well spent. It's the fee you paid to dispose of a fake friend. 😂
This is people pleasing at it finest, we’ve all done it from time to time but this is like the worst case scenario. Hopefully she learns to stop people pleasing because that shit kills.
Heavy on the last part 😔. There’s are even worse exploiting spirits out there than this guy and she’ll fall for the same or worse if she doesn’t learn.
@@Atlas365247 people pleasing. Even if her type is exactly how he looks, that wouldn’t explain why she stayed for so long and helped as much as she did. It’s only ever gonna be a people pleaser going above and beyond like that. Hopefully she doesn’t get exploited further for this because she seems to have a good heart but you gotta know or learn when you need to stop.
I think she needed a father or a brother or a cousin or uncle to straighten her out. She should have known better. You don't help someone out by putting yourself down. At least her video will hopefully serve as an example of what not to do in those situations.
When you are in love sometimes you can be blind, it is good to talk to other people and they help you out. Because she spoke out , im also learning from yall and getting advice. That's why narcissists try and cut you off from the world and isolate you, because they know those people will help you leave. With my sisters we have a rule, you can talk about your relationship but balance it out, complain and compliment. Not just one side
She says they're gonna be together forever, but she never gave him an example of him saying something like that. I think she's a bad communicator. His attitude with her bumper is the attitude he's had the whole time. She says she has a time frame, but it's too LONG. Asking for mortgage, strip clubs, no dates, all late nights... Really girl?
She wasn’t in love, she was infatuated. She was blinded by the halo effect of whatever superficial need he met and was willing to look past the obvious to hope he eventually changed for her. I hope she takes this all as a learning experience.
Exactly! He didn't give af about her, it was obvious by how he treated her. He's a user, so he's not innocent, but it's her fault for staying with him still.
As someone who has always loved hard myself and has gone through something similar, it’s detrimental. To both your mind and your well being. Feeling like you need to provide at all times and then not even being appreciated for it. But once signs like this start to appear RUN. Cause once you let it slide once or twice they’ll get accustomed to it and it’ll become expected of you.
That’s one of my biggest flexes in life: I’ve ALWAYS always payed my debts back to people! There isn’t a single person on this planet I owe money to because I don’t take advantage of other people’s help or kindness, and I DETEST the type of person that does that!
The more me and my partner see how dating is nowadays or just how people are in general when it comes to relationships we literally thank each other and appreciate what we have. People REALLY don’t understand how dangerous or how exhausting looking for the right someone can be.
I hope you learn one day to stop taking what you see on the internet as if it's what's happening in real life most of the time because it isn't. What you see on dating on the internet is NOT normal dating shit that actually happens when you touch some grass. It's what happens in hyper condensed areas like Miami perhaps, but if you live in an area like that you should already have some kind of understanding of what goes on there and know what spots to avoid.
with all the whining I see online, dating seems like your a parent taking on a child with mental illness, well in those spaces anyway. Thank goodness there are grounded people out there when you touch grass.
@@WolfamongSheep626very what!? That's just dumb. The problem with broke guys is not even the lack of funds. It's their fragile ego and need to use the woman as a come up. That's why women tell each other to stay away from them. Let them buuld themselves up then go look for a girlfriend. No more playing Barbara the builder.
@@quesoqueso7598 i don’t mean in a way of finding the guys identity or anything just the idea to tell thousands of strangers personal information about your life it’s just bizarre to ke
u could see it as being a good person, but the way he took that for granted really just made her nothing more than a doormat. which makes her a bad person towards herself and potentially her close ones in the future. it's okay to be selfish sometimes, aslong as u don't misuse it.
I said this in the last video. She was not complaining because he was broke. She was complaining because being with him was making her broke. She was trying to be Barbara the Builder...probably.
@@ArThur_haraIt’s a reference. Barbara the builder is the woman who will stay with the guy for 5-10years without getting marriage, started dating the guy when he’s broke. Builds him up and once he’s is successful, he dumps the girl who build him and supported him. Then he gets a young girl and marry her after dating her only for few months.
@@jasmitharani9838 He can leave if hes not happy, but if they are married and share assets then well he will have to split that fairly with her, plus child support if she gets most of the custody if they have kids.
Aba is such a mood. His vibe shows on almost every video. Someday on fleek with sleek hair cut, bear on point, last time a jacket with sunglass(small small round sunglasses) and day like this hoodie all pulled to the front....it's so relatable.
Now....all the things she listed....this must have been a guy that she really liked PHYSICALLY and was "out of her league" physically. Women will throw money at dudes that they dont match in order to keep them around all the time. All the thing she said about how he didnt spend time with her out of even feed her screams he didnt like her like that and she was desperate. 🤷🏽♂ Pick better.
When my husband and I first got married we used to do free dates. We did live in California so there was a lot to do, but we used to go to the beach, downtown San Diego, Downtown Disney. Just hanging out. We made grocery shopping an event. Having someone not make an effort at all and not spend a dime on her while she’s paying his mortgage and he’s spending his mortgage money at the strip club? He didn’t respect her. He was using her for her kindness. The man that marries her, she’ll treat him like a king.
He was wrong but she was also wrong for putting their business online. People need to realize that their followers aren’t their friends. Also this among other factors is why I don’t see myself in a relationship. I’m big on trust and Loyalty so it takes a good amount of time for me to consider moving into the dating phase.
The girl obviously was stuck in her mind and wasn’t seeing the situation clearly (which is why she stayed with a shitty guy for so long). She literally would have been STUCK if the internet girls didn’t give her a new perspective.
First six months they just chilled at his crib? Homegirl, you was a bootycall that got upgraded to dating, and you over here complaining? He didn’t value you, but you stuck around long enough to where he caught enough feelings to want to date you and you’re complaining that he didn’t have money or didn’t want to spend on you? Babygirl, your actions told him that he was the prize. Always remember the phrase that “Actions speak louder than words” Chad, Tyrone, Ramone and Chang are living a life of ABUNDANCE! He didn’t need you or want you! You wanted him! Why are you complaining? Either accept it or move on! To complain is to expose how oblivious you are to the decisions you make.
Maybe I am wrong , but analyzing her words this seems more like he viewed her as a jump off from the very beginning that ultimately came with financial benefits. For the first 6 months , she went to HIS place AFTER she ate . They would "they would do, like a late night type of thing." That seems like an Uber eats booty call than a relationship.
The fact the dude didn't go out with her but went to strip clubs & she didn't dump him is CRAZY. She should have ditched his ass the moment she found out he was going to strip clubs but not take her somewhere on a date
@@MeCooper sounds like some I had when I was in my late teens early 20s working and in Uni, not really dating just smashing a bit on the regular over a few months.
Perfect. I was looking for a video (for the whole family) to put on for my family this Thanksgiving. My young nephews, nieces, great aunt/uncle & grandparents will enjoy this. Put it on, full volume & NO ONE is allowed to talk through it. Once finished, go around in a circle & give their opinion on it. Yee haw. I love America. Yee Haw. Turkey & Yams.
She wasn't dating a broke guy. She was dating a guy that was using her and never really cared about her. Probably sensed her vulnerability and took advantage of it.
I didn’t have a lot of disposable income when I first met my wife but I would do things like make dinner at my place and put the food in a picnic basket and we had a picnic at her house. It cost me all of $40. There are plenty of things you can do while dating and not having to spend a lot of money on dates 🤷🏽♂️
Thing is this is not what she said in the last video. In the last one she made it seem like it WAS all about the money, it was that he couldn't afford to do things for her. Now we hear the situation was different. I'm having trouble reconciling what was said and implied in the last video to what she is saying here
honestly it could be both. she is claiming that she was paying his bills. she wants him to treat her on outings. we don't know the whole situation as it's only her talking. she need to either date him as he is without taking on his financial burdens or move on.
Yeah I'm surprised her friends didn't tell her to run, but she posted a video to internet strangers about it. She either needs new friends, didn't want to take their advice, or didnt tell her friends the whole situation. 😅
@@RoseNZieg I guess the big thing is the TONE of the last video in comparison. If you watch the two videos side by side, one after the other, there is a big difference and if you watched this one FIRST you feel totally different about the other one. This one we think "Why didn't your friends stop you?" Last one we think after "Gosh they guy is doing the best he can, lower your expectations."
Let's be real. A female only accepts that level of degeneracy if that dude busting her down lol. Rationally no one would accept those standards by any other means. He was gutting her out and she got addickted to just that.
Not even bills, his mortgage. The house belongs to him. Eventually he’s getting a house out of his current situation, and she is getting absolutely nothing
Maybe i'm more of a prude than i thought but the fact she didn't have an issue with him going to the strip club even though they were dating is wild to me. Maybe dating means something different to her than it does to me.
@@Sephiroso.I don't think you're wrong. I don't exactly think it's as if he was going there to hook up or anything but like ... There are certain things a person should just naturally lose interest in when in a relationship
She seems alright tbh, just a pretty regular person, we all do questionable things especially when it comes to relationships. The Internet is so quick to judge with limited information.
Right ? Like even to the park seems like a good effort and she is saying they just stayed at his house after she ate dinner at her place for 6 months ? They never ate together at his house ?
@@Rolandajohn Yea if he was “broke” he wouldn’t have a place to begin with so he has _something_ , even a little money can make special creative moments
I want to share some knowledge and I figure here is a great place...and I know this may break guy code, but it's knowledge that should be out there. Ladies, if a guy is seeing you but he isn't out socially with you, he doesn't hold you in the esteem he holds a partner in. This could be because he may feel embraced being with you, (because of his ego / game he might have spoke) or that he is trying to keep his options open. A guy's public exhibition of his partner is a kind of litmus test; if you are the one who isn't out socially with a guy, he doesn't truly value you as the partner he wants. Could be just private companionship, sex or even friendship with benefits. But, if he isn't showing you off or out with you, he is not committed to you. So leave him. Guy's it works both ways.
A guy’s public exhibition of his partner is a kind of litmus test? Hell no. Every guy isn’t trying to show off or flaunt a relationship. Different folks different strokes
@@weeymm2500a man who doesn't want to take his woman(girlfriend/wife not just dating) out anywhere or even introduce her to family at least once it is a cause for concern IN GENERAL. If you're just in the beginning stages of dating then all that isn't necessary until you have both got to know each other well. When you're proud of the person you're with, the natural inclination of anyone is to show them off. No matter what she looks like. If you are embarrassed to be with her then yes you will be VERY HESITANT to be seen with her. Point. Blank. Period. No one in a solid relationship will ever sit there and say "I will never show my woman/man off or ever take her out anywhere". The only reason you wouldn't do that is if you encountered situations in the past that have made you extremely cautious/insecure in doing that i.e. you don't get along with family or your friends once betrayed you by missing with her or even she betrayed you by messing around or the lady you messed with was a 304 and you took her thinking you can change her. No one is saying don't keep your relationship private or go online and show her off 24/7 but if you're going the extra mile to keep your relationship extremely private by not even doing anything with her in public then that is more a YOU problem than it is a HER problem.
10:23 i get what aba is saying about sometimes you need to confide in friends because its easier and thats okay. but preach began his point about the internet. taking it to the internet for strangers who dont even know you are care about you was a crimson red flag and screams attention seeking or insecurity. also downright disrespect to your partner for airing out their personal business to potentially millions.
That man had no problem disrespecting her. As for making a video its a way to warn other women that might think being patient and giving for someone that lacks effort would change once a man gets on their feet. Believe a person is and will be based on how they treat you even a true homeless bum that likes a lady would have found a way to take a lady they are into out.
Things don't work the same for everyone. If that woman had a man that actual was her ride or die partner than he would pay her back for life. @@DaMuss-e2w
Im glad she talked about this. People always talk about dating rich people and then women are stereotyped as gold diggers, yet there are so many women doing this. Especially since we are conditioned to be kind to a fault. The broke men want you to show if you are truly there for him and you love him not his money (should he ever have it). I have learnt to judge a man's character, his habits, his behaviors and try and see where that will take him in 3 to 5 yrs. It really cuts out the bums because talk is cheap but behavior and habits the best truth teller. I do that even for myself, the habits i have now, where are they taking me in the future.
I don’t think he was really broke. The guy has a mortgage and is throwing money. She’s the one trying to turn a casual relationship into something real
@@bunnyboo6295 hustling or budgeting, one of the biggest issues I have witnessed with people not being able to meet rent was they had no discipline and wasted money on status/luxury items instead of what should be priorities this is a red flag.
Woah I get bro wrong but how is going to the strip club disrespectful ?😂
How is it disrespectful to NOT pay back your partner & instead spending money on random naked women??? Mind you she paid his bills when he was struggling, when she struggling he at the strip club and oyu asking how its disrespectful? Some of yall aint shit for real.
You're kinda goofy u know that?
watch the video then read your sentence again
No common sense. Disgusting.
Pin of shame little boy, pin of shaaame
Goes to strip clubs but can't pay his own mortgage? Oh, hell no!
The problem was she was so into him😅
"But he was CuTe THO?"
This cracks me up!
@@kennymichaelalanya7134I have a friend that recently broke up with her ex. This guy was a heroine addict and when asked why she was with him she would hit me with "He's cute". Never want to hear ever again that women don't select based off of looks lol
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he knew exactly what he was doing, he was happy to use her as his personal bank account
This brotha used the ancient art of tricknology. She is still convinced it was a relationship.
The spell is still in effect 😂
@@venuztrvpAncient magics 😂 indeed
Trickonometry at it's finest
dicknometry
Diknology
Her video title is incorrect. She did not go out with a broke guy; she was in love with someone who didn't love her, and she ignored the red flags.
We call them Tyrone’s 😂
She liked his looks and the fantasy of being together with him that’s what makes sense. That guy has no personality like she claims nor has a caring heart
She’s delusional because of social media that always tells her that broke guy is the problem when it’s actually the guy that doesn’t know how to love
Bad religion
Underrated comment!
@@ssing7113She was going out witta Baby Joker fresh out the joint 😂
This has NOTHING to do with being poor 💀 He didn’t like her and used her 100%
I don't like a lot of people, even if I could I would not use them.
Nah he liked her. He just isnt rich
Yeah but part of its on her; she was a fuck toy obviously not his girlfriend and she's trying to be his girl anyways. Gotta have more self respect than that.
@@smokerx6291 you don't have to be rich to pay someone back
Considering her social media personality, this is the best she can do. She needs to work on herself, because she can't do better, if she's not better.
My man has been facing financial difficulties for a year now.. but he still takes me to the park and buy me my favourite iced coffee to drink at the park, he randomly comes home with my favourite ice cream, he takes me on long drives site seeing cause i love that, he takes me to the beach. If a man wants to make you feel special, he will. Being broke isn’t an excuse
And the last thing any partner should do is ask you to pay the rent/mortgage, unless your living together like a married couple and its your mortgage or rent.
How is he broke if he has a car? 😂
@@LiquidfirePUA some of y’all really don’t like using your brains hey
@@LiquidfirePUA 🤦♂
The problem was not him being broke... The real problem was that he was never her boyfriend, they were just in situationship ...He never liked her nor he care about her...
Dude wasn’t broke. He didn’t like you 😬😬😬 that was a situationship. She’s delusional 😩
Wait wasn’t he a single dad? If a dude is spending money at the strip club over his kid and “GF” yo that’s not a red flag. That’s a H-Bomb cloud.
Out of all the comments, this seems the most accurate to reality.
Exactly 💯. I honestly wish people won't be mistreated like this 😢
He doesnt like her and he's irresponsible with his money. I really thought he had no money but he really just stupid with his money
@@An337766No
"He has a great personality" .....does he though.....
I was thinking the same thing!!
Even now shes in denial
She like users and abusers
Thats women code for he was clapping her real good 😂
He was hitting it right
They just hung out, late nights, after dinner. They were FWBs that turned into a relationship. Obviously, the man who's already getting everything he wants doesn't think he needs to try any harder. He didn't like her, he liked what she gave him. She gave it all up for free, and he took advantage of it as long as he could.
Stop hooking up with bums. Or just stop hooking up in general.
After months that no longer "hooking up" 😂
This dude is low-key incel, hardcore
@@ITSSKUDDUMMY still just hooking up
@@chimpo8663 you clearly don't know what incel means. if he's smashing, he's not an incel.
He didn't take advantage. She wasn't upfront, so he thought he she was okay with it. She shouldn't of let this go on.
"Great personality":
- splurges in strip clubs
- takes advantage of women who are 10 years younger
- no financial security
- no intention when dating
- no initiative other than Netflix&chill
I feel disgusted just trying to imagine this dude, let along _being in a relationship_ with him
Yeah that doesn’t even sound like someone with a great personality.
That's called a sweet talker. And they exist because women often fall for them.
@@hiverbleu8878 There are lots of people who fall for this. Your mimd beşng twisted by social norms is not exactly a disease per se.
@@hiverbleu8878
1. Chill.
2. Most people are not psychologically healthy, me included.
3. Did I say only women fall for a manipulative person? No. It's just that we're talking about a girl falling for the BS of a guy rn.
@@hiverbleu8878
And sidetrack:
As a man, "men are simple" sounds pretty accurate to me.
It means our specific instinctive pulls are pretty clear, accepted and understood by everybody. While some female behaviors tend to seem more covert and contradictory.
And on the emotional part, there is some bad on a lot of men not being in touch with their emotions.
But there is also some good in a lot of them not being too neurotic, overthinking on every interaction, which is the other end of the spectrum where we tend to find a lot of women.
The boyfriend was the high maintenance one in the relationship the whole time.
She was his drizzle drizzle he was getting his sprinkle sprinkle.
Not the sprinkle sprinkle
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 made my day 😂😂😂
Everytime I see "drizzle, drizzle", I think of really runny diarrhea 😂.
Facts 👏🏿😅😅😅😅.
He was the passenger princess 👑 💅🏽✨in the relationship.
Years ago, I supported my ex-fiance through his sickness for 2 years when he had to leave his job. Neglected my own bills to help him with his and take us out on dates to lift his spirits. To the point that my car was repossessed twice. When he was healthy enough to return to work, they offered him his job back with extra pay, and he turned it down. That was the decision that brought me to make him my ex. I learned a lot about what I don't want in a relationship from the 5 years I was with him. I also learned a lot about financial responsibilities through my immature naivety.
Sheesh you’re a trooper 😂
I hope all is going well. 👍🏼
🤡
@@karenmassey8354name is Karen, not surprised.
Damn
Being a provider for an unmotivated man is a canon event that unfortunately a lot of us had to experience to become more financially responsible. It’s never a loss, just a lesson.
Some people are so desperate to have love that they ignore every bad thing for a small fraction of affection. I blame this on parents because kids never learn to express their own boundaries and later in life they can’t do it
Nahhh Preach got me weak I ain’t never hear someone call a person a clogged toilet 😂😂😂
Po'tera, its a common insult in my language a derogotory term especially towards women. .
😭😭😭💀 that took me out too
Thought he said "clout toilet"
A full Shitter?
@@Atlas365247 he said that
I think she set the bar too low in hopes that he would eventually treat her better. But the guy got used to the standard she set 😂
This was me fr
That was the mistake, setting the bar too low.
The lesson learnt, set the bar at the standard you are happy to accept.
Yeah I've learnt that lesson. Once learnt there is never going back to low bars.
Heck single is better than putting up with a low bar.
5:40 no matter what your parents did one thing I can say after watching you guys for a while is you are raised very well. I love the way you think and I absolutely agree. Some people have no respect and no shame and they will keep being that way because people with low self esteem let them.
He was not poor because of his financials... He was poor because his mentality to finances is poor and she should have recognized that and left early.
Your man spending time with you is not him doing you a favour, he should want to. Most men want to expierence things with their girl. Most men ENJOY doing activities with a woman they like.
This is true. I'd help my girlfriend with the cooking on weekends just to spend time with her. We'd make videos and laugh and have a good time.
💯 agreed
the whole he's a great guy with great personality is not to protect him or whatsoever, it's to protect herself because she can't accept he took advantage off her. how he treated her, he does not have a great personality. in the first video i was thinking it's all about her high standards because she never spezified the issues just he is too broke to do things. now with her examples i get the feeling he was just not interested in her but took her money as long she stayed. she does not really want to accept that she fell for him and maybe thought the relationship was more than he did ....
This part. 💯
3:49 lol. She was finessed. They were not dating. She was an f buddy. He was not going to be seen out in case another girl saw him. This wasn't a relationship. Ask her when he proposed or such.
Fellow Ghanaians
@@goldenwind_IV Let´s gather here.
Straight facts, same thing I was thinking
She was not finessed. 😅😂 He did so obviously not care for her. If she had fallen for this it just shows how gullible she is. 😂😂 But in no way was it “finesse”, he ain’t that clever. 😅
@ nah she was finessed
My wife was the same when we first started dating, EXTREME giver. I was a hobo in training. I never acted selfish and to this day I still thank her for helping me get on my feet.
I’m glad this woman made the video. Even though breakups are hard it made it super easy to walk away and reflect
Massive props to you and your wife. Keep being real with one another and open about this, more people need this hope. Grace and peace to you both.
@@boxuniversity2978 honestly, thank you for that. We’ve been together 19yrs at this point. I am more than blessed
@@boxuniversity2978agreed
Finally a good story
Here is the 🏆trophy you are clearly trying to get..... and a pat on the head. That's why you posted right? To be told how good you are right?
Preach falling asleep. 6:00 🫣
With these weird upload times even I'm sleeping
I’ve been there. Dating a broke guy is one thing but you don’t need money to make your woman feel special. Honestly.
I'm broke so I simply don't date anybody lol
Dawg get a job have a lil bit of motion🤨
He couldn’t afford the effort
Eating it is hard after she done worked a whole 16 hr shift to provide for us lol
Broke means you have unfavorable flaws like laziness, lack of drive, poor spending, etc. Nope, I would never date someone broke
I’m sorry but her saying “I dated him” is taking me out because nothing she described sounds like more than a fuckboy’s booty call… the more she spoke, the more I was like oh babyyyy no 😭😭😭
I really wish the best for her, I hope at the very least her airing herself out like will help her get some standards and sense. I’m sure she’s a loving person but there needs to be wisdom to go with that charitable nature.
as long as you are sucking the money out of the guy, its okay, its only a problem when you pay
yes i agree!
I thought the same thing- he is inviting her over for sex and using her for money. That's not dating.
Yeah, comes over after dinner and she's paying his bills?
He leaves her when she starts wanting to be seen with him?
It's a situationship and chad left her.
@@rohitbadyal2871Do you also comment on videos about gold diggers things like "but many men beat their wives so it's okay"? Thought not.
She's not even low maintenance, she's a maintainer.
She got played. Pretty simple. Always do a background check if crap isn't lining up. Dude is probably paying child support for 4 kids and has a gambling problem.
and a stripper addiction.
None of that will show up on a background check tho 😂
Aba are you trying to cosplay Kenny from South Park ? 😂
This is the classic Aba throwback hoodie look. The backshot Kanji with the clitoral hood is a CLASSIC 🤣🤣🤣
@@oldenoughtowatchify 😂😂 wild description
@@oldenoughtowatchifyayo 😅
Omg thy killed Kenny 😂
@@oldenoughtowatchify lmao nice
“If We’re gonna be together forever” “what’s mine is his”. Girl no, just no. He was never her husband and they don’t share a bank account.
It drives me nuts when I see people complaining about the opposite gender, and you see who they put their trust in and you think “yeah, that explains a lot”
Garbage in garbage out
So true. And then they tell themselves that it’s all men or all women. It says more about that person that the gender they accuse
The misandry is crazy, because we don't owe you money in the first place, he's not bad for not giving you money lol
She really said he's poor, then mentioned that he goes to the strip club and has a mortgage. Just say you were dating an idiot who didn't gaf about you 😂
When she finally woke up and smelled the coffee it hurt. She got used and now doesn't want to admit it. She loses Boss Babe points for being so stupid.
4:49 I had a friend that did the same thing to me. After hurricane Katrina friend came back to New Orleans and was trying to get his lights together. I had a personal car and a work car so I gave him my personal car unsupervised. While he did not trash my car but he did do a couple of things I didn't like and he lost my car key and my house key. I had to pay to get both of them back. The last words I ever heard from him was, "I'm sorry I'll pay you this money back. I won't let this get between our friendship" here we are about 17 years later. I haven't heard from him since and I don't want to
Yeahhh her standards are definitely in hell😭. He was a bum regardless of financial status
I mean, it probably didn’t start off THAT bad and if you listen , she basically couldn’t see his true colors until money was involved. And by that time there was a time investment so she tried to give it a shot. The shot missed so she left lol.
This . Most people complaining about this stuff it's usually financial related, or a unmet expectations. People love calling it standards but some people have unrealistic expectations/standards. @@notreallyafamousartist695
So were fresh and fit wrong? They speak so many truths!
Maybe she’s a bum too? We only have her side, maybe her standards match what she is. I have one rule
1) Never believe a story online especially if it involves a crying woman or a woman talking about a man.
You "all women are heroes" people are something else.
One of the only channels that I see that straight up fesses up to being wrong about something. You've done several videos like this and in a world where everyone tends to sweep things under the rug I respect the integrity.
Tha floor keeps em in check xD! (It's a running joke)
Plz pin him :]... Hm no it would look arrogant
Please do a video that you guys were wrong about pal*****e
You should of seen the fat girl that got stood up, they also admitted they were wrong about her cat fishing
They didn't really say they were wrong about the Kris Tyson thing though. And in that video they were 100% wrong...
I hit $113k today. Thank you for all the knowledge and nuggets you had thrown my way over the last months. Started last month 2024. Financial education is indeed required for more than 70% of the society in the country as very few are literate on the subject.
It's essential for you to have a mentor to keep you accountable. Myself, I'm guided by Evelyn Vera. for years and highly recommend her I focus on her. To be honest, I almost didn't buy the idea of letting someone handle growing my finance, but so glad I did.
I would really love to know how much work you did put in to get to this stage.
Wow! wow! please is there any way to reach her services?
Yes, I have her WhatsApp digits
*+134*
I was broke at 40, no shame there, life can really throw some curve balls. Would i be spending someone else's money? No. Even less if i had zero intention of paying it back. Was very upfront with ladies back then, we wouldn't be going for anything more than free or coffee, because that's what i could afford. And there's a LOT you can do on that budget, the most important, being together, which is free. If they really felt like doing something and wanted to pay, that's OK, as long as it wasn't an habit.
Exacly, me and my wife had our own business we had to shut down because covid. We lost RACKS! And you are right, he could have cooked meals together at home with her, even if they coulnd't afford to eat out.
Me and my wife would to to the movies during the matinee when I was broke, mess was like 6 bucks a ticket back in the day.
Sounds like a situationship that she took way too seriously. Hope she learns from this and avoids repeating this in the future.
There is a difference between being broke and having financial discipline...women quick to call a man broke when he dont spend on them
giving yourself a timeline is an excellent way to keep you from going too far. There's a chance that this is how she grew up, watching her mom struggle with a guy who didn't have much, but gave just enough to get her to stay. I did what she did too... but my level of tolerance wouldn't go past 3 months. After that I just ghosted.
5:45 Preach is dissociating 😅
No cap
Facts! He knew Aba was gonna get triggered by the money bit 😂😂
Me when my boss starts talking about teamwork and accountability
Lmao he jus letting him talk his shi
Hahaha 😂
I was in a similar situation with my ex. However, he had severe depression and anxiety. Never wanted to leave the house. Door dashed every night. We ended on good terms but I couldn’t handle it anymore.
I'm just
Bring back shame. We know entirely too much about each other these days.
Well -I know entirely too much about other ppl cause I don't participate in airing out dirty laundry
People don’t care about shame anymore…so yh
shame will put truth into play
@@randillatrue…people’s personal lives should stay personal even if they tell you.
Naw I love how women snitch on themselves online it’s like a free hoefax.
Is it a good time to say that I'm thankful for being a night owl?
No.. maybe after the next video
@@alexanderjackson8389 nahhh I want to go back to sleep why I'm watching this rn
Good morning from Germany
@@fztheamazighiya1047 Its 3am lol
Good morning from England
1:27 about me
Lmao I was running to the comments to post this exact comment😂😂😂
I only give what I'm comfortable with letting go, I think it's pretty important to give knowing you might not get it back. I learned the hard way but that mindset changed the way I act when people ask.
Exactly! I've always said, "Never loan what you can't afford to lose." Saves you a lot of stress. At least in the scenario you never get it back, you're not super mad at the person, you just know to never loan them anything again lol.
And also I was taught growing up that if you lend someone money and never see that person again consider it money well spent. It's the fee you paid to dispose of a fake friend. 😂
This is people pleasing at it finest, we’ve all done it from time to time but this is like the worst case scenario. Hopefully she learns to stop people pleasing because that shit kills.
Heavy on the last part 😔. There’s are even worse exploiting spirits out there than this guy and she’ll fall for the same or worse if she doesn’t learn.
Ppl please or he was her type?
@@Atlas365247 people pleasing. Even if her type is exactly how he looks, that wouldn’t explain why she stayed for so long and helped as much as she did. It’s only ever gonna be a people pleaser going above and beyond like that. Hopefully she doesn’t get exploited further for this because she seems to have a good heart but you gotta know or learn when you need to stop.
I think she needed a father or a brother or a cousin or uncle to straighten her out. She should have known better. You don't help someone out by putting yourself down. At least her video will hopefully serve as an example of what not to do in those situations.
When you are in love sometimes you can be blind, it is good to talk to other people and they help you out. Because she spoke out , im also learning from yall and getting advice. That's why narcissists try and cut you off from the world and isolate you, because they know those people will help you leave. With my sisters we have a rule, you can talk about your relationship but balance it out, complain and compliment. Not just one side
She says they're gonna be together forever, but she never gave him an example of him saying something like that. I think she's a bad communicator.
His attitude with her bumper is the attitude he's had the whole time. She says she has a time frame, but it's too LONG. Asking for mortgage, strip clubs, no dates, all late nights... Really girl?
She wasn’t in love, she was infatuated. She was blinded by the halo effect of whatever superficial need he met and was willing to look past the obvious to hope he eventually changed for her. I hope she takes this all as a learning experience.
Imagine falling in love with someone in under 3 months
Her video title is wrong she didn't go out with a broke guy she was in love with someone that didn't love her and she skipped pass the red flags
Skipped past? Nah, she can't recognize value.
@mjbset93 and ran pass the red flags
Exactly! He didn't give af about her, it was obvious by how he treated her. He's a user, so he's not innocent, but it's her fault for staying with him still.
Skipped past? Nah she drove through every single one with her eyes closed and music blasting lol.
@summerking-wq1sd 😂🤣😂🤣 💯
As someone who has always loved hard myself and has gone through something similar, it’s detrimental. To both your mind and your well being. Feeling like you need to provide at all times and then not even being appreciated for it. But once signs like this start to appear RUN. Cause once you let it slide once or twice they’ll get accustomed to it and it’ll become expected of you.
That’s one of my biggest flexes in life: I’ve ALWAYS always payed my debts back to people! There isn’t a single person on this planet I owe money to because I don’t take advantage of other people’s help or kindness, and I DETEST the type of person that does that!
Biggest flexes in life: I’m never in debt to people
@@duckman2480same
This fr👍🏾
That AGAIN MYRON CLIP IS CLASSIC.RHAT SHIT AGED GRACEFULLY….😅
That's not low maintenance. That's low standards. That guy knew what he was doing to her. She was in a relationship with him, but not him with her.
Dude seen that video n probably said oh well this shit is over might as well ride high til it’s official.
As he should
Basically
Buy low and sell high
The more me and my partner see how dating is nowadays or just how people are in general when it comes to relationships we literally thank each other and appreciate what we have. People REALLY don’t understand how dangerous or how exhausting looking for the right someone can be.
I hope you learn one day to stop taking what you see on the internet as if it's what's happening in real life most of the time because it isn't. What you see on dating on the internet is NOT normal dating shit that actually happens when you touch some grass. It's what happens in hyper condensed areas like Miami perhaps, but if you live in an area like that you should already have some kind of understanding of what goes on there and know what spots to avoid.
Ain't that the Truth!!!!!!!!!!!!
@@Sephiroso.I never said anything about the internet?
with all the whining I see online, dating seems like your a parent taking on a child with mental illness, well in those spaces anyway. Thank goodness there are grounded people out there when you touch grass.
u can also become the right person ya feel me
Y'all wringing all the money out of Myron. Damn.
Even his "AGAIN" spazz out.😂😂😂
He found a convenient fool who is now advertising her foolishness to the next brokie. Girl, your charity work is not even tax deductible 😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅
This comment is harsh but accurate and I applaud it 👏
Maybe all of this will help her understand that her participation trophy's are also not real trophies.
Yeah, she's a real prize.
@@fatcatontario Broke dudes need love too…… you sound very brokephobic right now!!
@@WolfamongSheep626very what!? That's just dumb. The problem with broke guys is not even the lack of funds. It's their fragile ego and need to use the woman as a come up. That's why women tell each other to stay away from them. Let them buuld themselves up then go look for a girlfriend. No more playing Barbara the builder.
i simply cannot understand the idea of going through a relationship and deciding to tell the entire story to strangers on tiktok….
Hopefully she gets something out of it
True.
That’s a large entirety of the internet. It’s not like us viewers are going to know who dude is and track him down
@@quesoqueso7598 i don’t mean in a way of finding the guys identity or anything just the idea to tell thousands of strangers personal information about your life
it’s just bizarre to ke
To embarrass him publicly.
People are too comfortable sharing their dirty laundry online. This man was using her and didn’t like her.
She let this guy get over on her. She paid his mortgage?! She's a good person but also a goofy.
I need a girl like this honestly😂😂
I think this girl is lying. She never lend him money.
@@d-8664 I don’t believe also nothing she said. We just heard one side.
u could see it as being a good person, but the way he took that for granted really just made her nothing more than a doormat. which makes her a bad person towards herself and potentially her close ones in the future. it's okay to be selfish sometimes, aslong as u don't misuse it.
@@ignoremychannel697why would she lie bout paying his mortgage
I said this in the last video. She was not complaining because he was broke. She was complaining because being with him was making her broke. She was trying to be Barbara the Builder...probably.
Barbara the builder?
@@ArThur_hara is that bobs wife? they in the same business? Never saw her on his show🤣🤣
@@ArThur_haraIt’s a reference. Barbara the builder is the woman who will stay with the guy for 5-10years without getting marriage, started dating the guy when he’s broke. Builds him up and once he’s is successful, he dumps the girl who build him and supported him. Then he gets a young girl and marry her after dating her only for few months.
@@jasmitharani9838 Oh thats why we have heard of Bob but not Barabara, she built up Bob then he ditched her when he got successful.
@@jasmitharani9838 He can leave if hes not happy, but if they are married and share assets then well he will have to split that fairly with her, plus child support if she gets most of the custody if they have kids.
Aba is such a mood. His vibe shows on almost every video. Someday on fleek with sleek hair cut, bear on point, last time a jacket with sunglass(small small round sunglasses) and day like this hoodie all pulled to the front....it's so relatable.
Girl was buying that guy's love
13:53 me too, I can buy you lunch/ a meal, but I ain’t buying groceries and paying your bills that’s crazy.
Right, that has to be earned
He obviously has money. She prefers to believe he is broke instead to be aware of that true. He doesn't like her.
Now....all the things she listed....this must have been a guy that she really liked PHYSICALLY and was "out of her league" physically. Women will throw money at dudes that they dont match in order to keep them around all the time. All the thing she said about how he didnt spend time with her out of even feed her screams he didnt like her like that and she was desperate. 🤷🏽♂ Pick better.
Amen...Case closed
If you're dating someone and you feel like they're worthy of a negative video.....Its time to go
When my husband and I first got married we used to do free dates. We did live in California so there was a lot to do, but we used to go to the beach, downtown San Diego, Downtown Disney. Just hanging out. We made grocery shopping an event.
Having someone not make an effort at all and not spend a dime on her while she’s paying his mortgage and he’s spending his mortgage money at the strip club? He didn’t respect her. He was using her for her kindness. The man that marries her, she’ll treat him like a king.
He was wrong but she was also wrong for putting their business online. People need to realize that their followers aren’t their friends. Also this among other factors is why I don’t see myself in a relationship. I’m big on trust and Loyalty so it takes a good amount of time for me to consider moving into the dating phase.
The girl obviously was stuck in her mind and wasn’t seeing the situation clearly (which is why she stayed with a shitty guy for so long). She literally would have been STUCK if the internet girls didn’t give her a new perspective.
First six months they just chilled at his crib?
Homegirl, you was a bootycall that got upgraded to dating, and you over here complaining?
He didn’t value you, but you stuck around long enough to where he caught enough feelings to want to date you and you’re complaining that he didn’t have money or didn’t want to spend on you?
Babygirl, your actions told him that he was the prize.
Always remember the phrase that “Actions speak louder than words”
Chad, Tyrone, Ramone and Chang are living a life of ABUNDANCE! He didn’t need you or want you! You wanted him!
Why are you complaining?
Either accept it or move on! To complain is to expose how oblivious you are to the decisions you make.
Best analysis by far
Maybe I am wrong , but analyzing her words this seems more like he viewed her as a jump off from the very beginning that ultimately came with financial benefits. For the first 6 months , she went to HIS place AFTER she ate . They would "they would do, like a late night type of thing." That seems like an Uber eats booty call than a relationship.
The fact the dude didn't go out with her but went to strip clubs & she didn't dump him is CRAZY.
She should have ditched his ass the moment she found out he was going to strip clubs but not take her somewhere on a date
He was very attractive and way out of her league thats why she was willing to accept the disrespect.
"you fucking clogged toilet" 🤣🤣🤣🤣 omg Preach you funny funny, I'm stealing that one
So he wasn't actually poor. He's just selfish!
Poor !!
Owning a property is a big asset. He's not broke!
Then he's a jerk that doesn't value her.
@@janebaker4912Ok but I mean ... For 6 months they never went out and she only came around after dinner?
🤔 Were they even dating?
The house isn't liquidated so it's not money he can do anything with yet
@@MeCooper sounds like some I had when I was in my late teens early 20s working and in Uni, not really dating just smashing a bit on the regular over a few months.
@@MeCooperof course not. She just can’t handle the truth. She’s starting to look a little crazy tbh
08:24 when she started saying "again", am disappointed in yall for not using the Myron "again" clip to back her up🤣🤣🤣
Perfect. I was looking for a video (for the whole family) to put on for my family this Thanksgiving. My young nephews, nieces, great aunt/uncle & grandparents will enjoy this. Put it on, full volume & NO ONE is allowed to talk through it. Once finished, go around in a circle & give their opinion on it. Yee haw. I love America. Yee Haw. Turkey & Yams.
This is hilarious 😂
PLEASE give us an update! 😂
1:08 clogged toilet 🤣🤣 brand new insult I’m stealing
She wasn't dating a broke guy. She was dating a guy that was using her and never really cared about her. Probably sensed her vulnerability and took advantage of it.
I didn’t have a lot of disposable income when I first met my wife but I would do things like make dinner at my place and put the food in a picnic basket and we had a picnic at her house. It cost me all of $40. There are plenty of things you can do while dating and not having to spend a lot of money on dates 🤷🏽♂️
Thing is this is not what she said in the last video. In the last one she made it seem like it WAS all about the money, it was that he couldn't afford to do things for her. Now we hear the situation was different. I'm having trouble reconciling what was said and implied in the last video to what she is saying here
honestly it could be both. she is claiming that she was paying his bills. she wants him to treat her on outings. we don't know the whole situation as it's only her talking. she need to either date him as he is without taking on his financial burdens or move on.
Yeah I'm surprised her friends didn't tell her to run, but she posted a video to internet strangers about it. She either needs new friends, didn't want to take their advice, or didnt tell her friends the whole situation. 😅
@@RoseNZieg I guess the big thing is the TONE of the last video in comparison. If you watch the two videos side by side, one after the other, there is a big difference and if you watched this one FIRST you feel totally different about the other one. This one we think "Why didn't your friends stop you?" Last one we think after "Gosh they guy is doing the best he can, lower your expectations."
@@nedrane297 It's like watching two different people filming themselves, and I am not talking about her makeup
@@lmaolol9357 Yes! Thank you, two totally different videos
She's trying to be Captain Save-A-Bum. 🤣
Girl got finessed big time. Get a clue pickme. You paaying his bills and hes popping bottles and making it rain. He's not that into you. Run
Let's be real. A female only accepts that level of degeneracy if that dude busting her down lol. Rationally no one would accept those standards by any other means. He was gutting her out and she got addickted to just that.
Not even bills, his mortgage. The house belongs to him. Eventually he’s getting a house out of his current situation, and she is getting absolutely nothing
Sounds like she was the side chick and didn't know it 🤷🏽♂️
Maybe i'm more of a prude than i thought but the fact she didn't have an issue with him going to the strip club even though they were dating is wild to me. Maybe dating means something different to her than it does to me.
@@Sephiroso.I don't think you're wrong.
I don't exactly think it's as if he was going there to hook up or anything but like ... There are certain things a person should just naturally lose interest in when in a relationship
Bingo!
She wasn’t a side chick, just a temporary situation
More like a booty call
6:19 "YOU WORK!!!" 😂😂
Preach was preaching at 9:03 🔥
She seems alright tbh, just a pretty regular person, we all do questionable things especially when it comes to relationships. The Internet is so quick to judge with limited information.
Exactly. Context is so important.
Facts she looked liked she tried to be a good gf and tried her best she just did it for the wrong guy
Aba and Preach simped for the last woman and got it wrong, they might be making the same mistake
That part.
@@prod.twnt2153 lol a BF or GF should not be paying the mortgage or rent.
The Myron again meme in an AD is willldd i respect and love the fuck outta this pettiness
Ngl 0:50 second in and it already sounds like she made herself too availabel for someone who wasn't investing back and now she blames him?
Right ? Like even to the park seems like a good effort and she is saying they just stayed at his house after she ate dinner at her place for 6 months ? They never ate together at his house ?
Exactly like he couldn’t even put the effort in to cook her dinner at his place
@@Rolandajohn Yea if he was “broke” he wouldn’t have a place to begin with so he has _something_ , even a little money can make special creative moments
@@Rolandajohnyou heard everything from her perspective and proceed to still blame him.
I want to share some knowledge and I figure here is a great place...and I know this may break guy code, but it's knowledge that should be out there.
Ladies, if a guy is seeing you but he isn't out socially with you, he doesn't hold you in the esteem he holds a partner in. This could be because he may feel embraced being with you, (because of his ego / game he might have spoke) or that he is trying to keep his options open.
A guy's public exhibition of his partner is a kind of litmus test; if you are the one who isn't out socially with a guy, he doesn't truly value you as the partner he wants. Could be just private companionship, sex or even friendship with benefits. But, if he isn't showing you off or out with you, he is not committed to you. So leave him.
Guy's it works both ways.
Why would they be with someone they are embarrassed to be seen with? Go date your dream arm candy.
Bro your a super simp. What the hell is a partner? They are girlfriends or wives.
A guy’s public exhibition of his partner is a kind of litmus test? Hell no. Every guy isn’t trying to show off or flaunt a relationship. Different folks different strokes
@@nightwishisthegreatestband6355 Why? Many men are evil and will use anyone they can. That women was paying for his lifestyle so he used her kindness
@@weeymm2500a man who doesn't want to take his woman(girlfriend/wife not just dating) out anywhere or even introduce her to family at least once it is a cause for concern IN GENERAL. If you're just in the beginning stages of dating then all that isn't necessary until you have both got to know each other well.
When you're proud of the person you're with, the natural inclination of anyone is to show them off. No matter what she looks like. If you are embarrassed to be with her then yes you will be VERY HESITANT to be seen with her. Point. Blank. Period.
No one in a solid relationship will ever sit there and say "I will never show my woman/man off or ever take her out anywhere".
The only reason you wouldn't do that is if you encountered situations in the past that have made you extremely cautious/insecure in doing that i.e. you don't get along with family or your friends once betrayed you by missing with her or even she betrayed you by messing around or the lady you messed with was a 304 and you took her thinking you can change her.
No one is saying don't keep your relationship private or go online and show her off 24/7 but if you're going the extra mile to keep your relationship extremely private by not even doing anything with her in public then that is more a YOU problem than it is a HER problem.
Damn right. Thank you both for speaking out.
1) This guy must be super handsome
2) she knew what she was getting into and thought she could change him
Yea that’s the vibe I was getting he was a Chad and he used her
10:23 i get what aba is saying about sometimes you need to confide in friends because its easier and thats okay. but preach began his point about the internet. taking it to the internet for strangers who dont even know you are care about you was a crimson red flag and screams attention seeking or insecurity. also downright disrespect to your partner for airing out their personal business to potentially millions.
That man had no problem disrespecting her. As for making a video its a way to warn other women that might think being patient and giving for someone that lacks effort would change once a man gets on their feet. Believe a person is and will be based on how they treat you even a true homeless bum that likes a lady would have found a way to take a lady they are into out.
@@bunnyboo6295 Paying someone elses rent or mortgage is a Solid no. Too many people out there normalizing this stuff.
Things don't work the same for everyone. If that woman had a man that actual was her ride or die partner than he would pay her back for life. @@DaMuss-e2w
I needed this video bruh, it was a reality check to what I'm dealing with!
He must be really attractive.
Im glad she talked about this. People always talk about dating rich people and then women are stereotyped as gold diggers, yet there are so many women doing this. Especially since we are conditioned to be kind to a fault. The broke men want you to show if you are truly there for him and you love him not his money (should he ever have it). I have learnt to judge a man's character, his habits, his behaviors and try and see where that will take him in 3 to 5 yrs. It really cuts out the bums because talk is cheap but behavior and habits the best truth teller. I do that even for myself, the habits i have now, where are they taking me in the future.
Yes, truth even the poorest man would find a way to do things for his lady. A man that likes a women would be embarrassed to ask them to support them.
@@bunnyboo6295 The poorest man or woman if they have any pride wont be having someone else pay their rent or mortgage!
I don’t think he was really broke. The guy has a mortgage and is throwing money. She’s the one trying to turn a casual relationship into something real
@@DaMuss-e2w Exactly they would be hustling to try to earn it themselves
@@bunnyboo6295 hustling or budgeting, one of the biggest issues I have witnessed with people not being able to meet rent was they had no discipline and wasted money on status/luxury items instead of what should be priorities this is a red flag.
If a man gives money to his woman to pay her mortgage and bills theres no way he’s getting his money back
You always catch me by surprise with this 6:46
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"you f**n clogged toilet" bro what? 🤣
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Preach's "& everything & stuff" is one of my favorite sayings I've learned this year🥰