Don’t say this to people who self-harm
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 30 มี.ค. 2023
- Don't judge peopel for self-harming. Their ability to cope isn't working for the distress they're experiencing. Instead, offer to help by talking or hanging out.
Learn more:
- What is self-harm and self-injury? www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-c...
- Coping with urges to self-harm right now: www.mind.org.uk/information-s...
- What to do when someone self-harms: www.nami.org/About-Mental-Ill...
- Nonsuicidal Self-injury: A Systematic Review: www.frontiersin.org/articles/...
If you or someone you know needs help immediately, you should take one of the following actions:
- call 9-8-8 in the United States or your country's emergency number: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of...
- call the Lifeline at 1-800-273 TALK (8255) in the United States or a global crisis hotlines: findahelpline.com/i/iasp
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Don't judge peopel for self-harming. Their ability to cope isn't working for the distress they're experiencing. Instead, offer to help by talking or hanging out.
My friend does this she told me not to tell anyone because her last friends stoped being friends with her for it I didn’t tell anyone we are still great friends
I Am trying to find a way to follow you but can't figure out how, any hints? ,
Yes don't judge them. My last friends ditched me I told them and told the whole school abt it. They got me in lots of trouble with my parents, the school etc.
@@Defonotcaitlinsomeone I know said she like me but I know she does self harm, I don’t know too much about her. I want to help them but don’t know how I approach or help too much.
Dr. Ali, I self harm
As someone who self harms this is very true
Hey there! I just want you to know that you're loved! If not by anybody else in your life, which I highly doubt considering how incredible you are, then you're loved by me. You're beautiful in every single way and you don't have to hurt yourself for things you cant control or lies that you've been told or intrusive emotions. I know it's hard, but don't let this control you. I'm out two and a half years. I started when I was eleven and I'm now a fairly content fourteen year old. Nothing is easy and the trauma will come back from time to time and you will get overwhelmed, but those feelings are temporary and the joy I feel when I'm around the good friends that I've found along the way, the joy I feel when I block out the lies of the devil, the pure and udder bliss I feel when I get to deactivate my braces(haha) is so much greater than the seemingly endless sadness and anxiety that I felt back then or that I feel from time to time. If you ever wanna talk, I can give you my discord tag and I'll always be here for you. I love ya, just keep swimming!
@@manamana7873Youre an amazing person too. You have a lot of compassion and sumpathy and I am here for that! I also self harm from time to time, and im currently gerting help from that. I started when i was thriteen, now im fifteen. Its a little freejng when i cut myself, but it doesnt really take anything away, its just a distraction. I wish i could stop but its hard. I hope everyone in this comment section has an amazing day!
@@manamana7873I know this was not ment for me, but you helped me unbelievingly much. I needed this. Thank you! God Bless You!!!
Emo 🙄
@@Officially_Oreogirl what?..
I wish the kids who left me cuz I hurt myself would see this
I’m so sorry that happened to u, I hope u find someone that can understand what ur going through
The way I like to see it is they are battle scars of life. We all struggle and no one should be shamed for trying
Brooooo you don’t deserve thissssss
man i just found out a friend of mine is hurting themselves and idk what to do, obv i wouldn’t leave them but i can’t think of a way to help them around it when they’re constantly in denial about self harm and tries to make jokes about their past suicide attempt
I suggest to have a conversation with them about how they feel. BTW I don’t know if they use jokes to cope with traumatic experiences but you can be supportive whenever they need to talk to someone or just be open.
everytime someone says they're self-harming my classmates just joke about and my teachers say "why don't you just go straight to the neck?" or something like that. I don't understand why they're like that
Omg that’s no ok.. a teacher said that ?? I’d honestly report them , that’s a safety issue, like I’m not even being dramatic
if a classmate said that, it may be in poor taste but is a joke. but if a teacher said that?? that's something that needs to be reported. even if no one in the classroom is harming themselves AND everyone is joking about it. just no.
That's a great opinion 😊
If a teacher said that to me, it would probably be my last straw and I would
A teacher?? A teacher- LISTEN 👏 UP 👏
REPORT 👏REPORT👏REPORT👏
Sorry not sorry, byee
I think, from my experience, a lot do it because nobody can see your mental pain. But they can see the cuts. They can see the scratches or the bruises or the scars or the burns.
This is definitely a big part of it for me
I’m actually the opposite, I would cut as it would be easier but people would see the scars, so in the end I just flick my wrist really hard with a hair band
Same, but also when im stressed. Usually it makes me more stressed because im scared that my parents will see the fresh marks
Get a life bro harming ur self is smallest brain stuff u can do
I was shamed and called disgusting when I self harmed which just made me feel like nobody cared at all, I admit part of the reason was a cry for help and part was that I wanted to punish myself. The way I got out of my depression was by helping others and animals. I became a “listener “ in prison which is a job were other inmates can request to see a listener 24/7 and basically just listen and talk to them, a lot of people are depressed in prison. It was very rewarding. Helping others gives you a good feeling inside and helps you to actually like yourself and realise you are a good person
GOD MODE YAY
You are awesome. I just wanted to stop by and let you know that.
I wish we had different words for emotional versus physical pain.
indigo bunting ive self harmed too cope with physical pain sometimes
I just wish my dad would've thought about how I was feeling when he found out. All I was praying for when my mom saw it was "please dont be mad, please dont scream, please dont hit me, please, please" and ✨️BOOOOMMM✨️ he just exploded his selfish and hurtful words and actions on my face. Thank you, dad ^^
My dad called me stupid, took my knife, and left. God bless you, hun. I know how it feels.
@@manamana7873your dad had no right to make you feel the way he did. He shouldn't have called you bad names and tried not to understand you. I'm sorry that you had to go through that-i know that it's the hardest thing to tackle alone when all you need is someone to hear your voice that has always been silenced. He could have tried a different approach...he could have not said anything until he was calm and he should have thought about why and what made you feel the way your feeling. Ik for parent to see their child hurting themselves is hard but their was so many others things he could have done than make you feel even more alone.
Once someone walked onto me during a self harming session ig and they asked me if my mum had given me perm to give myself a tattoo. 😭
Bro 😭
Huh?? 😭 I would have a mental breakdown-
Are you ok?
That's better than actually getting caught, then, I guess…🫣
I self-harm a lot, and recently, my mom found out about it and said "your just like your aunt," and my aunt is a terrible person,
So, instead of asking if i was okay, i got compared,
That made me feel so terrible with myself and made me harm myself even more
But im doing better now, 2 months clean 😊
Good job 😊
Louder for the people in the back. Thank you!
I have never self harmed but I definitely self sabotage, its uncontrollable.
in a way that is a form of self harm, I hope you're able to overcome what you're dealing with
@@blue_shoes8715 it’s not. Self harm is INTENTIONAL. Self sabotage isn’t intentionally self harm.
@@blue_shoes8715 please stop watering down the term self harm , no wonder people don’t get help these day.
bro ngl I laughed so hard at this
@@tomie3365 ew rude
My friends would support me and say its ok and also they would never point it out only to each other and ask if I'm good or not :D
I'm glad! Those are some good friends you've got. Keep them.
My friend scolded me when she found out. She told me it was ridiculous and that I shouldn’t be doing it and to stop. She makes it sound so easy. I wish I could just stop doing it. It would make things a lot easier
Hey! I hope you're doing alright, I just want you to know that I'm always here for you no matter what, I went through the same thing and I know how difficult it is, so if you ever need to talk to someone, I could give you my discord tag! You don't have to tell me anything, I could just be your little support buddy, but if it would help you in anyway at all, please, please, please let me know! If I didn't want you to talk to me, I would've never written this comment. I love ya, have a good day!
From somebody who self harms almost everyday I love to just hang out with people, I feel like it lets me forget about what’s going on in my life right now and I feel I can’t self harm in front of my friends and other people so I don’t so that means I don’t self harm that day that we hang out❤
A lot of the time it's easier to focus on physical pain that can be bandaged, instead of mental pain that can't
Say it louder.
I’ve recently just started cutting my arms w/ scissors. I’m not depressed or sad I have a great life.. it just feels good for some reason.
I sh with the tip of scissors, it basically pinches my skin leaving a little cut shaped like “V” then I can squeeze it and then the blood drips out. sounds gross but It feels quite good for some reason
When I was 11 I would fell so guilty for everything wrong I did so I would punch myself in the face and hit my head with thing, I new it was so bad, I knew I should not do it but it made me fell better so for anyone struggling I am so sorry for what you have gone through or what your going through❤ please stay strong
God bless you, I was also hurting myself when I was eleven. I hope you're doing better now!
givin me ideas... was looking for the opposite but still thanks for this video, some people really need to hear this
Exactly! No one understands my pain, no one gets it, they wouldn't believe me if I said I tried my best, they wouldn't. They would think I took it all lightly and carelessly and was just relaxing and lazing about while I am in my room having mental breakdowns, panic attacks in tutions and anxiety, symptoms of dperession, extreme loneliness, self doubt, self hatred, tearful, empty and the fact that they don't see my real self and only see that I laugh sometimes and don't realise I am just showing that 'okay' side to them but actually i am totally hopeless and getting worse day by day, it just makes me feel lonelier. I am slowly getting more and more depressed...for longer periods...I am slowly going towards depression and I know it...I have got all the symptoms.
I wanted to do it because I felt guilty for everything. It’s all my fault and I deserve it. A different reason from most people
feeling guilty is some sort of pain(and believe me there are many types of pain). and instaid of taking that pain out on someone else you took it out(or wanted to take it out) on yourself. I was the same.
I did it for both the reason stated in the video, and for this reason, it took a while, but I finally stopped. Praise the Lord, I'm two years out! If I, of all the shart wads out there, can do it then I know there's hope for everyone.
I need help, someone I know said they liked me I later found out they did self harm it has been 8 months since she told me she liked me.we met up one in that time. I don’t know how to help I don’t know them too much. I don’t know if I’m causing some harm or not. Anything would help me find out at this point.
New sub because of this vid. I struggle with self h9rm and this made me feel loved and good inside. Thank you
Thanks for subbing! Glad to hear this video helped in some way.
I did this Infront of my best friends a couple of month ago and they still can't get over it. One of them even called me a weirdo. I swear man they where not toxic, they had cured my depression before
I notice that my friend selfharm and I know that they have a lot going on and I acted the worst way a could...
Its funny I selfharm myself at that time..
It's like an off switch that will last for a little while so yes if someone will hang out with someone who self harms it will be an off switch as well as long as they are in a comfortable environment
Wow I wish my parents could see this.
This video is nearly 3 years old and guess what, this is still a major problem on the platform. There are certain words you can search on twitter and find an abundance of these pictures and videos. Its just appalling and a lot of these accounts are still up years later, still actively posting and encouraging users to self harm. Its sick to say the least..
he's not encouraging self harm, he's telling people what to di if they know someone who self harms, stop trying to turn every godfamn thing you see into a problem, when he's trying to solve thw actually problem here
@@MattheoRiddlesGirl if you had read my comment properly matt, you would have noticed I was talking about the twitter accounts encouraging self harm. Not the uploader here. Read thoroughly next time 👍
@@KonanTheBarbarian i did read thoroughly and my name isnt matt. maybe you should try wording it better so it makes more sense so that way its ckear your not talking down to the creator and instead the accounta because your comment made it sound like your saying this guy is "advertising self harm" to put it simply
@@MattheoRiddlesGirl depends on your perception. Nobody else thought it was intended for the uploader so obviously the wording wasnt that bad that people misconstrued it
@@KonanTheBarbariannah bro it was definitely confusing and I only understood the second time I read it and I'm sure others did too, change it if you want but yeah, a bit confusing
I actually struggle with self-harm..
Try cutting vertical
@@Officially_Oreo 💀
I’ve been cutting myself for years cuz I can’t cope with the pain and stress that I just can’t stop cutting and I’ve never been judged for cutting myself.
I wish my boyfriend can see this. He left me coz he came to know i cut myself and judged me for that.
I wish all my friends and family that ghosted me bc of my self harm could see this
My friend I told her and she got all mad and she said “JUST DON’T CUT UR SELF ITS NOT LIKE NOTHING BAD IS HAPPENING TO U” and that hurt me and now I am not talking to her
She is correct
I told someone about my problems
They called me disgusting..
You're not disgusting and you never have been. They're just not used to the real world. You're amazing and I'm so proud of you for making it so far. You've made it where most people decided to give up. I love you, and if you ever, EVER need to talk, I can always give you my discord tag.
I might send this to my mother
This is absolutely true. I've been struggling with cutting myself for a while now, but some of your videos actually helped. One of my friends found out during an assignment in class, and actually judged me. Whatever you do, don't judge a self harm user for their doings. It's not their fault.
I wish someone would say those nice things to me.. bth ppl will hangout but not to check up on me .
Your obviously just seeking attention
@@zachy2162 not really. I used to wish someone would say nice things about me, not because I wanted the attention, but because I needed the reassurance that I was still good enough.
I think people self- harm because they don't know how to deal with the emotional pain they're having so atleast physical pain deals with itself overtime if it's not serious enough
You don't know what you're talking about
@@franciscojaviersangerman698 I've self-harmed before and this is just my experience. But everybody has their own reason why they do it
My friends are just like "Stop doing that" and leave it at that
They are totally right
As someone who self harms, this is accurate. I self harm because I feel that I *deserve* the pain. Some others self harm as a way to cope, whatever the reason is, it’s valid.
You alright bruh?
its also important to note that most of the time they wont tell you. they wont say anything until they physically cant help thenselves or hntil yoj notice somethin and ask. its an uncomfortable subject but its important to note that they wont walk atoun, flashing their scars (cuts, butns, bruises, etc) they will try to hide it.
Found out my friend cvts herself sometimes… i mean I do too but to know she’s going through all that… it’s sad i love her so much and it hurts to know she hates herself. Idk what to do guys
Bro this made me cry. I wished my mom said something like this to me when she found out, instead being mad.
So I'm a bit stuck right now so I'm hoping for some advise.
My friend is self harming and it is all over their arms. I'm so worried and I don't know how to support them. Yes, I have asked them that they can talk to me but they are uncomfortable doing so, saying they feel ashamed for it but they also told me that they have given up on trying to stop self harming. I know there is only so much I can do but I really feel useless seeing my friend like that. On top of that, every time I see their arms, I want to point them out so he can tell me what's wrong but it doesn't work. I also heard you shouldn't point them out but if I don't point them out.... Do I ignore them and act as if my friend is okay and get on with my day like nothing happened? I'm confused, I would be thankful for somebody's perspective on this.
It is a really difficult situation since some people might be defensive if they aren’t ready to talk about it , but if you get closer and build more trust with without bringing up the subject completely they might open up a bit more . Like maybe asking them how they are or letting them know you are there for them . As someone who has been through it , I promise you people can build trust over time , but the best thing to do is not force them to stop, and don’t make them feel bad about it since Sometimes people can do that if they feel like they have no options to help. But you can try and distract them by doing fun things , maybe spending more time with them . Personally if someone brought it up with me I’d be very uncomfortable and depending on the person defensive , but I’d be happy still knowing that they’d care .
Sorry if this comment is a bit long but hope it can help a bit
@@Lily083 it's okay! And that was really helpful advice, thank you so much!! Have a good day! :D
Best advice I can give you, is to be there for them. That's all I needed when I was struggling. All we want to know is that we're wanted in this world. If they're comfortable with hugs, randomly give them one. Find their love language and just do random things for them to let them know that you really care about them. When you know that you're loved, you don't feel the need to hurt yourself as much. This is what would have helped me, just learn their boundaries and, again, be there for them.
@@manamana7873 This is just what I needed to hear, thank you so much! And I hope you have a good day too! :))
I used to cut because it would distract me from the emotional pain I felt. All i needed was someone to hug me and tell me it was going to be okay. That is literally the only thing I wanted, but any time I'd tell someone, theyd just shrug it off. Sometimes we dont need a big speach or long letters of how important we are, sometimes your actions are enough to let us know that we're still wanted in this world. God gave me another day, but sometimes i cant find any value in it on my own. Just give us a long, unexpected hug every once in a while.
If I remember correctly, pain induces the release of various "happy chemicals" and adrenaline, which can temporarily reduce that emotional pain and focus your mind in the moment. Hurting yourself isn't good, but considering the effects can be somewhat similar to drugs, I see it as a better of two evils.
My "friend" said if I don't stop cutting they'll stop being my friend,very kind eh?
Maybe it was kind of like the trick psychiatrists use when people are talking about offing themselves? To shock you out of it? Not trying to convince you that a potential toxic person was a good person, but it is something to consider. I hope you're doing alright now! I love ya!
The writing is blindingly bright! 😵
That is so true one week ago my friend said that I could go to her grandparents with her for 3 days to take a break from everything and it really helped me
I still cut myself but I think when I go to therapy longer I'm able to stop maybe
Oh and when I was at her grandparents place I did not cut myself
I’m currently in the bathroom, doing you-know-what with a pencil sharpener blade, and thank you for saying this.
i had a anxiety attack and I just self harm and I was soo relieved
I scratch myself until my skin is really red when mad or sad
I never understood self harm until I did it myself.
It's a pressure release mechanism for emotional pain.
I need to learn a better way.
If someone ever asked me to hang out I think I would cry out of happiness dude I don't think anyone has genuinley wanted me around them since before 2017 or something
Bro thx feeling so much better
What 😀
I couldn’t hold it anymore and I told my best friend and she said “Why?”
“..Bc I deserve it”
I just self harmed my self because bf called me something i never expected from him
Well, good thing I didn't know self harm existed a couple of years ago, I would've been dead by now
*laughing cynically* part of my self harm is isolating myself from everyone so nobody sees my blisters and scars. Lucky for me my partner doesn’t care enough about me to notice them, so I can keep doing it in peace.
For me, (clean of sh for abt a month now) I do/did it as a way to prevent myself from suicide. To stop myself dying. I also did it on my insecurities so I had an excuse to hide them, like “I have a scratch and I need to keep it covered so it doesn’t get infected”
im 11 and I do self harm and feel depressed and im crying rn and have rlly bad anxiety and I broke down at lunch today and didn’t eat anything and the teachers saw me but they don’t care anymore 😢
I'm here if you want to talk I don't judge
As someone who’d punch myself, I agree. I never REALLY want to die, but I was just so scared of living and afraid of what might happen to me the next day.
Daily reminder: your skin us not a paper so don't cut it. your neck is not a coat so don't h@ng it. Your body isn't a book so don't judge it. Your heart isn't a door so don't lock it our lives aren't a movie so don't end it. Don't think your a loser, everyone loves you even I love you. Don't listen to haters and bullies, because YOUR AN AWESOME STAR⭐
thank you so much💕
Oh I would love to hang out with someone
thank you!
I also want to say that when you are planning to confront a friend or family member about their scars, and really anything potentially emotionally-sensitive, don't assume anything, and you MOST ESPECIALLY don't assume you understand anything, because you don't. Ask them about how they are feeling, why did they do what they do, what could be some of the reasons on as to why they do that, how can you help, and so on. Asking questions about them, diving deep on the conversation (Via the Socratic Method), providing reassurance, and not talking about yourself are important things to do when someone is experiencing emotional turmoil or when discussing that is potentially sensitive.
Of course, there are other things to do as well, but these are the basic, general tips that I personally recommend as someone who used to frequently harm themselves, been diagnosed with depression, and experienced an over decade-long toxic relationship.
If someone judges me I stop hitting myself and start hitting them
So KY$ On the prison
Punching yourself in SH?
Well dang...
but she kept saying she was gonna end her life.
i dont understand
it gave me panic attacks just the thought of her precious life being ended.
i stayed as much as i could because im in love with her.
but it came to the point that i was just trying to end the relationship because of that self harming.
I know the feeling. Both me and my best friend were depressed and using each other as a crutch. She was a worse case than I, so I worried much more for her. I also have OCD so I always thought that if I didn't text her "I love you," each day, she'd do the unimaginable. Just do the best you can, be there for her, and if she decides to do something drastic, it was never your fault. Talk about these things with her. Communication is key to a healthy relationship no matter how difficult the conversation is.
I do it when im feeling stresses or sad (a lot)
Go to the gym and it will help
@@zachy2162 I cant
I Do this BECAUSE I was brainwashed to turn into someone I'm not
I really got depressed and self harm is the only I know to release my feeling, I don't want to stop it because I don't know what else can help me, I feel really alone
Hey... we can talk if you want, I won't judge you.
I am a therian and i have noticing that many other therians do sh
I'm 47, my husband is driving me crazy. No matter how much I tell him it effects me. I have been diagbosed with a heart condition so I'm limited to things I use to enjoy. Now he takes any enjoyment away from me. I'm at the point of where I want self harm. I feel like I have nothing left.
Have you thought of a divorce yet? It could help. Maybe stay with family for a bit and away from him?
My parents make me wear arm sleeves to school and today I took them off and nobody noticed
Hi I hit and cut myself uhm yeah so someone introduced me to stop doing it by drawing something on where I was cutting or hitting and they said “now if you do anything to it it will die and when it goes away redraw it!” I haven’t done anything since then 😊
Iam also going like this sir... I dont know what im doing.. But when my feelings hits rock bottom i can't stay without cut my hands with Glass
Please don't... if you need someone to talk to we can talk
Me bestie does that she told me...
We are almost every week hanging out bc we both self harm we both are bullied we both hate us self...
She doesnt know how much secrets like i have 20 scars 😢 she punches her self i cut myself... 😭
Going to the gym is the best form of self harm
As someone who does self harm, i can say that i dont find this funny
@@m1dn1ght_rxinmaybe instead of crying and cutting yourself you could do self improvement cause strong body is a strong mind
@@zachy2162 I don't cry while I do it, I'm just stressed, and I cang go to the gym, because I am 10. It's way easier said than done
@@m1dn1ght_rxinyou can do push ups and sit ups. Those don’t cost money. So stop making excuses.
And your 10 you shouldn’t even know what self harm is. Maybe be a normal kid and go play with your friends. Oh wait you don’t have any.
Sometimes is habitual and automatic where they do it almost subconsciously. Peeps who pick at themselves comes to mind.
To mimic them is both unkind and unhelpful.
Basically, it’s better than dying so don’t discourage it try to prevent because if you just discouraging, they still might not feel loved since you might be aggressive when discouraging them
I wish u were my therapist ( I self harm but I’m to scared to go to a therapist)
But What if someone self harm because they actually want to die?? How do you help them??
Be there for them and let them know that they're loved every single day. All they need to know is that they're not alone and that they're wanted in this world.
I wish my parents could realize that I'm SH-ing and I need help.
Is there an adult in your life that you do trust? Maybe start by sharing with that person.
Still nobody cares. If u re not an interesting person, they only offer it to not be rude and ghost u.
I dont care if people see my self harm except my parents and sisters. But they live far away.
Also wanna add from my side, that self harm feels like a relief, cause thats what I got used to all my life and its smth i also need, it feels awesome and reliefing
I don't want to harm myself but i want my pain to just go away i love him aa lot he love me too but what he called mee was hurtingg
..... and i cant control my emotional pain and just give a cut of same word on my thig
Here’s the thing: I need advice on how to fix it cuz I regret it now
Go cold turkey. If you feel like you want to do it, don't. Snap yourself out of thar mindset, the urge is only temporary but the freedom you get will last forever. The trauma and scars will fade, but they will never full go away. Just remember that flashbacks are not fallbacks, they're just reminders of how far you've come. I can give you my discord tag if you ever need to talk to somebody! I'm all ears! I love ya, stay strong and keep keeping on!
Idk how to stop doing it nothing is helping rn
U can't stop self harm or what because that doesn't make sense
My friend treated it like a joke. He said i should go again and us a butter knife next time.
I’m desperate now because one of my close friends is going through a lot of stuff right now (people being mean to her and stuff) and there is nothing really we can do to stop them right now (it’s complicated) but she’s going through stuff and keeps self harming and I’m the only one she’s told and I’ve tried everything to get her to stop (not like pressuring and that) and she won’t she does it everyday and every time I see her I check up on her and there are scratched all over her arms and cuts and she won’t see a therapist and she said in the past she tried to commit but I’m kinda desperate now because I used to but I stopped now but please can I have some advice of what I should do? She won’t tell anyone else snd it’s complicated but me and her are both kids (I don’t wanna say my age but we are both in our second year at secondary school)
Just be there for her. She trusts you and that's why she told you. Make sure she knows that she's loved, that she's wanted, and try to find out exactly why she does it if you can. If you know why, then you can maybe try to fill that gap where she's lacking security. I just know that when I was sh, I just needed to know that I was loved.
@@manamana7873 okay, ty I will
Wow never knew this, just thought they went hibachi mode for the pleasure
Btw quick tip for beginner cutter IF YOUR POOR USE A PENCIL SHARPENER
My friend is self harming and I don’t know what to do I’m so scared and she’s attempting to slit her wrists please help
my arm is stinging 😃
How do you tell people you self harm? I think I want help but to afraid to ask
Guys please i need help my girlfriend is self harming and is already for years.until now even a small things she want to self harm. I need your help please i cant stop her from self harm. Im already non judgemental towards her and and always confort her. What should i do? Im always treat her good nvr mad at her never have a fight i just need help.
I do it to rid me of the numbness 😶
is pinching myself or slapping myself is also self harm
That's hard to do because these types of people really work your nerves and give you literal heart problems. I know because of personal experience.