I just wanted to say thank you to all the positive support out there! Every mom is entitled to their own opinion and that’s completely okay! 🥰 What isn’t okay however, is hateful comments telling me I’m giving my baby trauma 🤯.
You are a great mom!!! Dont Listen to bulls***and have confidence that you are doing your best! Everyone is so critical and no one is perfect hence why we are humans.
It’s embarrassing that as women we are shaming each other. Motherhood is the hardest job itself. You are doing an amazing job, you motivate me to eat healthier and feed my girls healthier food. Keep doing what your doing Queen! Some people are just miserable.
Woman shame other women especially in motherhood is just how it is. I am sure Nicole did it as well do not let her fool you. And I can pretty much guarantee it. She breast feed for a while. She probably shamed other moms who did/could not. That is life what goes around comes around .
@@colleendianuzzo don't put your assumptions onto other people. Just because you think it doesn't make it reality. That's awfully mean, and as mothers we should be supporting one another, not finding any opportunity to knock each other down.
@@colleendianuzzo were you with her everyday of her life? You're guessing and spreading negativity about a stranger based on experiences with unrelated people, makes no sense.
@@daisiesandpandas1218 your defending her and you have no idea how she is off camera. Also breastfeeding moms are the nastiest, meanest woman there are. I have witnessed it. Just because she has this online persona doesn't mean she is this person. Do you spend time with her? Do you know her life? I'm guessing not.
You could be the juiciest, sweetest peach in the world & there will still be someone who doesn't like peaches. Keep doing YOU! Sage is a happy, healthy, loved girl and you guys are doing a great job. Thanks for sharing & have a good week!
Love this saying! Off topic but I think ripe/overripe fruit it too drippy and gooey (because sensory issues) and don’t get me started on how eating a peach feels like chewing a sock because of the furry skin…. (Again, sensory issues). 😬
Every kid is different. Everyone parents differently. No one thing works for every family & hearing someone say it must be done a certain way or you’re a bad person just screams “I have 0 perspective & don’t understand that realities other than my own exist” You keep doing you 💕 your daughter is lucky to have you as her mommy.
Please do not listen to the "mom-police". Insecure women need to attack other women because they are defending the method they have been told is right instead of using their own brain and intuition... You are doing a fantastic job! The fact that you have a toddler that sleeps for that many hours says it all. You know your baby the best. Listen to your heart, brain and intuition ❤
Thank you so much for saying that. Weve had so many struggled with the sleep area in the past and I'm so happy were in a good place with it now. Sage is a trooper and truly loves her sleep now.
I also sleep trained and I didn't know until recently how much controversy there is over it. I am getting my graduate degree in Mental Health Counseling and child development emphasis in trauma. I have done many presentations and papers surrounding childhood trauma, and there was not 1 study I read that said long-term or short-term trauma can happen from sleep training. When doing my clinical hours I worked with parents, children, and toddlers. We had lots of parents come in who brought their children 5 years and younger, and they were having trouble getting their children to sleep through the night. This type of disruption at night can cause children to oversleep during the day, we also see that disrupted sleep is correlated to obesity and often the children were having a hard time staying focused in school. We would then work with the parents to create a schedule and routine to help get children into a habit of sleep at night, and a schedule for the day. We didn't have parents lock them in the room and ignore them, we would work on interventions and ways to get sleep associations down. I sleep-trained my daughter and she is a healthy, active, and intelligent toddler. (I decided to sleep train after my clinical hours b/c of my experience). When I use the word "sleep training" I mean setting a schedule, working on sleep associations, and getting down a consistent safe routine! Sounds like you did the same. Much love and know you are not a horrible parent. As a former teacher and now counselor for children you raise no concerns!
There's no way I would even call you a bad mom or terrible mom.. I feel like you're an amazing mother and person. I love watching your videos and learning.. I don't have kids or anything but I do want them.. don't listen to the hate!!
I so 100% agree - I don't have kids either...never wanted to.... I applaud any woman that puts them self at risk and changes their life so much. I think you are a phenomenal mom...and Matt a phenomenal dad. It's your job to train and or teach young human beings to do certain things. I personally believe that if more parents cared to make their children more self-sufficient....we'd not have so many mental health problems in the world as we do now nor so many whiners! Again - just my opinion. Are you and your family....happy.... if the answer is yes...you are doing a fantastic job.........period!
I almost never leave comments on TH-cam but I saw this and I just have to say you're amazing. I'm a first-time mom to a 7-month old. Your recipes were my first guide to purées and healthy baby food in general. I don't see how what you're doing could be wrong. Please keep doing it.
The internet is full of judgey people who believe themselves to be experts - do what is right for you and your family, you’re the expert on your own fam and what is best for you all, not them! ❤️
You address this so kindly. I have straight up just told people to mind their business and that they aren’t aware of the 25/8 demand moms are going through and that any form of sleep training that fits the child is an absolute blessing for the entire family.
It’s absolutely disturbing that people can call you a bad mom. You’re freakin amazing!! I have a 8 month old and I learnt a lot just by watching your channel and taking your FREE advice. Please don’t let those individuals discourage you from making content. You’ve been really helpful to first time moms such as myself. ❤️❤️
Babies don’t come with a “Manual” under arm.. As parents, we try our best for our kids, it is a new world for us, we learn everyday. The most important is we make it for love. Nicole, never give power to people to make you feel bad for the way you rise your child, you and your husband are making an excellent work, and feel proud of your self.
Our second daughter was born in 1983, and we never slept for about five years after. Back then, no sleep trainIng or help. I would have paid a lot of money for any kind of guidance. Keep doing what you’re doing, Nikole. You are an amazing mother. ❤️
sleep is so important for both parents and babies and there are so many methods but you need to find what workds best for you and your family. Every baby is so different and for Sage she WILL NOT sleep if were in the room or if we bring her into bed with us. A little crying to have her have many nights of amazing sleep is well worth it.
It’s hard to believe a person with a so-called therapist title would actually say you are traumatizing your child. I say this with tongue in cheek, my kid traumatized me. My darling baby and I really had to work it out - took a few years. She’s almost 40 now and we’re still working at it. Lol. You’re a wonderful mom. ❤️
I’m about to be a mom any day now. And I’ve already had to learn that everyone has an opinion and they love to share it with you. Do what’s best for your family. Sending all my support and well wishes!
Mom shaming is a real thing and it is very sad! We all do our best and what we believe what is best for our families. ❤️ We should be lifting one another up not putting each other down!
You guys are great parents! I’m so sorry anyone has shamed you. My mom told me the best advice when I was pregnant. A lot of parenting things that are preached are just recommended. Not law. What you say is law. How you want to parent is law. And if your baby is happy and bonded to you and you are comfortable and happy with how you parent then that is what matters.
“Taking care of babies” has very similar concepts of sleep training you had mentioned. She was a life saver for us!!! My 8 month old (boy Sage) has been sleeping all night in his own room in his crib since he was 4 months old give or take a few regressions in between there and I never let him “scream and cry for hours” he would fuss here and there and I would go in and soothe him and let him know I’m still there and he’s not “abandoned” and within 2-3 weeks he learned to put himself to sleep! We are all so much happier has a family, I will do the same thing with my future children! Keep doing what your doing momma 💕💕
First time mom here!! My son is 6.5 month old and I swear to you that being a mom has been a life lesson and has made me more empathic toward motherhood. We were struggling to make our son sleep through the night, I spend hours and hours researching (I know, I should’ve slept those hours instead) until I realized I just needed to follow his queues just like when he’s hungry. I was making out life harder by following sleep and nap schedules and most of the time he wasn’t ready to sleep. He has been sleeping 12 hrs for the last two months now, waking up twice to eat but goes to sleep right after eating. Another tip I would give any new mom, got to bed right after your baby falls asleep.
My son coslept with us until he was 9 months old. I started a new job where I wasn’t going to be able to be home the whole night for his sleep every night, so cosleeping was not going to work anymore. He would cry for hours most nights even when we did cosleep. I attempted “gentle” sleep training where I’d put him in his crib and try to comfort him, but he just cried. I left him in there and went back to comfort him every 15 minutes or so and he would just cry hard every time I went back in. Eventually I realized the only thing that was going to work for him was to cry. It was almost like even if I held him, rocked him, nursed him, he needed to cry for a period of time before he’d eventually fall asleep. Once he started sleeping in his crib on his own he actually just automatically started sleeping a whole 12 hours straight. Yes he’d cried for a while before he’d fall asleep and still sometimes does, but he sleeps so much better on his own than he was when we coslept. For some people, and for some babies, CRYING HAPPENS!! Individuals have no right to shame and bully parents for their parenting choices when they don’t know the full story or all of the attempts made before they found what worked BEST for them and their baby. Ugh I’m sorry to any and all parents who are made to feel like they’re failing or harming their child for doing what they need to do for the betterment of the family as a whole.
thank you for sharing your story. I agree crying happens and it doesnt mean you're a bad parent. It took me a while as a new mom to be okay with Sage crying in order to get things done like use the bathroom or eat a meal. Its how they communicate and you start to learn their different cries.
I actually find your videos very helpful, as a mom of a toddler myself. Don't let the Internet hate get to you! Your videos are very motivating. Thanks so much for all the amazing content!
It is not a one size fits all!! It takes a lot of bravery to share and help others to understand how to help their child sleep better. To call it "abuse" is extremely sad for the children who are truly abused and need real help out of an unsafe environment. Thank you for sharing your story and methods to help other parents. God bless all those families going through challenging times
Probably parents who feel strongly about their vision of parenting and attachment matters and who, sadly, express their opinions in a disrespectful manner. I myself feel strongly about not "sleep train" my baby and totally changed my expectations about physiological and natural baby sleep. What is sad is that parents are often fed with that only solution to sleep train to protect their mental health when there are different solutions out there. of course, everyone finds his/her own solution that works for their family.
Thank you for putting yourself out there and sharing your experience. As you said, what works for some may not work for all. There's no need to shame or get upset at what another momma/family is doing. I have been absorbing your content for over a year now and fully appreciate your energy and sharing your opinion/research with the world. Go, Nikole, there are more who support you and what you do. There will always be naysayers especially the bigger and more successful you grow. Love you and the Health Nut Fam. Mommas let's support one another, the world needs us to be united and supportive of one another instead of pointing out divisions. Do what works best for you and don't shame others.
Thank you for this. Before being a a parent I planned to sleep train, then I saw all the social media opposition to it and read about the “trauma” that would come with it…. We were miserable for over a year before I threw in the towel and, yes, gently sleep trained our son. We all are so much happier now and finally sleeping again, 13 months in. Listen to your mom instincts!
I love how you're venting while chopping fruits, lol! You're an AMAZING mom!!!! And you're videos have been so incredibly helpful and informative for me...like, life saving helpful and informative! Ignore the haters. There will be many ;)
I remember all the judgment and nosy know-it-alls that made me feels like such a bad mom with my first baby. It was eating at my mental heal and I was not sleeping either. The second time around I swore I would ignore everyone and just do what worked for us. Best decision. You are most certainly not a bad mom!! You are a wonderful mom ❤ as for sleep training…I never bed-shared. My first baby slept in a bassinet until he was one month, and then in his own crib, in his own room. My second son went straight to his crib (own room) when he was two days old. It worked for us. People need to be more helpful and supportive, and less finger-pointy. Ignore the nasty comments Nikole. You are doing great. Lots of love to you, Sage and Matt ❤️
Sleep trained my daughter in 3 days after literally 2 months of her waking up every 45 minutes crying all night long. Full on let her cry it out (trust me we tried the gentle methods and those were so traumatic for her personality). Guess what? She started sleeping through the night. She jumped up from 25% to 90% for height and from 25% to 50% for weight. She leaped forward in her milestones too. She was finally getting quality sleep. Do what works for your child! You know her best! Sleep training for us was the best thing we ever did for her.
A good example of the different sleep training for different babies is Delilah leopkepsy (spelling is probably wrong) here on TH-cam. Her daughter needed the more full on training and her son needed the gentle training. Different personalities and needs. Evaluating what your child needs and following through is being a great mom. Glad you paid mind to her and helped her!
Same, did this with all my kids, only now has this become unacceptable practice. I know it works, and my kids arent traumatized. That's all I need to know.
@@kinseyjohnson4341 I love Delilah's channel. Its so true that gentle doesnt work for every baby! Didn't work for me and it did a number on my mental health. Tried ferber and worked the 1st night! Has slept through ever since. Thanks for your comment.
Nik and Mr. Matt, you two are the best! Sage is beautiful and such a loving girl. She is thriving and is so smart! Love it when she is on, in the videos. Don’t worry your heart & soul with those who hate, are judgmental and only desire to bring you down! Keep living, loving and laughing. Life is short! Those of us who follow you, appreciate you! Thank you for sharing your life with us! 💓
Our little guy is now 9 months but the way you were describing everything with sage, he is the exact same way! We did gentle sleep training at 5 months because he was getting up so much through the night, my mental health was really suffering, none of us were happy or getting nearly enough sleep. He did SO well with the sleep training and he was so much happier immediately. He sleeps 11-12 hours a night, goes to sleep on his own, he’s a very independent sleeper too and sleeps much better in his own room, has since 4 weeks old. You have to do why works for your family! I understand as a mother not wanting to let your baby cry. But they cry regardless, if you sleep train or not. They cry when they’re hungry, tired, bored, it’s going to happen. And my little guy cried a lot more before the sleep training from being over tired and frustrated than he did during the gentle sleep training and then cried much less because he was well rested
I really needed to hear this 😭😭 I’ve been going back and forth about sleep training my 6 month old and I have been so emotional about it because I have received so many negative opinions that have given me so much guilt. I just need to do it for our sanity because right now we have a 2+ hour bedtime routine. I think you are such an amazing mom and your daughter seems very happy and loved 💕
Im so happy to hear you say this because its for this reason I knew I needed to make this video. Do not feel guilty or shame it was the BEST thing we ever did and I learned so much about babies and sleep and Sage's preferences.
@@HealthNutNutrition Thank you! Your video gave me the motivation I needed and we started last night with the Ferber Method. It wasn’t as horrible as I imagined. I feel like it will work and we will be better off for it. Thank you for giving me that needed push and support. 💕💕💕💕💕
I have had such a hard time putting my little girl to sleep since she turned 6 months old. She’s approaching 13 months old now, and I still have to stay in the room and rock her for up to an hour for her to go to sleep. I try to let her tire herself out a bit and I always comfort her when she is super duper crying, but it does take a toll on my energy every night. The time I have with my husband when he is home I’m exhausted simply trying to put her to sleep. You are nothing less than a FANTASTIC mother and anyone who says differently doesn’t know you, your life, or doesn’t have kids! You’re doing a great job, keep that confidence in yourself! Us mothers need it. ❤️
My child is 9 months and he started sleeping through the night when he was 3 weeks old.I stopped feeding him through the night at that point and I didn’t rock him to sleep. He slept with me until he was old enough to roll over by himself. I put him in his crib 30 minutes before his bedtime and he has never had a issue. My child is happy and healthy and hit milestones way before his time. All children are different but it is never ever ok to say terrible things about our children or even mamas . We know our child and we do our best. We can’t control others actions only our reactions. You are an amazing mother and please don’t let others insecurities effect you. Keep doing what is best for your daughter.
Girl- I have to tell you. There is no comparison to shaming like “mommy shaming”. It’s truly so heartbreaking. It’s almost like individuals who become parents turn into their own experts. Honestly, each mom becomes an expert but OF THEIR OWN KIDS. You know your child best. However way you gather information, whether from other moms, family, doctors, experts in each individual field, or a combination. It’s all ok! As long as you have your child’s best interest at heart, and you’re coming from a place of love with the information you’ve gathered, you are doing great. I’m disgusted by people who have the audacity to weigh in on your (or anyone’s) parenting style. I am a mom and teacher in southwestern Ontario and I’ve taught in the states, too. This is appearing to be a universal problem among moms. I’m so sorry you got attacked. Being online makes it that much worse because people hide behind their keyboards and become bullies. It’s easier said than done but forget these fools. You guys are great parents. I didn’t raise my son the way you’re raising your daughter and I love what you’re doing! Not because one of us is wrong or right, but because you’re doing what’s best for your child and it just happened to not be the same for my child. So here’s my way to counteract mom shaming: I’m so proud of you for collecting your information and being at peace with the way you are raising your precious child. If only other parents could do the same and focus on their own lives rather than projecting their beliefs on others. ❤️
@@HealthNutNutrition it truly is… you see other groups (possibly with the same career, or based on ethnicity/Geographical location etc) all supporting and lifting each other up. It’s so sad and frustrating that mothers aren’t a part of this type of group. I don’t think I’ll ever understand it. Much love to you and your family, Nikole! ❤️
While I was pregnant I watched a lot of your videos on routine/sleep. When I had my baby boy I watched them again, early on we decided to follow the baby's rythm instead of having schedules ... then I watched them again as I was getting ready for the 4 month sleep regression you mentioned ... which never came. I watched your videos starting solids ... and he absolutely hated food, got him more enthusiastic until about 8 months. At 9 months, I still let him drink milk to sleep. I still wake at 2 or 3 am for a feed. We decided to go slower with solids although I would love to make the food you show us. We have had completely different experiences but I will still turn to your videos for support. You're an AMAZING mom, and just because we chose to go through this differently does not make us better or worse parents. We all try to do what's best for our family ...
Hi Nicole, I am Portuguese and I found your TH-cam canal when I was pregnant. I have been following you ever since. I like your canal because you are true to your opinions and show the rawness of motherhood. I have never had commented your videos but I feel that I need to show you some compassion. I also watched your video about the sleep training and although I don’t agree with you on this topic (and I still don’t agree after watching your explanations in this video), it doesn’t mean you are not correct or I am correct. Every family, every dad, every mum should do what he, she feels that is the best for the family and children without judgemental outside opinions from strangers or even friends. And I feel you, my son was also an absolutely bad sleeper and the four month regression hit us in a very hard way. And it lasted long. So, keep doing the things that you think that are the best ones for your family and keep posting videos of your family, daughter and work. I am not here to judge, I am here to heard the things that anyone else in internet has the courage to admit.
Thank you so much for your authenticity and sharing your story. Just wanted to say you're making a huge difference, especially in my life. I'm living in a new country away from my family and friends and I don't know ANYONE. I'm 30 weeks pregnant with my first baby (through IVF) and having your channel has been a life saver! It's like having a sister. Thanks again for sharing and providing a safe space to for me to prepare for my journey as a new mom. Lots of love💞
Oh my goodness preach regarding the sleep training! You do what works for your family! And like you said, Sage and you getting a full night of sleep is the healthiest thing for you both! How you get there isn't anyone to judge. You know your daughter best and what's best for her. 💜 Keep up the good work mama!
I'm so sorry about this!💔 I have been following your channel for a while and watched your baby videos even though I don't have kids of my own. Now that I'm pregnant I feel WAY more confident. Keep up the great content, I appreciate it😍
Hi, Nikole! I’m also a first time mom to a 7month old and I can’t thank you enough for sharing your journey to parenthood. It helps me to be the best parent to my son by being able to anticipate his needs and know what is normal at every age. There will always be that someone who thinks they know it all and I know how upsetting that can be. It’s okay. You don’t have to please everyone. There’s a lot of us that love watching your content and will always look forward to seeing how Sage, and the whole family grows! Thank you again!! 💕💕💕
Aww you were trying to help and got hell for it, gosh that legit put tears in my eyes, I have a 20 month old and to see someone so kind and loving like you get crap just hurts my soul as I've been there too. Thank you for sharing your days with us, and so sorry when you get nasty stuff, unfortunately the world is full of people who enjoy dishing that out. Love your content and your baby looks perfectly happy. Hugs
I’ve got a 7 month baby & have been following your videos & advice since pre-pregnancy ♥️ you have so much wisdom & experience to share, you share your vulnerability & love, & impact the lives of many! you have way more amazing fans than the shamers. To you & all the mama’s that are supporting & guiding our little ones to the best of our ability, everyday is an adventure ♥️
You legit seem like such a good mom. I bet if anybody had criticized you in the past it would be cause they feel insecure knowing there own shortcomings. The world needs more people like you
I do not agree with you on the sleep training, but I also think you guys are great parents to Sage and would never shame on you. We can have a different approach to parenting and still respect each other. I’ve learned so much from you and your channel during my pregnancy, I’m sooo glad and grateful that I’ve found You here on yt. Thanks for everything;-))
New mom here and I couldn’t agree more with what you are sharing. I’ve also received passive aggressive comments about even the small things that I’ve chosen to do with my child and just like you’ve mentioned.. you can’t possibly know what you’d do in a situation unless you have personally been there, especially may I say, in parenting! I’m grateful for the amount of information that’s accessible to us but it also comes with others judging parents for what they do differently.. as if there’s one way to raise a child. I’m so glad you posted this, I really needed this as an encouragement! Also, as a reassuring reminder that others’ best efforts look differently from person to person!
I’m 8 months pregnant and I’ve been watching your videos for the past couple weeks. LOVE LOVE LOVE your channel and how you share your experiences. It’s fine for people to have different views but it feels like people forget about respect these days. Not everyone is the same, you do what works best for you. Frankly I find your videos so helpful, inspiring and encouraging. You have been been bringing me some comfort when sometimes I feel overwhelmed awaiting my first child. Keep it up mama, you’re great 💛
I really needed to hear all of that. I'm struggling with an anxiety disorder that bring lots of mom guilt, especially with complications with my current 2nd pregnancy led to decisions that allows me to rest MORE and rely on other closed family members and a bit more daycare time to take care of our 18months and I got shamed sooo hard by a reallyyyy good friend of mine. I couldn't believe it. I've been crying everyday. This was truly the video I needed today. For the record, I think you guys are wonderful, inspiring parents
I wasn’t comfortable sleep training either until your video where you said you used a gentle approach. It solved my baby’s sleep problems! He would wake up every 2 hours but now he only wakes up maybe once or twice a night. It also helped me create a sleep routine. Don’t ever stop sharing your experience. It’s soooo helpful! & I think you’re doing an amazing job!
always LOVE your videos and the way you pour yourself into raising Sage. thanks for opening up honestly ! please don't let people's obnoxious opinions discourage you from putting out your content. you are blessing and encouraging so many !!
You are a great mama! People judge too much without having all the information. I slept trained my baby at 10 months and I wish I did it sooner. Was too worried because of family shaming me too and making me feel bad… but decided it was best. It changed my life and my babies life for the better. Also the training is just for a few weeks, not forever. My baby still loves me, sleeps a full 12 hours at night and naps 2 hours ❤️. Thank you for talking about this shaming that happens too much for mamas 💕
We sleep trained our son, will absolutely do it again with this baby. It was hugely beneficial for all parties. We struggled for about three days, then all was good. We made a very slow transition and he learned that we will always come back. He sleeps 12 hours now and takes fantastic naps. We have a fantastic bond, and he has never been neglected. Do what works for you and your baby!
Don't sweat it. People suck. Don't take the bait of negative haters. Bottom line is YOU are helping US by sharing. And we are grateful for that and you and your willingness to share.
I absolutely love your channel! I learn so much from you and when you show the realistic side of things, it makes me feel sane! Because life is difficult as it is, and we’re all trying to navigate the best we can. It takes a lot to raise children. Thank you for everything you do xx
I'm a FTM to a 9 month old. I nurse him to sleep, rock him to sleep and co-sleep and I have been shamed for doing those things, telling me I'm creating bad habits for my baby. If I flip to the other side and sleep train, let him self soothe and move him to his own room, I'm also going to be shamed telling me I'm causing trauma. As long as your baby is loved, cared for and safe - you do you 🧡 You and Matt are doing a great job with Sage!! I love your content, keep doing what you're doing 🧡
This was very powerful. Thank you for sharing. I haven’t watched the video in question but what you are describing is basically establishing good sleep routines in a supportive environment. Please keep up the amazing real life working mom content.
I just want to share my story. Since my daughter born she was a bad sleeper. First few months was ok during nights. At 4 months mark she had a sleep regression and it was absolute nightmare. She was waking up about 7-8 times during the night. I was feeling so miserable and so exhausted, I had a feeling it's never gonna end. When she turned 13 months we did a sleep training and after she started to sleep a whole night. We have day and night routines, she has her naps as well. I was able to continue my study, started to feel myself again. So, when someone is telling me negative about sleep training I know what I went through. I just ignored all that negative comments. I really like your videos, Nicole. I take a lot of insights. You and your husband are great parents.
We sleep trained our 17mo and it's been the best decision for our family. We are all happier now and well rested. Keep doing you Nikole, we love watching you and Sage!
You are a fabulous mother! Look at us all following you and coming to you for advice that wouldn’t be the case if you were a bad mother. Some of us don’t have mums grandmothers or sisters to go to. You are honesty a life saver. I’m so glad your strong enough to understand these people are being ridiculous.. Love you work ❤️
I am always inspired by you how you gracefully handle work and baby together. I always feel like I want to be like you whenever I have baby. Don’t listen to negative people its their opinion. There are more people who are inspired by you. Your videos have made peoples day better. Take care of yourself and your family ♥️♥️
I, like most don't comment on videos. I seen the title of the video and was already surprised! I started following your channel when I found out I was having my third child. My second and third child have a 10 year gap, I felt like I was having my first child 😬 I needed a refresher. You were my stone that made me feel prepared for baby number 3. You are an amazing mom! But it does come with being on social media. People can't just be happy for others. Well said, I have three kids and each one of my boys had their personalities. So there is no one way parenting, we do learn as we go. Keep up the great work and keep us mother's on our healthy journeys 😁
Keep doing you! We appreciate you and all the helpful, informative, and entertaining content you offer us. 🙌🏼 Thank you. Sage is SO lucky to have you as her mama.
Been watching your videos for so long! I admire you as a mom, wife, and I enjoy watching your positive family. I would never categorized you as a "bad mom" . Just know you have admires ! Stay strong and ignore the negativity ♥️
I’m so sorry about these comments! I am always so inspired at how kind and patient you are with Sage. I can’t bring myself to let my daughter cry for too long but I am definitely working on it the older she gets because mental health does matter! I actually give you a lot of credit for doing what is best for you and your family, because I think that sleep training is hard for moms too!!
Love your content and appreciate your honest opinion and experience. I’m sorry some people are so harsh with their opinions. I understand some people are very passionate about their experience but everyone’s different and they don’t have the right to tell you your a bad mom . As long as everyone is happy then that’s the most important. Your amazing don’t let others peoples opinion get to you please. It doesn’t matter! Sometimes people are just jealous, immature and just wants something to feel superior over. I watch you because I love your perspective and I feel connected to how you are so loving and passionate towards your baby. You inspire me to be a more loving mom! 💗
I think you are an amazing parent. I started watching your videos when I was pregnant with my little one. She is now 8 months old and she is such a happy baby and I have your content to thank for giving me confidence as a fist time mother. As long as we know we are doing what is best that's all that really matters :) thank you for your videos :)
Thanks to one of your sleep videos, we found Lily from Lil Baby Sleep, and it was the best thing ever! So thankful for your tip! It’s so sad that you can give so much help but then receive so much negativity.
I follow you because of your energy and your care for your family’s health. I don’t agree with everything you do but that’s because we are all different in how we live our life. No idea why anyone would leave nasty comments regarding your parenting. You clearly love your child... hope you feel more confident on the internet soon!!! :)
Thank you so much for all the mommy videos. Some people can get very offended and opinionated on how to raise your child when they don’t even know the family’s situation, and when I first stumbled upon your channel, you assured me on what I thought was right for my newborn and family. Again, thank you so much and just wanted to let you know that you and Matt are doing a wonderful job raising Sage
Thanks for not pretending. I'm glad I found someone on the internet that also says things that I believe and ring true to me. I'm also doing a lot of reading and research before kids. I think you helped me to identify and prepare for possible sleep regression if that happens to me.
I'm a new mum myself and I can't begin to tell you just how greatly all your vlogs have helped me...From pregnancy till now (my princesd is 4 months). You're a phenomenal woman and a wonderful mum. Thank you for all your timely content. Please keep it coming. I'm in SA by the way:-)
I understand why some people got upset. Because sleep training is something that is being pushed onto kids (that don’t even wake up a lot) in North America. In Europe it’s not a thing. Everyone here (midwives and pediatricians included) will tell you that for the baby to wake up a lot at night is totally normal and you should sooth them back to sleep. Nobody would tell you to let your baby cry or sleep train them. My baby (currently 7 months) has been waking up every 1.5/2hrs for 4-5months now. Sometimes he is awake 4hrs at night crying. We tried everything and nothing works, not even co sleeping works. We are at a point where we tried interval checks and the chair method and nothing seemed to work. We thought about just letting him cry, because we are mentally and physically exhausted from getting 3-4hrs of sleep at night. I totally understand why you sleep trained your baby girl and think it’s okay if you need to do it for your own mental health. After all, who is going to take care of the baby when you can’t because you are so sleep deprived. But I also understand that people see it as traumatic for the kid because there are lots of studies that show the negative effects on the kids later on in life. But we should not call someone a bad parent for doing their best and making decisions that fit their life. Embarrassing that other parents shamed you
I literally scoffed at the thumbnail 😂 I bet you couldn’t even be a bad mom IF you tried to. You are such an amazing momma I look forward to your videos because you give such helpful tips and information as a first time momma myself. I literally am so grateful for your channel
Nikole I totally understand where you are coming from. I didn't gentle sleep train my son Kilion until he was 12 months, and truly not really until he was 15 months because we got COVID, the stomach bug, then he got croup and then started working on it fully once we were back to normal. It took me a long time prior to feel comfortable with sleep training because he had reflux till he was 6 months, then we moved states and stayed with my family until he was 12 months until we could find a house. I was up every 30 minutes to 2.5 hours (other than a handful of 3-4 hour stretches super far apart) till he was 12 months and beyond because he wanted to nurse all night. I was committed to nursing till 2 years and was determined to find a way to make that work but I struggled with postpartum depression too and I truly believe it was related to sleeplessness. My husband finally said we need to do something about this, you can't keep going like this and he isn't getting good sleep, so I took the Taking Cara Babies sleep training concepts from Pinterest and it took him a few weeks but now he sleeps 10.5 hours with occasional wake ups where he resettles and is fine within 10 seconds to a minute. If he is sick I go in and nurse him or soothe him. I know some kids who have had no problem nursing to sleep and sleeping through the night as newborns but that isn't every kid and every family needs different things to function, or makes changes so they can function when they are at their breaking point. You're an amazing mom who cares so much about Sage's health inside and out, hope you find encouragement in this feed!
Every child is so different. My daughter basically slept through the night around 8 weeks with no training. My son didn't sleep through the night until he was 10 months old. Then he would still wake up for random reasons and cry until he was probably three. Sometimes you try everything and just don't know what to do. Don't ever feel guilty about stuff like this. You're doing an awesome job. Any child would be lucky to have a mom like you.
As moms, we HAVE to give ourselves all the credit in the world for showing up for our kids EVERYDAY. This doesn't we have to be perfect and mentally/physically available to them all the time. We just have to be good enough for our kiddos to feel loved and safe and cherished, which Sage DEFINITELY does. When I'm exhausted, I tell my 4-year-old that I need some quiet alone time to catch my breath. I leave the room, and come back when I'm ready. He doesn't feel abandoned or unloved. In fact, I'm modeling for him what self-care looks like. And sleep training was a game changer for us, too, with both our boys. Did they cry? Yes. Do we have a great bond? YES! No trauma. You do you, Nikole, without apology!
You are doing fabulous, we did the same thing with our son, reassurance and communication all the way like you said. We all sleep great now. Just a few nights of learning a new rhythm. And same for him, he sleeps SO much better in his own room.
Gosh I feel you mama. I come from a mama who is ANTI sleep training....she would stay in the room with my younger sisters for years while they tried to get to sleep. In my opinion she was a martyr and it really showed in her mental health as a mother. I have a beautiful 15 month old who didnt sleep through the night at all until about 2 or 3 months ago. At 3 months old I hired a gentle sleep consultant because my mental health was so so low from lack of sleep and time to myself that I was definitely experiencing post partum anxiety. Something that I realised then was that there is a huuuuuuge middle ground between the 'attachment parenting' style my mum did where she didnt take care of herself at all, and the cry it out methods I thought were barbaric. I know how harsh the internet is on all different parenting topics especially this one. I feel you mama, know many of us see you are doing an incredible job and those trolls are probably so knackered from sleep deprivation that they've lost their heads to say that to a new mama bear xxx
Good on you for speaking up and sharing what is on your mind and heart. The truth is that as moms we are already SO hard on ourselves about the choices we make or the ones we didn’t and we don’t need other people adding to that! Especially, when no one asked! 👏🏽 👏🏽 I have 3 beautiful girls. 20, 19, and 16 and now that they are older I find myself thinking all the time - I should have held them more, I should have yelled less, I should have worked less and saved more and the list goes on and on. We need to support each other in one of the most important roles of our lives not break each other down! 💕
You are an amazing mom Nikole, don't pay attention to negative talk. I found all your videos so helpful. I set my baby on a routine from day 5 and it worked for our baby and for us. I followed a book which gave us the tools and understanding and it's great and our baby didn't needed to be left to cry. As well every baby is different. This book talks about different temperament so there is angel baby, textbook baby, touchy baby, spirited baby, grumpy baby. With this each baby has different needs and you can work with that according to their needs.
Thank you for making this video. I considered myself lucky as my baby slept in her cot, by herself, with no crying and no need to be rocked to sleep since she was about two months old. Even after night feeds, I just put her back in her cot and she fell asleep again in a couple of minutes. When she was older, I got to leave her in her cot in her room and I went back to have dinner with my husband while watching her on the baby monitor. She never cried. Then yesterday I read in the blog of a popular UK writer that doing this is cruel and abusive, and that even if they don't cry, it doesn't mean they are not distressed, and linked studies to prove that it just means they don't trust you as they know crying won't mean they're going to be comforted. It made me feel terrible, same for the self-soothing. My daughter sucks her thumbs sometimes when she's upset, and she calms down before I can even reach her (like if she cries and I'm on the toilet...). Reading on that blog that it was her just giving up on me was terrible. I don't feel like I am a bad mother. But what should I do?
You are a great mom, Nikole! Don’t loose time giving haters explanations. They don’t deserve it. There are lots of families that support you and love your content, as you can see here! ❤ Love from Colombia.
Thank you for the conversation! No one should have to defend their parenting choices. What matters the most is that you’re doing what’s best for your family, and that includes what’s best for your mental health as a parent. Random strangers may try to attack one small parenting choice, but they don’t know the whole picture.
Hi, Nikole! Thank you for sharing your tips, advice and your life with us. I always learn something from you, and even though we don't personally know each other I trust you because you allow us to see almost everything in your life. Keep doing you!
You Are the most wonderful mom I have ever seen, I find your channel when I was 5 months pregnant I bought the baby healthnutt book and I am so happy , my life is so easy having all the recipes and know what to cook for my son.. keep going Nicole ,don’t get emotional for the haters.
Hey Nicole! ❤️ Seriously screw all those people who shamed you. You keep doing you and what works for you. Your daughter is clearly loved and definitely not traumatized! Your videos have helped me with my journey with my baby girl! Keep being you! 🤗❤️
We did gentle sleep training too and it was the best decision for us! I had a misconception that my baby would be left to cry and I wasn’t comfortable with that, but then we looked into it and realized that, like you said, there are many ways to do it that can go with your comfort level, your baby’s temperament, etc. Everyone should just do what is best for them and not judge others. You’re a wonderful mom!
One time, I was listening to a podcast about motherhood, and the woman said “we have enough job just with maintaining a little human alive.” What a truth! It’s bummer to categorize parents as “good or bad” just because of their decisions. We have enough just by taking it day by day. You’re doing great :) I’ve following you since you were just pregnant because I was also pregnant. So far, your videos have been nothing but helpful and cheerful. Thanks Nicole!
Every normal person can see what an amazing mama you are ! I know comments like these are hurting but please try not to take them to your heart. You are her mom, meaning you know what's best for her. Since when do we let other people dictate how we raise our kids? Since when kids are not supposed to cry ? I have 3 kids, I tried all methods. Crying method worked best! They are all healthy, physically and mentally. Crying method doesn't work for every child but when it works, it works well . Sage looks super happy, super smart and please know that from what we see here, you are both doing such a great job with her.
I hope you don’t let these haters get to you. Hearing all these things about you must’ve been hard but know that you’re an amazing mom and I learn a lot from your videos. No one knows your baby better than you. I have a 13 month old and I love learning from you. 💛 we are here for you!
My baby experienced sleep regresión from 3-5 months and she was great from 5-7 … exactly when she turned 7 months… omg, it’s been like very stressful. I don’t sleep well she wants me to confort feed every time she wakes up through the night and she cannot fall asleep on her own unless she’s breastfeeding. I’m so happy I’m listening to you it makes me not feel alone because everyone around me who has kids never had this issue I have with baby not sleeping. I have thought about sleep training but I don’t know how to even start. My baby is going into 9!months next month and I cannot wait for her to sleep on her own and through the night… I’m gonna try your method since my husband and I are against crying to sleep. Anyway. Thank you!!! ❤❤❤ your baby will be just fine and actually you inspired me yesterday to cook my baby food and healthier for out family ❤
I am having a 4 years old boy and I am still watching your channel and learning. You are super amazing. Way to go girl. “You are amazing just the way you are” ♥️
I don't think anyone should have hate on her she is a good mum and just because other mums or people think what shes doing is wrong doesn't make them right
okay, few things. there are always going to be people who talk...Negatively...to you, I ENVY how much of an amazing mom you are. You are so smart, resorceful, loving, honest, and just, GAH, there are no words to describe the amazing person you are Nicole. Secondly, you preparing food while making a video is a fat mood. Honestly, like multitasking at its finest. #MomLife keep up the amazing work Nicole. And thanks for being such a positive influence throughout my pregnancy 💖❤
Just wanted to say you are doing amazing!!!! My midwife told me right after I had my firstborn - follow your instincts as a mother, they will not lead you wrong. That has helped me so much throughout the years to have confidence to do what I knew was right. You love Sage more than anyone in this world. You are putting her as the center of your whole life!!! All these people commenting, acting like they care about Sages well being - DON'T CARE! Like at all. And I'd like to see these people's kids. And their true relationship with their kid. Something tells me they are not as perfect as they make themselves seem. 😉 Again, you are awesome and THE BEST Mom Sage could ever have!!! 😗😗
I want to thank you for allowing us in internet land for being able to watch Sage grow up.In this day and age so many people want to keep their children private from the Internet. So thank you for the privilege, I can't have children .I enjoy your whole family, Sage is so loved and 😊 happy
I just wanted to say thank you to all the positive support out there! Every mom is entitled to their own opinion and that’s completely okay! 🥰 What isn’t okay however, is hateful comments telling me I’m giving my baby trauma 🤯.
You’re a great mom Nikole, don’t listen to the silly comments.
You are a great mom!!! Dont Listen to bulls***and have confidence that you are doing your best!
Everyone is so critical and no one is perfect hence why we are humans.
You’re awesome & people are jealous. Your daughter is super cute.
Omg who in the world are giving you hateful comments 😭 we are sooo greatful for your videos! Stay strong as you are ❤️
I cant even...
It’s embarrassing that as women we are shaming each other. Motherhood is the hardest job itself. You are doing an amazing job, you motivate me to eat healthier and feed my girls healthier food. Keep doing what your doing Queen! Some people are just miserable.
Woman shame other women especially in motherhood is just how it is. I am sure Nicole did it as well do not let her fool you. And I can pretty much guarantee it. She breast feed for a while. She probably shamed other moms who did/could not. That is life what goes around comes around .
@@colleendianuzzo don't put your assumptions onto other people. Just because you think it doesn't make it reality. That's awfully mean, and as mothers we should be supporting one another, not finding any opportunity to knock each other down.
@@Astarothiart its not mean or an assumption. Breat feeding mother are the meanest and most judgemental people. I have see it with my own eyes.
@@colleendianuzzo were you with her everyday of her life? You're guessing and spreading negativity about a stranger based on experiences with unrelated people, makes no sense.
@@daisiesandpandas1218 your defending her and you have no idea how she is off camera. Also breastfeeding moms are the nastiest, meanest woman there are. I have witnessed it. Just because she has this online persona doesn't mean she is this person. Do you spend time with her? Do you know her life? I'm guessing not.
You could be the juiciest, sweetest peach in the world & there will still be someone who doesn't like peaches. Keep doing YOU! Sage is a happy, healthy, loved girl and you guys are doing a great job. Thanks for sharing & have a good week!
love that saying! So true
Love this saying! Off topic but I think ripe/overripe fruit it too drippy and gooey (because sensory issues) and don’t get me started on how eating a peach feels like chewing a sock because of the furry skin…. (Again, sensory issues). 😬
Every kid is different. Everyone parents differently. No one thing works for every family & hearing someone say it must be done a certain way or you’re a bad person just screams “I have 0 perspective & don’t understand that realities other than my own exist”
You keep doing you 💕 your daughter is lucky to have you as her mommy.
Please do not listen to the "mom-police". Insecure women need to attack other women because they are defending the method they have been told is right instead of using their own brain and intuition... You are doing a fantastic job! The fact that you have a toddler that sleeps for that many hours says it all. You know your baby the best. Listen to your heart, brain and intuition ❤
Thank you so much for saying that. Weve had so many struggled with the sleep area in the past and I'm so happy were in a good place with it now. Sage is a trooper and truly loves her sleep now.
I couldn’t agree more.
I also sleep trained and I didn't know until recently how much controversy there is over it. I am getting my graduate degree in Mental Health Counseling and child development emphasis in trauma. I have done many presentations and papers surrounding childhood trauma, and there was not 1 study I read that said long-term or short-term trauma can happen from sleep training. When doing my clinical hours I worked with parents, children, and toddlers. We had lots of parents come in who brought their children 5 years and younger, and they were having trouble getting their children to sleep through the night. This type of disruption at night can cause children to oversleep during the day, we also see that disrupted sleep is correlated to obesity and often the children were having a hard time staying focused in school. We would then work with the parents to create a schedule and routine to help get children into a habit of sleep at night, and a schedule for the day. We didn't have parents lock them in the room and ignore them, we would work on interventions and ways to get sleep associations down. I sleep-trained my daughter and she is a healthy, active, and intelligent toddler. (I decided to sleep train after my clinical hours b/c of my experience). When I use the word "sleep training" I mean setting a schedule, working on sleep associations, and getting down a consistent safe routine! Sounds like you did the same. Much love and know you are not a horrible parent. As a former teacher and now counselor for children you raise no concerns!
There's no way I would even call you a bad mom or terrible mom.. I feel like you're an amazing mother and person. I love watching your videos and learning.. I don't have kids or anything but I do want them.. don't listen to the hate!!
Thank you! I'm so happy I've been able to inspire you 🥰 and I appreciate the support!
I so 100% agree - I don't have kids either...never wanted to.... I applaud any woman that puts them self at risk and changes their life so much. I think you are a phenomenal mom...and Matt a phenomenal dad. It's your job to train and or teach young human beings to do certain things. I personally believe that if more parents cared to make their children more self-sufficient....we'd not have so many mental health problems in the world as we do now nor so many whiners! Again - just my opinion. Are you and your family....happy.... if the answer is yes...you are doing a fantastic job.........period!
I almost never leave comments on TH-cam but I saw this and I just have to say you're amazing. I'm a first-time mom to a 7-month old. Your recipes were my first guide to purées and healthy baby food in general.
I don't see how what you're doing could be wrong. Please keep doing it.
thank you for commenting xo also I loved that age so special
Your kid is a brat. Feel sorry for the kids
Talk less and take care of the kids
The internet is full of judgey people who believe themselves to be experts - do what is right for you and your family, you’re the expert on your own fam and what is best for you all, not them! ❤️
thank you!
Yes absolutely!
Exactly!
Yesss
You address this so kindly. I have straight up just told people to mind their business and that they aren’t aware of the 25/8 demand moms are going through and that any form of sleep training that fits the child is an absolute blessing for the entire family.
It’s absolutely disturbing that people can call you a bad mom. You’re freakin amazing!! I have a 8 month old and I learnt a lot just by watching your channel and taking your FREE advice. Please don’t let those individuals discourage you from making content. You’ve been really helpful to first time moms such as myself. ❤️❤️
Babies don’t come with a “Manual” under arm.. As parents, we try our best for our kids, it is a new world for us, we learn everyday. The most important is we make it for love. Nicole, never give power to people to make you feel bad for the way you rise your child, you and your husband are making an excellent work, and feel proud of your self.
thank you for saying this xo
Our second daughter was born in 1983, and we never slept for about five years after. Back then, no sleep trainIng or help. I would have paid a lot of money for any kind of guidance. Keep doing what you’re doing, Nikole. You are an amazing mother. ❤️
sleep is so important for both parents and babies and there are so many methods but you need to find what workds best for you and your family. Every baby is so different and for Sage she WILL NOT sleep if were in the room or if we bring her into bed with us. A little crying to have her have many nights of amazing sleep is well worth it.
It’s hard to believe a person with a so-called therapist title would actually say you are traumatizing your child. I say this with tongue in cheek, my kid traumatized me. My darling baby and I really had to work it out - took a few years. She’s almost 40 now and we’re still working at it. Lol. You’re a wonderful mom. ❤️
I’m about to be a mom any day now. And I’ve already had to learn that everyone has an opinion and they love to share it with you. Do what’s best for your family. Sending all my support and well wishes!
A lot of back seat drivers out there. You will find your way and don't let them tell you it's wrong
Mom shaming is a real thing and it is very sad! We all do our best and what we believe what is best for our families. ❤️
We should be lifting one another up not putting each other down!
You guys are great parents! I’m so sorry anyone has shamed you. My mom told me the best advice when I was pregnant. A lot of parenting things that are preached are just recommended. Not law. What you say is law. How you want to parent is law. And if your baby is happy and bonded to you and you are comfortable and happy with how you parent then that is what matters.
I couldn't agree more! Every mom should follow what is right for them and their baby!
“Taking care of babies” has very similar concepts of sleep training you had mentioned. She was a life saver for us!!! My 8 month old (boy Sage) has been sleeping all night in his own room in his crib since he was 4 months old give or take a few regressions in between there and I never let him “scream and cry for hours” he would fuss here and there and I would go in and soothe him and let him know I’m still there and he’s not “abandoned” and within 2-3 weeks he learned to put himself to sleep! We are all so much happier has a family, I will do the same thing with my future children! Keep doing what your doing momma 💕💕
I've heard great things about that course as well. People have this old school idea of what sleep training is and there are so many variations of it
First time mom here!! My son is 6.5 month old and I swear to you that being a mom has been a life lesson and has made me more empathic toward motherhood. We were struggling to make our son sleep through the night, I spend hours and hours researching (I know, I should’ve slept those hours instead) until I realized I just needed to follow his queues just like when he’s hungry. I was making out life harder by following sleep and nap schedules and most of the time he wasn’t ready to sleep.
He has been sleeping 12 hrs for the last two months now, waking up twice to eat but goes to sleep right after eating. Another tip I would give any new mom, got to bed right after your baby falls asleep.
My son coslept with us until he was 9 months old. I started a new job where I wasn’t going to be able to be home the whole night for his sleep every night, so cosleeping was not going to work anymore. He would cry for hours most nights even when we did cosleep. I attempted “gentle” sleep training where I’d put him in his crib and try to comfort him, but he just cried. I left him in there and went back to comfort him every 15 minutes or so and he would just cry hard every time I went back in. Eventually I realized the only thing that was going to work for him was to cry. It was almost like even if I held him, rocked him, nursed him, he needed to cry for a period of time before he’d eventually fall asleep. Once he started sleeping in his crib on his own he actually just automatically started sleeping a whole 12 hours straight. Yes he’d cried for a while before he’d fall asleep and still sometimes does, but he sleeps so much better on his own than he was when we coslept. For some people, and for some babies, CRYING HAPPENS!! Individuals have no right to shame and bully parents for their parenting choices when they don’t know the full story or all of the attempts made before they found what worked BEST for them and their baby. Ugh I’m sorry to any and all parents who are made to feel like they’re failing or harming their child for doing what they need to do for the betterment of the family as a whole.
thank you for sharing your story. I agree crying happens and it doesnt mean you're a bad parent. It took me a while as a new mom to be okay with Sage crying in order to get things done like use the bathroom or eat a meal. Its how they communicate and you start to learn their different cries.
I actually find your videos very helpful, as a mom of a toddler myself. Don't let the Internet hate get to you! Your videos are very motivating. Thanks so much for all the amazing content!
It is not a one size fits all!! It takes a lot of bravery to share and help others to understand how to help their child sleep better. To call it "abuse" is extremely sad for the children who are truly abused and need real help out of an unsafe environment. Thank you for sharing your story and methods to help other parents. God bless all those families going through challenging times
Who in the world would call you a bad parent?? They probably don't even have kids. It's always the peanut gallery talking
I think most people who leave these comments dont have kids or have ones that sleep perfectly without any intervention.
Probably parents who feel strongly about their vision of parenting and attachment matters and who, sadly, express their opinions in a disrespectful manner.
I myself feel strongly about not "sleep train" my baby and totally changed my expectations about physiological and natural baby sleep. What is sad is that parents are often fed with that only solution to sleep train to protect their mental health when there are different solutions out there.
of course, everyone finds his/her own solution that works for their family.
Thank you for putting yourself out there and sharing your experience. As you said, what works for some may not work for all. There's no need to shame or get upset at what another momma/family is doing. I have been absorbing your content for over a year now and fully appreciate your energy and sharing your opinion/research with the world. Go, Nikole, there are more who support you and what you do. There will always be naysayers especially the bigger and more successful you grow. Love you and the Health Nut Fam. Mommas let's support one another, the world needs us to be united and supportive of one another instead of pointing out divisions. Do what works best for you and don't shame others.
Thank you for this. Before being a a parent I planned to sleep train, then I saw all the social media opposition to it and read about the “trauma” that would come with it…. We were miserable for over a year before I threw in the towel and, yes, gently sleep trained our son. We all are so much happier now and finally sleeping again, 13 months in. Listen to your mom instincts!
I love how you're venting while chopping fruits, lol! You're an AMAZING mom!!!! And you're videos have been so incredibly helpful and informative for me...like, life saving helpful and informative! Ignore the haters. There will be many ;)
“the knife” 😂 don’t listen to the internet. You’re a great mom and you’ve inspired me in so many ways.
I read this literally as she did that in the video! 😂
I remember all the judgment and nosy know-it-alls that made me feels like such a bad mom with my first baby. It was eating at my mental heal and I was not sleeping either. The second time around I swore I would ignore everyone and just do what worked for us. Best decision. You are most certainly not a bad mom!! You are a wonderful mom ❤ as for sleep training…I never bed-shared. My first baby slept in a bassinet until he was one month, and then in his own crib, in his own room. My second son went straight to his crib (own room) when he was two days old. It worked for us. People need to be more helpful and supportive, and less finger-pointy. Ignore the nasty comments Nikole. You are doing great. Lots of love to you, Sage and Matt ❤️
Agreed! Parents need support, not judgement.
Sleep trained my daughter in 3 days after literally 2 months of her waking up every 45 minutes crying all night long. Full on let her cry it out (trust me we tried the gentle methods and those were so traumatic for her personality). Guess what? She started sleeping through the night. She jumped up from 25% to 90% for height and from 25% to 50% for weight. She leaped forward in her milestones too. She was finally getting quality sleep. Do what works for your child! You know her best! Sleep training for us was the best thing we ever did for her.
A good example of the different sleep training for different babies is Delilah leopkepsy (spelling is probably wrong) here on TH-cam. Her daughter needed the more full on training and her son needed the gentle training. Different personalities and needs. Evaluating what your child needs and following through is being a great mom. Glad you paid mind to her and helped her!
Same, did this with all my kids, only now has this become unacceptable practice. I know it works, and my kids arent traumatized. That's all I need to know.
@@kinseyjohnson4341 I love Delilah's channel. Its so true that gentle doesnt work for every baby! Didn't work for me and it did a number on my mental health. Tried ferber and worked the 1st night! Has slept through ever since. Thanks for your comment.
I can't imagine anyone saying that. You are an amazing mom. Some people might be intimidated by your motherly skills.
Nik and Mr. Matt, you two are the best! Sage is beautiful and such a loving girl. She is thriving and is so smart! Love it when she is on, in the videos. Don’t worry your heart & soul with those who hate, are judgmental and only desire to bring you down! Keep living, loving and laughing. Life is short! Those of us who follow you, appreciate you! Thank you for sharing your life with us! 💓
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Our little guy is now 9 months but the way you were describing everything with sage, he is the exact same way! We did gentle sleep training at 5 months because he was getting up so much through the night, my mental health was really suffering, none of us were happy or getting nearly enough sleep. He did SO well with the sleep training and he was so much happier immediately. He sleeps 11-12 hours a night, goes to sleep on his own, he’s a very independent sleeper too and sleeps much better in his own room, has since 4 weeks old. You have to do why works for your family!
I understand as a mother not wanting to let your baby cry. But they cry regardless, if you sleep train or not. They cry when they’re hungry, tired, bored, it’s going to happen. And my little guy cried a lot more before the sleep training from being over tired and frustrated than he did during the gentle sleep training and then cried much less because he was well rested
I think you are a wonderful mother, and I am incredibly thankful for the content you post. It has helped me tremendously. xo
I really needed to hear this 😭😭 I’ve been going back and forth about sleep training my 6 month old and I have been so emotional about it because I have received so many negative opinions that have given me so much guilt. I just need to do it for our sanity because right now we have a 2+ hour bedtime routine. I think you are such an amazing mom and your daughter seems very happy and loved 💕
Im so happy to hear you say this because its for this reason I knew I needed to make this video. Do not feel guilty or shame it was the BEST thing we ever did and I learned so much about babies and sleep and Sage's preferences.
@@HealthNutNutrition Thank you! Your video gave me the motivation I needed and we started last night with the Ferber Method. It wasn’t as horrible as I imagined. I feel like it will work and we will be better off for it. Thank you for giving me that needed push and support. 💕💕💕💕💕
your 6 month old will grow up and not even remember so do what's best for you and your family
It was LIFE CHANGING for our family! No exaggeration. My daughter’s mood changed drastically- she is the happiest girl now that she’s sleeping well.
A parent always knows what’s best for their child! Your doing an amazing job!
thank you
This is such a good reminder. Parenting doesn't look the same for anyone.
Youre an amazing mama! Thanks for taking the time to make these videos. ❤️
I have had such a hard time putting my little girl to sleep since she turned 6 months old. She’s approaching 13 months old now, and I still have to stay in the room and rock her for up to an hour for her to go to sleep. I try to let her tire herself out a bit and I always comfort her when she is super duper crying, but it does take a toll on my energy every night. The time I have with my husband when he is home I’m exhausted simply trying to put her to sleep. You are nothing less than a FANTASTIC mother and anyone who says differently doesn’t know you, your life, or doesn’t have kids! You’re doing a great job, keep that confidence in yourself! Us mothers need it. ❤️
My child is 9 months and he started sleeping through the night when he was 3 weeks old.I stopped feeding him through the night at that point and I didn’t rock him to sleep. He slept with me until he was old enough to roll over by himself. I put him in his crib 30 minutes before his bedtime and he has never had a issue. My child is happy and healthy and hit milestones way before his time. All children are different but it is never ever ok to say terrible things about our children or even mamas . We know our child and we do our best. We can’t control others actions only our reactions. You are an amazing mother and please don’t let others insecurities effect you. Keep doing what is best for your daughter.
Girl- I have to tell you. There is no comparison to shaming like “mommy shaming”. It’s truly so heartbreaking. It’s almost like individuals who become parents turn into their own experts. Honestly, each mom becomes an expert but OF THEIR OWN KIDS. You know your child best. However way you gather information, whether from other moms, family, doctors, experts in each individual field, or a combination. It’s all ok! As long as you have your child’s best interest at heart, and you’re coming from a place of love with the information you’ve gathered, you are doing great. I’m disgusted by people who have the audacity to weigh in on your (or anyone’s) parenting style.
I am a mom and teacher in southwestern Ontario and I’ve taught in the states, too. This is appearing to be a universal problem among moms. I’m so sorry you got attacked. Being online makes it that much worse because people hide behind their keyboards and become bullies. It’s easier said than done but forget these fools. You guys are great parents. I didn’t raise my son the way you’re raising your daughter and I love what you’re doing! Not because one of us is wrong or right, but because you’re doing what’s best for your child and it just happened to not be the same for my child. So here’s my way to counteract mom shaming: I’m so proud of you for collecting your information and being at peace with the way you are raising your precious child. If only other parents could do the same and focus on their own lives rather than projecting their beliefs on others. ❤️
it really is the lowest of the shaming... thank you for your support
@@HealthNutNutrition it truly is… you see other groups (possibly with the same career, or based on ethnicity/Geographical location etc) all supporting and lifting each other up. It’s so sad and frustrating that mothers aren’t a part of this type of group. I don’t think I’ll ever understand it. Much love to you and your family, Nikole! ❤️
While I was pregnant I watched a lot of your videos on routine/sleep. When I had my baby boy I watched them again, early on we decided to follow the baby's rythm instead of having schedules ... then I watched them again as I was getting ready for the 4 month sleep regression you mentioned ... which never came. I watched your videos starting solids ... and he absolutely hated food, got him more enthusiastic until about 8 months. At 9 months, I still let him drink milk to sleep. I still wake at 2 or 3 am for a feed. We decided to go slower with solids although I would love to make the food you show us.
We have had completely different experiences but I will still turn to your videos for support. You're an AMAZING mom, and just because we chose to go through this differently does not make us better or worse parents. We all try to do what's best for our family ...
Hi Nicole, I am Portuguese and I found your TH-cam canal when I was pregnant. I have been following you ever since. I like your canal because you are true to your opinions and show the rawness of motherhood. I have never had commented your videos but I feel that I need to show you some compassion. I also watched your video about the sleep training and although I don’t agree with you on this topic (and I still don’t agree after watching your explanations in this video), it doesn’t mean you are not correct or I am correct. Every family, every dad, every mum should do what he, she feels that is the best for the family and children without judgemental outside opinions from strangers or even friends. And I feel you, my son was also an absolutely bad sleeper and the four month regression hit us in a very hard way. And it lasted long. So, keep doing the things that you think that are the best ones for your family and keep posting videos of your family, daughter and work. I am not here to judge, I am here to heard the things that anyone else in internet has the courage to admit.
Thank you so much for your authenticity and sharing your story. Just wanted to say you're making a huge difference, especially in my life. I'm living in a new country away from my family and friends and I don't know ANYONE. I'm 30 weeks pregnant with my first baby (through IVF) and having your channel has been a life saver! It's like having a sister. Thanks again for sharing and providing a safe space to for me to prepare for my journey as a new mom. Lots of love💞
Oh my goodness preach regarding the sleep training! You do what works for your family! And like you said, Sage and you getting a full night of sleep is the healthiest thing for you both! How you get there isn't anyone to judge. You know your daughter best and what's best for her. 💜 Keep up the good work mama!
I'm so sorry about this!💔 I have been following your channel for a while and watched your baby videos even though I don't have kids of my own. Now that I'm pregnant I feel WAY more confident. Keep up the great content, I appreciate it😍
Hi, Nikole! I’m also a first time mom to a 7month old and I can’t thank you enough for sharing your journey to parenthood. It helps me to be the best parent to my son by being able to anticipate his needs and know what is normal at every age. There will always be that someone who thinks they know it all and I know how upsetting that can be. It’s okay. You don’t have to please everyone. There’s a lot of us that love watching your content and will always look forward to seeing how Sage, and the whole family grows! Thank you again!! 💕💕💕
such a fun age! Thank you for supporting and commenting xo
Aww you were trying to help and got hell for it, gosh that legit put tears in my eyes, I have a 20 month old and to see someone so kind and loving like you get crap just hurts my soul as I've been there too. Thank you for sharing your days with us, and so sorry when you get nasty stuff, unfortunately the world is full of people who enjoy dishing that out. Love your content and your baby looks perfectly happy. Hugs
I’ve got a 7 month baby & have been following your videos & advice since pre-pregnancy ♥️
you have so much wisdom & experience to share, you share your vulnerability & love, & impact the lives of many! you have way more amazing fans than the shamers.
To you & all the mama’s that are supporting & guiding our little ones to the best of our ability, everyday is an adventure ♥️
You legit seem like such a good mom. I bet if anybody had criticized you in the past it would be cause they feel insecure knowing there own shortcomings. The world needs more people like you
I do not agree with you on the sleep training, but I also think you guys are great parents to Sage and would never shame on you. We can have a different approach to parenting and still respect each other.
I’ve learned so much from you and your channel during my pregnancy, I’m sooo glad and grateful that I’ve found You here on yt. Thanks for everything;-))
New mom here and I couldn’t agree more with what you are sharing. I’ve also received passive aggressive comments about even the small things that I’ve chosen to do with my child and just like you’ve mentioned.. you can’t possibly know what you’d do in a situation unless you have personally been there, especially may I say, in parenting! I’m grateful for the amount of information that’s accessible to us but it also comes with others judging parents for what they do differently.. as if there’s one way to raise a child. I’m so glad you posted this, I really needed this as an encouragement! Also, as a reassuring reminder that others’ best efforts look differently from person to person!
I’m 8 months pregnant and I’ve been watching your videos for the past couple weeks. LOVE LOVE LOVE your channel and how you share your experiences. It’s fine for people to have different views but it feels like people forget about respect these days. Not everyone is the same, you do what works best for you. Frankly I find your videos so helpful, inspiring and encouraging. You have been been bringing me some comfort when sometimes I feel overwhelmed awaiting my first child. Keep it up mama, you’re great 💛
I really needed to hear all of that. I'm struggling with an anxiety disorder that bring lots of mom guilt, especially with complications with my current 2nd pregnancy led to decisions that allows me to rest MORE and rely on other closed family members and a bit more daycare time to take care of our 18months and I got shamed sooo hard by a reallyyyy good friend of mine. I couldn't believe it. I've been crying everyday. This was truly the video I needed today.
For the record, I think you guys are wonderful, inspiring parents
I wasn’t comfortable sleep training either until your video where you said you used a gentle approach. It solved my baby’s sleep problems! He would wake up every 2 hours but now he only wakes up maybe once or twice a night. It also helped me create a sleep routine. Don’t ever stop sharing your experience. It’s soooo helpful! & I think you’re doing an amazing job!
always LOVE your videos and the way you pour yourself into raising Sage. thanks for opening up honestly ! please don't let people's obnoxious opinions discourage you from putting out your content. you are blessing and encouraging so many !!
You are a great mama! People judge too much without having all the information. I slept trained my baby at 10 months and I wish I did it sooner. Was too worried because of family shaming me too and making me feel bad… but decided it was best. It changed my life and my babies life for the better. Also the training is just for a few weeks, not forever. My baby still loves me, sleeps a full 12 hours at night and naps 2 hours ❤️. Thank you for talking about this shaming that happens too much for mamas 💕
We sleep trained our son, will absolutely do it again with this baby. It was hugely beneficial for all parties. We struggled for about three days, then all was good. We made a very slow transition and he learned that we will always come back. He sleeps 12 hours now and takes fantastic naps. We have a fantastic bond, and he has never been neglected. Do what works for you and your baby!
Don't sweat it. People suck. Don't take the bait of negative haters. Bottom line is YOU are helping US by sharing. And we are grateful for that and you and your willingness to share.
I absolutely love your channel! I learn so much from you and when you show the realistic side of things, it makes me feel sane! Because life is difficult as it is, and we’re all trying to navigate the best we can. It takes a lot to raise children. Thank you for everything you do xx
I'm a FTM to a 9 month old. I nurse him to sleep, rock him to sleep and co-sleep and I have been shamed for doing those things, telling me I'm creating bad habits for my baby. If I flip to the other side and sleep train, let him self soothe and move him to his own room, I'm also going to be shamed telling me I'm causing trauma. As long as your baby is loved, cared for and safe - you do you 🧡 You and Matt are doing a great job with Sage!! I love your content, keep doing what you're doing 🧡
This was very powerful. Thank you for sharing. I haven’t watched the video in question but what you are describing is basically establishing good sleep routines in a supportive environment. Please keep up the amazing real life working mom content.
I just want to share my story. Since my daughter born she was a bad sleeper. First few months was ok during nights. At 4 months mark she had a sleep regression and it was absolute nightmare. She was waking up about 7-8 times during the night. I was feeling so miserable and so exhausted, I had a feeling it's never gonna end. When she turned 13 months we did a sleep training and after she started to sleep a whole night. We have day and night routines, she has her naps as well.
I was able to continue my study, started to feel myself again. So, when someone is telling me negative about sleep training I know what I went through. I just ignored all that negative comments.
I really like your videos, Nicole. I take a lot of insights. You and your husband are great parents.
We sleep trained our 17mo and it's been the best decision for our family. We are all happier now and well rested. Keep doing you Nikole, we love watching you and Sage!
You are a fabulous mother! Look at us all following you and coming to you for advice that wouldn’t be the case if you were a bad mother. Some of us don’t have mums grandmothers or sisters to go to. You are honesty a life saver. I’m so glad your strong enough to understand these people are being ridiculous.. Love you work ❤️
I am always inspired by you how you gracefully handle work and baby together. I always feel like I want to be like you whenever I have baby. Don’t listen to negative people its their opinion. There are more people who are inspired by you. Your videos have made peoples day better. Take care of yourself and your family ♥️♥️
I, like most don't comment on videos. I seen the title of the video and was already surprised! I started following your channel when I found out I was having my third child. My second and third child have a 10 year gap, I felt like I was having my first child 😬 I needed a refresher. You were my stone that made me feel prepared for baby number 3. You are an amazing mom! But it does come with being on social media. People can't just be happy for others. Well said, I have three kids and each one of my boys had their personalities. So there is no one way parenting, we do learn as we go. Keep up the great work and keep us mother's on our healthy journeys 😁
Keep doing you! We appreciate you and all the helpful, informative, and entertaining content you offer us. 🙌🏼 Thank you. Sage is SO lucky to have you as her mama.
Been watching your videos for so long! I admire you as a mom, wife, and I enjoy watching your positive family. I would never categorized you as a "bad mom" .
Just know you have admires ! Stay strong and ignore the negativity ♥️
I’m so sorry about these comments!
I am always so inspired at how kind and patient you are with Sage.
I can’t bring myself to let my daughter cry for too long but I am definitely working on it the older she gets because mental health does matter! I actually give you a lot of credit for doing what is best for you and your family, because I think that sleep training is hard for moms too!!
Love your content and appreciate your honest opinion and experience. I’m sorry some people are so harsh with their opinions. I understand some people are very passionate about their experience but everyone’s different and they don’t have the right to tell you your a bad mom . As long as everyone is happy then that’s the most important.
Your amazing don’t let others peoples opinion get to you please. It doesn’t matter! Sometimes people are just jealous, immature and just wants something to feel superior over.
I watch you because I love your perspective and I feel connected to how you are so loving and passionate towards your baby. You inspire me to be a more loving mom! 💗
I think you are an amazing parent. I started watching your videos when I was pregnant with my little one. She is now 8 months old and she is such a happy baby and I have your content to thank for giving me confidence as a fist time mother. As long as we know we are doing what is best that's all that really matters :) thank you for your videos :)
Thanks to one of your sleep videos, we found Lily from Lil Baby Sleep, and it was the best thing ever! So thankful for your tip! It’s so sad that you can give so much help but then receive so much negativity.
I follow you because of your energy and your care for your family’s health. I don’t agree with everything you do but that’s because we are all different in how we live our life. No idea why anyone would leave nasty comments regarding your parenting. You clearly love your child... hope you feel more confident on the internet soon!!! :)
Thank you so much for all the mommy videos. Some people can get very offended and opinionated on how to raise your child when they don’t even know the family’s situation, and when I first stumbled upon your channel, you assured me on what I thought was right for my newborn and family. Again, thank you so much and just wanted to let you know that you and Matt are doing a wonderful job raising Sage
Thanks for not pretending. I'm glad I found someone on the internet that also says things that I believe and ring true to me. I'm also doing a lot of reading and research before kids. I think you helped me to identify and prepare for possible sleep regression if that happens to me.
I'm a new mum myself and I can't begin to tell you just how greatly all your vlogs have helped me...From pregnancy till now (my princesd is 4 months). You're a phenomenal woman and a wonderful mum. Thank you for all your timely content. Please keep it coming. I'm in SA by the way:-)
I understand why some people got upset. Because sleep training is something that is being pushed onto kids (that don’t even wake up a lot) in North America. In Europe it’s not a thing. Everyone here (midwives and pediatricians included) will tell you that for the baby to wake up a lot at night is totally normal and you should sooth them back to sleep. Nobody would tell you to let your baby cry or sleep train them.
My baby (currently 7 months) has been waking up every 1.5/2hrs for 4-5months now. Sometimes he is awake 4hrs at night crying. We tried everything and nothing works, not even co sleeping works. We are at a point where we tried interval checks and the chair method and nothing seemed to work. We thought about just letting him cry, because we are mentally and physically exhausted from getting 3-4hrs of sleep at night.
I totally understand why you sleep trained your baby girl and think it’s okay if you need to do it for your own mental health. After all, who is going to take care of the baby when you can’t because you are so sleep deprived.
But I also understand that people see it as traumatic for the kid because there are lots of studies that show the negative effects on the kids later on in life. But we should not call someone a bad parent for doing their best and making decisions that fit their life.
Embarrassing that other parents shamed you
I literally scoffed at the thumbnail 😂 I bet you couldn’t even be a bad mom IF you tried to. You are such an amazing momma I look forward to your videos because you give such helpful tips and information as a first time momma myself. I literally am so grateful for your channel
glad you got a good laugh lol I cant believe how judged I was and told I was creating trauma in her life.. how dare people say that
Nikole I totally understand where you are coming from. I didn't gentle sleep train my son Kilion until he was 12 months, and truly not really until he was 15 months because we got COVID, the stomach bug, then he got croup and then started working on it fully once we were back to normal. It took me a long time prior to feel comfortable with sleep training because he had reflux till he was 6 months, then we moved states and stayed with my family until he was 12 months until we could find a house. I was up every 30 minutes to 2.5 hours (other than a handful of 3-4 hour stretches super far apart) till he was 12 months and beyond because he wanted to nurse all night. I was committed to nursing till 2 years and was determined to find a way to make that work but I struggled with postpartum depression too and I truly believe it was related to sleeplessness. My husband finally said we need to do something about this, you can't keep going like this and he isn't getting good sleep, so I took the Taking Cara Babies sleep training concepts from Pinterest and it took him a few weeks but now he sleeps 10.5 hours with occasional wake ups where he resettles and is fine within 10 seconds to a minute. If he is sick I go in and nurse him or soothe him. I know some kids who have had no problem nursing to sleep and sleeping through the night as newborns but that isn't every kid and every family needs different things to function, or makes changes so they can function when they are at their breaking point. You're an amazing mom who cares so much about Sage's health inside and out, hope you find encouragement in this feed!
I'm sorry you went through that. Always enjoy your videos.
Every child is so different. My daughter basically slept through the night around 8 weeks with no training. My son didn't sleep through the night until he was 10 months old. Then he would still wake up for random reasons and cry until he was probably three. Sometimes you try everything and just don't know what to do. Don't ever feel guilty about stuff like this. You're doing an awesome job. Any child would be lucky to have a mom like you.
As moms, we HAVE to give ourselves all the credit in the world for showing up for our kids EVERYDAY. This doesn't we have to be perfect and mentally/physically available to them all the time. We just have to be good enough for our kiddos to feel loved and safe and cherished, which Sage DEFINITELY does. When I'm exhausted, I tell my 4-year-old that I need some quiet alone time to catch my breath. I leave the room, and come back when I'm ready. He doesn't feel abandoned or unloved. In fact, I'm modeling for him what self-care looks like.
And sleep training was a game changer for us, too, with both our boys. Did they cry? Yes. Do we have a great bond? YES! No trauma. You do you, Nikole, without apology!
You are doing fabulous, we did the same thing with our son, reassurance and communication all the way like you said. We all sleep great now. Just a few nights of learning a new rhythm. And same for him, he sleeps SO much better in his own room.
Gosh I feel you mama. I come from a mama who is ANTI sleep training....she would stay in the room with my younger sisters for years while they tried to get to sleep. In my opinion she was a martyr and it really showed in her mental health as a mother. I have a beautiful 15 month old who didnt sleep through the night at all until about 2 or 3 months ago. At 3 months old I hired a gentle sleep consultant because my mental health was so so low from lack of sleep and time to myself that I was definitely experiencing post partum anxiety. Something that I realised then was that there is a huuuuuuge middle ground between the 'attachment parenting' style my mum did where she didnt take care of herself at all, and the cry it out methods I thought were barbaric. I know how harsh the internet is on all different parenting topics especially this one. I feel you mama, know many of us see you are doing an incredible job and those trolls are probably so knackered from sleep deprivation that they've lost their heads to say that to a new mama bear xxx
Good on you for speaking up and sharing what is on your mind and heart. The truth is that as moms we are already SO hard on ourselves about the choices we make or the ones we didn’t and we don’t need other people adding to that! Especially, when no one asked! 👏🏽 👏🏽 I have 3 beautiful girls. 20, 19, and 16 and now that they are older I find myself thinking all the time - I should have held them more, I should have yelled less, I should have worked less and saved more and the list goes on and on. We need to support each other in one of the most important roles of our lives not break each other down! 💕
You are an amazing mom Nikole, don't pay attention to negative talk. I found all your videos so helpful. I set my baby on a routine from day 5 and it worked for our baby and for us. I followed a book which gave us the tools and understanding and it's great and our baby didn't needed to be left to cry.
As well every baby is different. This book talks about different temperament so there is angel baby, textbook baby, touchy baby, spirited baby, grumpy baby. With this each baby has different needs and you can work with that according to their needs.
Thank you for making this video. I considered myself lucky as my baby slept in her cot, by herself, with no crying and no need to be rocked to sleep since she was about two months old. Even after night feeds, I just put her back in her cot and she fell asleep again in a couple of minutes. When she was older, I got to leave her in her cot in her room and I went back to have dinner with my husband while watching her on the baby monitor. She never cried. Then yesterday I read in the blog of a popular UK writer that doing this is cruel and abusive, and that even if they don't cry, it doesn't mean they are not distressed, and linked studies to prove that it just means they don't trust you as they know crying won't mean they're going to be comforted. It made me feel terrible, same for the self-soothing. My daughter sucks her thumbs sometimes when she's upset, and she calms down before I can even reach her (like if she cries and I'm on the toilet...). Reading on that blog that it was her just giving up on me was terrible. I don't feel like I am a bad mother. But what should I do?
You are a great mom, Nikole! Don’t loose time giving haters explanations. They don’t deserve it. There are lots of families that support you and love your content, as you can see here! ❤ Love from Colombia.
Thank you for the conversation! No one should have to defend their parenting choices. What matters the most is that you’re doing what’s best for your family, and that includes what’s best for your mental health as a parent. Random strangers may try to attack one small parenting choice, but they don’t know the whole picture.
Hi, Nikole! Thank you for sharing your tips, advice and your life with us. I always learn something from you, and even though we don't personally know each other I trust you because you allow us to see almost everything in your life. Keep doing you!
You Are the most wonderful mom I have ever seen, I find your channel when I was 5 months pregnant I bought the baby healthnutt book and I am so happy , my life is so easy having all the recipes and know what to cook for my son..
keep going Nicole ,don’t get emotional for the haters.
Hey Nicole! ❤️
Seriously screw all those people who shamed you. You keep doing you and what works for you. Your daughter is clearly loved and definitely not traumatized!
Your videos have helped me with my journey with my baby girl!
Keep being you! 🤗❤️
We did gentle sleep training too and it was the best decision for us! I had a misconception that my baby would be left to cry and I wasn’t comfortable with that, but then we looked into it and realized that, like you said, there are many ways to do it that can go with your comfort level, your baby’s temperament, etc. Everyone should just do what is best for them and not judge others. You’re a wonderful mom!
I was the exact same!
One time, I was listening to a podcast about motherhood, and the woman said “we have enough job just with maintaining a little human alive.” What a truth! It’s bummer to categorize parents as “good or bad” just because of their decisions. We have enough just by taking it day by day. You’re doing great :) I’ve following you since you were just pregnant because I was also pregnant. So far, your videos have been nothing but helpful and cheerful. Thanks Nicole!
Every normal person can see what an amazing mama you are ! I know comments like these are hurting but please try not to take them to your heart. You are her mom, meaning you know what's best for her. Since when do we let other people dictate how we raise our kids? Since when kids are not supposed to cry ? I have 3 kids, I tried all methods. Crying method worked best! They are all healthy, physically and mentally. Crying method doesn't work for every child but when it works, it works well . Sage looks super happy, super smart and please know that from what we see here, you are both doing such a great job with her.
I hope you don’t let these haters get to you. Hearing all these things about you must’ve been hard but know that you’re an amazing mom and I learn a lot from your videos. No one knows your baby better than you. I have a 13 month old and I love learning from you. 💛 we are here for you!
My baby experienced sleep regresión from 3-5 months and she was great from 5-7 … exactly when she turned 7 months… omg, it’s been like very stressful. I don’t sleep well she wants me to confort feed every time she wakes up through the night and she cannot fall asleep on her own unless she’s breastfeeding. I’m so happy I’m listening to you it makes me not feel alone because everyone around me who has kids never had this issue I have with baby not sleeping. I have thought about sleep training but I don’t know how to even start. My baby is going into 9!months next month and I cannot wait for her to sleep on her own and through the night… I’m gonna try your method since my husband and I are against crying to sleep. Anyway. Thank you!!! ❤❤❤ your baby will be just fine and actually you inspired me yesterday to cook my baby food and healthier for out family ❤
I am having a 4 years old boy and I am still watching your channel and learning. You are super amazing. Way to go girl.
“You are amazing just the way you are” ♥️
I don't think anyone should have hate on her she is a good mum and just because other mums or people think what shes doing is wrong doesn't make them right
Thank you for the support xo
okay, few things.
there are always going to be people who talk...Negatively...to you, I ENVY how much of an amazing mom you are. You are so smart, resorceful, loving, honest, and just, GAH, there are no words to describe the amazing person you are Nicole.
Secondly, you preparing food while making a video is a fat mood. Honestly, like multitasking at its finest. #MomLife
keep up the amazing work Nicole. And thanks for being such a positive influence throughout my pregnancy 💖❤
Just wanted to say you are doing amazing!!!! My midwife told me right after I had my firstborn - follow your instincts as a mother, they will not lead you wrong. That has helped me so much throughout the years to have confidence to do what I knew was right. You love Sage more than anyone in this world. You are putting her as the center of your whole life!!! All these people commenting, acting like they care about Sages well being - DON'T CARE! Like at all. And I'd like to see these people's kids. And their true relationship with their kid. Something tells me they are not as perfect as they make themselves seem. 😉 Again, you are awesome and THE BEST Mom Sage could ever have!!! 😗😗
I want to thank you for allowing us in internet land for being able to watch Sage grow up.In this day and age so many people want to keep their children private from the Internet. So thank you for the privilege, I can't have children .I enjoy your whole family, Sage is so loved and 😊 happy