The Lies We Tell Ourselves To Feel Better
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I hate the title. Clearly the flood happened with no reason but the actions of the characters affected by the flood were obviously with reason. To put reason out of the picture is like putting faith on a pedestal. They are opposing forces kept in check by *our choices*
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I think a reason for something to happen whether real or made-up. It helps us know that we are not alone in terms of entities guiding us through this reality.
“He who has a why to live can bear almost any how”.
-Friedrich Nietzsche
can u explain
@@margueritenasrallah8519 A person who has a proper reason to live (the why) can survive through almost any situation that might take his life away from him, no matter how severe it may be (the how). All you need to survive any situation is a true and real purpose and reason to live.
@@margueritenasrallah8519 By why it means like reason to live.
Live for the little moments,little things in life. Every second is an experience on this planet and like it or not but we are here and we must go through it all and it's crazy because the possibilities are endless and nothing is a waste here. Everything teaches us something it's one hell of an experience.
I guess when we live for the little pleasure, even if we don't have them we create it. You start to find your tribe, make good friends, get up in the morning just to enjoy the pleasure of reading and having tea. It just make oneself more at peace and doing everything else become easy.
@@RumbleFish69 ?! What is? Why are you so angry? No need for that.
We, humans, find reasons for almost anything. We love the thought of giving meaning to things, especially to our existence. We are such creatures.
I think it stems from our fears. Fear of being insignificant, fear of being a victim of circumstances, fear of having no importance, etc. I believe it's a defense or coping mechanism. It's our go-to as thinking beings.
Well put I agree
I’ve felt a similar way, I just didn’t know how to express it in words. Thanks for your interpretation!
Fear of returning. This fear is necessary for safely dying.
Rightly said.
True
“We humans, we’re all the same. Every last one of us. For some it’s drinking, for some it’s woman, for some even religion, family, the king, dreams, children…power. All of us had to spend our lives drunk on something else we’d have no cause to keep pushing on. Everyone…was a slave to something.” - Kenny Ackerman
Hella true
didn't think i'd find my one of the fav. lines from aot here
The irony of Eren is that he is a slave to freedom. He always fights for freedom, keeps moving forward, until his enemies are destroyed.
Never thought I’d see snk philosophy here 💯😂
bruv I thought about this since Kenny said it back then years back and it was so true...
Having been a first responder for a short while, my eyes were really opened to this concept. Life is not all good and serendipitous. Sometimes horrific things happen, and there’s no deeper meaning. You got shafted and that’s the end. You can never tell me a baby dying happens for a reason. Or a son loses his dad that he loved because it’s part of a “plan.”
Life is brutally raw. Entropy is in effect. We don’t have to assign a deeper meaning for events happening. BUT, I believe that we DO have to love hard and make the most of this life. There’s this beautiful, perplexing paradox about life - nothing really matters, but it all matters so damn much.
love this
Nothing really matters, but our lives would be so horrifying without having a meaning so we give it one ourselves. The mind is a curse for letting us know there’s nothing of significance but it’s a gift when it tends to mend the crack by devising a counter-plan known as reason.
Reflection is key.
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"Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In Time, all points converge; hope's strength, resteeled. But to earn final peace at the universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again."
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--Diamond Dragons (series)
Well said
But our need to assign a deeper meaning to accidental events - is that just a coping mechanism? Or do we see it as a coping mechanism because we are convinced that these are merely conjunction of accidental events?
The primordial human insight into God has been that maybe the 'Cause' and 'Reason' are not entirely separate, and God is the ultimate placeholder or maybe a source for everything unknown and unknowable. In this video, Alethia (which is also the name of greek goddess of truth) is convinced of the mode of being and events as accidental/contingent, and that is the atheistic conception of truth and not the truth in itself.. Being entirely convinced of metaphysical claims on truth is always silly. Admission of our own intellectual finitude is good, but the atheistic notion that we merely invent reasons is also a defense mechanism, to avoid being disappointed or abandoned in the future by a commitment to the theistic version of truth.
Rebecca and Alithia... I loved them both at the end. Rebecca's optimism and Alithia's nihilism... Seeing light and dark clash like that is awesome.
In my opinion, Rebecca was a straight up asshole. First, she is regurgitating an unsolicited and useless piece of bullshit, dime store philosophy, if you will.... But on top of that, she is either too stupid, or too uncaring to give away the last word. I have been alive a long time and one thing I have learned is that there are moments in life when one needs to give away the last word. Especially if you're giving it away to someone who recently suffered a loss, as was the case here. Spunky optimism aside, I say Rebecca is an asshole because whether it was out of pure stupidity or a completely deliberate action, it doesn't matter. She took the moral high ground over a person who suffered a loss, and any person who does that, anyone who cannot rein themselves in for that one bloody second, is always an asshole!
@@frfras7 Well she is right so.
@@things_leftunsaid That's by far one of my favourite episodes. From Episode 90/100 the quality noticeably improves - the presenter openly says the early episodes are almost unlistenable.
@@AidanMmusic96 how about the one called everything happens for a reason?
Rebeca will change her mind when life will hit her actually hard
These videos are absolutely wonderful. Idk but a weird sort of comfort flows through me watching these kind of existential stuff. Lately I have been suffering from Anxiety and panic attacks and feel like I won't make it. But content like these calms me down.
You’ll make it
i hope youll feel better soon. im going through a lot too so i can understand. be safe and strong out there
Its a heavy weight isn't it, but very day is a step forward towards greater things and also another day done.
I hope it is soon.
Same...🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼❤️
You are not alone. It’s in the ether. The world is heavy with this energy. It’s devastating and exhausting. I feel we were headed this way a tiny bit before the pandemic but that was the HUGE nail in the coffin.
"If you are alive, is that not enough?" Not always, being the only one left is not necessarily a good thing. Being forced to choose between solitary despair and actively no longer being alive may be worse than not surviving in the first place.
It’s not a binary choice between solitary despair and suicidal ideation. Regardless of the circumstances; I think by virtue of being alive you are given near limitless options for how one reacts to a situation, it is up to the individual to find contentedness through the suffering
@@justinblanco4002 Some people are alive but they are paralyzed from the neck down.
@@roderickcortez138 you don't know what is their subjective reality now
I totally agree. Why suffer just to live? Why live anyway?
@@wijdanh326 why not ?
Some people can accomodate non-intense daily suffering (through aging or resilience for example) because to them it's worth to live more, as they have family, friends, personal beliefs, daily or long-term goals to accomplish.
Intense-daily incurable suffering is an other problem, and to me we shouldn't force people to live when they don't want to (after trying to help them to solve their problem.)
Regarding your last question which is more general :
It is an incredible experience to be alive, although it also can be terrible and we may have some or many hard long moments to live.
In the end, we all know that we'll die at some point, but we don't know how much we'll live.
Life can be curious and surprising if you ask it interesting questions.
Death is something we'll all experiment at some point.
So, why shouldn't we have various experiments of life in order to challenge our view on it before it ends ?
I asked myself this question of "why live ?" and still do. When you accept that suffer is part of life, even though it doesn't mean you have to endure it passively, then you can create goals and try to overcome the causes of your suffering. It's hard, it takes time, but if you have some goals and people around you, then you can have an interesting life.
Today is my birthday. I'm sipping my coffee and reflecting on my life and what's happened so far, wondering what lays ahead and worrying about an uncertain future. I remind myself to lighten up and not take life too seriously because no one gets out alive. Live in the moment and enjoy the little things, give your all to the things that matter to you and let the pieces fall where they may.
Happy birthday
Happy birthday, babe
Oh man, I miss being young! Reading this made me feel good. I miss having that naivety still
@@TheBrandonn why do you think what she wrote is naive?
Nobody's actually right, or, everyone is, whatever their belief is. As long as one believes something, it will be completely true and work out for them. It's not maths. There are multiple answers to one expression.
I'm dealing with chronic illness that has me in physical pain everyday that continues to get worse each year. This video hit deep
Why do you, after reading their comment proceed to rub salt into the wound ? I’m genuinely curious and I’ll Cashapp you $5 if you respond
@Weird fish I think the reason they said that was because you said that you hope it gets better soon, and it is a chronic illness, which means it will not get better. I understand you had no ill intent ofc just wanted to let you know. I suffer from chronic illness as well
@Weird fish toxic positivity...
@Giometro I'm sorry to hear that from both of you. Keep ya head up. The body along with prayer, I believe can heal itself.
Fuckin', I developed neurological orthostatic hypotension when I was 16, along with permanent blindness--which no one wanted to believe. Nothing hurts more than knowing that what you have now is all you will ever have and at any moment it can be taken away.
"Isn't being alive enough?"
When life beares so much on you, being alive doesn't change much, having a life without purpose or happiness is having no life at all.
It is very hard to be positive and optimistic looking thru a broken lens...
Soo true 😑 ... For me not taking my life 🧬... And live this is enough
A broken lens still ends up becoming into a million smaller lenses. Take your time. The universe doesn't allow mercy because it never had anything to do with us. In all we are in a state of flow of action and we're the bearer of the consequences.
@@stingbleu 💯💯 only few (.001%) people understand this in india others are just bots (following blind faith 😑)
@@bred3862 i agree
You don’t have TO BE positive or optimistic or their opposites. We’re just experiencing this thing called life. Choose AND react wisely.
I love the detail that Alithia is a Greek word that means "truth", and she is the one that speaks to the falsehood of the phrase and reveals the truth about it.
My guy, Rebecca is also for Hebrew origin, meaning “to tie” or “bind.” Truth-tellers are often described as being 'free' (Alithia) and so perhaps Rebecca is the one 'ensnared' by the phrase..
and Renee is French for "reborn"... hmm
What people seem to always forget about the saying "everything happens for a reason" is the fact that the reason can be positive and can also be negative
well if the reason doesnt have to be anything good then just say “thats life”
People also forget that, in the big scheme of things, the reality is that aside from to our loved ones our existence isn’t any more meaningful or significant than any other living thing. Human existence came about due to an accumulation of unplanned incidents and, despite our belief in our importance, is only a blip in the history of our planet not to mention how arrogant and misguided that attitude seems when you take into consideration the vast scope of the cosmos and all its unknowns. A hallmark of humanity has always been a desire to make sense of the world as a means to feel some sort of control over it and if we don’t have an answer then we will create a narrative to give us a sense that the multitude of random misfortunes that could befall us at any time follows some type of pattern or logic to allay that feeling of powerlessness over our destiny. We are born naturally solipsistic hence why nearly every old culture has its own set of stories and myths to explain the random acts of nature, ways (like ceremonies, deities and rituals) to offset or manage them and if that is unavoidable then some reason or significance for it’s occurrence.
Another driving force appears to be our innate desire or need for “fairness” and “justice” (a trait that has also been detected in some animals too) and since realistically we are aware that life is frequently unfair (bad things happen to good people while good things happen to bad people) we often come up with convoluted, at times arbitrary, compensatory measures and thought processes in order to live with this truth.
This may explain why communities that are impoverished or live under chronically harsh, unjust or deprived conditions with little chance of changing their circumstances can often be quite religious as a way of giving meaning to their constant suffering and hardship and the motivation of there at least being some later reward in an afterlife.
I hate " every thing happens for a reason. " Sometimes the reason is that cancer grew in your baby, or the fire started where your loved one was sleeping. It's weird that people try to attribute meaning in that.
I feel like life only has as much meaning as you give it. It’s up to you to find the beauty in the ugly. Because if you just view life through a depressive lens, then how are you ever suppose to get to a point where your happy in life?
I think you can live a very happy and full filing life knowingly of the vast "insignificant" cosmic void that surrounds us.
It's a mindset I like to call it: Hopeful Nihilism.
I don't think it's the best way to approach things, I don't think it's right way either... It's simply a different approach to life.
As you said, it all depends on how much meaning you give to the meaningless.
@Yk「AMV」 😔
@Yk「AMV」 indeed.
I don't know where I heard/read it first but it goes:
" Ignorance can be both a blessing and a curse. "
So knowing too much or too little can cause the same amount of pain depending on your circumstances.
@Yk「AMV」 Then why think negatively about life dude, You're fkn gonna go insane if you keep believing that, All those philosophers think they're superior of some shit, Judging how others who are oblivious as you said are foo, Like wtf dude, You can't just say foolish if I don't agree with you
True
As far as I know I wasn't ask if i wanted to be born in a human body, so i accept it. I doubt I'll be asked how or when I want to die, so i accept it.
So why would I complain about things not going my way ? It's never been my way, so i accept it and go with the flow.
Great comment 👍
Beautiful
Jean Paul Sartre, 'We are condemned to be free."
I like this comment
So why would you complain about things not going your way? Perhaps to experience Job's life; chronic illness, depression, poverty, business or financial misfortune or the suicide of your child, the despairing death of your wife. You would complain then to your friends, the people on FB/TH-cam, the world, God and the Universe.......Why would you complain? Because you made your life, you created it and all that is in it and that surrounds you. It is not given to you, not chanced upon. You earned the life you have, created the life you have, struggled and loved the life you have. You will not have stolen it, burgled it or been in any way ungrateful for it. You would have worried about all the misfortunes that could befall you and insured that they would not visit you, you could not mitigate them. You would have lost sleep and then and then they happen and you would complain with deep groan. A groan that when you here it in a stranger will chill your soul. Meow Meow the most sacred blessing of your life and the damnable curse is that you do not live alone.
Started reading your book last week and it's been helping me to find meaning in the meaninglessness. Thanks for your work!
Is it good? I just bought it and It will be arriving today.
@@happystar56 Yep, I was worried it was strictly going to be a collection of essays without his input, however it's all that and more.
@y m o e u s th-cam.com/video/dz9Il6isViE/w-d-xo.html
I can’t thank this channel enough for the incredible insights about life and reality. I found it in the midst of an existential crisis and it has helped me to come out the other side as better rounded and complete individual. I feel as though I’ve come to terms with death and the confidence and freedom that gives me is incredible. Thank you
well said
what was ur crises like. I think im going thru one. Can you message my IG
@@wovasteengova what crisis are you going through?
@@6uill6rm6 weed trip, hullucenates about hell... Seeing good and evil in this world.. Plus learning some things about the Bible that nobody told me about growing up. Completely changing my view as a grow older. Finding out I was raised a fundamentalist.
A woman that I connected with randomly after she unmatched me on tinder said "everything happens for a reason" when I mentioned we were having a good conversation and asked why she unmatched. I responded with "good point, maybe the universe was protecting me from you." She didn't know how to respond. Oh well...
I truly believe no one is responsible for anything that happens in their life, be it good or bad. The universe doesn't care about your existence or well-being. It simply is. Things just happen. And I'm not sure if that makes me relieved or unconfortable.
@The greatest to never live If you have cancer it's your fault?
@@jacky9575 no but it's your responsibility to do something about it. And you have a choice oh how to take it and what you will do.
I think it’s comforting, to know that whatever happens to me is happenstance, that way I can accept it as is tbh. Knowing that I have the power to give any meaning I want to life gives a lot more freedom and meaning in and of itself.
@The greatest to never live 1/3 of people contract some sort of cancer in their lives. Not that uncommon.
The universe is chaotic. It doesn't care about good or bad.
"It's strange" she thought "How the void of something can weigh more than it's presence"
That line hits dude
I learned a long time ago....I simply did not matter. Sure I matter to myself, sure I matter to others, and others matter to me. But to some people in the world I know I don't matter.
I simply do not matter to the Universe. It has given me no indication that it thinks, cares, or loves. It just is.
When something really cool happens...I'm happy BUT, just as easily as something good can happen, something else can just as easily crush you without mercy.
This is interesting. I'm kinda thinking out loud here, but the way I see it, nothing really matters. As far as we know universe doesn't have to exist, and if it were to stop there wouldn't be a greater consequence. All life would disappear, but all life eventually disappears anyway. But on the flip side, the universe does exist and we are all here, and that matters, but only to us. Every life matters to itself and to those it affects (like you stated). You only get to do this life thing once before you disappear. And so in that sense everything matters, but only right now, only in the present, only in the living of life. If I had to draw a conclusion from that-- from none of it mattering and from all of it mattering--it's that mattering is the wrong thing to focus on. Live, be present, find joy, spread joy, be grateful, and help others do the same.
personally i very much prefer living with the philosophy that nothing happens for a predetermined reason. the dominos just fall as they will. i lose the comfort of feeling cared about by the undefined universe, but i also never have my beliefs shattered. i dont need the love of a god or energy, it makes the real human love im surrounded by so much more important and visible.
I agree, but determinism intrigues me still, even though the universe having a plan specifically for me sounds extremely stupid and egotistical
I find it painful that people love a God more that they do people
One of the flaws I've encountered with this philosophy is that I sometimes sulk in Nilhism and the only ways to feel loved and safe is to work on yourself or seek validation. You can't just have it like people who have faith say they do-
Yet you decide you believe it, Don't say live, You know you believe that just as you can decide to not believe it
People say you don’t value something until it’s gone.
I almost lost my life (by my own accord), and yet today I absolutely say that
BEING ALIVE IS ENOUGH.
"Well, if you are still alive, is that not enough?"
This question makes me wonder if she ever understood the argument and realised the contradiction?
The problem is that if you say there is a reason for just being alive you are ignoring the contradiction which just goes back to the same argument, like the events of death or suffering while being alive.
Too bad you never hear the story from a dead person.
That is an interesting way of seeing it. The contradiction is what attracts the different events and begs the question, what if everything does not happen for a reason if you lose?, in contrast to, what if everything happens for a reason if you gain?. Experiencing either makes you realize the existence of the other. The ' reasons' of the characters of the story ended up creating their reasons or meaning as a result of the circumstances they faced, which could not be changed, which means, you create the reasons based on who you are and who you aspire to be.
@@africakalahari4477 If someone claims that everything happens for a reason and someone else does not agree with that claim how is the one not accepting the claim creating a reason?
@@africakalahari4477 If you make a claim and your argument for that claim is fallacious how can I just accept it? How am I the one creating a reason if you made the claim in the first place? Do you realise that the claim comes from you?
I have been on both sides of this same argument several times in my life. Sometimes, when life is really dark, it is hard to see the reason for everything but I do believe that those dark moments are often there to teach us something we wouldn't see otherwise, or it's preparation for something that could happen in the future. Life does get to be too much sometimes and sometimes the breeze carries us easily to new heights we never could have reached if we didn't lose something in the process. Every time I lose, I eventually "win" but it's never instant and sometimes takes a while to understand why it was so to find my "prize". Thank you again for your thoughtful videos and conscious ad for mental health services. The blues have their welcome place but can get way too heavy for even the strongest of souls. Good to know more help is out there.
Rebecca and Alithia's speeches at the end were incredible. I have wondered this myself ever since 2017, when my sister's work colleague was abducted and murdered by an Uber driver she had ordered.
As always a thought provoking brilliant episode. Kind of reminded me of driving somewhere that’s busy, being stuck in slow traffic and choosing to go another way.....that then takes longer. We usually automatically think that the original way would of been quicker......truth is there’s no way to know and that in reality it doesn’t matter as we didn’t choose to do that so can never know. We all make choices all of the time never knowing what our choice or another one would have resulted in. Random I know!
Rebecca: "Well...if you are alive...is that, not enough?"
Alythia: "Umm...my brother is DEAD! Were you not paying attention to anything I said?"
rebecca: may he rest in peace, more wine?
The dead can't give their opinion.
bruh, i think she didn't mention her brother. but yea Aly's argument should be enough. Bec's response was limited only to her breakup experience. there's a popular video here on youtube about "survivor bias" - i think it literally applies on Bec's response
@@martmart. Yeah, I know she didn't mention her brother; however, if Rebecca and Alythia are friends...then, Rebecca knew what happened to Alythia's brother. It was almost like 'Becca completely ignored Aly's mile-long speech, with, "But...YOU are alive...so what if something bad happened to someone you know, love and cherish?"
@@BrockLee3 for real. An absurd question. Basically just responding as "k."
Saying "Everything happens for a reason" is not the same as saying "Everything happens for a good reason".
True.
how so? Its basically the same thing. People use that phrase again and again after experiencing something good after a bad one, don't they?
So, tell me the reason of a good person dieing ?
@@vin.ayy_8-- We are finite creatures. There is no level of goodness that can be achieved that relieves one of not coming to a physical demise. They met their end, as we all will.
@@vin.ayy_8-- We are not immortal. We live, die and move on. Our lifetime is very brief in cosmic time.
Humans are so good at pattern recognition, that we see them even when there's none.
Fact is, bad things can happen to good people, and good things can happen to bad people.
This can only mean one of two things; either destiny is apathetic or sadistic.
Keep this in mind before you try to comfort someone with false patterns.
Or just that random stuff happens to everyone.
@@markmurex6559 Apathetic means doesn't care either way. So, exactly that.
It's probably both, let's be real lol
„The events of our lives don’t need reasons. We need them”
thank you, pursuit of wonder; thank you robert. your new book came out at a really trying time in my life. with big changes currently on the horizon and lots of uncertainty, i found comfort and solace in the well written stories and philosophical analysis you've shared
i haven't read a lot of books recently, as my passion for reading has been a bit stunted by my desire to spend time on things i find worthwhile - and i've been uninterested in most kinds of books that have been popular these days...
The Art of Living a Meaningless Existence (along with your videos) has validated the way i've been thinking about existence and life since i was a child. people have always told me that i think too much and read too much into things and overanalyze, but i have a deep drive to explore and question the world around me; to find and delight in mystery, to turn over ideas and "truths" that have been instilled in me at a time when i couldn't possibly have known better
this pursuit has led me down dark unknown paths to ideas and feelings other people are scared to venture into, but it's comforting to know that you - and other people in the community you've grown - are right here with me.. though i may not hear all your voices and i may never meet any of you, it's simply nice to know others are walking down the same path and struggling with the same puzzles
at one point i was recommended a video, a strange looking one with a weird title that kind of spooked me a bit and i didn't know if i should click on it. it kept popping up in my feed and i finally decided to give it a shot, and it was my first time experiencing pursuit of wonder. such value. such inspiration and perspective.
so yeah, thank you for sharing with us what you create. i thoroughly enjoy and am entertained by, and inspired and humbled by your thoughtful work. it's among the greatest, most worthwhile experienced i've ever had with media and i wish you continued success and enjoyment
A reason can be found for anything !
@Harsh Kumar God had a plan.
@@markmurex6559 Give me a reason, why you watched this video?, Don't overthink, You think about something off the top of your head
@@markmurex6559 if some one is raped and died, do God have a reaosn for that victim ??
"It's not so much that I must succeed, but I must see others suffer."
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Then, in a twisted sense you have succeeded. Because if you can find comfort in seeing others suffer more than you do, then go ahead and enjoy the ride as much as possible.
"It’s strange how the void of something can weigh so much more than its presence."
wow.
What is so amazing about this channel is that this man is leaving a part of himself, he is leaving his mark. These videos will exist for as long as humans exist.
The last laugh made me bust out laughing. Some people are so happy and grateful for the bare minimum. Maybe that’s why I’ve had such a hard time finding happiness.
I go by this saying “everything happens for a reason sometimes the reason is you messed something up along the way”
Oh, nice. I'm sure that will help. Just blame yourself
Sorry bro, I don't need to blame myself. I've spent decades in my life having others do that for me.
@@TheBrandonn not so much blaming yourself but what good is blaming the universe going to do. There is always something you can do better sure that’s bad grade might be a result of a bad grade system or a bad teacher but it could also be on you for not studying for longer… all I’m saying is there are three things you can blame… the universe… others… and yourself… you can only change one of those the other two are out of your control so you might as well fix yourself
We live in a chaotic world, everything which happens is random and meaningless.
If everything is random, there must be at least one thing that is in order and has meaning.
Assuming, "everything" is an infinite and not just a synonym for "the universe".
Is you making a meal random? If not, then not everything is random.
We're all connected, you know. Brains link to brains. Persist in your world of darkness if you want.
Atheists truly believe this?
but you can choose to give a the meanings of everything, the world is a simulation of your mind anyway
Hey man i literally cry every video i watch. It's like " what? Other people think like this too?" You're a great story writer /teller and a great philosopher of course. You manage to make me feel so many emotions in very little time. Thank you from the heart
Thank you for these I really needed this
U didn't even watch the video
xD
HILARIOUS
I would say we find meaning in the course of our lives rather than things happen for a reason. We need to make sense and meaning of things because it’s inexorably linked to our will to survive so we need to rationalize things.
The people who don't survive can't tell you that it happened for a reason or not.
Exactly, humans only wanna hear about hope, victory and happiness. Most tend to negate or forget all the bad stuff that's in front of their nose and keep telling imaginary stories until they believe it.
Life it's just random,without meaning at all.
We just try to give a meaning for our peace of mind, and that its enough for most of us!!!!
Being alive is enough of a reason to be hopeful.
But is it really enough? I feel that just being alive isn’t living, especially if a person is experiencing chronic physical and/or emotional pain. One tends to accompany the other. Accept it and/or reach out to professional help.
Hope is usually just postponed disappointment.
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@@krokodyl1927 being alive means you have a choice. A choice to how you react to whatever tragedy happened to you.
I got this video at a time when I needed it the most.. My life just taking a u turn..m feeling good now... Thanku for this video👍👍👍
Same for me too, much needed rn!. Let's hope everything eventually work out for good reason....
Believing that everything happens for a reason is very empowering concept that allows us to go throw life's challenges more successfully and calmly
Even if it wasn't true still way more beneficial psychologically than believing it's just a chaotic life
It's like the free will debate even though science doubting it still it's more beneficial for us to believe that we have a free will than just living as a puppets controlled by something else ..
everything might have a cause but I don't see how believing everything has a reason is empowering ?? and usually when someone says everything has a reason they assume that the reason is a good reason and at the end something good will happen but its rarely the case and we think this only when something good happens....for example many youtubers would feel like the pandemic helped them as many people were free so many grew in subscriber count so for them the pandemic happened for a reason but what about the people who died due to lack of space in hospitals, children died, pregnant women died what benefit did they have ??? In my place many died due to lack of oxygen tanks what was their reason ...a lot of rapes happen and many are killed after being assaulted some are minor girls what is their reason??......well I think that its a chaotic life and I am ok with it cause I don't try to fight it I focus on the things I can control and when bad things happen I just try to make it better I take the responsibility instead of waiting for the god or the universe to lead me to the plan it made for me
@@religiousatheist3430 I think it’s more of a shift in perspective after things happen. Kinda like the guy in the attic having a close minded perspective about the flood and all the bad things that it has caused him. Then fast forward to after his successful treatment he realizes something good can come out of a tragic event. It opens his perspective to not only focus on the bad things currently happening but recognize what it can lead to. It’s not easy to look at an event like Covid and think anything good can come out of it, but maybe in 10 years we’ll realize it better prepared our civilization to respond to an outbreak or something of that nature.
You if you don't have free will... then, you really cannot choose things. because that means you don't make desicions, it's just a ilution
@@Nathan_Johnson7723 I think taht's more optimism, not exaclty believing that everything has a reason to happen, what I mean, it's that we can apreciate the good things of life, sorry if my english is very bad, i'm not american, sorry m8
If you want to lie to yourself all the time....
This universe is chaotic and unpredictable with no meaning what's so ever. The meaning is only set by the people.
This is correct. I don't understand how so many people don't get this.
The way each video is better than the next is amazing and you have quite possibly the best voice for narration I’ve ever heard. Keep up the awesome work this is the best channel on TH-cam!
I'm pretty sure you mean to say that "each video is better than the LAST" (or the previous), not the next. If each one is better than the next, that would mean they're getting progressively worse, which I seriously doubt is what you meant to say.
@@justleon721 yea was a typo lol
I love your story telling videos explaining the message. The stories are always so inticing. Keep doing these more often
If Hell or Heaven is real, you would live for eternity and that is the most terrifying thing
Everything happens for no reason
You're a modern day philosopher. Thank you so much for your inspiring thoughtful videos...
Things just happens, we are the story teller of our life giving a meaning to what happens to frame it in our story. In the end, it's still about the battle between the rational mind and the ancestral spirit that talks to us through emotions.
Life is what you make it. Realities and fantasies has no distinction of what can be and can’t. Ideals and beliefs lies in the same subjected perspective . What is, is what is. How things are, is how it is. And who you are is who you are. Life is what you make of it.
I’ve reached the conclusion we can face anything life brings our way. However, the yearning of the human heart is like a restless thoroughbred tethered to the stable. A life force in need of daily attention and freedom of expression.
Can't relate 🤣 I barely like waking up every day
Is it better to lie to myself to feel better? Or to accept the painful reality? I want to believe that all the loneliness I'm experiencing is, in some convoluted way, going to lead me to a happy life soon. That it will guide me towards finding the perfect partner, that I won't feel alone anymore.
But I don't know if I can lie to myself, and I don't know if I'll believe it. I don't know if it's right or wrong.
I've been feeling the same way lately....
The mind of man can lift a lot. Just by believing that you can do it. You would be surprised by how many obstacles you can pass by like it's not as crippling as it is. Do you believe that if you gave a pretty decent effort that you could do it. Then believe it and put the decent effort.
Same here brother !!
Just waiting for God to appear before me from nowhere .. and 'tick' the column of 'yes' or 'no' .. to this statement .
Same here
If you need a partner to feel happy, you won’t be happy with a partner. You are missing more than a companion.
Thank you - for teaching me the lesson I needed all my life ❤
There is a reason for everything, but the reasons often have nothing to do with us.
so many people tell me everything happens for a reason and I just want to smack them. Its like a lame cop out
it's the lamest argument ever I agree
I mean if there is some kind of superhuman power/deity/god, there is definitely almost always a reason. But if there isn't, nothing happens for a reason. It is just "chaos" and it is your own perception of the"chaos" that defines "a reason" and gives it a meaning.
If you doubt there's a reason, then doubt the doubt.
I'm wondering why a Christian didn't post something here to try to convert you.
Sometime somewhere on Earth, somebody's will fall victim to rape, mutillation, murder, bully, or any kinds of horrible shits. It could happen to any of us. What could be the reason or justification for that? Even if there's a god/deity out there, they don't give a damn about us. Shits will just happen, they're not gonna do anything, because it doesn't matter.
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@@markmurex6559 hahahah
In all fairness, I don't really think things happen for a reason but rather it happens due to randomness and if that randomness has you be alive and better off then I am grateful for that.
Imagine your loved one dies and someone tells you "everything happens for a reason." You're entitled to believe whatever you want, but when a young person loses also young person who was big part of their life, don't tell them everything happens for a reason, at least while they're still grieving. It's just a bad timing.
We do give it meaning to survive...
I guess life is like a Roschach picture... the meaning or meaninglessness of events lies completely in the eyes of the beholder.
Y'all need to stop advertising betterhelp. They collect and record patient sessions. It's a data collection service. A lot of them arent even therapist, but "life coaches". The ubereats of mental health services.
I listen to your videos like a bed time story at night..your voice is so soothing and calming,which puts me to sleep...the stories you narrate is so good and the voice makes it even better...i added your podcast on spotify as well
"Ah, ya, I totally like, love you too, baby. Cheers!"
I'm comfortable with the fact that world doesn't revolve around me. I'm comfortable with the fact that God doesn't exist. I'm comfortable with the fact that our lives have no apparent meaning. No it doesn't makes me hopeless, rather its more liberating. It's our innate human nature to look for reasons all the time. There is none! If something bad happens to you; no, no great thing is waiting for you to happen.This kind of thinking is only a coping mechanism, nothing else. Try to see the world as it is. Ruthless, unkind, yet beautiful in its own way. Don't believe in anything that you assume could be true. May be you were wrong all along, who knows.
In life I'm always Alithia.
Your writing, music, and visuals are absolutely incredible. 10/10 It’s easy to see how passionate you are about this.
I love how these videos make you really slow down and think.
Nothing happens for a reason but the matter we move legitimately has a butterfly effect with surrounding matter, like a closed system eco dome that turns the nutrients into more broken down elements you can literally see with time. The micro organisms literally change their surroundings until they die. Because of a great filter. Their filter is a jar. What’s your jar? You could argue whatever you can influence.
„Nothing“ happens for a REASON.
There you go.
Regards,
a fellow semi-determinist
Based title
Lmao
There's something in this sequence of thoughts that hits deep. Perhaps that's what profound ideas do to us.
Life and death are inevitable . Life is about doing and living our best for the best positive of all and us. The one who is positive will always find the positive out of a unexpected good or bad event , and learn from it for a better tomorrow. The one who gets discouraged is the one who feels he is too weak and puts everything on the circumstance and refuses to stand again. Every failure or disaster has a thing or lesson to be learnt . But it becomes a reason only when we are looking to live our lives to help others and keep working for the universe who created us.
Nothing is a cause for everything, #PursuitOfWonder
The Serenity Prayer comes to mind.
I've slowly come to the conclusion that we've been lied to about the true nature of this realm & our existence.
Best wishes to you all
Hello there
Could you explain a bit more?
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Which part, friend?
@@earnyourimmortality the true nature of our existence
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I'm starting to think this place might actually be hell in disguise
Whether or not everything happens for a reason, the same things happen. It is whether or not you make the connection, you find the reason.
You can either live to be the victim your whole life, or find the reasons things happen.
There is no reason. For me, it's partially being a victim (very blatant Truman show-esque events happen on almost daily basis, Murphy's law in full effect, etc) and then partially just random chaos. It only happens bc the world is full of braindeads, and naturally, being surrounded by people, will make your life suck.
That banal, obscene line, "everything happens for a reason"
Sometimes it really is just as simple as luck (good or bad). Sometimes fate is out of our hands. There’s more to being human than choice, there’s vicissitude. There are unexpected changes that we have no control over. Things don’t happen for a reason. Things just happen, and then we GIVE them a reason to pacify ourselves. Life is less about getting what you want and more about making the best of what you get.
We give/create reasons to whatever happens. (just a human ego thing)
You videos helped me through a very touch life mentally and i appreciate this channel existing and you being so good at teaching thank you!
I always say "Nothing happens for a reason. Everything only happens because of a reason".
The reason is that there is no reason.
When bad things happen we say oh there's no reason we just suffer blah blah but when good things happen we wanna own credit to them and act like the reason is we deserve them 😂. Humans..
THIS!
Not accurate, I give reason to bad things in my life.
If I plot to kidnap you?, Would you still believe that there's no reason?, There'd be a reason, Probably money , Someone paid me off 1 million dollar to kidnap you, Or I just despise you or some other shit, But is there a reason for why I despise you?, Probably you did something to my family etc, The possibilities of why I despise are endless, To sump it up, Sometime there's a reason, Sometimes there's not a reason
There's no reason for either. I've also not heard of people who nitpick like this. You typically believe one or the other. Perhaps you hang out with some strange people haha
Oh it's a half and halfer. Nvm. Carry on with whatever you believe... 😂
@@TheBrandonn Who you talking to?
Obviously. You'd have to be insane to think the world is anything other than sheer and utter random chaos.
But many do think like that and they think people who think that the world is sheer and utter random chaos and who don't feel that we are the center of universe and there is an intelligent designer who is closely monitoring us are insane
Yes but think of all the countless billions of people around the world who believe in and worship a deity/god.
Are all of those people insane?
Are they all wrong?
@@nackjicholson1940 but bro just because an idea is popular it doesn't make it true right
I mean more people don't believe in Allah compared to people who do so does that make Muslims wrong??
more people don't believe in Christianity compared to people who do does that makes Christians wrong ??
more people don't believe in Hindu gods compared to people who do does this makes the Hindus wrong ??
take any religion more people lack faith in that compared to people who do follow the religion
at one point vast majority people believed in geocentric universe
people believed the earth was flat at a point of time ...we can be wrong even if we are the majority
@@nackjicholson1940 they may not be insane or necessarily wrong for all we know but it’s trying to give unexplainable events an explanation to satisfy our fear of not knowing.
@@religiousatheist3430 insane, and unintelligent! Nice! Ever heard of punctuation, my dude? 🤦
When you consider the vastness of space and time and reality, and compare them with your ability to understand them, you will then understand that you have no idea if there are reasons for the way things happen. "We are pieces on the chessboard; moved by unseen hands, for unknown ends." - Ranazu the Etruscan
On accident by design...
To add complexity to our simple mental nature.
We're the part of that nature through which it sees itself and creates.
We're just here to do the work.
i can't express how much i fucking love this channel
Its the feelgood story of the year that we were all waiting for lol. I hear Hollywood calling you should pitch your story's to a movie producer because its better than the crap that's out there now lol. No really it is. :)
Everything happens for a reason, but it doesn't mean we would know what the reason is.
Facts
I enjoy your videos but I specifically wanted to compliment you on the writing. It's really engaging...Nice work!
I really admire the work you do , it really provides a new perspective into everything, more growth to you sir 🙏🏽
The absolute myopic nihilism in this video is startling. Just because someone dies doesn't mean things don't happen for a reason. If there is no afterlife, then sure, everything is more or less meaningless in the long haul, but if there is another world, a better world, then we're here to learn and everything has ultimate meaning. :)
Death makes people feel uncomfortable, but what you should remember about death is that it is never describable subjectively, but rather, arbitrarily and from the outside. Death is therefore never experienced as a personal loss. The loss has its form in the attitudes, beliefs, and attachments of the viewers.
Nothing ever happens. Eternal stillness in motion. Always only this
That's seems a cogent argument distinguishing between death and being alive as bad and good respectively. however, life is more than that, survival with constant disappointments with the knowledge of infirmity & death and with occasional happiness. How better are we from the ones who are already dead?
No better because we will be dead at some point. We all get our life, but we all die in the end.
Life happens, it happens to everyone. It's up to us to live it or waste it. No matter how much pain we are given with, there's always a sense of relief after every painful event. If there's no pain, there will be no happiness.
I have often heard that if everything was good and perfect we wouldn't appreciate it. It would all become mundane. There is a video on here The Perfect Amount Of Awful, I think or something close to that. But I wonder if the opposite would also be true, like if we lived in a world where everything was terrible and there was pretty much nothing but pain and sadness and bad things always happening to would it really be bad? Would we really know what pain and sadness was if that all that there ever was to begin with? It just seems that in a world where everything was good and perfect we couldn't appreciate it because we wouldn't no what pain and suffering is in order to appreciate the good, but wouldn't the opposite also be true that in a world where everything was bad and there was only pain and suffering we wouldn't think it was a bad world because that's all we'd ever known so nothing would really be bad.
I love this channel too much... but it has earned it, time and time again
Your videos are a beautiful reminder of...life.