I believe in black women rocking their natural hair but I definitely believe that she is receiving backlash for not moisturizing and styling her natural hair.
She is. It's still wrong tho. She may have that personality type that just can't be bothered with her hair. We all know the type people who just don't have the interest and their interest simply lie elsewhere. There are women who refuse to shave and some women who just tie their hair up in a ponytail forever lol. This is what it could look like for a black woman who may not take interest in hairstyling. Truth is hair isn't that huge of a deal. People hate to see curly hair in this way. uneven and free forming tight coils for some reason just drives people crazy. it shouldn't. also i hope my tone was more agreeing with you because i'm in no way combating what you said. I just read and decided to rant and add more lmao☺. cheers God bless
Idk “styling” is subjective. Many non blacks go for the “tousled” look or a “messy” bun all tolerable and acceptable styles except for black type 4 hair. People should say her isn’t in preferred socially acceptable style
Exactly. We have to have standards when it comes to 4c natural hair and this is anything but, especially on a wedding day. I don't care what race you are, this picture makes you want to to ask her to blink twice if she needs help, because absolutely no woman would think it's okay to look like this on a wedding day.
OK, first of all how do you know the people so-called dragging her? Aren’t just white folks trying to create division? Black folks are far too gullible to be on social media.
No, let’s be honest. It’s not about her being natural. I’ve been natural for almost 20 years now. It’s about her looking like she took off her bonnet, got dressed and went to her wedding. It’s unkempt. It looks dry and uneven. Natural doesn’t mean that you don’t care for your hair. You can’t compare the bride to Simone because Simone actually styles her hair for the games. This young lady didn’t even use her hands to fluff her hair out evenly. Everyone doesn’t have to have laid edges (because I definitely don’t do all that) or wearing wigs, weaves, etc., for your hair to be groomed. This is simply about the lack of grooming in my opinion. You don’t have to wear an elaborate style for your hair to be groomed. There’s nothing wrong with being a lazy natural. I’m one myself. But I do still moisturize and style my hair to keep it healthy. It looks like it’s broken off badly in certain areas from lack of caring for it. You can’t tell me that this is groomed! Don’t piss on me and tell me it’s raining! Wear your natural hair. But care for it too! It’s not hard when it’s short to keep it clean, moisturized and tidy.
@@ennvee1989 exactly! I miss embarrassment and shame lol. When I was younger, you kept your business to yourself because you didn’t want to be embarrassed or feel ashamed by your actions or lack thereof. Now? You’re supposed to just support everyone in their 🐂💩and it’s ok! No!!! We should maintain some level of respect for ourselves by keeping ourselves up for ourselves as well as not wanting to be embarrassed by coming out of the house looking just any kind of way. Respectably politics aren’t all bad! There’s nothing wrong with saying that pajamas and bonnets belong in your house and not the store. There’s nothing wrong with being covered appropriately when you’re pregnant instead of just wearing your regular clothes unbuttoned and so tight that everyone sees it if you have a mole on your stomach! And there’s nothing wrong with saying that you should care for your hair, and actually do it nicely for special occasions. Sorry for the rant. But it’s so tiring to just see the world going to 💩 around you, yet you’re wrong for pointing it out and saying we need to do better.
STOP CAPPIN! She getting dragged for uncombed hair natural does NOT mean unkempt! This does not represent the Natural Hair Community! Stop playin in our face!
She clearly has a line up and who’s to say she didn’t comb her hair? These are the same criticisms white people give us when we are going for jobs etc and also the same criticisms we give people like Simone Biles who hair stays done…why can’t bw wear their natural hair as they please…if it’s not for you that’s fine but it’s clearly okay with her🤎
Beloved is it a crime to not comb our hair? This was a beautiful statement. This made me honestly think of Beyonce baby. YOU WAKE UP FLAWLESS. Her diamond FLAWLESS this made me happy af. This was deep she basically said yes unambiguous black features we wake up flawless on our best day( which some may argue is supposed to be our wedding day) And to choose a look similar to how she could look if she just woke up was POWERFUL imo. Yea her man and her are riding off into the sunset because she is the best choice. Her and her hair. Deciding not to comb should not be cause for people to degrade her appearance. There is nothing bad about this form of us. It can not be your preference but it's not bad. And since it is her wedding it's a statement that this is beautiful to her and her husband and frankly to the world.
@@CoffeeCuties777sis STOP 😂 she CLEARLY didn’t bother styling her hair. It looks like she just rolled out of bed. This doesn’t represent our image at all nor do you need to defend bs 😅
THIS!!!! it looks like she rolled outta bed, whipped off the bonnet, and said “time to get hitched” without so much as spraying some water in her hair??!! 🫤
@@mariabrown6926 Okay, and? I don’t define my curls but I at least moisturize it and pick it out. Stop making excuses for this type of laziness. She was able to put on a wedding dress, her man took the effort to look presentable. What’s her excuse? You all live in an alternate universe where this is what Black women should strive to be. I’m done.
@@maryfields877 facts, her hair is matted down, uneven, and dusty colored. Sis would have ate with a black rinse, a spray bottle, and an afro pick. Hell why not add a pretty hair clip or hairband too, its her wedding for crying out loud lol.
I don't believe the criticism was about her natural hair, I think it was more about the appearance. I am 100% Team Natural, my hair is natural and beautiful and I like to dress it up for special occasions. Agreed, it was her choice to wear it whatever way she wanted for her wedding day but let's not pretend it doesn't look just crawled out of bed.
I'm saying. A little warm water, Blue magic, coconut oil and finger detangling and shaping she could have had a fire Grace Jones moment. It just looks like she took the bonnet off and her hair is molded to the head still.
Its not just the hair. She out here looking like those foster kids that have foster parents that just keep the check. Look at the WHOLE picture. Wedding day, hair not done, not trimmed, not even in a hair wrap or veil, undone, no earings, no necklace, no make up, no lip gloss, ill fitting dress without the proper undergarments.... unless this is a last minute wedding in vegas, it looks like nobody took care of this bride on her wedding day. They gave her bare minimum and thats sad. I could see going without some of these things but without any of these things, this is literally the bare minimum.
Did you perhaps consider that she may not have wanted those things? Plenty of people don't wear jewelry or makeup for religious reasons. In regards to her hair, it could very well have rained prior to the pictures being taken and her hair could've gotten wet and shrunk in an uneven way before the ceremony. The people dragging her are simply hateful. She's not degrading herself or behaving in a vulgar manner, she's getting married.
@mariabrown6926 yeah I considered that. That's why I pointed out I could imagine not wanting some of those things. But bffr? None of those things? Not even a good strapless bra? Lip gloss? Also please get off your high horse because I am not shaming the bride.
@Seruuuuu02 I literally said it's sad nobody took care of this bride on her wedding day OMFG what is your issue D4MN just be mad since u just want to be mad about something. I'm not giving this post anymore engagement.
Her hair was simply undone, that's our only grievance. A wash and go with neat little side part and a pretty hair clip to compliment her dress would have been lovely
Yes I have 4c hair and my wash and gos consist of conditioner for 10 min, rinse, apply shea butter or hair grease, part it to the side and I'm done. The grease/shea butter inhibits a little shrinkage so it just forms a fluffy globe on my head. Sorry but her hair is for sure matted
@@CurllyDom85 yeah it was getting a little mean. It's just unusual to see someone not done to the nines for that special day. I feel like that's why it got so much heat
Thats not natural, that is lazy and just not picking, combing, oiling, washing nor conditioning her hair. I love natural hair, i have an afro. That looks bad
No I WOULDN’T but I’m not her…why can’t she wear HER hair as she pleases on HER WEDDING DAY? Why is this photo viral if black women don’t like the style …she’s not famous …why criticize her …why can’t we just support things we do like and keep it pushing 🤎
@@truthteller77 Notice how Black women are VERY, VERY touchy about their hair? It's like it's a reflection on them. It's like she's representing them, when she's not! This is why so many are so upset. They are embarrassed by it. Too many Black women take umbrage to things like this (same thing was done to Blue Ivy, Gabby, Simone). MOST BW just won't admit that they are uncomfortable with natural Black hair, unless it looks perfect. I would never wear my hair like that, but so what?!! I don't take offense to this bride wearing her hair like that. I bet her husband is used to seeing her hair like that. He may even like it. Did anybody ever think about that? NO! Because they hate seeing it. Too many Black women really don't know how and when to mind their own business. Too judgmental. Too extra!!
STOP IT. Her hair is not done. Even if she didn't or couldn't comb it she could have at least did an African head wrap. She looks like she climbed out of bed, walked passed the bathroom out the front door and down the aisle.
Well she is a version of my image and the women in my family image. To her core her facial features are symmetrical. Not sure how old she is. But i mean i see brown skin kinky hair and full features. If she decided to accessorise differently one day and put on lip gloss mascara pretty much any other complimentary hair style she would easily blend in as a classic beautiful woman we love to see. I'm sure her man knows it too. THIS IS NOT A BAD LOOKING WOMAN FROM A LONG SHOT.
I didn’t say rather or not this is beautiful natural hair I stated her hair is natural and she should be able to wear her hair as she please without bullying and harassment…instead of poking fun at another BW why can’t we utilize the comment section to educate and uplift?
She could've done better. Women of every race fix their hair for special occasions. Heck, most of us women fix our hair after getting up out of bed! A white woman or anyone would get the same criticism if they did this.
I don't think its the wearing her natural hair is the outrage, its the looking like she just rolled out of bed and the hair hasn't been touched in days. Like she took off the bonnet and said lets go. Just the impression the photos give. Now we don't know she may have had it in a style and it frizzed and shrinked on her because of where they are at is really humid. It almost looks like she tried to french twist the front into the side or something. Idk. I know she could have had a better outcome with a little hot water, some Blue magic and finger detangling and shaping.
Please don't normalize this...please. Not all natural hair is good natural hair. Of course, she has a right to wear her hair as she wishes. We also we also have a right to call out those who choose to present natural hair at its worst in public. I can't tell her what to do, but I can voice my disapproval. As a natural BW, I've taken on the duty to present natural hair *at its best* . I want to inspire others to consider wearing natural hair. That's *my* choice. We have a cultural tradition of "doing" our natural hair. Hair like hers is seen as a call for help, an indicator that something may be wrong. *Especially* at an important social event!!! Images like this are used by haters to put down natural hair. Our hair IS "easy" and "carefree" but we do not have "messy bun" hair. Our "messy" hair is different and should be treated accordingly.
It’s not that she’s wearing her natural hair. Is the fact that she looks like she just got out of bed and decided to get dressed and go to a wedding. She put no effort into looking good for her wedding day. Her hair was uncombed, the dress didn’t fit and no makeup at all. No effort at all. If she will at least just brushed or just picked out her natural hair and has some moisturizer in it wouldn’t be bad.
I think she needs to be educated on how to take care of her hair. Just to keep it healthy and moisturized. Maybe know when to get a trim. Natural hair is best when it’s treated with care no matter the texture
Saw the title and wanted to defend her. I’m glad she is happily married. But there are too many YT videos on washing/styling natural hair. She could’ve got a natural hair stylist to do her, hair. But still glad she found, love 🩷
I don't agree with people making this lady go viral for her hair, but if we are being honest her hair is EXTREMELY unflattering. All she needed was a spray bottle, an afro pick, and a pretty headband to improve her look. I would also add a black rinse, I mean its her wedding day.
wtf is going on... it looks like he just dragged her from the streets while she was napping and made her put this on to cosplay as a bride. She didn't even have vaseline on her lips at least! Why did he do this woman like that.
I don’t think it’s her natural hair she could had styled it or brushed it to the back even in its kinky state it just looked like she woke up without a head scarf on her head that’s all
I don't think the commenters actually Care, they just think she looks ridiculous and are just giving their opinion on it. If she didn't want the criticism she could've kept these photos private
Whatever style she is or is not wearing, the most important aspect of this wedding is that the groom does not look like he has any complaints. He is the ONLY one who counts.
Ngl even with a laid bust down she still would have looked bad. It’s not that her hair is natural, it’s the overall lack of effort. Even her skin looks dry.
I think we’re not used to seeing people wearing wedding attire and not being made up to the nines. She doesn’t seem to have any makeup on and hasn’t done her hair even to the extent of combing or brushing which is fine. It’s just so rare that you see this that it caught everyone’s attention.
For me it's not the natural, it's more like the wedding is at 10 and she got out of bed at 9:45 and just put on her gown. If she is free locking no problem but it really was looking like she was just got up and went.
Bruh, why does everyone that talks about this, makes it sound like she’s being clowned for “wearing her natural hair?” When in REALITY she’s getting cooked because Girlie’s twa looks WELL DONE!! 🔥🔥🔥😳😦😧😰
The people dragging her are probably the same ones who say things like "I hate my 4c hair" or "my 4c could never", those type of black women hate on any other bw who unapologetically wears her crown due to their own insecurities and lack of confidence.
I saw that photo and I didn’t even go to the comments because I already knew how it was going to be. Hopefully, this lady is of age and if she’s happy then l hope she live her best life. That’s it…that’s all ❤️
baby girl hair looks dry, and I just personally would have had my natural hair professionally styled for my wedding. Tbh, i think both of them could have put in a little more effort. But, this is just my preference.
I agree. Personally, when I think of a wedding, I think of the people being married will try their best to look their best! When I see a wedding I want it to be perfect or as close as possible, but at the end of the day whatever makes them happy. It is their wedding day not mine. 🤷♂️
I agree when asked but clearly this woman is just minding her business getting married…if you agree with that do you agree when random coworkers that are not black question your hair choices at work unwarranted?
Mmm I'm not gonna sit here and lie and pretend that this woman here is pretty or fitting of a special occasion. I don't believe she has to lay her edges are slay her hair, but I believe she could have maybe parted to the side, sprayed it with some Afro sheen and picked it and shaped her afro to where it would frame her face. I'm more about the hair framing the face more than the texture, no matter what the texture is, how the hair is sitting on top of the head and how it frames the head your is what's more important than laid baby hairs and what not.
She is a natural beauty and has beautiful skin, I’m not talking about sleeked down puffs and edges but she could at least have made a little something and at least wore some lipstick like come on sis…well, to each his own but it looks like she doesn’t have feminine figures in her life who care about her 🤷🏽♀️
Please leave Simone out of this. Simone clearly grooms her hair on a daily basis including her wedding 💒 day. Simone’s hair is also groomed whenever she competes but her hairstyle becomes undone over time. The bride in this video doesn’t appear to have made any effort to groom her hair. Big difference.
😂 I mean obv her husband knows about personal grooming.. I have a TWA as well but I moisturize my 4c hair and pick it out every few days.. 😅I don’t think she even touch her hair that day
Blu Ivy was a baby wearing her kinky hair, not attending a wedding and black women still dragged her up and down the internet! If people don’t want to comb their hair it is their choice. If you like your hair combed then comb your hair. Let people have their piece. Just because something looks broken to you doesn’t mean it is to someone else. Leave people alone.
It wasn't just Blu Ivy. Angelina Jolie allowed Zahara to wear her hair "free" and some Black women decided to get on social media to tell Angelina what to do with Zahara's hair. Zahara could not have been more than 4 or 5 years old. I don't think Zahara or Angelina had a problem. Black women have a problem with Black hair.
She clearly did not want to get married to this man. Not a hint of makeup and she did not even bother to comb her hair. And she's barely smiling on the pictures.
@@ennvee1989yeah if she wore a veil or something this would've looked a lot better. She should've just shaved her head bald if she was gonna put in this level of effort
I am sorry but her hair looks a mess. This type of appearance kept me in fear 😨 years before I decided to finally go natural in 2013. I have 4c hair too. The bridal dress is beautiful. However, bride needed better hair grooming technique, jewelry and makeup 💄 to brighten her appearance. I am presuming that she looked like this while she was dating the groom. If he thinks that she is beautiful then good for them but I believe that she is capable of looking even better. If the couple is happy then cheers! 🥂
@dranchd6571 I wouldn't say anything because there wouldn't be a subject to talk about! She's wearing a beautiful gown and carrying a beautiful bouquet of flowers, but her hair isn't done like many are used to seeing a bride's hair done! If she is happy, and I hope she is, that's all that counts! Her hair is the subject of this so-called strange controversy that's no one else's business, but her hair, worn natural and not what we're used to seeing on a wedding day, is also the reason people think she might've been forced to get married! But again, her hair is not my business or anyone else's! Period!
@@cindychristian1700 There would be nothing to talk about because fake hair is natural, and natural hair is fake. Why comment in the first place if its no-one's business but hers?
The fact she’s being made fun of because her hair isn’t the society standard but yet she’s GETTING MARRIED and I bet the people criticizing is either single and a baby mama. The way how that man kissed her on the cheek you know he loves her. Wigs are not a flex ladies especially if you claim you got hair BUT NO HAIRLINE/EDGES 🙄
Well looking at the photo, it’s more of a grooming issue than natural. People usually comb their hair and use some products but it’s doesn’t appear to be so here.
I always enjoy your take but I have to disagree with your point of view on her natural hair. I have to agree with the masses, she did not do anything to her hair or this was after she sweated out her hair at the dance floor. It's just not her best natural hair photo.
Its a difference between grooming and just letting your hair do whatever. I was glad to see her natural hair, but there are many ways she could have styled her hair to look more put together. She looks like she just rolled out of bed, but 🎵🎶 no my problem,that's just not my problem. Congratulations 🎉 on her wedding.
This is why I'm happy that I have eachewed the community, culture, and people who don't serve my greater and higher good as a proud mono-racial racially unambiguous woman. I no longer apologize for letting go of the black collective in order to prioritize my femininity, beauty, health, and spirituality. In 2024 I'm officially done withbthe community and culture! My only priority is elevating and uplifting my image as a proud mono-racial (generationally) racially unambiguous woman of Black American ethnicity.
She may have that personality type that just can't be bothered with her hair. We all know the type people who just don't have the interest and their interest simply lie elsewhere. There are women who refuse to shave and some women who just tie their hair up in a ponytail forever lol. This is what it could look like for a black woman who may not take interest in hairstyling. Truth is hair isn't that big of a deal. People hate to see curly hair in this way... uneven and free forming tight coils for some reason just drives people crazy. It SHOULDN'T
It’s just sad honestly, to see people comment about her with her natural hair…even looking at people commenting on here with “her hair is fine but she could’ve done this” like NO what she did is BEAUTIFUL regardless if you like it or not. THIS is HER hair, naturally, and styled THE WAY she wants, and it’s beautiful. I’m so tired of hearing stories like this where black women get berated on their hair if it ain’t laid or ain’t styled a certain way, etc….like why does that matter? At the end of the day, she’s happy and married. THATS ON PERIODT
Im team Natural hair aaaall day but she couldve styled it or braided it or SOMETHING. But she looks happy, her husband looks happy and in love…In the end thats all that matters.
He smiling so it ain’t that big a deal. It’s her head let her wear it. This is where people need to just mind their business and keep it pushing cause why be mad that she didn’t do her hair. It’s her day and obviously she’s happy. Lord people just miserable.
Always a joy to see you've uploaded another think piece. For this video in particular we'll have to agree to disagree. I agree people need to uplift natural looks we do like in the media, but its very clear her hair is unkempt. Her hair is completely matted in the back which is not even healthy for 4c hair. Also that fade she has is very overgrown, which is okay but its not a sign she did anything recently to her hair. Braids, sleek baby edges and wigs are not even needed for her hair to look put together. Just spray some water add $2 blue magic and fluff it out As much as I'd like to disregard this look its hard because it makes 4c girls look bad. As a people i feel we all have to collectively work together to make our natural hair look managed. The same way we address smelling funky when we wake up from our slumber is the same way we address our hair getting matted hair. I feel bad for her in the sense she obviously doesn't have black friends that embrace their natural hair. Also that she likely grew up getting her hair relaxed and missed out on early hair care education. The older you get the less time you have to build these skills. This look could've been fixed in less than 10 mins if she had support.
girl you might be onto something, looks like a prepubescent boy in a gown. Something is off and Im not talking about the hair. Peep the Body language...
The problem is not her wearing her natural hair. The problem is that she has her hair and kept. I have a worn my natural hair so many times and even if I’m gonna wear it natural I still make sure that I moisturize it and I style it before leaving to go anywhere she’s not getting dragged for her natural hair. She’s getting dry because it looks and kept she could’ve done some mini twists. She could’ve done some African threading she could’ve done some straight back roads of her natural hair should’ve done some puffs with some rubber bands. There are so many alternatives out there that she could’ve done she put a little effort in her hair baby girl your hair is your crown take care of it. Your hair is like a plant you have to take care of it, so she. she’s not getting dragged because of her natural hair she’s getting dragged because it looks and kept
Her natural hair is beautiful she just needs a brush and moisturizer. But more importantly, she looks too young to marry him and we should be concerned. Protect Black girls and women around the world.
But she got a man, and the women talking are probably alone with kids to take care of alone! Some, white men, like the natural Look! I have known some.
This story upset me a few days ago. If her and her husband love each other and she isnt a lady who likes much styling done to her natural hair, I cannot understand what the issues is. This is about what people prefer. Preferring natural coils as they appear should never be degraded. wtf are we doing?? The things people do are unbelievable. So counter progressive to bash her appearance let alone her black natural appearance omfg.. She is a bride This was a statement she was making! Same as miss India Arie, she is not her hair. She is the Soul that lives within. Why would any black person wake up and demean a version of our pure form.
Now my honest initial reaction was maybe she was just trying on dresses and her hair got messed up. But if that's not the case and that's just how she styled her hair. Then that's just how she styled her hair. People have different styles that others may like or not like. Then the way society directly/or indirectly look down upon females who don't wear makeup is crazy. Certain careers/jobs you are seen as professional by wearing makeup🤨 When blk women put bonnets on because their hair looks like hers underneath/or whatever it looks like they get talked about. If they have an afro that isn't curly/or big enough they get talked about. The obsession with making their afro curly with braid outs, creams, gels, rods and etc. is crazy. Many say they're "natural" but go through hoops to "define" their curl pattern. Many don't want the Florida Evans afro. If they get weaves, braids w/o weave, wigs, relaxers, perms, put color in their people talk about them. Many straighten their hair because they fear they won't get the job/promotion because an Afro will seem too blk. Like if they wear afros they're part of the Black Panthers/NAACP and will report all the racism at the job. But I love when blk women love whatever way they want to wear their hair. Not worried about what others see you as is a freeing feeling.
It's disappointing to me that we can see people doing brilliant things in their lives and their careers, and the first thing we do as humans is question their appearance.
I agree. Her hair may look inappropriate for a wedding, but it's her wedding. Look at how the public treated Simone Biles due to her wedding pictures. Even after she won numerous gold medals, women still found a need to criticize her hair. What's the rationale behind that?
Appearance matters in the world whether we want it to or not and it does say something about you sometimes depending on the person and the individual. And I don't think this is a racial issue or black people tearing down natural hair, as many have said her hair looks uncombed/unstyles and such. She didn't have to have laid-edges or anything but just looks like no effort to people. That said, that's how freedom is people can carry themselves however they want and people are free to question it. Such is life.It's be she and her husband though and no one else.
@@beautybonvoyage8624 When appearance matters more than the value or happiness of a person then we've entered into a superficial society. ESPECIALLY when their appearance does not concern you or meet your approval. REMEMBER, just because society does it, doesn't make it right. Celebrities are now upset because some people are using social media to call their babies "ugly". Where does it stop?
@@beautybonvoyage8624 Appearance unfortunately does matter, however, when the critique of somebody's appearance is used to undermine not only their achievements, but to make negative assumptions and connotations about them because of it, that's where I draw the line. I have seen people in this comment section call this lady mentally unwell, slow, and comparing her to a man due to her appearance. None of that is kind or fair, or has even been confirmed if it just so happens to be the case, and yet we want people to refrain from saying those same statements about us. If anyone understands the importance of appearance, it would be me, but I can also give grace and compassion where it is due. We can so easily create unwanted insecurities while trying to protect an image. We have so many hidden and underlying issues with beauty, appearance and respectability politics as it is, I don't want to feed the monster we've created any further.
Her appearance is making me question if she even washed her behind that day. Did she brush her teeth? Wash the crust out her eye that morning? It just looks like she neglects her hair and probably herself. This is not the way of our ancestors lol
But it’s not styled or groomed at all. Yes she has the choice, but if she post on social media, know that people have the choice to speak freely about what you KNOW they’re going to call you on. And stop saying it’s about her natural hair. It’s about that she just flat out did not comb it that morning.
People have to keep in mind...Every black woman is not obsessed about her hair. And to be perfectly honest, Based on her choice of husband (based on looks) They actually look like a good match to me. And I bet they're both smart and educated as hell😂
I thought it was weird people dogging on her they say they want natural but really don’t want it…because there is truly no wrong or right way to be natural if that is the case free form locs are just matted and knotted unkempt hair but yet this is all result of the “euro centric” mindset being too deep rooted but I don’t think anyone is really ready for that a discussion maybe in a different time shift 😅
You sound slow, I’ve worn my hair naturally for over a decade and I would never walk around with lint balls and knots in my hair. Y’all are being disrespectful acting like natural hair equals unkept and dirty. Afro picks exist. Shea butter exists. Black women have styled their natural hair beautifully for centuries. Stop with the stupidity 💀
Ah aht. Gurl bye. Even in Africa they ain't walking around looking like this. They'd rock a bald head before stepping out looking like they ain't bathed in a week. Every race uses some type of comb or brush. We not bout to sit here and claim being unkempt is going against eurocentric beauty standards when homegirl couldn't even be bothered to grab an afro pick
This is why I believe, black women get criticised, because of the unkempt natural hair look that seems to be very trendy in the natural hair community....but not with me 🤢
People don't think it's strange she's wearing her Natural Hair. People think it's strange she didn't "COMB" her Hair.
I believe in black women rocking their natural hair but I definitely believe that she is receiving backlash for not moisturizing and styling her natural hair.
She is. It's still wrong tho. She may have that personality type that just can't be bothered with her hair. We all know the type people who just don't have the interest and their interest simply lie elsewhere. There are women who refuse to shave and some women who just tie their hair up in a ponytail forever lol. This is what it could look like for a black woman who may not take interest in hairstyling. Truth is hair isn't that huge of a deal. People hate to see curly hair in this way. uneven and free forming tight coils for some reason just drives people crazy. it shouldn't. also i hope my tone was more agreeing with you because i'm in no way combating what you said. I just read and decided to rant and add more lmao☺. cheers God bless
Idk “styling” is subjective. Many non blacks go for the “tousled” look or a “messy” bun all tolerable and acceptable styles except for black type 4 hair. People should say her isn’t in preferred socially acceptable style
Exactly. We have to have standards when it comes to 4c natural hair and this is anything but, especially on a wedding day. I don't care what race you are, this picture makes you want to to ask her to blink twice if she needs help, because absolutely no woman would think it's okay to look like this on a wedding day.
OK, first of all how do you know the people so-called dragging her? Aren’t just white folks trying to create division? Black folks are far too gullible to be on social media.
@@tla0324thats fine if she cant be bothered with her hair. She could have just bought a nice white headwrap to match with her wedding gown.
Marrying with your natural hair is definitely beautiful, however, in her case I think she could style her hair better than this *IMO* 🤷🏾♀️
I'm trying not too...😂😂
I mean, the back is still flat from laying down, and I'm pretty sure I see white lint. Anyway, her choice and he doesn't care. They are happy
@sssssssss111 I don't care either, it's just an opinion like yours.
No, let’s be honest. It’s not about her being natural. I’ve been natural for almost 20 years now. It’s about her looking like she took off her bonnet, got dressed and went to her wedding. It’s unkempt. It looks dry and uneven. Natural doesn’t mean that you don’t care for your hair. You can’t compare the bride to Simone because Simone actually styles her hair for the games. This young lady didn’t even use her hands to fluff her hair out evenly. Everyone doesn’t have to have laid edges (because I definitely don’t do all that) or wearing wigs, weaves, etc., for your hair to be groomed. This is simply about the lack of grooming in my opinion. You don’t have to wear an elaborate style for your hair to be groomed. There’s nothing wrong with being a lazy natural. I’m one myself. But I do still moisturize and style my hair to keep it healthy. It looks like it’s broken off badly in certain areas from lack of caring for it. You can’t tell me that this is groomed! Don’t piss on me and tell me it’s raining! Wear your natural hair. But care for it too! It’s not hard when it’s short to keep it clean, moisturized and tidy.
I agree!
I agree, I'm sick of the new age thinking that if someone rolls out of bed and goes outside looking unkempt we gotta applaud them. No.
@@ennvee1989 exactly! I miss embarrassment and shame lol. When I was younger, you kept your business to yourself because you didn’t want to be embarrassed or feel ashamed by your actions or lack thereof. Now? You’re supposed to just support everyone in their 🐂💩and it’s ok! No!!! We should maintain some level of respect for ourselves by keeping ourselves up for ourselves as well as not wanting to be embarrassed by coming out of the house looking just any kind of way. Respectably politics aren’t all bad! There’s nothing wrong with saying that pajamas and bonnets belong in your house and not the store. There’s nothing wrong with being covered appropriately when you’re pregnant instead of just wearing your regular clothes unbuttoned and so tight that everyone sees it if you have a mole on your stomach! And there’s nothing wrong with saying that you should care for your hair, and actually do it nicely for special occasions. Sorry for the rant. But it’s so tiring to just see the world going to 💩 around you, yet you’re wrong for pointing it out and saying we need to do better.
True.
Correct
I’m sorry but no…just because hair is natural does not mean it needs to be unkept.
STOP CAPPIN! She getting dragged for uncombed hair natural does NOT mean unkempt! This does not represent the Natural Hair Community! Stop playin in our face!
She clearly has a line up and who’s to say she didn’t comb her hair? These are the same criticisms white people give us when we are going for jobs etc and also the same criticisms we give people like Simone Biles who hair stays done…why can’t bw wear their natural hair as they please…if it’s not for you that’s fine but it’s clearly okay with her🤎
Beloved is it a crime to not comb our hair? This was a beautiful statement. This made me honestly think of Beyonce baby. YOU WAKE UP FLAWLESS. Her diamond FLAWLESS this made me happy af. This was deep she basically said yes unambiguous black features we wake up flawless on our best day( which some may argue is supposed to be our wedding day) And to choose a look similar to how she could look if she just woke up was POWERFUL imo. Yea her man and her are riding off into the sunset because she is the best choice. Her and her hair. Deciding not to comb should not be cause for people to degrade her appearance. There is nothing bad about this form of us. It can not be your preference but it's not bad. And since it is her wedding it's a statement that this is beautiful to her and her husband and frankly to the world.
@@CoffeeCuties777sis STOP 😂 she CLEARLY didn’t bother styling her hair. It looks like she just rolled out of bed. This doesn’t represent our image at all nor do you need to defend bs 😅
THIS!!!! it looks like she rolled outta bed, whipped off the bonnet, and said “time to get hitched” without so much as spraying some water in her hair??!! 🫤
@@CoffeeCuties777Say sike rn 😒
I've seen natural women with 4c hair, and they don't look neglected with unwashed hair 😕😟
But y'all, there was no effort in terms of grooming. Natural is fine; I'm natural, but c'mon girl, it's your wedding day!
She know what she look like. She and him probably content. Sometimes if you don’t have anything nice to say don’t say anything
Her hair is clean and short, just because she hasn't got tonnes of gel in her hair and her edges laid, doesn't mean she doesn't look good
@@mariabrown6926 Okay, and? I don’t define my curls but I at least moisturize it and pick it out. Stop making excuses for this type of laziness. She was able to put on a wedding dress, her man took the effort to look presentable. What’s her excuse? You all live in an alternate universe where this is what Black women should strive to be. I’m done.
@@maryfields877right
@@maryfields877 facts, her hair is matted down, uneven, and dusty colored. Sis would have ate with a black rinse, a spray bottle, and an afro pick. Hell why not add a pretty hair clip or hairband too, its her wedding for crying out loud lol.
She was not made fun of for natural hair many beautiful brides wear there hair natural. Something was just off about the photo.
I don't believe the criticism was about her natural hair, I think it was more about the appearance. I am 100% Team Natural, my hair is natural and beautiful and I like to dress it up for special occasions. Agreed, it was her choice to wear it whatever way she wanted for her wedding day but let's not pretend it doesn't look just crawled out of bed.
Exactly
I thought the same; she looks as if she just rolled out of bed.
Agreed!!!
Facts
I'm saying. A little warm water, Blue magic, coconut oil and finger detangling and shaping she could have had a fire Grace Jones moment. It just looks like she took the bonnet off and her hair is molded to the head still.
It's not "simply wearing natural hair" she went to her wedding with her hair not groomed. It's not a race thing or a natural hair thing.
Its not just the hair. She out here looking like those foster kids that have foster parents that just keep the check. Look at the WHOLE picture. Wedding day, hair not done, not trimmed, not even in a hair wrap or veil, undone, no earings, no necklace, no make up, no lip gloss, ill fitting dress without the proper undergarments.... unless this is a last minute wedding in vegas, it looks like nobody took care of this bride on her wedding day. They gave her bare minimum and thats sad. I could see going without some of these things but without any of these things, this is literally the bare minimum.
Good point! Seems like she is isolated with no close family members to pamper her on her wedding day. This was probably a shutgun forced wedding.
Did you perhaps consider that she may not have wanted those things? Plenty of people don't wear jewelry or makeup for religious reasons. In regards to her hair, it could very well have rained prior to the pictures being taken and her hair could've gotten wet and shrunk in an uneven way before the ceremony. The people dragging her are simply hateful. She's not degrading herself or behaving in a vulgar manner, she's getting married.
@mariabrown6926 yeah I considered that. That's why I pointed out I could imagine not wanting some of those things. But bffr? None of those things? Not even a good strapless bra? Lip gloss? Also please get off your high horse because I am not shaming the bride.
@Seruuuuu02 god forbid I comment in the comment section of a video. I did not say anything mean about this lady. Girl bye
@Seruuuuu02 I literally said it's sad nobody took care of this bride on her wedding day OMFG what is your issue D4MN just be mad since u just want to be mad about something. I'm not giving this post anymore engagement.
There is nothing wrong with wearing natural hair. However, it looks like she just rolled out of bed and went to get married.
Her hair was simply undone, that's our only grievance. A wash and go with neat little side part and a pretty hair clip to compliment her dress would have been lovely
YES, I AGREE.
People can just choose to say nothing and congratulate her though. It’s not yall head or marriage so why say anything about her head
Yes I have 4c hair and my wash and gos consist of conditioner for 10 min, rinse, apply shea butter or hair grease, part it to the side and I'm done. The grease/shea butter inhibits a little shrinkage so it just forms a fluffy globe on my head. Sorry but her hair is for sure matted
Yes, definitely agreeing with this comment.
@@CurllyDom85 yeah it was getting a little mean. It's just unusual to see someone not done to the nines for that special day. I feel like that's why it got so much heat
Unkept natural hair is not a threat to me.
Thats not natural, that is lazy and just not picking, combing, oiling, washing nor conditioning her hair. I love natural hair, i have an afro. That looks bad
We don't know this woman's mental status. She could be developmentally delayed for all we know. Don't be so quick to judge.
@@pixpusha praying for her to be able to keep herself together, mentally, physically, and Spiritually
You're being self-righteous & unrealistic.
Would YOU wear your hair like that?
No I WOULDN’T but I’m not her…why can’t she wear HER hair as she pleases on HER WEDDING DAY? Why is this photo viral if black women don’t like the style …she’s not famous …why criticize her …why can’t we just support things we do like and keep it pushing 🤎
Right!! This woman looks homeless.
@@truthteller77 Notice how Black women are VERY, VERY touchy about their hair? It's like it's a reflection on them. It's like she's representing them, when she's not! This is why so many are so upset. They are embarrassed by it. Too many Black women take umbrage to things like this (same thing was done to Blue Ivy, Gabby, Simone). MOST BW just won't admit that they are uncomfortable with natural Black hair, unless it looks perfect. I would never wear my hair like that, but so what?!! I don't take offense to this bride wearing her hair like that. I bet her husband is used to seeing her hair like that. He may even like it. Did anybody ever think about that? NO! Because they hate seeing it. Too many Black women really don't know how and when to mind their own business. Too judgmental. Too extra!!
@@annemariemintz907 homeless is a stretch
@@mariabrown6926 Maybe a slight stretch, but she looks really unkempt.
STOP IT. Her hair is not done. Even if she didn't or couldn't comb it she could have at least did an African head wrap. She looks like she climbed out of bed, walked passed the bathroom out the front door and down the aisle.
This woman is not my image.
She’s not your image just because you don’t like her hair?
@@CoffeeCuties777 She's not my image because she did not pamper herself to attend her own wedding. Doesn't matter that her hair is 4c or 3c or 2c
Well she is a version of my image and the women in my family image. To her core her facial features are symmetrical. Not sure how old she is. But i mean i see brown skin kinky hair and full features. If she decided to accessorise differently one day and put on lip gloss mascara pretty much any other complimentary hair style she would easily blend in as a classic beautiful woman we love to see. I'm sure her man knows it too. THIS IS NOT A BAD LOOKING WOMAN FROM A LONG SHOT.
@@tla0324so she needs makeup for people to like her appearance?
What does your "image" have to do with this?
It’s not about natural hair it’s about uncombed hair.
It's insulting to even insinuate that this is beautiful natural hair. This is unkempt hair and a bad image.
I didn’t say rather or not this is beautiful natural hair I stated her hair is natural and she should be able to wear her hair as she please without bullying and harassment…instead of poking fun at another BW why can’t we utilize the comment section to educate and uplift?
So natural hair has to be brushed before you think it’s beautiful??? It should be beautiful to you in all it’s stages
She could've done better. Women of every race fix their hair for special occasions. Heck, most of us women fix our hair after getting up out of bed! A white woman or anyone would get the same criticism if they did this.
I don't think its the wearing her natural hair is the outrage, its the looking like she just rolled out of bed and the hair hasn't been touched in days. Like she took off the bonnet and said lets go. Just the impression the photos give. Now we don't know she may have had it in a style and it frizzed and shrinked on her because of where they are at is really humid. It almost looks like she tried to french twist the front into the side or something. Idk. I know she could have had a better outcome with a little hot water, some Blue magic and finger detangling and shaping.
Please don't normalize this...please. Not all natural hair is good natural hair. Of course, she has a right to wear her hair as she wishes. We also we also have a right to call out those who choose to present natural hair at its worst in public. I can't tell her what to do, but I can voice my disapproval. As a natural BW, I've taken on the duty to present natural hair *at its best* . I want to inspire others to consider wearing natural hair. That's *my* choice. We have a cultural tradition of "doing" our natural hair. Hair like hers is seen as a call for help, an indicator that something may be wrong. *Especially* at an important social event!!! Images like this are used by haters to put down natural hair. Our hair IS "easy" and "carefree" but we do not have "messy bun" hair. Our "messy" hair is different and should be treated accordingly.
It's the OLD MAN that bothers me.
Maybe they're the same age (black dont crack !)
I thought that too, I wonder how they met but I hope she is safe and has a support system.
This aint it …selfhate or not.
She could have comb her hair 🤦🏽♀️
It’s not that she’s wearing her natural hair. Is the fact that she looks like she just got out of bed and decided to get dressed and go to a wedding. She put no effort into looking good for her wedding day. Her hair was uncombed, the dress didn’t fit and no makeup at all. No effort at all. If she will at least just brushed or just picked out her natural hair and has some moisturizer in it wouldn’t be bad.
I think she needs to be educated on how to take care of her hair. Just to keep it healthy and moisturized. Maybe know when to get a trim. Natural hair is best when it’s treated with care no matter the texture
Saw the title and wanted to defend her. I’m glad she is happily married. But there are too many YT videos on washing/styling natural hair. She could’ve got a natural hair stylist to do her, hair.
But still glad she found, love 🩷
I think it’s because she didn’t style it for this special occasion
Why can’t she wear her hair as she choose for her wedding day and we can’t say it’s undone when it’s lined up 🤎
Mmmmmm ,im all for natural but she could’ve floofed or shape it a lil bit 🤷🏾♀️no need for gel or other stuff . But congrats to the newlyweds
@@shanellmiller-c2t fluffed ❤️😂 not floofed lol. That was cute
I don't agree with people making this lady go viral for her hair, but if we are being honest her hair is EXTREMELY unflattering. All she needed was a spray bottle, an afro pick, and a pretty headband to improve her look. I would also add a black rinse, I mean its her wedding day.
wtf is going on... it looks like he just dragged her from the streets while she was napping and made her put this on to cosplay as a bride. She didn't even have vaseline on her lips at least! Why did he do this woman like that.
She got dragged because she woke up like this and said Imma go to the altar now lol.
Naaa that's not natural hair... she didn't moisturize it or anything .. she just ripped her wig off and didn't even wash it !
😂
@@healthbeforewealth7457 lol 😂😂
There’s no point wearing wigs if it’s going to look horrible like the dp
@@laylor4360 so ice spice, Meghan and cardi got horrible wigs??
I don’t think it’s her natural hair she could had styled it or brushed it to the back even in its kinky state it just looked like she woke up without a head scarf on her head that’s all
I don’t even think she was wearing a scarf Because her hair would look better
I could never care that much about what a woman decides to do with HER hair on HER wedding day. We've really reached a weird point on the Internet.
I AGREE 🤎🤎🤎
I don't think the commenters actually Care, they just think she looks ridiculous and are just giving their opinion on it. If she didn't want the criticism she could've kept these photos private
@@bluebird1694 people can’t put things in the internet now without being bullied for their looks? Be for real some of you just miserable
Unfortunately, in this day and age, we have lost the art of social grace, etiquette and proper grooming, and that is all I will say.
Even her husband comb his hair so why didn’t she comb hers
A lot of the comments in the screenshot had nothing to do with her hair, and are implying exactly what I’m thinking: “How old is this CHILD?”
Omg that’s true what if she a minor 😅
Probably not a child. Black people tend to look young in their natural state.
I think there may be an age gap of some sort or she may have been through alot. They both look simple but I hope she’s okay and looked after.
Whatever style she is or is not wearing, the most important aspect of this wedding is that the groom does not look like he has any complaints. He is the ONLY one who counts.
Exactly!
Ngl even with a laid bust down she still would have looked bad. It’s not that her hair is natural, it’s the overall lack of effort. Even her skin looks dry.
I think we’re not used to seeing people wearing wedding attire and not being made up to the nines. She doesn’t seem to have any makeup on and hasn’t done her hair even to the extent of combing or brushing which is fine. It’s just so rare that you see this that it caught everyone’s attention.
For me it's not the natural, it's more like the wedding is at 10 and she got out of bed at 9:45 and just put on her gown. If she is free locking no problem but it really was looking like she was just got up and went.
Her wedding, her choice.
I agree 🤎🤎🤎
Thank you. She is not appearing in the wedding for OUR approval.
Period!
Bruh, why does everyone that talks about this, makes it sound like she’s being clowned for “wearing her natural hair?” When in REALITY she’s getting cooked because Girlie’s twa looks WELL DONE!! 🔥🔥🔥😳😦😧😰
When i saw the photo, i didn't know what to really think. Thats they business, congratulations.
The people dragging her are probably the same ones who say things like "I hate my 4c hair" or "my 4c could never", those type of black women hate on any other bw who unapologetically wears her crown due to their own insecurities and lack of confidence.
I can't stand those self hating titles and thinking
Thats BS and u know it
@@ennvee1989 who u talk to?
@@ennvee1989 no it’s literally facts so many insecure bw hate seeing other bw wear their hair cause they don’t feel comfortable in theirs
@@ennvee1989 It's not BS. It's her opinion and her opinion is just as valuable as yours.
I saw that photo and I didn’t even go to the comments because I already knew how it was going to be. Hopefully, this lady is of age and if she’s happy then l hope she live her best life. That’s it…that’s all ❤️
That's what counts!!
baby girl hair looks dry, and I just personally would have had my natural hair professionally styled for my wedding.
Tbh, i think both of them could have put in a little more effort. But, this is just my preference.
I agree. Personally, when I think of a wedding, I think of the people being married will try their best to look their best! When I see a wedding I want it to be perfect or as close as possible, but at the end of the day whatever makes them happy. It is their wedding day not mine. 🤷♂️
Constructive criticism is not bad
I agree when asked but clearly this woman is just minding her business getting married…if you agree with that do you agree when random coworkers that are not black question your hair choices at work unwarranted?
Mmm I'm not gonna sit here and lie and pretend that this woman here is pretty or fitting of a special occasion. I don't believe she has to lay her edges are slay her hair, but I believe she could have maybe parted to the side, sprayed it with some Afro sheen and picked it and shaped her afro to where it would frame her face. I'm more about the hair framing the face more than the texture, no matter what the texture is, how the hair is sitting on top of the head and how it frames the head your is what's more important than laid baby hairs and what not.
She is a natural beauty and has beautiful skin, I’m not talking about sleeked down puffs and edges but she could at least have made a little something and at least wore some lipstick like come on sis…well, to each his own but it looks like she doesn’t have feminine figures in her life who care about her 🤷🏽♀️
why does she need to alter her appearance? it was her wedding day. she should look they way she wants
She's not beautiful and that's okay. She doesn't have to be a representation of all BW. Shes just a woman that happens to be Black.
@@Mdmeskywlkr007 she can do whatever she wants, but she looks a mess.
Both of them tbh, his suit is a bit oversized.
Why do women have to wear makeup? Or the better question is why is it an expectation?
Please leave Simone out of this. Simone clearly grooms her hair on a daily basis including her wedding 💒 day. Simone’s hair is also groomed whenever she competes but her hairstyle becomes undone over time. The bride in this video doesn’t appear to have made any effort to groom her hair. Big difference.
True
😂 I mean obv her husband knows about personal grooming.. I have a TWA as well but I moisturize my 4c hair and pick it out every few days.. 😅I don’t think she even touch her hair that day
Blu Ivy was a baby wearing her kinky hair, not attending a wedding and black women still dragged her up and down the internet!
If people don’t want to comb their hair it is their choice. If you like your hair combed then comb your hair. Let people have their piece. Just because something looks broken to you doesn’t mean it is to someone else. Leave people alone.
I agree 100 percent…that’s my whole point…thanks for watching 🤎🤎🤎
That's the problem!! Black women are soooo concerned with how natural Black hair looks, they can't "leave people alone".
It wasn't just Blu Ivy. Angelina Jolie allowed Zahara to wear her hair "free" and some Black women decided to get on social media to tell Angelina what to do with Zahara's hair. Zahara could not have been more than 4 or 5 years old. I don't think Zahara or Angelina had a problem. Black women have a problem with Black hair.
She could put a nice white hair band or a small bow or something and definitely some leave in and some Water. The hair is short so should be easy
A woman does what she wants on her wedding day?? OMG how could she?!🤯
Right!!!
She clearly did not want to get married to this man. Not a hint of makeup and she did not even bother to comb her hair. And she's barely smiling on the pictures.
She could have worn a nice white headwrap or turban to match her gown. No excuses.
Barely a smile, no makeup, no effort and no direct kiss on the lips.
@@ennvee1989yeah if she wore a veil or something this would've looked a lot better. She should've just shaved her head bald if she was gonna put in this level of effort
@@ennvee1989 she don’t owe you anything, what you mad for
I am sorry but her hair looks a mess. This type of appearance kept me in fear 😨 years before I decided to finally go natural in 2013. I have 4c hair too. The bridal dress is beautiful. However, bride needed better hair grooming technique, jewelry and makeup 💄 to brighten her appearance. I am presuming that she looked like this while she was dating the groom. If he thinks that she is beautiful then good for them but I believe that she is capable of looking even better. If the couple is happy then cheers! 🥂
@@phalynwilliams4119 lmao at this type of appearance kept me in fear 😨 lmao 😂😂😂 I feel the same way. That would be a hair nightmare 😂😂
It’s her hair and her choice to wear it as she wants. IMO his hair looks terrible but again it’s his hair and his choice.
It's her business! I just hope she's safe and not in a forced situation!
Just because her hair looks crazy looking?
@JaejoongPrincess No! In the video, there's a suspicion that her marriage might be forced! I hope not! Her hair is none of my business!
If she was wearing wig and makeup you wouldn't say that.
@dranchd6571 I wouldn't say anything because there wouldn't be a subject to talk about! She's wearing a beautiful gown and carrying a beautiful bouquet of flowers, but her hair isn't done like many are used to seeing a bride's hair done! If she is happy, and I hope she is, that's all that counts! Her hair is the subject of this so-called strange controversy that's no one else's business, but her hair, worn natural and not what we're used to seeing on a wedding day, is also the reason people think she might've been forced to get married! But again, her hair is not my business or anyone else's! Period!
@@cindychristian1700 There would be nothing to talk about because fake hair is natural, and natural hair is fake. Why comment in the first place if its no-one's business but hers?
I love natural hair. But come on, she literally didn't touch her hair. It's a strange image.
The fact she’s being made fun of because her hair isn’t the society standard but yet she’s GETTING MARRIED and I bet the people criticizing is either single and a baby mama. The way how that man kissed her on the cheek you know he loves her. Wigs are not a flex ladies especially if you claim you got hair BUT NO HAIRLINE/EDGES 🙄
I mean it look like she jus got out of bed and put no effort in like come on now
Not only is her hair undone, she doesn’t look happy. It seems like there’s more going on there.
As far as I know there’s no foul play but if I find out any information that says otherwise I will report it…thanks for watching 🤎🤎🤎
Well looking at the photo, it’s more of a grooming issue than natural. People usually comb their hair and use some products but it’s doesn’t appear to be so here.
As u can see he combed HIS Hair !
Everybody wants to talk about the brides hair, what about the Grooms suit. The suit is ill fitting and boxy!!
Her dress is I’ll fitting too. This whole this is a hot ass mess .
I always enjoy your take but I have to disagree with your point of view on her natural hair. I have to agree with the masses, she did not do anything to her hair or this was after she sweated out her hair at the dance floor. It's just not her best natural hair photo.
Thanks for commenting and it’s okay if we don’t agree on this one🤎
Its a difference between grooming and just letting your hair do whatever.
I was glad to see her natural hair, but there are many ways she could have styled her hair to look more put together.
She looks like she just rolled out of bed, but 🎵🎶 no my problem,that's just not my problem. Congratulations 🎉 on her wedding.
This is why I'm happy that I have eachewed the community, culture, and people who don't serve my greater and higher good as a proud mono-racial racially unambiguous woman. I no longer apologize for letting go of the black collective in order to prioritize my femininity, beauty, health, and spirituality. In 2024 I'm officially done withbthe community and culture! My only priority is elevating and uplifting my image as a proud mono-racial (generationally) racially unambiguous woman of Black American ethnicity.
I'm not sure why you thought (as a "monoracial") you were ever a part of it. 🤷 but go off. No one is missing you, trust. 🥱🥱🥱
She did not style or condition her hair. That is why she is getting backlash, especially on her wedding day. You want to look at your best
She may have that personality type that just can't be bothered with her hair. We all know the type people who just don't have the interest and their interest simply lie elsewhere. There are women who refuse to shave and some women who just tie their hair up in a ponytail forever lol. This is what it could look like for a black woman who may not take interest in hairstyling.
Truth is hair isn't that big of a deal. People hate to see curly hair in this way... uneven and free forming tight coils for some reason just drives people crazy. It SHOULDN'T
It’s just sad honestly, to see people comment about her with her natural hair…even looking at people commenting on here with “her hair is fine but she could’ve done this” like NO what she did is BEAUTIFUL regardless if you like it or not. THIS is HER hair, naturally, and styled THE WAY she wants, and it’s beautiful. I’m so tired of hearing stories like this where black women get berated on their hair if it ain’t laid or ain’t styled a certain way, etc….like why does that matter? At the end of the day, she’s happy and married. THATS ON PERIODT
Im team Natural hair aaaall day but she couldve styled it or braided it or SOMETHING. But she looks happy, her husband looks happy and in love…In the end thats all that matters.
Listen, we need to normalize normal natural hair with out manipulation styles( even if her hair is styled)
He smiling so it ain’t that big a deal. It’s her head let her wear it. This is where people need to just mind their business and keep it pushing cause why be mad that she didn’t do her hair. It’s her day and obviously she’s happy. Lord people just miserable.
Always a joy to see you've uploaded another think piece. For this video in particular we'll have to agree to disagree. I agree people need to uplift natural looks we do like in the media, but its very clear her hair is unkempt. Her hair is completely matted in the back which is not even healthy for 4c hair. Also that fade she has is very overgrown, which is okay but its not a sign she did anything recently to her hair. Braids, sleek baby edges and wigs are not even needed for her hair to look put together. Just spray some water add $2 blue magic and fluff it out
As much as I'd like to disregard this look its hard because it makes 4c girls look bad. As a people i feel we all have to collectively work together to make our natural hair look managed. The same way we address smelling funky when we wake up from our slumber is the same way we address our hair getting matted hair.
I feel bad for her in the sense she obviously doesn't have black friends that embrace their natural hair. Also that she likely grew up getting her hair relaxed and missed out on early hair care education. The older you get the less time you have to build these skills. This look could've been fixed in less than 10 mins if she had support.
Is this really a woman? I am just asking because I thought this was a man in this gown! Not because of the hair but just the look!
She appears to be a woman and I haven’t heard anything stating otherwise 🤎
@@CoffeeCuties777 Okay. I guess we will see
girl you might be onto something, looks like a prepubescent boy in a gown. Something is off and Im not talking about the hair. Peep the Body language...
Seriously? She's clearly a woman
Does look like a young man. I seriously believe we’re missing something.
The problem is not her wearing her natural hair. The problem is that she has her hair and kept. I have a worn my natural hair so many times and even if I’m gonna wear it natural I still make sure that I moisturize it and I style it before leaving to go anywhere she’s not getting dragged for her natural hair. She’s getting dry because it looks and kept she could’ve done some mini twists. She could’ve done some African threading she could’ve done some straight back roads of her natural hair should’ve done some puffs with some rubber bands. There are so many alternatives out there that she could’ve done she put a little effort in her hair baby girl your hair is your crown take care of it. Your hair is like a plant you have to take care of it, so she. she’s not getting dragged because of her natural hair she’s getting dragged because it looks and kept
Her natural hair is beautiful she just needs a brush and moisturizer. But more importantly, she looks too young to marry him and we should be concerned. Protect Black girls and women around the world.
Sad...good reason to keep your private personal issues (good or bad) PRIVATE!
But she got a man, and the women talking are probably alone with kids to take care of alone! Some, white men, like the natural Look! I have known some.
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This story upset me a few days ago. If her and her husband love each other and she isnt a lady who likes much styling done to her natural hair, I cannot understand what the issues is. This is about what people prefer. Preferring natural coils as they appear should never be degraded. wtf are we doing??
The things people do are unbelievable. So counter progressive to bash her appearance let alone her black natural appearance omfg.. She is a bride This was a statement she was making! Same as miss India Arie, she is not her hair. She is the Soul that lives within. Why would any black person wake up and demean a version of our pure form.
I wouldn’t wear my hair like this on my wedding day but that is her. She could’ve style it and added some accessories
😂😂😂the people dragging her don’t have a man😂😂😂
Natural is fine. But this ain't natural!
Now my honest initial reaction was maybe she was just trying on dresses and her hair got messed up. But if that's not the case and that's just how she styled her hair. Then that's just how she styled her hair. People have different styles that others may like or not like.
Then the way society directly/or indirectly look down upon females who don't wear makeup is crazy. Certain careers/jobs you are seen as professional by wearing makeup🤨
When blk women put bonnets on because their hair looks like hers underneath/or whatever it looks like they get talked about. If they have an afro that isn't curly/or big enough they get talked about. The obsession with making their afro curly with braid outs, creams, gels, rods and etc. is crazy. Many say they're "natural" but go through hoops to "define" their curl pattern. Many don't want the Florida Evans afro.
If they get weaves, braids w/o weave, wigs, relaxers, perms, put color in their people talk about them. Many straighten their hair because they fear they won't get the job/promotion because an Afro will seem too blk. Like if they wear afros they're part of the Black Panthers/NAACP and will report all the racism at the job.
But I love when blk women love whatever way they want to wear their hair. Not worried about what others see you as is a freeing feeling.
She should have just combed her hair, simple !
It's disappointing to me that we can see people doing brilliant things in their lives and their careers, and the first thing we do as humans is question their appearance.
I agree 🤎
I agree. Her hair may look inappropriate for a wedding, but it's her wedding. Look at how the public treated Simone Biles due to her wedding pictures. Even after she won numerous gold medals, women still found a need to criticize her hair. What's the rationale behind that?
Appearance matters in the world whether we want it to or not and it does say something about you sometimes depending on the person and the individual. And I don't think this is a racial issue or black people tearing down natural hair, as many have said her hair looks uncombed/unstyles and such. She didn't have to have laid-edges or anything but just looks like no effort to people. That said, that's how freedom is people can carry themselves however they want and people are free to question it. Such is life.It's be she and her husband though and no one else.
@@beautybonvoyage8624 When appearance matters more than the value or happiness of a person then we've entered into a superficial society. ESPECIALLY when their appearance does not concern you or meet your approval. REMEMBER, just because society does it, doesn't make it right. Celebrities are now upset because some people are using social media to call their babies "ugly". Where does it stop?
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Appearance unfortunately does matter, however, when the critique of somebody's appearance is used to undermine not only their achievements, but to make negative assumptions and connotations about them because of it, that's where I draw the line. I have seen people in this comment section call this lady mentally unwell, slow, and comparing her to a man due to her appearance. None of that is kind or fair, or has even been confirmed if it just so happens to be the case, and yet we want people to refrain from saying those same statements about us.
If anyone understands the importance of appearance, it would be me, but I can also give grace and compassion where it is due. We can so easily create unwanted insecurities while trying to protect an image. We have so many hidden and underlying issues with beauty, appearance and respectability politics as it is, I don't want to feed the monster we've created any further.
Perhaps she's on the spectrum. Just be happy for her. She got wifed up.😄
Exactly, I'm sure the ones bashing her can't say the same 🙄
Her appearance is making me question if she even washed her behind that day. Did she brush her teeth? Wash the crust out her eye that morning? It just looks like she neglects her hair and probably herself. This is not the way of our ancestors lol
Her hair doesn't even look natural here. It looks like an uncared for relaxer.
But it’s not styled or groomed at all. Yes she has the choice, but if she post on social media, know that people have the choice to speak freely about what you KNOW they’re going to call you on. And stop saying it’s about her
natural hair. It’s about that she just flat out did not comb it that morning.
People have to keep in mind...Every black woman is not obsessed about her hair. And to be perfectly honest, Based on her choice of husband (based on looks) They actually look like a good match to me. And I bet they're both smart and educated as hell😂
She could have moisturized it and shaped it up with a pic... it look like she woke up like that
A pick wouldn’t have done much it looks like she needed a shaping with ✂️. A coily cut goes a LONG way
1st like 1st comment... i better do that !
Yay 😀 thanks for watching 🤎🤎🤎
I thought it was weird people dogging on her they say they want natural but really don’t want it…because there is truly no wrong or right way to be natural if that is the case free form locs are just matted and knotted unkempt hair but yet this is all result of the “euro centric” mindset being too deep rooted but I don’t think anyone is really ready for that a discussion maybe in a different time shift 😅
You sound slow, I’ve worn my hair naturally for over a decade and I would never walk around with lint balls and knots in my hair. Y’all are being disrespectful acting like natural hair equals unkept and dirty. Afro picks exist. Shea butter exists. Black women have styled their natural hair beautifully for centuries. Stop with the stupidity 💀
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Ah aht. Gurl bye. Even in Africa they ain't walking around looking like this. They'd rock a bald head before stepping out looking like they ain't bathed in a week. Every race uses some type of comb or brush. We not bout to sit here and claim being unkempt is going against eurocentric beauty standards when homegirl couldn't even be bothered to grab an afro pick
This is why I believe, black women get criticised, because of the unkempt natural hair look that seems to be very trendy in the natural hair community....but not with me 🤢