This is an excellent video....... these age good ,kind hearted souls ..... until you are hurt by one of these people you really don’t understand the pain they cause you....love to all ❤️
OMG! THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU FOR PUTTING THIS TOGETHER! I HAD NO IDEA WHAT THIS WAS, WHAT A REAL NARCISSIST WAS UNTIL A COUPLE YEARS AGO I BEGAN DESCRIBING THE EVENTS I WAS GOING THRU WITH MY BOYFRIEND AT THE TIME TO A FRIEND AND DESCRIBING THESE TRAITS I WAS SEEING IN HIM. I WAS SO BROKEN AND CONFUSED! I FOUND I WAS VERBALIZING SO MANY OF THE THINGS MENTIONED BY ABUSE VICTIMS, YET HAD NO IDEA THERE WAS A NAME FOR THIS. Feeling as tho I was losing my very sense of self, my confidence and self esteem was severely damaged, he even did specific, intentional things like hiding my phone then putting it back in the open where I had already looked several times and then telling me I'm crazy. I would watch him do something telling him I saw with my own eyes, and he would say "I saw wrong"! He smeared my name on Facebook to our friends and to this day hasn't removed that post! I have begun recently to feel like WHATS WRONG WITH ME, as I still am carrying on with this man to some degree despite having moved away from him. When I learned about Narcissists I didn't learn very much of how they tend to keep their victims almost paralyzed. All of my power has been stolen from me ( I feel at times) but I refuse to give up. I know I'm not crazy and I know I'll get thru this! I just need support! Thank you again for posting this, producing this, putting it out there and making people aware! God Bless You!
This is an amazing comment. So an important illustration of how not having a name for something. Almost makes it not exists d therefore be impossible to confront! I hope you are doing better now? ‘I just need support’ This is so true. Victims need support and they need protection. Otherwise these dick evil people have all the power.
Yes it's a bad thing to happen to people but it made me stronger in myself and made me understand about childhood abuse and how it effects the mind of a sociopath narccist.. I'm just like so sad these people are so hurt.. Hard to walk away but I have to put myself first..
I went through this for 18 years I left him 10 years ago and I have gone no contact since my kids are older I don't need to speak to him at all but I have trouble trusting people
I'll be fine, I know that. It may be hard right now, but I'll make it trough, although I see her every other day with her new boyfriend I know its for better so I smile and wave at them. She wanted me to go crazy and I was close to, but...Im me again. Stay strong, believe Yourself.
I thought I was going crazy before I saw this video. I was so confused after 18 years of abuse. This documentary helped me realize that I am taking the step in the right direction by cutting all contact even though we have kids together. All he would do was use them to get to me. I was so blind for years. My kids saw it before I did. Wow. I’m sorry. I love the song at the end. Does anybody know how I can get it. Music seems to help me now more than ever before.
Hi Jamie, I'm so sorry to hear about your experience, but glad that the documentary was of any help. The song at the end is a song I wrote (I'm a singer songwriter too :) and is called 'Love to Waste.' I'm sure you will be able to find it when searching for my first name as well as the title on iTunes, Spotify etc. I'm wishing you much strength in your healing process and may everything go well from here!
We broke up early in my pregnancy. My child will be given to a deserving couple and he will be out of my life forever. The horrible insults and name calling still haunt me.
I want to hug Roel, (as I could relate to most of what he was saying), Aletta and the amazing dark skinned woman I saw (I didn’t catch her name-my apologies!) and wish them all the very best for their futures as they damn well deserve it! ❤x
Hi. I would really like to speak with you. Would that B possible? I wonder about being the product of Narc upbringing, being open to considering my my own traits, healthy boundaries, self identity, Co dependence, what love means to ppl like us. Thank you for your courage Aletta.
This is an excellent video....... these age good ,kind hearted souls ..... until you are hurt by one of these people you really don’t understand the pain they cause you....love to all ❤️
OMG! THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU FOR PUTTING THIS TOGETHER! I HAD NO IDEA WHAT THIS WAS, WHAT A REAL NARCISSIST WAS UNTIL A COUPLE YEARS AGO I BEGAN DESCRIBING THE EVENTS I WAS GOING THRU WITH MY BOYFRIEND AT THE TIME TO A FRIEND AND DESCRIBING THESE TRAITS I WAS SEEING IN HIM. I WAS SO BROKEN AND CONFUSED! I FOUND I WAS VERBALIZING SO MANY OF THE THINGS MENTIONED BY ABUSE VICTIMS, YET HAD NO IDEA THERE WAS A NAME FOR THIS. Feeling as tho I was losing my very sense of self, my confidence and self esteem was severely damaged, he even did specific, intentional things like hiding my phone then putting it back in the open where I had already looked several times and then telling me I'm crazy. I would watch him do something telling him I saw with my own eyes, and he would say "I saw wrong"! He smeared my name on Facebook to our friends and to this day hasn't removed that post! I have begun recently to feel like WHATS WRONG WITH ME, as I still am carrying on with this man to some degree despite having moved away from him. When I learned about Narcissists I didn't learn very much of how they tend to keep their victims almost paralyzed. All of my power has been stolen from me ( I feel at times) but I refuse to give up. I know I'm not crazy and I know I'll get thru this! I just need support! Thank you again for posting this, producing this, putting it out there and making people aware! God Bless You!
This is an amazing comment.
So an important illustration of how not having a name for something. Almost makes it not exists d therefore be impossible to confront!
I hope you are doing better now?
‘I just need support’
This is so true.
Victims need support and they need protection.
Otherwise these dick evil people have all the power.
*sick
Yes it's a bad thing to happen to people but it made me stronger in myself and made me understand about childhood abuse and how it effects the mind of a sociopath narccist.. I'm just like so sad these people are so hurt.. Hard to walk away but I have to put myself first..
I went through this for 18 years I left him 10 years ago and I have gone no contact since my kids are older I don't need to speak to him at all but I have trouble trusting people
Love the song by the way 👌🌺 good luck everyone x
I'll be fine, I know that. It may be hard right now, but I'll make it trough, although I see her every other day with her new boyfriend I know its for better so I smile and wave at them. She wanted me to go crazy and I was close to, but...Im me again. Stay strong, believe Yourself.
Well done. Love this. 💟🙏🏽
I thought I was going crazy before I saw this video. I was so confused after 18 years of abuse. This documentary helped me realize that I am taking the step in the right direction by cutting all contact even though we have kids together. All he would do was use them to get to me. I was so blind for years. My kids saw it before I did. Wow. I’m sorry. I love the song at the end. Does anybody know how I can get it. Music seems to help me now more than ever before.
Hi Jamie, I'm so sorry to hear about your experience, but glad that the documentary was of any help. The song at the end is a song I wrote (I'm a singer songwriter too :) and is called 'Love to Waste.' I'm sure you will be able to find it when searching for my first name as well as the title on iTunes, Spotify etc. I'm wishing you much strength in your healing process and may everything go well from here!
I also went through this for 18 years I left him 10 years ago and I have gone no contact since my kids are older I don't need to speak to him at all
We broke up early in my pregnancy. My child will be given to a deserving couple and he will be out of my life forever. The horrible insults and name calling still haunt me.
❤️ the best video ever done !!!thank you 🙏
We need to stand together, this is not acceptable x
We are one. 🖤
True
Brilliant film
I want to hug Roel, (as I could relate to most of what he was saying), Aletta and the amazing dark skinned woman I saw (I didn’t catch her name-my apologies!) and wish them all the very best for their futures as they damn well deserve it! ❤x
Hi. I would really like to speak with you. Would that B possible? I wonder about being the product of Narc upbringing, being open to considering my my own traits, healthy boundaries, self identity, Co dependence, what love means to ppl like us. Thank you for your courage Aletta.
What’s the song at the end of this video? X
Hi Cameron, it’s my song (Aletta - Love to Waste) I’m a singer songwriter from origin :)
@@AlettaMeijer absolutely amazing