When you're turned off by people who treat you well there has to be an underlying psycological/emotional issue that they haven't addressed. But a lot of people aren't willing acknowledge that they have a problem.
Lets call a spade a spade, the proportion of women who will curve you for treating them good are is very high amongst BLACK women specifically...which is fine, they can stay in the streets while us High Value men date the other women
This is EXACTLY what happened to my ex girl. She broke up with me cause I was too good to her. Then it hit me, she was used to “bad boys” and “thugs”. Used to arguing, fighting, cheating, verbal and physical abuse. So she was basically “scared” and “bored” with a “healthy relationship”. Anyway, it hurt but I dodged a major bullet. She’s currently waiting for dude to get outta jail from a crime he implicated her in, a crime she had to hire a lawyer to clear HER NAME avoid jail. SMH. You can’t make this shit up! SMH 🤦🏽♂️
What I want to know is why is it that when they do run into a good brother, that they want to make the good dude pay for the mistakes that the ex made?
@@sid2daknee They always call it loving themselves now and that they are healed. I always want to know why does it takes so many mistakes to heal and love self. The new dude shouldn’t have to pay for those mistakes. Also they lying about self love because most of time that’s all they do love.
Yes, I believe women are capable of taking a good man for granted. I’m 24 & it just seems everyone is jaded. Dating is exhausting thou. I’m not good at the roster game lol I hate it.
@n cw : you do know that being a good communicator is only half the process in conversation? No matter how well you communicate if the other party is not willing to hear what is said or acknowledge the validity of it then your still without progress.
Alot of men that are good on paper are just not that cute, sexy, or sane...same for women. Lack of chemical attraction and compatibility makes you not so good depending on who is evaluating. I can for sure take a good man or woman for granted if he or she isn't good to me.
@Ismaël GACEM I don't count it as a loss. Settling is silly. There are plenty of amazing men to choose from without entertaining the "good" riff-raff out here trying to shoot an unlikely shot. High value women are not short on options to choose from and neither are high value males. Know your worth and choose accordingly.
@Ismaël GACEM I don't need to validate myself on social media for the satisfaction of some random nosey "good guy" with nothing better to do than ask personal details about a total stranger. Not that insecure, sorry 🤣
I think the reason why men will have a good women and keep her on standby is because most of us are ego driven as opposed to being spiritually driven. It’s very low level (primal) activity to wanna run through as many women as you can for sport. I’m the only one in my circle naturally faithful but I’m in my upper chakras and I see how pointless casual sex is. The rest of my friends are still in their lower chakras and very much live through their ego identity. Which is their lower, survival mode, competing energy centers. They have yet to elevate to their essence identity and see the bigger picture.
Naturally & faithful doesn't go together. The natural instinct is to want to be with all these gorgeous women. Then when you get older and are tired, you settle down. Faithful young people are usually either ugly, fat, no game or have no money or all four. Let's keep it real fam.
Master Baby Yoda no bro even if I had unlimited options I would be faithful. And I agree with your statement as a whole but I get a good amount of female attention. I just prefer depth and emotional intimacy. I’m not fat I’m skinny as hell. I got plenty game and intelligence to go with it. Prolly look better than you to be real. I’m rare I know but none of that apply to me.
It’s all about maturity. If I had the mindset at 25 that I have now at 38, I would have been extra straight up with women. Young dudes think that they have to manipulate a situation to get cheeks when IN ACTUALITY, you can get cheeks without the potential drama lol
Some women do, but I think women who have their head on straight & healthy relationship with their father.. typically know how to look for the good in a man and appreciate when they find it. Not all of us take good guys for granted because we know they are rare. But if his looks aren’t up to par, I feel like A LOT of women will take him for granted
Agree with this 100%. If there’s a deal breaker that’s in question...for me, it’s look...then I’m probably not gonna wanna be all in. I tried to date someone that I wasn’t physically attracted to and thought that the attraction would grow over time, but it just didn’t and I had to opt out of the relationship. Not only that, but other smaller issues within the relationship that could’ve been worked out, I didn’t feel motivated to work through them.
@@elijajackson9651 I believe they are rare in certain age groups... men younger than 30 are very limited in then”good guy” category... most times if you get with a guy before he’s over age 25, you gonna unfortunately deal with a lot of crap from him. And I don’t mean cheating. I mean other things that a mature man will already understand... my husband now, it took a while to get him to where he is now. We been together since we were 23.. and we are now almost 30.... he never cheated on me or nothing like that but it was a lot of stuff I had to lay in front of him at early stages and say “look i believe in XYZ and I am not willing to continue this if you and I cannot get on the same page”... Fortunately we worked on our issues(I had some too, but never any that made him feel like he would want to end the relationship). So I’m just saying. I have ALWAYS been with good guy potentials thru my life they just too young and immature when I met them
Honestly though I think it's all about timing and understanding where you're at so that you can recognize your counterpart at whatever stage you are in your growth. Personally I think we should operate at a, "Don't take anyone for granted, no matter what, because time is scarce and no one lives forever."
Smuv is my sleezeball brother mane! Seeing this podcast come from just a vision to what it is now is inspiring. Much love to y’all continue grinding 🤜🏾🤛🏾💯
Let’s be real here... you have to actually like AND be attracted to these good men/women.. That’s the main issue there.. end of story. If you 32/31 years of age.. independent.. no kids.. single for many years.. I’m thinking not willing to negotiate/ sacrafice and commitment issues..
Yes!! That's the part that most people aren't willing to accept. The reason is because lack of attraction for people who treat you well is huge sign of a deep seeded issue. Inner work and maybe even professional counseling is require for them to get to the core of that issue. Most people don't want to put in that kind of work.
Yes, we do and I did. Still regretting it, 4 years after the relationship. I wasnt mature enough to understand the value that man was trying to bring to my life.
"I have way more money now than I had when I was talking to you". Translation: I can get a woman that looks better than you based on my income. I'm actually glad you said that cause it proves my point. Ultimately men take good women for granted because they want the baddest woman they can find, which is fine, women just need to swallow that truth pill. They just aren't that attracted to you. All this mess about how good women come at the wrong time in a man's life is incorrect. Most men aren't physically attracted to these good women and they feel like they are settling. I think we should just be honest with each other.
@@MrHood666 Thank you! People just don't like to realize it. Same thing with women. We've met amazing men but typically the "good men" aren't attractive to us.
@@elijajackson9651 That's great and I respect your opinion but this is what I hear about when talking to men about relationships and women. This also explains why women put "good men" in the friend zone. A lot of it has to do with attraction and feeling that you could do better.
The opposite happens to me all the time! As a woman, guys expect all girls beg for a relationship out of them but I never wanted to date at all. I hate dating for many reasons like anxiety, bad experience, insecure, and etc. I used to have a bunch of guys that would pressure me to want to date and I would already tell them why. I was working finishing college (almost 91% done), grow my online businesses, and grow a name for myself. After my last relationship, you couldn't pay me enough money to want to date again.
Now let me unpack some of the thoughts, I’m at 20 mins 55sec in the video 😂..... I have never never never described a man by his job, car or material things. First thing I would say is “he is soooo sweet!” Then I’d talk about his looks and how he made me feel. Job and having it all together would be the last thing I’d think to talk about. My husband now, we started dating while we were both trying to get into the bag(dated from 2013-2015, engaged February 2015 married June 2015) and when we got married I was the bread winner for a couple years. After a job switch on my part and his he became the bread winner... we grind together. We had our first child in 2018 and from then on he was able to get the job of his dreams, and now I’m a stay at home mom. We bought a house in 2019.... we are doing well. And I’m from a well off family while he is not, most guys(90%) I dated were not from a well off 2 parent home like me. But I have always believed that when a man approaches me and I sense he’s a good one, and I know he will be able to provide because he has that drive for greatness, I can work with that. Before our 30’s we have bought a home, bought 2 cars, had our daughter, and making close to 6 figures...it’s about team work... no matter what stage you meet someone. Honestly, I always side eyed guys who are 28 or older and have it all together but no wife or gf or anything. That’s more odd than a woman being in that same situation. But that’s just my thoughts and take.
@@Sp1n1985 boy, this video is almost 30mins long with a lot to cover.... you don’t have to read it... but if these are my thoughts, then these are my thoughts long or not. I’m into this discussion 🤷🏾♀️... it’s really not that big of a deal.
@@Sp1n1985 actually my father is pretty wealthy... not poor. 🥰... married 30 years to my mom. And I am just like him. So don’t worry, we are all good on this end. Thanks for the concern.
We need to normalize women choosing to be single to focus on their career and get to their own bag without being considered crazy and men first thought being “what’s wrong with her?” If women are considered to be “desperate” to be in relationships... why is it that when a man meets a woman that isn’t desperate to be in one because she’s focused on herself, all of a sudden is viewed as a bad thing? Or a catch? So in one sense women are desperate for love and in another sense, women aren’t desperate enough? Make it make sense.
No, see this is what men need to realize & stop doing. Stop putting your best foot forward for people who clearly is showing you they are not interested in you. Men do this all the time for the women that gives the bare minimum & then when you don't get the results you was hoping for now all of a sudden your done being a nice guy or all women ain't ish. Learn to take accountability for your actions and realize the part you played in that. You entertained an idea in your head hoping that if I just show her something different she will "Change her mind" stop doing that bs. Because you need to learn to accept you & stop waiting for a woman to accept you. Guys are superficial & want something that they are infatuated by aka plays hard to get. This same cycle happens for women as well, you don't want the girl who shows you that she's interested you want the girl who gives you a hard time because you want ACCEPTANCE. Learn to accept yourself & love yourself FIRST enough to not entertain people who clearly isn't interested. People love going after things they can't get or think they can't get. You love the chase so be real with yourself before you try to point the finger at somebody who already gave you the answer. You just can't accept it because nobody likes being rejected it's a hard pill to swallow but not everybody is going to be INTO you & you must learn to accept that. LOVE YOURSELF enough to walk away & that's on that.
The tricky part though is that some women are very convincing at first especially if she's a narcissist. It's not always the case that the woman is showing no interest but the man "loves the chase." Look up the term, "love bombing" on youtube. This is the bread and butter of a narcissist used to draw people into a "relationship." They'll really have a man thinking that they want to be with him until they get whatever they wanted....that's when the mask comes off.
@@theplug3102 your screename is literally "I'm only intelligent enough to sell drugs to mimic a social life" try to accept you're not a "good" person before resorting to pejoratives.
You will never hear an ACTUAL good woman say, "Nice girls finish last" because real women don't weaponize their good behavior into manipulating men into liking them. Overall we know "if he likes you, he likes you" and if he doesn't well you just gotta take that "L". Like me, I'm going to be a kind person inspite of my raggedy experiences. I don't look for a pat on the back for being a decent individual, and don't need to be attracted to a man for me treat him well, that's just my character. I know when it comes to dating it takes more than being a "good woman" to have a man be interested in me. I don't gloat about having bare minimum qualities or expect the red carpet treatment, without being interesting or having chemistry even if I know there's an abundance of trash individuals who plague most social settings be it online or in person. It's not a booster for me and I'm not fueled off the unfortunate dense personality of others lol it just is what it is. THERE ARE GOOD PEOPLE OF THE OPPOSITE SEX, TRUST ME. When it's your time, It's your time. I have never assassinated the character of all men for my past poor decisions and won't use it as a cop out if I don't get who I want to then become a shitty person, NOBODY has that much control over me. Real always finds the deserving but first ask yourself am I really a good person or just pretending to be to get what I want?
Just like Chris Rock said in one of his comedy specials " you're not her first choice"; that's why she can take advantage of a good guy because he thinks he's winning a prize by getting her, but she'll be more nonchalant and get what she can get out of him because she's not really invested 100 percent in the relationship.
Now y’all now many women nowadays are super independent. Many have been in school for 8 years and didn’t have time for a man. That doesn’t mean they’re crazy. Y’all gotta get use to the new normal. I’d like to hear yall touch on what Otis was about to say at the end. Great video!
You was talking about me when u said she done dealt with 10 bad niggas then you come along and she thinks your the same YUP I FEEL THAT WAY ABOUT ALL MEN ‼️🤦🏾♀️
The Toyota Corolla lyric was on point! Women have hypergamy, where they will always keep options open and look for better options whilst in a relationship, whereas men are more likely to hold off all challengers while they're climbing to the top of the mountain for a better view. Standard!
Really good show, but not all men are the same. Also, man or woman, if you're not ready when the perfect person or opportunity comes, that's the person's fault for not being ready. Being ready in season and out of season is a very important key to success. Also, in fights, knock-outs are usually caused by the punches you don't see coming. Thanks again.
This happened to me, met a guy too soon. He was still dating and seeing his ex plus lying about it. I had to walk away, met someone 3 months later that was ready for marriage. He came back telling me he's ready and it was kind of too late.
good question. one way to look at it is, if you been alot of situationships but no relationships. that a red flag. another is if you never been in a relationship longer than a few years, like all your relationships were a couple months long thats a red flag.
I don’t think there is a number but more so different types of relationships you have to experience in some form before you settle down. For example knowing what it’s like to be in a long term relationship, a situationship, long distance relationship, a toxic relationship that shows you want you don’t want in a partner etc. Sometimes all of those experiences can occur in just ONE relationship and then the next one you’re like ight I’m ready to settle down because I’ve encountered it all.
bigjayking24 I get what you mean and you’re absolutely right that I don’t have experience every one personally but I could see a physically abusive relationship and say “ that’ll never be me” and end up in an emotionally abusive one. I could physically see a controlling relationship and look for those signs to avoid in a person and end up with somebody who’s crazy insecure. Overall that would be the experience of dealing with someone who isn’t a good partner.
I'm sick of Smuv!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 You are going to stop having me hollering over here. I love your Podcast guys! Alot of different perspectives with laughter. Keep up the good work fellas!
According to SmUv, apparently since I'm at the qualified age now, when I'm ready, I need ta be lookin "to get dragged to Heaven!!"🤣🤣🤣🤣 And who in TF spread legs for Hot Cheetos without the pickles lmfao!?!?! You guys crack me up!!!
There's so many trashy dudes to sift through and weed out that it gets very exhausting and hard to see the good ones for some ladies. That said, sounds like at least some of these hosts date poor women with nothing going for themselves and that will therefore tolerate abuse and mistreatment. Not all women are low self-esteem scrubs, fellas. But the ones that are not are also less attractive to men because they don't need a man financially and do not fit into the traditional roles men typically want them to. So I say this: ask why you are attracting these user women...or going after them... instead. You can't have it both ways. Either you like a needy traditional woman or you don't.
Good anyone gets taken for granted period. People feel entitled to your time. You have to say no. One time, a chick wanted me to go pick her up from her house, take her to the gym, train her , then drop her back off at her house.
Did anyone listen to the full podcast yet? First caller came off very pick me ish to me. She had some valid point but some were just like hold on now. Shout out to Kenny for giving her push back.
Yes we can....Love Y'all. But it maybe hard if she's been hurt. You can't recognize who's good or bad after a while cause that dude that was bad seemed good at first...if I'm making sense
Yes we do 😞. We don’t know what a good man is because from birth we are programmed to search for what doesn’t exist so we pass by the real ones searching for a character and realize it to late.
Somebody told me good guys/ nice guys don't get anyway in life, Good guys get used or taken advantage of. So yh choose you Edit: I used to be a nice guys and trust me it didn't take me anywhere in life, just be careful ❤️🙏
What u guys fail to realize is that most dudes want "bad" women more than they want good ones. That's jus keeping it real. But coincidentally, Lots of women want the "top-tier" men, which has them set themselves up for failure, when the looks start to depreciate in value.
@@KrewSeason Those men are absolutely everywhere. But again most women are looking for a certain type of dude so the normal regular decent dude is just not what they want even though most of the women are just basic
Sex ain’t a weapon or a tool ladies. Stop using it for leverage. WAP should stand for Woman About Purpose. Imma go with that one. Let’s be all be accountable, then we good.
21:14 Thats exactly it. Thats me 7 years cause i dont want that relationship. But my material things in life are pretty much set. They view me like they be needing me.
If the man doesn't want her at that time, let her go - do not keep her around, tell her to walk and do not entertain a situationship. That's dragging the woman. If you keep her around, you know full well that you like the attention and sex and get distracted if you're on a grind. However, yes women take good men for granted.
Women are more desparate to be in relationships vs Patriarchy enforcing systems to make women aspire for marriage. Like one of you said, men are asked 10 different questions, about themselves, before mentioning their relationship status. Is that not because of societal norms and expectations of a man and his behaviour? We (the whole world) need to look at women as individuals and not home makers or puzzle pieces to "The Man's Bigger Picture". Women also need to start looking at themselves as individuals with a divine purpose to fulfill- change makers- over and above the idea of being a man's Home Making Ambassador. When our minds shift from that focus, our behaviours and expectations will too.
@16:50 That happened to me. But no second chances. To me, it’s very selfish and egotistical to try and put somebody on the shelf and think they gone stay there until you sow your wild oats.
When you're turned off by people who treat you well there has to be an underlying psycological/emotional issue that they haven't addressed. But a lot of people aren't willing acknowledge that they have a problem.
That's not the major issue but it has some validity. Alot of cases aren't even that deep.
Lets call a spade a spade, the proportion of women who will curve you for treating them good are is very high amongst BLACK women specifically...which is fine, they can stay in the streets while us High Value men date the other women
This is EXACTLY what happened to my ex girl.
She broke up with me cause I was too good to her. Then it hit me, she was used to “bad boys” and “thugs”. Used to arguing, fighting, cheating, verbal and physical abuse. So she was basically “scared” and “bored” with a “healthy relationship”. Anyway, it hurt but I dodged a major bullet. She’s currently waiting for dude to get outta jail from a crime he implicated her in, a crime she had to hire a lawyer to clear HER NAME avoid jail. SMH. You can’t make this shit up! SMH 🤦🏽♂️
When he said “keep dragging her” i died n jesus can’t bring me back lmaooo
LMAOOOOO
My stomach hurts 🤣🤣🤣🤣
My exact reaction
Absolutely,how many times have we heard women admit that they allow a good man to slip through the cracks
What I want to know is why is it that when they do run into a good brother, that they want to make the good dude pay for the mistakes that the ex made?
@@sid2daknee They always call it loving themselves now and that they are healed. I always want to know why does it takes so many mistakes to heal and love self. The new dude shouldn’t have to pay for those mistakes. Also they lying about self love because most of time that’s all they do love.
This brutha smuv needs to be protected at all cost 😂
He keep it straight honest😭😭😂
Yes, I believe women are capable of taking a good man for granted. I’m 24 & it just seems everyone is jaded. Dating is exhausting thou. I’m not good at the roster game lol I hate it.
short answer: yes
Yep
@n cw : you do know that being a good communicator is only half the process in conversation? No matter how well you communicate if the other party is not willing to hear what is said or acknowledge the validity of it then your still without progress.
Alot of men that are good on paper are just not that cute, sexy, or sane...same for women. Lack of chemical attraction and compatibility makes you not so good depending on who is evaluating. I can for sure take a good man or woman for granted if he or she isn't good to me.
@Ismaël GACEM I don't count it as a loss. Settling is silly. There are plenty of amazing men to choose from without entertaining the "good" riff-raff out here trying to shoot an unlikely shot. High value women are not short on options to choose from and neither are high value males. Know your worth and choose accordingly.
@Ismaël GACEM I don't need to validate myself on social media for the satisfaction of some random nosey
"good guy" with nothing better to do than ask personal details about a total stranger. Not that insecure, sorry 🤣
I think the reason why men will have a good women and keep her on standby is because most of us are ego driven as opposed to being spiritually driven. It’s very low level (primal) activity to wanna run through as many women as you can for sport. I’m the only one in my circle naturally faithful but I’m in my upper chakras and I see how pointless casual sex is. The rest of my friends are still in their lower chakras and very much live through their ego identity. Which is their lower, survival mode, competing energy centers. They have yet to elevate to their essence identity and see the bigger picture.
A LOT of truth here.
bigjayking24 much respect
You better preach that!
Naturally & faithful doesn't go together. The natural instinct is to want to be with all these gorgeous women. Then when you get older and are tired, you settle down. Faithful young people are usually either ugly, fat, no game or have no money or all four. Let's keep it real fam.
Master Baby Yoda no bro even if I had unlimited options I would be faithful. And I agree with your statement as a whole but I get a good amount of female attention. I just prefer depth and emotional intimacy. I’m not fat I’m skinny as hell. I got plenty game and intelligence to go with it. Prolly look better than you to be real. I’m rare I know but none of that apply to me.
It’s all about maturity. If I had the mindset at 25 that I have now at 38, I would have been extra straight up with women. Young dudes think that they have to manipulate a situation to get cheeks when IN ACTUALITY, you can get cheeks without the potential drama lol
Some women do, but I think women who have their head on straight & healthy relationship with their father.. typically know how to look for the good in a man and appreciate when they find it. Not all of us take good guys for granted because we know they are rare. But if his looks aren’t up to par, I feel like A LOT of women will take him for granted
Mmmm interesting perspective!
Agree with this 100%. If there’s a deal breaker that’s in question...for me, it’s look...then I’m probably not gonna wanna be all in. I tried to date someone that I wasn’t physically attracted to and thought that the attraction would grow over time, but it just didn’t and I had to opt out of the relationship. Not only that, but other smaller issues within the relationship that could’ve been worked out, I didn’t feel motivated to work through them.
Good men r not rare. It's just that alot of these men r not as attractive 2 the bad boy. Young and dumb. Basically the reason.
@@FunnyWater95 yes ma’am!! I feel you on that. Most of us believe in being attracted to the guy physically. Being a “good guy” isn’t enough
@@elijajackson9651 I believe they are rare in certain age groups... men younger than 30 are very limited in then”good guy” category... most times if you get with a guy before he’s over age 25, you gonna unfortunately deal with a lot of crap from him. And I don’t mean cheating. I mean other things that a mature man will already understand... my husband now, it took a while to get him to where he is now. We been together since we were 23.. and we are now almost 30.... he never cheated on me or nothing like that but it was a lot of stuff I had to lay in front of him at early stages and say “look i believe in XYZ and I am not willing to continue this if you and I cannot get on the same page”... Fortunately we worked on our issues(I had some too, but never any that made him feel like he would want to end the relationship). So I’m just saying. I have ALWAYS been with good guy potentials thru my life they just too young and immature when I met them
Honestly though I think it's all about timing and understanding where you're at so that you can recognize your counterpart at whatever stage you are in your growth. Personally I think we should operate at a, "Don't take anyone for granted, no matter what, because time is scarce and no one lives forever."
It’s always one thing or another huh
Smuv is my sleezeball brother mane! Seeing this podcast come from just a vision to what it is now is inspiring. Much love to y’all continue grinding 🤜🏾🤛🏾💯
Haa That means everything to us bro. We appreciate the love!
Let’s be real here... you have to actually like AND be attracted to these good men/women.. That’s the main issue there.. end of story.
If you 32/31 years of age.. independent.. no kids.. single for many years.. I’m thinking not willing to negotiate/ sacrafice and commitment issues..
There's a lot of truth to this.
This was well said. This is exactly what it is.
9/10 that’s what it is
Yes!! That's the part that most people aren't willing to accept. The reason is because lack of attraction for people who treat you well is huge sign of a deep seeded issue. Inner work and maybe even professional counseling is require for them to get to the core of that issue. Most people don't want to put in that kind of work.
@Ismaël GACEM The truth is men are approaching those women too but they're going after the same men that the other women are let's just be 100
Yes, we do and I did. Still regretting it, 4 years after the relationship. I wasnt mature enough to understand the value that man was trying to bring to my life.
this level of honesty is appreciated 💯💯💯
Krew Season, thank you. self reflection and accountability is growth!!!
@@hanniah18 respect for the honesty
"I have way more money now than I had when I was talking to you". Translation: I can get a woman that looks better than you based on my income. I'm actually glad you said that cause it proves my point. Ultimately men take good women for granted because they want the baddest woman they can find, which is fine, women just need to swallow that truth pill. They just aren't that attracted to you. All this mess about how good women come at the wrong time in a man's life is incorrect. Most men aren't physically attracted to these good women and they feel like they are settling. I think we should just be honest with each other.
Please, there's alot of good women who r attractive. Do some men take good women 4 granted, yes but not many.
If good men and women are unattractive, then who is genuinely good at all?
Your comment definitely has some validity.
@@MrHood666 Thank you! People just don't like to realize it. Same thing with women. We've met amazing men but typically the "good men" aren't attractive to us.
@@elijajackson9651 That's great and I respect your opinion but this is what I hear about when talking to men about relationships and women. This also explains why women put "good men" in the friend zone. A lot of it has to do with attraction and feeling that you could do better.
'good men' allow themselves to be taken for granted
The opposite happens to me all the time! As a woman, guys expect all girls beg for a relationship out of them but I never wanted to date at all. I hate dating for many reasons like anxiety, bad experience, insecure, and etc. I used to have a bunch of guys that would pressure me to want to date and I would already tell them why. I was working finishing college (almost 91% done), grow my online businesses, and grow a name for myself. After my last relationship, you couldn't pay me enough money to want to date again.
Can't even blame you! But you focused on the right things at the moment. The dopest relationships you normally stumble into.
Now let me unpack some of the thoughts, I’m at 20 mins 55sec in the video 😂..... I have never never never described a man by his job, car or material things. First thing I would say is “he is soooo sweet!” Then I’d talk about his looks and how he made me feel. Job and having it all together would be the last thing I’d think to talk about. My husband now, we started dating while we were both trying to get into the bag(dated from 2013-2015, engaged February 2015 married June 2015) and when we got married I was the bread winner for a couple years. After a job switch on my part and his he became the bread winner... we grind together. We had our first child in 2018 and from then on he was able to get the job of his dreams, and now I’m a stay at home mom. We bought a house in 2019.... we are doing well. And I’m from a well off family while he is not, most guys(90%) I dated were not from a well off 2 parent home like me. But I have always believed that when a man approaches me and I sense he’s a good one, and I know he will be able to provide because he has that drive for greatness, I can work with that. Before our 30’s we have bought a home, bought 2 cars, had our daughter, and making close to 6 figures...it’s about team work... no matter what stage you meet someone. Honestly, I always side eyed guys who are 28 or older and have it all together but no wife or gf or anything. That’s more odd than a woman being in that same situation. But that’s just my thoughts and take.
This way too long for a anecdotal retort
@@Sp1n1985 boy, this video is almost 30mins long with a lot to cover.... you don’t have to read it... but if these are my thoughts, then these are my thoughts long or not. I’m into this discussion 🤷🏾♀️... it’s really not that big of a deal.
@@curlygirl9023 your poor father.
@@Sp1n1985 actually my father is pretty wealthy... not poor. 🥰... married 30 years to my mom. And I am just like him. So don’t worry, we are all good on this end. Thanks for the concern.
@@curlygirl9023 I wasn't speaking about wealth but nicely done showcasing what is valued by women such as yourself.
Smuv is the type of guy I would go for beers with. That man is hilarious! haha
Not spreading legs for a bag of Hot Cheetos. Oh nooooo 🤦🏾♀️🤣🤣🤣
What if I add soda queen?
We need to normalize women choosing to be single to focus on their career and get to their own bag without being considered crazy and men first thought being “what’s wrong with her?” If women are considered to be “desperate” to be in relationships... why is it that when a man meets a woman that isn’t desperate to be in one because she’s focused on herself, all of a sudden is viewed as a bad thing? Or a catch? So in one sense women are desperate for love and in another sense, women aren’t desperate enough? Make it make sense.
Shut up
Your menopause kicking in
I think that’s already normalized
Everyone was speaking facts, but Kenny was ministering today!
facts sis!! and he usually quiet!
Toni Denise Mines as well 😊🥰
Liz m very true!
“You gotta be the 11th” 🤣🤣🤣
When you don't understand the nature of something, you gone misuse it.
Well said
No, see this is what men need to realize & stop doing. Stop putting your best foot forward for people who clearly is showing you they are not interested in you. Men do this all the time for the women that gives the bare minimum & then when you don't get the results you was hoping for now all of a sudden your done being a nice guy or all women ain't ish. Learn to take accountability for your actions and realize the part you played in that. You entertained an idea in your head hoping that if I just show her something different she will "Change her mind" stop doing that bs. Because you need to learn to accept you & stop waiting for a woman to accept you. Guys are superficial & want something that they are infatuated by aka plays hard to get. This same cycle happens for women as well, you don't want the girl who shows you that she's interested you want the girl who gives you a hard time because you want ACCEPTANCE. Learn to accept yourself & love yourself FIRST enough to not entertain people who clearly isn't interested. People love going after things they can't get or think they can't get. You love the chase so be real with yourself before you try to point the finger at somebody who already gave you the answer. You just can't accept it because nobody likes being rejected it's a hard pill to swallow but not everybody is going to be INTO you & you must learn to accept that. LOVE YOURSELF enough to walk away & that's on that.
The tricky part though is that some women are very convincing at first especially if she's a narcissist. It's not always the case that the woman is showing no interest but the man "loves the chase." Look up the term, "love bombing" on youtube. This is the bread and butter of a narcissist used to draw people into a "relationship." They'll really have a man thinking that they want to be with him until they get whatever they wanted....that's when the mask comes off.
Really chick. Y'all take men 4 granted all the time.
This made no sense
@@Sp1n1985 Nah you just isn't capable of understanding that level of intellect. I don't expect today's society to have common sense anyways.
@@theplug3102 your screename is literally "I'm only intelligent enough to sell drugs to mimic a social life" try to accept you're not a "good" person before resorting to pejoratives.
I like Kenny in this one he's very rational.
Of course u did cuz he responded like a female lol
I bet you do lol. You’re a woman
@Win From Within Ga damn!
You will never hear an ACTUAL good woman say, "Nice girls finish last" because real women don't weaponize their good behavior into manipulating men into liking them.
Overall we know "if he likes you, he likes you" and if he doesn't well you just gotta take that "L".
Like me, I'm going to be a kind person inspite of my raggedy experiences. I don't look for a pat on the back for being a decent individual, and don't need to be attracted to a man for me treat him well, that's just my character. I know when it comes to dating it takes more than being a "good woman" to have a man be interested in me. I don't gloat about having bare minimum qualities or expect the red carpet treatment, without being interesting or having chemistry even if I know there's an abundance of trash individuals who plague most social settings be it online or in person. It's not a booster for me and I'm not fueled off the unfortunate dense personality of others lol it just is what it is. THERE ARE GOOD PEOPLE OF THE OPPOSITE SEX, TRUST ME. When it's your time, It's your time. I have never assassinated the character of all men for my past poor decisions and won't use it as a cop out if I don't get who I want to then become a shitty person, NOBODY has that much control over me.
Real always finds the deserving but first ask yourself am I really a good person or just pretending to be to get what I want?
some women arent used to having a good man around thats willing to do right by her
Probably one of y’all best episodes so far . Good jokes and perspectives
Smuv is too funny!
Just like Chris Rock said in one of his comedy specials " you're not her first choice"; that's why she can take advantage of a good guy because he thinks he's winning a prize by getting her, but she'll be more nonchalant and get what she can get out of him because she's not really invested 100 percent in the relationship.
90% of women don’t fully invest
I feel it's only boys that define guys based on material things but men define fellow men based on career, family and other tangible things.
Kenny for president ‼️👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 cause nine times outta ten they don’t lay it out in the line ‼️
"Gotta be the 11th"😂😂
Now y’all now many women nowadays are super independent. Many have been in school for 8 years and didn’t have time for a man. That doesn’t mean they’re crazy. Y’all gotta get use to the new normal. I’d like to hear yall touch on what Otis was about to say at the end. Great video!
Facts! We definitely gone have to unpack that some more.
I’m late but everybody independent when they single
This dude Smuv STOOOPID🤣🤣🤣🤣
You was talking about me when u said she done dealt with 10 bad niggas then you come along and she thinks your the same YUP I FEEL THAT WAY ABOUT ALL MEN ‼️🤦🏾♀️
Absolutely, taken for granted!
*That's why, majority of men don't take dating' serious these days.*
True true Real Ones Real Game ya 'll Keep talk that Realness
The Toyota Corolla lyric was on point! Women have hypergamy, where they will always keep options open and look for better options whilst in a relationship, whereas men are more likely to hold off all challengers while they're climbing to the top of the mountain for a better view. Standard!
Really good show, but not all men are the same. Also, man or woman, if you're not ready when the perfect person or opportunity comes, that's the person's fault for not being ready. Being ready in season and out of season is a very important key to success. Also, in fights, knock-outs are usually caused by the punches you don't see coming. Thanks again.
This happened to me, met a guy too soon. He was still dating and seeing his ex plus lying about it. I had to walk away, met someone 3 months later that was ready for marriage. He came back telling me he's ready and it was kind of too late.
I have a question I just thought of... Is there a certain number of relationships one should have before they settle down?
That's a great question
This is a hell of a question. Definitely gone answer it next week on the pod
good question. one way to look at it is, if you been alot of situationships but no relationships. that a red flag. another is if you never been in a relationship longer than a few years, like all your relationships were a couple months long thats a red flag.
I don’t think there is a number but more so different types of relationships you have to experience in some form before you settle down. For example knowing what it’s like to be in a long term relationship, a situationship, long distance relationship, a toxic relationship that shows you want you don’t want in a partner etc. Sometimes all of those experiences can occur in just ONE relationship and then the next one you’re like ight I’m ready to settle down because I’ve encountered it all.
bigjayking24 I get what you mean and you’re absolutely right that I don’t have experience every one personally but I could see a physically abusive relationship and say “ that’ll never be me” and end up in an emotionally abusive one. I could physically see a controlling relationship and look for those signs to avoid in a person and end up with somebody who’s crazy insecure. Overall that would be the experience of dealing with someone who isn’t a good partner.
Lol this hit home alittle tough 🤦🏾♂️🤣
I'm sick of Smuv!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 You are going to stop having me hollering over here.
I love your Podcast guys! Alot of different perspectives with laughter. Keep up the good work fellas!
I love Kenny very calm
Sleezeball U!!😂🤦🏽♂️
Yessir!!!!
Bro In the black funny af 😂😂
The truth will come out live in it
According to SmUv, apparently since I'm at the qualified age now, when I'm ready, I need ta be lookin "to get dragged to Heaven!!"🤣🤣🤣🤣 And who in TF spread legs for Hot Cheetos without the pickles lmfao!?!?! You guys crack me up!!!
There's so many trashy dudes to sift through and weed out that it gets very exhausting and hard to see the good ones for some ladies. That said, sounds like at least some of these hosts date poor women with nothing going for themselves and that will therefore tolerate abuse and mistreatment. Not all women are low self-esteem scrubs, fellas. But the ones that are not are also less attractive to men because they don't need a man financially and do not fit into the traditional roles men typically want them to. So I say this: ask why you are attracting these user women...or going after them... instead. You can't have it both ways. Either you like a needy traditional woman or you don't.
Smuv is hilarious 😆
Good anyone gets taken for granted period. People feel entitled to your time. You have to say no. One time, a chick wanted me to go pick her up from her house, take her to the gym, train her , then drop her back off at her house.
This is Smuv
PLEASE GO RATE THE SHOW ON APPLE IT HELPS OUT TREMENDOUSLY
Lol “ most of em livin in hell” 😵 💀 💀 💀
Did anyone listen to the full podcast yet? First caller came off very pick me ish to me. She had some valid point but some were just like hold on now. Shout out to Kenny for giving her push back.
Sorry to just jump the gun Krew but I wasn’t sure if y’all were going to upload that clip.
Nah it's all good. Go ahead
Smuv start was legendary. Tears
Absolutely!
Yes we can....Love Y'all. But it maybe hard if she's been hurt. You can't recognize who's good or bad after a while cause that dude that was bad seemed good at first...if I'm making sense
Got to let that hurt go baby girl. Every man ain't the same.
New thumbnail too🔥
Preciate it! Trying to keep upgrading the quality week by week!
Spread legs and getting hot Cheetos bruh 😂 I almost got a six pack from that
SMUV going to hell on an intergalactic missile!! "Keep draggin her" ended me!!!!
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 that boy crazy...the TV need him
Yes we do 😞. We don’t know what a good man is because from birth we are programmed to search for what doesn’t exist so we pass by the real ones searching for a character and realize it to late.
i can’t stand smuv 😂 my face hurting not even 3 minutes in
Somebody told me good guys/ nice guys don't get anyway in life, Good guys get used or taken advantage of. So yh choose you
Edit: I used to be a nice guys and trust me it didn't take me anywhere in life, just be careful ❤️🙏
That quick intro 🔥🔥🔥
What u guys fail to realize is that most dudes want "bad" women more than they want good ones. That's jus keeping it real.
But coincidentally, Lots of women want the "top-tier" men, which has them set themselves up for failure, when the looks start to depreciate in value.
Where have all the good men gone? Enough said 🤣
We out here!
@@KrewSeason Those men are absolutely everywhere. But again most women are looking for a certain type of dude so the normal regular decent dude is just not what they want even though most of the women are just basic
SMUV hahaha. You have to be the 11th 😂😂😂😂😂
Sex ain’t a weapon or a tool ladies. Stop using it for leverage. WAP should stand for Woman About Purpose. Imma go with that one. Let’s be all be accountable, then we good.
Yes
Smuv you a GOAT. You the truth!! I am with you! Lol. Please for the love of God don’t be the good nigga
Yeah I do......the world not fair yow
😂😂😂 he said, she meet 10 bad men you gotta be the 11th 1 smh
6:43 - 7:14 Amen
I never had a good man but if the opportunity present itself I’ll be appreciative.
I truly hope so. Aint many of us out here.
bigjayking24 not where I’m from Las Vegas doesn’t have a good reputation and it’s a few good people out here but I just haven’t met it them yet .
Facts
By definition, what is a "good man"? Can we clear that part first?
Always, most are u grateful
Y'all spoke gospel on this one
The black guy is hilarious and made my day
They all are black lol
@@dionwest7880 😂😂😂
Probably means the darkest one.
Are you crazy
Nyiko Maswanganyi thank you
21:14
Thats exactly it. Thats me 7 years cause i dont want that relationship. But my material things in life are pretty much set.
They view me like they be needing me.
“Then u gotta keep dragging” 😭😭😭
If the man doesn't want her at that time, let her go - do not keep her around, tell her to walk and do not entertain a situationship. That's dragging the woman. If you keep her around, you know full well that you like the attention and sex and get distracted if you're on a grind. However, yes women take good men for granted.
dem boys got dat 60fps camera Smooveee
I don't even need to go to the gym and work on my abs today 😂😂😂😂
Women take EVERYTHING for granted.
Smuv ain't made right 😂😂
Hey y'all what was that episode where he first said they living in hell lol?
Ahhhh I think 13!
Found it "Quick Hits" segment of episode 11.
Smoove describing a foolish man not a good man lol
My woman does not deserve a good man like me
I have yet to find one. But if I did I wouldn’t because they are a rare breed.
Oh ok... I’m 2 minutes in and yeah ok. 🤦🏾♀️😩😂😂😂😭😭😭😂😂🤣
Awesome video
people take good people in general for granted
General rule of thumb if you good (man or woman) you losing that’s just in life tho, period
he telling the truth man!!! the dude from the left
Women are more desparate to be in relationships vs Patriarchy enforcing systems to make women aspire for marriage.
Like one of you said, men are asked 10 different questions, about themselves, before mentioning their relationship status. Is that not because of societal norms and expectations of a man and his behaviour?
We (the whole world) need to look at women as individuals and not home makers or puzzle pieces to "The Man's Bigger Picture".
Women also need to start looking at themselves as individuals with a divine purpose to fulfill- change makers- over and above the idea of being a man's Home Making Ambassador.
When our minds shift from that focus, our behaviours and expectations will too.
@16:50 That happened to me. But no second chances. To me, it’s very selfish and egotistical to try and put somebody on the shelf and think they gone stay there until you sow your wild oats.
You gotta be the 11th 😄🤣
Good video