I was diagnosed on the spectrum at age 50, watching your video you are so much like me, I was fortunate getting a vocational job as Telecoms Technician after vocational college engineering diploma in 1980, the job role had little social interaction, only in the last few years my job at a support desk involved collaboration with internal & external stake holders, Its when for me it all came to a head
Very astute! I know that a number of people in my life at various times have taken my tendency to get right to the point as aggressive. I never really realized what they were referring to until recently because it was more subtle than out-and-out bluntness and they didn't specify what it was. Right to the point doesn't seem to be how neurotypicals talk, so I see how those lead-ins can be softening.
It's interesting that you mentioned that sometimes you 'just know' when it comes to work that requires analysis. I've often had that feeling on analytical tasks. People on the other side of the fence will say that they 'just know' in regards to other's emotions or feelings.
I have a hard time knowing what is good enough and what my priorities are, my memory is also really bad so learning a new task is tough, then I get anxious after I ask people to repeat themselves and explain themselves better, and my brain is basically useless from that point.
You're very good about smiling while you're talking! I have not been able to master this, I seem to keep a serious expression on all the time, even when I *think* I'm smiling, apparently, I'm not. So I'm told ... My attempts at smiling look a lot like Sheldon Cooper's smile (where Howard goes, "Oh crap, that's terrifying."). I don't have a natural smile.
I am not very good at hiding my emotions at all. I am convinced there is a type of Aspie like me, that show everything we're thinking and feeling. It's not very helpful. I can't hide my distaste very well.
I work for ultratesting.us and we employ neurodiverse individuals in the USA. Doing some research. I am autistic. Thanks. Also, Samantha Craft of the book Everyday Aspergers :)
I know what you mean about ambiguity in others' communication being hard to deal with. It makes me very nervous when someone only tells me bits and pieces of something and I have to try to guess what they mean, or if I can tell they're withholding information and I have to ask for clarification to death. I've actually (half-jokingly) considered making a little tag or button to pin onto my shirt saying "full explanation please", LOL.
great video i was just wondering do you know how to deal with colleagues who talk behind my back at work (coming from an aspergers sufferer)? this is problem I'm experiencing at the moment
Really great video, it's good to hear other people's challenges. Out of interest, if you had a manager turn around to you and say "it doesn't sound like you, you don't have aspergers I have a book you can read that will fix the problem" how would you react to it? I had my manager say this to me and it's caused me a ton of anxiety and I am really unsure how to comment on it.
I'd be mad! I would have to leave the room, calm down my Sicilian temper, vent to a friend... then I'd go back with as much strength and calmness as I could muster and provide a letter from the doctor with my diagnosis and a list of reading materials. I would direct him to Amythest's videos and I don't know what else. It would be very enraging. I've already been dismissed so much!
Thank you for your response, I really appreciate it. I was trying to work out how to firstly react the approach it. I had read a ton of "self help" books before my diagnosis though had found they are too aimed at neurotypical to be usual because they don't provide context that is of value. I will follow your advice.
I was diagnosed on the spectrum at age 50, watching your video you are so much like me, I was fortunate getting a vocational job as Telecoms Technician after vocational college engineering diploma in 1980, the job role had little social interaction, only in the last few years my job at a support desk involved collaboration with internal & external stake holders, Its when for me it all came to a head
Very astute! I know that a number of people in my life at various times have taken my tendency to get right to the point as aggressive. I never really realized what they were referring to until recently because it was more subtle than out-and-out bluntness and they didn't specify what it was. Right to the point doesn't seem to be how neurotypicals talk, so I see how those lead-ins can be softening.
It's interesting that you mentioned that sometimes you 'just know' when it comes to work that requires analysis. I've often had that feeling on analytical tasks. People on the other side of the fence will say that they 'just know' in regards to other's emotions or feelings.
I relate to so much of this, especially the perfectionism! I had to learn to calm down a bit.
It's an ongoing struggle!
I have a hard time knowing what is good enough and what my priorities are, my memory is also really bad so learning a new task is tough, then I get anxious after I ask people to repeat themselves and explain themselves better, and my brain is basically useless from that point.
You're very good about smiling while you're talking! I have not been able to master this, I seem to keep a serious expression on all the time, even when I *think* I'm smiling, apparently, I'm not. So I'm told ... My attempts at smiling look a lot like Sheldon Cooper's smile (where Howard goes, "Oh crap, that's terrifying."). I don't have a natural smile.
I am not very good at hiding my emotions at all. I am convinced there is a type of Aspie like me, that show everything we're thinking and feeling. It's not very helpful. I can't hide my distaste very well.
I work for ultratesting.us and we employ neurodiverse individuals in the USA. Doing some research. I am autistic. Thanks. Also, Samantha Craft of the book Everyday Aspergers :)
I know what you mean about ambiguity in others' communication being hard to deal with. It makes me very nervous when someone only tells me bits and pieces of something and I have to try to guess what they mean, or if I can tell they're withholding information and I have to ask for clarification to death. I've actually (half-jokingly) considered making a little tag or button to pin onto my shirt saying "full explanation please", LOL.
Yeah, your back!
great video i was just wondering do you know how to deal with colleagues who talk behind my back at work (coming from an aspergers sufferer)? this is problem I'm experiencing at the moment
Hmmm. That's a tough one. I really don't!
What about aspies that don't have a job or can't work?
Really great video, it's good to hear other people's challenges. Out of interest, if you had a manager turn around to you and say "it doesn't sound like you, you don't have aspergers I have a book you can read that will fix the problem" how would you react to it? I had my manager say this to me and it's caused me a ton of anxiety and I am really unsure how to comment on it.
I'd be mad! I would have to leave the room, calm down my Sicilian temper, vent to a friend... then I'd go back with as much strength and calmness as I could muster and provide a letter from the doctor with my diagnosis and a list of reading materials. I would direct him to Amythest's videos and I don't know what else. It would be very enraging. I've already been dismissed so much!
Thank you for your response, I really appreciate it. I was trying to work out how to firstly react the approach it. I had read a ton of "self help" books before my diagnosis though had found they are too aimed at neurotypical to be usual because they don't provide context that is of value. I will follow your advice.
Sue I been told to shut the fuck up very often LOL