Chinese Vlogger Set On Fire During Livestream - Case of LaMu
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“I believe an abusive person CAN change, but that Doesn’t mean you have to be there for that “ !!! You go Stephanie
Thank you its been driving me crazy I knew I had seen her somewhere so it's Stephanie Soo ✌️💖🇦🇺
@@Little_Aussie_20same, I was so confused I was like "Wait doesn't she have like a Mukbang channel?"😂😂
They absolutely CAN change because they are in control of their actions, and saying that they can’t is the one of reasons people stay when it is detrimental to them. They CAN change, but if they haven’t already it’s because they don’t want to, and that’s not a safe environment to stay in while you wait for them to make up for it. They always apologize and feel so bad and will never do it again, and they always do it again. Not because they can’t help it, because they don’t care enough to try.
I don’t believe they can change. Why would they? They love the power of control, manipulation and making you feel like shit. No they will never change.
@lindyt3942 this
I can't believe that the courts gave the children to the woman who raised a horrific murderer
I hope those poor boys don't end up like their horrible father
It’s sad but there is no other option available. Mother murdered, monster also dead. Maternal grandparents also not available - granma died and grand dad is sick. And her sister most probably due to financial struggles couldn’t take care of their own sick father, let alone raise deceased sister’s 2 kids additionally to her own kids. So paternal grandparents seems to be only option.
I believe her kids will be kind and bright like their mother
She also most probably paint their mother as a bad guy in this situation. I have low hopes they grow up as normal kids with so much trauma and bad influence from their grandma.
@@rezq9109 exactly! Like this woman already raised one murderous man, and now they're going to let her do it AGAIN?!?!
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As a Tibetan. Her name is Lhamo, not lamu, Lhamo, which means goddess in Tibetan. 🙏 Thank you for covering this story, Stephanie. I hope her family and her kids are doing well 🙏 💗
Thank you for sharing. 💙💙
O WOW INTERESTING
Ty
It's not her streaming name?
Is Lhamo a very common Tibetan last name? I used to have a friend named Tenzin Lhamo but with how common I know Tenzin to be, I’m wondering if her name is the Tibetan version of Jane Smith
It’s basically impossible to survive burns that extensive, which is almost a blessing for her in this situation. The fact that she survived that long is absolutely not a miracle, it’s torture. Hopefully this wakes up anyone who asks “Why do women stay in abusive relationships?” One part of it is because they’re often in even more danger when they’ve left.
She wasn’t with him anymore at the time of her murder . Stop victim blaming domestic violence survivors . If it was that easy for them to leave , they wouldn’t be in this cycle of abuse .
@@LLace Can you read?
@@LLace They (caittails) weren't blaming the survivors, but the people who refuse to acknowledge the fact that these types of relationships hard to get out of. This is a sentence from the comment you're replying to: _Hopefully this wakes up anyone who asks “Why do women stay in abusive relationships?”_ You're both in the right.
@@LLaceomg you really cannot read
@@LLacengl, I kinda low key wish for you to experience being in this position, in this way you can cut that arrogant peace of crop oy yours.... the AUDACITY TRYING TO DEVALUE THE SUFFERING OF THE ABUSED, PUUČK YOU!
The fact that this all could have been avoided if the police took action the moment he publicly assaulted his ex sister in law... They all let this beautiful woman down
'acab' is international for a reason
honestly
Her pure blood is on all their dirty hands for life they will get what’s coming to them, each and every one of them. I have no doubt about that.
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They were soft about that, yet they have a workable death penalty they're not afraid to use.
Lamu really was the proof of the saying "the loneliest people are the kindest. The saddest people smile the brightest."
May her soul rest in eternal peace.
we will never understand why the victim finds it difficult to get out of an abusive relationship unless where are in their shoes.
You try to keep it to yourself- there’s that tiny part of you left - you fight to keep it at a very high price ! I waited until my kids were grown, never burdened anymore with it but the authorities want drama, I’m sure they want to see bruises , they want scenes, they want all the things you fought so long and hard to hold on to , your self respect and dignity- they want that too - it’s strange that the abuse continues but via the very systems meant to protect you ?
@@firefly88887I hope your out of that situation now and doing better ❤
@@vanessap.1448 Stockholm Syndrome?
that's when one falls for a captor, completely different situation@@arpan9937
idk why people think high divorce rates are a bad thing. I think it’s incredibly positive to see people who break up when their relationship isn’t working anymore. A long marriage doesn’t equal a successful one in my opinion. I think it’s sad so many people think suffering through a difficult relationship for years is admirable 😪
Well said, here here👏🏽
Cut your losses and go!
I remember when Australia changed their divorce laws to include irreconcilable differences. Basically, you no longer needed to have concrete proof of adultery or abuse to get a divorce. The courts were flooded. Thousands of people who had been living in quiet, lonely misery, kids growing up in homes with parents who resented each other, people who had been legally tied for years to spouses who abandoned them.
Exactly. Trapping people in marriage is useless besides making numbers look good on papers. But that’s what China is all about. Faking everything
exactly, agreed 100% correct
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This is one of those cases where I support the death sentence. He took her life so brutally and traumatized their kids that he no longer deserves to live. I feel so bad that the kids have to grow up with that family that didn't even feel remorse for what their son did to LaMu. May she rest in peace and I pray that her kids safe and happy.
Fully agree and I never support death sentences
All of that hell LaMu went through, and his mom had the audacity to say that?! So unbelievably infuriating...😡
For real. 🤬 So infuriating
The mother in law sounds brainbroken from all the abuse she endured by Tang's father
I have no words for a mother (If I can call her that) like really she have no shame
@@eveelee4152he didnt raise himself to behave this way
tang and all his immediate family seems to have no heart no soul no brain
I think the worst part is that they gave custody of her sons to the monsters parents :(( they raised this horrible man and had no remorse or sympathy for LaMu, their daughter in law, the mother to their grandchildren, just disgusting
Well unfortunately they didn't really have much of a choice ... lamu's family had a lot of other things to worry about as well since their home was destroyed from the fire too, even if they recovered quickly the children couldn't be left in their care during the time of recovery.
I think the only thing we can all hope for is the fact that his parents value the children and want to actually bring them joy.
@@svarthol2341 how can you call that a "fact" they already raised a murderer, how can you assume their flawed parenting wouldn't Raise another.... She SLAPPED him when he hit Lamu....slapped a grown ass adult... I wouldn't be surprised if she used violence on him during his childhood like Many families do and that resulted in the son doing the same to his wife.
Yup
@@birisuandrei1551he deserved to get hit she was probably abused by his father and realized she helped continue the cycle
In my country, Iran, the law does not give a woman the right to divorce her husband even if the husband was abusive, only a man can divorce his wife. It is very ridiculous
mine divorced me three times the first year then denied it and lied about it for ten years.
Ye when I will prob grow up I will definitely leave this goofy ahh country it sucks having to pretend to be reglious just so people won't judge you
@@lumiIumi that really sucks, i wish you the best :(
@@fruitgum9619 Ty :D
@@lumiIumi
This isnt a religious thing. If your muslim, then Islam definitely allows the woman to seek divorce/annulment without the husbands permission.
I think it may be an extremist, cultural factor more than an actual religious ideology.
Goodluck n best wishes ❤
I started balling my eyes out when the father started degrading himself, thats literally broke my heart, my condolences go out the family
Yeah I don't think he should be so hard on himself. None of this was his fault.
As tragic as it was that LaMu passed from her injuries, the amount of pain and suffering she would have had to endure during recovery would be indescribable. Severe burns are incredibly painful and difficult to treat and recover from, and at 90%, she'd never have a pain-free day in her life ever again. She didn't deserve what happened to her, and I hope her killer rots. She is at peace now.
Agreed. I learned from watching Mr Ballin's videos that survival of third degree burns depends on the percentage they cover your body. At 90% tragically, La Mu had little chance of surviving third-degree burns that covered her body. Though I think she didn't feel most of the pain because third-degree burns destroy the pain nerves. Another thing I learned from Mr John Ballin.
Absolutely, she'd likely have passed anyways with the burns alone 😢
@@melissalayson7275 I'm surprised people don't know the 'degree of burns' can go past three, because at the point of it's definitely past third degree burns.
@@wombat4583 True but my point of LA Mu not being able to feel the pain is correct. Since all her pain nerves were destroyed.
The indescribable anger I felt. That man. That god damn man. I hope him and people like him feel just the amount of pain they have caused EVERYONE. I hope they live the rest of their life in regret, I hope, for thr rest of eternity, he lives in torture, with pain so indescribable and incomprehensible. I’m actually so mad.
I’m so sorry for LaMu and her family. I hope they’re doing better now.
I'm Hmong, and in my culture when you marry a Hmong man, it doesn't matter if he abuses you, neglects you, if you run to your parents and family for help, they tell you "Ua Siab Ntev" which means to be patient. If anything, your family blames you for the way your husband is to you.
Because of this, I forbid myself to marry another Hmong man, because god knows how I'm going to be treated. So when Lamu was told to be patient and stay, I felt that in my soul.
This is not a culture, you just married the wrong person. Other races will do the same thing if you married the wrong person. So pick your partner wisely…stop blaming your own kind.
@@deesmith8576it takes an average of 7-8 times to leave an abusive relationship. Manipulators can use ANYTHING including kids to pull you back to the relationship, she was in love with him, she genuinely believed he changed. Don't. Blame. The. Victim.
@@deesmith8576wow. I hope you don’t procreate.
I’m glad you feel that way and am going to ensure you are treated with respect and dignity. Stay strong and get distance from those that enable abuse, they are just as bad or worse than the abuser.
Imagine being @@deesmith8576 who is excusing the horrendous crimes of a domestic abuser and murderer, and blame the victim. They clearly didn’t watch the video or pay attention to the part where the ex husband threatened to harm their son as well as her and her family’s lives if she left him. As for her getting pregnant again, I wouldn’t be surprised if he r@ped her thinking that he was entitled to s3x. He lovebombed her and gaslit her in order to win her back. She thought of the well-being of her sons and probably had magical thinking that he actually changed.
This man is so evidently violent, sadistic, narcissistic and evil, yet this person is giving excuses to his actions. That tells us all we need to know about them.
I never cried so hard for a stranger. Why do people have to suffer 😢
Especially innocent people too :((
The same with me. Why are people so evil especially to women?
But laugh when it's Palestinians right?
@@Rexorazorno one’s laughing. Wish nothing but safety for Gaza. The only ones laughing are ones with no hearts
They don't have to. There just are bad people who do bad things. "What makes people do things like this?" is the question to ask
there are times where the parents’ character represents their child’s, and this is one of them. I will never imagine standing up for anyone who literally just killed their ex wife, and then act like the ex wife was never abused in front of me
Stop it. This is about a young woman killed. Not a fem movement. This is why men are caring less to be honest. Let this be about her life, not your fem cause. Then men might just care.
@@muziqluvachi this is not about feminism, this is purely about being human. you don't see someone being abused, man or woman, and then act like it never happened and then when the abuser get caught, support the abuser. and in this case, the abuser has his mum behind his back, enabling his disgusting behaviour which simply goes to show that this is how it's been their whole life- the abuser being imhumane and a total dickhead while his mum pampers him when he should be punished where it's due. if the victim was a man I'd say exactly the same thing. read properly next time. I never said that the victim should not be abused just because she is a woman. no human being should be abused by another. not everything you read online can be inferred as a feminist statement like you think it is
@@tancharlotte-jayne4157Just a troll commenting the same thing
@@MFsecret1 who are you referring to though, cause I don't see anything wrong with my statement:/
edit: just saw the repeated comments, thanks for letting me know:)
My mom says "when a man has hit you, he will always hit you".
I teared up during this video. She was truly a blessing to this world. Rest in peace Lamu, I hope you can find a happiness in after life ❤
😢 💔 😔 poor woman Killed by her awful ex husband
@@deesmith8576 Wish you to not be a victim of any sort of abuse. You clearly don't understand how it works, so keep your mouth closed
@@deesmith8576you redpillers are super annoying. Go find something better to do, especially some spelling and grammar classes
I’ve heard that if they hit you, they will kill you.
@@purporchid8628This is how these miserable trolls choose to spend their time. They’re so profoundly pathetic.
I can never understand the family of abusers who defend them whole heartedly... Like how could a mother say her son was murdered someone he was "loyal"
Fruit and a tree thing..,
It's the exact same message the parents express during the upbringing of the kid: no matter what you do we support you.
But they take it too far, to the point where the kid knows no right or wrong, and this is exactly why these kids grow into self centered monsters.
@@kayakazi7765" The apple doesn't fall far from the tree" ?
Idk why I laughed at your comment.
@@avo5499is not even just the blind support
Is the fact he was made to believe he should everything and everyone should bend to his will
This the type of man that sees women as property, to be destroyed if it doesn't obey him
That's the person they made
Someone who believes they are entitled to take someone's life because they didn't want to be abused by him anymore
And yet, they are now raising her children
My heart is broken man
@@Isabella-vx3bc sadly this seems to be more than just an individual case in the current 20-35 year old generation in asia. The hard lives the parents and grandparents lived through seems to have prompted an unhealthy fixated mindset of 'i must provide for my child and never have them live through what I did'. Often this means they will give their children anything they want and whatever the kids asks for, they are determined to spoil the kids with the childhood they wish themselves had, with no limits.
Sounds sweet at first but it comes at the costs of giving the child a sense of entitlement to everything- and they start thinking that if another person doesn't immediately drop everything to cater for their needs, this person must be doing wrong and must be somewhat malicious against them.
On top of this, China's whole one child policy back in those days really didn't help. not to judge a country, just a sociological observation, the combination of the economic growth in the past decades in combination with the parents' over compensation of love for their only child seems to have produced too many entited mama's boys/ daddy's little princess/ brats in general who have zero regard of others simply because they did not have to consider other people during their entire upbringing, and always got what they wanted.
It is a social problem now.
If the dad reads this, it’s not the education or money you give your kids, its the love you gave. This is why She was so beautiful because she had a majestic family that raised her. I hope the dad can learn to understand this.
I have to express how intelligent and sophisticated your thoughts are Stephanie. Great minds think alike. You’re so unique Mango butt.
I didn't know this woman, but listening to the story, and watching her appreciate the noodles she was eating, her being so appreciative of the sunlight, and finding things to be grateful for makes me feel like this was a good woman. I cried multiple times during this video. It's extremely sad. The man who did this was a low form of human life. He never deserved a beautiful woman like her in the first place. She was beautiful on the inside and the outside. May God bless her soul. May God bless her family and let them find some peace.
I'm only 10 mins in, and I'm already crying 😭
Thinking back on her singing and cheerfully eating her noodles made me cry. What a brilliant, beautiful, incredible human being. The fact that people are hearing her story now, seeing and appreciating the light of a person she was…I hope her soul is out there somewhere smiling and feeling happy because she has brought a smile to our faces with her genuine joy for life. I’d like to think that has brought comfort to her soul, and maybe even comfort to her family, too.
Abusers don't change, They just pretend to woo you back in their web. I was in an abusive marriage for 11 years. My ex-husband would do the same thing as this monster did to her. Get on his knees and beg for me to forgive him for beating me. Yes, I would forgive him over and over, Until one day he beat me so severely that he almost took my life. As police officers came to my rescue there was a female officer. She saw my condition and she immediately put me in her patrol car and rushed me to the hospital. She didn't want to wait for an ambulance. As I was laying on the hospital bed in the ER she began to weep and told me "Please never go back to your husband because he will do this you you again and next time you probably won't be lucky to be alive". She also told me that she became a police officer because she was also abused by her husband for many years and she wanted to protect other women in the same situations as she was so she became a police officer. I took her advice and I never returned to my ex again. I am now married to someone else. I couldn't have made a better decision that night in the hospital to finally leave that monster for good.
I don’t care that this was 11 days ago but I’m so happy that you made it out alive my mom had the same thing happen but the abuse was emotional I know it’s not ask bad but I hope your doing better😊
you are so strong. i’m so glad you’re here and no longer being tormented by your ex
Your icon is cute and happy
I love this
Bless that officer’s heart, so glad you got out of there. I hope your ex is imprisoned and rots in hell, you never deserved what he did to you.
Lamu's sister should've been given custody of the children the way all of this was handled is just so mind boggling! how could they allow the family of the man who murdered her to raise those children? He did this thinking that he would get away with it which goes to show how entitled and vile he really was. The poor woman suffered at his hands and the police did nothing to protect her it's infuriating.
Really infuriating! The ex-husband's family should not see Lamu's children either. Their child caused the crime, so they should suffer not seeing their grandchildren as well. At least the authorities gave them restraining order.
I believe the court did this depending on the financial stability of the husband's family. they don't think about how that might affect the kids emotionally or mentally as much as they care if they were provided for. And considering that LaMu's family does no longer have a house and the grandfather is elderly and ill and the sister has enough on her plate the court decided that's what is best for the kids. I just hope they are brought up better than their father.
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It's refreshing to see a genuine, emotional reaction on you when talking about these cases. Most true crime content creators show little to NO emotion. The fact that you show emotion is a reminder that these are REAL people. Thank you ❤
She burned for three hours and sustained burn injuries that no human being should've survived.... and was still alive. She had an amazing will and lifeforce... my God.... smh
Imagine the absolute agony of listening to your daughter scream as she burns alive and not being able to do anything about it. I hope LaMu and her father, sister, and children find peace.
Like legitimately not a single part of me believes anyone could recover from that, no matter how much time has past. I would be almost willing to bet that that sounds runs through the mind of her father every day and probably will until he passes away, all because of her selfish shit bag of an ex husband
i’m a burn victim and i spent hours debating if i should watch this. i said fuck it. this breaks my heart to hear. i cant understand why someone would do this to anyone. humans are the scariest animals oh my god
Hello Kenzie, sometimes understanding is painful and frightening itself.
Please, I want to share a little bit of truth. It's actually a big truth yet there is far more truth to know even in a dark world.
Every single person is broken from birth. There is truly evil in this world. And there are definitely choices to be made. Just like one small match can burn down a forest one small thought if not put Out of the mind can change and destroy it. People are beyond rules, it's punishment that restrains some people. Others choose to know right from wrong and do right. Their goal is not to avoid pain. Instead their goal is to do right.
I have chosen God of the bible. It's impossible to be as good as a perfect and holy God. Within God is Jesus and within Jesus is God and the Holy Spirit is the personality of both.
Understand if you will that it absolutely is the grace of God that anyone is sane enough to express love in any meaningful way.
I told someone once that I didn't know if I could handle heaven. He thought it was a strange thing to say. I explained that I have seen so much meanness, lack of care, suffering, pain, hostility in this world and just didn't think there was any way I could figure out or in any way be able to exist there.
And just as I was finishing those words this thought came into my mind and I spiritually recognized it as good.
THE BIBLE is not a book about avoiding hell. It's a book about preparing for heaven.
And just as they heard that thought I knew I had my answer
Demons exist, but only within the hearts of man. 😢
@@The_Bean Do you have any evidence for this, or are you just making empty assertions?
@@godless-clump-of-cellsI think they meant humans in general but referred to them as “man”
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Tong’s description on how he treated LaMu matches how my dad treated my mom. My father would sometimes break things or throw things at my mom. Even while cooking he would throw things like a *hot* pot of beans.. or a spoon. There was this one particular time he made my mothers wardrobe fall and when my mom tried helping put it back up he pushed the wardrobe towards her! I had 911 on speed dile. But I didn’t have the guts to do it. Sometimes my mom had to go somewhere and she would leave me with my younger brother. My dad would leave my TODDLER brother crying in his room until my mom came home, refusing to give him water, he just smacked him. (Obviously he would only hit him once.) I prayed that they would divorce one day and one day we just moved with my uncles when my mom saw me crying when we had to go back “home”… LaMu’s story broke my heart. Please please pleassse!! Listen to Stephanie, any domestic violence should be the last.
The same situation exists in my house. No matter what my father does to my mother, everyone else just says be patient. Once, we couldn't stand it and went to my grandmother's, but after three days she said, "I can't take care of you."
He sent us back and still my father's violence continues. He's threatening to burn the house down with my mom inside if we try to leave again.
I don't know what to do anymore. my mother will end up like the women in the news one day
@@bonyheart whatever religion you believe in i will pray in it for you. if you are atheist i will ask the universe itself to protect you, and your mother and sibling(s). i have gone through the same thing and escaped, i hope one day you can too
only 15 minutes in and this case honestly just brought me to my knees in tears, this is so horrible. the fact that the father had to sit there helplessly for HOURS while his baby girl burned it jkust broke me
i cant believe how horrible people can be, how selfish and cold hearted. at the very least LaMu is no longer in pain, may she rest in peace but i just cant help but feel so terrible for even saying that because there was no reason or purpose for this crime against this woman. there will never be a reason to do anything like this to a woman or any human being. im so heartbroken
This. Seems it's always the people who have kind hearts that have the absolute worst done to them. I can't begin to imagine what the father and Brother-In-Law felt.
Honestly, the death penalty was too good for that POS.
Actually to you knees in tears?? 😂
LaMu's story really sent me back. It's been 27 years since I ran with one toddler and two babies. He tried to kill me twice, then threatened to kill the kids. If you are living in this nightmare, please get out. If I could do it, you can to. All three of the kids are now college graduates running their own businesses and one a computer engineer. LaMu's story makes my heart bleed for her. She deserves sainthood, the world was a better place with her than without her.
you're so brave!!! I hope more people gain the courage it takes to run from an abusive relationship, you're truly a hero not only for yourself, but for your children too❤ blessings
Thank you@@spekstic ! If I am an inspiration for just one that is enough. There is help out there, but you have to be motivated to find it.
In the name of yr sons i am sending u a big hugg and a big thank u for yr brave moves! ❤❤❤❤
Good job mama!! Your story brought tears to my eyes. I have heard of it ending so badly with similar circumstances. Be proud you were that courageous! I hope your children are proud of you too!
That's tragic! I'm so sorry 😞 I'm glad you got away.
The letter her dad wrote for her followers asking for help was very emotional, just heartbreaking. May her spirit protect her children!
Indeed 😔
And may her kids live a decent upbringing even tho their kind mother is gone cuz their father
My heart breaks for the father feeling like a burden when his home was the probably the only safe haven for his daughter.
I knew the moment you said she survived but was 90% burned that she wouldn't survive. I haven't heard of anyone being that burned and surviving. It just made my heart sink. I can understand the hope the family had. But it feels so cruel to give hope to such a hopeless case. So sad.
Yeah, I wouldn't want to survive and suffer though being burned lile that.
I tried so hard not to cry, but i couldn't. Why do Angels always get torn from this earth so violently?
The fact she survived that even to begin with shows what kinda strength she had, may she rest in eternal peace and may that montlster who did this to her burn in hell
Same here strong woman and kind hearted mother. Now she's in heaven. 🙏💜
The sound of someone screaming when they’re on fire is unlike anything. I’m sure the sound haunts her family’s nightmares. 😢
That’s why it’s one of my biggest fears. It’s so terrifying, my heart goes out for that family. ❤
Burning alive is #1 on the list of the most painful experiences for a human being, and giving birth is #2. The fact that LaMu endured both pains, along with the abuse, shows how strong she really was.
@@TamWam_ Apparently, you've never stubbed a toe.
@@godless-clump-of-cells 😒
@@godless-clump-of-cellsseriously. Its not time to joke about things on a murder case.
How someone could do this to another human being I have no words... This is not human behaviour this is demonic.
control freak when they get anger over their head they will do thing beyond imagination.
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You are so dainty and elegant yet so strong and powerful. I love that when I was getting emotional, it sounded like you were too. It's like you're not just reading from Wiki about grousome things. Instead, you're spreading awareness and passing on stories to hopefully prevent another from such a horrid ending. I started watching you yesterday and can't stop! Thank you, and may god keep you.
Not only did this monster ruin a family but also traumatized the people watching the livestream
Right. That is pure evil. I cannot imagine a human being doing this. He is a monster.
@@deesmith8576so you’re saying that bc a woman was young and blinded by love she deserved to get abused and murdered? You’re a horrible person who is most likely just like her ex husband.
@@deesmith8576No you cant be serious. How can you think that blind love means that you deserve to be abused and to be burned alive!? Please go see a psychologist or someone else.
@@cristianvandenbosse8989 she married him 2x she was clearly has a low IQ
@@cristianvandenbosse8989what did they say?
The dad feeling guilty and the sister feeling inadequate. I hope they move past those feelings, because he isn't a burden, and she is every bit as strong as her sister was. I did not know LaMu, but I bet she was and would be proud of her family in every way!
It's so infuriating that LaMu's boys are with the in-laws after all that they said and did to her! What good does having financial stability do for children when the people raising them are cold-hearted psychos???
The world over-values money, and it’ll cause the destruction of the entire world. It’s kind of poetic actually, that the same thing that put Christ on the cross is now bringing the entire world down
If I hear that those monster parents did something to Lamu's boys,I'm coming to China or Abba
I cannot even begin to wrap my brain around the pain LaMu’s family is in. I pray that her children grow up knowing their mother was such a strong woman. Rest in eternal peace LaMu 🩵
Your emotion and sympathy toward the victims always shines through and I appreciate it so much, you are such a kind story teller
My heart aches for her father & sister.
Please, stay safe out there! ❤
And her two babies that now dont have a mother like LaMu and were given to that monsters family
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The fact that the custody of her children were awarded to her killer's mum is mind-boggling. What in the actual f is that?
For real 😮 in china 🇨🇳
Patriarchy in China is still very deep rooted in all aspects of their social norms I guess.
The dad has such a pure soul, I pray for a fully secure recovery for them all , they deserved better
As an abuse survivor myself, I feel so greatly for Lamu. She deserved so much better and I hope her family is doing okay 🥺
This bought me to tears 😭 this poor family. The justice system is absolutely ridiculous, giving the kids to his parents is absolutely crazy! Divorce is crazy, in Australia we have to wait for 1 year and 1 day before you can even file for divorce, so trying to get away from a DV situation and then having to wait and then be in court in front of that person again is horrific.
wtf is wrong with politicians all over the world to do such dumb move???? braindead coldhearted greed smh 😞😡
lets live in a society without marriage then
In Ireland you have to pass "tests" to be granted a divorce, like prove you've been "living apart" for so long (same house ok, but if you so much as share cooking duties you aren't legally living seperate lives & are therefore ineligible for a divorce.)
@@tortalicious1112 that's the definition of messed up. Idk what my country needs to declare divorce but given the corrupt government and ALOT of single people idk
The Patriachy is just INSANE. The fact that nobody helped these women is just depressing. She was failed in so many ways by so many people. She didn't deserve this.
Edit. This woman died a terrible death and men are in my replies debating because I said “the patriarchy”. I pray that a meteor wipes us all out frfr we don’t deserve this earth.
Thus as nothing to do with so patriarchy.
Do you seriously think a matriachy would be better.😂
@@daxdarve8817why not. There are matriarch society in China doing well. Maybe because they have social security.
@@ihatecabbage7270 🤣🤣🤣 cause women are just as bad as men.
You really think women are all innocent little creatures and can do no wrong? 😅🤣😂
@@daxdarve8817 compared to all the men that have failed absolutely. It's not all men, but it's always a man.
@@daxdarve8817 why do people still, in this day age try to deny the issues patriarchy causes. Most societies are patriarchs, and most of those societies are detremtinal to women in some way or form
Yes!!!!! The cost of divorce, along with the custody rules imposed by family courts, are among the BIGGEST barriers to getting away from abusive partners!
"Narcissistic Clown" is a very good description. I am married to one, and am too afraid to leave. If I do, I will be eliminated from the face of this earth. This story shattered my heart. Stephanie, you are an absolutely beautiful, compassionate, loving soul. Thank you for covering this. 🤗 The Universe is blessed you exist. Thank you. ❤
Oh god I hope you're ok, there are other options I promise, I know I can't speak for everyone, but being a witness as a young child to my Mom's DV, it gets better, you gotta get out
This case broke my heart, she was such a beautiful/wholesome soul and gorgeous woman.
@@deesmith8576she was 16 at that time and he was an adult, have some fucking sympathy. instead of going around in peoples reply sections and victim blaming, let a woman REST IN PEACE. what a world we live in
@@crvshh8663 umm bozo she married him 2x
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@@deesmith8576 "BoZo" 🤓
When you said 90% burns, I just knew she wouldn't survive anyway. God bless her soul.
We had a chemical house fire and lost everything, but my partner saved my life by getting it off me and trying to stomp it out without realising he didn't have shoes on.
We We trapped in the second story bedroom, and both had to jump out the window.
He had 30-40% full thickness (3rd and 4th degree) burns to his body.
He was lucky to live, and they had to separate toes as they melted together with the socks and jeans, etc.
When I heard her percentage, I knew she wouldn't survive....if she did survive, would she want to live like that with 90% burns? Just imagine the life long pain with no nose mouth, ears etc.
Just tragic.
I kiss my partners scars as I love them.
He has to have ketamine showers, skin grafts, etc.
This was the height of the pandemic.
We lost everything but are grateful as we had our lives, so my heart goes out to her family, but just think, "Would she want to live like she would've been?" Hopefully, that would give you peace.
Burns, especially chemical burns, are nothing to play about with... please be careful out there people even with nail varnish remover.
Yea the amount of anxiety I get everytime I saw people on the internet putting fire near chemicals that already has clear instruction to not be put anywhere near fire yet refuses to just go take a quick look of those warnings and just go on about their day or already knew the risks and still go on for clicks like 😶
On the other note, I hope you and your partner's in a better situation now and I wish for your happiness both 💜
ketamine showers? like he needed to be sedated with ketamine to be cleaned?
@loger_2floofyboogaloo278 They gave him Ketamine and madazolam.
So you're totally awake, but you don't know what you're doing.
They scrub, and I mean scrub the burns before you can have skin grafts, and this happens every day.
They give you madazolam to try and calm you and ketamine to take away those short-term traumatic memories of the scrub, which it does, to be honest.
@cheridamm6226 Thank you.
Very traumatic as his skin literally slipped off the bottom of his feet from jumping out the window and like it was melting off on his legs, thighs, arm, etc.
Thank you hun appreciate it.
@shaineshaine359 Thank you.
In a better place now, this happened at the height of lockdown so nobody could help is like the red cross council etc.
We lost everything but we are all alive and that's all that matters.
We used to keep deodorant in the bedroom drawer but don't even do that now because it exploded in the fire.
People don't realise how flammable some chemicals are.
The fire only has to lick you for a second and you're done for because it's so hot.
Thank you for the comments people.
Great video! Great cover of this case. I wanted to add that when I was married in Louisiana back in 2012, they made me “cool off” For 6 weeks while trying to divorce my abusive husband. I wasn’t even trying to get any money, I wanted nothing from him, I just wanted to stop the abuse and control… 6 weeks… I didn’t change my mind. It’s an absurd law.
I am a domestic violence survivor.. I wanted to say that you are right. When you are so broken , the pain that you feel literally takes your breath away. It's your soul that hurts ,a pain you would not wish on your enemy. When you feel stripped , you've lost everything, as weird as it sounds, the only thing you can do is smile and laugh a little because if you don't, you give in to the darkness. The darkness consumes you, and most do not make it through to see the light.
That divorce law is absolutely terrifying. I don’t wanna get married but if I did and I lived in China, my mind would instantly change….
For the most part, marriage in the developed world is obsolete unless you need citizenship. The perks from marrying someone from your own country aren't that great. If kids weren't getting brainwashed into accepting the idea they will be married one day if they want a family almost nobody would be getting married.
Well, if 30 days is so terrifying, than go to Norway, where so called cooling period is 2 years, or Australia or Germany where it is 1 year. Or cause it’s all Western countries , not on US political agenda so voices of women from there don’t deserve to be heard?
It has nothing in common with this cooling period since in law is clearly stated isn’t supposed to apply to those divorces involving domestic violence.
It’s about certain type of men who treat women like commodity and think they have all rights to owe them, treat them and take their life away! And these man exist in every country and women are suffering from them! It’s so stupid to shift responsibility for this horrific crime from a monster and his disgusting family to cooling down law that has nothing to do in here since they were divorced and didn’t live together.
I am here sobbing... I am glad she no longer suffers, sorry, last comment.... I hope her family knows that this is NOT their faults... this should have never happened. The pain that humans suffer at the hands of people who claim to love them needs to change.
Take care of your fellow man. ❤
Yeah, my heart was heavy during the whole story but when the sister was on video sobbing, you can just feel her pain and that's what started my waterworks... Ughhh such a sad sad tragedy. May she rest in paradise 😢
I don't cry easily but her sisters pain and guilt broke me
The fact she thinks they weren't a good enough family because they didn't protect her is just
Im so sorry, my heart broke for her
This monster took her and left her family feeling like they are guilty
It's the biggest injustice this doesn't weight on his conscience but that of the victims
Fuck that monster
LaMu looks like my aunt Natasha. Their faces are so similar which to me makes this even more haunting to watch. May her memory be a blessing.
She seemed to be a wonderful woman, the type of person we need more of in this world 💔
His parents are sick. I can't believe they gave custody of her children to those disgusting grandparents. May LaMu rest in peace and I hope her sister and father live a long and happy life.
Edit : This law is gonna kill so many people especially women, it's so messed up.
I mean in china, they want you to rather have a boy than a girl. Some chinese ppl think that it's better to just give away/abandon/k!ll your Baby if it's a girl, so that you can try again for a boy :(
facts. they raised a murderer so who knows what is going to happen to thos children, plus I find it hard to believe that those parents would allow the children to ever see the family on Lamu's side
@@deesmith8576 she was such a caring woman and saw the nice and positive in people. that's what killed her. it's not stupidity it's just her kindness and personality
@@deesmith8576 WTF is wrong with you????? Are u for real?? You're so wrong for even thinking like that let alone writing this after listening to this heartbreaking case! Lamu rest in heaven!
@@deesmith8576 dude wtf she was a kid, the dude wasnt abusive before the marriage he turned abusive when she got pregnant did you even watch the vid
This isnt the first time someone gets set on fire during a livestream youve covered a case like this before and i feel so bad for the people who witnessed it and the victims..may the hurt rest in peace
Right?? I never expected to hear another instance of that happening again. People are despicable.😓
what??? did she covered another similar case on rotten mango pod? i missed it omg humanity is hopeless....
I think this is like the third time cus there was a case in america she did years ago
Rarely do I get upset and cry about anything but this made me cry. This is so heartbreaking...
Lamu was clearly a beautiful soul with the kindest heart which she held wide open for all. She went beyond seeing the best in others; & it’s heartbreakingly tragic how little she was given when contrasted with how much she deserved. May her soul be at peace & her loved ones find solace.
she genuinely seemed like the most wholesome, calm, and kind person ever :(
I appreciate so much that even though Stephanie is about to get married and probably under a lot of stress, she’s still making so many great videos for us!❤
yes! but im just saying i believe they got married in june and now just posting wedding vids....
they did get married already!
They’re already married
@@zedrickgo4519 what does income have to do with this?
@@Rose-uo2vc Its her income
i never cry from online videos but this one just pushed it. she was too good for the world. i cant even describe what i'm feeling. my heart just hurts
I'm addicted to your show. I thought at first I would not like it as much because it's kind of podcast/doc hybrid but it's so good. There is plenty of actual footage, and the best part is the storytelling. Grateful!
The dad was their peace not a burden. She loved taking care of her dad. 😢
He was blessed with an amazing daughter.
@@deesmith8576you know what your saying isn’t true stop being so pathetic
@@deesmith8576pls shut up
She seems so sweet and humble I feel so bad. Thank you for the video Steph!
I'm so mad that someone could destroy such a beautiful life. She had so much more to give. There were so many people who never got to watch her videos. That kind of channel would have been right up my alley and now she's gone. No more smiles, no more singing at night.
this case is heartbreaking, the saddest one i’ve heard so far. i feel so much sadness for her father who saw himself as a burden (which is not true) and the sister for being so close to a dream with her sister, her best friend, then having that ripped away from you. praying all the time for LaMu and her family🤍
As a Tibetan and loyal subscriber of yours, I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for covering this case 🙏
Same here 💗
Was she tibetan? Or Chinese?
@@Diki_lhamoshes chinese and tibetan
@@Diki_lhamoHer name is Lhamo. You do the math
@@ooh26she’s Tibetan her evil ex husband was Chinese
I want to know what was going through the judge’s brain when he/she decided that it was okay to leave 2 children with a man who beat a woman in front of them.
How does someone THAT senseless get the responsibility to enforce decisions on people’s lives and punishment???
I just cannot comprehend.
My thoughts and prayers go out to Yamu’s family.
Such a beautiful soul who deserved so, so much better.
Thank you Stephanie for sharing
It’s soooo sad how her kids are now 14 and 5 without parent sand having to live knowing that their father is gone for burning their mother alive for 3 hours after years of abusing her and the worst part is that since the youngest is probably too young to remember so his parents are probably going to try to change up the story hopefully his brother will be able to tell him the truth and I hope that both Lamu and her family have found peace at least knowing that she won’t have to deal with the pain of having to remember those painful 3 hours and deal with the trauma of all of that wicked man’s abuse and may she rest in peace 🕊️❤️🩹
I am so sorry to hear this…
She was a real fairy princess. rest in peace
What an angel on Earth. Women are rather notorious for hiding a lot of hurt, pain, and suffering we are going through. This is why a lot of woman suffer from heart disease because we have the tendency to take on the weight of the world. May this angel rest in heaven and justice will come. Praying for the family and her kids. 🙏🏾 ❤
@@deesmith8576you're insufferable.
@@deesmith8576shut up stop being a troll
All people do this and that's awful, we all were trained to not be a burden or bother someone with our problems :(
@@deesmith8576because she was in love, and when you're in love with someone you would do anything for them
@@calling4bee shes dumber then a sack of rocks because vilage as small as that the community is so tight that they know each other like family
I’m ugly sobbing for this woman. I hope her family found peace, as well as her.
Shes so kind omg Who the hell would ever do that to her
all true crime cases make me sad. How could they not? From the most horrific deaths to incredible survivor stories. But this one? I’ve cried many times over this case. Lamu was truly an angel❤️
rest in peace acha Lhamo, you share the same name as my mom and I cried a lot as a fellow Tibetan. just like the meaning of your name, you are a goddess, of kindness and resilience. I hope you can find peace being laid to rest in Tibet. in the next life, please just be a happy human.
Legit question, is that how you spell her name? “Acha Lhamo”? I was reading some articles about her and noticed her name is spelt differently but that might be a translation error.
@@lemonlimelove the correct way to spell is “lhamo” ... acha means older sister…
@@tse641 Thank you!!!
As a DV and SA survivor cases like this always hits different. I feel for sweet LaMu and her family
I agree with you! And ‼️ 40:00 I respectfully disagree that people can change. It takes a MASSIVE amount of time, energy, and self-discipline to make even the smallest lifestyle changes such as eating healthier or exercising more, or drinking less soda. A small lifestyle change like that is so difficult that within three months 87% percent of people are back to their old habits. Something like 96% of people have given up on their New Year's resolution by April. So if most people fail to make even a tiny change like that permanent, imagine how much more difficult it would be to make a huge personality change. It would take an unfathomable amount of time, effort, energy, dedication and self-discipline to make a HUGE personality and moral change that would be necessary for someone like the husband to become a good person. It just isn't possible. I just don't think it's possible for people to really change all that much. Only a very small minority of people are even able to make superficial lifestyle changes to begin with. I literally do not believe it is possible for a monster to change into a good person. Even if they desperately want to. Even if they truly have good intentions. They just aren't capable of it. Your personality is pretty much set in stone. Medication to physically change your brain chemistry, and YEARS of intensive therapy is 100% required for something like that to even have a small possiblity of success. And even with all of that, the majority of people will fail to change permanently.
@@deesmith8576Don't blame victims
@@die1057 Thank you!
@@deesmith8576ur an a$$ bruh
@@deesmith8576 I've seen your comments everywhere here. I wonder who hurt you so much that you'd rather blame the victim than blame the "bad boy"?
It's a testament to how resilient she was that she hung on to life even after the horrific situation she was in. It was an incredible life she lived and how strong she had to have been to go through that awful situation.
May she have a much better life next time round. I think the belief in an afterlife stems from the pain and suffering we go through in real life just to believe in something better, be it heaven or to come back in another body.
My prayers and thoughts cross thousands of miles of land and sea and up the highest mountain and to the depths of the ocean. I hope in her next life she finds tte peace and freedom that she didn't get in this life.
The thing with abusing people that change you said in the middle of the video really hit home.
I grew up with a abusiv mum and I ended up in the psychiatry because of all the sheit I endured.
But after a year apart I realised that she was just as desperate and miserable as I was in that situation and that does not excuse it but I understood. Since 2 years we are trying to mend our relationship and I'm so proud of her. She came so far and the scars I got from my childhood almost heald by now. She was always there for me since and of course sometimes she has a bad day and she does toxic stuff. But she now talks about it. She learned to talk things out and solve toxic situations.
I'm proud of her and she is a good example for a abusiv person who can grow and heal. Behind those people often are deeply traumatized people who need to work on themselfs first. And it can work but its not easy. I wish anyone who is hurting that they reach out. Go out there and work on yourself. Because if you dont, you'll maybe be the reason someone feels the same way you do because of you. It's getting better, I promise❤
My family member has NPD (not the type that believes top much of themself, but the type that has extremely low self esteem) and they have also done a lot of work to get better. Their childhood was a torturous hell and NPD was caused by the trauma. I'm so proud. I love them so much. They have seen a lot of trouble and gone through a lot to get to this point.
There's still issues, there's still moments when I have to just keep my mouth shut and force myself to understand, but it's not as serious and scary anymore.
People can change. And I don't see a reason to hold grudge, when we can enjoy this relationship and my future children will have one close relative more, something I never had.
Much of life is healing from something. Back when I was a child they were healing from their wounds and I was stepped on in the process. It was not right and it was not my fault, but even with knowing that I can still understand their circumstances.
I'm in therapy now and I will stop the generational cycle of abuse when I have my children. No more. Me and my family member will end it with us and the next generation will not have to carry these same wounds anymore. And I'm proud of that.
This made me cry so hard. Knowing the survival rate of a 90% burn is so slim. Those amazing souls all leave us so early 😢
Much less third-degree burns on 90% of her body. You need skin grafts in order for them to heal. And at 90%, La Mu had little chance of surviving.
39:41 made me felt so seen. Thank you, Stephanie.
“I don’t wanna make it seem like people can’t change. I think that it’s very hard for abusive people to change. I’m sure if they truly, truly wanted to, and if they truly, truly wanted to put in the work, they can change, but that really doesn’t mean that you have to be there for it. You don’t have to. Just because you love that person doesn’t mean that you have to help them through the process. If you’re in an abusive situation, and you truly think the person you love is trying to change, they can change on their own time, and they can come back to you a changed person.”
I had to go back to the timestamp so many times to not only write this down, but to hear it.
What LaMu went through is so- infuriating. I hope the best to her family. Rest in peace.
It takes (on average) 7 times for a victim of domestic violence to leave and stay away. Also, the risk of homocide increases greatly upon leaving. We really need to be more preventative and hold the perpetrators accountable. This is very sad and my heart is with her family. 😿💔
The cops failed me when I finally left, after my ex stabbed a stranger trying to help me. He is free. I am still in fear. The cops will care when he eventually kills me. Because I did not call them enough. He broke a window to get back in the house, when I was on the phone with the cops. What could I do but hang up. No evidence of abuse they said... had to be self defense, even though he had a knife and was dragging me away before a stranger stepped in, to the point of my clothes being ripped at the seams. Stabbed the stranger in the lung. My ex is free... he promised to destroy my life, and he did. Apparently it was self defense because a stranger was stabbed trying to protect me... The cops suck here.
To all the females out there, no mater your age. Just remember that you do not deserve abuse of any kind. The very first time you are abused whether through words, when you did nothing wrong, or worse, your boyfriend uses his strength in any way, whether by blocking you from leaving the room, apartment when you want, or again worse, slaps you..
Please love yourself, respect yourself and learn to live alone and be content.. This is preferable then being an a abusive relationship.. Please, on the first occasion of your partner raising his voice, using his strength against you or absolutely anything similar to these things.. Just make quick plans and leave and save yourself..
I know two wrongs don't make a right, and "justice" was served, but I wish abusers like this would have to go through the same exact pain they put their victims through. LaMu was so strong, beautiful and kind she definitely didn't deserve any of this... R.I.P. LaMu you were an angel ❤
Two wrongs don't make a right, but abusers being in pain isn't wrong, it's justice 😉😄
Two wrongs do make a right when it’s an a-hole getting what’s coming to him, that’s called justice
I was tearing up when Stephanie was reading the letter that La Mu father wrote and when La Mu older sister felt after her death. Such an heartbreaking story. I feel that La Mu is the type of friend that is always there for you, and is also the person who will listen to you when you are having a bad day. May her rest in peace. ❤
My new favorite TH-camr! I love how you set up the story and really paint a picture of what happened! Thank you for bringing these victims to life and letting us get to know them and their stories
I am Tibetan and we share the same name ( Lhamo) 😢 this is such a sad case. Thank god I don’t live in China 🇨🇳 where laws are broken. Om Mani Peme hau🙏🏻
The ex-husband is absolutely horrible, I can't even imagine how LaMu was feeling during those 3 hours and how the family couldn't do anything about it. My heart goes out to the family ❤
Horrible isn’t even enough to describe this vile, disgusting, awful, waste of human flesh, I cannot describe the strong emotions I feel but NONE of them are positive towards this man.
I hope her family is doing okay, and LaMu has found peace after her passing.
thank you so much for covering international cases
As a child who used to live with an abusive father, I feel so sorry for the kids
First time I ever weeped from one of your episodes. This is absolutely heartbreaking. Thank you for covering this story
It's so heart wrenching knowing the family put so much blame on themselves when it should all be on that monster. The dad did such an amazing job raising both daughters with little to no resources. When the sister said that growing up in the home was the happiest memory, you know that the parents did something right.
This case brought me to tears multiple times. I feel so bad for her family, her children, and all the viewers whose hearts she touched. What a beautiful soul, ripped from this world far too soon. 😭💜
this case really sent chills down my spine, if that was me getting set on fire I would have been PRETTY angry.
The video of her sister crying and mourning her has me fighting back tears. You can tell that she was dearly, and deeply loved. I've never had a kind or caring family and I've often felt skeptical when others insist they truly love theirs as all I've known of family is neglect, hatred, abuse, and cruelty, but the words she spoke for her sister make me believe.
Lamu sounds like a happy, positive and friendly person. I still can't believe a monster had to cut her life short in a painful death.
This one broke me. This sweet beautiful soul did not deserve such a horrible fate.
RIP Lamu. You seemed like such a beautiful human being with the loveliest soul. The world is dimmer without you in it. I'm glad that the scumbag who thought he had a right to her life is gone. I hate that her children are being raised by the person who helped create the monster who killed her, so infuriating.
This brought me to tears. Thank you for bringing attention to how amazing of a person she was.