I once saw a documentary that was lead by a psychologist. She said “ when I explain a backstory or the circumstances of someone that did something criminal , it’s just that. An explanation. It’s not an excuse for what that person did but more a warning that these things that the criminal went trough are traumatizing and can turn evil”
His mother was clearly a horrible human that cared more about bragging about her son’s successes than caring about his happiness. His father was just as horrible for allowing all of the abuse. Despite all of this, he didn’t blame his mother for his actions… damn Perfect use of the phrase, “Understandable? Yes. Justifiable? No.” *Do not have children if your primary objective is not their physical and mental well being*
I feel bad for his mom, too. She didn't deserve this. She wanted her sons to succeed, and she put in effort to make that happen. Her sons, her life work, not only failed to succeed, but they failed in the most nightmareish way possible, one turning into a serial killer, the other one committing suicide. It probably filled her with emptiness, despair, self-loathing and depression.
His mom wanted to create a perfect child and instead she created a monster. Child abuse can have a large impact on their psychology. They might never recover from it all their life. People shouldn’t have a child if what they want is only a perfect child. They are not the extension of yourself. You and them are a different person. Please, don’t make a child just to torture them or mold them into your ideal.
Thats why Manners are more important than Education. It doesn't matter if you are A grade student or F grade student in school, if you have manners, then everyone will like you
@@saadmirza4221 What kind of "manners" do you talking about? Because most Japanese people practice manners their entire lifetime & that's part of their ideology of life. One of these "manners" is just like what Tomohiro's mother did: keep up their appearance in public.
I'm not excusing his actions but the bullying, his parents high expectations when it came to his studies, and the abuse that came with it played a big part in the way he turned out.
@@niqerfaguettranykyke yea cause he was depressed. he wanted to talk to people but couldn’t. its harddd to make friends when you feel like your family doesn’t even care about you.
Children are so innocent. Bullying or torturing them doesn't build a more resilient child. It can make them resentful and angry, unable to manage their inner pain. It's so sad. Children need hugs and kindness.
Yeah. That can’t be more true. My parents are Japanese and they would conduct punishments and consequences that are totally irrelevant to what I done. Borderline, bullying and abuse. I vividly remember my father shouting out why I’m not resilient enough and that seemingly cruel punishments is what “makes men stronger” As 24yo young adult, although in learning how to change myself. I’m still a relatively bitter, cold hearted person. Me, now living in a college town in bum-sucking middle of nowhere, with the pandemic and the fact that there hicks living on the ‘outskirts’-ish of the town, it’s a weekly activity that I get some racial slur muttered at me, mean mugging me, or some black lady claiming that ‘she ain’t racist cuz she black’ whilst saying that Chinese food and Japanese food are the same thing. And if I know anything about Taiwanese culture just bc I am Asian. Really makes me.... just full of hate... that I don’t wish to get rid of bc then that would be passing on the hate to someone else../
@@Mr.Scootini My God, I am so sorry you had to go through all that. The fact that you said you are still trying to change puts you ahead of so many others. I really hope you find people deserving of your existence. I know how it feels- I was physically, emotionally, mentally, and sexually abused by my own father from the age of 2 to 17. My mother never knew and was always busy, but she’s also emotionally abusive. So many things I thought were “normal” was straight up abuse. He served jail time for it too. I’m nearly 30 and struggling with PTSD, anxiety and depression which I take medication and therapy for. It so hard sometimes, but it definitely gets better. Just hold on and build a life for yourself. You deserve good things.
You’d be surprised how many parents defend their abusive behavior. Even their victims! Many adults say “They did that to me, and I turned out fine!” and no, they did not. Just in denial and also bitter and hateful towards people.
@@Mr.Scootini it is tough to live well if you don’t have a good family. My condolences for the struggle you have been through. Every being is different and the same method doesn’t work for all. That goes for even animals. The autocratic way your parents used to bring you up is quite similar to the abusive father of the legendary swordsman miyamoto musashi, who left home to became a famous ronin. But not everyone can do that I guess. However we cannot shrink in fear because time will mercilessly move on without caring. To make it favor you though I can suggest you to work on yourself. If you’re sad or burdened by some negative emotion it can been overridden by physical and mental training. Working out (calisthenics at home, no need for a gym membership), and mental training( auto suggestion and visualization) are underrated methods to develop oneself that no psychologist will ever recommend. I’m only trying to help here, not make myself seem like a know-it-all. I am only suggesting what has worked for me.
And its not just family life that applies to, its also work life. I had a boss once who was a total bully and would put me down when i didnt learn something fast enough. He was very mean spirited and i grew to resent him, i didnt feel motivated to perform well in that job, i just felt hatred for him. In another job, i had a boss who was the opposite, he was kind and i worked my ass off and performed better at that job. If only this guys mom had treated him better, he would have performed better in school, and not been driven down that dark path towards the heinous crime he commited, killing those innocent bystanders
Japanese person here: I was 7 years old when this happened, so I have no recollection of any news stories or even hearing about this case before now. The fact that this case was so big and this man's childhood was publicly discussed...and yet the things he experienced are things that I am so familiar with...it creeps me out a little. My family knew what this kind of treatment does to a person. Yet they learned nothing. Many parents in Japan have children for all of the wrong reasons and treat them horribly as a result. As sad as it is, Tomohiro's experience. My experience. They are not rare. Child abuse in the name of academic improvement is incredibly normalized in this country, and there are little to no consequences for it. Escape for children in these circumstances is only recently being implemented and is experimental at best. None of this is to say his crimes can be excused or forgiven. Like I said. This kind of upbringing is incredibly common and to say it excuses his crimes is such a disservice to all the rest of us who strive to be good people regardless. I just find it unfortunate that when this happened. Almost all action was taken to demonize people in Tomohiro's position who were yet to do anything wrong and desperately needed help, rather than prevent children from having to grow up like him in the first place.
all we can hope as people who go through this shit is that we can be better parents than our predecessor. My mom and dad fortunately were good people as they learnt bad parenting from their parents. Lucky me in this case. and i will be making sure I can be a good parent if I ever live long enough to be one.
Very well said. People who demonize those having the same unfortunate experiences as one murder are so stupid. They are literally the entire problem. Not only failing to reach out and help those kids, but also actively adding to the despair? Wtf???
This was difficult to read, so I imagine much harder to write ... thank you for sharing this. It seems we are mostly in a state of revolving, rather than evolving. Japan is home to a beautiful culture, but such need for conformity is often disguised as oppression. Cracks will start to show ... this poor chap is one ... and the consequences of his actions are borne by many. I pray for change.
Hello Ghost Queen1312, Hope you are doing well. Its driven my attention your input and also Ive been moved. Even thou Tomohiro's actions demands for him to be accountable, there is also a larger complexity regard of his motives. After reading you I have been left with this feeling of sadness. I guess you both had to endured so much. each culture has its perils, requirements and demands that alienate individuals. Yet it's heartbreaking, after all those red flags and random cases for sociaty to finally wake-up and moved toward a more balance one. From the bottom of my heart, miles away I hope you we're doing well and better. I send u a hug.
"His mother is still in a mental hospital." _Good._ She deserves it, she only apologized because her dirty laundry was out for everyone to see. He was absolutely wrong for what he did, but she was the one who taught him to disregard the pain of others by disregarding his pain. That's the only way to learn empathy, to care about other people and their struggles. May those victims rest in peace.
Sometimes, people don’t know any better or don’t realize that having been raised that way, they did not ‘turn out fine’. It doesn’t excuse the behavior but highlights the importance of breaking the cycle. Hurt people, hurt people.
Maybe that's okay for the mom, but the father and brother basically lost their entire lives as well. It's so barbaric how the family was treated and only goes to show how terrible Japan as a society can be. If these types of crimes are so common when compared to the frequency other violent crimes then it reflects more on the country than the individual. I love Japan, it's a great place to visit. But the inner workings of the society are some of the worst out of any first world country.
@@mentalpopcorn2304 it's definitely a tragedy where things could've been different if anyone in the family made a different decision at some point in time, but there's no decent place to stand in a massacre, even if the father was totally oblivious of the abusive treatment from the mother he still failed as a parent cuz that's the responsibility parents have to take on, in my opinion at least, I know everyone can have a different definition of parenthood. Tho I think Tomohiro's brother definitely suffered as much as his brother after and before the incident, he basically was all alone to deal with his emotions since the parents fell apart quickly right after. I hope he and the victims rest in peace and I hope Tomohiro can at least reconcile with himself and finds peace.
@@magiklam2991 but does failing as a parent mean they should lose their job and be exiled from society? If that's the case then a ridiculous amount of parents should be losing their jobs and forced to be a recluse. No matter how you look at it, the father was treated extremely unfairly and wronged terribly by society. As too many parents fail as is
@@mentalpopcorn2304 absolutely they should be. if you failed as a parent and raised some degenerate murderer, you should be on death row with him. the father is just as much to blame as the mother, it was his responsibility to raise his children just as much as it was hers.
I'm sorry for his younger brother for being discriminated against when he should not be accountable for his brother's actions :( May all of the victims rest in peace. 🕊️
People do it everyday with Twitter mobs. A celeb can say something wrong and people will get justice by harassing the family and directly getting them fired
I remember reading about this case here in the US. It really shook me up personally because I realized I had a lot in common with Kato: depression, shyness, a feeling of hopelessness, being a fan of anime, being without a job, feeling directionless. We're even the same age. But I was fortunate enough to have loving, caring, kind parents. I wonder if Kato had had the same kind of caring parents, would he have still committed his crime?
As with any life situation, so many variables play a part! Having children is not for everyone and yet so many unprepared people have them! To be a decent parent takes a lot of unselfishness! A lot of putting another ahead of yourself! Constant attention and playful affection! For some this is very tedious and really beyond their ability!
@@icarussuraki9929 and that probably saved your last shreds of sanity during the 'dark times' .... I feel like this guy was bombarded with negativity all around him... and it's a very vicious cycle... ppl tend to dig their own grave when it comes to depression.
I live in Japan. Bullying is a way of life here. It starts in schools, is continued in school clubs, and then in the workplace. Apart from the bullying he experienced at school, it continued into his working life. Taking his work uniform from his locker so that he would think he had been fired is not unusual. His father and brother were both bullied as well and the father had to take early retirement and his brother took his own life. A lot of schools have been trying to address the problem in recent years but it’s difficult to change something that is embedded in the culture. Also, locking a child outside the house is a common way to punish children. I’ve seen children as young as 3 or 4 standing outside the door crying to be let back inside. I’ve even heard of children being locked out on balcony’s of high rise buildings with tragic consequences. Child suicide rates here are truly horrible.
wow. the bullying thing explains the aspect of "embarrassing people" as part of popular entertainment on game shows. japan takes "the nail that sticks up gets hammered down" to a new level.
A dear friend of mine is a teacher in Japan. He grew up in a Japanese household and understands the culture. He is still horrified by the bullying that takes place in Japan. He has witnessed so much bullying in his school and his classroom, but cannot do anything about it. Talking to higher ups results in nothing as they consider it "rights of passage in school life". The more severe bullying cases are also ignored by the school in order to prevent negative attention or scandals, especially when the parents of those bullies are huge sponsors of the school and are wealthy.
The pressure to "fit" and "be part of the mass" in Japan is insane. And that results in a lot of bullying. Even when people grow up and get out of school, bullying can still happen at work. Just in a different form. It's really insane how much they consider it normal... Despite the criminal cases bullying has brought and even the work of artists trying to bring light to it and to make people understand it is not okay to do it. Like in most cases, people who bully don't even think they bully. To them, it's nothing important, nothing to take so seriously.
I HATE THAT KIND OF SOCIETY !!!!!!!!!! THEY WILL PRODUCE PSYCHO SOCIETY !!!!!!!!!!! THERE'S NO USE TO BE MODERN BUT MENTALLY ILL !!!!!!!!!!!!! 👎👎👎👎👎👎👎👎👎👎👎👎👎👎
"If he had a girlfriend, none of this would have ever happened." To anyone who needs to hear this, a relationship will not fix all of your life problems. Terrifies me when people, especially murderers, think this.
Yes, a girlfriend wouldn't have fixed anything since he had deeper problems that he needed to deal with. But I find the probable reasons why he thought he needed a girlfriend more interesting: he wanted a partner, someone who'd love him, care for him, show him attention, someone who'd give him a place where he could belong, someone who'd give him hope. And with that, he thought he then would be able to work hard, get better, do better, and work for a future. He needed someone, anyone, to show him that his existence wasn't a waste of time, it didn't actually need to be a girlfriend imo. With someone supporting him maybe he could have had a push to the correct direction.
It's sad how people who are abused at home are often also bullied at school. People can smell the misery, passiveness, isolation and instead of showing compassion, estrange the person. Their ability to have a normal life becomes diminished with the intensity and duration of abuse and whether they have any positive influences.
Please people, don't have kids if you can't love them unconditionally, no matter how well they do academically, etc. Thanks for mentioning the victims! 💙
Though my mom wasn't abusive, she made sure that we three children realised she never really liked us ☹️☹️ She was trapped in an un wanted forced marriage at an early age, she was unhappy all her life, she took it out on us kids..... I dont ever remember her praising, appreciating, encouraging , showing affection...... She just said negetive things about us all the while. All three of us ( senior citizens now ) are hopelessly introverted, shy and never achieved anything in life in spite of being good at academics, gifted with talents in fine arts........
@@athensmajnoo3661you gained my compassion. Sending you a virtual hug from across the screen. If there's exist the next life, I hope we, 'unloved children' will be born from loving parents.
@@elfryeorin My mother mentally and emotionally abused me. By saying she didn´t want to admit I was her own son. Reason. I brought a teddy bear with me at school. Father defends mom saying she wants what´s best for me. And brother says I´m the spoiled brat who didn´t get his way. Also mother denies I´m autistic even if I have documents proving otherwise. But yeah. I´m the entitled one. Not my family.
Even then it isnt justified. I went through pretty much the same thing as tomohiro did back in highschool and got beat up for not having outstanding grades at school. It affects me to this day that ive dropped out of university twice and have hard time finding job. Yes parenting absolutely play a part in what a child grows into but Id never go out of my way to hurt the innocent. He barely had any friends and the people he interacted online didnt help either.
A father, never around to protect and guide the family he helped found... A mother, failing to nurture what should be most precious to a parent... And a brother, knowing that none of it was his fault, but never being able to truly believe it... Nothing gets at me worse than a broken family.
"And a brother, knowing that none of it was his fault, but never being able to truly believe it..." wrong. Its a brother, knowing that none of it was his fault, yet society keep judging all the family member for his brother wrongdoing, hence pushing him to the edge and he suicide because he cannot handle it anymore. The one that make his brother broken is the society in this case.
@@darkflame7163 I was basing my comment on the content of the video, but it's still technically accurate, even if it's more along the lines of "society never allowed him to believe it".
The fact that society blamed his brother for his crimes shows that these stories will keep happening unfortunately. We learn nothing from our mistakes.
" We learn nothing from our mistakes." So true . And it's not only Japan . I watch all kinds of youtube clips . 90% of them are white , between 18 and 35 + good looking . If you are not in that category , you're out of the group .
What I'm not a fan of when it comes to Japanese society is that people who had nothing to do with the crime and are just related to the perpetrator get their lives ruined because of it. It's not fair. Maybe the mother if she was abusive, but the poor brother was treated terribly.
Well asian countries in general seem to have a collectivist view and understanding that an individual's wrongdoing is determined how they were raised. Quite a shame that despite understanding this, child abuse is still ongoing there.
We are not talking about 'adjacent' people here. The parents were directly responsible for how both Tomohiro and his Brother were raised. Asian culture tends towards collectivism and it's something that I personally think should be applauded. The level of abuse the mother lay on his children is terrible and the father did not intervene. Both deserved the condemnation of their peers and society as a whole. It's good that this is expressed because it SHOWS what society is not willing to tolerate and I think the father understands that, hence his deep shame and self imposed isolation. While it's unfortunate Tomohiro's brother chose suicide pay very careful attention to what he said in his Suicide note, he feared he was a copy of his brother, not in a literal sense but he definitely felt like there was a part of him that could have BECOME Tomohiro. He killed himself out of a combination of shame and fear, fear of what might happen if he had his 'really bad day'.
@@nah-y4e evil is a religious and cultural concept. What is considered "evil" in one place may not be in others. Based on that alone, it couldn't possibly be genetic. The concepts of "good" and "evil" also imply that our actions are dictated by some unseen force, rather than allowing for personal accountability. Without getting too philosophical about it, the terms "good" and "evil" are ways for people to distance themselves from their own behavior.
He was already academically gifted. He was a bright and happy boy. It's not that he became stupid over time, he became traumatized. Mrs. Kato, in case you never realized, abuse is traumatic and trauma does serious damage to the brain. So congratulations! You played yourself.
@@themoribundapathetic4530 I don't know you obviously, but just know you have my full support and best wishes. You can do this, if you ever need to talk, look me up on Facebook as Rod Von Dong I'm the rat/human profile pic
The fact that his younger brother, Yuji, then took his own life, makes me really sad. From the outside, Tomohiro's family seems like a good normal family. Father with decent job, housewife mom, 2 boys. Who ever think that one of the boy will grew up become a murderer, and another took his own life. Who's fault? imho, part is Tomohiro and his parent's failed parenting, the other one is the toxic community. Tomohiro received bullying since his high school day, didn't he? so rather than blaming people, this case should make us, the society member to think, do we add another toxic to the society, or bring warmth and goodness?
You talk about two parts, one his parents, the other, society. You don't find him accountable for anything? If he wanted to punish anyone, he should've punished his parents and the ones who actually bullied him. Instead, he chose to punish complete strangers, becoming a coward worst than the ones that made his life miserable.
@@marivipalomino6975 bro can u read he said 'imho part is tomohiros and parents fault along with bullying' and how can he find the people who bullied him online they are anonymous and also he wouldn't hurt his mother as he said he never blamed her fucking actually listen to the case
In Japan, even now, the relatives of criminals bear a lot of society's anger. If your brother is a mass murderer, it will be impossible for you to have a normal life. You will be fired from jobs, refused by universities and clubs, and disowned by friends. Tomohiro ruined his brother's life too.
Stories like this make me so sad. It makes me sad knowing there are people out there just longing for a friend. I hope you all have at lease one friend. If any of y’all need someone to talk with I’m here.
This is a good quote but if we are being realistic here, no matter how well spoken, eloquent, and nice someone is to the other person, you won't be able to change people. Love, won't be able to change people. This doesn't mean being human is useless, I just want to tell people that you should be a decent human being and love as it is and still expect people to turn out like not how you want them to be I'm bad at explaining I hope you get my point
Ted Bundy: “Why hello there” This “love will conquer” is a nice sentiment, but sometimes there are people that are broken or want to see the world burn 🔥
Yes, some channels cover crimes I've been hearing about for decades, or are so covered by media...no more Jodi Arias or Lori Vallow, PLEASE! Finally something different.
A son who considered himself dead inside, now waiting for death. A brother who saw that same rage within himself, died by his own hand. A mother who gave no familial love, shattered her family by her actions. A father who saw it all and said nothing, now sits in silence alone by candlelight.
Proverbs 10:12: Hatred stirs up conflict, but love covers over all wrongs. John 15:12: My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you. 1 John 4:8: Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. 1 Peter 4:8: Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins. Corinthians 16:14: Do everything in love.
Being kind doesn't pay the bills. Being kind doesn't lead you anywhere. Being logical and pragmatic does. Being smart and self-aware helps too when it comes to paying your rent and getting a fucking life instead of blaming the world for your own problems.
While there’s no excuse for Tomohiro’s actions, his parents are definitely to blame for what happened. It’s sickening they showed him abuse mentally, physically, and emotionally instead of giving him love and care every person should have. Shame on them.
Adrian, you might be the only person on the internet who presents these cases in an empathetic manner that honours the chronology of the events and the tragedy of lives taken. I really appreciate that.
Incorrect! Mr. Ballen, Kendall Rae, Eleanor Neale, and Rob Gavagan do a really good job at that too ❤ and I'm sure there's other youtubers who do a good job of it but I haven't found them yet
As much as I love Japan, I will admit, their view on mental health and the amount they focus more on work than anything else, is honestly scary. I won’t defend this guy, he deserves to be where he is, but his parents were horrible, it makes you think about what could have been if he had a good family
Japan's suicide rate is lower than in many Western nations, though, like the US, or Sweden. Of wealthier countries, only Arabic nations, Israel and Italy seem to have low suicide rates.
The younger brother is society’s victim. Tomohiro wasn’t the one harassing his younger brother because he couldn’t; he was locked up in jail. But society harassed the younger brother to the point of suicide.
That's Japan's putrid society not Tomohiro's doing, do you remember Masabumi Hosono? He was a Japanese survivor in the Titanic, when he came back he was ostracized and his life was destroyed because he didn't stay behind and "die honorably" saving people and letting them go in his place, that's how horrendous culture can be in Japan and South Korea. Due to being an exceptional worker he was hired back at least, but that same happy ending can't be given to everyone.
Both boys were the victims of their cold, cruel parenting, like their parents were victims before them. It's troubling that most people and laws still choose to ignore obvious mistreatment of children. It's alarming that societies completely ignore how people choose to raise their children.
I can sympatize with Tomohiro because i went through similar. In elementry school i was a good student but in middle school i was bullied badly, my mother made things harder, my grades were slipping to the point i would not even attend school, I would watch and draw anime as a shut in, i had no friends and wished for a girlfriend thinking i was too ugly. I too had snapped one day both in fighting with my mom and attempts at ending my life. It's been 5 years now and although things have not changed, i have. I was able to graduate and the current collage classes i'm taking i'm actually getting good grades in and i have a good close friend and currently working on project while having a job. What Tomohrio did will never be acceptable and i'm glad that i have not fallen down the same path as him.
I'm so sorry to hear this and glad at the same time that you managed to overcome such torment. Please alway believe in yourself, give kindness to other and life will give it back to you. Have a great life. God bless you.
This was just terribly sad. As someone who struggles with anxiety and depression I really felt for him. It's scary what overbearing loneliness and depression can make a person do.
He needed therapy, the guy was clearly crying out for help but no one answered.. even though he didn't want to blame his parents, they were a big part of the problem, they failed him
Can you imagine getting therapy in a society that sees mental illness as a foreign and vile thing? He would've been embarrassed to ask for help much less even attempt to get help. There is so much cultural nuances here that we cannot quite perceive.
It's easy to call people like him twisted when their parents and society effectively failed them, he could have been a decent person if things went differently.
The word "twisted" didn`t even crossed my mind once while watching this video... ...I just feel sorry for him, like really sorry. U are right Palidor, he could've been a better person if raised by better parents and/or connected with better people. R.I.P to the victims and love, strength and power to the relatives🙏
@@LeatherCladVegan Well yeah, they didnt. But it didnt need to go down this way. Most regular people who watch this news will always dismiss them as crazy murderers, but they didnt start out that way and just wanted a normal life like everyone else.
I’ve heard how tough Japanese parents can be, and I believe the terms “Tiger Mom” & “Tiger Parenting” reference perfectionist Japanese parents who demand excellence from their children. Tragically, children need love and affection more than anything else, and without an emotional attachment to their mother in particular, children can become irreparably damaged. Although I don’t approve of how this young man reacted to his tragic life, it wasn’t his fault. He was desperate for basic human kindness and received nothing but condemnation and disdain from the very people who should have loved him without question!
Absolutely. Checkout the work of former psychologist Alice Miller who goes into depth on this topics. There's also an audiobook here on Ytube for free.
You should feel sorry for his victims who have nothing to do with his life. You are sick yourself to feel any empathy for a monster. Many people are abused way worst but harm no one. If they hate life they can end it not trying to end people’s life who wants to live. Selfish and sick
@@desertmoonlee6631 oh suck an egg, he deserves empathy, if his mom didn't abused him, he wouldn't be this broken, what he did to the victims wasn't good, but he deserves empathy, monsters aren't born, they're created
On another note, I think if parents abuse their child and said child goes on to commit an atrocity, the parents should be held accountable as well. Child abuse so often goes unnoticed, unpunished, and is even justified and bragged about by some, and yet it so easily destroys not only the abused, but potentially others around them. Parents are supposed to care for and raise their children, not tear them down before they even had a chance to begin their lives.
Nope, because that's what North Korea does. Those who deal with monsters shall see to it that they themselves don't become monsters to paraphrase Friedrich Nietzsche.
No, we are all ultimately responsible for our actions. Millions of people have suffered even worse abuse and bullying than this guy and don't grow up to kill people. I do agree that we are supposed to raise and care for our children but parents are not responsible for the actions of their adult children.
@@sbfairy stop comparing the best that came out of bad situations as a way to stamp out the children that CANNOT cope with abuse and the adults who have not been able to handle their trauma either. Stop jumping the gun and saying that his comment or any comment like it is trying to remove responsibility from the person. It. Is. Not. It is acknowledging that the problem goes much deeper, and if the issue was nipped in the bud (i.e harsher and more stricter punishments and controls against child neglect and abuse) this would reduce the tragedies we hear about on the daily. Parents are absolutely responsible for how their children turn out, and only in extremely rare cases is this untrue. By trying to say not to remove responsibility from violent killers you simultaneously try to remove responsibility from the people who raised said killer... think about that for a second there.
@@PoptartParasol I went back and reread you original comment. Obviously people who abuse their kids should be punished and sometimes they are. My sister in law often fosters kids who were victims of abuse. Physical abuse can be proven but emotional abuse is much harder. If you are saying parents should be responsible for their kids behavior when they ae under the age of 18, I agree with you to some extent. However, realistically the older your child gets the more outside factors also influence how your child turns out. Many teens do stupid stuff not because they have bad parents but because of bad friends. My question to you is at what point do we stop holding parents responsible for how their kids turn out? When the person is 25? 30? 40? married with their own kids? In our justice system we don't punish people who have no direct involvement in a crime because it's not fair. HIs parent were monsters who raised a killer but they themselves didn't kill anyone. in this case it was not only his parents who bullied him, should his other bullies be punished for how they contributed to the way he turned out?
This is such a tragic and sad story on so many levels. A happy, intelligent and popular child that simply...burned out and grew up to be a self-loathing, lonely and angry man because of the pressure and abuse his mother subjected him to. His luck didn't "run out", I think he just got burned out until he just couldn't perform well anymore cuz that's what trauma, burnout and depression will do to you. And then he never got help and never got out of those mindsets but hated himself for not being as good anymore as he was when he was younger. It's really just sad whenever this happens and ofc even more so when innocent people die because of things like this. What he did was unacceptable and he deserves punishment ofc, but I also just feel sorry for him. He said he doesn't want to blame his mother but I feel like if instead of abusing him, his parents had just encouraged and loved him, he could've had a really bright future. The abuse didn't only ruin the lives of him and his family, but also the lives of innocent people and their families. And I feel like this could've been avoided just with...love.
Plenty of us are burnt out and angry he could have just gone to the gym and took some accountability instead of killing people. Shit childhood is no excuse
I feel the same as you Shiraya because everyone is different in how they cope with stress , depression etc. and no one can understand each others minds, feelings etc. What he did was horrendous no doubt about it but he obviously couldn't deal with failure etc. and alot of men do either kill themselves and or others , Japanese males do have a huge amount of pressure put on them from a very young age from all aspects in their life and they keep their feelings to themselves some can cope and some can't 😔
All that pressure for "success" and " honour". Living in some shitty city and owning a car and working 14 hours everyday is success Japan? What a bunch of bullshit, shove your success up you know where.
I think abuse in early childhood can really shape a person's entire identity. It makes me wonder if people who commit such crimes all share the experience of being neglected early on.
Yes! Imagine instead of love and hugs and lullabies you got harm and hatred! The divergence is too great! But the parent ( or parents) were probably themselves victims! This kind of damage is often ongoing! It takes a strong individual to break the chain!
I know people are agreeing because it's obvious, but this comment has merit. There's a staggering amount of people who think every adult is just going to pretend their childhood abuse just never happened and nothing will come of it because "That's what adults do" Imagine being held responsible for a crime you didnt commit. It's a lose lose. You're expected to just "deal with it" and if you dont?...get bullied nerd
Indeed. This is something that terrifies me as a new parent. Having children is taken so lightly when you can literally influence the person they turn out to be. It's a huge responsibility, and can come with so many ramifications, many good, and so many bad.
His parents finally felt a portion of what he had to go through, if they were more of parents and less of a cold boss figure, he would have gotten the help he needed.
@@vincent67239 right? He went through this shit for decades, still remaining a decent person for the most part, and his family breaks down within months. His mother could dish it, but obviously couldn't take it.
I have to disagree with you here. I don't think he is a monster but his actions are. Nothing can excuse what he did. Still, the way the rest of his family members were treated shows how society has not learned anything and so the wheel keeps on spinning and the same mistakes in the way we treat people repeats and repeats... This is very sad. Edit: just because I don't think he's a monster doesn't mean that I agree with his actions. It's wild to make such assumptions. Like some people already pointed out he's a product of society and bad treatment of his parents etc. But instead of learning awareness and offer better treatments for mentally ill people, people prefer to continue to bully all family members causing them to kill themselves and more. Blaming is easy. Making assumptions is easy. Continuing is easier than to make changes.
Yes I agree with you. It’s the way he was treated by others(his mom abusing him, his dad not being home, bullying online, and social withdraw) that built up who he was and what he did. Ultimately everyone of us is molded into our own shape depending on the way we’re raised , treated by others, and the way we are taught. Though some people have too little in their molds making them seem like a normal and quiet person that is bland. some may have too much to hold inside the mold and they overflow becoming someone who has carried too much burden and pressure. Those who’s molds overflow have not been treated well or with humanly nature and because they feel no love and kindness to battle off the pressure they’re carrying they become incapable of being able to carry their burden making them overflow. I think that if someone can’t seem to find balance it becomes a problem if they’re given too much kindness their ego may build up and they’d need to be humbled.if they receive too less they might become cold or may not feel when people are kind. Once there is too much imbalance people explode.
Japan doesn’t seem to have much mental health awareness most times peoples views on mental health are “why are you depressed you have a stable job and a loving family?” or “Why are you ___ you have _____” . It sucks that a lot of people seem pressured to work forever. Lots of people get so lost in their jobs that they feel disconnected to their families and friends. Just like most fathers in Japan.
@@8poopycats it is not only japan that had those views on mental health, I am from the Philippines, and they would also say the same thing especially in family gatherings and they would even add that "if you only pray, your problems would go away" or even would say that "You are not praying enough that it is why you are feeling that way". Believe me, I've heard enough from my family members and it is extremely disrespectful and degrading all at once because faith has nothing to do with your mental health. Not to mention, it also stems from ignorance and lack of education about mental health in contrast to other countries on how they view mental health, and with countries that are living by tradition or conservative, it becomes the issue. Edit: Grammar
Mental health is one issue, but the pure disdain shown to people who seem different is another huge problem. I have a cousin who became an Air hostess and her choice was always looked down upon and the disadvantages/risks always stressed during family gatherings, but that wouldn't be the case when they talked about becoming a doctor. And I have another relative who has a shy personality, but she's always blamed for being quiet. I'm quiet too, so I wonder what they say about me behind my back. I always regret my lack of confidence to stand up for them. They don't deserve the things said about them. People really need to learn acceptance.
I haven't seen this case before either. But I only see true crime cases courtesy of the TH-cam algorithm, which often recommends the same cases covered by different channels.
small correction: an Otaku is not just someone obsessed with anime. Its basically taking a hobby or interest to the extreme, not just anime. an example would be train otakus.
Y 10HK29 I would say a weeb is someone who thinks of only anime culture when someone brings up Japan. An otaku at least admires the many cultural aspects of japan.
@@Y10HK29 Weeb/weeaboo is generally speaking a non-japanese person that thinks anime is the end all be all of japanese culture. An otaku is just an extreme fan (or in the original meaning of fan, fanatical) of something, be it anime or something else.
@@Y10HK29 "Otaku" in Japanese is a deragatory term, but was appropriated in America as a positive way to self-identity and come together with like-minded anime/manga fans. So, "weaboo" and "weeb" were created to take the place of a deragatory term for an anime fan in America.
I don’t know why, but this one bothers me more than other cases you’ve covered. It’s truly heartbreaking how well this case highlights the ripple effect of one person’s actions.
@@kidomaruking35 I still think about that video because of how humanized he is for a majority of his life until he succumbed to his insanity. I think what’s really bothersome is the fact he was growing up in his parents house and they couldn’t be bothered to get him any sort of mental help, probably because mental illness was never something to be discussed. This case isn’t too far off the Amber guy was also cryptically wanting help via the Internet since he felt no one in his life wanted him to be sane.I feel bad but that’s no excuse to commit murder. As someone who’s lost people to suicide. Just get help and don’t take out people who had nothing to do with your pain.
I never understood why it's so common for asian parents to force such extreme pressure on their children. Of course u want your child to not be a school dropout, but can't they see that this extreme pressure is messing up their kids wellbeing? A friend of mine had parents like that and he's been stressed and depressed his entire life. And for what? Making $500 more per month? Woop-di-doo.
Idk about "common occurance for asian parents to force excellency to their children," and Im asian in Asia. My parents at times does so by getting me into lessons and commend any flick of interests I have so it would strengthen any hobbies that I might pick up later, but at the same time, theyre pretty happy with what "little" achievements I got, so far. I guess it just depends on culture, social structure, personal understanding of their environment, their life experiences, their own upbringings and history. Sadly, its the negative ones that gets highlighted by alot of folks, like this one right here
I personally feel very sorry for him. The fact that he didn’t want to blame his horrible mother when questioned almost made me cry. Everyone failed him and he lost his humanity.
You feel sorry for this monster and not the innocent people who are killed. You know tons of people are abused but not monsters who harm others. Some just suicide without harming others. This guy no different than his parents he is selfish and sick and harmed innocent people and yet you are showing empathy for him, it’s disturbing how no one is talking about victims.
@@desertmoonlee6631 totally agree. I’m actually so mad rn. I understand wanting to find why someone does what they do, but the overall focus on the perpetrator and not the victims makes me sick to my stomach. I’m sure they’d love to have been given this level of empathy by him before being murdered.
@@desertmoonlee6631 I'm not agreeing with the original poster you're referring to, in fact I more or less agree with you. But why does him feeling sorry for the guy = him not feeling sorry for the innocent people who are killed. Isn't it possible to feel sorry for both?
I believe he wouldn't have gone down that path if his parents, especially his mother wouldn't have been so abusive, the punishment she inflicted upon him was horrific... It's an extremely sad case. Thank you so much for sharing it.
The sad thing is, if his parents were actually decent people, he might not have killed anyone. I feel bad for him in a way because of how his parents treated him, but that no way excuses his actions. Rest In Peace to the victims.
He's a spree killer. Not much different than serial killers aome of whom grew up much worse. I had an ugly, ugly childhood and I don't do those things. Your words said that you aren't excusing him and I get that, but it doesn't feel that way when you say it. The child had a sucky life, but he was well into adulthood, a lot of that is on him and his culture. He made choices and was aware of how wrong they were, and even knew they wouldn't fix anything. It was a giant temper tantrum! He put too much emphasis in what was behind a screen instead of getting out there, getting a haircut and meeting people! That is what adult him could have done!
@@juxtanner7959 Correct! Making it a cultural. It's a social problem they need to address and fix. We all have them and it has to start with us. I feel like theirs needs to be publicly addressed. Maybe some PSAs stating that children have value and purpose. Wives do too. I believe that somewhere in Japan there has to be people that actually love, respect and value one another and even their kids but what comes across is that it's all polished! I have known three men that married Japanese women and it angers me, because seeing them in those "relationships" was so heartbreaking! Those women were just passed off to men that married them so tehy could have a subseriant wife! One man died ( the oldest of these couples by far) and his wife had no idea what to do with herself! She had lived in this country for over 40 years and had no clue without someone bossing her around, she had two sons..I am sure they took over, only I knew one very well and hope he did better by her but he was definitely a product of his father. Another is still subserviant and "owned" by the husband. The other divorced her cheating husband because she had good friends that supported her and she came here young and was out making friends and doing things, and not about to take that! She's loving life, especially being free of the one that married her to have a wife that didn't cause problems and back talk! Anyway, surely there are strong people there that don't hold to tradition, at least not in the toxic traits. I would love to see a Japan full of people that valued ALL their people. Image is just an illusion!
I do believe he was a product of his environment compounded with the depression and social anxiety. I truly blame the parents. Obviously he would have had some issues none the less, BUT it was obviously made worse. I was abused growing up. Some of us grow up to be more empathic. Others I have met have not fared so well. Yes, I feel terrible for the victims and especially their families and friends. I do blame the young man for his own actions, but I also blame the parents. Especially the mom.
It depends on if a person has any sort of support growing up, in his case he had none and this is what serial killers, mass murders, school shooters etc have in common, not that they were abused. Many people are abused but have support and though they struggle their minds don't fully break.
Life sucks sometimes and when we move into adulthood, we all struggle on some level to leave our childhood in the past. (Even if our childhood was reasonably healthy, yet alone terrible) It is no excuse to become a killer.
I actually feel bad for Tomohiro because all this may have been avoided if he didn't have such a terrible upbringing. Does it excuse what he did? No, but it does make my heart cry for the little boy he was who had to suffer through all that. The person I have the least sympathy for in all this is his mother. May the souls of the victims and Yuji rest in peace😥
"it doesn't entirely excuse his behaviour" It doesn't excuse it AT ALL. He wasn't the only one facing such abuse as a child in Japan, yet most people don't kill 7 people and attack multiple others. His parents are guilty of abuse, he is guilty of murder. That's that.
Funny how you and Detective Aki covered the same case within a few days. She lives in Japan so she is focused on local cases. The interesting detail I remembered from her take is how Tomohiro's brother was close to letting the past go and marrying his gf who accepted him but her parents wouldn't permit it. That is extra sad.
This is one of those stories where I feel for the killer, as well as the victims. I don't condone his actions. But he was incredibly broken, and felt alone and hopeless. And when someone feels like there's no one to love them in this world, that can truly break them.
The poor guy broke. I can totally empathise with him. However, his actions are not justified. The victims did not deserve what he did to them. They too, are human beings perhaps with their own despair. In saying that, when someone is at breaking point they are blind to rationally. Such a heartbreaking case all round and it shows the damage that can be done to our psyche.
Just the fact that he walked out of his job... From another comment it sounds like he was being bullied there too. He hated himself and his life, all because of other people. His actions are 100% his responsibility, hence being given the 'death penalty', but what is that sentence to someone who already tried to kill themselves because they felt they are "lower than trash"?
@@ashn7146 the sentence doesn't exist to punish the individual, but rather to protect the people. Yall always put these murderers in the center of attention, when you should actually focus on the viticms. Not everything is about him. Actually, the moment somebody commits a crime, nothing is really about them but about the protection of others.
He started as a beautiful little boy that needed love, attention and nurturing and slowly turned into a repulsive monster. The psychology of human beings will always be fascinating. Thank you for this video 👍🏼
This man was failed throughout his entire life. Abusive parents, never being given or led to any help despite everyone's' awareness, societal stigma towards mental health issues and loneliness, etc. The world gave him neutrality at best direct unbridled punishment at worst. Sickening.
I feel bad for the poor boy, things would most likely been different if he had had loving parents . May the victims Rest In Peace, they didn’t deserve to have their lives cut short by a miserable man
I actually feel bad for him. No friends and no love from his family can be devastating really. True he did a horrible act but if one just one person tried to reach out to him with kindness and love I don’t think this would have happened. May the 7 people rest in peace.
So true!! Every aspect of this case is heartbreaking. Just goes to show you, you never know what someone is going through. We've gotta do better as humans. So sad.
The mother must realize that her sons life became messed up because of her. I feel bad for the younger brother. He suffered for his brother's wrong doing.
When it comes to parents being ANY kind of abusive they should be held accountable. Yes the child decided to turn into a killer and they are in control of their actions but when are we gonna hold the parents accountable?? If they are abusive they are basically forcing the child to be cold and detach themselves from emotion. If the parents dont care for them and they are the ones who are suppose to protect us yet they abuse us then who can we trust?? Seriously at some point in cases like this we should hold the parents accountable
I agree completely. Seems like a lot of abusive people get off with no repercussions while some of their victims turn into monsters that pass down the pain they were given. It's not fair that the abusers aren't punished for what they've done.
Jose, hmmm. I don't completely agree. I was abused as a child and teenager. Even through my 40s my mother put her hands on me, yet I am not a social outcast. I don't abuse the man I married. We learnt from our upbringing. Never to repeat it! Also very good parents have raised psychopaths or sociopaths. To what end do we blame the parents? I think I would have been a pretty good mother had I had the chance.
I agree fully but also understand why child abuse victims direct their rage on society. The blame society for being either complicit or apathetic to the abuse they suffered. It's easier to lash out against random strangers than to hold one's own abuser(s) accountable. In this case, he admitted the abuse from his mother but still defended that she wasn't causal in his mania.
@@Julia-uh4li not everyone responds the same to said trauma + there are very different kinds of trauma people experience Only 3% of the general population are Sociopathic (abuse made/environment induced) and 1% being Psychopathic (genetic/deformity in the frontal cortex) Abusers should be held accountable 💯
I really appreciate how you tell us the names of the victims and facts about them. I feel like sometimes you can watch these cases and forget that actual people lost their lives. So it’s nice to get that reality check at the end.
this may be an unpopular opinion but am a little sad for tomohiro. his crimes as an adult are inexcusable but i feel his past shaped his future for the worse. can't help but think of how different he would have been had his parents loved him. rest in peace to the seven innocent souls taken away that day.
I agree 100%. I had loving parents & have strong support & I am doing well at school, I have a small group of friends & I have ambitions to become someone better.
Nothing about what u said is unpopular obviously , " a little sad for him" okay who isent? "feel his past shaped his future but inexcusable" again no shit. Are u just confused or a being dummy?
Kato was executed in July 2022 after having been on the death row for 14 yrs. If only he had one friend to talk to, he could have stayed sane. Coffeehouse fan from Japan.
If I was Japanese I would have been his friend. I would talk to him everyday about his upcoming execution and ask how excited is he. Too late for that now though. Rip Kato.
I feel so bad for this man, but worse for his victims. He didn't deserve the horrible things that happened to him. They don't excuse what he did, but every new thing made my heart hurt a little more for him, but even more for those whose lives he cut short with his actions.
It’s shocking how many mothers seem oblivious to how easily they can destroy their own children. 😢 P.s. I love the way you present your videos, so professional, well spoken and respectful! Congratulations on getting sponsors, so happy seeing your channel grow 😊
I work at an university with students from all over the world and I have to say, that’s a common thing the students from Asian decent say, parents are very harsh on them to academically achieve. It’s a cultural thing sadly. They often suffer from depression but they are never thought to show emotions as readily as other cultures may .
*Coffeehouse Crime : 'This was finally his chance to become independent & hopefully re-earn his mother's love'... I've given my own mother hundreds of chances to love me like she does my siblings so this hit me right in the feels...* If you ever have to try and earn the lady who brought you into this world's love, she categorically isn't fit to be a mother! It's as simple as that! (learnt this lesson once I became a father myself). Another awesome upload Adrian, it's amazing to see your channel grow, keep up the amazing work friend!
The impact of a mom is amazing, in a bad and good way. His family fail him, disappointed him, and he gave it back in a worse way. Prayers goes to his father and families
Having lived in japan for over 10 years, let me start with saying the poster did his homework on japan. That’s the good. The international community believes Japanese people to be really hard workers but in fact it seems with japan being a highly visual society people being in the office past 6 pm is seen as being a hard worker but the quality of work or quality does not seem to go up with all those hours in the office. This as pointed out in the video can be detrimental to children. Japan is a great place and safe place to live but in general I think parents can be more attentive to their children here. That’s not to say there are not good parents here but it does seem to mean there are more not present parents than not. Luckily my Japanese wife comes from one of the good families. I cannot express more how grateful I am for that. I hope this guy does a video on the Twitter killer here who was recently sentenced.
I can confirm that Japanese work hard but not smart 😂 worked internationally with them and was shocked how they don’t question processes or think for themselves
It also strikes me that a teacher called his work basically mediocre. Something doesn't sit right with me that a former teacher would speak poorly about a student, unless the student was actively a problem **while in class.**
@@Solonneysa Not uncommon for teachers to be total jerks. Some teachers are even the ones starting and encouraging the bullying... you know, to teach the student their place. To make them realize that they're trash and should aim for more. Sometimes it's a cycle too... A is being bullied, so they bully B who is hierarchically under them, and in turns B does the same to C. You also have to keep in mind that for people like that, the fault isn't even in the ones who bully but in the one who is being bullied. "Your kid is being bullied... They aren't accepted at all. They should try to fit more in, to engage more with the other students, to become friends." It's very infuriating.
I feel sad for him and even more sad for his victims, their families and friends. He alone admited that he just needed love and someone who would care.
Also Minassian and Tomohiros choice of murder method was using vehicles to plow down civilians. Something also many islamic jihadists have done, especially in Europe. Very scary, and unfortunaly also hard to prepare against.
@@Metaltherebel92 yeah its because they're so easy to get a hold of, what's easier to kill someone with a knife, a gun or a multi ton peice of heavy machinery travelling at 60 MPH, its effective and very common now days.
This is the first time that I feel sympathy for a perpetrator. I know first hand how South Asian culture is, the pressure to be a respectable person who is the neighbour's envy and someone the extended family looks up to is immense. It causes so much anxiety that sometimes when you don't get accepted at a desired college or don't crack a job interview or get paid a few grand less than your cousin, it can cause suicidal thoughts. In such instances, being a single child helps as, if you're a single child, parents can't entirely treat you like you don't matter. But if you have a sibling who happens to meet those benchmarks of success while you're a failure in every sense of the term, it's quite possible that at family dinners you will be belittled or made to feel like you don't even exist. I really hate our culture and the class discrimination, there is a massive pay gap between what's considered a white collar job and manual labour and manual labour is looked down upon.
My family had that culture too. Get the right professional job, marry and have kids..I'm ostracized for not succeeding. I never married and do cat rescue and write instead and I'll always be poor. I can feel for those kids killing themselves. Families who do this really should be ashamed of themselves..not their victims shame.
I can’t help but feel bad for him, i know what he did was inexcusable but as someone who has been in similar position I can’t help but relate to him. The only reason i have not gone insane is because i have managed to make few friends over the years.
Yea... really felt it when he said, "....I am lower than trash, because trash gets recycled..." it's really sad that one can feel that way.... still listening to get the fist to the rest case
@@energeticgorilla You can relate to someone's experience without agreeing with their actions. You can sympathize with someone yet still want them to face justice. You can realize that someone never truly got a chance to be a good person and say their actions are still inexcusable.
I’ve lived in Japan for over 20 years and remember this tragedy well, you did a great job of covering it. In interviews in the aftermath some of the witnesses had said they were so shocked by what they were seeing that they thought it must be a movie production and therefore hadn’t immediately reacted. I see a lot of similarities between ‘Hikikomori’ cases in Japan like this one and the recent stabbing of 10 people on a train here by Yusuke Tsushima, with the ‘Incel’ terrorist attacks by Elliot Rodger and others … similar frustrations, resentment and rage being expressed through cowardly and unjustified attacks on innocent people.
Incel terrorist attacks are mostly committed by narcissistic assholes. Hikkimori, call them that if you will, are severely mentally ill. Sorry but poor comparison. Eliot Rodgers wanted a model gf and got pissed he couldnt find one instead of lowering his unrealistic standards. look at the root of Hikkimori violence one, it is so rare and a lot of it comes from severe mental disorders that have gone untreated for years.
@@rajs7876 Hi, i don't think it was a inappropriate comparison. I think there is a large intersection between hikikomoris and incels. Another point is that, even if we consider that all incels who carry out terrorist attacks have narcissistic motivations, is important to remember that narcissism can be a personality disorder.
So much pressure put on one person. Until he couldn't bottle in the emotions anymore. Letting him catch a break could have avoided all this stuff. But sadly, adult life doesn't falter for anyone. "Nobody owes you love, mate." It's annoying for regular people. But to guys like Kato: It becomes another chapter in the abuse.
It's always so upsetting to see cases like this. I 100% think he was a product of his environment. He had no safe outlet to vent out his feelings, even online. If there was even just *one* person who showed him kindness or befriended him in his youth, I think things could have turned out differently.
It's astoundingly sad when parents don't care. I was injured in the army a few years ago, and while I was at Headley there were guys who'd been blown up by IEDs out in Afghan. I knew 4 whose parents disowned them the moment they lost legs/arms, reason being they'd be a burden. I dunno what happened after that, but all 4 became alcoholics while I knew them. Neuro patients (internal name for head/brain injuries) were kept separate but heard similar things about family abandoning them too. Thank fuck I have the father I do. Man stuck by me and still does to this day. Can't imagine what I'd be like without him.
That is absolutely tragic and disgusting that the parents have disowned their children after they have a medical tragedy and have served our country. Absolutely horrible.
Thank you for mentioning the name of the victims. It's sad that so many people die at the hands of killers and are never remembered meanwhile the killer's name gets all the attention (which usually tends to be the reason they even commit the crime).
Do you realize how all of this came to a full circle? At the end, his parents were punished for what they did to him. Unfortunately, it took too many lives.
I could not bring myself to sympathize with the mother; she's such a large contribution to how he reacted.. Granted he still acted on his own accord, her abuse and lack of care growing up shaped him and he was not in a position to better himself. The father isn't completely innocent either, but it's insane how adult parents don't realize how they treat their kids will IMPACT them heavily..
I see myself in this man a lot, I feel like I have been thrown away by society, I dont have any social contacts outside work, and don't seen myself doing anything else than living alone, wasting away in my 9-5, depression has eaten away at me for so long now, or atleast I think it is depression, I cant imagine anything else feeling like this, I just hope that I never snap like this man, because I don't want to hurt anyone, especially not close to me, I feel like I am stuck in a cage, and don't know how to escape. I don't know how long I can keep going on in this life
Instead of complaining, if you can just thank God for everything you have and do good things for people who are less fortunate than you then this realisation itself will take you out of your cocoon. Right now u have a job, proper education, can write good English, house and food. Self pity makes a person unhappy whereas being thankful for whatever you have makes you happy and a likeable person.
Please reach out for help. I know its hard when you feel so badly but fight for yourself. Medication can help a lot with depression tho it takes trial and error to find the right one at the right dose. A good therapist or group therapy helps a lot at getting you out of your head and seeing you are not alone. Only you can break the wheel you are running on, but YOU have to take the first step. I speak from experience. Rooting for you to take a step out of your pain.
I feel like this too. I'm 26 year old now. You have to take small steps. You have to try new things and break out. You have to push to pull yourself out of only working and being locked in the house. I personally started going to the gym. For months I only used one machine and eventually moved to another one. Now I have a regular gym schedule. I also go to the mall alone. I usually go from on side of the mall to the other just to be around other people and not locked in my room alone all day. Or I make a online order, pick it up in person and quickly leave. I also force myself to go for walks in the park during the day. Sunlight is good for you. The way to break out is to push yourself to try something new. Order something from a coffee shop that you never gone to. Ask a person for directions (even though you can use Google maps). Walk through crowded places to get yourself used to being in public. Etc... You have to exercise your brain to new experiences. This is how you "wake up" from the bad depression, angry thoughs, and lack of reason to live.
@@bonitaberger3597 - What we don't know is if OP has the resources (not just financial, but also people nearby who can give them a hand) to get help. We can't assume that they're in a situation where they can get the help they need without risking too much of their present situation. We also don't know if OP's demographics has adequate mental health care as some places either lack adequate mental health care due to distance and/or cost, or lack it because of their culture and stance on those needing adequate mental health care.
@@Nivi.K - That's insensitive to say that to OP. You don't know what they went through in the past or what they're going through now. There are loads of variables that OP could be experiencing that we don't know, and we shouldn't be assuming things we don't know. This video could have very well let OP know that there those like them and could have inspired them to make the change. Mental health is frowned on by loads of cultures for one reason or another. Some places lack adequate mental health care because of either distance, financial cost, culture in OP's vicinity and elsewhere in the world, stance on mental health care, a combination of any of the aforementioned or all of the above.
Very sad tragedy for all the victims, the young man and all their families. We don't have children to push them to the top of the tree, they have to climb it for themselves. Thanks for the upload.
This entire thing made me sad for literally everyone. I was even sad for for him. Unusual since I know we have to make our own decisions regardless of our past, I still felt very sad for him.
Being very antisocial myself I can understand the feeling of just wanting a friend or girlfriend, to have someone you can happily talk to and even though I may rarely talk to people I do whatever I can to be a friend to everyone I meet because you never know who may need a hand to pick them up off the ground.
So much truth in what you say. I doubt a friend or companion would of solved Tomohiro Kato problems. He would have likely taken them down as well. His scars are much deeper and could only be healed by a professional. This is why it is not recommended to self diagnose or self help when you have mental issues. He self diagnosed which ended in tragedy for himself and others. He diagnosed that all he needed was a friend or companion but he needed way more to heal himself.
@@zeeksthegoblin7564 True, it’s possible that him having a friend/girlfriend may have done nothing to stop this from happening but it’s amazing what a single person can do. I believe no wound is to deep if you genuinely take the time and effort to heal it. Like a meteor heading towards Earth would need only a slight nudge to push it on a new path that avoids a collision.
It's a damn shame. He probably could've been a great mangaka (manga artist). I saw more of his art that he did while in prison.Unfortunately, his parents had very high expectations of him and probably wouldn't have liked this kind of career choice.
I used to think positively about Japan, but nowadays i think it is an unhealthy society. Bullying, treatment of women, overwork, no individuality and superficiality.
Don’t forget how they treat the developmentally disabled. They even shun the families to the point where the families of these individuals stash them in group homes and forget about them.
Having lived in Japan for three years growing up, I seem to have a special affinity for the Japanese people. Every one of these stories taking place in Japan have made me want to cry. Everyone else has already stated how I feel about the irresponsible and abusive parents, all of my sympathy is towards the victims and their loved ones, including the brother Yuji who took his own life. Heartbreaking story.
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“Every child deserves a parent but not every parent deserves a child”
Preach!
That's freaking awesome!!! What a great sentiment!!!!!
That's an awesome sentiment. Thanks so much for sharing it!!!!!!
Every Child deserves a Parent but not every Adult deserves A Child
They will not tell you one thing, and it is this 👉 💖 "The Connections (2021) [short documentary]" 💖 on youtube
I once saw a documentary that was lead by a psychologist. She said “ when I explain a backstory or the circumstances of someone that did something criminal , it’s just that. An explanation. It’s not an excuse for what that person did but more a warning that these things that the criminal went trough are traumatizing and can turn evil”
I came to say something similar, but this sums it much better then I could have.
Thank you!
Bailey Serian also said the same thing.
True, evil does not exist, only sick and handicapped minds.
Well said.
His mother was clearly a horrible human that cared more about bragging about her son’s successes than caring about his happiness. His father was just as horrible for allowing all of the abuse. Despite all of this, he didn’t blame his mother for his actions… damn
Perfect use of the phrase, “Understandable? Yes. Justifiable? No.”
*Do not have children if your primary objective is not their physical and mental well being*
facts
I feel bad for his mom, too. She didn't deserve this. She wanted her sons to succeed, and she put in effort to make that happen. Her sons, her life work, not only failed to succeed, but they failed in the most nightmareish way possible, one turning into a serial killer, the other one committing suicide. It probably filled her with emptiness, despair, self-loathing and depression.
@@VVayVVard Ehhh abusing your child is NOT how you make them succeed
@@VVayVVard wtf she’s an abuser, sure he shouldn’t have murdered but she doesn’t deserve to be pitied for being a reason that he turned out like that
@@wonton5016 Sometimes people make mistakes. She tried to make him succeed. Her method just didn't work.
His mom wanted to create a perfect child and instead she created a monster. Child abuse can have a large impact on their psychology. They might never recover from it all their life. People shouldn’t have a child if what they want is only a perfect child. They are not the extension of yourself. You and them are a different person. Please, don’t make a child just to torture them or mold them into your ideal.
BRAVO & well-said. If I had any communication with her at all, I'd be sending a screenshot of what you wrote to my own mother!
Reminds me of Nagisa from ultra despair girls!
@@AuditClerk Look up the work of former psychologist Alice Miller. Goes into depth on this topic. She got it all figured out.
Thats why Manners are more important than Education. It doesn't matter if you are A grade student or F grade student in school, if you have manners, then everyone will like you
@@saadmirza4221 What kind of "manners" do you talking about? Because most Japanese people practice manners their entire lifetime & that's part of their ideology of life. One of these "manners" is just like what Tomohiro's mother did: keep up their appearance in public.
"The child who is not embraced by the village will burn it down to feel its warmth." - African Proverb (Probably)
wooooooaaa thats good
Naruto?
@@svenlow7077 African proverb.
- pikachu, 1969
- Eren yAAAEEger, 584
I'm not excusing his actions but the bullying, his parents high expectations when it came to his studies, and the abuse that came with it played a big part in the way he turned out.
No shit Sherlock
Isolation and lackluster prospects sure can make one salty aswell; I speak from experience :P
@@MF-R He had oppurtunities to atleast engage with his coworkers but chose to remain recluse.
@@MF-R lmao
@@niqerfaguettranykyke yea cause he was depressed. he wanted to talk to people but couldn’t. its harddd to make friends when you feel like your family doesn’t even care about you.
Children are so innocent. Bullying or torturing them doesn't build a more resilient child. It can make them resentful and angry, unable to manage their inner pain. It's so sad. Children need hugs and kindness.
Yeah. That can’t be more true.
My parents are Japanese and they would conduct punishments and consequences that are totally irrelevant to what I done. Borderline, bullying and abuse. I vividly remember my father shouting out why I’m not resilient enough and that seemingly cruel punishments is what “makes men stronger”
As 24yo young adult, although in learning how to change myself. I’m still a relatively bitter, cold hearted person.
Me, now living in a college town in bum-sucking middle of nowhere, with the pandemic and the fact that there hicks living on the ‘outskirts’-ish of the town, it’s a weekly activity that I get some racial slur muttered at me, mean mugging me, or some black lady claiming that ‘she ain’t racist cuz she black’ whilst saying that Chinese food and Japanese food are the same thing. And if I know anything about Taiwanese culture just bc I am Asian. Really makes me.... just full of hate... that I don’t wish to get rid of bc then that would be passing on the hate to someone else../
@@Mr.Scootini My God, I am so sorry you had to go through all that. The fact that you said you are still trying to change puts you ahead of so many others. I really hope you find people deserving of your existence. I know how it feels- I was physically, emotionally, mentally, and sexually abused by my own father from the age of 2 to 17. My mother never knew and was always busy, but she’s also emotionally abusive. So many things I thought were “normal” was straight up abuse. He served jail time for it too. I’m nearly 30 and struggling with PTSD, anxiety and depression which I take medication and therapy for. It so hard sometimes, but it definitely gets better. Just hold on and build a life for yourself. You deserve good things.
You’d be surprised how many parents defend their abusive behavior. Even their victims! Many adults say “They did that to me, and I turned out fine!” and no, they did not. Just in denial and also bitter and hateful towards people.
@@Mr.Scootini it is tough to live well if you don’t have a good family. My condolences for the struggle you have been through. Every being is different and the same method doesn’t work for all. That goes for even animals. The autocratic way your parents used to bring you up is quite similar to the abusive father of the legendary swordsman miyamoto musashi, who left home to became a famous ronin. But not everyone can do that I guess. However we cannot shrink in fear because time will mercilessly move on without caring. To make it favor you though I can suggest you to work on yourself. If you’re sad or burdened by some negative emotion it can been overridden by physical and mental training. Working out (calisthenics at home, no need for a gym membership), and mental training( auto suggestion and visualization) are underrated methods to develop oneself that no psychologist will ever recommend. I’m only trying to help here, not make myself seem like a know-it-all. I am only suggesting what has worked for me.
And its not just family life that applies to, its also work life. I had a boss once who was a total bully and would put me down when i didnt learn something fast enough. He was very mean spirited and i grew to resent him, i didnt feel motivated to perform well in that job, i just felt hatred for him. In another job, i had a boss who was the opposite, he was kind and i worked my ass off and performed better at that job. If only this guys mom had treated him better, he would have performed better in school, and not been driven down that dark path towards the heinous crime he commited, killing those innocent bystanders
Japanese person here:
I was 7 years old when this happened, so I have no recollection of any news stories or even hearing about this case before now.
The fact that this case was so big and this man's childhood was publicly discussed...and yet the things he experienced are things that I am so familiar with...it creeps me out a little. My family knew what this kind of treatment does to a person. Yet they learned nothing.
Many parents in Japan have children for all of the wrong reasons and treat them horribly as a result. As sad as it is, Tomohiro's experience. My experience. They are not rare.
Child abuse in the name of academic improvement is incredibly normalized in this country, and there are little to no consequences for it. Escape for children in these circumstances is only recently being implemented and is experimental at best.
None of this is to say his crimes can be excused or forgiven. Like I said. This kind of upbringing is incredibly common and to say it excuses his crimes is such a disservice to all the rest of us who strive to be good people regardless.
I just find it unfortunate that when this happened. Almost all action was taken to demonize people in Tomohiro's position who were yet to do anything wrong and desperately needed help, rather than prevent children from having to grow up like him in the first place.
all we can hope as people who go through this shit is that we can be better parents than our predecessor. My mom and dad fortunately were good people as they learnt bad parenting from their parents. Lucky me in this case. and i will be making sure I can be a good parent if I ever live long enough to be one.
Very well said. People who demonize those having the same unfortunate experiences as one murder are so stupid. They are literally the entire problem. Not only failing to reach out and help those kids, but also actively adding to the despair? Wtf???
amen
This was difficult to read, so I imagine much harder to write ... thank you for sharing this. It seems we are mostly in a state of revolving, rather than evolving. Japan is home to a beautiful culture, but such need for conformity is often disguised as oppression. Cracks will start to show ... this poor chap is one ... and the consequences of his actions are borne by many. I pray for change.
Hello Ghost Queen1312,
Hope you are doing well. Its driven my attention your input and also Ive been moved.
Even thou Tomohiro's actions demands for him to be accountable, there is also a larger complexity regard of his motives.
After reading you I have been left with this feeling of sadness. I guess you both had to endured so much.
each culture has its perils, requirements and demands that alienate individuals. Yet it's heartbreaking, after all those red flags and random cases for sociaty to finally wake-up and moved toward a more balance one.
From the bottom of my heart, miles away I hope you we're doing well and better. I send u a hug.
"His mother is still in a mental hospital."
_Good._ She deserves it, she only apologized because her dirty laundry was out for everyone to see. He was absolutely wrong for what he did, but she was the one who taught him to disregard the pain of others by disregarding his pain. That's the only way to learn empathy, to care about other people and their struggles.
May those victims rest in peace.
Sometimes, people don’t know any better or don’t realize that having been raised that way, they did not ‘turn out fine’.
It doesn’t excuse the behavior but highlights the importance of breaking the cycle. Hurt people, hurt people.
Maybe that's okay for the mom, but the father and brother basically lost their entire lives as well. It's so barbaric how the family was treated and only goes to show how terrible Japan as a society can be.
If these types of crimes are so common when compared to the frequency other violent crimes then it reflects more on the country than the individual. I love Japan, it's a great place to visit. But the inner workings of the society are some of the worst out of any first world country.
@@mentalpopcorn2304 it's definitely a tragedy where things could've been different if anyone in the family made a different decision at some point in time, but there's no decent place to stand in a massacre, even if the father was totally oblivious of the abusive treatment from the mother he still failed as a parent cuz that's the responsibility parents have to take on, in my opinion at least, I know everyone can have a different definition of parenthood. Tho I think Tomohiro's brother definitely suffered as much as his brother after and before the incident, he basically was all alone to deal with his emotions since the parents fell apart quickly right after. I hope he and the victims rest in peace and I hope Tomohiro can at least reconcile with himself and finds peace.
@@magiklam2991 but does failing as a parent mean they should lose their job and be exiled from society? If that's the case then a ridiculous amount of parents should be losing their jobs and forced to be a recluse.
No matter how you look at it, the father was treated extremely unfairly and wronged terribly by society. As too many parents fail as is
@@mentalpopcorn2304 absolutely they should be. if you failed as a parent and raised some degenerate murderer, you should be on death row with him. the father is just as much to blame as the mother, it was his responsibility to raise his children just as much as it was hers.
I'm sorry for his younger brother for being discriminated against when he should not be accountable for his brother's actions :(
May all of the victims rest in peace. 🕊️
People do it everyday with Twitter mobs. A celeb can say something wrong and people will get justice by harassing the family and directly getting them fired
You must have not watched the full video because everything you typed was said in the last 10min of the video
I remember reading about this case here in the US. It really shook me up personally because I realized I had a lot in common with Kato: depression, shyness, a feeling of hopelessness, being a fan of anime, being without a job, feeling directionless. We're even the same age. But I was fortunate enough to have loving, caring, kind parents. I wonder if Kato had had the same kind of caring parents, would he have still committed his crime?
As with any life situation, so many variables play a part! Having children is not for everyone and yet so many unprepared people have them! To be a decent parent takes a lot of unselfishness! A lot of putting another ahead of yourself! Constant attention and playful affection! For some this is very tedious and really beyond their ability!
don't tell me you also visit 4chan...that would complete the circle
@@inarisound Mercifully, I did not.
@@icarussuraki9929 and that probably saved your last shreds of sanity during the 'dark times' .... I feel like this guy was bombarded with negativity all around him... and it's a very vicious cycle... ppl tend to dig their own grave when it comes to depression.
@@fayemanalo1422 God wont be there to save you when the devil whispers into your ear. Only you can save you.
The fact that his mom never apologized for abusing him is sick.
Yo, you might wana fix your comment btw
@@Imfafewait, She apologized back? The video didn’t mention it.
@@ompatel8988 no you should fix when you called the dude a "she"
@@Imfafe Oh ok.
Even if she did, it would be empty words with no remorse.
I live in Japan. Bullying is a way of life here. It starts in schools, is continued in school clubs, and then in the workplace. Apart from the bullying he experienced at school, it continued into his working life. Taking his work uniform from his locker so that he would think he had been fired is not unusual. His father and brother were both bullied as well and the father had to take early retirement and his brother took his own life. A lot of schools have been trying to address the problem in recent years but it’s difficult to change something that is embedded in the culture. Also, locking a child outside the house is a common way to punish children. I’ve seen children as young as 3 or 4 standing outside the door crying to be let back inside. I’ve even heard of children being locked out on balcony’s of high rise buildings with tragic consequences. Child suicide rates here are truly horrible.
wow. the bullying thing explains the aspect of "embarrassing people" as part of popular entertainment on game shows. japan takes "the nail that sticks up gets hammered down" to a new level.
Sounds like the uk
Oh my god that is horrible information to think about. 🤯
That's actually disgusting. I'd take in all those precious babies 😢
@@louiseking no where near the same severity
A dear friend of mine is a teacher in Japan. He grew up in a Japanese household and understands the culture. He is still horrified by the bullying that takes place in Japan. He has witnessed so much bullying in his school and his classroom, but cannot do anything about it. Talking to higher ups results in nothing as they consider it "rights of passage in school life". The more severe bullying cases are also ignored by the school in order to prevent negative attention or scandals, especially when the parents of those bullies are huge sponsors of the school and are wealthy.
The pressure to "fit" and "be part of the mass" in Japan is insane. And that results in a lot of bullying.
Even when people grow up and get out of school, bullying can still happen at work. Just in a different form.
It's really insane how much they consider it normal... Despite the criminal cases bullying has brought and even the work of artists trying to bring light to it and to make people understand it is not okay to do it.
Like in most cases, people who bully don't even think they bully. To them, it's nothing important, nothing to take so seriously.
There have been cases where victims have literally been bullied to death and the abusers have got off almost entirely.
I HATE THAT KIND OF SOCIETY !!!!!!!!!!
THEY WILL PRODUCE PSYCHO SOCIETY !!!!!!!!!!!
THERE'S NO USE TO BE MODERN BUT MENTALLY ILL !!!!!!!!!!!!! 👎👎👎👎👎👎👎👎👎👎👎👎👎👎
@@suzyquatro6470 You make good points but like its hard to take you seriously with the caps lock emojis and tsunami of exclamation marks.
I mean no disrespect but isn’t there something he could do himself? Especially about what happens in his own classroom?
"If he had a girlfriend, none of this would have ever happened."
To anyone who needs to hear this, a relationship will not fix all of your life problems. Terrifies me when people, especially murderers, think this.
This! Thank you!!!
You need to read it as If I had one good thing in my life I could bear with the bad rather than it will solve everything.
Yes, a girlfriend wouldn't have fixed anything since he had deeper problems that he needed to deal with.
But I find the probable reasons why he thought he needed a girlfriend more interesting: he wanted a partner, someone who'd love him, care for him, show him attention, someone who'd give him a place where he could belong, someone who'd give him hope. And with that, he thought he then would be able to work hard, get better, do better, and work for a future.
He needed someone, anyone, to show him that his existence wasn't a waste of time, it didn't actually need to be a girlfriend imo.
With someone supporting him maybe he could have had a push to the correct direction.
Well je needed some kind of attention since he had none
Even a smile can change someone's day. It's not an exaggeration but some ppl aren't really that complicated.
It's sad how people who are abused at home are often also bullied at school. People can smell the misery, passiveness, isolation and instead of showing compassion, estrange the person. Their ability to have a normal life becomes diminished with the intensity and duration of abuse and whether they have any positive influences.
Please people, don't have kids if you can't love them unconditionally, no matter how well they do academically, etc.
Thanks for mentioning the victims! 💙
Though my mom wasn't abusive, she made sure that we three children realised she never really liked us ☹️☹️
She was trapped in an un wanted forced marriage at an early age, she was unhappy all her life, she took it out on us kids.....
I dont ever remember her praising, appreciating, encouraging , showing affection......
She just said negetive things about us all the while.
All three of us ( senior citizens now ) are hopelessly introverted, shy and never achieved anything in life in spite of being good at academics, gifted with talents in fine arts........
@@athensmajnoo3661you gained my compassion. Sending you a virtual hug from across the screen.
If there's exist the next life, I hope we, 'unloved children' will be born from loving parents.
@@elfryeorin thanks...... I really appriciate your kind words 🙏🙏🙏🙏
@@elfryeorin My mother mentally and emotionally abused me. By saying she didn´t want to admit I was her own son. Reason. I brought a teddy bear with me at school. Father defends mom saying she wants what´s best for me. And brother says I´m the spoiled brat who didn´t get his way. Also mother denies I´m autistic even if I have documents proving otherwise. But yeah. I´m the entitled one. Not my family.
Wish you told my parents this, i just wanna die
Ah yes ... *"Parenting by Torture."* 🤬 The absolute best way to build a *Sociopath* everytime.
Even then it isnt justified. I went through pretty much the same thing as tomohiro did back in highschool and got beat up for not having outstanding grades at school. It affects me to this day that ive dropped out of university twice and have hard time finding job. Yes parenting absolutely play a part in what a child grows into but Id never go out of my way to hurt the innocent. He barely had any friends and the people he interacted online didnt help either.
@@niqerfaguettranykyke He not justifying Tomohiros act. He just pointing out torturing a kid isn't good idea. You totally missed the point here.
@@aaganimehta1498 I know what he said but tomohiro had a choice which he acted on his own. He took his anger on people that he didnt know.
@@niqerfaguettranykyke A lot of people ,who were abused as children have compassion, and they have learned to do the opposite of their parents❣️
Unfortunately the understanding of mental health was not available even 10 years ago. It's not an excuse but it is a fact
A father, never around to protect and guide the family he helped found...
A mother, failing to nurture what should be most precious to a parent...
And a brother, knowing that none of it was his fault, but never being able to truly believe it...
Nothing gets at me worse than a broken family.
Indeed
"And a brother, knowing that none of it was his fault, but never being able to truly believe it..." wrong.
Its a brother, knowing that none of it was his fault, yet society keep judging all the family member for his brother wrongdoing, hence pushing him to the edge and he suicide because he cannot handle it anymore. The one that make his brother broken is the society in this case.
@@darkflame7163 I was basing my comment on the content of the video, but it's still technically accurate, even if it's more along the lines of "society never allowed him to believe it".
The fact that society blamed his brother for his crimes shows that these stories will keep happening unfortunately. We learn nothing from our mistakes.
The Japanese learn nothing from their misdeeds
" We learn nothing from our mistakes." So true . And it's not only Japan . I watch all kinds of youtube clips . 90% of them are white , between 18 and 35 + good looking . If you are not in that category , you're out of the group .
Also why the brother? It makes sense to blame the guardians cause they’re responsible of everything their kids do. He’s his brother, not his dad!
"We learn from history that we learn nothing from history."
As long as there is Man there will be horrible mistakes waiting to be repeated unfortunately
This is why I always offer strangers a smile, you never know just how significant something so small can be to another.
Some if us find that wierd and very unsettling to have strangers do that to us though
Nice 👍🏻 💕
@@trossk How many times are strangers smiling at you? Why would you find it unsettling??
@@buttercxpdraws8101 😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣
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What I'm not a fan of when it comes to Japanese society is that people who had nothing to do with the crime and are just related to the perpetrator get their lives ruined because of it. It's not fair. Maybe the mother if she was abusive, but the poor brother was treated terribly.
Well asian countries in general seem to have a collectivist view and understanding that an individual's wrongdoing is determined how they were raised. Quite a shame that despite understanding this, child abuse is still ongoing there.
They understand that evil is genetic so the whole family could be evil
We are not talking about 'adjacent' people here. The parents were directly responsible for how both Tomohiro and his Brother were raised. Asian culture tends towards collectivism and it's something that I personally think should be applauded. The level of abuse the mother lay on his children is terrible and the father did not intervene. Both deserved the condemnation of their peers and society as a whole. It's good that this is expressed because it SHOWS what society is not willing to tolerate and I think the father understands that, hence his deep shame and self imposed isolation.
While it's unfortunate Tomohiro's brother chose suicide pay very careful attention to what he said in his Suicide note, he feared he was a copy of his brother, not in a literal sense but he definitely felt like there was a part of him that could have BECOME Tomohiro. He killed himself out of a combination of shame and fear, fear of what might happen if he had his 'really bad day'.
@@nah-y4e evil is a religious and cultural concept. What is considered "evil" in one place may not be in others. Based on that alone, it couldn't possibly be genetic. The concepts of "good" and "evil" also imply that our actions are dictated by some unseen force, rather than allowing for personal accountability. Without getting too philosophical about it, the terms "good" and "evil" are ways for people to distance themselves from their own behavior.
@@SkunkApe407 and yet Japan has evil spirits in their folklore. wtf are you talking about
He was already academically gifted. He was a bright and happy boy. It's not that he became stupid over time, he became traumatized. Mrs. Kato, in case you never realized, abuse is traumatic and trauma does serious damage to the brain. So congratulations! You played yourself.
No shit. Abusing a child in the name of “getting the in line” is a clear sign that you are not fit to be a parent.
Having had a controlling and manipulative mother, I really have a special hatred of these kind of parents
Im very traumatized and its true. I cant do school amymore
@@themoribundapathetic4530 I don't know you obviously, but just know you have my full support and best wishes. You can do this, if you ever need to talk, look me up on Facebook as Rod Von Dong I'm the rat/human profile pic
She should have admitted herself to a psych ward before getting married and having kids.
The fact that his younger brother, Yuji, then took his own life, makes me really sad. From the outside, Tomohiro's family seems like a good normal family. Father with decent job, housewife mom, 2 boys. Who ever think that one of the boy will grew up become a murderer, and another took his own life. Who's fault? imho, part is Tomohiro and his parent's failed parenting, the other one is the toxic community. Tomohiro received bullying since his high school day, didn't he? so rather than blaming people, this case should make us, the society member to think, do we add another toxic to the society, or bring warmth and goodness?
You talk about two parts, one his parents, the other, society. You don't find him accountable for anything? If he wanted to punish anyone, he should've punished his parents and the ones who actually bullied him. Instead, he chose to punish complete strangers, becoming a coward worst than the ones that made his life miserable.
@@marivipalomino6975 bro can u read he said 'imho part is tomohiros and parents fault along with bullying' and how can he find the people who bullied him online they are anonymous and also he wouldn't hurt his mother as he said he never blamed her fucking actually listen to the case
In Japan, even now, the relatives of criminals bear a lot of society's anger. If your brother is a mass murderer, it will be impossible for you to have a normal life. You will be fired from jobs, refused by universities and clubs, and disowned by friends. Tomohiro ruined his brother's life too.
Stories like this make me so sad. It makes me sad knowing there are people out there just longing for a friend. I hope you all have at lease one friend. If any of y’all need someone to talk with I’m here.
Now that is a lovely response to such a tragic tale! Thanks nice guy!😇
You're a good bloke.
I second the motion, Captain Barboza. Shocking how much damage disconnection does over time. I am also here.
What a kind comment ❤ thank you!
Kevin, I have a feeling your comment really means the world to at least one person who reads it. I wish more people were like you.
Goes to show you how important love is to all- to your kids, to your neighbors, etc. Love, folks, even if takes work, just love.
Thank you, thank you, thank you… this reminder came at the perfect time ☺️
@Over It bro are you okay
This is a good quote but if we are being realistic here, no matter how well spoken, eloquent, and nice someone is to the other person, you won't be able to change people. Love, won't be able to change people. This doesn't mean being human is useless, I just want to tell people that you should be a decent human being and love as it is and still expect people to turn out like not how you want them to be
I'm bad at explaining I hope you get my point
I think there is a difference between loving everyone for no reason and not treating your child like a WW2 enemy spy
Ted Bundy: “Why hello there”
This “love will conquer” is a nice sentiment, but sometimes there are people that are broken or want to see the world burn 🔥
It's refreshing that someone is covering cases outside of the UK and the US. Your channel is a nice change of pace
Yes, some channels cover crimes I've been hearing about for decades, or are so covered by media...no more Jodi Arias or Lori Vallow, PLEASE! Finally something different.
@@loveforeignaccents so, is that a warning or a recommendation?
A son who considered himself dead inside, now waiting for death.
A brother who saw that same rage within himself, died by his own hand.
A mother who gave no familial love, shattered her family by her actions.
A father who saw it all and said nothing, now sits in silence alone by candlelight.
Well said
I think he was executed last year
"Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle."
brilliant right you are ezio
A shame that a lot of people in the world clearly dont think that way or even care
Socrates right there
Proverbs 10:12: Hatred stirs up conflict, but love covers over all wrongs.
John 15:12: My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you.
1 John 4:8: Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.
1 Peter 4:8: Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.
Corinthians 16:14: Do everything in love.
Being kind doesn't pay the bills. Being kind doesn't lead you anywhere. Being logical and pragmatic does. Being smart and self-aware helps too when it comes to paying your rent and getting a fucking life instead of blaming the world for your own problems.
While there’s no excuse for Tomohiro’s actions, his parents are definitely to blame for what happened. It’s sickening they showed him abuse mentally, physically, and emotionally instead of giving him love and care every person should have. Shame on them.
People are responsible for their own actions.
Agreed. & seeing how the family ended up after the tragedy, it’s no surprise that abuse & neglect can destroy a family.
@@moonghosh2132 And their parents are responsible for creating people who became such parents and so on. It's meaningless to blame them
@@moonghosh2132 No. They arent. Personal responsibility and accountability is a thing.
They definitely were a contributing factor. Though ultimately the only one who can be blamed for what happened is the one who went on a killing spree.
Adrian, you might be the only person on the internet who presents these cases in an empathetic manner that honours the chronology of the events and the tragedy of lives taken.
I really appreciate that.
I disagree. He's not the only person on the Internet who does such a thing. I suggest broadening your horizons
Incorrect! Mr. Ballen, Kendall Rae, Eleanor Neale, and Rob Gavagan do a really good job at that too ❤ and I'm sure there's other youtubers who do a good job of it but I haven't found them yet
I can't help but feel bad for him, he had so much potential and just needed love and positive reinforcement.
That's all most people need. Most people don't become killers just cuase. There's usually factors at play that lead to such outcomes.
Whoever took his uniform prolly feel really bad right now 😳
I would say he was fired. The company just said otherwise after they found out what happened.
@Source Dasher shut up
@Source Dasher k
@@mfft627 I was going to say the same thing.
@Source Dasher stfu
As much as I love Japan, I will admit, their view on mental health and the amount they focus more on work than anything else, is honestly scary. I won’t defend this guy, he deserves to be where he is, but his parents were horrible, it makes you think about what could have been if he had a good family
Japan's suicide rate is lower than in many Western nations, though, like the US, or Sweden.
Of wealthier countries, only Arabic nations, Israel and Italy seem to have low suicide rates.
yea i think what a lot people don’t realize is japan is EXTREMELY conservative
True, and they're not alone. Many other East Asian countries are like that too.
The guy clearly had a mental disorder and was robbed by getting sentenced to death.
@@dexterslab2663 exactly. Japan still hasn't legalized gay marriage, last I heard.
His victims weren't only the ones that he killed and hurt during his killing spree, but his last tragic victim was his own younger brother.
That was actually really sad
The younger brother is society’s victim. Tomohiro wasn’t the one harassing his younger brother because he couldn’t; he was locked up in jail. But society harassed the younger brother to the point of suicide.
That's Japan's putrid society not Tomohiro's doing, do you remember Masabumi Hosono? He was a Japanese survivor in the Titanic, when he came back he was ostracized and his life was destroyed because he didn't stay behind and "die honorably" saving people and letting them go in his place, that's how horrendous culture can be in Japan and South Korea. Due to being an exceptional worker he was hired back at least, but that same happy ending can't be given to everyone.
Both boys were the victims of their cold, cruel parenting, like their parents were victims before them. It's troubling that most people and laws still choose to ignore obvious mistreatment of children. It's alarming that societies completely ignore how people choose to raise their children.
I can sympatize with Tomohiro because i went through similar. In elementry school i was a good student but in middle school i was bullied badly, my mother made things harder, my grades were slipping to the point i would not even attend school, I would watch and draw anime as a shut in, i had no friends and wished for a girlfriend thinking i was too ugly. I too had snapped one day both in fighting with my mom and attempts at ending my life.
It's been 5 years now and although things have not changed, i have. I was able to graduate and the current collage classes i'm taking i'm actually getting good grades in and i have a good close friend and currently working on project while having a job.
What Tomohrio did will never be acceptable and i'm glad that i have not fallen down the same path as him.
I'm proud of you x
I'm so sorry to hear this and glad at the same time that you managed to overcome such torment. Please alway believe in yourself, give kindness to other and life will give it back to you. Have a great life. God bless you.
good for you.
I don't know you, and I know this comment is a year old, but I want to tell you that I'm proud of you. I hope you're still doing well.
This was just terribly sad. As someone who struggles with anxiety and depression I really felt for him.
It's scary what overbearing loneliness and depression can make a person do.
No wonder he went Postal
He needed therapy, the guy was clearly crying out for help but no one answered.. even though he didn't want to blame his parents, they were a big part of the problem, they failed him
Thank you....
No one cared about him
Can you imagine getting therapy in a society that sees mental illness as a foreign and vile thing? He would've been embarrassed to ask for help much less even attempt to get help. There is so much cultural nuances here that we cannot quite perceive.
It's easy to call people like him twisted when their parents and society effectively failed them, he could have been a decent person if things went differently.
The word "twisted" didn`t even crossed my mind once while watching this video...
...I just feel sorry for him, like really sorry. U are right Palidor, he could've been a better person if raised by better parents and/or connected with better people.
R.I.P to the victims and love, strength and power to the relatives🙏
Looks like a good person that was scarred by abuse
...but things didn't go differently. I'll never understand how most people think.
@@LeatherCladVegan Well yeah, they didnt. But it didnt need to go down this way. Most regular people who watch this news will always dismiss them as crazy murderers, but they didnt start out that way and just wanted a normal life like everyone else.
@@LeatherCladVegan you must have grown up without learning compassion and understanding of psychology and how traumatic abuse is
I’ve heard how tough Japanese parents can be, and I believe the terms “Tiger Mom” & “Tiger Parenting” reference perfectionist Japanese parents who demand excellence from their children. Tragically, children need love and affection more than anything else, and without an emotional attachment to their mother in particular, children can become irreparably damaged. Although I don’t approve of how this young man reacted to his tragic life, it wasn’t his fault. He was desperate for basic human kindness and received nothing but condemnation and disdain from the very people who should have loved him without question!
Absolutely. Checkout the work of former psychologist Alice Miller who goes into depth on this topics. There's also an audiobook here on Ytube for free.
You should feel sorry for his victims who have nothing to do with his life. You are sick yourself to feel any empathy for a monster. Many people are abused way worst but harm no one. If they hate life they can end it not trying to end people’s life who wants to live. Selfish and sick
@@desertmoonlee6631 oh suck an egg, he deserves empathy, if his mom didn't abused him, he wouldn't be this broken, what he did to the victims wasn't good, but he deserves empathy, monsters aren't born, they're created
It may be because we don't have tigers here, but we don't use those terms. We just call it abusive parenting. 🤦
@@desertmoonlee6631 it’s not sick to have empathy for the ‘monster’. But I guess that come with forgiveness
On another note, I think if parents abuse their child and said child goes on to commit an atrocity, the parents should be held accountable as well. Child abuse so often goes unnoticed, unpunished, and is even justified and bragged about by some, and yet it so easily destroys not only the abused, but potentially others around them. Parents are supposed to care for and raise their children, not tear them down before they even had a chance to begin their lives.
Yes but hurting others shouldn't also be a way to punching ur parents obviously
Nope, because that's what North Korea does. Those who deal with monsters shall see to it that they themselves don't become monsters to paraphrase Friedrich Nietzsche.
No, we are all ultimately responsible for our actions. Millions of people have suffered even worse abuse and bullying than this guy and don't grow up to kill people. I do agree that we are supposed to raise and care for our children but parents are not responsible for the actions of their adult children.
@@sbfairy stop comparing the best that came out of bad situations as a way to stamp out the children that CANNOT cope with abuse and the adults who have not been able to handle their trauma either.
Stop jumping the gun and saying that his comment or any comment like it is trying to remove responsibility from the person. It. Is. Not. It is acknowledging that the problem goes much deeper, and if the issue was nipped in the bud (i.e harsher and more stricter punishments and controls against child neglect and abuse) this would reduce the tragedies we hear about on the daily.
Parents are absolutely responsible for how their children turn out, and only in extremely rare cases is this untrue. By trying to say not to remove responsibility from violent killers you simultaneously try to remove responsibility from the people who raised said killer... think about that for a second there.
@@PoptartParasol I went back and reread you original comment. Obviously people who abuse their kids should be punished and sometimes they are. My sister in law often fosters kids who were victims of abuse. Physical abuse can be proven but emotional abuse is much harder.
If you are saying parents should be responsible for their kids behavior when they ae under the age of 18, I agree with you to some extent. However, realistically the older your child gets the more outside factors also influence how your child turns out. Many teens do stupid stuff not because they have bad parents but because of bad friends.
My question to you is at what point do we stop holding parents responsible for how their kids turn out? When the person is 25? 30? 40? married with their own kids? In our justice system we don't punish people who have no direct involvement in a crime because it's not fair. HIs parent were monsters who raised a killer but they themselves didn't kill anyone. in this case it was not only his parents who bullied him, should his other bullies be punished for how they contributed to the way he turned out?
This is such a tragic and sad story on so many levels. A happy, intelligent and popular child that simply...burned out and grew up to be a self-loathing, lonely and angry man because of the pressure and abuse his mother subjected him to. His luck didn't "run out", I think he just got burned out until he just couldn't perform well anymore cuz that's what trauma, burnout and depression will do to you. And then he never got help and never got out of those mindsets but hated himself for not being as good anymore as he was when he was younger. It's really just sad whenever this happens and ofc even more so when innocent people die because of things like this. What he did was unacceptable and he deserves punishment ofc, but I also just feel sorry for him. He said he doesn't want to blame his mother but I feel like if instead of abusing him, his parents had just encouraged and loved him, he could've had a really bright future. The abuse didn't only ruin the lives of him and his family, but also the lives of innocent people and their families. And I feel like this could've been avoided just with...love.
Plenty of us are burnt out and angry he could have just gone to the gym and took some accountability instead of killing people. Shit childhood is no excuse
I feel the same as you Shiraya because everyone is different in how they cope with stress , depression etc. and no one can understand each others minds, feelings etc. What he did was horrendous no doubt about it but he obviously couldn't deal with failure etc. and alot of men do either kill themselves and or others , Japanese males do have a huge amount of pressure put on them from a very young age from all aspects in their life and they keep their feelings to themselves some can cope and some can't 😔
" A HAPPY CHILD" ? A child getting abused by his mum you consider as happy?
Well said. I actually feel very sorry for this man as well as his brother.
All that pressure for "success" and " honour". Living in some shitty city and owning a car and working 14 hours everyday is success Japan? What a bunch of bullshit, shove your success up you know where.
I think abuse in early childhood can really shape a person's entire identity. It makes me wonder if people who commit such crimes all share the experience of being neglected early on.
Yes! Imagine instead of love and hugs and lullabies you got harm and hatred! The divergence is too great! But the parent ( or parents) were probably themselves victims! This kind of damage is often ongoing! It takes a strong individual to break the chain!
Ummm, yes?
Most likely yes.
I know people are agreeing because it's obvious, but this comment has merit. There's a staggering amount of people who think every adult is just going to pretend their childhood abuse just never happened and nothing will come of it because "That's what adults do"
Imagine being held responsible for a crime you didnt commit. It's a lose lose. You're expected to just "deal with it" and if you dont?...get bullied nerd
Indeed. This is something that terrifies me as a new parent. Having children is taken so lightly when you can literally influence the person they turn out to be. It's a huge responsibility, and can come with so many ramifications, many good, and so many bad.
His parents finally felt a portion of what he had to go through, if they were more of parents and less of a cold boss figure, he would have gotten the help he needed.
Ironically, his entire family broke _way_ faster than he did.
💔💔.
@@vincent67239 right? He went through this shit for decades, still remaining a decent person for the most part, and his family breaks down within months. His mother could dish it, but obviously couldn't take it.
I have to disagree with you here. I don't think he is a monster but his actions are. Nothing can excuse what he did.
Still, the way the rest of his family members were treated shows how society has not learned anything and so the wheel keeps on spinning and the same mistakes in the way we treat people repeats and repeats... This is very sad.
Edit: just because I don't think he's a monster doesn't mean that I agree with his actions. It's wild to make such assumptions. Like some people already pointed out he's a product of society and bad treatment of his parents etc. But instead of learning awareness and offer better treatments for mentally ill people, people prefer to continue to bully all family members causing them to kill themselves and more. Blaming is easy. Making assumptions is easy. Continuing is easier than to make changes.
Yes I agree with you. It’s the way he was treated by others(his mom abusing him, his dad not being home, bullying online, and social withdraw) that built up who he was and what he did. Ultimately everyone of us is molded into our own shape depending on the way we’re raised , treated by others, and the way we are taught. Though some people have too little in their molds making them seem like a normal and quiet person that is bland. some may have too much to hold inside the mold and they overflow becoming someone who has carried too much burden and pressure. Those who’s molds overflow have not been treated well or with humanly nature and because they feel no love and kindness to battle off the pressure they’re carrying they become incapable of being able to carry their burden making them overflow. I think that if someone can’t seem to find balance it becomes a problem if they’re given too much kindness their ego may build up and they’d need to be humbled.if they receive too less they might become cold or may not feel when people are kind. Once there is too much imbalance people explode.
Japan doesn’t seem to have much mental health awareness most times peoples views on mental health are “why are you depressed you have a stable job and a loving family?” or “Why are you ___ you have _____” . It sucks that a lot of people seem pressured to work forever. Lots of people get so lost in their jobs that they feel disconnected to their families and friends. Just like most fathers in Japan.
@@8poopycats it is not only japan that had those views on mental health, I am from the Philippines, and they would also say the same thing especially in family gatherings and they would even add that "if you only pray, your problems would go away" or even would say that "You are not praying enough that it is why you are feeling that way". Believe me, I've heard enough from my family members and it is extremely disrespectful and degrading all at once because faith has nothing to do with your mental health.
Not to mention, it also stems from ignorance and lack of education about mental health in contrast to other countries on how they view mental health, and with countries that are living by tradition or conservative, it becomes the issue.
Edit: Grammar
@@8poopycats Everywhere in the world doesn’t have enough mental awareness.
Mental health is one issue, but the pure disdain shown to people who seem different is another huge problem. I have a cousin who became an Air hostess and her choice was always looked down upon and the disadvantages/risks always stressed during family gatherings, but that wouldn't be the case when they talked about becoming a doctor. And I have another relative who has a shy personality, but she's always blamed for being quiet. I'm quiet too, so I wonder what they say about me behind my back. I always regret my lack of confidence to stand up for them. They don't deserve the things said about them. People really need to learn acceptance.
It's refreshing to see cases that haven't been covered by 50 other people
idk if this is ironic, but isn't this case very much covered everywhere?
@@mazi1597 oh, it's the first time I've seen it
I haven't seen this case before either. But I only see true crime cases courtesy of the TH-cam algorithm, which often recommends the same cases covered by different channels.
I just seen a video on this a couple of days ago it was covered here pretty well
I cover unknown Japanese cases, if you're interested.
small correction: an Otaku is not just someone obsessed with anime. Its basically taking a hobby or interest to the extreme, not just anime. an example would be train otakus.
wait, thats not what a weeb means?
Y 10HK29 I would say a weeb is someone who thinks of only anime culture when someone brings up Japan. An otaku at least admires the many cultural aspects of japan.
@@Y10HK29 Weeb/weeaboo is generally speaking a non-japanese person that thinks anime is the end all be all of japanese culture. An otaku is just an extreme fan (or in the original meaning of fan, fanatical) of something, be it anime or something else.
So basically a "nerd" over in Japan? People who are into niche or geeky/nerdy things ig.
@@Y10HK29 "Otaku" in Japanese is a deragatory term, but was appropriated in America as a positive way to self-identity and come together with like-minded anime/manga fans. So, "weaboo" and "weeb" were created to take the place of a deragatory term for an anime fan in America.
Tomohiro: "If I had a -girlfriend- stable parents who loved and showed me how to be a good person, none of this would have ever happened."
I don’t know why, but this one bothers me more than other cases you’ve covered. It’s truly heartbreaking how well this case highlights the ripple effect of one person’s actions.
This was just as brutal as that danny phantom guy they both had me depressed
@@kidomaruking35 I still think about that video because of how humanized he is for a majority of his life until he succumbed to his insanity. I think what’s really bothersome is the fact he was growing up in his parents house and they couldn’t be bothered to get him any sort of mental help, probably because mental illness was never something to be discussed. This case isn’t too far off the Amber guy was also cryptically wanting help via the Internet since he felt no one in his life wanted him to be sane.I feel bad but that’s no excuse to commit murder. As someone who’s lost people to suicide. Just get help and don’t take out people who had nothing to do with your pain.
@@kidomaruking35 what's the danny phantom guy ?
@@waksligs4444 his name is Randy Stair Coffeehouse did a video on him
@@kidomaruking35 thanks i'll look for it
I never understood why it's so common for asian parents to force such extreme pressure on their children. Of course u want your child to not be a school dropout, but can't they see that this extreme pressure is messing up their kids wellbeing?
A friend of mine had parents like that and he's been stressed and depressed his entire life. And for what? Making $500 more per month? Woop-di-doo.
Idk about "common occurance for asian parents to force excellency to their children," and Im asian in Asia. My parents at times does so by getting me into lessons and commend any flick of interests I have so it would strengthen any hobbies that I might pick up later, but at the same time, theyre pretty happy with what "little" achievements I got, so far. I guess it just depends on culture, social structure, personal understanding of their environment, their life experiences, their own upbringings and history. Sadly, its the negative ones that gets highlighted by alot of folks, like this one right here
Conformist society. If you don't stand out as better, you better not stand out as less.
Asian parent: pressure? what’s that?
trust me, I’m Asian.
Tiger parents roar
@@skeletonwguitar4383 Also asian, and yeah, it's more common but I don't agree that it's the norm
Man its crazy how many parents out there dont realize the impact they have on their children at the early stages of their lives.
Yep. Crazy. I agree with crazy.
Most of those ones actually don't care, they might very well know.
I personally feel very sorry for him. The fact that he didn’t want to blame his horrible mother when questioned almost made me cry. Everyone failed him and he lost his humanity.
You feel sorry for this monster and not the innocent people who are killed. You know tons of people are abused but not monsters who harm others. Some just suicide without harming others. This guy no different than his parents he is selfish and sick and harmed innocent people and yet you are showing empathy for him, it’s disturbing how no one is talking about victims.
@@desertmoonlee6631 totally agree. I’m actually so mad rn. I understand wanting to find why someone does what they do, but the overall focus on the perpetrator and not the victims makes me sick to my stomach. I’m sure they’d love to have been given this level of empathy by him before being murdered.
@@coughfully It’s called differentiating excuses from explanations. Your world view is so black and white Jeez.
@@desertmoonlee6631 I'm not agreeing with the original poster you're referring to, in fact I more or less agree with you. But why does him feeling sorry for the guy = him not feeling sorry for the innocent people who are killed. Isn't it possible to feel sorry for both?
I was beat and abused as a child, i dont blame my parents though. I just told myself i'll never be like them.
I believe he wouldn't have gone down that path if his parents, especially his mother wouldn't have been so abusive, the punishment she inflicted upon him was horrific... It's an extremely sad case. Thank you so much for sharing it.
The sad thing is, if his parents were actually decent people, he might not have killed anyone. I feel bad for him in a way because of how his parents treated him, but that no way excuses his actions. Rest In Peace to the victims.
His mother was probably a copy of her parents.
@@juxtanner7959 And he was an enhanced copy of her, most likely
He's a spree killer. Not much different than serial killers aome of whom grew up much worse. I had an ugly, ugly childhood and I don't do those things. Your words said that you aren't excusing him and I get that, but it doesn't feel that way when you say it. The child had a sucky life, but he was well into adulthood, a lot of that is on him and his culture. He made choices and was aware of how wrong they were, and even knew they wouldn't fix anything. It was a giant temper tantrum! He put too much emphasis in what was behind a screen instead of getting out there, getting a haircut and meeting people! That is what adult him could have done!
@@juxtanner7959 Correct! Making it a cultural. It's a social problem they need to address and fix. We all have them and it has to start with us. I feel like theirs needs to be publicly addressed. Maybe some PSAs stating that children have value and purpose. Wives do too. I believe that somewhere in Japan there has to be people that actually love, respect and value one another and even their kids but what comes across is that it's all polished! I have known three men that married Japanese women and it angers me, because seeing them in those "relationships" was so heartbreaking! Those women were just passed off to men that married them so tehy could have a subseriant wife! One man died ( the oldest of these couples by far) and his wife had no idea what to do with herself! She had lived in this country for over 40 years and had no clue without someone bossing her around, she had two sons..I am sure they took over, only I knew one very well and hope he did better by her but he was definitely a product of his father. Another is still subserviant and "owned" by the husband. The other divorced her cheating husband because she had good friends that supported her and she came here young and was out making friends and doing things, and not about to take that! She's loving life, especially being free of the one that married her to have a wife that didn't cause problems and back talk! Anyway, surely there are strong people there that don't hold to tradition, at least not in the toxic traits. I would love to see a Japan full of people that valued ALL their people. Image is just an illusion!
Naive train of thought. Will stand until it doesn't. The problem is not related to the parents only, but is much larger.
I do believe he was a product of his environment compounded with the depression and social anxiety. I truly blame the parents. Obviously he would have had some issues none the less, BUT it was obviously made worse.
I was abused growing up. Some of us grow up to be more empathic. Others I have met have not fared so well.
Yes, I feel terrible for the victims and especially their families and friends. I do blame the young man for his own actions, but I also blame the parents. Especially the mom.
Life is not really that great
It depends on if a person has any sort of support growing up, in his case he had none and this is what serial killers, mass murders, school shooters etc have in common, not that they were abused. Many people are abused but have support and though they struggle their minds don't fully break.
Life sucks sometimes and when we move into adulthood, we all struggle on some level to leave our childhood in the past. (Even if our childhood was reasonably healthy, yet alone terrible)
It is no excuse to become a killer.
Couldn't of said it any better.
I actually feel bad for Tomohiro because all this may have been avoided if he didn't have such a terrible upbringing. Does it excuse what he did? No, but it does make my heart cry for the little boy he was who had to suffer through all that. The person I have the least sympathy for in all this is his mother. May the souls of the victims and Yuji rest in peace😥
While it doesn't entirely excuse his behavior, I feel little sympathy for Tomohiro's parents after the way they treated him when he was young.
The blood is definitely partially in their hands. I will always firmly believe this
You'll be next !
"it doesn't entirely excuse his behaviour" It doesn't excuse it AT ALL. He wasn't the only one facing such abuse as a child in Japan, yet most people don't kill 7 people and attack multiple others. His parents are guilty of abuse, he is guilty of murder. That's that.
@@oneofthosemoments4564 bygones next one 😂
@@baltimore664 ?
Funny how you and Detective Aki covered the same case within a few days.
She lives in Japan so she is focused on local cases. The interesting detail I remembered from her take is how Tomohiro's brother was close to letting the past go and marrying his gf who accepted him but her parents wouldn't permit it. That is extra sad.
You know it's getting serious when a nerd sells his PC
💀💀
So true
Unless they're just upgrading
Not the place.
You made me laugh and I am glad you live up to your name, Bastos..
This is one of those stories where I feel for the killer, as well as the victims. I don't condone his actions. But he was incredibly broken, and felt alone and hopeless. And when someone feels like there's no one to love them in this world, that can truly break them.
The poor guy broke. I can totally empathise with him. However, his actions are not justified. The victims did not deserve what he did to them. They too, are human beings perhaps with their own despair. In saying that, when someone is at breaking point they are blind to rationally. Such a heartbreaking case all round and it shows the damage that can be done to our psyche.
It does make you wonder how often this happens (all over the world) but the saga just quietly closes with a suicide
@@topiasr628 unfortunately for him, he lived past it
@@topiasr628 fortunatelly. I really don't care, we should just focus on stopping abuse and depression, instead of focusing on the murderers too much.
Just the fact that he walked out of his job...
From another comment it sounds like he was being bullied there too. He hated himself and his life, all because of other people. His actions are 100% his responsibility, hence being given the 'death penalty', but what is that sentence to someone who already tried to kill themselves because they felt they are "lower than trash"?
@@ashn7146 the sentence doesn't exist to punish the individual, but rather to protect the people. Yall always put these murderers in the center of attention, when you should actually focus on the viticms. Not everything is about him. Actually, the moment somebody commits a crime, nothing is really about them but about the protection of others.
He started as a beautiful little boy that needed love, attention and nurturing and slowly turned into a repulsive monster.
The psychology of human beings will always be fascinating.
Thank you for this video 👍🏼
This man was failed throughout his entire life. Abusive parents, never being given or led to any help despite everyone's' awareness, societal stigma towards mental health issues and loneliness, etc. The world gave him neutrality at best direct unbridled punishment at worst. Sickening.
I feel bad for the poor boy, things would most likely been different if he had had loving parents . May the victims Rest In Peace, they didn’t deserve to have their lives cut short by a miserable man
I actually feel bad for him. No friends and no love from his family can be devastating really. True he did a horrible act but if one just one person tried to reach out to him with kindness and love I don’t think this would have happened. May the 7 people rest in peace.
So true!! Every aspect of this case is heartbreaking. Just goes to show you, you never know what someone is going through. We've gotta do better as humans. So sad.
I haven't had coffee since I came down with the virus. This channel has made the recovery process a lot easier. Keep up the good work, Adrian!
I hope you recover! Stay safe and recover fast. COVID sucks.
@@undyingshinigami Thank you so much! I'm feeling better.
I hope you recover well! Take it easy, proper rest helps wonders.
@@CoffeehouseCrime Thanks a lot, man! I'll be over it in no time.
I truly hope you are back on your feet soon. Vitamin D (and sunshine) zinc are reported to help.
"If there is one thing I know it's this: A mother should not scorn her own son" - Ed Kemper
What bullshit.
@@siberian_breakz
>Barges in
>"What bullshit"
>Refuses to elaborate further
>Leaves
The mother must realize that her sons life became messed up because of her.
I feel bad for the younger brother.
He suffered for his brother's wrong doing.
I know 😭
When it comes to parents being ANY kind of abusive they should be held accountable. Yes the child decided to turn into a killer and they are in control of their actions but when are we gonna hold the parents accountable?? If they are abusive they are basically forcing the child to be cold and detach themselves from emotion. If the parents dont care for them and they are the ones who are suppose to protect us yet they abuse us then who can we trust?? Seriously at some point in cases like this we should hold the parents accountable
I agree completely.
Seems like a lot of abusive people get off with no repercussions while some of their victims turn into monsters that pass down the pain they were given. It's not fair that the abusers aren't punished for what they've done.
i agree.
Jose, hmmm. I don't completely agree. I was abused as a child and teenager. Even through my 40s my mother put her hands on me, yet I am not a social outcast. I don't abuse the man I married. We learnt from our upbringing. Never to repeat it! Also very good parents have raised psychopaths or sociopaths. To what end do we blame the parents? I think I would have been a pretty good mother had I had the chance.
I agree fully but also understand why child abuse victims direct their rage on society. The blame society for being either complicit or apathetic to the abuse they suffered. It's easier to lash out against random strangers than to hold one's own abuser(s) accountable. In this case, he admitted the abuse from his mother but still defended that she wasn't causal in his mania.
@@Julia-uh4li not everyone responds the same to said trauma + there are very different kinds of trauma people experience
Only 3% of the general population are Sociopathic (abuse made/environment induced) and 1% being Psychopathic (genetic/deformity in the frontal cortex) Abusers should be held accountable 💯
I really appreciate how you tell us the names of the victims and facts about them. I feel like sometimes you can watch these cases and forget that actual people lost their lives. So it’s nice to get that reality check at the end.
this may be an unpopular opinion but am a little sad for tomohiro. his crimes as an adult are inexcusable but i feel his past shaped his future for the worse. can't help but think of how different he would have been had his parents loved him. rest in peace to the seven innocent souls taken away that day.
Agreed
"A boy who grows up without love will eventually burn down his own Village, just to feel the warmth of the flames."
- An old African saying
Its a societal issue.
I agree 100%. I had loving parents & have strong support & I am doing well at school, I have a small group of friends & I have ambitions to become someone better.
Nothing about what u said is unpopular obviously , " a little sad for him" okay who isent? "feel his past shaped his future but inexcusable" again no shit. Are u just confused or a being dummy?
Kato was executed in July 2022 after having been on the death row for 14 yrs.
If only he had one friend to talk to, he could have stayed sane.
Coffeehouse fan from Japan.
Yeah it's important to atleast have a single friend in your life than none whatsoever
If I was Japanese I would have been his friend. I would talk to him everyday about his upcoming execution and ask how excited is he.
Too late for that now though. Rip Kato.
I feel so bad for this man, but worse for his victims. He didn't deserve the horrible things that happened to him. They don't excuse what he did, but every new thing made my heart hurt a little more for him, but even more for those whose lives he cut short with his actions.
It’s shocking how many mothers seem oblivious to how easily they can destroy their own children. 😢
P.s. I love the way you present your videos, so professional, well spoken and respectful! Congratulations on getting sponsors, so happy seeing your channel grow 😊
You are so good at presenting your content it's a must watch for me
I can't ever imagine treating my son like he got treated. I am always encouraging to him even now as an adult we are close.
I work at an university with students from all over the world and I have to say, that’s a common thing the students from Asian decent say, parents are very harsh on them to academically achieve. It’s a cultural thing sadly. They often suffer from depression but they are never thought to show emotions as readily as other cultures may .
*Coffeehouse Crime
: 'This was finally his chance to become independent & hopefully re-earn his mother's love'... I've given my own mother hundreds of chances to love me like she does my siblings so this hit me right in the feels...*
If you ever have to try and earn the lady who brought you into this world's love, she categorically isn't fit to be a mother! It's as simple as that! (learnt this lesson once I became a father myself).
Another awesome upload Adrian, it's amazing to see your channel grow, keep up the amazing work friend!
Somebody gets it!!
My mother has always treated spiders better than she treats me.
The impact of a mom is amazing, in a bad and good way. His family fail him, disappointed him, and he gave it back in a worse way.
Prayers goes to his father and families
Having lived in japan for over 10 years, let me start with saying the poster did his homework on japan. That’s the good. The international community believes Japanese people to be really hard workers but in fact it seems with japan being a highly visual society people being in the office past 6 pm is seen as being a hard worker but the quality of work or quality does not seem to go up with all those hours in the office. This as pointed out in the video can be detrimental to children. Japan is a great place and safe place to live but in general I think parents can be more attentive to their children here. That’s not to say there are not good parents here but it does seem to mean there are more not present parents than not. Luckily my Japanese wife comes from one of the good families. I cannot express more how grateful I am for that. I hope this guy does a video on the Twitter killer here who was recently sentenced.
I can confirm that Japanese work hard but not smart 😂 worked internationally with them and was shocked how they don’t question processes or think for themselves
Wait so Japan isnt just like in one of my Japanese animes???
It also strikes me that a teacher called his work basically mediocre. Something doesn't sit right with me that a former teacher would speak poorly about a student, unless the student was actively a problem **while in class.**
@@Solonneysa
Not uncommon for teachers to be total jerks. Some teachers are even the ones starting and encouraging the bullying... you know, to teach the student their place. To make them realize that they're trash and should aim for more.
Sometimes it's a cycle too... A is being bullied, so they bully B who is hierarchically under them, and in turns B does the same to C.
You also have to keep in mind that for people like that, the fault isn't even in the ones who bully but in the one who is being bullied. "Your kid is being bullied... They aren't accepted at all. They should try to fit more in, to engage more with the other students, to become friends."
It's very infuriating.
Me too. 11 years here in Japan with a Japanese wife and good family. You are spot on with your assessment.
I feel sad for him and even more sad for his victims, their families and friends. He alone admited that he just needed love and someone who would care.
Nah don’t feel sad for a murderer it sucks what happened to him but it doesn’t mean he had to take away other peoples lives.
@@OggOwO Well the whole thing was completely preventable and mental health is still a huge stigma in Japan.
Me too. Being lonely sucks.
Still...
To kill is unforgivable.
@@Pama013 probably if his parents weren’t so hard on him he’d be different but it is what it is
I bet you feel bad for every murderer
What an incredibly sad, tragic case. It reminds me of the "incel" case of Toronto mass murderer Alec Minassian from a few years ago.
He made a video on him recently! That guy was a nutcase!
Except unlike Alec's case, Tomohiro didnt have a motive to accomplish some absurd cringe-inducing internet ideology.
Also Minassian and Tomohiros choice of murder method was using vehicles to plow down civilians. Something also many islamic jihadists have done, especially in Europe. Very scary, and unfortunaly also hard to prepare against.
@@Metaltherebel92 yeah its because they're so easy to get a hold of, what's easier to kill someone with a knife, a gun or a multi ton peice of heavy machinery travelling at 60 MPH, its effective and very common now days.
@@niqerfaguettranykyke he was still an incel though. plus the "ideology" is mostly true anyways
This is the first time that I feel sympathy for a perpetrator. I know first hand how South Asian culture is, the pressure to be a respectable person who is the neighbour's envy and someone the extended family looks up to is immense. It causes so much anxiety that sometimes when you don't get accepted at a desired college or don't crack a job interview or get paid a few grand less than your cousin, it can cause suicidal thoughts. In such instances, being a single child helps as, if you're a single child, parents can't entirely treat you like you don't matter. But if you have a sibling who happens to meet those benchmarks of success while you're a failure in every sense of the term, it's quite possible that at family dinners you will be belittled or made to feel like you don't even exist. I really hate our culture and the class discrimination, there is a massive pay gap between what's considered a white collar job and manual labour and manual labour is looked down upon.
My family had that culture too. Get the right professional job, marry and have kids..I'm ostracized for not succeeding. I never married and do cat rescue and write instead and I'll always be poor. I can feel for those kids killing themselves. Families who do this really should be ashamed of themselves..not their victims shame.
I can’t help but feel bad for him, i know what he did was inexcusable but as someone who has been in similar position I can’t help but relate to him. The only reason i have not gone insane is because i have managed to make few friends over the years.
Yea... really felt it when he said, "....I am lower than trash, because trash gets recycled..." it's really sad that one can feel that way.... still listening to get the fist to the rest case
I don’t think relating to a killer is normal, seek help please
@@energeticgorilla You didnt learn anything from this video
@@ashharkausar413 I knew a lot of this story, so that’s pretty true :D
@@energeticgorilla You can relate to someone's experience without agreeing with their actions. You can sympathize with someone yet still want them to face justice. You can realize that someone never truly got a chance to be a good person and say their actions are still inexcusable.
I’ve lived in Japan for over 20 years and remember this tragedy well, you did a great job of covering it. In interviews in the aftermath some of the witnesses had said they were so shocked by what they were seeing that they thought it must be a movie production and therefore hadn’t immediately reacted. I see a lot of similarities between ‘Hikikomori’ cases in Japan like this one and the recent stabbing of 10 people on a train here by Yusuke Tsushima, with the ‘Incel’ terrorist attacks by Elliot Rodger and others … similar frustrations, resentment and rage being expressed through cowardly and unjustified attacks on innocent people.
Incel terrorist attacks are mostly committed by narcissistic assholes. Hikkimori, call them that if you will, are severely mentally ill. Sorry but poor comparison. Eliot Rodgers wanted a model gf and got pissed he couldnt find one instead of lowering his unrealistic standards. look at the root of Hikkimori violence one, it is so rare and a lot of it comes from severe mental disorders that have gone untreated for years.
@@rajs7876 Hi, i don't think it was a inappropriate comparison. I think there is a large intersection between hikikomoris and incels.
Another point is that, even if we consider that all incels who carry out terrorist attacks have narcissistic motivations, is important to remember that narcissism can be a personality disorder.
"If I had a penny for every time I thought fondly of this country, I'd be rich."
Love that line.
So much pressure put on one person. Until he couldn't bottle in the emotions anymore.
Letting him catch a break could have avoided all this stuff. But sadly, adult life doesn't falter for anyone.
"Nobody owes you love, mate."
It's annoying for regular people. But to guys like Kato: It becomes another chapter in the abuse.
You never know what someone is going through. A simple act of kindness...a smile, can make a difference.
It's always so upsetting to see cases like this. I 100% think he was a product of his environment. He had no safe outlet to vent out his feelings, even online. If there was even just *one* person who showed him kindness or befriended him in his youth, I think things could have turned out differently.
It's astoundingly sad when parents don't care. I was injured in the army a few years ago, and while I was at Headley there were guys who'd been blown up by IEDs out in Afghan. I knew 4 whose parents disowned them the moment they lost legs/arms, reason being they'd be a burden. I dunno what happened after that, but all 4 became alcoholics while I knew them. Neuro patients (internal name for head/brain injuries) were kept separate but heard similar things about family abandoning them too.
Thank fuck I have the father I do. Man stuck by me and still does to this day. Can't imagine what I'd be like without him.
That's horrible. Feel for those people. Thank u for the comment.
That is absolutely tragic and disgusting that the parents have disowned their children after they have a medical tragedy and have served our country. Absolutely horrible.
Thank you for mentioning the name of the victims. It's sad that so many people die at the hands of killers and are never remembered meanwhile the killer's name gets all the attention (which usually tends to be the reason they even commit the crime).
Do you realize how all of this came to a full circle? At the end, his parents were punished for what they did to him. Unfortunately, it took too many lives.
I could not bring myself to sympathize with the mother; she's such a large contribution to how he reacted.. Granted he still acted on his own accord, her abuse and lack of care growing up shaped him and he was not in a position to better himself. The father isn't completely innocent either, but it's insane how adult parents don't realize how they treat their kids will IMPACT them heavily..
I see myself in this man a lot, I feel like I have been thrown away by society, I dont have any social contacts outside work, and don't seen myself doing anything else than living alone, wasting away in my 9-5, depression has eaten away at me for so long now, or atleast I think it is depression, I cant imagine anything else feeling like this, I just hope that I never snap like this man, because I don't want to hurt anyone, especially not close to me, I feel like I am stuck in a cage, and don't know how to escape. I don't know how long I can keep going on in this life
Instead of complaining, if you can just thank God for everything you have and do good things for people who are less fortunate than you then this realisation itself will take you out of your cocoon. Right now u have a job, proper education, can write good English, house and food. Self pity makes a person unhappy whereas being thankful for whatever you have makes you happy and a likeable person.
Please reach out for help. I know its hard when you feel so badly but fight for yourself. Medication can help a lot with depression tho it takes trial and error to find the right one at the right dose. A good therapist or group therapy helps a lot at getting you out of your head and seeing you are not alone. Only you can break the wheel you are running on, but YOU have to take the first step. I speak from experience. Rooting for you to take a step out of your pain.
I feel like this too. I'm 26 year old now. You have to take small steps. You have to try new things and break out. You have to push to pull yourself out of only working and being locked in the house.
I personally started going to the gym. For months I only used one machine and eventually moved to another one. Now I have a regular gym schedule. I also go to the mall alone. I usually go from on side of the mall to the other just to be around other people and not locked in my room alone all day. Or I make a online order, pick it up in person and quickly leave.
I also force myself to go for walks in the park during the day. Sunlight is good for you.
The way to break out is to push yourself to try something new. Order something from a coffee shop that you never gone to. Ask a person for directions (even though you can use Google maps). Walk through crowded places to get yourself used to being in public. Etc... You have to exercise your brain to new experiences. This is how you "wake up" from the bad depression, angry thoughs, and lack of reason to live.
@@bonitaberger3597 - What we don't know is if OP has the resources (not just financial, but also people nearby who can give them a hand) to get help. We can't assume that they're in a situation where they can get the help they need without risking too much of their present situation. We also don't know if OP's demographics has adequate mental health care as some places either lack adequate mental health care due to distance and/or cost, or lack it because of their culture and stance on those needing adequate mental health care.
@@Nivi.K - That's insensitive to say that to OP. You don't know what they went through in the past or what they're going through now. There are loads of variables that OP could be experiencing that we don't know, and we shouldn't be assuming things we don't know. This video could have very well let OP know that there those like them and could have inspired them to make the change. Mental health is frowned on by loads of cultures for one reason or another. Some places lack adequate mental health care because of either distance, financial cost, culture in OP's vicinity and elsewhere in the world, stance on mental health care, a combination of any of the aforementioned or all of the above.
Very sad tragedy for all the victims, the young man and all their families. We don't have children to push them to the top of the tree, they have to climb it for themselves. Thanks for the upload.
This entire thing made me sad for literally everyone. I was even sad for for him. Unusual since I know we have to make our own decisions regardless of our past, I still felt very sad for him.
Being very antisocial myself I can understand the feeling of just wanting a friend or girlfriend, to have someone you can happily talk to and even though I may rarely talk to people I do whatever I can to be a friend to everyone I meet because you never know who may need a hand to pick them up off the ground.
So much truth in what you say. I doubt a friend or companion would of solved Tomohiro Kato problems. He would have likely taken them down as well. His scars are much deeper and could only be healed by a professional. This is why it is not recommended to self diagnose or self help when you have mental issues. He self diagnosed which ended in tragedy for himself and others. He diagnosed that all he needed was a friend or companion but he needed way more to heal himself.
@@zeeksthegoblin7564 True, it’s possible that him having a friend/girlfriend may have done nothing to stop this from happening but it’s amazing what a single person can do. I believe no wound is to deep if you genuinely take the time and effort to heal it. Like a meteor heading towards Earth would need only a slight nudge to push it on a new path that avoids a collision.
It's a damn shame. He probably could've been a great mangaka (manga artist). I saw more of his art that he did while in prison.Unfortunately, his parents had very high expectations of him and probably wouldn't have liked this kind of career choice.
Never understood why so many parents feel it's their place to make all the life choices for their children.
It must be incredibly hard to live with the shame of a loved one committing such a crime in a society that values honour so highly.
I respect you for doing cases from all over the world.
I love the social commentary you add, the stories are so haunting and the way you build the story makes it come alive.
I used to think positively about Japan, but nowadays i think it is an unhealthy society. Bullying, treatment of women, overwork, no individuality and superficiality.
Yes same. Every culture and society have their hang ups and messed up stupid shit.
Yes I agree, I love Japan, but i think is hell living there, I would only vacation, is beautiful but far from the dream land some people imagine
Don’t forget how they treat the developmentally disabled. They even shun the families to the point where the families of these individuals stash them in group homes and forget about them.
Welcome to asia my friend
Honestly would not even want to live there after hearing all of the terrible things that people go through. Mental health is so bad there.
Having lived in Japan for three years growing up, I seem to have a special affinity for the Japanese people. Every one of these stories taking place in Japan have made me want to cry. Everyone else has already stated how I feel about the irresponsible and abusive parents, all of my sympathy is towards the victims and their loved ones, including the brother Yuji who took his own life. Heartbreaking story.