They are really good parents. The recognized something was wrong and now they are trying to fix it. I hope they don’t feel a lot of guilt because they are doing their best.
She's too hard on herself. He's a happy, healthy boy. Just a little slow to speak. That's ok and can be corrected. She can't blame herself for just wanting to love her son and take care of him well.
True. At 1st i find her a bit irritated cause she always raise her voice to her husband who so soft spoke & also to her son but i realised it's her personality. She's a tough woman who don't show the love easily. She's a girl crush who can be sweet at time like this
I don't think so , every parents going through this part I think. Well I also have speech delay but its not 💯 the parents fault. More, ian is their first child, first experience handling a child.
@@syeetahz Definitely not. My sis has speech delay, but through a lot of help and training, she managed to reduce the effects of it greatly. It's not the parents' fault at all; sometimes it's just ingrained in the child
I beg to differ. She explained herself and altho I didnt have the same situation, i understood her and cried. Child rearing is tough when you do it yourself 24/7 especially as a new parent. It was tough for me when it was just me and my son while my husband is at work during the second month after he was born. I found myself on the couch sobbing as he was crying in his crib. That is in no comparison to her situation.
I had my daughter when I was a graduate student and she was just like him. Me and my husband were both busy with study and work on campus.We put her in daycare and she started to speak and play with other kids. Today she is a first year college student attending one of the top five universities in America. I want to tell them it is ok to start a little behind and as long as you support and start making the right moves your son will be as successful as any other kids speaking and reading at 2 years old. Cheer up and fighting 👍👍👍
My little brother was adopted and had a very major speech impediment when he was first brought home. With a lot of love, patience and professional help, he now does well in school and is able to communicate with other kids his age. The fact that they acted so fast and found something amiss so quickly, you could tell they are good and reliable parents. So I wish them and their son nothing but love and luck. It might feel like a lot right now, but when they see their son improve little by little similar to what I saw in my brother, their hard work and dedication will be worth it
You did a great job raising him. Please don't worry... There are mothers who had done wonders after they found out what was wrong with their children...your new to raising a child by yourself without any elders supervision...it's okay and stay healthy and hopeful. Much love to you both...Ian will grow up to be a great healthy man with both of you as parents💜🙆🏻♀️
She should actually go easy on her self my baby girl was like that untill she turned two she's seven now and she some times talk like an adult. Don't worry he's going to come around.
My nephew is the same. My mom cried so much after the doctor's visit. Cheer up! After my nephew received speech and occupational therapy for more than a year now, he's been changing and is now responsive to people. He's been interacting a lot now. It's gonna be a long road but it isn't impossible. He'll be okay soon 😊 Fighting! 😇
My son went through what we called in the here in America Early intervention. Speexh classes, occupational therapy. At 26 months he only had less than 10 words in his vocabulary. Now he is 7 and in first grade he reads at a 2nd grade level and its doing wonderful. So dont worry and just get the help that he needs.
My brother didn't start speaking well till he was 3 and he still likes spending his time with himself more even now. Fast-forward today he's always praised on his speech and debating skills in economics and languages. There's nothing to be too worried about especially after finding a way to handle the situation better
When my sister was a baby the doctor said that she would grow up with a learning disability or some kind of disability turns out she became pretty smart and observant she learned quickly without a disability. Parenting is hard you must do your best to learn to parent well and be patient.
U need to learn that learning disabilities doesnt mean that they are stupid or dumb. But yeah kinda weird people do used that label. But as someone who get that title because of me being autism I would say i am above average IQ than normal human being. Disability always given away because of differences!
My son was the same... It's ok, now they just have to do it better, since they have better knowledge, treatment and information.... Nobody to blame. We're just human.
Also its their only experiences in life, as they live theirs, its not like theyve lived life b4. And its not like theyve parented many kids. Its their 1st one. And im sure shes done her best. And it will work out as the child grows up
I am currently pursuing a career in speech-language pathology and I'm glad that the parents reached out in response to their concerns. Some children need that extra support for their language development and speech therapy, especially starting at a young age, can make such a difference. Mom and dad can also learn strategies from the therapist to use at home in order to help grow his language. Ian has such caring parents and he'll be able to talk in no time with the right supports. Cheering for this family!
Being mom is not easy at all Being mom,should give all of our life. Being mom didnt same when we are young and alone. Our child need our attention,we cant play game,play handphone all the time. We cant sleep as much as we want. 0-12 years are children prime time we should give our love and attention. We need talking so much and tell everythings for our children because everythings New for them. Hang in there....i hope her husband will support her and help her too. Enjoy your time with your children dear.
My daughter was same..she understood everything but refused to use words I use to believe she would talk later some children are talking late. But when she was like 3half age I started being worried Now she's 5age 9months and after receiving speech and language therapy she's very good
He'll be fine. As long as there is someone you can talk to for guidance like that lady. Kids learn faster at these early years of life. Parenting doesn't come with a manual. As long as your not le differences, it is all a learning process for everyone as new parents.
Sometimes kids need help and that’s 100% okay. My son doesn’t speak at all, and is that because he can’t? No he doesn’t want to so he doesn’t. Sometimes it just takes a bit longer and therapy can help that. ❤️ Nothing is wrong with the way they parented. I read to him, play with him, sing with him, and he just doesn’t want to talk. It’s actually more normal than most people think.
The same with my son, the house,family and friends revolved around him, so he had no need to speak he was 3 years old and he did not speak at all they told us to take him to a doctor because It was not normal that he did not communicate, we did not take him, then he went to kindergarten and in 1 week he spoke perfect, there he found himself in need of talking and seeing other children talking he did the same, as the doctor said, it is a matter of improving certain aspects but it is not something that has no solution, my advice take him to daycare or kindergarten, even for a few hours, the change will be almost Automatic and you will see progress in other areas as well, my son is now 21 and is a happy medical student , fighting 💜💜💜
(TRIGGER WARNING: Mention of December 18th, also to clarify, I am not saying that Autism is a mental illness, but that Autism is under a big umbrella of Korean “Taboo” topics) I actually am not. In Korea, those things along with mental health disorders and learning disabilities often go undiagnosed due to the fact that they are considered “taboo”. I do admit that the korean government has started to pay attention to mental health since and just a little over a course of 3 years, 3 idols died from suicide (tomorrow will be the 3rd anniversary of when Jonghyun of SHINee passed).
@@veeenaaa3455 some kids with autism seek out noises. I agree we saw moments of the assessment and for good reason. It may be to early to know any of this for certain. They are getting better but it’s not like there is a blood test or scan where it’s clear the diagnosis. The parents identified a possible problem and sought a profession and not just the internet or their neighbors advice. Well done. Good luck to them all.
@@veeenaaa3455 correction. Autism is a spectrum which is huge. I am autism myself, and just recently discovered it at the age of 26. Which I make eye contact, even went to normal school, graduatee and stuff, etc. If u can see the most alarming part is that he doesn't respond to his parents calling for his name. Even how he built the block. Thats just how out brain work..
I wish them lots of blessings and support. As a couple you need support from each other but also your family support is crucial also. The methods they will learn to help him should be shown to everyone who has the most interaction with ian outside of mom and dad. Having this help now a days is a huge help. My son is actually going through the same thing as ian, it can be stressful and very heartbreaking as you blame yourself(my husband and I know exactly how they feel). I started to notice things because I already work in the medical field. So glad he's in therapy and getting better. Ian will do great!!! I know he will!!!
I already heard it so often that the wives had to take care of the child/children alone because the father would become cold or didn’t cared for them, then the father says I’m sorry, I’m regretful and then the people who make comments don’t know their names in the background start to defend him saying ah he must feel sorry, he had it hard like they feel more sorry for the father than the mother
I was like that as a child. I constantly babbled words but my parents had no idea which language I was speaking. It didn’t sound like English or Spanish. I was very social in school and with my family but I just couldn’t process any comprehensible words. I was about 5 years old when I started to speak properly. Sometimes it just takes a while to process words. Now I talk nonstop so there is nothing wrong🤷♀️
The husband speaks softly, but inside he's probably tougher than most guys who are boisterous...refusing to say he's cutting down on sleep and keeps a smile
she's busy at home like most mums. she runs around cleaning, cooking, tidying up, making sure everything is where it is etc. She doesnt always have the time for Ian but she makes time when she can for him. Dad is always working and either comes home late, or tired and needs a nap before dealing with his son. like the psychiatrist said, he's learned to enjoy plsying alone. it's one clip that you're judging. There are MANY many moments off camera you don't see. She most likely spends a lot more time with him than what we see, so don't say "They don't play with him much." when you've only seen a clip or two.
@@ViaH__ yeah, but he's used to playing alone cuz most of the time he is alone. So in the end IT IS because they don't play ENOUGH with him. You say 'busy like other moms', but it's not like they all struggle to get their kids talking. You sound very defensive. It is not like I'm saying they are shit parents, it just comes down to them being inexperienced which is totally normal.
@@nicolekyoko5585 It doesn't change a lot to me🤦🏽♀️😂. I was just saying that it was easy to misunderstand your comment and take it as rude even if it's not.
Every child is different...each have their own time to progress and grow...pls do not be hard on yourself.....this is a journey that the parents and child have to adjust to each other...also each family is different...pls do not be discouraged....
My little nephew didn’t say much when he was little, but he was intelligent enough, someone had written number 2 on a fence but it was upside down and he knew what it was ....he soon pick up on his speech and is a big strapping lad of 25...
I personally would not feel comfortable letting the whole world about my partner health problems as i do not feel comfortable. Sometimes television company need to work on privacy and confidentiality at times. All the best though x
I think the point of shows like these is for parents who go through things like this. It’s I guess to let people know that they aren’t alone, and of course people will shame them because, people are cruel so I get your point.
I had the same thing happened to me when my son was little, don’t buy into what that doctor tells you, my son turned out to be a chemis and a physicist , smarter than the doctor that told me , that my son is slow. Every human being have their on momentum, just love your son to the fullest and you and tour husband will be fine.
That's why sometimes we should realize that being a parent isn't easy at all because at a certain point you have to give up something to take care of your family
My told me that my older brother started talking only at the age of 5 and i started talking almost fluently at 2 and now my brother speaks more than i do.He didn't get any treatment
Don't beat yourself up too much. Every kid is different, some are fast learners and some are slow. You did the right thing seeking help. My daughter and son have speech difficulties and both receive therapy. Get you're sons ears checked out as well. Best of luck
The old comments are rude! Their child aren't even 2 years old yet. Human are different so their are different approach on everybody. Those heartless people saying it's their fault, you are soooooooooooooo perfect. Very very perfect to judge them, things like this happen mostly. Duh, learn science. They should get second opinion!
There is no blaming to be done. Both parents worked their hardest for him. Him speaking is not as big of a deal as they're making it. It's easily fixable with speech lessons and day care sessions. It's a matter of having Ian learn how to communicate whilst playing. He simply enjoys playing alone, so he needs to be brought out of that shell and helped to interact with kids that are similar in age, and have similar interests.
These things have nothing to do with parenting. I hope they know that and it’s just the producer’s captions are goofy. They just happen. And parent’s manage.
Don't worry much about it, I was 4 years old when I first started speaking and during that I can only speak like gibberish style of taking such as mis-mis (biscuit) am-am (rice)bi (water) but when I was in kindergarten i made friends and I started talking now my mom hates me cause I'm too loud. Maybe he just needs some friends too
I got a similar diagnosis to Ian (I even share the same name as him!) around when I was his age. Ian is lucky to have good parents. Mine were good too, but they were not at that level of patience. Also, Ji Hoon, please don't yell at your son in the future, even if you don't do it now (SPEAKING FROM EXPERIENCE). I'm three or so years late, but Ian will be fine.
i have a son and he is now 9years old. he start to talk or say atleast two words when he is already 5years old😌 im so worried about him that time i thought he never speak or talk any anymore but when he started to go to school he start to try talking. until now he can't say whatever he wants in perfect sentence but atleast he can speak a little 😌 ( diagnosed of ADHD/GPD)
As a first time parent and who did most of the parenting, i don't blame her for not knowing her method was not right. Its very hard to be a full time parent and also be in charge of the household. As her husband was working he couldn't be there as much as he probably wanted to. I am sure that now they have been advised otherwise, they will rectify their mistake amd take steps to encourage their beautiful boy to interact with them and others more. Wishing them good luck ✊✌
some kids have learn delay they learn slower than others kids, my son its epileptic and has learning delay every time he has one seizure he forgets something it could be temporary or something that hell need to learn again, its very sad and hard i know how she feels its horrible, we just got discharged on friday and he's not eating properly it very sad because he alway liked to eat.
I think they should get a second opinion. The kid is not even 2 yet. I feel so bad for them. They really love that child and tried their best to raise him. He looks like he is a very happy child; just need time to learn.
I’m actually a bit surprised that he is only 20 months old and the parent is already expecting him to interact at a level of someone older than him, but I guess the dad compared him to other kids around his age and realized that his kid is slower. I think comparing your kids to other kids is the worst thing to do but very understandable. I have a 23 month old that speaks a few words and it’s hard to not compare her to other kids. At times I do feel that I need to put her in speech therapy, early intervention is not a bad thing.
The dramatic music is really blowing the out of proportion. The kid doesn’t talk because his mother is attentive, and gives him what he wants/need without him asking. He’s also the kid of two celebrities, so he’s lacking socialization for his safety. They need to be a little more hands off with his feeding and playing and let him come to them, and he needs some friends. All of these are fixable problems that really aren’t their fault.
There are women that are maternal and materially meant to produce babies and love n live with them showing how to be the perfect housewife and mother. However in this case she isn't... but that doesn't make her a bad mother... shes an excellent mother but she prefers to work instead... as long as Ian loves and respects his mum then he will grow into a loving young man and who will respect women. She mustn't give up on him... but she also mustn't let Ian behave badly towards her either. X
Bruh, it really isn't that big of a deal 💀some kids go faster, some slower, at the end, they all end up talking and developing just good, years ago no one even took this kind of test and they turned up just fine
We have more kids in speech therapy now more than ever. I see a lot of parents use an iPad or cell phones as forms of keeping their kids quiet wherever. Converse with your child. Read to your child. Put away the gadgets. I also think a hearing test must be done and a full medical evaluation. Hope that was all done already.
I hope the producer of this has a consequence for the way this has been received by the public. All kinds of wrong in the comments. For lack of a better word Bad Karma to the commenters. I hope updates stop suggesting people are to be faulted for medical issues.
I don’t want to be insensitive but it’s clear that they didn’t talk to the child enough.The doctor said it herself. Also it came out the father didn’t care for the child a long time, so of course he don’t even know how to interact with him. The mother seems also lost as she had to do everything by herself and she just gave the child everything without giving the child a chance to try to express what he wants
I know they have to learn and they will get better but this is a co consequence of them not giving enough attention. It’s not a medical thing. The doctor said it clearly that the problem is the parents not talking to the child enough
@@zsofiabacsalmasi2511 you are misunderstanding culture. When a child is in a predicament of sorts the parents show up an apologize for not raising their child well. For example a case that made international news. Korean Air executive (daughter) had a fit in plane and was gosh awful by American standards to flight crew ordering the pilot to return to the gate and sent one of the staff off the plane in NYC of all places. Some on tape. I don’t know where homeland security was after 9/11 and the 80’s hijackings American’s are rightfully a bit sensitive. Then there was allegation company people went to threaten and bribe family. Big mess. The Korean public was outraged. She was convicted in Korea of part of what she did and of course as typical of the justice system it was overturned. But her father came out and publicly apologized for not raising her well. Basically they are taking the blame publicly cause it’s is just reflex to do so. My child is sick, it’s my fault. My child did something, it’s my fault. It’s also a measure of hope. If I change, which is easy, all will be well. From western standards it’s hard to find fault with a couple of new parents following through getting a developmental assessment after noticing or being told there might be a delay by another before the age range of 3-5. This child turned 2 last month in the western age system.
I’m sorry but I don’t understand quite well how this should explain why it isn’t the parents fault that they didn’t give the attention the child needed. Yes I know mostly parents will take the blame because it’s their children but i think it’s quite clear why the parents are at fault and it isn’t an illness or medical situation. It’s just that the parents didn’t communicated with their child enough so that he can mimic, copy the speaking. The mother said herself she just gave the child everything without even waiting for a request form the child or try to make the child say what he wants. This is not taking the blame but admitting what she did wrong
I have four children nd all were brought up differently oldest very grown up independent 2nd child not ,my 3 rd was a boy very lazy never spoke until he was 4 then you couldn’t shut him up my last child premature nd so smart independent from a early age so the 3 girls independent but my doctor specialist etc said boys are naturally lazy nd I shouldn’t worry much
Things like that normally happens. As we all know, each person have different capacities and IQ . Kids development isn't similar. I have a cousin and he is 2 now, we always play with him and try to teach him things like singing the Alphabet song or helping him to say words. But still he doesn't do as we say or speak that much, just blabber.
I know it’s not easy as a parent but if you just don’t give the attention for the child it needs it will have consequences. It’s obvious you have to speak to the child otherwise it won’t learn how to speak. It’s not like we grow up having the ability to speak. We have to learn it from the environment. If the parents don’t speak to him and can’t give him the attention and care he needs the child will be an introverted child and don’t want to speak to people because it will feel more comfortable staying silent
@@camillaa_ek Not entirely. To insinuate that this all happened because his parents didn't give him attention or care is a reach. Based off what we've seen, they weren't negligent. They were just using the wrong method :)
Sorry but by saying it’s not their fault, it’s not quite right. They didn’t cared for him well enough so of course it’s their fault. it came out that the Father didn’t even cared for him for a long time and the mother was alone.
Exactly. She’s home all day and cannot spare the time to read on some books or learn about childrearing. Its all just whether you care enough about your child well being and growth. I read about late speech and what could be the cause way before i give birth to my kid. I got it from artcles on babycenter.
Exactly. I’m sure it’s hard because she can’t continue with modeling and can’t do what she wants and the father is working but they have a child who they have to care for. I wish the doctor would have told them a bit more honestly, strict that they should have cared for him more.
Easy, they are new parents. Be easy on them, it should be enough that they feel bad. They truly care for their child, it's not bad to make mistake as long as you learn on it and they learn on it. After all, their are children that is really like that but it can overcome through years. It's human anatomy so it's crazy.
It is their fault let’s be honest since it was only the mum raising him so she should have to carry all the emotional burdens but what matters is how they can improve themselves and just do their best for their child
@@wa6342 because mothers ARE the main parent to baby-toddlers. Unless the wife works and the husband do not. Even if both worked, at least the mothers will get a leave from the company, unless you live in sweden or finland which they have a father leave for months too, if not then i dont see why my opinion is a problem.
@@gigglegagaing5 you must be really delusional if you think in countries like japan and korea it's easy to take a leave. You think a mother should take a leave from a company just to read some books a task which can be divided easily?Mothers through out history have been care givers just because they didn't "work" and had no choice but to take household responsibilities,but in modern times usually both work so their is no need to dump emotional labor ALL on women.
@@wa6342 no, i’m not delusional. I am a mother and i work full time. I think you are delusional to think that you need a leave from work to read on books. I read articles and books, watch videos and downloaded apps, all while i’m on the way to and from work, on my lunch breaks, even when i do my business in the bathroom, when i waited for my obgyn doctor, and actually on my SPARE time. You do know you can squeeze some readings in if you wanted to, it definitely doesnt take a month of leave from work. In fact i am still working, and so does my husband. We work the same hours and divide housework and childcare, but you still cannot deny the fact that most children, esp in their baby to toddler period, that the mother is the more dominant parent because you spent more time with them AT LEAST when you are breastfeeding and we do get a MATERNITY LEAVE. Now, i dont know how long you get in japan, but in my country i get 3 months paid maternity leave. Do you work on saturdays in Japan?? Because i do and i also got church and in laws visits on sundays, but i still managed to educate myself before and after my child is born. So for her (the woman in the video) to be a full time housewife, i dont see why she doesnt have the time to put in some efforts in terms of educating herself about having a kid, esp he is her firstborn. FYI, if you have not seen the complete episode, she stopped working when she got pregnant. So obviously she got MONTHS before delivering the baby to at least educate herself. Put in some efforts is all i’m saying.
Are you seriously suggesting to Korean parent’s they should do educated efforts. The land of cram school since kdg, private tutors, rented study rooms... They are actually educating the public on this and that is helpful to so many parents there.
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They are really good parents. The recognized something was wrong and now they are trying to fix it. I hope they don’t feel a lot of guilt because they are doing their best.
She's too hard on herself. He's a happy, healthy boy. Just a little slow to speak. That's ok and can be corrected. She can't blame herself for just wanting to love her son and take care of him well.
I feel like this program is making the mother look bad but she actually is the sweetest person
True. At 1st i find her a bit irritated cause she always raise her voice to her husband who so soft spoke & also to her son but i realised it's her personality. She's a tough woman who don't show the love easily. She's a girl crush who can be sweet at time like this
I don't think so , every parents going through this part I think. Well I also have speech delay but its not 💯 the parents fault. More, ian is their first child, first experience handling a child.
@@syeetahz Definitely not. My sis has speech delay, but through a lot of help and training, she managed to reduce the effects of it greatly. It's not the parents' fault at all; sometimes it's just ingrained in the child
I beg to differ. She explained herself and altho I didnt have the same situation, i understood her and cried. Child rearing is tough when you do it yourself 24/7 especially as a new parent. It was tough for me when it was just me and my son while my husband is at work during the second month after he was born. I found myself on the couch sobbing as he was crying in his crib. That is in no comparison to her situation.
I had my daughter when I was a graduate student and she was just like him. Me and my husband were both busy with study and work on campus.We put her in daycare and she started to speak and play with other kids. Today she is a first year college student attending one of the top five universities in America. I want to tell them it is ok to start a little behind and as long as you support and start making the right moves your son will be as successful as any other kids speaking and reading at 2 years old. Cheer up and fighting 👍👍👍
This couple is the most realistic pair and has the most realistic story to share.
I think we can all see how much love this family has for each other good luck guys we’re rooting for u
My little brother was adopted and had a very major speech impediment when he was first brought home. With a lot of love, patience and professional help, he now does well in school and is able to communicate with other kids his age. The fact that they acted so fast and found something amiss so quickly, you could tell they are good and reliable parents. So I wish them and their son nothing but love and luck. It might feel like a lot right now, but when they see their son improve little by little similar to what I saw in my brother, their hard work and dedication will be worth it
You did a great job raising him. Please don't worry... There are mothers who had done wonders after they found out what was wrong with their children...your new to raising a child by yourself without any elders supervision...it's okay and stay healthy and hopeful. Much love to you both...Ian will grow up to be a great healthy man with both of you as parents💜🙆🏻♀️
She should actually go easy on her self my baby girl was like that untill she turned two she's seven now and she some times talk like an adult.
Don't worry he's going to come around.
My nephew is the same. My mom cried so much after the doctor's visit. Cheer up! After my nephew received speech and occupational therapy for more than a year now, he's been changing and is now responsive to people. He's been interacting a lot now. It's gonna be a long road but it isn't impossible. He'll be okay soon 😊 Fighting! 😇
My son went through what we called in the here in America Early intervention. Speexh classes, occupational therapy. At 26 months he only had less than 10 words in his vocabulary. Now he is 7 and in first grade he reads at a 2nd grade level and its doing wonderful. So dont worry and just get the help that he needs.
My brother didn't start speaking well till he was 3 and he still likes spending his time with himself more even now. Fast-forward today he's always praised on his speech and debating skills in economics and languages. There's nothing to be too worried about especially after finding a way to handle the situation better
When my sister was a baby the doctor said that she would grow up with a learning disability or some kind of disability turns out she became pretty smart and observant she learned quickly without a disability. Parenting is hard you must do your best to learn to parent well and be patient.
U need to learn that learning disabilities doesnt mean that they are stupid or dumb. But yeah kinda weird people do used that label. But as someone who get that title because of me being autism I would say i am above average IQ than normal human being. Disability always given away because of differences!
My son was the same... It's ok, now they just have to do it better, since they have better knowledge, treatment and information.... Nobody to blame. We're just human.
Also its their only experiences in life, as they live theirs, its not like theyve lived life b4. And its not like theyve parented many kids. Its their 1st one. And im sure shes done her best. And it will work out as the child grows up
I am currently pursuing a career in speech-language pathology and I'm glad that the parents reached out in response to their concerns. Some children need that extra support for their language development and speech therapy, especially starting at a young age, can make such a difference. Mom and dad can also learn strategies from the therapist to use at home in order to help grow his language. Ian has such caring parents and he'll be able to talk in no time with the right supports. Cheering for this family!
Being mom is not easy at all
Being mom,should give all of our life.
Being mom didnt same when we are young and alone.
Our child need our attention,we cant play game,play handphone all the time.
We cant sleep as much as we want.
0-12 years are children prime time we should give our love and attention.
We need talking so much and tell everythings for our children because everythings New for them.
Hang in there....i hope her husband will support her and help her too.
Enjoy your time with your children dear.
well said
@@rodreckmagobola5802 because i am Mom too...so i know how she feel....i am married at young age 25 years old.
That's what a couple signs up for. Talking care of a child is not easy.
it's okay making mistakes and you're really a great parent for knowleging your mistakes
They’re honestly the sweetest people I know, I wish all the best for them💜
My daughter was same..she understood everything but refused to use words
I use to believe she would talk later some children are talking late.
But when she was like 3half age I started being worried
Now she's 5age 9months and after receiving speech and language therapy she's very good
It's not easy to parenting. Sometime our best to the child isn't best for the child. I am learning everyday also.
Stay strong. It's OK
He'll be fine. As long as there is someone you can talk to for guidance like that lady. Kids learn faster at these early years of life. Parenting doesn't come with a manual. As long as your not le differences, it is all a learning process for everyone as new parents.
Sometimes kids need help and that’s 100% okay. My son doesn’t speak at all, and is that because he can’t? No he doesn’t want to so he doesn’t. Sometimes it just takes a bit longer and therapy can help that. ❤️ Nothing is wrong with the way they parented. I read to him, play with him, sing with him, and he just doesn’t want to talk. It’s actually more normal than most people think.
The same with my son, the house,family and friends revolved around him, so he had no need to speak he was 3 years old and he did not speak at all they told us to take him to a doctor because It was not normal that he did not communicate, we did not take him, then he went to kindergarten and in 1 week he spoke perfect, there he found himself in need of talking and seeing other children talking he did the same, as the doctor said, it is a matter of improving certain aspects but it is not something that has no solution, my advice take him to daycare or kindergarten, even for a few hours, the change will be almost Automatic and you will see progress in other areas as well, my son is now 21 and is a happy medical student , fighting 💜💜💜
I'm surprised she didn't mention hearing test and autism screening. My son has Asbergers.
(TRIGGER WARNING: Mention of December 18th, also to clarify, I am not saying that Autism is a mental illness, but that Autism is under a big umbrella of Korean “Taboo” topics)
I actually am not. In Korea, those things along with mental health disorders and learning disabilities often go undiagnosed due to the fact that they are considered “taboo”. I do admit that the korean government has started to pay attention to mental health since and just a little over a course of 3 years, 3 idols died from suicide (tomorrow will be the 3rd anniversary of when Jonghyun of SHINee passed).
@@veeenaaa3455 that could be it
Maybe they did just didn’t show it on screen
@@veeenaaa3455 some kids with autism seek out noises. I agree we saw moments of the assessment and for good reason. It may be to early to know any of this for certain. They are getting better but it’s not like there is a blood test or scan where it’s clear the diagnosis. The parents identified a possible problem and sought a profession and not just the internet or their neighbors advice. Well done. Good luck to them all.
@@veeenaaa3455 correction. Autism is a spectrum which is huge. I am autism myself, and just recently discovered it at the age of 26. Which I make eye contact, even went to normal school, graduatee and stuff, etc. If u can see the most alarming part is that he doesn't respond to his parents calling for his name. Even how he built the block. Thats just how out brain work..
I wish them lots of blessings and support. As a couple you need support from each other but also your family support is crucial also. The methods they will learn to help him should be shown to everyone who has the most interaction with ian outside of mom and dad. Having this help now a days is a huge help. My son is actually going through the same thing as ian, it can be stressful and very heartbreaking as you blame yourself(my husband and I know exactly how they feel). I started to notice things because I already work in the medical field. So glad he's in therapy and getting better. Ian will do great!!! I know he will!!!
I already heard it so often that the wives had to take care of the child/children alone because the father would become cold or didn’t cared for them, then the father says I’m sorry, I’m regretful and then the people who make comments don’t know their names in the background start to defend him saying ah he must feel sorry, he had it hard like they feel more sorry for the father than the mother
My cousin is almost 4 and he can only say basic things like: dad mom hello bye... 😟
You should look after your cousin more
His parents should interact with him more or sing nursery songs. I did that with my little sister and it helps
I was like that as a child. I constantly babbled words but my parents had no idea which language I was speaking. It didn’t sound like English or Spanish. I was very social in school and with my family but I just couldn’t process any comprehensible words. I was about 5 years old when I started to speak properly. Sometimes it just takes a while to process words. Now I talk nonstop so there is nothing wrong🤷♀️
My son is almost 5. Still cant speak well. But there is an improvement that makes me very shock, my son is bilingual. Everychild is different.
Life fact don't try so hard to be perfect just do a good job
Everything will be okay. Stay strong and don't think of giving up, you both can do it.
The husband speaks softly, but inside he's probably tougher than most guys who are boisterous...refusing to say he's cutting down on sleep and keeps a smile
The thing is, they don't play with the kid that much. In each clip I see, the kid is just sitting or running around by himself.
she's busy at home like most mums. she runs around cleaning, cooking, tidying up, making sure everything is where it is etc. She doesnt always have the time for Ian but she makes time when she can for him. Dad is always working and either comes home late, or tired and needs a nap before dealing with his son. like the psychiatrist said, he's learned to enjoy plsying alone. it's one clip that you're judging. There are MANY many moments off camera you don't see. She most likely spends a lot more time with him than what we see, so don't say "They don't play with him much." when you've only seen a clip or two.
@@ViaH__ yeah, but he's used to playing alone cuz most of the time he is alone. So in the end IT IS because they don't play ENOUGH with him. You say 'busy like other moms', but it's not like they all struggle to get their kids talking.
You sound very defensive. It is not like I'm saying they are shit parents, it just comes down to them being inexperienced which is totally normal.
@@nicolekyoko5585 but you give that impression
@@mariabinate3620 it's how you want to perceive it. I just gave my opinion. If you can't read it objectively then it's not on me.
@@nicolekyoko5585 It doesn't change a lot to me🤦🏽♀️😂. I was just saying that it was easy to misunderstand your comment and take it as rude even if it's not.
Every child is different...each have their own time to progress and grow...pls do not be hard on yourself.....this is a journey that the parents and child have to adjust to each other...also each family is different...pls do not be discouraged....
My little nephew didn’t say much when he was little, but he was intelligent enough, someone had written number 2 on a fence but it was upside down and he knew what it was ....he soon pick up on his speech and is a big strapping lad of 25...
I personally would not feel comfortable letting the whole world about my partner health problems as i do not feel comfortable. Sometimes television company need to work on privacy and confidentiality at times.
All the best though x
I think the point of shows like these is for parents who go through things like this. It’s I guess to let people know that they aren’t alone, and of course people will shame them because, people are cruel so I get your point.
they choose if they want these to air or not for privacy reasons. this was the couple’s choice.
I had the same thing happened to me when my son was little, don’t buy into what that doctor tells you, my son turned out to be a chemis and a physicist , smarter than the doctor that told me , that my son is slow. Every human being have their on momentum, just love your son to the fullest and you and tour husband will be fine.
That's why sometimes we should realize that being a parent isn't easy at all because at a certain point you have to give up something to take care of your family
My told me that my older brother started talking only at the age of 5 and i started talking almost fluently at 2 and now my brother speaks more than i do.He didn't get any treatment
bahagia sampai kakek nenek sehat selalu ian eunhye jihoon shi 😍😍😍😍😍
It’s okay you both are great parents, I didn’t start talking until I was 4-5 years old my parents would say they were worried for me also.
Oh sweetheart all wives and new mums feel like this.
Don't beat yourself up too much. Every kid is different, some are fast learners and some are slow. You did the right thing seeking help. My daughter and son have speech difficulties and both receive therapy. Get you're sons ears checked out as well. Best of luck
The old comments are rude! Their child aren't even 2 years old yet. Human are different so their are different approach on everybody. Those heartless people saying it's their fault, you are soooooooooooooo perfect. Very very perfect to judge them, things like this happen mostly. Duh, learn science. They should get second opinion!
The parents both shoulder blame but now they realize the severity and can work together and with the specialists.
There is no blaming to be done. Both parents worked their hardest for him. Him speaking is not as big of a deal as they're making it. It's easily fixable with speech lessons and day care sessions. It's a matter of having Ian learn how to communicate whilst playing. He simply enjoys playing alone, so he needs to be brought out of that shell and helped to interact with kids that are similar in age, and have similar interests.
Don't worry jihoon and eunhye he will be ok,
These things have nothing to do with parenting. I hope they know that and it’s just the producer’s captions are goofy. They just happen. And parent’s manage.
Don't worry much about it, I was 4 years old when I first started speaking and during that I can only speak like gibberish style of taking such as mis-mis (biscuit) am-am (rice)bi (water) but when I was in kindergarten i made friends and I started talking now my mom hates me cause I'm too loud. Maybe he just needs some friends too
I got a similar diagnosis to Ian (I even share the same name as him!) around when I was his age.
Ian is lucky to have good parents. Mine were good too, but they were not at that level of patience. Also, Ji Hoon, please don't yell at your son in the future, even if you don't do it now (SPEAKING FROM EXPERIENCE). I'm three or so years late, but Ian will be fine.
i have a son and he is now 9years old. he start to talk or say atleast two words when he is already 5years old😌 im so worried about him that time i thought he never speak or talk any anymore but when he started to go to school he start to try talking. until now he can't say whatever he wants in perfect sentence but atleast he can speak a little 😌 ( diagnosed of ADHD/GPD)
My nephew started talking when he is 4yo..
As a first time parent and who did most of the parenting, i don't blame her for not knowing her method was not right. Its very hard to be a full time parent and also be in charge of the household. As her husband was working he couldn't be there as much as he probably wanted to. I am sure that now they have been advised otherwise, they will rectify their mistake amd take steps to encourage their beautiful boy to interact with them and others more. Wishing them good luck ✊✌
some kids have learn delay they learn slower than others kids, my son its epileptic and has learning delay every time he has one seizure he forgets something it could be temporary or something that hell need to learn again, its very sad and hard i know how she feels its horrible, we just got discharged on friday and he's not eating properly it very sad because he alway liked to eat.
Is not easy to race children... they both a lovely parent
I think they should get a second opinion. The kid is not even 2 yet. I feel so bad for them. They really love that child and tried their best to raise him. He looks like he is a very happy child; just need time to learn.
I agree with you, it's human anatomy so it's crazy.
Yo my brother couldn’t speak until 4 so calm down boys need little more time
right? lots of kids start speaking once they start preschool, but it's nice they took the child to the doctor when they thought something wasn't ok
@@AuroraaZaph yes True I like how they were worried and tried to help him I mean that just shows how much they care
I’m actually a bit surprised that he is only 20 months old and the parent is already expecting him to interact at a level of someone older than him, but I guess the dad compared him to other kids around his age and realized that his kid is slower. I think comparing your kids to other kids is the worst thing to do but very understandable. I have a 23 month old that speaks a few words and it’s hard to not compare her to other kids. At times I do feel that I need to put her in speech therapy, early intervention is not a bad thing.
Global developmental delay is very common nowadays! Fighting!
Where can I watch full episodes
The dramatic music is really blowing the out of proportion. The kid doesn’t talk because his mother is attentive, and gives him what he wants/need without him asking. He’s also the kid of two celebrities, so he’s lacking socialization for his safety. They need to be a little more hands off with his feeding and playing and let him come to them, and he needs some friends. All of these are fixable problems that really aren’t their fault.
My brother started talking when we was three and I don't really think it's about parenting
Times like this, I wonder if it’s better to live with in laws. The child would have more adults to play and interact with.
I think the best thing is to play with them some children starts speaking late
Wow, so sad to see so many women in the comments bashing the mother and placing all the 'blame' on her. Are we in 2021 or 1921???
Guys where can I watch this program and which episode is this? I tried finding it please help me anyone
I'm a single child
I know how much parents struggle
So don't fuckin blame them to be shit parents
They are trying their best
There are women that are maternal and materially meant to produce babies and love n live with them showing how to be the perfect housewife and mother. However in this case she isn't... but that doesn't make her a bad mother... shes an excellent mother but she prefers to work instead... as long as Ian loves and respects his mum then he will grow into a loving young man and who will respect women. She mustn't give up on him... but she also mustn't let Ian behave badly towards her either. X
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Bruh, it really isn't that big of a deal 💀some kids go faster, some slower, at the end, they all end up talking and developing just good, years ago no one even took this kind of test and they turned up just fine
Can I have context?
I don't think it's their fault at all. It happens. Some kids have a speech delay or trouble with pronouncing certain words.
Everyone is so judgy.
We have more kids in speech therapy now more than ever. I see a lot of parents use an iPad or cell phones as forms of keeping their kids quiet wherever. Converse with your child. Read to your child. Put away the gadgets. I also think a hearing test must be done and a full medical evaluation. Hope that was all done already.
No hearing test? 🤔🤔
I hope the producer of this has a consequence for the way this has been received by the public. All kinds of wrong in the comments. For lack of a better word Bad Karma to the commenters. I hope updates stop suggesting people are to be faulted for medical issues.
I don’t want to be insensitive but it’s clear that they didn’t talk to the child enough.The doctor said it herself. Also it came out the father didn’t care for the child a long time, so of course he don’t even know how to interact with him. The mother seems also lost as she had to do everything by herself and she just gave the child everything without giving the child a chance to try to express what he wants
I know they have to learn and they will get better but this is a co consequence of them not giving enough attention. It’s not a medical thing. The doctor said it clearly that the problem is the parents not talking to the child enough
@@zsofiabacsalmasi2511 you are misunderstanding culture. When a child is in a predicament of sorts the parents show up an apologize for not raising their child well. For example a case that made international news. Korean Air executive (daughter) had a fit in plane and was gosh awful by American standards to flight crew ordering the pilot to return to the gate and sent one of the staff off the plane in NYC of all places. Some on tape. I don’t know where homeland security was after 9/11 and the 80’s hijackings American’s are rightfully a bit sensitive. Then there was allegation company people went to threaten and bribe family. Big mess. The Korean public was outraged. She was convicted in Korea of part of what she did and of course as typical of the justice system it was overturned. But her father came out and publicly apologized for not raising her well. Basically they are taking the blame publicly cause it’s is just reflex to do so. My child is sick, it’s my fault. My child did something, it’s my fault. It’s also a measure of hope. If I change, which is easy, all will be well. From western standards it’s hard to find fault with a couple of new parents following through getting a developmental assessment after noticing or being told there might be a delay by another before the age range of 3-5. This child turned 2 last month in the western age system.
I’m sorry but I don’t understand quite well how this should explain why it isn’t the parents fault that they didn’t give the attention the child needed. Yes I know mostly parents will take the blame because it’s their children but i think it’s quite clear why the parents are at fault and it isn’t an illness or medical situation. It’s just that the parents didn’t communicated with their child enough so that he can mimic, copy the speaking. The mother said herself she just gave the child everything without even waiting for a request form the child or try to make the child say what he wants. This is not taking the blame but admitting what she did wrong
is this noh jihoon???
yess
I have four children nd all were brought up differently oldest very grown up independent 2nd child not ,my 3 rd was a boy very lazy never spoke until he was 4 then you couldn’t shut him up my last child premature nd so smart independent from a early age so the 3 girls independent but my doctor specialist etc said boys are naturally lazy nd I shouldn’t worry much
Sub indo,,,
They just don’t play with kids like if you were a kid yourself they are distant in a way that’s how I wouldn’t play with my child
Can yall explain to me, nuna deul? hyungdeul?
Things like that normally happens. As we all know, each person have different capacities and IQ . Kids development isn't similar. I have a cousin and he is 2 now, we always play with him and try to teach him things like singing the Alphabet song or helping him to say words. But still he doesn't do as we say or speak that much, just blabber.
Clearly they did not allow their child to watch COCOMELON. buy a Ipad and let him watch Cocomelon and you would be amaze.
I know it’s not easy as a parent but if you just don’t give the attention for the child it needs it will have consequences. It’s obvious you have to speak to the child otherwise it won’t learn how to speak. It’s not like we grow up having the ability to speak. We have to learn it from the environment. If the parents don’t speak to him and can’t give him the attention and care he needs the child will be an introverted child and don’t want to speak to people because it will feel more comfortable staying silent
Are you even a parent?
@@svt3903 they're right though, what are you implying?
@@camillaa_ek Not entirely. To insinuate that this all happened because his parents didn't give him attention or care is a reach. Based off what we've seen, they weren't negligent. They were just using the wrong method :)
Lots of baby boys are slow to speak .
too much of nonsense drama . rather than using ur kids for views nd money .. get him treated nd spend time tog ,
Eugh..🙄
Sorry but by saying it’s not their fault, it’s not quite right. They didn’t cared for him well enough so of course it’s their fault. it came out that the Father didn’t even cared for him for a long time and the mother was alone.
Exactly. She’s home all day and cannot spare the time to read on some books or learn about childrearing. Its all just whether you care enough about your child well being and growth. I read about late speech and what could be the cause way before i give birth to my kid. I got it from artcles on babycenter.
Exactly. I’m sure it’s hard because she can’t continue with modeling and can’t do what she wants and the father is working but they have a child who they have to care for. I wish the doctor would have told them a bit more honestly, strict that they should have cared for him more.
Easy, they are new parents. Be easy on them, it should be enough that they feel bad. They truly care for their child, it's not bad to make mistake as long as you learn on it and they learn on it. After all, their are children that is really like that but it can overcome through years. It's human anatomy so it's crazy.
It is their fault let’s be honest since it was only the mum raising him so she should have to carry all the emotional burdens but what matters is how they can improve themselves and just do their best for their child
Bruh it's not their fault some child talk when they turn 4 years old, so I'm not worried
Read books mothers. Articles. Put in some educated efforts
Why just mothers ?educating a child equally a father's responsibility.
@@wa6342 because mothers ARE the main parent to baby-toddlers. Unless the wife works and the husband do not. Even if both worked, at least the mothers will get a leave from the company, unless you live in sweden or finland which they have a father leave for months too, if not then i dont see why my opinion is a problem.
@@gigglegagaing5 you must be really delusional if you think in countries like japan and korea it's easy to take a leave. You think a mother should take a leave from a company just to read some books a task which can be divided easily?Mothers through out history have been care givers just because they didn't "work" and had no choice but to take household responsibilities,but in modern times usually both work so their is no need to dump emotional labor ALL on women.
@@wa6342 no, i’m not delusional. I am a mother and i work full time. I think you are delusional to think that you need a leave from work to read on books. I read articles and books, watch videos and downloaded apps, all while i’m on the way to and from work, on my lunch breaks, even when i do my business in the bathroom, when i waited for my obgyn doctor, and actually on my SPARE time. You do know you can squeeze some readings in if you wanted to, it definitely doesnt take a month of leave from work. In fact i am still working, and so does my husband. We work the same hours and divide housework and childcare, but you still cannot deny the fact that most children, esp in their baby to toddler period, that the mother is the more dominant parent because you spent more time with them AT LEAST when you are breastfeeding and we do get a MATERNITY LEAVE. Now, i dont know how long you get in japan, but in my country i get 3 months paid maternity leave. Do you work on saturdays in Japan?? Because i do and i also got church and in laws visits on sundays, but i still managed to educate myself before and after my child is born. So for her (the woman in the video) to be a full time housewife, i dont see why she doesnt have the time to put in some efforts in terms of educating herself about having a kid, esp he is her firstborn. FYI, if you have not seen the complete episode, she stopped working when she got pregnant. So obviously she got MONTHS before delivering the baby to at least educate herself. Put in some efforts is all i’m saying.
Are you seriously suggesting to Korean parent’s they should do educated efforts. The land of cram school since kdg, private tutors, rented study rooms... They are actually educating the public on this and that is helpful to so many parents there.