ARE YOU BEING USED? | 16 Ways to Recognize if Someone is Using You | STOICISM
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- Reveal the unmistakable markers of a harmful relationship: "__." In this video, we'll navigate through behaviors that uncover whether someone is leveraging your contributions without considering your feelings, drawing inspiration from Stoic tenets upheld by philosophical luminaries such as Epictetus.
Are you contemplating the equilibrium in your relationship? Develop the knack to discern behavior patterns signaling that the other person is solely interested in what you can provide. Guided by the sagacious teachings of philosophers like Epictetus, we'll explore pragmatic advice to sustain inner tranquility and set robust emotional boundaries.
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Don't overlook these revealing behaviors! Transform into a discerning observer of interpersonal intricacies and discover how to fortify yourself emotionally. Make Stoicism, championed by Epictetus, your companion in the pursuit of relationships that are not just authentic but also equitable!
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I gave monetary support and loyalty for several years, only to be betrayed and ghosted. I finally had enough and disappeared myself.
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Perfect description of a relationship with a narcissist
"Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking." - Marcus Aurelius
Absolutely 💯
Does this mean when others hurt you you can't be sad or angry?
@@oopsiedaisy1320yes
@@oopsiedaisy1320 You can not control others, you can control your response (including your own emotions) to them. That said, it is fine to sad or angry, but don't let those emotions rule you or your life. Yes?
Perfectly Said little as natural . Nature plants oxygen
You choose to harbour a grudge, but that only upsets you. No one else. Best let it go, you'll feel much lighter.
Calculated neglect and manipulation is exactly where I'm at. Please pray I can escape him. 😢
You can and will find you way.❤
I wish everybody in a relationship should be taught these discernible human behaviors. It could save many years of wasted time on people who operate fully from their low frequency shadow side of ego!
Great video…. Very Educational and enlightening!! Thank you .
It's not wasted time it's a valuable lesson sometimes things are not what they seem and sometimes we humans have to go through the hard situations to not only learn from them but to do better for ourselves in the future and know what to look for and the warning signs eather way positive or negative gain or loss it's a perspectives and opinions but I'm sure it is difficult stay positive wish u the best remember u can't have the good without the bad in life and some times we have to go through hell to get to heaven or vise versa once again it's all perspective and how you choose to see it or look at it good luck
If more people were to switch from watching depressing news everyday to watching these Stoicism Videos, they would not only be happier, less depressed people, but would expand their mind boundaries to better combat the external happenings that they have no control over to begin with.
Switching from depressing tales of woe to these Videos have helped me to gain insight into who I am as a person. And basically our own body/mind/life is the only thing we can make choices concerning and the only things that should matter, for they are eternal.
I agree!
I TOTALLY AGREE!! 🎉 I rarely listen to news.
I literally LIVE by listening to these podcasts every night before bed. ❤
Funny, but the final step this year was I skipped sending the usual Christmas card. After 6 years they came back last spring to apologize, and I had to bite my tongue to not apologize back, as was my habit. I value integrity and keeping one’s word. I wasn’t the person who abandoned me at my darkest hour. I think it’s that i don’t want to admit wasting decades of my time on this friend. Selective availability: ouch. That was brutal. Can’t believe I didn’t value myself that way.
This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my TH-cam channel 10 months ago about self development. Now I have 1,853 subs and > 2k hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I could haven’t learned without getting started in the 1st place.
Cool Nathan...best to ya..
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BRILLIANT. THANKS NOW I SEE THE TRUTH I NEED THIS VIDEO TO CONFIRM MY INVESTIGATION, THESE PEOPLE WILL DO THE SAME AGAIN AND AGAIN BETTER TO NOT BELIEVE THAT THEY WILL CHANGE, CUZ IF YOU HAVE A KIND HEART IT WILL USE IT CUZ THEY KNOW THAT YOU CAN FORGIVE AND WHEN YOU STARTING TO CARE ABOUT YOURSELF YOU CANT LET IT ANYMORE. DO NOT LET ANYONE RUN YOU ONLY IN THEIR FAVOR, THEY ARE VERY GOOD ILLUSIONISTS - THAT GOOD THAT YOU WILL START TO BELIEVE IN THEIR CREATED ILLUSIONS AND DOUBTS
Ty for these wise words.
I see many of these signs.
as an empath, I try to understand why they do, what they do.
It eventually just falls back on me as a setback.
I get " ignored" if I speak out on my behalf.
It's been one week since I've been ignored from a person I thought cared, after 4yrs.
I'm usually the one to try to understand what I did wrong.
I've finally decided to accept that I didn't do anything to deserve to be IGNORED.
I CHOSE to stay stoic and tend to myself and my true loved ones❤
Thank you for these messages 💕
In the end i did the right thing. Then continued to drop them like flies.
One thing I i recognized is lack of empathy as reciprocation and yes constant self conversation. When i was I need totally disrespectful to me.
Ended it with last birthday catd and kind words. It was nice getting to know you.
One way street for sure.
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Had a moment listening and called for help.
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No one would ever love a cheater, nor a liar, nor a thief unless it where an act of heroism.
Thank you. I recognise I am in such a relationship. I'm building an emotional distance before the discard through my noncompliance from now
Im at 9 and Im surprised, you have described familial relationships.
"You have power over your mind - not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength."
This is a SLAP through all our faces brothers & sisters. 👍🏻
The philosophy of stoicism is unbelievably amazing! It is realistic, it is practical and it works!! It is all about understanding how things work and putting your understanding into action... ranks to all of you for sharing these life changing philosophies
Excellent guidelines and ideas on having meaningful relationships. I know I should have broken off many one-sided relationships years ago, but I stayed, hoping it would get better, or I accepted the abuse.
One comment of the material--points 13 and 14 are about the same and point 15 needs to be titled.
I play these podcasts every night, i play it with my 14yr old daughter.
She enjoys it too because she has seen me in narcissistic relationships and she relizes im AWARE and want her to be aware as well ❤
I wish that I knew this i formation years ago. I wasted value years that I can't get back. However, I did learn a value listen tne hard way. Lack of respect should never be ignored.
It's only wasted if you learned nothing from it
I now know I am a stoic and I can totally agree with all you say and I am extremely greatfull for the insights that I hadn't thought about. Much gratitude 🙏
Man❤ this is truly amazing. The word user here are the magic to express what many feels but can not identify it !
Truly commendable and truly appreciated !
Thank you so much for sharing and putting lights in the humanity connection
I am getting angrier and angrier with myself everytime you mention the next step or point. I have been stucked in a very toxic relationship for years now. And everytime I wanna quit, he uses words to manipulate me. I am tired and I need my freedom! 😢😢😢
My prayer is that God pour the Holy Spirit over you for guidance and strength. He removed the scales from Paul's eyes to see the truth that needed to be followed.
Mind over body x 2
Thank you for sharing your stoic Knowlegde.
I have studied stoic philosofi for nearly a year now, and try my best to live stoic. Not only does your channel help me in this, but also keeps me from tv and gaming😊
This video is extremely good as it covers ALL the pertinent circumstances, and I can relate to every one of them! Thank you. 🎉🎉🎉
I love the see saw analogy. It describes reciprocity so well. Also highlights what a balanced relationship looks like. Great stuff. Thanks.
Wow.
I knew it was a dodgy relationship. I'd identified a few of these things.
But, wow. Literally, the guy I met ticked *all* of these boxes! Many of the vague feelings of unease I had have now been put into words. I am so grateful 🙏
Thank God 🙏 I got out!!!
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Mind over body.
Yet I am empty at this moment.
Ive reached rock bottom, and wont give up.
These moments and decades have taken a toll tho.
I will be compassionate with myself.
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It's tough Linda.
Life is a hard struggle.
The animals devour each other.
We do the same with each other
in a subtle way.
Actual human beings want to serve.
Parasitic humans demand to be served.
May fate be kind to you.
I m beginning to learn that the only one that can truly love me is me, trust is me , and the only one always there for me is me. After realationships always pleasing and being used and never valued or loved , putting my life away i finaly see that me is the only tru and real love i have and need. The new realationships are not for needing to feel valued, loved or to be pleasing until i am drained again, but its sharing happines, dreams and support getting inputs and never give and expect returns other then equal respect.
This is EXACTLY my current situation.
My SOUL tells me the TRUTH, but my EGO wants to hang on.
My EGO is disolving .
I am finally accepting that although im empathetic, i see that im more worthy than the respect im receiving
I’m incredibly lonely and trying to build friendships but I’m amazed at the selfishness of women I meet especially for the first time talking over me taking over the conversation being rude too many like that
Sorry that happened to you! Just as well to let those people go, they are not friends material! Don’t waste your precious time on low level vibrational souls! You will find likeminded people in time. Don’t give up. Blessings…
Everything shared in this video and other topics discussed really helped me and guided me in my daily dealings with other people. All i can say is THANK YOU!
I watch their Action than their Emty Promises.. I have this person in my Life w/c very dear to me, but I have to distance to this person, because she is just USING ME.
Thanks for sharing from Sydney Australia 😘
I just found this abd imust admit it is really helping me become a stronger person . This topic us exactly for me because i am a real victim. I tyrn to always put myself second and relationship first and i always end up in the down side. And see me standing alone in cases of need. Thank u 🙏
"Mind over body" - impressive, and helpful.
You just mirrored my 15 years agony. Being pious, hoping the person will change, probably after a blow in their life by God, to learn to RESPECT.
Mind over body. Man, this hammers the nail for me. Thank you!
Mind over body. This video was extremely helpful for my day to day life. There is a relationship I am currently in communication with it is clearly unhealthy.
I am very thankful my eyes are opened wide now my❤is broken but now can heal 😢
"The key to a meaningful existence is not in the pursuit of fame or fortune, but in cultivating inner virtue and living a life of purpose." - Epictetus
It was never stated what number fifteen was, but I believe it is "superficial closeness".
I see my parents, friends, brothers, sisters in healthy relationships, and I always ask to my self, why I was the chosen one in this life to come across this cruel human beings? I’m 47 and up until now, I’m considered a very attractive woman to the eyes of my family, friends, and people I get across daily, I don’t post pictures of myself on any social media, I’m old fashioned and I’ve always being romantic, quiet,sometimes I think those cruel people that make us fall in love with them, treat us like a temporary trophy 🏆 all I wanted was a nice husband to get old with him. And they did all the bad things this video mentioned. Two exes that behaved exactly like this video explained. Let’s keep learning and getting wiser on what I didn’t understand when I was younger ❤
These types of videos are great for human beings to understand how to become more polite ❤
Mind over body! Thank you so much for your guidance, to self development 😊
My spiritual inclination and your guidance is helping me to see the bigger picture in life and become aware of such red flags, where we get to save our soul energies and use them for higher purposes in our life.😊
This helps my mental on a day to day basis I love this information
Mind over body . I know your not a carpenter ( it’s in your voice ) , however , your message was like being hit with a hammer . Thankyou
This video has extremely valuable and useful information that we can all benefit from in our lives! Thank you 🙏
This a wonderful teaching that reflects exactly my situation. Thank you keep it up.
This is spot on for someone I know, 💯 true, thank you for making this video.
It exposes me to and enabled me to realised the abuse I with any treatment we received in marriage.thank you iam now learning toreceived from my husband up to 57years in my marriage mental abuse.I my generation’s in Africa were thought to put up with this although am old I can now live a happier life by what I have learnt
"My mind is over this matter."
My mind has become only madder.
@te9591 mine too and desperate
I am going through a relationship with someone. What I heard from you is exactly what he's saying and doing to me. Thanks so much for waking me up.
I really appreciated you now I will walked out of his bad one sided relationship.
I have been watching and listening 4 times. All 16 points in my relationship doe 40 years. I just don't know how to get out of my situation. I have lived another person's dreams for so long. Never too late is not 😢. Thank you.
You are living with a Covert psicopat narcissist Maquiavelic inhumane being. Vampire energetic.
Zero Contact for ever.
Life is beautiful!
Needed to hear this. Love how plainly said it is!
Thank you for sharing this knowledge 😌
This information is extremely valuable specially in my narcissistic relationship ☹️
Very eye opening n enlightening. Some of these issues are very obvious in my relationship that truly is lopsided....
Thanks again thanks again for ever. Peter
Thank you for sharing this wise philosophy. It make me understand what I do and how my relationships were base on nothing fulfilling. Observing myself and how I feel related to others help me understand where I am at. Slowly but surly I am on the path of self respect and love feeling how it hurts me when a relationship is empty. I am not perfect eater, I make me see what I can give for the moment getting better at giving me and then to others.
This channel is saving my sanity..❤
100%
Omg, this was such an eye opener! Very well researched, this information is invaluable its taught me so much. Thank you!
Indeed.
I am constantly being disappointed in my relationship and now I understand why
Simply great video! Creative and unique. Thanks!😊
Mind over body … lots to mull over… I now see how I’ve been taken advantage of… emotionally
Mind over body!! Please NEVER stop doing these videos you have help reveal so much that I have mental been struggling with
What to understand, what lecture is most important to your thoughts and common sense to make the best decision-by understanding first.
Greatly worded!... This thoroughly explains all of the things I recognized of my ex, and the stuff happening with her that was beginning to unfold more clearly
My partner has been doing all 11 of these topics in a 8 yr relationship. He has NPD Narcissist Personal Disorder one of the hardest break ups of my life.
Thankyou so much , this has helped me realize and confirm a lot the feelings I’ve had and have noticed . I know now I’m not crazy or wrong about how I feel . These videos are very helpful on my journey for self improvement.
Mind over Body, this is the Highway to a peaceful and healthy life, giving way to a rightful thinking and a balanced life
Mind over matter, timing over mind!
Thank you for this video man. It reveals a lot of stuff I didn’t know. Mind over body.
I allow sharing as a charity as long as my property is not destroyed or intentionally broken . 4:58
Thankyou for this gives a clear picture of my past relationship
I love this video! Life education. Here to learn. Where it’s not taught, unless you learn on your own from life experiences.
Great Wisdom ! Thank you. That shows the difference between the Intelligent and the Wise 👍💪
This is excellent information!!! Thank you so much for posting!!!
Mind over Body! Highly beneficial and truly wise, eye opening!
Wow… 🤯..😢Now im a grown Man 52 years , Hardly no softy and generally don’t have close to Tears, but This one Did me in like I’ve never experienced before… I was out shopping and constantly started crying , wiping my own tears in shopping hide away trawlly allies.. a new. Experience.. as much as appreciated that might be I had to pause…just to see clearly and keep a somewhat straight face…. Put it back on in the Car … Now I was belching like I was 5 years old, Second shopping mall….with a resolute “..damn it…(fist in the table kind of….)”. Same thing again…..😂….This clip has hands down (unless wiping tears) 😅 is probably the best that I’ve heard .. and I’ve heard a Lot…
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Sounds like a real "ah ha" moment. Go forward with your new knowledge, making the needed changes it has prompted in you. Peace❤
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Thank you. Very insightful.
Mind over body. Clarity in all types of relationships
Yes. The answer is yes. We both use & are used. 💙🌎
A beautiful truth in mind over body
This is the best guide ,informative ,thank you .looking forward to listen to all you have shared .
I’m experiencing everything that you are mentioning in this video to the tea thank you for letting me know. I’m not going crazy that I truly understand I’m being manipulated great content.
to the TEE
Wow it’s funny how I’m able to recognize this in a certain person that I was in a relationship with but I can happily say that it’s ended. This sums him up in a nutshell.
Good lectures, it'll help me and lots of people in the world!!!!...
Mind over Body. Entire video was excellent. Thank you!
I was into that lifestyle Relationship exactly like your video I just decided it's about time I Leave. I was nothing but a utility person for her. When she's not anything higher than me.
Mind over body! Very informative. Thanks for sharing
I was in a relationship where I was been used. Everything you have said is true. I broke up with my ex husband of 10years who constantly emotionally neglected ND drainede. I think I intimates him by all my hard work as he was an insecure man. Thankyou for all the wisdom. I highly appreciate it.
I love yoyr advise it helps me immensely through my hard times and when I don't know what to do to to the lack of my smarts u help me realize when I'm being used or when I'm being unstable and I thank u for that
figuring it out...thanks for the tips
So filled with wisdoms and so true
This was amazing!
No princípio duma relação, a pessoa sabe logo se o outro é este tipo de carácter tóxico, interseiro, egoista, manipulador. Pode é não querer reconhecer. Quanto mais depressa a pessoa ganhar coragem para se libertar desse outro e seguir a sua vida sem ele, melhor
Very helpful! Thank you for sharing!
Consciousness over mind and body
I needed to hear this as a reminder and assurance, even though I already know this.