Hmmmm I will say congratulations to the elder brother for not sending the younger brother abroad with the money for his wedding. I'm so sure he wouldn't have been able to pay you back with all these he eventually did and your wedding wouldn't have happened One thing we should always know as human is that anyone can disappoint you, don't expect too much from people. And I'm so sure that wouldn't be the first time that the younger brother will be putting up a questionable character but as family we always want to sweep things under the carpet and say forgive because he's your brother or she's your sister. Of course it is important for us to forgive but we also need to be watchful. He has stolen the money and he plans to use it for is relocation. Big bro please remove your mind from him paying you back. I know it is so painful but abroad is not like it seems what if he gets there and didn't get a job quickly (talking from experience). You and your wife need to come together and find a way forward. What is the next step to take? I will advice that you and your wife stay together now, don't allow any family member stay with you because it's from there they will know your worth. The economy is not smiling now. You have to restrategize, plan within your income. It's good to give but some people take it for granted. Don't be too open to your other family members, join hands together with your wife and move forward. Be watchful and prayerful. The Holy spirit will minister to your younger brother too to change for good. Everything will be fine. It is well with you.
Men Dey 😂 I have plenty questions on this story.1 how do you have time to be the money picker on your brother’s wedding. Typical you will be making sure your guest are taken care of. 2.which of the abroad is the brother traveling to? Bcus if it is the abroad I’m thinking the money sprayed at the wedding will not take care of a lot 3. Are you sure your brother is not trying to ruin your new home bcus he wants to be the only one you will be responsible for. 4. Is your brother working or doing something that can fund his dreams of traveling.
As someone who also suffers from an entitled and disrespectful younger sister, too. I dont talk to her anymore, I dey my lane, make everyone dey their lane in peace. May God help us all 🙏 I wish he would just learn to forget he has a brother and move on with his wife. All the best to him.
Hello, If I were him I would be furious as well. I would cut ties with that brother, because he could do anything to hurt him to get money off him. I like that you stood your grounds and got married. Please forget about him and focus on your new beautiful family. Unfortunately your parents are being biased and that is not helping the situation. Your brother is 24 and should be able to go out there and work hard to fund his abroad dreams.
Inukwa the entitlement🙆♀️🙆♀️🙆♀️family members dey sha. I have told people to live their life well well oooo because if you kpai, these family members squander your wealth in a day.
Such deceitfulness! Imagine trusting your sibling on your wedding day for them to betray you like that. Overseas is expensive, when that younger brother travels he might not even be able to pay back within that first year. Pray God provides for the newly weds. I will cut ties as well for as long as I want to until the Holy spirit leads me to forgive.
This is rather unfortunate. The brother to your friend has shown who he really is. I advise that your friend forgives him but going forward he should handle the whole relationship with wisdom. Hopefully, he pays him back like he said he would. The parents should intervene and really also tell him how badly he has behaved.
First of all, that younger brother is entitled and over demanding. Furthering your education is good but dont forrce on a sibling who has given you his genuine reason, thats selfish. The fact that you have a sibling who can assist you does not mean He will forever be your responsibility. The elder brother also has his life and plans. He should also be considerate. I am sure he has made sacrifices for him in that past. Well, for me, I think that was going extreme going behind your brother's back and taking his wedding money. Well, I am sure the trust has broken, I would say the elder brother should leave him with the money it will be hard, not like he can force it out of his hands. But there is tomorrow. When we take such drastic and selfish actions like that, we should remember that there will always be tomorrow. Our families are like bridges that will take us to our destination, but we should be careful so we won't break those bridges.
The younger brother is very entitled and people like him don’t go far in life. Establish very very strong boundaries with him and all his supporters. What you allow is what will continue, withdraw access, he shouldn’t know much about you and your relationship shouldn’t be more than hello hi. Also, with your family, they are supporting him because they think your wife isn’t your family and shouldn’t be prioritized hence the disrespect. Have very firm boundaries with them. There is no way to ascertain how much he stole so it’s best forget about the money or any plans of repayment.
After listening to this story the flesh side of me say that he should be mad at his brother but then as a believer the Bible says to forgive seventy times seven. So I would just say that they should pray about it and trust me when you do wrong to someone it will come back on them . Forgiveness is hard especially when it comes from family bc you don’t expect that type of hurt from loved ones. That brother will need them sooner than later and he should welcome him back with loving arms but with a wise mind. Never trust him again and never let him get close to your money ever again. People tend to forget when they hurt you and then come back smiling as if you have forgotten. Don’t forget this lesson in life Also you can sue him for it
This is very painful. He should do his best to forgive, let go, don't be as heavily invested in him as he was before the incident because the trust between both of them has been broken. His brother literally betrayed and stole from him due to his entitlement. So, I don't think he should even put his mind on his brother repaying him because that one might be another drama. Hence, he should just move on with whatever he has left and let his brother stand alone and hustle his way through life without depending on him anymore. Money that was stolen doesn't last.
Plus the brother oh, plus the sibling oh they are entitled and they see the elder brother as the sacrificial lamb. It will never change if he doesn't set proper boundaries and start creating a documentation to protect his wife and children in case of the unforeseen future. Things like this never change.
This hurt me so much for your friend and all I can think is with my natural human thinking and that is to sue but I don't know how that works in Nigeria but my spiritual/godly side say he should pray about it cause God will fight his battles. the brother is a thief. The money was a gift for the couple. It is their money and should choose what they want to do with it not the brother making the decision for them. He is so entitled, I can't believe he had the audacity to take their money. What goes around comes around. I would set a no contact boundaries with parents and brother. The parents are no better than brother. He and his wife should come together to pray and ask God to open a way for them and to heal their heart. From this. God already saw this happened and have a plan for it. I would check into bringing him to court and sue. Sorry, I keep going back and forth thinking what would I do and then what would Jesus wants me to do. If you have family like this then who needs enemies. It's a shame
He better be careful with his brother, that kind of guy can kill him for money. As a child of God he should just forgive him for his own peace since they just got married, but you see that his brother ehn, and his parents, they don't love him. He should just stick with his family. God forbid that kind of sibling!!!
This situation is quite challenging. I don't believe the amount his brother stole is substantial enough to fund his trip to Nigeria; it might only be enough for him to obtain a Nigerian passport. That being said, I will shift my focus and concentrate on building the new family that I have been blessed with.
The junior brother is very entitled. He should forget the money because he can't ascertain how much was taken, and move on. He should stay away from the younger brother and should not be open to any of his relatives. He and his wife just have to pray for a way. God help them both.
What his brother did was very wrong, helping himself with his elder brothers money without his consent is disappointing. But since he has taken the money, if his elder can, he should let go of the money and just manage for now. That’s my 2 cents anyway.
abeg he should forgive his brother life na one no need to hold grudges, what the brother did is wrong I Know but the family should make sure that he pays the money back with interest since he is insisting that he will pay back the money to his brother. please forgive your brother abeg. i have seen this kind of thing happen before with one brother deing and the other living in regret till to day . please forgive your brother thank you all
Hmmm.....What can i say than the brother should overlook the whole thing just move on with your new life and pray for more blessings knowing that God is on the throne let him not take it too personal so as it would not affect his mental health one the guy is already your brother what else can he do than forgive and pray for more opening period.
The younger brother is a THIEF!! Blood doesn't mean family in many instances.. toxic n dysfunctional mentality n feeling entitled. The younger brother has NO gratitude whatsoever. The elder brother is not his parent. Nigerian culture appears to have lots expectations of older siblings to be responsible for younger siblings. How dare he take the monetary gifts from the wedding and dictate as he its a loan. The audacity!! I would put him out of my home and wish him the best in life.
Hmmmm
I will say congratulations to the elder brother for not sending the younger brother abroad with the money for his wedding.
I'm so sure he wouldn't have been able to pay you back with all these he eventually did and your wedding wouldn't have happened
One thing we should always know as human is that anyone can disappoint you, don't expect too much from people.
And I'm so sure that wouldn't be the first time that the younger brother will be putting up a questionable character but as family we always want to sweep things under the carpet and say forgive because he's your brother or she's your sister. Of course it is important for us to forgive but we also need to be watchful.
He has stolen the money and he plans to use it for is relocation.
Big bro please remove your mind from him paying you back. I know it is so painful but abroad is not like it seems what if he gets there and didn't get a job quickly (talking from experience).
You and your wife need to come together and find a way forward.
What is the next step to take?
I will advice that you and your wife stay together now, don't allow any family member stay with you because it's from there they will know your worth.
The economy is not smiling now.
You have to restrategize, plan within your income.
It's good to give but some people take it for granted.
Don't be too open to your other family members, join hands together with your wife and move forward.
Be watchful and prayerful.
The Holy spirit will minister to your younger brother too to change for good.
Everything will be fine.
It is well with you.
Family betrayal hits differently. Even from the parents
I know right 💔
Men Dey 😂
I have plenty questions on this story.1 how do you have time to be the money picker on your brother’s wedding. Typical you will be making sure your guest are taken care of.
2.which of the abroad is the brother traveling to? Bcus if it is the abroad I’m thinking the money sprayed at the wedding will not take care of a lot
3. Are you sure your brother is not trying to ruin your new home bcus he wants to be the only one you will be responsible for.
4. Is your brother working or doing something that can fund his dreams of traveling.
As someone who also suffers from an entitled and disrespectful younger sister, too.
I dont talk to her anymore, I dey my lane, make everyone dey their lane in peace.
May God help us all 🙏
I wish he would just learn to forget he has a brother and move on with his wife. All the best to him.
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Hello, If I were him I would be furious as well. I would cut ties with that brother, because he could do anything to hurt him to get money off him. I like that you stood your grounds and got married. Please forget about him and focus on your new beautiful family. Unfortunately your parents are being biased and that is not helping the situation. Your brother is 24 and should be able to go out there and work hard to fund his abroad dreams.
Inukwa the entitlement🙆♀️🙆♀️🙆♀️family members dey sha. I have told people to live their life well well oooo because if you kpai, these family members squander your wealth in a day.
Such deceitfulness! Imagine trusting your sibling on your wedding day for them to betray you like that. Overseas is expensive, when that younger brother travels he might not even be able to pay back within that first year. Pray God provides for the newly weds. I will cut ties as well for as long as I want to until the Holy spirit leads me to forgive.
This is rather unfortunate. The brother to your friend has shown who he really is. I advise that your friend forgives him but going forward he should handle the whole relationship with wisdom. Hopefully, he pays him back like he said he would. The parents should intervene and really also tell him how badly he has behaved.
First of all, that younger brother is entitled and over demanding. Furthering your education is good but dont forrce on a sibling who has given you his genuine reason, thats selfish.
The fact that you have a sibling who can assist you does not mean He will forever be your responsibility.
The elder brother also has his life and plans. He should also be considerate. I am sure he has made sacrifices for him in that past.
Well, for me, I think that was going extreme going behind your brother's back and taking his wedding money. Well, I am sure the trust has broken, I would say the elder brother should leave him with the money it will be hard, not like he can force it out of his hands.
But there is tomorrow. When we take such drastic and selfish actions like that, we should remember that there will always be tomorrow. Our families are like bridges that will take us to our destination, but we should be careful so we won't break those bridges.
The younger brother is very entitled and people like him don’t go far in life. Establish very very strong boundaries with him and all his supporters. What you allow is what will continue, withdraw access, he shouldn’t know much about you and your relationship shouldn’t be more than hello hi. Also, with your family, they are supporting him because they think your wife isn’t your family and shouldn’t be prioritized hence the disrespect. Have very firm boundaries with them. There is no way to ascertain how much he stole so it’s best forget about the money or any plans of repayment.
After listening to this story the flesh side of me say that he should be mad at his brother but then as a believer the Bible says to forgive seventy times seven. So I would just say that they should pray about it and trust me when you do wrong to someone it will come back on them . Forgiveness is hard especially when it comes from family bc you don’t expect that type of hurt from loved ones. That brother will need them sooner than later and he should welcome him back with loving arms but with a wise mind. Never trust him again and never let him get close to your money ever again. People tend to forget when they hurt you and then come back smiling as if you have forgotten. Don’t forget this lesson in life
Also you can sue him for it
This is very painful. He should do his best to forgive, let go, don't be as heavily invested in him as he was before the incident because the trust between both of them has been broken.
His brother literally betrayed and stole from him due to his entitlement. So, I don't think he should even put his mind on his brother repaying him because that one might be another drama. Hence, he should just move on with whatever he has left and let his brother stand alone and hustle his way through life without depending on him anymore. Money that was stolen doesn't last.
Plus the brother oh, plus the sibling oh they are entitled and they see the elder brother as the sacrificial lamb. It will never change if he doesn't set proper boundaries and start creating a documentation to protect his wife and children in case of the unforeseen future. Things like this never change.
This hurt me so much for your friend and all I can think is with my natural human thinking and that is to sue but I don't know how that works in Nigeria but my spiritual/godly side say he should pray about it cause God will fight his battles. the brother is a thief. The money was a gift for the couple. It is their money and should choose what they want to do with it not the brother making the decision for them. He is so entitled, I can't believe he had the audacity to take their money. What goes around comes around. I would set a no contact boundaries with parents and brother. The parents are no better than brother.
He and his wife should come together to pray and ask God to open a way for them and to heal their heart. From this. God already saw this happened and have a plan for it.
I would check into bringing him to court and sue.
Sorry, I keep going back and forth thinking what would I do and then what would Jesus wants me to do.
If you have family like this then who needs enemies. It's a shame
May God deliver us from family members like this
He better be careful with his brother, that kind of guy can kill him for money. As a child of God he should just forgive him for his own peace since they just got married, but you see that his brother ehn, and his parents, they don't love him. He should just stick with his family. God forbid that kind of sibling!!!
What kind of entitlement mentality is that? That’s crazy man… May God help us all oh.
Can you imagine it's the entitlement for me
This situation is quite challenging. I don't believe the amount his brother stole is substantial enough to fund his trip to Nigeria; it might only be enough for him to obtain a Nigerian passport. That being said, I will shift my focus and concentrate on building the new family that I have been blessed with.
Omo the brother no try at all haba that is pure evil he shouldn't have done that
The parents are as selfish as the junior brother,it’s painful, that’s stealing.I don’t even know what to say.
The junior brother is very entitled. He should forget the money because he can't ascertain how much was taken, and move on. He should stay away from the younger brother and should not be open to any of his relatives. He and his wife just have to pray for a way. God help them both.
Take heart he will get his own results in dis abroad…. Forgive him
What his brother did was very wrong, helping himself with his elder brothers money without his consent is disappointing. But since he has taken the money, if his elder can, he should let go of the money and just manage for now. That’s my 2 cents anyway.
abeg he should forgive his brother
life na one no need to hold grudges, what the brother did is wrong I Know
but the family should make sure that he pays the money back with interest since he is insisting that he will pay back the money to his brother.
please forgive your brother abeg. i have seen this kind of thing happen before with one brother deing and the other living in regret till to day .
please forgive your brother
thank you all
Hmmm.....What can i say than the brother should overlook the whole thing just move on with your new life and pray for more blessings knowing that God is on the throne let him not take it too personal so as it would not affect his mental health one the guy is already your brother what else can he do than forgive and pray for more opening period.
Happy Sunday Bomsy 😊
The younger brother is a THIEF!! Blood doesn't mean family in many instances.. toxic n dysfunctional mentality n feeling entitled. The younger brother has NO gratitude whatsoever. The elder brother is not his parent. Nigerian culture appears to have lots expectations of older siblings to be responsible for younger siblings. How dare he take the monetary gifts from the wedding and dictate as he its a loan. The audacity!! I would put him out of my home and wish him the best in life.
involve the sss he will vomit the money
The brother is entitled, they should re-strategize and move on. Keep the brother at as length
Your brother is wicked but forgive him, and say hello from afar he his self centred that’s stealing by trick
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