The fact that the mother told the doctor she was only giving her baby formula and nothing else, she knew was she was doing was wrong. Even after medical advice, she refused to listen. OP should take his baby to his parents if she "wants him gone until she forgives him"
@@mask938 definitely it’s super weird the way the dr keeps telling her what’s wrong and how she keeps feeding her also do babies even have teeth at two months ? It seems like she takes her to the dr and lies about what makes the baby sick . If the dad wasn’t there the dr may have had to start running unnecessary test on her bc she lied about feeding her solids
@@mask938 Custody laws are biased against dads. Dad should ask the doctor if he/she will back him on an abuse allegation, file a police report, call a lawyer, call relatives to come over and: A. Either kick mom out & file for full custody & have family help remove her stuff B. Or have family help take dad, baby & stuff from residence
Calling it now. Divorced, and this bitch is gonna lie in the custody hearing about how he was the one demanding they feed the baby incorrectly. They'll probably believe her too, and just default to giving the mother custody.
Sadly, I've know people like that, who don't see the irony of saying that someone is making them look bad by just stating undisputed facts, not in situations when those facts lack context or are being told to someone who doesn't have the perspective to understand them and thus sound worse than they are, but in situations that what makes the person look bad is just that someone else knows what they did. I always say "If the the plain truth makes you look bad, what does that tell you??"
Whoa. That SIL is super toxic. She wasn’t sorry for what she did, otherwise she wouldn’t have justified it after her “apology.” She only pretended to be sorry so she could have free childcare again.
THIS!! Thats what I was thinking!! I was like no way she wants childcare for free and realized her mistake when it came around to bite her but she wasn't sorry. Only sorry she lost her free ride. She didn't even wait to ask when it was OPs turn to have the kids watched which then maybe I would have believed then.
Update on the first story via ops replies: wife has clearly been suffering from severe PPD or even psychosis! He says shes been sitting awake at night staring at the wall, and when he confronted her about everything and him taking the baby to his parents she absolutely flipped out screaming and babbling about them taking the baby away and kidnapping her, etc.. last reply reported that grandma had come to pick up the baby and wife had locked herself in the bathroom screaming and crying. Hopefully they can get her help but stories like this are a good reminder that not everyone who is the butthole in these stories is evil or malicious or entitled, but just needs serious help :( i hope she gets it and that the family can recover and move on together
I was in grade 3 and babysat my brother and I never did this cruelty and even last year I babysat my newest sibling and I never tried to kill them or accidentally did poison them
There was an update to that story. The husband found the wife having a mental breakdown. His mother came and got the baby so he could take her to the hospital. Pretty sure she was diagnosed with PPP (post partum psychosis).
There was an update to the first story. The husband found the wife having a mental breakdown. His mother came and got the baby so he could take her to the hospital. Pretty sure she was diagnosed with PPP (post partum psychosis).
Having postpartum depression does not make her a bad parent or insane, just ill. I had postnatal depression ( what we call it in the uk) many years ago and I was very bad. Running someone down for having a mental illness due to their hormones going haywire is not nice.
My MIL and my Husband's Aunt both told me to feed my son water to give me a break and fill him up. I thanked them, and then told my husband later that they would never watch our son while he was in baby-stage
The first story.. that hurts, when I was a baby (I don’t remember this my mom told me) my dad wouldn’t let my mom bottle feed me and she was barely making milk so I was starving to death. At my two week checkup, the doctor asked why I was losing weight, and my mom said because she wasn’t making enough milk. Doctor asked why she wasn’t bottle feeding and my mom just looked over at my dad. The doctor picked up on what was going on, took me out of the room, and came back with me in his arms, holding a bottle. He looked at my dad and said “there. Now you can’t blame you wife.” That man literally saved my life. My mom divorced him ten years ago.
@@redblushinrose might have been one of this people who think that breast feeding is the most natural and thus best way possible and doesn't think that formula is safe or doesn't agree with it.
@@reallyoriginalname1221 which is absolutely ridiculous because if we're talking natural and all that, there is still times on a farm where you would notice a calf or lamb not do8ng well because their mothers have the same problem as your mother did but nobody judges the farmer for giving those fuzzy babies a bottle to supplement.
See I always get judge for not breast feeding my baby. The thing is I didn't produce any breast milk like none I tried and the hospital tried I had zero and my boyfriend is 100% behind me when it came to bottle feeding he even encouraged it so he could feed him as well. What your dad is literally child abuse
1. Why are so many parents so willing to move on to food with a baby so quickly? Especially against doctor's orders! 2. Sweet tea? You're giving your 2 month old caffeine!? 3. Don't lie to a doctor. You won't get fixed that way.
They don't want to take care of a baby, they just want a cute kid to play with. We didn't give our kids solid food until they literally stole it from our hands.
The first story reminds me of a news article I saw. Two parents got arrested because they were feeding their baby *potato* formula because they wanted it to be vegan like them. It nearly killed the baby because it didn’t provide sufficient nutrition for it. The worst part was that their baby’s doctor knew about their dietary needs and *prescribed a special vegan formula for the baby* so it would get the nutrition it needed while following dietary needs. The parents completely ignored this and just went ahead with potato formula anyway because I guess they thought they knew better. They didn’t and the baby could have died. I think they’re both in prison for child abuse.
I hope so. I'm not trashing formula fed, but the natural food for any species of baby is milk made by another member of its own species. (Mother). Even herbivore mammals start off with mammal milk. Its body needs that to live. Substituting that with formula is ok, but the formula needs to have the same fats and nutrients. Vegetation isn't going to cut it. I swear these people are full on brainless. Its common sense.
Honestly not a bad idea. Maybe the scare would wake her up. She’s probably not doing it to hurt the baby but clearly doesn’t get that it really is hurting her and could cause her long term issues
Also, CPS is there to make sure the child gets proper care. I really don't think she should lose her child's custody, simply receive help and perhaps more education about parenting and childcare
The husband is horrible, unlike the wife, he understands they are hurting the child and is continuing to let it go on. He is spineless. These are the sort of men that marry entitled women and give up any say to 'keep the peace' even if it could literally harm his child for life. If you need to question whether peace with your wife is more important than your baby screaming in pain every day you don't deserve children. Damn, this story makes me so mad. I have the same person in my life, my husband's mother would feed grapes to their 6 month old puppy (among other horrible things) because "dogs know what's good for them" despite being told multiple times that it's going to kill him. My husband finally flipped out and screamed at her until she caved in and promised not to do it again, only because she can't stand her son being mad at her and because he didn't take any of her bullshit anymore. He literally chanted "murdered" until she finally stopped talking over him. Despite how delusional they are, entitled people are not immune to pressure, if you don't take their bullshit they will eventually give up and you can beat them at their own game.
@Ug be You know that theirs an update where op took the baby with him to the mothers for her safety and the wife had a mental break and got Admitted to a mental hospital right. So great of you to make assumptions based on half a story.
@Nintendo Gamer about the dog? Oh no, it's true and there's much more than just grapes she fed him. My mil is a horrible narcissist. I haven't talked to her directly for years now, I can't stand how she thinks she knows everything and everyone else is wrong, even when faced with facts. His parents were lonely and got a puppy from some facebook group ad when it was just 3 months old, which is already a big no no, it's too early to take them away from the mother. They let him climb up the stairs when you're not supposed to because the bones could deform, ignored our warnings that he could even fall and injure itself, they didn't buy any specialized puppy food, because she was convinced these dogs who don't have a breed are strong and can take anything so why waste money, and only pure bred dogs are sensitive to diseases, that they instinctively know what's good for them. They leave it alone in the house the majority of the day 10 hours or longer, they don't know how to play with it properly and they don't play enough, so he's already showing behavioral issues, like biting them in the face hard enough to draw blood, he has bit her nose while she was in bed and his father's ear already. They punish it physically by hitting him on the snout just because he, for example, chewed on the broom. My husband is also the non-confrintational type and I myself can't do anything as I already caused a massive rift by standing up to her years ago. Among the things she proudly admitted to feeding him was chocolate, cookies, steaks, chips and "look, he's fine isn't he, grapes have vitamins in it"! My husband found his bas balls and started screaming at her that she's a murderer, over and over and over again because she kept repeating that "it's fine". So yeah, after that she promised to feed him only the dog food but whether she's keeping that promise i have no idea, I don't believe it given our past. I bet the puppy will either die early or become mentally fucked up dog they'll give up for adoption when they won't be able to handle it anymore. Seriously, I could write a whole book if I put down every of her delusional beliefs and shit she has done in writing 😬
First story: Why do you go to a doctor if you don't do what they recommend you to do? And when you tell someone they ratted you out, you pretty much confess that you know you were in the wrong.
Story 2: Calling the babysitting off at the very last moment? Completely oblivious to the fact that OP can't just leave work whenever she wants? It sounds to me that OP's sister in law arranged all this on purpose because she was enraged over their argument and wanted to get back at her...
i know i'm late to this, but: the argument of the family that there weren't any consequences with calling the police? i guess people need to learn that in modern bureaucracy even simple interactions for what cops are being called for are put in a database for later reference in case of repeated offense... it's not like they arrive, only to leave again. it's kind of stupid how quickly people pull the cops on others for no GOOD reason. i do have to admit though that people SHOULD call the police on people who leave kids in front of their doors if it was completely unarranged though. (OP and the SIL had an arrangement and it was not called off properly with mutual understanding. OP could not have checked the phone if it was SHORTLY before arriving at the SIL's house, so OP could not have known)
it made me feel sick. that poor baby. the fact she had been told by a doctor, multiple times makes it so much worse, if it was ignorance, thats one thing, but this seems malicious, either that or they are on some sort of facebook group that promotes it and claims they know better than doctors. (like anti vaxxers or those ones that THROW babies around.) we started solids in very small amounts around 4 months as the doctors said it was ok if she was showing interest, just be careful what we fed her and in what amounts. but 2 months for that sort of food is terrible. a taste around the 3 month mark maybe, but not full on food while withholding milk/formula. Makes me think of those women who have children and then treat them like a possession or a pet.
"New development with her. I found her sitting in the bathroom floor and I told her I’m planning on packing to go to my moms. Told her I was taking Ava with me and she freaked out and said I was going to cause her to die because she needs the baby to be with her."
@@myopinion69420 someone posted part of an update from OP here and in another video. It sounds like OP has gotten his wife admitted somewhere as she's definitely having some mental health issues
As far as the childcare story goes, what I would add is that the SIL didn't actually apologize. To me it sounded more like *read in r/slash's Karen voice*: "I'm sorry you didn't check your phone when I was blowing it"
And it wasn't like the sister-in-law didn't know that op was dropping off her children. She only was upset that op didn't talk to her, if I were op I definitely would not watch the sister-in-law's kids again. The previous arrangement works but the sister-in-law decides to ruin it by being petty in calling the police knowing it was a false claim of abandonment.
@@barbarastorball2117 and OP's family saying he was the butthole was also unbelievable, they said "It didn't have consequences with the police", but his life could be destroyed, and if he looked at his phone while driving he and the kids could be dead
And the SIL couldn’t afford a babysitter? At minimum wage? Either their financial situation is really messed up that paying someone minimum wage would cause them to have to move back with parents or someone drastically blew their situation out of proportion. I know daycare is a lot more expensive but seriously babysitters aren’t that expensive, especially someone just starting.
Honestly, it felt.like.the SiL only apologized for the incident because she needed a babysitter. If she was truly sorry, she should have apologized sooner and not when it was convenient for her to need a babysitter. She shouldn't have immediately brought up that she needed a babysitter after apogizing for sure.
Well sometimes windows are already reflective enough that you cant see from the outside. Especially in the summer. Maybe ge was just staring of into space. Also the fact that she was able to take pictures withouth him noticing makes me think that either the windows were already reflective or he wasnt staring at her but rather in her general direction. Also if u go on reddit op mentions that the house is some distance away and other redditors point out that at that distance it would be hard to peek in regardless of the reflectivity of the window.
@@vypa-bk1iy OP does say the neighbor looked away when they looked, so presumably they could see OP. But in that case, with the entire side of the house being glass and so close to the neighbor that area of the house is basically "outside" so far as reasonable expectations of privacy are concerned. The neighbors do have the right to look out their own window and if the inside of OP's house is half the view what does OP expect? And they should have discussed the issue like an adult rather than choosing the nuclear option straight away. The neighbor shouldn't be peeping if that's what's going on but it's an awful convenient pretext for OP to get the view AND the light AND the privacy AND make the neighbor deal with the downsides. Translucent window treatments and blinds are cheap and readily available.
@@thrdeye7304 OP didn't say that the neighbor looked away when she saw him looking, she said that _she_ looked away and looked back a few minutes later and he was still staring. That implies that he was probably looking in that direction continuously, and the fact that he didn't look away and just continued the alleged "staring" despite the fact that OP kept looking in his direction obviously noticing him actually supports @vypa8350's hypothesis that he didn't even see her or at least wasn't paying attention to her and whatever she was doing.
@@adiinbar993 You're right. I was listening to this while driving so didn't hear the comma in "sometimes I'll look up and see him, look away then look back minutes later and he's still looking." In that case, even less reason to think he's being nosy. The guy's probably just staring into space, lost in thought and not paying the slightest bit of attention to his neighbor's house. Or even just looking because, you know, if someone's going to put something in front of a 20' x 8 ' window aimed at your house it stands to reason they're okay with you seeing it. This isn't like someone going out of their way to look into a normal sized window. In any case OP does say the window is 10-15' from the property line and close enough that swimmers in the neighbor's pool can easily see their own reflections. That's pretty close. Definitely way too close for 160 square feet of mirror. OP is being an ass.
Weddings get stupid expensive when you add extended family and children. We allowed children at ours- but I married a teacher, so of course we did. Was a pretty small wedding still
Also all the kids are under ten. Their Kid kids. Kids hates weddings. They would have to sit still and quiet during a boring ceremony and wearing uncomfortable formal clothes and the youngest it 2 so what would happen if they had a tantrum. You got to put in a lot of extra work and money to keep the kids entertained and not cause a ruckus. Most of the time kids don't even want to go and are forced by family.
My cousins little boy came but hes very obedient and sweet, he was the only kid but all the adults loved him... hes an anomaly...most kids would go crazy...i expected him to during the reception after a very well behaved outdoor wedding, but nope, still on his best behavior ....... Not all kids are like him, and if I knew he was going to be an issue i would have asked them not to bring him, but I wanted to give him a chance since he is normally good....im sure OP and their partner knew the temperment of some of their families kids and they wouldnt be condusive of a wedding...so no kids to make it fair Its their wedding so they are in charge...how do people forget that... .... And the second wedding idea...wtf does their mom have a money tree cuz one wedding is expensive enough
That story about the babysitting is just... ugh. They had an agreement and she threatened his custody of his kids and his job because she was a bit petty. Just uggggghhh. Still love the episode though. Thanks for uploading, RSlash
If someone’s entire lifestyle hinges on having a free babysitter then they’ve been living beyond their means. That SIL can live with the consequences of her own actions. Even animals know ‘Don’t poop where you eat’ The mirrored window story is one I’d love an update for. I bet the kids didn’t complain at all. I have the feeling it was the peeping Tom husband who’s the one complaining to his wife about sun reflecting and saying the kids might feel self conscious. He got his wife to go with him to complain that he can’t spy on OP anymore and his wife probably had no idea. Now that she saw proof her husband’s a pervert she had to either back down or double down. She chose to double down and call the landlord to save face.
It wasn't free babysitting though, they had an arrangement of watching each other's kids. I wouldn't call labor being repaid with labor "free". Granted, then the jerk backed out of the agreement and put the other person and the kids in danger, so if I was OP I wouldn't trust her with my kids since she seems fine with using them to get back at OP, even leaving aside the anger of the whole deal and potential threat to OP's livelihood.
So I saw the first post a few days ago: op did update, he got his mom to come take the baby out of the dangerous situation because his wife is literally having mental break down. Last update he posted she had herself locked in a bathroom saying they were kidnapping the baby and if she told the doctor her thoughts that the baby would be taken. I really hope she gets help.
Husband: oK lOoK, jUsT bEcAuSe YoU gOt PiCtUrE's Of EvErY tImE i HaPpEnEd To LoOk OvEr At YoUr HoUsE, dOeSn'T mEaN i'M sTaRiNg. I jUsT hApPeN tO bE lOoKiNg FoR hOuRs-
The wedding story: Why are some parents so insistent on bringing their kids along when the rules clearly state “NO CHILDREN ALLOWED”? Either get a sitter or don’t go to the wedding.
My cousin had a a wedding with the reception being adults only. We went to the ceremony then left. Granted, we aren’t close and it was a bit strange as our family always has kids but it’s his wedding. A few years later when I invited him and his family to our daughters high school grad open house, he thanked me and said now that he has kids, he gets it. I told him it was his wedding, he gets to make the rules. No big deal.
Most kids don't even like weddings, it's boring. We can't sit still, younger kids probably won't sit still. OP has every reason to go for a child-free wedding. Like they could ask for a bit of cake for the kids back home (if they don't wanna let the kids have no cake). Little kids are rowdy as hell, OP should have a re-wedding and just not invite their family.
@@painttedHyena1974 I remembered when my cousin got married when I was about 11 (she was about 22 at the time), she invited all the kids and dear god was it awful. 4 hours of standing around or sitting listening to two people be wed. Don't get me wrong, I was happy for her, but man was it boring. It's even worse if the kids suffer from things like ADHD.
@@painttedHyena1974 HAHA agreed me being a child myself i do not like going to parties weddings and other things i think a few times my mum asked if i wanted to go to a wedding and i said no bc for one it is boring lol
Telling your family that half of them aren't welcome isn't the right way to organise a wedding. Your parents are the hosts, they invite the guests. Everyone is at fault here, the entire situation should have been sorted out a long time before the wedding, and the OP should have made sure their parents were on board with the rules they wanted.
@@joshduthie3401 in the post it clearly says that they DID agree to the no-kid rule and then on the day the sisters showed up with children anyway. How exactly was he supposed to know ahead of time that that's what they were planning to do? Also, while in some cases the parents are formally listed as the wedding "hosts", it's the bride and groom's right to have their day arranged the way THEY want it. We're not in the 1800s.
@@joshduthie3401 Nothing in the post states or implies the parents paid or hosted the wedding. Plus a Wedding is a celebration of a couple's new marriage, why ignore their decisions and break the rules for the event everyone else followed? Even if the parents paid for the wedding, going "well I paid for it" to veto the couple's decision is still petty and childish.
@@joshduthie3401 are the two getting wed 14 year olds and we all missed it? You're assuming the parents paid anything for the wedding (something in my experience happens 1 out of 20 times) and if they did its still not THEIR wedding, it's the two getting married. So no, they have zero claim on how it goes or they can pull their money out when op suggested, but since they didn't, I doubt they helped pay.
Story one: nta. I have little cousins and whenever they got constipated their screams and cries were heartbreaking. How could you willingly put your kid through that? Obviously baby eating more normal foods is a really exciting time but their baby is way too young.
That final story I'm just imagining them going "Oh, you'd be willing to throw us a 2nd wedding to make up for causing a scene at the first one? That's very generous of you. What? You mean WE should pay for and put the work into the 2nd wedding? Well you had such a fit the first time we did it then maybe you should do it all so you won't end up having to throw a tantrum cause the big expensive event someone else paid for and hosted isn't following your rules."
I feel like the wife is like: yeah, let's have a fence built... Husband: w-well, i think we should have her remove her ugly windows. That's really the only fair thing.
For the wife feeding the baby bad foods story. OP made some updates in the comments. For clarification he says “she’s been very “off” I’ve asked her several times if she is ok and she says she is fine. Sometimes I wake up in the middle of the night and she’s wide awake, sitting up in the bed and staring at the wall. Then when I ask if she’s ok she just says yes and lays back down. I get up with our daughter as well but my wife is always awake. I assume she sleeps during the day while I’m at work.” Update comment 1: “New development with her. I found her sitting in the bathroom floor and I told her I’m planning on packing to go to my moms. Told her I was taking Ava with me and she freaked out and said I was going to cause her to die because she needs the baby to be with her. I asked her if she would go see a doctor in the next few days while the baby and I are visiting my parents. I told her I wouldn’t tell them that we had a fight and that after she talks to someone and realizes what she is doing then we will come home. She started saying crazy things that my parents will try and take custody of the baby or if she tells the doctor “her thoughts” that they will take the baby and that she can’t be honest excuse she loves baby so much and afraid they will take her away. What do I do aside from taking my daughter to my mother?” Update 2: My mom just picked up the baby. My wife went ballistic. Screaming at me, my mom, told her she was kidnapping our daughter and she didn’t have her permission to take her. She’s currently locked herself in the bathroom and I’m waiting for someone to come over. I called the crisis hotline and they are sending someone our way. She seems to be crying and also cussing me and telling me how awful of a husband and a father I am. I want my wife back. We don’t talk to each other like this. I love her and our daughter. Hopefully this works itself out so I can give my family back
Damn mother's who say "I know more about my child than doctors" are the worst. Like I get that there's times where parents know better than a doctor but something like feeding 2-month-olds food they shouldn't eat???
If you aren't paying for the wedding or it isn't your wedding, you have no say in what happens, and even if you are paying for someone else's wedding you have to clear everything with the couple
When are people going to realise when a doctor “strongly recommends” something it’s actually “I want to fucking scream and force you to do this but I’m obviously not allowed morally or else to force anyone to do something”
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"Oh, you want me to have a second wedding? Sure, pay for it and I totally will"
My aunt had a child-free wedding when I was really little, and I think I had so much more fun hanging out with the chaperone and my cousins than I ever would have attending. I was a child who would totally become restless during a wedding, and my cousins are fun people. I did wonder what was going on inside the entire time, but it was fun.
For anyone curious about the first story: The wife is showing severe warning sighs of postpartum depression and psychosis. Symptoms often include extreme paranoia. In the comments on the post, OP talks about how scared he is and how out of character this is. Chat recommended he take himself and baby to his parents, he did, and his wife had a meltdown and he called a helpline. PPD and psychosis aren’t as uncommon as you think, but due to the stigma about mental illness they’re rarely talked about-meaning they often come unexpected and the victims and loved ones don’t know what to do. Hopefully OP and his wife get the help they need. But as long as stuff like this is considered taboo or impolite, it will happen to others, and others may not be so lucky. Please do some research on these topics, and if you know someone who’s pregnant please make sure they know what might be coming.
The first story- the wife had post pardum psychosis, op posted some comments about how she wasn’t sleeping and he would wake up and find her just sitting starting at the wall. His mother came to get the baby because she started saying very weird things about how she couldn’t tell the doctors her actual thoughts and they would kidnap the baby. She freaked out when the mom came and screamed at her and the husband and locked herself in the bathroom. He had to call the crisis hotline and they sent someone over to help them.
OP of the second story is NTA. Their sister risked their job over an argument. Yeah, maybe they could have checked their phone in the morning before leaving the house, but they're not obligated to, and it's understandable that someone who works with children and has children in the car would not answer their phone. That is being a responsible parent.
Story 1: This is literally something that could get child services called, she NEEDS to stop. Intentionally causing pain to a child and neglecting them this way is ILLEGAL.
Second story: Saying that calling the police didn't result in serious consequences and therefore it wasn't a big deal is not something for the antagonist to decide. If Person A shot Person B with vindictive intent but Person B didn't die it doesn't mean everything's all good now. "No harm, no foul." can only come from the aggrieved party, not the transgressor.
Op: my wedding is no kids Family: fine *brings kids anyway* Op: get out Op is not the butthole. I plan on having a wedding with no kids as well and I also expect people to not bring them. I’d take Op’s stance on not allowing kids.
I am a Mum and even at 6 months, you can't give them any solid foods. It's usually mashed fruits or selected veg like potatoes. Babies aren't allowed to eat a lot and will still need formula milk or breastfeed milk. The mother is endangering the baby. If I was the husband, keep an eye on your wife or have someone watch her while you are at work.
About the wedding story, I went to a wedding when I was like 9 years old. I was extremely bored and wanted to leave ASAP. I can’t imagine what a two year old would have been like at a wedding. They should have either hired a babysitter or not gone because honestly most kids don’t really understand or like weddings.
Actions have consequences! Op's sister tried to get op fired, arrested and endangered op's kids all because the sister wanted to be petty over a little argument. Eat your cake, Karen!
If I was OP in the last story, I'd agree to redo the wedding but have the mom and sisters pay for everything. Only then can they get the wedding their way
If someone’s childcare is so valuable to you that you could loose your house without it I think you should at the bare minimum show them the respect of not calling the police on false charges. Even putting the morality aside if she lost her job as a result of those charges it’s unlikely she can could care for your kids leading to the exact same outcome for her. Even being selfish and only thinking about yourself she still chose the worst option.
Giving birth doesnt make you a mother. You can't give a 2 month old baby that kind of stuff. You're not supposed to feed them that until they start teething
No you start weaning at 4 months if I had to wait till mine had teeth to feed solids they would have been on only milk till age 2 and she didn't get her 18mth teeth till she was 6 lol !! You do realise some babies are actually born with teeth when others don't get theirs till over a year old you can't say you can only wean babies when they have teeth thats wrong
To clarify further, us humans give birth to underdeveloped young. The couple months after birth are to complete the process basically, giving a 2 month old food that they're physically incapable of dealing with is super bad.
For the sisters argument story, op’s fam was saying that the sister’s action of calling the cops had to serious repercussions but they’re obviously wrong. It did have serious effects but just on the wrong sister. If she didn’t think well ahead of what she was doing, that’s on her
My 2nd daughter had REALLY bad constipation since birth, she's 9 now and it's much better but I ONLY gave her formula until she was old enough for baby food. Her dad and I would have to go outside and cry because we were so worried about her. I just can't believe a mother would do this to thier child, I would've done ANYTHING to make her pain go away!
OP posted some updates that the mother is now getting treatment for post-per...par... How do you spell it... Depressions after giving birth and had been suffering a prolonged psychotic breakdown
Currently in training lactation consultant here. Solid food should NOT be given to a newborn. Their digestive system is not mature enough to handle it. The only thing they should have at that point is either formula or breast milk. What the hell?
my problem with the sister in law calling the police, is that OP literally said she would come pick them up but that she needed to arrange work from home first, like the rude sister in law would have gotten her wish and OP would have picked up her children without hassle it seems, but noooooooooooooooooooo, sister in law had to be petty and set a time limit and therefore threaten OPs job, like the sister in law got herself into this by being petty and setting a time limit that couldn't be reached
Last story: people who want child free events typically understand that it may not work for everyone, but what I mean by that is someone may not come if they can’t arrange care either because of money or distance etc. so if you can’t arrange something the right thing to do is apologize and say you can’t come, not show up anyway. What if it was an adult themed wedding and you showed up with your kids? I have three kids and I’d never do this. I can’t understand people who act like they can’t be away from their children for a day. I find it’s just because they use their kids as an accomplishment, like their only way to validate themselves.
As a woman, even I can't understand the mentality of "I know what's best for OUR child." OP, as the father, has every right to demand that they feed the baby properly. The mentality that women know what's best for their baby is so stupid because parenting is meant to be a shared struggle with the co-parent, not just the person who had the baby. This whole story makes me so damn mad.
When are people gonna realize... the bride and groom have full control of their own wedding.... plain and simple. Dont like it... dont go... have a little respect.
Child free weddings. Ehen I think of all the weddings I've gone to that I can remember in my 66yrs, that had kids present and then I think of the 3 that didn't have kids there. I think 'child' free weddings are great! The 'child free' weddings were so much better, more relaxing and enjoyable. No babies screaming/crying during the ceremony. No toddlers having meltdowns or tantrums. No young kids raising hell, wasting food, no kids tripping up adults. No parents chasing or yelling at kids. No one having to sit on the sidelines at tables keeping children occupied/amused while their spouse browsed, talked or visited others. Geeze, the drinking that goes on and the possible fights that happen. I've seen kids get tangled up in fights, knocked over, stepped on, landed on and hurt. Weddings for the greatest part are 'adult parties'. Why take children? Would parents take their kids out to celebrate at adult parties on New Years Eve? 12 to 14yrs old are a lot better behaved, less likely to cause problems and it's not necessary to keep a constant eye on. 16 and up, no problem. But leave the younger ones at home. They will appreciate it and adults will be able to enjoy themselves.
Idk why parents even insist bringing kids to weddings. I have never seen kids have any fun until the reception. I imagine they would find the whole thing boring IMHO
What is *wrong* with these people? They'd probably go to someone's house and then do whatever the hell they wanted regardless of the rules the owner set. When he ejected them they'd call him a butthole because no one makes these kind of rules. You come to my house you obey my rules or I kick you the hell out. And I expect someone else to do the same with me. Except I don't break house rules. If I can't follow them, I wish them a good day and take my leave.
I just don't understand how can the so called "FAAMILY" ruin their relative special day that he invested a lot of money and effort into and then still talk about "FAAMILY".
A friend at work was having trouble with a peeping tom. The guy was actually walking up to her house and looking into her windows at night when she was home. I took a piece of 1/2" plywood about 18" x 36". I drove 2" nails into the plywood, filling it up with them sticking points up 1 1/2" out of the plywood. She buried it under leaves at one window that had the shade up halfway. She closed the shades on all the other windows and waited. A couple of nights later she heard noises, and someone cursing and slamming around outside the window. The next morning, she found blood on the board and leaves. A day or so later, she saw the neighbor outside walking with crutches and with one foot bandaged up and off the ground. Nothing was ever said to her by either him or his wife.
I have a issue with parking spaces too, my neighbour's son insists in parking his car outside my house every single day. Our houses are tiny, when parking a car outside the house you block the entry to the house, my mom had to ask for him to move the car since she couldn't come in. We've told him to stop for a year now and I'm getting annoyed.
That crazy sister and law and her husband need to seriously reevaluate their finances and I'm sure are over exaggerating. Plenty of ways to make thinks work by cutting out needless spending
2:54 for those who don't know, apples have a small amount of natural acid, you don't notice it because of how little amount of acid is in it, I'm not making this up, there are other fruits that have natural acid in them like tomatoes, lemons, limes, even salt, can be acidic, but these are low enough for a young adult to properly digest, but not a two month old infant.
My gods, if you can't afford to lose someones babysitting services DON'T BE A BUTT TO THEM, it's really that simple. You're the one asking them to do something for you, you're in need of help and your children are in the end always YOUR responsabiliy.
The calling the cops due to the communication error didn't have any real consequences. But what if it had? OP could have lost their job and their kids. That was a massive over reaction that genuinely could have ruined OP's life. SiL could've called to double check at the 45 min mark, what if it was traffic? Or a car accident? This could've gone so many other ways, and all of them suck. Nta.
@Debaayon Ganguly I don't, it's just a bunch of self-righteous people pushing some of the dumbest opinions and questions. Seriously I've seen people in this subreddit call mothers who put their kids in time out for 3 minutes the asshole.
2:08 while I agree OP used a few choice words, I'd say it's completely justified, their child was crying and screaming because they're constipated from eating solid food at an age where they can digest properly yet, and why didn't she listen to the doctor (a health expert) and lie to their face, I think there are some peaces missing so who know what she's doing behind OP's back.
The fact that the mother told the doctor she was only giving her baby formula and nothing else, she knew was she was doing was wrong. Even after medical advice, she refused to listen. OP should take his baby to his parents if she "wants him gone until she forgives him"
She sounds like gypsy roses mom
I think OP should divorce his wife and gain full custody of the baby.
@@mask938 definitely it’s super weird the way the dr keeps telling her what’s wrong and how she keeps feeding her also do babies even have teeth at two months ? It seems like she takes her to the dr and lies about what makes the baby sick . If the dad wasn’t there the dr may have had to start running unnecessary test on her bc she lied about feeding her solids
@@mask938 Custody laws are biased against dads. Dad should ask the doctor if he/she will back him on an abuse allegation, file a police report, call a lawyer, call relatives to come over and:
A. Either kick mom out & file for full custody & have family help remove her stuff
B. Or have family help take dad, baby & stuff from residence
OP did take baby to his mom. Wife had a mental breakdown and was taken to a hospital to be treated for Post Partum Depression.
"You made me look like a bad Parent." Well if your Husband told the truth, then maybe you just are a bad Parent.
Calling it now. Divorced, and this bitch is gonna lie in the custody hearing about how he was the one demanding they feed the baby incorrectly. They'll probably believe her too, and just default to giving the mother custody.
@@metanightmare4454 wrong wrong and wrong. OP got kid to his mom and called EMS to take her go a hospital for post partum depression.
My, how subtle.
Sadly, I've know people like that, who don't see the irony of saying that someone is making them look bad by just stating undisputed facts, not in situations when those facts lack context or are being told to someone who doesn't have the perspective to understand them and thus sound worse than they are, but in situations that what makes the person look bad is just that someone else knows what they did. I always say "If the the plain truth makes you look bad, what does that tell you??"
Maybe?
Whoa. That SIL is super toxic. She wasn’t sorry for what she did, otherwise she wouldn’t have justified it after her “apology.” She only pretended to be sorry so she could have free childcare again.
Ikr, she can go stuff it
THIS!! Thats what I was thinking!! I was like no way she wants childcare for free and realized her mistake when it came around to bite her but she wasn't sorry. Only sorry she lost her free ride. She didn't even wait to ask when it was OPs turn to have the kids watched which then maybe I would have believed then.
THATS WHAT IM SAYING!!!!!
Was gonna comment the same; fairly obvious imo.
What if OP got arrested?
Update on the first story via ops replies: wife has clearly been suffering from severe PPD or even psychosis! He says shes been sitting awake at night staring at the wall, and when he confronted her about everything and him taking the baby to his parents she absolutely flipped out screaming and babbling about them taking the baby away and kidnapping her, etc.. last reply reported that grandma had come to pick up the baby and wife had locked herself in the bathroom screaming and crying. Hopefully they can get her help but stories like this are a good reminder that not everyone who is the butthole in these stories is evil or malicious or entitled, but just needs serious help :( i hope she gets it and that the family can recover and move on together
This should be pinned, thanks for posting this here. And yeah I totally agree.
Do you have a link about the first story?
@@AgentAnime95 it was in the comments so im not sure i can link it but i'll try to later :)
I feel bad for everyone in this situation. I wish the pediatrician saw these red flags and suggested she see someone.
I’m so glad that the baby is in better hands now. Thank you for posting this.
(poisons baby with table food) OMG THE FORMULA IS HURTING THE BABYYYYYYYY
Oh god
That's so f*cking cruel
I was in grade 3 and babysat my brother and I never did this cruelty and even last year I babysat my newest sibling and I never tried to kill them or accidentally did poison them
There was an update to that story. The husband found the wife having a mental breakdown. His mother came and got the baby so he could take her to the hospital. Pretty sure she was diagnosed with PPP (post partum psychosis).
@@unavailabletoyu Now that makes some sense. Thank you for the update.
There was an update to the first story. The husband found the wife having a mental breakdown. His mother came and got the baby so he could take her to the hospital. Pretty sure she was diagnosed with PPP (post partum psychosis).
That is a good update. Hopefully the wife will get the help she needs and the baby will be okay after all the table she has eaten.
Please tell me she's spending a very long time in there
Thanks for the update about that. I hope things turn out better for them.
Guess we got a good case of r/insane parent there.
Having postpartum depression does not make her a bad parent or insane, just ill. I had postnatal depression ( what we call it in the uk) many years ago and I was very bad. Running someone down for having a mental illness due to their hormones going haywire is not nice.
Op’s wife: yOU MaKe Me loOk LIke a Bad PAreNt. YOU ARE A BAD PARENT
For real. She pissed me off
If saying something that’s true makes you look like a bad person then your probably a bad person
She makes herself look bad
She cares about looking like one but being one
If you have to lie about what you are doing you shouldn't be doing it.
My MIL and my Husband's Aunt both told me to feed my son water to give me a break and fill him up. I thanked them, and then told my husband later that they would never watch our son while he was in baby-stage
You are a good parent. Also, formula is such a wonderful invention as an alternative to breastmilk (if you don't want/can't breastmilk) !
@@kawvr6144 this was three years ago, and yea - fed is best! I did au natural for 6 months and then little baby food and formula after.
Happy to know your child grew up to be a healthy 3yo!
@@kawvr6144 breastmilk is far superior to formula. If you can't breastfeed you should rathet look for a wetnurse if you can afford it.
when you thanked them I thought you were doing it but I'm glad your a response able parent.
The first story.. that hurts, when I was a baby (I don’t remember this my mom told me) my dad wouldn’t let my mom bottle feed me and she was barely making milk so I was starving to death. At my two week checkup, the doctor asked why I was losing weight, and my mom said because she wasn’t making enough milk. Doctor asked why she wasn’t bottle feeding and my mom just looked over at my dad. The doctor picked up on what was going on, took me out of the room, and came back with me in his arms, holding a bottle. He looked at my dad and said “there. Now you can’t blame you wife.” That man literally saved my life.
My mom divorced him ten years ago.
Why wouldn't your dad let your mom bottle feed you?
@@redblushinrose might have been one of this people who think that breast feeding is the most natural and thus best way possible and doesn't think that formula is safe or doesn't agree with it.
@@reallyoriginalname1221 which is absolutely ridiculous because if we're talking natural and all that, there is still times on a farm where you would notice a calf or lamb not do8ng well because their mothers have the same problem as your mother did but nobody judges the farmer for giving those fuzzy babies a bottle to supplement.
See I always get judge for not breast feeding my baby. The thing is I didn't produce any breast milk like none I tried and the hospital tried I had zero and my boyfriend is 100% behind me when it came to bottle feeding he even encouraged it so he could feed him as well. What your dad is literally child abuse
@@reallyoriginalname1221 then I wonder if they used disposable diapers and pacifiers because those are not natural, yet lots of parents use them.
1. Why are so many parents so willing to move on to food with a baby so quickly? Especially against doctor's orders!
2. Sweet tea? You're giving your 2 month old caffeine!?
3. Don't lie to a doctor. You won't get fixed that way.
aham have teas without caffeine :D they even recommend some of them to dogs
The fact she lied and was mad because "she looked like a bad parent" proves that SHE KNOWS she is a terrible parent
They don't want to take care of a baby, they just want a cute kid to play with. We didn't give our kids solid food until they literally stole it from our hands.
@@-castus-
I know there is such a thing as non-caffeinated tea. Sweet tea is traditionally black tea which is caffeinated.
@@kawvr6144
Right!?
The first story reminds me of a news article I saw. Two parents got arrested because they were feeding their baby *potato* formula because they wanted it to be vegan like them. It nearly killed the baby because it didn’t provide sufficient nutrition for it. The worst part was that their baby’s doctor knew about their dietary needs and *prescribed a special vegan formula for the baby* so it would get the nutrition it needed while following dietary needs. The parents completely ignored this and just went ahead with potato formula anyway because I guess they thought they knew better. They didn’t and the baby could have died.
I think they’re both in prison for child abuse.
I hope so. I'm not trashing formula fed, but the natural food for any species of baby is milk made by another member of its own species. (Mother). Even herbivore mammals start off with mammal milk. Its body needs that to live. Substituting that with formula is ok, but the formula needs to have the same fats and nutrients. Vegetation isn't going to cut it. I swear these people are full on brainless. Its common sense.
"I think they’re both in prison for child abuse."
Oh, good.
Know of a second story where the baby DID die, and the parents didn't face a single day in jail.
For the first story, call Child protective services. She does not deserve custody of your child
She had an emptional beak down
Honestly not a bad idea. Maybe the scare would wake her up. She’s probably not doing it to hurt the baby but clearly doesn’t get that it really is hurting her and could cause her long term issues
Also, CPS is there to make sure the child gets proper care. I really don't think she should lose her child's custody, simply receive help and perhaps more education about parenting and childcare
he took the kid to moms and she had an emotional break down
@@niyablake and he had her admitted somewhere if I'm remembering correctly too.
Hopefully she'll get the help it sounds like she really needs
1st story: there was literally a front page story about a child who died because her parents weren’t feeding her properly
The husband is horrible, unlike the wife, he understands they are hurting the child and is continuing to let it go on. He is spineless. These are the sort of men that marry entitled women and give up any say to 'keep the peace' even if it could literally harm his child for life. If you need to question whether peace with your wife is more important than your baby screaming in pain every day you don't deserve children. Damn, this story makes me so mad. I have the same person in my life, my husband's mother would feed grapes to their 6 month old puppy (among other horrible things) because "dogs know what's good for them" despite being told multiple times that it's going to kill him. My husband finally flipped out and screamed at her until she caved in and promised not to do it again, only because she can't stand her son being mad at her and because he didn't take any of her bullshit anymore. He literally chanted "murdered" until she finally stopped talking over him. Despite how delusional they are, entitled people are not immune to pressure, if you don't take their bullshit they will eventually give up and you can beat them at their own game.
and the other where an attention seeking mom basically drugged her child with sodium
@@huginug lol nice try troll
@Ug be You know that theirs an update where op took the baby with him to the mothers for her safety and the wife had a mental break and got Admitted to a mental hospital right. So great of you to make assumptions based on half a story.
@Nintendo Gamer about the dog? Oh no, it's true and there's much more than just grapes she fed him. My mil is a horrible narcissist. I haven't talked to her directly for years now, I can't stand how she thinks she knows everything and everyone else is wrong, even when faced with facts. His parents were lonely and got a puppy from some facebook group ad when it was just 3 months old, which is already a big no no, it's too early to take them away from the mother. They let him climb up the stairs when you're not supposed to because the bones could deform, ignored our warnings that he could even fall and injure itself, they didn't buy any specialized puppy food, because she was convinced these dogs who don't have a breed are strong and can take anything so why waste money, and only pure bred dogs are sensitive to diseases, that they instinctively know what's good for them. They leave it alone in the house the majority of the day 10 hours or longer, they don't know how to play with it properly and they don't play enough, so he's already showing behavioral issues, like biting them in the face hard enough to draw blood, he has bit her nose while she was in bed and his father's ear already. They punish it physically by hitting him on the snout just because he, for example, chewed on the broom. My husband is also the non-confrintational type and I myself can't do anything as I already caused a massive rift by standing up to her years ago. Among the things she proudly admitted to feeding him was chocolate, cookies, steaks, chips and "look, he's fine isn't he, grapes have vitamins in it"! My husband found his bas balls and started screaming at her that she's a murderer, over and over and over again because she kept repeating that "it's fine". So yeah, after that she promised to feed him only the dog food but whether she's keeping that promise i have no idea, I don't believe it given our past. I bet the puppy will either die early or become mentally fucked up dog they'll give up for adoption when they won't be able to handle it anymore. Seriously, I could write a whole book if I put down every of her delusional beliefs and shit she has done in writing 😬
First story: Why do you go to a doctor if you don't do what they recommend you to do? And when you tell someone they ratted you out, you pretty much confess that you know you were in the wrong.
I wonder if she’s antivax too
Munchausens by proxy
I was thinking the same thing
@@Avrysatos We'll never know since the story didn't involve that.
@@mariposa9506 I figured since she has a reckless disregard for her child's health maybe it carries over to other aspects of medical care is all.
Story 2: Calling the babysitting off at the very last moment? Completely oblivious to the fact that OP can't just leave work whenever she wants? It sounds to me that OP's sister in law arranged all this on purpose because she was enraged over their argument and wanted to get back at her...
i know i'm late to this, but: the argument of the family that there weren't any consequences with calling the police?
i guess people need to learn that in modern bureaucracy even simple interactions for what cops are being called for are put in a database for later reference in case of repeated offense... it's not like they arrive, only to leave again.
it's kind of stupid how quickly people pull the cops on others for no GOOD reason.
i do have to admit though that people SHOULD call the police on people who leave kids in front of their doors if it was completely unarranged though. (OP and the SIL had an arrangement and it was not called off properly with mutual understanding. OP could not have checked the phone if it was SHORTLY before arriving at the SIL's house, so OP could not have known)
Honestly I hope SIL found other child care services bc she closed OP's child care system for her forever
I can't believe that mom actually did that without a guilty conscience.
it made me feel sick. that poor baby. the fact she had been told by a doctor, multiple times makes it so much worse, if it was ignorance, thats one thing, but this seems malicious, either that or they are on some sort of facebook group that promotes it and claims they know better than doctors. (like anti vaxxers or those ones that THROW babies around.)
we started solids in very small amounts around 4 months as the doctors said it was ok if she was showing interest, just be careful what we fed her and in what amounts. but 2 months for that sort of food is terrible. a taste around the 3 month mark maybe, but not full on food while withholding milk/formula.
Makes me think of those women who have children and then treat them like a possession or a pet.
"New development with her. I found her sitting in the bathroom floor and I told her I’m planning on packing to go to my moms. Told her I was taking Ava with me and she freaked out and said I was going to cause her to die because she needs the baby to be with her."
@@myopinion69420 "Throw babies around"?!?!?!?
@@myopinion69420 someone posted part of an update from OP here and in another video. It sounds like OP has gotten his wife admitted somewhere as she's definitely having some mental health issues
Probably ignorance.
Also one of the worst mother
As far as the childcare story goes, what I would add is that the SIL didn't actually apologize. To me it sounded more like *read in r/slash's Karen voice*: "I'm sorry you didn't check your phone when I was blowing it"
And it wasn't like the sister-in-law didn't know that op was dropping off her children. She only was upset that op didn't talk to her, if I were op I definitely would not watch the sister-in-law's kids again. The previous arrangement works but the sister-in-law decides to ruin it by being petty in calling the police knowing it was a false claim of abandonment.
@@barbarastorball2117 and OP's family saying he was the butthole was also unbelievable, they said "It didn't have consequences with the police", but his life could be destroyed, and if he looked at his phone while driving he and the kids could be dead
And the SIL couldn’t afford a babysitter? At minimum wage? Either their financial situation is really messed up that paying someone minimum wage would cause them to have to move back with parents or someone drastically blew their situation out of proportion. I know daycare is a lot more expensive but seriously babysitters aren’t that expensive, especially someone just starting.
*insert prewritten "apology" speech*
Honestly, it felt.like.the SiL only apologized for the incident because she needed a babysitter. If she was truly sorry, she should have apologized sooner and not when it was convenient for her to need a babysitter. She shouldn't have immediately brought up that she needed a babysitter after apogizing for sure.
The real reason the neighbors were pissed was because they couldn't spy on her anymore.
Well sometimes windows are already reflective enough that you cant see from the outside. Especially in the summer. Maybe ge was just staring of into space.
Also the fact that she was able to take pictures withouth him noticing makes me think that either the windows were already reflective or he wasnt staring at her but rather in her general direction.
Also if u go on reddit op mentions that the house is some distance away and other redditors point out that at that distance it would be hard to peek in regardless of the reflectivity of the window.
@@vypa-bk1iy OP does say the neighbor looked away when they looked, so presumably they could see OP. But in that case, with the entire side of the house being glass and so close to the neighbor that area of the house is basically "outside" so far as reasonable expectations of privacy are concerned. The neighbors do have the right to look out their own window and if the inside of OP's house is half the view what does OP expect? And they should have discussed the issue like an adult rather than choosing the nuclear option straight away. The neighbor shouldn't be peeping if that's what's going on but it's an awful convenient pretext for OP to get the view AND the light AND the privacy AND make the neighbor deal with the downsides. Translucent window treatments and blinds are cheap and readily available.
@@thrdeye7304 OP didn't say that the neighbor looked away when she saw him looking, she said that _she_ looked away and looked back a few minutes later and he was still staring. That implies that he was probably looking in that direction continuously, and the fact that he didn't look away and just continued the alleged "staring" despite the fact that OP kept looking in his direction obviously noticing him actually supports @vypa8350's hypothesis that he didn't even see her or at least wasn't paying attention to her and whatever she was doing.
@@adiinbar993 You're right. I was listening to this while driving so didn't hear the comma in "sometimes I'll look up and see him, look away then look back minutes later and he's still looking." In that case, even less reason to think he's being nosy. The guy's probably just staring into space, lost in thought and not paying the slightest bit of attention to his neighbor's house. Or even just looking because, you know, if someone's going to put something in front of a 20' x 8 ' window aimed at your house it stands to reason they're okay with you seeing it. This isn't like someone going out of their way to look into a normal sized window.
In any case OP does say the window is 10-15' from the property line and close enough that swimmers in the neighbor's pool can easily see their own reflections. That's pretty close. Definitely way too close for 160 square feet of mirror.
OP is being an ass.
@@vypa-bk1iy maybe she was at a different window and wasn't spotted yet? Or he pretended to look at something else not to look suspicious
If Op's mom wants everyone to be at the wedding, then she cover that bill 100%.
Weddings get stupid expensive when you add extended family and children.
We allowed children at ours- but I married a teacher, so of course we did. Was a pretty small wedding still
I had no kids at my reception, but yes after.
Also all the kids are under ten. Their Kid kids. Kids hates weddings. They would have to sit still and quiet during a boring ceremony and wearing uncomfortable formal clothes and the youngest it 2 so what would happen if they had a tantrum. You got to put in a lot of extra work and money to keep the kids entertained and not cause a ruckus. Most of the time kids don't even want to go and are forced by family.
Agreed
My cousins little boy came but hes very obedient and sweet, he was the only kid but all the adults loved him...
hes an anomaly...most kids would go crazy...i expected him to during the reception after a very well behaved outdoor wedding, but nope, still on his best behavior
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Not all kids are like him, and if I knew he was going to be an issue i would have asked them not to bring him, but I wanted to give him a chance since he is normally good....im sure OP and their partner knew the temperment of some of their families kids and they wouldnt be condusive of a wedding...so no kids to make it fair
Its their wedding so they are in charge...how do people forget that...
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And the second wedding idea...wtf does their mom have a money tree cuz one wedding is expensive enough
That story about the babysitting is just... ugh. They had an agreement and she threatened his custody of his kids and his job because she was a bit petty. Just uggggghhh. Still love the episode though. Thanks for uploading, RSlash
If someone’s entire lifestyle hinges on having a free babysitter then they’ve been living beyond their means. That SIL can live with the consequences of her own actions. Even animals know ‘Don’t poop where you eat’
The mirrored window story is one I’d love an update for. I bet the kids didn’t complain at all. I have the feeling it was the peeping Tom husband who’s the one complaining to his wife about sun reflecting and saying the kids might feel self conscious. He got his wife to go with him to complain that he can’t spy on OP anymore and his wife probably had no idea. Now that she saw proof her husband’s a pervert she had to either back down or double down. She chose to double down and call the landlord to save face.
It wasn't free babysitting though, they had an arrangement of watching each other's kids. I wouldn't call labor being repaid with labor "free". Granted, then the jerk backed out of the agreement and put the other person and the kids in danger, so if I was OP I wouldn't trust her with my kids since she seems fine with using them to get back at OP, even leaving aside the anger of the whole deal and potential threat to OP's livelihood.
OP: *Told doctor the truth about his wife about what she's feeding the baby*
Wife: *"bEtRaYaL!!"*
Lol, look at who's talking.
A lot of mothers are so narcissistic, as if pushing a baby out means “you know best”
So I saw the first post a few days ago: op did update, he got his mom to come take the baby out of the dangerous situation because his wife is literally having mental break down. Last update he posted she had herself locked in a bathroom saying they were kidnapping the baby and if she told the doctor her thoughts that the baby would be taken. I really hope she gets help.
Someone mentionned she probably has post partum psychosis, and that would totally make sense
@@kawvr6144 She has a superiosity complex, and people are still making excuses for her.
@@Robin93k you don't know that
Why do people think they can demand things of someone after they’ve burned that bridge? How hard is it to understand that actions have consequences??
>OP catches peeping Tom
>Tom denies it.
>OP has pics.
Husband: oK lOoK, jUsT bEcAuSe YoU gOt PiCtUrE's Of EvErY tImE i HaPpEnEd To LoOk OvEr At YoUr HoUsE, dOeSn'T mEaN i'M sTaRiNg. I jUsT hApPeN tO bE lOoKiNg FoR hOuRs-
@@agentmaryland1239 WoW. I bEt ThAt A pAiN tHe AsS tYpE oUt.
Hahahahahaha.
@@TheSolidMidgetOfficial You have no idea lol
On the first story op needs to get that child away from the mother before something really bad happens
he took the child and end up calling a crisis hot line for mental health
@@niyablake pog
The wedding story: Why are some parents so insistent on bringing their kids along when the rules clearly state “NO CHILDREN ALLOWED”? Either get a sitter or don’t go to the wedding.
My cousin had a a wedding with the reception being adults only. We went to the ceremony then left. Granted, we aren’t close and it was a bit strange as our family always has kids but it’s his wedding. A few years later when I invited him and his family to our daughters high school grad open house, he thanked me and said now that he has kids, he gets it. I told him it was his wedding, he gets to make the rules. No big deal.
Most kids don't even like weddings, it's boring. We can't sit still, younger kids probably won't sit still. OP has every reason to go for a child-free wedding. Like they could ask for a bit of cake for the kids back home (if they don't wanna let the kids have no cake). Little kids are rowdy as hell, OP should have a re-wedding and just not invite their family.
@@painttedHyena1974 Agreed! Keeping younger kids occupied at a wedding is a nightmare.
@@painttedHyena1974 I remembered when my cousin got married when I was about 11 (she was about 22 at the time), she invited all the kids and dear god was it awful. 4 hours of standing around or sitting listening to two people be wed. Don't get me wrong, I was happy for her, but man was it boring. It's even worse if the kids suffer from things like ADHD.
@@painttedHyena1974 HAHA agreed me being a child myself i do not like going to parties weddings and other things i think a few times my mum asked if i wanted to go to a wedding and i said no bc for one it is boring lol
Op: "Please don't bring the kids on our wedding"
Op Parents: *_"Yesn't"_*
"We wanted to celebrate this wedding like family!"
OP: "Which family? Yours or mine? Because you sure as shit aren't treating me like family."
Telling your family that half of them aren't welcome isn't the right way to organise a wedding. Your parents are the hosts, they invite the guests. Everyone is at fault here, the entire situation should have been sorted out a long time before the wedding, and the OP should have made sure their parents were on board with the rules they wanted.
@@joshduthie3401 in the post it clearly says that they DID agree to the no-kid rule and then on the day the sisters showed up with children anyway. How exactly was he supposed to know ahead of time that that's what they were planning to do? Also, while in some cases the parents are formally listed as the wedding "hosts", it's the bride and groom's right to have their day arranged the way THEY want it. We're not in the 1800s.
@@joshduthie3401 You're only assuming they're the hosts and sent the invites.
@@joshduthie3401 Nothing in the post states or implies the parents paid or hosted the wedding. Plus a Wedding is a celebration of a couple's new marriage, why ignore their decisions and break the rules for the event everyone else followed? Even if the parents paid for the wedding, going "well I paid for it" to veto the couple's decision is still petty and childish.
@@joshduthie3401 are the two getting wed 14 year olds and we all missed it? You're assuming the parents paid anything for the wedding (something in my experience happens 1 out of 20 times) and if they did its still not THEIR wedding, it's the two getting married. So no, they have zero claim on how it goes or they can pull their money out when op suggested, but since they didn't, I doubt they helped pay.
This subreddit is basically the home for people complaining about how many karens they've met
The moral of this video: Actions have consequences.
They sure do.
Truly, an invaluable lesson that's sadly not being taught enough in this day and age.
The moral of this *SERIES*
@@Twilightiger96 Yeah.
Story one: nta. I have little cousins and whenever they got constipated their screams and cries were heartbreaking. How could you willingly put your kid through that? Obviously baby eating more normal foods is a really exciting time but their baby is way too young.
OP gave a Update that his wife had a Mental Breakdown and the Baby is with the grandma
For story 2, play stupid games and win stupid prizes. That Karen should have thought about all of this when she tried to screw over OP.
That final story I'm just imagining them going "Oh, you'd be willing to throw us a 2nd wedding to make up for causing a scene at the first one? That's very generous of you. What? You mean WE should pay for and put the work into the 2nd wedding? Well you had such a fit the first time we did it then maybe you should do it all so you won't end up having to throw a tantrum cause the big expensive event someone else paid for and hosted isn't following your rules."
I feel like the wife is like: yeah, let's have a fence built...
Husband: w-well, i think we should have her remove her ugly windows. That's really the only fair thing.
For the wife feeding the baby bad foods story. OP made some updates in the comments. For clarification he says
“she’s been very “off” I’ve asked her several times if she is ok and she says she is fine. Sometimes I wake up in the middle of the night and she’s wide awake, sitting up in the bed and staring at the wall. Then when I ask if she’s ok she just says yes and lays back down. I get up with our daughter as well but my wife is always awake. I assume she sleeps during the day while I’m at work.”
Update comment 1: “New development with her. I found her sitting in the bathroom floor and I told her I’m planning on packing to go to my moms. Told her I was taking Ava with me and she freaked out and said I was going to cause her to die because she needs the baby to be with her.
I asked her if she would go see a doctor in the next few days while the baby and I are visiting my parents. I told her I wouldn’t tell them that we had a fight and that after she talks to someone and realizes what she is doing then we will come home.
She started saying crazy things that my parents will try and take custody of the baby or if she tells the doctor “her thoughts” that they will take the baby and that she can’t be honest excuse she loves baby so much and afraid they will take her away.
What do I do aside from taking my daughter to my mother?”
Update 2: My mom just picked up the baby. My wife went ballistic. Screaming at me, my mom, told her she was kidnapping our daughter and she didn’t have her permission to take her.
She’s currently locked herself in the bathroom and I’m waiting for someone to come over. I called the crisis hotline and they are sending someone our way. She seems to be crying and also cussing me and telling me how awful of a husband and a father I am.
I want my wife back. We don’t talk to each other like this. I love her and our daughter. Hopefully this works itself out so I can give my family back
Yeah, this is a psychotic breakdown. His speaking up may have saved his baby’s life, and his wife’s.
Damn mother's who say "I know more about my child than doctors" are the worst. Like I get that there's times where parents know better than a doctor but something like feeding 2-month-olds food they shouldn't eat???
If you aren't paying for the wedding or it isn't your wedding, you have no say in what happens, and even if you are paying for someone else's wedding you have to clear everything with the couple
When are people going to realise when a doctor “strongly recommends” something it’s actually “I want to fucking scream and force you to do this but I’m obviously not allowed morally or else to force anyone to do something”
"Oh, you want me to have a second wedding? Sure, pay for it and I totally will"
My aunt had a child-free wedding when I was really little, and I think I had so much more fun hanging out with the chaperone and my cousins than I ever would have attending. I was a child who would totally become restless during a wedding, and my cousins are fun people. I did wonder what was going on inside the entire time, but it was fun.
The tow story
The previous owner sounds like a wholesome story
The adventures of Granny and previous owner the brand new show
For anyone curious about the first story:
The wife is showing severe warning sighs of postpartum depression and psychosis. Symptoms often include extreme paranoia. In the comments on the post, OP talks about how scared he is and how out of character this is.
Chat recommended he take himself and baby to his parents, he did, and his wife had a meltdown and he called a helpline.
PPD and psychosis aren’t as uncommon as you think, but due to the stigma about mental illness they’re rarely talked about-meaning they often come unexpected and the victims and loved ones don’t know what to do.
Hopefully OP and his wife get the help they need. But as long as stuff like this is considered taboo or impolite, it will happen to others, and others may not be so lucky.
Please do some research on these topics, and if you know someone who’s pregnant please make sure they know what might be coming.
The first story- the wife had post pardum psychosis, op posted some comments about how she wasn’t sleeping and he would wake up and find her just sitting starting at the wall. His mother came to get the baby because she started saying very weird things about how she couldn’t tell the doctors her actual thoughts and they would kidnap the baby. She freaked out when the mom came and screamed at her and the husband and locked herself in the bathroom. He had to call the crisis hotline and they sent someone over to help them.
Can i just speak up as a doctor, and say that first mother is literally killing her baby, or at least going to cause her lifelong issues.
That ended up being postpartum psychosis
@@kranberry3318 still caused the issues though
Let me ask you, as a doctor..can babies drink 1 oz of water (maximum per day) at 2 months? It's something I've heard from more than 1 pediatrician.
@@Thatspookychick at 2 months water is not actually advised.
@@kranberry3318 That's just another excuse for Karens with a superiosity complex.
The theme of today's episode:
"Let me remove the consequences of my wrong actions."
Everyone sure as hell knows that the family was not going to pay out the a** for the second wedding that they so desperately wanted.
Ops sister in law only wanted to make up when she realized that she lost her babysitting too.
OP of the second story is NTA. Their sister risked their job over an argument. Yeah, maybe they could have checked their phone in the morning before leaving the house, but they're not obligated to, and it's understandable that someone who works with children and has children in the car would not answer their phone. That is being a responsible parent.
Thank you for mentioning that even plain water can be poisonous to a brand new baby.
Story 1: This is literally something that could get child services called, she NEEDS to stop. Intentionally causing pain to a child and neglecting them this way is ILLEGAL.
I will never understand why people so badly want to take their kids to weddings. Kids hate weddings they suck. I hate weddings and I'm grown.
I was just about to listen to rslash on Spotify lol perfect timing
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They want you to have a whole new wedding for the fam?
They can pay for it.
Second story:
Saying that calling the police didn't result in serious consequences and therefore it wasn't a big deal is not something for the antagonist to decide.
If Person A shot Person B with vindictive intent but Person B didn't die it doesn't mean everything's all good now.
"No harm, no foul." can only come from the aggrieved party, not the transgressor.
Op: my wedding is no kids
Family: fine *brings kids anyway*
Op: get out
Op is not the butthole. I plan on having a wedding with no kids as well and I also expect people to not bring them. I’d take Op’s stance on not allowing kids.
I am a Mum and even at 6 months, you can't give them any solid foods. It's usually mashed fruits or selected veg like potatoes. Babies aren't allowed to eat a lot and will still need formula milk or breastfeed milk. The mother is endangering the baby. If I was the husband, keep an eye on your wife or have someone watch her while you are at work.
About the wedding story, I went to a wedding when I was like 9 years old. I was extremely bored and wanted to leave ASAP. I can’t imagine what a two year old would have been like at a wedding. They should have either hired a babysitter or not gone because honestly most kids don’t really understand or like weddings.
Actions have consequences! Op's sister tried to get op fired, arrested and endangered op's kids all because the sister wanted to be petty over a little argument. Eat your cake, Karen!
This whole episode was that key and peele consequences skit lmao
If I was OP in the last story, I'd agree to redo the wedding but have the mom and sisters pay for everything. Only then can they get the wedding their way
If someone’s childcare is so valuable to you that you could loose your house without it I think you should at the bare minimum show them the respect of not calling the police on false charges. Even putting the morality aside if she lost her job as a result of those charges it’s unlikely she can could care for your kids leading to the exact same outcome for her. Even being selfish and only thinking about yourself she still chose the worst option.
Giving birth doesnt make you a mother. You can't give a 2 month old baby that kind of stuff. You're not supposed to feed them that until they start teething
No you start weaning at 4 months if I had to wait till mine had teeth to feed solids they would have been on only milk till age 2 and she didn't get her 18mth teeth till she was 6 lol !! You do realise some babies are actually born with teeth when others don't get theirs till over a year old you can't say you can only wean babies when they have teeth thats wrong
OP gave a Update that his wife had a Mental Breakdown and the Baby is with the Grandma
@@Dejaboom93 yes I know they have post natal phycosis which is very serious it wasn't her fault and getting treatment
« They said I ruined my now wedding » Hmm, I didn’t ruin my own wedding, it was such a lovely celebration! Too bad you had to miss it! ^^
To clarify further, us humans give birth to underdeveloped young. The couple months after birth are to complete the process basically, giving a 2 month old food that they're physically incapable of dealing with is super bad.
For the sisters argument story, op’s fam was saying that the sister’s action of calling the cops had to serious repercussions but they’re obviously wrong. It did have serious effects but just on the wrong sister. If she didn’t think well ahead of what she was doing, that’s on her
Second story. SIL almost cost OP her/his job FOREVER so OP played the Uno reverse card by not offering free childcare anymore.
My 2nd daughter had REALLY bad constipation since birth, she's 9 now and it's much better but I ONLY gave her formula until she was old enough for baby food. Her dad and I would have to go outside and cry because we were so worried about her. I just can't believe a mother would do this to thier child, I would've done ANYTHING to make her pain go away!
OP posted some updates that the mother is now getting treatment for post-per...par... How do you spell it... Depressions after giving birth and had been suffering a prolonged psychotic breakdown
OP's SIL had no business calling the cops. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes; she brought it on herself.
Peeping Tom: "OOoooooh I wish I was in that apartment...."
*puts up mirrors*
Peeping Tom: "How'd I get in that apartment???"
First story: separate, get an emergency custody order to block the mom from seeing the baby unsupervised, move out and file for divorce. Call CPS.
With all these privacy stories, I’m surprised this episode wasn’t sponsored by ExpressVPN
Currently in training lactation consultant here. Solid food should NOT be given to a newborn. Their digestive system is not mature enough to handle it. The only thing they should have at that point is either formula or breast milk. What the hell?
my problem with the sister in law calling the police, is that OP literally said she would come pick them up but that she needed to arrange work from home first, like the rude sister in law would have gotten her wish and OP would have picked up her children without hassle it seems, but noooooooooooooooooooo, sister in law had to be petty and set a time limit and therefore threaten OPs job, like the sister in law got herself into this by being petty and setting a time limit that couldn't be reached
For story 2 a part of me feels that ops sister only apologized because, she quickly realized that she had no one else to watch her kids expect for op
Actions have consequences. These stories are wild.
I hate how the wife knows she’s doing something wrong. If she KNEW what she was doing was right. She wouldn’t have to lie to the doctor.
Last story: people who want child free events typically understand that it may not work for everyone, but what I mean by that is someone may not come if they can’t arrange care either because of money or distance etc. so if you can’t arrange something the right thing to do is apologize and say you can’t come, not show up anyway. What if it was an adult themed wedding and you showed up with your kids? I have three kids and I’d never do this. I can’t understand people who act like they can’t be away from their children for a day. I find it’s just because they use their kids as an accomplishment, like their only way to validate themselves.
As a woman, even I can't understand the mentality of "I know what's best for OUR child." OP, as the father, has every right to demand that they feed the baby properly. The mentality that women know what's best for their baby is so stupid because parenting is meant to be a shared struggle with the co-parent, not just the person who had the baby. This whole story makes me so damn mad.
When are people gonna realize... the bride and groom have full control of their own wedding.... plain and simple. Dont like it... dont go... have a little respect.
Child free weddings. Ehen I think of all the weddings I've gone to that I can remember in my 66yrs, that had kids present and then I think of the 3 that didn't have kids there. I think 'child' free weddings are great! The 'child free' weddings were so much better, more relaxing and enjoyable. No babies screaming/crying during the ceremony. No toddlers having meltdowns or tantrums. No young kids raising hell, wasting food, no kids tripping up adults. No parents chasing or yelling at kids. No one having to sit on the sidelines at tables keeping children occupied/amused while their spouse browsed, talked or visited others. Geeze, the drinking that goes on and the possible fights that happen. I've seen kids get tangled up in fights, knocked over, stepped on, landed on and hurt. Weddings for the greatest part are 'adult parties'. Why take children? Would parents take their kids out to celebrate at adult parties on New Years Eve? 12 to 14yrs old are a lot better behaved, less likely to cause problems and it's not necessary to keep a constant eye on. 16 and up, no problem. But leave the younger ones at home. They will appreciate it and adults will be able to enjoy themselves.
Idk why parents even insist bringing kids to weddings. I have never seen kids have any fun until the reception. I imagine they would find the whole thing boring IMHO
lol I liked weddings as a kid but mostly because of all the good food. some traditional dishes was literally cooked only for weddings
What is *wrong* with these people? They'd probably go to someone's house and then do whatever the hell they wanted regardless of the rules the owner set. When he ejected them they'd call him a butthole because no one makes these kind of rules. You come to my house you obey my rules or I kick you the hell out. And I expect someone else to do the same with me. Except I don't break house rules. If I can't follow them, I wish them a good day and take my leave.
I just don't understand how can the so called "FAAMILY" ruin their relative special day that he invested a lot of money and effort into and then still talk about "FAAMILY".
0:30 bro this mom needs parenting classes
0:15 I thought he said beating and was so confused how OP was even a making the post
A friend at work was having trouble with a peeping tom. The guy was actually walking up to her house and looking into her windows at night when she was home. I took a piece of 1/2" plywood about 18" x 36". I drove 2" nails into the plywood, filling it up with them sticking points up 1 1/2" out of the plywood. She buried it under leaves at one window that had the shade up halfway. She closed the shades on all the other windows and waited. A couple of nights later she heard noises, and someone cursing and slamming around outside the window. The next morning, she found blood on the board and leaves. A day or so later, she saw the neighbor outside walking with crutches and with one foot bandaged up and off the ground. Nothing was ever said to her by either him or his wife.
I have a issue with parking spaces too, my neighbour's son insists in parking his car outside my house every single day. Our houses are tiny, when parking a car outside the house you block the entry to the house, my mom had to ask for him to move the car since she couldn't come in. We've told him to stop for a year now and I'm getting annoyed.
You could call the police and have him towed. He’s blocking your entry.
This video can be summarised into 2 statements:
1. Actions have consequences.
2. DON'T VIOLATE MY BOUNDARIES! (Man, this one pissed me off so much!)
The first scenario is so sad. Perhaps OP's wife is suffering from post partum depression? Prayers going up for that family.
OP later posted an update that the baby is with grandparents and that's exactly what the mother was going through
@@Akay4444444444444444 thanks for the update. I hope the family is well.
Who the freak gives a TWO MONTH OLD BABY solid food?!
That crazy sister and law and her husband need to seriously reevaluate their finances and I'm sure are over exaggerating. Plenty of ways to make thinks work by cutting out needless spending
2:54 for those who don't know, apples have a small amount of natural acid, you don't notice it because of how little amount of acid is in it, I'm not making this up, there are other fruits that have natural acid in them like tomatoes, lemons, limes, even salt, can be acidic, but these are low enough for a young adult to properly digest, but not a two month old infant.
My gods, if you can't afford to lose someones babysitting services DON'T BE A BUTT TO THEM, it's really that simple. You're the one asking them to do something for you, you're in need of help and your children are in the end always YOUR responsabiliy.
The calling the cops due to the communication error didn't have any real consequences. But what if it had? OP could have lost their job and their kids. That was a massive over reaction that genuinely could have ruined OP's life. SiL could've called to double check at the 45 min mark, what if it was traffic? Or a car accident? This could've gone so many other ways, and all of them suck. Nta.
I love this subreddit
@Debaayon Ganguly I don't, it's just a bunch of self-righteous people pushing some of the dumbest opinions and questions.
Seriously I've seen people in this subreddit call mothers who put their kids in time out for 3 minutes the asshole.
@Debaayon Ganguly yeah, they're just seeking validation or humble bragging
11:14 BRO ACTIONS GOT CONSEQUENCES they could of avoided the issue
Last story: op. Have another wedding. Don't invite your family AT ALL
2:08 while I agree OP used a few choice words, I'd say it's completely justified, their child was crying and screaming because they're constipated from eating solid food at an age where they can digest properly yet, and why didn't she listen to the doctor (a health expert) and lie to their face, I think there are some peaces missing so who know what she's doing behind OP's back.