One of the hardest parts of Grief is hoping.. then knowing... then trusting that there is something on the other side of Grief Work. Invest in and trust the process. 💔 ❤ Let me know your thoughts! 🙏🏻
This message really hits home. It's exactly what I needed to hear. I will listen to it several times, as a one month anniversary of my beloved's death approaches.
I don't know why but I feel closer to Luke when I am feeling low, crying and distraught. I feel like I'm honoring him when I feel this way. I don't like how it feels when I begin to make some progress and have some joy because I truly feel like it makes me feel further from him. This whole process is incredibly difficult and I miss him so terribly
No one really understands grief, until they experience grief themselves. Those folks seem to place time limits on grief. My in laws seem to have rushing me through my grief of my husband. We need a group for those who are not experiencing grief, so they can understand us.
They don't want to understand grief. They are afraid of it. And well they should be. My grief for my husband lost to cancer is my burden; no one else understands or wants to. And I am so sorry for you having this in your life.
This is such a beautiful message Jo, that I really needed to hear today. I will always be forever grateful for your grief support when James died. You helped me through the worst time. And I am slowly but surely allowing joy back into my life! 🙏❤😢❤
Yes Jo, that is the goal after all of the intense pain has subsided. That is the hardest thing to do trying to after you feel you have taken such a beating...find love and joy in life. This has got to be the light after so much darkness. It is just so difficult to turn that light switch on.
Today is starting the 8th year without my mom. First, I can’t believe that it’s been that long & that grief or sadness that I have is that I miss her physical presence. Her running interference between my older sister, with my brother & myself. Believe me, she was blessed with a long life & was so funny with me, because by the time I was born, she was 38 & not as concerned with some things. Each of we children were almost raised as single children bc of the space in ages between us. But she was so funny and our interactions were always fun. To find that now, is gone w her 😢. But I spent the last year w her and I thank God that I did. Feeling the loss of both my parents has been very hard/challenging. My ❤ goes to all feeling recent grief- it’s hard and though you may not want to see anyone, for me I had some friends who were willing to just sit w me.
You were truly lucky to have such good friends.The scar of grief will stay with you for as long as you live and I don't think you will ever not have it with you. The years only help the pain that goes with it and how you carry it.
Yes. Grief is definitely a process. It’s been a gradual journey for getting back to my own life in the present, once again. Things feel different now, day-to-day but in a good way. Recently, I’ve noticed that my lifestyle is beginning to gain momentum with creativity once again. I’m feeling more relaxed and getting back in touch with things that make me feel good. It snowed a few days ago and I enjoyed playing in it by myself like a little kid. It felt so good. 😍⛄️
Losing my parents is totaly different missing then a 23 years old son who felt like a soulmate. A relation about understanding, see, feel each other like I never, never ever had before. So this grief for 9 years is about love&pain and very inspirational
I lost my son, and we had such a close bond, he really was my best friend, I understand every word, love, pain, inspirational, soulmates, it will be 2 years in April 2025, the sadness can be overwhelming still some days, and daily weeping, when you have lost a child, it is a totally different grief experience.
@@dianepolli643I’m so sorry 😢 Totally agree with you. I’ve lost both my parents,my 61 year old sister,2 of my closest friends at young ages,not mentioning all the losses from my husband’s side and it’s been 4 years ago since my 35 year old son died.nothing can compare the devastation/pain/total destruction of my heart and soul from my experience. But I also understand that the worst pain is each person’s loss to them. To one person it could be whoever it is that they lost,as it’s not comparable. I’ve had a friend say to me just after my son died,that her sons puppy was similar to my sons death,as puppies are "family to",I was very hurt and shocked,in this comparison it wasn’t even close to losing a loved child. 😢😢
I can't tell how much of a true blessing you are Jo...your insight, wisdom & compassion with your videos has helped me in ways my grief therapist didn't have the capacity. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for you!!!❤❤❤ Aussie girl x
Another Aussie here. Sorry that you are here,where nobody wants to be here,but we share this journey together with this helpful advice from someone who has also experienced it. It’s hard to take advice from someone who hasn’t experienced grief,even grief counselors didn’t really help me as they haven’t experienced everything that goes with loss. Sending you comfort and peace. 🩷😥 Natalie SA
I’m so sorry,that is still very fresh. I know what you mean,when ppl invite me out for coffee and I’m not in the mood to go out, get really annoyed when keep saying to me "oh but your son would want you to be happy" how does change anything, my heart is shattered and I’m drowning in grief,No I’m not in the mood or a place just to please them in pretending that I would be enjoying socializing with them. Be kind to yourself as nobody will be understanding of your feelings,unless it has happened to them. Hugs 🫂 ❤
Six months into this grief process of losing my husband and also my older brother. I’ve been triggered by family members coming to get “stuff” of his then rehashing memories. Then helping my father get a copy of the death certificate of my brother because his wife won’t cooperate. It seems I’m unable to be there mentally for anyone other than myself. Is this selfishness on my part?
One of the hardest parts of Grief is hoping.. then knowing... then trusting that there is something on the other side of Grief Work. Invest in and trust the process. 💔 ❤ Let me know your thoughts! 🙏🏻
This message really hits home. It's exactly what I needed to hear. I will listen to it several times, as a one month anniversary of my beloved's death approaches.
I don't know why but I feel closer to Luke when I am feeling low, crying and distraught. I feel like I'm honoring him when I feel this way. I don't like how it feels when I begin to make some progress and have some joy because I truly feel like it makes me feel further from him. This whole process is incredibly difficult and I miss him so terribly
No one really understands grief, until they experience grief themselves. Those folks seem to place time limits on grief. My in laws seem to have rushing me through my grief of my husband. We need a group for those who are not experiencing grief, so they can understand us.
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They don't want to understand grief. They are afraid of it. And well they should be. My grief for my husband lost to cancer is my burden; no one else understands or wants to. And I am so sorry for you having this in your life.
This is such a beautiful message Jo, that I really needed to hear today.
I will always be forever grateful for your grief support when James died. You helped me through the worst time. And I am slowly but surely allowing joy back into my life!
🙏❤😢❤
@@marciahenthorn9050Spot on. It all seems easier for everyone if they can put it all aside quickly then they don't have to deal the topic.
Yes Jo, that is the goal after all of the intense pain has subsided. That is the hardest thing to do trying to after you feel you have taken such a beating...find love and joy in life. This has got to be the light after so much darkness. It is just so difficult to turn that light switch on.
Today is starting the 8th year without my mom. First, I can’t believe that it’s been that long & that grief or sadness that I have is that I miss her physical presence.
Her running interference between my older sister, with my brother & myself.
Believe me, she was blessed with a long life & was so funny with me, because by the time I was born, she was 38 & not as concerned with some things. Each of we children were almost raised as single children bc of the space in ages between us.
But she was so funny and our interactions were always fun. To find that now, is gone w her 😢.
But I spent the last year w her and I thank God that I did. Feeling the loss of both my parents has been very hard/challenging. My ❤ goes to all feeling recent grief- it’s hard and though you may not want to see anyone, for me I had some friends who were willing to just sit w me.
You were truly lucky to have such good friends.The scar of grief will stay with you for as long as you live and I don't think you will ever not have it with you. The years only help the pain that goes with it and how you carry it.
Yes. Grief is definitely a process. It’s been a gradual journey for getting back to my own life in the present, once again. Things feel different now, day-to-day but in a good way. Recently, I’ve noticed that my lifestyle is beginning to gain momentum with creativity once again. I’m feeling more relaxed and getting back in touch with things that make me feel good. It snowed a few days ago and I enjoyed playing in it by myself like a little kid. It felt so good. 😍⛄️
Losing my parents is totaly different missing then a 23 years old son who felt like a soulmate. A relation about understanding, see, feel each other like I never, never ever had before. So this grief for 9 years is about love&pain and very inspirational
I lost my son, and we had such a close bond, he really was my best friend, I understand every word, love, pain, inspirational, soulmates, it will be 2 years in April 2025, the sadness can be overwhelming still some days, and daily weeping, when you have lost a child, it is a totally different grief experience.
@ yes! It is different
@@dianepolli643I’m so sorry 😢 Totally agree with you. I’ve lost both my parents,my 61 year old sister,2 of my closest friends at young ages,not mentioning all the losses from my husband’s side and it’s been 4 years ago since my 35 year old son died.nothing can compare the devastation/pain/total destruction of my heart and soul from my experience.
But I also understand that the worst pain is each person’s loss to them. To one person it could be whoever it is that they lost,as it’s not comparable. I’ve had a friend say to me just after my son died,that her sons puppy was similar to my sons death,as puppies are "family to",I was very hurt and shocked,in this comparison it wasn’t even close to losing a loved child. 😢😢
I can't tell how much of a true blessing you are Jo...your insight, wisdom & compassion with your videos has helped me in ways my grief therapist didn't have the capacity. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for you!!!❤❤❤ Aussie girl x
Another Aussie here. Sorry that you are here,where nobody wants to be here,but we share this journey together with this helpful advice from someone who has also experienced it. It’s hard to take advice from someone who hasn’t experienced grief,even grief counselors didn’t really help me as they haven’t experienced everything that goes with loss.
Sending you comfort and peace. 🩷😥 Natalie SA
It's almost a year since I lost my husband and I don't want joy. He would want me to but how can I, he is not here.
I’m so sorry,that is still very fresh. I know what you mean,when ppl invite me out for coffee and I’m not in the mood to go out, get really annoyed when keep saying to me "oh but your son would want you to be happy" how does change anything, my heart is shattered and I’m drowning in grief,No I’m not in the mood or a place just to please them in pretending that I would be enjoying socializing with them. Be kind to yourself as nobody will be understanding of your feelings,unless it has happened to them. Hugs 🫂 ❤
Thank You Always..
Six months into this grief process of losing my husband and also my older brother. I’ve been triggered by family members coming to get “stuff” of his then rehashing memories. Then helping my father get a copy of the death certificate of my brother because his wife won’t cooperate. It seems I’m unable to be there mentally for anyone other than myself. Is this selfishness on my part?