Marrying a Western Woman: Common Issues for Arab Men | Interracial relationships
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Today's video is like a part two to the previous video about marrying a Jordanian man. I cover issues from the man's perspective about language barriers, added responsibilities, and getting caught between the western wife and the Arab family. #expatlife #Amman #lovejordan
Lovely translators: Dana Abu Hamdan danaabuhamdan494@gmail.com & Shareef Qashou
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I’m American and my husband is Egyptian. I can relate 100% with everything you have said. I feel validated, I’ve been alone in understanding our relationship for 10 years.
Same here, If you ever need someone to chat with let me know
R u still married to him?
@@Onlyme2015Yes, we are still married.
I am married to an Iraqi husband. I am a Dutch Muslimah. A convert to Islam. Me and my husband are both Muslims. I told my husband from the beginning that I follow Islam. My religion. And not the Arabic culture. Our prophet Muhammad told men to be good to women and help them in the house with chores . So he helps me al hamdoelilah.
God bless you
@@Kretoshh God bless you as well.
Good for you sister. Wallahi the reason why Islam is hated by the western world is because of the sick culture the Arabian countries have.
Why is western feminism so afraid to criticize Islam?
I have asked myself this very question. It's not only feminists but also liberals and atheists. People like Sam Harris are very honest and intelligent but the moment they criticize Islam, they are called bigoted and racist. Sam Harris said, "We are sold this meme of Islamophobia where every criticism of a doctrine of Islam gets conflated with bigotry against Muslims as people". This is true. As a feminist and an atheist, I recognize that certain beliefs in Islam are terrible and dangerous, such as the belief that apostasy is punishable by death. I recognize that the oppression of LGBT+ people, women, and freethinkers is prevalent in Muslim countries, and is prevalent because of the doctrines of Islam. Why is it tabboo to notice this? It's time for feminists, atheists, liberals, everyone to wake up to the threat of radical Islam.
@@alibababa6 in Islam you can be a freethinker (in Islam the religion) but in the Islamic countries the leaders don't want that... it's about the leaders of the Islamic countires not the religion.... cuz in the Quran its great deed to read, think, and to be educated. And the Quran was the first book that gave Women rights and the the prophet was the first person to stand against women abusers because in the Quran woman have the right to work, to choose who she wants to marry, to study and to not get killed cus before islam and the prophet the fathers used to kill the little girls cus they didn't want to have girls But again in the Islamic country's they get some stupid "culture" it got nothing to do with the religion.
Housework works like this:
If your spouse works long hours, they SHOULD NOT do the same share of house work during those days as the partner that is not working long hours. On weekends, you share equally. If you both work a lot, you share equally. Also, recognise that being a stay-at-home parent is a fulltime job
Honestly let's face it , stay at home moms mostly sit down and watch TV.. it isn't difficult and house work can be done in a few hours
@@king-of-the-hill7741 that's not true And strongly depends on the size of the house, on the number of children, the amount of help from I.e. maids as is common in the middle east but barely existing in Europe, and the demands of the husband.
I think that's reasonable. I personally prefer my woman to be at rest and at ease so i do most of the work at home and work more hours outside. She reciprocates in other ways that i like, so I'm good.
Completely understand your situation habibabty...I'm a Malaysian married to a Palestinian man now we are living in Canada. What a rollercoaster ride! Alhamdulillah! Every marriage has its challenges and sacrifices regardless of what race, nationality or religion they are from. I am grateful for the chance to learn about other cultures and at the same time learn about myself. Keep up the great content!
God Bless u,May you live Well and happily with your husband ❤️
Btw,i Love Malaysia AND Palestine 😍💞💞☺️
@Simply Saam
Sorry, this is the place for conversation between Muslims, not the Magi Qarmatians
@@sarahrsn3589عيب عليك
I went to Egypt and I cooked my Native American dishes for my Egyptian family and they loved it! I introduced them to our Frybread and they put powdered sugar and honey on it. Then I made our Apache style beef stew with tortillas. I would love to learn some Arabic dishes and can't wait to get some recipes.
donnarenee71 woah I’m Alaska native (Alutiiq) I lived in Egypt for a while too! God bless fry bread lol. This is so crazy what a coincidence
@@eilidhhaakanson4825 yes such a coincidence 😂
@@eilidhhaakanson4825 I'm planning to go back in Egypt in July. Message me and I'll send you my email or Facebook info. :) Are you still living there?
have you visited Jordan ?
My husband is Egyptian and I grew up with Native American "sisters" in our home (that is a separate post) and I love fry bread and stew!!
Thanks to the Corona clips and the the lock-down my wife and I came across one of your clips, We are Jordanians and also appreciate how you are presenting the country. We subscribed, and will make sure to watch all of your clips, we will also try to support and provide you with any information needed.
Also, keep up the positive energy and "Enshallah" Jordan and the world will heal :)
your ability to be openminded and see things from a completely different perspective than your own is honestly astonishing, refreshing, and high-key attractive. keep it up
Islam teach us that a man must help his wife in house chores, the prophet of islam peace be upon him helped his family in house work, and he was a man who had to preach to all community, go into wars, teach islam to all his society
Unfortunately, Arabian men tend to forget this due to culture
And culture doesn't equal islam
Thanks for the video, i really like it 👍
What doe Allah say about September 11?
Agreed
BS story from your imam, but your quran scripture and hadits tell otherwise
@Drumpf 2030 Well don't you look just delightful!
He helped his family do thw house work. Good thing he didnt have much to do considering he had multiple wives.
AAAAHHHHH, feel so featured!! Thanks a lot for this movie :DDDDD what more can I say, perfect as always, feel satisfied
Hahaha you’re welcome ☺️☺️☺️
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Hats off! I feel you I am half Arab and half Ukrainian, and my mom had the same things that you mentioned. Don't worry the things will work out for both of u. My prayers to your happiness
I am married to an Egyptian Muslim man. Id gove up my life in America and move to Egypt 🇪🇬. I love egypt! And the people are so so nice and helpful ☺ MashaAllah.
I’m currently in the process myself how has Egypt been?
I am looking for a wife from your country, I am an Arab
Is it beautiful?
@@nawrsalsham8443
Simp
@@nawrsalsham8443
Where are you from?
Omg I thought you were Greta Thunberg, you have a pretty youthful face!
Haha I can actually see the similarity too 🙈
OMG i can't unsee that!
😁 yes you are right , she looks like greta ,specially when she admired Trump with an angry face .... l like greta 💖
*Berbère-Algeria*
Tulip 66 😬ha, yes I agree!
maybe they have kind of similar outer look, but am pretty sure they are different on the inside and i mean it in a good way.
تستاهل الطيب هذي الإنجليزية محترمة وتتكلم عن الواقع كما هو و ضحت لأجل زوجها وتحملت اختلاف عاداتها عن العادات والتقاليد العربية الصعبة عليهم وواجهت صعوبات لأجل استقرار حياتها الزوجية..
Yes , she is very very understanding her situation and also knows how to do it in a balanced way ... GOD bless her and family ... By the way , not all new age English women can have wisdom , many of them are shallow women unfortunately...
نعم أعرف أيضا فتات تركية ضحت بكل شيء و تزوجة بأمريكي حيث رفض أبوها الزواج به لأنه مسيحي و هي مسلمة ، لاكنها تركت كل شيء و ذهبت معه و هي تعيش في هناء و سعادة مثلها مثل هذه الفتات.
صارت هذه الظاهرة منتشرة جدا في جميع أنحاء العالم و أنا أرى أنها إيجابية من وجهة نظري الخاصة طبعا .
Kaychovsky Destroy .... Good luck for that Turkish girl but she lost her after life for the sake of this life and this is the clear total loss !!....
@@ahmedalshalchi
This is your opinion , and I respect that
But I don't think so , even the Christans say that about how's left them religion, it's so easy to say that . While it's hard to prove it . So don't be so sur like that 😋. And you have to respect AVRY body.
Because I was Muslim to 😉, just on last Ramadan I'd Lost my faith 💔.
Good bay.
Kaychovsky Destroy .... It is not my say , it was Prophet Muhammed's prophecy (PBUH) and of course nobody saw what will happen after death except as a matter of belief and everyone has the full right to be in what... And for your personal case of apostasy , I wish you quickly deal with it and challenge it before taking your last breath because it is irrecoverable process as no one on earth since the beginning of humanity to the day to who knows when it could be the end of this world could come back to this life again and tell us how is it afterlife and what to do the best preparation for it so take much care of this case and challenge it now and I don't know where are you come from but I assume that you are well educated Arab personal and liberally raised up and have good english skill so I advice you to join these channels below to discuss your case ;
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It is really great to see your video as you share your experiences. I am happy to see that there are so many positive and supporting comments. Thank you for sharing, you have a nice positive channel. My fiance is Arab and I am now learning the basic Arabic greetings and cultural etiquette before meeting his family. I hope to learn enough that translating will not be so taxing on him. Wishing you the best!
that was really insightful
raising a family is hard ,doing it in a foreign place is even harder so hats off for you
i think its beautiful how you both sacrifice for each other and for your family
for me i think my breaking point would be the mansaf , i dont think i would handle losing that :P
Hahahahaha Jordanian men and their mansaf is a love affair for the ages 😂
Love conquers all but also I am a conservative woman who is western looking but I no longer fit into the western world. That’s why I decided to marry a Palestinian man and oh the best decision I ever made! We have only very minor if at all cultural issues. He helps me around the house as the prophet did so am very lucky too, I tell him every chance I get. You seem also quite settled and happy with your husband, I’m happy to see that.
Who asked
@@dominiquedarylwillis4231 And there you are, the jealous American.
beautfil story
I love how soothing you are on video, I send them to my goddaughter who is in love with an Arab pilot. I just want to say thank you for all the help in making it easier to explain to her.
Thank you for sharing this information! Thanks for making this content
Gabriele Necejauskaite My name is Ahmed, a young Egyptian man. I want love, marriage and stability and live with her. Speak WhatsApp 00201029370466
Thank you Gabriele!
your good intention towards different aspects is very clear and this is the essence of a successful relationship hope you both keep having this in your life and am sur everything is going to be just fine hope you all the best .
Thank you 🙏
I honestly admire your spirit, not a lot of women would be understanding and accepting as you are, you’ve made a lot of sacrifices for the sake of your family and i hope that he appreciates that...
I am Jordanian and i used to live abroad for my entire life but now i am here for some work, and sometimes i feel like a foreigner but after seeing you, i come no where near you in compromising and understanding
I really hope i meet someone like you one day
Best of wishes....
Thank you for your comment :) and welcome back to Jordan, I hope you feel more settled soon
Our Prophet Muhammad, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, was helping his family in the home’s work when he was at home,
@Baz L-Malabari Actually the Prophet would work outside and when at home be hands-on with ANY work or chores, meaning men were working all the time and women were a bit more relaxed, in Islam men eat when women and children are full, men are forbidden of luxuries that women can have as in clothing or jewelry, in Islam a man is responsible (other than being hands-on in housework when at home) for his own serving like his clothes and cleaning up after himself, all that and women are not forced to work and provide but men are. When hearing this someone might say that this is not fair and women are spoiled in Islam, that is not true, try having hormone changes, or having an in general weaker body than a man or being pregnant or taking care of a child, I am a man and I know from my sisters and female friends also science and history that it is not easy being a woman as is, they are by no means less than men in ANY way, it is just a different type of body that is designed by Allah to bear a child.
@@fenryblenk5541 you are a waste of life, also soon all of us will die then you will see whats what, make up a lie and i am supposed to shiver when you mension it, the prophet was not a priest i though children were thier hook up
@rep rep you are clearly a disgusting person. A nine year old is a nine year no matter what century it is. Just because it was culturally acceptable at the time, doesn't stop it from being morally repugnant. What's even worse, is apoligisers like you. And who cares if she is the greatest woman in Islam.. the greatest man in Islam is Mohammad, and he was clearly a pedophile, a liar, and a false prophet.
@@HeythamShayeb What are you talking about? You're the one living a life of delusion and ignorance. Worshiping a pedo. That is wasting your life. When we die, nothing will happen. Our consciousness will no longer exist... show me evidence to the contrary or STFU
@rep rep This is a very ironic reply. You're calling me ignorant and stupid for stating the obvious: that having sex with a nine year old is pedophilia. I understand your argument about different times and different places/practices, but it holds no merit. Especially when talking about a person who claimed to be a prophet. Does God condone pedophilia? Slavery? Or was it okay back then because of the times? If it was okay back then, according to God, then why is it not okay now? The fact you think me condemning pedophilia is being 'busy with womens rights' and 'stupidity' further proves my initial statement in regards to you being a disgusting person. In regards to people like me not being able to prove anything... again, absolute nonsense. People like me are the ones asking for proof. It's people like you who have none. Just blatant lies, fairy tales, and delusions. That is why you are a joke.
This Chanel has helped me in my marriage as a western woman married to an Arab man. Little different since we are in America but still. Thank you
The fact that you are so concerned your husband and appreciate his efforts makes it worth all the trouble. I'm hoping to find a women like you one day.
You are very brave , since you moved to live in a different country with a different culture I wish you the best.
I'm from the US and husband is from Yemen. He mostly follows religion and not really culture, but he definitely still has some of it engrained in him. Especially with the household chores thing. He's improved a lot as well I have. Sometimes I feel like his family expects me to fully submit to their culture and entirely forget about mine, but we're working on a healthy balance. But of course first and foremost we follow Islamic culture... and then whatever doesn't contradict Islam from each of ours is added in.
am a young man from Yemen looking for an American wife
can you help me l want an American girlfriend a single woman
It's quite hard to get used to different life.. But to be honest, if you love the person, it would be bonding to try different life styles as long as respect and love is always there. Bless you!
You must know that not all my arab men believe in those cultures especially if the father was raised outside or went outside to study
Some families teach their sons that they must be active at home and work with their wives
prophet Mohammed peace be upon him used to help his wives in the home work. there is no shame in that. and just because your (not yours specifically) dad was raised outside it doesn't mean that he automatically a feminist. my dad was raised in the 50's in a village in tafilah and he still helps my mom. it's not the "culture" it's the judgemental people and people raised wrong anywhere in the world. and some people study outside for the hook ups and for the "blonde women" which is digusting.
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@@Ahmad_Salameh i dont know about others but in our family we all participate in home work
@DukeOfRecica exactly
Ahmad Salameh
The problem with doing chores is that you have to do it the way your wife wants and she'll never be satisfied with your work. This sucks!! This turns the whole scenario of "obedience to husband" (which is fardh for women) to obedience to wife (ie getting scolded for not doing the chores the way she wants). This often leads to demeaning and mentally unhealthy situations for men as he starts to think he's being disrespected by his wife. Helping with the house works only works if you have an appreciative wife. It only works if the wife is obedient, respectful and content.
I hope you read my comment , you Brits are born and raised to stand up and take responsibility which is obvious in the way you live and approach things, esp with the challenges you face with intercultural differences . Much much respect, intercultures always end up in a perfect blend of thoughts and life. All the best for you and ur family 🌸
How lucky is your husband may god bless your family and reward you with the good.
You are very good source of truth and purity.
Well I am completely flabbergasted at how insightful and true this was. As someone who has also dealt with the issue (not a western woman just like culturally different, she was egyptian) and you have these like weird obligations from your mom/dad against your wife and that your kids have to speak in the same dialect/accent not egyptian and it feels very unfair to my wife and I don't just want her to fake herself infront of people even if she chooses to. I want her to feel at home, do whatever she want without just being judged all the time by idiots who make it their obligation to just judge us. People here are weird man.
I just bumped into your videos today and completely enjoying them you seem like a very pleasant young lady. My warmest regards from Cairo Egypt.
100% relatable! I'm sharing this with my husband as a reminder that he is seen and appreciated as well. Thanks for posting!
Keri Hughes My name is Ahmed, a young Egyptian man. I want love, marriage and stability and live with her. Speak WhatsApp 00201029370466
I am married to Jordanian but living in Europe. He helps me a lot with chores and sometimes I feel he is unique compared with other Arabs. Actually, probably if we would live in Jordan it would be done in secret as it matters a lot what others think about your house and showing off masculinity. And that's probably another issue for couple as I don't care to show off the car or position someone has at work, but I feel it is so important there. For example, the judging we got when some heard that we don't have a car and use public transportation (I mean, public transport is free in my town and amazing).
he is not unique all arab men help their wives.... but as u said in secret
my dad is Turkish and mother is from Republic of Moldova , and i grew up in a family that spoke 3 languages and i am very grateful for it , as i learned english as well in school and can speak 4 languages pretty easily , so talking in different languages at home can be an advantage also IMO.
How did your parents teach you 3 languages at the same time ?
I'm an arab woman and I can't cope with men who want me to be submissive and adhere to gender roles 😢
Are you married
@@unolowmanta7508 no
@@weirdpisces women are supposed to do that what u on about
It's not easy to marry when someone who has a big cultural difference. Being open minded could help but it's not easy. I'm so called "arab" and I consider myself open mided but from experience I could tell that even if you are open minded, it's not easy. So, give preference for persons who are close to your culture. But everything can happen. Love is universal after all :)
For that reason, I divorced after 16 years of marriage with a Jordanian man from Amman... He used to say that ... "I was too much feminists, too much independent, too different from the women from his culture.. And he was very dominant for me... So... Our marriage didn't work... It's sad....
He is right
@@hailtgg9884 That sounds like a very cold remark to someone who experienced a divorce! Ouch. . . If he didn't want an independent woman who was culturally different from him, then he shouldn't have married a Western woman. It sounds like his expectations were unrealistic and he expected to change her. . .
@@rashidah9307 i am turkish too and don't like An independent woman that is going to have the exact same role as me im not gay
@@hailtgg9884 Then you probably shouldn't marry a Western woman. . . :) The concept of marriage is different in the West. Of course, men and women are not the same, but each person brings different strengths and qualities to the marriage, which may or may not fall along rigid gender lines. God is the one who made people so diverse, defying stereotypes. . . Before you marry someone, you should take the time to get to know who they are and then accept who they are or end the relationship.
@@rashidah9307 your wrong that all western women are like that most here arent that type not all western countries are the same..
there is a big difference between US, Engeland and europe
I have alots respect for you I just start watching your channel it take lots guts to live in Jordan spacially coming from England my mom done it before you and she lasted 40 years and still married to my dad. time is a solution for everything I think you doing good.salim
Interracial relationships are really hard. Communication and openness is the key to any relationship, especially interracial relationships. I wish you all the best
Stini's World facts my husband is Egyptian and we’re going through immigration to get him here to the USA but it’s really really tough, communication is always an issue. Not Bc he doesn’t speak English because he does, and very well, it’s just more of a cultural difference that’s the issue.
@@Christineelliott777 yes I feel you sister. I am in my second interracial relationship and it really brings struggles that you wouldn't normally think of. But it is also so incredibly rewarding and interesting. I learn so much from my boyfriend it is incredible.
I wish you good luck in bringing him to the US hope it will all work out.
Stini's World amen and thanks we will see what happens...
I do believe that communication, understanding and love can make things go smoothers and easier.
I am an Egyptian, my ex GF was an American and we both were understanding and talked about everything up untill she cheated on me!
See here comes the conflict that she thinks she can be given a second chance but I don't think that I was going to work thats why we broke up and I decided to end it. Maybe you are right about how some cultures see some things differently than others and this might make things harder but I believe that what I mentioned earlier can make things work IF and only IF both are whiling to do it.
Also some western/european women think arab men want to marry them for the citizenship and those stupid stuff that makes me dissapointed.
I am an Egyptian, I am a muslim and I have no problem marrying a non muslim woman (while keeping her faith) but only if she is the one my heart chooses and we are close mentally, financially and socially.
@@karimmagdy6625 yes I definitely think it can work but I think open communication is even more important with a different cultural background. And of course you have to be open to get to know the person and who this person is, as noone can be defined by their cultural or religious heritage. There are also some men from developing countries that just want to marry a western woman for the visa. Both happens and both is very sad as it shapes the image people have of this group of people and hence build more negative stereotypes.
Once upon a time, Einstein said:
“The measure of intelligence is the ability to change.”, by that ur IQ is 20k, wish u and ur family the best.
LOL love it.
Adding more to your qualities I already mentioned in previous comments: compassionate, thoughtful and above average emotionally intelligent 😊
Thank you so much mama!! This is so so true especially about being a buffer between the two I never thought of it from the mans perspective ♥️♥️
It might be common in Jordan that men won't help on cleaning the house or cooking because they think they have other responsibilities like working to provide for the whole family as well as grocery shopping or changing the gas bottels and keeping an eye on the water tanks, grtting things fixed, etc. It's just how the roles are typically devided.
But one year as student outside of Jordan made me personally learn how to clean, cook, and all the other home duties and I wouldn't stop doing that when I get married. It's not hard to come to agreements like this specially if your husband is open enough to marry a foreign girl.
But my question is, don't you think that masculinity in Arab culture is what what grabbes the foreigners' attention from the first place? The difference from their culture and excitement to marry someone out of what they're used to?
اتمنى لك التوفيق لأنك انسانه محترمة وتعرفتي على العادات والتقاليد العربية .
I appreciate very much that you talk about marriage it's so hard to find the subject
Very true my arabic husband lives with me in the uk and we eat arabic food every week and same as me i learned with my mil. I am very respectful of his culture but I am pleased to say my husband is great in the house...he lived alone for 10 years for work so he is fully self sufficient 🤣
@Gicybb Jcybh yes I am??? Why??
I can tell your marriage will be successful inshAllah, because you’re very understanding!!
Yes I agree with U it's tough on men 👌👌👌👌👌 , but on the women tougher 👌👌
I think it is amazing that you found an alternative way to bond with your mother in law. No matter what culture you are from, if you butt heads with your mother in law, that's gonna be an issue for the husband just like it would be for the wife if he doesn't get along with his mother in law.
Are you An Arab?
Thank you for this vedio as it does help alot of people sitting in your shoes
As a Mena woman, why do you put up with all his shit? I shook my head 11.14 minutes long, I hope you realise you're a high value woman who can get so much better, I would choose being single above being a male personal handmaiden.
I’m not a handmaiden 😅 I also think it’s less cultural than it’s made out to be... some men in the UK might cook and change nappies but many, many households are the same in the UK as they are here, despite what media or academic circles might make out.
Arab Men should marry Arab women...PLAIN AND SIMPLE
XD😂😂😂😂😂
Honestly tho I don't see it as a good thing for a man to be sitting and doing nothing at home. I don't like to see my mom bearing physical exertion to clean the house while everybody is sitting their asses doing nothing. It may be because I lived by myself for some time but that truly helped me realize how annoying and difficult it is to clean everything every day by yourself which I will never allow this to happen to my mother ever.
Your content is very helpful and I hope to see more of your experiences here in Jordan as you always have something new to add that is really fun to learn about.
Obviously i would help, but don't expect me to do house work everyday, like "today is your day babe" that is disrespect and emasculation.
@@drgarad Well, I don't see any emasculation in helping mothers doing
chores!
@@abdullahmalkawi2775 broski don`t twist my talk, in this context we were talking about wives.
of course, i would help my mom every day, but my wife should not expect me to do the dishes and cook for her as a regular day job.
KURULUS OSMAN English Subtitles if the husband 100% pays for everything and also gives cash for spending, then it would be fair.
There are some Arab men that forgot their roles. They want the wife to work AND they want her to be a good housewife. It doesn’t work that way.
turturning spot on bro
First of all, your analysis is great as always and it's clear you gave this a lot of thought.
In my opinion as an arab man, I wouldn't marry a foreigner if there isn't love involved. I mean if you are going about the traditional way, it is easier to just marry from within your culture for the many reasons you mentioned. I lived in Canada for about six years and I actively try to prevent myself from falling for a girl. The main reason is something you didn't mention which is my family wouldn't accept her.
The thing is with marriage between cultures is that someone has to compromise and i'm not sure that I can do that. It just seems unfair to ask my partner to do that.
No matter, which kind of a relationship you are involved in, there has to be a compromise all the time. Unless, in your case, you think of it only while marrying a foreigner.
@@anastasiiaorlovska2174 You are absolutely right about that, but i guess the degree in which it occurs might vary from case to case.
I suppose because I only know married couples I don’t know about the families who would reject a foreign wife. That certainly adds a totally different spin on things that goes beyond the kinds of compromise I tend to see.
Thank you for sharing!
Even with love involved, it's so difficult even if a nice family approves. I don't think I would want anyone to experience the turmoil and heartbreak. Also I believe family is required to approve if they're religious and the foreign wife is, too (most Jordanians are Muslim and religion is supposed to matter more than anything else). If you're not religious, absolutely NEVER consider a Jordanian husband. You're 95% just a passing fling until your Jordanian "boyfriend" wants children. Or, you're the path to citizenship in your country. Even if you are a pious foreign wife, your husband may engage in extramarital affairs (absolutely not allowed) and want additional wives (allowed). The "man" attracted to foreigners is often deviant from the morals he claims to follow as he already operates outside social norms, so be ready to accept a very complicated and broken package. You'll need strong faith in God to cope with everything that may be thrown at you, otherwise expect divorce. An average Jordanian man is no trifle thing, tread wisely. Expect a lot of highs and very lows in the relationship, if you are not of strong constitution, avoid altogether!!!! God be with you and give you strength.
Edit: and there's many amazing Jordanian men but they tend to marry close to home. You're too lucky if you marry one of the good ones. Best wishes and God bless.
@@hxdcm I love your insight on this issue that some of us have gone through or is going through, I myself am one of those. My current issue is the sudden need to convert to Islam even after tons of talks and compromises done from the beginning. You were right about the family as a factor in this kind of relationship as his family won't accept me if I don't convert. I won't say I am very religious as a Catholic but I think that one should be willing, wholeheartedly, to convert to any religion no matter what. I wanted to marry this Jordanian guy but I am getting caught between just obliging to what they want and what I want. My feelings for him are even being questioned. Sorry for this long comment but I guess an insight from a stranger is helpful. Thanks and be safe!god bless
Welcome to Jordan.i wish you happiness and good life with your lovely family
I'm having some difficulties trying to make some decisions and your videos helped me some how, appreciate it.
I love her accent. UK? I married a Saudi 🇸🇦 and it was a bit of culture shock. But he helps at home & is so romantic: not at all like my American Dad! They have a staff in KSA but we just manage ourselves in the 🇺🇸 states. 🤷🏻♀️
I find it really works when I start a Puerto Rican dish and he puts his own touches on it at the end. A lot of things my husband likes is very similar.
Can you please make 2 or 3 similar videos . This is very informative . Learning a lot here. I hope you do.
Nice video, Thanks!
Well said ! Thanks for highlighting the other side of the coin.
Hello Aussie woman about to marry an Arabic man, stumbled across your video. Thanks so much.
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Happens here in Bosnia and Herzegovina in the past 2 decades where Arab and Turkish men marry our Bosniak women (European and muslim there is no better combination for these) and the remaining 2% of rare cases is Bosniak men marrying Arab, Turkish or Malaysian women
I think it would be fun to be with a foreign girl even though it's more difficult but you get to try a new life and new things to do
And hey I would help my wife. Why not 🙄 Your husband is just lazy if he doesn't 😂
Funny..I am in other situation..My husband is foreigner from Egypt living with me in my country I know exactly how hard it is to be translator all the time..and differencie in living and culture slowly dividin us 😥
hope u both still okey
Lol omg I’m cracking up as you’re talking about the feminist component....my husband won’t change diapers! He doesn’t do ANYTHING in the house. He is a clean and organized man and yet now that he’s married to me he does NOTHING. Lol I’m glad I’m not alone!!!!
You're definitely not alone. It is well known in other nearby countries. The wife is often expected to do everything!
Not changing diapers was the major thing I forgot!
That's actually against the teachings of Islam , the prophet used to help in the house and make sure to talk about this to his companions to change their culture
Arabian culture has a lot of good traits but it also has some bad ones
And it was the first mission of Islam to fix the Arabian culture .
Ahmed Adel aww thank you Ahmed...my husband is such a good guy and a great daddy...he just has some things he won’t do for whatever reason...I think my original message was too harsh. Ramadan Kareem
Thanks so much from Yemen with love♥.
Allah SWT bless, lessen the burden and provide for you all and your country ameen 🤲🤲
Don’t worry about being left out of conversation. Your in-laws family will be speaking their own, neighborhood, and very local stories as well as siblings/ family memories, and a wife could be left out of conversation anyway in Jorden even if you speak Arabic, or an Arab from different country. You will still feel left out of conversation all the time. And it is more painful when you speak and understand Arabic but can’t participate.
Are you Arab?
الرسول صلى الله عليه وسلم كان يساعد زوجاته
بعرف كثير ناس ابائهم بيساعدوا زوجاتهم منهم ابوي الله يحفظه
Your channel is really nice.
Some very interesting thoughts here. I remember reading not long ago about how there was very angry backlash to some new school textbooks that had been printed, and one example was that one page showed a picture of a man doing the hoovering and there was a crucifix on the wall, it was supposed to encourage diversity and inclusion in Jordanian society I think, but there was a massive backlash and demands to scrap the books because these ideas were offensive and not for children or something. And I remember first arriving in Jordan and my landlady offering to take me to her brother's house as she had no English and he was fluent and she talked to me through him for a bit: I was so surprised that she cooked for him in his house and then went off to do the washing up in his kitchen and he didn't offer to help! Because I thought, she's a guest in his home, when he's a guest in hers it's logical that she cooks for him, but why, if he doesn't want to offer to help because people don't like the washing up, why is she not nagging him to help?! Then another night I came back to the house and all the extended family and neighbours who were women were sitting on one side of the main room on the floor shelling peas, and on the other side of the room the men were all watching telly. And I'm thinking well hang on, the blokes should say come and sit on the comfy chairs and watch the telly while you're at it and then it won't be so boring, and how about we help too and then it will be done twice as quickly. I was really stuck for what to do after a long day I quite fancied sitting in the comfy chair and not on the floor, but it was clearly a segregated situation which I hadn't come across before but I felt a stranger in my home at that point. So I sat on the floors and helped with the peas for a bit but had no idea if and when it would be appropriate to sit on the comfy chairs and watch telly! I knew there were traditional labour divides but I hadn't realised that men can't offer or be asked to do anything to help share housework without it being seen as bad and emasculating. Very interesting! Also, did you see your son started sucking a power cable/ plug at 2:19?! It's good he's very inquisitive but sadly babies will suck anything!! And did you have a look at the Arabic sources I suggested? Definitely try the Pimsleur Eastern Arabic with MP3 recordings for Shami ammiyyah, you can make great strides with just 20 minutes a day (it's really good and just audio, no textbooks or post required!). :) x
Yes I totally feel you. It used to make me feel very angry and still sometimes catches me off guard and makes me want to flip a switch. I think it’s probably the biggest issue I had in the beginning and is something that I think I’ll struggle with always. I know a German lady who’s been married to a Jordanian man for 40+ years and they still fight over this stuff every single day 🙇🏼♀️
Yes I did see him going at my phone charger 😩 I edited out the bit where I took it off him - probably should have kept it in to show I was paying at least a little attention to my baby 🤦🏼♀️
The way TH-cam notifies about comments is absolutely mad and I often don’t see replies so I’m sorry I didn’t see your suggestion about pimsleur but yes I’ve been using the Syrian series for a few years on and off and it’s great ☺️
@@MummyinAmman Aww bless you, it was so fleeting it was fine but I thought there was a chance you didn't catch it, glad you're way ahead of me!
Yeah one of my good friends is Jordanian and when I refer to him in Arabic as my friend he says we're not friends, men and women can't be friends in the Arab world. But we are called friends in English! What are we in Arabic, then? Colleagues. ?!! And then there's being told you shouldn't have a glass of wine with dinner, you shouldn't sing a Faiyrouz pop song about love cos it's mish munasib, all that carry on from friends both there and here I had that takes a lot of hard work and patience, I expect you get the same! Different concept of personal space, extended time alone unless it's for study being seen as a bit weird there, etc. We'll get used to everthing one day! Or not, as the case may be from your German friend! But we can but try!
And not to worry about the comment! Glad you know about Pimsleur, as well, I mentioned in my other comment you may not have seen: if you can find a way around the mad postal "service", I highly recommend "Speaking Arabic: A course in conversational Eastern Arabic (Palestinian)". It's the best book out there for Levantine dialects, beginners to advanced, later chapters cover regional differences across the Levant in dialects, and it comes with CDs (it is a little expensive but the quick progress & being able to review whenever means it's so much better value for money than a language school or tutors). For beginners to intermediate Fusha/ MSA, I highly recommend the Mastering Arabic series, Mastering Arabic, Mastering Arabic Grammar and Mastering Arabic II, more than enough for reading signs and menus etc. and a good start for other necessary reading like forms and documents (lots of those needed to get things done at government offices as I'm sure you know!).
Thanks again for the video update, always good to hear from you and look forward to the next one. Have a good week! :)
As an arab man i will not esitate to help my wife in housework whenever i have time and energy.
But seeing her having a friend (different from collegue or someone she knows..etc) is unacceptable and is a redcross unacceptable.
Even some weastern husbands in usa for can feel that way though.
women ur voice is so calm and the way u see things is very intresting ,wish u the best
I married a Jordanian. But he was Christian .i speak Arabic and cook Arab food .I found Jordan men very sweet kind .they loved cooking and they cleaned .his family was nice but I'm very hard headed .he tried to change everything about me untill I couldn't deal with it .I haven seen him in 30 years but I don't think all the shabob .are like that ..
You did a very good job explaining, this is awesome...
Its clearly not a easy job to build a strong family in jordan in the first place, so imagine do it considering the language and culture differences
Its not an easy job for both of them, but who really wants to seriously start a family definitely can do it
And btw, you're killing it with subs
Congratulations 🎉🎉
I think that families can often end up being stronger when they have so many obstacles that could push them apart but they let push them together instead 🤔
And thank you!!! 🙏😍
@@MummyinAmman very true!
Not each one of us are fortunate enough to built a relationship with a foreigner. It's challenging, Yes, but then it has its own advantages too. Such relationships are most of the time purely based on love, which is lacking in today's world. I wish I get this challenge too so I get the opportunity to learn about culture and dedicate my life in setting a multicultural environment, having love, sacrifice, kindness and all forms of humane feeling.
you're great
I am an Arab young man from Yemen
How beautiful it is to exchange cultures
It's a great honor for me to be friends
Its hard to be successful marriage, as the wisdom said”bird &fish may love each other but where can they live ?” Many of issues of religious, social and customs differences overall. Its hard to gamble in such relationships
Love makes miracles... you can also talk about religious obstacles if any too or religious boundries if you faced any.
Be careful that your dignfied and positive attitude towards your family is not taken for weakness by your husband’s family, whose culture is based on honour rather than dignity. Don’t be surprised if your efforts to blend your culture with that of his family are not reciprocated. Also, be aware that if anything happens to him, they have control of your children, not you. Keep a signed letter from your husband permitting you to leave the country with your children at all times, in case you need it.
اكثر كلمه اعجبتني بدقيقه 4:34لما قالت المجتمع العربي مجتمع ذكوري اكثر فعلاً لانه عند الغرب ارجل يطبخ نفس المرأة هاذا عندكم مو عند العرب بس ياريت يكون بالفيديو تبعك في ترجمه مستمره كوني ما اعرف اقرا😂😂😂
Who else here thought that she is the adult version of Greta Thunberg?
اتوقع الرجل العربي عندما يتزوج اجنبية يحترمها اكثر ويحترم رغباتها لكن لما يتزوج من نفس بلده ما بحترمها ابدا
انت اكبر مثال انو كلامي صح
@@user-en5jc8wf4k هل تقصد أن أختك وأمك هم جنس غريب هبل ؟
محمد القيسي لا حول ولا قوة الا بالله ليش القذف ف هذا الشهر المبارك استغفر ربك البنت ما قالت اي شي خارج عن نطاق الأدب و كلامها صحيح العربي يحترم الأجنبية فقط لانها اجنبية و شعوره بالنقص و انها هي لها الأفضلية عليه و نحن انشوف هذا الشيء في واقعنا. اخي رمضانك مبارك و تقبل الله صيامك. لا يجوز هذا الكلام في هذا الشهر المبارك
Thanks for the insight as I have an affinity for Middle Eastern men.
LOL, the part about it being belittling for men to do housework, I can relate, I was brought up to understand that it was belittling for a woman to do 'mens' jobs such as emptying the garbage, pumping your own gas, or washing a car. 😂 I still kinda feel that way 😛
Excellent video... keep it up, you will definitely become a great influencer 👍🌷👍
The firsssttt view the first comment 👌😂
Haha your commitment is 👌😂
@@MummyinAmman hahahahahahha 😂😂😂😂 I'm proud of that 😍💙
Momen Nasser lol good for you!
being an arab my self// i do chores as the son .. and my dad do it as well.... we clean and help out as well around the house ,,,
Woman are supposed to do that
It’s nice to see Greta Thunberg grew up and had children XD
At the end she found the right path for life ^^
😂😂🙌
yeah its sad and kindda funny , that some men consider house work only for women I dont know where that came from , I say its sad cause the most important person in our lives and our icon the prophet Mohammed peace be upon him helped and worked in his house and we should follow but sadly a lot dont
Love your natural hair color 😍
And your hair is beautiful too
I'm half Kuwaiti and half Austrian so I understand what u mean
question: how did you get to the decision of giving the children Arabic names?!
I think when some one marriage of lady from other country he must to stay in his lady country because he know her langue and her country langue but she dosen't his langue then he know her country culture and her social culture and if he think her culture is not fit to him so no one will force him to marriage of that country but she maybe dosen't know any thing about his country or his social culture
Thank you for the video
Could you plz explain how you both deal with the religion
And the kids
Our boys are Muslim and we run a Muslim household but of course I have a Christian heritage and family that we will raise them to be aware of and be respectful of. I don’t think it needs to be more complicated than that, at least for the time being 🤷🏼♀️
Live in peacefull and grateful 🙋
mohammad idais this is an issue for my family as well
Muslim can marry a Christian or Jewish woman because they are the people of the book
@@MummyinAmman so you chose his side over your own. 🤣
Great video and right speech
The mom in law will say, oh look what a useless wife you have, she refuses to cook, refuses to clean. Might as well be single and move back in with mommy. This applies to my grandma and she's not Arab :( it's just a traditional way of thinking
May I ask where your grandmother is from
@@nezarl8374 she's Asian :)
@@harmlesschicken7018
I came to realize that we have alot in common
Like we call stranger old men "uncle" out of respect
Common sense is almost the same all around the globe it only changed in the last 50 years
Harmless I thought you were Arabs.😁
Its a little bit hard to marry someone who does not share the same culture and value, but for me it is not going to be a really big issue because i’m not really into the place where i born and grow up i just feel it is really Me
Let’s watch your video in like ..... 10 years ... Good luck ❤️really
In my experience as an Muslim/Arab born American and my former wife, Muslim/Malay whom I met in college, the trip home caused a lot of destruction to the relationship which ended the marriage.
With today's technology, a trip home is not necessary or acceptable unless it is for social obligations, such as death, wedding, illness. Both parents should go and comeback together for a short period of time if both spouses are able to do so, e.g. health, work, visa issues, etc.
One spouse telling the other that "I....to be with you" is a serious sign of trouble and that marriage commitment/love are no longer a reason to be together.
الترجمة افضل لكي عشان انتي من الاردن عشان نتعلم منك وتعلمي الأجانب الي مثلك
كل الحب
ابنك بجنن 😂