As an American married to a Jordanian I love these videos on relationships! They are so relatable, and it's great to hear that what we notice in our relationship is pretty normal. Thank You!
I'm married to American, and we dated for almost 3 years before marriage and I used to say to her "I'm happy with you" and every time time i say that, she will say, I'm not a car that you just purchased :)
I fell in love with a jordanian lady I met 3 years ago. To this day I'm madly in love with her, and praying Allah the merciful will make her my wife. We live in different countries and I'm likely to be forgotten easily, but I make daily dua's for this to happen. Please pray for me. Love your videos Rache !
I am married to a Tunisian man and it’s the same for him and the men from his country. Although maybe a little more conservative. They don’t even date. I ❤️ this about Arab men, hence the reason I found someone outside of the US. Sending love💕You’re videos are great!
It's not an Arab thing it is an Islamic thing that is why we don't date. For me I don't see anypoint in it it's just a wast of time, money and energy for something that doesn't last or benefit anyone on the long-run. I wish you and your husband a happy and fulfilling life.
That is not true Tunisia is quite liberal compared to other arab countries but true in Islam you should get to know the girl for the eventual purpose of marriage not playing around however in Tunisia which is my country there is a lot of dating going on
You seem happier and happier each time we see you! Multiculturalism is a beautiful thing, may Allah keep you and everyone here always smiling and always happy
It's TH-cam man making her happy. Speaking of multiculturalism would you support Arabs wishing to put a secular system of government and of education in place of the underdeveloped nonsensical systems we have? Would you accept Arabs of a more western bent, agnostic Arabs for example?
@@theenlightenedarab8081 There's no magic or perfect system of governance. All the social problems that exist now have always existed (e.g. prostitution, poverty, domestic violence, alcoholism, exploitation). It would be nice if freedom of speech were better-respected and governments all over the world made gains in reducing authoritarian inclinations.
@@theenlightenedarab8081 your name reflects how ignorant you are. Multiculturalism means accepting others not adopting their system. Secularism has worked pretty well for the west but that doesn't mean that's the only way the east has to follow. The underdevelopment of the region has a large and complex multitude of reasons as to why the region is underdeveloped from colonization all the way the mongol invasion. You are just a spinless arab how wishes the solution to the problem would be turing to a master and asking him how he did it. The region was prosperous for ages without all of these values for ages, arabs kicked in a way the renaissance in the west to begin with.
@@mindyourbusiness4440 You see how you are being angry and not being multiculturalist? I wanted you to accept me as an Arab nonbeliever but you failed, which again reflects your narrow views dictated by mythological upbringing. Yes we want to learn from the west which is much more wealthy in cultural production than your intellectually impoverished region. The point when you could read Edward Sead, Freud, Joseph Conrad, Naguib Mahfouz, Chinua Achebe, Heins Kohut, Bertrand Russell, come and challenge me. I will not give your comments much weight I just turned up here to say a word about how pitiful Arabs' historical and cultural awareness is. So your backwardness is due to Mongul invasion? to colonialism? or so you say. How pathetic these ready-made justifications you picked up in preparatory schools.
The only thing I don’t like about relationships is the personal space that diminishes with time... I mean from what I see when people get engaged/married ... one’s life gradually starts to revolve around the spouse’s life!
و الله أشوف العرب نفس الشي أنا من الجزائر عندي معارف من تونس والمغرب وفلسطين والعراق وأنا أتفاجئ كثيرا باتشابه المذهل وكأنهم يعيشون في المنزل المجاور وليس في دولة أخرى سبحان الله
Thank you for your amazing videos!! I am so appreciative of your content because I have just met an amazing Arab man from Egypt and I am trying to navigate my way through this relationship. I am attracted to his desire to know exactly what it is he wants, which is marriage. However, in western society, talking about marriage so quickly after meeting is seen as a red flag which is confusing for me. I find comfort in hearing your story while acclimating to this new world. It is also nice to learn more about Arab men in general. And yes, please, I am aware there will be a difference between Egyptian and Jordanian men but still I am learning from your videos and I'm sure anything I learn here will be of use. I am excited and love my Egyptian man and love the relationship we have. Thank you!!!
Just as a comment about people in general, the more you know what u want from life and what are your thoughts/ plans, the better. Usually many people are confused about life, decisions and not confident of themselves, that makes people not take decisions or responsibilities and usually this kind of people are easy to manipulate; I prefer people w conference and responsible for their life.
I wish that Jordanian men were nicer to their Arab wives.The abuse and divorce rates are atrocious.Im glad you in a good space dear,and it's so good to read the positive comments on here.
Thank you for this video. As a Swedish woman its so strange for me that my Jordanian husband don't want to go out that much with me. He will do it for me but he looks really uneasy if i would try to hug him. We have talked about this and between us it's n ot a big thing. I know he is different when we are alone or with just family.
i love how the high standards (in terms of morality, religion and responsibility) a woman puts for a husband actually comes from Islam. the problem we are facing nowadays is that these standards are starting to expand to the areas of wealth, beauty, dramatic romance and other things that don't really lead to a healthy marriage relationship. nowadays generally if you ask a girl who's your dream boy? she'd say "a tall blonde guy with beautiful blue eyes" 😑
I feel you and share the same view, though I'm not even Arab, but European Latina Andaluz.... Yet, me myself got high standards too as well as Arab women themselves and, by the opposite, they (Arab community) expect me to accept the first emigrant or refugee that comes here to my land.... 😂 Like.... Tf ❗🤨 Why should I??! 🙄 I'm not less than them, just for my age.... Are you even serious ⁉️❓ Lol 🤣 Ahahahhaha No fu ** dam way 🖕 I'm not less than Arabs, so, deal with it and be thankful that I face my own family and I face the racism and hatred (Islamophobia) of my whole local society in order to get an Arab man (Saoudi, most exactly) to be married with to.... Be thankful for that!!
@@mtrabr6820 I already said and mentioned previously..... 🙄 I'm European Latina, most likely, I'm local PT 🇵🇹 Why???!!! 🙄 I hope you are not another Maghribi headache..... 🤦🏼♀️ Ufff 😓
It’s like saying getting married is “conservative” while fooling around is “liberal”! I don’t get, what do westerns have against marriage ? It’s a piece of paper, a legal commitment.
@@odaenathus7825 Not all Westerners are against marriage. Many people though don't want to make a commitment either legally or to another person. It's an indication of the cultural rot that is a result of rampant materialism and a disregard for God and his instructions to man, in my opinion.
@@odaenathus7825 with consequences and implications that can impoverish people instantly. The average cost of a divorce in the state of Florida in the US, as an example, runs 50,000 usd.
This is how it was in the Western society when I was growing up and now things are very very different. Everything is much too liberal anything goes. It makes me sick. I miss the good old days. Perhaps I will be lucky and marry a Jordanian man Inshallah 🥰
I am from Syria, and the similarities between the Syrian and Jordanian people may reach the point of congruence, and everything you said is true It applies to the Syrian people as well
@@larkabroad Western influence in hollywood netflix youtube in schools you have to learn english , in jobs most jobs require learning English if the european westren society are so developed you wouldn't have highest divorce rates , suicide , and lowest birth rates im not denying that scientificly and economically you are ahead of us but socially i disagree. Btw toilets and water circles were invented by arabs in there golden age and it had nothing to do with indians, squat toilets are called in arab countries local toilets not indian toilets and its common also where i live where no indians live here.
@@أحمدشوقي-ز6ف Seated toilets began in the 1500s spreading from the Ottoman empire to Europe and becoming flushing seated toilets in Europe in the mid 1500s. Floor toilets began in India and spread to the gulf and east Asia from the Indus Valley about 3,000 years ago. Floor toilets, which were not initially identified by your slang, far predate the seated toilets that were innovative for the 1500s.
Yes, there is an engagement ring when we formally engage the girl, and we have something called a dowry ..... We pay a sum of money How the bride prepares herself from clothes, gold and wedding supplies
I am Bangladeshi-American and my wife is straight from Morocco. Even Arab women are more serious. I was talking to my wife for 3 months before she brought up the idea of marriage. Even she was quite expressive about her feelings. However, unlike Jordanian women, she didnt expect me to do alot and try alot. It was easy for me in that regard, perhaps because i am American and many Moroccans see foreigners as wealthy and women as we know are hypergamous by nature. I will also add that my origin, Bangladesh who are also Muslims, are similar to Jordanian men in that regard, generally speaking. They dont date for long and only begin talking to wkmen when their ready for marriage, and even then often the extended family refers a girl and her family to him and they all speak to them when the time comes
Your home is like french home very classic always clean well put together. Please put some lispstic sister. U and your family dress well without try hard.
Isnt it because that in england marriage has no longer a practical function? At least in my country only very romantic people get married, since marriage has no longer any legally function. Example. Going back to the 60s only married coulples could get an aparment, or take a big loan in the bank and so on.
Jordanians to arabs are like the Russians to Europeans, we even have a similar English accent. we're kinda blunt and we sometimes look gloomy on the outside but we mean well and we're not actually as gloomy as we sometimes look... as for relationships, we are pushy but those that actually have experience know how to tone it down and know when it's not just a part of (the game) and that they need to stop, which works pretty well to their advantage
My dear Mummy, I'm hooked to your videos. I must have watched almost 80% of your videos in youtube. I've been trying to tell you a couple of things. 1. Audio output of your videos is annoyingly low. There should be a pin drop silence even with headphone. My phone is alright. 2. You must add some shots related to the topic. We have seen you a lot. Let us see Ordun or Jorden.
The concept of "dating" does not exist in muslims culture in general and in the Arab culture in particular. The reason comes from the relegion of Islam which prohibits any kind of sex between unmarried couples... Therefore, in 99% of couples getting married they are both vergin. This seems strange and odd to westerners, but think about it... A vergin man getting married to a vergin woman... Both have no previous experience... They will both get adapted to each other and will generally each live happily knowing that his/her partner never been in an intimate relationship with an ex. That is why most Muslim couples live together to the end and in most marriages you do not find a husband cheating on his wife nor a wife cheating on her husband.
I do not know many Jordanian couples where the husband is not cheating. It is amazing how different perspectives can be- I don't know many Jordanian Jordanian girls, only men from my work and I've never met one who was faithful to his wife. After work they sit around drinking tea or beer (or both) and smoking and talking about their favorite prostitutes in brothels or their secret second wives, etc. Complicated, yet open secret.
Also, rather presumptuous to say that Westerners all think it is odd to not have sex before marriage- the US evangelical movement is, by volume, larger than the entire population of Jordan and far stricter.
@@larkabroad i am sorry to say that you are either lying or the place you work in happend to have a high percentage of non practicing muslims. I suppose that you are a female (from the picture of your profile), and being a female I would find it very difficult to beleive that these unfaithful men were revealing their bad behavior in front of you...!!!
Yes think European people are not serious about anything but their work and their study , but not religions and not marriage And when the man can any girl he want why he should think in marriage , he just looking for fun romantic relationships until his desires calm down from this girl and go for another one , you know human self can’t be satisfied, and the beauty of girls are not limited, so no thing will be enough for this man eyes but the soil when hi die ! European people get judge by culture not by religion, so they do what is normally happen in their culture , that is make me talk about the absolute truth or the absolute values , because in some countries relationships out side of marriage consider shame ! , other countries consider it pretty normal ! So here we can check the pro and cons and be honest , to find the truth , but if we follow our desire we will go for no role we will go for relationships outside of marriage
ManyJordan and Arab men date and have relations before marriage, in Jordan and outside Jordan. They just keep it a secret because it's haram. I know this from my husband, husband/ relatives friends, and relatives (Male). I hate this about them, but I'm happy when they get married and ask for forgiveness from God.
@@hxdcm I live in jordan since I was a kid and I don't listent that much about relationships before getting mary its forbidden and I don't know about jordanian or arabian people who go to another countries
@@farishope6540 I disagree- I've looked at a couple thousand males' behavior, and let me put it this way- about 2 in 1,000 are virgins when they marry. None were faithful to their wives after marriage.
@@farishope6540 There are no brothels actually inside Las Vegas- they are a considerable drive from the city. You do raise an interesting point, though, that there may be some element of not being able to afford the wedding customs. None of the men I know seem embarrassed by their choices, but I have noticed that marriage seems to be happening in 30s instead of 20s all over the region because of those economic realities you noted. I think also, as more and more men work outside of the country, they are exposed to alternative models of life and see there could be a healthy balance between tribal traditions and new ideas, too. I agree, too, that there is a double standard for women. I have almost no female friends in Jordan because they are stuck in family routines and not available to work in most sectors. All of the girls I've encountered were overwhelmed with their schedules, family, demands, and daily life, and doing something like going out for lunch was eclipsed for things like chores.
@@farishope6540 I disagree- it is a cultural tradition that pre-dated Islam and is highly variable throughout the Islamic world. American girls are busy doing things that are more of their choosing in comparison to gulf, MENA, and Jordanian girls generally- but some of that depends on social class. For example, one of my students has a household staff of 7 employees. The girls spend their time only studying or pursuing hobbies like painting, horseback riding, or fashion designing.
Look the the Arabs have the same culture in general,with some differences and you need to listen and listen to improve your Arabic language to understand the different accent between Arabs :) but don’t worry all Arabs need to that I hope you know about Syria ,Palestine , Saudi Arabia this countries close to Gordon in my opinion ;)
Im happy u have a great experience with the jordanian culture, but someone born into it and already muslim, i differ in opinion, and this all depends on socio economic status someone is coming from and the way they are raised. I didnt find the jordanians i was raised around to be anything the way u describe. And divorce rate amongst jordanians and muslims inside and outside of jordan is high because they didnt ask the right questions or really get to know someone before marriage and marriage is rushed because of the desire for sex. Sometimes i wish i wasnt born into the religion and culture so that i can be introduced to the arab and muslim culture over again and have a better experience as most converts seem to compared to those born into it.
You can always turn your back on this culture that you hate and that suppresses your most natural desires while making it accessible to people in power. I mean the Harem and the jawari of the islamic palaces since Al Rashid. I can help you since you sound open-minded and my channel is for the bright Arabs.
Actually it debends on the people you lived around but for the most part there is no rush normally before marriage arabs make (khutba) To english is fiancee time and it is in general around a year and also when the man don't have enough money to get married its takes more time like sometimes its years so in general the norm is to take your time being fiances and after it get married
Lots of inaccurate stereo types dear Rachel. Almost never recall meeting with a European lady, where she'd been that cold or ambiguous, but yes, they wouldn't rush into getting married in general as having a relationship is an option, while it's generally not the case for an Arab lady, and that's basically more of a cultural rather than a personal attitude. Ah but if you meant to highlight the fact that Europeans tend to have that long term relationship with no commitment, then yes that kind of insane behavior is peculiar only to Westerners (some of them of course) I believe.
I am an Irish guy living in London and I think what she is talking about is true for English people. There is a bit of a reticence to the British, particularly the English. I suspect that is what she is referencing. And I agree, there is. Europeans are generally a little more open.
You wanna know how far Jordanians can get with expression? We could form sincere, truthful, and deep relationships while stopping at the traffic light waiting for the light to turn green. lol, the right chick at the right time could change one's future plans. hahaha
Both are valuable and have amazing things and also less-than-desirable aspects. For example, I love British tea and Jordanian tea, but they are not all similar. I hate that Brits drink heavily, in general, as a primary means of socializing- but that is also a common problem among men in Jordan, too. I love English textiles and Jordanian/Arabic textiles. I think wifi is way better in London than it is in Amman, but I love that the workday in Amman is way more reasonable than in England. I hate that Brits lack general transparency when speaking and I hate that Jordanians are prone to heavy complaining with exaggeration. I like British literature and pre-Islamic Arabic poetry. Dancing traditional dances in Jordan is way more joyful than any dancing I've ever seen in England (not counting Riverdance stuff). I do love that smoking is less common in UK than it is in Jordan- however pollution in the cities in London is also overwhelming even now. You can find lovely and annoying things in every place and society.
@@larkabroad what an interesting comment ! thanks for sharing , by the way are you a Brit living in Jordan ? when I hear Britain , the UK , England , the first thing I think about is the accent , I swear I think nobody loves it more than me , I listen to British people everywhere even my phone is set on it , or with it , I don't know , Cockney accent , Geordie accent , Scottish accent , its not a normal love , I'm crazy about it , I would marry a British woman just for her accent , sooooo cuuuuute , and that's why I fanned this channel . on the other side : I like everything about the western culture except drinking and drugs and the freedom of sex out of marriage , otherwise I wish I could live there
@@habib0409 I forgot to give you part of the answer to your question. I do love the variety of British accents- and Aussie ! My native accent is like Good Will Hunting dialect of American English (its a bit tough to understand if you are not from the region), but I learned standard English long ago for work and use it unless I am in my hometown.
@@azoz103 Having a general goal of marrying outside of Jordan (presumably to get the benefits of being able to live outside of JO) falls apart quickly if you are not employable outside of JO. What is your degree in?
@@larkabroad Oh... I'm not Jordanian actually And I'm not that interested in living outside of Middle East ( or at least an Islamic country ).. I think I'm going to be an English teacher.. Yeah that suits me a bit ( though i plan on media field )
@Sherrie we never compelled some one to expatriate . It's Jordan & other 6 ally that whistled war on a sovereign country Israel . Actually Jordan has killed 25000 Palestinian in 1971 during black September war have you forgot that ?
as a guy who has recently started seeing a Jordanian woman, this was an interesting video. One question I have is jealousy. This girl seems put out that I am not jealous enough of other men. And she's trying to make me jealous. I can see it a mile off. I wonder if this is a cultural thing. She did tell me Arabic men are very jealous. (side note, I love how you signed off the video.....)
Yes I feel this to be true, I live in America for now, lol. But yes my Jordanian fiancee is like how you describe and I was a little concerned when marriage was on the table so soon, cause we here do tend to hide our feelings. For me I just don't want to let people see me hurt, but after watching a lot of your videos I felt more comfortable ❤ and I love the affection and I love that there are no games!🙌💯❤ thanks for all your videos!
Indeed these sort of games are tragic for kids in the west. Kids who would grow without the paternal affection and/or role model especially for male children. This in itself has psychological implications that run to maturity. Just when you date an Arab guy beware of their masculine bent and their attempts to make you part of them, to subsume you in their cultural framework. Very rarely had I heard of western women who would retain their cultural references after being wedded to Arab men. Wish you all the best
Arabs have become quite reserved and much less expressive on the affection and feelings matters.. 15 centuries ago it was a completely different story... or at least that’s what we know from the fine pieces of poetry that have survived till this day.. but as you always say.. this may be generalisation on that era. “Generally speaking” :-P ... and being an Arab myself.. I think Arabs still have a long way to go handling their (our) emotions and feelings. We do have the SOP but seldom we use it. Thanks for the informative and interesting content.. bittawfiq
So true haha! I get confuse speaking to a briti blank face that sometimes I have to be extra thoughtful trying to figure what is wrong to steer the conversation to the right direction.. aghhhh what a struggle !!!
I am just wondering how much time does it takes from you to notice this observations! Great job! Question: How does your British friends react when they know all these stuff about Jordanian people? One small hint: When you do a video in this room it is hard to hear you voice. I had to increase the volume to 100% and barley listen to you. A microphone would be very helpful.
Hi Rachel. We are trying to watch your videos as we might live in Jordan to learn more about foreigner life in Jordan. Your videos are in most useful and we're really enjoying them but some of them (not only this one) are really soft making it hard to hear (especially when our toddler is talking over the top or singing!) Thanks.
Thank you for explaining this point. Do you know, Rachel, that it is possible for many Arab or Jordanian youth to marry women of European or American culture, for example. The problem is how to explain and receive culture from both sides For example, you know how a Jordanian is jealous of his wife and does not like to see her with European clothing designs or see her accompany men etc. Here lies the difficulty of explaining the Arab or the Jordanian specifically to the foreign girl, because as you know there are few restrictions placed in Europe on girls and men there, and we are much more conservative ..... Is it possible for you to explain to us your experience and what are the difficulties you faced? Is love or logic? Who defeated you in this ?? And what would you recommend to the Jordanian man and European girl in this regard ???
I am a European girl dating an Arab christian man. It works because he is not jealous at all and he has 100% confidence in me. The same goes for me towards him. I am used to a really "western" approach on relationships, I could never tolerate a man criticising my clothing as being too "provocative" for example. I couldn't stand a guy who can't bare the thought that I have male friends. I would also be angry if I knew that my boyfriend freaks out/is repulsed by the thought of me having past relationships. However, I respect his family values. We have a relationship based on respect and confidence. If you are a "jealous-conservative" Arab man dating a western girl, I would say that the odds are in your favour, because generally speaking, it's the woman that usually has to adapt to the man's point of view, even in the West, although it's changing now. However you have to know what kind of person you are dealing with: if it's a girl like me for example, many of these behaviours would be red flags.
@@aspadiamanti5677 Perhaps you understood that jealousy may not be in our favor. I would like to make a point for us ,, women, if they are our mothers, wives, or daughters, we respect them very much and we consider that they are ours, an example to explain to you ... In order to search for oil, you will dig a lot to reach You will pay a lot of money, and if you want to search for rubies, you will search a lot, even gold and even money, so why not if it is related to my wife, which is more important than all of these things ..... the person who will take care of us and take care of our children and protect our home should she not protect her? How is it possible for you to protect your wife while she wears inappropriate clothes while walking in the street, may she be raped because all her charms are visible ?? Can someone look at her and say: I wish I could reach her ?? How do you want a person to bear things like this ?? Women are the most precious thing in our life. We cannot bear that and this is what I asked for my comment until I find the answer ..... and the issue is not related to trust. The topic is related to society’s view and the person’s view of himself and his family and what he can provide to protect those who love. This is the meaning of jealousy for us as Jordanians or for me as a person
@@anaskronz5629 I don't want to criticise anybody. As long as you do not harm others, you can freely have your own values, I respect that. If that is the case though maybe you should try to find a muslim girl and get married. I do not think that you can find many western women that are ok with a man controlling their clothing. Especially the connection between a woman's clothing and harassment is a taboo issue in the west: We believe that it is not the appearance that provokes rape, that it's the rapist that provokes rape. Period. So as a society, we believe that we have to educate and civilise men to not do such things, instead of shaming women for their clothing. That's a basic western principle. However, maybe your girl has the same values, so it's all good. If not, you shouldn't try to change her, it is wrong. If you persist in your values but still want a western girl, then you need to make some adapting. For example, it's ok to not like it if your girl is out clubbing all night with men. That's a valid reason to be upset in my opinion. But if you get upset each time that your girlfriend wears a skirt or shows a bit of cleavage or talks to a guy that is not her relative, now that is a problem. Compromise. If you can't do it, find a muslim girl. That's my honest opinion. I hope it turns out well for you in any case!
@@aspadiamanti5677 The issue has nothing to do with religion only. The issue has anything to do with culture ..... there are many of our Christian friends who have the same traditions. They do not allow their women any clothing and they have great jealousy and also when they marry they do not do the same as the Europeans ..... For example, a man should not live And the woman is in a house for their condition before marriage. All that is involved is engagement, marriage or love without any sexual experiences (excuse me for this word) then engagement and marriage .... This is our culture and this is what I try to ask European girls .. Is it possible for you to be satisfied with these standards or No ??
@@anaskronz5629 The answer is yes, you could possibly find a western woman that accepts this. However it is rare and it is frowned upon, meaning that, if you live in the West and you "don't allow your woman any clothing" like you say, her friends/family/social circle is going to disapprove, even if she accepts it. That causes problems. But since I see that you are very determined in your values, why don't you look for a woman from your own cultural background? It would be wiser and easier for you.
I am from Oman..generally, the Arabs are the same in almost everything :))) Greetings
As an American married to a Jordanian I love these videos on relationships! They are so relatable, and it's great to hear that what we notice in our relationship is pretty normal. Thank You!
I'm married to American, and we dated for almost 3 years before marriage and I used to say to her "I'm happy with you" and every time time i say that, she will say, I'm not a car that you just purchased :)
@JR Bullet nope , and now, she uses my wonderful phrase sometimes :)
I love Jordanians!!!!
We love u too🙂
this is nice of you
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we love you too!❤
We love you, your are most welcome to our country...
Very educational and accurate observations for both cultures Arab and European, thank you for making these videos and please make more.
I fell in love with a jordanian lady I met 3 years ago. To this day I'm madly in love with her, and praying Allah the merciful will make her my wife. We live in different countries and I'm likely to be forgotten easily, but I make daily dua's for this to happen. Please pray for me. Love your videos Rache !
Awww😍 I hope you'll meet her and get married to her
where are you from? sorry for being intrusive.
@@samiajordan1861 I was asking B H bro. But thanks for answering! hope you have a good day. greetings from a fellow jordanian :)
@@amermh144 sorry😅
everything is well untill her parents know about that 💀 یلا صدیقي
Notice that you introduce our community really well, the video is awesome
Tell us more about your story and how you met your husband and how you decided to marry and move to Jordan.
I am married to a Tunisian man and it’s the same for him and the men from his country. Although maybe a little more conservative. They don’t even date. I ❤️ this about Arab men, hence the reason I found someone outside of the US. Sending love💕You’re videos are great!
It's not an Arab thing it is an Islamic thing that is why we don't date.
For me I don't see anypoint in it
it's just a wast of time, money and energy for something that doesn't last or benefit anyone on the long-run.
I wish you and your husband a happy and fulfilling life.
That is not true Tunisia is quite liberal compared to other arab countries but true in Islam you should get to know the girl for the eventual purpose of marriage not playing around however in Tunisia which is my country there is a lot of dating going on
You seem happier and happier each time we see you!
Multiculturalism is a beautiful thing, may Allah keep you and everyone here always smiling and always happy
amen
It's TH-cam man making her happy. Speaking of multiculturalism would you support Arabs wishing to put a secular system of government and of education in place of the underdeveloped nonsensical systems we have? Would you accept Arabs of a more western bent, agnostic Arabs for example?
@@theenlightenedarab8081 There's no magic or perfect system of governance. All the social problems that exist now have always existed (e.g. prostitution, poverty, domestic violence, alcoholism, exploitation). It would be nice if freedom of speech were better-respected and governments all over the world made gains in reducing authoritarian inclinations.
@@theenlightenedarab8081 your name reflects how ignorant you are. Multiculturalism means accepting others not adopting their system. Secularism has worked pretty well for the west but that doesn't mean that's the only way the east has to follow. The underdevelopment of the region has a large and complex multitude of reasons as to why the region is underdeveloped from colonization all the way the mongol invasion.
You are just a spinless arab how wishes the solution to the problem would be turing to a master and asking him how he did it.
The region was prosperous for ages without all of these values for ages, arabs kicked in a way the renaissance in the west to begin with.
@@mindyourbusiness4440 You see how you are being angry and not being multiculturalist? I wanted you to accept me as an Arab nonbeliever but you failed, which again reflects your narrow views dictated by mythological upbringing. Yes we want to learn from the west which is much more wealthy in cultural production than your intellectually impoverished region. The point when you could read Edward Sead, Freud, Joseph Conrad, Naguib Mahfouz, Chinua Achebe, Heins Kohut, Bertrand Russell, come and challenge me. I will not give your comments much weight I just turned up here to say a word about how pitiful Arabs' historical and cultural awareness is. So your backwardness is due to Mongul invasion? to colonialism? or so you say. How pathetic these ready-made justifications you picked up in preparatory schools.
My day always becomes ten times better when I watch your videos! ♥️
The only thing I don’t like about relationships is the personal space that diminishes with time... I mean from what I see when people get engaged/married ... one’s life gradually starts to revolve around the spouse’s life!
و الله أشوف العرب نفس الشي أنا من الجزائر عندي معارف من تونس والمغرب وفلسطين والعراق وأنا أتفاجئ كثيرا باتشابه المذهل وكأنهم يعيشون في المنزل المجاور وليس في دولة أخرى
سبحان الله
الاسلام هو السبب
وعليكم السلام ورحمة الله وبركاته
Yes, my husband was in the states when we met and a few months later he said we should get married. It was then I knew he was nuts!🤣🇺🇸🇸🇦
Thank you for your amazing videos!! I am so appreciative of your content because I have just met an amazing Arab man from Egypt and I am trying to navigate my way through this relationship. I am attracted to his desire to know exactly what it is he wants, which is marriage. However, in western society, talking about marriage so quickly after meeting is seen as a red flag which is confusing for me. I find comfort in hearing your story while acclimating to this new world. It is also nice to learn more about Arab men in general. And yes, please, I am aware there will be a difference between Egyptian and Jordanian men but still I am learning from your videos and I'm sure anything I learn here will be of use. I am excited and love my Egyptian man and love the relationship we have. Thank you!!!
He is a Muslim. If he is a Muslim and understands you, he asks you to marry him
جزاك الله خيرا
منيح ترجمة😪
Just as a comment about people in general, the more you know what u want from life and what are your thoughts/ plans, the better. Usually many people are confused about life, decisions and not confident of themselves, that makes people not take decisions or responsibilities and usually this kind of people are easy to manipulate; I prefer people w conference and responsible for their life.
Very nice 🌹
I love this video of yours mashaa Allah, happy family mashaa Allah
I wish that Jordanian men were nicer to their Arab wives.The abuse and divorce rates are atrocious.Im glad you in a good space dear,and it's so good to read the positive comments on here.
Very well presented.
Thank you for this video. As a Swedish woman its so strange for me that my Jordanian husband don't want to go out that much with me. He will do it for me but he looks really uneasy if i would try to hug him. We have talked about this and between us it's n ot a big thing. I know he is different when we are alone or with just family.
so happy i find this channel you look so warm person
i like the video and yes i agree with what you said
i love how the high standards (in terms of morality, religion and responsibility) a woman puts for a husband actually comes from Islam.
the problem we are facing nowadays is that these standards are starting to expand to the areas of wealth, beauty, dramatic romance and other things that don't really lead to a healthy marriage relationship.
nowadays generally if you ask a girl who's your dream boy? she'd say "a tall blonde guy with beautiful blue eyes" 😑
It would be okay to ask for a blonde guy
But now they prefer the korean singers that even dont look like men At all 🤣
@@nashmi-8609
Fact! 👍
Lmaof 😂 🤣
I feel you and share the same view, though I'm not even Arab, but European Latina Andaluz....
Yet, me myself got high standards too as well as Arab women themselves and, by the opposite, they (Arab community) expect me to accept the first emigrant or refugee that comes here to my land.... 😂
Like.... Tf ❗🤨
Why should I??! 🙄
I'm not less than them, just for my age....
Are you even serious ⁉️❓
Lol 🤣
Ahahahhaha
No fu ** dam way 🖕
I'm not less than Arabs, so, deal with it and be thankful that I face my own family and I face the racism and hatred (Islamophobia) of my whole local society in order to get an Arab man (Saoudi, most exactly) to be married with to....
Be thankful for that!!
@@mikidias Latina andaluz? Eso no tiene sentido? De donde eres?
@@mtrabr6820
I already said and mentioned previously..... 🙄
I'm European Latina, most likely, I'm local PT 🇵🇹
Why???!!! 🙄
I hope you are not another Maghribi headache..... 🤦🏼♀️
Ufff 😓
It sounds as though Jordanians feel the same about courtship vs. dating as many conservative Christians. That's a good thing!
It’s like saying getting married is “conservative” while fooling around is “liberal”! I don’t get, what do westerns have against marriage ? It’s a piece of paper, a legal commitment.
@@odaenathus7825 Not all Westerners are against marriage. Many people though don't want to make a commitment either legally or to another person. It's an indication of the cultural rot that is a result of rampant materialism and a disregard for God and his instructions to man, in my opinion.
Not just Jordanians.. All Muslims..
@@odaenathus7825 with consequences and implications that can impoverish people instantly. The average cost of a divorce in the state of Florida in the US, as an example, runs 50,000 usd.
@@cherrobbs2810 Or they simply can't take the financial risk because they lack the earning potential.
I enjoyed watching the video ❤😍
We want moore of these
This is how it was in the Western society when I was growing up and now things are very very different. Everything is much too liberal anything goes. It makes me sick. I miss the good old days. Perhaps I will be lucky and marry a Jordanian man Inshallah 🥰
Thanks for translation
Nice video 👍😊
Doing great ..as usual 👍👍
Rachel, not sure why, you give me the pregnant lady vibes 🙃
She is glowing post-covid for sure!
I am just glad to see the color back in her face. That one video she was so pale and couldn't breathe properly was truly worrying.
We are the Jordanian very bad in the relationship 😀😃🇯🇴❤
And because it's haram in our religion 😘☾
Lets call it pure in relationships
Not bad
I love your Canal of TH-cam ,i am from Algeria
I am from Syria, and the similarities between the Syrian and Jordanian people may reach the point of congruence, and everything you said is true It applies to the Syrian people as well
From what I see we are slowly changing towards the Europeans style
It's normal with development.
@@larkabroad No, Its because of the western influence If india had the same influence on us we would be moving towards the hindu stuff.
@@أحمدشوقي-ز6ف What do you believe is a western influence? There is plenty of Indian influence in Jordan (example- floor toilets).
@@larkabroad Western influence in hollywood netflix youtube in schools you have to learn english , in jobs most jobs require learning English if the european westren society are so developed you wouldn't have highest divorce rates , suicide , and lowest birth rates im not denying that scientificly and economically you are ahead of us but socially i disagree.
Btw toilets and water circles were invented by arabs in there golden age and it had nothing to do with indians, squat toilets are called in arab countries local toilets not indian toilets and its common also where i live where no indians live here.
@@أحمدشوقي-ز6ف Seated toilets began in the 1500s spreading from the Ottoman empire to Europe and becoming flushing seated toilets in Europe in the mid 1500s. Floor toilets began in India and spread to the gulf and east Asia from the Indus Valley about 3,000 years ago. Floor toilets, which were not initially identified by your slang, far predate the seated toilets that were innovative for the 1500s.
Enjoyed it
Thanx
Do Jordanians wear wedding rings/bands? Love your channel. Sending you the best from the US.
Yes, there is an engagement ring when we formally engage the girl, and we have something called a dowry ..... We pay a sum of money How the bride prepares herself from clothes, gold and wedding supplies
Yes we do 😊
@@anaskronz5629 thank you.
@@abdullahnuman4442 thank you.
@@anaskronz5629 in indian traditions, we all gave that to the bride but not money... Yes we give mehr as according to Islam.
In general all what you said correct, only for the exception for players who get into a relationship for fun.
Thank you so much 🌻
Yes. it is true the Arabs especially the Jordanian, put five girls in his heart at one time and is looking for more 😂😂😂😂
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We need more of this 🤣
Make a video with your husband please!
I really want part 2
I am Bangladeshi-American and my wife is straight from Morocco. Even Arab women are more serious. I was talking to my wife for 3 months before she brought up the idea of marriage. Even she was quite expressive about her feelings. However, unlike Jordanian women, she didnt expect me to do alot and try alot. It was easy for me in that regard, perhaps because i am American and many Moroccans see foreigners as wealthy and women as we know are hypergamous by nature.
I will also add that my origin, Bangladesh who are also Muslims, are similar to Jordanian men in that regard, generally speaking. They dont date for long and only begin talking to wkmen when their ready for marriage, and even then often the extended family refers a girl and her family to him and they all speak to them when the time comes
Nice topic but if you like be on save zone to answer any questions about any related information just they must know the relay rizal to marry...
Great observations
Can u tell us how U've met with ur husband , the whole story if u wish. Nice video, interesting facts
شو بدك بالمرة كيف قابلت زوجها 😁
I believe she said she doesn't want to talk about it, or her husband doesn't want her to say it.
امور عائليه
ملناش دعوة
السؤال الها هي ، بقولك ليش الشعب العربي حشري 😅😂😂
@@ahmada5376 حشري ؟؟؟انت لازم تجاوب هالسؤال
Well in Egypt the women tend to furnish the home and do the wedding unlike other countries where the guy should do it
You get it 100% 😂
Firstttttttt
Woot!!!
loved the video! Looking forward to the next one! :)
It is perfect 💙💙💙💙💙
Your home is like french home very classic always clean well put together. Please put some lispstic sister. U and your family dress well without try hard.
Isnt it because that in england marriage has no longer a practical function? At least in my country only very romantic people get married, since marriage has no longer any legally function. Example. Going back to the 60s only married coulples could get an aparment, or take a big loan in the bank and so on.
وعليكم السلام ورحمة الله وبركاته...... الأردني صريح جدا جدا إذا بتهمو...بتهمو إذا ما بتهمو بلف حالو وبيمشي.
Jordanians to arabs are like the Russians to Europeans, we even have a similar English accent. we're kinda blunt and we sometimes look gloomy on the outside but we mean well and we're not actually as gloomy as we sometimes look... as for relationships, we are pushy but those that actually have experience know how to tone it down and know when it's not just a part of (the game) and that they need to stop, which works pretty well to their advantage
Can you please explain the first sentence?
No lol
وين الترجمة
هذه البريطانية مجنونة رسميا ههههه
My dear Mummy, I'm hooked to your videos. I must have watched almost 80% of your videos in youtube. I've been trying to tell you a couple of things.
1. Audio output of your videos is annoyingly low. There should be a pin drop silence even with headphone. My phone is alright.
2. You must add some shots related to the topic. We have seen you a lot. Let us see Ordun or Jorden.
Lovely 💐
Some are more conservatives than others, but Arabs do share the same culture/traditions.
Can u make a Corona update on Jordan
Queen Rania doesn't wear Hijab..why do you?
Each person will be judged by the Lord alone and others will not benefit him🙂💗
she is Muslim hijab is choose
Hey, thank you for your videos! I want to ask you can American own homes in Jordan, and can we find apartment for $60000?
نعم، العرب متشابهون
من وين انت يا عقبي
من الأردن
We, the youth of Jordan, do not have it 😊 Listen, girls of Jordan, what do you say about us 😉 You should thank God every minute
Dear kindly talk about travelling to UK after wearing Hijab, do u still treated the same... share funny stories about Brett's Arabs couples in Europe.
there is a problem in the voice its too low
I want asking you if you notes The big deference between Islam and The other religion's
The concept of "dating" does not exist in muslims culture in general and in the Arab culture in particular. The reason comes from the relegion of Islam which prohibits any kind of sex between unmarried couples... Therefore, in 99% of couples getting married they are both vergin. This seems strange and odd to westerners, but think about it... A vergin man getting married to a vergin woman... Both have no previous experience... They will both get adapted to each other and will generally each live happily knowing that his/her partner never been in an intimate relationship with an ex. That is why most Muslim couples live together to the end and in most marriages you do not find a husband cheating on his wife nor a wife cheating on her husband.
Al hamdulillah 🌷
I do not know many Jordanian couples where the husband is not cheating. It is amazing how different perspectives can be- I don't know many Jordanian Jordanian girls, only men from my work and I've never met one who was faithful to his wife. After work they sit around drinking tea or beer (or both) and smoking and talking about their favorite prostitutes in brothels or their secret second wives, etc. Complicated, yet open secret.
Also, rather presumptuous to say that Westerners all think it is odd to not have sex before marriage- the US evangelical movement is, by volume, larger than the entire population of Jordan and far stricter.
Further, I know far more divorced Saudis (sometimes on their third divorce) than I do Americans, Canadians, and Brits, all added together.
@@larkabroad i am sorry to say that you are either lying or the place you work in happend to have a high percentage of non practicing muslims.
I suppose that you are a female (from the picture of your profile), and being a female I would find it very difficult to beleive that these unfaithful men were revealing their bad behavior in front of you...!!!
أين الترجمه
the voice in video is low please raise it
There is No dating in Jordan, its not a matter short time or long tme, since in islam it's not permitted
They still date in Jordan, in secret. I hope this change, God willing.
@@hxdcm maybe small percentage of people , don't forget Christian people also live but they are a minority
@@hxdcm It would be wonderful if, like Turkey, people were allowed to be people without everyone else dictating to them.
@@Mr-barca Christians are not a minority, its the biggest religion even still.
@@larkabroad they are minority in jordan
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Yes think European people are not serious about anything but their work and their study , but not religions and not marriage
And when the man can any girl he want why he should think in marriage , he just looking for fun romantic relationships until his desires calm down from this girl and go for another one , you know human self can’t be satisfied, and the beauty of girls are not limited, so no thing will be enough for this man eyes but the soil when hi die !
European people get judge by culture not by religion, so they do what is normally happen in their culture , that is make me talk about the absolute truth or the absolute values , because in some countries relationships out side of marriage consider shame ! , other countries consider it pretty normal !
So here we can check the pro and cons and be honest , to find the truth , but if we follow our desire we will go for no role we will go for relationships outside of marriage
Yeh jordanian people and outhe islamic county's Don't date because its forbidden in islam 🖤🖤
ManyJordan and Arab men date and have relations before marriage, in Jordan and outside Jordan. They just keep it a secret because it's haram. I know this from my husband, husband/ relatives friends, and relatives (Male). I hate this about them, but I'm happy when they get married and ask for forgiveness from God.
@@hxdcm I live in jordan since I was a kid and I don't listent that much about relationships before getting mary its forbidden and I don't know about jordanian or arabian people who go to another countries
@@farishope6540 I disagree- I've looked at a couple thousand males' behavior, and let me put it this way- about 2 in 1,000 are virgins when they marry. None were faithful to their wives after marriage.
@@farishope6540 There are no brothels actually inside Las Vegas- they are a considerable drive from the city. You do raise an interesting point, though, that there may be some element of not being able to afford the wedding customs. None of the men I know seem embarrassed by their choices, but I have noticed that marriage seems to be happening in 30s instead of 20s all over the region because of those economic realities you noted. I think also, as more and more men work outside of the country, they are exposed to alternative models of life and see there could be a healthy balance between tribal traditions and new ideas, too. I agree, too, that there is a double standard for women. I have almost no female friends in Jordan because they are stuck in family routines and not available to work in most sectors. All of the girls I've encountered were overwhelmed with their schedules, family, demands, and daily life, and doing something like going out for lunch was eclipsed for things like chores.
@@farishope6540 I disagree- it is a cultural tradition that pre-dated Islam and is highly variable throughout the Islamic world. American girls are busy doing things that are more of their choosing in comparison to gulf, MENA, and Jordanian girls generally- but some of that depends on social class. For example, one of my students has a household staff of 7 employees. The girls spend their time only studying or pursuing hobbies like painting, horseback riding, or fashion designing.
Look the the Arabs have the same culture in general,with some differences
and you need to listen and listen to improve your Arabic language to understand the different accent between Arabs :)
but don’t worry all Arabs need to that
I hope you know about Syria ,Palestine , Saudi Arabia this countries close to Gordon in my opinion ;)
Jordan*
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Im happy u have a great experience with the jordanian culture, but someone born into it and already muslim, i differ in opinion, and this all depends on socio economic status someone is coming from and the way they are raised. I didnt find the jordanians i was raised around to be anything the way u describe. And divorce rate amongst jordanians and muslims inside and outside of jordan is high because they didnt ask the right questions or really get to know someone before marriage and marriage is rushed because of the desire for sex. Sometimes i wish i wasnt born into the religion and culture so that i can be introduced to the arab and muslim culture over again and have a better experience as most converts seem to compared to those born into it.
Thank you for this comment.
Your name is ghareeb ( stranger ) and it seems to me that you are a real stranger
@@acceptlife8213 ya haa
You can always turn your back on this culture that you hate and that suppresses your most natural desires while making it accessible to people in power. I mean the Harem and the jawari of the islamic palaces since Al Rashid. I can help you since you sound open-minded and my channel is for the bright Arabs.
Actually it debends on the people you lived around but for the most part there is no rush normally before marriage arabs make (khutba)
To english is fiancee time and it is in general around a year and also when the man don't have enough money to get married its takes more time like sometimes its years so in general the norm is to take your time being fiances and after it get married
الترجمة العربية لا تشتغل !!!
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Lots of inaccurate stereo types dear Rachel. Almost never recall meeting with a European lady, where she'd been that cold or ambiguous, but yes, they wouldn't rush into getting married in general as having a relationship is an option, while it's generally not the case for an Arab lady, and that's basically more of a cultural rather than a personal attitude. Ah but if you meant to highlight the fact that Europeans tend to have that long term relationship with no commitment, then yes that kind of insane behavior is peculiar only to Westerners (some of them of course) I believe.
I am an Irish guy living in London and I think what she is talking about is true for English people. There is a bit of a reticence to the British, particularly the English. I suspect that is what she is referencing. And I agree, there is. Europeans are generally a little more open.
@@Reizermo May be because you're an Irish!!!!
❤arabs❤
اذا في حوليكي وحده انا جاهز ههههههههه
Where are the Expats' Opinions here? This beats the purpose.. Not helpful at all sorry!!
You wanna know how far Jordanians can get with expression? We could form sincere, truthful, and deep relationships while stopping at the traffic light waiting for the light to turn green. lol, the right chick at the right time could change one's future plans. hahaha
Ok but is it normal for a guy to ask a girl he just met to come and live with him??? 😅😂😂
@JR Bullet haha so he was a weird guy 😂😂
Nooooo
do you prefer English culture or Arabic
Both are valuable and have amazing things and also less-than-desirable aspects. For example, I love British tea and Jordanian tea, but they are not all similar. I hate that Brits drink heavily, in general, as a primary means of socializing- but that is also a common problem among men in Jordan, too. I love English textiles and Jordanian/Arabic textiles. I think wifi is way better in London than it is in Amman, but I love that the workday in Amman is way more reasonable than in England. I hate that Brits lack general transparency when speaking and I hate that Jordanians are prone to heavy complaining with exaggeration. I like British literature and pre-Islamic Arabic poetry. Dancing traditional dances in Jordan is way more joyful than any dancing I've ever seen in England (not counting Riverdance stuff). I do love that smoking is less common in UK than it is in Jordan- however pollution in the cities in London is also overwhelming even now. You can find lovely and annoying things in every place and society.
@@larkabroad what an interesting comment ! thanks for sharing , by the way are you a Brit living in Jordan ? when I hear Britain , the UK , England , the first thing I think about is the accent , I swear I think nobody loves it more than me , I listen to British people everywhere even my phone is set on it , or with it , I don't know , Cockney accent , Geordie accent , Scottish accent , its not a normal love , I'm crazy about it , I would marry a British woman just for her accent , sooooo cuuuuute , and that's why I fanned this channel .
on the other side : I like everything about the western culture except drinking and drugs and the freedom of sex out of marriage , otherwise I wish I could live there
@@habib0409 I forgot to give you part of the answer to your question. I do love the variety of British accents- and Aussie ! My native accent is like Good Will Hunting dialect of American English (its a bit tough to understand if you are not from the region), but I learned standard English long ago for work and use it unless I am in my hometown.
examples of my native dialect: th-cam.com/video/hIdsjNGCGz4/w-d-xo.html or th-cam.com/video/djrH9GR9xO0/w-d-xo.html
Do you hear people compliment the British accent or is it just me
I want to marry a British girl.. Yeah.. I will
Are you competitive to get a job in UK?
@@larkabroad
I don't think i understanded you...
@@azoz103 Having a general goal of marrying outside of Jordan (presumably to get the benefits of being able to live outside of JO) falls apart quickly if you are not employable outside of JO. What is your degree in?
@@larkabroad
Oh... I'm not Jordanian actually
And I'm not that interested in living outside of Middle East ( or at least an Islamic country )..
I think I'm going to be an English teacher.. Yeah that suits me a bit ( though i plan on media field )
@@azoz103 Did you start studying yet?
Please when you say Jordanians include Palestinians along, cuz we are the same people in two countries, but we don't get any recognition 😢😢
Love from Israel 🇮🇱
@Sherrie we never compelled some one to expatriate . It's Jordan & other 6 ally that whistled war on a sovereign country Israel . Actually Jordan has killed 25000 Palestinian in 1971 during black September war have you forgot that ?
@@ashiqrh317 🚀 🧨 from Egypt
@@sherifbatawy looool
using your word, generally speaking, we Arab tend to carry our hearts on our sleeves, men and women. :)
as a guy who has recently started seeing a Jordanian woman, this was an interesting video. One question I have is jealousy. This girl seems put out that I am not jealous enough of other men. And she's trying to make me jealous. I can see it a mile off. I wonder if this is a cultural thing. She did tell me Arabic men are very jealous. (side note, I love how you signed off the video.....)
Yes I feel this to be true, I live in America for now, lol. But yes my Jordanian fiancee is like how you describe and I was a little concerned when marriage was on the table so soon, cause we here do tend to hide our feelings. For me I just don't want to let people see me hurt, but after watching a lot of your videos I felt more comfortable ❤ and I love the affection and I love that there are no games!🙌💯❤ thanks for all your videos!
Indeed these sort of games are tragic for kids in the west. Kids who would grow without the paternal affection and/or role model especially for male children. This in itself has psychological implications that run to maturity. Just when you date an Arab guy beware of their masculine bent and their attempts to make you part of them, to subsume you in their cultural framework. Very rarely had I heard of western women who would retain their cultural references after being wedded to Arab men. Wish you all the best
Arabs have become quite reserved and much less expressive on the affection and feelings matters.. 15 centuries ago it was a completely different story... or at least that’s what we know from the fine pieces of poetry that have survived till this day.. but as you always say.. this may be generalisation on that era.
“Generally speaking” :-P ... and being an Arab myself.. I think Arabs still have a long way to go handling their (our) emotions and feelings. We do have the SOP but seldom we use it.
Thanks for the informative and interesting content.. bittawfiq
finally a new video with Arabic subtitle:)thank u
So true haha! I get confuse speaking to a briti blank face that sometimes I have to be extra thoughtful trying to figure what is wrong to steer the conversation to the right direction.. aghhhh what a struggle !!!
I am just wondering how much time does it takes from you to notice this observations! Great job!
Question: How does your British friends react when they know all these stuff about Jordanian people?
One small hint: When you do a video in this room it is hard to hear you voice. I had to increase the volume to 100% and barley listen to you. A microphone would be very helpful.
Yeah the voice is so low
Hi Rachel. We are trying to watch your videos as we might live in Jordan to learn more about foreigner life in Jordan. Your videos are in most useful and we're really enjoying them but some of them (not only this one) are really soft making it hard to hear (especially when our toddler is talking over the top or singing!) Thanks.
Thank you for explaining this point. Do you know, Rachel, that it is possible for many Arab or Jordanian youth to marry women of European or American culture, for example.
The problem is how to explain and receive culture from both sides
For example, you know how a Jordanian is jealous of his wife and does not like to see her with European clothing designs or see her accompany men etc.
Here lies the difficulty of explaining the Arab or the Jordanian specifically to the foreign girl, because as you know there are few restrictions placed in Europe on girls and men there, and we are much more conservative ..... Is it possible for you to explain to us your experience and what are the difficulties you faced? Is love or logic? Who defeated you in this ?? And what would you recommend to the Jordanian man and European girl in this regard ???
I am a European girl dating an Arab christian man. It works because he is not jealous at all and he has 100% confidence in me. The same goes for me towards him. I am used to a really "western" approach on relationships, I could never tolerate a man criticising my clothing as being too "provocative" for example. I couldn't stand a guy who can't bare the thought that I have male friends. I would also be angry if I knew that my boyfriend freaks out/is repulsed by the thought of me having past relationships. However, I respect his family values. We have a relationship based on respect and confidence.
If you are a "jealous-conservative" Arab man dating a western girl, I would say that the odds are in your favour, because generally speaking, it's the woman that usually has to adapt to the man's point of view, even in the West, although it's changing now. However you have to know what kind of person you are dealing with: if it's a girl like me for example, many of these behaviours would be red flags.
@@aspadiamanti5677 Perhaps you understood that jealousy may not be in our favor. I would like to make a point for us ,, women, if they are our mothers, wives, or daughters, we respect them very much and we consider that they are ours, an example to explain to you ... In order to search for oil, you will dig a lot to reach You will pay a lot of money, and if you want to search for rubies, you will search a lot, even gold and even money, so why not if it is related to my wife, which is more important than all of these things ..... the person who will take care of us and take care of our children and protect our home should she not protect her? How is it possible for you to protect your wife while she wears inappropriate clothes while walking in the street, may she be raped because all her charms are visible ?? Can someone look at her and say: I wish I could reach her ?? How do you want a person to bear things like this ?? Women are the most precious thing in our life. We cannot bear that and this is what I asked for my comment until I find the answer ..... and the issue is not related to trust. The topic is related to society’s view and the person’s view of himself and his family and what he can provide to protect those who love. This is the meaning of jealousy for us as Jordanians or for me as a person
@@anaskronz5629 I don't want to criticise anybody. As long as you do not harm others, you can freely have your own values, I respect that. If that is the case though maybe you should try to find a muslim girl and get married. I do not think that you can find many western women that are ok with a man controlling their clothing. Especially the connection between a woman's clothing and harassment is a taboo issue in the west: We believe that it is not the appearance that provokes rape, that it's the rapist that provokes rape. Period. So as a society, we believe that we have to educate and civilise men to not do such things, instead of shaming women for their clothing. That's a basic western principle.
However, maybe your girl has the same values, so it's all good. If not, you shouldn't try to change her, it is wrong. If you persist in your values but still want a western girl, then you need to make some adapting. For example, it's ok to not like it if your girl is out clubbing all night with men. That's a valid reason to be upset in my opinion. But if you get upset each time that your girlfriend wears a skirt or shows a bit of cleavage or talks to a guy that is not her relative, now that is a problem. Compromise. If you can't do it, find a muslim girl. That's my honest opinion. I hope it turns out well for you in any case!
@@aspadiamanti5677 The issue has nothing to do with religion only. The issue has anything to do with culture ..... there are many of our Christian friends who have the same traditions. They do not allow their women any clothing and they have great jealousy and also when they marry they do not do the same as the Europeans ..... For example, a man should not live And the woman is in a house for their condition before marriage. All that is involved is engagement, marriage or love without any sexual experiences (excuse me for this word) then engagement and marriage .... This is our culture and this is what I try to ask European girls .. Is it possible for you to be satisfied with these standards or No ??
@@anaskronz5629 The answer is yes, you could possibly find a western woman that accepts this. However it is rare and it is frowned upon, meaning that, if you live in the West and you "don't allow your woman any clothing" like you say, her friends/family/social circle is going to disapprove, even if she accepts it. That causes problems. But since I see that you are very determined in your values, why don't you look for a woman from your own cultural background? It would be wiser and easier for you.