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- How To Lose Everything: Do This One Thing. From Million TH-camr to No One.
In this raw and honest video, I share the painful story of how I went from being a successful TH-camr with millions of followers to losing everything. I invested my time, energy, and trust into the wrong people, and the consequences were devastating.
This isn't just my story-it's a warning. If you're building something meaningful, whether it's a business, a brand, or a dream, watch this video and learn from my mistakes.
The dangers of trusting the wrong people
The warning signs I ignored
How to protect yourself and your hard work
Don't let this happen to you.
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Don't underestimate yourself man, you're way cooler than you realize. And believe me, I wouldn't follow you and watch your every video if I didn't think so. You're funny, well spoken, creative, handsome, and so full of deep interesting ideas. You might be in a bad place for now (life really sucks sometimes), but I know you will rise like a champion in no time, and it'll be really cool, and I'll be here cheering for you.
you left a toxic relationship. If you didn't see it, I saw it in your videos! I've been following you for years, I don't speak English, I use translation which is not easy. I'm 60 years old and I went through the same thing. Today I live happily with another friend, for 16 years. You will rebuild yourself because you are the leader!
thank you for this inspiring words
Vitali, ever since I saw you in a Wineholics video, I know that you are a strong person. No matter what people have called you before, you are fantastic and you probably always were fantastic. People like to hurt, it has always been that way, and the best thing you could do is stay away from those people. Don't let them hurt you, you are a very capable, talented and quite intelligent person. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
thank you for thees words and for accepting my emotional side, It means a lot to me🥺
@VITOjoy It's okay to express how you feel, don't keep it to yourself, whenever you can talk about how you feel, I like your emotional side. Stay powerful as always Vitali. ❤️
I've watched you for a long time but only now did I know your life story. You are a good storyteller!!! I will definitely be looking forward to future videos. Take care of yourself!
seems i need more coffee it makes me talkative
I start my journey today. This is the last one, I promise.
応援しています。
今は辛いと思いますが、頑張ってください。
Life is a journey... don't worry, things will turn to you again.
Please you don't have to promise anything. We're all here for you no matter what 🖤☔🍁🍂🧜🏻♀️🌊🫧🦪🎩🪄♾️
It’s not the last one. Having chapters in your book is part of life.
.لديك شفتين عسليتين 💋
I don't usually comment on any videos at all, but I've been watching you for years now and I felt the need to tell you that it seems like you've already gone through the worst part. From now on, even if it sometimes seems like you're going backwards; don't be alarmed, don't feel bad, because it's all part of the process. I think expressing yourself this way is a good thing, sometimes we don't really manage to internalize things until we say it out loud, you know.
Anyway, I'm very proud of you. Greetings from Argentina. 🖤
I still have emotional swings, but it’s getting better. Greetings from Berlin
охх, виталя, ты очень сильный человек, и это абсолютно верно что нужно ставить себя на первое место, нельзя забывать о себе и о своих чувствах, заботиться о других конечно хорошо, но терять себя это ужасно.
я достаточно долго следила за каналом виноголиков, с подростковых лет так сказать) и ты всегда вызывал во мне такие позитивные эмоции, я просто очень тобой восхищалась и восхищаюсь до сих пор, ты потрясающий человек виталь.
очень грустно за тебя на самом деле, прониклась твоей историей, хочется оказаться рядом и просто обнять, поддержать, я верю в то что у тебя все получится, цени и люби себя, впускай в свою жизнь только хороших людей, удачи тебе во всех твоих начинаниях, мы с тобой
Unfortunately we only have perfect vision when looking back, but that is the nature of life. I’m sad for you that you had to experience such pain, but I promise it will get better in time. It has not been wasted time, it has been a learning experience. You know more about yourself than you did before. Keep on being your beautiful self. ❤
I will try to follow my feelings this time lets see where it will bring us
You were/are beautiful people with Wineholics and the posts you used to make and it was very encouraging to watch over the years. You have had an impact on many, many people - even if it was originally accidental and that is something you can be proud of ❤
I hope destiny will give me a second chance. Life without love feels pointless❤️
Don't despair, you will find love again. You have a great deal to offer a worthy person.
@@VITOjoy Да,жизнь без любви кажется бессмысленной.Жизнь без любви к себе.
This is the problem with social media. People need to portray this wonderful life and no one’s life is perfect. It’s interesting that you seem to be unable to say your relationship with Jakob is over (if that’s the case as it seems to be) you have a lot to offer the world. You need to believe in yourself. You will find love and happiness again. Just remove the bad from around you. Hope you’re doing ok financially. Cheers from Australia 🇦🇺
It’s over.
No perfection anymore, just raw truth.
Sending positive vibes from the cold winter, dreaming of visiting Australia one day or even moving there. Maybe, maybe, why not🇩🇪🥶
Hey babe, I'm here with you 🤍
Kisses from brazil ❤️🇧🇷
I don’t know if anyone told you this but you’re like an amazing storyteller, since your life has been very different from mine its so fascinating to hear about your experiences.
That was not me, but coffee in me wanted to speck out
@@VITOjoy coffee does it for everyone🤣
Vitali, you're a really kind person with a good atmosphere. Always have been pleasure to watch your videos. This life is hard, it's full of difficulties. But facing those difficulties, going through them always makes us stronger. You're a really strong person. You're not alone, you've gained quite an auditory that supports you. Thank you for sharing your story, you should no longer swallow the bad deeds of people in your direction, appreciate yourself. Never give up, please. Everything will be fine. We believe in you, you should also believe in yourself
Step by step, I will become stronger with each day. Thank you for being on this journey with me🫡
I feel yr pain, for such a smart, intelligent, thoughtful, goodlooking guy. You deserve to have a great partner to love and care for each other. I hope you find that person that does not cheat on you.
I'm sorry that you're feeling like this Vitalii, but in my opinion now you've done the crucial first step: you've acknowledged the troubles in your life and the root causes for it. It might not bee an easy path from now on (speaking from my own experience), but it's a start. It also seems to me that you need to build up your self-confidence and your sense of self-worth, and putting effort into improving your economy and job situation could be of great help. Maybe even finding a new place for yourself other than the flat were you've lived with Jakub could me mentally healthy. I'm like you in that I'm a nostalgic and memories are important to me. But at times they become a dead weight that only drags you down.
I am working on one project right now, i really have big hoppe for it i can only be happy if my work will influence the world
Life can be challenging and shitty sometimes. Maybe you feel like you're in your lowest now, things WILL change for the better, that's for sure. I've always seen you as a strong person who's determined to follow their dreams. Let's consider it a new start, a new chapter, a total reboot of your life. I believe that whatever happens in our life is for the best. You may see it as a complete loss, but it may also be a step into something new, some other place that holds something unexpectedly good for you. I wish you all the best in your new journey❤I'm here for you and I want to see what other sides of you we can see on this channel!
"People don't appreciate sacrifacing, and when they go, you are left with nothing."
I think this is especially a big lesson cause we tend to give and make many sacrifices, sometimes even hoping people would do the same for us, but we end up disappointed and hurt. I'm not saying we gotta be selfish and resentful, but def, we gotta learn not to give everything about us under the false pretense of keeping a relationship of any kind.
Yes, unfortunately, people often only appreciate what they invest in. A healthy relationship should be a 50/50 effort
When love departs and leaves a scar,
And dreams feel distant, like a star.
When every memory brings a tear,
And silence echoes what was dear.
Know this truth, though hearts may break,
Each piece will mend, though it may ache.
The love you gave was pure and true,
A part of them still lives in you.
Time won’t erase, but it will heal,
The sharpest edges you now feel.
One day the sun will shine so bright,
And love will find you in new light.
So hold your heart, let courage stay,
For life still blooms in gentle ways.
You are still whole, you are still strong,
And love will sing a brand-new song.❤
Виталий, ты невероятный человек! В любых твоих проектах и начинаниях любого года, ты давал нам правильные вещи для размышления. Ты помог даже мне! Именно благодаря твоим видео (даже на каналах которые создавал ты ранее) у меня появилась мотивация жить лучше, переехать в Германию, спасибо тебе) Этот ролик определенно должен был быть, он подтверждает, что ты сильная личность и всегда ей был, ничего не должно сломить твое желание стать лучше и полюбить себя, у тебя очень правильные и хорошие рассуждения. Я верю, ты справишься! ❤
Vitali, I've always had so many feelings for you. When you posted this video I was rejected by the girl I'm in love with, she simply threw me out of her life as a friend too, I know her for many years. What you're saying is a cure for me. We'll make it, I'm sure.
i am sorry to hear that. I know how painful is that cause my first love was kind of same, he still doesn't know, time will help
I can't believe how much your mother is like mine..I honestly went through the same things..She didn't want me to get a job because that would mean I wouldn't depend on her anymore and she told me to keep my problems to myself "if they can't change your situation, don't tell them anything"
I've been watching you for a long time..I remember the Videos when Jakub was depressed, when he was complaining about not having friends etc..and you were there for him though his bad times. Now he met other people and just forgets about you. I honestly feel sad for you now.
A mother’s love can be cruel. They blindly believe that they are doing their best for us, but control is what some mothers need. I’m glad you understand me
Vitali, I really admire your candour and I feel your pain. Just know that you’re stronger than you think, lovelier than you know and more important than you can ever imagine. You’ve always brought joy into my heart and knowing the trials and tribulations you’ve faced, I hope I can return the favour. Sending you much love ❤️
Sorry for my english
I've been following you for about 5 years on the other channel, and even we are thousand of kilometers away I support you and I resonated with your life story and truly hope you achieve your goals. We are humans who don't know how life works only when we live life itself
This is a new chapter, new opportunities and progress ❤️
It's an end. But it's also a beginning. I am way older than you, but every day, I feel now I conquer more freedom in my life and becoming more conscious about the past. It's past patterns of behavior, that guide us, but when we are conscious of them, we can change a lot! Love and peace! M.
hope the freedom will come soon for me as well, thanks
@ by the way, do you know „Smalltown Boy“ by Bronski Beat? I liked the music even before I had the slightest Idea that I was gay.
Your personality is eerily similar to mine.
Parents who raise children based on fear, punishment, and control produce children like us.
You did not lose your life Vitalii. We still support you and love you.
Hi vitali,
I’ve been a follower of yours since around 2018 and clearly we’ve both grown from what we used to be since. Your views on politics, jokes about living in Berlin and every other bit of quirky fact have always interested me and thus I have even named my very energetic cat after you.
Watching this video, it’s constructed in my head that you are a great storyteller, that too not in your native language, which makes me wonder how great it would be to have a conversation with you in a language you feel much comfortable with.
Hoping to see more great content from you.
I have watched your videos for a long time. They seem to come so easy for you and Jacob. They have been built on your relationship with Jacob. Without the relationship you are missing something. Think about what else can supply the missing part. You are obviously creative. “Wineholics” is a great name. It at once defies society’s norms and makes you part of the rebel cause, always an attractive position. Plus, you and Jacob have taken a strong stand, even in a humorous way, at being gay. I dare say most gay boys and men have had a hard time coming out and being gay. You guys have shown that being gay can be done with real class. You can be proud of all your previous videos even as you and Jacob are moving on to new parts of your lives. I hope you can always stay friends. So, besides longevity, what else do you want to accomplish in life? You are much loved by all your viewers. We are all supporting you in whatever you choose to do.
Vitali. I'm taking it from someone who has been in a similar situation because I had to teach myself to love myself and it's not easy but it's not impossible. You have to start by thinking that you are the most important person in your life and you do everything you can to make yourself feel as good as you can and it's good that you can make things happen because you can do more than you think Vitali and you have friends with you because we will all help you on your way.
Thank you for your support and advice. I will try to implement it into my way of thinking and hope it will work out
Спасибо, Виталий
Это видео действительно, что-то задело во мне. Я сейчас нахожусь как раз на том этапе своей жизни, когда нужно делать много серьезных выборов в своей жизни, через месяц 18: какую профессию выбрать? В какой город или страну уехать? С каким человеком вступить в отношения? По какой дороге идти? Чего я вообще хочу, я как будто сама не знаю. Все вокруг от тебя только что-то требуют, и их крики заглушают твой внутренний голос. И такие видео помогают мне вспомнить, что нужно выбирать свой путь, свои желания и ставить свои цели. Спасибо еще раз❤️
Виталий, смотрю вас, тебя, с года 2018-19 или раньше даже
И вот сейчас ты, Виталий, рассказываешь про то, что было, то, что ты тогда переживал, про свой опыт
И знаешь, пиздец заключается в том, что я вспомнил то, неприятное, что было от тех видео, в них так или иначе в какой-то момент начал чувствовать что-то не то, и теперь понимаю в чём
Второй пиздец заключается в том, что походу я себе состроил ТАКОЙ ЖЕ замок под именем "семья", и жутко неприятно и страшно это осознавать
Но знаешь что, я понимаю твои слова, что типа "Я надеюсь, что он вернётся, я ему сказал, что всегда жду, мы не чужие люди". Не надейся. Не поменяется человек, хоть и хочется верить, что да. Ты сказал "Может мы попутешествовуем вместе". Тоже такое себе, больно будет проживать всё заново
И как ты сказал, ставь себя на первое место. Ты тоже ставь себя на первое место и не позволяй прошлому тянуть себя назад. Ты справишься, я это знаю. У тебя на это есть голова, мозги, сердце, способное любить, опыт, гора опыта и осознанности
сложно полюбить себя после нашего СНГшного воспитания Мне еще приходится сейчас мамкой заниматься и она постоянно меня заземляет, но попробую
Это видео настолько откровенное, насколько может быть. Иногда нам нужно много времени, чтобы все устаканилось в нашей голове и сошлось в единое целое, что одновременно очень грустно и тяжело, но приятно наконец-то осознать, что пришло время отпускать потихоньку все то, что приносит негатив и ты к этому готов) Желаю сил и удачи в этом деле!
Готовность приходит тогда когда отступать больше некуда, теперь только вперед!
You certainly have come to real self awareness and no matter in what direction life takes you, Vito, you have the personal strength, intelligence and good sense to succeed. Live your life for yourself.
no cause i feel that. no job, one friend that has her own life apart from me, trying my hardest to graduate so i can earn money for my independence. i know it feels awful now but i'm glad you had some good moments among the bad ones and i'm very curious to watch how you'll find your inner light because i'm on that journey myself as well! much love x
Yes, you are in a life-changing situation.
From what you say it's not the first time, and I assure you it won't be the last. You are no longer that inexperienced young boy who went out to find the world, you took your risks, you met places and people that others never could, you fell in love and you took your relationship in a very public way. Then you are forced to explain yourself to strangers like me, strangers who will never be there for you as you need them to be. You have lost a lot, yes, but I think the most critical thing you have lost is your right to privacy. Sometimes, it is necessary to assimilate the processes of change without being in a showcase.
But I also understand that feeling heard is comforting, don't forget to find out who your audience is. You are young, healthy and by all accounts intelligent, you speak more than one language and I am sure you will have opportunities, but you have to give yourself the work to be able to see them. And those opportunities are off this screen. Much success in whatever you decide to do
the bullied queers from small towns and more queers are here with you 💓 im going through a break up that feels very similar when it comes to "him being home" and hasn't being easy. but you're a strong man, you have survived a lot even if you hadn't realized it yet. i really hope you get better soon. but don't try to accelerate your process, live everything your way and evolve your way 💕 sending you all the love you deserve from Nicaragua 🇳🇮
Wow! and new channel and sweeping out the dirt. Well done Vitali. I look forward to coming on your new journey with you. Wishing you all the luck and love you deserve x
thank you for joining my journey
Посмотрел несклько твоих видео, Виталий - как близко все что ты говоришь... Будто прошлое промелькнуло перед глазами. Как в юности я был влюблен в мальчика на 4 года младше себя и тоже ставил себя на второе место и безумно хотел, чтоб он всегда был рядом. Но потом первый разрыв... Он вернулся - я был рад, мне казалось, что все как прежде, потому что не думал о его чувствах ко мне. Потом снова разрыв отношений. Все это длилось долго, но я любил его и готов был принять снова и снова. История окончилась лишь тогда, когда я перестал его ждать... Ты очень молодо выглядишь, ты красивый и креативный парень Виталик, у тебя все шансы, что твоя новая жизнь сложится удачно!!!
Well done Vito. It was good to finally hear all the things that happened to you and some of your reasons for getting away from your old life. Best wishes for the future and I look forward to your updates. Mike
thank you will share more stories
Vitali, I can see how strong and resilient you are. No matter what names people may have thrown at you in the past, you are truly remarkable, and I believe you've always been that way. Sadly, there will always be those who find pleasure in hurting others. The best thing you can do is distance yourself from their negativity. Don't let their words touch your heart, because you are incredibly capable, talented, and intelligent. Never let their opinions define you, because their words are not a reflection of who you truly are. You are so much more than their judgments-you’re someone with kindness, strength, and limitless potential. Surround yourself with those who see your worth and uplift you, because you deserve to be reminded of just how extraordinary you are. Stay true to yourself, Vitali, and know that those who truly care about you will always see the light in you, even on your darkest days.
I used to that people can be mean but i still cant get alone when its comes from family member, I guess something i need to work on
@@VITOjoy You have the strength to succeed, and by prioritizing yourself, you’ll be taking an important step toward that success. This is your life to live, and your happiness matters. To truly find joy, it’s essential to embrace self-love and care for your own well-being above all else.
Виталий, ты открылся для меня с какой-то.. другой стороны. я не так часто смотрела твои видео на том канале. но мне так нравится как ты сейчас размышляешь. я желаю тебе справится со всеми трудностями, обрести душевный покой. у тебя все обязательно будет хорошо.
Hey, I’m really sorry to hear what has happened to you,
Take this time to re-invent yourself, explore the things YOU like, and don’t forget to take us through that,anytime when you’re feeling lonely or down, just remember you are not alone, all of us are here to support you, and we love you
Stay strong, take all of this as lesson and not an obstacle, instead of thinking about where you went wrong, let’s focus on the future and take the lesson with us.
When you are about to feel down, take a hot shower, put on some nice cloth, go outdoor, vlog on your way to different places, I would love to know your favourite places there, just PLEASE 🙏 stay strong 😢
Your videos gave me strength when I was in a very dark time, but I knew there is a hope by watch your videos, so don’t focus on the negative experiences, remember there are people like me here whom you have helped,
Stay strong, pls ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I learned a lot about you today. You will see this channel grow with people supporting you
more coming, thank you for support
Виталий, больше спасибо за то, что делишься опытом, даже таким личным
То, что ты переносишь жизненные испытания стойко, продолжаешь двигаться дальше и делаешь выводы, которые помогут тебе расти, говорит о том, что ты невероятно сильный человек
Ты заслуживаешь быть счастливым, не прекращай верить в себя, мы тебя любим❤
There is a process called strategic planning in business that I only mention because it might be helpful. First define your vision. At this point in your life how would you most like to contribute to society? Second assess your position, this is called SWOT. What are your Strengths? What are your Weaknesses? What are your Opportunities? What are your Threats? Third prioritize your Objectives or Goals to achieve your vision. Fourth define what Actions you need to take to achieve your goals. Fifth measure and evaluate your results. The purpose of this is not to make your life more mechanical, but to provide an approach to getting what you want out of life. Emphasize you strengths. Work to overcome your weaknesses. List all the opportunities you can, even that job you liked but lost. Know what things appear to threaten you and work out strategies to avoid them.
Thank you, I am writing a parent on this and you summarised it well .❤
The idea that you stick by your family even if they're toxic and destructive has caused so much negativity for so many people, and all it does is make you miserable. If they treat you like that, they do not deserve your loyalty at all. You come across as a very interesting guy, self-aware and aiming for something better. That better thing is out there, and I wish you all the best in finding it!
yeah, but sometimes there no choice
@@VITOjoy Sadly, you are correct. Getting away from such situations can be really, really difficult. I can't imagine what that must be like, being stuck in a small, ex-Soviet town with what looks like few options to get out. Best of luck to you.
Vitali im watching you for very long time to be honest. Ive been a bad critic to you for long time, but i see now im very wrong and im sorry. Be true to yourself and move on to your life the way you want. ❤
That’s alright. A lot of people don’t like me because I wear a protective b*tch mask 😂
@@VITOjoy Anyhow, I really felt the need after that video to say sorry. And I will support you no matter what! 🎉#vitojoy
Hey bro it's good to get to know ur life story and i always like ur personality
Sad story. I've been with you since the first Wineholics movies and your relationship seemed real and sincere. At first it probably was, so I'm even more sorry that it ended like this. You're right when you say that first of all we should take care of ourselves, because few people can appreciate sacrifice, devotion and loyalty. Be strong and realize your plans, I'm with you. Greetings from Poland!
Really great hearing you talk about your life. I identify with always pleasing other people and I did like you I got away from everyone by moving to a new city and met lots of gay people and didn’t have to hide who are am. Love your videos which I’ve watched for a few years now-please keep making videos- you’re fantastic
удачи чувак всё, что происходит, делает нас опытнее и сильнее, поэтому, Веталь, вынеси этот урок с достоинством на будущее, тем более ты умный и добрый парень, что самое главное в сегодняшнем мире, у тебя всё получится ❤
спасибо за мотивацию, буду стараться
If I can say one thing that should help you, it is this: You are not promised tomorrow. You can’t fix yesterday. And Today is yours to do whatever you want.
I learned this over time. And for the most part I THOUGHT I was doing it right….until I died. I was brought back to life, realizing that nothing else mattered, but me. If I didn’t care about my life, no one else would. But I also found that when I came back from having died, I had friends I never knew existed. My life now, two years later, means more to me, than it ever had before.
I know about all the things you have shared with us on your other channel, and I will not dive into them here, but I just want to say that you are a very unique person, and I keep following you for your zest for life. Plus you’re easy to look at. *blushes* At any rate, I enjoy your videos. I do hope this channel will provide us more insight of you, and that we may get to know you better. I can’t wait to see what direction this will take you.
Since this is a fresh start, and I know about those things, I do hope that 2025 is your year to be happy with yourself.
*big hugs* be well, and take care of you first. ❤❤
yes, concentrating on today and the moment is the key, thank you for kid words
you'll succeed on your journey to yourself, I'm pretty sure, given the lessons life taught you and the insights you have gained, the painful they might have been. best wishes and I'll be curious to follow the next chapters of your journey.
I may be biased because I’m in school to be a therapist (one semester left), but I think therapy could be a good form of self exploration and diving deeper into your personal philosophies and trauma. I went through my own struggles with addiction and self loathing because of the immense turbulence I faced during my childhood and early adulthood. Just remember that growth is not linear and you’re only human. 🖤🖤
Wish you success in your final semester hope you become a good therapist cause its a problem to find a good one here
@ I feel you! I definitely think it’s harder to find a therapist who aligns with your goals in a country where it may seem a little outdated. It’s easier here in America for sure but health insurance sucks 🫠
The best is yet to come for you Vitalii-stay strong!
hope God will listen to your words
You are definitely the one that makes me smile and happy because you always put out great positive vibes.
Change always comes when it is at it's most inconvenient and likely to cause the biggest mess, but in the end it's usually for the best. Still, sorry to hear about all the recent (or semi-recent) troubles 💔❤💜 Keep the faith and keep holding strong, I have a feeling you're gonna land on your feet what ever you put your mind to, you're an innovator. And good for you learning to put your foot down and put yourself first. Speaking from experience it's a harder lesson for one to learn and rectify than most might think, so I totally get it 👌 Been there.
I know it all my fault I was to comfortable for long time time to rise and shine again, thank you for support
We all live for the first time, we all make mistakes. And we learn all our lives. Don’t blame yourself. You’ve learned the important thing to put yourself first, remember that it was a lesson and you passed it.
Good perspective! It takes some pressure away. Thanks!
You are a kind, loving soul Vitali and yourself! You are so honest about things and am sure because you are focused will build something special in your life and be happy. We go through difficult periods and ones that were perhaps not right for us, but we become stronger from them. Supporting you and remember, you are a beautiful person. 🤗🤗
Thank you, I will try my best to adapt and become stronger, thank you for support
Unfortunately this is the reality of soooo many people, I love your honesty, and you are not alone, many people are finding themselfs having to start over at maby 50 or 60, so I think alot of people can relate to this, and even if you had of pleased your mother it still would have fell apart, this is just part of your journey, ❤❤❤
Do not become disappointed in love. People are choosing often partners who are similar to themself. It is a mistake. You need to look for someone who is different, that you together will complete each other. Difference attracts, it is not just a proverb. We are attracted to people who are different than we are but at the same moment we afraid of them. For example extraverts can do great with nerdy types. Listen to your attraction, do not look for clone of yourself. At some point you will find someone with whom you feel great just to be around and this person will feel the same. But relationship is not an easy ride, do not avoid conflicts with your partner. If you feel pain - make him know. If he doesn’t care - leave him.
Now the time has come to reborn like a phoenix and get into the way of glory, good luck x
yes, crysis is a new possibility
Привет, Виталий.
Мне очень жаль, что сейчас ты проживаешь такой период и невероятно жаль, что подобное смогло произойти с таким ярким лучиком света.
К сожалению, никто из нас не застрахован от неверных выборов. К сожалению, никто из нас не знает, к чему приведут те или иные решения.
Тем не менее, ты невероятно умный и чувственный человек, поэтому я верю, что ты справишься и с этим периодом.
Все проходит, и это пройдет.
Люби себя, отдавайся себе и нужные люди обязательно притянутся к тебе. Кроме того, некоторые из них уже здесь, хоть и виртуально ;)
Надеюсь, что на твоем темном пути обязательно найдется искорка, способная разгореться ярким пламенем, зажигая твое сердце и твой разум ^^
Я понял что свет исходит не извне, так что буду разжигать искру внутри и она озарит нам путь. Спасибо за поддержку и теплые слова;)
Я уверен, что у тебя все получится. Ты большой молодец
Я бы посмотрел с другой стороны. Он испытал в подходящем возрасте любовь и это будут светлые воспоминания со временем. Не всем так везет. Сейчас это прошло как проходит всё.
Vitali, I wish you lots of succes with your new channel and life. You are a remarkable guy.
Thank you. I hope being remarkable is enough these days🙂
You will not only survive you will excel ! Congratulaions on your new channel!
I'm so sad to hear your recent new, but in your latest vlogs it was obvious that you were hurting inside, so I'm glad to see that you're working on moving forward. You're a bright, loving and smart person, so I'm sure that you'll eventually find someone loyal to you.
I've been following you since 2020, watched all of your videos at the time during the lockdown and they were a source of comfort I'm grateful. If you ever need a friend to talk to I would be willing to listen
Thank you for the support, but as I said in today's video, enough of self-pity-it's time to grow! So watch my video on how we can all go to the moon
Редко пишу комментарии, но сейчас решилась, потому что мне очень откликается твоя семейная история, история романтических отношений, история отношений в семье. Я тоже долгое время работала с психологами и продолжаю это делать время от времени. Но что мне больше всего помогло и открыло глаза на многие вещи (например, на то, что себя нужно ставить на первое место, - о чём ты говорил в видео) - это 12-шаговая программа ВДА, Взрослые Дети Алкоголиков (Adult Children of Alcoholics or ACA).
Там есть список из 14 черт Взрослого Ребёнка. Я нашла эти черты в себе, и поняла, что я выросла, но осталась Взрослым Ребёнком.
Спасибо тебе, что поделился и был откровенным. Поддержка тебе, Виталий 🙌
как ребенок ребенку скажу по секрету что взрослых не существует это всего лишь ролевые игры
My god, i love the good storyteller that you are. I hope to see more videos like this, we're here to support you
I really enjoy your videos and I feel like you have a lot more to share with us. I hope you find some peace and recover from everything that made and is making you suffer, I really do believe that you'd be fine, you are strong enough to go over it. Keep fighting, you deserve to be happy 💟
i will share more, and will try to make it educative for others
Привет, Виталий!!
Как многие писали ниже, я также довольно таки давно наблюдаю за твоим творчеством.
Лишь хотела написать, что твоё начало положено, раз ты понял суть своих прошлых действий и ошибок. Дальше только идём вперёд и вперёд, хехе
Очень надеюсь, что ты продолжишь и дальше заниматься своим любимым делом(по тебе сразу видно, что видеоролики и моменты самих съёмок- это твоя отдушина)
Я вообще не умею писать комменты, никогда их не пишу отчего-то
Но
Надеюсь с тобой всё будет хорошо и удачи в продвижении 🍀
Я буду с тобой😊спасибо что не сдаёшься
I hope you can find someone who genuinely loves you on top of loving yourself more and more throughout your days. Fighting! Every dark clouds will eventually be pushed away by the sun. If you were closer, I would love to befriend you and maybe even go on dates with you. I had a crush on you for a long time, Jakob lost an amazing person like you
Brother, I had to take a second look at the thumbnail because you DO NOT look 32, I thought I misread it because you look my age and I'm 19. I can tell you are going to age well. On another note, thank you for making this video. I'm feeling a bit lost myself. I just quit my job because it didn't align with my values, I decided the money wasn't worth compromising them. I'm starting college next week to major in education and I'm a bit scared, but it's something that I love and I hope to make society better through it. Never give up, you never know what's around the corner. Best wishes for 2025!!!
I watched the new video on your TH-cam channel. It made me feel a bit sad, but I sincerely support you as you step into a new chapter of your life.
Thank you for your support. I hope the new chapter will be as exciting as the previous one🥺
I'm glad your picking up the pieces of your life and moving forward. I will follow you as long as I can on this channel.
I love you so much Vitalii, things are going to get better, I hope this channel grows a lot 💕
This is life man,it is what it is…all the best for the next chapter. you have a lot of people who adore you and are rooting for u.
thank you for staying and writing second chapter with me
Sorry that you have had so many toxic people in your life. You will bounce back with the advice given at the end of the video.
Stay humble but don't compromise your feelings. Wishing you all the best, please continue to take care of yourself. ❤
Vitalii❤First u've to cry&to cry&to cry... Crying best cuz makes pain little bit smaller. U made great experience loving Jakuv. Than imagine one thing: U r able to love! This is greatest gift in entire life & best bottom to build your future. Love u so much! Hugs from far ❤♥️♥️🐻
Relationships of any kind will always involve give and take. You cannot make everything about yourself. Nor can you make everything about someone else. There has to be some middle ground, with compromises from both parties involved. And there has to be some common goals, values, and interests.
100 percent, but most important is the person with same values
I'll continue supporting you, Vitali. I really like you as a person. Please bounce back soon. You can do it.
I was relaxed for too long. It seems like it's time to become a fighter again. Thank you for your support that's truly inspiring
You have escaped where others simply resign their lives, you have the tools to make a new life for yourself, and you have learned from your experiences! Stay strong! 🦉🦉
Thanks for your candid vlog vitali..stay happy and safe..we love you and understand your situation.Be kind to yourself..lol ❤❤❤❤❤❤
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как там говорят...конец - это лишь начало нового пути, когда закрывается дверь - открывается окно или что-то вроде того..
Все у тебя будет прекрасно, замечательно и отлично даже.
С твоим внутренним сиянием и оптимизмом(хотя, что я ноунейм казалось бы могу знать, ноо) у тебя получится все. Главное - ты усвоил самый важный урок, который не все кстати усваивают...В первую очередь нужно ценить себя и любить себя. Эдакий здоровый эгоизм. Даже в вопросах любви. Хотя и грань так тонка.
Love uuu and your art,
Vlad 23 y.o.
Vitali hold on and go your way. You will succeed i‘m sure it will take time but you will. I was 2 years ago in exactly the same situation and i wanted to die but now i am very happy with my life and my boyfriend.
На самом деле ты не потерял все. Все-это как раз ты сам. Не говори так. Мир просто отсеял все негативное и тормозящее тебя на твоем пути. Ведь чтобы выйти на новый уровень, нужно потерять все. Знаешь,я верю что все наладится и тебя ждет много новых возможностей. Ты прав, самое главное-это ставить себя на первое место, ценить себя. Это был важный для тебя урок в жизни. И ты его усвоил. Значит не нужно отчаиваться или грустить, это лучшее время для тебя самого, для твоего духовного роста. Ты замечательный человек, ваши видео всегда поднимали настроение, а твоя жизнерадостность передавалась и мне. Хотелось просто выйти на балкон, пить кофе и наслаждаться видами, хотя до этого я была погружена полностью в свои проблемы. Вообще спасибо тебе, что ты есть. Делись своим позитивом с миром и поверь, твоя лучшая жизнь в скором времени найдет тебя
It's great advice. But I am you. I still today put others first. But I do have guards up looking for the ones that tries to take advantage of my kindness. I'm all about pushing for peace and ending hatred and Racism. It's my passion to see the world get along. Yes there will be disagreements at time. But that doesn't mean we have to hate each other.
just make sure people you invest in your life are the right people
Как же ты прав, Виталик. Думать надо всегда о себе. Я вот тоже в жопе оказался недавно, меня бросил любимый человек, а спустя некоторое время меня обокрали на серьезную для меня сумму. Желание жить, и до того небольшое, совсем улетучилось. Какой-то временной период провалялся с бутылкой в руках, закапывая себя в чувстве вины и сожалениях о любимом. Стало настолько плохо, что пришлось просить помощи. Теперь разбираюсь с долгами, жду ответа касаемо работы в Германии и готовлюсь уезжать из этой страны навсегда. В новую жизнь. Иначе здесь, в этих условиях, я себя рано или поздно выпилю. Пора ставить свою жизнь на первое место.
Love from China, stay strong, i believe your talent, mindset, and experience will drive you to another level of succes.
when i become successful i will visit China again
Vitali, are a beautiful person and you have so many talents and so many people are inspired by you. You are still young and pretty and have so much potential to do ANYTHING, and you have already gone through the rough stages in life , and things will definitely become so much better! We all love you and please stay strong, love and everything else will come along the way like a flowing river. Please love yourself and care for yourself!
Виталий, здравствуй
хочу сказать, что ты - мой фаворит, мой неизменный.. идеал? образец? ты - самое чувственное, мелодичное и восхитительное, что мне удалось увидеть (а я человек творческий, и, поверь, знаю, о чём говорю)
я безумно люблю тебя и твоё творчество, наблюдая уже не первый год. сейчас у меня ужасно болит сердце за тебя, дорогой
you're the most beautiful thing that could have appeared on this planet
самая большая ценность - ты. ты есть у себя: твой гений, твой острый ум, твоя музыка и твой путь
обнимаю!🫂🫂
ДАВНО СМОТРЮ НА ВАС. ВСЕГДА УДИВЛЯЛСЯ ТВОЕЙ ВЫДЕРЖКЕ И КАПРИЗНОСТИ ЯКУБА.
ПОВЕРЬ - ЭТО НАЧАЛО ПУТИ.
ЯКУБ - РАЗМИНКА, ТРЕНИНГ.
А ВООБЩЕ ТО ТЫ КРАСАВЧИК И ОЧЕНЬ УМНЫЙ.
( РАСПОРЯДИСЬ ЭТИМ БОГАТСТВОМ РАЗУМНО)
I've been following you for a long time and you're awesome, don't let anybody or anything take your shine away, if you need time take it, and if you need someone to hear you we will be there for you
Psdt: I found your channel when I was trying to learn english and your english is easy to understand so you have helped me practicing listening, greetings from El Salvador ❤
Виталь, крепись, твоя аудитория тебя поддерживает💪 Впереди тебя ждёт только хорошее и мы с тобой💋
Спасибо, что поделился, было очень интересно подробнее узнать о твоей истории.
Сожалею, что всë так вышло, и искренне сочувствую.
Уверена, что у тебя всë получится, даже если ты один, потому что ты можешь всë! Было заметно, что инициатива обычно исходила от тебя, меня всегда восхищало, как много у тебя энергии и позитива)
Ты заслуживаешь лучшего ❤
это все кофе, но спасибо)
We are with you vitali, We believe in you❤❤❤
thank you for your support❤️
you goo girll !! i’m also rebranding myself, so we are all together in this 🎀
I'm really worried about you! It's hard to give advice at a difficult moment when everything is falling apart. Who needs what: advice from friends, reading books or watching movies, drinking alcohol, listening to your favorite music... By the way, I like listening to music and it helps. I've never seen your home video. I didn't even set a goal for myself with watching a personal home video. But I was constantly watching your open videos on TH-cam. You are not only beautiful in them, but also collected, logical and always active. Having made this video, I think that in this way you have already experienced the past, thought about everything and turned this page of life. I hope you already have a solution and a foothold in life. May God grant you good people on the path of life, not only with kind words, but also with kind deeds! From Russia with love!
Я действительно волнуюсь за тебя Виталий! Трудно давать советы в трудную минуту, когда все рушится. Кому что помогает: советы друзей, чтение книг или просмотр фильмов, употребление алкоголя, прослушивание любимой музыки... Кстати, я люблю слушать музыку. И это мне помогает. Я никогда не видел твое домашнее видео. И даже не ставил перед собой такой цели - смотреть личное домашнее видео. Но я постоянно смотрел твоё открытое видео на TH-cam. Ты в них не только красивый, но и собранный, а также логичный и всегда активный! Сняв это видео, я думаю, что таким образом ты уже пережил своё прошлое, подумали обо всем и перевернули эту страницу жизни. Я надеюсь, у тебя уже есть решение и точка опоры в жизни. Пусть Бог дарует
тебе хороших людей на жизненном пути не только с добрыми словами, но и с добрыми делами! Из России с любовью!
я лишь надеюсь что когда Бог закрывают одну дверь то открывается другая, хорошего нам всем 2025 года
U are good man thank you for ur response lots of love❤
I don't know if you're gonna read this, I don't even know if I should comment about something so intimate in a youtube comments section, but fuck everything, i have so much deep inside of me and i want to let it out, it's becoming so heavy. i just can't stop crying after watching your last video in your old channel and then watching this. i do feel you, maybe it'd be imposible since you're a +30 gay man in europe and i'm a 20 year old mostly closeted trans male in nicaragua. but it's amazing to me to see how very different people from very different parts of the world can be experiencing a very similar situation, just by chance. now i kinda hope that you read this cuz i wish i could give you hope or something, like, genuinely showing my support to you. I've followed you for so many years, it was fun yk? i was a closeted bisexual trans guy from a small town (very nasty too) who was bullied since childhood and was going through a lot in his house, feeling so alone, having no friends almost at all (none of my friends lived in the same fucking city back then) and well, gay content wasn't that common at that time, at least not mainstream. i got engaged with your content, as it was an scape to you, it was an scape for me as well, it was a way to look at something that seemed better than the shitty life a queer person lives in this motherfucking country. it was an aspiration, i wanted to be like you, handsome, funny and free.
years went through. ive been depressed for almost all my life, attempted suicide several times and it never ended well. last year was a disaster for me. en 2021 i got accepted to go to college in my dream college in the capital, so i moved out. yk? i was happy, the cliche of the queer folk moving to the capital from their old small town to live happily gay after. well, i was just 17. and my depression, my traumas, it all hit me so hard. i was so depressed, i got so much anxiety and the next year, 2022, i attempted suicide (like the most severe at the moment) and ended up so many days in the hospital (which btw has absolute horrible conditions). i lost everything i fought for, some friends and my scholarship in the university i always wanted to study in. for many years being one of town's "filthy lesbian", having no friends and being bullied, i centered on my academic life and it was everything i had, since I'm not good at literally anything. fuck, it took a strong suicide attempt, it took me 18 years and almost die to my mother to actually care for me and understand that i never lied about being depressed, feeling bad, unstable, dissociated and empty, totally neglected. i didn't know what to do and kept in shock for like five months ig until i applied for a job in a callcenter and moved from my hometown back to the capital again. but this time i was all alone, by my own, earning my own money and surviving alone, renting a shitty apartment and trying to leave my toxic relationship with my family. trying to live happily gay ever after in a bubble dream. it didn't work out cuz i had so many crisis in my job and they kicked me out cuz well, nobody wants to have the weird issociating guy as an employee apparently.
years went through. ive been depressed for almost all my life, attempted suicide several times and it never ended well. last year was a disaster for me. en 2021 i got accepted to go to college in my dream college in the capital, so i moved out. yk? i was happy, the cliche of the queer folk moving to the capital from their old small town to live happily gay after. well, i was just 17. and my depression, my traumas, it all hit me so hard. i was so depressed, i got so much anxiety and the next year, 2022, i attempted suicide (like the most severe at the moment) and ended up so many days in the hospital (which btw has absolute horrible conditions). i lost everything i fought for, some friends and my scholarship in the university i always wanted to study in. for many years being one of town's "filthy lesbian", having no friends and being bullied, i centered on my academic life and it was everything i had, since I'm not good at literally anything. fuck, it took a strong suicide attempt, it took me 18 years and almost die to my mother to actually care for me and understand that i never lied about being depressed, feeling bad, unstable, dissociated and empty, totally neglected. i didn't know what to do and kept in shock for like five months ig until i applied for a job in a callcenter and moved from my hometown back to the capital again. but this time i was all alone, by my own, earning my own money and surviving alone, renting a shitty apartment and trying to leave my toxic relationship with my family. trying to live happily gay ever after in a bubble dream. it didn't work out cuz i had so many crisis in my job and they kicked me out cuz well, nobody wants to have the weird issociating guy as an employee apparently. I didn't last enough in that job and rapidly went broke, thanks to a friend i got a cheaper place to live and they payed the rent for the first month. i got another job and started again from scratch in march 2023, there and then i met him: p.a (his initials). he was a coworker a few months younger than me. he was so cute and handsome, funny, mf has the most beautiful smile ive seen at least in person. i wanted him, but thought he was completely unreachable for someone like me. let's be honest, im not hot, im not an attractive person and ive got too much shit going on in my head, literally three mental disorders diagnosed... i don't really feel deserving of love, got nothing to offer but ugliness and mental problems. but despite all that, the handsome cute guy found "the fat filthy lesbian" attractive. he was always flirting with me. and let's be honest i was never given that kind of attention. i was craving for love, for human contact. i love holding hands, giving hugs, not even romantically, i just feel the need to hold on someone cuz i wasn't hold enough, i was abused, i was neglected. i was assaulted several times since i was 3 years old and it's the date and no one believes me (at least my family). i even had my best friend and she is the type of person who hates physical contact so i never wanted to annoy her. i was really craving human contact. i was half a virgin, never went all the way with anyone cuz the first time i tried i was penetrated without my consent and it unlocked all my trauma and muscle memory from my childhood. i almost never felt safe with anyone. my mother always tells me "if i, your mother, can't stand you, trust me no one will", and for some time i believed her. and it still causes me pain and insecurities cuz i often think "damn, not even my mother wants to be with me and she used to love me as a child, why would anyone even bother?". but there he was, always so attentive, so kind, so caring. gosh, i got dissociative identity disorder and have multiple alters. most people can't see the difference when i have a switch and we got a connection so deep he could tell when i was each o my alters without me saying a word. he promised me he would love me, he kissed me so dearly, he touched me so kindly, he made me feel safe for the very first time in my life. he told my protector alter "you always taking care of them (my other alters) but who takes care of you? let me take care of you". he was always saying he was fascinated with me, that he loved me as he had never loved anyone. he insisted on moving with me. he was always saying how our love was something special that bloomed even faster than we could notice cuz it was so spontaneous, pure and honest. he was always saying that he saw the effort i made to pay rent, pay for therapy, pay for my psychiatrist, my meds an all, and well he said he wanted to help me live, so i could stop surviving. he said he wanted me to be happy and receive all the love he had to give me. and god knows i was happy. even tho i was miserable in that shitty job missing my academic life and having a mental crisis every two months or even less, feeling lost and hopeless, i was able to feel love and feel loved. i fell in love so hard with him. i dedicated my soul to that relationship. i never naked myself to anyone as much as i did with him. i was so damn happy to had found him. he became my everything. i woke up everyday with his kisses and his arms holding me. i was so happy. i was so damn happy to have him in my life. i thought i finally found someone who understood me and loved me for who i am. on december 31 2023 we got engaged,
i commented so much but i think youtube banned my comments for getting into very sensitive topics cuz i cant see the rest of what i wrote. anygays, dear, ill try to support you as much as i can, im broke and have no money but I'll keep my subscription and will try to help the algorithm. you deserve it. we deserve it. ex boyfriends won't kill us 💕
Remember. There are 589 by now. The are here suporting you cuz see how great you are. You'll get a lot more keep it in mind
I hope we will become a legione and change this world
Love you Vitali keep going❤️
will do my best
This video is Wonderful ! Possibly, one of your Best videos ever ! THANK YOU So Much for this Raw , Honest, and truly inspirational look into your life. I can't even imagine how difficult it must have been for you to film this video. "From the ashes a phoenix will rise" I believe this is the beginning of Great things for you in your life. I am so looking forward to watching your next video. I wish you all the very best!