Never realized this is a song about being stonewalled. Whenever someone closes up, this is exactly how the other person feels. "Give me the sign, show me the line, maybe tonight I'll tell you everything." " I don't know what I am doing wrong."
Fuck is that what he's singing about!? I never realised Thats me to a T...gotta get through a barricade b4 id let anyone in...& once i do i feel exposed....shown my weaknesses..then it fucks up cos i fuck it up. Thanks for your comment...never knew from a mans point xxx t/y big time
@@veronica3986 it is not limited to male point of view. Any human can feel that way. Stonewalling- avoiding talking about some topics, leaving conversation hanging, averting it by using stinging comments - anyone can be guilt by that sometimes. It is form of defense. Problem is when it becomes a habit... you - man or woman - might end in relationship when you feel like there is invisible bubble around your partner. Like a shield from which every attempt to talk slips like a raindrop on umbrella. And you stay in it for a while, hours, days, week, months... hoping that giving it time will change it. But it is vicious cycle. It can't be fixed if the reason was not adressed. And reason can't be adressed because it is not discussed. Stonewalling can be caused of fear of being vulnerable. It is like a shortcut to prevent bad situation from happening to you. It is form of distancing from the situation or person. And this song... describes very well how the stonewalled person feels. Staying nearby, hoping for something, remembering the good and living of the scraps to not be devoured by desperation that it can't be changed by anything they do. The stonewalling person is trapped. Stonewalled is trapped. Only way out is counselling or separation otherwise it might devastate the people. My mother used to stonewall me. A lot. She got upset and refused to talk with me even for a week. I didn first and last to get her attention. Getting angry didnt help. Making fun of her being silly didn't help. Being silent didn't help. Nothing. I was trying to be neutral and make innocent jokes to make her acknowledge me. In fact I do not even remember how I made her talk with me again, I was just so happy she did. But once I had a chance to get out of her place I did. As far as I could. It took years to repair our relationship and build the trust this behaviour of her ruined. Now 15 years later we have nice relationship but we had to learn how to not trigger each other. It is something people in romantic relationships do not do. Too many options. But I had just one mother and I wanted to make it work.
What a beautiful Song.❤❤❤
Never realized this is a song about being stonewalled. Whenever someone closes up, this is exactly how the other person feels. "Give me the sign, show me the line, maybe tonight I'll tell you everything." " I don't know what I am doing wrong."
Fuck is that what he's singing about!? I never realised
Thats me to a T...gotta get through a barricade b4 id let anyone in...& once i do i feel exposed....shown my weaknesses..then it fucks up cos i fuck it up. Thanks for your comment...never knew from a mans point xxx t/y big time
@@veronica3986 it is not limited to male point of view. Any human can feel that way. Stonewalling- avoiding talking about some topics, leaving conversation hanging, averting it by using stinging comments - anyone can be guilt by that sometimes. It is form of defense. Problem is when it becomes a habit... you - man or woman - might end in relationship when you feel like there is invisible bubble around your partner. Like a shield from which every attempt to talk slips like a raindrop on umbrella. And you stay in it for a while, hours, days, week, months... hoping that giving it time will change it. But it is vicious cycle. It can't be fixed if the reason was not adressed. And reason can't be adressed because it is not discussed.
Stonewalling can be caused of fear of being vulnerable. It is like a shortcut to prevent bad situation from happening to you. It is form of distancing from the situation or person.
And this song... describes very well how the stonewalled person feels. Staying nearby, hoping for something, remembering the good and living of the scraps to not be devoured by desperation that it can't be changed by anything they do.
The stonewalling person is trapped. Stonewalled is trapped. Only way out is counselling or separation otherwise it might devastate the people.
My mother used to stonewall me. A lot. She got upset and refused to talk with me even for a week. I didn first and last to get her attention. Getting angry didnt help. Making fun of her being silly didn't help. Being silent didn't help. Nothing. I was trying to be neutral and make innocent jokes to make her acknowledge me. In fact I do not even remember how I made her talk with me again, I was just so happy she did.
But once I had a chance to get out of her place I did. As far as I could. It took years to repair our relationship and build the trust this behaviour of her ruined. Now 15 years later we have nice relationship but we had to learn how to not trigger each other. It is something people in romantic relationships do not do. Too many options. But I had just one mother and I wanted to make it work.