Michelle Obama: "Marriage is not 50/50." | NPR
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Former first Lady Michelle Obama knows not everyone is motivated by her famous quote from her 2016 DNC speech. In fact, she knows some voters have been downright frustrated with her call to "go high."
In her new book, "The Light We Carry: Overcoming in Uncertain Times," Obama acknowledges a generational rift in views over the pace of societal change and political action, in addition to opening up about other deeply personal details on how she's coped with changes - both in public, and in private.
Generational shifts are a theme throughout the former first lady's latest book, which strikes a different tone from her 2018 book, "Becoming." In her first memoir, Obama peeled back the layers of her and her family's personal story, giving the world an intimate view. While "The Light We Carry" includes plenty of personal details, it serves as more of a guidebook in which Obama uses her own lived experiences to answer questions many people ask about life, including how to have a strong partnership and how to let your children become confident in their own abilities.
Whether it's the pandemic, racial injustice, or economic uncertainty, Obama said the past few years have been a collective struggle for many, and she's received lots of questions from people searching for ways to keep their hope alive. Obama spoke with NPR about her marriage and what advice she might give those trying to figure out a partnership today, how her relationship with her daughters has evolved as they've become adults and what "when they go low, we go high" looks like in action.
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Salute to Mrs. Obama for telling the absolute TRUTH!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Micheal could say anything in y’all would agree in believe it smh 😒🙄🤦🏾♂️
I definitely needed to hear this.
Man I love this...I pray we can salvage our marriage.
Spot on: let’s hold an emergency think tank to figure out how to salvage their relationship. 😅
It is sad that people come into relationship with complex expectations and they are quick to quit in periods of discomforts. Not willing to work things out. Young people seem to enter into
relationships with mindset of having a perfect mate. I wonder who is promoting this mindset. So sad and this the root cause of broken marriages, relationships and broken men and women.
Discomforts can sometimes be deep depression and deprivation so 🤷
Also not just young people, I have seen and known women to quit after 30 yrs marriage etc.
@@annabanzon313 God bless you. You are right 👍
Thank you Michelle Obama. Those who don’t want to compromise, don’t get married and don’t get involved in relationships because you don’t want to adapt
People are ready to sacrifice their social life, sleep even health for a job. But for a spouse or for a child (which are the most important things btw) they have a hard time thinking of compromising or sacrificing!
Yes Thank you Michelle ❤
Yes Thank you Michelle ❤
Married 38 years and heading to 39 and beyond. We live All In/All In. All money in one account, no separate accounts. All chores shared or divided by who can do it best. Consequently, our lives haven't been distracted by more or less or fair or not. We were and are instead All In to move our family forward. I don't think we would have been as successful with these divisions. Just my alternate reality. Lived and true.
MICHELLE OBAMA 😍 She’s sharing such great wisdom! For the people who are commited to misunderstanding 🙄 she never said women have to slow their careers for their husbands, she just said that she did.
And she also said clearly that she did that because of how she wanted her family to look like
We all should hear that and that love is a verb.
Marriage takes work and it's never 50%--50%. That's just silly, altogether. Stages of relationships are necessary. We shouldn't be at the same stage of maturity at year 10 as we were at year 5 or year 15 as we were at year 10. It's just reality and natural progression which occurs in solid, fulfilling relationships.
Mature love is the very best love. People don't experience longevity in marriage without understanding there are natural stages of maturity involved in maintaining love over time. It's not all about "romantic love" which, unfortunately, is what most women are sold on but do not understand we must mature beyond the early stages of romantic love and embrace a growing, mature love which is sustaining over time for both spouses.
Absolute
I used to live down the street from her for 17 years on 71st & Euclid, used to see her at Italian Fiesta
Words of wisdom both newlyweds & older couples should heed.
I think compromise is a very important word when it comes to marriage--a word that's always looked at mostly in a megative light, but really it isn't. It's okay to learn to compromise healthily in relationships so long as the communication between both partners is open, caring, and kind.
I think the important thing is to ask the partner: are you willing to support me in this dream? And not take for granted that the other person will assume the burden just because they are in a relationship or married, you know. It's like asking: do you want to be in this together? Because some dreams come after the relationship started, and if you're there with kids, it's like.... Ok, we hadn't talked about me raising kids alone full-time before having them... just having real conversations could save, or portrays the need to end, a relationship.
Thanks for the words of wisdom, Michelle ❤
They feel like wisdom to you what if it’s wrong would you admit it
Marriage is a life time commitment. It's few who made it to the end. I admire the late QE2. She set an example for the world to see.
Very mature arguments 👌
Awesome video ❤ Thanks for this message 🙏
Love ain’t easy but nothing thats easy is worth it
I also think that our system is set up to allow men to succeed where women have to sacrifice in their career to have kids. We need more collective support for families including daycare, maternity and paternity leave, and more care.
It's entirely UNNECESSARY how much I love this woman! Great advice.
This woman is soooo inspiring ❤️❤️
Ok bot
You mean Micheal 🤦🏾♂️😂🤣
Exactly what Kevin Samuels was trying to tell these modern women. I agree 100%.
Facts 💯 these boards gonna be cat lady’s.
a lot of people's brains shut down when his name is mentioned, you'd do better not saying his name
💯💯💯💯💯
Kevin Samuels was an unmarried misogynistic con artist 😂😂
@@bloom4096 And most black women are misandristic and unmarried. And unfortunately statically speaking have the lowest marriage rates and highest divorce rates in America. So what’s your point? At the end of the day, Michelle Obama and Kevin Samuels gave the same message/ blueprint for black women.
Don't agree with her politics but I agree with her relationship advice
Her politics is decency and dignity. That's something you'll find short supply of on the other side. Just an observation. Not starting a fight here.
What about her politics?
Well said 👏🏿
This is good!
Well said💪🏾
No marriage is 50/50 that's not a bad thing. It just means that you want to make your spouse happy.
Your job is not to make a person happy. Your responsibility is to stay kind and nice.
The problem is when it's 70-30 one way. Continuously. That's why I'm tired of my "wife." I'm the 70 (in reality more like 75) and she's the 25-30. It's not worth it.
@@tresfielder3148again, when you stick it out look at the duration
You can’t win!!! if you choose to stick through rough times ppl call you weak and complacent if you leave they say you gave up too easily
Good Lord. She told the truth.
You can't tell the truth to these people.
In awareness 0:26
Nice going Michael
It’s a roller coaster for sure!!!
Thank You Michelle Obama and Your Family for the love of God and this Country 🇺🇸
Mike on marriage. true or not it is still funny
Marriage is not 50/50. BUT, one should NEVER feel that they are always giving more. I've been married 49 years. Sometimes I feel I give more, but other times I feel my husband is.
Sadly, I did not get that feeling from the interview. :-(
Yes, notice she said she felt that she was the 70 and he was the 30, at times. She never said he was the 70, at times. Telling...
@@tresfielder3148you have to factor that this man was running the entire country and she was well aware of the ramifications
@@kendrick8749We don’t know that, could have been a dream that developed later.
It also really doesn’t help that culturally we’ve trained men to expect the woman to be the eternal, motherly giver once married.
If that’s the case…it does raise the question of “Why get married?” to ambitious women.
@@kendrick8749this was before all of that though. In her book, she says he wasn't living up to his responsibilities in the early years of their marrige w/ the kids.
so glad she said this.
I love her!
You mean him 🤦🏾♂️😂🤣
Modern women cannot handle this 😮
Michelle is the real deal.
GOTTA LOVE MICHELLE OBAMA- SHES SUCH A BEAUTIFUL PERSON, INSIDE AND OUT ❤
100% true.
VERY WISE!
I Love USA American Best Women Michelle Obama and Family 🇺🇸
God bless American
Thank you for this massage ❤
Amen 🇺🇸🌙⛪ God bless American !!
Michelle Obama is SO accurate. Too many people give up and don't put the work in. Marriages take work. The former First Lady is intelligent, wise, articulate, and so right!
But in Africa she preached exactly the 50-50 to a lot of young women. Hence we ended up with millions of baby daddies and baby mamas 😂😂😂😂
Great talk
It is not 50 50
Anda, Obama dan George Bush bukanlah contoh pemimpin yang baik, jangan pernah memberi wejangan untuk orang lain, dikhawatirkan akan salah kaprah, kesalahan yang kalian buat bisa jadi menyebar. Hentikan ini!!!!
That is not the topic discussed here. I agree with you, but we also have to agree Michelle is very wise regarding marriage.
Lady Obama - absolutně skvělá dáma !
Barry is a player we get it.
Marriage ain't for me then lol. I refuse to spend on anyone.
That’s what she’s saying. This generation is all about self this and self that. They are afraid of any challenges or discomfort
selfish...Then whats your purpose in life ?
And here it is smh. You honestly couldn't make this up.
@@sempijjarecord7298 There’s more to life than getting married?
Love this
Um but shes married to obama so.............respectfully, she has never been married to my hubby lets say for example!
well was it ? in 2025
Michelle deserves better than Barack
Wow thats easy there
NPR is just propaganda anymore
Obama and Michael
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Michael Obama, the man in drag.
It’s a man, baby!
Marriage isn’t.
Yeah, we know who wears the pants in your marriage.
What’s WRONG with the interviewer’s voice and dialect. Sounds phony (Caucasian). 😂👩🏽🦱🇺🇸
Possibly the only intelligent thing she’s ever said.
She’s really aging bad
She is so amazing
BIG MIKE