I got my fiance to react to this with me! Its being posted to the channel tonight! He has a very different take on this... watch here th-cam.com/video/bBH06bPDvOk/w-d-xo.html
I remember a younger me doing that with women I was dating and wondering why it always turned sour afterward. An older me now understands. Been single for 7 years now, smartest thing i've ever done. Don't plan on carrying on my last name or anything else, just living for me.
I’m a 62 year old man who raised a family. Work so hard for all my life. Totally taken for granted by the family. He speaks for the vast majority of the good men.
Isn't that the truth. I spent 28 years doing that, staring work at 1, 2 in the morning, sometimes midnight, to get home at 3 pm and do it all again with not so much as a thanks.
Yes! I was found to be abused, manipulated, and neglected meanwhile my father, mother, grandparents, and more died over a few short years. She didn’t care. Used and weaponized my vulnerability and children against me. And still I get punished for helping myself. It puts a new perspective on women as a whole for me. It will never be the same for me. Now or ever again.
I’m 52, I was raised like that too. My father was(is) my hero, but I only told him I loved him when he was dying. I broke the chain with my son, we say it to each other all the time.
@@truthandthelight4041 For many of these women, this is how they "accumulate" wealth. 50% of a house or farm and land is a good payday.... Sucks but it's the truth.
It’s not about crying or not crying. It’s about NOBODY CARES about our emotions. This is a fact as we are expected to be the pillars that hold up the family structure and society
As a husband and stepdad in Texas I can't show any emotions. I'm their rock. That's what they need. Its just how I was raised. Men don't matter to this world unless they can provide.
I feel you Texas here also. I’ve showed my emotions by reacting once and that was it. I hear about it every time it’s convenient for the other to hold it against me.
“They don't know what you're worth 'til the day that you die And that's when they start cryin' Then move on to a man to confide in That's why we feel” This line hits the hardest to me!!
This is facts. As a fireman I work long hours and have been in some dangerous spots, all for the sake of providing for my family and give them everything they want in this life. In the end she left anyway. It wasn’t enough
How many men are left alone after being broken by life? It's easier to find a new man until he is broken also. How many men are broken and feel alone in the company of those closest to us. We say nothing just wake up and do it all again.
Just to clarify. We are not asking to give up this responsibility. Just to be supported in our difficult journey. That's what this song is telling you is expected of us. And We as Men All embrace it!
Agreed. Most men love and embrace the responsibility that comes with being a man. We just need to be heard in a way that we’ve never been heard before. 🤙🏽
I cried in front of my first love once then I saw disgust for me in her eyes and it’s not about not having feelings it’s about the world not caring about mens feelings
Same she looked at me in disgust and never looked or treated me the same afterwards. Sex love all stopped. I had just lost a 3 year project cause I might make my boss look bad. She encouraged me to let out my feelings about it so I did. Worst thing I’ve ever done: I trusted her with my emotions and feelings over it for her to look down on me as less of a man from then on.
This song had hit hard for me. In 2016, I had a major surgery, lost my older sister to cancer, and my ex-wife left. I felt I had to be strong for my family even though I was mentally shutting down. I never allowed myself to be emotional. When I heard this song, I finally realized I wasn't alone. I broke down. Ugly cried broke down. Thanks, Dax, for showing all of us we deserve to be seen and heard!
Every single time I opened up and was vulnerable it was used against me. Every. Single. Time. That's what men learn. Nobody is telling us that we can't, but they are telling us through their actions that it is detrimental. I have found a group of men that I can talk to, and I use that support. But I don't think I will ever be able to open up to another woman that way. It's too painful.
Exactly. You think that maybe you'll be safe confiding in the one person that should be there for you at your lowest. We all know that's not what happens, they take that pain, twist it around and shove it back in.
@@4gvnjonah208 well grow a brain.... And a beard .... Because if you had a little bit of both you would realise that most people that listen to this music are depressed and feel sorry for themselves. If someone has a depression go get help from a professional and don't listen to music like this that only will make you feel depressed
My wife sent this video to me at work and ask me if this how most men really feel not knowing that's exactly how I feel everyday. The way DAX articulates the words of what literally every man can't put into words is amazing! One of my favorite artists now, thank u DAX!!!
@@AmericanFarmerHVAC2024my best friend had a wife that putting through hell for 26 years and didn't even let him see his daughter for the past and then he found a woman who actually understood and he did just that until yesterday at his last breath. So yeah.. truth bro
I watched my husband cry many times. He feels peoples pain and it makes me admire his merciful heart... He had cancer and couldn't fully provide.. i just went and applied for food stamps and found help quietly so he didn't need to worry. I told him how proud i was to have such a great lover, father and husband. He's wheelchair bound and struggles with chronic pain and we'll be married 40 years soon. He's a good man ... Growing in his faith and praying for the world's pain all the time Not every man is harmed by women. All three of my daughters love him utterly ... Even when he cries. Btw. One daughter buys her brothers Valentine's candy and a rose on Valentine's. She wants the guys to know they get love too. I think maybe that's what girls should do on Valentine's Day. Let it be love on all the men in their life..... Gratitude for good men day.
In response to the feminist argument that "men have it easy ", this experiment has been done, the lady wrote a book called self-made man. I would urge people to check it out.
Its not about who hurt him. This is so much more than a song. Before hearing this song i didn't even know that anyone was capable of putting these feeling into words. As a man i know how this affected me and i cant even begin to imagine how many other men hear this song and are shaken. Simply because its so spot on
Have you heard the remix with multiple verses? Last verse hit me so hard like all my thoughts and feelings put into 3 lines blown away Dax bringing hope back to the male species haha
This song brings me to tears every time I hear it, because I’ve lived it. This song actually inspired me to seek help for my own mental health. I think it’s incredibly sad and pathetic how men’s mental health is treated. You only need to look at statistics, suicide rates for men is 3 times higher than that of women, and instead of asking if we’re ok, we’re told that we need to suck it up and stop being babies. Sadly that message has been said to men mostly by women. We’re told to be vulnerable and share our feelings and emotions, but when we do it ends up being weaponized and used against us. It needs to change.
@@pascalramael5678 obviously you’re perfect and have never been hurt or experienced the struggle that men have been through. Personally I find this song as a way of showing people that men’s mental health is important too. Just because it doesn’t mean anything to you doesn’t mean that it’s the same for others. For ear too long men’s mental health has been overlooked and it’s about time people like Dax are shining a light on it!
Heard him first with "Alcohol" Crushed me, like all the other songs, ain't no where to turn to, no one to talk to. Like she say, this is vulnerable, that's not what we tryna be, we just need to"be accepted, respected
@@leeroy5665 And knowing that you're not alone. Knowing that you're not the only one in the fight is sometimes all the help you need to make it through that dark night to the next day. As I mentioned in a recent penning about being a loner, reading alone at a cafeteria table. I felt alone, and lonely because I thought I was the only one. But there were always a multitude of us sitting at tables all around me (perhaps not in THAT cafeteria). Unseen warriors in the fight. So remember, you're not alone in whatever fight you go through. Someone has your back, even if you never see their presence.
“No one cares, work harder” Is the societal message to men in general. And that sucks, but he’s right that being a guy is lonely. Great video by Dax, and great reaction as usual!
Your job is pushing you harder to do more, running your body into the ground, and god forbide you say something... all you get back is a list of bills and other things that need money...
Yes we men feel this way. It is the hardest time in all of history to be a man. I appreciate Dax for making this song and video. Saying with eloquence what so many men can not.
Yes I needed this about to be a single dad of 3 trying to do 50/50 without courts I pray it goes well because as a kid who’s been through it. Therapy isn’t good enough.
It's amazing how many of us feel this way and hide it, then Dax comes along and has the balls the say it and gives us all hope. At the very least we know we aren't alone.
@Hdhdjdudh-fv5jk uhm, EFF "jesus" ... we just need to regain the narrative and control over woke AF ideology. MEN - like WOMEN - are just as very much HUMAN BEINGS as anyone else. We should love ONE ANOTHER ... that certainly doesn't involve your fantasy fiction novel's protagonist. #ffs 🙄
Stay Strong and always believe and pray to God. He knows your heart best and he forgives us if we believe in him. This live is short but eternity with God is forever God bless you!
@@winxo1115 God has me and my HOG family is there when He feels distant! I praise God Every morning even if I question his answer of no. I guess that is what faith is about.
"Since we can't define what a women is" had me stay tuned for your opinion. I love your grounded mentality. We need more of you and DAX. Sub for sure, thank you so much. No one knows what some of us evil men struggle with. Same breath, women carry sooo much. My wife is an amazing woman and I don't know how I would live without her. When we marry we became one. A piece of each other, through good times and bad. If I lose her I will lose a part of me. That's how the heart breaks. It's how we were built, there isn't any changing in that. Thank you Shea. ❤❤
I had no idea that men felt like this. I played this for my husband and then asked if he felt that way. I was floored when he said, "Yes, every single day." No one should be made to feel expendable, or like a commodity. Fantastic reaction, Carlie! But you never disappoint. 🎶🔥💖🙏🏼😎
@@ragingpirate5727she could be the best wife in the world. Most men will still feel this way deep down because of life. Doesn't mean it's always the wife's fault
you could be a fantastic wife and he will still feel the same. Your husband has the burden to carry your family through anything. He knows he will gladly give up his life protecting you and he wouldn't want it any other way. He knows he is the shield, he is holding back the world beating against the door of your home. The pain in men is the worry of failing our loved ones... it crushes our souls. So love your man, all we want is the love and respect from our women, walk with him in life and show him he has your support.
@@rickrouse7865 We had a long GREAT talk because of this song and I have a whole new perspective on his side of life. So when he's had a rough day at work, and he comes home and takes a few minutes just to sit in the truck and 'shake it off' I know to just give him time. If he's out there longer than about 15 mins I'll stick my head out and ask if everything is OK and when he says yeah, I say "O.K. come in when you're ready."
what everyone seems to forget is that we are not looking to change the way we live in the world, only the way we are treated. We are not seeking to be allow to cry more, we are not trying to pass off the role of protector, or provider. We care about being treated with respect and appreaction for what we do and the way we conduct ourself, that's it. The saddest part is that so many men live without even though it cost nothing to provide respect or appreaction.
I see a lot of women reacting to this song on youtube, and they still don't seem to get it. I think the fundamental disconnect is that they think that we're like them, that we're the same. But we're not. We're very different. I don't think they get it.
@mr.mayhem4054 That is a huge difference that not only women forget, but society as a whole forgets. Most men instinctively know that men and women think differently. Many women, on the other hand, expect everyone to inherently understand their world view and style of thinking. Not to say men are "smarter" or anything. We just know when we don't know, generally speaking.
This song is 💯% facts... and it hits in a way that i have to leave the room when it plays and people are around... cant get teary eyed in front of others
I love this song. It hits me so hard as a vet and single father. It brings tears to my eyes, can't listen to it in front of people. Dax is incredible. I love his work.
A friend of mine said to me, when he introduced me to this song, "Every man needs to see this music video!" And I cry EVERY TIME I watch it. Dozens of times & it still happens.
@@dssd31 "I only cried when Old Yeller died" Somehow this makes you a big man? Actually being proud of something like this is pretty much the definition of "Toxic masculinity". Emotions are nothing to be afraid of.
Did you just accuse a brother of "toxic masculinity?" Wow. You pretty much look like the definition of SIMP right now. Let me guess, women should always be put on pedestals too, huh?
That’s exactly how we feel. Also, your instinctive response of who hurt you is one of the many reasons why we don’t express our emotions because they are Weaponized anytime we do. You can laugh it off as oh, just kidding, but that was your go to response and it’s the same as every other woman.
this is true, women can listen to the song and try to understand but they will NEVER understand what it really means. a women in a men's shoes would commit suicide faster than most men already are.
“They don’t know Whatchu worth till the day that you die… and that’s when they start crying… then move on to a man to confide in.” That should tell you everything you need to know… that one line has so much behind it
That lyric REALLLY hit. My Grandpa was seen as a loser by his wife and daughters. . . the man basically BUILT half a major city in the US. When he died and MANY people came out of the wood works to grieve his loss they were shocked at his impact and that they NEVER respected him. Had a similar situation that landed me in a psych ward after trying to keep it together for a decade after Iraq. . . men simply get NO respect and no one thinks about what we do until we are GONE.
@@aquaticaaficionado2004 Joyner and dax are artists that give us our flowers. If you want to listen to a woman speaking on OUR problems listen to romaarmy
As the father of 2 boys, I've been trying to teach them that it's ok to acknowledge if they get hurt, physically or mentally, but to always get back up, and overcome. They are stronger than anyone thinks, and more resilient than they know. This goes for all of my children.
As a man and as a father of boys. This hits hard. I grew up being told not to show emotions but as I got older I didn't care and would show my emotions but I realized... no one cares. I raised my kids to know it's ok to cry, but at the same time prepared them that other than me, no one else will care. And you still need to be tough. I havnt seen my daughter in 7 months and I've honestly cried more In those month than I have the rest of my adult life. I'm in the hardest part of my life right now and I'm only here now for my kids. 😢
You need to put yourself first, dude. I know that that's a hard concept for a lot of men to grasp, but it will actually improve not only your life, but your relationships with those you care about. Well most of them anyway. You'll also find out which ones truly care about "you" and not just what you can "provide" them.
@BrickMudge it's been hard but I have started doing that. And I finally get my daughter every other weekend for now until we go to court and it has honestly helped me the most.
@@Slick242006 I have three grown sons, two of whom have two evil baby mama's who hold their children, three of my four grandchildren hostage. I guess I'll have to wait until they're adults and just hope that they reach out to us. But I'm not holding my breath. It's an evil world, especially if you're a father.
I’m so glad I can be my husband’s safe place, locking out the world in our home. We celebrate our 20th wedding anniversary on August 25, 2024. I love him unconditionally. We’ve been homeless together, we’ve battled issues big and small, we’ve lost grandparents and parents, even babies of our own. I was by his side after a serious motorcycle accident that left him unable to walk on his own for months. And seeing his struggle with PTSD after multiple combat deployments reinforced the knowledge that he was my person. It helps that we both have PTSD from different things, so I understand the triggers and the response. My heart hurts that our sons may never find their ONE. 💔
Love how you didn’t flip this into “well it’s harder to be a woman!!” because that’s not what he’s saying. Women definitely face a ton of struggles too but he’s just stating things that a lot of men feel and seeing a woman empathize with that was super refreshing. Great reaction!
Exactly. Everyone has their struggles, and just because one person expresses that they're struggling doesn't give someone else free reign to go "But my life's worse".
I sit here weeping listening to this as a man! It’s so very true for us guys! I wish women would get us truly. This song hits home so much with us. So lonely……
This song is exactly how I felt until about 6 1/2 years ago when I met my wife. My previous marriage was hell and my ex wife made me feel like this. My current wife has never once missed a chance to tell me how much she loves and appreciates everything I do. She never puts me down and when she’s upset with me or something I did she always tells me in a calm tone. She is the reason I’m still alive on this earth.
I am genuinely happy that their is a man who is getting love and appreciation and hopeful that there are woman capable of reciprocating the love and affirmation they expect.
Being in the military and having to push through everything all the time, like now being deployed and away from my children, family, and friends. You are still expected to stay strong for everyone and push through. It is definitely hard being a man. It’s not an everyday thing sometimes we do get a moment to breathe but then we have to get right back to it. Dax definitely provided a song we needed. ❤️
For a guy, there’s a time and a place to be vulnerable and it’s not usually at the same time everyone else can. He’s got to make sure his family makes it safely through the tough times before he can tend to his own wounds. But by then, everyone has moved on and it looks like he’s the one that’s clinging to the past because he sacrificed this grieving time to be strong for his family so they don’t disintegrate like many families do during and after a crisis.
Brother, you hit the nail on the head. My SO tends to express hurts and frustrations in incredibly hurtful and attacking ways, and I have to simply swallow the pain, screaming internally while showing unreciprocated unconditional love and support. If I try to share any emotions I might be feeling at the time, it's viewed as self-centered disregard. If I try to talk about it later, I'm just a jerk bottling everything up to "use it against them later". I've tried talking to them about it a few times, telling them I'm perfectly happy to set my feelings aside to support them if that's what they need... just let me know when a constructive time would be for me to talk about my feelings... The only response was to run in circles avoiding an answer. I'm left with but two options: 1) accept that my feelings, no matter how neutrally they're expressed, will always be met with vitriol, or 2) bottle everything up indefinitely.
I am a disabled veteran and this song is so very true. I can’t cry, feel pain, sadness, or any kind of weakness in front of my wife and kids. I always feel I have to be the strong one and stand tall . This comes from my grandparents who were ex military in WW2, father who served in Vietnam and the military. I hold so much inside and never share it and to be honest never will.
You do have to be the strong one. Stay strong soldier. But before you hit rock bottom, reach out, we are all going through this as men. We all need to vent, process and figure things out with people that understand from time to time. Every man has a breaking point, only other men can understand, don't burden your wife, she can't handle it. Find someone to talk to even if you have to pay them like a councilor. Or just ask a buddy or a stranger to get things off your chest to process everything. You got this king
I am that guy that got diagnosed with an incurable autoimmune disease. I went from doing great and opening my own construction company to being nearly crippled in 6 months. I died a little inside the day my fiance told me "you broke your promise to take care of me." It felt like nothing i had ever done for her had mattered. She ended up leaving. Yeah Shea unfortunately we feel that way because this song is life for many of us.
Dude, I am sorry you were done dirty like that. She obviously didn't understand what "Through sickness and health" meant. Don't ever take her back when you get back up on your feet. I don't know if it will help, but Jordan Peterson had an autoimmune disease, and he went to the carnivore diet, and it helped him tremendously. I wish you health and happiness bro.
I relate to everything he says in this song and live alone because of it. As a child I was not allowed to express my feelings and emotions and as a adult I went through hell in two different marriages and the second one I was only seconds away from taking my life when the Lord stepped in and delivered me from it and then from the narcissistic relationship. To this day I can not even express my feelings and emotions to anyone without being harshly judged for them by men and women alike and it has always been used against me to tear me down.
Turning 42 this year and I can say up untill the late 2000's this is how all men were raised. I was raised in the 80's and 90's where the line was " ARE YOU CRYING??? I'LL GIVE YOU SOMETHING TO CRY ABOUT." I have only seen my Dad cry twice in my Life. Once when his Father and his Wife died one month apart due to cancer, and when his Mother passed away in 2019.
As a man, I wanna take the opportunity to say that in this song Dax breaks down word for word what it is like to be a man, we go through our life knowing that we are replaceable, knowing that our worth is measured by what we do, and when we can't do enough we hurt, but we can't show our hurt because we are relied on to be strong, we are not allowed to break even when we are broken, we have to keep it together, bottle it up, drink from another bottle of spirits, pack that shit down and move on, we are not loved unless we provide, and from the day we are born we are taught that our worth comes from what we can provide, I have been broken countless times, but every time I gotta keep my shit together, I can't stop because I have to keep going, and when I'm out of work I beat myself daily behind closed doors, just because at that point, I had lost my worth. And when he says about the unconditional love, and how when we find a woman we give our last name we feel the only reason they stay is for what we can provide, and honestly it's true, it feels like nobody cries for us until the day we are gone, and when we are gone it's too late to know it.
My Dad worked three jobs when my brother, sister, and I were young. Days, nights, and weekends. He kept this up until I went into the seventh grade. After that, he worked sixty hours at one job when he became the boss. I never saw him get emotional until I was in my forties and my Mom was diagnosed with cancer. It shocked me to see him get upset because, up until that day, he was a machine. I'm now in my sixties and my Mom has beat cancer but sadly my Dad has passed. Now I do the same. I rarely show how upset I am until the sh!t hits the fan. Circle of life, as Dax said. Hard work, success, and responsibility have always been my focus, and I'm unsure if I'll ever know any other way to live. "To Be A Man" hits hard and has me thinking about my father and his sacrifices. Great song that I hope many men get to hear and like me think about.
As a solo father of 3, this song hits hard to my heart. I struggle EVERY DAY to make ends meet. Barely make $16K/year because of a car wreck some time back. Make too much for SNAP, no programs for MEN to help them pay the bills, no men's shelters I could have gone to when I needed them, no support at all. Seeing some women out there struggling with ONE child, and getting $100K from GoFundMe, but as a man, be lucky to get a pat on the back or a simple thank you.
I feel you brother, you're not alone. I fought and struggled as a single father. I watched female friends get all this help while I had none. I was looked down upon by the courts and to this day she has never paid a dime in child support and my son just turned 21. My son and I where living in my car for a short time and no shelter would help us. I fought and struggled with no government help, worked 20 years as a welder, went to school during that time and now do IT work for one of the largest auto parts company in the country. You're a great father and you keep fighting that struggle brother. I see you. We all see you. And we will see you after the fact as well. Don't give in.
All of that is completely unacceptable and it's not right. You with 3 children making 16k a year are definitely well below the income guidelines for snap benefits. Apply online
This song makes me cry every single time I hear it (I listen to it MANY MANY MANY times a day) and it's because it's exactly how I feel. I connect with every word in this song almost feels like he's reading my mind but in reality it's the the harsh truth of the world these days. We love you Dax. Keep speaking our truth!!
Much respect Shea. Any man that raises his son and doesn't teach him to control his emotions, doesn't love him. I understand why you think men should be able to be vulnerable but it's not acceptable for a man. Society will eat him alive. What men REALLY need is for women to understand why we must be strong, and then be on our side anyways. Men must NEVER cry in front of his woman. She WILL leave you soon after she sees through your armor.
True. Even when I was in an accident and broke my neck and became a paraplegic. I was staying strong with my girlfriend of 7 years until I was dealing with a never ending UTI and I finally broke down and couldn’t hold back some tears. The way my girlfriend reacted was almost unbelievable. She didn’t console me in any way. Just stood there next to me with a weird look on her face. Sad to say we didn’t make it more than 6 months after that. Women won’t be with a man that can’t be the strong on 24/7 ….
and this is what is wrong with society, and why men lead the statistics in suicide. this outdated shit needs to change, the world is hard enough, do not need to make it harder.
@darkwulf2k it isn't outdated it's innate, it's natural, like an infant knowing it needs to suckle. As men we need to understand this gender role rather than fight. That said, women should do the same.
There's not a lot that makes me cry, but I can't help but nearly break down when I hear this song. Men have always been expendable, but never more so than in our current society.
as a single father of 3 girls this song hits deep in my heart ,i have played it for my kids to help them understand the burdens a father carries in silence ,so when they get older they will help instead of expecting the man to provide everything
Perfect maybe one day we can fight the expectations that they want to leave us in and not think twice about but let everyone open their minds more then they are told to do from he she and them cause it's only what we provide and it really shouldnt be that way at all where is our females that grew up with us through rough times and know us even if you didn't grow with us don't get side tracked and grow with the real ones.. and don't be scared cause if them evil doers u know the evil doers that pull u aside and whisper in your ear "cause this guy did this and this and that" don't get side tracked ladies
Coming from a father of 2 and a husband to a sick wife. I feel that with this song I can show what I'm feeling and not be judged. I just want to say thank you for this video.
This song hit me personally deeply. I lived this my entire life. My wife is my best friend but I still fight showing emotions due to my entire life having to shove them down.
Yes every man has went through these things .. crying behind closed doors then recollecting yourself real quick.. Yes everything this song talks about is what it's like to be a man .. We do it out of love and to know that we have to be the Strong Example .. I accept it as a role and to play my part as a man .. God Bless
Accept your wrong not every man goes through the crying behind closed doors and recollecting ourselves most of us simply don't cry at all like half the job of being a man is toughing it out during the day than when the time comes you break down in the middle of the night holding your breath never shedding a tear because no matter how hard you try neither your voice nor emotions will be noticed or heard
Thank you for speaking for us guys. Appreciate the kind words. Its hard out here. I cant even get any women to even talk to me.... its hard to not give up.
I didn't used to think like this. But 20 years and 3 failed attempts at love I know without a doubt this song is golden crystalized truth. I wish I could teach my son to be vulnerable but this is how we survive. The ones that dont learn to suck it up kill themselves
For the longest time I didn’t feel that I had any right to cry or ask for help. I looked around as I was growing up and saw the men at church who never wavered and were always able to help and be dependable and I felt that I should follow their way of life completely. This also included my father. They were men that I couldn’t follow closely enough when it came to knowing how to do different things(build stuff, take care of business, etc.) I was young and I understood the fact that I hadn’t reached my full potential, but learning what my dad did when he was younger than I was and what he went through to reach his level of success made me think about the fact that I was a failure that couldn’t match up. It wasn’t neglect that formed this mindset, instead it was my own mind that started to dig my grave. I lived in that hole for about 8 1/2 years, while I was desperately trying to show that I could be his equal and live up to the expectations that I made up in my own mind. Perfection is a level that no human can possibly reach and yet I tried using that as my marker. I did well in school and sports(my dad said I did better than even he did), but I just couldn’t see it that way and whatever I did was never good enough to myself. This lasted from 5th grade until my second year of college. I was never good enough and I was the only person who ever said it. Of course this lead to thoughts of suicide because I knew then and there that I would never be able to reach where I wanted to be. I found that everything that I did was pointless and would eventually lead to nothing when I was gone, so I stopped caring. I didn’t go to therapy and I didn’t ask for help. I didn’t feel I deserved to cry even whilst I was alone because it was a waste on someone like me. After coming back from college after playing college ball for the first 2 years, I left the team. This brought me to my breaking point because that’s never the way anyone would want to leave a sport that they loved to play before. It got to the point where I stopped showing any emotions at all cause why would it matter what I did or showed? The point where my parents really started making me consider therapy was when my grandparents died(2 of them, 1 in each side of the family). I went to both caskets and didn’t show much as show a grimace, however, I didn’t realize this was my reaction. I was sad that they were gone, but couldn’t allow a failure like myself to express anything at the time. After I started going to therapy, I finally told someone what I’ve been doing to myself. It was also the first time in years where I shed a few tears. It felt like a weight was slowly getting lifted off me as I continued to go. I started joking around with my folks more and telling them what I thought. I’m much better than I was before and the only people who I have to thank for that are my parents. If you are feeling the same way, just know you aren’t alone and you are not a failure. You may fail many times and some may seem like the biggest screwups of your life, but just know that these small failures in life can lead you where you want to go. You just have to keep trying. If you read this, I hope you have a good day.
It’s crazy how I melted seeing how you reacted In such a compassionate way to this video….thats literally the kind of compassion I would like for my wife to display….im not hiding from my responsibilities….i go to war every single day…but at least some compassion shown would make me feel a little better….shes just cold…I’m literally just supporting her public image.
And as a man when you hear this song it hits deep because it's absolutely true. This was the first song I heard from Dax a few days ago or even heard of Dax and now a huge fan!
I listen to his music 24/7 because of how relatable it is. Aside from this one the other two i can TRULY relate to is: "Joker's return" and "Depression" because of these specific lines: "Everyone's an expert on everything except themselves" and " I took the cards they delt and theres nothing I can change so when I'm by myself, i just pray for brighter days" relatable %100
Can't argue with his take. It is tough being a bloke and expected to be almost an emotional statue with no thought to 'our' needs. 52 years old and blessed with 3 girls who don't freak when I cry (I do alot !) Men and women are different, but we are emotionally the same. Just some takes on that are given more providence and attention.
Sir i just want you to know that i appreciate you sir. I know we haven't met but i can tell you are a great father to your daughters. My father of late i have realised is my hero too. I sometimes feel like he lives his life for me. My sister and mom have never considered his pain and struggles. I wouldn't be here without my dad. As a young adult, I'm really struggling to find purpose and reason. I struggle with so many demons including severe depressive disorder and anxiety. And my dad in his 60s tells me not to worry. Because he'll always take care of me. My mother doesn't even know the man i am. The conflicts that exist in my heart are conflicts I'm not sure i can ever resolve. As a son, i just wanted you to know, you're a good man. A good father.
@@surreshguhan6033 Sir if you need to talk or just sound off then please contact me. No judgement. Alot of being a "man" is dealing with the shadow of your father and your heritage. But don't let it define you. Again, reach out if you need to talk. Love to you all.
I think you understand Dax's take.. but you are very lucky and privileged to be raised to show emotion. MANY men grew up with their dad showing no real emotion around his family and lived to provide. Dads that worked over time every waking moment to put food on the table. This song broke me when I first heard it. I recognize my dad's shortcomings and I proactively try every day to not make the same mistakes as him with my kids in this regard, but those qualities still come up often because it's inherited from my upbringing. I envy you!
@@bankruptsee Thank you sir. I agree with your take and, to clarify, my Dad was violent, abusive and a drunk. Ironically I learnt what NOT to do as a Father! Guess it can work both ways. Thank you for the comment and be a man forever. Whatever that even means! :)
I did this. I tried to open up about my feelings and struggles to my wife, and i can tell you she used it as one of the many reasons to end our 4 years marriage. I dont blame her, at the time, I couldn't provide for my family the way I should have. Today things are better for me, I wish she had stayed a little bit longer, but its fine, life goes on. I honestly believe dax is so spot on in this song!
Hang in there man. I’m going through this now, where opening up is extremely one-sided and accountability is sparse. It leaves you stuck with your feelings and they just bottle up inside you. I’m praying God brings you comfort and surrounds you by other men you can confide in.
Don't let anybody persuade you otherwise, but a wife should stay with her husband when things get hard and he is trying to make ends meet and finding a stable long term solution. It takes years to gain stability which is why only spoiled victimhood females leave.
Dax definitely did speak the truth... That how it feels to be a guy in society now days. I appreciate the sentiment of this song. Thank you for reacting to this song and Dax, if you see this... Thank you for making this song
I start fighting the tears on the first line. The first time I heard this song I had to call my best friend and suicide buddy. I could barely breath. I have never really cried before like I did that night. Our suicide pact is to not talk each other out of it, but to not go out alone. That is because no one understand what a man goes through but another good man. And we all know that most days we just wish it would end, but we are men and have to much responsibilities. This song proves that point so much....we all think we are alone, but all men feel the same way. It a good thing we run this country, so we dont have to feel like this right.
@brianjones2891 been there dude...but glad i never ended it...ĵust finding one thing to be grateful for every day helped me...still get those thoughts tho, but have more control of them these days...i am strong, you are strong, we are all strong...thats a good thing to be grateful...or be grateful for your emotions because thats whats brought you this far...but be sincere and love yourself for it...take care
I feel this so much. I kept all pains in until I almost gave up a few months ago. Luckily I caught myself and got help before reaching that point. That really opened my families eyes to my struggles and a lot of it has gotten so much better. My feelings are valued more now. Open up guys we deserve to vent to. Don’t wait till it’s too late
As a man, there is no time to cry. When you do, you lose that respect, and depression starts to kick in. At least that's how it feels to be a man. I lost a lot of brothers this way. Ps his alcohol song helps me cope with being sober every day. His songs hit the heart.
I don’t cry at all but when I heard this song every emotion in my body come out all at the same time and I didn’t know what was going on with me it’s one of the only times I got to see my softer side of me that I didn’t know I had . Thank you Dax cuz it is hard to be a Good man
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I got my fiance to react to this with me! Its being posted to the channel tonight! He has a very different take on this... watch here th-cam.com/video/bBH06bPDvOk/w-d-xo.html
Any man whoever opened up about his feelings to his partner knows why we dont show our emotions
Truer words never spoken.
Doesn't usually go well. Definitely not good for your image or relationship.
I remember a younger me doing that with women I was dating and wondering why it always turned sour afterward. An older me now understands. Been single for 7 years now, smartest thing i've ever done. Don't plan on carrying on my last name or anything else, just living for me.
@@happybaals too much time worrying about images and less time focusing on being free
Yeah made that mistake once. You could see the change in her eyes immediately.
Thank you yo!!! Appreciate you!
This one hits me deep Dax. Awesome job.
I appreciate you Dax
Dax you are awesome I love your music 🙏🏼
Man... Thank you so much for making this song and filling it with so much truth
Thank you for the song Dax. Thank you for the reaction Shea.
I’m a 62 year old man who raised a family. Work so hard for all my life. Totally taken for granted by the family. He speaks for the vast majority of the good men.
I know what's that painful feeling Man, I know that hurts... Deeply.
Stay strong Gentleman, you're not alone 🤝
Isn't that the truth. I spent 28 years doing that, staring work at 1, 2 in the morning, sometimes midnight, to get home at 3 pm and do it all again with not so much as a thanks.
Yes! I was found to be abused, manipulated, and neglected meanwhile my father, mother, grandparents, and more died over a few short years. She didn’t care. Used and weaponized my vulnerability and children against me. And still I get punished for helping myself. It puts a new perspective on women as a whole for me. It will never be the same for me. Now or ever again.
I'm 62 brother share your experience. Just know Ilove you brother
I’m 52, I was raised like that too. My father was(is) my hero, but I only told him I loved him when he was dying. I broke the chain with my son, we say it to each other all the time.
we don't just "feel" like this. This is the reality. 80% of divorces are filed by women. 70% of those are because of "money issues".
Facts! 80 percent of women who leave their husbands make more money than their partner. WTF?? Lol let’s go back too the 50’s with that data!!
Also 80% of suicides are men. And 75% of men under 30 are virgins.
@@truthandthelight4041 For many of these women, this is how they "accumulate" wealth.
50% of a house or farm and land is a good payday....
Sucks but it's the truth.
That’s really sad for a woman to leave her man because of money issues smh… 😢
50% divorce rate goes to 90% if she makes more money to
"Most men lead lives of quiet desperation" -Henry David Thoreau
He is correct.
100 percent
So try, I've asked for someone to sit with me and talk. But they just laugh
@@rawirinutira2678 We`re here. Are you from the US?
@@jamesreisenauer1778 no I'm from New Zealand
@James Reisenauer and thank you man 🤘🏽
It’s not about crying or not crying. It’s about NOBODY CARES about our emotions. This is a fact as we are expected to be the pillars that hold up the family structure and society
agreed. also the moment a man shows a sign of emotions they are labeld as weak by the very women that think men are heartless and have no emotions.
I dont mind being a pillar if we are actually respected and appreciated. Todays society is shit for us.
You nailed it!!
I love you brother don't give up you are strong even when you feel weak
Because we ARE the pillars. We do hold things together. But not society. Society is controlled by women, that's why it's crumbling
As a husband and stepdad in Texas I can't show any emotions. I'm their rock. That's what they need. Its just how I was raised. Men don't matter to this world unless they can provide.
I feel you Texas here also. I’ve showed my emotions by reacting once and that was it. I hear about it every time it’s convenient for the other to hold it against me.
@@rickalvarado4941that's toxic shit bro im sorry you deal with that. That needs worked on but we know how well it goes
This might make you love your man more
Exactly
An emotional man is a dangerous man. I teach my boy to be stoic.
“Screaming on the inside but don’t make a sound”, this hits so hard.
I got you! It’s sad how many of us feel this way.
I agree this is me everyday...
And not "allowed" to make sound.
The daily struggle, just make the screaming inside...
“They don't know what you're worth 'til the day that you die
And that's when they start cryin'
Then move on to a man to confide in
That's why we feel”
This line hits the hardest to me!!
I can understand why. Because I may not have experienced this but I know it's true.
This is facts. As a fireman I work long hours and have been in some dangerous spots, all for the sake of providing for my family and give them everything they want in this life. In the end she left anyway. It wasn’t enough
@@schmeelkie075_gamingThank you for your service. You're a legend.
How many men are left alone after being broken by life? It's easier to find a new man until he is broken also.
How many men are broken and feel alone in the company of those closest to us.
We say nothing just wake up and do it all again.
@chrisb7198 this, all of this
Just to clarify. We are not asking to give up this responsibility. Just to be supported in our difficult journey. That's what this song is telling you is expected of us. And We as Men All embrace it!
Agreed. Most men love and embrace the responsibility that comes with being a man. We just need to be heard in a way that we’ve never been heard before. 🤙🏽
Couldn't agree more. More than anything, we just want to be treated with respect and kindness from the people we would take a bullet for.
Great explanation and agree completely.
They say small things matter. But for men, even the tiniest of the tinest thing means a lot.
Hell, just mildly appreciated goes miles.
I cried in front of my first love once then I saw disgust for me in her eyes and it’s not about not having feelings it’s about the world not caring about mens feelings
Truth. The women say they want us to open up, but as soon as we do, it's over.
This. Men know what feelings are, but they don't work in our favor. Nobody wants men to show weakness because the world needs strong men.
Yeah bro its a cold world
Feeling something is not weakness. As the song said, don't forget, Jesus wept, and brother so can you.@@beebs_magoo
Same she looked at me in disgust and never looked or treated me the same afterwards. Sex love all stopped. I had just lost a 3 year project cause I might make my boss look bad. She encouraged me to let out my feelings about it so I did. Worst thing I’ve ever done: I trusted her with my emotions and feelings over it for her to look down on me as less of a man from then on.
This song had hit hard for me. In 2016, I had a major surgery, lost my older sister to cancer, and my ex-wife left. I felt I had to be strong for my family even though I was mentally shutting down. I never allowed myself to be emotional. When I heard this song, I finally realized I wasn't alone. I broke down. Ugly cried broke down. Thanks, Dax, for showing all of us we deserve to be seen and heard!
Every single time I opened up and was vulnerable it was used against me. Every. Single. Time. That's what men learn. Nobody is telling us that we can't, but they are telling us through their actions that it is detrimental. I have found a group of men that I can talk to, and I use that support. But I don't think I will ever be able to open up to another woman that way. It's too painful.
Exactly. You think that maybe you'll be safe confiding in the one person that should be there for you at your lowest. We all know that's not what happens, they take that pain, twist it around and shove it back in.
This is what I'm dealing with
@@thefringeminorityreport4797 brother be vulnerable feel that shit & stay strong
THIS
A woman is not built to deal with the issues of a man. Other men can and will help u through shit.
Only a man will truly understand what its like...Stay strong fellas...Much love.
Ya she kinda had a bad representation of it
@@4gvnjonah208Don’t blame her for that. It’s just the way it is.
It's is a struggle being the provider the dad the husband all in one day
@@pascalramael5678 music like this don’t “make” you depressed 😂… I have control and it’s you with out it because Dax don’t make me sad lol grow up… 😂
@@4gvnjonah208 well grow a brain.... And a beard .... Because if you had a little bit of both you would realise that most people that listen to this music are depressed and feel sorry for themselves. If someone has a depression go get help from a professional and don't listen to music like this that only will make you feel depressed
This song 100% explains how we men really feel inside and how society expects us too be like, its too much for most of us.
100% Truth. This is completely how it is
My wife sent this video to me at work and ask me if this how most men really feel not knowing that's exactly how I feel everyday. The way DAX articulates the words of what literally every man can't put into words is amazing! One of my favorite artists now, thank u DAX!!!
Truth man.
The fact you have a wife that even considered this, and sent it to you, you really have a special woman, cherish her until the day you don't wake up.
@angryfarmergamer2124 thank u. I know i'm blessed and have a one of a kind wife.
the hardest part is taking our processing and talking to the woman in our life and opening up. its hard AF, but when you do its possible.
@@AmericanFarmerHVAC2024my best friend had a wife that putting through hell for 26 years and didn't even let him see his daughter for the past and then he found a woman who actually understood and he did just that until yesterday at his last breath. So yeah.. truth bro
Yes, we DO feel this way. This song literally made me cry
Same
But we all do it alone with the door locked. Lol.
We do feel this way, all behind closed doors or while others sleep.
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F'ing A right that video is like watching my life
I watched my husband cry many times. He feels peoples pain and it makes me admire his merciful heart... He had cancer and couldn't fully provide.. i just went and applied for food stamps and found help quietly so he didn't need to worry. I told him how proud i was to have such a great lover, father and husband.
He's wheelchair bound and struggles with chronic pain and we'll be married 40 years soon. He's a good man ... Growing in his faith and praying for the world's pain all the time
Not every man is harmed by women. All three of my daughters love him utterly ... Even when he cries.
Btw. One daughter buys her brothers Valentine's candy and a rose on Valentine's. She wants the guys to know they get love too. I think maybe that's what girls should do on Valentine's Day. Let it be love on all the men in their life..... Gratitude for good men day.
Wishful thinking
This song was released 8 days ago. You are the 1st solo female reactor to touch it.
Thank you.
Rosalie Reacts
@@anechointhedark I think Rosalie reacted to it before this one too right
In response to the feminist argument that "men have it easy ", this experiment has been done, the lady wrote a book called self-made man. I would urge people to check it out.
Its not about who hurt him. This is so much more than a song. Before hearing this song i didn't even know that anyone was capable of putting these feeling into words. As a man i know how this affected me and i cant even begin to imagine how many other men hear this song and are shaken. Simply because its so spot on
Have you heard the remix with multiple verses? Last verse hit me so hard like all my thoughts and feelings put into 3 lines blown away Dax bringing hope back to the male species haha
This song brings me to tears every time I hear it, because I’ve lived it. This song actually inspired me to seek help for my own mental health. I think it’s incredibly sad and pathetic how men’s mental health is treated. You only need to look at statistics, suicide rates for men is 3 times higher than that of women, and instead of asking if we’re ok, we’re told that we need to suck it up and stop being babies. Sadly that message has been said to men mostly by women. We’re told to be vulnerable and share our feelings and emotions, but when we do it ends up being weaponized and used against us. It needs to change.
@@pascalramael5678 obviously you’re perfect and have never been hurt or experienced the struggle that men have been through. Personally I find this song as a way of showing people that men’s mental health is important too. Just because it doesn’t mean anything to you doesn’t mean that it’s the same for others.
For ear too long men’s mental health has been overlooked and it’s about time people like Dax are shining a light on it!
Heard him first with "Alcohol"
Crushed me, like all the other songs, ain't no where to turn to, no one to talk to.
Like she say, this is vulnerable, that's not what we tryna be, we just need to"be accepted, respected
@@leeroy5665 And knowing that you're not alone.
Knowing that you're not the only one in the fight is sometimes all the help you need to make it through that dark night to the next day.
As I mentioned in a recent penning about being a loner, reading alone at a cafeteria table. I felt alone, and lonely because I thought I was the only one.
But there were always a multitude of us sitting at tables all around me (perhaps not in THAT cafeteria).
Unseen warriors in the fight.
So remember, you're not alone in whatever fight you go through.
Someone has your back, even if you never see their presence.
It's true. I'm getting a dog so I have someone who loves me and is excited to see me when I get home. Men need hugs too.
“No one cares, work harder” Is the societal message to men in general. And that sucks, but he’s right that being a guy is lonely. Great video by Dax, and great reaction as usual!
Your job is pushing you harder to do more, running your body into the ground, and god forbide you say something... all you get back is a list of bills and other things that need money...
100% accurate, i can't believe how hard this hit me. He's a voice for a large majority.
True silent majority.
Yes we men feel this way. It is the hardest time in all of history to be a man. I appreciate Dax for making this song and video. Saying with eloquence what so many men can not.
As a single father of 2 kids this song speaks all of my feelings much love to Dax and you
Single father of 4. Salute to you brother. Keep grinding. It'll be worth it in the end.
@mattyic3 @timothygarza1413 both of yall are legends! Keep up the hard work.
Single dad of 2! All about my kids. They are my drive and motivation.
Yes I needed this about to be a single dad of 3 trying to do 50/50 without courts I pray it goes well because as a kid who’s been through it. Therapy isn’t good enough.
It's amazing how many of us feel this way and hide it, then Dax comes along and has the balls the say it and gives us all hope. At the very least we know we aren't alone.
"... for what you provide in THAT home." Not YOUR home, that one. Hits hard.
As a 30 year old man who works a full time job and runs a business on the side with a son I cried my eyes out watching this! Thank you I needed this
Jesus loves you
@Hdhdjdudh-fv5jk uhm, EFF "jesus" ... we just need to regain the narrative and control over woke AF ideology. MEN - like WOMEN - are just as very much HUMAN BEINGS as anyone else. We should love ONE ANOTHER ... that certainly doesn't involve your fantasy fiction novel's protagonist. #ffs 🙄
I feel this more than words can say. As a vet with TBI and PTSD, divorced, existing under a problem for homeless vets. Yeah this hits hard.
Stay Strong and always believe and pray to God. He knows your heart best and he forgives us if we believe in him. This live is short but eternity with God is forever God bless you!
Thanks for ur service man
@@winxo1115 God has me and my HOG family is there when He feels distant! I praise God Every morning even if I question his answer of no. I guess that is what faith is about.
Thank you for your service first off. My son did a tour and cousin did 2 tours both to Afghanistan. Sorry for what you're going through
Stay motivated, Brother. AIR ASSAULT!!!
"Since we can't define what a women is" had me stay tuned for your opinion. I love your grounded mentality. We need more of you and DAX. Sub for sure, thank you so much. No one knows what some of us evil men struggle with. Same breath, women carry sooo much. My wife is an amazing woman and I don't know how I would live without her. When we marry we became one. A piece of each other, through good times and bad. If I lose her I will lose a part of me. That's how the heart breaks. It's how we were built, there isn't any changing in that. Thank you Shea. ❤❤
Thank you Joshua. Profound words for sure. You are lucky to have a good wife. and she is lucky as well. ❤️
You keep on with your words, opinions, and influence. You earned a new fan today. The world needs more of you. ❤️
I had no idea that men felt like this. I played this for my husband and then asked if he felt that way. I was floored when he said, "Yes, every single day." No one should be made to feel expendable, or like a commodity. Fantastic reaction, Carlie! But you never disappoint. 🎶🔥💖🙏🏼😎
Maybe you should take a look in the mirror then
@@ragingpirate5727she could be the best wife in the world. Most men will still feel this way deep down because of life. Doesn't mean it's always the wife's fault
@@Sleepy_Dorkyup, once you've been beaten down and shoved into a bottle by society no one person no matter how amazing can put you back together
you could be a fantastic wife and he will still feel the same. Your husband has the burden to carry your family through anything. He knows he will gladly give up his life protecting you and he wouldn't want it any other way. He knows he is the shield, he is holding back the world beating against the door of your home. The pain in men is the worry of failing our loved ones... it crushes our souls. So love your man, all we want is the love and respect from our women, walk with him in life and show him he has your support.
@@rickrouse7865 We had a long GREAT talk because of this song and I have a whole new perspective on his side of life. So when he's had a rough day at work, and he comes home and takes a few minutes just to sit in the truck and 'shake it off' I know to just give him time. If he's out there longer than about 15 mins I'll stick my head out and ask if everything is OK and when he says yeah, I say "O.K. come in when you're ready."
what everyone seems to forget is that we are not looking to change the way we live in the world, only the way we are treated. We are not seeking to be allow to cry more, we are not trying to pass off the role of protector, or provider. We care about being treated with respect and appreaction for what we do and the way we conduct ourself, that's it. The saddest part is that so many men live without even though it cost nothing to provide respect or appreaction.
THIS. EXACTLY THIS.
This. THIS.
Well said
I see a lot of women reacting to this song on youtube, and they still don't seem to get it. I think the fundamental disconnect is that they think that we're like them, that we're the same. But we're not. We're very different. I don't think they get it.
@mr.mayhem4054 That is a huge difference that not only women forget, but society as a whole forgets. Most men instinctively know that men and women think differently. Many women, on the other hand, expect everyone to inherently understand their world view and style of thinking. Not to say men are "smarter" or anything. We just know when we don't know, generally speaking.
I feel like this everyday. I try so hard to not show emotion it takes up alot of my energy.
This song is 💯% facts... and it hits in a way that i have to leave the room when it plays and people are around... cant get teary eyed in front of others
I love this song. It hits me so hard as a vet and single father. It brings tears to my eyes, can't listen to it in front of people. Dax is incredible. I love his work.
A friend of mine said to me, when he introduced me to this song, "Every man needs to see this music video!" And I cry EVERY TIME I watch it. Dozens of times & it still happens.
Why would this make a man cry ? Only times I cried were death of my dog, my grandmother, and when I was running late for mt wedding.
@@dssd31 "I only cried when Old Yeller died"
Somehow this makes you a big man?
Actually being proud of something like this is pretty much the definition of "Toxic masculinity".
Emotions are nothing to be afraid of.
@@dssd31I guess you’d have to be a man to understand.
Did you just accuse a brother of "toxic masculinity?" Wow. You pretty much look like the definition of SIMP right now. Let me guess, women should always be put on pedestals too, huh?
@@dssd31you're a woman aren't you?
This song is spot on. Thanks Dax
That’s exactly how we feel. Also, your instinctive response of who hurt you is one of the many reasons why we don’t express our emotions because they are Weaponized anytime we do. You can laugh it off as oh, just kidding, but that was your go to response and it’s the same as every other woman.
Exactly! In my opinion she took away every good thing she said by saying that at the end..her words could’ve been chosen better on that one.
this is true, women can listen to the song and try to understand but they will NEVER understand what it really means. a women in a men's shoes would commit suicide faster than most men already are.
“They don’t know Whatchu worth till the day that you die… and that’s when they start crying… then move on to a man to confide in.”
That should tell you everything you need to know… that one line has so much behind it
PREACH BRO they don't care when we're gone they'll find someone else but expect us to stay single if they go like da faq
That lyric REALLLY hit. My Grandpa was seen as a loser by his wife and daughters. . . the man basically BUILT half a major city in the US. When he died and MANY people came out of the wood works to grieve his loss they were shocked at his impact and that they NEVER respected him.
Had a similar situation that landed me in a psych ward after trying to keep it together for a decade after Iraq. . . men simply get NO respect and no one thinks about what we do until we are GONE.
@@aquaticaaficionado2004 Joyner and dax are artists that give us our flowers. If you want to listen to a woman speaking on OUR problems listen to romaarmy
He's singing for us men we feel it's every second of every day!
As the father of 2 boys, I've been trying to teach them that it's ok to acknowledge if they get hurt, physically or mentally, but to always get back up, and overcome. They are stronger than anyone thinks, and more resilient than they know. This goes for all of my children.
As a man and as a father of boys. This hits hard. I grew up being told not to show emotions but as I got older I didn't care and would show my emotions but I realized... no one cares. I raised my kids to know it's ok to cry, but at the same time prepared them that other than me, no one else will care. And you still need to be tough. I havnt seen my daughter in 7 months and I've honestly cried more In those month than I have the rest of my adult life. I'm in the hardest part of my life right now and I'm only here now for my kids. 😢
You need to put yourself first, dude. I know that that's a hard concept for a lot of men to grasp, but it will actually improve not only your life, but your relationships with those you care about. Well most of them anyway. You'll also find out which ones truly care about "you" and not just what you can "provide" them.
@BrickMudge it's been hard but I have started doing that. And I finally get my daughter every other weekend for now until we go to court and it has honestly helped me the most.
@@Slick242006 I have three grown sons, two of whom have two evil baby mama's who hold their children, three of my four grandchildren hostage. I guess I'll have to wait until they're adults and just hope that they reach out to us. But I'm not holding my breath. It's an evil world, especially if you're a father.
I’m so glad I can be my husband’s safe place, locking out the world in our home. We celebrate our 20th wedding anniversary on August 25, 2024. I love him unconditionally. We’ve been homeless together, we’ve battled issues big and small, we’ve lost grandparents and parents, even babies of our own. I was by his side after a serious motorcycle accident that left him unable to walk on his own for months. And seeing his struggle with PTSD after multiple combat deployments reinforced the knowledge that he was my person. It helps that we both have PTSD from different things, so I understand the triggers and the response. My heart hurts that our sons may never find their ONE. 💔
Love how you didn’t flip this into “well it’s harder to be a woman!!” because that’s not what he’s saying. Women definitely face a ton of struggles too but he’s just stating things that a lot of men feel and seeing a woman empathize with that was super refreshing. Great reaction!
Women live on easy mode bro
Exactly. Everyone has their struggles, and just because one person expresses that they're struggling doesn't give someone else free reign to go "But my life's worse".
I sit here weeping listening to this as a man! It’s so very true for us guys! I wish women would get us truly. This song hits home so much with us. So lonely……
Being a man ans taking care of a family is such a lonely life and only other men understand.
You understand more than most, but it’s so much deeper than you realize. Thankyou for being a voice for us.
This song is exactly how I felt until about 6 1/2 years ago when I met my wife. My previous marriage was hell and my ex wife made me feel like this. My current wife has never once missed a chance to tell me how much she loves and appreciates everything I do. She never puts me down and when she’s upset with me or something I did she always tells me in a calm tone. She is the reason I’m still alive on this earth.
Same story for me brother.
Great that it worked for you !
Congrats 👍
Happy for you 👍 🙂
Same
I am genuinely happy that their is a man who is getting love and appreciation and hopeful that there are woman capable of reciprocating the love and affirmation they expect.
Being in the military and having to push through everything all the time, like now being deployed and away from my children, family, and friends. You are still expected to stay strong for everyone and push through. It is definitely hard being a man. It’s not an everyday thing sometimes we do get a moment to breathe but then we have to get right back to it. Dax definitely provided a song we needed. ❤️
Im a vet and a husband with two kids. I cannot explain enough how true and honest Dax is with this song.
For a guy, there’s a time and a place to be vulnerable and it’s not usually at the same time everyone else can. He’s got to make sure his family makes it safely through the tough times before he can tend to his own wounds. But by then, everyone has moved on and it looks like he’s the one that’s clinging to the past because he sacrificed this grieving time to be strong for his family so they don’t disintegrate like many families do during and after a crisis.
This is exactly the truth.
Brother, you hit the nail on the head. My SO tends to express hurts and frustrations in incredibly hurtful and attacking ways, and I have to simply swallow the pain, screaming internally while showing unreciprocated unconditional love and support. If I try to share any emotions I might be feeling at the time, it's viewed as self-centered disregard. If I try to talk about it later, I'm just a jerk bottling everything up to "use it against them later". I've tried talking to them about it a few times, telling them I'm perfectly happy to set my feelings aside to support them if that's what they need... just let me know when a constructive time would be for me to talk about my feelings... The only response was to run in circles avoiding an answer. I'm left with but two options: 1) accept that my feelings, no matter how neutrally they're expressed, will always be met with vitriol, or 2) bottle everything up indefinitely.
I am a disabled veteran and this song is so very true. I can’t cry, feel pain, sadness, or any kind of weakness in front of my wife and kids. I always feel I have to be the strong one and stand tall . This comes from my grandparents who were ex military in WW2, father who served in Vietnam and the military. I hold so much inside and never share it and to be honest never will.
Your battles wage on inside you, brother. You're not fighting alone. Silent brothers fight beside you every day.
Show cracks in your armor you’re no longer a man
@jerimiahreece8507 absolutely true
You do have to be the strong one. Stay strong soldier. But before you hit rock bottom, reach out, we are all going through this as men. We all need to vent, process and figure things out with people that understand from time to time. Every man has a breaking point, only other men can understand, don't burden your wife, she can't handle it. Find someone to talk to even if you have to pay them like a councilor. Or just ask a buddy or a stranger to get things off your chest to process everything. You got this king
Thank you for your service
Thank you for your kind words. It's world wide, it feels like the more you give the harder it is. Just want to be loved unconditionallying.
I am that guy that got diagnosed with an incurable autoimmune disease. I went from doing great and opening my own construction company to being nearly crippled in 6 months. I died a little inside the day my fiance told me "you broke your promise to take care of me." It felt like nothing i had ever done for her had mattered. She ended up leaving. Yeah Shea unfortunately we feel that way because this song is life for many of us.
Woe, sorry that happened to you. Life is a struggle that only ends when we meet God. Jesus loves you man, and you are never alone.
Dude, I am sorry you were done dirty like that. She obviously didn't understand what "Through sickness and health" meant. Don't ever take her back when you get back up on your feet. I don't know if it will help, but Jordan Peterson had an autoimmune disease, and he went to the carnivore diet, and it helped him tremendously. I wish you health and happiness bro.
You deserve better!!!
Soldier on my brother. God will turn your sorrow into joy somehow.
I relate to everything he says in this song and live alone because of it.
As a child I was not allowed to express my feelings and emotions and as a adult I went through hell in two different marriages and the second one I was only seconds away from taking my life when the Lord stepped in and delivered me from it and then from the narcissistic relationship.
To this day I can not even express my feelings and emotions to anyone without being harshly judged for them by men and women alike and it has always been used against me to tear me down.
GODSPEED
I know this Pain to hold Back your Emotions, hugs to you 🫂
Being a single dad, also taking care of my chronically I'll mom after my dad died. This song speaks volumes to me. I feel weak showing emotions.
Turning 42 this year and I can say up untill the late 2000's this is how all men were raised. I was raised in the 80's and 90's where the line was " ARE YOU CRYING??? I'LL GIVE YOU SOMETHING TO CRY ABOUT."
I have only seen my Dad cry twice in my Life. Once when his Father and his Wife died one month apart due to cancer, and when his Mother passed away in 2019.
As a man, I wanna take the opportunity to say that in this song Dax breaks down word for word what it is like to be a man, we go through our life knowing that we are replaceable, knowing that our worth is measured by what we do, and when we can't do enough we hurt, but we can't show our hurt because we are relied on to be strong, we are not allowed to break even when we are broken, we have to keep it together, bottle it up, drink from another bottle of spirits, pack that shit down and move on, we are not loved unless we provide, and from the day we are born we are taught that our worth comes from what we can provide, I have been broken countless times, but every time I gotta keep my shit together, I can't stop because I have to keep going, and when I'm out of work I beat myself daily behind closed doors, just because at that point, I had lost my worth. And when he says about the unconditional love, and how when we find a woman we give our last name we feel the only reason they stay is for what we can provide, and honestly it's true, it feels like nobody cries for us until the day we are gone, and when we are gone it's too late to know it.
My Dad worked three jobs when my brother, sister, and I were young. Days, nights, and weekends. He kept this up until I went into the seventh grade. After that, he worked sixty hours at one job when he became the boss. I never saw him get emotional until I was in my forties and my Mom was diagnosed with cancer. It shocked me to see him get upset because, up until that day, he was a machine. I'm now in my sixties and my Mom has beat cancer but sadly my Dad has passed. Now I do the same. I rarely show how upset I am until the sh!t hits the fan. Circle of life, as Dax said. Hard work, success, and responsibility have always been my focus, and I'm unsure if I'll ever know any other way to live. "To Be A Man" hits hard and has me thinking about my father and his sacrifices. Great song that I hope many men get to hear and like me think about.
This comment hit me the hardest of all I've seen!
Dax F'ing nailed this! Not many people are willing to touch this subject, but I'm glad he did. Thanks, Dax! And thank you, Shea, for doing this video!
Shea you hit another one out of the park. Love Dax and love you! Keep doing what you doing.
"As a man our son is our horizon" That really hits man
As a solo father of 3, this song hits hard to my heart. I struggle EVERY DAY to make ends meet. Barely make $16K/year because of a car wreck some time back. Make too much for SNAP, no programs for MEN to help them pay the bills, no men's shelters I could have gone to when I needed them, no support at all.
Seeing some women out there struggling with ONE child, and getting $100K from GoFundMe, but as a man, be lucky to get a pat on the back or a simple thank you.
I feel you brother, you're not alone. I fought and struggled as a single father. I watched female friends get all this help while I had none. I was looked down upon by the courts and to this day she has never paid a dime in child support and my son just turned 21. My son and I where living in my car for a short time and no shelter would help us. I fought and struggled with no government help, worked 20 years as a welder, went to school during that time and now do IT work for one of the largest auto parts company in the country. You're a great father and you keep fighting that struggle brother. I see you. We all see you. And we will see you after the fact as well. Don't give in.
All of that is completely unacceptable and it's not right. You with 3 children making 16k a year are definitely well below the income guidelines for snap benefits. Apply online
@@brianjones2891 I am owed over $40K so far in support. Courts will do NOTHING. Seen men go to PRISON for oweing about $1500.
@@Rhondas_Flippin_Life Have applied. Nope, no TANF and SNAP for a male! The kids got medical coverage though, just not me.
Hey man, I hope you know that I am praying for you. Keep your head up
This song makes me cry every single time I hear it (I listen to it MANY MANY MANY times a day) and it's because it's exactly how I feel. I connect with every word in this song almost feels like he's reading my mind but in reality it's the the harsh truth of the world these days. We love you Dax. Keep speaking our truth!!
Much respect Shea. Any man that raises his son and doesn't teach him to control his emotions, doesn't love him. I understand why you think men should be able to be vulnerable but it's not acceptable for a man. Society will eat him alive. What men REALLY need is for women to understand why we must be strong, and then be on our side anyways. Men must NEVER cry in front of his woman. She WILL leave you soon after she sees through your armor.
True. Even when I was in an accident and broke my neck and became a paraplegic. I was staying strong with my girlfriend of 7 years until I was dealing with a never ending UTI and I finally broke down and couldn’t hold back some tears. The way my girlfriend reacted was almost unbelievable. She didn’t console me in any way. Just stood there next to me with a weird look on her face. Sad to say we didn’t make it more than 6 months after that. Women won’t be with a man that can’t be the strong on 24/7 ….
and this is what is wrong with society, and why men lead the statistics in suicide. this outdated shit needs to change, the world is hard enough, do not need to make it harder.
@darkwulf2k it isn't outdated it's innate, it's natural, like an infant knowing it needs to suckle. As men we need to understand this gender role rather than fight. That said, women should do the same.
Always been this way and it will always be this way. It's nature.
And a society of vulnerable men is doomed to failure
So many things to say about this song… too many real things. Thank you Dax for putting this out. Between him and NF, my emotions are everywhere
Thank you for this beautiful reaction ❤This song is so True🙏
There's not a lot that makes me cry, but I can't help but nearly break down when I hear this song. Men have always been expendable, but never more so than in our current society.
as a single father of 3 girls this song hits deep in my heart ,i have played it for my kids to help them understand the burdens a father carries in silence ,so when they get older they will help instead of expecting the man to provide everything
Perfect maybe one day we can fight the expectations that they want to leave us in and not think twice about but let everyone open their minds more then they are told to do from he she and them cause it's only what we provide and it really shouldnt be that way at all where is our females that grew up with us through rough times and know us even if you didn't grow with us don't get side tracked and grow with the real ones.. and don't be scared cause if them evil doers u know the evil doers that pull u aside and whisper in your ear "cause this guy did this and this and that" don't get side tracked ladies
I understand how you feel I'm single far of two girls and this song really hit home big time
Yes, can't stop crying cause this song is too real.
Coming from a father of 2 and a husband to a sick wife. I feel that with this song I can show what I'm feeling and not be judged. I just want to say thank you for this video.
Word for word. I'm not easily emotionally affected but this song had my hair stand up and my eyes watering for a sec. Bless Dax! 🙏
Absolutely hard hitting song I felt this song the moment I heard it and it hits me right in the feels everytime I hear it
This song hit me personally deeply. I lived this my entire life. My wife is my best friend but I still fight showing emotions due to my entire life having to shove them down.
Yes every man has went through these things .. crying behind closed doors then recollecting yourself real quick.. Yes everything this song talks about is what it's like to be a man .. We do it out of love and to know that we have to be the Strong Example .. I accept it as a role and to play my part as a man .. God Bless
Yes i accept my role as well but we shouldnt have too. thats the point. Us men should be looked at humans with emotions instead of a bank account.
Accept your wrong not every man goes through the crying behind closed doors and recollecting ourselves most of us simply don't cry at all like half the job of being a man is toughing it out during the day than when the time comes you break down in the middle of the night holding your breath never shedding a tear because no matter how hard you try neither your voice nor emotions will be noticed or heard
Thank you for speaking for us guys. Appreciate the kind words. Its hard out here. I cant even get any women to even talk to me.... its hard to not give up.
As a father the part with the little girl got me…. Been there and done that 💔 thank you for a great reaction
I didn't used to think like this. But 20 years and 3 failed attempts at love I know without a doubt this song is golden crystalized truth.
I wish I could teach my son to be vulnerable but this is how we survive. The ones that dont learn to suck it up kill themselves
Yes we feel like this -everyday it’s a challenge / war that no one knows about we just smile and do what we have got to do !!
It's about time an Artist really Speaks for The People. All Respect to Dax.
As a husband and father, I could not agree more with this song. We thank you for your support.
This song touches the deepest part of a man’s heart!!!
For the longest time I didn’t feel that I had any right to cry or ask for help. I looked around as I was growing up and saw the men at church who never wavered and were always able to help and be dependable and I felt that I should follow their way of life completely. This also included my father. They were men that I couldn’t follow closely enough when it came to knowing how to do different things(build stuff, take care of business, etc.) I was young and I understood the fact that I hadn’t reached my full potential, but learning what my dad did when he was younger than I was and what he went through to reach his level of success made me think about the fact that I was a failure that couldn’t match up. It wasn’t neglect that formed this mindset, instead it was my own mind that started to dig my grave. I lived in that hole for about 8 1/2 years, while I was desperately trying to show that I could be his equal and live up to the expectations that I made up in my own mind. Perfection is a level that no human can possibly reach and yet I tried using that as my marker. I did well in school and sports(my dad said I did better than even he did), but I just couldn’t see it that way and whatever I did was never good enough to myself. This lasted from 5th grade until my second year of college. I was never good enough and I was the only person who ever said it. Of course this lead to thoughts of suicide because I knew then and there that I would never be able to reach where I wanted to be. I found that everything that I did was pointless and would eventually lead to nothing when I was gone, so I stopped caring. I didn’t go to therapy and I didn’t ask for help. I didn’t feel I deserved to cry even whilst I was alone because it was a waste on someone like me. After coming back from college after playing college ball for the first 2 years, I left the team. This brought me to my breaking point because that’s never the way anyone would want to leave a sport that they loved to play before. It got to the point where I stopped showing any emotions at all cause why would it matter what I did or showed? The point where my parents really started making me consider therapy was when my grandparents died(2 of them, 1 in each side of the family). I went to both caskets and didn’t show much as show a grimace, however, I didn’t realize this was my reaction. I was sad that they were gone, but couldn’t allow a failure like myself to express anything at the time. After I started going to therapy, I finally told someone what I’ve been doing to myself. It was also the first time in years where I shed a few tears. It felt like a weight was slowly getting lifted off me as I continued to go. I started joking around with my folks more and telling them what I thought. I’m much better than I was before and the only people who I have to thank for that are my parents. If you are feeling the same way, just know you aren’t alone and you are not a failure. You may fail many times and some may seem like the biggest screwups of your life, but just know that these small failures in life can lead you where you want to go. You just have to keep trying. If you read this, I hope you have a good day.
This song definitely made me cry. And I haven't cried for years, just holding everything back not letting any emotion show. This hit really deep
It’s crazy how I melted seeing how you reacted In such a compassionate way to this video….thats literally the kind of compassion I would like for my wife to display….im not hiding from my responsibilities….i go to war every single day…but at least some compassion shown would make me feel a little better….shes just cold…I’m literally just supporting her public image.
And as a man when you hear this song it hits deep because it's absolutely true. This was the first song I heard from Dax a few days ago or even heard of Dax and now a huge fan!
This song definitely has helped many guys and myself kinda let our emotions let go and let it be okay to show emotions more than ever.
Honestly, this song hits home for me, alot.
I listen to his music 24/7 because of how relatable it is. Aside from this one the other two i can TRULY relate to is: "Joker's return" and "Depression" because of these specific lines: "Everyone's an expert on everything except themselves" and " I took the cards they delt and theres nothing I can change so when I'm by myself, i just pray for brighter days" relatable %100
100% this hit hard!! Especially being an over the road trucker being gone for months at a time!
Can't argue with his take. It is tough being a bloke and expected to be almost an emotional statue with no thought to 'our' needs. 52 years old and blessed with 3 girls who don't freak when I cry (I do alot !) Men and women are different, but we are emotionally the same. Just some takes on that are given more providence and attention.
Sir i just want you to know that i appreciate you sir. I know we haven't met but i can tell you are a great father to your daughters. My father of late i have realised is my hero too. I sometimes feel like he lives his life for me. My sister and mom have never considered his pain and struggles. I wouldn't be here without my dad. As a young adult, I'm really struggling to find purpose and reason. I struggle with so many demons including severe depressive disorder and anxiety. And my dad in his 60s tells me not to worry. Because he'll always take care of me. My mother doesn't even know the man i am. The conflicts that exist in my heart are conflicts I'm not sure i can ever resolve. As a son, i just wanted you to know, you're a good man. A good father.
@@surreshguhan6033 Sir if you need to talk or just sound off then please contact me. No judgement. Alot of being a "man" is dealing with the shadow of your father and your heritage. But don't let it define you. Again, reach out if you need to talk. Love to you all.
I think you understand Dax's take.. but you are very lucky and privileged to be raised to show emotion. MANY men grew up with their dad showing no real emotion around his family and lived to provide. Dads that worked over time every waking moment to put food on the table. This song broke me when I first heard it. I recognize my dad's shortcomings and I proactively try every day to not make the same mistakes as him with my kids in this regard, but those qualities still come up often because it's inherited from my upbringing. I envy you!
@@bankruptsee Thank you sir. I agree with your take and, to clarify, my Dad was violent, abusive and a drunk. Ironically I learnt what NOT to do as a Father! Guess it can work both ways. Thank you for the comment and be a man forever. Whatever that even means! :)
I did this. I tried to open up about my feelings and struggles to my wife, and i can tell you she used it as one of the many reasons to end our 4 years marriage. I dont blame her, at the time, I couldn't provide for my family the way I should have. Today things are better for me, I wish she had stayed a little bit longer, but its fine, life goes on. I honestly believe dax is so spot on in this song!
I feel you bro. My ex-wife did the same thing against me when I showed vulnerability and expressed my feelings. 24 years gone.
Hang in there man. I’m going through this now, where opening up is extremely one-sided and accountability is sparse. It leaves you stuck with your feelings and they just bottle up inside you. I’m praying God brings you comfort and surrounds you by other men you can confide in.
I feel you. I made the same mistake too. Women are not to be confied in. We need each other.
Don't let anybody persuade you otherwise, but a wife should stay with her husband when things get hard and he is trying to make ends meet and finding a stable long term solution. It takes years to gain stability which is why only spoiled victimhood females leave.
I appreciate this opportunity to listen to this song. Then the way you did the brake down this song made me cry. Thanks lesson learnt
Thank You for your considerate commentary and empathy. All I will say is "been there done that".
Dax definitely did speak the truth... That how it feels to be a guy in society now days. I appreciate the sentiment of this song. Thank you for reacting to this song and Dax, if you see this... Thank you for making this song
Every time I hear this song, as hard as I fight, I can't hold back the tears...Dax is the greatest
I start fighting the tears on the first line. The first time I heard this song I had to call my best friend and suicide buddy. I could barely breath. I have never really cried before like I did that night. Our suicide pact is to not talk each other out of it, but to not go out alone. That is because no one understand what a man goes through but another good man. And we all know that most days we just wish it would end, but we are men and have to much responsibilities. This song proves that point so much....we all think we are alone, but all men feel the same way. It a good thing we run this country, so we dont have to feel like this right.
@brianjones2891 been there dude...but glad i never ended it...ĵust finding one thing to be grateful for every day helped me...still get those thoughts tho, but have more control of them these days...i am strong, you are strong, we are all strong...thats a good thing to be grateful...or be grateful for your emotions because thats whats brought you this far...but be sincere and love yourself for it...take care
I feel this so much. I kept all pains in until I almost gave up a few months ago. Luckily I caught myself and got help before reaching that point. That really opened my families eyes to my struggles and a lot of it has gotten so much better. My feelings are valued more now. Open up guys we deserve to vent to. Don’t wait till it’s too late
As a man, there is no time to cry. When you do, you lose that respect, and depression starts to kick in. At least that's how it feels to be a man. I lost a lot of brothers this way. Ps his alcohol song helps me cope with being sober every day. His songs hit the heart.
This is actually my first time ever hearing Dax. And this song hit me deep. 😢 such an amazing song and great vocals
Check out dear alcohol by Dax. If he doesn't sum up why so many people drink. It didn't make me quit. But I seriously cut back drinking alone.
I don’t cry at all but when I heard this song every emotion in my body come out all at the same time and I didn’t know what was going on with me it’s one of the only times I got to see my softer side of me that I didn’t know I had . Thank you Dax cuz it is hard to be a Good man
This song really hits me lately. It's my new anthem. Dax is definitely a fellow struggling man to just know. You are a goat for this song brother.