I am the second born. My older brother struggled in life. I often thought, that he struggled because he had inherited every bad genetic trait of generations of our maternal and paternal lineage. I began to think that mother nature dumped all of these unfortunate traits in him, because she didn't know if there would be a second born, and therefore, felt my older brother might represent her only option! Then I came along. As I progressed, I began to feel, that his presence before me, cleaned out all the problems with the gene pool, before I was consummated. He's gone now, and had a very unfortunate, and very sad life. I, on the other hand, was born free of the alcoholism, smoking, and learning problems he suffered with. I lived through a war (Vietnam), got my college degree, helped my mother till her death, and have been the unworthy recipient of many of God's blessings, while living a life free from the negative experiences he encountered. I look back, and wish I had been more understanding...........
I know first born who are hardworking, served in families, who did their best academically,, who showed discipline but still had challenges. In so many homes first born set the standard for work ethics in families. Challenges truly exist for firstborns
The first child of our family exhibited all of these that you've highlighted. He was the smartest of the family but achieved barely nothing. Thank God he's doing well now.
The distractions for first born can be challenging.Thank God i did not give up over my Son.With prayer and so many fights to put him on the right path of life,he is now a successful photographer after his university education.All glory to God Almighty.A lot of parents give up and regrets in their old age.
Let the Mercy of the Lord thunder over all first borns and reversed any negativity, bondages, repeated , battles ,cycles, ordinances over our lives , Abba show us your manifold Mercy,
"the first born son has the excellency of his father's strength, the improvement of his ability, the embodiment of the hope and the future of the family. Therefore if the devil can distract, divert, demoralise, delay, deform and destroy the first born, he can hinder the future of that lineage"... Dr Apoki
Dr apoki was my childhood doctor. His very good with what he does. I could vividly remember how he took care of me, when I was down with malaria and typhoid fever.
Dr Apoki, thank you for this timely message. You spoke it all to me , I am a 1st born and 34yrs old now. I am getting married and will be more careful in chosing a wife with the guidance I got from this broadcast . I like the things of God, a born humanitarian and have had a good up bringing from my parents and my Mom in particular... Joining from Cameroon
I am the first born of my parents; we call the first born "Curad". As long as I remember, I was being the only child who has most responsibilities of the family. My family was nomadic pastoralist. I grew up that environment and I used to be goats and sheep herder. When second, third, and fourth children grow up up to teens, I migrated to a urban. I started a new journey of education. I have struggled a lot; everybody, who have experienced studying in an envoronmemt where your parents are not, knows the awaiting challenges. With the help of God, I graduated and got job. Still, my family depends on me; specially economically. I feel like I have not gone under similar chilhood that my same age children those were not first borns gone. I feel like I was on duty since I can remember! It has negatives and positives both.
In everything that has been said. I can testify that it is all true. Being a first born child, I know of my potentials and this video has reflected my greatest weaknesses. It is through God and being with God that can help a firstborn child realise his potential and maximise it. Thanks for the message and may God bless you.
Thefirst born daughters too go through a lot but I can tell you this from experience that it is very verybimportantbto dedicate and re-educate your life as a first born daughter or son. The mantle of leadership is naturally and divinely entrusted to them.Parents please dedicate your first children first daughter and first son. It is very very important. May we overcome this scourge in the Mighty and matchless name of Jesus. Amen.
Hi Dr Apoki, I have just discovered you and this is the second video I watched. I have listened many preachers but this one is far one of the best I met. I am a first born and I found myself in your talks with so many challenges that appear in my life. Thanks for these insights.
I had the most challengess ever I went so bad I can only go good. God taken over my life 2013 now I have businesses and god told me to give inheritance to my 5 kids and 25 grandchildren. It’s all complete. When I was giving them inheritance in my head I could hear cheering as a crowd. My whole linkage is sorted 200 years worth I’m 32 33 this month. All praises to god no other way.
I am hear always, and this is changing my life for good. Thank you so much for this priceless mentorship, Papa. God grant you long life, Dr Charles Apoki, the great man of our time.
Thank you sir, almost everything you have mentioned is true about the first borns, also first borns carrys the burdens of parents and younger siblings especially financially someone from poor family can relate , life hits me so hard on both sides. Its a real burden being a firstborn
This is nothing but the truth I have seen it over and over, although am a firstborn without any of these challenges, listening to this video, I was wondering, boy, how did you escape all of these? Because am more like the opposite of all mentioned to the glory of God right from growing up the mentality has been on a super speed, did some small small stupidity, I by myself adviced myself against those things, till tomorrow parents didnt know.😊
Strange enough, I can relate with this. I am not the first and the last son. But our first son should rather be the last born and the last born first. He’s 56. We have been praying, binding and loosing for 30years that I could remember very well
I have known this a long time and I am a strict mother to my first born who is a female child. My hubby complains but I know there's no time for pampering because she was taken away from me by her dad since she was 1, I know I will be victorious and she will turn out well
Balance is better; you have to be very strict when needed and very loving when needed. If you go overboard, you will lose her. How do I know? I'm a first born daughter.
Sir i laughed when you said Government college "destupidnize" your brain and it was a nightmare to you 😂😂😂😂 Thank God for the impact. We have learnt a lot. God bless you sir.
I was moved to tears after seeing this, as most traits are well observed on me. This is a public space, but I honestly need personal mentorship. I've been part of the mentorship group for a while now. And I don't know if that would be okay. I just need more for me to change this rollercoaster. Please help, I'm tired of it
It depends on the family you came out from. The solution is serious prayer, after salvation and close relationship with God. A trusted and anointed man of God can help break demonic ties and yokes.
It is nuanced. Sometimes firstborns have to be the father to the other children especially in a dysfunctional family. You spend your life taking care of others so much so that your own life is on pause. Talk about that too because our reality as first born children 8s nuanced.
What he said is cool, I’m a first born even with challenges it makes us more stronger and I attack whatever I sees as suspect. Maybe world of those days but this current generation everybody dey para
I beg to differ. Our parents put the burdens on us. In my life since 8yrs of age, I've had to hold my family and incur adult responsibilities at a very early age. Including caring for my sibling, whom my mother GOVERNS with all his foolishness. He's her love child. So I wholeheartedly disagree.
I beg to disagree with you respectfully. I am a firstborn, I am 40yr not married, graduated d university years before my younger brother… he lived with me while I trained him in school. He got married almost immediately he finished serves NYSC. Today he is married with children while I am still single and shouldering the responsibilities of the entire family all alone. May God Almighty delivers us firstborn from every attacks of the enemy, Amen
It appears to me that all of these diagnostics can be expressed solely as a function of childhood traumas (which can be caused by inexperience of parents, but most likely to be transferred trauma). Most importantly, any solution for helping these people who are in a tough position appears to address the trauma (directly or indirectly).
My son is doing well academically,he represents his school during his primary and his present secondary, but he has an anger issue. He is the only son and the last child he is in a boarding school here in Lagos. Anytime I go for visitation, parents and teachers are always waiting for me to tell me my child did this or that to his classmates As a Christian family, there is no day the father, and I do not preach to them to be of good behaviour.
Dr Apoki thank you so much for the wisdom you are delivering to this generation may God bless you and keep you well for this wicked generation, my question is who matters most between the male and female firstborn because the Bible emphasizes about the first born son thank you. am from Zambia
You are very right sir all you said is going on with my first daughter , she does everything about her future half half way , she never give me a listening ear , her Christian life is over religious same pattern of life since she left secondary school, no new idea , church church January to December 😢😢😢😢😢 .
I am the second born. My older brother struggled in life. I often thought, that he struggled because he had inherited every bad genetic trait of generations of our maternal and paternal lineage. I began to think that mother nature dumped all of these unfortunate traits in him, because she didn't know if there would be a second born, and therefore, felt my older brother might represent her only option! Then I came along. As I progressed, I began to feel, that his presence before me, cleaned out all the problems with the gene pool, before I was consummated. He's gone now, and had a very unfortunate, and very sad life. I, on the other hand, was born free of the alcoholism, smoking, and learning problems he suffered with. I lived through a war (Vietnam), got my college degree, helped my mother till her death, and have been the unworthy recipient of many of God's blessings, while living a life free from the negative experiences he encountered. I look back, and wish I had been more understanding...........
Single mother?
God bless you
God bless you
This is a wrong thinking
I know first born who are hardworking, served in families, who did their best academically,, who showed discipline but still had challenges.
In so many homes first born set the standard for work ethics in families.
Challenges truly exist for firstborns
The first child of our family exhibited all of these that you've highlighted. He was the smartest of the family but achieved barely nothing. Thank God he's doing well now.
The distractions for first born can be challenging.Thank God i did not give up over my Son.With prayer and so many fights to put him on the right path of life,he is now a successful photographer after his university education.All glory to God Almighty.A lot of parents give up and regrets in their old age.
Let the Mercy of the Lord thunder over all first borns and reversed any negativity, bondages, repeated , battles ,cycles, ordinances over our lives , Abba show us your manifold Mercy,
"the first born son has the excellency of his father's strength, the improvement of his ability, the embodiment of the hope and the future of the family. Therefore if the devil can distract, divert, demoralise, delay, deform and destroy the first born, he can hinder the future of that lineage"... Dr Apoki
Im a first born and almost everything you said was true, im trying to help myself. its a little late but better late than never.
@ServingSoul for sure. ty
Is never too late so far you still have breath. The Lord will see you through❤❤❤
I'm really blessed by your teaching sir. God bless you sir
Dr apoki was my childhood doctor. His very good with what he does. I could vividly remember how he took care of me, when I was down with malaria and typhoid fever.
Wow! Glory to God.
Everything we do either way speak up. God bless Dr Apoki.
Dr Apoki, thank you for this timely message. You spoke it all to me , I am a 1st born and 34yrs old now. I am getting married and will be more careful in chosing a wife with the guidance I got from this broadcast . I like the things of God, a born humanitarian and have had a good up bringing from my parents and my Mom in particular...
Joining from Cameroon
All the best
Your Humor is the icing on the cake, and moreover a blessing
Instead of following a wizkid and I’m not referring to the singer follow those ahead - Dr Charles always has something sensible for you.
I am the first born of my parents; we call the first born "Curad". As long as I remember, I was being the only child who has most responsibilities of the family.
My family was nomadic pastoralist. I grew up that environment and I used to be goats and sheep herder. When second, third, and fourth children grow up up to teens, I migrated to a urban. I started a new journey of education. I have struggled a lot; everybody, who have experienced studying in an envoronmemt where your parents are not, knows the awaiting challenges.
With the help of God, I graduated and got job. Still, my family depends on me; specially economically.
I feel like I have not gone under similar chilhood that my same age children those were not first borns gone. I feel like I was on duty since I can remember!
It has negatives and positives both.
Yes Doctor, discipline them very well. Don't let them be free range, put them in secured place until they know truth of life.
This man has helped me to put together and confirm many missing pieces in my existence. Ty 🤔🤔🙏🙏 '' From 'VQJ, Boston USA.
In everything that has been said. I can testify that it is all true. Being a first born child, I know of my potentials and this video has reflected my greatest weaknesses. It is through God and being with God that can help a firstborn child realise his potential and maximise it. Thanks for the message and may God bless you.
Thefirst born daughters too go through a lot but I can tell you this from experience that it is very verybimportantbto dedicate and re-educate your life as a first born daughter or son. The mantle of leadership is naturally and divinely entrusted to them.Parents please dedicate your first children first daughter and first son. It is very very important. May we overcome this scourge in the Mighty and matchless name of Jesus. Amen.
Wow ! Government College Doctor. I would never forget Okemesi Grammar School Okemesi Ekiti too. Thank you Doctor.
Thank you so much sir, this is a very timely message. I’m a first daughter, all what you have said are resonated with me 😢
Hi Dr Apoki, I have just discovered you and this is the second video I watched. I have listened many preachers but this one is far one of the best I met. I am a first born and I found myself in your talks with so many challenges that appear in my life. Thanks for these insights.
You will overcome. His grace is sufficient for you.
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Exactly, it must stop. Thank you Doctor Apoki.
Great message!!! Timely sir. God help us
I had the most challengess ever I went so bad I can only go good. God taken over my life 2013 now I have businesses and god told me to give inheritance to my 5 kids and 25 grandchildren. It’s all complete. When I was giving them inheritance in my head I could hear cheering as a crowd. My whole linkage is sorted 200 years worth I’m 32 33 this month. All praises to god no other way.
Do you mean you saw yourself in a vision giving them inheritance?
@@chiomaumunna4832 no I did it already all physically they are all sorted months ago
God bless you sir, I'm a firstborn, thank Gid for the hard life my parents gave me. The fear of God is the beginning of wisdom.
Waooo , Dr you are very correct more grace sir , but you made me laugh at the end by saying PG madman
I am hear always, and this is changing my life for good. Thank you so much for this priceless mentorship, Papa. God grant you long life, Dr Charles Apoki, the great man of our time.
Amen.
Am blessed by this message. First son challenges is a big puzzle I don't understand
A big thank you Dr Apoki .
Your words are truly inspiring fulfilling Isa 50:4
Hilarious yet, insightful Papa😂. Always a pleasure Sir.
This is very educative. It will help a lot in training up our children, not only the first borns. Thank you.
Thanks for these revelations. Martha Chokoe from South Africa.
Thank you very much Dr Apoki for this message. It's always a plus listening to you all the way from Cameroon. May the Almighty God bless and keep you.
Amen.
Thank you sir, almost everything you have mentioned is true about the first borns, also first borns carrys the burdens of parents and younger siblings especially financially someone from poor family can relate , life hits me so hard on both sides. Its a real burden being a firstborn
This is nothing but the truth I have seen it over and over, although am a firstborn without any of these challenges, listening to this video, I was wondering, boy, how did you escape all of these? Because am more like the opposite of all mentioned to the glory of God right from growing up the mentality has been on a super speed, did some small small stupidity, I by myself adviced myself against those things, till tomorrow parents didnt know.😊
You are a child of Grace.
This is me... Glory be to God...
This is the best message of the year. ❤❤❤❤ thank you, Dr. Charles.
I'm so blessed sir, this is a big eye opener
God bless you for this video Dr Apoki. I can relate to what you are saying.
I'm so glad!
Many thanks for this wonderful expository message. God bless this ministry.
VERY SOUND! Thank you, Dr. A.
I agree with you Doctor. You are my favorite, I relate to some of the traits in you and people fail to understand me. Im proud of Dr.
Thanks for the costly wisdom
Our pleasure!
Very true! Watching from Zambia.
Strange enough, I can relate with this. I am not the first and the last son. But our first son should rather be the last born and the last born first. He’s 56. We have been praying, binding and loosing for 30years that I could remember very well
😂
I have known this a long time and I am a strict mother to my first born who is a female child. My hubby complains but I know there's no time for pampering because she was taken away from me by her dad since she was 1, I know I will be victorious and she will turn out well
Balance is better; you have to be very strict when needed and very loving when needed. If you go overboard, you will lose her.
How do I know? I'm a first born daughter.
Dr.Apoki is just so funny 🤣.I like him regardless
So much to learn, God bless you Dr
Thank you sir.
This is so helpful sir
😊😊😊 powerful
You are an unlimited wellspring of wisdom and knowledge, with a sprinkle of comedy! Thank you!
You are so welcome
Wowww ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you Sir for this message.
Great wisdom
Thank you Dr this means so much to me .Thank you for sharing sir God bless you sir 🙏. Amen.
Amen.
Thank you for this wisdom
You are so welcome
Thank you Dr Charles....this is Soo insightful....
You are very welcome
God bless you more sir.
Great video, thanks. All you said is true.
Sir i laughed when you said Government college "destupidnize" your brain and it was a nightmare to you 😂😂😂😂
Thank God for the impact.
We have learnt a lot.
God bless you sir.
THANKS FOR THIS LESSON
You are welcome!
I will keep my son in touch with you! Thank you
Noted.
Am first born but am alpha male am very strong and very smart
Amazing Sir, Welldone
Thank you so much.
I have been questions things about my life and this answered all.
🙏🙏🙏🙏 I am a first born.Thank you for strengthening my armoury.
I was moved to tears after seeing this, as most traits are well observed on me.
This is a public space, but I honestly need personal mentorship.
I've been part of the mentorship group for a while now. And I don't know if that would be okay.
I just need more for me to change this rollercoaster.
Please help, I'm tired of it
It depends on the family you came out from. The solution is serious prayer, after salvation and close relationship with God. A trusted and anointed man of God can help break demonic ties and yokes.
It is nuanced.
Sometimes firstborns have to be the father to the other children especially in a dysfunctional family. You spend your life taking care of others so much so that your own life is on pause. Talk about that too because our reality as first born children 8s nuanced.
Wow. Great great. Migwo
God bless you too sir.
A wisdom speaking! More grace Sir🙏
Thank you, Doctor.🎉
What he said is cool, I’m a first born even with challenges it makes us more stronger and I attack whatever I sees as suspect. Maybe world of those days but this current generation everybody dey para
Thanks Mentor
Powerful
I knew you from CPM Ojike lane. This message is from God and timely.
God bless you.
This information is eye opening
This is very insightful
Thank you for this video Sir
Everything you said, sir, has happened to me, and I am finding my way right now in a foreign country.
May God give the grace. He will see you through.
Hahahahaha, Dr ....so hilarious butstill making lots of semce
Sir, i wish that this message should not stop here, it should be coming up from time to time.
Thank you sir, I love you !
Woow you have come to makeni? In Sierra Leone right ❤we will invite you to makeni
You're epitome of saviour
thanks you sir
Mindset of Victor, not of Victim. Amen.
Ure truly our friend
75% of original inventors are forced born😂😂😂😂😂❤😊
Are u sure...being inventors does not mean they did not fail
@@crimeandcontroversy9042 They did not because the inventions are walking
The first born often times are spoiled because they were the first child!
That's the root of the problem; entitlement mentality
This is false
I beg to differ. Our parents put the burdens on us. In my life since 8yrs of age, I've had to hold my family and incur adult responsibilities at a very early age. Including caring for my sibling, whom my mother GOVERNS with all his foolishness. He's her love child. So I wholeheartedly disagree.
I beg to disagree with you respectfully.
I am a firstborn, I am 40yr not married, graduated d university years before my younger brother… he lived with me while I trained him in school. He got married almost immediately he finished serves NYSC. Today he is married with children while I am still single and shouldering the responsibilities of the entire family all alone.
May God Almighty delivers us firstborn from every attacks of the enemy, Amen
@@bokhian007Amen.
But you can't continue like this o..
Solutions 22:33
Thank you sir
It appears to me that all of these diagnostics can be expressed solely as a function of childhood traumas (which can be caused by inexperience of parents, but most likely to be transferred trauma). Most importantly, any solution for helping these people who are in a tough position appears to address the trauma (directly or indirectly).
This have a similar stand on this subject matter.
My son is doing well academically,he represents his school during his primary and his present secondary, but he has an anger issue.
He is the only son and the last child he is in a boarding school here in Lagos. Anytime I go for visitation, parents and teachers are always waiting for me to tell me my child did this or that to his classmates
As a Christian family, there is no day the father, and I do not preach to them to be of good behaviour.
😂😂😂PG mad man!
Thank u so much sir ❤❤
Dr Apoki thank you so much for the wisdom you are delivering to this generation may God bless you and keep you well for this wicked generation, my question is who matters most between the male and female firstborn because the Bible emphasizes about the first born son thank you. am from Zambia
Thank you Dr Apoki
You are very right sir all you said is going on with my first daughter , she does everything about her future half half way , she never give me a listening ear , her Christian life is over religious same pattern of life since she left secondary school, no new idea , church church January to December 😢😢😢😢😢 .
Thank you dear brother.Can somebody be sent to or can i see you.Thank you
Dr thank you
do a video for last borns