I was told with IUI it was an 18% chance. Like you I felt like it was so low I shouldn’t try. We got pregnant our first try with our son. Remember science only goes so far and then a miracle comes ❤️
So your god performs a miracle after you fail on your own, and science offers a solution... that’s when god performs his miracle. Sigh. Gullibility (faith) is not a virtue and teaching this nonsense will literally stunt your child’s cognitive abilities. Love him more than you fear the unknown/ uncomfortable.
Wow. How heartbreaking that IVF is so expensive in America. Everything there is about money. Even having a baby. I live in France and IVF and fertility treatments here are basically Free. It is covered by the National healthcare system.
My husband and I have been on the fertility journey for the past 7 years. I too had similar results and my husband did not want to go the ivf route, so we completed three rounds of iui with no success. What we know now I wish we would have saved the money and went straight to ivf. You have to do what is best emotionally and financially for your family. Stay positive!
@Chastin Siegel I definitely had times to give up but I know in my heart my husband and I will be blessed with a precious baby one day. As you will too! I completed our first round of ivf and it resulted in an ectopic pregnancy. It was devastating but I also had to think I finally got pregnant. It gives me hope it will happen again and be successful!
I’m 29 turning 30 in a month. Currently pregnant with my first. Me and my husband tried to get pregnant for 15 months before we conceive, with me ovulating every month. Our OB/GYN didn’t want us to go to fertility specialist he said that if we went another six months without getting pregnant they would consider it. Fertility is a huge business trust your gut always get a second opinion. (I also work in healthcare) don’t lose hope I know how disappointing and disheartening trying for a baby can be. I’m thoughts and prayers are with you and your husband!🙏
We went through a lot of the same issues. My husband was fine but I wasn’t. I was ovulating but nothing... I did the HSG test my right tube was completely blocked and they couldn’t push any die through. The doctor actually said he wanted to stop because he didn’t think he should continue trying to push more through. I also took clomid and nothing... We saw a fertility doctor and the first thing they said to us was you’ll have higher chances of getting pregnant if you do IVF. I told them I didn’t want to go down that road. So I made peace with the fact that my son wouldn’t have a sibling and starting focusing on my health, taking supplements, my family, and my faith. After six months I was pregnant. I fully believe my baby girl was a miracle because my chances of getting pregnant was cut in half because of my right side. It took us over 3yrs before I got pregnant. It was a long, hard, sad, and isolating journey but I’m so thankful for my baby girl and to be able to give my son a sibling brings me so much joy. Prayers and well wishes
I think I would trust your OB. He sounds like he knows you and is comforting. The fertility specialist sounds like she may be trying to scare you. I would reach out to a second clinic before you spend any money, even just for piece of mind.
The sales pitch was my first gut instinct as well before you even said that I was thinking that! Especially because you just got pregnant. Levels change every month like you said, take those supplements, bring your numbers to a new clinic and see what they say. That’s what I would do. You WILL get pregnant girl, just know that. ❤️
I truly wish you the best. Do not underestimate stress. I struggled with infertility for two years in a stressful job. I changed to another job with less stress and was pregnant in 2 months. Please take care of yourself!
I have had 3 kids, 2 of those dealing with preeclampsia, 2 miscarriages 1 of those in my 2nd trimester and now at age 43 I’m pregnant again, so don’t give up hope. Good luck 🍀
I think it's super smart to get a second opinion especially since you both got the feeling that the treatment was a sales pitch. This is such a delicate treatment that you need to be completely sure about it.
It has been such a stressful year!!! I love your positivity and excitement! We got pregnant with our first IUI. It can be done! State of mind definitely plays a big role! You got this mama!! I wish we would have tried naturally for longer. Because we got pregnant naturally after our IUI. Go with your gut feeling❤️❤️❤️
So brave of you to share. Thanks for sharing. I have had a detailed discussion on having another child with my obgyn back in feb for my year visit. It is a miracle I had my boy who is almost 2 and a half. No lore kids for us because it would possibly kill me going through another pregnancy. I am lucky I went through this one and was ok.
Take the advice from both doctors at surface level and do not stress the numbers. I struggled for nearly 3 years to conceive. My OB kept telling me I was fine so I sought out a fertility doctor who also said I had “unexplained infertility”. It was so frustrating but after all testing I decided to jump into IVF at 34yrs old, best thing I ever did. I had my daughter last year and now 20 weeks pregnant with my son. IVF is a hard choice and not for everyone but now I’ll have my 2nd baby before my 36th birthday. Give yourself a timeframe with supplements and do the best u can to stay positive and focused ❤️❤️❤️ wishing you all the best and please keep us updated on ur journey! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
I would honestly try clomid. I too had a miscarriage and for 6 months we tried and nothing happened. I too was ovulating every single month, but I expressed my concerns to my obgyn and she had me do a blood test to determine how strong my ovulation was and although I ovulated it wasn't as strong as she wanted to see. I was put on clomid and the first month it worked and we welcomed our baby girl this past November. Clomid is not just for those who don't ovulate.
This! I would get a second opinion and see if they'll let you try a few rounds of Clomid or maybe Femara. My baby is an injectable IUI baby (I don't ovulate and didn't respond to either Clomid or Femara), and while it wasn't as hard work as IVF, it still was no picnic. I was injecting myself nightly and going in for ultrasounds every other day for almost two weeks. Plus, as you probably already know, the chance of multiples is high with Clomid and Femara, but nowhere near as high as on injectables. Depending on what the second opinion says, I wouldn't wait too much longer/do too many cycles of Clomid/Femara before moving on, but it's worth a few tries, at least. Also, FWIW, when I was in the fertility trenches I always heard "an OB/GYN is an expert in pregnancy, *not* in getting people pregnant." So I wouldn't necessarily take your OB's opinion as final.
Stress is a major factor! When I was trying to get pregnant with my second son, my dad had cancer. It was very stressful seeing him go through that. After he passed away, I got pregnant. I tried for 6 months which is not too long but it felt like forever to me at that time. The stress from seeing my dad go through cancer did not allow me to conceive but I know it’s hard to not stress.
I had to do 2 rounds of IVF and now im pregnant with my rainbow 🌈 baby. I had similar issues when trying to convince. Just remember everyone is different. I watched so many videos and kept comparing myself to everyone else. Listen to your gut and do what is best for you.
I would honestly listen to your obgyn for now. It definitely sounds like a sales pitch. I would definitely get a second opinion before going forward with fertility treatments. I also got pregnant with my first the first month we tried but my second took almost a year to conceive.
New to your channel and watching my first couple of videos. I absolutely *adore* your intuition. Of course I'm biased because it's a lot like mine, but the whole time I was watching this I kept talking to my screen and I was like, "Don't believe that fertility specialist, Maddy, don't you do it! Something is fishy about this. Your OB has known your body for longer and does not have any investment in your numbers needing fertility help." Good on you for doing your own research, going in with a foundation of knowledge, and listening with an open mind but applying what feels right for YOU!
You just keep following that gut instinct through this journey. Over here in Australia, its the same deal with specialists- which angers me to think they are preying on the vulnerable. And lovely, the quote- 'things happen when you least expect it ' applied to four women i know of who was struggling with fertility and became pregnant when they least expected it. Sending lots of love and hugs and prayers your way Maddy!
I’m sure everything will be ok.Just have faith.Put in your mind set that 100% you will conceive and have a beautiful healthy baby..The power of the mind is incredible... Take care 💖💙
You are amazing for sharing all of this with all of us. I had my 1st son at 17. To young. He was killed a couple of weeks after his 11th birthday. My heart was distroyed. 8yrs later I remarried and we wanted to try right away. It took a couple of months and we had our 1st daughter. We decided to try again for another baby. We started 7 months after our daughter was born because we are in our late 30s. We were having troubles. A year went past and no baby. I was getting so stressed and upset. My husband and I thought okay we weren't meant to have another. So in my mind I gave up. 6 months later we found out we were having my 2nd son and my husbands 1st son and we were done. God, he has his funny ways. Hubby and I had the 1st night out and we drank a bit and on one crazy night got pregnant and not trying got pregnant with our 2nd daughter. I believe stress is a major factor in trying. Try to as hard as you can to just relax and take easy. I'm a panic stricken person, so I know its very difficult but just try to take moments of your day to try to clear your thoughts and just have some quiet time. Things work out for a reason and just have faith.
Consider implementing fertility massage as well. I’m 30 years old & I struggled for 9months before getting pregnant. I have 10years between my oldest and the one I’m pregnant with. Once I tried supplements, fertility massage, the trifecta ( Mucinex, pre-seed, & soft cups) I got pregnant on month 2 of trying that.
It’s true, the rates for IUi are low , but with your problem your successful rate without any treatment it’s so much less, I was told iui its 15 - 20% but if we continue trying naturally we only have 5% , I’m in my 1st cycle of IUI hoping my baby miracles comes in the first round 💕
Naw Maddy you’re doing everything so well! I’d trust your gut and investigate further. You’re doing such amazing research as well and are so informed! You may have already found it if you’re on those supplements but one of the most helpful things I found on my journey was the book ‘it starts with the egg’. It was a really clear, well researched outline of improving egg quality and it made it feel so possible and exciting to be working towards something positive!! I also would recommend finding a good acupuncturist that works with women’s health, they can help support your cycle and it can also just be a really relaxing time (even though it may seem intimidating at first). Goodluck on your journey!!! Xx
Thanks for sharing your story. I am currently pregnant thru IUI so I am familiar with both fertility docs and OBs. Please take some of how the fertility doc presents information to you with a grain of salt - they like to set realistic expectations balanced with you continuing to return to their clinic. You are absolutely right that this year is insanely stressful for us all and working on reducing your stress will help. Best of luck and all best wishes to you!
I might also look to a 2nd fertility specialist about everything. My gut is with yours about the fertility doc sounding like a bit of a salesperson. My fertility doc was nothing like yours - he insisted on taking the simplest steps first before going to IUI or IVF.
My husband and I tried for 2 full years with no success. We finally made an appt at a fertility specialist and I became pregnant (naturally) before the appointment. I know that doesn’t mean it will happen for everyone and if you want to do treatment then that’s totally fine and your choice! Lots of prayers to you guys that God is waiting for the perfect time for your second miracle ❤️
In such a similar situation! First baby was conceived first try. We are now on cycle of 9 of trying and a miscarriage at the beginning of the year. If this month isn't successful we are going to get tested. I have been taking COQ10, Fish oil, Vit. D, Maca, prenatal and B-complex. Thank you for sharing this story. Good luck to you on this journey. So hopeful for all of us trying.
I had a very similar situation to you. I’d get a second opinion but the fertility specialist is in the business of making babies. We had to use IVF for our second pregnancy after conceiving naturally with our daughter. We financed it and went ahead because we just didn’t want to play with time! Good luck!
Go with your gut! I did IVF and I felt so comfortable so if you’re not feeling 100% don’t. Your numbers look fine keep trying and do your supplements 💜
I’m also 31. I’m newly single and I don’t have any children. I had endometriosis 5 years ago and had large chocolate cysts removed from both ovaries followed by 6 months of a medication that put me in a chemically induced menopause. I went to see a fertility specialist to look into freezing eggs and I got my ovarian count back this week. Your my anti-mullarian hormone is 0.2 (or 0.02? It was a blur) when it should be 1.22 at our age. He explained that means I essentially have the ovarian reserve of a woman in her LATE FOURTIES. If I want to have children, I need to freeze what little eggs I have NOW. And even so, because I have so few I need to go through 2 rounds of hormones and collection to get enough eggs. I’m devastated. Then, I’m basically left thinking I’m probably going to be going into true menopause in the next 5-8 years once my ovarian reserve is gone at the ripe old age of my mid/late 30s. Then when I start dating again at some point I’m going to have to explain I can’t have children the traditional way. It’s hard to deal with, especially without a partner and being newly single. I haven’t been single since I was 21. It’s just a lot
Also, I was thinking of starting some supplements to boost my egg quality since I need the eggs that can be retrieved as bomb and healthy as possible and I too was looking at these ones, especially the CoQ10. Thank you for confirming taking some supplements leading up to retrieval is something I should probably be doing. Going to sprouts today to pick them up :) I hope everything works out for you 🙏🏼
I’m 38 and going for my final tests tomorrow morning...I understand you so much right now...never mind “hanging in there”...how about a hug? Sometimes, just understanding is all that is necessary ❤️
I would definitely get a 2nd opinion. As someone who has done IUI and IVF, the specialist’s goal is to get you pregnant, so they pretty much suggest the highest success rate procedure. If I were in your situation, I would get the 2nd opinion and start taking your supplements and give it the 4 months. Also, look into diet changes (I know you already gave up caffeine). I have PCOS and have low egg quality so eating low carb helped and also taking Ovasitol by theralogix.
Remember reproductive endocrinologist specialize in this so they are hyper focused on slight differences in numbers that your ob/gyn might just brush off because it might actually still be in “normal range” but not where it is needed for your body chemistry. They are both right! You did get pregnant and that’s a good sign that your body is capable of getting pregnant! So feel confident supplementing and trying with correct timing in mind for a few more months and then reconvening and deciding what to do if it doesn’t work (I hope it does!). Also remember it takes like 3 months for supplements to really kick in (egg maturity is about 90 days). Not an expert or anything but an infertility veteran with unfortunately 8 IVF cycles under my belt. I don’t think IVF is necessary at the moment or IUI. But in the end do what feels right for YOU and stay positive because infertility is a giant mind f$&k!! Haha
When I was 31, I was diagnosed with premature ovarian failure. I had numerous doctors, including a fertility doctor tell me it would be almost impossible to get pregnant naturally, and I would need to do IVF with a donor egg if I ever wanted to get pregnant. I told all of this to my boss, who is a Urologist and also has experience in hormone therapy, and he said let’s go ahead and get you started on tour hormone therapy to get you out of menopause and I’m confident we can get you pregnant on your own. I was still pretty doubtful because I had been told by so many others that it was a lost cause. Well, after 3 months of hormone therapy, I became pregnant. I’m not 21 weeks along and couldn’t be happier. Don’t get discouraged, if it is meant to happen, it will. Try your different vitamins and give it some time.
Oh girl.... I am so sorry you are going through this. My husband and I have dealt with infertility and our 4 and a half year old is the result of our 9th ivf cycle. It was a horrifically difficult journey but so worth it. We just miscarried our 10th attempt in Dec and we are doing our 11th when Covid numbers go down more.
I had a hard time getting pregnant with my first child. We tried and tried for years. I finally talked to my O.B., we had my husband tested, he was fine, they wanted to test me. I scheduled my tests, my husband told me to cancel them. He just knew I would get pregnant naturally. This is after 3 years of no success at all. The next month a got my positive test, but it ended a week later in a miscarriage. I was devastated, but also saw a ray a sunshine in the fact I had finally conceived. Seven month after the miscarriage I conceived my daughter who is now 13. When we tried for my next baby it took one period cycle. It’s very strange how things happen. Fast forward to 2018, I was watching your pregnancy reveal video for Ryleigh. I was crying, and I didn’t understand why I was so emotional. A few weeks later I found out I was pregnant again, this time I somehow managed to get pregnant with an IUD, plus using condoms. How that equals into a baby I will never understand. Our girls are 6 weeks apart, and I love it. Everything happens for a reason, and I know it’s hard to hear. I went through it for 3 1/2 years before getting to become a mom. It definitely will happen. ❤️❤️
Hello Madison! Thank you so much for making this fertility update video about your test results and letting us know all the things that you're doing now! :)
Hi Madison, I'm sending you a huge hug. I don't know what else to say. I'm going through something similar, and I hurt for you just like I hurt for myself. Hang in there, don't give up. Much love to you and your family.
I’m going through this journey with you. Keep your head up, your vibes positive, sending so much love and hope♥️🙏🏼 ALSO, I just want to add the statistics and information is going to different. SO MANY people go to the OBGYN with these problems verses the amount of people that can afford/actually go to the infertility clinic. If that made sense 💛
So sweet of you for sharing with us. Everything will be fine Just keep praying about it.And he will help work it out you. Love your videos. Saying prays for for you
First off want to thank you for sharing your fertility journey. It can’t be easy making this public as you go through it. I hesitated on commenting just bc I think everyone has to be mentally prepared for deciding to go through IVF, (and really no one should talk you into it) but I remember my own experience at this decision crossroads you are facing. As a physician (not fertility), I would agree with your fertility specialist’s impression of your labs and their recommendations. To set context, Fertility specialists make so much money I don’t really think most of them need to coax you into doing IVF. (That’s why it takes forever to get an appointment with them.). I also took my time deciding on IVF, trying IUI, a few more months of trying naturally etc. I finally got pregnant after one round of IVf and 1 frozen transfer. I wish I hadn’t taken so long to get here, but mentally I needed the time to accept it. In your case when they tell you not to take longer than 4 months, I would not assume they’re saying that just to make money. They are talking about premature ovarian failure, not just based on your numbers but in the setting of a recent miscarriage, and a year of trying with successful ovulation every month. Ovarian health is not something you can reliably reverse with supplements. If you do IVF and get more embryos you can also secure the possibility of having more children in the future. Just some thoughts for you to consider.
I’m so sorry this has been a tough journey. I would have to agree with some of the other subscribers & try clomid as well. I struggled with infertility for 10 years after a blighted ovum & our doctor explained that clomid will increase the number of eggs. I also ovulate but for some reason just never had a successful pregnancy before clomid. I also had a great HSG test that showed no issues. Give it a try. You have nothing to lose but just a few months. Totally worth it. Best of luck!
It’s a difficult road to navigate. Our little girl was born 9 weeks ago thanks to IVF 💗 my numbers were far lower then yours, it is difficult going through injections and hormones but it is equally miraculous. I’m sure you will make the right decision for the both of you. The bonus of IVF is storing beautiful embryos for future babies if you wish xo
Madison, first thank you for sharing your story. Second go with your gut! I heard you say in your last video that your gut is almost never wrong, so I would start there. I would give your vitamins time to work and the vitamins with the procedure you just did might be enough! Big hugs 💗 and I will be praying for you guys.
You should definitely start reading “It Starts with the Egg” (the most recent version) as soon as possible. I started it, except I have PCOS so I have a different problem but it covers all areas of infertility and what women should be taking as far as supplements, as well as diet changes. It talked about men’s infertility as well. I am 27 and will be doing IVF next cycle if our current IUI (third cycle) doesn’t work. You likely will start seeing complete improvements in about 2-3 months, most likely 3.
Just wanted leave you a positive note here. I was going through exactly what you were going through... ovulating normally, slightly lower (but not devastating) AMH levels, husband's sperm count was perfect, secondary infertility. We also have a daughter named Riley (!!), who we conceived on our second cycle, who turned 2 in May. We had been trying for 10 months to get pregnant, and finally went to a fertility clinic about 7 months in (approximately last April). When it came to trying treatments, here is what we did: month 1 (May), we tried nothing (except our HSG test). Month 2, we tried a medicated cycle + IUI (letrozole, HCG trigger shot and progesterone suppositories). Month 3 we decided to keep the letrozole and progesterone, but nothing else but have intercourse multiple times around ovulation, and boom, pregnant. For me, I have always suspected it is due to my short luteal phase (it was 9-10 days at MOST), so I'm thinking the progesterone did the trick. I should also mention I am 5 years older than you! My clinic also pushed IVF HARD. They see those dollar signs and they know your emotions are key to going through with it. But for us we just kind of knew it would happen. It just took time. Good luck to you... I hope it all goes well!
Thank you for the update! Always listen to your gut. Sometimes doctors focus on the worst case scenario because offering the best case and being wrong can cause emotional harm to patients. I also think they offer IVF because it IS scientifically the best option because there is more control over the fertilization process, but that doesn't mean it should be the only option they focus on, especially because it is so expensive and isn't 100% successful. If you feel like your doctor was pressing it for financial gain though, definitely get a second opinion. Good Luck! ❤😊
Honestly sweetheart, my advice would be to stop trying so so hard and have lots of fun with your husband , destress a little bit each day and it will happen!!!! I know it will, you are a wonderful mom and any child is lucky to your babe!😘
This is the worst advice for someone who is TTC. I understand you may not understand but try to hold off from “just have fun” comments when people are struggling
Julia CasteloT thanksforyour opinion, esp since you havE no idea who i am and what iv been through, the best advice i could give is what helped for me , but thanks for thinking you knew .
Teresa Meyer telling someone to “relax” when their gut is telling them there is something wrong, is brushing aside and minimizing their feelings. I know you just want her to be happy and comfortable, but that’s not life. Life is uncomfortable and stressful and people need to be heard and supported, not told to relax. I can’t tell you how many times I was told “it will happen” in the 5 years I was actively trying to conceive. It’s like knifes in the heart. After 4 years with a specialist, 2 IUIs, 3 IVF embryo transfers, and 12 years of marriage (never using birth control) I’m finally pregnant. It didn’t just happen. I made it happen.
Praying for you! I had several miscarriages,last year. My specialist found out that I ovulate immature eggs, and put me on letrazole and ovadrel to grow eggs, and make sure I ovulate. I would recommend getting a second opinion. I feel like it might be something that can be fixed, without IVF. It seems pretty drastic to just jump into IVF, without trying anything else first.
I had an IUI baby girl 6 years ago. We were successful on our first cycle of IUI. We have made the decision to not go the IVF route, but plan to give IUI another go (at 33 years of age) in the upcoming months. Prayers for you as you make your decisions!
Hi Maddy, I have been where you are and by your numbers that you stated I would definitely listen to the reproductive endocrinologist. Obgyns are not trained in fertility as extensively as reproductive specialists so there’s that. I started my fertility journey in 2019. I was 32 at the time. My FSH was 10.2 which is high on the normal range for the fertility practice I went to. My Amh was 2.30 and my follicle count was 27. My husbands tests turned out fine as well so we basically were diagnosed as unexplained infertility. We started with two rounds of timed intercourse that failed. I took 4 months off and then did my first IUI which failed. My second IUI I became pregnant and am now 31 weeks. After I deliver this baby I will be going back to my fertility doctor sometime next year to get new tests done to see what my levels are due to me being 34 turning 35 next year. Your fertility doctor is not sales pitching you as the numbers tell a story and do not lie. Please stay encouraged on your journey and like my fertility doctor told me “Your infertility journey is a marathon and not a sprint.” That helped me soo much when I received so many months of negative pregnancy tests. I believe you will get pregnant but you have to trust that these people know what they’re doing. Blessings to you and your family.
I got pregnant with my first 2 on the first try in 2007 and 2011. We started trying again in 2016 for our 3rd. I had just come off of birth control and was ovulating regularly but dealing with cysts. I had 2 miscarriages within a few months of each other. I was doing everything possible but wasn't successful. After 9 months of trying with no success, we decided to stop trying and would eventually reach out to a fertility specialist once we wanted to start trying again. I just couldn't handle the emotional roller coaster anymore. Low and behold, I ended up getting pregnant naturally the month we stopped trying. I honestly believe that the stress of trying to get pregnant played a major role in my infertility.
I felt that same feeling about her giving you a sales pitch listening to your story. I would 100% get a second opinion and maybe even a third to be sure before you spend that kind of money. Good luck to you guys I'm so sorry you're going through this!
Thank you for sharing! I’ve been where you’re at and have gone through everything and more! Our insurance didn’t cover IVF but covered everything else but the procedure and transfer so we took out another insurance policy that did have coverage and had two policies. It’s called coordination of benefits. If you get to that point which I hope you don’t... research insurances!
Elizabeth S we spent months researching insurance and ways to pay for treatment so we didn’t go broke in the process. My primary insurance is Michigan and it didn’t cover any of the procedures but we live in IL where insurances in IL cover procedures.. just depending on how many per calendar year. She is young so hopefully it doesn’t have to come to the more involved like IVF or even iui. I’ve been through it all and the way I got through it was by watching you tube videos and talking to friends who gave me the ideas for taking out a second insurance policy. I had my first baby at 36 after years of trying and treatment and now we’re about to start again for baby #2.
I could relate to you so much in this video! I lost my right ovary and Fallopian tube due to an abnormal ovarian cyst. Now flash forward to 2019 when my husband and I decided to start a family. Over a year went by of TTC and nothing was happening. I went to my doctor and we ran several tests. Turns out I have a low ovarian reserve (for my age 28) but that wasn’t te worst part. I found out I had two abnormal cysts on my left ovary again. I was devastated. so now I’ll be doing 2 rounds of IVF. Which includes 2 egg retrieval’s (praying for healthy embryos), then surgery to remove my cysts (praying to keep my ovary) and after that we can proceed with the transfer of our embryos! I’m praying for you and your journey for baby #2 🙏🏻💕
Also my AMH was .9 and I also only have 9 follicles as well. Even if I didn’t have my cysts to worry about we still would have done IVF. but I think you should keep trying before starting IVF or at least get another opinion.
Hey, Madison! So sorry to hear you are going through this. I’ve had 3 miscarriages and have been speaking with OBGYN’s, Fertility Doctors, and Acupuncturists that use Chinese Medicine. I’ve heard a lot of different things but I am someone that prefers the more natural routes most of the time. That being said, I’m trying to clean up my diet and eat whole foods, exercise regularly, and get my hormones checked. My acupuncturist told me that 9/10 times, a fertility specialist is going to tell you that IVF is your only option (bs if you ask me b/c like you said it feels like a scam to get more $$). That’s not to say that IVF isn’t the best option for some... Chinese Medicine and Acupuncture have been used for hundreds of years to help with fertility so maybe that’s something you might want to look into. I hope you and Joel get baby #2 soon! XO!
I would consider iui. I have to pay out of pocket for all my meds and appointments and it's so much cheaper then ivf. Atleast try 2 cycles. With the meds it help increase ur egg count it's worth a try.or maybe try one more cycle with the supplements you have been taking and see if that helps. But ur first ivf is so expensive but it gives u a lot more answers too. In the end you gotta pick what works best for you.
This video just reminded me of a video that rawbeautykristi did about pregnancy. It took her 15 years to conceive that she had made up her mind that she would not get pregnant ever and she and her husband were going to be fine. She through a lot meaning she was spending lots of money on treatments that were not helping. At last she got pregnant after 15 years of trying to conceive. She still thinks she’s dreaming because it’s a miracle. I love her honesty and she talks about these kind of videos that no one makes and everyone needs the truth not sugarcoat everything. Go see her videos she’s awesome.
It took us 7 months to conceive after my miscarriage, it felt like forever but I am now 22 weeks with my rainbow baby! Please stay hopeful and my biggest tip is to stay calm and do not stress out. As soon as I felt at peace I got pregnant ❤️
Go with your gut. We went to one fertility specialist and had a similar feeling of the clinic just wanting to make money. Went to a fertility clinic at an academic medical center and had a totally different experience. They were wonderful. Did tests only when necessary and had a great bedside manner.
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I know how hard this is. We had to go through the same. I ended up going though IVF. You would be surprised that most insurances cover IVF now at some degree. Give them a call and you never know. We thankfully were covered for 3 cycles!!!
My husband and I need a ICSI treatment because I have PCO and my husbands sperm is so bad that an ICSI is our only chance to get pragnent. We’re hoping for the best now. We will start our treatment in August or September because in Germany we have to get a second opinion from another doctor before they can start the treatment so hopefully we will start very soon and we will someday have our little miracle. I wish you and your husband all the best. I know it’s hard and frustrating but you can do this 🌸
Thank you for being so honest with your journey. We tried for a little over a year I know your circumstances are different but Preseed I believe helped us conceive both times
I struggled with fertility for 3 years, I did everything from changing diet to vitamins then a fertility specialist, I did the hcg test and everything seemed to be fine painful but fine, I did 3 rounds of iui and after being overwhelmed and just fed up of always having a negative pregnancy test I finally went for IVF and, after testing and seeing that my egg releases slowly and by the time I'm supposed to be fertile I miss my opportunity. I ended up doing egg retrieval, freezing my eggs and then putting it back in me. I got pregnant and have a healthy baby girl. The injections everyday is overwhelming at times the hormones sometimes stress you out , just breathe thru it and think of the outcome. Good luck and God bless.
Hi Maddy I’m praying for you !! Also you should try meditation..there’s some good apps for it headspace , calm , are the two I use even take 5 minute meditation breaks twice three times a day they do help my stress !! 💖💕💞
My sister has endometriosis and she did the 10-12% chance thing (forgot what it was called lol) and she got pregnant and they thought she wouldn't and was pushing the more expensive route.....I personally don't know much about it but do hope whatever happens it's what you guys want ..praying for you!! 🙏
Depends where the Endometriosis is. I had it in the cul d sac. Behind my uterus to the left, back of vagina (outside) and rectum. My aunt had it on her ovary. I conceived. She couldn't. Endo is hit and miss. You really never know.
Agreed, I had a healthy pregnancy then 3 miscarriages did all the tests everything came back “normal”. I finally had my baby last August now I’m 12 weeks pregnant again. I used progesterone suppositories with my current and last which might of helped who knows. IVF for someone who was just pregnant is very drastic.
Okay, I am pregnant right now with our rainbow baby after 5 1/2 years of trying. Not stoked to throw everything out on TH-cam, but I’m gonna send you a IG message and hope you see it!
Male factor infertility is a serious thing too. My husband is the issue and it took us 5 years. 3 failed IUIs then we did IVF. We got 4 embryos, our miracle baby was embryo 4 (transfer 3). Shes 3 months old now 🥰
Me and my husband have been trying for 8 years.. we did 5 IUIs.. we are now doing IVF after getting a second opinion that IVF was our best option..we have never been pregnant and really hoping this round works..
What a stressful decision. It sucks even more and makes the journey harder when you feel like you can’t trust your specialist. Thank you for sharing this part of your journey.
Ah, the ol' "70% success rate" IVF quote. I remember hearing something along those lines and feeling so confident in IVF. 3 years and 5 embryo transfers later... we have yet to see a positive pregnancy test. It has been a long journey. We are diagnosed as "unexplained" (no male factor issues, HSG and hysteroscopy clear, bloodwork and hormone levels ideal, ovulate on my own each month, genetic screening normal). Infertility is a complex issue. At your age, with your previous successful pregnancy and hormone levels within normal range - I would trust your OBGYN and get a second opinion from another RE. Diet, exercise, healthy lifestyle, timed intercourse, IUI, etc. There are a lot of paths to success before jumping into IVF. I wish you the best!
Where i live usually in cases where couples try to have baby , the doctors are giving B6, B12 and B9 (folic acid ) and antioxidants for woman and selenium and vitamin C for men even if there is no problem in order to concive easily . You can read about those suplements/vitamins
I'm so sorry you have to go thru this. I know it's hard because I was in the same boat as you. Me & my husband been trying for 4yrs & never got pregnant. At first we were planning to try to go thru a fertility specialist... So expensive, so I did my research & I saw acupuncture was an option.. I did it for 2months every week & taken herbal pills.. So within less than 3months, I got pregnant. I was 32 when I got pregnant with my daughter.. Then less than 2yrs, I was pregnant again with my son... Stay strong & don't anything put you down & stress free...
Yes girl get a second opinion!!! But in the mean time take the supplements/vitamins and try on your own. Especially now that your tubes are unblocked it might be easier to conceive and carry a baby. good luck.
Wishing you so much happiness and stay strong 💕💕 thank you so much for sharing this with us you are so incredibly beautiful and I'm sure it will happen when it is meant to happen. Love you 🤗🤗💕
I was told with IUI it was an 18% chance. Like you I felt like it was so low I shouldn’t try. We got pregnant our first try with our son. Remember science only goes so far and then a miracle comes ❤️
So your god performs a miracle after you fail on your own, and science offers a solution... that’s when god performs his miracle. Sigh. Gullibility (faith) is not a virtue and teaching this nonsense will literally stunt your child’s cognitive abilities. Love him more than you fear the unknown/ uncomfortable.
Amanda McGovern I can't tell whether you're bashing God or just faith in general. But believing in God and having faith is always the better option.
Wow. How heartbreaking that IVF is so expensive in America. Everything there is about money. Even having a baby. I live in France and IVF and fertility treatments here are basically Free. It is covered by the National healthcare system.
My husband and I have been on the fertility journey for the past 7 years. I too had similar results and my husband did not want to go the ivf route, so we completed three rounds of iui with no success. What we know now I wish we would have saved the money and went straight to ivf. You have to do what is best emotionally and financially for your family. Stay positive!
@Chastin Siegel I definitely had times to give up but I know in my heart my husband and I will be blessed with a precious baby one day. As you will too! I completed our first round of ivf and it resulted in an ectopic pregnancy. It was devastating but I also had to think I finally got pregnant. It gives me hope it will happen again and be successful!
I’m 29 turning 30 in a month. Currently pregnant with my first. Me and my husband tried to get pregnant for 15 months before we conceive, with me ovulating every month. Our OB/GYN didn’t want us to go to fertility specialist he said that if we went another six months without getting pregnant they would consider it. Fertility is a huge business trust your gut always get a second opinion. (I also work in healthcare) don’t lose hope I know how disappointing and disheartening trying for a baby can be. I’m thoughts and prayers are with you and your husband!🙏
We went through a lot of the same issues. My husband was fine but I wasn’t. I was ovulating but nothing... I did the HSG test my right tube was completely blocked and they couldn’t push any die through. The doctor actually said he wanted to stop because he didn’t think he should continue trying to push more through. I also took clomid and nothing... We saw a fertility doctor and the first thing they said to us was you’ll have higher chances of getting pregnant if you do IVF. I told them I didn’t want to go down that road. So I made peace with the fact that my son wouldn’t have a sibling and starting focusing on my health, taking supplements, my family, and my faith. After six months I was pregnant. I fully believe my baby girl was a miracle because my chances of getting pregnant was cut in half because of my right side. It took us over 3yrs before I got pregnant. It was a long, hard, sad, and isolating journey but I’m so thankful for my baby girl and to be able to give my son a sibling brings me so much joy. Prayers and well wishes
Same story here too it took me seven years but my daughter is big sister now just don’t give hope it happens at the right time
I think I would trust your OB. He sounds like he knows you and is comforting. The fertility specialist sounds like she may be trying to scare you. I would reach out to a second clinic before you spend any money, even just for piece of mind.
The sales pitch was my first gut instinct as well before you even said that I was thinking that! Especially because you just got pregnant. Levels change every month like you said, take those supplements, bring your numbers to a new clinic and see what they say. That’s what I would do.
You WILL get pregnant girl, just know that. ❤️
I truly wish you the best. Do not underestimate stress. I struggled with infertility for two years in a stressful job. I changed to another job with less stress and was pregnant in 2 months. Please take care of yourself!
I have had 3 kids, 2 of those dealing with preeclampsia, 2 miscarriages 1 of those in my 2nd trimester and now at age 43 I’m pregnant again, so don’t give up hope. Good luck 🍀
Congrats, I’m 43 turning 44 in September just got my BFP if your still ovulation it’s possible!
I think it's super smart to get a second opinion especially since you both got the feeling that the treatment was a sales pitch. This is such a delicate treatment that you need to be completely sure about it.
Infertility is so tough & it’s not talked about enough! I’m right there with you.
It has been such a stressful year!!! I love your positivity and excitement! We got pregnant with our first IUI. It can be done! State of mind definitely plays a big role! You got this mama!! I wish we would have tried naturally for longer. Because we got pregnant naturally after our IUI. Go with your gut feeling❤️❤️❤️
So brave of you to share. Thanks for sharing. I have had a detailed discussion on having another child with my obgyn back in feb for my year visit. It is a miracle I had my boy who is almost 2 and a half. No lore kids for us because it would possibly kill me going through another pregnancy. I am lucky I went through this one and was ok.
Take the advice from both doctors at surface level and do not stress the numbers. I struggled for nearly 3 years to conceive. My OB kept telling me I was fine so I sought out a fertility doctor who also said I had “unexplained infertility”. It was so frustrating but after all testing I decided to jump into IVF at 34yrs old, best thing I ever did. I had my daughter last year and now 20 weeks pregnant with my son. IVF is a hard choice and not for everyone but now I’ll have my 2nd baby before my 36th birthday. Give yourself a timeframe with supplements and do the best u can to stay positive and focused ❤️❤️❤️ wishing you all the best and please keep us updated on ur journey! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
I would honestly try clomid. I too had a miscarriage and for 6 months we tried and nothing happened. I too was ovulating every single month, but I expressed my concerns to my obgyn and she had me do a blood test to determine how strong my ovulation was and although I ovulated it wasn't as strong as she wanted to see. I was put on clomid and the first month it worked and we welcomed our baby girl this past November. Clomid is not just for those who don't ovulate.
Yes, I agree with this. Pretty much my same situation. Second month on Clomid and had my baby girl at this end of October 2019
Successful with clomid after the 1st try as well! I would start with least invasive option, my situation was pretty similar to Mads.
I’m a clomid baby! Proof that it works ;)
Yes same here ! Success at first try with clomid! My girl is 3.5 years old now.
This! I would get a second opinion and see if they'll let you try a few rounds of Clomid or maybe Femara. My baby is an injectable IUI baby (I don't ovulate and didn't respond to either Clomid or Femara), and while it wasn't as hard work as IVF, it still was no picnic. I was injecting myself nightly and going in for ultrasounds every other day for almost two weeks. Plus, as you probably already know, the chance of multiples is high with Clomid and Femara, but nowhere near as high as on injectables. Depending on what the second opinion says, I wouldn't wait too much longer/do too many cycles of Clomid/Femara before moving on, but it's worth a few tries, at least. Also, FWIW, when I was in the fertility trenches I always heard "an OB/GYN is an expert in pregnancy, *not* in getting people pregnant." So I wouldn't necessarily take your OB's opinion as final.
Stress is a major factor! When I was trying to get pregnant with my second son, my dad had cancer. It was very stressful seeing him go through that. After he passed away, I got pregnant. I tried for 6 months which is not too long but it felt like forever to me at that time. The stress from seeing my dad go through cancer did not allow me to conceive but I know it’s hard to not stress.
I had to do 2 rounds of IVF and now im pregnant with my rainbow 🌈 baby. I had similar issues when trying to convince. Just remember everyone is different. I watched so many videos and kept comparing myself to everyone else. Listen to your gut and do what is best for you.
I would honestly listen to your obgyn for now. It definitely sounds like a sales pitch. I would definitely get a second opinion before going forward with fertility treatments. I also got pregnant with my first the first month we tried but my second took almost a year to conceive.
New to your channel and watching my first couple of videos. I absolutely *adore* your intuition. Of course I'm biased because it's a lot like mine, but the whole time I was watching this I kept talking to my screen and I was like, "Don't believe that fertility specialist, Maddy, don't you do it! Something is fishy about this. Your OB has known your body for longer and does not have any investment in your numbers needing fertility help." Good on you for doing your own research, going in with a foundation of knowledge, and listening with an open mind but applying what feels right for YOU!
You just keep following that gut instinct through this journey. Over here in Australia, its the same deal with specialists- which angers me to think they are preying on the vulnerable. And lovely, the quote- 'things happen when you least expect it ' applied to four women i know of who was struggling with fertility and became pregnant when they least expected it. Sending lots of love and hugs and prayers your way Maddy!
I’m sure everything will be ok.Just have faith.Put in your mind set that 100% you will conceive and have a beautiful healthy baby..The power of the mind is incredible... Take care 💖💙
You are amazing for sharing all of this with all of us. I had my 1st son at 17. To young. He was killed a couple of weeks after his 11th birthday. My heart was distroyed. 8yrs later I remarried and we wanted to try right away. It took a couple of months and we had our 1st daughter. We decided to try again for another baby. We started 7 months after our daughter was born because we are in our late 30s. We were having troubles. A year went past and no baby. I was getting so stressed and upset. My husband and I thought okay we weren't meant to have another. So in my mind I gave up. 6 months later we found out we were having my 2nd son and my husbands 1st son and we were done. God, he has his funny ways. Hubby and I had the 1st night out and we drank a bit and on one crazy night got pregnant and not trying got pregnant with our 2nd daughter. I believe stress is a major factor in trying. Try to as hard as you can to just relax and take easy. I'm a panic stricken person, so I know its very difficult but just try to take moments of your day to try to clear your thoughts and just have some quiet time. Things work out for a reason and just have faith.
So sorry to hear about your son. How tragic and hard that had to of been. My heart breaks for u. Many prayers sent your way. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️
Consider implementing fertility massage as well. I’m 30 years old & I struggled for 9months before getting pregnant. I have 10years between my oldest and the one I’m pregnant with. Once I tried supplements, fertility massage, the trifecta ( Mucinex, pre-seed, & soft cups) I got pregnant on month 2 of trying that.
It’s true, the rates for IUi are low , but with your problem your successful rate without any treatment it’s so much less, I was told iui its 15 - 20% but if we continue trying naturally we only have 5% , I’m in my 1st cycle of IUI hoping my baby miracles comes in the first round 💕
Naw Maddy you’re doing everything so well! I’d trust your gut and investigate further. You’re doing such amazing research as well and are so informed! You may have already found it if you’re on those supplements but one of the most helpful things I found on my journey was the book ‘it starts with the egg’. It was a really clear, well researched outline of improving egg quality and it made it feel so possible and exciting to be working towards something positive!! I also would recommend finding a good acupuncturist that works with women’s health, they can help support your cycle and it can also just be a really relaxing time (even though it may seem intimidating at first). Goodluck on your journey!!! Xx
Thanks for sharing your story. I am currently pregnant thru IUI so I am familiar with both fertility docs and OBs. Please take some of how the fertility doc presents information to you with a grain of salt - they like to set realistic expectations balanced with you continuing to return to their clinic. You are absolutely right that this year is insanely stressful for us all and working on reducing your stress will help. Best of luck and all best wishes to you!
I might also look to a 2nd fertility specialist about everything. My gut is with yours about the fertility doc sounding like a bit of a salesperson. My fertility doc was nothing like yours - he insisted on taking the simplest steps first before going to IUI or IVF.
My husband and I tried for 2 full years with no success. We finally made an appt at a fertility specialist and I became pregnant (naturally) before the appointment. I know that doesn’t mean it will happen for everyone and if you want to do treatment then that’s totally fine and your choice! Lots of prayers to you guys that God is waiting for the perfect time for your second miracle ❤️
In such a similar situation! First baby was conceived first try. We are now on cycle of 9 of trying and a miscarriage at the beginning of the year. If this month isn't successful we are going to get tested. I have been taking COQ10, Fish oil, Vit. D, Maca, prenatal and B-complex. Thank you for sharing this story. Good luck to you on this journey. So hopeful for all of us trying.
I had a very similar situation to you. I’d get a second opinion but the fertility specialist is in the business of making babies. We had to use IVF for our second pregnancy after conceiving naturally with our daughter. We financed it and went ahead because we just didn’t want to play with time! Good luck!
Go with your gut! I did IVF and I felt so comfortable so if you’re not feeling 100% don’t. Your numbers look fine keep trying and do your supplements 💜
I’m also 31. I’m newly single and I don’t have any children. I had endometriosis 5 years ago and had large chocolate cysts removed from both ovaries followed by 6 months of a medication that put me in a chemically induced menopause. I went to see a fertility specialist to look into freezing eggs and I got my ovarian count back this week. Your my anti-mullarian hormone is 0.2 (or 0.02? It was a blur) when it should be 1.22 at our age. He explained that means I essentially have the ovarian reserve of a woman in her LATE FOURTIES. If I want to have children, I need to freeze what little eggs I have NOW. And even so, because I have so few I need to go through 2 rounds of hormones and collection to get enough eggs. I’m devastated. Then, I’m basically left thinking I’m probably going to be going into true menopause in the next 5-8 years once my ovarian reserve is gone at the ripe old age of my mid/late 30s. Then when I start dating again at some point I’m going to have to explain I can’t have children the traditional way. It’s hard to deal with, especially without a partner and being newly single. I haven’t been single since I was 21. It’s just a lot
Also, I was thinking of starting some supplements to boost my egg quality since I need the eggs that can be retrieved as bomb and healthy as possible and I too was looking at these ones, especially the CoQ10. Thank you for confirming taking some supplements leading up to retrieval is something I should probably be doing. Going to sprouts today to pick them up :) I hope everything works out for you 🙏🏼
I’m 38 and going for my final tests tomorrow morning...I understand you so much right now...never mind “hanging in there”...how about a hug? Sometimes, just understanding is all that is necessary ❤️
I would definitely get a 2nd opinion. As someone who has done IUI and IVF, the specialist’s goal is to get you pregnant, so they pretty much suggest the highest success rate procedure. If I were in your situation, I would get the 2nd opinion and start taking your supplements and give it the 4 months. Also, look into diet changes (I know you already gave up caffeine). I have PCOS and have low egg quality so eating low carb helped and also taking Ovasitol by theralogix.
Remember reproductive endocrinologist specialize in this so they are hyper focused on slight differences in numbers that your ob/gyn might just brush off because it might actually still be in “normal range” but not where it is needed for your body chemistry.
They are both right! You did get pregnant and that’s a good sign that your body is capable of getting pregnant!
So feel confident supplementing and trying with correct timing in mind for a few more months and then reconvening and deciding what to do if it doesn’t work (I hope it does!).
Also remember it takes like 3 months for supplements to really kick in (egg maturity is about 90 days). Not an expert or anything but an infertility veteran with unfortunately 8 IVF cycles under my belt. I don’t think IVF is necessary at the moment or IUI. But in the end do what feels right for YOU and stay positive because infertility is a giant mind f$&k!! Haha
This is the best most accurate advice/ comment I’ve read so far. That’s the tricky truth.. they are both right.
Praying it all works out naturally. Hang in there guys
When I was 31, I was diagnosed with premature ovarian failure. I had numerous doctors, including a fertility doctor tell me it would be almost impossible to get pregnant naturally, and I would need to do IVF with a donor egg if I ever wanted to get pregnant. I told all of this to my boss, who is a Urologist and also has experience in hormone therapy, and he said let’s go ahead and get you started on tour hormone therapy to get you out of menopause and I’m confident we can get you pregnant on your own. I was still pretty doubtful because I had been told by so many others that it was a lost cause. Well, after 3 months of hormone therapy, I became pregnant. I’m not 21 weeks along and couldn’t be happier. Don’t get discouraged, if it is meant to happen, it will. Try your different vitamins and give it some time.
Oh girl.... I am so sorry you are going through this. My husband and I have dealt with infertility and our 4 and a half year old is the result of our 9th ivf cycle. It was a horrifically difficult journey but so worth it. We just miscarried our 10th attempt in Dec and we are doing our 11th when Covid numbers go down more.
I had a hard time getting pregnant with my first child. We tried and tried for years. I finally talked to my O.B., we had my husband tested, he was fine, they wanted to test me. I scheduled my tests, my husband told me to cancel them. He just knew I would get pregnant naturally. This is after 3 years of no success at all. The next month a got my positive test, but it ended a week later in a miscarriage. I was devastated, but also saw a ray a sunshine in the fact I had finally conceived. Seven month after the miscarriage I conceived my daughter who is now 13. When we tried for my next baby it took one period cycle. It’s very strange how things happen.
Fast forward to 2018, I was watching your pregnancy reveal video for Ryleigh. I was crying, and I didn’t understand why I was so emotional. A few weeks later I found out I was pregnant again, this time I somehow managed to get pregnant with an IUD, plus using condoms. How that equals into a baby I will never understand. Our girls are 6 weeks apart, and I love it. Everything happens for a reason, and I know it’s hard to hear. I went through it for 3 1/2 years before getting to become a mom. It definitely will happen. ❤️❤️
Hello Madison! Thank you so much for making this fertility update video about your test results and letting us know all the things that you're doing now! :)
Hi Madison,
I'm sending you a huge hug. I don't know what else to say. I'm going through something similar, and I hurt for you just like I hurt for myself.
Hang in there, don't give up. Much love to you and your family.
I’m going through this journey with you. Keep your head up, your vibes positive, sending so much love and hope♥️🙏🏼
ALSO, I just want to add the statistics and information is going to different. SO MANY people go to the OBGYN with these problems verses the amount of people that can afford/actually go to the infertility clinic. If that made sense 💛
So sweet of you for sharing with us. Everything will be fine Just keep praying about it.And he will help work it out you. Love your videos. Saying prays for for you
Thank you for sharing. Definitely get a second opinion for anything.
All the best Madi. Everything will gonna be okay. I'm praying for you. ♥️♥️♥️
I’m rooting for you gal!!
First off want to thank you for sharing your fertility journey. It can’t be easy making this public as you go through it. I hesitated on commenting just bc I think everyone has to be mentally prepared for deciding to go through IVF, (and really no one should talk you into it) but I remember my own experience at this decision crossroads you are facing. As a physician (not fertility), I would agree with your fertility specialist’s impression of your labs and their recommendations. To set context, Fertility specialists make so much money I don’t really think most of them need to coax you into doing IVF. (That’s why it takes forever to get an appointment with them.). I also took my time deciding on IVF, trying IUI, a few more months of trying naturally etc. I finally got pregnant after one round of IVf and 1 frozen transfer. I wish I hadn’t taken so long to get here, but mentally I needed the time to accept it. In your case when they tell you not to take longer than 4 months, I would not assume they’re saying that just to make money. They are talking about premature ovarian failure, not just based on your numbers but in the setting of a recent miscarriage, and a year of trying with successful ovulation every month. Ovarian health is not something you can reliably reverse with supplements. If you do IVF and get more embryos you can also secure the possibility of having more children in the future. Just some thoughts for you to consider.
I’m so sorry this has been a tough journey. I would have to agree with some of the other subscribers & try clomid as well. I struggled with infertility for 10 years after a blighted ovum & our doctor explained that clomid will increase the number of eggs. I also ovulate but for some reason just never had a successful pregnancy before clomid. I also had a great HSG test that showed no issues. Give it a try. You have nothing to lose but just a few months. Totally worth it. Best of luck!
It’s a difficult road to navigate. Our little girl was born 9 weeks ago thanks to IVF 💗 my numbers were far lower then yours, it is difficult going through injections and hormones but it is equally miraculous. I’m sure you will make the right decision for the both of you. The bonus of IVF is storing beautiful embryos for future babies if you wish xo
I'm so proud of you and how strong you are.
Thank you for sharing! Praying for you. 🤗💕
I have PCOS and infertility. These supplements were my exact regiment, I was pregnant 3 months later! Baby dust xo (And inositol)
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Madison, first thank you for sharing your story. Second go with your gut! I heard you say in your last video that your gut is almost never wrong, so I would start there. I would give your vitamins time to work and the vitamins with the procedure you just did might be enough! Big hugs 💗 and I will be praying for you guys.
Thank you💕
You should definitely start reading “It Starts with the Egg” (the most recent version) as soon as possible. I started it, except I have PCOS so I have a different problem but it covers all areas of infertility and what women should be taking as far as supplements, as well as diet changes. It talked about men’s infertility as well. I am 27 and will be doing IVF next cycle if our current IUI (third cycle) doesn’t work. You likely will start seeing complete improvements in about 2-3 months, most likely 3.
I would personally suggest 2 IUIs before moving to IVF with your circumstances but at the end of the day it’s up to you! Good luck girl.
Just wanted leave you a positive note here. I was going through exactly what you were going through... ovulating normally, slightly lower (but not devastating) AMH levels, husband's sperm count was perfect, secondary infertility. We also have a daughter named Riley (!!), who we conceived on our second cycle, who turned 2 in May. We had been trying for 10 months to get pregnant, and finally went to a fertility clinic about 7 months in (approximately last April). When it came to trying treatments, here is what we did: month 1 (May), we tried nothing (except our HSG test). Month 2, we tried a medicated cycle + IUI (letrozole, HCG trigger shot and progesterone suppositories). Month 3 we decided to keep the letrozole and progesterone, but nothing else but have intercourse multiple times around ovulation, and boom, pregnant. For me, I have always suspected it is due to my short luteal phase (it was 9-10 days at MOST), so I'm thinking the progesterone did the trick. I should also mention I am 5 years older than you! My clinic also pushed IVF HARD. They see those dollar signs and they know your emotions are key to going through with it. But for us we just kind of knew it would happen. It just took time. Good luck to you... I hope it all goes well!
Thank you for the update! Always listen to your gut. Sometimes doctors focus on the worst case scenario because offering the best case and being wrong can cause emotional harm to patients. I also think they offer IVF because it IS scientifically the best option because there is more control over the fertilization process, but that doesn't mean it should be the only option they focus on, especially because it is so expensive and isn't 100% successful. If you feel like your doctor was pressing it for financial gain though, definitely get a second opinion. Good Luck! ❤😊
It will happen no matter how it happens! 💕
Yay so happy 2 back to back videos 😘😍💖👸🏼Love you gorgeous 🙏🏼praying that soon you have your little miracle
I am so sorry that this is something you are going through. We love you(me and the bfs daughters) and hope you manage to conceive. Love you so much!!
Honestly sweetheart, my advice would be to stop trying so so hard and have lots of fun with your husband , destress a little bit each day and it will happen!!!! I know it will, you are a wonderful mom and any child is lucky to your babe!😘
This is the worst advice for someone who is TTC. I understand you may not understand but try to hold off from “just have fun” comments when people are struggling
That sounds like the best advice! Just try and relax and it will happen!❤
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no idea who i am and what iv been through, the best advice i could give is what helped for me , but thanks for thinking you knew .
Teresa Meyer telling someone to “relax” when their gut is telling them there is something wrong, is brushing aside and minimizing their feelings. I know you just want her to be happy and comfortable, but that’s not life. Life is uncomfortable and stressful and people need to be heard and supported, not told to relax. I can’t tell you how many times I was told “it will happen” in the 5 years I was actively trying to conceive. It’s like knifes in the heart. After 4 years with a specialist, 2 IUIs, 3 IVF embryo transfers, and 12 years of marriage (never using birth control) I’m finally pregnant. It didn’t just happen. I made it happen.
@@jmurph1234 this!
Praying for you! I had several miscarriages,last year. My specialist found out that I ovulate immature eggs, and put me on letrazole and ovadrel to grow eggs, and make sure I ovulate. I would recommend getting a second opinion. I feel like it might be something that can be fixed, without IVF. It seems pretty drastic to just jump into IVF, without trying anything else first.
I had an IUI baby girl 6 years ago. We were successful on our first cycle of IUI. We have made the decision to not go the IVF route, but plan to give IUI another go (at 33 years of age) in the upcoming months. Prayers for you as you make your decisions!
What was your issue please? Was from your side or your husband’s side ?
My ovaries don’t mature follicles independently so they utilize injections to force my body to produce a mature egg. No male issues.
@@tiffanysolum9417 thanks for replying, I was thinking to do IUI but we actually have male issues😔
Hi Maddy, I have been where you are and by your numbers that you stated I would definitely listen to the reproductive endocrinologist. Obgyns are not trained in fertility as extensively as reproductive specialists so there’s that. I started my fertility journey in 2019. I was 32 at the time. My FSH was 10.2 which is high on the normal range for the fertility practice I went to. My Amh was 2.30 and my follicle count was 27. My husbands tests turned out fine as well so we basically were diagnosed as unexplained infertility. We started with two rounds of timed intercourse that failed. I took 4 months off and then did my first IUI which failed. My second IUI I became pregnant and am now 31 weeks. After I deliver this baby I will be going back to my fertility doctor sometime next year to get new tests done to see what my levels are due to me being 34 turning 35 next year. Your fertility doctor is not sales pitching you as the numbers tell a story and do not lie. Please stay encouraged on your journey and like my fertility doctor told me “Your infertility journey is a marathon and not a sprint.” That helped me soo much when I received so many months of negative pregnancy tests. I believe you will get pregnant but you have to trust that these people know what they’re doing. Blessings to you and your family.
I am sooo happy for you for sharing all of these! I am sure everything gonna be alright 😍😍
I got pregnant with my first 2 on the first try in 2007 and 2011. We started trying again in 2016 for our 3rd. I had just come off of birth control and was ovulating regularly but dealing with cysts. I had 2 miscarriages within a few months of each other. I was doing everything possible but wasn't successful. After 9 months of trying with no success, we decided to stop trying and would eventually reach out to a fertility specialist once we wanted to start trying again. I just couldn't handle the emotional roller coaster anymore. Low and behold, I ended up getting pregnant naturally the month we stopped trying. I honestly believe that the stress of trying to get pregnant played a major role in my infertility.
I felt that same feeling about her giving you a sales pitch listening to your story. I would 100% get a second opinion and maybe even a third to be sure before you spend that kind of money. Good luck to you guys I'm so sorry you're going through this!
Thank you for sharing your journey. It helps me not feel so alone
Sending good vibes your way. Y’all got this!
Thank you for sharing! I’ve been where you’re at and have gone through everything and more! Our insurance didn’t cover IVF but covered everything else but the procedure and transfer so we took out another insurance policy that did have coverage and had two policies. It’s called coordination of benefits. If you get to that point which I hope you don’t... research insurances!
Elizabeth S we spent months researching insurance and ways to pay for treatment so we didn’t go broke in the process. My primary insurance is Michigan and it didn’t cover any of the procedures but we live in IL where insurances in IL cover procedures.. just depending on how many per calendar year. She is young so hopefully it doesn’t have to come to the more involved like IVF or even iui. I’ve been through it all and the way I got through it was by watching you tube videos and talking to friends who gave me the ideas for taking out a second insurance policy. I had my first baby at 36 after years of trying and treatment and now we’re about to start again for baby #2.
I could relate to you so much in this video! I lost my right ovary and Fallopian tube due to an abnormal ovarian cyst. Now flash forward to 2019 when my husband and I decided to start a family. Over a year went by of TTC and nothing was happening. I went to my doctor and we ran several tests. Turns out I have a low ovarian reserve (for my age 28) but that wasn’t te worst part. I found out I had two abnormal cysts on my left ovary again. I was devastated. so now I’ll be doing 2 rounds of IVF. Which includes 2 egg retrieval’s (praying for healthy embryos), then surgery to remove my cysts (praying to keep my ovary) and after that we can proceed with the transfer of our embryos! I’m praying for you and your journey for baby #2 🙏🏻💕
Also my AMH was .9 and I also only have 9 follicles as well. Even if I didn’t have my cysts to worry about we still would have done IVF. but I think you should keep trying before starting IVF or at least get another opinion.
Hi, I would suggest getting a menalite Stone, unakite and carnelian stone. You will have your baby in no time. Sending you hugs of comfort and love.
Hey, Madison! So sorry to hear you are going through this. I’ve had 3 miscarriages and have been speaking with OBGYN’s, Fertility Doctors, and Acupuncturists that use Chinese Medicine. I’ve heard a lot of different things but I am someone that prefers the more natural routes most of the time. That being said, I’m trying to clean up my diet and eat whole foods, exercise regularly, and get my hormones checked. My acupuncturist told me that 9/10 times, a fertility specialist is going to tell you that IVF is your only option (bs if you ask me b/c like you said it feels like a scam to get more $$). That’s not to say that IVF isn’t the best option for some... Chinese Medicine and Acupuncture have been used for hundreds of years to help with fertility so maybe that’s something you might want to look into. I hope you and Joel get baby #2 soon! XO!
I would consider iui. I have to pay out of pocket for all my meds and appointments and it's so much cheaper then ivf. Atleast try 2 cycles. With the meds it help increase ur egg count it's worth a try.or maybe try one more cycle with the supplements you have been taking and see if that helps. But ur first ivf is so expensive but it gives u a lot more answers too. In the end you gotta pick what works best for you.
This video just reminded me of a video that rawbeautykristi did about pregnancy. It took her 15 years to conceive that she had made up her mind that she would not get pregnant ever and she and her husband were going to be fine. She through a lot meaning she was spending lots of money on treatments that were not helping. At last she got pregnant after 15 years of trying to conceive. She still thinks she’s dreaming because it’s a miracle. I love her honesty and she talks about these kind of videos that no one makes and everyone needs the truth not sugarcoat everything. Go see her videos she’s awesome.
It took us 7 months to conceive after my miscarriage, it felt like forever but I am now 22 weeks with my rainbow baby! Please stay hopeful and my biggest tip is to stay calm and do not stress out. As soon as I felt at peace I got pregnant ❤️
Go with your gut. We went to one fertility specialist and had a similar feeling of the clinic just wanting to make money. Went to a fertility clinic at an academic medical center and had a totally different experience. They were wonderful. Did tests only when necessary and had a great bedside manner.
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I know how hard this is. We had to go through the same. I ended up going though IVF. You would be surprised that most insurances cover IVF now at some degree. Give them a call and you never know. We thankfully were covered for 3 cycles!!!
What insurance do you have? I’m pretty sure ours doesn’t. I have blue shield.
My husband and I need a ICSI treatment because I have PCO and my husbands sperm is so bad that an ICSI is our only chance to get pragnent. We’re hoping for the best now. We will start our treatment in August or September because in Germany we have to get a second opinion from another doctor before they can start the treatment so hopefully we will start very soon and we will someday have our little miracle. I wish you and your husband all the best. I know it’s hard and frustrating but you can do this 🌸
Thank you for being so honest with your journey.
We tried for a little over a year I know your circumstances are different but Preseed I believe helped us conceive both times
I struggled with fertility for 3 years, I did everything from changing diet to vitamins then a fertility specialist, I did the hcg test and everything seemed to be fine painful but fine, I did 3 rounds of iui and after being overwhelmed and just fed up of always having a negative pregnancy test I finally went for IVF and, after testing and seeing that my egg releases slowly and by the time I'm supposed to be fertile I miss my opportunity. I ended up doing egg retrieval, freezing my eggs and then putting it back in me. I got pregnant and have a healthy baby girl. The injections everyday is overwhelming at times the hormones sometimes stress you out , just breathe thru it and think of the outcome. Good luck and God bless.
I got the same feeling. And I also feel like you guys are going to conceive naturally 🥰
Hi Maddy I’m praying for you !! Also you should try meditation..there’s some good apps for it headspace , calm , are the two I use even take 5 minute meditation breaks twice three times a day they do help my stress !! 💖💕💞
Wishing y’all all the best !
My sister has endometriosis and she did the 10-12% chance thing (forgot what it was called lol) and she got pregnant and they thought she wouldn't and was pushing the more expensive route.....I personally don't know much about it but do hope whatever happens it's what you guys want ..praying for you!! 🙏
Depends where the Endometriosis is. I had it in the cul d sac. Behind my uterus to the left, back of vagina (outside) and rectum. My aunt had it on her ovary. I conceived. She couldn't. Endo is hit and miss. You really never know.
I will be praying for you and your family mad💙💗
Honestly someone whom has had two miscarriages at 4 months along then had a baby perfectly fine. these doctors will tell u stuff for money 💲💲💲.
AGREED !!! Miscarriages ARE very common, most times don’t have any underlying causes. Money hungry specialists.
Agreed, I had a healthy pregnancy then 3 miscarriages did all the tests everything came back “normal”. I finally had my baby last August now I’m 12 weeks pregnant again. I used progesterone suppositories with my current and last which might of helped who knows. IVF for someone who was just pregnant is very drastic.
Okay, I am pregnant right now with our rainbow baby after 5 1/2 years of trying.
Not stoked to throw everything out on TH-cam, but I’m gonna send you a IG message and hope you see it!
Male factor infertility is a serious thing too. My husband is the issue and it took us 5 years. 3 failed IUIs then we did IVF. We got 4 embryos, our miracle baby was embryo 4 (transfer 3). Shes 3 months old now 🥰
Me and my husband have been trying for 8 years.. we did 5 IUIs.. we are now doing IVF after getting a second opinion that IVF was our best option..we have never been pregnant and really hoping this round works..
Our numbers are similar. praying for you ♡
What a stressful decision. It sucks even more and makes the journey harder when you feel like you can’t trust your specialist. Thank you for sharing this part of your journey.
Ah, the ol' "70% success rate" IVF quote. I remember hearing something along those lines and feeling so confident in IVF. 3 years and 5 embryo transfers later... we have yet to see a positive pregnancy test. It has been a long journey. We are diagnosed as "unexplained" (no male factor issues, HSG and hysteroscopy clear, bloodwork and hormone levels ideal, ovulate on my own each month, genetic screening normal). Infertility is a complex issue. At your age, with your previous successful pregnancy and hormone levels within normal range - I would trust your OBGYN and get a second opinion from another RE. Diet, exercise, healthy lifestyle, timed intercourse, IUI, etc. There are a lot of paths to success before jumping into IVF. I wish you the best!
Where i live usually in cases where couples try to have baby , the doctors are giving B6, B12 and B9 (folic acid ) and antioxidants for woman and selenium and vitamin C for men even if there is no problem in order to concive easily . You can read about those suplements/vitamins
Hello miss this channel and praying for you 😘😘😘don't worry stress is not good for you
I'm so sorry you have to go thru this. I know it's hard because I was in the same boat as you. Me & my husband been trying for 4yrs & never got pregnant. At first we were planning to try to go thru a fertility specialist... So expensive, so I did my research & I saw acupuncture was an option.. I did it for 2months every week & taken herbal pills.. So within less than 3months, I got pregnant. I was 32 when I got pregnant with my daughter.. Then less than 2yrs, I was pregnant again with my son... Stay strong & don't anything put you down & stress free...
Yes definitely get that second opinion!
Try taking Selenium !!! This will help!!! Many ladies in there older years are taking this and are having baby’s ..💖💙💖💙💖💙💖💙💖💙💖💙💖💙💖💙💖💙💖💙💖💙💖💙💖💙💖💙💖💙💖💙💖💙💖
Yes girl get a second opinion!!! But in the mean time take the supplements/vitamins and try on your own. Especially now that your tubes are unblocked it might be easier to conceive and carry a baby. good luck.
I have faith in you and you can do this
Wishing you so much happiness and stay strong 💕💕 thank you so much for sharing this with us you are so incredibly beautiful and I'm sure it will happen when it is meant to happen. Love you 🤗🤗💕
So brave for you to share everything !!! I would recommend getting a second opinion. Fertility clinics are a business.