As a white guy who's starting to think about visiting the Philippines, I would absolutely discourage my Filipina girlfriend from using whitening anything. I want a brown skinned woman. Something about the brown skin, dark eyes and jet black hair just makes me weak in the knees. I just hope it happens someday.
yes brother, i understand you. It took me a little while to convince my filipina wife to keep her hair black for me and that i am in love with her dark eyes, hair and skin complexion. She now understands that she can captivate this white man by being as dark as she can. Just tell your filipina that opposites attract abd that you desire her dark features the same way she desires your light features
@Christmas Trees speaking for myself, I'm not attracted to African Women. It doesn't mean they aren't beautiful to others, but I've never been attracted to an afro-american....
My Filipina wife of 27 years passed away over 1 1/2 years ago. We had 27 wonderful years together. I met her in the U.S. on a tourist Visa. After she passed away, I knew I wanted to marry another Filipina, because their values are far better, then American women (I know there are exceptions to this). Presently, I am engaged to a Cebuana and interestingly enough, she has fair skin. We met online and upon our first meeting, we hit it off as if we have known each other for years. Perhaps it's because I had already been married to a Filipina and we lived together in the Philippines for over 12 years. So I was already accustomed to Philippine culture and their values. I found what I consider to be the love of my life!
May GOD bless you Dennis and your new relationship. I'm divorced unexpectedly from a Thai spouse after 7.5 years of marriage and went to PI to check it out. Relocating there shortly if all goes well and retiring very early.
sir!! how i wish i could pick up your brain. learned something valuable today. I’m a nineteen-year old filipina and it just made sense to me why i’m starting to consider in dating white men in the future. we had the same thoughts with your wife. i also thought that it might be because of my preference. but when you explained your side that it could also be because of social conditioning, it totally clicked!! i used to feel ashamed of my skin because my mother raised me to work hard on getting a fairer skin but as i get older, i learned to love and embrace what i have. and not to mention the toxicity of the filipino media. damn, it made sense!! love the lesson i learned here which is to make up your own rules in life 🤘
Man, this guy is very credible and the points he makes are very plausible. I thought for a minute though that he was talking his wife into thinking that her attraction to him was actually founded in some sick thing in Asian culture. I remember one time I was showering compliments on my hot, exotic, Filipino wife. I told her she was exotic. What was funny was that she returned the compliment and told me, no, you're exotic. Then, we got in a fight about who was more exotic and why. It was pretty funny. Nope, sometimes one can be attracted to a certain aesthetic, personal traits, personality and values. One can blame God for making certain people attractive, but don't blame me for liking it.
I met my wife online and it took me 2 months to pursuade her to sent a picture. She has a beautiful morena complexion and is chubby since ever. She thought she would loose me after i see her in full. She was bullied when she was young and everybody told her she will never find a husband because of her size and complexion. I told her she is beautiful and now she likes i compare her to german chocolate bcause of her sweetness and complexion. Now she is proud to be my "Choco" :-)
we white men are in LOVE with filipinas and they LOVE us too! It is a love story that goes back centuries. i almost gave up on finding true love until i fell in LOVE with my filipina wife. She loves me and is faithful to me so i will devote my life to making her happy
That's beautiful man!! Definitely some inspiration needed for me. No matter how tough I want to be about this situation I'm exiting after 15 yrse yeah it hurts but I've always wanted to head east and marry a beautiful woman from the eastern hemisphere. Aftere 15 years of ups and downs, laughs and tears from what I understand everything I poured out of my heart into the hands of another who threw it away but if I did the same to a Filipina, she'd be honored and loved and would appreciate it and me?? WOW!! The last 3.5 yrs were ❄️ice cold 🌬️ queen 🥶 B 🌬️ So sick of western values and western women!!
The way Rose explained it to me was that in the past the upper class never worked out in the sun as they had servants to do it. So the rich and powerful naturally had lighter skin than a general laborers that were in the sun all day. Over time people just began thinking that White meant rich and successful. I enjoyed your video as always. Keep up the good work 👍
I'm a proud filipina with morena skin, your wife is beautiful..blacks are beautiful. Be true to yourself. What's important is your good heart regardless of race, age, religion and status in life. As what you said be real.
Great video guys. You are so right about that Filipinas will love any man if he has a good heart. I'm African American and my Filipina loves how good I treat her, my chocolate brown skin, and enjoys the most common stereotype about a black man hehehe 😂.
Preference to have lighter skin is because of Spaniards. Dictated us lighter skin is superior, high class status & beautiful for 333 years as a colony. Influenced our preference when we look for future boyfriend or husband. Still, we can be attracted to anyone.Lighter skin or darker. We try our best to embrace our brown skin & it is still on going. Another influence: INTERMARRIAGE of Spanish & native filipinos = mestiza or mestizo That story happened to a lot of families. My grandma, family members & her ancestors were mestiza. I did not inherit their color & accepted it now.Embraced it already. During my teens, my grandma EMPHASIZED "superiority thru mestiza beauty". We should be proud to be coming from SPANISH family. Became insecure of my skin to an extent because of her.Thankful I got over it.I still love her, even if her mindset is different from mine.
Well hopefully when I get my Filipina we will, by just living a regular life, be an example of how love can conquer all. Even today I feel as if the internet raised children will think differently, as post generations have always thought compared to previous generations. The future looks bright.
I am currently engaged to an American, who is absolutely the most loving and wonderful man I’ve ever met. I’ve always admired white men, but I haven’t dated one until I met my fiancé. I’ve always dated Filipino guys in the past. To be honest, though I preferred white men, I still got attracted to other skin colors as long as they had a good character. But now, I only have eyes for my man. My point is, skin color doesn’t really matter if someone has a heart of gold.💛 To add, I’d have to agree with your argument about the morena skin. I used a lot of whitening products as a teenager just so I could be called beautiful. The moment I snapped out of that obsession due to culture and perpetuating influence of the media that ‘fair skin is better’, I have learned to love my tan skin more. And my fiancé loves my skin, too. He wouldn’t want me any other way. And now, my preference changed because I find morena women a lot more attractive! So, morena skin all the way!💛✊🏽
On point. For me It is not about skin color, nationality, how tall or how handsome a guy is coz if you are truly attracted to a person you will accept him no matter what.
The fact that you stated you admired white men without ever even meeting one leans towards it being a brainwashing situation. But there's nothing wrong with the base level preference. The administration without contact is a bit awkward though
most American guys like myself after having dated several American women, tend to find American women very spoiled, self centered and materialistic and greedy. I have a circle of friends that have married filipinas and I find them very warm and loving, funny and exciting to be around. my first marriage to a filipina didnt work out(she cheated) but my 2nd relationship with another filipina that I plan to marry in the future has been such a blessing that I am glad my 1st marriage ended. my current filipina I took much longer to get to know her 1st before we both decided we want to be together. this coming march will be my 2nd trip and we have grown closer in the 3 years we have known each other, with my first marriage I felt it was a bit rushed and we really didnt devote much time to really get to know one another, looking back on it, I wished I had taken another year to get to know my 1st wife better and it would have saved me 9 wasted years. I would encourage couples not to rush into marriage, could save major headaches later on
I am a Filipina and my skin is also a bit on the tan side. Thanks, Bryan (?) for explaining/clarifying that out to Angelica (also to Filipinas who experienced the same discrimination as her) the psychological effects of color preferences. I am in my 50s now and I remember being bullied by my older sibling for having dark skin. That left a stigma which I had to struggle through life making skin white all my adult years. Moreover, the struggle to make myself white also meant giving up a lot of things I loved doing like sports that would expose me to sunlight. That kind of mentality made me unhappy over the years. I neglected to focus more on my inner beauty. I realized as well that being unique inside and out is more than enough to be beautiful. And when I emanate that as my point of focus, other people began to appreciate me more, are more comfortable, and are happier being with me more. Now, I am enjoying my life with my normally tanned skin, sometimes darker when I get too much exposure to the sun. On the other hand, I still see my sibling always struggling to remain to be white yet still unhappy with her life and marriage.
That is totally true! When I came here I learned to embrace my natural brown complexion. Growing up nobody said that I am beautiful bcoz of my color. My sister have a brighter skin color than me so I am next to my sister and they tell her she is cute and nobody said I am. I told my husband that story and he felt so bad. He said I am very beautiful!😍😁
Great points and insights! Being a "white guy" in the USA, I have to be careful about "age gap" relationship possibilities. Most of my friends balk at the idea of me having a relationship with someone 40 let alone younger. I did graduate level work in mental health counseling and psychology and several years ago had an "Ah...ha!" Moment as to why I'm generally not attracted to women around my age. I was married late at 32...marriage lasted 3.5 agonizing years and then ended after my wife cheated. So my theory is that being single and not having a wife to "age with" I tend to look at women around my age as almost like they are my mother...lol Serious though. I have seen some women in their fifties that were very attractive, but they are married so no opportunity there. I do know there are other factors that affect me. Many I meet have been divorced not once but twice. One time I'd be willing to take a chance after getting to know their life's story but twice divorced tells me you haven't gotten your unresolved issues solved. You are so right about "conditioning." We could easily take a young boy in partial conditioning and show him constantly overweight women and continue to tell him how beautiful they are compared to pictures of women who are slender. In so many cases, that young boy grown up will have developed a preference to overweight women. We are in essence a product of our environment to a huge degree. Now, I have seen and met some amazing women who were heavy but to me very beautiful. I'm a "face" person and am attracted to a beautiful smile on a women. In most cases as a married couple advances in age, they acquire wrinkles and skin spots as well as excess weight...but if they truly love one another then that love transcends those acquired imperfections. And nope...dont want to marry a 25 year old....or a 30 year old. For me I would worry about her happiness and future satisfaction. Anyway....great stuff you two! If you dont mind me asking...obviously you are far from retirement age. What industry are you involved in? You look like you could be either a business leader, a coach or in sales. I hope you both count your blessings each day. That is so awesome that your wife loves your children like she does and that they love her back. I've unfortunately have never had the blessings of children. They truly are a gift from God.
wow!!! as a black man i had heard about the white guy deal but didnt know what was up, i have a whole new understanding and appreciate. the education. love you guys honesty. keep up the good work!!!
As a white man (very white), I am flattered that Filipinas like my skin tone. As far as white mens preference towards women, it really varies by each man. Generally I think it is finding a good woman is first and then the other factors click in. This is just my opinion.
I found it interesting that as she was attempting to tell her truth about preferring white skin, he wanted to steer her in another direction. How does a man just hijack someone's opinion and world view? Her truth and preference are hers. I think it's possible that being bullied for having a brown skin tone may have lead her to feel ashamed of her looks in a way. The same as some black people grew up feeling ashamed of their darker skin. I'm not saying she's right or wrong., I just think it's okay be honest about how you got to where you are in your preferences in the opposite sex. We all like what we like and that's no different than preferring brunettes over blondes. It's just what I like. Not that one is better than the other.
Chuck Brown Hi Chuck, thanks for watching. Are you implying that I’m hijacking my wife’s opinion? Help me understand? Have you ever been the Philippines?
@@CrazyFilipinaLove I wasn't implying it, I was stating it. I mean if the subject of discussion is why Filipina women choose white men, why not allow HER to express HER point of view? It was as if you'd prefer her to see things from your perspective. Just a tad domineering. I've watched a couple of your videos and plan to watch more because I'm interested in the idea of connecting with a Filipina woman. There just seems to be a ton of these videos being done by men from the states and not women from the Philippines so the conversation is a bit one sided.
Chuck Brown Hey Chuck, I understand your point of view. I get it, and appreciate it. If you were a fly on the wall while we are shooting and editing with you would see things differently. Not being domineering in any way. I’m trying to get her to open up and participate more. You will see in other videos. Some topics she is more comfortable talking more. The truth is, this is my passion, It’s really been my passion for years. I’m a psychology research nerd that seeks a deeper understanding of why people do what they do. The goal is to make a difference. Doesn’t matter to us if she does all the talking or me. Will leave you with this. If a Filipina can speak good English from our point of view, most will still hold back from deeper content speaking on camera because other Filipinos can be very judgmental of another’s English speaking ability. It’s a real thing. But trust me, I wan’t her to talk. A lot. It will only help our subscribers and grow our channel more.
@@CrazyFilipinaLove Thanks my man. I appreciate your clarification on this. I've discovered a number of things new today about their culture and this is how we all grow and understand each other. I hope she finds the courage to be more vocal and unconcerned with the criticisms. It goes with the territory in this social media driven culture but it truly helps those of us who are seeking knowledge both good and bad.
Because she wasn't being honest and he called her out. The question was why the preference? The preference is obvious. So she wasn't answering the deeper question. Admitting that you are seeking higher status in a racist society is difficult to do. But, it's the honest thing to do.
Hi I'm a new follower here I just want to express my own opinion about the topic that why Filipina want a white guy for me as a filipina it's not just about the color of the skin or a preference my personal reason is just that I am seeking for a true and real love, I'm seeking for a person who really accept who really am because in my intire life before I did not feel or get that kind of acceptance in my own community sad to say I got bullied every day every hour every minute because of my dark skin color so I grew up being bullied, not only that but my biggest reason is when I was got broken hurted with the filipino guy I told to my self that maybe I will or I can find my real partner who accept and love me unconditionally through a white guy so here I am now so HAPPY and CONTENTED WITH MY ALMOST 8 YEARS OF MARRIAGE WITH MY ITALIAN HUSBAND so it's not just about the color of the skin or what simple as that REAL UNCONDITIONAL LOVE, HAPPINESS AND ACCEPTANCE THAT YOU DIDN'T FOUND WITH YOUR THE SAME NATIONALITY
I agree with what you say or advice..the crucial point is that we need to accept what god has given to us..because god has created us with different beauty to color his wonderful world,which will make him happy..
Korean and Chinese has pop culture has a very big influance at Phillipines if you watching Kpop or Kdrama, you always see tal, pale, handsome people, in china and japan its the same. Its also said in the video white skin is associated with field workere farmer (low class) their skin is tannted due to the exposition to the sun at the fieldwork, while pale skin is more the high class what sitting in ther offices protected from the sun and earn much money.
I love the dark skin and dark eyes and black hair of filipinas. Does that make sense? I think a lot of men would say the same thing. I don't think many would criticize a white man for being obsessed with the dark skin dark eyes and black hair of filipinas. How is it any different for a Filipina to like light skin color? And it can boil down to just preference as A make it or break it criteria. That doesn't mean a person basis their entire selection on skin color but it can easily direct someone to select only from that category, with all other necessary and more important criteria being met.
Your idea is on point, I totally agree with you man. It’s sad that even men in the Philippines trying to be white-colored or fair-skinned or however you wanna call it. 😀
Hi guys I've joined Filipino Cupid about 4 weeks ago, got a message immediately wanting an email so we could chat instead I gave her my Facebook information I never heard from her again. I got to thinking about it and a Facebook profile it's hard to fake because it goes back years and I haven't found a better way to communicate. Facebook phone and video and Skype all are such bad connections, what else is there?
It is preference based thinking, I've been married to American women and I'm tired of them just because of the whole sequel revolution thing and the prevailing feminist movement. I'm leaning towards a filipina for just that reason and I love the beauty they possess inside and out. My first wife was filipina German mix but born and raised in the states. She introduced me to the culture through family and I learned first hand about how family oriented they are and how welcoming they are . Unfortunately her americanizm caught up with her and she stepped out on our relationship and I had to end it . I know this can happen anywhere but I want a woman with more traditional values in my life . Skin tone is not a prerequisite as much as attitude in my case but I understand where preference comes into play .
Great video guy's your right about the brain washing seeing adverts about white skin products to me skin colour is not important its what's within that's important. Thanks for sharing.
Good morning to you both oh, this was a very interesting conversation and much needed here on TH-cam. Unfortunately I once saw on Facebook a young Filipina advertising whitening cream and nobody was buying it from her. She made a comment why do men love the brown skin Filipinos so much. Well she got her well deserve answers from many people on Facebook. And she wind up taking the product off Facebook for sale. I have ran into many Afro Americans and Cebu and other places who have wives and girlfriends here in the Philippines. Speaking for myself I am Afro-American is well in my wife is a brown skin Filipina. She just did not fall into the commercial trap that they have in the Philippines with you have to be a different skin color other than what you are. Each one of us are beautiful in our own ways and it's a wonderful thing🙏
Generally speaking, As a Filipino we have that presumption that white people got money. Unknowingly that there are other races who got more. For my opinion all babies with mixed race either black, white, Asian their beauty is rare & one of a kind.
My maternal grandfather is part-Chinese who married a morena Filipina. Their kids were all morena (including my mom). My mom married a brown Filipino while my mom's sisters ALL married mestizo men. My sisters came out morena while i (dude) got my fair skin from my maternal grandfather (who is half Chinese). Growing up, we saw how "attractive" all our first cousins are since they all have mixed ethnicity. So, i and my siblings grew up feeling "inferior" because we were not as good looking as our cousins. Somehow our "darker" complexion affected our emotional mindset growing up. My parents worked hard to put me in a private school for boys. And in that school for boys, more than half of my classmates are fair skinned/ whiter skinned and are mostly middle class. So, what you are saying about status and opportunity for whiter/ fairer skinned Filipinos is so on point. The good thing about it, though I and my siblings felt "inferior", we excelled in school and all of us got degrees and got professional licenses. All of us are now based in the US and we are proud of our light brown complexion. It is an entirely different mindset here in the US and i tell as many Filipinos as i know to be proud of their brown complexion. White people will spend lots of money just to look darker and not too white.
LOL quite true. But there some I saw it. I guess because we're brown (sometimes we say it ourselves like block too) I think because opposite attract that's how it is.
Most that are sincere I believe they don’t care, they want a good man! But as a “white guy” I love my wifes skin tone and I am definitely against her whitening her skin! According to my wife she finds the longer nose more sexy! Anyway does it matter she’s beautiful and we are happy!
People here like using whitening products because of the standard of beauty here . Beauty here is white ,tall and so on but they dont know that being beautiful is not about skin color or outward appearance but what's in your heart...and to all brown skin there they must embrace your brown complexion and be confident and most of all be authentic and you authentic love too 😊
Amazing! it's true😅😁. I have this dream to have white skin, and then hit this realization by your video, that yeah right, it's just all in our mindset. that having fair skin will turn me beautiful, attractive and pleasant to look at😁. Thank you for this vid 😘😘 Mabuhay!
I understand your point , but she likes what she likes . I don’t know what else to say . I like my fiancée because I love her skin . She’s beautiful to me , dark or light even though she prefers lighter skin . I understand why , she told me . So if she wants that I’ll totally good with it . I’m just happy she loves me and wants to spend her life with me .
Love your understanding because it's not just a Filipino thing, even young black women and men in the United States feel like that to, because they were taught this.
In my own opinion. Maybe Filipinas are more into white men 'cause it's only the white men mostly who appreciates more the beauty of a filipina especially of filipinas with tan or morena skin. White men appreciates filipina with morena skin. When filipinas with morena skin feels they are not that beautiful sometimes it's white men usually who lifts their spirit and confidence when white men tells them they are gorgeous and with a beautiful skin complexion and filipinas learn to love themselves even more and become more confident...that is my opinion.
This conditioning also comes from their history. The indigenous Philippine is actually dark skinned. Obviously when Spain invaded the Island their mission, like all over the planet was to "white out the country." So the indoctrination stared doing that time. And unfortunately many Filipinas have been indoctrinated with the misconception that the darker skin is taboo. That is of course unless your black & famous. I know this as my own wife who is a Filipina actually told me her friends tried to discourage her from dating me. They told her, if you marry a black Man you won't have a good life. Let's just say after 8 years in a strong and healthy relationship. many of those same friends are now asking her to ask me if I have any friends to hook them up with. So what's changed on their behalf. I'm still black! Great subject matter. Judge a Man on the content of his character, not the colour of his skin.
Not only spain. Philippines were also colonized by americans and japanese. So those mentality did not only come from spaniards but also with those two mentioned.
I'm Black and I'm seeing a Filipina. I noticed her skin is much lighter than she is depicted in earlier pictures. She admitted to using lightening agents. I actually like her darker morena skin. She's still beautiful to me, however. Black women have the same problem, which is why hair weave is a whopping 1.1 billion industry mainly supported by Black women.
I am a latino guy talking to a young lady in the Philippines. I am not light skinned either. We bonded over a facebook group for singles looking for other people in the same religious circle. I had great conversations with other Filipinas also.
Hello, first I am thankful that I found your channel. I joined a dating site some time ago based in the Philippines. I have met the most beautiful human being and I feel in my heart that I want to spend my remaining years with her. We have talked about splitting time between both the Philippines and the U.S. Most of the year would be spent there. My question is what advice do you have for us about living in both places as it relates the two separate cultures we come from and the impact it has on each one especially at the beginning?
Hello! I've been thinking about this as I have been watching this video. I know, in some other Asian cultures, that lighter skin was more preferable because of social status. When I say social status, I do not mean anything in regard to Caucasians. It boils down to societal/financial status and quality of life. Typically, people with darker skin (same racial group) spend more time exposed to the sun. Meaning they were mainly laborers who worked outdoors. Further meaning, that they were on the lower end of the social ladder. Whereas, lighter skin made it appear that you were in a higher social standing, living comfortably. This would make it an appealing trait when looking for a partner and what the future could bring. In living with this truth over the generations, having it just become part of the culture, makes lighter skinned people more attractive , in this case. Maybe I am wrong, but this does seem plausible.
Michael Charette Great comment! Yes you on point. This is the social upbringing and mindset. My own wife was always very self conscious of how dark her skin was living in PH before she came to U.S. Now she embraces it and sees it a something that makes her even more beautiful.
funny thing is most central europeans spend crazy amounts of time sunbathing or even on tanning beds to get a more brownish color because it looks beautiful. I don't think it's due to discrimination as well though
Everyone has preferences and what they find attractive or appealing . Long hair v short hair . Tall v short . Curvy v petite . Pointy nose v flat nose. White skin, brown skin, black skin , yellow skin, red skin. Brown eyes, blue eyes, green eyes. Let it be . fr> USA
It’s the mentality. Filipinos associates the color of your skin with your status in life especially those are still living in the Philippines. This is just my opinion but I think they seek foreigner as a leverage to get out of the Country, I am not patronizing everyone but it’s the reality however there are also plenty that just are just wants to find their true love. Good luck to you both
My wife said, in the Philippines when they think foreigner is only white or when they said Western country all they think everyone is American. We are blasian couple married for 9 years now.
I would love to date a Filipino woman. I think they are so beautiful . However due to financial constraints I'm unable to travel abroad. I hope to find a Filipino lady here in the uk. Also I hope I'm not considered too old (63) for a relationship.
I think filipinos with their jet black hair your beautiful lips magnetic personalities and they're kind of like Olive I wouldn't say dark I would say olive skin make some look exotic so you want to get to know more of them at least I do
As for me colour doesn’t matter if he or she hve a good heart,white people they r very kind,loving, caring, delicate,appreciate the way they r u guys deserve each other u don’t hve to worry about what people tlk Behind just egnore n show how happy u r together it’s killing them 😜 you guys are amazing couple lots of love from India 🇮🇳
I will be visiting the PH next year and would love to meet the darker skinned Filipinos.What island should I visit and where are they located on that island..Thanks in advance😊
You have a lot of experience and a number of interesting topics. However by far my biggest gripe is that you hardly ever let your Filipina talk! Most of us watching these videos are Western (/American) guys who want to learn more about Filipino culture, relationships, etc. So we want to hear from the Filipina, not the white guy!! IMHO she should do 80-90% of the talking, not the reverse.
John Lacey Hi John, appreciate your comment. Think your reading into this video the wrong way. Would be very glad for my wife to take the lead in some of the videos. It’s not that I do not let her, it’s that she isn’t comfortable taking on the deeper topics. She can be shy and has a different set of skills. I have been coaching people, leading people, and studying relationships for 20 years. Practical psychology, ( Understanding what makes people do what they do) is passion of mine. With this comes speaking skills in public and on camera. So again, as time goes on when my wife is more comfortable, but more importantly, she wants to, surely she will do more and more speaking. Our main goal is to help people and our content delivery is 100% focused on this.
I am married to a medium skin toned Filipina who started using that skin whitening crap, without my knowledge, and I forbade her to continue.....I like her natural skin tone. There are some women that I have noticed who use the whitening cream, and it does not look natural, and they look a bit, let's just say, unsightly.
My Filipina wife has a very white skin for her country and when I told her that I'm very much attracted to darker skin she gave me Tampo for a whole day even though I ensured her that she's the only woman I want to be with. My advice: Better don't talk about that topic with your girl.
Thanks you guys for showing this video...my opinions on the white people I'll said that 90% of Asian girls love white people I tell why because they think all white people they are $$$$ but honestly they are so lazy not offended but is really true...some of them they are rich.... I'm latino I got my own business n I see a lot of white a Americans homeless begging for money....I know someone merrier a Thailand girl wen she came to America she has to work hard n support her husband later she got tired off it n divorce is really sad to see it but reality...bud away I'm have it girlfriend in Dumaguete she so beautiful she never ask I'm latino the rest of the girls they don't even say hello when I was texting online....so that mean all them not interested n latino person..
This obsession with white skin in the Philippines, and, quite honestly, prejudice towards morenos and morenas, is maddening to me. It all started with the brutal Spanish and American conquistadors in the Philipinnes hundreds of years ago who were always looking for new and inventive ways to keep Filipinos "in their place," and constantly reinforced the idea that brown skin was inferior to white skin. Interestingly, most white men I know, including myself, find morenas much more beautiful than light or white skinned Filipinas. My fiancee is stunningly beautiful, and she is morena, and because of this she was teased as a child and teenager. Now, largely due to my constant affirmations of her overall beauty and beautiful, silky brown skin, she has become proud of her skin color. Occassionally, somebody she knows will say, "Oh, you look so brown, why don't you use whiteners," and my fiancee responds by telling them that her fiance loves her brown skin and that she, too, has come to accept and love her brown skin. Her fellow Filipinas are generally rather perplexed by her response because they too have been indoctrinated with this (very false) idea that white skin is superior to that of brown skin. Sadly, the prejudice goes deeper than mere comments. People are routinely denied certain jobs, not just in the movie industry, but in other industries as well, such as the retail clothing, and makeup industries, among other industries, due to the color of their skin. Fortunately, brown skin does not seem to entirely exclude people from politics, although it has been my observation that there are far more moreno men in politics than women. Due to objectification of women by both men and women, I believe that there is likely far more prejudice towards brown skinned Filipinas than brown skinned Filipinos.
My wife was bullied through her childhood because her skin was darker that her peers ‘ skin .... Duuude ? Shes GORGEOUS , but she had no idea untill she came to the states ...when she (we) go back to the Philippines ,now , she laughs at mean people that poke at her skin color . They foolishly think that dark skin is equal to no ,or diminished beauty . NNNNOTTTT 😡
Just after she read the question I was shocked. Whoever wrote that doesn't know anything about Filipinos, or biology, or.... I grew up with Filipinos, in the US, and they are very accepting of all people, and skin color has less to do with it than personality. And unlike women, men do not lose the ability to become a parent with age.
not the color but how true the intention of the guy is. nakakalungkot lang talaga how many Filipinos want to have whiter skin when being morena/ moreno is really beautiful.
I wonder how much of this is really skin color preference or cultural, emotional and intellectual compatibility? I'm proposing this idea and would enjoy feedback. Thanks.
I don't think the white skin thing is unique to the PI. Similar if not worse in Thailand. I kinda feel like Korean is becoming the preferred race for a BF in the PI. I'd like to see a video on moving to the US to be with your husband, expectations, challenges, surprises, etc. Kinda the woman's point of view on taking a huge leap of faith moving to the other side of the world.
I am a white man living in philippines married to a filapina I would NEVER be with a woman that has white or black skin and that is only because of my personal preference. I would rather be single than compromise my preference.
As a white guy who's starting to think about visiting the Philippines, I would absolutely discourage my Filipina girlfriend from using whitening anything. I want a brown skinned woman. Something about the brown skin, dark eyes and jet black hair just makes me weak in the knees. I just hope it happens someday.
Texas Rebel well said! Filipinas should take this to heart
Mine shades herself so she doesn’t get darker
yes brother, i understand you. It took me a little while to convince my filipina wife to keep her hair black for me and that i am in love with her dark eyes, hair and skin complexion. She now understands that she can captivate this white man by being as dark as she can. Just tell your filipina that opposites attract abd that you desire her dark features the same way she desires your light features
That's true. I stay remain what's color I have. My husband is from Texas. We feel shy, when I'm a kid a feel shy because I have dark color skin too.
@Christmas Trees speaking for myself, I'm not attracted to African Women. It doesn't mean they aren't beautiful to others, but I've never been attracted to an afro-american....
My Filipina wife of 27 years passed away over 1 1/2 years ago. We had 27 wonderful years together. I met her in the U.S. on a tourist Visa. After she passed away, I knew I wanted to marry another Filipina, because their values are far better, then American women (I know there are exceptions to this). Presently, I am engaged to a Cebuana and interestingly enough, she has fair skin. We met online and upon our first meeting, we hit it off as if we have known each other for years. Perhaps it's because I had already been married to a Filipina and we lived together in the Philippines for over 12 years. So I was already accustomed to Philippine culture and their values. I found what I consider to be the love of my life!
May GOD bless you Dennis and your new relationship. I'm divorced unexpectedly from a Thai spouse after 7.5 years of marriage and went to PI to check it out. Relocating there shortly if all goes well and retiring very early.
Im So happy for you brother..
sir!! how i wish i could pick up your brain. learned something valuable today. I’m a nineteen-year old filipina and it just made sense to me why i’m starting to consider in dating white men in the future. we had the same thoughts with your wife. i also thought that it might be because of my preference. but when you explained your side that it could also be because of social conditioning, it totally clicked!! i used to feel ashamed of my skin because my mother raised me to work hard on getting a fairer skin but as i get older, i learned to love and embrace what i have. and not to mention the toxicity of the filipino media. damn, it made sense!! love the lesson i learned here which is to make up your own rules in life 🤘
Hi, your comment was great, but do you still like foreigners?
Please don't change your skin color...be proud of it.
Man, this guy is very credible and the points he makes are very plausible. I thought for a minute though that he was talking his wife into thinking that her attraction to him was actually founded in some sick thing in Asian culture.
I remember one time I was showering compliments on my hot, exotic, Filipino wife. I told her she was exotic. What was funny was that she returned the compliment and told me, no, you're exotic. Then, we got in a fight about who was more exotic and why. It was pretty funny.
Nope, sometimes one can be attracted to a certain aesthetic, personal traits, personality and values. One can blame God for making certain people attractive, but don't blame me for liking it.
I met my wife online and it took me 2 months to pursuade her to sent a picture. She has a beautiful morena complexion and is chubby since ever. She thought she would loose me after i see her in full. She was bullied when she was young and everybody told her she will never find a husband because of her size and complexion. I told her she is beautiful and now she likes i compare her to german chocolate bcause of her sweetness and complexion. Now she is proud to be my "Choco" :-)
Alexander Steipe Amazing comment you shared! Thank you! The bullying in Ph is a real thing. My wife experience the same when she was young.
we white men are in LOVE with filipinas and they LOVE us too! It is a love story that goes back centuries. i almost gave up on finding true love until i fell in LOVE with my filipina wife. She loves me and is faithful to me so i will devote my life to making her happy
Christian e.g. That’s so sweet!
That's beautiful man!! Definitely some inspiration needed for me. No matter how tough I want to be about this situation I'm exiting after 15 yrse yeah it hurts but I've always wanted to head east and marry a beautiful woman from the eastern hemisphere. Aftere 15 years of ups and downs, laughs and tears from what I understand everything I poured out of my heart into the hands of another who threw it away but if I did the same to a Filipina, she'd be honored and loved and would appreciate it and me?? WOW!! The last 3.5 yrs were ❄️ice cold 🌬️ queen 🥶 B 🌬️
So sick of western values and western women!!
The way Rose explained it to me was that in the past the upper class never worked out in the sun as they had servants to do it. So the rich and powerful naturally had lighter skin than a general laborers that were in the sun all day. Over time people just began thinking that White meant rich and successful. I enjoyed your video as always. Keep up the good work 👍
I'm a proud filipina with morena skin, your wife is beautiful..blacks are beautiful. Be true to yourself. What's important is your good heart regardless of race, age, religion and status in life. As what you said be real.
100%correct
Great video guys. You are so right about that Filipinas will love any man if he has a good heart. I'm African American and my Filipina loves how good I treat her, my chocolate brown skin, and enjoys the most common stereotype about a black man hehehe 😂.
Preference to have lighter skin is because of Spaniards.
Dictated us lighter skin is superior, high class status & beautiful for 333 years as a colony.
Influenced our preference when we look for future boyfriend or husband.
Still, we can be attracted to anyone.Lighter skin or darker.
We try our best to embrace our brown skin & it is still on going.
Another influence: INTERMARRIAGE of Spanish & native filipinos = mestiza or mestizo
That story happened to a lot of families. My grandma, family members & her ancestors were mestiza.
I did not inherit their color & accepted it now.Embraced it already.
During my teens, my grandma EMPHASIZED "superiority thru mestiza beauty". We should be proud to be coming from SPANISH family.
Became insecure of my skin to an extent because of her.Thankful I got over it.I still love her, even if her mindset is different from mine.
Well hopefully when I get my Filipina we will, by just living a regular life, be an example of how love can conquer all. Even today I feel as if the internet raised children will think differently, as post generations have always thought compared to previous generations. The future looks bright.
From a SBM you were100% correct in how the media has created this narrative,and you're such a beautiful couple together.
You guys are a inspiration, to a lot people and I hope your channel grows
I am currently engaged to an American, who is absolutely the most loving and wonderful man I’ve ever met. I’ve always admired white men, but I haven’t dated one until I met my fiancé. I’ve always dated Filipino guys in the past. To be honest, though I preferred white men, I still got attracted to other skin colors as long as they had a good character. But now, I only have eyes for my man. My point is, skin color doesn’t really matter if someone has a heart of gold.💛
To add, I’d have to agree with your argument about the morena skin. I used a lot of whitening products as a teenager just so I could be called beautiful. The moment I snapped out of that obsession due to culture and perpetuating influence of the media that ‘fair skin is better’, I have learned to love my tan skin more. And my fiancé loves my skin, too. He wouldn’t want me any other way. And now, my preference changed because I find morena women a lot more attractive! So, morena skin all the way!💛✊🏽
It’s Liahona Very well said!! Appreciate you taking time to write this comment.
On point!👏
On point. For me It is not about skin color, nationality, how tall or how handsome a guy is coz if you are truly attracted to a person you will accept him no matter what.
Hi! I actually have seen your vloggs,Liahona ..Both you and your man look good for each other! God bless and keep.the faith!
The fact that you stated you admired white men without ever even meeting one leans towards it being a brainwashing situation. But there's nothing wrong with the base level preference. The administration without contact is a bit awkward though
most American guys like myself after having dated several American women, tend to find American women very spoiled, self centered and materialistic and greedy. I have a circle of friends that have married filipinas and I find them very warm and loving, funny and exciting to be around. my first marriage to a filipina didnt work out(she cheated) but my 2nd relationship with another filipina that I plan to marry in the future has been such a blessing that I am glad my 1st marriage ended. my current filipina I took much longer to get to know her 1st before we both decided we want to be together. this coming march will be my 2nd trip and we have grown closer in the 3 years we have known each other, with my first marriage I felt it was a bit rushed and we really didnt devote much time to really get to know one another, looking back on it, I wished I had taken another year to get to know my 1st wife better and it would have saved me 9 wasted years. I would encourage couples not to rush into marriage, could save major headaches later on
My grandfather got a girl pregnant at 93 so keep that in mind
I am a Filipina and my skin is also a bit on the tan side. Thanks, Bryan (?) for explaining/clarifying that out to Angelica (also to Filipinas who experienced the same discrimination as her) the psychological effects of color preferences.
I am in my 50s now and I remember being bullied by my older sibling for having dark skin. That left a stigma which I had to struggle through life making skin white all my adult years. Moreover, the struggle to make myself white also meant giving up a lot of things I loved doing like sports that would expose me to sunlight.
That kind of mentality made me unhappy over the years. I neglected to focus more on my inner beauty. I realized as well that being unique inside and out is more than enough to be beautiful. And when I emanate that as my point of focus, other people began to appreciate me more, are more comfortable, and are happier being with me more.
Now, I am enjoying my life with my normally tanned skin, sometimes darker when I get too much exposure to the sun. On the other hand, I still see my sibling always struggling to remain to be white yet still unhappy with her life and marriage.
That is totally true! When I came here I learned to embrace my natural brown complexion. Growing up nobody said that I am beautiful bcoz of my color. My sister have a brighter skin color than me so I am next to my sister and they tell her she is cute and nobody said I am. I told my husband that story and he felt so bad. He said I am very beautiful!😍😁
Great points and insights!
Being a "white guy" in the USA, I have to be careful about "age gap" relationship possibilities.
Most of my friends balk at the idea of me having a relationship with someone 40 let alone younger.
I did graduate level work in mental health counseling and psychology and several years ago had an "Ah...ha!" Moment as to why I'm generally not attracted to women around my age.
I was married late at 32...marriage lasted 3.5 agonizing years and then ended after my wife cheated.
So my theory is that being single and not having a wife to "age with" I tend to look at women around my age as almost like they are my mother...lol Serious though. I have seen some women in their fifties that were very attractive, but they are married so no opportunity there. I do know there are other factors that affect me. Many I meet have been divorced not once but twice. One time I'd be willing to take a chance after getting to know their life's story but twice divorced tells me you haven't gotten your unresolved issues solved.
You are so right about "conditioning."
We could easily take a young boy in partial conditioning and show him constantly overweight women and continue to tell him how beautiful they are compared to pictures of women who are slender. In so many cases, that young boy grown up will have developed a preference to overweight women.
We are in essence a product of our environment to a huge degree.
Now, I have seen and met some amazing women who were heavy but to me very beautiful. I'm a "face" person and am attracted to a beautiful smile on a women.
In most cases as a married couple advances in age, they acquire wrinkles and skin spots as well as excess weight...but if they truly love one another then that love transcends those acquired imperfections.
And nope...dont want to marry a 25 year old....or a 30 year old. For me I would worry about her happiness and future satisfaction.
Anyway....great stuff you two!
If you dont mind me asking...obviously you are far from retirement age. What industry are you involved in?
You look like you could be either a business leader, a coach or in sales.
I hope you both count your blessings each day. That is so awesome that your wife loves your children like she does and that they love her back.
I've unfortunately have never had the blessings of children. They truly are a gift from God.
Yep that’s a great letter and question, you guys are great and I think you both inspire a lot off singles
Perry! Thank you for always giving us nice thoughts
Oposit atraction Im brown skin my hubby is white skin equals my daughter dont get sunburn hurry! I have a black hair and he dont have hair perfect.
wow!!! as a black man i had heard about the white guy deal but didnt know what was up, i have a whole new understanding and appreciate. the education. love you guys honesty. keep up the good work!!!
Great content!! This coming from an African American make who has strived to live a color blind life, loving people for the content of their character
As a white man (very white), I am flattered that Filipinas like my skin tone. As far as white mens preference towards women, it really varies by each man. Generally I think it is finding a good woman is first and then the other factors click in. This is just my opinion.
I found it interesting that as she was attempting to tell her truth about preferring white skin, he wanted to steer her in another direction. How does a man just hijack someone's opinion and world view? Her truth and preference are hers. I think it's possible that being bullied for having a brown skin tone may have lead her to feel ashamed of her looks in a way. The same as some black people grew up feeling ashamed of their darker skin. I'm not saying she's right or wrong., I just think it's okay be honest about how you got to where you are in your preferences in the opposite sex. We all like what we like and that's no different than preferring brunettes over blondes. It's just what I like. Not that one is better than the other.
Chuck Brown Hi Chuck, thanks for watching. Are you implying that I’m hijacking my wife’s opinion? Help me understand?
Have you ever been the Philippines?
@@CrazyFilipinaLove I wasn't implying it, I was stating it. I mean if the subject of discussion is why Filipina women choose white men, why not allow HER to express HER point of view? It was as if you'd prefer her to see things from your perspective. Just a tad domineering. I've watched a couple of your videos and plan to watch more because I'm interested in the idea of connecting with a Filipina woman. There just seems to be a ton of these videos being done by men from the states and not women from the Philippines so the conversation is a bit one sided.
Chuck Brown Hey Chuck, I understand your point of view. I get it, and appreciate it. If you were a fly on the wall while we are shooting and editing with you would see things differently. Not being domineering in any way. I’m trying to get her to open up and participate more. You will see in other videos. Some topics she is more comfortable talking more. The truth is, this is my passion, It’s really been my passion for years. I’m a psychology research nerd that seeks a deeper understanding of why people do what they do.
The goal is to make a difference. Doesn’t matter to us if she does all the talking or me.
Will leave you with this. If a Filipina can speak good English from our point of view, most will still hold back from deeper content speaking on camera because other Filipinos can be very judgmental of another’s English speaking ability. It’s a real thing.
But trust me, I wan’t her to talk. A lot. It will only help our subscribers and grow our channel more.
@@CrazyFilipinaLove Thanks my man. I appreciate your clarification on this. I've discovered a number of things new today about their culture and this is how we all grow and understand each other. I hope she finds the courage to be more vocal and unconcerned with the criticisms. It goes with the territory in this social media driven culture but it truly helps those of us who are seeking knowledge both good and bad.
Because she wasn't being honest and he called her out. The question was why the preference? The preference is obvious. So she wasn't answering the deeper question. Admitting that you are seeking higher status in a racist society is difficult to do. But, it's the honest thing to do.
i’m glad that youtube recommended your channel!! such an intelligent couple. love the logic on the video. subbed 👍
Gabrielle Velez Thank you guys!!!!
Hi I'm a new follower here I just want to express my own opinion about the topic that why Filipina want a white guy for me as a filipina it's not just about the color of the skin or a preference my personal reason is just that I am seeking for a true and real love, I'm seeking for a person who really accept who really am because in my intire life before I did not feel or get that kind of acceptance in my own community sad to say I got bullied every day every hour every minute because of my dark skin color so I grew up being bullied, not only that but my biggest reason is when I was got broken hurted with the filipino guy I told to my self that maybe I will or I can find my real partner who accept and love me unconditionally through a white guy so here I am now so HAPPY and CONTENTED WITH MY ALMOST 8 YEARS OF MARRIAGE WITH MY ITALIAN HUSBAND so it's not just about the color of the skin or what simple as that REAL UNCONDITIONAL LOVE, HAPPINESS AND ACCEPTANCE THAT YOU DIDN'T FOUND WITH YOUR THE SAME NATIONALITY
I agree with what you say or advice..the crucial point is that we need to accept what god has given to us..because god has created us with different beauty to color his wonderful world,which will make him happy..
You are really true Brother. That's how we feel and think that's why most of us tried to be white.
For me any color cause God created all color,can't see the color of the world if one color is missing,matter is Good character.thats it.
Yes it would be boring if everyone was the same color and I love the darker skin and would love to find a good Filipina!!
I know a lot of Asian girls and they aspire to be whiter and it’s not just Phillipines it’s right around Asia
This is very true! It is many Asian countries.
Korean and Chinese has pop culture has a very big influance at Phillipines if you watching Kpop or Kdrama, you always see tal, pale, handsome people, in china and japan its the same. Its also said in the video white skin is associated with field workere farmer (low class) their skin is tannted due to the exposition to the sun at the fieldwork, while pale skin is more the high class what sitting in ther offices protected from the sun and earn much money.
Filipinas have the most beautiful dark skin..so beautiful
I love the dark skin and dark eyes and black hair of filipinas. Does that make sense? I think a lot of men would say the same thing. I don't think many would criticize a white man for being obsessed with the dark skin dark eyes and black hair of filipinas. How is it any different for a Filipina to like light skin color? And it can boil down to just preference as A make it or break it criteria. That doesn't mean a person basis their entire selection on skin color but it can easily direct someone to select only from that category, with all other necessary and more important criteria being met.
A schoolmate of my super - wife from Leyte even took injections for lighter skin -- Her liver failed , she died before she saw 30 😥😥
Your idea is on point, I totally agree with you man. It’s sad that even men in the Philippines trying to be white-colored or fair-skinned or however you wanna call it. 😀
Hi guys I've joined Filipino Cupid about 4 weeks ago, got a message immediately wanting an email so we could chat instead I gave her my Facebook information I never heard from her again. I got to thinking about it and a Facebook profile it's hard to fake because it goes back years and I haven't found a better way to communicate. Facebook phone and video and Skype all are such bad connections, what else is there?
We are super - Blessed guys indeed !!! never imagined such a beautiful / smart lady walking at my side 🥰🥰🥰 17 yrs now
It is preference based thinking, I've been married to American women and I'm tired of them just because of the whole sequel revolution thing and the prevailing feminist movement. I'm leaning towards a filipina for just that reason and I love the beauty they possess inside and out. My first wife was filipina German mix but born and raised in the states. She introduced me to the culture through family and I learned first hand about how family oriented they are and how welcoming they are . Unfortunately her americanizm caught up with her and she stepped out on our relationship and I had to end it . I know this can happen anywhere but I want a woman with more traditional values in my life . Skin tone is not a prerequisite as much as attitude in my case but I understand where preference comes into play .
Great video guy's your right about the brain washing seeing adverts about white skin products to me skin colour is not important its what's within that's important. Thanks for sharing.
Thanks for covering this subject
Good morning to you both oh, this was a very interesting conversation and much needed here on TH-cam. Unfortunately I once saw on Facebook a young Filipina advertising whitening cream and nobody was buying it from her. She made a comment why do men love the brown skin Filipinos so much. Well she got her well deserve answers from many people on Facebook. And she wind up taking the product off Facebook for sale. I have ran into many Afro Americans and Cebu and other places who have wives and girlfriends here in the Philippines. Speaking for myself I am Afro-American is well in my wife is a brown skin Filipina. She just did not fall into the commercial trap that they have in the Philippines with you have to be a different skin color other than what you are. Each one of us are beautiful in our own ways and it's a wonderful thing🙏
Boom J Very well appreciated comment. Thank you, sir!
Perfect explanation! thanks!
This might make a good video and I'm sure you have more to add
On point very good discussion
Generally speaking, As a Filipino we have that presumption that white people got money. Unknowingly that there are other races who got more. For my opinion all babies with mixed race either black, white, Asian their beauty is rare & one of a kind.
Odessa Maharaj Good point. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!
My maternal grandfather is part-Chinese who married a morena Filipina. Their kids were all morena (including my mom). My mom married a brown Filipino while my mom's sisters ALL married mestizo men. My sisters came out morena while i (dude) got my fair skin from my maternal grandfather (who is half Chinese). Growing up, we saw how "attractive" all our first cousins are since they all have mixed ethnicity. So, i and my siblings grew up feeling "inferior" because we were not as good looking as our cousins. Somehow our "darker" complexion affected our emotional mindset growing up. My parents worked hard to put me in a private school for boys. And in that school for boys, more than half of my classmates are fair skinned/ whiter skinned and are mostly middle class. So, what you are saying about status and opportunity for whiter/ fairer skinned Filipinos is so on point. The good thing about it, though I and my siblings felt "inferior", we excelled in school and all of us got degrees and got professional licenses. All of us are now based in the US and we are proud of our light brown complexion. It is an entirely different mindset here in the US and i tell as many Filipinos as i know to be proud of their brown complexion. White people will spend lots of money just to look darker and not too white.
Arembo Tate Sooooo true! Never been so proud of my skin too since I got here. We are proud of you!
Attraction only brings people together, it is the content of their character which becomes the foundation of any relationship.
LOL quite true. But there some I saw it.
I guess because we're brown (sometimes we say it ourselves like block too) I think because opposite attract that's how it is.
By the way love y'all channel I'm heading back phillpines in December
Tommy Akbar Appreciate that Tommy! Nice to hear we are giving value. Much more to come.
You really enhance with great explanations!! I live here and still learn from you THANKS
Most that are sincere I believe they don’t care, they want a good man! But as a “white guy” I love my wifes skin tone and I am definitely against her whitening her skin! According to my wife she finds the longer nose more sexy! Anyway does it matter she’s beautiful and we are happy!
Gamay Dragon Dreams S&D Great comment! Thanks for sharing. True, it’s a nose thing too.
People here like using whitening products because of the standard of beauty here .
Beauty here is white ,tall and so on but they dont know that being beautiful is not about skin color or outward appearance but what's in your heart...and to all brown skin there they must embrace your brown complexion and be confident and most of all be authentic and you authentic love too 😊
Cindy Ursal Such a great point!
@@CrazyFilipinaLove thank you po .and Its base of my life experience as well po 😇
I don't understand why, but I understand the social conditioning.
Amazing! it's true😅😁. I have this dream to have white skin, and then hit this realization by your video, that yeah right, it's just all in our mindset. that having fair skin will turn me beautiful, attractive and pleasant to look at😁. Thank you for this vid 😘😘 Mabuhay!
I understand your point , but she likes what she likes . I don’t know what else to say . I like my fiancée because I love her skin . She’s beautiful to me , dark or light even though she prefers lighter skin . I understand why , she told me . So if she wants that I’ll totally good with it . I’m just happy she loves me and wants to spend her life with me .
you guys are a great couple nothing wrong with it..
It sad but that true here in philipines have skin color discrimination and some been experience a bullying because of skin complexion 😔
Love your understanding because it's not just a Filipino thing, even young black women and men in the United States feel like that to, because they were taught this.
In my own opinion. Maybe Filipinas are more into white men 'cause it's only the white men mostly who appreciates more the beauty of a filipina especially of filipinas with tan or morena skin. White men appreciates filipina with morena skin. When filipinas with morena skin feels they are not that beautiful sometimes it's white men usually who lifts their spirit and confidence when white men tells them they are gorgeous and with a beautiful skin complexion and filipinas learn to love themselves even more and become more confident...that is my opinion.
This conditioning also comes from their history. The indigenous Philippine is actually dark skinned. Obviously when Spain invaded the Island their mission, like all over the planet was to "white out the country." So the indoctrination stared doing that time. And unfortunately many Filipinas have been indoctrinated with the misconception that the darker skin is taboo. That is of course unless your black & famous. I know this as my own wife who is a Filipina actually told me her friends tried to discourage her from dating me. They told her, if you marry a black Man you won't have a good life. Let's just say after 8 years in a strong and healthy relationship. many of those same friends are now asking her to ask me if I have any friends to hook them up with. So what's changed on their behalf. I'm still black! Great subject matter. Judge a Man on the content of his character, not the colour of his skin.
Not only spain. Philippines were also colonized by americans and japanese. So those mentality did not only come from spaniards but also with those two mentioned.
I'm Black and I'm seeing a Filipina. I noticed her skin is much lighter than she is depicted in earlier pictures. She admitted to using lightening agents. I actually like her darker morena skin. She's still beautiful to me, however. Black women have the same problem, which is why hair weave is a whopping 1.1 billion industry mainly supported by Black women.
I am a latino guy talking to a young lady in the Philippines. I am not light skinned either. We bonded over a facebook group for singles looking for other people in the same religious circle. I had great conversations with other Filipinas also.
I agree with the person that asked the question. White is definitely preferred.
Very intresting, Love Filipina no matter what shades they are . New subscriber here love your vids .
Thanks for continuing to put out good content!!!
Love my skin tone and my dark hair..
So do I sweetheart and I wonder are you single?
Hello, first I am thankful that I found your channel. I joined a dating site some time ago based in the Philippines. I have met the most beautiful human being and I feel in my heart that I want to spend my remaining years with her. We have talked about splitting time between both the Philippines and the U.S. Most of the year would be spent there. My question is what advice do you have for us about living in both places as it relates the two separate cultures we come from and the impact it has on each one especially at the beginning?
Hello! I've been thinking about this as I have been watching this video. I know, in some other Asian cultures, that lighter skin was more preferable because of social status. When I say social status, I do not mean anything in regard to Caucasians. It boils down to societal/financial status and quality of life. Typically, people with darker skin (same racial group) spend more time exposed to the sun. Meaning they were mainly laborers who worked outdoors. Further meaning, that they were on the lower end of the social ladder. Whereas, lighter skin made it appear that you were in a higher social standing, living comfortably. This would make it an appealing trait when looking for a partner and what the future could bring. In living with this truth over the generations, having it just become part of the culture, makes lighter skinned people more attractive , in this case.
Maybe I am wrong, but this does seem plausible.
Michael Charette Great comment! Yes you on point. This is the social upbringing and mindset. My own wife was always very self conscious of how dark her skin was living in PH before she came to U.S. Now she embraces it and sees it a something that makes her even more beautiful.
this is so true!
Lovely couple ended.
thanks your very helpful
funny thing is most central europeans spend crazy amounts of time sunbathing or even on tanning beds to get a more brownish color because it looks beautiful. I don't think it's due to discrimination as well though
Everyone has preferences and what they find attractive or appealing . Long hair v short hair . Tall v short . Curvy v petite . Pointy nose v flat nose. White skin, brown skin, black skin , yellow skin, red skin. Brown eyes, blue eyes, green eyes. Let it be . fr> USA
steve williams Thanks for your thoughts! We appreciate you taking the time to comment!
Virgin to not virgin pls...includes🙄😂
It’s the mentality. Filipinos associates the color of your skin with your status in life especially those are still living in the Philippines. This is just my opinion but I think they seek foreigner as a leverage to get out of the Country, I am not patronizing everyone but it’s the reality however there are also plenty that just are just wants to find their true love. Good luck to you both
As a white Man. I ABSOLUTELY love the Filipina Women with a dark complexion and Black hair. They are some of the most Beautiful women in the world.
My wife said, in the Philippines when they think foreigner is only white or when they said Western country all they think everyone is American. We are blasian couple married for 9 years now.
I would love to date a Filipino woman. I think they are so beautiful . However due to financial constraints I'm unable to travel abroad. I hope to find a Filipino lady here in the uk. Also I hope I'm not considered too old (63) for a relationship.
I think filipinos with their jet black hair your beautiful lips magnetic personalities and they're kind of like Olive I wouldn't say dark I would say olive skin make some look exotic so you want to get to know more of them at least I do
MICHAEL VENEIGH Thank you!!!
You're welcome but I'm just telling the truth I forgot to say they're kind and loving Hearts 2
As for me colour doesn’t matter if he or she hve a good heart,white people they r very kind,loving, caring, delicate,appreciate the way they r u guys deserve each other u don’t hve to worry about what people tlk Behind just egnore n show how happy u r together it’s killing them 😜 you guys are amazing couple lots of love from India 🇮🇳
Love it
I will be visiting the PH next year and would love to meet the darker skinned Filipinos.What island should I visit and where are they located on that island..Thanks in advance😊
You have a lot of experience and a number of interesting topics. However by far my biggest gripe is that you hardly ever let your Filipina talk! Most of us watching these videos are Western (/American) guys who want to learn more about Filipino culture, relationships, etc. So we want to hear from the Filipina, not the white guy!! IMHO she should do 80-90% of the talking, not the reverse.
John Lacey Hi John, appreciate your comment. Think your reading into this video the wrong way. Would be very glad for my wife to take the lead in some of the videos. It’s not that I do not let her, it’s that she isn’t comfortable taking on the deeper topics. She can be shy and has a different set of skills. I have been coaching people, leading people, and studying relationships for 20 years. Practical psychology, ( Understanding what makes people do what they do) is passion of mine. With this comes speaking skills in public and on camera. So again, as time goes on when my wife is more comfortable, but more importantly, she wants to, surely she will do more and more speaking.
Our main goal is to help people and our content delivery is 100% focused on this.
John Lacey: excellent point... would like to hear her point of view more. Thank you. FR> USA
Typical white man
My girlfriend is half-canandian and half-Filipino. Her father has Indonesian and Malaysian ancestors. I don't care how dark or light her skin is
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Mayad nga aga,
Ok, you have addressed the " White Skin " topic....so what is up with the " White mans nose " thing ???
I am married to a medium skin toned Filipina who started using that skin whitening crap, without my knowledge, and I forbade her to continue.....I like her natural skin tone. There are some women that I have noticed who use the whitening cream, and it does not look natural, and they look a bit, let's just say, unsightly.
Love ya and all you do.
Media is powerful. If Hollywood decided Chinese are perfect and pushed this for a decade people in the Philippines will love Chinese men.
You two are a great couple.
My Filipina wife has a very white skin for her country and when I told her that I'm very much attracted to darker skin she gave me Tampo for a whole day even though I ensured her that she's the only woman I want to be with.
My advice: Better don't talk about that topic with your girl.
Filipinas are quite sensitive.
Filipinas are quite sensitive.
Thanks you guys for showing this video...my opinions on the white people I'll said that 90% of Asian girls love white people I tell why because they think all white people they are $$$$ but honestly they are so lazy not offended but is really true...some of them they are rich.... I'm latino I got my own business n I see a lot of white a Americans homeless begging for money....I know someone merrier a Thailand girl wen she came to America she has to work hard n support her husband later she got tired off it n divorce is really sad to see it but reality...bud away I'm have it girlfriend in Dumaguete she so beautiful she never ask I'm latino the rest of the girls they don't even say hello when I was texting online....so that mean all them not interested n latino person..
This obsession with white skin in the Philippines, and, quite honestly, prejudice towards morenos and morenas, is maddening to me. It all started with the brutal Spanish and American conquistadors in the Philipinnes hundreds of years ago who were always looking for new and inventive ways to keep Filipinos "in their place," and constantly reinforced the idea that brown skin was inferior to white skin. Interestingly, most white men I know, including myself, find morenas much more beautiful than light or white skinned Filipinas. My fiancee is stunningly beautiful, and she is morena, and because of this she was teased as a child and teenager. Now, largely due to my constant affirmations of her overall beauty and beautiful, silky brown skin, she has become proud of her skin color. Occassionally, somebody she knows will say, "Oh, you look so brown, why don't you use whiteners," and my fiancee responds by telling them that her fiance loves her brown skin and that she, too, has come to accept and love her brown skin. Her fellow Filipinas are generally rather perplexed by her response because they too have been indoctrinated with this (very false) idea that white skin is superior to that of brown skin. Sadly, the prejudice goes deeper than mere comments. People are routinely denied certain jobs, not just in the movie industry, but in other industries as well, such as the retail clothing, and makeup industries, among other industries, due to the color of their skin. Fortunately, brown skin does not seem to entirely exclude people from politics, although it has been my observation that there are far more moreno men in politics than women. Due to objectification of women by both men and women, I believe that there is likely far more prejudice towards brown skinned Filipinas than brown skinned Filipinos.
how did u guys meet?
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My wife was bullied through her childhood because her skin was darker that her peers ‘ skin .... Duuude ? Shes GORGEOUS , but she had no idea untill she came to the states ...when she (we) go back to the Philippines ,now , she laughs at mean people that poke at her skin color . They foolishly think that dark skin is equal to no ,or diminished beauty . NNNNOTTTT 😡
Just after she read the question I was shocked. Whoever wrote that doesn't know anything about Filipinos, or biology, or.... I grew up with Filipinos, in the US, and they are very accepting of all people, and skin color has less to do with it than personality. And unlike women, men do not lose the ability to become a parent with age.
not the color but how true the intention of the guy is. nakakalungkot lang talaga how many Filipinos want to have whiter skin when being morena/ moreno is really beautiful.
It’s sad that in philippines especially people you see on tv are finer white skin because they think that’s what beautiful meaning is 😥
I wonder how much of this is really skin color preference or cultural, emotional and intellectual compatibility? I'm proposing this idea and would enjoy feedback. Thanks.
I don't think the white skin thing is unique to the PI. Similar if not worse in Thailand. I kinda feel like Korean is becoming the preferred race for a BF in the PI.
I'd like to see a video on moving to the US to be with your husband, expectations, challenges, surprises, etc. Kinda the woman's point of view on taking a huge leap of faith moving to the other side of the world.
Your skin is the perfect color in my eyes. I don't like light skin for me. My pinay is same color as you Ms. Perfect ;)
I agree with your husband on that I am African American Indian when a Filipino wife
I am a white man living in philippines married to a filapina I would NEVER be with a woman that has white or black skin and that is only because of my personal preference. I would rather be single than compromise my preference.
@ Or he met a hot Filipina in America.