My friends dad thought he knew better then my doctor. I had cancer. I told my friend, and she told, well, everyone. I was shocked when I visited her, and her neighbors, when they heard my name, start to give me condolences. Next day, her parents came. And her dad start to telling me, how his aunt “cure” her uncurable cancer by drinking tea from dandelions roots and eating some mushrooms. Then he said I should stop my chemo and try this. “What harm would it do to try? It’s natural.” He said. Well, stopping my treatments of fast growing tumor? It would k!ll me! I continued with my chemo, then radiation, this shrink my tumor in half, and could be removed. I had to learn to walk again, but I’m cancer free for 2 years now. And no roots needed
Yea👏👏👏 😀So Happy for you & hopeful for your continued good health!👍I'm hoping that you & your "good friend" have a new & improved understanding about private & public business OR they are no longer your Good friend & now only acquaintances example, "I'd go to their funeral but not their birthday party" 😮😂😂😂😂
My nan had breast cancer twice, second time round she got sucked into mlms, Chinese herbs and basically anything but chemotherapy, even black salve! one of the treatments sent her to the hospital within 2 hours, nearly killing her, but unfortunately she lived long enough for it to spread pretty much everywhere, including brain and bones. In the span of 1 year she went from an OG computer programmer to someone who couldn't even form a single word. Sad, a mastectomy and chemo would have fixed her up in less than 6 months from the original prognosis
I feel like this op spent so long painting the picture of the neglectful mother for sympathy, and then realized after that everyone would judge her mother 🤦♀️ Particularly when she went back and revealed that she cried wolf and that it was a regular occurrence.
Stockholm Syndrome is what it sounds like to me. Any good parent will get a real 2nd opinion, even if it they dont actually take you to the hospital. And guaranteed the signs that this was legit and fake where there.
That OP’s a stronger(?) person than I because if my own mother did that to me, I would never fucking trust her again! Maybe that’s simply because I’m literally a diagnosed hypochondriac, but call me paranoid, I’d rather get diagnosed with with some stomach virus then end up shitting blood for a week straight for something worse
Yeah. I appreciate my mom. She did much better than her parents did and she set me up with an excellent education! But she’s been emotionally neglectful and emotionally abusive for my entire life. Both good and bad things can exist simultaneously, and the good doesn’t excuse the bad, but you can both appreciate the good parts and acknowledge the bad parts.
I know chiropractors aren't considered real doctors but one I went to when I got diagnosed with scoliosis still baffles me to this day. He tried to tell me that my rib pain was not real because "The ribcage is not connected to the spine."
The thing about "crying wolf" is that while most people get the intended moral that you shouldn't repeatedly pretend something bad happened to get a reaction out of people (because if there's a genuine crisis and you call out to others, they might dismiss it as another antic of yours), but I think the same story also shows that you should never, NEVER completely dismiss someone's concerns - you can never know whether it's something truly bad. The consequences of believing them when they're pretending are generally harmless compared to the possibly disastrous consequences of ignoring a serious issue. Being a prankster or an attention seeker doesn't make anyone immune to sickness, injury or experiencing terrible events in their life, and unless you really do not care about what may happen to them, ignoring their calls for help may have you regretting your whole life
The sulfa story reminds me of all the times my mom didn't believe me. I'm notorious for having weird medical issues so she eventually had to start believing me and even researching things herself when doctors refused to listen. I had a severe sulfa allergic reaction as a baby so I don't remember it but I almost died and I've had a number of doctors try to prescribe it despite me saying I'm DEATHLY allergic to it. But I can't count how many times I've had to beg and plead for mom to take me to the doctor when something was wrong. Numerous cases of strep throat, ear infections, and sinus infections, including one that lasted an entire YEAR before we found out it was a cracked molar from a poorly done wisdom tooth extraction. There was mono that kept me bedridden for two months, a "sprained" ankle that turned out to be a tumor inside my fibula, a pulmonary embolism that I spent weeks trying to get any doctor to take me seriously. The icing on the cake was spending 25 years with severe endometriosis that neither my mom when I was young nor any obgyn when I was an adult would listen to my complaints, even though I had every single classic symptom. So yeah, if your child or patient is complaining about something LISTEN TO THEM. It might turn out to be nothing but it could also be life threatening.
Bingo. My mother thought I was just out of shape when I complained about being too tired and taking 3 hour naps in the middle of the day, and I have a head cold that has a stranglehold on me. I finally nut up and see my doctor. Five days later, I'm in a hospital bed and I'm told I have leukemia. My hemoglobin was 6.1 (normal is 12-14) and my platelets were 15k. I shudder to think that I could've bled out just cutting myself shaving.
I'm shockingly allergic to sulphur antibiotics and penicillin. Our idiot family GP gave me penicillin when I was 14, then when I reacted, the moron gave me new antibiotics. Only problem was he gave me a different brand...... OF PENICILLIN. 😡
I had a doctor tell me that my post c-section pain just required me to have "more sex." It was over 10 years later that I had exploratory surgery to find endometriosis. THAT doctor acted like endometriosis wasn't actually causing my pain even though it can cause EXTREME pain. He begrudgingly prescribed me birth control that ended my monthly cycles and I haven't had a problem since. Women are GROSSLY dismissed by doctors. I got diagnosed with IBS 4 times before, on my 4th ER visit for pain in 3 weeks, a doctor gave a damn enough to do a single God damned test. That led to a celiac disease diagnosis. I was also told I was having anxiety attacks for years before getting diagnosed with a heart condition. I HATE doctors.
They always believe it's the thing they see every day, and let their ego stand in the way of performing tests to challenge their assumptions. Widespread and endemic incompetence at every level.
AGREED. only women who’ve needed doctors often in their lives know just how much doctors don’t see us as people. i have ulcerative colitis and the only way they got me tests and treatment was after i fainted in the hospital entrance, in front of everyone, having never fainted in my life. i had to have 4 blood transfusions in a week just to not die. they. don’t. listen. and this happened in brazil, so it’s a pretty widespread issue
Same on Endo and I couldn’t take birth control. Hysterectomy at 30. I hate most male doctors. I have had a couple good ones but only a couple in 65 years of living.
@@kimhohlmayer7018 Been taking my wife around to a bunch of specialists to try and figure out what's causing her mystery fatigue and brain fog. Yes, definitely male doctors, but holy shit female doctors are so dismissive of women as well. Our first woman GI doc was dismissive out of hand about our request for a colonoscopy because my wife's "too young to have problems". Lady, it's not normal to have to glove up every couple days to help get the constipation out, and fiber isn't helping, and young people totally get colon cancer
My grandfather was diabetic and got sick in 2017. The first hospital we went to they found a lump in his lung and DIDN’T INVESTIGATE IT, calling it “nothing.” We got a second opinion from another hospital and they diagnosed it as stage IV lung cancer. Unfortunately by the time we found out it was too far spread. They tried everything they could but eventually we made the decision to take him off life support. My dad asked him to blink once if he wanted us to keep fighting or blink twice if he wanted to be with my grandmother, who’d passed away the year before. He blinked twice. Day of the 2017 solar eclipse. They took him off life support and maybe fifteen minutes later he was gone. This all could have maybe been prevented if the first hospital had actually done their job. If you find something in the lung that isn’t supposed to be there, IT’S NOT NOTHING. We wanted to sue them but another family member stopped us. This hospital has had issues for years. I’m still so angry about it seven years later that I don’t bother saying the name of the hospital out loud.
Misleading title. Made me think this was going to be about the rare case where the patient legitimately knew better, rather than the usual case of the professional being right and the patient just going "nuh uh."
@@IsYitzach I mean, if the intro and the first story tell me otherwise... I came for video a, got video b and I didn't want to see video b right now, so I left.
15:00 nah, she IS a bad mom for this. OP's low self esteem is very clear. It's the same as in abusive couples where one partner sees themselves as bad and the other is a saint for "putting up with them". The mom is no demon but she clearly failed a lot as a mom. I hope OP can gain enough self respect one day to make peace with this.
No it doesnt. Abusers can have their fee good days or moments. And then they will take those days and use it against their victims. Doctors in the family or not, that mother was NEGLIGENT, regardless of her childs mental health struggles
@@jenniferkorf4767 i can save a puppys life one day and take great care of it for years and still be a horrible person if i neglect or abuse the dog later on. Good behavior some days does not make you any less neglectful and abusive the next. Letting your child suffer and beg for help for days without ever taking them to a hospital bc a doctor over the phone says they're just faking, no tests, no double checking to see if something might be wrong, no second opinions, just letting your child suffer and bleed out until they literally almost die. Thats still shitty and abusive and neglectful even if she was the best possible parent every single other day of that kid's life.
My I was right and doctor was wrong story was severe endometriosis. I was in severe debilitating pain, I would double over in extreme pain. My OB kept testing me for pregnancy despite me being adamant that I wad a virgin. After pregnancy was ruled out, she kept insisting that it was either bad period cramps, anxiety and stress, or attention seeking. Wouldnt do or test anything as I was only 21. I got a different OB and he ran an ultrasound when it didn't show anything, he scheduled me for an exploratory laproscopy. Turns out I had the most severe case of endometriosis he had ever seen. I ended up having a complete hysterectomy leaving only my ovaries. TLDR I had severe endometriosis and my 1st doctor didn't believe my pain to be real or possibly pregnancy despite being a virgin. 2nd doctor listened and discovered horrible endometriosis and I lost my uterus, cervix and tubes.
My mother also suffered from doctors doing the 'fat first' diagnosis. She was sluggish, had no energy and was alternately getting migraines or throwing up. 2 doctors said it was her weight. One suggested she was pregnant. A post-menopausal 60-something year old. Eventually while she was with her husband while he was in for a checkup for non-hodgkin lymphoma, HIS doctor took a look at her and said, 'one of your eyes is drooping. we need to take you to the Emergency Clinic'. She wasn't having a stroke as it turned out, but as it turned out she had massive tumors in her brain that were non-cancerous. They were putting pressure in places that would affect her health. She got treatment for it and funny-enough, lost weight immediately after. Fat-first treatment kills so many people every year
Yeah I've heard lots of stories about people who aren't even obese, just slightly overweight, getting answers from their doctors like "yeah just lose some weight and your severe vomiting etc will go away" like bro it's never made sense to me
I got one. One time I'm at summer camp and I just start puking like crazy. Immediate suspect is food poisoning, but since I'm puking up everything including water so frequently I can't sleep, the guy in charge decides it's time to drive the sick kid to the ER. What's the one thing my parents stressed I should do should I ever go to an ER? Tell them I'm allergic to antibiotics (this was halfway through the year of trying 6 different ones and every time finding out it wasn't just penicillin, the first one I reacted to way back in pre-school.) I tell the guy driving me I'm allergic to antibiotics. I tell the nurse admitting me I'm allergic to antibiotics. I make sure the intake paperwork notes I'm allergic to antibiotics. And I make absolutely sure they know "do not give the sick 13 year old antibiotics" up until they put in the first IV and I'm dehydrated and exhausted enough I pass out. Wake up the next day in a hospital bed with two IVs dripping fluids, a heart monitor, a really pretty mural on the opposite wall, and my dad sleeping in the chair by the bed. And I need to pee. Sounds like a nothing burger of a story, right? Well, here's the thing, when I passed out, the ER doc came in to see what was happening, and all he sees is a delirious, dehydrated kid puking his guts out and passing out. He decides this must be the mother of all infections, and this kid at least needs a shot of penicillin to get stable. At least that's the only reason I can think of that he ignores the nurse, the paperwork, and the guy who brought me in and says "this kid needs antibiotics now, take some of that vomit and some blood for cultures, and let's start him on penicillin." Nurse refuses to administer the antibiotics, but agrees to the labs. Someone in all of this decides despite it being after midnight, my primary care physician needs to be looped in on this, at least to figure out what antibiotics exactly I'm allergic to. She has the presence of mind despite being woken up to not only remember me by name, but to immediately contradict ER doc's plan. She has the further presence of mind to call my dad once ER doc starts getting combative so he can try and stop him more directly. Dad's been sleeping at home because he had work and couldn't come to the camp this year, but you bet your ass he raced to the hospital in record time, my family doc the whole time reasoning, haranguing and berating ER doc to under no circumstances give me any antibiotics. I don't know why this doc was so deadset on this course of action. I don't know why he kept insisting that's what was needed despite everyone and their mother telling him not to. I don't even know what my dad said or did to finally make him back down. What I do know is, a man who spent his time working towards his doctorate handling the kinds of chemicals you only get to have an accident with once, who spent 4 years in his words "teaching rocks who wanted to fly how to pass basic chemistry", and then spent another six neck-deep in military logistics management and bureaucratic nonsense, had gotten woken up in the middle of the night to drive 100 miles on state highways and rural backways in the dark to stop someone who apparently saw red-flags through rose-tinted goggles and was hell-bent on fucking up and killing his son. After waking up, I never did see that doc again. What I got was a bunch of questions, an extra 100 pages in my medical records, a dad who told me he'd keep me awake if I kept him awake for the drive back, and a mom who couldn't help but show how worried she'd been and how happy she was to see us.
The story 55 lady’s osteoporosis definitely contributed to the frequent broken bones, it is essentially a severe loss in bone density so your bones can’t handle much force before snapping. I hope the meds she eventually took helped her a lot because it’s awful to have a structural dependence on something not structurally sound inside you.
"You have every symptom of Lyme Disease but you just don't test positive" CDC has refused for decades to admit that the Western Blot and the ELISA test for Lyme have false positive and negative test results and that you can in fact have Lyme disease with a negative test result. It allowed the Lyme to do permanent damage to me for over 3 years and I still suffer from it 25 plus years later.
@@outpickingdandelions3070 It's also almost like you have no clue what you're talking about when it comes to the disease you're talking about. Studies and papers dating to the 90s have proven that the tests were inaccurate but the CDC refused to do anything about it. There is no test that has ever been made that is 100% effective - due to differences in people's immune systems and other parts it's physically impossible. The problem is that if the government admits to inaccuracies they have to admit how many people are infected - if they admit that it will affect tourism to lyme endemic areas. CDC has slow rolled everything. First they admitted that you might have lyme if you don't have all 5 bands that they require for a positive test. Then they said that their lyme numbers are an underestimate. Then they admit that there is a way for lyme to evade the test completely. The problem is they were notified of it decades before.
Our previous family doctor refused to give me or my sister birth control to stop our severely painful periods because neither of us were sexually active. That doctor later left the hospital to go practice alternative medicine. My new doctor agreed to put me on the depo shot last September when I asked and I have been blessedly period free for the entire time. You can’t be on depo for more than 2 years or else it will affect your bone density. But it is giving me the time I need to set up getting my uterus removed.
Look into an IUD - I was on Depo for heavy periods, then after my daughter was born, I thought I was done having babies, but was still "too young" for a tubal ligation, so I got a Mirena IUD - they last 5 years and I never once got a period in that 5 years. Had it removed and replaced after 5 years, kept that one for 2 more years - still period-free. Had it removed after 2 years because my current husband and I wanted to try to have a baby. If you're 100% sure you want a hysterectomy, the IUD will at least give you more time, period-free, to arrange one. Best wishes!
@@KitKat10281 thank you for the tip! 💜 And yeah, I am set on getting this useless organ removed as I am nonbinary, and have no desire to have children due to a variety of reasons, mainly dysphoria, genetic factors, and my ideals.
@midnamagic2678 I didn't want to assume either way, but I did wonder if that may also factor into your decision - in which case, I wish you the best of luck in a timely procedure and speedy recovery! Best wishes! ❤️ 💙 💜
I’ve got so many for this topic. Here’s the top 2, curtesy of my grandmother. This one is Drs wrong, patient right : My grandmother was a registered RN with 40 yrs experience. In her 50s she was having agony in her torso that she was convinced was gallstones. Her Dr told her it wasn’t. Second and third opinion, same thing. Had been working through the pain for months. Literally working. She was lifting a patient and something happened in her body. She told my mother it felt like giving birth, but it was only on the right side of the torso. This woman had 5 kids btw, so she knew what she talking about. Her co-nurse on the floor told her to go to the ER. ER told her it sounded like appendicitis. She insisted it was gallstones because she didn’t have her appendix anymore. ER ignored her. Long ass story short…. After her 3rd argument with the on-call ER Dr she insisted on an abdominal ultrasound or she was going to raise hell (not an idle threat). One abdominal ultrasound later she learned she had 15 gallstones with over half of them “large” and one partially stuck. This one is Dr wrong, mother wrong, father right-ish: When my grandmother was a child (she couldn’t remember exactly how old, between 6 and 10) in the 1920s/1930s she was doing her house chores one morning and collapsed. Now, her family lived in rural backcountry Mississippi very far away from neighbors. Her mother had no medical knowledge other than ice and heat help with pain, so my great-grandmother heated water on the stove and laid my grandmother down on a pallet in the kitchen while she called the family Dr. Family Dr was not in office and she was advised by his assistant to take my gm to the pediatrician the next town over if she was “overly concerned” but “it sounds like she had tainted meat or bad water.” The Dr’s assistant (I have no idea if she was an actual nurse) told my gg to watch out for chills or a fever and to call back if either started. This is how my gm ended up writhing in agony on the pallet, soaking through her clothes and vomiting a couple times while her mother just did the house chores and cooked supper. At day’s end, her father returned from the fields/rail work (not sure which he was doing that day, he alternated) and his first words to her mother were “Good God, woman, I could hear her shrieking from the pump. What’s wrong with (gm’s name)?” Her mother explained while her father, who had slightly more medical knowledge, checked my gm’s pulse and gently pressed her sides to see if he could pinpoint the pain. He could not. But apparently she shrieked so loud that he picked her up, pallet and all, and carried out to the bed of the truck. Her mother kept saying “it’s just food poisoning, she’ll be okay” and her father apparently replied “It’s something else. I’m taking her to the hospital in (town two towns over, about an hr drive).” My gm was fully alert the whole way and said her main memory of the event is how all that traveling in agony on those backcountry dirt and gravel roads made her pain so much worse because the of the jostling and uneven ground. She didn’t remember arriving at the hospital, but found out later that she was slipping unconscious just as her father carried her into the building. The emergency Dr told her father she needed surgery to remove her appendix immediately. She got it. She was never told if it had burst on the drive or was simply about to do so and the surgery was preventive care. Father phoned mother to explain and mother phoned family Dr’s office in the morning to report the outcome. Family Dr apologized for not being available and admitted that he had heard the story from his assistant and also thought it sounded like food poisoning. He praised my gm’s father for his late night drive and apologized for the misdiagnosis.
a doctor had mistaken my dad's appendix bursting for food poisoning. we took him to the ER once his stomach pain was unbearable and we were told had we waited 3 more hours, he would've passed.
When I was 12, I started getting sick every morning and when I'd eat. I started missing a LOT of school. My parents thought I was faking to stay home, and then our family doctor agreed. "It's just anxiety and angst, she's lying." I was eventually arrested for truancy, then was sent to behavioral rehab for over a year. The entire time, I'm still getting sick daily. I had untreated gastroparesis (stomach paralysis) that no one thought to test me for until I was 24. 12 years of being called a liar, because it didn't occur to anyone that just MAYBE I was telling the truth. It destroyed my life. Even though I've been proven correct, I carry that reputation with me, because it's hard to change how you think about someone, especially when you're wrong.
Mother thought there was something wrong when I was a baby, took me to Doctor 1, who said there was nothing wrong. Wasn’t satisfied and took me to Doctor 2, who just said it was a new mother being worried. Took me to Doctor 3, who finally diagnosed the Meningitis.
Great Video. Here is my little story about being right and my doctors being wrong. At 17 i developed severe Pain and hearing loss in my left ear, with frequent (near monthly) middle ear infections. I am talking the whole shabang, fever, dizziness, balance problems, dropping bp to 90/40, etc. But, due to my history of being prone to middle ear infections since i was a child, my 4 HNO Doctors just wrote it up as reacurring Middle ear infections despite me never having lost hearing over one. One Day, i passed out at the lathe at work (thankfully i fell backwards and NOT into the spindle which was rotating at 4500rpm at the time). My Boss called an ambulance and in the hospital they looked into my medical history. The Doctor then came in with the 4 Ct Scans of the last 6 months and showed me the tumor that was growing in my ear and earing away at the bones causing my problems. I am not a medical specialist at any stretch and i could see that there was something wrong on the Scans. Luckily it was not too late to operate and the tumor was removed. Now i have an titanium implant which replaces 2 of the 3 Ossicles in my left ear which the tumor completely destroyed and still hear about 60% on that ear. The Doc said if it did go unchecked for 2 or 3 months longer, the best outcome was me loosing my hearing on the left side completely, the worst case would've been that the tumor ate through my skull into my brain.
My psychatrist kept prescribing me meds without bothering to check and see if they caused conflicts with one another. Ended up going to a new clinic that opened up in town and the new Doctor identified that all 5 of the meds caused some sort of aggressive tendencies with each other. Ditched all but one and my god it was so much better. Mind you I kept telling the shirnk I didn't feel right, and was constantly angry all the time.. Been off those meds now for over a decade now thanks to that doctor. Makes me wonder if I was put on them due to the fact that most adults during the late 90s didn't want to deal with a child who was on the autistic spectrum so they just over medicated me.
I got one that still pisses me off: During lock down I kept contacting my doctor at the very least once a month, because I *knew* something was wrong with me. Doctor kept saying "it doesn't sound serious. You have nothing to be nervous about". And didn't want me to come in to check me.. I had cancer. And I noticed almost immediately. My doctor however refused to check me till I had been contacting them for 8 months and threatened them with legal action. The cancer was now so big that they could physically see it.
Had my old family doctor, a week before her retirement look me dead in the eye and say that I didn’t have DID… despite the fact that I had been diagnosed with it by MULTIPLE psychiatrists and had been having severe issues for YEARS along with mental health issues since I was a kid. I then looked into my medical records and saw the reports from psychiatrists from years before my DID diagnosis (when I wasn’t the “host”) informing my Dr that there were signs of psychosis which she decided not to disclose with my partner or my family members who were literally in charge of never leaving me alone due to suicide concerns at the time, something which she helped to put in place so that I wouldn’t have to be hospitalized… Don’t worry, my new Doctor is a hell of a lot better and I am now in proper treatment for my disorder.
Sorry you experienced that and whatever traumas that caused your DID. My best friend has DID and ketamine infusion therapy has done wonders for integrating her alters. You do have to have someone able to drive you home, and also you need to be received in a calm environment to remain in a good headspace for the rest of the day. During the first couple treatments she realized there were a lot more dissociated identities than she realized, although most were just a couple traumatic memories isolated away from the rest of the mind, not enough for a personality to develop. She's now integrated down to about 2 or 3 total now. Funny thing was for about the first 5 years her main driver was male, and now the main driver is female, though I did chat with the male one for a bit recently
Unfortunately the Guinness record for longest time gone without sleep is over twice that long, at 449 hours, and Guinness doesn't accept that particular record anymore because of how dangerous it is.
Also Meth addicts can stay awake for a long time on a binge...my longest (not proud) when I was using, was 12 days...dunno if it doesn't count if there are microsleeps involved, but those don't last longer than a minute (at least in my experience, and from what people around me told me...as well as what I witnessed others experience) I've known addicts that have stayed awake much longer than I did (I used for 7 years, 2 months, 12 days) Just reached my 2 years clean and sober!
I feel for the poster who has PCOS and Endometriosis. I too have both. It's incredibly painful when the cysts rupture. I was put on Metformin which helps some. I still get cysts but the pain only lasts a couple days.
Not like I wasn’t before, but hearing these made me REALLY appreciative that my dad is a (competent) general practicioner and fussed over my and my siblings’ health constantly while we were growing up
Girl I went to high school with had to have her gallbladder out when she was like a junior in high school. You're never "too young" for a type of illness.
So on the story that offhandedly mentions Tumeric: I have been recommended this by a doctor as a long term, MILD TO MODERATE, pain management during a time of trying to figure out what was wrong in my wrists (yet to be diagnosed, but for sure not carpal tunnel). Tumeric, taken daily as prescribed for a month does work. It's also going to suck all the iron out of your body. I stopped taking it after a friend I was talking to told me my nails shouldn't be making weird bumps. The doctor, who is a hand surgeon, did not know that Tumeric would do that.
I'm glad I read this comment because I've been considering adding turmeric supplements to my long list of pills I take because I have chronic low back pain and I'm really trying to not take so much ibuprofen. Well among many other ailments, I've been anemic my whole life. My body refuses to absorb iron naturally (from red meats or iron supplements even when taking up to 800mg a day!) I had to get an iron infusion twice in the last 4 years to kick start my marrow. So the last thing I need is to be taking turmeric. Fuck. Ulcers it is then.
@@UniqueornBacon have you tried eating food high in vitamin C alongside your iron? Vitamin C can help you absorb nonheme iron. Nonheme iron is found in certain plant foods, and eggs.
24:15 omg i also had gallstones recently (age 22) and my symptoms were brushed off for a solid year because they thought i just had a mild stomach ulcer or acid reflux!! they ended up having to do an endoscopy and ultimately removed my gall bladder. doctors hate taking women's pain seriously
My father's allergic to sulfa drugs, he found out in the base hospital in Cali he was seconds away from death when a doctor noticed he wasn't okay. the doctor kept him from dying by making him talk about his hobbies and school. If he had let my father fall asleep, he would have died at a very young age.
Went to a nearby clinic with severe shortness of breath, constant coughing, dizziness from lack of oxygen, inability to taste or smell, fatigue, congestion, fever. Got told I had anxiety and I should take allergy medicine to cure it (incidentally, the exact same allergy medicine that I had just written on my intake forms as a medication I take every single day. for my allergies.) Got my mom to shout at the doctor long enough that he prescribed me an albuterol inhaler and kicked me out. March 2020. Covid. Traced it back to my therapist's son's classmate. Completely wrecked my lungs, still not fully recovered to this day. But I recently went back to the clinic to get antibiotics for a tooth infection and guess who isn't working there anymore ever since apparently they got investigated for malpractice and falsifying patient reports? :)
15:00 I don't care what OP says. If your child is bleeding non-stop and refusing to eat, and you *still* refuse to take them to a doctor, that is neglect. Two things can be true at the same time. It can be true that OP wouldn't be alive without their mother while also being true that the mother is a horrible and neglectful mother. These two things are not mutually exclusive and the way OP talks about their mother is almost identical to the way I sometimes talk about mine. Oh, yeah, I wouldn't be alive without her, she's saved my life a few times, she helps me with a lot of stuff, and she's the reason I have anywhere to live because I can't get disability benefits for whatever stupid-ass reason the government gives, but that doesn't mean she isn't also hateful and abusive. She cares about me, most of the time, but there are some times when she very obviously does not, and has told me before that she would refuse to take me to the doctor if it turned out I needed a certain medical treatment that she didn't agree with.
On the topic of body positivity, Dr. K had a really profound take on "beautiful at every weight." The mission of body positivity is to decouple people's value from their appearance. Being overweight does NOT make you less valuable and worthy of love than anyone else. That being said, some people ARE less attractive (to most people, of course attractiveness is subjective :)). Saying "everyone is beautiful, even if they are morbidly obese," is subtly applying higher value to beauty. I think that sentiment is harmful because no matter how much someone tells themselves and is told by others that they are beautiful, the truth is some people (myself included btw) are less attractive than the average person. The healthy thing to work on is to accept that being unattractive is not a fault. As apposed to believing I am indeed attractive, and THAT'S why I have value.
It’s not about telling yourself and the world ‘I am beautiful’. It’s about living life and enjoying life and not being okay with the horrendous way that obese people are treated on a daily basis. It’s basically people going out and saying I am worth it, I deserve to be happy. That really shouldn’t be controversial
I have a story that isn't exactly what the question asked, but I was still reminded of it: Several decades before I was born, my grandmother was preparing a meal for her family. Well, she was trying to cut something that wouldn't budge, and made a wrong move, resulting in her cutting her hand real bad, nearly losing a finger. My grandfather saw what happened and immediately drove her to the hospital. For whatever reason, when seeing this scene, the hospital stuff concluded that it was my grandpa that assaulted his wife and not a mere accident. They separated the two, police was called to detain my grandpa while the nurses tried to get a confession out of my, now drugged, grandma. So yeah, as I said, not a case of bad diagnosis by the doctor or patient, more of a wrong conclusion to the cause of the ailment.
Went to the ER *on Christmas day* because I had a high fever and a non-healing wound, and the last time I had that combo the doc yelled at me for waiting 24 hours to check if it was infected. Blood test confirms there’s no infection, COVID test comes back positive-and I know COVID presents with just fever symptoms for me. But the ER doc is convinced I’ve got a UTI. I explain I ALWAYS test false positive for a UTI because of my reconstructed bladder. He uses emotional manipulation to convince me to be admitted, but then they forget about me for two days-skipped meals, don’t get out of the ER exam room for an entire day, hospitalist forgets to visit until I threaten to leave AMA. No treatment except for one IV antibiotic every 24 hours. Discharge doc say the cultures prove I didn’t have a UTI. A month or so later I visit the specialist urologist for another issue and tell him the story. He says “well of course you gave a false positive for a UTI-that’s how your reconstructed bladder works!” 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️ Best part is that my insurance refused to pay because they determined I didn’t need to be admitted, so the hospital had to write off the entire thing!
I have dealt with dislocations all my life. All of my joints dislocate, including my hips. In high school, I joined the school chorus. I had always been a bit thin and I had gained a bit of weight in high school, nothing huge. We had to dance and sing in chorus. Due to the dancing, my joints dislocated and hurt bad. I got through a year of chorus before it became bad enough to go to the doctor. My mother took me early from rehearsal to urgent care. When we saw the doctor, she explained I thought my hips were dislocating and rolled her eyes. The doctor gave the 'ah faking' look and got me an x-ray. My joints pop in and out fast so nothing was dislocated. He said take it easy for a week and nothing else came of it. After I finally moved out and moved to a colder climate, I went to a new doctor and they finally did an MRI. I got diagnosed with osteoarthritis in the lower back...at 21 and told I probably have EDS. I ended up having to quit my job and am trying to get an EDS diagnosis to get on disability. If the first doctor had believed me or my mother didn't roll her eyes, I might not have had to quit my job and might not be in debilitating pain all the time.
The surgeon who botched my grandma's colon and lead to her death (as we all felt he f-ked it up. there was just that gut feeling after the doc came in and nonchalantly said "She's gone." as if he didn't give a sh#t about bedside manner.) I wish Gpa would have filed malpractice, as the guy 3 months after gma's death.. had is license revoked for over 10 Malpractice lawsuits recently filed against him in one year. Gpa could have afforded a "Big booty" nurse during his downward spiral mentally. (my grandad was a bit of a pervert lol though Grandma was his censor until she passed.) I miss em both. RIP
My doctor is like a uncle to me. I’ve been seeing him for my medication for as long as I know and he is very straight with me. My mother likes the idea of me being a extremely fit I don’t so I don’t really listen to her. I knew I was overweight and didn’t believe it was bad enough. Well it was bad enough for him to say that I’m getting fat and to fix it. Shocked but I knew he wouldn’t care what my family wanted so I knew he was telling the truth
15:30 I get that OP doesn't want us blaming the mother but it also sounds like their family has a history of making bad decisions. So the safe thing to do is ignore their beliefs and continue blaming the mother.
I feel like she wrote it in a way to make us detest the mother and grandmother, and then backtracked when reddit piled on that her mother was neglectful.
The video title seems... confusing. It sounds like it's about stories where the poster was actually right and the doctor was wrong (like story 2), not mainly about stories about the patient insisting they know better and being dead wrong.
@@llamawalrushybrid i dont even remember those comments ill be real its been like 90-100 degrees out so ive been sleeping the day in the ac room then gaming at night really long 5 am sessions while HIGH AS FUCK ON WEED also the ganghstalking gets to me a little occaisonally
My former doctor did the exact same thing regarding EDS. I gave her my concerns as well as the family history and the fact that my brother had the same symptoms as well, since there's also a genetic component with some forms of EDS, and she wiggled my finger and told me I don't have it. 🤦 That was just one of many in a long line of dismissing me and ignoring my symptoms, not to mention the fact that they apparently forgot that I can read the notes that they send back and forth to each other in my digital chart, and they were VERY unprofessional. Needless to say I won't be going back ever again.
I am a doctor. We definitely do make mistakes but most of the time we are genuinely trying to do our best for our patients. What I’m hearing a lot of is something that we struggle with in the profession. “Those convinced against themselves are of the same opinions still” is a saying that certainly seems to apply to a majority of these cases. It applies to a number of my cases as well on a near daily basis.
Thinking about that time my friend's psychiatrist put them on a massive dose of SSRIs without building up to that point slowly. Friend was concerned about the dosage being WAY higher than the starting dose but the psych said it was fine. They were hospitalized with serotonin syndrome. Serotonin syndrome is what happens when you overdose on SSRIs because your brain is flooded with so much serotonin it becomes toxic. The psych then acted confused as to why the dose was so high and pretended that they didn't prescribe it that way and my friend must have overdosed on purpose. They got the prescription information that proved it was dosed way too high and the psych basically just shrugged it off without so much of a sorry.
I have been in and out of hospital since my early teens. Doctors said I had an eating disorder, munchausens etc and refused to investigate. 7 years after my symptoms started, I was diagnosed with hEDS, Fibro, IBS and postural hypotension and “chronic dehydration”… 15 years after my symptoms started, I’ve finally undergone some actual investigations, found out I have had Crohn’s disease the entire time. I’ve been telling doctors since my early teens that I thought they needed to look at Crohn’s disease and EDS. My current doctors are now trying to confirm that these two diseases have been the issues all along Edit: both diseases are hereditary in my family, so to me, when I started with the same symptoms, it only made sense that those were the issues cuz both are so common in my family. My doctor thought “I was faking it to get the same attention as the rest of my family” because “I was too young to have them both”
doctors are so weird about their patients being “too young” sometime disease doesn’t discriminate based on age and bc of the combination of genes or whatever you just end up chronically ill.
Not really doctor being wrong (more of just delays) but: I had a jaw surgery in 2021 to correct my overbite. They sawed through my jaw on the left and right, moved it forward, and put it in place with plates and screws. Recovery was normal at first. I even got to meet my new puppy while I was on the liquid Oxycodone 🙃. The issue was this: the left cut never healed properly and actually stayed open. It got slightly infected so I went to the ER to get antibiotics. This is the part that still makes me a bit uneasy. I asked the nurse practitioner for Prednisone because it was really swollen. She said yes. It must have been pretty bad otherwise I would have looked like a drug seeker. A couple weeks later I went under for a second time to have the plates removed on both sides (the right was still open, just not as bad as the left) and the cuts properly sutured. I'm completely recovered now for anyone wondering. No problems ever since basically.
14:50 yea sorry OP butcif you're bleeding through clothes and cant aleep and your mom doesn't take you to the ER she's a bad parent full stop. No matter how much you cried wolf that amount of blood should warrant a check even if you somehow faked that.
Yeah the problem isn't doctors pointing out weight. It's them treating it like there's no other explanation for something once they see the patient is overweight. I have chronic back pain because I have permanent damage to multiple discs in my spine as a result of having been hit by a car. I understand that as an overweight person, my weight doesn't help the situation and losing some pounds would help cut down the severity. But when I go to a doctor for pain management and they blatantly ignore the part of my medical file that outlines I have an underlying reason for my pain beyond my weight and refuse to give any help beyond telling me "Lose weight and you'll be fine", it's a problem.
I was only diagnosed with type 2 diabetes last year. Aside from having the cursed genetics for developing it earlier on in life (thanks dad), it was definitely happened because of my eating habits (a lot of stress and anxiety related) I do know a bit more than the average person but it was still a shock how seriously it was taken so quickly. Difference being I was willing to work on it. I think about 8 months after diagnosis and monitoring as they introduced oral medication, I got a call out of the blue saying that my last set of results were pretty shocking and that they were considering the diabetes going into remission. We're working on reducing the oral medication now that my long term levels have become stable and in a normal range, so we can test how well I do coming off the medication. It CAN be done, and it's not like I've had to give up treats entirely either..... but I hear so many stories of stubbourn diabetics that it's ridiculous. Even if it's gradual small changes, anything is better than nothing
One of the many things that led to my friend's divorce was her spouse's refusal to take their own diabetes treatment seriously. She couldn't live with the stress of waking up in the middle of the night at least once a week to find them near death because they weren't managing their diet and medication responsibly. And yes, my friend had been patient for many years and considered all the times that there were mitigating circumstances, like incidental illness or insurance deciding to change their spouse's medication seemingly at random (in actuality it's because of a legal kickback scheme the insurers [technically pharmacy benefit managers, but most health insurers' parent companies also have a PBM] have with the pharmaceutical companies, called prescription drug rebates)
@@redjoker365 That's really sad to hear, but I completely understand that there's only so much s person can take if someone they love won't help themselves. I bet it didn't half cause her a bunch of mental health problems having so many close calls, it sounds so scary 😢
@@misschieflolz1301my father met up with a neighbor one day, and she said she was leaving. He thought she meant she was moving away. He wished her luck, but then she said her husband had Alzheimer's and she was out of there. I don't know if he was being combative or not.
The problem isn't the doctor saying "you need to work on your weight for your health" and the astounding frequency with which women are told"you're just a fatso" when they're drying off and seeking treatment for something Else
i love the fact these videos seem to keep getting longer, i love the tons of content, i like listening to your videos when stressed or when i wanna relax, since its calm, and quite interesting most of the time
13:04 I would have reported my mother to CPS, I don't give a shit. Your mother (and family members) ignored clear evidence that something was seriously wrong and it almost led to your death.
The title is the exact opposite of the actual prompt. On a positive note, it's a great example of how slight changes can completely change the meaning of a sentence.
None personally, I've always been lucky when it comes to illness and doctors, my partner on the other hand-- When they were still married to their ex, my partner was rough housing with their three boys outside and hopped down from a rock. They rolled their ankle hard, falling to the ground. They figured it's probably sprained, but don't think it's much worse than that until they try to go to work in the evening and can't walk without excruciating pain. They go to the doctor the next day for x-rays. Doctor says "not broken, just a bad sprain." Partner isn't convinced, but the doctor is firm and sends them out with some painkillers. Over the next couple of days, the pain increases. It's obviously not just sprained, and they're starting to think it's broken. Go back to the doctor to get a second look at the x-rays. The nurse looks at them and is like, "oh, shit, yeah, that's totally broken." She goes to talk to the doctor who comes back in, looks at the broken bone the nurse points to and shakes his head. "Nope, that's not broken. It's just a sprain. Stop wasting my time." They never went to that doctor again. The bone was broken. My partner now occasionally has their ankle just give out on them. The stupid thing is that this doctor is still practicing in our area.
Had a persistent nosebleed, so was in and out of hospital for cautery treatment. Would stop for a bit (hour or two?), then come back. Got stuck on tranexamic acid for over a year because they thought it was a blood clotting issue. Over a year later of a persistent drip, drip, drip nosebleed... got a competent doctor that thought to actually just check higher up for a rupture. Lo and behold, could have just been cauterised a year before without screwing my high school finals (GCSEs here) up from having to stay out of school.
"your appendix ruptured during labor and infected your ovary. The other one didn't mature correctly, so this will likely be your only child". My mom's doc after my eldest sibling. She had my sister 370 days later
Newsflash, completely normal weight people can have sleep apnea. And I don't mean people who got it when they were overweight and then lost the weight. It's not solely a "fat people problem".
Handled the weight issue way better in this than your co narrator did in a recent video, very well done. I think the other issue is that people don’t understand what all contributes to obesity and even issues with food. The treatment of the situation that people are lazy and don’t want to take care of themselves isn’t the full picture. Kindness, grace, and support are the best approaches. Also prioritizing health over size. Yes often people who are obese have health issues because of that. But understanding that there is a spectrum of healthy that doesn’t fit in a box matters more.
My grandpa was like that. He said he was fine on the phone and a day later he was hospitalised. (He lives far away from us). I was fretting about what was wrong with him, because it appeared his heart meds didin't work. My mom came back from the hospital telling me: " Well in order for the meds to work he would have to take them." Turns out he wasn't taking any of his meds. He died two years ago from heart problems. Edit: He was 92, though. So he didn't die young.
I feel story 32 so hard. It took me YEARS to be diagnosed with the exact same things. Everyone just looks at you and goes “if you would lose weight, you’d be fine”. Weight issues are a common symptom of these disorders. It’s so annoying. It also belittles the efforts to those people who are actually trying to lose weight and getting no where because of the messed up hormones.
My dad had lymes disease as a child and almost died, that doctor that lied to his patients makes me genuinely sick- I feel so bad for a families that they had such an awful “doctor”
My grandpa thought his regular doctor was this great doctor and brought me there for a physical. First thing that was weird was he talked about my period and sex life infront of my grandfather didn’t ask if I wanted him to leave the room. Second thing wrong was he said he wanted me to just get a regular panel of blood work the lady taking my blood was on ft the whole time and there was needles and blood everywhere on the floor. The third thing was I come back for my results turns out not only did they not me that this lab wasn’t cocoverd by my insurance but tested me if I was pregnant and for stds and never told me and started reading the results (all negative) in front of my grandpa. Flash foward to Easter of last year my grandpa was sick went to that same doctor told him he just had gas and told him to go home my grandpa had stage four liver cancer and died six weeks later the doctor never ran a damn test . I also found out that they kept making appointments for him after he passed and my grandma went off and said you killed my husband so he won’t make it they also kept making appointments for me after the whole shit show they did to me and turned out good thing I never took the vitamin d he prescribed because it was 10x more the amount I’m taking now overall this doctor in my opinion shouldn’t even be a doctor it’s been almost a year when my grandpa and miss him everyday and hate that doctors guts
Over 10 years ago I finally ended up with a major back surgery leaving me with Harrington rods and a cage as part of my spine had crumbled. For over 6 months prior to finally getting in for surgery I had been complaining that I couldn't walk, my leg was asleep and would not wake up, I couldn't get in and out of the tub by myself, I couldn't stand up straight anymore, I was in sever pain, and I was in and out of every hospital in my city. I live in a fairly large city, so yeah I'd been to about 7 hospitals and to my primary care doctor. I couldn't get up the stairs from the room my mom rented, I had become homeless because of this, and getting me back down after my last doctor's appointment wasn't happening. The thing is the doctors told my mom it was psychosomatic or I was drug seeking, I'm going to be 100 here and admit I was an addict, I told one doctor who said I was drug seeking I had just got done doing something better then they would ever give me to go home with, I didn't care about their drugs I wanted to know what was wrong. I had a nurse refuse to help me dress or walk out once discharged and I couldn't do it by myself- I struggled to do it until another nurse took pitty on me and came in and helped me. The first nurse now forced to help me out whispered with the cruelest tone id heard from a nurse that I could walk just fine and needed to stop wasting other people's time and resources that could be put to real use, why didn't I go is and do them all a favor. They had my mom convinced it was all an act and my mom was so cold to me because I was also in a battle to get my daughter back from the state. She thought I was doing all this just to get out of what I needed to do to get my kid, I told her to just drop me off where I knew there was an empty trailer I could use for shelter, I knew if she did I would die there cause I could not walk anymore, I was at her and everyone around us mercy and they where all told I was faking so I went sometimes over 24 hours without anything to eat or drink. Especially after my last doctor's appointment where I was taken to a detached garage and given an air mattress with plywood stood up around it and a tarp over it's top to help keep me a little warm as it was now going into winter. I had a case worker come out to see me after that last appointment and they found me shivering laying in my own piss refusing to talk because I was so beat down by all these professionals treating me worse then mud on their shoes. She finally got me to talk, she noticed I could still move my legs but I could not support myself if I tried to stand. She called an ambulance and followed me to the hospital, she stayed by my side until I was finally admitted. Finally a week after being admitted the doctor on my floor called in a neurology consult. They did one simple test with my foot and the response was clearly indicative of a spinal injury. He told them to MRI my spine to which the doc said they had and it was fine, he said what part. They had only done an MRI of my lumbar spine as I still had control of my legs and bladder- though I couldn't get to a bathroom cause I couldn't stand up or walk hence why I had peed myself prior to being admitted, he told them to check my thoracic and less then 30 minutes after my MRI I was being transfered for emergency surgery because my t8 &t9 were missing. I get to the other hospital but don't go into surgery because the surgeon refused until knowing why this happened. Come to find out I have a staph infection in my spine- not normal osteomyelitis that shows up on cultures- my infection didn't show up on any of the cultures taken, as they had taken them almost every ER visit I'd had over the last 6 months or so. So finally after a bone biopsy, 2 weeks in the neuro ICU , and 16 hours in surgery, 6 months in a physical rehab home I got some of the worst news of my life. They didn't think I would walk again- I do, for years I was slower then normal but could still walk a decent amount with little to no assistance. I couldn't care for a small child on my own anymore however, and so I signed my rights away allowing her dad's sister to adopt her. But up until about 3 years ago I got around fairly well, now I use a 4 wheel walker, and starting about 2 and half years ago my walking has gotten harder and harder. When they did an MRI it was found I have a tumor in my hip joint that is growing and pushing my hip out of place and tumors growing INSIDE my thigh bone- can't remember what it's called at the moment- with no space for them to grow so they are slowly breaking my bone. It's been 2 and a half years and I am JUST NOW getting to find out if it is cancer or not and what they will be able to do. My appointment is in 2 weeks for my MRI then I'll finally see orthopedics to get my answers. My primary care couldn't believe I still hadn't gotten my biopsy results- waiting for that MRI to see orthopedic to get those too- and so she just informed me it came back inconclusive. I know things aren't right inside me and I'm sick of doctors putting me off. If it hadn't been for herbal treatments and natural healing I would be in big trouble. Modern medicine has completely let me down. I didn't have to end up so broken but they refused to listen. They treated me and even told me I was a waste of their time because I was an addict. I got clean for a long time, but any one can only take so much pain and so I was pulled back into what I had hoped to put behind me. My current primary care is also a natural path and balanced the two schools of medicine which is what I believe most doctors should do and when your patient says something is wrong listen to them.
Body positivity can become toxic, when people refuse to try to be healthy because “it’s ok to look this way.” It’s not about the looks, it’s about your heart being surrounded with so much fat in your chest cavity that it can’t pump enough blood. If you’re able to lose weight and your doctor warns you to, you should try your hardest and your doctor will be trying to help you :)
Also going to add, doctors who misdiagnose something as “just being overweight” are not good doctors, they’re supposed to run tests to rule out other possibilities- usually fatal or fast ones first before concluding the diagnosis.
Also also going to add- there are disorders/diseases that directly cause weight gain, treating the weight and not the cause won’t get you anywhere. In these cases losing the wight is extremely difficult and won’t last.
I think Doctors blaming body positivity and not acknowledging the known history of Doctor misdiagnosing overweight people because they are overweight is a big part of the problem. Until that issue is delt with those who actually have a weight related condition will have an easy way to dismiss the diagnosis. I've never heard a body positive person say they disbelieve the doctor just because they look fine. They always add in the real story of someone they know who was misdiagnosed And if they are in body positive circles they are going to know a few people that has happened to. Yes body positivity can become toxic but ignoring that Doctor have been throwing fuel on that fire fixes nothing.
Body positivity isn’t really about looks. It’s about going out and saying “I deserve to be happy” even if I am overweight. For many, many overweight/obese+ people they are not going to magically be skinny. They may never be skinny. Yes, everyone wants to be as healthy as they can be. But for some people the healthiest they can be will still be while they are fat. Weight loss just isn’t possible for some people. So it’s not able not trying to lose weight or be healthier. Just more about trying to live a life worth living and be happy and not accept bad treatment just because of their weight.
ER Doctor said "UTI" ..... I suffered for 2 straight years before Crohn's Disease was eventually treated. Thanks Doc. Lectured me like a child on "bladder placement" rather hearing about how my intestines felt like they were strangling each other and the severe pain I was having. No more ER for me unless close to death or something.
Go to an urgent care if you are dying, the doctors there will ensure you actually get proper emergency help. Urgent care doctors have saved my life more than once, and once arranged for surgery to happen in a nearby city asap... at the ER (I had actually left a hospital after they assured me I was OK) I woulda been dead cause they kept telling me I was OK... ny gallbladder was septic.
I remember complaining about my limbs hurting alot (like I'd limp because it hurt) since I was a kid. My parents brushed it off as growing pains. One time it hurt so much, I couldn't walk and my mum had to bring me to get a X-ray done to see what was wrong. Bones were fine. Still had pains everywhere, when I'm 20+ and finally have the autonomy to decide which doctor to see, I went to see one and told him my limbs still hurt a lot and no longer growing, shouldn't be growing pains. Turns out I have hyper joint mobility and my bones frequently dislocate, aggravating my fibromyalgia.
As someone who has been through various eating disorders and has been everything between under and overweight, but is now at normal weight and more or less comfortable with their own body I want to say something about "body positivity". People often mistake "body positivity" as "promoting obesity". Body positivity is ONLY about self love, accepting yourself the way you are and about feeling beautiful. It's a movement that wants equal respect for people of all shapes and sizes. Obese people always have to deal with discrimination and being treated like they are ugly or worth less just because of their weight. There might be people promoting unhealthy eating behaviours, but so do the majority of "fitness" influencers who promote a "healthy" lifestyle. Eating unbalanced, minimalistic diets while working out a little too much is not healthy either! Also mental health is a huge factor. You need to find balance and watch your mental and physical health equally! And for some people this will not go together with regular workouts and watching what they eat. We are all different! You are right, loosing weight will prevent a lot of health issues for obese people, but trust me, 99% of obese people are aware, and not all of them are lazy, often there is other underlying issues. I get treated so differently now that I am normal weight and it sometimes kinda saddens me... Please dont judge people out there based on their appearance and treat everyone the way you want to be treated
Hearing these I'm reminded of my mums diagnistic test - my mum came back from 4 days at a not so local hospital (she is a radiologist) and I complained of stomache pain - my mum didn't believe me that it was really bad, told me I needed to drink more water and went to buy KFC for dinner - 1 piece of chicken 1/2 eaten I said I didn't want any more - 30min later I was in hospital seeing out of hours GP and my mum insisting it's serious and I need to be admitted, next day I had my appendix removed. "KFC test" is now a short hand in my family.
I walked right up to the line between “prediabetes” and just being outright diabetic. I asked to start on metformin, a type II diabetes medication that’s been around forever and the main side effect is, ah, “loose stools”, which didn’t seem like it would be a big problem for me since my digestion runs slow. My PCP wanted to put me on a weekly injection I would give myself, which I’m pretty sure was that “Ozempic” stuff no one can find anywhere anymore and which often causes gastroparesis, so I’m glad I didn’t go that route! She has my H1C hemoglobin checked regularly and it is in the healthy range, so we are good to go. She told me that some people won’t do something as simple as what I do; take a pill twice a day; I haven’t really changed my diet much, aside from switching to whole wheat carbs. My cousin has pretty much the same issues I do; those associated with rapid pregnancy weight gain and then not managing to get it back off; but she has done nothing to address the issues and will probably die before her mother does. She’s 61.
I have one from this week! My heart rate has been jumping between 70-160 bpm. It has been getting worse lately to the point of almost passing out so my friend called the non emergency line and they sent an ambulance. The first thing the paramedic did was have a go at me as my service dog was in the room then without any tests told me I just have anxiety then told me I have a poor diet. He also kept misgendering me. Several tests later and it turns out I have a heart arrhythmia. Now have a cardiology referral ✨
Heart arrhythmia CAN be caused by anxiety thou dude, I state this as someone who has that and tachycardia from anxiety. Also sorry they kept misgendering you, some peeps shouldn't be in the healthcare field at all and it embarrasses me by association... (ex med worker)
For young women with chronic illnesses, the diagnosis usually takes many years, in my case eight. And I was basically diagnosing myself and had a befriended physician review my conclusion and refer me further. Before I took that measure, I did the traditional thing and heard it all. "I fell ill because my partner left me", in fact it was the other way round as he didn't want to have a sick partner. "I need more sex." "It's all in my head." "It's just university stress." "You are doctor chasing." (Not that I got any prescriptions, but the country I live in has mandatory health insurance. So they felt I was wasting resources and treated me extra badly for my persistence to get a valid diagnose.
you have to keep in mind that being fat also has benefits, and a lot of the correlations are unfounded and funded by the multi billion dollar weight loss companies.
Umm, no. I am morbidly obese, I have developed multiple health conditions directly because of my weight. As have most of the people with the same conditions as me. There is some evidence to show being slightly overweight is helpful to health in the elderly but that could honestly be because the overweight people who did develop issues, just died off earlier so the ones left over are the healthier ones. Anyway, no. 90% of results from being fat are bad
I had never been alergic to anything. I was put on one and soon was falling, dizzy, starting having tremors. Told my doc who immediately took me off it. That was awful.
A neurologist told my hubby he has OCD. Ummm my niece does, my hubby doesn't one bit. A pain specialist told him he has Manges syndrome. His torso is long which leads to massive back issues.
vid reminds me of an argument i had with a classmate following a sudden turn in my health during my second semester. i was, doubled over in pain and unable to eat. had a very high fever due to chills and sweats, and hadnt been able to sleep. classmate had the wonderful idea to say "Oh its just midterms, stress'll do that". No, it was an intestinal blockage due to stress that had come close to back flowing and causing infection. Thank god my mom had more sense than my classmate, though i wish i didnt have to suffer the 30 hours of this, and before you ask. i was given an anti-biotic and strong laxatives and after 2 weeks was right as rain as my body cleared out and healed. I changed my major at the time because what i was going for was going to run me ragged and i did not want a repeat of this.
My pediatrician had to flee from Long Island to Upstate after he misdiagnosed the more dangerous meningitis as "flu" and triggered a FICKING OUTBREAK in the JHS. THREE DIED. Somehow he kept his license.
Mine was similar but different. It was me being right and my mother who is a doctor being wrong. She thought I was becoming anorexic because I was not eating (I was not eating cause I had not gone to the bathroom in almost a week!). I told her and begged her to hear me out that something was wrong but it was not anorexia. Finally she agreed to take me to the hospital and got to hear from the doctor at the hospital how stupid she was because I almost died because of it. (I had dengue, my white blood cell count was low and I was extremely dehydrated hence why I wasn’t able to go to the bathroom). It felt so good to hear that I was right and that I was not anorexic… to this day I have no idea why my mother who I am low contact with though I was anorexic.
6:05 working i diabetes research. i am tempted to say "scratch the mostly" we know a lot about riscfactors and how to prevent it regardless of those. and certainly how to treat it. (compliance is key)
its super annoying but they dont usually just stop at a pregnancy test. they usually just check so probably they dont get in trouble and do damage to those who may actually be pregnant. it happens sometimes.
Hey, morbidly obese person here. I have some experience with the doctor/patient weight dynamic and with the random people in the street and online telling me to off myself because I’m fat. So I have some insight. Absolutely, people with a normal weight are much healthier than morbidly obese people. I would never question that and I have honestly never heard any obese person question that either, I think that is kind of a misnomer. Regarding people who are very critical of body positivity - the thing that is frustrating is that it isn’t a case of just wanting to lose weight or not trying hard enough or not thinking that losing weight is a good thing. 99% of morbidly obese people desperately want to lose weight but can’t for whatever reason - there are usually numerous road blocks stopping it from being possible. So the body positivity movement isn’t about celebrating fatness. More about saying f* it, I can’t be thin right now but I can at least be happy and I can at least stand up for myself and say, I don’t deserve hate and abuse for being overweight. And honestly, what’s wrong with that? For the overweight people trying to be happy, it’s life-changing. For everyone else, it really doesn’t affect you at all. I will never get the controversy and the mountains of criticism it draws. Just let people be happy and don’t treat them like shit.
My younger brother went to visit our father in Texas years ago. Played football with some kids, one fell on top of his foot. Heard a snap. My dad took him to a doctor who said it was sprained. My brother said it hurt a lot, so they wrapped it in bandages. He got home to my mom, foot swollen like crazy, and she took him to a doctor. His foot was badly broken. He had to have a big cast with pins going into him and everything.
Story 9 is fake, premies dont even go home in a week, and if he wasn't actually a premie, losing a tiny bit of weight in the first week is completely normal. The goal is to get them back up to their birth weight in the first few weeks.
My friends dad thought he knew better then my doctor. I had cancer. I told my friend, and she told, well, everyone. I was shocked when I visited her, and her neighbors, when they heard my name, start to give me condolences. Next day, her parents came. And her dad start to telling me, how his aunt “cure” her uncurable cancer by drinking tea from dandelions roots and eating some mushrooms. Then he said I should stop my chemo and try this. “What harm would it do to try? It’s natural.” He said. Well, stopping my treatments of fast growing tumor? It would k!ll me! I continued with my chemo, then radiation, this shrink my tumor in half, and could be removed. I had to learn to walk again, but I’m cancer free for 2 years now. And no roots needed
Yea👏👏👏 😀So Happy for you & hopeful for your continued good health!👍I'm hoping that you & your "good friend" have a new & improved understanding about private & public business OR they are no longer your Good friend & now only acquaintances example, "I'd go to their funeral but not their birthday party" 😮😂😂😂😂
@@marshawargo7238 She had her own problems, she was shiftting gaze. We talked. And she did repent herself since
That was attempted murder.
Yea good for you
My nan had breast cancer twice, second time round she got sucked into mlms, Chinese herbs and basically anything but chemotherapy, even black salve! one of the treatments sent her to the hospital within 2 hours, nearly killing her, but unfortunately she lived long enough for it to spread pretty much everywhere, including brain and bones. In the span of 1 year she went from an OG computer programmer to someone who couldn't even form a single word. Sad, a mastectomy and chemo would have fixed her up in less than 6 months from the original prognosis
Just because you love your mother and she's done some good doesn't mean she wasn't insanely neglectful.
I feel like this op spent so long painting the picture of the neglectful mother for sympathy, and then realized after that everyone would judge her mother 🤦♀️
Particularly when she went back and revealed that she cried wolf and that it was a regular occurrence.
Stockholm Syndrome is what it sounds like to me. Any good parent will get a real 2nd opinion, even if it they dont actually take you to the hospital. And guaranteed the signs that this was legit and fake where there.
That OP’s a stronger(?) person than I because if my own mother did that to me, I would never fucking trust her again!
Maybe that’s simply because I’m literally a diagnosed hypochondriac, but call me paranoid, I’d rather get diagnosed with with some stomach virus then end up shitting blood for a week straight for something worse
EXACTLY LIKE OP, YOUR MOTHER ALMOST LET YOU DIE BY NOT LISTENING TO YOU
Yeah. I appreciate my mom. She did much better than her parents did and she set me up with an excellent education! But she’s been emotionally neglectful and emotionally abusive for my entire life. Both good and bad things can exist simultaneously, and the good doesn’t excuse the bad, but you can both appreciate the good parts and acknowledge the bad parts.
I know chiropractors aren't considered real doctors but one I went to when I got diagnosed with scoliosis still baffles me to this day. He tried to tell me that my rib pain was not real because "The ribcage is not connected to the spine."
...what
They are not medical doctors - don't go to medical school or residency, and are not medically licensed.
??
Hes right about the one part though. Its connected to the vertebrae, not the spine.
@@jaredcrabb Um, I'm pretty sure the vertebrae are part of the spine.
The thing about "crying wolf" is that while most people get the intended moral that you shouldn't repeatedly pretend something bad happened to get a reaction out of people (because if there's a genuine crisis and you call out to others, they might dismiss it as another antic of yours), but I think the same story also shows that you should never, NEVER completely dismiss someone's concerns - you can never know whether it's something truly bad. The consequences of believing them when they're pretending are generally harmless compared to the possibly disastrous consequences of ignoring a serious issue. Being a prankster or an attention seeker doesn't make anyone immune to sickness, injury or experiencing terrible events in their life, and unless you really do not care about what may happen to them, ignoring their calls for help may have you regretting your whole life
The sulfa story reminds me of all the times my mom didn't believe me. I'm notorious for having weird medical issues so she eventually had to start believing me and even researching things herself when doctors refused to listen. I had a severe sulfa allergic reaction as a baby so I don't remember it but I almost died and I've had a number of doctors try to prescribe it despite me saying I'm DEATHLY allergic to it. But I can't count how many times I've had to beg and plead for mom to take me to the doctor when something was wrong. Numerous cases of strep throat, ear infections, and sinus infections, including one that lasted an entire YEAR before we found out it was a cracked molar from a poorly done wisdom tooth extraction. There was mono that kept me bedridden for two months, a "sprained" ankle that turned out to be a tumor inside my fibula, a pulmonary embolism that I spent weeks trying to get any doctor to take me seriously. The icing on the cake was spending 25 years with severe endometriosis that neither my mom when I was young nor any obgyn when I was an adult would listen to my complaints, even though I had every single classic symptom. So yeah, if your child or patient is complaining about something LISTEN TO THEM. It might turn out to be nothing but it could also be life threatening.
MY MOM DID THE SAME THING
Bingo. My mother thought I was just out of shape when I complained about being too tired and taking 3 hour naps in the middle of the day, and I have a head cold that has a stranglehold on me. I finally nut up and see my doctor.
Five days later, I'm in a hospital bed and I'm told I have leukemia. My hemoglobin was 6.1 (normal is 12-14) and my platelets were 15k.
I shudder to think that I could've bled out just cutting myself shaving.
I'm shockingly allergic to sulphur antibiotics and penicillin. Our idiot family GP gave me penicillin when I was 14, then when I reacted, the moron gave me new antibiotics. Only problem was he gave me a different brand...... OF PENICILLIN. 😡
I shit you not all of my medical issues my mom blamed on allergies or the weather. So glad to be an adult and out of her household now 😅
I had a doctor tell me that my post c-section pain just required me to have "more sex." It was over 10 years later that I had exploratory surgery to find endometriosis. THAT doctor acted like endometriosis wasn't actually causing my pain even though it can cause EXTREME pain. He begrudgingly prescribed me birth control that ended my monthly cycles and I haven't had a problem since. Women are GROSSLY dismissed by doctors. I got diagnosed with IBS 4 times before, on my 4th ER visit for pain in 3 weeks, a doctor gave a damn enough to do a single God damned test. That led to a celiac disease diagnosis. I was also told I was having anxiety attacks for years before getting diagnosed with a heart condition. I HATE doctors.
They always believe it's the thing they see every day, and let their ego stand in the way of performing tests to challenge their assumptions. Widespread and endemic incompetence at every level.
AGREED. only women who’ve needed doctors often in their lives know just how much doctors don’t see us as people. i have ulcerative colitis and the only way they got me tests and treatment was after i fainted in the hospital entrance, in front of everyone, having never fainted in my life. i had to have 4 blood transfusions in a week just to not die. they. don’t. listen. and this happened in brazil, so it’s a pretty widespread issue
Same on Endo and I couldn’t take birth control. Hysterectomy at 30. I hate most male doctors. I have had a couple good ones but only a couple in 65 years of living.
@@kimhohlmayer7018 Been taking my wife around to a bunch of specialists to try and figure out what's causing her mystery fatigue and brain fog. Yes, definitely male doctors, but holy shit female doctors are so dismissive of women as well. Our first woman GI doc was dismissive out of hand about our request for a colonoscopy because my wife's "too young to have problems". Lady, it's not normal to have to glove up every couple days to help get the constipation out, and fiber isn't helping, and young people totally get colon cancer
The more tome goes on, the more I hate doctors. They just don’t care 90% of the time
My grandfather was diabetic and got sick in 2017. The first hospital we went to they found a lump in his lung and DIDN’T INVESTIGATE IT, calling it “nothing.” We got a second opinion from another hospital and they diagnosed it as stage IV lung cancer. Unfortunately by the time we found out it was too far spread. They tried everything they could but eventually we made the decision to take him off life support. My dad asked him to blink once if he wanted us to keep fighting or blink twice if he wanted to be with my grandmother, who’d passed away the year before. He blinked twice. Day of the 2017 solar eclipse. They took him off life support and maybe fifteen minutes later he was gone. This all could have maybe been prevented if the first hospital had actually done their job. If you find something in the lung that isn’t supposed to be there, IT’S NOT NOTHING. We wanted to sue them but another family member stopped us. This hospital has had issues for years. I’m still so angry about it seven years later that I don’t bother saying the name of the hospital out loud.
Misleading title. Made me think this was going to be about the rare case where the patient legitimately knew better, rather than the usual case of the professional being right and the patient just going "nuh uh."
There are plenty of both in this one.
@@IsYitzachyeah, but it’s kind of annoying when they just use recycled videos and mush them into a compilation.
@@IsYitzach I mean, if the intro and the first story tell me otherwise... I came for video a, got video b and I didn't want to see video b right now, so I left.
@@lpfan4491 ohhhh noooo😮, I can't believe redditors didn't follow the r/askreddit prompt 😅
My case was saying for decades, "I'm really sick," and getting called craz-o. Guess who has a legit genetic illness?
15:00 nah, she IS a bad mom for this. OP's low self esteem is very clear. It's the same as in abusive couples where one partner sees themselves as bad and the other is a saint for "putting up with them". The mom is no demon but she clearly failed a lot as a mom. I hope OP can gain enough self respect one day to make peace with this.
She seems to have saved OP’s life and was by her side when she was at her lowest. That counts for something
No it doesnt. Abusers can have their fee good days or moments. And then they will take those days and use it against their victims. Doctors in the family or not, that mother was NEGLIGENT, regardless of her childs mental health struggles
@@jenniferkorf4767 i can save a puppys life one day and take great care of it for years and still be a horrible person if i neglect or abuse the dog later on. Good behavior some days does not make you any less neglectful and abusive the next. Letting your child suffer and beg for help for days without ever taking them to a hospital bc a doctor over the phone says they're just faking, no tests, no double checking to see if something might be wrong, no second opinions, just letting your child suffer and bleed out until they literally almost die. Thats still shitty and abusive and neglectful even if she was the best possible parent every single other day of that kid's life.
You know your kid needs help when the HOMEOPATHIC “DOCTOR” SENDS YOU TO THE HOSPITAL!
My I was right and doctor was wrong story was severe endometriosis. I was in severe debilitating pain, I would double over in extreme pain. My OB kept testing me for pregnancy despite me being adamant that I wad a virgin. After pregnancy was ruled out, she kept insisting that it was either bad period cramps, anxiety and stress, or attention seeking. Wouldnt do or test anything as I was only 21. I got a different OB and he ran an ultrasound when it didn't show anything, he scheduled me for an exploratory laproscopy. Turns out I had the most severe case of endometriosis he had ever seen. I ended up having a complete hysterectomy leaving only my ovaries.
TLDR I had severe endometriosis and my 1st doctor didn't believe my pain to be real or possibly pregnancy despite being a virgin. 2nd doctor listened and discovered horrible endometriosis and I lost my uterus, cervix and tubes.
My mother also suffered from doctors doing the 'fat first' diagnosis. She was sluggish, had no energy and was alternately getting migraines or throwing up. 2 doctors said it was her weight. One suggested she was pregnant. A post-menopausal 60-something year old. Eventually while she was with her husband while he was in for a checkup for non-hodgkin lymphoma, HIS doctor took a look at her and said, 'one of your eyes is drooping. we need to take you to the Emergency Clinic'. She wasn't having a stroke as it turned out, but as it turned out she had massive tumors in her brain that were non-cancerous. They were putting pressure in places that would affect her health. She got treatment for it and funny-enough, lost weight immediately after. Fat-first treatment kills so many people every year
Yeah I've heard lots of stories about people who aren't even obese, just slightly overweight, getting answers from their doctors like "yeah just lose some weight and your severe vomiting etc will go away" like bro it's never made sense to me
I got one.
One time I'm at summer camp and I just start puking like crazy. Immediate suspect is food poisoning, but since I'm puking up everything including water so frequently I can't sleep, the guy in charge decides it's time to drive the sick kid to the ER.
What's the one thing my parents stressed I should do should I ever go to an ER? Tell them I'm allergic to antibiotics (this was halfway through the year of trying 6 different ones and every time finding out it wasn't just penicillin, the first one I reacted to way back in pre-school.) I tell the guy driving me I'm allergic to antibiotics. I tell the nurse admitting me I'm allergic to antibiotics. I make sure the intake paperwork notes I'm allergic to antibiotics. And I make absolutely sure they know "do not give the sick 13 year old antibiotics" up until they put in the first IV and I'm dehydrated and exhausted enough I pass out.
Wake up the next day in a hospital bed with two IVs dripping fluids, a heart monitor, a really pretty mural on the opposite wall, and my dad sleeping in the chair by the bed. And I need to pee.
Sounds like a nothing burger of a story, right? Well, here's the thing, when I passed out, the ER doc came in to see what was happening, and all he sees is a delirious, dehydrated kid puking his guts out and passing out. He decides this must be the mother of all infections, and this kid at least needs a shot of penicillin to get stable. At least that's the only reason I can think of that he ignores the nurse, the paperwork, and the guy who brought me in and says "this kid needs antibiotics now, take some of that vomit and some blood for cultures, and let's start him on penicillin." Nurse refuses to administer the antibiotics, but agrees to the labs. Someone in all of this decides despite it being after midnight, my primary care physician needs to be looped in on this, at least to figure out what antibiotics exactly I'm allergic to. She has the presence of mind despite being woken up to not only remember me by name, but to immediately contradict ER doc's plan. She has the further presence of mind to call my dad once ER doc starts getting combative so he can try and stop him more directly. Dad's been sleeping at home because he had work and couldn't come to the camp this year, but you bet your ass he raced to the hospital in record time, my family doc the whole time reasoning, haranguing and berating ER doc to under no circumstances give me any antibiotics.
I don't know why this doc was so deadset on this course of action. I don't know why he kept insisting that's what was needed despite everyone and their mother telling him not to. I don't even know what my dad said or did to finally make him back down. What I do know is, a man who spent his time working towards his doctorate handling the kinds of chemicals you only get to have an accident with once, who spent 4 years in his words "teaching rocks who wanted to fly how to pass basic chemistry", and then spent another six neck-deep in military logistics management and bureaucratic nonsense, had gotten woken up in the middle of the night to drive 100 miles on state highways and rural backways in the dark to stop someone who apparently saw red-flags through rose-tinted goggles and was hell-bent on fucking up and killing his son.
After waking up, I never did see that doc again. What I got was a bunch of questions, an extra 100 pages in my medical records, a dad who told me he'd keep me awake if I kept him awake for the drive back, and a mom who couldn't help but show how worried she'd been and how happy she was to see us.
Dude you got the lottery in parents, I’m jealous for myself and hope I’m half as good for my kids should the need arise.
100 pages in medical records?? Was there a lawsuit?
The story 55 lady’s osteoporosis definitely contributed to the frequent broken bones, it is essentially a severe loss in bone density so your bones can’t handle much force before snapping. I hope the meds she eventually took helped her a lot because it’s awful to have a structural dependence on something not structurally sound inside you.
"You have every symptom of Lyme Disease but you just don't test positive" CDC has refused for decades to admit that the Western Blot and the ELISA test for Lyme have false positive and negative test results and that you can in fact have Lyme disease with a negative test result. It allowed the Lyme to do permanent damage to me for over 3 years and I still suffer from it 25 plus years later.
it's also almost like research isn't constantly changing and we're learning new markers for diseases every day
respectfully, if you have /all/ the symptoms, from a SCIENTIFIC standpoint, you most likely have the disease
@@outpickingdandelions3070 It's also almost like you have no clue what you're talking about when it comes to the disease you're talking about. Studies and papers dating to the 90s have proven that the tests were inaccurate but the CDC refused to do anything about it. There is no test that has ever been made that is 100% effective - due to differences in people's immune systems and other parts it's physically impossible.
The problem is that if the government admits to inaccuracies they have to admit how many people are infected - if they admit that it will affect tourism to lyme endemic areas. CDC has slow rolled everything. First they admitted that you might have lyme if you don't have all 5 bands that they require for a positive test. Then they said that their lyme numbers are an underestimate. Then they admit that there is a way for lyme to evade the test completely. The problem is they were notified of it decades before.
The same thing happened to me….
@@juliannam.n.2336 I'm sorry. I hope you're doing better.
Our previous family doctor refused to give me or my sister birth control to stop our severely painful periods because neither of us were sexually active.
That doctor later left the hospital to go practice alternative medicine.
My new doctor agreed to put me on the depo shot last September when I asked and I have been blessedly period free for the entire time.
You can’t be on depo for more than 2 years or else it will affect your bone density. But it is giving me the time I need to set up getting my uterus removed.
Look into an IUD - I was on Depo for heavy periods, then after my daughter was born, I thought I was done having babies, but was still "too young" for a tubal ligation, so I got a Mirena IUD - they last 5 years and I never once got a period in that 5 years. Had it removed and replaced after 5 years, kept that one for 2 more years - still period-free. Had it removed after 2 years because my current husband and I wanted to try to have a baby. If you're 100% sure you want a hysterectomy, the IUD will at least give you more time, period-free, to arrange one. Best wishes!
@@KitKat10281 thank you for the tip! 💜
And yeah, I am set on getting this useless organ removed as I am nonbinary, and have no desire to have children due to a variety of reasons, mainly dysphoria, genetic factors, and my ideals.
@midnamagic2678 I didn't want to assume either way, but I did wonder if that may also factor into your decision - in which case, I wish you the best of luck in a timely procedure and speedy recovery! Best wishes! ❤️ 💙 💜
I've been on depo for 8+ years straight and asked my doctors about it.. none said it was an issue. Weird stuff.
@@llamawalrushybrid it may depend on where you live and the regulations at play locally.
I’ve got so many for this topic. Here’s the top 2, curtesy of my grandmother.
This one is Drs wrong, patient right :
My grandmother was a registered RN with 40 yrs experience. In her 50s she was having agony in her torso that she was convinced was gallstones. Her Dr told her it wasn’t. Second and third opinion, same thing. Had been working through the pain for months. Literally working. She was lifting a patient and something happened in her body. She told my mother it felt like giving birth, but it was only on the right side of the torso. This woman had 5 kids btw, so she knew what she talking about. Her co-nurse on the floor told her to go to the ER. ER told her it sounded like appendicitis. She insisted it was gallstones because she didn’t have her appendix anymore. ER ignored her. Long ass story short…. After her 3rd argument with the on-call ER Dr she insisted on an abdominal ultrasound or she was going to raise hell (not an idle threat). One abdominal ultrasound later she learned she had 15 gallstones with over half of them “large” and one partially stuck.
This one is Dr wrong, mother wrong, father right-ish:
When my grandmother was a child (she couldn’t remember exactly how old, between 6 and 10) in the 1920s/1930s she was doing her house chores one morning and collapsed. Now, her family lived in rural backcountry Mississippi very far away from neighbors. Her mother had no medical knowledge other than ice and heat help with pain, so my great-grandmother heated water on the stove and laid my grandmother down on a pallet in the kitchen while she called the family Dr. Family Dr was not in office and she was advised by his assistant to take my gm to the pediatrician the next town over if she was “overly concerned” but “it sounds like she had tainted meat or bad water.” The Dr’s assistant (I have no idea if she was an actual nurse) told my gg to watch out for chills or a fever and to call back if either started. This is how my gm ended up writhing in agony on the pallet, soaking through her clothes and vomiting a couple times while her mother just did the house chores and cooked supper. At day’s end, her father returned from the fields/rail work (not sure which he was doing that day, he alternated) and his first words to her mother were “Good God, woman, I could hear her shrieking from the pump. What’s wrong with (gm’s name)?” Her mother explained while her father, who had slightly more medical knowledge, checked my gm’s pulse and gently pressed her sides to see if he could pinpoint the pain. He could not. But apparently she shrieked so loud that he picked her up, pallet and all, and carried out to the bed of the truck. Her mother kept saying “it’s just food poisoning, she’ll be okay” and her father apparently replied “It’s something else. I’m taking her to the hospital in (town two towns over, about an hr drive).” My gm was fully alert the whole way and said her main memory of the event is how all that traveling in agony on those backcountry dirt and gravel roads made her pain so much worse because the of the jostling and uneven ground. She didn’t remember arriving at the hospital, but found out later that she was slipping unconscious just as her father carried her into the building. The emergency Dr told her father she needed surgery to remove her appendix immediately. She got it. She was never told if it had burst on the drive or was simply about to do so and the surgery was preventive care. Father phoned mother to explain and mother phoned family Dr’s office in the morning to report the outcome. Family Dr apologized for not being available and admitted that he had heard the story from his assistant and also thought it sounded like food poisoning. He praised my gm’s father for his late night drive and apologized for the misdiagnosis.
a doctor had mistaken my dad's appendix bursting for food poisoning. we took him to the ER once his stomach pain was unbearable and we were told had we waited 3 more hours, he would've passed.
Good doctors will suggest to lose weight, but will still run tests to cover all of the bases. Thank God my doctor is like that!
When I was 12, I started getting sick every morning and when I'd eat. I started missing a LOT of school. My parents thought I was faking to stay home, and then our family doctor agreed. "It's just anxiety and angst, she's lying." I was eventually arrested for truancy, then was sent to behavioral rehab for over a year. The entire time, I'm still getting sick daily.
I had untreated gastroparesis (stomach paralysis) that no one thought to test me for until I was 24. 12 years of being called a liar, because it didn't occur to anyone that just MAYBE I was telling the truth. It destroyed my life. Even though I've been proven correct, I carry that reputation with me, because it's hard to change how you think about someone, especially when you're wrong.
Mother thought there was something wrong when I was a baby, took me to Doctor 1, who said there was nothing wrong. Wasn’t satisfied and took me to Doctor 2, who just said it was a new mother being worried. Took me to Doctor 3, who finally diagnosed the Meningitis.
Great Video.
Here is my little story about being right and my doctors being wrong.
At 17 i developed severe Pain and hearing loss in my left ear, with frequent (near monthly) middle ear infections. I am talking the whole shabang, fever, dizziness, balance problems, dropping bp to 90/40, etc.
But, due to my history of being prone to middle ear infections since i was a child, my 4 HNO Doctors just wrote it up as reacurring Middle ear infections despite me never having lost hearing over one.
One Day, i passed out at the lathe at work (thankfully i fell backwards and NOT into the spindle which was rotating at 4500rpm at the time). My Boss called an ambulance and in the hospital they looked into my medical history. The Doctor then came in with the 4 Ct Scans of the last 6 months and showed me the tumor that was growing in my ear and earing away at the bones causing my problems.
I am not a medical specialist at any stretch and i could see that there was something wrong on the Scans. Luckily it was not too late to operate and the tumor was removed.
Now i have an titanium implant which replaces 2 of the 3 Ossicles in my left ear which the tumor completely destroyed and still hear about 60% on that ear. The Doc said if it did go unchecked for 2 or 3 months longer, the best outcome was me loosing my hearing on the left side completely, the worst case would've been that the tumor ate through my skull into my brain.
Hopefully I never get something like that, 90/40 is above my base bp.
My psychatrist kept prescribing me meds without bothering to check and see if they caused conflicts with one another. Ended up going to a new clinic that opened up in town and the new Doctor identified that all 5 of the meds caused some sort of aggressive tendencies with each other. Ditched all but one and my god it was so much better. Mind you I kept telling the shirnk I didn't feel right, and was constantly angry all the time.. Been off those meds now for over a decade now thanks to that doctor. Makes me wonder if I was put on them due to the fact that most adults during the late 90s didn't want to deal with a child who was on the autistic spectrum so they just over medicated me.
I got one that still pisses me off:
During lock down I kept contacting my doctor at the very least once a month, because I *knew* something was wrong with me.
Doctor kept saying "it doesn't sound serious. You have nothing to be nervous about". And didn't want me to come in to check me..
I had cancer.
And I noticed almost immediately. My doctor however refused to check me till I had been contacting them for 8 months and threatened them with legal action. The cancer was now so big that they could physically see it.
Had my old family doctor, a week before her retirement look me dead in the eye and say that I didn’t have DID… despite the fact that I had been diagnosed with it by MULTIPLE psychiatrists and had been having severe issues for YEARS along with mental health issues since I was a kid. I then looked into my medical records and saw the reports from psychiatrists from years before my DID diagnosis (when I wasn’t the “host”) informing my Dr that there were signs of psychosis which she decided not to disclose with my partner or my family members who were literally in charge of never leaving me alone due to suicide concerns at the time, something which she helped to put in place so that I wouldn’t have to be hospitalized… Don’t worry, my new Doctor is a hell of a lot better and I am now in proper treatment for my disorder.
Sorry you experienced that and whatever traumas that caused your DID. My best friend has DID and ketamine infusion therapy has done wonders for integrating her alters. You do have to have someone able to drive you home, and also you need to be received in a calm environment to remain in a good headspace for the rest of the day. During the first couple treatments she realized there were a lot more dissociated identities than she realized, although most were just a couple traumatic memories isolated away from the rest of the mind, not enough for a personality to develop. She's now integrated down to about 2 or 3 total now. Funny thing was for about the first 5 years her main driver was male, and now the main driver is female, though I did chat with the male one for a bit recently
213 hours without sleep? Get this person's name into the Guiness book of world records.
Unfortunately the Guinness record for longest time gone without sleep is over twice that long, at 449 hours, and Guinness doesn't accept that particular record anymore because of how dangerous it is.
The record will pretty much always be held by the family with fatal familial insomnia
Also Meth addicts can stay awake for a long time on a binge...my longest (not proud) when I was using, was 12 days...dunno if it doesn't count if there are microsleeps involved, but those don't last longer than a minute (at least in my experience, and from what people around me told me...as well as what I witnessed others experience) I've known addicts that have stayed awake much longer than I did (I used for 7 years, 2 months, 12 days)
Just reached my 2 years clean and sober!
@@boogsie87 I'm so proud of you! That's an amazing mile stone to reach! 🥳
@NiaJustNia thank you, it was a struggle, but worth every second!
I feel for the poster who has PCOS and Endometriosis. I too have both. It's incredibly painful when the cysts rupture. I was put on Metformin which helps some. I still get cysts but the pain only lasts a couple days.
Not like I wasn’t before, but hearing these made me REALLY appreciative that my dad is a (competent) general practicioner and fussed over my and my siblings’ health constantly while we were growing up
Girl I went to high school with had to have her gallbladder out when she was like a junior in high school. You're never "too young" for a type of illness.
So on the story that offhandedly mentions Tumeric: I have been recommended this by a doctor as a long term, MILD TO MODERATE, pain management during a time of trying to figure out what was wrong in my wrists (yet to be diagnosed, but for sure not carpal tunnel). Tumeric, taken daily as prescribed for a month does work. It's also going to suck all the iron out of your body. I stopped taking it after a friend I was talking to told me my nails shouldn't be making weird bumps. The doctor, who is a hand surgeon, did not know that Tumeric would do that.
I'm glad I read this comment because I've been considering adding turmeric supplements to my long list of pills I take because I have chronic low back pain and I'm really trying to not take so much ibuprofen. Well among many other ailments, I've been anemic my whole life. My body refuses to absorb iron naturally (from red meats or iron supplements even when taking up to 800mg a day!) I had to get an iron infusion twice in the last 4 years to kick start my marrow. So the last thing I need is to be taking turmeric. Fuck. Ulcers it is then.
@@UniqueornBacon have you tried eating food high in vitamin C alongside your iron? Vitamin C can help you absorb nonheme iron. Nonheme iron is found in certain plant foods, and eggs.
24:15 omg i also had gallstones recently (age 22) and my symptoms were brushed off for a solid year because they thought i just had a mild stomach ulcer or acid reflux!! they ended up having to do an endoscopy and ultimately removed my gall bladder. doctors hate taking women's pain seriously
My father's allergic to sulfa drugs, he found out in the base hospital in Cali he was seconds away from death when a doctor noticed he wasn't okay. the doctor kept him from dying by making him talk about his hobbies and school. If he had let my father fall asleep, he would have died at a very young age.
Went to a nearby clinic with severe shortness of breath, constant coughing, dizziness from lack of oxygen, inability to taste or smell, fatigue, congestion, fever. Got told I had anxiety and I should take allergy medicine to cure it (incidentally, the exact same allergy medicine that I had just written on my intake forms as a medication I take every single day. for my allergies.) Got my mom to shout at the doctor long enough that he prescribed me an albuterol inhaler and kicked me out. March 2020. Covid. Traced it back to my therapist's son's classmate. Completely wrecked my lungs, still not fully recovered to this day. But I recently went back to the clinic to get antibiotics for a tooth infection and guess who isn't working there anymore ever since apparently they got investigated for malpractice and falsifying patient reports? :)
15:00 I don't care what OP says. If your child is bleeding non-stop and refusing to eat, and you *still* refuse to take them to a doctor, that is neglect. Two things can be true at the same time. It can be true that OP wouldn't be alive without their mother while also being true that the mother is a horrible and neglectful mother. These two things are not mutually exclusive and the way OP talks about their mother is almost identical to the way I sometimes talk about mine. Oh, yeah, I wouldn't be alive without her, she's saved my life a few times, she helps me with a lot of stuff, and she's the reason I have anywhere to live because I can't get disability benefits for whatever stupid-ass reason the government gives, but that doesn't mean she isn't also hateful and abusive. She cares about me, most of the time, but there are some times when she very obviously does not, and has told me before that she would refuse to take me to the doctor if it turned out I needed a certain medical treatment that she didn't agree with.
On the topic of body positivity, Dr. K had a really profound take on "beautiful at every weight." The mission of body positivity is to decouple people's value from their appearance. Being overweight does NOT make you less valuable and worthy of love than anyone else.
That being said, some people ARE less attractive (to most people, of course attractiveness is subjective :)). Saying "everyone is beautiful, even if they are morbidly obese," is subtly applying higher value to beauty. I think that sentiment is harmful because no matter how much someone tells themselves and is told by others that they are beautiful, the truth is some people (myself included btw) are less attractive than the average person. The healthy thing to work on is to accept that being unattractive is not a fault. As apposed to believing I am indeed attractive, and THAT'S why I have value.
It’s not about telling yourself and the world ‘I am beautiful’. It’s about living life and enjoying life and not being okay with the horrendous way that obese people are treated on a daily basis. It’s basically people going out and saying I am worth it, I deserve to be happy.
That really shouldn’t be controversial
I have a story that isn't exactly what the question asked, but I was still reminded of it: Several decades before I was born, my grandmother was preparing a meal for her family. Well, she was trying to cut something that wouldn't budge, and made a wrong move, resulting in her cutting her hand real bad, nearly losing a finger. My grandfather saw what happened and immediately drove her to the hospital. For whatever reason, when seeing this scene, the hospital stuff concluded that it was my grandpa that assaulted his wife and not a mere accident. They separated the two, police was called to detain my grandpa while the nurses tried to get a confession out of my, now drugged, grandma.
So yeah, as I said, not a case of bad diagnosis by the doctor or patient, more of a wrong conclusion to the cause of the ailment.
So.... I gotta say, this video's title is largely disconnected from the narrated stories here.
To be fair they use the question of the reddit thread, it's mostly people just not following the prompt
@@dragons_of_magicgirl368 True, but IIRC the question being asked in the title of this video wasn't the one being answered in the reddit thread.
Went to the ER *on Christmas day* because I had a high fever and a non-healing wound, and the last time I had that combo the doc yelled at me for waiting 24 hours to check if it was infected. Blood test confirms there’s no infection, COVID test comes back positive-and I know COVID presents with just fever symptoms for me.
But the ER doc is convinced I’ve got a UTI. I explain I ALWAYS test false positive for a UTI because of my reconstructed bladder. He uses emotional manipulation to convince me to be admitted, but then they forget about me for two days-skipped meals, don’t get out of the ER exam room for an entire day, hospitalist forgets to visit until I threaten to leave AMA. No treatment except for one IV antibiotic every 24 hours. Discharge doc say the cultures prove I didn’t have a UTI.
A month or so later I visit the specialist urologist for another issue and tell him the story. He says “well of course you gave a false positive for a UTI-that’s how your reconstructed bladder works!” 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️ Best part is that my insurance refused to pay because they determined I didn’t need to be admitted, so the hospital had to write off the entire thing!
that is such a nightmare! i’m so sorry
I wouldn't trust a doctor who dismisses you without doing tests tbh
Maybe its super easy to treat but you wont know that without a diagnosis
I have dealt with dislocations all my life. All of my joints dislocate, including my hips. In high school, I joined the school chorus. I had always been a bit thin and I had gained a bit of weight in high school, nothing huge. We had to dance and sing in chorus. Due to the dancing, my joints dislocated and hurt bad. I got through a year of chorus before it became bad enough to go to the doctor. My mother took me early from rehearsal to urgent care. When we saw the doctor, she explained I thought my hips were dislocating and rolled her eyes. The doctor gave the 'ah faking' look and got me an x-ray. My joints pop in and out fast so nothing was dislocated. He said take it easy for a week and nothing else came of it. After I finally moved out and moved to a colder climate, I went to a new doctor and they finally did an MRI. I got diagnosed with osteoarthritis in the lower back...at 21 and told I probably have EDS. I ended up having to quit my job and am trying to get an EDS diagnosis to get on disability. If the first doctor had believed me or my mother didn't roll her eyes, I might not have had to quit my job and might not be in debilitating pain all the time.
The surgeon who botched my grandma's colon and lead to her death (as we all felt he f-ked it up. there was just that gut feeling after the doc came in and nonchalantly said "She's gone." as if he didn't give a sh#t about bedside manner.) I wish Gpa would have filed malpractice, as the guy 3 months after gma's death.. had is license revoked for over 10 Malpractice lawsuits recently filed against him in one year. Gpa could have afforded a "Big booty" nurse during his downward spiral mentally. (my grandad was a bit of a pervert lol though Grandma was his censor until she passed.) I miss em both. RIP
My doctor is like a uncle to me. I’ve been seeing him for my medication for as long as I know and he is very straight with me. My mother likes the idea of me being a extremely fit I don’t so I don’t really listen to her. I knew I was overweight and didn’t believe it was bad enough. Well it was bad enough for him to say that I’m getting fat and to fix it. Shocked but I knew he wouldn’t care what my family wanted so I knew he was telling the truth
15:30 I get that OP doesn't want us blaming the mother but it also sounds like their family has a history of making bad decisions. So the safe thing to do is ignore their beliefs and continue blaming the mother.
I feel like she wrote it in a way to make us detest the mother and grandmother, and then backtracked when reddit piled on that her mother was neglectful.
The video title seems... confusing. It sounds like it's about stories where the poster was actually right and the doctor was wrong (like story 2), not mainly about stories about the patient insisting they know better and being dead wrong.
this is because its older idiot ai instead of the newer ones who is every yter i watch
@@GealuGalu undersparked is almost certainly a real person.
@@GAMER32231 who?
@@GealuGalu Lmao
@@llamawalrushybrid i dont even remember those comments ill be real its been like 90-100 degrees out so ive been sleeping the day in the ac room then gaming at night really long 5 am sessions while HIGH AS FUCK ON WEED also the ganghstalking gets to me a little occaisonally
OG Narrator being in 2 videos in a row. Insane!😊😊😊
My former doctor did the exact same thing regarding EDS. I gave her my concerns as well as the family history and the fact that my brother had the same symptoms as well, since there's also a genetic component with some forms of EDS, and she wiggled my finger and told me I don't have it. 🤦 That was just one of many in a long line of dismissing me and ignoring my symptoms, not to mention the fact that they apparently forgot that I can read the notes that they send back and forth to each other in my digital chart, and they were VERY unprofessional. Needless to say I won't be going back ever again.
I am a doctor. We definitely do make mistakes but most of the time we are genuinely trying to do our best for our patients. What I’m hearing a lot of is something that we struggle with in the profession. “Those convinced against themselves are of the same opinions still” is a saying that certainly seems to apply to a majority of these cases. It applies to a number of my cases as well on a near daily basis.
LES GO OLD NARRATOR IS BACK!!!!!
Thinking about that time my friend's psychiatrist put them on a massive dose of SSRIs without building up to that point slowly. Friend was concerned about the dosage being WAY higher than the starting dose but the psych said it was fine.
They were hospitalized with serotonin syndrome. Serotonin syndrome is what happens when you overdose on SSRIs because your brain is flooded with so much serotonin it becomes toxic. The psych then acted confused as to why the dose was so high and pretended that they didn't prescribe it that way and my friend must have overdosed on purpose. They got the prescription information that proved it was dosed way too high and the psych basically just shrugged it off without so much of a sorry.
I have been in and out of hospital since my early teens. Doctors said I had an eating disorder, munchausens etc and refused to investigate. 7 years after my symptoms started, I was diagnosed with hEDS, Fibro, IBS and postural hypotension and “chronic dehydration”… 15 years after my symptoms started, I’ve finally undergone some actual investigations, found out I have had Crohn’s disease the entire time. I’ve been telling doctors since my early teens that I thought they needed to look at Crohn’s disease and EDS. My current doctors are now trying to confirm that these two diseases have been the issues all along
Edit: both diseases are hereditary in my family, so to me, when I started with the same symptoms, it only made sense that those were the issues cuz both are so common in my family. My doctor thought “I was faking it to get the same attention as the rest of my family” because “I was too young to have them both”
doctors are so weird about their patients being “too young” sometime disease doesn’t discriminate based on age and bc of the combination of genes or whatever you just end up chronically ill.
Not really doctor being wrong (more of just delays) but:
I had a jaw surgery in 2021 to correct my overbite. They sawed through my jaw on the left and right, moved it forward, and put it in place with plates and screws. Recovery was normal at first. I even got to meet my new puppy while I was on the liquid Oxycodone 🙃.
The issue was this: the left cut never healed properly and actually stayed open. It got slightly infected so I went to the ER to get antibiotics.
This is the part that still makes me a bit uneasy. I asked the nurse practitioner for Prednisone because it was really swollen.
She said yes.
It must have been pretty bad otherwise I would have looked like a drug seeker.
A couple weeks later I went under for a second time to have the plates removed on both sides (the right was still open, just not as bad as the left) and the cuts properly sutured.
I'm completely recovered now for anyone wondering. No problems ever since basically.
@armamentarmedarm1699 at first it was beyond awkward but I'm used to it now
14:50 yea sorry OP butcif you're bleeding through clothes and cant aleep and your mom doesn't take you to the ER she's a bad parent full stop. No matter how much you cried wolf that amount of blood should warrant a check even if you somehow faked that.
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Yeah the problem isn't doctors pointing out weight. It's them treating it like there's no other explanation for something once they see the patient is overweight.
I have chronic back pain because I have permanent damage to multiple discs in my spine as a result of having been hit by a car. I understand that as an overweight person, my weight doesn't help the situation and losing some pounds would help cut down the severity. But when I go to a doctor for pain management and they blatantly ignore the part of my medical file that outlines I have an underlying reason for my pain beyond my weight and refuse to give any help beyond telling me "Lose weight and you'll be fine", it's a problem.
I was only diagnosed with type 2 diabetes last year. Aside from having the cursed genetics for developing it earlier on in life (thanks dad), it was definitely happened because of my eating habits (a lot of stress and anxiety related)
I do know a bit more than the average person but it was still a shock how seriously it was taken so quickly. Difference being I was willing to work on it. I think about 8 months after diagnosis and monitoring as they introduced oral medication, I got a call out of the blue saying that my last set of results were pretty shocking and that they were considering the diabetes going into remission. We're working on reducing the oral medication now that my long term levels have become stable and in a normal range, so we can test how well I do coming off the medication.
It CAN be done, and it's not like I've had to give up treats entirely either..... but I hear so many stories of stubbourn diabetics that it's ridiculous. Even if it's gradual small changes, anything is better than nothing
One of the many things that led to my friend's divorce was her spouse's refusal to take their own diabetes treatment seriously. She couldn't live with the stress of waking up in the middle of the night at least once a week to find them near death because they weren't managing their diet and medication responsibly. And yes, my friend had been patient for many years and considered all the times that there were mitigating circumstances, like incidental illness or insurance deciding to change their spouse's medication seemingly at random (in actuality it's because of a legal kickback scheme the insurers [technically pharmacy benefit managers, but most health insurers' parent companies also have a PBM] have with the pharmaceutical companies, called prescription drug rebates)
@@redjoker365 That's really sad to hear, but I completely understand that there's only so much s person can take if someone they love won't help themselves. I bet it didn't half cause her a bunch of mental health problems having so many close calls, it sounds so scary 😢
@@misschieflolz1301my father met up with a neighbor one day, and she said she was leaving. He thought she meant she was moving away. He wished her luck, but then she said her husband had Alzheimer's and she was out of there. I don't know if he was being combative or not.
The problem isn't the doctor saying "you need to work on your weight for your health" and the astounding frequency with which women are told"you're just a fatso" when they're drying off and seeking treatment for something Else
i love the fact these videos seem to keep getting longer, i love the tons of content, i like listening to your videos when stressed or when i wanna relax, since its calm, and quite interesting most of the time
13:04 I would have reported my mother to CPS, I don't give a shit. Your mother (and family members) ignored clear evidence that something was seriously wrong and it almost led to your death.
The title is the exact opposite of the actual prompt.
On a positive note, it's a great example of how slight changes can completely change the meaning of a sentence.
None personally, I've always been lucky when it comes to illness and doctors, my partner on the other hand--
When they were still married to their ex, my partner was rough housing with their three boys outside and hopped down from a rock. They rolled their ankle hard, falling to the ground. They figured it's probably sprained, but don't think it's much worse than that until they try to go to work in the evening and can't walk without excruciating pain. They go to the doctor the next day for x-rays. Doctor says "not broken, just a bad sprain." Partner isn't convinced, but the doctor is firm and sends them out with some painkillers. Over the next couple of days, the pain increases. It's obviously not just sprained, and they're starting to think it's broken. Go back to the doctor to get a second look at the x-rays. The nurse looks at them and is like, "oh, shit, yeah, that's totally broken." She goes to talk to the doctor who comes back in, looks at the broken bone the nurse points to and shakes his head. "Nope, that's not broken. It's just a sprain. Stop wasting my time." They never went to that doctor again. The bone was broken. My partner now occasionally has their ankle just give out on them.
The stupid thing is that this doctor is still practicing in our area.
I'm so tired of having to fight for equal medical treatment. I nearly died thrice because doctors dismissed my pain simply because I'm a woman.
Had a persistent nosebleed, so was in and out of hospital for cautery treatment. Would stop for a bit (hour or two?), then come back. Got stuck on tranexamic acid for over a year because they thought it was a blood clotting issue. Over a year later of a persistent drip, drip, drip nosebleed... got a competent doctor that thought to actually just check higher up for a rupture. Lo and behold, could have just been cauterised a year before without screwing my high school finals (GCSEs here) up from having to stay out of school.
I had a similar problem but instead of being put on clot meds i was told i have anxiety
And i have had many bleeds since cautery one 2hr long
1:00 as someone who had lyme borreliose i hate this guy. it is a serious illness that is hard to diagnose even without malpractice.
Chiropractor, have yet to see one in a hospital, or get referred to one as a specialist from a GP
"your appendix ruptured during labor and infected your ovary. The other one didn't mature correctly, so this will likely be your only child". My mom's doc after my eldest sibling. She had my sister 370 days later
Newsflash, completely normal weight people can have sleep apnea. And I don't mean people who got it when they were overweight and then lost the weight. It's not solely a "fat people problem".
Handled the weight issue way better in this than your co narrator did in a recent video, very well done.
I think the other issue is that people don’t understand what all contributes to obesity and even issues with food. The treatment of the situation that people are lazy and don’t want to take care of themselves isn’t the full picture. Kindness, grace, and support are the best approaches. Also prioritizing health over size. Yes often people who are obese have health issues because of that. But understanding that there is a spectrum of healthy that doesn’t fit in a box matters more.
ITT: Women not being believed 😢
My grandpa was like that. He said he was fine on the phone and a day later he was hospitalised. (He lives far away from us). I was fretting about what was wrong with him, because it appeared his heart meds didin't work. My mom came back from the hospital telling me: " Well in order for the meds to work he would have to take them." Turns out he wasn't taking any of his meds. He died two years ago from heart problems.
Edit: He was 92, though. So he didn't die young.
I feel story 32 so hard. It took me YEARS to be diagnosed with the exact same things. Everyone just looks at you and goes “if you would lose weight, you’d be fine”. Weight issues are a common symptom of these disorders. It’s so annoying. It also belittles the efforts to those people who are actually trying to lose weight and getting no where because of the messed up hormones.
My dad had lymes disease as a child and almost died, that doctor that lied to his patients makes me genuinely sick- I feel so bad for a families that they had such an awful “doctor”
My grandpa thought his regular doctor was this great doctor and brought me there for a physical. First thing that was weird was he talked about my period and sex life infront of my grandfather didn’t ask if I wanted him to leave the room. Second thing wrong was he said he wanted me to just get a regular panel of blood work the lady taking my blood was on ft the whole time and there was needles and blood everywhere on the floor. The third thing was I come back for my results turns out not only did they not me that this lab wasn’t cocoverd by my insurance but tested me if I was pregnant and for stds and never told me and started reading the results (all negative) in front of my grandpa. Flash foward to Easter of last year my grandpa was sick went to that same doctor told him he just had gas and told him to go home my grandpa had stage four liver cancer and died six weeks later the doctor never ran a damn test . I also found out that they kept making appointments for him after he passed and my grandma went off and said you killed my husband so he won’t make it they also kept making appointments for me after the whole shit show they did to me and turned out good thing I never took the vitamin d he prescribed because it was 10x more the amount I’m taking now overall this doctor in my opinion shouldn’t even be a doctor it’s been almost a year when my grandpa and miss him everyday and hate that doctors guts
Over 10 years ago I finally ended up with a major back surgery leaving me with Harrington rods and a cage as part of my spine had crumbled. For over 6 months prior to finally getting in for surgery I had been complaining that I couldn't walk, my leg was asleep and would not wake up, I couldn't get in and out of the tub by myself, I couldn't stand up straight anymore, I was in sever pain, and I was in and out of every hospital in my city. I live in a fairly large city, so yeah I'd been to about 7 hospitals and to my primary care doctor. I couldn't get up the stairs from the room my mom rented, I had become homeless because of this, and getting me back down after my last doctor's appointment wasn't happening. The thing is the doctors told my mom it was psychosomatic or I was drug seeking, I'm going to be 100 here and admit I was an addict, I told one doctor who said I was drug seeking I had just got done doing something better then they would ever give me to go home with, I didn't care about their drugs I wanted to know what was wrong. I had a nurse refuse to help me dress or walk out once discharged and I couldn't do it by myself- I struggled to do it until another nurse took pitty on me and came in and helped me. The first nurse now forced to help me out whispered with the cruelest tone id heard from a nurse that I could walk just fine and needed to stop wasting other people's time and resources that could be put to real use, why didn't I go is and do them all a favor. They had my mom convinced it was all an act and my mom was so cold to me because I was also in a battle to get my daughter back from the state. She thought I was doing all this just to get out of what I needed to do to get my kid, I told her to just drop me off where I knew there was an empty trailer I could use for shelter, I knew if she did I would die there cause I could not walk anymore, I was at her and everyone around us mercy and they where all told I was faking so I went sometimes over 24 hours without anything to eat or drink. Especially after my last doctor's appointment where I was taken to a detached garage and given an air mattress with plywood stood up around it and a tarp over it's top to help keep me a little warm as it was now going into winter. I had a case worker come out to see me after that last appointment and they found me shivering laying in my own piss refusing to talk because I was so beat down by all these professionals treating me worse then mud on their shoes. She finally got me to talk, she noticed I could still move my legs but I could not support myself if I tried to stand. She called an ambulance and followed me to the hospital, she stayed by my side until I was finally admitted. Finally a week after being admitted the doctor on my floor called in a neurology consult. They did one simple test with my foot and the response was clearly indicative of a spinal injury. He told them to MRI my spine to which the doc said they had and it was fine, he said what part. They had only done an MRI of my lumbar spine as I still had control of my legs and bladder- though I couldn't get to a bathroom cause I couldn't stand up or walk hence why I had peed myself prior to being admitted, he told them to check my thoracic and less then 30 minutes after my MRI I was being transfered for emergency surgery because my t8 &t9 were missing. I get to the other hospital but don't go into surgery because the surgeon refused until knowing why this happened. Come to find out I have a staph infection in my spine- not normal osteomyelitis that shows up on cultures- my infection didn't show up on any of the cultures taken, as they had taken them almost every ER visit I'd had over the last 6 months or so. So finally after a bone biopsy, 2 weeks in the neuro ICU , and 16 hours in surgery, 6 months in a physical rehab home I got some of the worst news of my life. They didn't think I would walk again- I do, for years I was slower then normal but could still walk a decent amount with little to no assistance. I couldn't care for a small child on my own anymore however, and so I signed my rights away allowing her dad's sister to adopt her. But up until about 3 years ago I got around fairly well, now I use a 4 wheel walker, and starting about 2 and half years ago my walking has gotten harder and harder. When they did an MRI it was found I have a tumor in my hip joint that is growing and pushing my hip out of place and tumors growing INSIDE my thigh bone- can't remember what it's called at the moment- with no space for them to grow so they are slowly breaking my bone. It's been 2 and a half years and I am JUST NOW getting to find out if it is cancer or not and what they will be able to do. My appointment is in 2 weeks for my MRI then I'll finally see orthopedics to get my answers. My primary care couldn't believe I still hadn't gotten my biopsy results- waiting for that MRI to see orthopedic to get those too- and so she just informed me it came back inconclusive. I know things aren't right inside me and I'm sick of doctors putting me off. If it hadn't been for herbal treatments and natural healing I would be in big trouble. Modern medicine has completely let me down. I didn't have to end up so broken but they refused to listen. They treated me and even told me I was a waste of their time because I was an addict. I got clean for a long time, but any one can only take so much pain and so I was pulled back into what I had hoped to put behind me. My current primary care is also a natural path and balanced the two schools of medicine which is what I believe most doctors should do and when your patient says something is wrong listen to them.
3:50 no thats manslaughter
That’s what I thought when I heard that
Body positivity can become toxic, when people refuse to try to be healthy because “it’s ok to look this way.” It’s not about the looks, it’s about your heart being surrounded with so much fat in your chest cavity that it can’t pump enough blood. If you’re able to lose weight and your doctor warns you to, you should try your hardest and your doctor will be trying to help you :)
Also going to add, doctors who misdiagnose something as “just being overweight” are not good doctors, they’re supposed to run tests to rule out other possibilities- usually fatal or fast ones first before concluding the diagnosis.
Also also going to add- there are disorders/diseases that directly cause weight gain, treating the weight and not the cause won’t get you anywhere. In these cases losing the wight is extremely difficult and won’t last.
I think Doctors blaming body positivity and not acknowledging the known history of Doctor misdiagnosing overweight people because they are overweight is a big part of the problem.
Until that issue is delt with those who actually have a weight related condition will have an easy way to dismiss the diagnosis. I've never heard a body positive person say they disbelieve the doctor just because they look fine. They always add in the real story of someone they know who was misdiagnosed And if they are in body positive circles they are going to know a few people that has happened to.
Yes body positivity can become toxic but ignoring that Doctor have been throwing fuel on that fire fixes nothing.
Body positivity isn’t really about looks. It’s about going out and saying “I deserve to be happy” even if I am overweight. For many, many overweight/obese+ people they are not going to magically be skinny. They may never be skinny. Yes, everyone wants to be as healthy as they can be. But for some people the healthiest they can be will still be while they are fat. Weight loss just isn’t possible for some people.
So it’s not able not trying to lose weight or be healthier. Just more about trying to live a life worth living and be happy and not accept bad treatment just because of their weight.
ER Doctor said "UTI" ..... I suffered for 2 straight years before Crohn's Disease was eventually treated. Thanks Doc. Lectured me like a child on "bladder placement" rather hearing about how my intestines felt like they were strangling each other and the severe pain I was having. No more ER for me unless close to death or something.
Go to an urgent care if you are dying, the doctors there will ensure you actually get proper emergency help. Urgent care doctors have saved my life more than once, and once arranged for surgery to happen in a nearby city asap... at the ER (I had actually left a hospital after they assured me I was OK) I woulda been dead cause they kept telling me I was OK... ny gallbladder was septic.
I remember complaining about my limbs hurting alot (like I'd limp because it hurt) since I was a kid. My parents brushed it off as growing pains. One time it hurt so much, I couldn't walk and my mum had to bring me to get a X-ray done to see what was wrong. Bones were fine. Still had pains everywhere, when I'm 20+ and finally have the autonomy to decide which doctor to see, I went to see one and told him my limbs still hurt a lot and no longer growing, shouldn't be growing pains. Turns out I have hyper joint mobility and my bones frequently dislocate, aggravating my fibromyalgia.
As someone who has been through various eating disorders and has been everything between under and overweight, but is now at normal weight and more or less comfortable with their own body I want to say something about "body positivity".
People often mistake "body positivity" as "promoting obesity". Body positivity is ONLY about self love, accepting yourself the way you are and about feeling beautiful. It's a movement that wants equal respect for people of all shapes and sizes. Obese people always have to deal with discrimination and being treated like they are ugly or worth less just because of their weight. There might be people promoting unhealthy eating behaviours, but so do the majority of "fitness" influencers who promote a "healthy" lifestyle. Eating unbalanced, minimalistic diets while working out a little too much is not healthy either! Also mental health is a huge factor. You need to find balance and watch your mental and physical health equally! And for some people this will not go together with regular workouts and watching what they eat. We are all different!
You are right, loosing weight will prevent a lot of health issues for obese people, but trust me, 99% of obese people are aware, and not all of them are lazy, often there is other underlying issues. I get treated so differently now that I am normal weight and it sometimes kinda saddens me...
Please dont judge people out there based on their appearance and treat everyone the way you want to be treated
Hearing these I'm reminded of my mums diagnistic test - my mum came back from 4 days at a not so local hospital (she is a radiologist) and I complained of stomache pain - my mum didn't believe me that it was really bad, told me I needed to drink more water and went to buy KFC for dinner - 1 piece of chicken 1/2 eaten I said I didn't want any more - 30min later I was in hospital seeing out of hours GP and my mum insisting it's serious and I need to be admitted, next day I had my appendix removed.
"KFC test" is now a short hand in my family.
I walked right up to the line between “prediabetes” and just being outright diabetic. I asked to start on metformin, a type II diabetes medication that’s been around forever and the main side effect is, ah, “loose stools”, which didn’t seem like it would be a big problem for me since my digestion runs slow. My PCP wanted to put me on a weekly injection I would give myself, which I’m pretty sure was that “Ozempic” stuff no one can find anywhere anymore and which often causes gastroparesis, so I’m glad I didn’t go that route! She has my H1C hemoglobin checked regularly and it is in the healthy range, so we are good to go. She told me that some people won’t do something as simple as what I do; take a pill twice a day; I haven’t really changed my diet much, aside from switching to whole wheat carbs. My cousin has pretty much the same issues I do; those associated with rapid pregnancy weight gain and then not managing to get it back off; but she has done nothing to address the issues and will probably die before her mother does. She’s 61.
I have one from this week!
My heart rate has been jumping between 70-160 bpm. It has been getting worse lately to the point of almost passing out so my friend called the non emergency line and they sent an ambulance.
The first thing the paramedic did was have a go at me as my service dog was in the room then without any tests told me I just have anxiety then told me I have a poor diet. He also kept misgendering me.
Several tests later and it turns out I have a heart arrhythmia. Now have a cardiology referral ✨
Heart arrhythmia CAN be caused by anxiety thou dude, I state this as someone who has that and tachycardia from anxiety. Also sorry they kept misgendering you, some peeps shouldn't be in the healthcare field at all and it embarrasses me by association... (ex med worker)
14:20 And _this_ is why I refuse to admit to anyone in my family having faults (besides myself, of course).
Can't tell if this is a joke but uh💀 literally everyone has faults
@ indeed; but I’m not comfortable pointing out people’s faults - except my own, of course 😉
For young women with chronic illnesses, the diagnosis usually takes many years, in my case eight. And I was basically diagnosing myself and had a befriended physician review my conclusion and refer me further. Before I took that measure, I did the traditional thing and heard it all. "I fell ill because my partner left me", in fact it was the other way round as he didn't want to have a sick partner. "I need more sex." "It's all in my head." "It's just university stress." "You are doctor chasing." (Not that I got any prescriptions, but the country I live in has mandatory health insurance. So they felt I was wasting resources and treated me extra badly for my persistence to get a valid diagnose.
Story 34, I mean the black salve did remove the breast cancer so you can't exactly say it didn't work.
you have to keep in mind that being fat also has benefits, and a lot of the correlations are unfounded and funded by the multi billion dollar weight loss companies.
Umm, no. I am morbidly obese, I have developed multiple health conditions directly because of my weight. As have most of the people with the same conditions as me.
There is some evidence to show being slightly overweight is helpful to health in the elderly but that could honestly be because the overweight people who did develop issues, just died off earlier so the ones left over are the healthier ones.
Anyway, no. 90% of results from being fat are bad
@@archgirl7797 correlation does not imply causation! Being fat also helps prevent multiple types of cancer, helps surviving strokes, and plenty more.
I had never been alergic to anything. I was put on one and soon was falling, dizzy, starting having tremors. Told my doc who immediately took me off it. That was awful.
A neurologist told my hubby he has OCD. Ummm my niece does, my hubby doesn't one bit. A pain specialist told him he has Manges syndrome. His torso is long which leads to massive back issues.
vid reminds me of an argument i had with a classmate following a sudden turn in my health during my second semester. i was, doubled over in pain and unable to eat. had a very high fever due to chills and sweats, and hadnt been able to sleep. classmate had the wonderful idea to say "Oh its just midterms, stress'll do that". No, it was an intestinal blockage due to stress that had come close to back flowing and causing infection. Thank god my mom had more sense than my classmate, though i wish i didnt have to suffer the 30 hours of this, and before you ask. i was given an anti-biotic and strong laxatives and after 2 weeks was right as rain as my body cleared out and healed. I changed my major at the time because what i was going for was going to run me ragged and i did not want a repeat of this.
My pediatrician had to flee from Long Island to Upstate after he misdiagnosed the more dangerous meningitis as "flu" and triggered a FICKING OUTBREAK in the JHS. THREE DIED. Somehow he kept his license.
what angers me is when the doctor is so
biased and wont even check if something
else is wrong if a patient is overweight
Mine was similar but different. It was me being right and my mother who is a doctor being wrong. She thought I was becoming anorexic because I was not eating (I was not eating cause I had not gone to the bathroom in almost a week!). I told her and begged her to hear me out that something was wrong but it was not anorexia. Finally she agreed to take me to the hospital and got to hear from the doctor at the hospital how stupid she was because I almost died because of it. (I had dengue, my white blood cell count was low and I was extremely dehydrated hence why I wasn’t able to go to the bathroom). It felt so good to hear that I was right and that I was not anorexic… to this day I have no idea why my mother who I am low contact with though I was anorexic.
6:05 working i diabetes research.
i am tempted to say "scratch the mostly" we know a lot about riscfactors and how to prevent it regardless of those. and certainly how to treat it. (compliance is key)
its super annoying but they dont usually just stop at a pregnancy test. they usually just check so probably they dont get in trouble and do damage to those who may actually be pregnant. it happens sometimes.
Hey, morbidly obese person here.
I have some experience with the doctor/patient weight dynamic and with the random people in the street and online telling me to off myself because I’m fat. So I have some insight.
Absolutely, people with a normal weight are much healthier than morbidly obese people. I would never question that and I have honestly never heard any obese person question that either, I think that is kind of a misnomer.
Regarding people who are very critical of body positivity - the thing that is frustrating is that it isn’t a case of just wanting to lose weight or not trying hard enough or not thinking that losing weight is a good thing. 99% of morbidly obese people desperately want to lose weight but can’t for whatever reason - there are usually numerous road blocks stopping it from being possible. So the body positivity movement isn’t about celebrating fatness. More about saying f* it, I can’t be thin right now but I can at least be happy and I can at least stand up for myself and say, I don’t deserve hate and abuse for being overweight.
And honestly, what’s wrong with that? For the overweight people trying to be happy, it’s life-changing. For everyone else, it really doesn’t affect you at all. I will never get the controversy and the mountains of criticism it draws. Just let people be happy and don’t treat them like shit.
Fun fact, sleep apnea isn't only caused by weight. I have an elongated soft palate that that covers my airway when I sleep.
The man that mixed ammonia and bleach tho 💀
Thanks 😊. Watched the full hour. Crazy how Universal Health Insurance could save lives!
My younger brother went to visit our father in Texas years ago. Played football with some kids, one fell on top of his foot. Heard a snap. My dad took him to a doctor who said it was sprained. My brother said it hurt a lot, so they wrapped it in bandages. He got home to my mom, foot swollen like crazy, and she took him to a doctor. His foot was badly broken. He had to have a big cast with pins going into him and everything.
Story 9 is fake, premies dont even go home in a week, and if he wasn't actually a premie, losing a tiny bit of weight in the first week is completely normal. The goal is to get them back up to their birth weight in the first few weeks.
Story 2: Narrator said 7 YEAR old and the child weighed 9 pounds at death. I have to assume he meant 7 MONTH old.