Hot takes from my phone notes ft my French ex™️ 🔥
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⏳ The hot takes
0:00 Intro to HOT TAKES
1:00 People asking “How have you been?”
2:08 First dates require something crazy happening or else they won’t go anywhere
3:40 Ze Free French PDFs
4:09 It’s easy to distract oneself with busy work
4:46 People exchanging data points, but not actually talking
5:44 The futility of social media
7:50 Political issues that are easy to have an opinion about
9:33 Board games
10:03 It’s more acceptable to be polite than it is to be honest
10:57 Vlogging to appease one’s loneliness
11:57 People using your sexuality as the first adjective to describe you
12:56 Understanding your lifestyle to better understand your working style
14:36 Why do both renting and owning feel like lose-lose situations?
15:48 When people say they moved somewhere when they only went for 3 weeks
16:31 When youtubers/celebrities say they love the fans (that they never met)
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Not a full silhouette of the ex...finally. With the Maury/Jerry Springer blur over the face, but I'll still take it. 😂
the day I finally see the infamous French ex it’ll feel like I just saw a celebrity
literally almost spit out my smoothie reading this
Word 😂
LMFAOOO no literally
He was in his first videos
@@pikachuiswatchingyou no way like full face?
I dated a French guy omg no more. I say “the sky looks nice today” then they say “you are focusing on the sky to hide ur problems “ LMAO I cannot 🤣 well this honestly every millennial in the Western Hemisphere
I’m starting a petition for you to make one-hour red wine talk with the ex🍷Also, his take on board games was so on point 🙊
it’d be funny to do the red wine talk with the ex and have him be pixelated the entire time 😂
Yes more red wine talks!
How far we have come, from just hearing about the french ex every video to actually hearing the voice and OPINIONS of the famous (sometimes infamous) mystery man himself
The board game point is interesting. Yes, it doesn't necessarily harbor an environment for deep, honest conversation - but not everything needs to be an opportunity for depth. If every conversation we ever had was in-depth and required a ton of thought, context, experience, etc - wouldn't you be exhausted?
and tbh... Even board games have opportunities for depth. Depth in a relationship doesn't solely rely on verbal communication. For me, communicating with someone through casual physicality and the vibe in a room harbors intimacy, be it romantic or platonic. You learn a lot about someone in casual, sometimes mundane conversations if you are really interested in learning about that person. And any interesting person can create interesting conversations, whether it's during a board game or a philosophy class.
I loved this video and have the chance to talk about shit like this and just analyze things about humanity in so many different ways lol like damn not this actually is an in-depth conversation about the societal depth of a board game we love to see it
Your commentary goes off
i agree!! so true
Agree! Also I think you can learn about people’s character through casual activities like board games. Do they play for fun or are they competitive? Do they navigate the game w strategy or have a laissez-fair approach? Are they fair or do they cheat? Play a game of monopoly and you’ll learn a lot about ur friends and family LOL
@@allyson-- omg thank you 😌
@@xoxoxirockxoxox monopoly is a whole exposé on ANYONE and their personality
YEAH YEAH YEAH - and just like that, we went from the ice cold of the Arctic to the fiery hot takes of my living room.
His accent sounds like a mix of French and German.
Your ex is the quintessential French (Parisian) "penseur" dude who has the soul of a philosopher but is contre-courant AF. It's hilarious how he literally is half of the teenage boys who go into Bac L. I like him, and I now can see the tremendous influence he had in shaping the way you perceive things. Juste un vieil adage pour la mémoire : Ne mettez jamais la clé de votre bonheur dans la poche de quelqu'un d'autre. Be happy, Damon!
WAIT TELL ME MORE 🤣 you really already described him in two sentences
Almost every philosopher was/is "contre-courant". Probably why they became philosophers in the first place. Most philosophers are idealists and the current is never good enough to an idealist
this. Very much this. excellent adage to sum it up as well.
Love that saying!
I can fix him
THE DAY WE GET A EX REVEAL IMMA FALL OFF MY CHAIR FR
the “french ex boyfriend” thing is really your ™️
I think first dates should be boring lol. Cause I wanna make sure that I actually enjoy spending time with the person and I'm not tricking myself into thinking I like them. What if you think you like them but you're just having fun doing something new and interesting? I don't even like to be wined and dined on a first date. If someone wants to do a fancy diner I'll suggest drinks at a quiet speakeasy instead. Just be able to hold a convo for an hour. We can go all out on date #2 lol
Exactly, for me it was a bad take like the board game too.
😂😂😂 yep me too… my ideal date would be eating at a cafe and roaming around the town or even just chatting at the cafe.. that’s it .. and then further dates can get more and more interesting and romantic ❤
It shouldn't be boring IMO but you should be actively having a conversation. Having something to do, like playing cards, or chess to use as an instrument when the conversation gets a bit quiet can come very in handy though. Because the first time meeting someone will always be a bit drier than usual.
good point!
Yes! it's very telling of who he is as person too. it's like he only wants to go on dates so he can collect stories, not to actually connect with the other person. very self centered.
I've always been perplexed by TH-camrs professing their love to their audiences. I mean, no, you don't love me. You don't even know me. Chances are, if I DMed you on IG or approached you in the street, you'd likely be more annoyed than anything else. But love?
I wish just one TH-camr was honest: "thank you for finding my video interesting enough to watch it so that I can make money and I don't have to work as an occupational therapist or something and now I'm in Korea". That's it, that's all they have to say.
k rant over lol
and by you, I mean the universal you, not you specifically Damon.
BOOM 🔥 ok and here i was thinking i was being harsh. y'all get me. "I LOVE YOU GUYS!" 🤣
Oddly specific
omg the “i moved to ____ but really, they just rented an airbnb for 3 weeks” hot take got me. it’s always irritated me and i felt like i was the only one. i’ll click on the video to get a sense of someone experiencing a new culture and starting a new life there but then it turns out to just be an extended vacation 🙄
I travel between three European cities for work; spending 3 months in each city on average in a given year. I say I’ve moved😂 is that wrong?
Yes they love to mislead for the clicks. Disappointed he didn't dig into this one more.
I love how the french ex is very much opinionated and then at the end he's like oh, i don't have such a rich personality to have 15 opinions 😂.
But I actually liked the hot takes, even if I felt called out by some 😅
Speaking of video lengths; good content, like good conversations, speeds up time - this is an 18m video that felt like 5m of one of the most interesting contemporary-philosophical musings I've heard in a while!🧐
Yes could have been longer!
Okay my hot take is that all your landlord and all landlords do IS manipulate. Landlords create no value that the renter couldn’t do themselves as an owner, all landlords do is push renters out of the housing market by owning multiple properties and hiking prices. When housing insecurity is this bad, it’s villain behavior to profit off of people who don’t own a home when you’re financially well-off enough to not only own housing to meet your human need, but also own rental property as well. This sounds ridiculous but imagine if a squirrel is sitting in one tree and won’t “let” another squirrel climb into a different tree because “that’s his tree too”, we’d be like what? It’s crazy that humans can legally hoard need provisions. When my grandma passes away and we inherit her house, I want to let a family live in it for free because if we are blessed enough to have two houses, why not help someone? Not to come across as higher-than-thou but I want to measure my success based on how much I give, not gain, and our society would be crazy different and awesome if everyone held onto a crumb of that outlook.
YESSSSS!!!
So real
💯
This is such a "you are a global citizen" conversation and I am here for it!
Loving these regular uploads
Wednesday bébé!
I used to be stingy with my ‘I love you’s and didn’t want to say them unless it was authentic and interrogated that a bit and just found it to be pedantic and now I say it even when I feel euphoric and when the love is just in the moment. Great video as always
Almost every French person I’ve had conversations with were extremely honest and that’s literally my favorite thing ever. This upload was needed bb! ❤️
Does people pleasing ever exist over there? Can people pleasing still exist with full honesty ?
@@allyson-- Absolutely!
I love how your Ex is featured in your videos. It reminds me of Wizard Kelly from the Proud Family. His character name or likeness is mentioned often while his character's physicality is shrouded in mystery. Keep this going forever Damon! 🙂
I kinda love the ex's perspective in the sense that, he says a lot of what people are thinking but won't say out loud. I guess that probably goes along with what he said about people wanting to make others comfortable. He is a bit (maybe a lot 😅) cynical, but he also doesn't seem to take himself too seriously. I think he sorta alluded to that at one point. Overall, I really enjoyed this conversation! Definitely would love to see a Hot Takes Part 2.
The social media topic is definitely an interesting one. I agree with the mindless scrolling but also whole heartedly agree with Damon, my job/work life isn't stimulating me enough anymore to which I seek creative/stimulating outlets through social media (IG/TikTok). However, I won't scroll when I'm with friends, family & people I value highly.
I GOT YOUR BOOK THE OTHER DAY!! I'm 1/3 of the way through already.
I've always enjoyed your videos, you've gotten me through my French GCSE, A-Level, and now my gap year where I'm floating around, figuring my shit out. I'm hoping to live in Paris for a while one day like you, in all its imperfect glory.
I love these kinds of videos, dating with Damon, and red wine talks etc. Just brutally honest opinions and completely transparent conversation. I don't know where I'm going with this comment, but you're my favourite person on this fucking app. I look forward to your face every week.
the ex needs to be in more videos
Indeed. I agree with almost everything (I understood) he said.
I love this whole conversation, I genuinely feel that whenever I watch your videos, I am either intrigued, inspired or just having a blast!
Regarding the last hot take, I'm from St. Vincent and the Grenadines, and one thing I've noticed that has always bothered me here is that a lot (definitely not all, but some) men, say I love you very quickly into a relationship, or even before and I'm always like "You literally don't even know me, you don't love me" at least not with the weight I think the words I love you should hold. So yes, in western culture, it is very easy to go "omg, I love you" and in that context, the context that you say about random things, people, places, your friends etc, it's easy and it doesn't hold the same weight as actually telling someone you love them/love this/are in love with them etc and REALLY meaning it. It's interesting also because unlike many other languages that have multiple words and meanings for the word love, english only has one word that means everything, which isn't necessarily a good thing.
thought this was one of the more refreshing conversations I've heard in a while! very honest and authentic.
you know the video is gonna be good after saving it to your playlist within the first three minutes 😩🥰
I know you're not into board games but what if you made a card game like 'we're not really strangers' targeted towards getting people to actually have real conversations on their travels. that way people would be reminded to not just travel for the photos, but to open themselves up to everything their trip has to offer
Your brain....
I live for this video ugh! Was having a bad day and this back and forth between you two was everything ! 😍
beautiful, you just gave us 20 genuinely good topics for conversations with friends, thank youu
yeah, he'd be my ex too.
i think that as everything is important and deep it’s not necessary to be all day in the deepness of life, cause the world is already really serious. i think a balance between real conversations and silly little moments with friends is what makes a beautiful life. for me life is shared, even the smallest things like playing cards with a friend is as precious as been able to share your deepest thoughts. just my point of view 💖 love u
You’re so refreshing. And hot dang I agree with so much of what you’re saying. Thank god people like you are out there makin tracks and saying it out loud!! Round of applause for you and the blurry-faced ex 😆👏
I had so much fun watching, it was interesting hearing his opinions and finally seeing more of who he is and his personality ( even with the blur) after hearing about him for a long time 😄
I just love these types of videos. So much so that I want to play them to my friends and discuss the topics you are touching on over a glass of wine or whatever. Keep it up, Damon!!
I really enjoyed this vid and it highkey made me think ab a few things. I disagreed w a few takes he had but I liked a few as well, its cool how he has an emphasis on rlly deeply connecting with people and how he can do that in so many various situations
Your take on public figures saying "I love you" to their fans i.e. "I love the love you guys give me" was so on point! I have always questioned that too. Excellent content and entertaining video!
I feel that there was this overarching theme of connection with others (first dates, parasocially, etc.). It's interesting how the ex interprets authenticity and honesty as if joy must often be forced. I have my own neurosis, but I prefer to give the energy I want back. I am genuinely excited to meet people for maybe the first and last time. I want to be coveted, so I covet others and appreciate what I can in the moment. Why should we give into the monotomy of life?
I think I've noticed this change as I got out of my own head and applied more empathy to the human condition. It helps my mental state - especially since the 2020 panny 😂 But I was kind of thrown initially from the air of arrogance. Also quite amusing. Interesting hot takes.
Panny is the cutest and first description i saw for it 😂 I liked ur comment
@@hindhader hahaha, thanks! ♥
Happy to have met him, bravo D! These keep getting better!
love all this content DAMON!!!!!
That was some interesting conversations. I can see the love/hate relationship that drives both of you crazy. Good job.
Not gonna lie he kind of sounds like a prick? But then again, I have met a lot Parisians like him so it might just be the water there. And, not to impose my unwanted opinion unto you based off of this parasocial relationship, but you’re more generous, helpful, understanding, open-minded, friendly, and surround yourself with good people so I’m glad he’s an ex.
Ooh, matching blue shirts? I like your ex's takes (he could almost be German, liking ARTE and hating fake friendliness, haha). Have him in more videos, so we get to know him better. Anyway, had a good laugh when he mentioned the "contempt" you both have for each other, lol. Surprised he said that "doing Columbians" line. So far I had the impression he was a rather quiet and private individual (hence the pixelation and hush-hush) as well as less daring, especially when it comes to quick sexual gratification. I'm intrigued.
you guys articulate so much information in my brain
I don’t know if it’s because I am French or not (tu sais qu’on aime débattre) but I disagree with many things your ex said haha
Personally I love playing board games with people, especially when they are strategic. It gives you an opportunity to have a window on somebody’s way of thinking and also sometimes it brings out the worse in people (which I live for hahahaha).
Regarding the rest, he seemed pretty blasé and très parisien (which is not a compliment in my mouth) avec une forme de supériorité dans son discours..
At least he said that conn*** was a good adjective to describe him, so I like the fact that he is owning up to it !
Anyway, it’s just a video, I am sure he’s lovely IRL.
Thank you Damon for your content, peace out ✌🏻
totalement d’accord
glad you made it out of that relationship unscathed because these opinions ….. idkidk
Throughly enjoyed this one.
Thank you both! 😊
You just unpacked my chaotic string of thoughts. As always, loved this video ❤
I love this interview style.
Yayy he’s updating regularly!
love ALL these takes, another sweet and insightful vid
Write another book about all these ! You are sooooo right !!😊
Can we please have more of these ex convos! Really enjoy them!
i want to listen to more chats with the french ex
I needed this today!! It had me howling and these takes were so so refreshing - felt like I was watching a European art film; didn’t realize how much I missed that 🧠
Need more of this! Really enjoyed it D!
Loved this extremely!!! Interesting points and really cool way of filming
There is soooo much to take and have an essay written about some of these topics, I remember from a previous video and it was brought up again, about how he doesn’t like playing board games. To me I’m like HOW? I love it, my family, and friends too. Like I’ve had some of my deepest conversations with people during board games, some family members almost pee their pants cause or laughter, and laughter is good for the souls. It’s hard to agree with the statement that it’s just wasted meaningless time, when for me it’s the time where many can come together and smile, laugh, eat, get creative, and fellowship. Not every second of every day has to be focused to always talk about philosophy, or deep thought provoking questions. When sometimes games can make deep conversations arise.
I swear, you two are perfect for each other.
Damn, that’s a great video! Agree on most points with you. The one thing that bugs me the most is the type of small talk like you’ve mentioned about the rain. I’m so sick of this. I understand that’s kind of the process especially when you meet new people but at one point it just gets so annoying i cant stand it.
I love this conversation :) thanks for the food for thought!!
Honestly, I feel like I relate with your exes opinions a little too much...and oftentimes I would feel so out of place with other people and even my friends. Something I am working through, thank god for therapy (I dont know how many times I have told my therapist that I am afraid that I am an asshole simply because I dont enjoy shallow conversations or activities)! maybe I was Parisian in my past life lol
We have the whole 'did' a country thing in the UK and I couldn't agree more. It makes each destination sound like a task to be completed and removes the romanticism of travelling
incredible video! please do more of these
Noooo, I love board games 😭 what are sports or other activities you do with a partner… all failed conversations? What’s the line?! Leave board games alone 😭💀
About the social media comment, it’s so true that’s like it is expected in the society to keep up with all the lates jokes and whatnots on TikTok, IG and when someone who is still on some social media but doesn’t scroll mindlessly don’t get a reference, some people are so quick to act like you’re stupid and don’t know what is happening in the world. They’re so quick to judge and be rude, instead of asking “so why don’t you for example scroll on IG?” And have a conversation. I think some people do this because they them selves are afraid to deviate from the pattern of society. End of rant haha
I love when you talk about thinks like this. Feels like it makes my mind wake up
the infamous french ex is truly a star!
We just loooooooovveeee you! ❤ we do not know why!!!! The video was awesome !!!
I also petition for one-hour wine talks with ex!
The "I moved to _____" trend has always irritated me so much because many youtubers say they "moved" but in reality only stay one month. And I get it, its an engaging click-baity title, from many western youtubers travelling europe or asia but after some time it comes off as so unauthentic. I'm expecting to see someone grow or share life lessons, or their gripes with the new culture, but its just a highlight reel of a vacation. Thank you for bringing it up Damon!
I think the part on sexuality was very interesting, because I definitely agree with the notion that I wouldn’t want a friend to introduce me to others like “this is is my lesbian friend”. Although, I do also think it is a very personal matter whether you find this an important part of your identity or not? Because in my case, I do find it important and will probably mention that part of my identity because I am also interested in things that are connected to it e.g. history of the community, certain subcultures. etc. I don’t know if that makes any sense? I definitely wouldn’t want it to be used as an introduction or first impression since that just feels a bit icky tbh, and obviously there is more to a person than their sexuality!
J’adore ton ex et j’adore votre dynamique ! Some accurate french rep right there
I really enjoyed listening to these conversations. Especially when you brought up the trend of TH-camrs “moving to cities” 🤣 It’s so true.
for the last take, I see it 2 ways. I personally dont say 'I love you' often (probably not often enough) because it carries a lot of weight for me and i really mean it when it say it. but on the other hand, people can be so quick to call out things they hate right off the bat so why not be as frivolous/generous with expressing love? I dont think it would cause much harm unless you're being dishonest about it
J'ai absolument adorée this video please more hot takes!!!!
These and red wine talks are great!
OBSESSED
The dude seems fun, sophisticated and high maintenance - all the once.
A lot of work too.
But worth the work.
Like an onion with a lot of layers...
Yes, more episodes with the ex pour ce que l'on connait tout l'onion, couche par couche!
You're both awesome.
I think you can love someone you never met. There's multiple ways of interactions too. Ex: Through social media. If a commenter/ fan leaves a comment that makes your day or you recognize them just from their profile or what they say, that can make your day, and you can love those interactions with them. You love their comments and their comments and their comments are coming from them so in theory I think you can love them.
Damon, you right about everything ! 😮!!! You think like I do !!!wow!!!
Damon, queremos parte 2 de filosofando com seu (quase filósofo) ex! Muito divertido ahahaha
OMG I LOVE YOU GUYS SO MUCH (Ok, I'm American, had to do it). Seriously I loved learning about the ex. I see why you like him 😘. Really enjoyed this video, I was sad when it ended. A plus (mercerdi prochain)!!
This vid made my day
If you would want to share, I would find it interesting to hear how you got over your ex while still being friends. It’s not my/our right to know, but if it is something you would wanna talk about I think it would insightful
THE RETURN!
It's the "TM" for me. I'm dying 😂😂😂
This was really good
please can we have an entire hot take on social on media, the little snippet you had in this video was fascinating to watch and i agreed with yalls points. i would love to hear what your solution to social media addiction is because its a wide spread prevalent problem in todays society
Yet another reason why French people told me to stay in Nice and avoid Paris.
so good!!
Ok, so I totally wish you guys went deeper into the "OMG I Love you" Very American. After living in many countries I see that phrase I Love you isn't as casual. It looses its essence in America because we use it so casually. For instance in Italy they say "Ti Ago" I love you, BUT that is only for your lover, you can not say this to a friend or family you have another phrase which is "Ti Volga Bene" and even then you don't here that often. Great video, these our thought me and my friends discuss so its cool to know others are also discussing it.
Just something I was thinking about with the love bit, I definitely would say I love everyone. But it's a general love for humanity, so I don't feel like its far fetched with saying it to people. But it makes sense, people have different perspectives in what love is. Maybe I'm just very optimistic, lol.
8:59 I BASICALLY SAID THIS EXACT THING IN MY PODCAST the episode is about travel about how me and my 2 cohost view it and I was talking about in regards to how people who have never been outside of their environment/city/town etc, they’re use to have the strongest opinions about world views, how countries are, it’s safety, how the rest of the world views them and everything but more travelled and people who digest information from direct resources realistically have a more accurate view on things but because of that they are less decisive about a lot of views which makes it harder to argue against the ignorant when you know they’re wrong but you can’t give a full correct answer.
The EX really pointed it out on American culture “Omg! I love you guys” and TH-camrs moving to different cities. I think if everyone from the US shares their experience in Paris, are they not looking at it from a kind of similar sense??
I was just wondering where the Damon Dominique video was!!😂
I am dehydrated, cold, and ALONE in a hotel room in Chamonix, France but if there's one thing I'm going to do today it's POST A VIDEO! 😂
these are the kind of conversations i want to have!
This is like a modern salon setting for new French philosophy to brew
this is amazing