Love the chemistry between you guys, picking up and elaborating points as well as making jokes like you aren’t in front of a camera ! It comes off genuine and natural ! I’ll be tuning in weekly to hear more tough topics dissected !
Parenting style is the root in shaping an individual. Comparison actually starts within home and it continues as we grow but that should not stop us from living the best life when we only have one life. So basically just ignore and you do you :) That was really a good content to speak up about. Kudos to both of you! 👏👏
I have been feeling worthless since schooldays. Because my mom always compared me with others who are doing better than me, and still she does. I now tell her not to do it ,but she tells me it's for the good. And as you say, if someone else says that too, I will feel more worthless. Thanks to my friends, they have me back and tell me that I am worth and that I have to be who I am and not change myself from who I am. Now, because of this video, I will feel more worth it, and it's very helpful. Thank you, CJ and Mathu. And this video can open everyones eyes. Especially people who are feeling worthless. Thanks again for an amazing video.
Great job guys 👏 I think many Tamil 2.generation people can relate to this and they might feel better now knowing that they are not alone :) I also remember how my parents mentioned what they have done for us but the funny thing is that most of the things they do for us is not what we asked for 🤣 e.g. my parents told that they always accompanied us to Tamil school, dance class, all the programs etc. but that's something they did because they didn't trust their children and not because we wanted or needed that 🤷🏾♀️ But I think if you get a life partner, who appreciates you for what you do and how you are, you can easily overcome this inferiority. That's what I experienced and first at that point I realised how much an appreciation can motivate us, as we are not used to receive much appreciation, we don't really know the power of it. Sorry for the long comment, waiting for more videos like this :)
Another important aspect is the comparison within the family. Especially with their own siblings. Unfortunately, parents often do not realize that this causes discord between their own children. Guys keep up the good work!
Merci pour ce débat ! En vrai , je pense que la plupart des parents tamils ont l'habitude de comparer leurs enfants avec les autres :/ Et malheureusement, c'est pour des mauvaises raisons : prouver à la société tamil que leurs enfants sont intelligents et non des loosers ( comme si c'était une honte ... ) Sorry , my English is not as good as yours haha
Merci pour ta réponse. C'est vrai, mais on doit dire, que souvent, ils ne veulent pas blesser les enfants. Nous pensons qu'ils ne savent pas mieux. Merci pour regarder notre épisode! CJ et Mathu (notre Français n'est pas très bien^^ - on essaie)
I agree that childhood trauma affects wellbeing issues as adults (feeling worthless). As an empath I can understand this, but I still think as adults we can change this attitude/mindset - like CJ mentioned journaling, that’s a great start to healing ❤️🩹. Everyone can heal from this feeling of unworthiness. I want to give my dad some appreciation because he never compared me to anyone or made me feel unworthy. He would always say that people should NOT have a “role model” because why would you want to be like someone else? The comparison starts when you want to be like other people, isn’t it easier to JUST BE YOURSELF! You should make challenges for yourself and follow dreams of your own, you are unique- so quit looking at other people and be your own role model. Once again, CJ and Mathu killing it! 🙌💯🔥
Love the chemistry between you guys, picking up and elaborating points as well as making jokes like you aren’t in front of a camera ! It comes off genuine and natural ! I’ll be tuning in weekly to hear more tough topics dissected !
Thanks Thinesh for your lovely feedback!
You are truly valued!
CJ & Mathu
Hahaha mathu soooo funny „ soooo neenge solrathu naahngel Oru poothil?“😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂
Parenting style is the root in shaping an individual. Comparison actually starts within home and it continues as we grow but that should not stop us from living the best life when we only have one life. So basically just ignore and you do you :)
That was really a good content to speak up about. Kudos to both of you! 👏👏
Thank you CJ and Mathu👏👏👌👌❤️❤️
Thank YOU Swetha! :)
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I have been feeling worthless since schooldays. Because my mom always compared me with others who are doing better than me, and still she does. I now tell her not to do it ,but she tells me it's for the good. And as you say, if someone else says that too, I will feel more worthless. Thanks to my friends, they have me back and tell me that I am worth and that I have to be who I am and not change myself from who I am. Now, because of this video, I will feel more worth it, and it's very helpful. Thank you, CJ and Mathu.
And this video can open everyones eyes. Especially people who are feeling worthless. Thanks again for an amazing video.
Great job guys 👏 I think many Tamil 2.generation people can relate to this and they might feel better now knowing that they are not alone :) I also remember how my parents mentioned what they have done for us but the funny thing is that most of the things they do for us is not what we asked for 🤣 e.g. my parents told that they always accompanied us to Tamil school, dance class, all the programs etc. but that's something they did because they didn't trust their children and not because we wanted or needed that 🤷🏾♀️
But I think if you get a life partner, who appreciates you for what you do and how you are, you can easily overcome this inferiority. That's what I experienced and first at that point I realised how much an appreciation can motivate us, as we are not used to receive much appreciation, we don't really know the power of it.
Sorry for the long comment, waiting for more videos like this :)
Great content and awesome presentation 👏
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Another important aspect is the comparison within the family. Especially with their own siblings. Unfortunately, parents often do not realize that this causes discord between their own children.
Guys keep up the good work!
Indeed.
Thank you for your input! 💯
And thanks for watching the podcast!
CJ & Mathu
bestu 👏👏 informative yet soo fun
Merci pour ce débat ! En vrai , je pense que la plupart des parents tamils ont l'habitude de comparer leurs enfants avec les autres :/ Et malheureusement, c'est pour des mauvaises raisons : prouver à la société tamil que leurs enfants sont intelligents et non des loosers ( comme si c'était une honte ... )
Sorry , my English is not as good as yours haha
Merci pour ta réponse. C'est vrai, mais on doit dire, que souvent, ils ne veulent pas blesser les enfants. Nous pensons qu'ils ne savent pas mieux.
Merci pour regarder notre épisode!
CJ et Mathu
(notre Français n'est pas très bien^^ - on essaie)
❤❤
I agree that childhood trauma affects wellbeing issues as adults (feeling worthless). As an empath I can understand this, but I still think as adults we can change this attitude/mindset - like CJ mentioned journaling, that’s a great start to healing ❤️🩹. Everyone can heal from this feeling of unworthiness.
I want to give my dad some appreciation because he never compared me to anyone or made me feel unworthy. He would always say that people should NOT have a “role model” because why would you want to be like someone else? The comparison starts when you want to be like other people, isn’t it easier to JUST BE YOURSELF! You should make challenges for yourself and follow dreams of your own, you are unique- so quit looking at other people and be your own role model.
Once again, CJ and Mathu killing it! 🙌💯🔥