This is true. Because of the stereotypes , I doubt my sister who is an INFJ of being an Ni Dominant because she remembers the past in details and in chronological manner which I have read before that Si does. Because of the stereotypes surrounding Si as a librarian, accountant, etc. They tend to be rigid from A to Z. So I think that's where it came from. When in reality, when my INFJ sister tells a story, the contents of the story seem to be very compact and linear, from the details of the cause to the big picture meaning of the effect. Its like she's telling her own process of condensing all of her perceived details of event into a whole, like we are seeing the process of Ni in real time.
Amazing description about Ni. Matches precisely (I am INTJ). And it explains why I am often so frustrated with Si types who seem unable to see what is developing right in front of their own eyes
These are really great observations! Anyone would be disturbed upon receiving such a comment - you were being transparent and perfectly natural emotions were coming through when doing so. You contained the information for a while so it's little surprise these emotions were coming through once you opened the window - lots of people support you and your content is being very well received on the whole. I would urge not to get hung up on a single comment but I know it's easier said than done!
As a Si user with a BAD memory, thank you for this video. My memory is like a blur the majority of the time. Also, don't pay attention to comments like that (even though I know how fluffing difficult that is). You explained all your points and you shared your feelings and thoughts about it, so you did all you had to do
People often use that saying to justify "it's not fair so if you argue we or the goverment should also not try to make it fair I refuse! " or "It wasn't fair for me so we shouldn't make it more fair for you. etc." I rarely ever see someone use it in another sense. Simply cause noone who ever demanded fairness did so from the world. So people who say "life isn't fair" ofte times argue against what they *imagine* people are saying not what people are actually saying. We who demand fairness do so from *people* who are *responsible* for making it *as fair as is within our power* with human efforts. Only unicorns demand the *world* to be fair.
Unconsciously stereotypes probably do affect my typing process... But the whole Si memory detail thing I never got on board of. First it seemed to negate everyones shared ability to memorise the past and be able to recall it to some detail. Also I'm INFJ and if my memory is prompted I can see past scenes from my life almost run like a movie. It's like it was as fresh as yesterday. Another thing is, the whole Si past details thing contradicts a study done by Dario Nardi where he had patients look at pictures and then try to recall all the details. Se-Doms outperformed Si-doms. His theory was that since Se sees things for as they are, their memory is less likely to be influenced by other factors or project associations onto the image, whereas as he found Si people's memory of the picture was selective in what they were able to recall depending upon past associations, which also influenced how they saw things in the image.
Well Si is correlated with long-term memory, whereas Se is correlated with short-term memory. So in the study that you mentioned it would actually make sense for Se users to score higher, because the experiment was testing specifically for short-term memory. But this is assuming the test subjects were correctly typed in the first place.
ENTJ here, I'm the exact opposite. My memory is good in the sense that I can recall events having happened and can store plenty of information, but completely gloss over finer details. Even when I try to hone in on them, I can't recall them as a visceral, sensory memory, but rather just more bits of information that contribute to the "whole picture." Si users don't necessarily have a *better* memory, but they hone in and latch onto these visceral sensory details in a way Ni/Se users usually don't seem to? I had an ISFJ friend tell me how she really liked this one book series because it brought back nice memories of reading it on rainy days after school, which just... is not a way of thinking that computes for me at all, lol.
i caught onto it too until i was like wait, there are other details that are more important, i am meticulous about details and not a primary Si-user. there's some truth in it, but people tend to tunnel-vision aspects of certain stereotypes and MBTI is no exception, there's far more important things than how specific your memory is because people will remember more than others on certain events i'm an INXJ and i have a very specific/detailed memory of my past but i'll forget what i said 20 seconds ago, Si and Se are basically swapped for me
I feel Si is about percentage and Ni is about trend so hard lol...If you are generally a good friend toward a Si person, they wouldn't mind occasion conflicts and forgive you quite easily if you did anything to remind them that 95% of the time you spent together was great memory. But for Ni person I found that no matter how nice you have been throughout, if you did one or two things wrong that got stuck in their head it's pretty much over..
That second part was awesome. You successfully brought out the mix of anger and sadness that is so vitally present in the life of an infp. It was very relieving to hear you speak from your heart. It'd be wonderful if more people do that. I liked the first part too. But the latter part was special.
I'm INFJ and my brother is ISTJ, and everything you said about Ni and Si fits with the way we are. I think you're spot on with your explenation! And about that comment, I thought everything you clarified was very obvious already so I wouldn't worry too much about a lot of people having thoughts like these about you. There's always going to be a few people who misunderstand, no matter what you're talking about or how clear and careful you are, so please don't get too upset when you see a person or two writing something like this. Just clarify if you do want to correct them (like you did now), or just ignore them (since a lot of times it's not even worth the time and effort to try to change one anonymous strangers weird perspective on you). Just know, the vast majority of people would've understood all of these things, so don't worry about people having this person's thoughts of you. ❤ I say this of course because I kind of do care a lot about what other people think of me (way wayy too much sometimes), and especially my intentions. So this is what would've upset me about the comment, but you have Fi so you hopefully care a bit less about that than I would've. But still. ❤
Here’s how I see what you’re saying, Ni/se- past as a narrative or story that flows beginning to end. Si/Ne - the past as a photograph of a moment with distinct elements one can pick out.
Si: associates things to other things. This is known. Ni: associates actions to other actions. Creating sculpture from block of wood. Birth of a child. They can be associated, because in both of these examples, something came to existence. For Ni, two stories are similar, when you can use the same actions in same order describing it. That letter is from Fe. That is what Fe cares about. Reputation. You can't speak badly of other people publicly. You have to abide to certain social etiquette to not cause disagreement. Te likes disagreement (on what is objectively true). And discuss, till it comes to agreement. Fe have the same relationship with social etiquette. They argue (on what is appropriate socially), until consensus on behavior is reached. They don't respect wants and needs of other people. Just like Te don't respect special version of truth (Ti) of other people. There is one truth, and it is universal (Te). So that person in that was probably trying to help you. But his help is offensive to Te, who wants to tell, what is objectively true, and then to hear response. Fe wants to tell what not to talk about, so that harmony is maintained, and no one argues with anybody(about physically measurable things). And I think, that there are no narcissists. There are just Fe and Te users, and they have opposite attitudes towards life, and that causes problems. Te thinks Fe is narcissistic, Fe thinks Te is narcissistic. And they use the same words to describe each other. Especially perceivers (IPs, EPs), who seem to be balanced between Fe and Te, can speak a whole video about narcissism, and you won't find out who they are, and who are they talking about.
@@ninawillow2429 No resources. Just what I see. From a bunch of MBTI videos. Including those on this chanel. And I say this to get response, to point out, if I am missing something. That is Ni-Te way. Ni-Se would probably see the same thing, when pointed out. It could probably be used in typing. What are resources? = Ne-Si :)
I hate when Fe dominant don't let you talk about interesting topics that are controversial because they need to avoid conflic at all costs, but they create connflict by doing that because I want (need) to talk about controversial topics. INTO here.
I MP As an INFP, I find when others try to talk about controversial topics, I get extremely stressed. Often, they have done so little introspection, paying little attention to the consequences of their thoughts and morals on society as a whole, that whatever ideas they express are utterly unfounded and harmful to the wellbeing of others. A quick example would be the misogyny of the internet and its lack of understanding of the deep-rooted sexism in society, or the logical fallacies they unfailingly present to attack veganism, no matter how many times their arguments have been previously debunked. Some people are headache inducing, and it’s a shame.
You are so good at this Calypso! I think that is a great observation about how Ni and Si see time differently regarding the percentages vs the trajectory of good vs bad example. I am an INTJ and my girlfriend is an INFP and that definitely resonates with me. Thanks for the insight!
I saw that comment last night. It seemed very aggressive in its assumptions. I'm sorry that your words were taken so out of context. I'm glad you addressed it.
My ISTJ brother hates future predictions and generalisations. He’s only happy with facts and details. Si loves repeat experiences, Ni are more about novelty. Ni seeks to reduce complexity to simple rules.
Loved the explanation of how Si is about percentages vs Ni being about trajectory. I did not know Si operated this way, that will be very interesting to see if I can observe this in Ne/Si users especially with how they view relationships. I definitely relate to seeing trajectories with my tertiary Ni... Also it's very interesting that Se/Ni explains the past with start-to-finish sequential details and the entire context (or at least a lot of context). I always think of context as being important to my Fi, because in order to know how I feel about something I need as much context as possible. Anyway, I wanted to add that at least for me, when recalling the past, it's as if the memory plays out like a movie, so I sort of have to describe what I'm "seeing" or watching, which means I would describe it sequentially. The individual moments I sort of assume wouldn't make sense to someone else without the surrounding context...
This is accurate, I'm Si Dom and I can say that viewing relationships like percentages is very accurate. Like If someone was good in the past 90% of the time, but they were bad in recent weeks 10% of the time, I would still see the good on them and forgive them. But if this 10% of bad experiences in recent weeks or months become 50% or more, I would think is fair to cut them off.
That comment seemed Ni-dom tho. The last sentence is definitely higher Fe. Someone who cares about the own reputation too much. Nowadays reputation is bread and butter to people even ahead of skills. Don't be sad. Be truthful, as I believe you are, it prevails in the end. You are doing great.
@@JonasAnandaKristiansson Fe as well. Fe cares about social reputation while Te cares about successful reputation. The comment does really sound Ni dom, probably Te Aux because of how impersonal and harsh it was, but Fe Aux could've made this comment as well based on how strong their ethics are and what kind of experiences they've experienced in life.
@@thatguybutitsactuallyagirl5384 Yeah, you really cannot objectively brand this person as an Ni-dom based on the content of their message. The most accurate thing that you can say is that they pandered to their own subjective bias which is something that any type can do when upset.
What I will add, as an INTJ, and from my own observations, is that Ni dominant users see lots of connections with various things through time; which in my opinion points to the past being far more narrative driven for Ni dominant users; as if their life is actively playing out in a single long story, and the story can at any time be looked at again and again through memories in a similar way you may rewind a movie and watch certain scenes again. So if someone were to inquire with me personally about my past, it would make most sense to tell that part of my story in a linear coherent way that ties in everything of relevance. And just for clarification, I’m not saying other types don’t view their lives as ongoing stories; I’m sure many if not most people do; but I think the Ni users ability to see the connections between different past and present (and potentially future) experiences gives them a clearer picture of their own story and consequently can tell it back to people in a more detailed linear fashion.
So the person basically accused someone with the INFP personality of being deceptive and not authentic in their presentation. Also they made it out that you purposely tried to manipulate all your viewers into have negative views of people who did you wrong even though deep down you know it's based on false pretenses and that the persons you are maligning did nothing to deserve it.... Yeah let me now go and accuse my ESTJ wife of being lazy, inefficient and unproductive and tell her how I cleaned out our bank accounts... If I did not know better I would swear the person was trying to trigger an emotional response in you on purpose. The way they wrote it sounds like they were playing the victim for the people they were claiming to defend. If they really were regularly watching your channel I don't know how or why they would take the stance they did. Oh and just because a victim's accusers are not present or choose not to be present to speak does that mean that they should keep quiet and pretend they were not wronged? Why is the person assuming that because Alex and your Mom are not present to speak that it clearly means you are playing some sort of revenge game. We INFP might be childlike in some ways but acting like petulant children with no care for consequences is not our natural way at all. P.S. It would help if individuals would stop taking offense and feeling wounded on behalf of others. Sometimes you just make a bad situation worse and you sometimes end up defending the wrong persons.
Hi, Calypso (and people on the internet/TH-cam). I've learned a lot from your channel enough to help me express myself better and understand people using MBTI or your terminologies. I'm not sure if this is an INFP or Fi-Dom thing, but when I express my emotions, which I rarely do, I'm just literally letting it out, so sometimes I might come off as emotional or dramatic, as what people like to call it. What happens inside is so overwhelming, it's like you want to break free because there's so much going on; so many emotions yet people think it's this 'one' big oversized emotion, which is so not true. Instead it's a mixture of a lot of emotions reacting with each other. I really don't get it when people don't understand that you're in an ocean of emotions and nothing else matters in the moment, but to let things out. It's like I'm juggling a lot of emotions on the daily. It's like I can feel everything that's going on in my body, like I can tell where there is more heat, pressure, numbness, etc. I'm just going through it and that's my battle everyday. So, when I happen to emote, that means I lost that battle. In other words, I am in no control. However, it feels good in a way because for a moment you're giving yourself a break from managing your emotions. This is just based on my experience and where I am now. I'm not sure if this is normal for me as an INFP, but generally I'm just floating because I'm not really fixated to a goal whatsoever, but when I get interested/curious about something, it can be hard not to be very enthusiastic. I could spend days and/or nights learning something. I eventually get what I want, which is not something specific, but I only stop when everything makes sense or if my momentum gets interrupted, which means unfinished business again. Verbalizing my emotions can be difficult and/or uncomfortable because (1) words can't accurately describe what I feel inside, (2) I might just have poor vocabulary (unlike my INFJ sister), (3) I am feeling a lot of emotions at the same time and verbalizing them is already way past the everyday multitasking I do with my emotions if you like, and/or (4) thinking is a different process and it disrupts my feeling process of breaking down my emotions and I think the latter is the simplest way to describe it. Think of it as if feeling was a digestive process, which is just part of who I am, and imagine interrupting it. You don't really get to break down the food and absorb the nutrients property. Oh my, I don't know why, but I suddenly just have a lot to say (maybe because I got warmed up), but I'll just zip it. I think I said too much already. I hope you read this, Calypso. I'm not a patron, but I hope this comment can be of use for your research 'cause I'm not rich. I don't have a job for like almost a year already, but when I do get one, I'm hoping I could help support you and your channel via Patreon. :)
I just found this video and I'm excited. I have had the same experiences, almost word for word. But on the other side of the earth !! So narcs do have a certain way of accusing and treating their target. WOrd for word ! That's what I went through. They will throw accusations but you don't even know what the accusation is. When you said it was so hard to even say those words...... precisely, exactly, it's so hard to even say that your (so and so) is a narc. We deeply wish it wasn't the case. But it is. We would give so much to make them happy but we can't. I totally understand you. Just keep going. You're good!
So somebody on the internet is judging somebody else on the internet for supposedly judging someone else? Is the hypocrisy of this not obvious? They are allowed to have opinions and you shouldn't? Doesnt that kind of invalidate their own opinion? 🤨 If people took the time to look at your patterns instead of picking apart pieces and attacking your character, they would see that you've been quite respectful of the situation with Alex, especially given the context. Narcissists and trolls tend to unconsciously project their own insecurities on others, then criticize them for it. Neat trick: Replace 'YOU' with 'I' in their comment and reread it in that context. Pure projection. He's talking about himself but he's too blind to see it. Knowing their drama isn't actually about you was helpful for me in not taking things too seriously. "I am really playing the victim here. When I talk ill indirectly about someone who is not present without giving the full conteSt of the situation is a very smart and evil way to make them look bad" talk about a complex 🙄 Now then. I'm an INFP, and last year I had a weird split from my INTJ best friend. There was no real communication, no closure, no understanding. It drove me nuts. In an effort to figure out what the hell went wrong, I started watching your channel to see how an INFP and INTJ relate, and I have gained a ton of insight. What I wasn't expecting was to see this split happen to you too with the same confusion and unanswered questions. It's tough enough to attempt to process that, but commenters echoing the critical voice in your head has to be particularly difficult. People are still asking questions and making assumptions, but you still don't have any better answers for them. Anyway, I can't know how you feel, but I do know how I felt and you have my sincere empathy for your heartache and frustration. Thanks for providing me a bit more closure with my INTJ today. Keep up the good work. 💖 INFP; also Edmonton 🙂
Calypso, regarding the comment about your feelings and opinion about your Mom and Alex, I think your response was SPOT ON! Very NON-CODEPENDENTY! Right on! :-) Honestly, I suspect this person commenting is an actual narcissist who is predating on you. For God's sake you just created a whole video being vulnerable and sharing your heart, which takes a lot of COURAGE and strength and suddenly this person feels the need to attack you and control you??? Sounds like a narcissist to me. I encourage you to forget them now and not waste another minute of YOUR VALUABLE life and time on this person who clearly does NOT "care" about you. Just the simple fact that they use the word "evil" to describe you and in the same paragraph they say they like you is clearly dishonest and meant to hurt you. They obviously do NOT like you or they would not call you "evil". I could understand if they said constructive criticism with kindness, but calling you "evil" is REALLY REALLY cruel and disingenuous and unfair. You are a good person and your feelings are valid. You have EVERY right to speak your feelings and opinions. You did not say anything slanderous or cruel. I truly think this person has their own issues and is trying to control YOU. Maybe they are trying to trigger your codependency, you know, the way narcissists do, so they can feel powerful. Just decide for yourself how you feel about your behavior and trust that. ***HUGS*** I think you are a sweetheart. My hope for you is that you can let this person go and always remember that if YOU feel that you didn't do anything wrong, then forget the comment made by this person. Just let it go like a leaf floating away in the breeze, never to be seen again.
The comment the other person wrote is not based in reality. I believe I watched all the videos you've made since Alex left and I don't recall ever that you tried to blame her or talk ill about her behind her back. Either that or I totally misunderstood everything you said.
Totally agree. I watched the Where's Alex video and I thought it was totally fine. I've never seen you bad-mouth Alex or speak of her in a malicious way.
it's probably more of a PoV thing. Calypso talked about how she felt bc she's honest about her feelings. For some people if you're talking about how you feel negative feelings (which is the type of things that will make a conversation gloomy), then you're asking for attention, to be comforted.
I think Abadi is reacting to the FJ shadow they see in you and not the actual FP that you are, keywords *playing* the victim, make them *look bad*, *reputation*, tactics to *manipulate*, *drama* behind because it makes you *look bad*. These are all assumptions of inauthenticity, and quite obviously Fe concerns that they are incorrect to assume you are paying attention to. Suffice it to say as an FP that I disagree with Abadi. But I also think it is sometimes worthwhile as a growth experience to take a peak at what our FJ shadow looks like to other people. Edit: I agree that it is a real phenomenon that happens and is worth considering the effects of, but not that you were acting in the way described.
I see a truthful person here. I think I am an INFP. I've consistently had to face similar situations with employers. Never any notice. Never a face-to-face conversation. Many underhanded reasons presented without any ability for me to defend myself honestly. These are the narcissists. They like to start conflict and fights. They are the mental manipulators. Your intentions are clear and fair, in my eye. Hope this got resolved. I am new to your channel. I like the ones with both you and Alex, so far. You are fortunate to have feelings. 💗
Hey, I’m sorry I’m not really talking about the main topic of the video but, I hope you feel better love. It’s awful that you’re put in this position. I’m really sorry about all this. Stay strong and fight through it all. You can do this ❤️❤️ I love you! -INFJ
I like the percentage vs trajectory example. A lot of times "trajectory" and "context" when referring to Ni sounds like it applies to me, so it was easy to see myself as an Ni user. However, doing that OVERALL, start to end percentage of a trajectory as Si vs looking at most recent points (Se context?) and where THOSE are going as Ni gives some clarity.
The first time I saw you it was with a sidekick. I'm assuming that's who Alex is. The two of you were role playing types, for our benefit. The next time I saw you, you were broadcasting solo. That one was about the experiment you performed where you "accidentally" (by your own report) stumbled on something of a find. I stopped in today for two reasons. One, I was so impressed last time. Two, I'm trying to familiarize myself with the functions, because I just mucked up my prime relationship relying on my inferior Ti unawares. So here I am, tring to learn, and once again, there you go, feeding my appetite for substance. The way you were able today to rule out what appears to be the standard knee jerk typing for Si was spot on. I appreciate knowing now that I can always rely on you to be penetrating. I also noticed that I really enjoy just the way you talk. But today, you actually looked visibly ill. Your hair was flopped all about, and you were wrapped in a blanket, and everything INFJ in me went abruptly into nurture mode. It was almost difficult to focus on your lecture because I kept wondering, what's the reveal? By the time you finished your lecture, and I looked at the needle (lol), I was like OMG, there's a lot of time left here, did someone die? I'm glad to learn someone did not. I listened through most of your response to your detractor's diatribe. You handled that well. His assertions involve a number of logical fallacies. And his attempt to create a tough love persona was pitiable. All of this he did, lol, to keep you from making yourself look bad. Man, that's rich. I'm going to help you not make yourself look bad by, oh, I know, making you look bad. Hilarious. Me? I say this. I say you dinged this guy's bell somewhere along the line, probably talking about your mother. (At least yours wasn't a malevolent narcissist!). Come as close as you can to paying him no mind. But listen. Lets also take a lesson from it. We don't tell people where we live. You can do that in Canada, I know. You can leave your front door unlocked in Canada. But the U.S.? Lord, no. The problem with having someone drive up to volunteer, is that they could drive up to volunteer to be themselves. And we just got a taste of how THAT can go. I'm giving myself license to add one more thing here. I read the body language between you and Alex. Consciously or unconsciously, you were definitely gauging her. I'm certain you sensed something was upsetting her. And though my inference may seem bred in haste, I think you just cast a longer shadow than Alex was prepared to handle. I think she may at times have felt upstaged or even grandstanded, and may even have interpreted that as intentional. Do you recall saying (in the start of one of your vids) that you think what distinguishes J from P body language style is intentionality? That assessment goes just so much more to the core than what Alex had to say on the same subject. She focused on fluidity versus stiffness. She spoke to symptoms. You spoke to mental state, which is a whole stratum deeper. (I forgot I'd watched that one.) You shows signs of immense talent. It just can't be that everyone this young is as good at this as you are. Or at least that's what my logic tells me. If she felt like she couldn't be your equal, sure, I can see where for some people that would be too much to deal with. But certainly it's not natural to just go away and not say why. That alone suggests she was feeling negatively toward you. It is lovely that you've examined yourself for what flaw(s) possibly could have justified such feelings. But more likely, it's benefits not flaws that explain it.
This is really insightful! When Calypso first mentioned the break up, one of the first thoughts I had was that Alex might have been unhappy that she being outperformed intellectually by Calypso. This wasn't a role she was willing to accept for herself. Perhaps she felt she was losing control of the intellectual material. We'll never know if this is the reason she left, but I think we can say that Calypso, you just weren't in the grand plan Alex had for herself. So it's not even a question of what you did or didn't do.
Thank you for your video, i'm that kind of person that everytime i have a new discovery, new view of life, i will use it to re-examiner and re-evaluate my past, and use it to judge my future with that new view, i think i might use the Ni.
Thank you so much for the wonderful information! Oops I am guilty of using those stereotypes! Also I watched that video regarding the comment! I love you Calypso! That commenter totally projected! Love your honesty and positive energy!!
As a dominant Ni user, for me it's as if the past, present, and future are all related. I get annoyed when people think we're just future focused, because our projections of the future are usually based on patterns we have observed from things in the past. History is extremely important. We're trying to warn you all but you just won't learn from history. I think INTJs -- and possibly INFJs -- often seem like they come from another century, whether that be the future or the past, or perhaps both at the same time. Personally, I don't understand why people just throw away or dismiss old technologies or old ways of doing things. There are so many things that can be learned from history that can be re-applied to improve the present and reshape the future.
Well, Ne is your opposing role. So it's easier to use than someone who has critical parent Ne or trickster Ne. Ne is actually very past, present and future focused.
Great video! As an Si user, I can absolutely relate to the point on fragmented memory. When I write, I tend to hyperfocus on what are key details to me. As a result, some people say I “get lost in the weeds.” It’s not necessarily that I’m giving tons of details, but rather that I’m giving too many subjectively important details. I think that how an Si or Ni user remembers details depends on whether their Si or Ni is in the masculine or feminine position. As developed by Dave and Shannon Powers from the Objective Personality System, If someone’s Si or Ni is in the masculine position they will have greater recall with it. The theories rationale is that masculine functions are more rigid and certain about how reality ought be. A person with Masculine Si Dominant will be super particular about what the “correct details” are and they will have excellent memory of super precise moments, memorizing events in chronological order. However, many details will be lost and they’re past description will not give a whole picture. I brought up this particular example because I have masculine Si and it can be a double edged sword. I can recall with precision particular details but I struggle relating them to one another.
Honestly I always figured Si "memory" was about focusing on a few details and basically just deducing things from it (because that's how I do it as an NP)
The depth and/or intensity of the emotions felt at the time of a memory, as well as whom I am conveying said memory to, and why, directly correlates to the level of detail and context I give. Sometimes an abbreviated version is best, given the context, impact on the listener, or simply because it is unnecessary to divulge certain aspects, especially those which aren't entirely mine to divulge, given projected affects it may have on the listener, another, or even the listener's perspective of said other. You see, the complexities of one's recollection of events is exacerbated by relevance and parties involved. That said, if a memory is singular in nature, well, I can express it without any filter, if I should choose to, of course. Trust is paramount in such revelations. I enjoyed your video explanation and clarification on Ni versus Si memory recollection. Take care and God bless. ✝️
ENFJ with massive Ni. I knew it!!!’knew it! I saw you two as a not good team whatsoever. I mean context was great but your emotional dynamic screamed to me! So sad I was right 😞Just move on girls, both of you though 🙏💜
This makes sense. Ni is more wholistic, but rather vague in its experience, so in order to get the listener to understand, there will be more words, more storytelling, more meaning making. Si is specific, so, this happened, this happened and that happened might be more its way of remembering, w/o the necessary between-the-lines reading to connect it all together..
i wonder if the ne/si axis has more crystallized sensory info because their ne patterns are more fragmented? this seems to explain both sides: ne >si requires relatively few sensory details to form an idea/see a pattern (less focus on detail might actually aid in this tangential nature), and si > ne neatly files away the associated details into disparate pattern compartments. whereas ni/se is attached to less patterns at a time and instead tries to fit everything into the same frameworks.
This video was really useful in helping my friend type herself. She was wondering whether she was an INFJ or an ISFJ - and it turns out she’s an INFJ who often thinks about the past, but thinks about the past in an Ni-driven way.
I don't fully subscribe to OP as they have unresolved issues with the way they type, but I do see how functions can be yin and/or yang with their use. This is what I am seeing with your observations about ni and si.
This person was very disrespectfull. Dont listen to this coment. You informed us about the situation and you shared your feelings. If someone doesn't like to listen to you they should simply stop watching. And everything you said in this video to defend youtself is something every normal and mature person would find obvious. Honestly, this person is simply not standing the feeling of not knowing everything about what happened between you and Alex and wants to get on your nerves to see if you "explain the context" (like they said). Dont belive them for a second.
My mom is emotionally abusive, too. She has *not* improved w/age n i have given up on having a relationship w/her bc track record shows anything i say or do in her presence can be used against me at any time or in any context she feels like (Evil infj?). You might enjoy a mellowed-with-age relationship w/your mom, much like many of my friends have. But if that doesn't happen, you will waste the rest of your life doing the "right thing" for no return on investment. On the narc abuse channels, there are countless stories of 70 yr olds finally "free" when an abusive parent dies, and they have no idea what to do with themselves. I'll willingly forfeit my relationship w/my mother so i can pursue other goals and relationships that i am more likely to succeed at, and be fulfilled by.
I'm sorry but this guy obviously doesn't know jack about INFPs. We literally second guess every statement we make to make sure we aren't going to be taken incorrectly, and somehow it always ends up happening anyway. You did what you could after being abandoned, and I think you have done a great job. You're completely on point when you point out that Alex could have been upfront with everyone and explained everything before leaving. You guys could have done a video about what was going on and explained things to the community "together", but Alex obviously didn't care enough about the community that the two of you built and left without an explanation. That's her bad, not yours. She's the one who left, she's the one that decided things were over, she's the one who should be getting the comments. Having said that, I personally didn't expect an explanation. I understand that relationships come and go and sometimes people stop being friends. Bottom line, it really isn't anyone's business what happens in your personal life...now, that doesn't mean that I am not extremely curious about it, but you know! The audacity of someone demanding to know the "context" behind a private matter. Jeez! :)
Idk can’t say I agree with you on this one. I don’t think Si being associated with details is a result of a stereotype. “Si-users value tradition over innovation” is an example of a stereotype, especially considering that it’s a correlation and not a direct causation between Si and tradition. This, however, is more of a result of different definitions of Si from different typology models, all which have different ways of typing people and different explanations. But even then, personally imo it logically makes more sense that Si would at least be more detailed when it comes to the sensory observations that they take in. This also could just be a misunderstanding when we’re considering what “more detailed” means, and how that differs between Si and Ni.
For me as an INFP, I have to say I can remember small minute details from my past experiences ~ for example like yesterday I suddenly have this memory flash of me watching a 2010s kdrama when I was just probably 7, and remembered how the main character exercised from obese to thin. I still remember that she ploughed through the running mill and then as time passes by she ran faster. And I remember she was even wearing red high heels after she successfully lost weight and even wore sunglasses. Si is my tertiary function, but honestly I use Si more than my aux Ne 😂
When you ask the question, "Tell me about a time..." my response to those answers, "I tend to ____ when ____," my reaction is, "But that wasn't the question; they asked for one specific experience." If you ask for a trend specifically I will give you a trend, but if you ask me for a concrete example, that's what I'll give you. This may also be from having been trained to do behaviorally based job interviews, where you don't want people's idealized versions of what they think they tend to do; you need actual past behavior. I don't know for sure if the Ne-Si thing feeds more into it or not... --INFP
Hi! This was my first (or second, I think I stumbled upon one some months back) video of your channel and it was SO awesome! (I also really liked you, I dunno, I relate with you! Avoiding going into detail about that!) Like thanks for busting stereotypes but also thinking critically yourself! I dunno, I think I am gonna watch all your videos now!! Thanks for existing :D. Also, commenter is such a shit person but you did such a good job of breaking down his shit but by bit! XD Also, do talk about your experiences and I completely support that.
I'd we can define Si as a concrete lense of the internal world, wouldn't also be the INxP's key to the internal world? Like, when I enter my own head, I'm almost incapable of exploring it in a plethoric, intuitive way compared to my broad perception of the external world (Ne.) I don't view my inner roadmap as a whole, but as a set of specific destinations. If I'm planning a story, I view it not as "the book," but as "a chapter." Would that be Si?
I think so!!!!! For me as an INFP, I like to organize my past experiences into chapters. Like childhood days, primary school days, secondary school days and even the timelines I fangirled about various movies, like 2014 (Frozen), 2015 (Rio), 2016 (Big Hero 6) etc etc
I'm INTP (Ne Si) and I am definitely all over the place when I'm talking about a past memory and the things surrounding it, and I do leave a lot out (I wish I didn't because I do want people to get the whole story). If I didn't just stop talking about it at some point (thereby leaving stuff out), I would have to talk forever about it and I would think people would be sick of listening to me... And the past memories do look like snapshots to me. Like flashes. p.s. sorry you were sad when you made this video. It is difficult to get that kind of feedback. Everything you said is right in my opinion. The way you started the video confirmed to me that I am definitely not INFP...
Thanks for a great video.. I’m not really interested in the split of Alex and you.. as long as you’re both doing ok.. Si and Ni was very good observations ❤️
if Si sees the past in terms of percentages, i was thinking about how this affects our relationships. would it be correct to say that we are more likely to think that, say, our future with a friend is likely to reflect the past? and would Si users have less belief that a friendship or relationship has the potential evolve or change?
Anyway from what I'm gathering si is more like viewing the facts and 5 senses of the past whereas ni is looking at the intangible moments in the past, the concepts, and unspoken patterns of the past?
When I'm trying to relay an event to someone, it turns into a big, messy, spiral of information around a center point. I frustrate myself with the chaotic way my brain remembers things.
Christina Selects awesome thanks so much for posting it. Really good to learn these things. One thing I do like about calypso is that she has a more consistent way to determine type. Having a questionnaire will allow for her to see patterns in the data much easier than just a conversation or vague topic video. This is similar to Dario Nardis process and quite honestly the prevailing method in psychology. The fact that anyone does differently is laziness imo.
@@coachs886 I just wanted to let you know I have to start from scratch, so it will be completed over the weekend, and most likely be published on Monday.
My mom is an ENFJ and i have the better detailed memory being inferior Si, but she remembers the big picture stuff and main ideas very well, and the Se impact it had on others, etc. She is terrible with remembering details though. My memory especially in my early youth was more like a camera and captures everything crystal clear but only from my POV, although in recent years I am able to change that a bit.
Interesting...I'm an INFP but I do both. I find the connections between the streams of time, but my past is indeed crystallised where I can always look back to in order to gather information. So if you asked me an incident that made me angry - I would give you a specific incident and then the connection drawn from that experience and other experiences like that. For instance I might explain that injustice in general is a general theme that provokes me to anger and that anecdote was a specific example on how it may occur. Maybe my Fi-Si creating a pseudo-Ni I guess?
It’s strange my friend with tertiary Si can look back into the past and remember details and look into the past a lot. I think I am undeveloped Si user who sees the past as bad (bad things happened) and my brain prevents me from looking back to the past.
#Abadi is the kind of person who usually think their way of understanding a situation is absolute and which 99% of the time they totally misunderstood a situation then create a drama with absolutely no evidence or fact about it, it's disgusting and tasteless. "To soften the blow" well said
I’m sure this video is so far removed from where you are today (feeling wise) but just remember you don’t have to answer for what you know by way of your own experiences. People are odd, people want to be heard, people are miserable, and people are people (I hope you get what I mean). You’re doing the best you can with what you have calypso you’re telling your version of truth to the best of your ability with the knowledge you’ve obtained from your personal experiences anyone who doesn’t understand and isn’t willing to try to understand is only polluting and not cleansing. I’m really sorry for what happened between you and Alex (even if it was vague) I’m also sorry your mom wasn’t the best towards you at one point in time. You have a light that you have to foster and continue to brighten, the world may try to dim it or make it seem like you’re wrong for sharing your perspective but you aren’t. I don’t know you but I hope this message reaches you and reminds you that you aren’t alone. People truly love/care about you and to keep going!
Very interesting video! And about that comment, I don't know what their problem is, but like you said you obviously didn't do anything wrong. You simply stated what happened and how it made you feel. You didn't say '... is a bad person' or something like that. So don't take those comments too seriously there's always going to be weird people like that.
That comment is the type that says a lot more about the commenter than about you. They couldn't have made it more obvious that they were projecting their issues onto you if they tried. As a fellow INFP, I know how hard it is to not take something like that apart and try to work it out, but it probably wasn't worth your time or attention to begin with.
I never have heard you say anything negative about Alex . I have listened to the videos . What can you say if you don’t know the reason? You could have really badmouthed her and I personally don’t think you have. I have given my thoughts on it that maybe she was overwhelmed being on and I thought at times she was anxious especially when appearing alone. I don’t know however it’s just an observation I had. It wasn’t mean on my account. I also think you tried to just move on and had to address questions. As for your mom I don’t think we can judge the relationship I’m not sure why the poster is trying to it’s something a lot of people through with the adults in their lives and we reflect on it later especially if the relationship improves. I think the last part though is them wanting to look good and think they are actually helping. Kind of patronizing. I’m liking the content and it helps me understand the difference between Ni and Si better. That explains why I give examples of what I can relate don’t give a lot of detailed information. 💕
I think she just wanted to do something else but that meant she couldn't do the channel anymore, but then because of that she thought they couldn't be friends anymore. All the while not realizing how that would make her feel... INTJ's do have Fe shadow/blindspot (whatever you wanna call it) which is all about being able to understand other people and how they connect to one another. Fi on the other hand is more about understand how thing connect to you so... idk could have been a lot of things
There are of a number of things it could have been not wanting to commit so much to MBTI or suddenly having doubts about it. But that’s just a couple of other thoughts I had. I understand just cutting off a relationship without explanation is hard to understand but sometimes people don’t know how. Sounds odd but it could be uncomfortable or maybe she didn’t see the need to explain that might be more of the Fe blind spot.
About the comment in the end, I think your guess on them saying that last part to soften the blow not really meaning it is a really good one, it might be right and it makes sense. But I would like to add another possible reason to it. Probably they started watching the channel because the Information you give really connected to them and like they wanted the information in the way present it for a long time (Which is true for me actually), but some of the things you did probably went against their morals or what they believe to be bad. Like that made them disconnect, and they are telling their personal frustration. And also they aren't looking at you instead looking at if you connect to them. (just a guess) My intention for sharing this is not to defend them by any means, it's just that you seemed confused why they might say they like you after saying those stuff up there so I wanted to share my personal thought if it helps you by anyway.
Have you read Dario Nardi's book, _Neuroscience of Personality?_ It turns out you're the best listener (sort of...), and during the holidays if you don't feel like setting up the decorations, you can just focus real hard on using your 2nd function, to create a 'Christmas tree' pattern in your brain. Tell your friends that that's what you're doing this year to celebrate xmas. If you're a Buddhist tell your friends that you're doing this to quickly exhaust your brain (creating 'creative hangovers'), because 'life is suffering' and tell them it's the 9th path of the 8-fold path I bet your friends would just be like 'yup, that's Calypso alright!" [EDIT: just finished you video; it's clear that that commenter doesn't understand what you were trying to say]
my enfp x would be bad at describing her incorrect actions when related to complaints. i think it may just be an nfp thing, the si combined with the fi. a pitfall because the si fi combo has difficulty with si being so concrete. so how they felt about the situation becomes "how the situation was".
*Video starts*
Infp- “I am kind of sad today”
Lol typical
This is the first time I've seen someone start video with this phrase and this got me confused for a moment.
Understatement of the history of humanity.
@@ashhcatchemall Lol stereotypical
I'm infj and the first thought I had when I saw her was "are your infp right?"
This is true. Because of the stereotypes , I doubt my sister who is an INFJ of being an Ni Dominant because she remembers the past in details and in chronological manner which I have read before that Si does. Because of the stereotypes surrounding Si as a librarian, accountant, etc. They tend to be rigid from A to Z. So I think that's where it came from. When in reality, when my INFJ sister tells a story, the contents of the story seem to be very compact and linear, from the details of the cause to the big picture meaning of the effect. Its like she's telling her own process of condensing all of her perceived details of event into a whole, like we are seeing the process of Ni in real time.
Amazing description about Ni. Matches precisely (I am INTJ). And it explains why I am often so frustrated with Si types who seem unable to see what is developing right in front of their own eyes
These are really great observations!
Anyone would be disturbed upon receiving such a comment - you were being transparent and perfectly natural emotions were coming through when doing so. You contained the information for a while so it's little surprise these emotions were coming through once you opened the window - lots of people support you and your content is being very well received on the whole. I would urge not to get hung up on a single comment but I know it's easier said than done!
Let's not forget people were hounding her on how Alex was, she kinda had to make the video.
Heey love ur channel too
As a Si user with a BAD memory, thank you for this video. My memory is like a blur the majority of the time.
Also, don't pay attention to comments like that (even though I know how fluffing difficult that is). You explained all your points and you shared your feelings and thoughts about it, so you did all you had to do
Hi I am Si user too. Is there any way to develop Si and then improve memory? My memory is bad too.
"The world is not fair". Say it again for the people in the back
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People often use that saying to justify "it's not fair so if you argue we or the goverment should also not try to make it fair I refuse! " or "It wasn't fair for me so we shouldn't make it more fair for you. etc."
I rarely ever see someone use it in another sense.
Simply cause noone who ever demanded fairness did so from the world. So people who say "life isn't fair" ofte times argue against what they *imagine* people are saying not what people are actually saying.
We who demand fairness do so from *people* who are *responsible* for making it *as fair as is within our power* with human efforts.
Only unicorns demand the *world* to be fair.
Unconsciously stereotypes probably do affect my typing process... But the whole Si memory detail thing I never got on board of. First it seemed to negate everyones shared ability to memorise the past and be able to recall it to some detail. Also I'm INFJ and if my memory is prompted I can see past scenes from my life almost run like a movie. It's like it was as fresh as yesterday. Another thing is, the whole Si past details thing contradicts a study done by Dario Nardi where he had patients look at pictures and then try to recall all the details. Se-Doms outperformed Si-doms. His theory was that since Se sees things for as they are, their memory is less likely to be influenced by other factors or project associations onto the image, whereas as he found Si people's memory of the picture was selective in what they were able to recall depending upon past associations, which also influenced how they saw things in the image.
100% true, what Nardi found. It's just so evident and "clicks" when reading it. Nice one man.
Well Si is correlated with long-term memory, whereas Se is correlated with short-term memory. So in the study that you mentioned it would actually make sense for Se users to score higher, because the experiment was testing specifically for short-term memory. But this is assuming the test subjects were correctly typed in the first place.
As an INTJ I also see my past as a movie scene but it isn't very detailed :)
ENTJ here, I'm the exact opposite. My memory is good in the sense that I can recall events having happened and can store plenty of information, but completely gloss over finer details. Even when I try to hone in on them, I can't recall them as a visceral, sensory memory, but rather just more bits of information that contribute to the "whole picture." Si users don't necessarily have a *better* memory, but they hone in and latch onto these visceral sensory details in a way Ni/Se users usually don't seem to? I had an ISFJ friend tell me how she really liked this one book series because it brought back nice memories of reading it on rainy days after school, which just... is not a way of thinking that computes for me at all, lol.
i caught onto it too until i was like wait, there are other details that are more important, i am meticulous about details and not a primary Si-user.
there's some truth in it, but people tend to tunnel-vision aspects of certain stereotypes and MBTI is no exception, there's far more important things than how specific your memory is because people will remember more than others on certain events
i'm an INXJ and i have a very specific/detailed memory of my past but i'll forget what i said 20 seconds ago, Si and Se are basically swapped for me
I feel Si is about percentage and Ni is about trend so hard lol...If you are generally a good friend toward a Si person, they wouldn't mind occasion conflicts and forgive you quite easily if you did anything to remind them that 95% of the time you spent together was great memory. But for Ni person I found that no matter how nice you have been throughout, if you did one or two things wrong that got stuck in their head it's pretty much over..
Omg it’s albedo Genshin pfp. Did you know that character is intp?
@@RaidenShogun.. hmm, apparently raiden is istj. both alberto and raiden have si
@@NevertahnProduction I know raiden is istj and albedo is intp. Both of them have Si.
Wait is that true? How that works…? Now I’m scared why my INTJ crush suddenly became silent from my text 😖
I think that's Fe vs Fi. Fe just wants harmony and is willing to overlook wrongs. Fi remembers and won't forget.
That second part was awesome. You successfully brought out the mix of anger and sadness that is so vitally present in the life of an infp. It was very relieving to hear you speak from your heart. It'd be wonderful if more people do that.
I liked the first part too. But the latter part was special.
I'm INFJ and my brother is ISTJ, and everything you said about Ni and Si fits with the way we are. I think you're spot on with your explenation!
And about that comment, I thought everything you clarified was very obvious already so I wouldn't worry too much about a lot of people having thoughts like these about you. There's always going to be a few people who misunderstand, no matter what you're talking about or how clear and careful you are, so please don't get too upset when you see a person or two writing something like this. Just clarify if you do want to correct them (like you did now), or just ignore them (since a lot of times it's not even worth the time and effort to try to change one anonymous strangers weird perspective on you). Just know, the vast majority of people would've understood all of these things, so don't worry about people having this person's thoughts of you. ❤
I say this of course because I kind of do care a lot about what other people think of me (way wayy too much sometimes), and especially my intentions. So this is what would've upset me about the comment, but you have Fi so you hopefully care a bit less about that than I would've. But still. ❤
Here’s how I see what you’re saying, Ni/se- past as a narrative or story that flows beginning to end. Si/Ne - the past as a photograph of a moment with distinct elements one can pick out.
Just keep moving forward. You’re handing this just fine. 💕
Si: associates things to other things. This is known.
Ni: associates actions to other actions. Creating sculpture from block of wood. Birth of a child. They can be associated, because in both of these examples, something came to existence. For Ni, two stories are similar, when you can use the same actions in same order describing it.
That letter is from Fe. That is what Fe cares about. Reputation. You can't speak badly of other people publicly. You have to abide to certain social etiquette to not cause disagreement. Te likes disagreement (on what is objectively true). And discuss, till it comes to agreement. Fe have the same relationship with social etiquette. They argue (on what is appropriate socially), until consensus on behavior is reached. They don't respect wants and needs of other people. Just like Te don't respect special version of truth (Ti) of other people. There is one truth, and it is universal (Te). So that person in that was probably trying to help you. But his help is offensive to Te, who wants to tell, what is objectively true, and then to hear response. Fe wants to tell what not to talk about, so that harmony is maintained, and no one argues with anybody(about physically measurable things).
And I think, that there are no narcissists. There are just Fe and Te users, and they have opposite attitudes towards life, and that causes problems. Te thinks Fe is narcissistic, Fe thinks Te is narcissistic. And they use the same words to describe each other. Especially perceivers (IPs, EPs), who seem to be balanced between Fe and Te, can speak a whole video about narcissism, and you won't find out who they are, and who are they talking about.
Where are resources? I woukd like to attain this knowledge.
@@ninawillow2429 No resources. Just what I see. From a bunch of MBTI videos. Including those on this chanel. And I say this to get response, to point out, if I am missing something. That is Ni-Te way. Ni-Se would probably see the same thing, when pointed out.
It could probably be used in typing. What are resources? = Ne-Si :)
I hate when Fe dominant don't let you talk about interesting topics that are controversial because they need to avoid conflic at all costs, but they create connflict by doing that because I want (need) to talk about controversial topics.
INTO here.
@@jankom.7783 Cool! Did you watch Calypso's client video? I would love to know your thoughts.
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As an INFP, I find when others try to talk about controversial topics, I get extremely stressed. Often, they have done so little introspection, paying little attention to the consequences of their thoughts and morals on society as a whole, that whatever ideas they express are utterly unfounded and harmful to the wellbeing of others.
A quick example would be the misogyny of the internet and its lack of understanding of the deep-rooted sexism in society, or the logical fallacies they unfailingly present to attack veganism, no matter how many times their arguments have been previously debunked.
Some people are headache inducing, and it’s a shame.
You are so good at this Calypso! I think that is a great observation about how Ni and Si see time differently regarding the percentages vs the trajectory of good vs bad example. I am an INTJ and my girlfriend is an INFP and that definitely resonates with me. Thanks for the insight!
Get it Girl!!! My mom is a narcissist. You have handled this 1000% better than me. You're so courageous!!!
I have two words to say about that comment. Projection. Gaslight.
No matter how much I understand people.. i will never understand people who spew negativity
They're projecting.
I saw that comment last night. It seemed very aggressive in its assumptions. I'm sorry that your words were taken so out of context. I'm glad you addressed it.
My ISTJ brother hates future predictions and generalisations. He’s only happy with facts and details. Si loves repeat experiences, Ni are more about novelty. Ni seeks to reduce complexity to simple rules.
Loved the explanation of how Si is about percentages vs Ni being about trajectory. I did not know Si operated this way, that will be very interesting to see if I can observe this in Ne/Si users especially with how they view relationships. I definitely relate to seeing trajectories with my tertiary Ni...
Also it's very interesting that Se/Ni explains the past with start-to-finish sequential details and the entire context (or at least a lot of context). I always think of context as being important to my Fi, because in order to know how I feel about something I need as much context as possible. Anyway, I wanted to add that at least for me, when recalling the past, it's as if the memory plays out like a movie, so I sort of have to describe what I'm "seeing" or watching, which means I would describe it sequentially. The individual moments I sort of assume wouldn't make sense to someone else without the surrounding context...
100% !! That's how I explain it. Re-watching the video, that's how I see the past too. I'm so happy to find others the same!!
This is accurate, I'm Si Dom and I can say that viewing relationships like percentages is very accurate. Like If someone was good in the past 90% of the time, but they were bad in recent weeks 10% of the time, I would still see the good on them and forgive them. But if this 10% of bad experiences in recent weeks or months become 50% or more, I would think is fair to cut them off.
That comment seemed Ni-dom tho. The last sentence is
definitely higher Fe. Someone who cares about the own reputation too much. Nowadays reputation is bread and butter to people even ahead of skills.
Don't be sad. Be truthful, as I believe you are, it prevails in the end. You are doing great.
Just FYI, Te cares about reputation big time.
@@JonasAnandaKristiansson Fe as well. Fe cares about social reputation while Te cares about successful reputation. The comment does really sound Ni dom, probably Te Aux because of how impersonal and harsh it was, but Fe Aux could've made this comment as well based on how strong their ethics are and what kind of experiences they've experienced in life.
@@thatguybutitsactuallyagirl5384 Yeah, you really cannot objectively brand this person as an Ni-dom based on the content of their message. The most accurate thing that you can say is that they pandered to their own subjective bias which is something that any type can do when upset.
What I will add, as an INTJ, and from my own observations, is that Ni dominant users see lots of connections with various things through time; which in my opinion points to the past being far more narrative driven for Ni dominant users; as if their life is actively playing out in a single long story, and the story can at any time be looked at again and again through memories in a similar way you may rewind a movie and watch certain scenes again. So if someone were to inquire with me personally about my past, it would make most sense to tell that part of my story in a linear coherent way that ties in everything of relevance.
And just for clarification, I’m not saying other types don’t view their lives as ongoing stories; I’m sure many if not most people do; but I think the Ni users ability to see the connections between different past and present (and potentially future) experiences gives them a clearer picture of their own story and consequently can tell it back to people in a more detailed linear fashion.
Now it makes sense how Si predicts future vs how Ni predicts future! Or 'reads' into the future, because both do that. You are the best teacher ! 🌟
I have always thought u are the best part of this channel!! U r fun and informative!!!! I am glad u stayed.
So the person basically accused someone with the INFP personality of being deceptive and not authentic in their presentation. Also they made it out that you purposely tried to manipulate all your viewers into have negative views of people who did you wrong even though deep down you know it's based on false pretenses and that the persons you are maligning did nothing to deserve it....
Yeah let me now go and accuse my ESTJ wife of being lazy, inefficient and unproductive and tell her how I cleaned out our bank accounts...
If I did not know better I would swear the person was trying to trigger an emotional response in you on purpose. The way they wrote it sounds like they were playing the victim for the people they were claiming to defend. If they really were regularly watching your channel I don't know how or why they would take the stance they did. Oh and just because a victim's accusers are not present or choose not to be present to speak does that mean that they should keep quiet and pretend they were not wronged? Why is the person assuming that because Alex and your Mom are not present to speak that it clearly means you are playing some sort of revenge game. We INFP might be childlike in some ways but acting like petulant children with no care for consequences is not our natural way at all.
P.S. It would help if individuals would stop taking offense and feeling wounded on behalf of others. Sometimes you just make a bad situation worse and you sometimes end up defending the wrong persons.
Hi, Calypso (and people on the internet/TH-cam). I've learned a lot from your channel enough to help me express myself better and understand people using MBTI or your terminologies. I'm not sure if this is an INFP or Fi-Dom thing, but when I express my emotions, which I rarely do, I'm just literally letting it out, so sometimes I might come off as emotional or dramatic, as what people like to call it. What happens inside is so overwhelming, it's like you want to break free because there's so much going on; so many emotions yet people think it's this 'one' big oversized emotion, which is so not true. Instead it's a mixture of a lot of emotions reacting with each other. I really don't get it when people don't understand that you're in an ocean of emotions and nothing else matters in the moment, but to let things out. It's like I'm juggling a lot of emotions on the daily. It's like I can feel everything that's going on in my body, like I can tell where there is more heat, pressure, numbness, etc. I'm just going through it and that's my battle everyday. So, when I happen to emote, that means I lost that battle. In other words, I am in no control. However, it feels good in a way because for a moment you're giving yourself a break from managing your emotions. This is just based on my experience and where I am now.
I'm not sure if this is normal for me as an INFP, but generally I'm just floating because I'm not really fixated to a goal whatsoever, but when I get interested/curious about something, it can be hard not to be very enthusiastic. I could spend days and/or nights learning something. I eventually get what I want, which is not something specific, but I only stop when everything makes sense or if my momentum gets interrupted, which means unfinished business again. Verbalizing my emotions can be difficult and/or uncomfortable because (1) words can't accurately describe what I feel inside, (2) I might just have poor vocabulary (unlike my INFJ sister), (3) I am feeling a lot of emotions at the same time and verbalizing them is already way past the everyday multitasking I do with my emotions if you like, and/or (4) thinking is a different process and it disrupts my feeling process of breaking down my emotions and I think the latter is the simplest way to describe it. Think of it as if feeling was a digestive process, which is just part of who I am, and imagine interrupting it. You don't really get to break down the food and absorb the nutrients property. Oh my, I don't know why, but I suddenly just have a lot to say (maybe because I got warmed up), but I'll just zip it. I think I said too much already.
I hope you read this, Calypso. I'm not a patron, but I hope this comment can be of use for your research 'cause I'm not rich. I don't have a job for like almost a year already, but when I do get one, I'm hoping I could help support you and your channel via Patreon. :)
I just found this video and I'm excited. I have had the same experiences, almost word for word. But on the other side of the earth !! So narcs do have a certain way of accusing and treating their target. WOrd for word ! That's what I went through. They will throw accusations but you don't even know what the accusation is. When you said it was so hard to even say those words...... precisely, exactly, it's so hard to even say that your (so and so) is a narc. We deeply wish it wasn't the case. But it is. We would give so much to make them happy but we can't. I totally understand you. Just keep going. You're good!
Very informative thank you for uploading!
So somebody on the internet is judging somebody else on the internet for supposedly judging someone else?
Is the hypocrisy of this not obvious? They are allowed to have opinions and you shouldn't? Doesnt that kind of invalidate their own opinion? 🤨
If people took the time to look at your patterns instead of picking apart pieces and attacking your character, they would see that you've been quite respectful of the situation with Alex, especially given the context.
Narcissists and trolls tend to unconsciously project their own insecurities on others, then criticize them for it.
Neat trick:
Replace 'YOU' with 'I' in their comment and reread it in that context. Pure projection. He's talking about himself but he's too blind to see it.
Knowing their drama isn't actually about you was helpful for me in not taking things too seriously.
"I am really playing the victim here. When I talk ill indirectly about someone who is not present without giving the full conteSt of the situation is a very smart and evil way to make them look bad" talk about a complex 🙄
Now then. I'm an INFP, and last year I had a weird split from my INTJ best friend. There was no real communication, no closure, no understanding. It drove me nuts. In an effort to figure out what the hell went wrong, I started watching your channel to see how an INFP and INTJ relate, and I have gained a ton of insight.
What I wasn't expecting was to see this split happen to you too with the same confusion and unanswered questions. It's tough enough to attempt to process that, but commenters echoing the critical voice in your head has to be particularly difficult. People are still asking questions and making assumptions, but you still don't have any better answers for them.
Anyway, I can't know how you feel, but I do know how I felt and you have my sincere empathy for your heartache and frustration.
Thanks for providing me a bit more closure with my INTJ today. Keep up the good work.
💖 INFP; also Edmonton 🙂
I know right.
Calypso, regarding the comment about your feelings and opinion about your Mom and Alex, I think your response was SPOT ON! Very NON-CODEPENDENTY! Right on! :-) Honestly, I suspect this person commenting is an actual narcissist who is predating on you. For God's sake you just created a whole video being vulnerable and sharing your heart, which takes a lot of COURAGE and strength and suddenly this person feels the need to attack you and control you??? Sounds like a narcissist to me. I encourage you to forget them now and not waste another minute of YOUR VALUABLE life and time on this person who clearly does NOT "care" about you. Just the simple fact that they use the word "evil" to describe you and in the same paragraph they say they like you is clearly dishonest and meant to hurt you. They obviously do NOT like you or they would not call you "evil". I could understand if they said constructive criticism with kindness, but calling you "evil" is REALLY REALLY cruel and disingenuous and unfair. You are a good person and your feelings are valid. You have EVERY right to speak your feelings and opinions. You did not say anything slanderous or cruel. I truly think this person has their own issues and is trying to control YOU. Maybe they are trying to trigger your codependency, you know, the way narcissists do, so they can feel powerful. Just decide for yourself how you feel about your behavior and trust that. ***HUGS*** I think you are a sweetheart. My hope for you is that you can let this person go and always remember that if YOU feel that you didn't do anything wrong, then forget the comment made by this person. Just let it go like a leaf floating away in the breeze, never to be seen again.
So correct!!! I am ENFJ-Ni and talk with heaps of details while my sister ISFJ Si- is more ‘to the point’😅
The comment the other person wrote is not based in reality. I believe I watched all the videos you've made since Alex left and I don't recall ever that you tried to blame her or talk ill about her behind her back. Either that or I totally misunderstood everything you said.
Totally agree. I watched the Where's Alex video and I thought it was totally fine. I've never seen you bad-mouth Alex or speak of her in a malicious way.
it's probably more of a PoV thing. Calypso talked about how she felt bc she's honest about her feelings. For some people if you're talking about how you feel negative feelings (which is the type of things that will make a conversation gloomy), then you're asking for attention, to be comforted.
I think Abadi is reacting to the FJ shadow they see in you and not the actual FP that you are, keywords *playing* the victim, make them *look bad*, *reputation*, tactics to *manipulate*, *drama* behind because it makes you *look bad*. These are all assumptions of inauthenticity, and quite obviously Fe concerns that they are incorrect to assume you are paying attention to.
Suffice it to say as an FP that I disagree with Abadi. But I also think it is sometimes worthwhile as a growth experience to take a peak at what our FJ shadow looks like to other people.
Edit: I agree that it is a real phenomenon that happens and is worth considering the effects of, but not that you were acting in the way described.
I see a truthful person here. I think I am an INFP. I've consistently had to face similar situations with employers. Never any notice. Never a face-to-face conversation. Many underhanded reasons presented without any ability for me to defend myself honestly.
These are the narcissists. They like to start conflict and fights. They are the mental manipulators. Your intentions are clear and fair, in my eye.
Hope this got resolved. I am new to your channel. I like the ones with both you and Alex, so far.
You are fortunate to have feelings. 💗
thanks! This concept had been confusing for me for a while now, that’s really a decent explanation!
Hey, I’m sorry I’m not really talking about the main topic of the video but, I hope you feel better love. It’s awful that you’re put in this position. I’m really sorry about all this. Stay strong and fight through it all. You can do this ❤️❤️ I love you!
-INFJ
You are a nice person! I hope she sees this comment
I like the percentage vs trajectory example. A lot of times "trajectory" and "context" when referring to Ni sounds like it applies to me, so it was easy to see myself as an Ni user. However, doing that OVERALL, start to end percentage of a trajectory as Si vs looking at most recent points (Se context?) and where THOSE are going as Ni gives some clarity.
The first time I saw you it was with a sidekick. I'm assuming that's who Alex is. The two of you were role playing types, for our benefit. The next time I saw you, you were broadcasting solo. That one was about the experiment you performed where you "accidentally" (by your own report) stumbled on something of a find. I stopped in today for two reasons. One, I was so impressed last time. Two, I'm trying to familiarize myself with the functions, because I just mucked up my prime relationship relying on my inferior Ti unawares. So here I am, tring to learn, and once again, there you go, feeding my appetite for substance. The way you were able today to rule out what appears to be the standard knee jerk typing for Si was spot on. I appreciate knowing now that I can always rely on you to be penetrating. I also noticed that I really enjoy just the way you talk. But today, you actually looked visibly ill. Your hair was flopped all about, and you were wrapped in a blanket, and everything INFJ in me went abruptly into nurture mode. It was almost difficult to focus on your lecture because I kept wondering, what's the reveal? By the time you finished your lecture, and I looked at the needle (lol), I was like OMG, there's a lot of time left here, did someone die? I'm glad to learn someone did not. I listened through most of your response to your detractor's diatribe. You handled that well. His assertions involve a number of logical fallacies. And his attempt to create a tough love persona was pitiable. All of this he did, lol, to keep you from making yourself look bad. Man, that's rich. I'm going to help you not make yourself look bad by, oh, I know, making you look bad. Hilarious. Me? I say this. I say you dinged this guy's bell somewhere along the line, probably talking about your mother. (At least yours wasn't a malevolent narcissist!). Come as close as you can to paying him no mind. But listen. Lets also take a lesson from it. We don't tell people where we live. You can do that in Canada, I know. You can leave your front door unlocked in Canada. But the U.S.? Lord, no. The problem with having someone drive up to volunteer, is that they could drive up to volunteer to be themselves. And we just got a taste of how THAT can go.
I'm giving myself license to add one more thing here. I read the body language between you and Alex. Consciously or unconsciously, you were definitely gauging her. I'm certain you sensed something was upsetting her. And though my inference may seem bred in haste, I think you just cast a longer shadow than Alex was prepared to handle. I think she may at times have felt upstaged or even grandstanded, and may even have interpreted that as intentional. Do you recall saying (in the start of one of your vids) that you think what distinguishes J from P body language style is intentionality? That assessment goes just so much more to the core than what Alex had to say on the same subject. She focused on fluidity versus stiffness. She spoke to symptoms. You spoke to mental state, which is a whole stratum deeper. (I forgot I'd watched that one.) You shows signs of immense talent. It just can't be that everyone this young is as good at this as you are. Or at least that's what my logic tells me. If she felt like she couldn't be your equal, sure, I can see where for some people that would be too much to deal with. But certainly it's not natural to just go away and not say why. That alone suggests she was feeling negatively toward you. It is lovely that you've examined yourself for what flaw(s) possibly could have justified such feelings. But more likely, it's benefits not flaws that explain it.
This is really insightful! When Calypso first mentioned the break up, one of the first thoughts I had was that Alex might have been unhappy that she being outperformed intellectually by Calypso. This wasn't a role she was willing to accept for herself. Perhaps she felt she was losing control of the intellectual material. We'll never know if this is the reason she left, but I think we can say that Calypso, you just weren't in the grand plan Alex had for herself. So it's not even a question of what you did or didn't do.
Thank you for your video, i'm that kind of person that everytime i have a new discovery, new view of life, i will use it to re-examiner and re-evaluate my past, and use it to judge my future with that new view, i think i might use the Ni.
Thank you so much for the wonderful information! Oops I am guilty of using those stereotypes! Also I watched that video regarding the comment! I love you Calypso! That commenter totally projected! Love your honesty and positive energy!!
As a dominant Ni user, for me it's as if the past, present, and future are all related. I get annoyed when people think we're just future focused, because our projections of the future are usually based on patterns we have observed from things in the past. History is extremely important. We're trying to warn you all but you just won't learn from history.
I think INTJs -- and possibly INFJs -- often seem like they come from another century, whether that be the future or the past, or perhaps both at the same time. Personally, I don't understand why people just throw away or dismiss old technologies or old ways of doing things. There are so many things that can be learned from history that can be re-applied to improve the present and reshape the future.
Well, Ne is your opposing role. So it's easier to use than someone who has critical parent Ne or trickster Ne. Ne is actually very past, present and future focused.
Great video! As an Si user, I can absolutely relate to the point on fragmented memory. When I write, I tend to hyperfocus on what are key details to me. As a result, some people say I “get lost in the weeds.” It’s not necessarily that I’m giving tons of details, but rather that I’m giving too many subjectively important details.
I think that how an Si or Ni user remembers details depends on whether their Si or Ni is in the masculine or feminine position. As developed by Dave and Shannon Powers from the Objective Personality System, If someone’s Si or Ni is in the masculine position they will have greater recall with it. The theories rationale is that masculine functions are more rigid and certain about how reality ought be. A person with Masculine Si Dominant will be super particular about what the “correct details” are and they will have excellent memory of super precise moments, memorizing events in chronological order. However, many details will be lost and they’re past description will not give a whole picture.
I brought up this particular example because I have masculine Si and it can be a double edged sword. I can recall with precision particular details but I struggle relating them to one another.
Honestly I always figured Si "memory" was about focusing on a few details and basically just deducing things from it (because that's how I do it as an NP)
The depth and/or intensity of the emotions felt at the time of a memory, as well as whom I am conveying said memory to, and why, directly correlates to the level of detail and context I give. Sometimes an abbreviated version is best, given the context, impact on the listener, or simply because it is unnecessary to divulge certain aspects, especially those which aren't entirely mine to divulge, given projected affects it may have on the listener, another, or even the listener's perspective of said other. You see, the complexities of one's recollection of events is exacerbated by relevance and parties involved. That said, if a memory is singular in nature, well, I can express it without any filter, if I should choose to, of course. Trust is paramount in such revelations.
I enjoyed your video explanation and clarification on Ni versus Si memory recollection. Take care and God bless. ✝️
Great video... It must be horrible that comments keep bringing up an event that must be painful to you. People please, just leave it be.
ENFJ with massive Ni. I knew it!!!’knew it! I saw you two as a not good team whatsoever. I mean context was great but your emotional dynamic screamed to me! So sad I was right 😞Just move on girls, both of you though 🙏💜
This makes sense. Ni is more wholistic, but rather vague in its experience, so in order to get the listener to understand, there will be more words, more storytelling, more meaning making. Si is specific, so, this happened, this happened and that happened might be more its way of remembering, w/o the necessary between-the-lines reading to connect it all together..
i wonder if the ne/si axis has more crystallized sensory info because their ne patterns are more fragmented? this seems to explain both sides: ne >si requires relatively few sensory details to form an idea/see a pattern (less focus on detail might actually aid in this tangential nature), and si > ne neatly files away the associated details into disparate pattern compartments. whereas ni/se is attached to less patterns at a time and instead tries to fit everything into the same frameworks.
This video was really useful in helping my friend type herself. She was wondering whether she was an INFJ or an ISFJ - and it turns out she’s an INFJ who often thinks about the past, but thinks about the past in an Ni-driven way.
This was one of my biggest doubts, tanks a lot, I could never catch where the difference was
Honestly that comment at the end is so rude and none of their business. I'm so sorry Calypso.
This channel is very good
The downside of giving such drama so much attention is that it might give them the attention they seek. Also, this bullshit is not worth your time..
I don't fully subscribe to OP as they have unresolved issues with the way they type, but I do see how functions can be yin and/or yang with their use. This is what I am seeing with your observations about ni and si.
Calypso is the realest. "Like what reputation? Some random girl who talks about MBTI on the Internet? Oh, okay..!" Lol
This person was very disrespectfull. Dont listen to this coment. You informed us about the situation and you shared your feelings. If someone doesn't like to listen to you they should simply stop watching. And everything you said in this video to defend youtself is something every normal and mature person would find obvious. Honestly, this person is simply not standing the feeling of not knowing everything about what happened between you and Alex and wants to get on your nerves to see if you "explain the context" (like they said). Dont belive them for a second.
My mom is emotionally abusive, too. She has *not* improved w/age n i have given up on having a relationship w/her bc track record shows anything i say or do in her presence can be used against me at any time or in any context she feels like (Evil infj?). You might enjoy a mellowed-with-age relationship w/your mom, much like many of my friends have. But if that doesn't happen, you will waste the rest of your life doing the "right thing" for no return on investment. On the narc abuse channels, there are countless stories of 70 yr olds finally "free" when an abusive parent dies, and they have no idea what to do with themselves. I'll willingly forfeit my relationship w/my mother so i can pursue other goals and relationships that i am more likely to succeed at, and be fulfilled by.
Your mum sounds like mine
Thank you, I was very confused without knowing if I'm INFP or ISFP 😅
Other people's thoughts shouldn't really matter. -Te inferior kicking in hard.
I'm sorry but this guy obviously doesn't know jack about INFPs. We literally second guess every statement we make to make sure we aren't going to be taken incorrectly, and somehow it always ends up happening anyway. You did what you could after being abandoned, and I think you have done a great job. You're completely on point when you point out that Alex could have been upfront with everyone and explained everything before leaving. You guys could have done a video about what was going on and explained things to the community "together", but Alex obviously didn't care enough about the community that the two of you built and left without an explanation. That's her bad, not yours. She's the one who left, she's the one that decided things were over, she's the one who should be getting the comments. Having said that, I personally didn't expect an explanation. I understand that relationships come and go and sometimes people stop being friends. Bottom line, it really isn't anyone's business what happens in your personal life...now, that doesn't mean that I am not extremely curious about it, but you know! The audacity of someone demanding to know the "context" behind a private matter. Jeez! :)
I actually quite enjoy hearing you vent... :)
Idk can’t say I agree with you on this one. I don’t think Si being associated with details is a result of a stereotype. “Si-users value tradition over innovation” is an example of a stereotype, especially considering that it’s a correlation and not a direct causation between Si and tradition.
This, however, is more of a result of different definitions of Si from different typology models, all which have different ways of typing people and different explanations. But even then, personally imo it logically makes more sense that Si would at least be more detailed when it comes to the sensory observations that they take in.
This also could just be a misunderstanding when we’re considering what “more detailed” means, and how that differs between Si and Ni.
For me as an INFP, I have to say I can remember small minute details from my past experiences ~ for example like yesterday I suddenly have this memory flash of me watching a 2010s kdrama when I was just probably 7, and remembered how the main character exercised from obese to thin. I still remember that she ploughed through the running mill and then as time passes by she ran faster. And I remember she was even wearing red high heels after she successfully lost weight and even wore sunglasses.
Si is my tertiary function, but honestly I use Si more than my aux Ne 😂
When you ask the question, "Tell me about a time..." my response to those answers, "I tend to ____ when ____," my reaction is, "But that wasn't the question; they asked for one specific experience." If you ask for a trend specifically I will give you a trend, but if you ask me for a concrete example, that's what I'll give you. This may also be from having been trained to do behaviorally based job interviews, where you don't want people's idealized versions of what they think they tend to do; you need actual past behavior. I don't know for sure if the Ne-Si thing feeds more into it or not... --INFP
Hi! This was my first (or second, I think I stumbled upon one some months back) video of your channel and it was SO awesome! (I also really liked you, I dunno, I relate with you! Avoiding going into detail about that!) Like thanks for busting stereotypes but also thinking critically yourself! I dunno, I think I am gonna watch all your videos now!! Thanks for existing :D.
Also, commenter is such a shit person but you did such a good job of breaking down his shit but by bit! XD
Also, do talk about your experiences and I completely support that.
You are worth so much more than all this hate :(
I'd we can define Si as a concrete lense of the internal world, wouldn't also be the INxP's key to the internal world? Like, when I enter my own head, I'm almost incapable of exploring it in a plethoric, intuitive way compared to my broad perception of the external world (Ne.) I don't view my inner roadmap as a whole, but as a set of specific destinations. If I'm planning a story, I view it not as "the book," but as "a chapter." Would that be Si?
I think so!!!!! For me as an INFP, I like to organize my past experiences into chapters. Like childhood days, primary school days, secondary school days and even the timelines I fangirled about various movies, like 2014 (Frozen), 2015 (Rio), 2016 (Big Hero 6) etc etc
I'm INTP (Ne Si) and I am definitely all over the place when I'm talking about a past memory and the things surrounding it, and I do leave a lot out (I wish I didn't because I do want people to get the whole story). If I didn't just stop talking about it at some point (thereby leaving stuff out), I would have to talk forever about it and I would think people would be sick of listening to me...
And the past memories do look like snapshots to me. Like flashes.
p.s. sorry you were sad when you made this video. It is difficult to get that kind of feedback. Everything you said is right in my opinion.
The way you started the video confirmed to me that I am definitely not INFP...
POV you see this in 2023 the drama is long over and I am now invested lol
Thanks for a great video.. I’m not really interested in the split of Alex and you.. as long as you’re both doing ok..
Si and Ni was very good observations
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if Si sees the past in terms of percentages, i was thinking about how this affects our relationships. would it be correct to say that we are more likely to think that, say, our future with a friend is likely to reflect the past? and would Si users have less belief that a friendship or relationship has the potential evolve or change?
This is interesting, okay. I think the Ni and Se was prevalent in my assessment, even though I'm still unsure of my type I can see your point.
Anyway from what I'm gathering si is more like viewing the facts and 5 senses of the past whereas ni is looking at the intangible moments in the past, the concepts, and unspoken patterns of the past?
Omg I actually remember reading that comment and assuming that it was a self aware kind of ironic comment... maybe i assumed a bit too fast lol
The likes on this person's post shows how many people agree with it. 1! And he probably liked it himself.
You infp’s are so adorable. -isfp
When I'm trying to relay an event to someone, it turns into a big, messy, spiral of information around a center point. I frustrate myself with the chaotic way my brain remembers things.
Totally agree. I’m curious why you thought she was Ni aux vs Ni tertiary
I have a video with the analysis. It was down for editing. So, it'll be back within a day or two.
Christina Selects awesome thanks so much for posting it. Really good to learn these things. One thing I do like about calypso is that she has a more consistent way to determine type. Having a questionnaire will allow for her to see patterns in the data much easier than just a conversation or vague topic video. This is similar to Dario Nardis process and quite honestly the prevailing method in psychology. The fact that anyone does differently is laziness imo.
@@coachs886 I just wanted to let you know I have to start from scratch, so it will be completed over the weekend, and most likely be published on Monday.
so Alex gone without one word ... classic INTJ XD
btw, very convincing explanation of Si - Ni diference, thanks.
9:24, well they weren't wrong about the future becoming worse
My mom is an ENFJ and i have the better detailed memory being inferior Si, but she remembers the big picture stuff and main ideas very well, and the Se impact it had on others, etc. She is terrible with remembering details though. My memory especially in my early youth was more like a camera and captures everything crystal clear but only from my POV, although in recent years I am able to change that a bit.
percentage vs trajectory, that's interesting
Interesting...I'm an INFP but I do both. I find the connections between the streams of time, but my past is indeed crystallised where I can always look back to in order to gather information. So if you asked me an incident that made me angry - I would give you a specific incident and then the connection drawn from that experience and other experiences like that. For instance I might explain that injustice in general is a general theme that provokes me to anger and that anecdote was a specific example on how it may occur. Maybe my Fi-Si creating a pseudo-Ni I guess?
I like your Ne theory. Interesting
It’s strange my friend with tertiary Si can look back into the past and remember details and look into the past a lot. I think I am undeveloped Si user who sees the past as bad (bad things happened) and my brain prevents me from looking back to the past.
Great observations about Si Ni
#Abadi is the kind of person who usually think their way of understanding a situation is absolute and which 99% of the time they totally misunderstood a situation then create a drama with absolutely no evidence or fact about it, it's disgusting and tasteless.
"To soften the blow" well said
I can feel your sadness
I’m sure this video is so far removed from where you are today (feeling wise) but just remember you don’t have to answer for what you know by way of your own experiences. People are odd, people want to be heard, people are miserable, and people are people (I hope you get what I mean). You’re doing the best you can with what you have calypso you’re telling your version of truth to the best of your ability with the knowledge you’ve obtained from your personal experiences anyone who doesn’t understand and isn’t willing to try to understand is only polluting and not cleansing. I’m really sorry for what happened between you and Alex (even if it was vague) I’m also sorry your mom wasn’t the best towards you at one point in time. You have a light that you have to foster and continue to brighten, the world may try to dim it or make it seem like you’re wrong for sharing your perspective but you aren’t. I don’t know you but I hope this message reaches you and reminds you that you aren’t alone. People truly love/care about you and to keep going!
Si - skips to the specific experience
Without details of the experience
Very interesting video! And about that comment, I don't know what their problem is, but like you said you obviously didn't do anything wrong. You simply stated what happened and how it made you feel. You didn't say '... is a bad person' or something like that. So don't take those comments too seriously there's always going to be weird people like that.
Omg sweetie I know this video was 4 months ago but if you wanna talk to someone about what happened I'm here!
Wow! Great new content for me 😄!
That comment is the type that says a lot more about the commenter than about you. They couldn't have made it more obvious that they were projecting their issues onto you if they tried. As a fellow INFP, I know how hard it is to not take something like that apart and try to work it out, but it probably wasn't worth your time or attention to begin with.
so that basically means Ni is just better Si
I never have heard you say anything negative about Alex . I have listened to the videos . What can you say if you don’t know the reason? You could have really badmouthed her and I personally don’t think you have. I have given my thoughts on it that maybe she was overwhelmed being on and I thought at times she was anxious especially when appearing alone. I don’t know however it’s just an observation I had. It wasn’t mean on my account.
I also think you tried to just move on and had to address questions.
As for your mom I don’t think we can judge the relationship I’m not sure why the poster is trying to it’s something a lot of people through with the adults in their lives and we reflect on it later especially if the relationship improves. I think the last part though is them wanting to look good and think they are actually helping. Kind of patronizing.
I’m liking the content and it helps me understand the difference between Ni and Si better. That explains why I give examples of what I can relate don’t give a lot of detailed information.
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I think she just wanted to do something else but that meant she couldn't do the channel anymore, but then because of that she thought they couldn't be friends anymore. All the while not realizing how that would make her feel... INTJ's do have Fe shadow/blindspot (whatever you wanna call it) which is all about being able to understand other people and how they connect to one another. Fi on the other hand is more about understand how thing connect to you so... idk could have been a lot of things
There are of a number of things it could have been not wanting to commit so much to MBTI or suddenly having doubts about it. But that’s just a couple of other thoughts I had. I understand just cutting off a relationship without explanation is hard to understand but sometimes people don’t know how. Sounds odd but it could be uncomfortable or maybe she didn’t see the need to explain that might be more of the Fe blind spot.
About the comment in the end, I think your guess on them saying that last part to soften the blow not really meaning it is a really good one, it might be right and it makes sense. But I would like to add another possible reason to it. Probably they started watching the channel because the Information you give really connected to them and like they wanted the information in the way present it for a long time (Which is true for me actually), but some of the things you did probably went against their morals or what they believe to be bad. Like that made them disconnect, and they are telling their personal frustration. And also they aren't looking at you instead looking at if you connect to them. (just a guess) My intention for sharing this is not to defend them by any means, it's just that you seemed confused why they might say they like you after saying those stuff up there so I wanted to share my personal thought if it helps you by anyway.
Bruh you're always super respectful and this asshole was trying to make you feel like you were being manipulative and it legitimately makes me angry
A google search for "which MBTI types are more likely to troll the internet" led to a surprising number of results.
Is 3 hour distance local? lmao I’m from Calgary, I wonder if I can just drive over to volunteer lol
Have you read Dario Nardi's book, _Neuroscience of Personality?_ It turns out you're the best listener (sort of...), and during the holidays if you don't feel like setting up the decorations, you can just focus real hard on using your 2nd function, to create a 'Christmas tree' pattern in your brain. Tell your friends that that's what you're doing this year to celebrate xmas.
If you're a Buddhist tell your friends that you're doing this to quickly exhaust your brain (creating 'creative hangovers'), because 'life is suffering' and tell them it's the 9th path of the 8-fold path
I bet your friends would just be like 'yup, that's Calypso alright!" [EDIT: just finished you video; it's clear that that commenter doesn't understand what you were trying to say]
my enfp x would be bad at describing her incorrect actions when related to complaints. i think it may just be an nfp thing, the si combined with the fi. a pitfall because the si fi combo has difficulty with si being so concrete. so how they felt about the situation becomes "how the situation was".
and that can leave the listener feeling like the other person is just scum and that either the nfp didn't do anything wrong or must be delusional.
Abadi sounds so narcissistic. Im very familiar of the narrative of that comment. Please ignore him. Smh.