Several years ago, I got a really bad headache (I am prone to migraines). Almost on a whim, I went to Urgent Aid, thinking I had a sinus infection. Almost argued with the Doc that it was just a headache, but when I mentioned I wanted to claw out my eye to relieve the pain, he Strongly Suggested I go to the Emergency Room. So I did, thinking I would be parked in the ER for hours .. nope. Whisked to the back, did not pass go or collect my $200. Turns out I had a TIA (stroke). After I got out of the hospital I re visited the doctor just to let him know and to thank him. He just sat there, stunned, I think, that I followed up with him. I THINK I made his day.
You did make their day. First of all that you were well enough to visit😊. Especially that you listened and got the care you needed. Too many people don’t listen when told they need to go to the ED instead of just the local Urgent Care facility. You are the prime example of why providers do their job.
You definitely did. I get that reaction when I follow up with docs about something they had me checkout with another specialist. They care, and sometimes something tells them to encourage their patients to take heed. But like first responders they often don’t know the next part or the end of the story. So you saying ty and telling them hey you saved me was letting out a breath they didn’t know they were holding .
My beautiful husband is an incredible Neurosurgeon in a major hospital in the UK, yet the most genuinely humble man I have ever met in my life; I am nowhere near exaggerating. He is very sought after for the toughest cases, spending at times, 12 hours in the OR, saving countless lives, yet the way he is treated and spoken to by patients is absolutely reprehensible, it breaks my heart hearing him talk about his day at times because he is such a gentle, meek and kind soul, I’ve never even heard him raise his voice. He has come home in tears a few times from how he is treated and was even slapped across the face, breaking his glasses by a despicable patient because she was unhappy with the treatment protocol. I’ll never forget the day he came home one day, beaming because the mother of a boy he removed an enormous brain tumour from, called the hospital and asked to speak with him, thanked him over and over for saving her son. He was so shocked and couldn’t wipe the smile off his face for the rest of the day. Please, show your doctor appreciation when they help you, it can be a soul-crushing profession for many reasons and your small gesture of appreciation means the world to them.
These videos talked me out of medical school. I switched my major and am very happy! Sorry for all you brave souls who cared so much about people you did it anyway; you’re true heroes. ❤
😂 I laugh because there was a doctor that needed to learn a lesson where my mom almost died, from not being in the er, for more than an hour span, no one in the er knew where he was, as well as not answering any calls, when he was needed in the er and no other doctors were available. In 2009. The head surgeon, who was in the er the next night, let's just say the two of them grew to work together well and I got to see them both one day working together while I was the one needing treatment in the er. It pleased me to see he learned his lesson, though the hard way, but became a better person out of that instead of quitting.
I was thinking more Kuber Ross. Denial Anger Bargaining Depression Acceptance Here's the sequence: "No, that can't be" "Dammit, it is. I'll bet it was those screwups in the pharmacy/lab/ER or maybe the nurses/residents/ radiologists, . . . " "So, as your attorney, I'd say we have an excellent case but juries are unpredictable". (Every last effing one of them always says this. Unfortunately, it's the only time they'll say anything remotely honest.) "Man, this has been dragging on for 2 years". I go to sleep thinking about it and wake up thinking about it" "So they want to settle? I can't decide. It feels like surrender but OTOH I can put it behind me."
I was in a really bad car accident in March. With my concussion finally clearing up I’ve been sending thank you notes to the EMS station and the ER for taking such good care of me. Not sure if the notes are making it to the right people- the outside envelopes were addressed like “Hospital ER c/o charge nurse?” With a short note explaining the accident, date and times, and a plea to get the cards to the right people. And inside, the individual enveloped cards are addressed like “Nurse Monica who worked in the ER on DATE and had brown hair.” “Nurse Hailey who worked in the ER on DATE and was maybe also a student?” “Paramedic Steven who worked on DATE, and thought PMS was a disease.” “EMT Chris who worked with Steven and drove the ambulance.” “The CT Scan guy who was very energetic and played rock and roll from his phone while transporting me. He’s also bald, and makes race car noises while steering the chairs, if any of that helps narrow things down.” I’m hoping my cards find their way to the people who took such good care of me… and that they like the notes (enough to not mind how I described them😅).
That is so nice of you! The ER staff will likely get them! And he thought PMS was a disease? Hilarious that you included that, he will prob chuckle with that! Glad you are doing better!
Physician assistant here! Can confirm that your descriptions most likely VERY accurate and most likely got to the right people! That’s 95% of the way that I remember people.
Near the end of my father’s life, a resident gave him really excellent care, and did a great job of communicating with my mother and me. This was during Covid, so there was limited ability to see my dad in the hospital. I emailed the head of the department’s residency program to let him know how much I appreciated the resident’s work. The head of the residency program said he was very pleased to hear it, and that people very rarely contacted him with compliments. If a doctor that you don’t see regularly does good work, particularly if they’re a junior, let their supervisors know.
That sounds like the wildest thing. 😳 Imagine a subset of humans who don't remember people via their name, NOR their face...but they can instantly recognize the structures of your brain! 🤯
@@TreeHairedGingerAleas a nurse i do that with symptoms. Cant remember names or faces but the Parkinson patient with the appendix, who had low blood pressure post op - yeah i still remember you
It's like when I worked at a vet hospital, and I could recognize dogs and cats and call them by name, but God help me if I needed to recognize their owners or remember their names...
This is why I either write or sell things. So much less responsibility. Thanks for caring so much I’ve had way more doctors that care than haven’t (there have been a couple.) Nurses and EMTs have saved my life a couple of times, and doctors have helped me through the diagnosis, recovery period and the follow through. Y’all are amazing.
So I fell down the stairs and got a concussion (aged 24) and after every single medical professional I interacted with remembered me I started to be a little concerned
Post concussion syndrome 3years now. I really started getting nervous when I walked in for my latest physical therapy (shoulder surgery) and every therapist greeted me by name
@@beckybequette8212do you guys also not remember like …ANYTHING anymore? It’s been about 3 years for me too and my memory has been so shot to heck. If I don’t have it written somewhere, it’s gone. I don’t remember conversations from a week or further back. It’s created issues, but I don’t know what to do about it.
@@beckybequette8212I've never heard of that before, so I googled it. I've had about 16 concussions (I don't know the real number anymore) and it's never occurred to me that some of my issues might be related to that. Like, I've had some cognitive decline and I don't think I'm going to live particularly long, but I thought the other symptoms were from other injuries. Thanks for mentioning that. 🙂👍
As an emergency medicine physician I can attest that those words spark a panic attack every time. Not because of a lawsuit but just thinking that I did something wrong that affected my patient’s wellbeing is frightening!
ER dpc here too...sheer terror that someone died or had a terrible outcome whenever I hear those words. On the bright side also had patients ask for my card/if I have a clinic and one even come back with coffee and treats for us all after we got them rapid treatment for an inferior MI. I think their family overheard me arguing with the cardiologist that no, the patient did not have a PE, they have an MI and just got shocked out of VT, accept the transfer now please and thank you 💀
I mentioned to my grandmother's previous doctor that she had passed recently. (She'd moved to another place. ) The doctor winced. Her demeanor changed when I thanked her for the care she'd given my grandmother. Showing gratitude goes a long way.
I have a friend who is a nurse(RN); while working in the hospital she saw a patient who had signs of a brain bleed. She had to go to four different doctors in the hospital to FINALLY get one to listen to her. Turned out she was right and her knowledge saved the kid’s life. So for all you doctors who think nurses are stupid, stop it!
You know, it might be good practice to teach both doctors and nurses how to lead coworkers to conclusions in ways that made it seem like their own idea.
I really wish certain doctors of mine acted like this... unfortunately so many of them don't care at all and I can't figure out why they went into a career in patient care. But the ones that DO CARE - they're AMAZING, a huge positive part of my life and I really hope they never feel like this! LMAO I would be the one calling to thank them, bc I've actually done that! 😂
@@jythoden3523Sometimes you can care as much as possible, try your best, but the problem persist and the patient blames you. That's ok. That's what we're here for. Body and mind.
When I was in training in NYC a few years back, if a patient returned to the ER with the same complaint within 72 hours, he was an immediate admission. 9 times out of 10, he was out within 2 days max, but there were those rare instances when our crock had real pathology, and was saved because of medical prudence. The REAL words you don't want to hear, especially at 4AM is "Good morning, sorry, I've got a hit for you." I took a lot of heat from my superiors who could have hurt me badly, but when I was ER Chief, I almost never allowed an admission to the floor between 4:30-7AM. I wanted a fresh team that could see and think straight doing the admission, even in the days when we were told we were to clear the ER and not hold patients. I think I saved a life or two for my slovenly medical care. God, I love medicine and being a physician!
My husband loved practicing too. As my last offering of love, I let him give me a cortisone shot in my elbow when he saw it was hurting. I had one long before (not administered by him) and it hurt crazy! But I prayed I could endure whatever his shaking hands could mange but to my surprise t didn’t hurt at all. I figured he must’ve missed the mark but, it worked and has never hurt again, 11 yrs later. ❤️ He was so pleased and happy to help.
I work in the ER, so what I get a lot of is “I was just here last week for the same thing. It’s all in my chart on the computer”. Dude, I wasn’t here when you came here last week, and to be honest that’s a whole different screen on Epic than I’m on now, so why don’t we just treat today as a brand new event, eh?
Having done medical interpretation, I get that same feeling too when your supervisor calls and says “hey, remember that patient you interpreted for last week?” Gets you super nervous. 😂
My father - obstetrics and gynaecology, oncology specialist - had some patients who were so grateful they were still sending him Christmas cards decades later. He did get lots of presents - whisky or chocolate - too. (This was another time and another place; there are probably rules about accepting gifts nowadays.) Something about having a longed-for baby just seemed to bring out the gratitude. My schoolfriend always complained about the difference in patient attitudes - her father was in orthopaedics. Something about being badly damaged in an accident seemed to leave patients grumpy rather than grateful...
I was told by an emergency room doctor to go home and relax, from having terrible chest pain. No tests had been performed, just a chest xray at this point. He said i was too young to have heart issues. I knew in my soul he was wrong, i didn’t know what was wrong but i knew something was happening. I was having an aortic dissection ascending and descending. Thank God i didn't listen to him. Ive heard hes no longer head of that e.r. ♡
I'm a dog groomer and had a client call about their old dog who was a regular of mine. He said "I'm sorry, she's not gonna make it." I teared up and said "oh my gosh I'm so, so sorry. She is such a good dog." Awkward pause followed by, "so since we can't make this appointment tomorrow can we reschedule her for next week?"
I have called our groomer 3 times about our 3 cockers passing away and not needing the appointment! Sucks!😭 They were all rescues, they couldn't have been more loved! We were the 5th home for Sadie. She went everywhere with us! All so spoiled, so they lived the best life. Finally! They had all been so abused!
Me! Every single time I hear this question. I carry my "why I suck" book right next to the "I need to study more, but I don't know when because I have 2 small kids and 2 jobs" book
Actually, there's a growing body of evidence that suggests 1. Stress & anxiety adversely affect memory formation, and also 2. Just having little kids Around makes anyone demonstrably more scatterbrained, irrespective of whether that person is their caregiver or not. So, perhaps #3 is unsurprising: whilst being the caregiver of little children, one's mind actually makes fewer efforts to even encod3 LT memories! It's like, the brain is thinking, "well, I'm not going to be qble.to remember this crud any way, and nobody around me will either, sooo ... who cares? And why bother?" In sum: don't be so hard on yourself; your doing the L-rd's work. Effort spent remembering are better deployed on more immediately-necessary tasks, like making sure nobody runs into speeding traffic. 😂
That’s also true in vet med, for nurses too. I remember calling into my hospital in a day off for something completely innocuous, and the CSR who answered was like, “oh great, I have you on the phone! Dr Blahblahblah wants to talk to you about the ketamine dose you used for the patient yesterday, please hold” First, I froze- like “What the hell was wrong with my ketamine dose?” Next, I recalculated all the math from memory- got the same number. Next googled on my phone if there might be some random concentration of ketamine out there that might make someone accidentally overdose a patient. Nope. Next did all the math on paper and with a calculator instead of in my head. Same number. FINALLY the damn doctor gets on the phone and says “Hey that anesthetic plane was gorgeous, and the recovery was smooth- can you put that protocol in the computer and teach it to the new nurses?” I was pretty much dead at that point from holding my breath the whole time. It’s good to know I’m not the only one whose stomach drops instantly at a totally innocent (complimentary, even!) comment.
My mom is a nurse too (should be retired, but doesn't want too). I don't remember her being afraid of a malpractice. She's more like: "of course, I couldn't help THIS patient, because I was already saving the OTHER one who had a cardiac arrest! Hire more nurses!"
Oh, this cuts deep. So true, so damned true. I'm a newborn hospitalist and would (have reacted) the same way. I had a call like that a few months ago, but the patient was fine... as I found out after my anxiety attack. We carry the worry about our sickest patients, daily
@Sara76779 yes , that's it exactly. The fear of missing something, and hearing the dreaded words, from one of our Ped ED attendings: did you send this baby home a few days ago ..? All of us who take care of patients, nurses and doctors both, dread this. Pharmacists (although they more often catch mistakes), RT's, xray techs, everyone who touches patients in some way bears this burden. I still wouldn't want to do anything else, though.
Please don't cultivate anxiety attacks ... Please try to NOT be afraid because anxiety & panic attacks can spiral and when they start this involuntarily you might suffer this dreadful physical & psychological pain (which you cannot control either !). All this is NO fun ! 😢
Recently found closure for a nurse that let me suffer in pain for hours for saying I was making up my symptoms. I have been reassured that many checks have been put in place to make sure no patient goes through what I went through.
Im so sorry. Hope your doing better. My doctor was willing to let my son die for his paycheck while i was in delivery. Refused to come in to the hospital bc he was too tired and wouldn’t give permission to the hospital to do anything (so he’d get paid)-only came in at the very last second when I had an emergency c section (code blue) and they could obviously override him and have the doctors there operate on me.
Wow, I am really aorry to hear that you & "momentsformoms" went through that kind of stuff. Hope you all, and "m4m'zes" son are all better now, and hope no patients ever DO have to endure such rotten indignities. Where I live (in United States), health care is phenomenally monetized & corporatized -- as a result, decent doctors providing good patient care are deeply disincentivezed in favour of the Almightly Dollar (don't even get me started, lol !!)
Idk WHY YT isn't getting these into my algorithm until 3-5d later (& no notifications) but I NEEDED this today. Loving the "why I suck journal." Kind of glad I'm only just now seeing it bc it definitely made a difference in my demeanor. Thanks, kid. ❤😂
Unfortunately, there are a scary amount of doctors my family has come across that I personally think need to be removed from their practices. Certain family members whose word was not taken seriously have too many things affecting them after the fact when if the doctors had just believed them they’d probably be okay.
As former hospital secretary I thought the words were "Doctor I needs your signature for the medical records! The public prosucutor have demanded them!"
As a current medical secretary in sweden the patients only call their doctor because their medication ran out. If they want to complain they call the media
@@mattep74 Wow ... Sweden used to be cool ... now, it's like the more I hear, the worse it sounds. Stay strong, friend, and hope things'll improve for you all soon.
😂I agree about commitment to the art - this whole video is very clever - but I can assure you that no ice cream was harmed in the making of this scene: as an amateur actor I know theatre is magic, and props are often not what they seem.
@@xdashlydia wellll, you can spill it here! Obviously, we're all among friends in YT comments section .... so what are some of these secrets? Wait, don' t tell me -- that's not really ice cream, it's just Freakishly Fotogenic Crisco; is that right?
It's the same with pharmacy, trust me 😂 Things that keep you awake at night. Do you remember this specific prescription from anywhere between two hours to 10 days ago? Did you hand out the correct medication? Was there a formal error you didn't see? Should you have gotten an approval from the insurane company first? Was the dosage correct? Did you overlook a deadly drug interaction?
I once had a pharmacist hand me a prescription for Prozac. Me: What’s this? Pharm: Prozac Me: My doctor ordered Prilosec, not Prozac Pharm: turned extremely pale and snatched the bottle out of my hand I wonder how many nightmares they had after that 🤔😂
@jadedbyfire Now, look: if DOCTORS COULD ONLY LEARN TO WRITE LEGIBLY 😠 !! Chicken scratch seems to be a requirement of the MD degree 🙄🤣 . (So says the DVM, haughtily...who, in fact, has appallingly illegible handwriting 🫤😖😂 )
Im a scrub nurse and my anesthesia friends are the same, they’re getting new grey hairs with every “are you sure there’s isn’t a fentanyl ampoule missing?”
This is why I like my family owned pharmacy over the big box one we left. The previous one had been cutting hours like crazy and the staff was getting to the point that they really didn't care, or were doing their best to send any trouble up to management since they needed to feel the weight of the shit decisions. I get it, solidarity, but also... Bail.
I had a hernia repaired a little over a year ago. The surgeon hit a blood vessel during the procedure and it was difficult to get the bleeding under control. Apparently they had to stop the bleeding 3 times. The surgery took twice as long as planned. The surgeon was forthcoming about what had happened. He said I was going to be in far more pain and have a much longer recovery than I was planning on going in. He was very apologetic. I told him I appreciate the apology, but things happen. He was shocked. The reality is that we're all human. Did he make a mistake? Maybe. Was the blood vessel in a place one wouldn't expect it to be? Maybe. Who knows. It could have been much worse. He said that patients rarely see things that way if something goes wrong, or even if things go perfectly and they experience more pain than they had assumed they would feel. Dude - you cut 3 holes in me for a laproscopic surgery. I'm just glad that was an option versus a much larger incision and much longer recovery time. Was I happy about it? No. But I wasn't pissed at him for it. Things happen.
There are a lot of golddiggers out there with their attorney on speed dial who would sue him in a second. He was courageous in being so open and honest in admitting what happened in surgery. You were safe enough to hear and understand the situation, and accept his apology. You are both men of emotional maturity and integrity. 😊
@@greeksurferdude I wouldn't have existed in the first place because my mom would have died in childbirth with my sister! She couldn't give birth naturally due to PCOS and apparently the first ever successful C-section was in the late 1800's in my country. I doubt the odds were good during the early 1900's.
I had a doctor who lied about a procedure. I wish she had just been honest instead, because my condition became deadly due to her omission of truth. It was unethical. If she had admitted her mistake immediately, I wouldn't have been happy, but I would have understood. All procedures carry risk. Even doctors are human.
I always thank my caregivers: doctors, nurses, clerks. therapists, techs, dietary aids, Environmental, transporters -- all of them, plus the safety officer on the way out. There are no unimportant people in hospitals and clinics.
All new grads need to see this. Nothing makes your heart sink more than those words. I've been there. Immediate imposter syndrome kicks in. I don't think anyone has more of these experiences than our ER colleagues. Thanks for this!
As a retired RN, this is why I'm always sure to thank my physicians up front for their care. Everyone needs to have a little boost in their routine day from time to time.
You kidding me, as a fellow nurse, no one needs it more than us!!!!!!! Noone is more overworked, underpaid and under-appreciated than us!!! And no one does SHIT to help or show the slightest bit of appreciation or admiration for our godforsaken unhuman efforts. No wonder this world is hell.
@@Ice.muffin Not saying that nurses don't deserve a truckload of thanks for what we do in the trenches. We clearly do! When I am the patient, I always try to thank everyone who is in contact with me, no matter who they are, from the housekeeping staff to the nurses to the doctors. If they are rude or uncaring, I will mention it to their supervisors to get the behavior corrected. I've even fired a few of the doctors on my cases, which shakes them up and hopefully will cause them to reassess their behavior. I've labored in the trenches and have worked in administration as the house officer, so I have a unique view on how it all works. The bottom line to treat everyone as I want to be treated as a human being in an often-alien environment of high stress. Please beware of Burnout which, unfortunately, can be all too common in our field. You are important and probably very good at what you do but do remember to take care of yourself as tenderly as you take care of your patients. Yeah, the administration can be simply awful to deal with and patients can be rude and unthankful but try to look for the little things too that makes it all worthwhile. A job of yours well done and a simple thank you from a grateful patient. Thank you for what you do. Take care and be well.
Also an RN here…….can’t say it enough….document,document,document….sometimes the doctor doesn’t want to listen to your concerns as the nurse……if it’s documented then the doctor can’t come back and put the blame on you.I practice on the idea that I as the nurse am my patients advocate and I won’t give up until he listens to me.
If you’re a patient who has had a positive experience with a doctor, a nurse, a medical assistant, an ultrasound technician, a pharmacist, literally anyone working in healthcare please reach out to them and let them know! It is not a bother and is often the first time someone has thanked them in lord knows how long. Caring for people when they are sick or hurting is such an honor but it takes SUCH a huge emotional toll on healthcare workers because we often bear the brunt of your frustrations and we completely understand it’s hard to be nice when you’re not doing well! But every once in a while we get a genuine thank you and it makes our entire year ❤️
The worst is that you looked at and fixed some unrelated, minor problem with a program and for that you're told it's your job to analyze and fix some big hairy problem. But you were the last one to touch it, so now you OWN IT, 😭 and you have to drop everything you're doing and spend hours or days on something that may have a nearly fatal design flaw.
I was just about to leave a comment regarding IT. The Dr.’s of computers. Remember those servers you updated last week? Ever since you replaced that hard drive… Are you sure you verified those database back ups? Remember a couple weeks ago when you worked on a ticket for me?
@@lynnebucher6537Of course if you're a female in IT it's obviously you. The fact they are using a different way out of date operating system to everyone else and doesn't support the device they bought is totally irrelevant.
A doctor’s daily grind is at such a higher level of responsibility than any job I’ve ever had to deal with that I have put them all on a pedestal labelled ‘Superhuman’. This video served to get me thinking of them as people who share the same worries and concerns that we all have.
At first, I thought the call was going to be the dreaded "bounce back." Then all the other stuff you dredged up was perfect. Typical physician feelings of inadequacy, guilt trips, etc, ad nauseum. The "why I suck" journal was a stellar touch! One of my mentors would sneak up behind me in the operating room when I was administering anesthesia to some desperately ill patient. I'd be sweating bullets, and he'd quietly say, "If you kill this little old lady, you're goin' to jail!" At least one of us would laugh. He was a prior Vietnam-era Marine Corps helicopter pilot. I think getting shot at too much warps a person's sense of humor.
I’m a veterinarian and saw a new patient with a client I hadn’t seen before. Except I had seen him, and couldn’t place how I knew him. Fast forward a week later to me seeing my GP in person for the first time since Covid (about 3-4 years!) and I was like “ooooohhh” 😂 He seemed much more concerned about the conflict of interest than me. Like, man I just made a couple follow up recommendations for monitoring your dogs urine protein 😅 nbd
Kind of feels that way in the sense of "oh no, why are you saying it like that?" in the pharmacy too just cause you end up seeing these patients so often and build a connection with them. It especially hurts over time when you see them in person and can tell their health is declining (such as dementia getting worse) or you start seeing their children pick up meds for them instead of the patient themselves.
I thank my oncologist, the nurses at the infusion clinic and especially the schedulers. They all work very hard not to waste the time i have left. I love them.
I try hard to spread "good gossip" and when someone helps me, I rat them out to their boss, usually via email. It really is true that people are much faster to complain than to praise or thank. Also when I practiced I tried to compliment and reinforce the new nurses when they did particularly well.
I absolutely love your skits. A nurse 42 years. Yes read House of God years ago when working ICU at the VA. I am also a vet. I relate to so many situations you put up. You got me laughing so hard. You are like a medical version of Saturday Night Live. Hated working full moons too. It seemed like I worked all of them.
I need to thank the doctor that FINALLY believed me after years of being told “it’s all in your head.” Put a feeding tube in me and I finally got above 100lbs and stopped losing muscle mass!!! It turned out to be a very rare disease, not “just anxiety.”
Apparently it's nearly impossible for doctors to lose their license or go to prison. Getting sued is one thing, but the law has practically zero say in the licensing, that's up to a medical board full of other doctors who treat it very much so as a boys club.
I wish my doctors cared like that when they get it wrong - you can argue for a scan they say is unnecessary, find an actual problem, and they just shrug and act like nobody could have known.
If you feel genuinely bad about potentially hurting and/or not helping patients, it actually makes you a genuine doctor, and not at all a bad one. EVERY single "urologist" I've met here in Canada doesn't care at all for their patients by constantly refusing to adhere to other treatment/testing options whereas all of their "treatment" and "testing" options have been proven time and again ad nauseum of not achieving anything whatsoever for their patient's quality of life. Their blatant financial conflicts of interest go completely undetected for obvious societal reasons versus other health issues/ailments: it's as embarrassing as it is simultaneously a private matter of utmost importance. Bless all genuine doctors who vowed to help patients instead of vowing to take advantage of patients.
Your "why I suck journal" is markedly smaller than mine... unless that's volume 60-something? I'm not sure the malpractice thing has gone through my head, and I KNOW prison never crossed my mind, but I'm a pediatrician, and we're much less likely to get sued. I'm much more concerned I'm going to hear that they didn't like me or *gasp* they're disappointed in the care I provided.
Palliative care and hospice NP here. It is so much more than morphine and Ativan. I am actively trying not to hasten anything along which is what a lot of the population thinks I do and is difficult when there are 15 competing comorbidities. I think about malpractice and prison often, lol.
Here in the Ukogbani we have group practices where you are unlikely to see the same doctor twice, indeed you are lucky to get an appointment to see a doctor at all.
Got an email from a colleague with subject line: patient at [hospital] last night. Did this exact thing. Body of message: do you have their MRN so I can finish my note?
Ohh, that's just me being terrified I made a mistake in my research and so the grant I was given is wasted and then googling under what conditions the uni can kick me out 😅 thank you, doc
It’s not just doctors 😂 I’m an optician and the phrase “so, do you remember that one patient…?” Triggers me so bad 😅 My coworker says opticians always end up needing a flask of the hard stuff by the end of those particularly hard days.
Veterinarians- totally true!! One reason there is a group called Not One More Vet. Too many vets committing suicide after bad Google reviews or complaints.
Crazy that in the USA, you see last year residents talking about which hospital offers better "malpractice insurance" as part of job benefits negotiation... Good salary? Ok , good salary+ great malpractice insurance. Offer accepted sir! 🤣
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I appreciate the other doctor for staying on hold for all that time.
The alternative being that everything took place within 3 seconds or so
And entire afternoon or more. Solid dude... or nothing going on.
A moment of regret can feel like a lifetime of agony.
I tripped
That was a hospital lawyer. Billing their time. 😁
Several years ago, I got a really bad headache (I am prone to migraines). Almost on a whim, I went to Urgent Aid, thinking I had a sinus infection. Almost argued with the Doc that it was just a headache, but when I mentioned I wanted to claw out my eye to relieve the pain, he Strongly Suggested I go to the Emergency Room. So I did, thinking I would be parked in the ER for hours .. nope. Whisked to the back, did not pass go or collect my $200. Turns out I had a TIA (stroke).
After I got out of the hospital I re visited the doctor just to let him know and to thank him. He just sat there, stunned, I think, that I followed up with him. I THINK I made his day.
You did make their day. First of all that you were well enough to visit😊. Especially that you listened and got the care you needed. Too many people don’t listen when told they need to go to the ED instead of just the local Urgent Care facility. You are the prime example of why providers do their job.
You definitely did. I get that reaction when I follow up with docs about something they had me checkout with another specialist. They care, and sometimes something tells them to encourage their patients to take heed. But like first responders they often don’t know the next part or the end of the story. So you saying ty and telling them hey you saved me was letting out a breath they didn’t know they were holding .
@@withcharmtospare “letting out a breath they didn’t know they were holding” ❤
He definitely thought he was going to see your hands
@@withcharmtospareyes these news make our day. A “thank you” always makes me cry. These simple gestures are what motivate us
My beautiful husband is an incredible Neurosurgeon in a major hospital in the UK, yet the most genuinely humble man I have ever met in my life; I am nowhere near exaggerating. He is very sought after for the toughest cases, spending at times, 12 hours in the OR, saving countless lives, yet the way he is treated and spoken to by patients is absolutely reprehensible, it breaks my heart hearing him talk about his day at times because he is such a gentle, meek and kind soul, I’ve never even heard him raise his voice. He has come home in tears a few times from how he is treated and was even slapped across the face, breaking his glasses by a despicable patient because she was unhappy with the treatment protocol. I’ll never forget the day he came home one day, beaming because the mother of a boy he removed an enormous brain tumour from, called the hospital and asked to speak with him, thanked him over and over for saving her son. He was so shocked and couldn’t wipe the smile off his face for the rest of the day. Please, show your doctor appreciation when they help you, it can be a soul-crushing profession for many reasons and your small gesture of appreciation means the world to them.
Thank you ❤🌹♥️🥰
@@kimyoung3484 ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Aww that’s heartbreaking 💔
Make sure he knows he’s appreciated, whether it’s outright shown or not. 🖤
He's a lovely man and a treasure!❤ His patients and cohorts are lucky to have him!🎉
I agree. It has gone the other way and those of us who go the extra mile are taken for granted. It is sad.
These videos talked me out of medical school. I switched my major and am very happy! Sorry for all you brave souls who cared so much about people you did it anyway; you’re true heroes. ❤
Thank you. It is very hard work, but very satisfying.
The in the us people go to med school to make big money caring about people meh!
I went ahead, and really relate to this😂
@@oldfogey4679that is a bit unfair.
@@oldfogey4679eh but when you calculate what they have to deal with and the debt it takes, it’s not as simple as that actually…
Almost as horrible as “Hey doc! Were you the one on duty last night?” 💀💀💀
😂 I laugh because there was a doctor that needed to learn a lesson where my mom almost died, from not being in the er, for more than an hour span, no one in the er knew where he was, as well as not answering any calls, when he was needed in the er and no other doctors were available. In 2009.
The head surgeon, who was in the er the next night, let's just say the two of them grew to work together well and I got to see them both one day working together while I was the one needing treatment in the er.
It pleased me to see he learned his lesson, though the hard way, but became a better person out of that instead of quitting.
Doc starts worrying about a law suit
"maybe, who wants to know?!"
"were you the doctor that accidentally killed their patient during a routine physical?" - police
nah bro I was sleeping
The seven stages of being a doctor
The Classic Cycle Of Seven, MD:
• stoicism
• anxiety/burdened
• escapism
• self-reflection
• catastrophization
• catatonia
• relief
and so many times pharmacists prevent that from happening. 😂
THIS ONE HIT SO CLOSE TO HOME 😭
I was thinking more Kuber Ross.
Denial
Anger
Bargaining
Depression
Acceptance
Here's the sequence:
"No, that can't be"
"Dammit, it is. I'll bet it was those screwups in the pharmacy/lab/ER or maybe the nurses/residents/ radiologists, . . . "
"So, as your attorney, I'd say we have an excellent case but juries are unpredictable". (Every last effing one of them always says this. Unfortunately, it's the only time they'll say anything remotely honest.)
"Man, this has been dragging on for 2 years". I go to sleep thinking about it and wake up thinking about it"
"So they want to settle? I can't decide. It feels like surrender but OTOH I can put it behind me."
Correction: An American doctor 😂
I was in a really bad car accident in March. With my concussion finally clearing up I’ve been sending thank you notes to the EMS station and the ER for taking such good care of me.
Not sure if the notes are making it to the right people- the outside envelopes were addressed like
“Hospital ER c/o charge nurse?”
With a short note explaining the accident, date and times, and a plea to get the cards to the right people.
And inside, the individual enveloped cards are addressed like
“Nurse Monica who worked in the ER on DATE and had brown hair.”
“Nurse Hailey who worked in the ER on DATE and was maybe also a student?”
“Paramedic Steven who worked on DATE, and thought PMS was a disease.”
“EMT Chris who worked with Steven and drove the ambulance.”
“The CT Scan guy who was very energetic and played rock and roll from his phone while transporting me. He’s also bald, and makes race car noises while steering the chairs, if any of that helps narrow things down.”
I’m hoping my cards find their way to the people who took such good care of me… and that they like the notes (enough to not mind how I described them😅).
That is so nice of you! The ER staff will likely get them! And he thought PMS was a disease? Hilarious that you included that, he will prob chuckle with that! Glad you are doing better!
Physician assistant here! Can confirm that your descriptions most likely VERY accurate and most likely got to the right people! That’s 95% of the way that I remember people.
Love this ❤
That’s so kind of you. What amazes me is the fact that you have a concussion and remembered such details about the staff.
@@livelife5309 I confess, I wrote it all down in my phone as it was happening. 😅 Otherwise I absolutely would have forgotten.
Near the end of my father’s life, a resident gave him really excellent care, and did a great job of communicating with my mother and me. This was during Covid, so there was limited ability to see my dad in the hospital. I emailed the head of the department’s residency program to let him know how much I appreciated the resident’s work. The head of the residency program said he was very pleased to hear it, and that people very rarely contacted him with compliments. If a doctor that you don’t see regularly does good work, particularly if they’re a junior, let their supervisors know.
I sent a card to my PCP once. She later told me she keeps it in a drawer for rough days when she questions her life choices.
I do this too! My one doctor said they keep it in their office to look at when they're having a rough time.
As a PCP, I also do this-have a folder of nice letters.
I have a card box
Aww 🥰
I'm an acute care therapist. I have kept every card I've ever been sent from patients for the same reason. Thank you for sending.
Neurosurgeon: “I remember everything about the brain I operated on, but I don’t recall any patients, no.”
That sounds like the wildest thing. 😳 Imagine a subset of humans who don't remember people via their name, NOR their face...but they can instantly recognize the structures of your brain! 🤯
I only remember their face, so true 😂
Any surgeon, for that matter, remembers just the organ he operated on, not the patient 😬
@@TreeHairedGingerAleas a nurse i do that with symptoms.
Cant remember names or faces but the Parkinson patient with the appendix, who had low blood pressure post op - yeah i still remember you
It's like when I worked at a vet hospital, and I could recognize dogs and cats and call them by name, but God help me if I needed to recognize their owners or remember their names...
Hugs to all doctors and medical staff. Thanks for your dedication 🤗
This is why I either write or sell things. So much less responsibility. Thanks for caring so much I’ve had way more doctors that care than haven’t (there have been a couple.) Nurses and EMTs have saved my life a couple of times, and doctors have helped me through the diagnosis, recovery period and the follow through. Y’all are amazing.
So I fell down the stairs and got a concussion (aged 24) and after every single medical professional I interacted with remembered me I started to be a little concerned
Post concussion syndrome 3years now. I really started getting nervous when I walked in for my latest physical therapy (shoulder surgery) and every therapist greeted me by name
@@beckybequette8212do you guys also not remember like …ANYTHING anymore? It’s been about 3 years for me too and my memory has been so shot to heck. If I don’t have it written somewhere, it’s gone. I don’t remember conversations from a week or further back. It’s created issues, but I don’t know what to do about it.
@@beckybequette8212I've never heard of that before, so I googled it. I've had about 16 concussions (I don't know the real number anymore) and it's never occurred to me that some of my issues might be related to that. Like, I've had some cognitive decline and I don't think I'm going to live particularly long, but I thought the other symptoms were from other injuries. Thanks for mentioning that. 🙂👍
@@Lynwood_Jackson how in the world did you get 16 concussions. And best of luck with everything
@@shkkrimp7344 LMAO I wanna know that too, ig they're an athlete/gymnast?
As an emergency medicine physician I can attest that those words spark a panic attack every time. Not because of a lawsuit but just thinking that I did something wrong that affected my patient’s wellbeing is frightening!
Paramedics too.....
And Veterinarians as well🥂
That's because you're one of the good ones, who cares about their patients wellbeing. I wish all doctors cared like you do.
100%
ER dpc here too...sheer terror that someone died or had a terrible outcome whenever I hear those words. On the bright side also had patients ask for my card/if I have a clinic and one even come back with coffee and treats for us all after we got them rapid treatment for an inferior MI. I think their family overheard me arguing with the cardiologist that no, the patient did not have a PE, they have an MI and just got shocked out of VT, accept the transfer now please and thank you 💀
I mentioned to my grandmother's previous doctor that she had passed recently. (She'd moved to another place. ) The doctor winced. Her demeanor changed when I thanked her for the care she'd given my grandmother. Showing gratitude goes a long way.
I have a friend who is a nurse(RN); while working in the hospital she saw a patient who had signs of a brain bleed. She had to go to four different doctors in the hospital to FINALLY get one to listen to her. Turned out she was right and her knowledge saved the kid’s life. So for all you doctors who think nurses are stupid, stop it!
You know, it might be good practice to teach both doctors and nurses how to lead coworkers to conclusions in ways that made it seem like their own idea.
Not when you suspect a brain bleed honey
As a therapist, we do this too... and check the local news...
Yep!
Bruh😳
... yikes...
That's way worse 😂
I do this too (not a LT but work in a facility), but tbf I'm not searching for the patients. I work with traumatized kids.... 🤷
This short sums up everything terrifying about being a doctor
agreeee😂
I really wish certain doctors of mine acted like this... unfortunately so many of them don't care at all and I can't figure out why they went into a career in patient care. But the ones that DO CARE - they're AMAZING, a huge positive part of my life and I really hope they never feel like this! LMAO I would be the one calling to thank them, bc I've actually done that! 😂
@@jythoden3523Sometimes you can care as much as possible, try your best, but the problem persist and the patient blames you. That's ok. That's what we're here for. Body and mind.
Well the reason is money. Greed. @@jythoden3523
Tort reform overhaul needs to occur
When I was in training in NYC a few years back, if a patient returned to the ER with the same complaint within 72 hours, he was an immediate admission. 9 times out of 10, he was out within 2 days max, but there were those rare instances when our crock had real pathology, and was saved because of medical prudence. The REAL words you don't want to hear, especially at 4AM is "Good morning, sorry, I've got a hit for you." I took a lot of heat from my superiors who could have hurt me badly, but when I was ER Chief, I almost never allowed an admission to the floor between 4:30-7AM. I wanted a fresh team that could see and think straight doing the admission, even in the days when we were told we were to clear the ER and not hold patients. I think I saved a life or two for my slovenly medical care. God, I love medicine and being a physician!
Thank you for your work and solid ethic!
My husband loved practicing too. As my last offering of love, I let him give me a cortisone shot in my elbow when he saw it was hurting. I had one long before (not administered by him) and it hurt crazy! But I prayed I could endure whatever his shaking hands could mange but to my surprise t didn’t hurt at all. I figured he must’ve missed the mark but, it worked and has never hurt again, 11 yrs later. ❤️
He was so pleased and happy to help.
This is also true as a nurse. Just say the thing please, don't leave me rethinking every decision I made for the last week.
Right$
It's worse when the patient hits you with "Oh hey doc, you remember me?"
Sir we both know I don't, so please don't make me lie about it
Would you prefer the alternative: the patient you very, very much remember?
I say all the time that I only remember the patients I dread and the ones I love, and I don’t love very many…
One of the docs I work with literally said, "Oh, I don't remember names. Tell me their injury and I'll remember."
I work in the ER, so what I get a lot of is “I was just here last week for the same thing. It’s all in my chart on the computer”.
Dude, I wasn’t here when you came here last week, and to be honest that’s a whole different screen on Epic than I’m on now, so why don’t we just treat today as a brand new event, eh?
@@Soma2710 Even better when they were in for the same thing in a different department or hospital, but still expect it to be in their “chart”
Having done medical interpretation, I get that same feeling too when your supervisor calls and says “hey, remember that patient you interpreted for last week?” Gets you super nervous. 😂
-Hey, remember that long call you had last week?
-When is my last day?
-What? No, we just wanted to know why it was so long for billing purposes.
-Oh.
Not the same at all. 😂
This would be me as a physician’s scribe. Unlike the great Jonathan I’m a ball of nerves.
My father - obstetrics and gynaecology, oncology specialist - had some patients who were so grateful they were still sending him Christmas cards decades later. He did get lots of presents - whisky or chocolate - too. (This was another time and another place; there are probably rules about accepting gifts nowadays.) Something about having a longed-for baby just seemed to bring out the gratitude.
My schoolfriend always complained about the difference in patient attitudes - her father was in orthopaedics. Something about being badly damaged in an accident seemed to leave patients grumpy rather than grateful...
I was told by an emergency room doctor to go home and relax, from having terrible chest pain. No tests had been performed, just a chest xray at this point. He said i was too young to have heart issues. I knew in my soul he was wrong, i didn’t know what was wrong but i knew something was happening. I was having an aortic dissection ascending and descending. Thank God i didn't listen to him. Ive heard hes no longer head of that e.r. ♡
I'm a dog groomer and had a client call about their old dog who was a regular of mine. He said "I'm sorry, she's not gonna make it."
I teared up and said "oh my gosh I'm so, so sorry. She is such a good dog."
Awkward pause followed by, "so since we can't make this appointment tomorrow can we reschedule her for next week?"
was it particularly mature for its age?
Well, if they’re gonna phrase it like that…😂
"I'm dying..."
"to see you! Can't wait"
@@UmbrumE40 yes she was 14
I have called our groomer 3 times about our 3 cockers passing away and not needing the appointment! Sucks!😭 They were all rescues, they couldn't have been more loved! We were the 5th home for Sadie. She went everywhere with us! All so spoiled, so they lived the best life. Finally! They had all been so abused!
Not only doctors. I worked in the healthcare and these words would make me break out in a cold sweat everytime.
Thanks to all the super medical professionals here who carry our health needs with you, blessings for your care. 🙏🕊️
Mood whiplash so severe, doc's gonna need an emotional chiropractor.
This was so moving,perfect music too. Thank you.
Doctors don't go to chiroquacktors
which in return knows a lot about malpractise law suits
@@mustang8206i hear surgeons go to the emotional ones, breaks their ability to feel.
Psychology, Neurology, or Neurosurgery? One of ‘em ought to know how to fix your emotions. OR, if you’re an attending, pick a resident to berate
Me! Every single time I hear this question. I carry my "why I suck" book right next to the "I need to study more, but I don't know when because I have 2 small kids and 2 jobs" book
😂😂lol😂😂
Bless you🙏🕊️
@@lulumoon6942 thanks
Actually, there's a growing body of evidence that suggests 1. Stress & anxiety adversely affect memory formation, and also 2. Just having little kids Around makes anyone demonstrably more scatterbrained, irrespective of whether that person is their caregiver or not. So, perhaps #3 is unsurprising: whilst being the caregiver of little children, one's mind actually makes fewer efforts to even encod3 LT memories! It's like, the brain is thinking, "well, I'm not going to be qble.to remember this crud any way, and nobody around me will either, sooo ... who cares? And why bother?"
In sum: don't be so hard on yourself; your doing the L-rd's work. Effort spent remembering are better deployed on more immediately-necessary tasks, like making sure nobody runs into speeding traffic. 😂
😊@@NotAStanAccount
this is why i try to be very nice to any doctor that isnt criminally negligent 😂
Nice to see a doctor caring about patients. The real response would be "do I need a lawyer?"
I like to think these reactions mean you're a good doctor because it means you understand the gravity of your position and take it seriously.
That’s also true in vet med, for nurses too. I remember calling into my hospital in a day off for something completely innocuous, and the CSR who answered was like, “oh great, I have you on the phone! Dr Blahblahblah wants to talk to you about the ketamine dose you used for the patient yesterday, please hold”
First, I froze- like “What the hell was wrong with my ketamine dose?”
Next, I recalculated all the math from memory- got the same number.
Next googled on my phone if there might be some random concentration of ketamine out there that might make someone accidentally overdose a patient. Nope.
Next did all the math on paper and with a calculator instead of in my head. Same number.
FINALLY the damn doctor gets on the phone and says “Hey that anesthetic plane was gorgeous, and the recovery was smooth- can you put that protocol in the computer and teach it to the new nurses?”
I was pretty much dead at that point from holding my breath the whole time. It’s good to know I’m not the only one whose stomach drops instantly at a totally innocent (complimentary, even!) comment.
Yes….I’d math til my head fell off, then hear, you did a great job. The relief you feel…..priceless.
Oh my word….how true. I have been a practising nurse for 50 years and it still gets me……
My mom is a nurse too (should be retired, but doesn't want too).
I don't remember her being afraid of a malpractice. She's more like: "of course, I couldn't help THIS patient, because I was already saving the OTHER one who had a cardiac arrest! Hire more nurses!"
Respecte for all the doctors who hold responsibilities and take risks to make patients feel better ❤
Oh, this cuts deep. So true, so damned true. I'm a newborn hospitalist and would (have reacted) the same way. I had a call like that a few months ago, but the patient was fine... as I found out after my anxiety attack. We carry the worry about our sickest patients, daily
Yes! And when you hear those words you die a little inside
You write very well for a newborn!
❤
@Sara76779 yes , that's it exactly. The fear of missing something, and hearing the dreaded words, from one of our Ped ED attendings: did you send this baby home a few days ago ..? All of us who take care of patients, nurses and doctors both, dread this. Pharmacists (although they more often catch mistakes), RT's, xray techs, everyone who touches patients in some way bears this burden.
I still wouldn't want to do anything else, though.
Please don't cultivate anxiety attacks ...
Please try to NOT be afraid because anxiety & panic attacks can spiral and when they start this involuntarily you might suffer this dreadful physical & psychological pain (which you cannot control either !). All this is NO fun ! 😢
Recently found closure for a nurse that let me suffer in pain for hours for saying I was making up my symptoms. I have been reassured that many checks have been put in place to make sure no patient goes through what I went through.
Im so sorry. Hope your doing better.
My doctor was willing to let my son die for his paycheck while i was in delivery.
Refused to come in to the hospital bc he was too tired and wouldn’t give permission to the hospital to do anything (so he’d get paid)-only came in at the very last second when I had an emergency c section (code blue) and they could obviously override him and have the doctors there operate on me.
I am so sorry that you were treated that way by that nurse. I'm glad to hear changes have been made. I''d like 3 minutes with her or him.
@@momentsformoms9467he almost let both you and your son die, absolutely insane! Should be fired... thankfully you both survived.
@@theresas740Yes, unfortunately some nurses are narcissistic di..ds who really need a reality check on their egotistical approach.
Wow, I am really aorry to hear that you & "momentsformoms" went through that kind of stuff. Hope you all, and "m4m'zes" son are all better now, and hope no patients ever DO have to endure such rotten indignities. Where I live (in United States), health care is phenomenally monetized & corporatized -- as a result, decent doctors providing good patient care are deeply disincentivezed in favour of the Almightly Dollar (don't even get me started, lol !!)
Idk WHY YT isn't getting these into my algorithm until 3-5d later (& no notifications) but I NEEDED this today. Loving the "why I suck journal." Kind of glad I'm only just now seeing it bc it definitely made a difference in my demeanor. Thanks, kid. ❤😂
Unfortunately, there are a scary amount of doctors my family has come across that I personally think need to be removed from their practices. Certain family members whose word was not taken seriously have too many things affecting them after the fact when if the doctors had just believed them they’d probably be okay.
No. They cannot care for life. Thus forgive them. They have a hard job.
You think so? Well that's settled then. Clearly you know everything, certainly more than people who went to med school for 4-5 years
Doctors can be awful sometimes, I’m sorry :[
As former hospital secretary I thought the words were "Doctor I needs your signature for the medical records! The public prosucutor have demanded them!"
Just looked up how the legality of demanding medical records is in the USA. It is distopian...
As a current medical secretary in sweden the patients only call their doctor because their medication ran out.
If they want to complain they call the media
@@mattep74 Wow ... Sweden used to be cool ... now, it's like the more I hear, the worse it sounds. Stay strong, friend, and hope things'll improve for you all soon.
Thank you for your commitment to the art of comedy, specifically in the eating of half a tub of icecream to get the perfect shot
😂I agree about commitment to the art - this whole video is very clever - but I can assure you that no ice cream was harmed in the making of this scene: as an amateur actor I know theatre is magic, and props are often not what they seem.
@@xdashlydia wellll, you can spill it here! Obviously, we're all among friends in YT comments section .... so what are some of these secrets?
Wait, don' t tell me -- that's not really ice cream, it's just Freakishly Fotogenic Crisco; is that right?
omg thank you for this. Cathartic as all can be. Heard these words on Friday afternoon on the phone… as a resident…
My heart breaks for the good doctors out there.
It's the same with pharmacy, trust me 😂 Things that keep you awake at night. Do you remember this specific prescription from anywhere between two hours to 10 days ago? Did you hand out the correct medication? Was there a formal error you didn't see? Should you have gotten an approval from the insurane company first? Was the dosage correct? Did you overlook a deadly drug interaction?
I once had a pharmacist hand me a prescription for Prozac.
Me: What’s this?
Pharm: Prozac
Me: My doctor ordered Prilosec, not Prozac
Pharm: turned extremely pale and snatched the bottle out of my hand
I wonder how many nightmares they had after that 🤔😂
@jadedbyfire imagine if it had been in suppository form. 😊
@jadedbyfire Now, look: if DOCTORS COULD ONLY LEARN TO WRITE LEGIBLY 😠 !! Chicken scratch seems to be a requirement of the MD degree 🙄🤣 .
(So says the DVM, haughtily...who, in fact, has appallingly illegible handwriting 🫤😖😂 )
Im a scrub nurse and my anesthesia friends are the same, they’re getting new grey hairs with every “are you sure there’s isn’t a fentanyl ampoule missing?”
This is why I like my family owned pharmacy over the big box one we left. The previous one had been cutting hours like crazy and the staff was getting to the point that they really didn't care, or were doing their best to send any trouble up to management since they needed to feel the weight of the shit decisions. I get it, solidarity, but also... Bail.
I had a hernia repaired a little over a year ago. The surgeon hit a blood vessel during the procedure and it was difficult to get the bleeding under control. Apparently they had to stop the bleeding 3 times. The surgery took twice as long as planned. The surgeon was forthcoming about what had happened. He said I was going to be in far more pain and have a much longer recovery than I was planning on going in. He was very apologetic. I told him I appreciate the apology, but things happen. He was shocked. The reality is that we're all human. Did he make a mistake? Maybe. Was the blood vessel in a place one wouldn't expect it to be? Maybe. Who knows. It could have been much worse. He said that patients rarely see things that way if something goes wrong, or even if things go perfectly and they experience more pain than they had assumed they would feel. Dude - you cut 3 holes in me for a laproscopic surgery. I'm just glad that was an option versus a much larger incision and much longer recovery time. Was I happy about it? No. But I wasn't pissed at him for it. Things happen.
There are a lot of golddiggers out there with their attorney on speed dial who would sue him in a second.
He was courageous in being so open and honest in admitting what happened in surgery.
You were safe enough to hear and understand the situation, and accept his apology.
You are both men of emotional maturity and integrity. 😊
I always like to consider how I would have faired had it been 100-150 years ago. I wouldn't have made it past my early 20s..
@@greeksurferdude I wouldn't have existed in the first place because my mom would have died in childbirth with my sister! She couldn't give birth naturally due to PCOS and apparently the first ever successful C-section was in the late 1800's in my country. I doubt the odds were good during the early 1900's.
You’re a good person. God bless you.❤
I had a doctor who lied about a procedure. I wish she had just been honest instead, because my condition became deadly due to her omission of truth. It was unethical. If she had admitted her mistake immediately, I wouldn't have been happy, but I would have understood. All procedures carry risk. Even doctors are human.
I always thank my caregivers: doctors, nurses, clerks. therapists, techs, dietary aids, Environmental, transporters -- all of them, plus the safety officer on the way out. There are no unimportant people in hospitals and clinics.
All new grads need to see this. Nothing makes your heart sink more than those words. I've been there. Immediate imposter syndrome kicks in. I don't think anyone has more of these experiences than our ER colleagues. Thanks for this!
I quickly learned in the ED to never start a question like that lol
Also in the pharmacy. My heart stops every time.
Literally 😢😢 every time they call up and say...I just bought my medication from you...
hey at least you care. I've met so many shit doctors, pharmacist always care more.
As a retired RN, this is why I'm always sure to thank my physicians up front for their care. Everyone needs to have a little boost in their routine day from time to time.
You kidding me, as a fellow nurse, no one needs it more than us!!!!!!! Noone is more overworked, underpaid and under-appreciated than us!!! And no one does SHIT to help or show the slightest bit of appreciation or admiration for our godforsaken unhuman efforts. No wonder this world is hell.
@@Ice.muffin Not saying that nurses don't deserve a truckload of thanks for what we do in the trenches. We clearly do! When I am the patient, I always try to thank everyone who is in contact with me, no matter who they are, from the housekeeping staff to the nurses to the doctors. If they are rude or uncaring, I will mention it to their supervisors to get the behavior corrected. I've even fired a few of the doctors on my cases, which shakes them up and hopefully will cause them to reassess their behavior. I've labored in the trenches and have worked in administration as the house officer, so I have a unique view on how it all works. The bottom line to treat everyone as I want to be treated as a human being in an often-alien environment of high stress. Please beware of Burnout which, unfortunately, can be all too common in our field. You are important and probably very good at what you do but do remember to take care of yourself as tenderly as you take care of your patients. Yeah, the administration can be simply awful to deal with and patients can be rude and unthankful but try to look for the little things too that makes it all worthwhile. A job of yours well done and a simple thank you from a grateful patient. Thank you for what you do. Take care and be well.
thank you❤❤
@@Ice.muffin true all healthcare workers should say this more often to each other
Also an RN here…….can’t say it enough….document,document,document….sometimes the doctor doesn’t want to listen to your concerns as the nurse……if it’s documented then the doctor can’t come back and put the blame on you.I practice on the idea that I as the nurse am my patients advocate and I won’t give up until he listens to me.
Why I suck journal 😂😂😂. Poor guy. Thank you, all medical personnel that are saving lives❤
If you’re a patient who has had a positive experience with a doctor, a nurse, a medical assistant, an ultrasound technician, a pharmacist, literally anyone working in healthcare please reach out to them and let them know! It is not a bother and is often the first time someone has thanked them in lord knows how long. Caring for people when they are sick or hurting is such an honor but it takes SUCH a huge emotional toll on healthcare workers because we often bear the brunt of your frustrations and we completely understand it’s hard to be nice when you’re not doing well! But every once in a while we get a genuine thank you and it makes our entire year ❤️
Welcome to every day in IT. "Remember that device you glanced at in passing two years ago? Yeah, they say it hasn't worked right since then."
Nothing spikes my adrenaline and cortisol levels like when a rando pings you on slack with a ticket reference number "do you remember this?"
The worst is that you looked at and fixed some unrelated, minor problem with a program and for that you're told it's your job to analyze and fix some big hairy problem. But you were the last one to touch it, so now you OWN IT, 😭 and you have to drop everything you're doing and spend hours or days on something that may have a nearly fatal design flaw.
I was just about to leave a comment regarding IT. The Dr.’s of computers. Remember those servers you updated last week? Ever since you replaced that hard drive… Are you sure you verified those database back ups? Remember a couple weeks ago when you worked on a ticket for me?
@@lynnebucher6537Of course if you're a female in IT it's obviously you. The fact they are using a different way out of date operating system to everyone else and doesn't support the device they bought is totally irrelevant.
"Have you tried turning it off and on again?"
This hit harder than any sketch you've ever done. How is that one question so triggering 😭
A doctor’s daily grind is at such a higher level of responsibility than any job I’ve ever had to deal with that I have put them all on a pedestal labelled ‘Superhuman’. This video served to get me thinking of them as people who share the same worries and concerns that we all have.
At first, I thought the call was going to be the dreaded "bounce back." Then all the other stuff you dredged up was perfect. Typical physician feelings of inadequacy, guilt trips, etc, ad nauseum. The "why I suck" journal was a stellar touch!
One of my mentors would sneak up behind me in the operating room when I was administering anesthesia to some desperately ill patient. I'd be sweating bullets, and he'd quietly say, "If you kill this little old lady, you're goin' to jail!"
At least one of us would laugh. He was a prior Vietnam-era Marine Corps helicopter pilot. I think getting shot at too much warps a person's sense of humor.
Any hospital worker that interacts with patient directly. It's the most terrifying thing to hear.
I’m a veterinarian and saw a new patient with a client I hadn’t seen before. Except I had seen him, and couldn’t place how I knew him.
Fast forward a week later to me seeing my GP in person for the first time since Covid (about 3-4 years!) and I was like “ooooohhh” 😂
He seemed much more concerned about the conflict of interest than me. Like, man I just made a couple follow up recommendations for monitoring your dogs urine protein 😅 nbd
😂😂
Kind of feels that way in the sense of "oh no, why are you saying it like that?" in the pharmacy too just cause you end up seeing these patients so often and build a connection with them. It especially hurts over time when you see them in person and can tell their health is declining (such as dementia getting worse) or you start seeing their children pick up meds for them instead of the patient themselves.
I thank my oncologist, the nurses at the infusion clinic and especially the schedulers. They all work very hard not to waste the time i have left. I love them.
As a physician I can say your content is nailing it!
Aplicable to nurses too 😂
Paramedics too......
For real because we're the ones carrying out most of the orders to treat the patient.
Just do what a doctor tells you, doesn't sound too hard
@@maddogmorgan1 this comment is a clear example that you have no idea about what is to work as a nurse 🤦🏻♀️
I try hard to spread "good gossip" and when someone helps me, I rat them out to their boss, usually via email. It really is true that people are much faster to complain than to praise or thank. Also when I practiced I tried to compliment and reinforce the new nurses when they did particularly well.
Being a nurse feels like this sometimes as well.
Hats off for all good Doctors nurses and all the ones that care for unwell people ❤❤
Jonathan would never allow you to make a mistake in patient care, you’ve nothing to worry about! 👍
I can confirm. I don't permit mistakes
I absolutely love your skits. A nurse 42 years. Yes read House of God years ago when working ICU at the VA. I am also a vet. I relate to so many situations you put up. You got me laughing so hard. You are like a medical version of Saturday Night Live. Hated working full moons too. It seemed like I worked all
of them.
RN 38 years, still working. LOVED House of God!
I need to thank the doctor that FINALLY believed me after years of being told “it’s all in your head.” Put a feeding tube in me and I finally got above 100lbs and stopped losing muscle mass!!! It turned out to be a very rare disease, not “just anxiety.”
Apparently it's nearly impossible for doctors to lose their license or go to prison. Getting sued is one thing, but the law has practically zero say in the licensing, that's up to a medical board full of other doctors who treat it very much so as a boys club.
I wish my doctors cared like that when they get it wrong - you can argue for a scan they say is unnecessary, find an actual problem, and they just shrug and act like nobody could have known.
Colleague: Remember that patient you saw last week?
The ophthalmologist: 😭 😨 😱
Colleague: The patient just wanted to say, “Hi,” to Jonathan.
😂
to Jonathan lol 😂
😂😂 First of all, Dr...
🗣️🗣️ GET RID OF THAT JOURNAL!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
If you feel genuinely bad about potentially hurting and/or not helping patients, it actually makes you a genuine doctor, and not at all a bad one. EVERY single "urologist" I've met here in Canada doesn't care at all for their patients by constantly refusing to adhere to other treatment/testing options whereas all of their "treatment" and "testing" options have been proven time and again ad nauseum of not achieving anything whatsoever for their patient's quality of life. Their blatant financial conflicts of interest go completely undetected for obvious societal reasons versus other health issues/ailments: it's as embarrassing as it is simultaneously a private matter of utmost importance. Bless all genuine doctors who vowed to help patients instead of vowing to take advantage of patients.
One of the worst parts of being in the medical field. So anxiety producing!
😂😂😂😂 not Enya accuratrly portraying every emotion
I thought that was the best part!
The song is by the singer Enya and is called "Only Time" for those who want to know.
Your "why I suck journal" is markedly smaller than mine... unless that's volume 60-something?
I'm not sure the malpractice thing has gone through my head, and I KNOW prison never crossed my mind, but I'm a pediatrician, and we're much less likely to get sued. I'm much more concerned I'm going to hear that they didn't like me or *gasp* they're disappointed in the care I provided.
The world’s best dr is dual certified in pediatrics and internal medicine - Dr. Gary Goldstein - I hope you’re getting some much deserved time off!
Palliative care and hospice NP here. It is so much more than morphine and Ativan. I am actively trying not to hasten anything along which is what a lot of the population thinks I do and is difficult when there are 15 competing comorbidities. I think about malpractice and prison often, lol.
I always thought I was the only one who panicked when hearing those words.
“You’re being sued.” Is my favorite.
Here in the Ukogbani we have group practices where you are unlikely to see the same doctor twice, indeed you are lucky to get an appointment to see a doctor at all.
Veterinarian here. This is relatable😱
Ugh, this terrifying feeling never goes away.
"... that patient you saw last week." Like he had only one patient all week.
I wish I had more doctors to thank in my lifetime.
Got an email from a colleague with subject line: patient at [hospital] last night.
Did this exact thing.
Body of message: do you have their MRN so I can finish my note?
i would flipping FLIP
I hope you did yell at them
I feel the same when my boss calls me into his office. Even if its just to see what the schedule looks like...😊
Gotta love the “Why I suck” journal.😂😂😂
Glad yours is confined to one notebook! Hope.
This is why healthcare is so expensive and lawyers win
I totally do this to my anesthesiologists after calling their patients to check on results of their nerve blocks.
Ohh, that's just me being terrified I made a mistake in my research and so the grant I was given is wasted and then googling under what conditions the uni can kick me out 😅 thank you, doc
This fear of lawsuites must stop. We dont't practice medicine for the patients anymore but for the laywers. It's so sad and infuriating.
Nurse here. I laughed at this. Then I CURSED the "get money culture". Love you man, so sorry.
It’s not just doctors 😂 I’m an optician and the phrase “so, do you remember that one patient…?” Triggers me so bad 😅 My coworker says opticians always end up needing a flask of the hard stuff by the end of those particularly hard days.
Truer words (or no words) could be spoken, you did forget waking in the middle of the night thinking you forgot to do something!
That feel when Risk Management contacts you in any way, shape, or form.
doctors who care are really cool. i could never deal with that pressure
Veterinarians- totally true!! One reason there is a group called Not One More Vet. Too many vets committing suicide after bad Google reviews or complaints.
Crazy that in the USA, you see last year residents talking about which hospital offers better "malpractice insurance" as part of job benefits negotiation... Good salary? Ok , good salary+ great malpractice insurance. Offer accepted sir! 🤣
Love this.
Any doctor that is that conscientious is a keeper, in my opinion as a former Shock Trauma nurse.
Had a friend go to the doc saying she didn't feel well. She was told there's nothing wrong, she passed that night of a massive heart attack.
We would have also accepted: "I need you to complete a prior auth"
Oh, dear god, PA, yes! 😱😱😱