Please Start Matching Your Husbands Energy!!!
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They make it sooo easy to be child free and single by choice.
So true y'all better start charging surrogate prices n dip when he really wants u to put ur body through that bs lol
When people say Adoption is expensive they often mean buying a Baby from a surrogate.
Human trafficking.
Exactly
A wise man once said they are the birth control! 😂
And they try and threaten us that if we don’t lower our standards we will end up alone 😂 sir the real punishment is ending up with a man
Clock that tea ☕️
This....👏👏.
Yup this is why someone say low my standards i higher more
It really is.
I FELT THIS…
(now read slowly)
From the depthss, of my soul.
What you do is,
you wake yo azz up early? Leave the house and just don’t come back until the next day, Happy Mother’s Day.
I agree
This…. 🗣️
Vanish ✨
And if possible, also save up for mother's day so that you can have a one party blow out for yourself.
That was my first thought. Go spend the day off with other mothers in the same position.
"Married women get less sleep than a single mother." Idk why this didn't hit me until now.
😳😳😳 Holy _hell…_
I will *NEVER* get married.🙅🏾♀️🙅🏾♀️👎🏾
Y'all have 2 take responsibility 4 what u allow. When I was married I got plenty of sleep. I don't do domestic duties period.
@@theteleisewilliamsexperience was married?
@@theteleisewilliamsexperience
Sometimes you won't have a choice. When you were married if your husband called you with an emergency, you were expected to show up for him. As single women, our phones aren't ringing nor will there be anyone knocking on our doors.
@@Tigerlily_Fresh Emergencies I get it, but please realize that everything is not an emergency & it is usually pretty clear what is & what isn't. Like she said, match their energy. I'm pretty sure the husband isn't running home every time you call for an emergency. Act accordingly & let him learn to get through it. We micromanage entirely too much & that is our main problem. Chill out with the false sense of urgency like he does. They'll be alright. Most of the time, we have the choice, we just care so we don't execute it. I'm not saying stop caring. I'm just saying most of the time they are good. Stop stressing, because when THEY stress they'll just leave the house & go do something for themselves. You have that option as well. You just don't want to take it.
If he wanted to he would. If he cared, he’d care.
Period. No ifs, no ands, no buts
Again…this is supposed to be BETTER than cats 🐈 and dogs 🐶 😤
Exactly 👏🏾👏🏾
Dogs always remember to spend time with you 🥰
And plants. Don't forget about the plants. 🪴🌵💐🌻🌺
@@Tigerlily_Freshat least plants grow with the love n care it gets humans not so much
I choose the bears, the cats, the plants, and the PEACE. In Women's name, AWOMEN! ❤
This is so true couple years ago when I turned 30 my partner and I were struggling financially but I used the last of my money to get us some groceries. We get home and a couple hour later he ask me if I was going to cook I just looked at him and said yeah I got it. I made the pasta the way I like it with the amount of seasoning I like and made the pasta al denta and everything then he complained that he didn't like it made that way. I told him I didn't care it was my birthday and since I had to cook I cooked it for me not him. He was very upset about it. And said I didn't ask him to do it Then when it was his birthday I didn't bake him a cake like I normally do. He asked me why. I told him he didn't ask me to. He had this dumbfounded look on his face like I'm the only one allowed to say that.
They act dumb when that energy is matched. What's good for the goose is good for the gander.
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The relationship is already over when this behaviour occurs. Just leave. Silently, because a man with a bruised Ego can become dangerous
MAN this girl is gangster
THIS. I don’t understand why women are so afraid of these males.
Hes never going to learn, just leave him.
Exactly. In order to learn it, he has to care first. He DGAF.
True men only learn through heartbreak and even then it’s not a guarantee
@@zlatkajupeafter a woman “break his heart” they just use that for an excuse to dog out every other woman he meets and use his fuck up as an excuse 😂
Once the women start matching their energy the men leave. They know their worth
@@Slw1111the funny thing is you will know they DGAF while still dating yet these women ignore all the red flags and get married and have kids with them. 🤦🏽♀️
7:03 “They’re not stupid, they’re just mean.” 💯 pretty much sums up the vast majority of men
That was truly spot on!
And y'all are... WHAT, exactly?
@@christopherbrown5409 nothing like these no-good husbands that’s for sure
@@user-br3ty9rt1m because every woman's perfect on the Internet, right?
@@christopherbrown5409 Who said that? Sounds like you’re putting words in my mouth. Very masculine of you.
If this happened to you, wake up bright and early and LEAVE! Go to breakfast, then a spa (if they're open). Then go to lunch. Treat yourself to the thing you've been having your eye on for a while. Then go see a movie or visit a museum. Take a walk in the park. Just stay gone all day and don't come home until dinnertime or after. Treat yourself like you wished he would.
Amazing advice!! Wish I’d done that. I got a divorce instead 🥰
YES!!!!! 👍
Exactly... However... I suggest to NOT come home until the kids are tucked away in bed!... PERIOD!
Be gone BEFORE they get up... and return AFTER they have gone BACK to bed!
THIS. This is the way. Self care is self love, and once you treat yourself in a certain manner, neglect and bare minimum is no longer tolerable.
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This is why I believe that we should do an international women's day off. I like the concept that Iceland women use to teach men about their value they took a day off and the men saw the chaos that ensued from them taking that day off. they took a day off, no care for kids, no house work. The men had to do everything including feeding the children all day and what ended up happening is that the grocery stores ran out of hot dogs and hot dog buns because this is what the men decided they were going to feed the kids all day. The man who had to take the kids to work you can hear the kids all in the background especially for the radio stations. The country lost so much money from that one day that they started creating legislations to make things more Equitable for women in that country and this is what we need to do on the international scale
No man no kids =everyday is a day off and besides one day off is not enough for anyone, I say 15days off the man takes over then switch/swap. Men need to take care of their children just as much as the woman does.
I am so down with that. Iceland, babe you did that
As messed up as this may be, i understand why some women leave their children and go.
Exactly what I think everytime I see some mess like this. Not like men care whenever they up and leave whole families behind. So if women are matching energy, technically they should be able to up and leave their ungrateful families behind as well. 🤷🏾♀️
Yep. She can easily start over.
Enough women do this and men are going to shape up or stop raw doging.
That’s not messed up. More women should do it. I bet MOST seriously consider it but stay out of guilt. Men never feel guilty about leaving their families behind.
People act so shocked and surprised and get mad at her despite the fact in most cases she was worked thin and super stressed with no help. But literally will be okay with men abandoning their families because they believe the woman "ran them off" when in reality he was avoiding his responsibilities.
This would be me if I had kids look under the single moms song guy comments it's men complaining about how the mother left them a single dad but not how she got tired of doing it alone n probably decided it's now his turn talking about how they don't ask for child support n how some started over by getting a nother husband n kids lol they said they don't whine like single moms but they are whining too by leaving those comments oh n they said that single moms are embarrassing n should be shammed but single dad's r heroes and honored by society for stepping up and when I said single moms are responsible parents they cursed me out n said deal with it like how r u a hero for doing the bare minimum for ur kids then got mad when I said I would never have their kids
I am childless, but my girl friend had a lazy husband. She divorced him and didn't ask for anything other than split custody. No money, not even the house. Now she has her own place, her own money, and free days to herself when he has the kids. She is HAPPY. Happy af.
This is why I made my ex husband a single father , 🤣 😭 🤣 They wasn't getting ready to shorten my life! May the force be with them 🖖🏾
So did you abandon your children to live with their dad?
good, finally, women has to start leaving kids with fathers more often.
@@FoundSheep-ANdid she stutter?
@@FoundSheep-AN If he was the one who pushed for kids, then he got what he asked for. Why are you crying for him? also, fathers should KNOW how to take care of kids and they shouldn't be able to weasel out of it by going "I'm so useless!" Nah to that nonsense.
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When you're not a mother, you get to sleep in everyday. Don't become a mother. Problem solved. ,
This is the real tea.
Yup 👍🏽
_Or_ a wife, either.
B/c _that’s_ just a dependent you also have to *sleep* w/.😒😒😒
Sorry, my issue with your comment isn't how exhausting parenting is. I agree with you there. But,you are forgetting the grown man-child who is supposed to do his part of the child care and home,but isn't. When I was married to my ex,he was a giant baby... King baby and he made life miserable. My son was a colicky baby and that was brutal, but I didn't conceive him alone and I was meant to co-parent with his father,but instead I had an infant and the toddler who was whiny,screaming,raging,and a pig. I did wind up rearing my profoundly disabled son alone because Goddess forbid my ex would ever be an adult, though he convinced me prior to our marriage that he was absolutely passionate about becoming a husband and father. So it isn't just about the kids.
I'm a mother and I sleep in 🤷🏾♀️. Sleeping in is not the only reason 2 stay carefree. He'll u don't need a reason not 2 have kids do what makes u happy.
its good advice but dont bother JUST DIVORCE HIM!!!
Exactly. The way I’m so sick of playing men’s games. It’s so much admin even when dating they are willing fully obtuse. Acting stupid when it comes to everything, no ma’am, I have officially signed out 😮💨
We can do both.
Spend the day on his dime. Leave early and come back late. Take yourself out to the spa, get your favorite treat or fragrance. Come back and rest and let him pay the bills until you’re ready to separate permanently
@@Nitra813safely? Without fights? Men r not known for taking cr. Unlike women.
My father never got my mother or us kids even one gift. Never. But my sister and I did our best to make her have a good day. My father got upset with me because he left a nasty message on my voicemail about how much he hates opera when I’m an opera singer, so Father’s Day was in 2 weeks, and I completely ignored him. He went crying to his girlfriend about it, and I told her exactly what he did and why he got the same treatment he gave me.
Absolutely insane how selfish these men can be. They want to be showered with gifts and love and respect but can't offer the same respect to their partners and children.....
@@deathdragoncat This is why I believe in reciprocity. Treat people how they treat you. You won’t feel used or exhausted cuz you no longer feel the need to please or go above and beyond for those who don’t do the same for you.
@@tiahnarodriguez3809 👍🏾 In my experience, and, I'm sure you've experienced the same... People *hate* you, when you treat them the way that they treat you. And, I'm not bothered by it, either. 💯
I treated myself at a restaurant on Mother's day...while there I was reminded of the video, we all witnessed on tik tok with the guy eating peacefully by himself while the mother struggled with three girls and trying to eat. Well, I saw two families and both "dads" did the same thing. One man let his wife dish out the food to her three sons, while he ate and the other man, let his wife feed their baby from her plate when the food arrived while both men ate peacefully and watched the game. The man with the three sons? well, he waited till the wife left ahead of him so he couldn't be seen with her, it was obvious. At this point ladies. Please don't get married or have children and if you are divorced, stay divorced. Keep your peace.
Married people (especially those with small children) are the brand ambassadors of the 4B lifestyle, even if they don't realize it! 😂😂😂
For shame
Thank you for sharing this. I hope you had a wonderful meal.
Those poor women…Smdh 🤦🏾♀️
Oh, that thing where mothers can't have a meal in peace, but fathers can. I remember a relative bemoaning how her husband gets to eat in peace but if she asks him to hold the baby so she can enjoy her meal afterwards, he ends up hovering over her with the baby and asking repeatedly when she'd be done that she has no choice but to rush her food.
Listen if you already know that he’s disinterested in doing nothing for you on Mothers Day, birthdays etc guess what….. serve him those nice divorce papers. I’ve seen men still do the same thing after you’ve matched his energy multiple times. Your not going to teach him a damn thing 😂 Save yourself the energy and be rid of him 😊
Men are energy farmers. They will definitely come up with ways to be more cruel 😂
Going all out on Father’s Day after being ignored?? LMAO
If we don’t laugh we gonna cry 😂
Right. These women are cray cray😂😂😂
I have one child. I still get to sleep in, I don't treat my child like life revolve around her. When she was little she use to wake me up. So I started waking her up real early and making her stay up all day to see how it feels. She don't do anymore I can tell u that. 😂😂😂
I get my full rest 😂😂
As far as mothers day, I dont pay it no mind. I wanted my child so being with her on that day dont bother me. I am not with her father so i dont have to worry about being disappointed or not appreciated. ❤❤
Yall be safe
Sounds like a good life!
@@ellegmye I was a single mother even when me and her dad was together. Which is why I chose to leave. I'm already doing it alone why not cut out the extra with him. Children are not for everyone and I respect and support that. For those that have Children I respect and support them too. My sister has two boys and I use to watch them for her when they was young. She would come home and EVERYTIME they would be sleep. I would make them take a nap cuz they would start fighting... I was like nope not today. 😂😂😂 they was well rested Children 💀💀
On this past Mother's Day, my daughter made hotel reservations for us, we had a spa, dinner together. Girl time! It was great! My husband was like yall leaving ? Yeah mane , go and turn corners we're out!
I've been saying this for years since the beginning of pink pill content. Match these guys energy or even better show him the door. They only understand actions and not words. We're tired.
Gotta show them true equality, because it truly isn't something they can't validly argue without showing disgusting morales or "energy"
Yes they only understand actions and consequences
I swear, I was thinking that very same thing! “What ‘father’s day’?🤨 You ain’t _my_ daddy!”✌🏾
🎶 “I’m not scaaared of lions and tigerrrrs and bearrrs🎶🎶….
Jazmine tried to tell us….. Choose the bear🗣️
😂😂😂😂
Gurl the rabbit hole goes deeper jazmine singing those cords is jamzmine from aladin all grown up after he showed her the world
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Maria, this is a good topic! I am married. I told him don’t buy me no flowers or candies. I was in bed all day and on mother’s day, I told him I am door dashing me some chinese food for lunch. On mother’s day eve, I door dashed an expensive dinner. 😂 energy matched!!
Yes yes yes! I love this 😂
Bossed Up! Wear that crown, Queen!
That girl is super smart. 5 years ago I would have said the same thing. I HAVE done this. TBH it's beyond exhausting and at this point in my life, It would take 1 time for this to happen before I threw the whole man away.
I may be ruined tho because I'm 4B, choose the bear now.
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Girl, SAME here. My patience is GONE 😂
Yeah 👍🏽 I’m not matching energy I’m contacting a lawyer and filing for a divorce
Men do not respond to talking. You should always communicate with men through actions. Matching their energy is the best policy and accept the answer that rises to the top.
If you’re dating a guy and he falls back, you fall back. You don’t chase him and exert all your energy trying to figure out what’s wrong. You don’t talk him to death trying to get him back to making you feel special. This would be the first example of him pulling back to make space for you to take responsibility for all the heavy lifting. He can sit back and do nothing while you do everything trying to make it work. It sets the stage for exploitation and if you lean in, you volunteer to be exploited. They use this tactic all the time. People with anxious attachment will experience extreme anxiety when someone pulls back. They chase the person. This tells the other person everything they need to know. They can manipulate and exploit you once they see this trigger. This is how so many women end up in these marriages where there’s no reciprocity. Somewhere along the line he pulled back and the woman leaned in and took on all the responsibilities. MATCH THEIR ENERGY ALWAYS! If you find the relationship isn’t fulfilling as you match their energy, it’s because they aren’t willing to partner with you. That’s the truth rising to the top. Accept the truth and sever the relationship because there’s nothing there. Find someone who will actively meet you in the middle, match your energy, appreciate you, and take responsibility for his part in the partnership.
You said a word!
Forget their special days and treat yourself instead.
I get less than half the sleep when I’m in a relationship. Being a single mom is easier than being a wife/girlfriend.
Oddly it is.
My only child will be 4 soon and every mothers day was very disappointing. This year I didn't get the three words from him that many others had offered me: Happy Mothers Day. I decided I'd had enough of the inequality and am matching his energy from now on. That also includes not buying his mother a gift on mothers day. I'm done and I'm saving my time, money and energy.
For a moment I thought you talked about your child. 🙈😂
@oOIIIMIIIOo hahaha omg it does look like that!!
@@amandajade8012 😉😄💛
Buy yourself gifts 💅🏽
U better not do a damn thing for him on Father’s Day. Get up early and go treat urself on Father’s Day and leave him with the child. Make sure when he calls u don’t answer and don’t go back home until after the child is in bed.
💯 This applies to any and all interactions with menz. Explaining doesn't do ishh. They need tangible consequences. All the coddling has just made dealing with them even worse. It ends today!
Facts
I did this to my ex-husband, and he said, " It's not the same and you know it!"
Such a disgusting response
Nah, it is the same. You just don't like the way it feels.
Not only am I a member of the Match Energy Council, I’m also the president. Since I’ve always felt that XY are merely playing stupid, I decided the best way to get them to understand is to match energy. They can’t accuse me of nagging or none of that because without FAIL the XY in question ends up coming to me inquiring about whatever the issue I quietly had because it is happening to them. And just as she said I act oblivious to the effect of their complaint with hella dead pan energy 😂🤣😂🤣😂 #checkmate
😅 Nice, I wanna master this!
This!!
Omg same. I learned very very young how to match energies and be spiteful.😂✌🏾😂
I am joining your MEC, Ms. President.
I’m currently quiet quitting my relationship and the results are quite interesting. I can say he’s not as terrible when I’m taking a back seat, I’m guessing he likes planning from time to time, but I’m type A+ and expect perfection of myself. But over all I’m not minding the mess of the house as much as I thought I would. It’s gonna be a different story when his clothes aren’t cleaned for work . Lol
Haha 😂 I’m doing the same except no relationship. No title just a damn situatonship I didn’t sign up for in the first place. & what cracks me up is cis males are so self centered that there stupid arses don’t even realize you are backing away n detaching. Then when you leave they always wanna act in shock when the whole relationship was ONE SIDED & draining as hell.
😂 please come back to tell us about it
Yes please update us 🎉
For Mother’s Day, I gifted my mom the complete Revair set ✨ now I can help her do her hair at home 😄 she was so excited 😆
Awesome mine always just want money so I gave her 500$ and doordashed cheesecake factory to her but my dad ate her food cause she wouldn't cook so I been ordering her food everyday so he can cook for himself but he just brought some cup noodles now I see why my mom eats so fast
My dogs celebrate everytime I wake up or walk in the house. My cats are always affectionate and bring me gifts. And they both do exactly what I ask them when I ask them. Win/win.
Lately there has been a murder of crows that fly above my house, and even they leave me gifts. I mean it’s animal bones and other gross stuff, but they’re still gifts according to the crows 😅.
@@tiahnarodriguez3809 Feed them and leave them shiny rocks and tinsel.
Let them see you with jewelry and paper money. Once they get the idea that's what you like, it will appear. 😉
The problem is many women do the bulk of the chores in the beginning & then men expect it from then on. My mom always said she never let my dad get comfortable because then he would get used to it. She lets him do things for himself, even if he doesn't do it the way she would like it to be done. If we stop micromanaging, they will pick up the slack. My mother doesn't take that crap & my dad does what needs to be done because he knows she's not just going to do it for him. We have to start realizing this. It's always going to be actions over words. You will be complaining until you die. They do not care. DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT, or rather DON'T do it. Let him do it. Yes, there will be a learning curve for him. There was a learning curve for you at the beginning as well. Let him go through it & go somewhere to relax while the house is in chaos. They'll be alright.
Good advice from an old schooler, your mother. You got to flip the script on Men and all the time to get the results the way that you wanted it to be !
Sad that he hasn't learned to properly do those things tho, but you did not clarify as such so I may be jumping to conclusions. Apologies if that's the case.
This!
Im single mom of 6 and my children wished me a happy mothers day and drew me pictures. My mom and sisters texted me a happy mothers day and coworkers. We wished each other a well mothers day.
How it happened to be the single mom of SIX kids??? That’s insane. If things were so bad with your man how did you keep having babies with with? 6 are too much to be a single mother. What happened to the father of the 6 kids?
@@FoundSheep-ANFoundInterrogator... 🙂
@@FoundSheep-AN keep your small mindedness & judge mental projections to yourself! I don’t owe you no explanations. What’s insane is your MFkn rudeness! That’s wtf is insane!
@@FoundSheep-AN probably some religious cult situation
Garbage In, Garbage Out, as my computer teacher once told me.
😂😂😂
Men are the leaders of the household; so, Im following his lead. If he doesn't like it; let him lead by example and fix it.
Oof, they're not going like this one. But it's true. If you're such a leader, let me see something.
This is what I tell my husband for everything. You expect it done? Okay. AFTER YOU. Lead the way.
lol they can’t lead nothing without us 😂😂😂😂
I made sure to remind every guy at church that Mother’s Day is coming up in a week. I gave them the exact date. I hope the moms thank me, I heard some old man saying : she’s my wife not my mom should I get her something? I said a bouquet of flowers would be nice . Lmao she raised your kids for you dude
That's disgusting to read thinking about so many Father's Days the mother was actually behind 😢
Interesting they complain about "expectations" on either holidays but don't consider that, yes it could technically be about the child showing appreciation for a parent, but who is *actually* setting all that up. Maybe they have slick been matching energy but now they ate dropping the gauntlet and I don't blame them.
Yup! My elderly aunt told my sister, who was stressed about her narc husband, that she 'has to stop caring about him or the marriage.'
That woman is speaking pure FACTZ 💯
I matched energy one mother's day, but it was my mom's. I had planned to take her out for mother's day, but she said her boyfriend, whom i did not like or respect was going to treat her instead, but i could join them. Since it was her day, i didn't say anything. But I was disappointed that I was not going to be able to have a lunch with just her. So I decided to treat a friend of mine who is a single mom and her kids to the same luncheon. Mom didn't like that I took the focus off of her that day as she complained to another friend of mine and it got back to me. My friend however was estatic.
Myth debunked: Treat people the way you'd like to be treated.
Hell no! It does not work, so i match everybody's energy and i am enjoying it! Parents, family, a lover. Same energy. Finished!
Mother's day has been notoriously bad whenever I was in a relationship.
My mother is a widow...she was NOT sad on day💐
Sje received balloons, a card her chocolate strawberries and her daughter from out of town the following Monday.
Oh my
My kids brought me roses,candy and a Dragon Ball super box set 4 Mother's day.
Once my ex husband who did not get me anything for my birthday nor made it a special day for me, contrary to what I did for him, said " It's your birthday every day!". He also used to say I should have been happy that he did not spend his days at the bar... I have such stories and worse to last me until the end and remind me , never again !!
Just break up.
Maschine energy is waste of energy.
When you do this, your relationship is already over.
Agreed
Matching energy in the beginning can be a useful tool, but it has to be done a certain way. For the long term though it’s best to break up. This isn’t a game you wanna do if you have children, and if you don’t have children why are you still with the guy? You know what I mean?
I got a rose at church. All the mothers did. At least someone remembered.
My future brother-in-law has the tendency of making rude, belittling, mocking and downright disrespectful statements towards my little sister. I told her to MATCH HIS FREAKIN ENERGY!!!
She told him that for every ounce of disrespect, humiliation, disregard and embarassment he served her, she would serve him equal measures. He is currently working on himself to be the worthy husband my sister deserves. ❤
For all that, she should just dump him. Men are not projects. You take them as is, and if they are immature and abusive, you dump them and move on
@@c16621 exactly tit for tat isn’t enough with the devil. It’s run for your life!!
Tell her to run. If he’s being rude, belittling, mocking, and disrespectful, that’s who he is as a person and he feels entitled to behave that way. He won’t change.
"I can fix him" Is a terrible trap.
She needs to leave.
He's going to suck her dry
celebrate ur selves ladies he never will and on fathers day u do the same ignore it and him
Flip the script the old schoolers way😂😂😂
If the husband does the same exact thing every Mother’s Day I honestly don’t understand getting on TikTok crying.
😢 This is a repeat of the sad Christmas videos.
Yeah, seriously. Remember that saying "Don't get mad, get even."
Both of them are correct, the men know exactly what they are doing and just want to upset or make the wife suffer.
Those types of husbands being cowards that they are, of course the are going to show "concern" when they realize something is wrong. They are only "concerned" because they are scared.
And yeah, matching their energy MOST DEFINATELY works.
Flip the script not just on certain days all the time
Yes. When I was in a relationship, my then parter would see mother's day as a regular day. He kept saying his mother would be celebrating with her husband so he would just work all day. He told me I wasn't his mother so he didn't have the need to celebrate me.
Gross... literally just do what your mom's husband was doing for her?? Glad you dropped him.
Yes! Match the energy!
One time i finally said No to attending one of his family events after YEARS of him refusing to attend ALL family events on my side. Good riddance! No regrets.
I think Mothers who know other Mothers should all plan something with each other and go do whatever and let the fathers fend for themselves that day.
That's a great idea.
Spread the word 💕🌻
That why I like that Mother’s Day comes before Father’s Day. I did for him in accordance with what he did for me. I go all out if he went all out.
I spend my mothers day crying and doing chores...I'm done I bought myself presents
My father is a so called Jehovah Witness but still gets in his feelings about holidays.... but will use it to ignore every other important day for his wife/kids... but my mother has always been trying to go all out for him... It's annoying.
I’m glad I’m not alone in this but sad it’s so many of us 😔
So the only thing these mothers require is ONE DAY OFF?And they still can’t get it. The bar is on the submarine level 🧐
I agree with the matching energy , I was the same way with my family buy evryone gifts on their birthdays , be there when you are sick. I mean no one have the thout to even get me a cake or wish me happy birthday. Well 2024 is a vast and fast year so I am being very selective with people and energy vampires.Did not get anything for anyone so far on their birthday or just acknowledge it. Taking care of myself .......
I’m single but it’s sad that I have to apply this principle towards my father and little brother. Men and their shenanigans will show up in any kind of relationship not just romantically.
This is my take mother's day is not a real holiday however women need to stop expecting people to pamper us and do it for ourselves. I'm speaking from experience. My childrens father has never gotten my hair,nails done etc. so i do it for myself. This year for my birthday i cant wait to go out by myself and celebrate Gods decision to bless this earth with me.
If it's taken that way, then nothing is a real holiday, really. Days are deemed special because we decide to make them so. Your family acknowledging you on one miserly day is not too much ask. What's the purpose of having a family, then? I thought one of the purposes of finding "the one" and having a so-called family is so you can have a tribe to celebrate moments/days with and a toast to you 2 days out of 365 days is a bare minimum work.
@@joylastname3035 My world view is there are real holidays. The ones listed in the Bible. I know many people don't believe in that so that's why I said it was my take. However I agree with everything else in the video. Women should match men's energy and also agree with you, family is supposed to support, encourage, uplift and recognize each other. But if they don't do it for yourself. Most people are codependent and not interdependent on each other and that's why we get our feelings hurt when we are not celebrated the way we feel we should be. I know again speaking from experience.
Tbh if there is a need to do this, girl, get a divorce. He knows. He just doesn't care about you as a person and doesn't respect you or any of your social roles.
I would totally match though just because it's fun. But not to teach him anything, just to give him a taste of his own medicine WHILE I'm preparing for the divorce
Flip the script action on him to do him in .
I agree with her 💯 stop doing everything for them and see where your relationship stands. Some men may surprise you and step up their game. Most don’t but it saves you the time and energy to find out sooner than later who you’re dealing with.
Stop being impressed with minimal to no effort men just because he pays the bills.
If that same man can’t celebrate the woman he’s is supposed to be ONE with that’s an issue. He should know better and be actively and publicly demonstrating so.
Birthdays, anniversaries, promotions etc he should be affirming you and be your biggest supporter. If not he’s not that Into you. 🤷🏽♀️ and other aspects of the relationship need to be addressed.
This is one reason I no longer ascribe to the notion that if women just love him more, affirm him more, have more sex with him, coddle him more, be more patient with him, cool and clean up after him, let him just be THEN he’ll be the man you expect to see…ALL that is nonsense and infantilizes the man and quite frankly let’s them off the hook.
Nope they only understand when boundaries are set with consequences and when you withdraw. They’re adults they can learn to do better.
Not with any dusty. My son and I went to a r&b festival and I enjoyed my day 😎
Reason #4 was brilliant. Let him feel the void that would exist without your effort and #5 self-love yes!
Daughters please take you Ma and Sisters away for the day on Mother's Day.😁
You risk your life to give him a child and he does nothing?? Whatever reason he has, do the same for father's day. Its that simple. The problem with us women is we do too much to overcompensate for the lack of effort on their part and trust me it never pushes them to reciprocate. You end up resentful
I find that matching energy doesn’t actually work for narcissistic or abusive men. They literaly never make the connection to their bad behavior when treated the same way. They quite literally believe "rules for thee & not for me," so even if you make your point, they do not see it or don’t care. They double down & only see where THEY are slighted or feeling hurt & you're hysterical. I dont recommend using that in narcissistic relationships it'll lead to gaslighting & DARVO
I was playing my own Mother's Day including having a cleaning service and a babysitter already set up and make sure that it is all paid for on his dime. I'm not asking him for anything because first and foremost he would never be the sole controller over the finances.
this Mothers Day was a special one, my ex texted me happy Mother’s Day and my current partner broke up with me because of it 😅 how fucking funnnn
This mothers day, I treated myself out of town since I already knew he was not going to celebrate it let alone acknowledge it.
you and priscilla boye stay feeding us with these videos!! when is the collab dropping? 😅
I absolutely love the fact that they're both Africans. It's nice to know that some of us are finally waking up and choosing ourselves.
White t-shirt was on point with how to respond
I got my car washed for Mother’s Day 🤷🏾♀️😂. I will treat myself for Father’s Day💅🏾💅🏾
My daughters father never got me anything not a card or phone call. My teen daughter celebrate me instead.
I’m not crying over no Mother’s Day, no man, what he hasn’t done, etc. I’m completely over the bs . Manipulative behavior and today is my anniversary of 21 yrs. Im over it and don’t care.
Don’t get mad, get even. Just stop doing everything for him and only take care of your baby. Let these men do their own things (laundry, cooking, cleaning, etc).
Move in silence & file for divorce. Find as many forms of self protection to use in case your future ex can't be mature & part ways amicably, which sadly most men refuse to be reasonable. Save money to have personal independence, your own fun days (women can still have fun days even as mamas with precious babies), stable housing money & bill money as well as support for the precious babies. File for child support, but do not expect to receive it if dealing with gargantuan 5-yr-olds in men's bodies. Mentally prepare to be a single mama. Playing the same immature games that 99% of men play & "matching energy" is such a waste of time & essentially futile / pointless.
Greetings! "EVERYDAY IS MOTHERS DAY!" ❤
There should be aFather’s Day card. To the father that does the bare minimum
I love this idea. It's not being mean, it's being fair
My good Christian husband bought me flowers, plants, cute socks... all the little things i like. He was so sweet to me. Then he quit his job due to stress and refused to find another. Meanwhile, I worked 40 plus hours a week. Soon enough ( not soon enough) he became my ex-husband. What a joy.
Every birthday, every holiday is like that.
I give up.
Some of these mothers need to abruptly take a week vacation. Leave him with the kids for a week and magically he will understand and if he still doesn’t remind him the next time you leave it will be permanent. They did that in the Iceland (for a day) and their whole economy froze, now women have so many more rights and was the first European country to have a woman as president.
My ex wish every mothher he knew happy mother day but me, the mother of his child. It is still hurt up to this day
Now THIS is a woman who gets it!!!
Men ☕
I agree with everything she's saying so far. A lot of women need to take off the rose colored glasses movies, pick me's, and some red pill men try to sell. Time to get real goddesses.
My husband forgot everything. Every Birthday, every anniversary, every holiday- if i didnt remind him and verbatim tell him what I expected. Even then, he would sometimes just "forget." So I matched his energy. He then became even more removed, so I matched his energy again. He didnt seem concerned. Then he started ignoring me and refusing to speak to me unless it was to actively piss me off and make me bait me into an argument so that he could justify storming off. So I matched his energy again, and divorced his ass. Ive never been happier
I can confirm regarding 2 LT boyfriends that they in fact CANNOT HANDLE YOU when you finally match their shxt! Lol. One was telling other women that he had to walk on eggshells with me when I had to deal with their bipolar shxt consistently, then they're mad when I'm not interested in having sex with them! One of the women caught on and has been telling me hints without stirring the pot. I'm done dating when this is done! I need to get my life sorted, Im basically a late bloomer messing with the first LTB along with health issues. I'm finally doing good now and its eye opening, I dont like matching mean energy though it sucks.
He’s never gonna change. I’ve come to accept this fact about my partner. We were together for 7 years 2 kids together. He has never shown up for me when it counted, while I was giving birth to his first child he left while I was pushing, he has a physical appointment to go to. It was more important than me and his daughter. I was in the hospital for an addition 5 days after. I’m dumb for not listening to this 🚩 and giving him another kid. But now it’s over Forreal. I don’t have the energy for this anymore. I’m tired.
Build your self-worth/ self-esteem. 💕💕💕
God bless you. 😘
I am SO good with being alone for the rest of my life. Protecting my peace. Defending my dignity. ☺️❤️
Just leave. If you have to play these many games to get someone to treat you like a human, just leave.
She COOKED oxtail rice and peas!!!! ❤