I can't send unborn children to my parents. Also, my parents probably know what I would be up to now thanks to your comment so that just isn't an option now.
Rena, I love your videos and am a relatively new subscriber. I am a PharmD/PA and teach physician assistant students clinical medicine, pharmacology, and pharmacotherapeutics. This videos is especially pertinent in many settings of patient care and should be watched by everyone in an intimate relationship! One critical comment is the avoidance of talking about the cost of the medications you mention. They are extremely cost-prohibitive (Addyi is around $500 USD per month and Vyleesi is about $735 USD per month (depending on frequency of use]). There is very little public discussion about medications for women who have sexual dysfunction. Most drug therapies are focused on male sexual dysfunction (no surprise). I'd love to hear your "real world" take on this subject. Thank you for all you do!
The answer is so simple, Low libido is caused by stress. We as humans have way too much on our plate. ESP parents & MORE SPECIFICALLY WOMEN. We have to work, take care of the kids, keep the house clean, remember everything. I think back to the days of when I actually had a strong desire for sex and that was only as a teenager. Once you go into the world and start having responsibilities, stress comes. And it’s too hard to focus when you have 1000 things running through your mind constantly. We need to go back to simpler times. Life should be about fulfilling basic needs and enjoying our time here, not striving to be everything and do everything. Until then, we’re basically doomed.
I KNOW this is my problem. I have so much trouble getting brain to focus for sex..like even during my brain is running through a list of things that need to be done...I also have a problem with disassociating, so I'm outside of my body a lot. My brain is 100% my problem.
My wife is 100% against medication, 99% against therapy (we’ve tried), has almost 0 libido, and doesn’t want me to touch her about 98% of the time. I just want to feel wanted. And have good sex. Anytime I bring up the topic (which is rarely these days) it quickly turns sour and she usually gets angry. Guess I’m stuck with bad, infrequent, and one way sex for the rest of my life. Hope you’re all enjoying yourselves!
Sigh…pretty common and complete BS on her part. You can bet your ass if it was reversed she’d find what she needed/wanted. If she has zero interest and zero interest in trying to figure it out, then she should be fine with you getting what you need, and it is a need, from the outside.
Just 98% man you are lucky mine is at 100. But thats ok. I have set it up so when I die the kids and the dogs get everything . Then she can go suck d on the corner for beer money.
With men our libido starts us off at age 20 with 5 minutes. The trick for men is the same, which is to be with the same woman. If so by 30 yrs old (his last maturity date which is 'emotional') he should be able to make love to a woman for an hour. By the time he reaches 40 yrs old it should have increased to 2 hours. This is all in preparation to get her to 3 hours at 50 in anticipation for menopause whereby they can hump morning noon and night without safeguards. So with each decade (if he is humpin' rite and not around) he gets one more hour, and one more inch. (when I discovered this mystery I was wondering how my balando got so (much) bigger! lmao) This is what is missing in humanity but the only way it was meant to work to its highest called Infinity. (its in da buuk) There are three levels she is made to have and has been missing since time began. My Heavenly Father even gave ppl the chance to rediscover it during the enclosed pandam covet 19. And what happened? For any couple to find it they would see how their sex life puts everything around it. Instead of them putting the world first and their sex life on a sex diet. This and PMS, FFA, (free floating anxiety) GAD, ADHD (and others) are all countered by a balanced sex life. Otherwise shebabitchto minutemen who can't satisfy her! Domestic abuse. (bad luck chicks - make you want to hit'em instead of hit it'!) All a man has to do is marry a woman he likes to be around and have sex with her every nite 3 weeks out the month. Watch the clock and whenever she is cumming, watch the clock and relax and grip you PC muscle. I weary to repose so... JRT don't listen to sexually frustrated females who do not know what the limit of their sexuality is either. It shows on their faces! You see it like when she comes to work and a female co-workers say, oh you happy. you must had sex this morning.
I’m finding that my libido goes up and down. I exercise, I journal, I meditate to try and alleviate my stress (which I suspect is the culprit for my low libido) but it doesn’t help. Besides prescription medication are there any natural supplements that could possibly help?
I had my doctor recommend Addyi and I went to the pharmacist and it was $1000 for a 28 day supply. Insurance doesn't cover it. What else is there that is cheaper? I'm pre-menopausal. Why is men's libido enhancement SO much more accessible. This is frustrating
Right mine is so stressed out cause there is nothing on TV and she is out of doughnuts has gained 60 lbs in the last year and has to turn side ways to get through the door.
Testosterone is a well known cure. Menopause causes low testosterone and it leads to a lack of energy, crappy hair and low libido. Bio identical testosterone can tackle all of this at once. We were not designed to become older than 50 so go nuts
Yep I have a feeling this is my issue, my Harmone dr never EVER tests DHEA under 40 I believe and I’m only 28, she had a weird feeling to test it and mine is the lowest she has ever seen ever and specially for my age it was none existent including my testosterone is extremely low and sex binding harmone too. Mind you I was SA as a child, teen and as an adult so that also plays a role but my poor sweet husband has been so patient and understanding but it’s hard on me to see him suffer and myself because it’s like Im attracted to him and love him but absolutely no libido to the point I could go my whole like without it so I’m praying dhea sr brings it up plus the testosterone to bring up my harmones and that it’ll help with it! Thank you for commenting this it gives me hope!!
This is a really cool channel. Don’t know how I got here. Not having a problem. But I’m enjoying the content and I appreciate the knowledge to keep healthy.
Also how need to look up how to tell my partner is not talking about anything deep or important… and only talking about sex… Makes me feel like that’s all he cares about in the relationship. In a way that doesn’t make him defensive…
What libido meds u recommend for women whose had a hysterectomy? My wifes libido has been affected by this surgery and difficulty in achieving orgasm. Thank u!🙏
Wife's libido was great for the first 15 years or so. Then there was cancer, in which she lost her uterus. Within a couple years, libido fell through the floor. We just lived with that for a few years until we discovered that smoking a little quality weed takes her libido to a whole new level. While the state of euphoria doesn't hang out that long, it takes a couple days for her libido to be back in the trash. That's been her sexual ticket ever since.
well, in my professional opinion whenever a man marries a woman he should be prepared to have sex with her every night for 3 weeks out the month. If he does this then their libidos will prepare the way to augment activity. Women are made like this (for men) the amount of sex you give her, her body will prepare for it. May I ask your ages and how long do you usually copulate? At 30 she needs 1 hr. At 40 she needs 2 hours and at 50 she needs 3 hours a day 3 weeks of the month. It will prevent cancer that comes as a result of the time not being spent.
Yohimbe bark is great stuff : The bark has been used traditionally as an aphrodisiac and to enhance sexual performance. Yohimbe is promoted for erectile dysfunction, athletic performance, weight loss, angina (chest pain caused by not enough blood flow to the heart), high blood pressure, diabetic neuropathy, and more
@@mr3pointshooter1 This is very straight forward. Add several tighter rubber bands to completely restrict blood flow. In a week your penis should then shrivel (more), then fall off.
@@mr3pointshooter1 Hi Keith 👋 I hope my comment didn't sound as a form of privacy invasion your comment tells of a wonderful woman with a beautiful heart which led me to comment I don't normally write in the comment section but I think you deserve this complement. If you don’t mind can we be friends? Thanks God bless you….
My mate was having erectile issues and couldnt find a cock ring available abroad where we live to trap the blood,he tried a rubber band awkward; he tried a shoelace awkward; and he tried cutting off the top of a condom to use the lower end best of those options BUT HE has issues that doesnt solve.. The one troubling him most lately is lack of sensation..it is breaking his heart. Sexual pleasure is very important to him and always has been. We have had a wonderful 41 yr relationship THAT way and every other way. He turned 80 yesturday. His issues began at 70 and medicines worked for him a long time. Lately he has beem taking a maintenance low dose of Cialis daily plus Viagra on Sunday when we plan for intercourse. Most often it does work, but there are times it doesnt. I have a higher sex drive than him now due to my thyroid meds, so he kindly plays with me on Wednesdays for an hour or more. He enjoys pleasuring me. My orgasms are much more robust and longer in rolling waves now due to my meds and Estrogen Replacement cream...we have a good time no matter what, an accepting and tolerant attitude is of paramount impotance for us. Sometimes he is so numb he has no idea of the state he is in soft or semi hard...sad that, but we do what we can. Neither of us is ready to give up. Someday hopefully there will be good treatment for ED, one that really works. Perhaps too late for us, but we are going to enjoy what we can, while we can. Both of us have conscientious personalities and are good problem solvers in general, so we will do what is possible about THIS too. We love each other and have great compersion for each other. Wishing YOU all the best. Sybil Francis PhD clinical psychologist /professor (ret)
Just tell him the truth, that he is fat and gross, and he must start taking care of himself and caring about his health and appearance as not doing so also shows lack of respect and love for those in his life. Some people respond well to criticism and some don't, find out if he is a man
ok. serious question. so please don't attack me for it. My wife's libido basically dropped to zero after we got married. I chalked it up to stress due to us moving far away almost immediately after the wedding. I assumed it would come back when things straightened out. It has now been over 4 years and it has yet to return. The biggest issue is, however, that despite her never being in the mood, and seemingly just giving in from time to time out of some presumed sense of obligation, she insists that her libido is totally normal as it has always been. I cant even think of a single time in the past few years that she has made an advance at me. If I even bring up sex in conversation at all, it just makes her angry and she becomes proactively defensive. So, it seems to me that she doesn't want to change anything. What can I do? anything? I have tried to just have conversations about it, knowing that it is a sensitive topic and should be approached with love, patience, understanding, and compassion. And the second sexual intimacy is brought up at all, it is like a stich flips and she instantly gets defensive and angry and shuts out the conversation entirely. I know she is not obligated to give me anything. It is her body after all. But how do I approach this in a way, that at least shows her that it is something that we at least need to be able to discuss and work towards some kind of middle ground where we can both be happy?
Listening to your story suggests she feels attacked when intimacy gets discussed. It can be either a feeling of guilt for not “ being there” , or not being confident enough to feel good in intimacy. Either way she needs help. I feel bad for you both.
I teach Korean men in sexless marriage how to give aromatherapy massage. My client is now finished learning the massage and about to give massage and see how it goes. They are 8 years in sexless marriage because his wife had cancer and now reaolved it. But side effect from pharmaceutical drugs.
@D.Pierce Your story is very touching. You explain it in a very well thought and open-minded manner. Many people in your situation tend to put the blame on their partners just to get validation on their thoughts and actions. From my understanding, though I'm not qualified to confirm, is that your wife might have at least one of these conditions; low libido (little sex drive but still can get aroused with the right settings) or Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder/HSDD (no desire even when exposed to sexual situations). Another condition is Sexual dysfunction, in which a women having problem such as pain or discomfort during intercourse, but we can rule that out. The underlying issues causing these conditions are very wide ranging, suffice to say it involves both physical and psychological issues. You mentioned that your spouse refuses to discuss any matters related to sex. That's understandable because this problem wasn't resolved since the beginning. After 4 years and many heated arguments later, this topic has become a taboo for her to be avoided at all cost. This is a big problem because there's no way you can diagnose the underlying issues. I could suggest you try do these things: Reconnect. Talk to her regarding family matters, such as what are the shared goals of the marriage (having kids, accumulate assets, etc), and what are individual goals (better job, promotion, winning accolades) that could be aligned with the shared goals. Remind her how both of you need each other's support, commitment and sacrifice to achieve those goals, both mentally and physically. That means to be aware of your own and your spouse's happiness and well-being. Don't talk about sex just yet. Let her internalize what it means to support and sacrifice to make you a happy husband. Play game. you can try play this card game created by famous psychotherapist Esther Perel called Where Should We Begin. Check it at estherperel website or Amazon. It's a fun way to learn and relearn about each other. It could open a Pandora's box for both of you. Along the way never stop showing your care and love, during good or bad times. Like a touch on her cheek or kiss on her forehead. Every. Single. Day. Wish you all the 👌 best.
ain't also trazodone one that may help? essentially serotonin 1a agonists/partial agonists help, bupropion is a weaker version of amphetamine and they both help with either men or women.
Hi Dr. Malik great vid, recently an mri of my prostate (stage 1 malignancy) showed i had urethral stricture which is basically scar tissue from catheters and instruments ive had inseterted in my penis. Now im having crazy ED issues and i am infertile. Even tho im 66 i still like to think im a man. Does this condition effect my libido also? Getting answers from my urologist is like pulling teeth. Pls any info would be so appreciated, thanx, stay safe, stay strong, Eddy
Try Gainswave. It removes the plaque that fills up the veins in the perineal area restoring flow. Get a quote for 18 treatments. It works. I'm 73 and when I was 68, even Viagra wouldn't help.
@@brunosusnjara271 Malik is a Pakistani surname, that's a muslim country if I'm not mistaken. That's what he's talking about. In regard to the part about the US being a great country, well... 😂
Doctor, on what platform I can ask you some questions? I want to ask about testicular torsion. How actually painful it is? What can I do to prevent this to happen? How not to be afraid of it? I'm 19 btw
21 yr old here, dealt with radon testicular torsion spasm for about 2 months. The pain is fucking horrible. It feels like you’re getting pull started like a lawnmower by your testicles, by someone wearing knife gloves. Literally had to go to the ER multiple times. No idea how to prevent it, but it’s fucking horrible mate.
Hey Dr. Rena Malik i have an enquiry. Please help me out. Is there any relation with the memory loss and sex/musterbation? Please kindly make a video on this issue
@@bxhija7898thank you for the reply. I'm in UK and I need to know, is it possible for the test kit bought from the shelf(over the counter) to detect the pregnancy after 8-10 hours of unprotected sex?
what if anyone hold there ejaculation for 3 or 4 days after a shorter shorter periods of masturbations. what's the consequences are we going to face when that happen.. please answer this
When it comes to libido that has always heen zero.... it's more complicated. But everywhere I look, they attribute that and loss of libido to women only. Like it only comes from us.... I find it weird they say it's a women problem, but when you look at the numbers: you clearly see that it's a HETERO-women problem. Says a lot. In general, lesbians have better sex, better communication, and take care of their partners more (mutual respect/pleasing). ......
It never ceases to amaze me how women can still manage to eat, sleep, go out, shop , spend, buy clothes which make them look great but will be of no benefit to you, put on make up ,go for coffee with there friends during the day while you are at work, drive the car you've paid for ,fueled,taxed, insured and m.o.t.. choose where they want to go on holiday while you pay for it, buy presents for other people and there kids with your money , watch what ever they want on TV even if there something else on you want to watch. The only thing they can't be bothered to do is to have sex , so after providing this life style you are supposed to feel grateful in some way towards them, Fellas! We need to wake up, the best sex is in the first three months so dump them after that and move on to the next, Hindsight is a wonderful thing
I would love it if you gave a break down of the supplement Steel Libido Red. I’ve used it for a few years and it is CRAZY how good the erections are. I know it’s not just the citrulline because I’ve tried that alone and it’s not even close. Please please please
My wife got on a low dose of 15 mg of testosterone a week about two years ago. She is 62 years old now and we have sex on average twice a week and she has great orgasms. It has definitely helped her and our relationship a lot. I highly recommend it.
Yes, a low dose of T to replace the missing T does wonders for libido. If she has more drive than you, treat both rabbits and you get your T reset to age 30. Have a complete blood test with hormone levels first. I started T in 2005. I'm now 73 and have had 18 treatments of Gainswave recently. I doubt most men after 65 can perform.
@@amazoidal I am on testosterone replacement myself. It’s done wonders for me. I go to the gym four days a week and eat healthy . I can honestly say I’m in the best physical shape of my life. The results that I was having got my wife interested in trying testosterone for herself. As I said, it’s done wonders for us.
Try DHEA available and vitamin or health food stores. It’s a natural testosterone made from the wild yam plant. It helps hormone health and production of estrogen & testosterone. Women definitely need testosterone especially after menopause. Just not as much as men. I’ve started taking 50mg daily. There’s no problem with my sex drive. I really wanted it for general health, well being and energy.
My wife never had a libido.She does do sex or intimacy or love.All she desires is food,sleep and her precious phone that she seemingly can't live without.
Look this is a solveable problem for one or both you, separately or perhaps together. As a woman who had a good sex life with my first husband at 17 to 24, then I had a terrible sex life with my second husband ages 25 to 32 when he died and finally an astoundingly wonderful sex life with my third mate of 41 yrs.... even NOW at 80 and my age of 75. I KNOW what I am talking about. Consider me your knowledgeable and wise grandmother. I am also.a clInical psychologist and retired professor, A PROFESSIONAL, I KNOW about and have taught about sexual function. I DONT know YOU or your wife. But something is amiss. If you are a very traditional religious person or SHE is, it is possibly PARTLY that. Many highly religious people interpret religious rules very strictly and it can be very inhibiting to sexual desire and response for THEM. Any religion...Christianity, Islam, whatever. That you must think about first. Second cultural expectations and attidudes affect sexual attitudes and abilities to enjoy sex openly and freely in relationships. Then there are individual differences in expectations, desires, lovelmaking skills, openness to being creative in sex, frequency and depth of sexual desire etc. Those may be resolvable issues or maybe they are not. As a woman who has experienced all qualities of a sex life from near zero interest. to moderate to a great interest and satisfaction with my sex life, I just say to you it may be TOLERABLE to settle for little or nothing. That is for you each to decide. If you YEARN for more know that it is possible...that there are women who also yearn for more than they have. I f you are not as skilled as you COULD be in pleasing a woman this is a learnable skill. iF she is not as skilled as she could be same for her. If sex is VERY pleasureable it is a rewarded behavior and occurs regularly ...desire to satisfaction and closeness physcially and emotionally is a loop that turns us again to desire to pleasure another and to be pleasured in return...It is a never ending feedback loop and when the quality experienced is wonderful, it is the one of the greatest pleasures and joys life has to offer...like beautiful experiences in general, or very delicious nourishing food or the perfect outdoor temperature for our bodies to enjoy the freedom of the outdoors...all the basic physiological pleasures of life CAN be yours for MANY people. If you sit down and give up or accept a less than a joyous life well you will be stuck in that state. That is what will happen. You have to work for it, reach for it , to not settle for a few grains of sand in this life. BUT the choice is yours. The action must be yours..only YOU and or HER can make life better. I f she refuses to try or open up to discuss these matters with you,then YOU have to choose..no one can choose for you. But in the end of your life you will he able to say at least I opened my eyes examined the options, and chose. THAT is better than never having the courage to THINK about these things. Wishing you what is best for YOU. But I hear yearning in what you say, otherwise you would not be here. Otherwise you would have made no comment at all, you would be 100% accepting of your fate and you seem to me to be searching. ....Sybil Francis PhD clincial psychologist/professor (ret)
I found sending the kids to their grandparents house works well 🤣
Lol , nice
Every time I go on vacation, I get much more and better sex.
I can't send unborn children to my parents. Also, my parents probably know what I would be up to now thanks to your comment so that just isn't an option now.
Grandparents want to have sex too! LOL!
😂😂😂
Maca powder is a natural remedy that helps also. put it in your oatmeal, smoothes and stuff.
Maca powder is what exactly?
@@vanessat.5799 Powered maca root.
Rena, I love your videos and am a relatively new subscriber. I am a PharmD/PA and teach physician assistant students clinical medicine, pharmacology, and pharmacotherapeutics. This videos is especially pertinent in many settings of patient care and should be watched by everyone in an intimate relationship! One critical comment is the avoidance of talking about the cost of the medications you mention. They are extremely cost-prohibitive (Addyi is around $500 USD per month and Vyleesi is about $735 USD per month (depending on frequency of use]). There is very little public discussion about medications for women who have sexual dysfunction. Most drug therapies are focused on male sexual dysfunction (no surprise). I'd love to hear your "real world" take on this subject. Thank you for all you do!
I TRIED IT FOR 6 MONTHS AND
DOES NOT WORK!
They focus on male dysfunction because it effects mens performance in terms of genitalia. For women not as much.
The answer is so simple,
Low libido is caused by stress. We as humans have way too much on our plate. ESP parents & MORE SPECIFICALLY WOMEN. We have to work, take care of the kids, keep the house clean, remember everything. I think back to the days of when I actually had a strong desire for sex and that was only as a teenager. Once you go into the world and start having responsibilities, stress comes. And it’s too hard to focus when you have 1000 things running through your mind constantly.
We need to go back to simpler times. Life should be about fulfilling basic needs and enjoying our time here, not striving to be everything and do everything.
Until then, we’re basically doomed.
Yes because you already drop the towel in the ring. Show some effort. Plan. Love.
I KNOW this is my problem. I have so much trouble getting brain to focus for sex..like even during my brain is running through a list of things that need to be done...I also have a problem with disassociating, so I'm outside of my body a lot. My brain is 100% my problem.
My wife is 100% against medication, 99% against therapy (we’ve tried), has almost 0 libido, and doesn’t want me to touch her about 98% of the time. I just want to feel wanted. And have good sex. Anytime I bring up the topic (which is rarely these days) it quickly turns sour and she usually gets angry. Guess I’m stuck with bad, infrequent, and one way sex for the rest of my life. Hope you’re all enjoying yourselves!
Sigh…pretty common and complete BS on her part. You can bet your ass if it was reversed she’d find what she needed/wanted. If she has zero interest and zero interest in trying to figure it out, then she should be fine with you getting what you need, and it is a need, from the outside.
Just 98% man you are lucky mine is at 100. But thats ok. I have set it up so when I die the kids and the dogs get everything . Then she can go suck d on the corner for beer money.
Im in the same boat, is feel ya
There must be a reason why she lost interest in you just like I did for my husband
With men our libido starts us off at age 20 with 5 minutes. The trick for men is the same, which is to be with the same woman. If so by 30 yrs old (his last maturity date which is 'emotional') he should be able to make love to a woman for an hour. By the time he reaches 40 yrs old it should have increased to 2 hours. This is all in preparation to get her to 3 hours at 50 in anticipation for menopause whereby they can hump morning noon and night without safeguards. So with each decade (if he is humpin' rite and not around) he gets one more hour, and one more inch. (when I discovered this mystery I was wondering how my balando got so (much) bigger! lmao)
This is what is missing in humanity but the only way it was meant to work to its highest called Infinity. (its in da buuk) There are three levels she is made to have and has been missing since time began. My Heavenly Father even gave ppl the chance to rediscover it during the enclosed pandam covet 19. And what happened? For any couple to find it they would see how their sex life puts everything around it. Instead of them putting the world first and their sex life on a sex diet. This and PMS, FFA, (free floating anxiety) GAD, ADHD (and others) are all countered by a balanced sex life. Otherwise shebabitchto minutemen who can't satisfy her!
Domestic abuse. (bad luck chicks - make you want to hit'em instead of hit it'!) All a man has to do is marry a woman he likes to be around and have sex with her every nite 3 weeks out the month. Watch the clock and whenever she is cumming, watch the clock and relax and grip you PC muscle. I weary to repose so... JRT don't listen to sexually frustrated females who do not know what the limit of their sexuality is either. It shows on their faces! You see it like when she comes to work and a female co-workers say, oh you happy. you must had sex this morning.
I’m finding that my libido goes up and down. I exercise, I journal, I meditate to try and alleviate my stress (which I suspect is the culprit for my low libido) but it doesn’t help. Besides prescription medication are there any natural supplements that could possibly help?
Fantasize and watching porns may be
Make sure your girl feels clean and fresh. Give her ALL the tools necessary to feel like a million bucks.
She'll do the rest. Trust me.
I had my doctor recommend Addyi and I went to the pharmacist and it was $1000 for a 28 day supply. Insurance doesn't cover it. What else is there that is cheaper? I'm pre-menopausal. Why is men's libido enhancement SO much more accessible. This is frustrating
You can get it online for $300 for 90 day supply.
Stress is the number one cause of low libido in women.
Ironic since there is a proven stress reliever
Right mine is so stressed out cause there is nothing on TV and she is out of doughnuts has gained 60 lbs in the last year and has to turn side ways to get through the door.
🤔 all this stress and no. 🍑
@@lesliegibbons6917 Are you being serious or just naturally funny?
No, birth control is number 1
My wife started taking DHEA and her libido went through the roof! 25mg in the morning and in the evening. How about doing a video on this supplement?
How old is she?
Testosterone is a well known cure. Menopause causes low testosterone and it leads to a lack of energy, crappy hair and low libido. Bio identical testosterone can tackle all of this at once. We were not designed to become older than 50 so go nuts
What is DHEA?
Thanks for the tip! I'm going to try it.
Yep I have a feeling this is my issue, my Harmone dr never EVER tests DHEA under 40 I believe and I’m only 28, she had a weird feeling to test it and mine is the lowest she has ever seen ever and specially for my age it was none existent including my testosterone is extremely low and sex binding harmone too. Mind you I was SA as a child, teen and as an adult so that also plays a role but my poor sweet husband has been so patient and understanding but it’s hard on me to see him suffer and myself because it’s like Im attracted to him and love him but absolutely no libido to the point I could go my whole like without it so I’m praying dhea sr brings it up plus the testosterone to bring up my harmones and that it’ll help with it! Thank you for commenting this it gives me hope!!
This is a really cool channel. Don’t know how I got here. Not having a problem. But I’m enjoying the content and I appreciate the knowledge to keep healthy.
My wife’s libido is zero, very hard to live this way, menopause is killing us
Also how need to look up how to tell my partner is not talking about anything deep or important… and only talking about sex… Makes me feel like that’s all he cares about in the relationship. In a way that doesn’t make him defensive…
I would love to learn more about the Buspar and Wellbutrin treatments. What dosages and if good results pre and post menopausal. Thanks
Addyi gave me horrible insomnia and scared me off of any treatment pills! Curious to learn more about the touching therapy
Love your posts Dr. MALIK 🙂
What libido meds u recommend for women whose had a hysterectomy? My wifes libido has been affected by this surgery and difficulty in achieving orgasm. Thank u!🙏
Are there any non pharmaceutical remedies?
Great advice as always, you know your stuff
Anything for low libido in men?
Wife's libido was great for the first 15 years or so. Then there was cancer, in which she lost her uterus. Within a couple years, libido fell through the floor. We just lived with that for a few years until we discovered that smoking a little quality weed takes her libido to a whole new level. While the state of euphoria doesn't hang out that long, it takes a couple days for her libido to be back in the trash. That's been her sexual ticket ever since.
Hmmm
Life
well, in my professional opinion whenever a man marries a woman he should be prepared to have sex with her every night for 3 weeks out the month. If he does this then their libidos will prepare the way to augment activity. Women are made like this (for men) the amount of sex you give her, her body will prepare for it. May I ask your ages and how long do you usually copulate? At 30 she needs 1 hr. At 40 she needs 2 hours and at 50 she needs 3 hours a day 3 weeks of the month. It will prevent cancer that comes as a result of the time not being spent.
@@ddmound Professional what? For the record, we are both 48 and post cancer life has opened up that 4th week. 10 years cancer free now...11 next month
@@ddmound you are only a professional of delusions
@@ddmound you are absolutely FULL of it
I need to reduce my libido as I’m still single 36 and a workaholic . No time to date 😔. Horrible feeling in the morning 😣
Get a didio and some candles and wine sit in the tub and have fun 👍
My wifes thyroid was out of wack and she had 0 libido for 2 years. It went back to normal after she got on a regimen for her thyroid.
So bcz of thyroid people have low libido ? I have thyroid & really low libido & having relationship problems . Idk what to do
My wife has thyroid problems and she has no interest in sex
Hi Doc - You're doing a great help for Men in Distress. Your videos are very interesting.
Good info, What kind of doc can prescribe these kind of meds? Can a general practitioner prescribe?
I love your SCRUBS episode!
Please elaborate the solutions or medications for males.
What a really, really, REALLY, beautiful person you are.
Hi can u get the topical testosterone for post menopausal women online ? , I live in uk and after 6 yrs single now dating I need help :)
this What you're saying will be okay from my 12-year-old daughter
Thanks Dr Malik I need u for my health I'm a young man.
Mmm how young are you baby
Yohimbe bark is great stuff : The bark has been used traditionally as an aphrodisiac and to enhance sexual performance. Yohimbe is promoted for erectile dysfunction, athletic performance, weight loss, angina (chest pain caused by not enough blood flow to the heart), high blood pressure, diabetic neuropathy, and more
Where can good Yohimbe bark be found please?
Be careful of the dose because the side effects are tough.
I used to take it 20 years ago...really put lead in my pencil!
@@toddjohnson5176
You tried it before?
What are the side effects??
@@nosaosayande6308 online or drugstore. It’s over the counter
What would be your advice to a guy that experiencing numbness down there from wrapping rubber band too tight around the shaft?
It’s been over 4yrs btw I’m worried
@@mr3pointshooter1 This is very straight forward. Add several tighter rubber bands to completely restrict blood flow. In a week your penis should then shrivel (more), then fall off.
@@mr3pointshooter1 Hi Keith 👋 I hope my comment didn't sound as a form of privacy invasion your comment tells of a wonderful woman with a beautiful heart which led me to comment I don't normally write in the comment section but I think you deserve this complement. If you don’t mind can we be friends? Thanks God bless you….
My mate was having erectile issues and couldnt find a cock ring available abroad where we live to trap the blood,he tried a rubber band awkward; he tried a shoelace awkward; and he tried cutting off the top of a condom to use the lower end best of those options BUT HE has issues that doesnt solve.. The one troubling him most lately is lack of sensation..it is breaking his heart.
Sexual pleasure is very important to him and always has been. We have had a wonderful 41 yr relationship THAT way and every other way.
He turned 80 yesturday. His issues began at 70 and medicines worked for him a long time. Lately he has beem taking a maintenance low dose of Cialis daily plus Viagra on Sunday when we plan for intercourse. Most often it does work, but there are times it doesnt. I have a higher sex drive than him now due to my thyroid meds, so he kindly plays with me on Wednesdays for an hour or more. He enjoys pleasuring me. My orgasms are much more robust and longer in rolling waves now due to my meds and Estrogen Replacement cream...we have a good time no matter what, an accepting and tolerant attitude is of paramount impotance for us. Sometimes he is so numb he has no idea of the state he is in soft or semi hard...sad that, but we do what we can. Neither of us is ready to give up. Someday hopefully there will be good treatment for ED, one that really works. Perhaps too late for us, but we are going to enjoy what we can, while we can.
Both of us have conscientious personalities and are good problem solvers in general, so we will do what is possible about THIS too. We love each other and have great compersion for each other.
Wishing YOU all the best.
Sybil Francis PhD clinical psychologist /professor (ret)
I hope this helps my wife our marriage 💑 is in trouble!
Good luck...
Maybe you’re stressing the fuck out of her and being insensitive.
Does taking estrogen pills helps?! (I’m 25 years, no kids)
Part of the problem is my husband weight. :/. I don’t know how to address is without hurting his feelings
Just tell him the truth, that he is fat and gross, and he must start taking care of himself and caring about his health and appearance as not doing so also shows lack of respect and love for those in his life. Some people respond well to criticism and some don't, find out if he is a man
Rena do you know anything about TRT for women?
My wife needs it too !!
Dear Dr. Malik my problem is that I have too much libido. What can I do? I'm a man btw.
Get a few girlfriends
Fast at least 2 times a week
Looking for options on delayed Ejaculation syndrome.
The best way to have a libido is stay single! 🤣
Hahaha 😂
Another amazing presentation by Dr.Malik
Rena Your A Very Intelligent and Beautiful Lady
What can be done for women with low libido who are postmenopausal?
Dear Rena , your videos are much much knowledge able , kindly also Address the "Low sex drive in males"
Yeah trust me it goes BOTH WAYZ
Wait 🤣😂 antidepressant and anti anxiety? I was diagnosed so I took those and I didn’t noticed any changes of my libido.
Okay… I lost my libido due to depression and then taking ssris after. You clearly got lucky because it’s a very common side effect.
Thanks the world's best Queen doctor
ok. serious question. so please don't attack me for it. My wife's libido basically dropped to zero after we got married. I chalked it up to stress due to us moving far away almost immediately after the wedding. I assumed it would come back when things straightened out. It has now been over 4 years and it has yet to return. The biggest issue is, however, that despite her never being in the mood, and seemingly just giving in from time to time out of some presumed sense of obligation, she insists that her libido is totally normal as it has always been. I cant even think of a single time in the past few years that she has made an advance at me. If I even bring up sex in conversation at all, it just makes her angry and she becomes proactively defensive. So, it seems to me that she doesn't want to change anything. What can I do? anything? I have tried to just have conversations about it, knowing that it is a sensitive topic and should be approached with love, patience, understanding, and compassion. And the second sexual intimacy is brought up at all, it is like a stich flips and she instantly gets defensive and angry and shuts out the conversation entirely. I know she is not obligated to give me anything. It is her body after all. But how do I approach this in a way, that at least shows her that it is something that we at least need to be able to discuss and work towards some kind of middle ground where we can both be happy?
Listening to your story suggests she feels attacked when intimacy gets discussed. It can be either a feeling of guilt for not “ being there” , or not being confident enough to feel good in intimacy. Either way she needs help. I feel bad for you both.
I teach Korean men in sexless marriage how to give aromatherapy massage. My client is now finished learning the massage and about to give massage and see how it goes.
They are 8 years in sexless marriage because his wife had cancer and now reaolved it. But side effect from pharmaceutical drugs.
Get a divorce
@D.Pierce Your story is very touching. You explain it in a very well thought and open-minded manner. Many people in your situation tend to put the blame on their partners just to get validation on their thoughts and actions.
From my understanding, though I'm not qualified to confirm, is that your wife might have at least one of these conditions; low libido (little sex drive but still can get aroused with the right settings) or Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder/HSDD (no desire even when exposed to sexual situations). Another condition is Sexual dysfunction, in which a women having problem such as pain or discomfort during intercourse, but we can rule that out. The underlying issues causing these conditions are very wide ranging, suffice to say it involves both physical and psychological issues.
You mentioned that your spouse refuses to discuss any matters related to sex. That's understandable because this problem wasn't resolved since the beginning. After 4 years and many heated arguments later, this topic has become a taboo for her to be avoided at all cost. This is a big problem because there's no way you can diagnose the underlying issues. I could suggest you try do these things:
Reconnect. Talk to her regarding family matters, such as what are the shared goals of the marriage (having kids, accumulate assets, etc), and what are individual goals (better job, promotion, winning accolades) that could be aligned with the shared goals. Remind her how both of you need each other's support, commitment and sacrifice to achieve those goals, both mentally and physically. That means to be aware of your own and your spouse's happiness and well-being. Don't talk about sex just yet. Let her internalize what it means to support and sacrifice to make you a happy husband.
Play game. you can try play this card game created by famous psychotherapist Esther Perel called Where Should We Begin. Check it at estherperel website or Amazon. It's a fun way to learn and relearn about each other. It could open a Pandora's box for both of you.
Along the way never stop showing your care and love, during good or bad times. Like a touch on her cheek or kiss on her forehead. Every. Single. Day.
Wish you all the 👌 best.
Very informative video
"Beautiful voice"
I Suggest try HORSE ride
ain't also trazodone one that may help? essentially serotonin 1a agonists/partial agonists help, bupropion is a weaker version of amphetamine and they both help with either men or women.
Fascinating topic you chose to discuss.
Is it helpful to use the lidocaine and prilocaine mixture gel to apply on vulvar vestibule to reduce the pain during sex for women ?
Hi Dr. Malik great vid, recently an mri of my prostate (stage 1 malignancy) showed i had urethral stricture which is basically scar tissue from catheters and instruments ive had inseterted in my penis. Now im having crazy ED issues and i am infertile. Even tho im 66 i still like to think im a man. Does this condition effect my libido also? Getting answers from my urologist is like pulling teeth. Pls any info would be so appreciated, thanx, stay safe, stay strong,
Eddy
Try Gainswave. It removes the plaque that fills up the veins in the perineal area restoring flow. Get a quote for 18 treatments. It works. I'm 73 and when I was 68, even Viagra wouldn't help.
First time witnessing Muslim woman being that open,America is indeed great country,God bless America 🤗
????what
@@brunosusnjara271 Malik is a Pakistani surname, that's a muslim country if I'm not mistaken. That's what he's talking about. In regard to the part about the US being a great country, well... 😂
She might not be Muslim tbh
@@andresduques2013 Malik is Arabic for "king", or " royal"
She's a surgeon, what did you expect?
Plz doc make on off label medicine
Doctor, on what platform I can ask you some questions? I want to ask about testicular torsion. How actually painful it is? What can I do to prevent this to happen? How not to be afraid of it? I'm 19 btw
I know of no way to avoid pain with torsion. No matter what you do it's gonna be painful.
@@randypennel6961 That sucks, and also if I'm not mistaken it can happen randomly in any time,right?
@@Ersultan234 to relieve pain tho, you can try and do splits, jump up and down too if you need it
21 yr old here, dealt with radon testicular torsion spasm for about 2 months.
The pain is fucking horrible. It feels like you’re getting pull started like a lawnmower by your testicles, by someone wearing knife gloves.
Literally had to go to the ER multiple times.
No idea how to prevent it, but it’s fucking horrible mate.
@@Jaxson8157 Oh, that fucking sucks, but thank you for answer
Candy is dandy but liquor is quicker.
Lemon Gin (aka panty-remover)? lol
@@Mr1Tanker Yessss !
Fax machine
Hey Dr. Rena Malik i have an enquiry. Please help me out.
Is there any relation with the memory loss and sex/musterbation?
Please kindly make a video on this issue
This is your 3rd time writing this question.
It’s stop it or you will go blind
She doing her part as a woman to help the ladies get child support. Vasectomy will save you a fortune.
informative content.
Doc is there a way to remove plaque from penile arteries (angioplasty ) Or it is better to take cialis?
Love your material, I wish there was a spanish version to have my wife watch it. She needs to learn some of this material.
Get her English lessons.
Love rena
is there a medicene to lower libido?
😂
any on in your black book is lucky!!! knows what to do and is good looking !!!
Dr can I ask you a question? Following unprotected sex, after how many hours does the pregnancy test show positive result, if it's positive obviously?
it’s best to wait at least 2 weeks, and if you’re still worried, try again the week after that.
@@bxhija7898thank you for the reply. I'm in UK and I need to know, is it possible for the test kit bought from the shelf(over the counter) to detect the pregnancy after 8-10 hours of unprotected sex?
@@mk6090 it only detects pregnancy 2 weeks after unprotected s3x
Good
How do I lower libido?
What is a libido?
0:35 …..yeah, but very nearly 100% of their neglected husbands ARE BOTHERED BY IT!
You explain very good but it can be improved by adding more animation
My 12-year-old daughter started puberty I wanted to help her Sexual health Her body What does helper What you're saying too
Do you recommend anything to boost sexy drive after having a baby?
Nothing available for post menopausal women?
Hi doctor,
I have some issue of erection, please suggest me some medicine.
1:23 asking neighbor or friends to help with kids, NOPE not in today's world
What if I'm on the birth control pill?
No doctor can figure it out I’m 29 an have zero sec drive I’ve tried everything
what if anyone hold there ejaculation for 3 or 4 days after a shorter shorter periods of masturbations. what's the consequences are we going to face when that happen.. please answer this
A "Boosted Lambo" typo brought me here 😭
my wife is 66 and I'm 69 been married 47 years and I can't get it up without drugs what can we do?
69ing
Eat raw garlic with honey on an empty stomach
I am a 68 year old male. I tell people my sex drive drove off.
Can you make a video for men
When it comes to libido that has always heen zero.... it's more complicated.
But everywhere I look, they attribute that and loss of libido to women only.
Like it only comes from us....
I find it weird they say it's a women problem, but when you look at the numbers: you clearly see that it's a HETERO-women problem.
Says a lot.
In general, lesbians have better sex, better communication, and take care of their partners more (mutual respect/pleasing).
......
It never ceases to amaze me how women can still manage to eat, sleep, go out, shop , spend, buy clothes which make them look great but will be of no benefit to you, put on make up ,go for coffee with there friends during the day while you are at work, drive the car you've paid for ,fueled,taxed, insured and m.o.t.. choose where they want to go on holiday while you pay for it, buy presents for other people and there kids with your money , watch what ever they want on TV even if there something else on you want to watch. The only thing they can't be bothered to do is to have sex , so after providing this life style you are supposed to feel grateful in some way towards them, Fellas! We need to wake up, the best sex is in the first three months so dump them after that and move on to the next, Hindsight is a wonderful thing
Pls give subtitles
Feelings don't come when he touches me plzz rell me what ti do plzzzzzzzzzzzzz
I would love it if you gave a break down of the supplement Steel Libido Red. I’ve used it for a few years and it is CRAZY how good the erections are. I know it’s not just the citrulline because I’ve tried that alone and it’s not even close. Please please please
After menopause, real testosterone works wonders for women. Ask any Anti-Aging MD or DO.
My wife got on a low dose of 15 mg of testosterone a week about two years ago. She is 62 years old now and we have sex on average twice a week and she has great orgasms. It has definitely helped her and our relationship a lot. I highly recommend it.
Yes, a low dose of T to replace the missing T does wonders for libido. If she has more drive than you, treat both rabbits and you get your T reset to age 30. Have a complete blood test with hormone levels first. I started T in 2005. I'm now 73 and have had 18 treatments of Gainswave recently. I doubt most men after 65 can perform.
@@amazoidal I am on testosterone replacement myself. It’s done wonders for me. I go to the gym four days a week and eat healthy . I can honestly say I’m in the best physical shape of my life. The results that I was having got my wife interested in trying testosterone for herself. As I said, it’s done wonders for us.
Try DHEA available and vitamin or health food stores. It’s a natural testosterone made from the wild yam plant. It helps hormone health and production of estrogen & testosterone. Women definitely need testosterone especially after menopause. Just not as much as men. I’ve started taking 50mg daily. There’s no problem with my sex drive. I really wanted it for general health, well being and energy.
I take 100mg of DHEA and 100mg of Pregnenolone as well as Rx Testosterone. At 73, I could not build muscle without HRT.
Nahh even if I try I have no more sexual desire for my stupid husband I hope he leaves
Hi
Flowers help
What about low libido for men
NO CLOSED CAPTIONS = TWO THUMBS DOWN!!! 👎👎👎👎👎👎👎 COME ON, IT'S 2022. TURN IT ON!!!
Soon as you said fda approved, I got worried
My wife never had a libido.She does do sex or intimacy or love.All she desires is food,sleep and her precious phone that she seemingly can't live without.
That's your problem why did you marry have in the first place if she is a sexual
Look this is a solveable problem for one or both you, separately or perhaps together. As a woman who had a good sex life with my first husband at 17 to 24, then I had a terrible sex life with my second husband ages 25 to 32 when he died and finally an astoundingly wonderful sex life with my third mate of 41 yrs.... even NOW at 80 and my age of 75. I KNOW what I am talking about.
Consider me your knowledgeable and wise grandmother. I am also.a clInical psychologist and retired professor, A PROFESSIONAL, I KNOW about and have taught about sexual function.
I DONT know YOU or your wife. But something is amiss.
If you are a very traditional religious person or SHE is, it is possibly PARTLY that. Many highly religious people interpret religious rules very strictly and it can be very inhibiting to sexual desire and response for THEM. Any religion...Christianity, Islam, whatever. That you must think about first.
Second cultural expectations and attidudes affect sexual attitudes and abilities to enjoy sex openly and freely in relationships.
Then there are individual differences in expectations, desires, lovelmaking skills, openness to being creative in sex, frequency and depth of sexual desire etc. Those may be resolvable issues or maybe they are not.
As a woman who has experienced all qualities of a sex life from near zero interest. to moderate to a great interest and satisfaction with my sex life, I just say to you it may be TOLERABLE to settle for little or nothing. That is for you each to decide. If you YEARN for more know that it is possible...that there are women who also yearn for more than they have. I f you are not as skilled as you COULD be in pleasing a woman this is a learnable skill. iF she is not as skilled as she could be same for her. If sex is VERY pleasureable it is a rewarded behavior and occurs regularly ...desire to satisfaction and closeness physcially and emotionally is a loop that turns us again to desire to pleasure another and to be pleasured in return...It is a never ending feedback loop and when the quality experienced is wonderful, it is the one of the greatest pleasures and joys life has to offer...like beautiful experiences in general, or very delicious nourishing food or the perfect outdoor temperature for our bodies to enjoy the freedom of the outdoors...all the basic physiological pleasures of life CAN be yours for MANY people. If you sit down and give up or accept a less than a joyous life well you will be stuck in that state. That is what will happen. You have to work for it, reach for it , to not settle for a few grains of sand in this life. BUT the choice is yours. The action must be yours..only YOU and or HER can make life better. I f she refuses to try or open up to discuss these matters with you,then YOU have to choose..no one can choose for you. But in the end of your life you will he able to say at least I opened my eyes examined the options, and chose. THAT is better than never having the courage to THINK about these things.
Wishing you what is best for YOU. But I hear yearning in what you say, otherwise you would not be here. Otherwise you would have made no comment at all, you would be 100% accepting of your fate and you seem to me to be searching.
....Sybil Francis PhD clincial psychologist/professor (ret)
Was she on birth control? That could explain it
😂😂😂😂😂😂😢😮😢sorry
are women always 'low libido'? because im not sure
My woman has more libido than I can keep up with!
Luckey
Give it a few years. You will wonder where it went.
Don’t screw with karma. If this is post kids and a decade plus of marriage, you have no idea how good you have it.
Enjoy that while it lasts, keep up your strength do kegels going commando daily to build up your libido
I don't think I am going to have that problem
Please upload a vedio about pelvic floor strength exercises for cure of premature ejaculation thank you and love you beautiful doctor