Thank you for sharing all of your gotcha day videos you two are wonderful people and it shows that you both love these girls you have adopted. They are. Such smart babies I just am so impressed how smart they are. Hope to see more of your videos.
Бедный ребёнок плакала так сильно, аж до икоты, не могла успокоиться. Это у них уже третья девочка, молодцы что усыновляют сирот, всем благополучя, счастья и здоровья.
Those stacking cups really do seem to be magic. These three little ones are also magic seeing their wonderous journey and sweet and clever that they are. If I remember correctly, Nadia didn't need any warming up period. She is the perfect big sister and all three girls are so enthusiastic about the world around them. You two are great parents. Thanks for sharing!
curiosity as far as im concrened is a sign of intellect my son was so very curious from the day he was born now he is one of the smartest kids in his entire grade
DwimbleVideos thank you for sharing all of your adoptions. It is an honor to see your precious family memories. We have 3 children as well, and life is quite busy and full. I hope you are all doing well and happy!!
Sweet little girls. I cried so hard watching little Amelie get her fingers! She's a brave one. Your family is absolutely gorgeous and the love you all share just radiated off the screen.
Watching this makes me remember when my grandma had to leave me at the hospital for surgery. I was around five. But through the years I had more operations. This hospital was pretty much my home away from home. The problem was the hospital was an hour and a half from my home. So no one could come and see me that much.
Your daughter is beautiful . Oriental girls are just beautiful . You are very lucky to have your daughter . I have a daughter I gave birth to . I wish that my husband and I could adopt . We missed the chance , we are much too old now.
this is normal its hard for the young ones to understand to them the people who raised them from the min they go to orphanage the nannie who is with each child are the family to them but whats good is kids adapt quickly but i saw the young nannie get upset when leaving her so you know all babies are cared for and loved until mummies and daddies find them
At 00:34 Seconds it almost makes Cry every time (& l'm male ) when l see the Physical Changeover from the adoption place to the New Mom, the baby feelings are in shock l think & they start to Whale cry for the former caregiver, l repeated that moment on here over & over so l could try to understand the whole thing. A Very Precious moment.
I'll never understand why the Nannys cant sit down with baby on their lap and let mom sit beside them for a few minutes. Discuss baby's eating likes, schedule, abilities, personality. Take a bit of a walk and such. Poor baby...so traumatic.
Adoptive parents receive information about the child multiple times throughout the adoption progress and prior to taking custody of the child. They also receive medical records, favourite toys or blankets, and often a piece of jade jewelry as a reminder of their birthplace. Children will cry when left with new people in new environments. Similar to children crying on their first day at daycare. Each child is different but generally begin to bond with their new parents within hours and recognize them as their caregivers within 24 hours. Daily routines of playtime, feedings, bathing, and nighttime routines help to reinforce their adoptive parents as their caregivers. Children crying when handed to their adoptive parents is a sign that the child has been well taken care of and has met the emotional development milestones, unlike the children who were adopted from Romania who had little interaction or affection from their caregivers. I hope this information helps make it less painful to watch these little ones transition to their new lives.
You ever think she might be burning up? Especially from screaming? I watch a lot of these adoption videos and it just amazes me that nobody ever thinks to take their coats off. Just blows my mind.
Everyone does think of that. But that is generally one of the things you should NOT do. This is typically a traumatic experience for the child and immediately doing things like taking off their clothes or coat frightens and stresses them even more. Once they begin to calm down you can carefully proceed to do things like that. As soon as Dani was ready we removed her coat and changed her clothes.
В Китае варварский способ передачи детей. Обычно, дети знакомятся и привыкают к новым родителям постепенно, неделями и даже месяцами. И только потом забирают домой. А здесь просто торговля.
True these babies know exactly what's happening I think the new parents should visit the baby at least 4x before the a Actual take they need to see their faces and let it be a gradual thing not put in as and saying ma ,papa and each time they would visit the baby no no no nanny it makes it easier on the little thing just a thought
Bitter sweet l personally I could not watch the child that distressed, so I would not go through with it, but so pleased that the child has found a forever family
den kent It's hard but adoption is born of the greatest loss imaginable. What's far worse are children staying in wall to wall cribs until they're packed off at 14 to the streets. This didn't last too long and they're such a happy family. Bless you.
Her two older sister's are thinking, "Oh, what a drama queen". They are so frightened at first, I guess they don't get to see too many strangers being in an orphanage but they settle in pretty quickly. Adorable little family of ladies you have.
That was six years ago and she is doing wonderfully. She was actually doing well almost right away, by the next day. There are always challenges, but she is a mostly happy girl in a happy family where she is truly loved by us and her sisters.
They did it too fast. They are supposed to say mama papa and just stay in the room for a while. This is traumatic for her and she will never forget it. Terrible.
It is just like the initial shock that comes when you jump into a cool refreshing pool of water on a hot, humid, summer day. Once you get over the initial shock you feel nothing but great comfort and joy.
Also it seems in almost every video these Chinese babies girls prefer the dads so maybe they should be the main person not these over emotional moms nose to nose staring at the terrified child
samsara 1970 - We had zero control over it. They bring the child when and where they say, give her to you, and then you spend the next week or two going from place to place doing paperwork, with moderate amounts of free time in between. However, within a day or so Dani was doing great and happy.
I know it's been 2years, but I find myself watching adoptions again! ( I've got a bit of an addiction😊) I'm sorry if you thought I was criticising you, but it was more about the orphanage people. I know the babies are going to cry at some point but they could have given her at least a bit of time just to find her bearings. But I knew she'd be just find soon enough. I bet she's growing fast, and keeping you busy no doubt! I'm sending her a 💋. Hope you and your family are ok. Stay safe!💖💖💖
Poor babies they are so scared. I know it takes time, they should go to orphanage a few days before they take them. The parents are so wonderful. God bless them all.
Unfortunately, the adoptive parents have no options or choices with regards to the process. You go where they say and when they say. But to be fair, if we could have gone to visit Dani a few times, a few days earlier, it *may* have helped with the transition a little bit, but it likely still would have been very traumatic for her. There's really no way to know. But if we could have done that we certainly would have. In Dani's case, fortunately, she adjusted to our family VERY quickly, and was laughing and happy within about a day. With one of her older sisters the process took MUCH longer and was much more difficult.
Poor child x I know she’s going to be looked after with love after x but ! She’s terrified !! This is so cruel how they introduce the children x really upset me x
i hate the way the nannies do this!!!!! They just pass them off like they're a bag of trash instead of innocent children who will be very traumatized after being taken from the only world they've ever known!!!! It's so cruel. They don't even really give them time to acclimate themselves to their new care takers, it's just 1 2 3 here u go. It's not right!!!!!!!!!!
Watched some how they walk them in lots of people there say mama papa and leave them ! Poor little angels must be ultra terrifying for them .bitter sweet too watch some .
I am 10000% sure they are NOT the nanny. I think they are brought up in group home and are brought up by who looks acceptable to eyes of Americans This is business Chinese DONT GIVE A DAMM
I can never understand why these parents don’t take a language course so they can communicate with the child instead of the child being just dumped into a strangers arms who doesn’t look like anyone they’ve ever seen and can’t understand a word they say.
barbara whitley - What makes you think they don't? We made a serious effort to learn what we could, including working on it at home and then even travelling to China and staying there for a month going to a language school every day. We know other parents who tried as well. The problem is that learning Chinese is VERY difficult for English speakers, and no matter what, you won't be proficient enough to understand a baby/toddler's baby-babble Chinese, and they won't understand you because you aren't fluent, you have an accent, and you won't sound like the only regional dialect they understand...besides the fact that the vocabulary they understand is highly limited anyway, because they are (at least in the case of our daughters) an infant or one-year-old. In Dani's case she was learning English words within one day. She learned "shoe" and "window" almost immediately. And humorously, within a week of getting home she didn't want anyone to speak to her in Chinese. When a Chinese friend would say something to her in Chinese she would get angry and want them to stop. For months she wanted nothing to do with Chinese. Eventually she didn't mind it and had fun singing Chinese songs and learning some words. None of this is the big deal some people think it is. It can be difficult for some older children, but for toddlers and below it is pretty much a non-issue.
Even if everyone was speaking the same language it’s still strange faces in a strange place, and some kids that age have a hard time with change. She recovered
I dont understand why you wouldn't learn to speak a few sentences or words so you can help the poor child. You have a year or so, you could really help your child through this better.
Someone else asked a variation of this question in this thread...so here's the answer I gave them: What makes you think we didn't? We made a serious effort to learn what we could, including working on it at home and then even travelling to China and staying there for a month going to a language school every day. We know other parents who tried as well. The problem is that learning Chinese is VERY difficult for English speakers, and no matter what, you won't be proficient enough to understand a baby/toddler's baby-babble Chinese, and they won't understand you because you aren't fluent, you have an accent, and you won't sound like the only regional dialect they understand...besides the fact that the vocabulary they understand is highly limited anyway, because they are (at least in the case of our daughters) an infant or one-year-old. In Dani's case she was learning English words within one day. She learned "shoe" and "window" almost immediately. And humorously, within a week of getting home she didn't want anyone to speak to her in Chinese. When a Chinese friend would say something to her in Chinese she would get angry and want them to stop. For months she wanted nothing to do with Chinese. Eventually she didn't mind it and had fun singing Chinese songs and learning some words. None of this is the big deal some people think it is. It can be difficult for some older children, but for toddlers and below it is pretty much a non-issue.
DwimbleVideos in that month do you know why the Chinese don't let you go meet this child a few times? This what I don't understand. That simple change would make all the difference . I also thought learning some Chinese would be the thing to do but listening to it I know I couldn't learn it either
I wonder why they dont have the babies adopted younger. Maybe six months or something. I think as they get a little older they dont want to go to someone they dont know.
There are a number of reasons. Some we know and some we don't. Doing all the paperwork required by both the U.S. and Chinese governments can take about a year. Typically the youngest children are around two when they are adopted.
@TracyWheat2023 This is normal to them. A stranger starting to take off the layers they are accustomed to... Yikes! Obviously you've never met a toddler!
Banana man it’s her mother. She will adjust quickly, kids cry. It’s new & scary, but they’re given comfort & love. Everything is an adjustment in life.
KTA P She IS her mother. She warmed up quickly & will respond to all the love she’s given. Adoption is literally amazing. This child will grow up with a family, not an orphanage or foster home. This isn’t scarring a child for life, they won’t even remember. They’re resilient. Don’t take something beautiful & selfless and make it something terrible.
Babies are born screaming, kids cry. It’s their only way of communicating, there are children who are actually traumatized every day. This is not one of them, not even close.
Jentri - this not accurate and many people familiar with adoption and the issues that surround these children including many medical professionals and adoptees say otherwise.. These children were separated from their biological parents at a very young age. That is traumatic in and of itself. Life in an institution/orphanage is also traumatic. Some children develop reactive attachment disorder (RAD) because of this and the lucky ones can recover with years of intensive therapy. Only the lucky ones in China experience foster care outside an orphanage. Again there is another traumatic transition for a child if they are then adopted. I have a close friend who was adopted at 4 days after birth who at age 50 has needed therapy for some of the issues surrounding her adoption even though she was raised in a very loving family. Even though they don't remember specific details, many remember there was a MAJOR CHANGE in their lives where everything and everyone that had ever known was suddenly changed. This is trauma and even more so for a young child who does not know or understand why. They DO feel the loss. I speak as an adoptive mother who through my own child and other adoptive families do recognize and respect this and stand prepared to help our children through these issues surrounding their adoptions because these issues are very real.
@bandung52 There was nothing her big sisters could have done in that moment to help her. It was traumatic and scary for her a few hours. All we could do was be gentle and calm with her. After that, she began to adapt to us and feel happy and safe. A few minutes of video of when she first joined our family isn't sufficient for judging what she needed and received from us.
sOo true these babies are put into different faces than they are very aware and I feel sOo bad for them as great as it may be to have a family I don't know ! sOo sad!
Woderful for adoption but these babies need to be adopted by chinese families they are use to abd are very aware. It makes me cry! Sounds crazy but the are soo acustom to the smell of parents breathe and food smell sounds crazy but soo true like i said adoption is beyond wonderful but feel soo sorry for these babies!
@FranAsaro-jk3ih The Chinese do not adopt!! It's looked down on and until recently they had a one child rule. So these children, if not adopted by someone outside the country will never be adopted. At 14 they age out of the orphanage and are left to fend for themselves and most never survive to see adulthood. So while you are feeling sorry for these children having to adjust, I feel sorry for those who will never be adopted. If you had a clue, you might recognize that
Why do they have to transfer the child so fast? Have the parents sit down with the nanny for half hour and play without hot clothes on. Way too traumatic. Love this adoption but I can never understand the logic of a hurried transfer.
Hello. The adoptive parents don't get a choice in the matter. You do what the orphanage director says, at the speed that they want it done. We are guests in their country and would never presume to demand something different. And no matter the way it's done, it's traumatic for the child. All adoption starts with loss and confusion for the child.
Yes, she was scared, which is extremely common. No matter how you try to arrange things, the children are frequently very afraid. Fortunately it typically passes quickly.
Das haben alle gut gemacht. Dass es am Anfang nicht nicht einfach ist, das meistert die Familie dann doch. Danny hat so eine süsse Stimme!
Thank you for sharing all of your gotcha day videos you two are wonderful people and it shows that you both love these girls you have adopted. They are. Such smart babies I just am so impressed how smart they are. Hope to see more of your videos.
Бедный ребёнок плакала так сильно, аж до икоты, не могла успокоиться. Это у них уже третья девочка, молодцы что усыновляют сирот, всем благополучя, счастья и здоровья.
Just like any baby, she can feel the warmth of papa’s touching. Love can be felt, although unseen
That's a total stranger...they are not her parents
@susanmaxwellthomson4894
Susan/Karen, delete your account.
Those stacking cups really do seem to be magic. These three little ones are also magic seeing their wonderous journey and sweet and clever that they are. If I remember correctly, Nadia didn't need any warming up period. She is the perfect big sister and all three girls are so enthusiastic about the world around them. You two are great parents. Thanks for sharing!
OMG!!!! You did it again Dwimble's! :)
She is soo aborable and beautiful!
God bless all of you, you have THE MOST amazing family!
Yes we did! Thanks!! She is a delight!
haha thats a dramatic beginning!! She will have a good laugh 8 years later
Such a cute , adorable baby.God bless Your Family.Greetings Kuala Lumpur Malaysia
God bless all of you ,,,you have THE MOST amazing family..
Thanks so much!
She is overdressed and very warm and traumatized ...terrible way they did it.
You were all so patience. Dani was such a brave little girl.
It takes a lot of courage, thank you! bless all of you！
ALL of their bairns are adorable !!
She is so adorable!
Thanks!
And she was such a smart baby, too
she is so smart you can just tell by looking how she was working with the stacking cup
congratulatios she is also very beautiful
Thank you. She is very smart and curious!
curiosity as far as im concrened is a sign of intellect my son was so very curious from the day he was born now he is one of the smartest kids in his entire grade
Dani is sooo cute .I want to adopt a child someday
I can only imagine how hard that beginning was, with Dani so sad. But I have watched several of your videos, and you guys are a lovely family.
Do you plan to adopt from China or anywhere else again?
Lori Adams sorry I missed this a year ago. but we are not planning another adoption.
DwimbleVideos thank you for sharing all of your adoptions. It is an honor to see your precious family memories. We have 3 children as well, and life is quite busy and full. I hope you are all doing well and happy!!
Sweet little girls. I cried so hard watching little Amelie get her fingers! She's a brave one. Your family is absolutely gorgeous and the love you all share just radiated off the screen.
She's so cute ❤️
Watching this makes me remember when my grandma had to leave me at the hospital for surgery. I was around five. But through the years I had more operations. This hospital was pretty much my home away from home. The problem was the hospital was an hour and a half from my home. So no one could come and see me that much.
She's beautiful
Love watching these videos was so shocked that there's so many orphans would love to adopt one ❤
There are about 140 million orphans the world over
@@mortalclown3812 Shocking in this time
Your daughter is beautiful . Oriental girls are just beautiful . You are very lucky to have your daughter . I have a daughter I gave birth to . I wish that my husband and I could adopt . We missed the chance , we are much too old now.
I knew I’d seen this mother before ❤️
Awwww ! She's so adorable.
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Be still my heart!!!!!!
this is normal its hard for the young ones to understand to them the people who raised them from the min they go to orphanage the nannie who is with each child are the family to them but whats good is kids adapt quickly but i saw the young nannie get upset when leaving her so you know all babies are cared for and loved until mummies and daddies find them
She's so calm with Daddy
At 00:34 Seconds it almost makes Cry every time (& l'm male ) when l see the Physical Changeover from the adoption place to the New Mom, the baby feelings are in shock l think & they start to Whale cry for the former caregiver, l repeated that moment on here over & over so l could try to understand the whole thing. A Very Precious moment.
She's just adorable
I'll never understand why the Nannys cant sit down with baby on their lap and let mom sit beside them for a few minutes. Discuss baby's eating likes, schedule, abilities, personality. Take a bit of a walk and such. Poor baby...so traumatic.
Adoptive parents receive information about the child multiple times throughout the adoption progress and prior to taking custody of the child. They also receive medical records, favourite toys or blankets, and often a piece of jade jewelry as a reminder of their birthplace.
Children will cry when left with new people in new environments. Similar to children crying on their first day at daycare. Each child is different but generally begin to bond with their new parents within hours and recognize them as their caregivers within 24 hours. Daily routines of playtime, feedings, bathing, and nighttime routines help to reinforce their adoptive parents as their caregivers.
Children crying when handed to their adoptive parents is a sign that the child has been well taken care of and has met the emotional development milestones, unlike the children who were adopted from Romania who had little interaction or affection from their caregivers.
I hope this information helps make it less painful to watch these little ones transition to their new lives.
Awww little poppet xxxx makes my heart break
You ever think she might be burning up? Especially from screaming? I watch a lot of these adoption videos and it just amazes me that nobody ever thinks to take their coats off. Just blows my mind.
Everyone does think of that. But that is generally one of the things you should NOT do. This is typically a traumatic experience for the child and immediately doing things like taking off their clothes or coat frightens and stresses them even more. Once they begin to calm down you can carefully proceed to do things like that. As soon as Dani was ready we removed her coat and changed her clothes.
Sweet family God bless you
В Китае варварский способ передачи детей. Обычно, дети знакомятся и привыкают к новым родителям постепенно, неделями и даже месяцами. И только потом забирают домой. А здесь просто торговля.
Yes, Bonnie, you're right! Absoluty!
True these babies know exactly what's happening I think the new parents should visit the baby at least 4x before the a
Actual take they need to see their faces and let it be a gradual thing not put in as and saying ma ,papa and each time they would visit the baby no no no nanny it makes it easier on the little thing just a thought
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Piccolina nn sanno 😥😥si spaventano x un nonnulla😥😥✌✌✌😘🙎♀️👏👏
Que lindinha!
Saúde e sucesso sempre!
Bitter sweet l personally I could not watch the child that distressed, so I would not go through with it, but so pleased that the child has found a forever family
den kent It's hard but adoption is born of the greatest loss imaginable. What's far worse are children staying in wall to wall cribs until they're packed off at 14 to the streets. This didn't last too long and they're such a happy family.
Bless you.
den Kent I agree as soon as she threw ew head back and sounded like she was hit by a car I would have give her back as been done .
Ela é bem observadora.Muito amor pra essa Família!
She love daddy and mommy she is so cute sweetie
Her two older sister's are thinking, "Oh, what a drama queen". They are so frightened at first, I guess they don't get to see too many strangers being in an orphanage but they settle in pretty quickly. Adorable little family of ladies you have.
I watched all your daughters’s adoption days videos. You are awesome parents!
Thanks! That's so kind! We are all so blessed to have each other. All these years later, our family is as happy as ever. 🙂
Awe sweet baby. I am so happy she got such an awesome forever family! Good times ahead.
Dios la Bendiga Hermosa bonita familia
I hope you will do it again one more angel waiting for you sister
It,s difficult time. God bless you
you guys should show everyone how she react to the Doctor please put a video on that
Derrika Mayers what do you mean?
Essas meninas são muito lindas parabéns papai e mamãe
What a traumatizing transfer for her. Shes beautiful. Hopefully things go smoother for her in the future.
That was six years ago and she is doing wonderfully. She was actually doing well almost right away, by the next day. There are always challenges, but she is a mostly happy girl in a happy family where she is truly loved by us and her sisters.
It's very scary for the little girl...
They did it too fast. They are supposed to say mama papa and just stay in the room for a while. This is traumatic for her and she will never forget it. Terrible.
@@sunnyshores7520 Really? You saw through her eyes and knew exactly how she felt? That's an amazing power you have.
It is just like the initial shock that comes when you jump into a cool refreshing pool of water on a hot, humid, summer day. Once you get over the initial shock you feel nothing but great comfort and joy.
Being in the hospital I felt so scared because I was around strangers, and I knew in a few days I had to have the operation.
Pobrecitas. Qué mal lo pasan.....pero es que no hay otra manera....
Família linda. Parabéns.
Also it seems in almost every video these Chinese babies girls prefer the dads so maybe they should be the main person not these over emotional moms nose to nose staring at the terrified child
Ugh! Really! Nice! I love how people who have never adopted have so many opinions and experience.
That child is so scared and sad.
Yes, she was. But thankfully, she was past that within a few days.
Well she is losing her mother, no wonder she is crying. Its a sad heartbreaking day for her.
She is so cute
I know the new parents want to hold them but I think it would be better to move much slower.
Look
You must have done this many times to know the "right" way
Yes
So beautiful poor babies its all herd on them
My Lord that was quick! You didn’t even let her take a breath. Sometimes you need to let them go at their pace.
samsara 1970 - We had zero control over it. They bring the child when and where they say, give her to you, and then you spend the next week or two going from place to place doing paperwork, with moderate amounts of free time in between. However, within a day or so Dani was doing great and happy.
I know it's been 2years, but I find myself watching adoptions again! ( I've got a bit of an addiction😊) I'm sorry if you thought I was criticising you, but it was more about the orphanage people. I know the babies are going to cry at some point but they could have given her at least a bit of time just to find her bearings. But I knew she'd be just find soon enough. I bet she's growing fast, and keeping you busy no doubt! I'm sending her a 💋. Hope you and your family are ok. Stay safe!💖💖💖
I think quicker would be better. Being in a stranger's arms, and seeing your old family just steps away, has to be terrifying!
Never thought those cups were so special!
Everyone knows they are going to cry... wish the separation from the Chinese nannies would be quicker. Seeing them there must make it very hard
Beautiful little girl. Congratulations on your third adoption from China.
Thank you.
I wish I could adopt one, never mind three. I just love every baby, but I've particularly fallen in love with the little China dolls.💖
Sono spaventati😥😥👨👩👧👧
Having a big daddy hug I think, she seems very bright i know this is a few years ago now but such a sweet video xx
Precious
Poor babies 😢
Poor babies they are so scared. I know it takes time, they should go to orphanage a few days before they take them. The parents are so wonderful. God bless them all.
Unfortunately, the adoptive parents have no options or choices with regards to the process. You go where they say and when they say. But to be fair, if we could have gone to visit Dani a few times, a few days earlier, it *may* have helped with the transition a little bit, but it likely still would have been very traumatic for her. There's really no way to know. But if we could have done that we certainly would have.
In Dani's case, fortunately, she adjusted to our family VERY quickly, and was laughing and happy within about a day. With one of her older sisters the process took MUCH longer and was much more difficult.
Poor child x I know she’s going to be looked after with love after x but ! She’s terrified !! This is so cruel how they introduce the children x really upset me x
Se va a adaptándose al paso
i hate the way the nannies do this!!!!! They just pass them off like they're a bag of trash instead of innocent children who will be very traumatized after being taken from the only world they've ever known!!!! It's so cruel. They don't even really give them time to acclimate themselves to their new care takers, it's just 1 2 3 here u go. It's not right!!!!!!!!!!
Watched some how they walk them in lots of people there say mama papa and leave them ! Poor little angels must be ultra terrifying for them .bitter sweet too watch some .
They wont remember in a few weeks or so. They definitely wont remember in a year. It is cruel. But most are so young they will forget.
the best way to let the girl adapt herself.
Heart wrenching
I am 10000% sure they are NOT the nanny. I think they are brought up in group home and are brought up by who looks acceptable to eyes of Americans
This is business
Chinese DONT GIVE A DAMM
How old was Dani when you adopted her?
23 months
I can never understand why these parents don’t take a language course so they can communicate with the child instead of the child being just dumped into a strangers arms who doesn’t look like anyone they’ve ever seen and can’t understand a word they say.
barbara whitley - What makes you think they don't? We made a serious effort to learn what we could, including working on it at home and then even travelling to China and staying there for a month going to a language school every day. We know other parents who tried as well.
The problem is that learning Chinese is VERY difficult for English speakers, and no matter what, you won't be proficient enough to understand a baby/toddler's baby-babble Chinese, and they won't understand you because you aren't fluent, you have an accent, and you won't sound like the only regional dialect they understand...besides the fact that the vocabulary they understand is highly limited anyway, because they are (at least in the case of our daughters) an infant or one-year-old.
In Dani's case she was learning English words within one day. She learned "shoe" and "window" almost immediately. And humorously, within a week of getting home she didn't want anyone to speak to her in Chinese. When a Chinese friend would say something to her in Chinese she would get angry and want them to stop. For months she wanted nothing to do with Chinese. Eventually she didn't mind it and had fun singing Chinese songs and learning some words.
None of this is the big deal some people think it is. It can be difficult for some older children, but for toddlers and below it is pretty much a non-issue.
Even if everyone was speaking the same language it’s still strange faces in a strange place, and some kids that age have a hard time with change. She recovered
I dont understand why you wouldn't learn to speak a few sentences or words so you can help the poor child. You have a year or so, you could really help your child through this better.
Someone else asked a variation of this question in this thread...so here's the answer I gave them:
What makes you think we didn't? We made a serious effort to learn what we could, including working on it at home and then even travelling to China and staying there for a month going to a language school every day. We know other parents who tried as well.
The problem is that learning Chinese is VERY difficult for English speakers, and no matter what, you won't be proficient enough to understand a baby/toddler's baby-babble Chinese, and they won't understand you because you aren't fluent, you have an accent, and you won't sound like the only regional dialect they understand...besides the fact that the vocabulary they understand is highly limited anyway, because they are (at least in the case of our daughters) an infant or one-year-old.
In Dani's case she was learning English words within one day. She learned "shoe" and "window" almost immediately. And humorously, within a week of getting home she didn't want anyone to speak to her in Chinese. When a Chinese friend would say something to her in Chinese she would get angry and want them to stop. For months she wanted nothing to do with Chinese. Eventually she didn't mind it and had fun singing Chinese songs and learning some words.
None of this is the big deal some people think it is. It can be difficult for some older children, but for toddlers and below it is pretty much a non-issue.
DwimbleVideos in that month do you know why the Chinese don't let you go meet this child a few times? This what I don't understand. That simple change would make all the difference . I also thought learning some Chinese would be the thing to do but listening to it I know I couldn't learn it either
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they just leave her like a gift
I come from a big family so I want my own big family to
I wonder why they dont have the babies adopted younger. Maybe six months or something. I think as they get a little older they dont want to go to someone they dont know.
There are a number of reasons. Some we know and some we don't. Doing all the paperwork required by both the U.S. and Chinese governments can take about a year. Typically the youngest children are around two when they are adopted.
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Poor little angel
thank you
@TracyWheat2023 This is normal to them. A stranger starting to take off the layers they are accustomed to... Yikes! Obviously you've never met a toddler!
It's not okay just hand over a baby like that to a complete stranger.
Banana man it’s her mother. She will adjust quickly, kids cry. It’s new & scary, but they’re given comfort & love. Everything is an adjustment in life.
KTA P She IS her mother. She warmed up quickly & will respond to all the love she’s given. Adoption is literally amazing. This child will grow up with a family, not an orphanage or foster home. This isn’t scarring a child for life, they won’t even remember. They’re resilient. Don’t take something beautiful & selfless and make it something terrible.
Babies are born screaming, kids cry. It’s their only way of communicating, there are children who are actually traumatized every day. This is not one of them, not even close.
Jentri - this not accurate and many people familiar with adoption and the issues that surround these children including many medical professionals and adoptees say otherwise.. These children were separated from their biological parents at a very young age. That is traumatic in and of itself. Life in an institution/orphanage is also traumatic. Some children develop reactive attachment disorder (RAD) because of this and the lucky ones can recover with years of intensive therapy. Only the lucky ones in China experience foster care outside an orphanage. Again there is another traumatic transition for a child if they are then adopted. I have a close friend who was adopted at 4 days after birth who at age 50 has needed therapy for some of the issues surrounding her adoption even though she was raised in a very loving family. Even though they don't remember specific details, many remember there was a MAJOR CHANGE in their lives where everything and everyone that had ever known was suddenly changed. This is trauma and even more so for a young child who does not know or understand why. They DO feel the loss. I speak as an adoptive mother who through my own child and other adoptive families do recognize and respect this and stand prepared to help our children through these issues surrounding their adoptions because these issues are very real.
Ma povero tesoro perché farla piangere così tanto tra le braccia di persone sconosciute........ è un vero shock , possibile che non lo capiscono!
anch'io la penso così x me sono "genitori felici"bambini devastati😢😢😢😢
A nadie se le ocurre sacarles el abrigo , darle algún jugo o leche para calmarla
I think you should adopt a again a boy and no more after that I want to adopt my 6 kid but I want 5 kids on my own
why the two bug girls don't playing or show a tenderness
@bandung52 There was nothing her big sisters could have done in that moment to help her. It was traumatic and scary for her a few hours. All we could do was be gentle and calm with her. After that, she began to adapt to us and feel happy and safe. A few minutes of video of when she first joined our family isn't sufficient for judging what she needed and received from us.
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Her cheeks were so red, probably because she had so many clothes on
No, her cheeks were chapped, probably from the cold and wind. They were red and chapped for a few days.
You two seem like such good parents. I have enjoyed so many of your families videos . May God always continue to bless your family
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sOo true these babies are put into different faces than they are very aware and I feel sOo bad for them as great as it may be to have a family I don't know ! sOo sad!
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Papa Bear will help .. winks
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y me parece q hasta ven sus caras diferentes por la raza. pero no hay nada más bello q un bb chino
Ovo se ne radi ovako , s neba pa u rebra .
Woderful for adoption but these babies need to be adopted by chinese families they are use to abd are very aware. It makes me cry! Sounds crazy but the are soo acustom to the smell of parents breathe and food smell sounds crazy but soo true like i said adoption is beyond wonderful but feel soo sorry for these babies!
I say that all the time u are beyond right it's very sad ,as wonderful as it can be I don't like it one bit!😅
@FranAsaro-jk3ih The Chinese do not adopt!! It's looked down on and until recently they had a one child rule. So these children, if not adopted by someone outside the country will never be adopted. At 14 they age out of the orphanage and are left to fend for themselves and most never survive to see adulthood. So while you are feeling sorry for these children having to adjust, I feel sorry for those who will never be adopted. If you had a clue, you might recognize that
Why do they have to transfer the child so fast? Have the parents sit down with the nanny for half hour and play without hot clothes on. Way too traumatic. Love this adoption but I can never understand the logic of a hurried transfer.
Hello. The adoptive parents don't get a choice in the matter. You do what the orphanage director says, at the speed that they want it done. We are guests in their country and would never presume to demand something different. And no matter the way it's done, it's traumatic for the child. All adoption starts with loss and confusion for the child.
How she's crying it sounds like she's terrified
Yes, she was scared, which is extremely common. No matter how you try to arrange things, the children are frequently very afraid. Fortunately it typically passes quickly.