This is confirmation for me. I recently had a spiritual awakening, and was not sure what was happening. I was shown that being nice was going to kill me. Eat me alive from the inside out. Trying to make everyone happy, not telling ppl No, accepting foolish behavior and other soul killing actions from ppl was dimming my light and causing real pain inside. I have decided, NO MORE!!! Since this declaration I've been able to sleep without pharmaceuticals or alcohol. Crippling insomnia GONE! i took my life back. This is MY LIFE and MY JOURNEY, no one else gets to write my life story but me! When my mind wants to drift into the past, future, or on someone or something that brings internal discomfort. I start at a random 3 digit number, and count backwards. This brings my mind Back into focus on myself, my mind, my body, my soul, my wants, needs, and desires. This exercise has changed my life. ❤ Share this information with other Empaths, it's time for Us to reclaim our Power. I'm not dimming my light any more. God bless you All. 🎉
Totally! About a year ago, I came to the same conclusion. I decided to withdraw from even attempting to date. If I’m not appreciated and there’s no reciprocity in any relationship I’m not going to be a part of it! I don’t care what the relationship is. My goal is healthy relationships. I have to say I have so much more peace and joy and comfort in my life. I take time out of the equation also. I’m 71 years of age got divorced when I was 65. I’m realizing how much I enjoy my own company and taking care of myself and not having to compromise for others. I thought at one point I might want to remarry, but now I have no interest in remarrying. If at some point in time, the right man comes into my life who is in alignment with me and my morals and my values we can start out as friends, but I do not think I have an interest in ever remarrying and taking care of another man. When I was younger, I never really cared what men think and I wasn’t always nice. I was me I was authentic. My life was so much better then. After I got married to someone who turned out to be an alcoholic, I started becoming a person who did not trust myself and my own judgment anymore because I stayed in that marriage too long. I believe I have finally healed and I’m feeling good for the first time in many many years. I will not betray myself ever again. I will never agree to something that is not of the truth and light. I will not put someone else’s needs above my own if I will suffer.
Yeah it’s a bummer finding out the majority of men seem to have these tendencies. I think it’s left over from caveman days because since women are nurturers it doesn’t benefit men to evolve past their caveman proclivities. When I was young, men seemed so beautiful. It’s been disappointing and disillusioning to face reality and discover that this and many things about life are antithetical to striving to seek out goodness. But we need the goodness dreamers in this world too for some balance. Imagine where we would be without it. It’s what holds back the barbarians as much as we are able from completely taking over…. So far.
Being kind and nice is not borne out of fear. It’s the right thing to be. You cannot control other peoples’ reactions. Just be determined in your boundaries and confident in who you are.
There can be confusion between kind and 'nice' … kindness is a quality described at 1:16 and Joe Dispenza clarifies the difference between the two … kindness is not people-pleasing, and 'being nice' is. Big difference.
As a very abused child, if I didn’t “be nice” or say what supported my narcissistic Mother, there was hell to pay. I am spending my life unlearning this!
Wow this is so powerful in everyway! My father kept rejecting me when I was a child, which caused me to have really unhealthy attachment as an adult. The people pleasing, had no boundaries, and just always being so nice to everyone to the point it was detrimental to my own happiness. I was definitley a door mat. But I am learning so much now to show up authentically.
You're not alone. Same here. Working on it too. This will be my second year of unlearning the people pleasing and learning self love. We've got this! We don't have a choice...🤭
I am just going through this now I had a really nice sparring bottle with a random male cashier at the Dollar general he's white I'm black and have a very big butt and he had the nerve to say something about my weight so I told him that his penis was small and that's why his women cheat on him with black males and that's why my boyfriend has a 9-inch penis. I told my mother who is basically the Black version of Queen Elizabeth... Extremely refined very turned off by vulgar language and she get high five me and said I've never been prouder for you standing up for yourself😂😂😂😂🧿
The hardest part probably is to know the feeling of one’s own solid identity. In case of an abuse/ abandonment one never has a chance to form it. It took a lifetime of work to finally feel/sense and know what self identity feels like after being enmeshed with energetically possessive parents and other self unaware family members projecting their versions of me on me.
This definitely applies to men as well. My ex was like that. Super nice to me, I really thought finally I found my person. Amazing one year relationship, no conflicts, it was so easy and natural... Until he dumped me one day OVER THE PHONE out of the blue, and I never saw him again. The most traumatising thing that ever happened to me because I loved this man so much. He gave some weird reasons for the breakup, and when I asked why he never tried to talk about it, he said he's "too scared to start a conversation sometimes". He was too scared to even break up face to face, so he threw me out like a garbage bag, lol. A 41 year-old man. I never even thought people behave like this. Can't even describe how shitty this makes you feel, suddenly every moment spent together feels like a lie, because maybe they were already planning their escape. He called me "his love" just a day before. Be very, very wary of people pleasers because they might be severely avoidant. You won't know what's going on in their head. They're not authentic, they can put on a great act and you won't suspect anything until it's too late.
This happened to me with my husband . 5 years of marriage . No warning , no fight I was dumped like garbage. He already had another supply lined up I think .
@@lolitalolipops4154 I'm so sorry. How awful... At least we weren't married or lived together. But I will never understand how someone can pretend so damn well, spend so much time together with you, and then discard you all of a sudden like you're nothing. To my mind this is sociopathic behaviour. Wish you luck and love in 2025.
Hi, former people pleaser here. I am so sorry you went through that. 🙏 I didn’t know I was a pp until I woke up. I just want to say that it wasn’t any of your fault. We are unaware and unauthentic. We just try to survive without any conflict unconsciously. Conflicts are terrifying and to be avoided at all costs. It’s not healthy or right to your partner. I just wanted to describe to you the thought process and behaviour. Avoidant behaviour. So if they can’t disagree with you sometimes and have a discussion about it and it’s always perfect and good then that is a red flag. Chris Watts comes to mind. Healthy conflicts are normal.
@@Sadbuttrue-ThatSwedishGirl The interesting thing about Chris Watts is that his wife was very dominating and demanding, and he went along with everything she told him to do, even though he was clearly sick of everything. But he was too cowardly to say "no" to anything: the big house they couldn't afford (but she wanted), acting as the perfect family in her promotional videos, possibly even their 3rd child. He never said no, until he snapped. He must have some serious disorder (I can't diagnose him obviously) to have chosen such a horrific solution to his situation, but you're right, he was probably severely conflict avoidant. And when I saw his mother speaking, I realised why. She's 100% a narcissist. He kept choosing dominating women in his life (I'm sure that Nichol woman was the same), because that's what was familiar to him, even though he hated that. My ex told me about 3 or 4 of his previous partners, including a wife from a brief marriage, and according to him, they all treated him terribly. Cheated, psychologically abused him, blindsided him and kicked him out unexpectedly, etc. I was naive and thought he was just very unlucky. But surely now that he met me he can relax and be happy, right? I was always very laid back and non-dramatic, so to me, not having conflicts for a year is absolutely normal. Especially when you don't live together. I thought it was the same for him. Yay, we finally found each other... He was trying to create a business with his brother the whole time we were together, and was very stressed a lot of the time. I was his main emotional supporter. Always listened, gave my opinion when asked, was always there for him and encouraged him to continue when he wanted to quit. As soon as things started picking up speed, he threw me out suddenly, like I was nothing to him. This was the most shocking thing to me. I will never, ever understand this. To this day (the breakup happened 6 months ago) I don't know if he ever acknowledged to himself how much I supported him and cheered for him, and wanted him to succeed. It was the biggest slap in the face I ever got in my life. I do think my ex, like Chris Watts, feels better in a toxic environment with a demanding, dominating partner. It's what he knows and is used to. He didn't know how to handle a calm, peaceful relationship.
This hit me so hard. I've been a doormat my entire life people pleasing and being a nice person it was just a patten In all relationships I've been I used to runaway from relationships because I can't express my self same thing will happen in a new relationship I am tired .people don't care I used to be afraid of being alone but the truth is I've been alone in my entire life .I am not embracing new beginnings I don't care I can't do that anymore 😢
@GenerosaAngula, give it a try and see your soul wings opening, there's nothing more to be scared of. You've been scared long enough. You can start small, eg.: saying no if someone wants to borrow one of your things and you're not keen on that. You may say, "I stopped borrowing things as people bring it damaged, sorry with a gentle smile". Never feel guilty for doing that as it's our right to say No nicely. It's not your responsibility to be so accommodating, and there is no need for any extra explanation as it's nobody's business to know your reasons. You may have acquired that pattern in childhood and this pattern must be broken. No relationship ever can make us whole and clearly, you soul wanted to learn it in this life. You've been awakened.
It happened to me exactly the opposite. I was an aloof business like person. I felt I was respected but not "liked." When I got conscious of that, a process of deep change began. I turned into an amiable person, empathic, joyful. My life has changed for the better. The same energy approached to me and I have many more friends now.
This is not Joe Dispenza. Look at the description it says... 'This content is altered and synthetic content. Sounds and visuals were significantly edited or digitally generated' Just click on 'more' in the description. At least they're being honest about it. Honestly we do need to use discernment when it comes to our minds. AI is everywhere now so its hard to know whats legitimate and real. As soon as I saw the title I knew that Joe would never say such a thing, not in that context. So I checked before listening. Joe Despenza's own channel is best place to go to see his genuine content. Its scary isn't people!! Love to you all ❤ xxx
I actually got fired for not being a people pleaser. I am a new lawyer and the much older bitter office manager was trying to call me at all hours of the night after I would ask her to call me by 5:00 p.m. which are our set work hours. I got fired 2 months ago for quote unquote not being a team player but I would have much rather left with my dignity than suffer the consequences of betraying my own boundaries for a paycheck 🧿
I really needed this. I am the biggest sucker for men probably in the world. No more thanks to you. I will be myself… am I a little scared? You betcha but I’m going to do it because it’s right and necessary. I am tired of being a people pleaser. It causes nothing but insecurity…. No more. I feel like I just got my prayed for questions and insecurity. I am too good for all the crap I have been trying to be… miss sweetheart no more unless that’s what I really feel at the time. I will let you know how I succeed over the next few months. Thank you and god bless you! ❤
They stress you out of yourself through those got out of their mind by vice and then they say you're a people pleaser, an alien, an idiot....you don't fit, like in Dostoïevski novel.
I've been struggling on my twin flame journey feeling stuck in the runner - chaser dynamic, and this was the best teaching since a long time of what is meant by becoming authentic true self you were meant to be.
This goes deeper into the emotional trauma / childhood neglect you may have had. If you’re a runner and continue to participate in the push and pull dynamic it will never change until you make a decision to stop it. Trust me I was in it. Tore my heart into pieces. You have to heal you for this to stop. Wish someone would d told me this before
I can see how this advice should be aimed towards people who people please ONLY. On the extreme end of the spectrum, some people are so overly authentic to the point where they are unaware of oneself and how their actions affect others, they are manipulative, and they are selfish...And no, they aren't narcissits, or severly traumatized people - they are just regular people who are very self-focused.
There’s nothing wrong with living your truth. If people have a problem with it that’s THEIR problem. Nobody was there for those authentic ppl when they gave a fuck about others
You can be nice, authentic and have boundaries too. It just takes complete self awareness, knowledge of disrespectful bahaviour, and most of all know what red flags to look for, especially if you are an empath 😊
Love you, Joe, for telling the truth as it is and giving it to us in such a clear simple way. It's true, if we want love, for example, we have to feel love, think love, show love, in other words to be love and we receive love and that's what I think it means living in the name of father, son and holy spirit, thought, emotion and action aligned in being what we want to have
I wasn’t supported at being authentic, so I shrinked myself and made all sorts of stories of why it was not good to do. fear fear fear. Now realising- it was exactly what I needed and now the oppertunity is gone😭 - and I felt even worse than before.
I learned / thru Growth (pain) not 2 respond to the negativity I hear ( gaslighting) I respond w/ silence & keep it moving .…knowing my 🕧is valuable & u can't it back. My view... It's a two- way street . The saying a river does not run in reverse.🙏☝️ I GET IT! knowing my worth I love that I'm a Taurus 🐂♉.
🤍🙏🤍 Absolutely you nailed it!! Feels great to stand in your power still be kind. People pleasing over the top does not impress me. Honestly I was way to nice. Took some huge life challenges to wake up shake my soul. With many years of wisdom learning from podcasts videos observing behaviours… it is empowering to be real!! I used to worry what others thought. I have shifted now going more with flow and I do not care what others think anymore. I’m kind honest sincere and have lots of love to share. Learning to stay clear from those whom judge and do not respect me. They do not deserve my presence and beautiful energy. It’s great to love yourself do our inner work to feel more peace. Learning to do what makes my heart sing and more joy to honour my well being. Peace Love Joy!! Just Be!! Be real 🤍🙏🤍
I was like this with my family. Not just men, mostly because my truth was too heavy for so many. I split in 2019, and I’ve been sick ever since. I want to be authentic again. And have authentic relationships.
It’s funny that I come across this this morning when just last night I was my authentic self with someone letting them know how I was not a thin person, but then I was working on it, but totally backed off and does not want to see me. I wasn’t being mean, but I was authentic and let’s see what happens because I would appreciate someone being honest with me instead of going on a date and seeing something that wasn’t true. I could’ve lied. I could’ve kept it going and maybe lose weight but I don’t want to. And if he never comes back, I didn’t need him anyway.
For me I’m noticing when to stand up for myself, but Im not sure what to say? I get so frustrated and scared to speak up that it comes out rude or a super loud bark! Are there any practice scenarios on when and how to speak up that you’d recommend? I usually notice after the situation so it seems too late most times to go back to a person and say it bothered me. Especially to people associated with my brother and parents, where I risk ending a relationship or being looked down upon..🤷♀️It seems like when I speak up it’s so uncomfortable that a friendship is forever ruined. I’m working on all this I was never taught how to speak up with finesse, or how to work through a problem within a friendship or relationship. People want to speak up we just need practice on how to do it.
Some of these comments are so relatable to me as I'm sure to many others too. I have been a lifelong people pleaser and someone else who has always been therefore othersover myself. I'm now on the stage of my life where I am starting to respect my own worth do things that are right for myself not just what makes other people happy and this is proving to be a very difficult adjustment for those that have grown up around me. They have been so used to how I was it is obviously easier for them that I stay that way and they are really trying to pressure me to do this. Fortunately having grown up an experience all that I have I have become a very strong person and I'm holding strong to my self-worth and self-respect alongside my care for those around me. It is only recently fat people are starting to really see this is a permanent and are starting to adjust. Since becoming a mum I have really grown my own southworth and respect along with the importance of protecting and taking care of this, standing strong to my own moral and ethical values as well. For anyone else who is experiencing similar I m finding it is very important to clarify your own morals, values and where it is that you will bend and not.
Great video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
Exactly don't know like this is actual voice of Dr Joe Dispenza but whatever is so much is given so much worth it and actually this is something that I needed and I'm really grateful for such a video I don't know if really he has said this he hasn't said this also still the wisdom is very much necessary to be heard and to be understood and to apply on ourselves ❤.
I'm no longer kind or nice towards men. I cussed out every guy from my past that contacted me. I called them out on their breadcrumbing stingy behavior. I called them all kinds of aholes. I demanded my needs be met first before anything takes place and the most interesting thing happened they all loved it, they picked up the phone and called me and laughed and we talked crap to one another. I've been offered expensive gifts, dates, money. Men earn my kindness and niceness or they can get outta my face. I no longer care about what they want until they care about my wants first.
Dr. Dispenza, Thank you for the video. I am very authentic and can't pretend. Some of the fake men literally runnnn 😂 Their mask slips within moments in my presence, and they are left quite lost. It's funny 😁. They sure respect me, but some people are so scared of authenticity
I don't think this video uses AI generated voice. If you listen to 15:00-15:30, there's a slight space and 'uh,' which does not appear in AI generated voices.
Tim Fletcher talks about a child creating “adaptive behavior” to survive (not well) and it becomes subconscious and we think it is who we are. I was compulsively helpful. I then realized - it was not who I was - it was an ingrained knee jerk reaction. I said, “That’s not me. That’s not my authentic self!!! Now I think about whether or not I want to help someone or not. Someone needs money? I don’t give away money. Shall we pray. Or I wonder who else you could go to to get money…
No, the problem women are having is they prefer assholes and they get what's coming to them. Only after they're old do they finally figure it out but by then the guy they should have chosen doesn't want to deal with a broken vessel.
I needed to hear this today. I get told I am too nice and I do it at my own detriment thinking that's what men want or need. It just made me a doormat. Get used over and over again and hence becoming an anxious attachment and connecting with men who are emotionally unavailable to me then use sex as a way to keep them intrested. I am over it now and need to focus on myself and stop being nice to men who never deserved me to begin with. Being nice is suffocating and gave me sleepless nights.
Couple of things here. This is an excellent goal, but it’s not taking a few things into account here. First off, you WILL be rejected when you stop being nice. Narcissistic men, and narcissistic people in general, will reject you because they aren’t interested in your needs, the relationship is founded on you meeting their needs. So the fear that drives the women to be too nice is based on reality in many cases. Additionally, women who are nice versus authentic tend to attract those kinds of people more so than strong women, because they accept it. Most importantly, many people who are too nice over authentic are codependent. That means many times they don’t even KNOW what is authentic for them, they have shoved their own emotions so deep they can only identify other people’s expectations over their own. So there are a couple of hiccups in Dispenza’s formula that doesn’t take certain things into account. Having said that, with work any person, woman or man, can overcome their fear and become wholly authentic, and this is truly the best thing for healing (and putting out a vibration that attracts what is TRUE to you). It’s just not as simple as portrayed here, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t totally worth it.
I think it is more about doing the things that make your life feel fulfilled. It's not so much about being too nice or a doormat or whatever. Lifes more about finding the things you love and doing them. Being too nice or too helpful can be because you aren't focused on your life
@@demita840 this is exactly what he or she wrote. That is being authentic. However a lot of traumatised people don’t know their identity meaning they don’t know what they like, want or value. If you don’t know that, you start attaching your identity to other people’s needs and start being “too nice”. There’s nothing wrong with being nice, as long as you are being authentic and not just pleasing.
@@keri1356 I agree. I’m just saying that people who are too nice are conditioned to accept narcissistic tendencies and they often don’t know who they are because they’re so used to giving that up for someone else, so they settle for narcissistic behavior because that feels normal to them. So they are scared to lose their narcissistic partner because they often don’t understand that’s what they’re settling for, or they’re too afraid to let go of it. Which is why they continue to be nice and inauthentic, because they’re afraid. I am a mental health counselor, I see this constantly. It’s unhealthy behavior because no one should accept a narcissist, but it happens a lot. I was just clarifying that Dispenza’s thoughts are great here, but not as easy as he portrays in some circumstances.
I will choose authenticity over niceness. Don’t care about being rejected. Rejection and abandonment are parts of life. If my authenticity causes narcissistic people to go away, then praise God, hallelujah 🎉🎉🎉
I'm so happy happy!!! Dam I'm a women who loves people and I love to help others. But I love more my personal freedom and being with myself. For years I belevied I'had a problem not fixing in regular society. But now I dont give a fu*** to that. Love my solitud.
I am just kind to everyone, Male or Female. Peeps think I am dumb or door matt. No. It helps me understand who you really are. Sometimes, purposely extra kind to see if you respect me or going to take the chance to take advantage. That helps me determine if I want you in my life or not.
You can be nice, kind, yet the saying goes, don't mistake my kindness for weakness. Some people will use this as a doormat, it's when you continue to be without speaking up, without people pleasing, etc. Il be nice, but I won't tolerate lies, insults etc, il call you out on it, in a nice authentic way... Meaning that I won't shout, get angry, I will be assertive and real. I won't put up with bs 😂
Thats not what the video said at all. Watch it again. One part he specifically says "I'm not saying not to be nice - but to be authentic." Come on people
Oh, how very important this is!!! So this must certainly become part of Pensum in the obligatory school, PLEASE 🙏🏼🇧🇻🌍♀️ This is great, though I've never been a slave to the slaves, as John Lennon sang about women. But so so many women don't even get the possibility to choose!!! And also in Europe, where I was born and grown up, even in Norway, there's an inbuildt belief women carry with her through Life; To always be the person who serves the coffee, makes the meals, cleans the Home, etc etc. That has never been my case. My Grandma & my Mamma taught us to never forget we are equally worth as men. ♀️💪🏼🥳🇧🇻🌍🕉️👍🏼 So thanks alot, Dr Joe Dispenza, for such an important teaching!
I’m a truth teller, which many people love - until I question them something that they can’t answer or don’t want to see in themselves. Nice is highly overrated. I’m a good person but I’m not American ‘nice.’ I can’t be phony, so if I’m unhappy about something, you’ll know it. Most people tell me I should hide my feelings, beginning with my mother, when I’d open a present and frown when I saw yet another ugly sweater. She said I should pretend I liked my gifts - and I decided then that I wasn’t about to start faking happiness. Never. I’m 64 now and I feel very good about myself that I never ‘acted nice’ in order to fit in or manipulate people - which is what my mother and sisters do. They are the types to marry for money and withhold sex in order to get the things they want.
Dr. Joe, remember to credit Marianne Williamson when you say that people shouldn't dim their light so that others won't feel insecure around them. Also, your work has improved my life immensely! Cannot thank you enough.❤
Sounds good to me but some people are just kind and nice not because of fear at all, you just love humanity and like to uplift others up that what makes you happy having empathy towards others because that is your unique essence you just know because that who you are 🔥🔥
Sadly we are not trees. We function, make relationships, break relationships, thrive, get lost... And trying to balance our lives among this at the same time looking for our own truth can be challenging and much more complex. Being nice can be socially profitable, while being authentic can benefit ourselves. Can it be said that one is better than another? And what if being nice is someone's "authentic"?
This is how an Oak Tree falls in a storm because it doesn't know how to bend with the wind like a willow tree. The Oak tree is not all that mighty; it's the Willow tree that survives the storm and thrives.
Basically what he is explaining is i beleive totally It's we don't or we should not act fake vs what we feel We should be what we feel and not fake act
😂 I don't know how not to be REAL? It just naturally came to me all my life I don't know another way to live or how not to be my real myself. But great speech regardless.
Thank yu that’s me for ever and yes iv begged chased text im still doing so after tge person left me after a year Thanhs so much god sent me this from yyr self god bless thanks so much ❤
Thank you. So what's the difference between being nice and being kind? I feel that the American English has a different meaning to what I understand. English is my second language. For your viewers to really get the message (which is a great one) I feel this could have been addressed in the first place. See what I just did? I wasn't being "nice " (whatever you mean by that),I was authentic. 🙂
The problem isn't being nice to men it's being nice to the wrong ones.
Absolutely 👍
Exactly!
The problem is not being nice to OURSELVES because a lot of times we are nice even to the right ones and it is not reciprocated or even appreciated
@clarkclarke If you're talking about relationships and he's not showing interest then he's just not the right one. It's nothing personal.
@@bbaird197 Correct!
If anyone is uncomfortable with your truth then they have no place being near you. Don't cling to what does not flow naturally.
😮❤ love this
This isn’t Joe, it’s AI
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This is confirmation for me.
I recently had a spiritual awakening, and was not sure what was happening. I was shown that being nice was going to kill me. Eat me alive from the inside out. Trying to make everyone happy, not telling ppl No, accepting foolish behavior and other soul killing actions from ppl was dimming my light and causing real pain inside.
I have decided, NO MORE!!! Since this declaration I've been able to sleep without pharmaceuticals or alcohol. Crippling insomnia GONE! i took my life back. This is MY LIFE and MY JOURNEY, no one else gets to write my life story but me!
When my mind wants to drift into the past, future, or on someone or something that brings internal discomfort. I start at a random 3 digit number, and count backwards. This brings my mind Back into focus on myself, my mind, my body, my soul, my wants, needs, and desires.
This exercise has changed my life. ❤
Share this information with other Empaths, it's time for Us to reclaim our Power. I'm not dimming my light any more.
God bless you All. 🎉
Totally! About a year ago, I came to the same conclusion. I decided to withdraw from even attempting to date. If I’m not appreciated and there’s no reciprocity in any relationship I’m not going to be a part of it! I don’t care what the relationship is. My goal is healthy relationships. I have to say I have so much more peace and joy and comfort in my life. I take time out of the equation also. I’m 71 years of age got divorced when I was 65. I’m realizing how much I enjoy my own company and taking care of myself and not having to compromise for others. I thought at one point I might want to remarry, but now I have no interest in remarrying. If at some point in time, the right man comes into my life who is in alignment with me and my morals and my values we can start out as friends, but I do not think I have an interest in ever remarrying and taking care of another man. When I was younger, I never really cared what men think and I wasn’t always nice. I was me I was authentic. My life was so much better then. After I got married to someone who turned out to be an alcoholic, I started becoming a person who did not trust myself and my own judgment anymore because I stayed in that marriage too long. I believe I have finally healed and I’m feeling good for the first time in many many years. I will not betray myself ever again. I will never agree to something that is not of the truth and light. I will not put someone else’s needs above my own if I will suffer.
Fantastic 🎉 It’s called self love ❤
@@hollandgem2 much love to you.
Amen! AGREED … Me too!
Yeah it’s a bummer finding out the majority of men seem to have these tendencies. I think it’s left over from caveman days because since women are nurturers it doesn’t benefit men to evolve past their caveman proclivities. When I was young, men seemed so beautiful. It’s been disappointing and disillusioning to face reality and discover that this and many things about life are antithetical to striving to seek out goodness. But we need the goodness dreamers in this world too for some balance. Imagine where we would be without it. It’s what holds back the barbarians as much as we are able from completely taking over…. So far.
This is 100% true.
When I was people pleasing nice I was miserable.
I became me and suddenly I’m free.
Always be authentically raw. Even babies are not nice, they scream and kick if they want something. 😂
Being kind and nice is not borne out of fear. It’s the right thing to be. You cannot control other peoples’ reactions. Just be determined in your boundaries and confident in who you are.
There can be confusion between kind and 'nice' … kindness is a quality described at 1:16 and Joe Dispenza clarifies the difference between the two … kindness is not people-pleasing, and 'being nice' is. Big difference.
I'm no longer kind nor nice towards men. I learned the hard way. They must earn it. Ironically I can't get these guys to leave me alone now.
I'm no longer kind nor nice towards men. I learned the hard way. They must earn it. Ironically I can't get these guys to leave me alone now.
I'm no longer kind nor nice towards men. I learned the hard way. They must earn it. Ironically I can't get these guys to leave me alone now.
Yes it absolutely is. Most of us are driven by fear until you wake up and decide to make your choice out of love instead.
As a very abused child, if I didn’t “be nice” or say what supported my narcissistic Mother, there was hell to pay. I am spending my life unlearning this!
Wow this is so powerful in everyway! My father kept rejecting me when I was a child, which caused me to have really unhealthy attachment as an adult. The people pleasing, had no boundaries, and just always being so nice to everyone to the point it was detrimental to my own happiness. I was definitley a door mat. But I am learning so much now to show up authentically.
You're not alone. Same here. Working on it too. This will be my second year of unlearning the people pleasing and learning self love. We've got this! We don't have a choice...🤭
same here
Ive been there too!
Dr. Joe, I haven't been nice to men in many, many years....I've never felt better.
I am just going through this now I had a really nice sparring bottle with a random male cashier at the Dollar general he's white I'm black and have a very big butt and he had the nerve to say something about my weight so I told him that his penis was small and that's why his women cheat on him with black males and that's why my boyfriend has a 9-inch penis. I told my mother who is basically the Black version of Queen Elizabeth... Extremely refined very turned off by vulgar language and she get high five me and said I've never been prouder for you standing up for yourself😂😂😂😂🧿
The hardest part probably is to know the feeling of one’s own solid identity. In case of an abuse/ abandonment one never has a chance to form it. It took a lifetime of work to finally feel/sense and know what self identity feels like after being enmeshed with energetically possessive parents and other self unaware family members projecting their versions of me on me.
This definitely applies to men as well. My ex was like that. Super nice to me, I really thought finally I found my person. Amazing one year relationship, no conflicts, it was so easy and natural... Until he dumped me one day OVER THE PHONE out of the blue, and I never saw him again. The most traumatising thing that ever happened to me because I loved this man so much. He gave some weird reasons for the breakup, and when I asked why he never tried to talk about it, he said he's "too scared to start a conversation sometimes". He was too scared to even break up face to face, so he threw me out like a garbage bag, lol. A 41 year-old man. I never even thought people behave like this. Can't even describe how shitty this makes you feel, suddenly every moment spent together feels like a lie, because maybe they were already planning their escape. He called me "his love" just a day before. Be very, very wary of people pleasers because they might be severely avoidant. You won't know what's going on in their head. They're not authentic, they can put on a great act and you won't suspect anything until it's too late.
This happened to me with my husband . 5 years of marriage . No warning , no fight I was dumped like garbage. He already had another supply lined up I think .
@@lolitalolipops4154 I'm so sorry. How awful... At least we weren't married or lived together. But I will never understand how someone can pretend so damn well, spend so much time together with you, and then discard you all of a sudden like you're nothing. To my mind this is sociopathic behaviour.
Wish you luck and love in 2025.
@@trupinys1979 NPD ..
happy 2025 !
Hi, former people pleaser here. I am so sorry you went through that. 🙏
I didn’t know I was a pp until I woke up. I just want to say that it wasn’t any of your fault. We are unaware and unauthentic. We just try to survive without any conflict unconsciously. Conflicts are terrifying and to be avoided at all costs. It’s not healthy or right to your partner. I just wanted to describe to you the thought process and behaviour. Avoidant behaviour. So if they can’t disagree with you sometimes and have a discussion about it and it’s always perfect and good then that is a red flag. Chris Watts comes to mind. Healthy conflicts are normal.
@@Sadbuttrue-ThatSwedishGirl The interesting thing about Chris Watts is that his wife was very dominating and demanding, and he went along with everything she told him to do, even though he was clearly sick of everything. But he was too cowardly to say "no" to anything: the big house they couldn't afford (but she wanted), acting as the perfect family in her promotional videos, possibly even their 3rd child. He never said no, until he snapped. He must have some serious disorder (I can't diagnose him obviously) to have chosen such a horrific solution to his situation, but you're right, he was probably severely conflict avoidant. And when I saw his mother speaking, I realised why. She's 100% a narcissist. He kept choosing dominating women in his life (I'm sure that Nichol woman was the same), because that's what was familiar to him, even though he hated that.
My ex told me about 3 or 4 of his previous partners, including a wife from a brief marriage, and according to him, they all treated him terribly. Cheated, psychologically abused him, blindsided him and kicked him out unexpectedly, etc. I was naive and thought he was just very unlucky. But surely now that he met me he can relax and be happy, right? I was always very laid back and non-dramatic, so to me, not having conflicts for a year is absolutely normal. Especially when you don't live together. I thought it was the same for him. Yay, we finally found each other...
He was trying to create a business with his brother the whole time we were together, and was very stressed a lot of the time. I was his main emotional supporter. Always listened, gave my opinion when asked, was always there for him and encouraged him to continue when he wanted to quit. As soon as things started picking up speed, he threw me out suddenly, like I was nothing to him. This was the most shocking thing to me. I will never, ever understand this. To this day (the breakup happened 6 months ago) I don't know if he ever acknowledged to himself how much I supported him and cheered for him, and wanted him to succeed. It was the biggest slap in the face I ever got in my life.
I do think my ex, like Chris Watts, feels better in a toxic environment with a demanding, dominating partner. It's what he knows and is used to. He didn't know how to handle a calm, peaceful relationship.
This hit me so hard. I've been a doormat my entire life people pleasing and being a nice person it was just a patten In all relationships I've been I used to runaway from relationships because I can't express my self same thing will happen in a new relationship I am tired .people don't care I used to be afraid of being alone but the truth is I've been alone in my entire life .I am not embracing new beginnings I don't care I can't do that anymore 😢
@GenerosaAngula, give it a try and see your soul wings opening, there's nothing more to be scared of. You've been scared long enough. You can start small, eg.: saying no if someone wants to borrow one of your things and you're not keen on that. You may say, "I stopped borrowing things as people bring it damaged, sorry with a gentle smile". Never feel guilty for doing that as it's our right to say No nicely. It's not your responsibility to be so accommodating, and there is no need for any extra explanation as it's nobody's business to know your reasons. You may have acquired that pattern in childhood and this pattern must be broken. No relationship ever can make us whole and clearly, you soul wanted to learn it in this life. You've been awakened.
embrace jesus- it will transform your life
“Not nice” is an amazing book exactly about that 📚
It happened to me exactly the opposite.
I was an aloof business like person. I felt I was respected but not "liked."
When I got conscious of that, a process of deep change began.
I turned into an amiable person, empathic, joyful.
My life has changed for the better.
The same energy approached to me and I have many more friends now.
A tree is rooted in it's own nature is the perfect way to say that. Perfect analogy. Love this dude
This is not Joe Dispenza. Look at the description it says... 'This content is altered and synthetic content. Sounds and visuals were significantly edited or digitally generated'
Just click on 'more' in the description. At least they're being honest about it. Honestly we do need to use discernment when it comes to our minds. AI is everywhere now so its hard to know whats legitimate and real. As soon as I saw the title I knew that Joe would never say such a thing, not in that context. So I checked before listening.
Joe Despenza's own channel is best place to go to see his genuine content.
Its scary isn't people!! Love to you all ❤ xxx
Yeah it's not something how would say
AI is scary
I knew it wasn't him, but what it says is true
It's the message that's important. Did you get the message?
@@Katie-Lou039 why wouldn't he say this?
This video is exactly what I need right now..thank you ❤
The same applies to colleagues and work..
I actually got fired for not being a people pleaser. I am a new lawyer and the much older bitter office manager was trying to call me at all hours of the night after I would ask her to call me by 5:00 p.m. which are our set work hours. I got fired 2 months ago for quote unquote not being a team player but I would have much rather left with my dignity than suffer the consequences of betraying my own boundaries for a paycheck 🧿
I really needed this. I am the biggest sucker for men probably in the world. No more thanks to you. I will be myself… am I a little scared? You betcha but I’m going to do it because it’s right and necessary. I am tired of being a people pleaser. It causes nothing but insecurity…. No more. I feel like I just got my prayed for questions and insecurity. I am too good for all the crap I have been trying to be… miss sweetheart no more unless that’s what I really feel at the time. I will let you know how I succeed over the next few months. Thank you and god bless you! ❤
It ' s not about what you say or do, it's more about coming inside, staying centered on you, align with yourself. This is all about.
.....and, when one is in conversation it also is in verbal expression..
They stress you out of yourself through those got out of their mind by vice and then they say you're a people pleaser, an alien, an idiot....you don't fit, like in Dostoïevski novel.
BE nice to the ones who are nice to you. SIMPLE
Given the number of men who seem to have a deep hatred of women, why would anyone bother being nice. Clearly it's not going to matter.
Agreed. Women are far from perfect.
Don't be nice, be kind!! 💝
I've been struggling on my twin flame journey feeling stuck in the runner - chaser dynamic, and this was the best teaching since a long time of what is meant by becoming authentic true self you were meant to be.
This goes deeper into the emotional trauma / childhood neglect you may have had. If you’re a runner and continue to participate in the push and pull dynamic it will never change until you make a decision to stop it. Trust me I was in it. Tore my heart into pieces. You have to heal you for this to stop. Wish someone would d told me this before
I think it has nothing to do with so called twin flames because they don’t exist. It’s just you & you
This was the exact day I needed to hear this. Thank you so much
This is amazing, literally soul-opening
I can see how this advice should be aimed towards people who people please ONLY. On the extreme end of the spectrum, some people are so overly authentic to the point where they are unaware of oneself and how their actions affect others, they are manipulative, and they are selfish...And no, they aren't narcissits, or severly traumatized people - they are just regular people who are very self-focused.
There’s nothing wrong with living your truth. If people have a problem with it that’s THEIR problem. Nobody was there for those authentic ppl when they gave a fuck about others
You can be nice, authentic and have boundaries too. It just takes complete self awareness, knowledge of disrespectful bahaviour, and most of all know what red flags to look for, especially if you are an empath 😊
Whoa did I need to learn this...I love this..I choose Authenticity.
Love you, Joe, for telling the truth as it is and giving it to us in such a clear simple way. It's true, if we want love, for example, we have to feel love, think love, show love, in other words to be love and we receive love and that's what I think it means living in the name of father, son and holy spirit, thought, emotion and action aligned in being what we want to have
Every sentence is just…. Chefs kiss
I wasn’t supported at being authentic, so I shrinked myself and made all sorts of stories of why it was not good to do. fear fear fear.
Now realising- it was exactly what I needed and now the oppertunity is gone😭 - and I felt even worse than before.
This is true for men AND women.
Just... Mostly for women due to our typically nurturing nature. TRUE.
Mostly for women though?
I learned / thru Growth (pain) not 2 respond to the negativity I hear ( gaslighting)
I respond w/ silence & keep it moving .…knowing my 🕧is valuable & u can't it back.
My view...
It's a two- way street .
The saying a river does not
run in reverse.🙏☝️
I GET IT! knowing my worth
I love that I'm a Taurus 🐂♉.
So glad I quit my last job full of toxic men and women who expected me to conform to their standards. Praise God.
Gold
🤍🙏🤍 Absolutely you nailed it!! Feels great to stand in your power still be kind. People pleasing over the top does not impress me. Honestly I was way to nice. Took some huge life challenges to wake up shake my soul. With many years of wisdom learning from podcasts videos observing behaviours… it is empowering to be real!! I used to worry what others thought. I have shifted now going more with flow and I do not care what others think anymore. I’m kind honest sincere and have lots of love to share. Learning to stay clear from those whom judge and do not respect me. They do not deserve my presence and beautiful energy. It’s great to love yourself do our inner work to feel more peace. Learning to do what makes my heart sing and more joy to honour my well being.
Peace Love Joy!! Just Be!! Be real 🤍🙏🤍
This is good advice, all very true. I would add that this is true for all people. No specific gender.
Being kind and nice is the way to be in life, however be clear in your boundaries, this is what i will be like if you respect me and be kind to me.
Thnx joe ❤❤❤❤
I was like this with my family. Not just men, mostly because my truth was too heavy for so many. I split in 2019, and I’ve been sick ever since. I want to be authentic again. And have authentic relationships.
It’s funny that I come across this this morning when just last night I was my authentic self with someone letting them know how I was not a thin person, but then I was working on it, but totally backed off and does not want to see me. I wasn’t being mean, but I was authentic and let’s see what happens because I would appreciate someone being honest with me instead of going on a date and seeing something that wasn’t true. I could’ve lied. I could’ve kept it going and maybe lose weight but I don’t want to. And if he never comes back, I didn’t need him anyway.
"Wow"even after sacrificing you don't get what you want"
It's taken me a long time to learn this. I am so much stronger now though. A lot of times it comes from your social conditioning through your mother.
100%
So true!!
I like your point that when we are authentic instead of being nice, we allow the other person to drop their mask. Well said!❤
Omg! I needed this!
That is true, I am single but true to myself✨
Brilliant!
For me I’m noticing when to stand up for myself, but Im not sure what to say? I get so frustrated and scared to speak up that it comes out rude or a super loud bark! Are there any practice scenarios on when and how to speak up that you’d recommend? I usually notice after the situation so it seems too late most times to go back to a person and say it bothered me. Especially to people associated with my brother and parents, where I risk ending a relationship or being looked down upon..🤷♀️It seems like when I speak up it’s so uncomfortable that a friendship is forever ruined. I’m working on all this I was never taught how to speak up with finesse, or how to work through a problem within a friendship or relationship. People want to speak up we just need practice on how to do it.
Some of these comments are so relatable to me as I'm sure to many others too.
I have been a lifelong people pleaser and someone else who has always been therefore othersover myself.
I'm now on the stage of my life where I am starting to respect my own worth do things that are right for myself not just what makes other people happy and this is proving to be a very difficult adjustment for those that have grown up around me.
They have been so used to how I was it is obviously easier for them that I stay that way and they are really trying to pressure me to do this.
Fortunately having grown up an experience all that I have I have become a very strong person and I'm holding strong to my self-worth and self-respect alongside my care for those around me.
It is only recently fat people are starting to really see this is a permanent and are starting to adjust.
Since becoming a mum I have really grown my own southworth and respect along with the importance of protecting and taking care of this, standing strong to my own moral and ethical values as well.
For anyone else who is experiencing similar I m finding it is very important to clarify your own morals, values and where it is that you will bend and not.
Great video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
What do you miss about her?
Exactly don't know like this is actual voice of Dr Joe Dispenza but whatever is so much is given so much worth it and actually this is something that I needed and I'm really grateful for such a video I don't know if really he has said this he hasn't said this also still the wisdom is very much necessary to be heard and to be understood and to apply on ourselves ❤.
This video is incredible. Going to save it so I can rewatch it every time I feel the urge to be overly nice to men.
Pride comes before a fall, be humble and don't confuse it with being weak.
And maybe that's best until you learn to love yourself first...
so true
I read somewhere that authenticity has got the highest frequency. Could someone confirm that?
Yes it says that it is the highest frequency
This is so true and took me years to learn because my parents didn't raise me to be empowered
One of the best I’ve heard in my lifetime 🎉
I'm no longer kind or nice towards men. I cussed out every guy from my past that contacted me. I called them out on their breadcrumbing stingy behavior. I called them all kinds of aholes. I demanded my needs be met first before anything takes place and the most interesting thing happened they all loved it, they picked up the phone and called me and laughed and we talked crap to one another. I've been offered expensive gifts, dates, money. Men earn my kindness and niceness or they can get outta my face. I no longer care about what they want until they care about my wants first.
Loving the translated Chinese quotes and Bruce Lee quote references
so true, I made this mistake before
Dr. Dispenza,
Thank you for the video. I am very authentic and can't pretend. Some of the fake men literally runnnn 😂
Their mask slips within moments in my presence, and they are left quite lost. It's funny 😁. They sure respect me, but some people are so scared of authenticity
This is definitely not Dr Joe Dispenza. His voice is used by AI.
I am so tired of AI generated voices being attributed to famous people.
And it’s always about how to get a guy 🙄
I don't think this video uses AI generated voice. If you listen to 15:00-15:30, there's a slight space and 'uh,' which does not appear in AI generated voices.
Yes! Its totally AI! 😫
I agree…. This IS his voice. I’ve seen him on different tv shows and it’s him.
Forget about the voice.. just be here to learn.the most important part.
Rejection means incompatibility. Be authentic, follow your dreams not someone else's and do a healthy amount of rejecting on your own.
THISSS!
When people don’t like the message it ai when they like the message it inspiring
"when you stop being nice to men, you start being nice to yourself" 😮
Tim Fletcher talks about
a child creating “adaptive behavior” to survive (not well) and it becomes subconscious and we think it is who we are.
I was compulsively helpful.
I then realized - it was not who I was - it was an ingrained knee jerk reaction.
I said, “That’s not me. That’s not my authentic self!!!
Now I think about whether or not I want to help someone or not.
Someone needs money?
I don’t give away money.
Shall we pray.
Or
I wonder who else you could go to to get money…
I believe in authenticity ; however, it seems to me that men prefer inauthentic women who lie so as to stroke their egos.
No, the problem women are having is they prefer assholes and they get what's coming to them. Only after they're old do they finally figure it out but by then the guy they should have chosen doesn't want to deal with a broken vessel.
right, this doesn't apply to weak men, but it could help weed them out
I agree. They like being manipulated and flattered.
The men need to learn to appreciate authentic Wonen without getting angry and viokent.
I needed to hear this today. I get told I am too nice and I do it at my own detriment thinking that's what men want or need. It just made me a doormat. Get used over and over again and hence becoming an anxious attachment and connecting with men who are emotionally unavailable to me then use sex as a way to keep them intrested. I am over it now and need to focus on myself and stop being nice to men who never deserved me to begin with. Being nice is suffocating and gave me sleepless nights.
Couple of things here. This is an excellent goal, but it’s not taking a few things into account here. First off, you WILL be rejected when you stop being nice. Narcissistic men, and narcissistic people in general, will reject you because they aren’t interested in your needs, the relationship is founded on you meeting their needs. So the fear that drives the women to be too nice is based on reality in many cases. Additionally, women who are nice versus authentic tend to attract those kinds of people more so than strong women, because they accept it. Most importantly, many people who are too nice over authentic are codependent. That means many times they don’t even KNOW what is authentic for them, they have shoved their own emotions so deep they can only identify other people’s expectations over their own. So there are a couple of hiccups in Dispenza’s formula that doesn’t take certain things into account. Having said that, with work any person, woman or man, can overcome their fear and become wholly authentic, and this is truly the best thing for healing (and putting out a vibration that attracts what is TRUE to you). It’s just not as simple as portrayed here, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t totally worth it.
I think it is more about doing the things that make your life feel fulfilled. It's not so much about being too nice or a doormat or whatever. Lifes more about finding the things you love and doing them. Being too nice or too helpful can be because you aren't focused on your life
Who cares if you lose narcissistic men? Perhaps our dynamic created and fed them instead of saying no.
@@demita840 this is exactly what he or she wrote. That is being authentic. However a lot of traumatised people don’t know their identity meaning they don’t know what they like, want or value. If you don’t know that, you start attaching your identity to other people’s needs and start being “too nice”. There’s nothing wrong with being nice, as long as you are being authentic and not just pleasing.
@@keri1356 I agree. I’m just saying that people who are too nice are conditioned to accept narcissistic tendencies and they often don’t know who they are because they’re so used to giving that up for someone else, so they settle for narcissistic behavior because that feels normal to them. So they are scared to lose their narcissistic partner because they often don’t understand that’s what they’re settling for, or they’re too afraid to let go of it. Which is why they continue to be nice and inauthentic, because they’re afraid. I am a mental health counselor, I see this constantly. It’s unhealthy behavior because no one should accept a narcissist, but it happens a lot. I was just clarifying that Dispenza’s thoughts are great here, but not as easy as he portrays in some circumstances.
I will choose authenticity over niceness. Don’t care about being rejected. Rejection and abandonment are parts of life. If my authenticity causes narcissistic people to go away, then praise God, hallelujah 🎉🎉🎉
Amazing freaking video wow
I'm so happy happy!!! Dam I'm a women who loves people and I love to help others. But I love more my personal freedom and being with myself. For years I belevied I'had a problem not fixing in regular society. But now I dont give a fu*** to that. Love my solitud.
Best video ever
I am just kind to everyone, Male or Female. Peeps think I am dumb or door matt. No. It helps me understand who you really are. Sometimes, purposely extra kind to see if you respect me or going to take the chance to take advantage. That helps me determine if I want you in my life or not.
Sad that you'd want to stop being nice because other people are a-holes and don't appreciate you.
You can be nice, kind, yet the saying goes, don't mistake my kindness for weakness.
Some people will use this as a doormat, it's when you continue to be without speaking up, without people pleasing, etc.
Il be nice, but I won't tolerate lies, insults etc, il call you out on it, in a nice authentic way...
Meaning that I won't shout, get angry, I will be assertive and real.
I won't put up with bs 😂
Thats not what the video said at all. Watch it again. One part he specifically says "I'm not saying not to be nice - but to be authentic." Come on people
Oh, how very important this is!!! So this must certainly become part of Pensum in the obligatory school, PLEASE 🙏🏼🇧🇻🌍♀️ This is great, though I've never been a slave to the slaves, as John Lennon sang about women. But so so many women don't even get the possibility to choose!!! And also in Europe, where I was born and grown up, even in Norway, there's an inbuildt belief women carry with her through Life; To always be the person who serves the coffee, makes the meals, cleans the Home, etc etc. That has never been my case. My Grandma & my Mamma taught us to never forget we are equally worth as men. ♀️💪🏼🥳🇧🇻🌍🕉️👍🏼 So thanks alot, Dr Joe Dispenza, for such an important teaching!
Thank you for sharing this🙏🙏🙏❤❤❤
In the world of politics and double standards , how can one be so real,? Real people exist but not accepted by society.😢
*...but that's right.*
I’m a truth teller, which many people love - until I question them something that they can’t answer or don’t want to see in themselves. Nice is highly overrated. I’m a good person but I’m not American ‘nice.’ I can’t be phony, so if I’m unhappy about something, you’ll know it. Most people tell me I should hide my feelings, beginning with my mother, when I’d open a present and frown when I saw yet another ugly sweater. She said I should pretend I liked my gifts - and I decided then that I wasn’t about to start faking happiness. Never. I’m 64 now and I feel very good about myself that I never ‘acted nice’ in order to fit in or manipulate people - which is what my mother and sisters do. They are the types to marry for money and withhold sex in order to get the things they want.
Amazing ! Worth watching
So many people want to stop being so nice, but almost no nice people around in the real world. Contradiction? Absolutely.
this is about men being nice to other men, not sure how this reflects to women
you obviously didn't listen to what he said.
Thank you 😊
Dr. Joe, remember to credit Marianne Williamson when you say that people shouldn't dim their light so that others won't feel insecure around them. Also, your work has improved my life immensely! Cannot thank you enough.❤
This is NOT Dr Joe.
*stands up and applauds*
What a beautiful message. Thank you!
Sounds good to me but some people are just kind and nice not because of fear at all, you just love humanity and like to uplift others up that what makes you happy having empathy towards others because that is your unique essence you just know because that who you are 🔥🔥
THANK YOU!
Sadly we are not trees. We function, make relationships, break relationships, thrive, get lost... And trying to balance our lives among this at the same time looking for our own truth can be challenging and much more complex. Being nice can be socially profitable, while being authentic can benefit ourselves. Can it be said that one is better than another? And what if being nice is someone's "authentic"?
I think he's referring to people -pleasing.
This is how an Oak Tree falls in a storm because it doesn't know how to bend with the wind like a willow tree. The Oak tree is not all that mighty; it's the Willow tree that survives the storm and thrives.
Basically what he is explaining is i beleive totally
It's we don't or we should not act fake vs what we feel
We should be what we feel and not fake act
😂 I don't know how not to be REAL? It just naturally came to me all my life I don't know another way to live or how not to be my real myself. But great speech regardless.
Thank yu that’s me for ever and yes iv begged chased text im still doing so after tge person left me after a year Thanhs so much god sent me this from yyr self god bless thanks so much ❤
This resonated deeply with me. Thank you!
Refreshing thank you ❤☀️🌱🙌🏽💜🌟😊
Thank you.
So what's the difference between being nice and being kind?
I feel that the American English has a different meaning to what I understand.
English is my second language.
For your viewers to really get the message (which is a great one) I feel this could have been addressed in the first place.
See what I just did?
I wasn't being "nice " (whatever you mean by that),I was authentic. 🙂