(Q&A) Fear of Failure, Morning Routines and... Manifestation?
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A week ago, we hit 2M subs on TH-cam and 10M podcast downloads, and I promised a special Q&A episode of the pod-which turned out to be more fun than I expected.
Jump in on this celebratory episode, where I rapid fire through some of the most interesting questions sent in by you guys.
Be sure to let me know if you dispute any of my answers in the comments 😜👇
00:00:00 Introduction
00:00:59 Mark on Marriage
00:03:25 When's the next book?
00:04:20 3 Things You Wish You Knew Sooner
00:06:34 Running the TH-cam Channel
00:07:28 Manifestation?
00:09:40 Overcoming the Fear of Failure
00:10:56 Luck and Being Lucky
00:13:29 Morning Routines
00:14:51 Healthy Shame
00:16:38 On Drinking and Exercise
00:22:16 Dealing with Envy
00:23:17 Dealing with Insecurities
00:23:57 TH-cam vs Bloggin
00:26:18 Starting Writters/Content Creaters
00:27:43 The Chicken Suit(s)
00:27:49 Social Media Addiction
00:31:37 How to Be Consistent
00:33:52 The Extreme Side to Everything
00:34:34 Mark in High School
00:37:37 Waking Up Unmotivated
00:39:23 Bad Life Advice That You Followed
00:41:11 How to Stay Humble but Ambitious
00:42:43 Am I Missing Out on Social Media?
00:44:11 Keep Following A Music Career?
00:47:12 Comparing Ourselves to Others
00:48:18 Staying With Someone if Your Values Are Different
00:50:09 Getting Over an Ex
00:53:12 NoFap
00:54:53 Witold Pilecki
00:56:17 When to Speak Up
00:58:10 What Fuels you
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One of my favorite teachers always told me “luck favors the prepared”
we're on the same track. i got 2 subscribers😃
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Sincere congratulations on getting the '2' part of the 2M. Solid start! 🎉 If you can't appreciate 2, how are you gonna appreciate 2M anyhow? Enjoy the low stakes chapter while you build beyond 🙌😊✨️
P.S. - I just became your 6th subscriber. Let's go!
8th
10th 😀
“You’re supposed to fxck up. Thats just part of it” yup
"Success requires failure." - Maria Brown
That's why they call it fuck UP. lol
Talking about comparison, compare yourself to yourself. If you are improving in reference to yourself in the past, you're okay
You're doing better than okay! You're doing great! As long as you're better than you from a couple of months/years ago, then you're progressing as a human and growing. Stagnation is the enemy! Trajectory is way more important than current position.
Exactly what I was thinking too
i've actually made a video about this a while ago, about how comparing ourselves to ourselves is just so much healthier and more productive than comparing ourselves to other people. Of course, it's unavoidable that we compare ourselves to others from time to time, but shifting the focus on ourselves and how we are changing with time and improving and seeing the difference from past to present and realizing that in the future we will and can change for the better as well can be so powerful and give us a lot of motivation to push harder in life and feeling proud of ourselves!
Your manifestation explanation is the truest way to explain it's happening that I've heard in a long time. I've known this for years, but all I've heard lately is the "woo-woo" version of it all. Good job, Mark! Real stuff.
The manifestation "mind set" also makes taking action easier, which inturn increases probably. There is no magic to it. Scamers just scamming people.
AI be damned here's my notes from this QA.
Traditional Media is a dying medium and overrated - bullish on content creators
Thoughts on Manifestation:
We tend to notice the things that we think about
Leveraging cognitive biases in your favor
Promotes a narcissistic tendency
Which failure is gonna benefit me the most?
Luck is always happening around you, but you aren’t always acting on it. Luck is when your perception (or things you are primed to notice) line up with your values.
Luck is a skill that you can increase through activity “Miracles happen around people”
Morning routines are overrated - Mark morning are random like the universe - the only important thing is to wake up and have something you’re excited to work on. Night time routines are the shit.
Healthy shame - evolutionary utility (deters us from harming others) shame is unhealthy when its attached to things that aren’t necessarily bad (pokemon, goofy laugh, overuse of South Park)
-Exercise and alcohol - you have to try and find a way to enjoy it or it went work. Explore what works for you. Progressive cutback over 18 months - the less you drink the less you want to drink. Positive Feedback loop. Quit for a month. Went back 3 months. Went back etc…
-Envy all things (David Goggins going through seal training, bill gates working 30 years) look at the whole picture and see if you still have envy. You dont envy something unless you also envy the sacrifice and cost
Don’t fight insecurities, embrace, own, befriend
Blog/VS TH-cam - you need a team to do TH-cam / turnaround is much longer - blog is lower stakes
What needs to be said and nobody else is saying it?
IS social media neccarsily bad?
Social bad for young people, girls, and people prone to anxiety and depression, mentally healthy people its fine - its how its being used - phones out of schools and not let kids on before 16
Value of the goal is the direction it gives you - goals should serve you not the other way around
Is there an extreme side to everything?
Everything becomes toxic when taken to an extreme
Obsession with optimization wont work if you dont care about that thing
Bad life advice
Optimize for freedom - commitments make life meaningful - giving something up gives something else meaning - we need to be weighted down by things
Humble while ambitious - be ambitious about things you know are hard and difficult
Stay off social media? There’s a tradeoff, pick the thing that sucks the least
Stop comparing yourself others? You cant. Compare yourself to good people and for good reasons
Getting over an EX -
If you can talk without getting worked up, dont talk
Better yourself
Explore hobbies
Reconnect with old friends and family
Dont date till your excited
Be careful when you define unfair and unjust
I have gone through hell these past 2 years. I've made many mistakes and lost what feels like everything. But I'm trying my best to see the light and lessons in all of this. It's a horrible feeling to feel like you're lost in your 30s. However, your book, The Subtle Art, has been some of the most eye-opening and best advice I've come across. So thank you so much for that, Mark.
What the f*ck?: A book about curiosity.
Your past comments on curiosity really stuck with me. That should be the subject of your next book.
Nice one!
@@IAmMarkMansonI heard you talk about "the secret for dummies" and always thought that that is a book that needs written. So many people are falling for these con-artist "Secret" gurus.
Specifically "enthusiastic curiosity" you can go into how this builds charisma. You can go into how the best talk show hosts engage their guests.
How people learn best when what they are learning comes from this.
People with ADHD can literally be stuck going down a rabbit hole for 3 days and "forget" to do everything else but force them to study something they aren't interested in and they can't give their attention for 5 mins.
Followed by “Who the f*ck?: A book about identity”
Aside from Mark’s impactful insights, the activity in the comments of each video is why I continue to follow this channel.
Mark OFTEN speaks of the importance of relationships - I believe this is true in small chunks as well as full-on friendships, partnerships, communities, and families - and the comments section here is a good example of small relationships containing value.
29:05 Mark struggling with the past participle form of "dive" there is perhaps the most reassuring thing for an ESL student like me who is constantly struggling with verb conjugation
Always excited when you post a new vid. Thanks for all your work, mark! Would love another Korea / Anthony bourdain style video soon. You’re the bomb!
Working on it!
These are my favorite type of video Mark makes because you can tell he’s authentic and talking off the dome
I was thought of as a video game addict by many acquaintances, because that's what we talked about. And I did play alot.
But after I got kids, the gaming got naturally reduced, my stress grew. Other stuff came up, playing reduced, stress grew. My gaming went to near zero for two years and I experienced a slight meltdown.
I was angry as f*ck, quick on the temper and a lousy husband. No physical or hard mental violence, but always on my last nerve.
Got help, got in to psychotherapy and one of the first things I was told was to get back into gaming. Two-ish years later and I'm back. Even my kid said it's great to get her daddy back.
I play on about 3-4 days a month, somewhere around six hours on one go. And there I burn all my aggression away, get away from stressful thinking and just let everything go (OK, I admit that Sigrun fight from God of War - on the hardest difficulty, haunts me occasionally outside of my play-time).
Haha Sigrun has to be the best boss battle ever created in a video game!
Interesting anecdote by the way 😊
Yay! Thank you for answering our questions on manifestation! My key takeaway is to manifest things for others and not just myself 😅 Always good to hear a no-BS point of view!
This is a great episode and a lot of great questions. Only very successful people like you Mark, can actually hire a team. The reality is the majority of content creators do everything by themselves and this is, sometimes, the only way to grow.
Absolutely loved listening to all that said here! 💙
Please never stop postingg!😊
“If you don’t let your insecurities stop you, then what can stop you?” The pause you had after realizing; ya, I just said that lol 😂 love this 23:49
This is great! Thank you for making this podcast.
Absolutely loved listening to this, lots of valuable lessons, thank you Mark! And thanks for the chapter points!
I did your evening routine, got a good nights sleep and like you said I woke up excited to do what I needed to do. Thanks Mark.
Manus is the latin word for hand. You see it in manifesting and manicure for example. Manifesting just means making the invisible visible and create the thing you want with your own hands.
Excellent video as always mark
Thank you for making this podcast
I watched 1 of your videos like a few minutes ago and now I’m subscribed cause holy shit your content is great have a nice day I’ll be watching a ton of your videos now thank you
For shame - I think it’s best when it’s left in the rearview mirror as a learning lesson. When you start becoming afraid of potential future shame from that past experience and it causes you to hold yourself back, that’s when it’s negative.
This was very well done Mark et al!
loved every minute of this.
Congrats Mark, you have great content and very interesting chats. Very relatable.
Thanks for this. I’ve always enjoyed the way you teach on these topics. As a health practitioner, I’m also glad that you have jumped on the health bandwagon!
29:19 dove deep 😅
Always nice to listen to Mark, yeah
I watched the whole video, and it was great! I usually struggle to watch such long videos but there was so much good stuff here. I only wish each question had its own chapter in the timeline so that I could easily find questions to re-watch in the future, but that's just a tiny nitpick. Excellent video as always!
You're helping me and a lot of people out there. Thank you.
Keep them coming
hey Mark, i love all your videos and my life has improved following your psychiatry❤❤
Gratz on 2m subs my guy
Thank you man ❤
Hello mark ,I am Benard from Nigeria and I have been your student,for a while and trust me my life sucks less ,you are a rare gem
I'm in the cutting back phase. Almost 2 weeks not drinking beer (I was downing anywhere from 4-10 tall boys of IPA/variety daily). Now that being said I've been drinking less, but its been seltzers and wine. Slowly feeling better because I'm drinking less over all, and that feeling you mentioned about wanting to drink less because you actually start to feel the hangovers when your tolerance starts to drop is slowly starting to happen for me - hopefully I can keep building on this momentum!
29:15 Doven deep 😂
😅 he was right with deep dived or dived deep
The nighttime routines ARE the real shit - now that you’ve said it out loud, I actually see that most of my struggles - the binge eating urges, the overwhelming sense of loneliness - all of that is evening stuff, and that’s where you need your routines!
This content is one of your best, in my opinion xx
"It's the fact that you gave up alternatives, that makes that thing meaningful" I needed this so much and didn't know.
34:30 ...so greatful you took my question and yes I really wanted to ask about your future goals and your mindset (when you were back in freshman year as i am (20)).
Thanks for answering mark
Thank you for making videos, Love and respect from Iran ❤ Can you please also teach us "How to focus on something?" because we are using social media so much and after that we can't focus on one page of book specially if that book is made for universities and schools.
Nailed the Iron Maiden question
Ok. Now I wanna hear you playing music 🤣
Thank you Mark for answering my questions.😊
The answers are smart 🥲
The Maiden album is called "seventh son of a seventh son" 🤓
Part 2 please
Well waiting for your new perspective and contents
That's great! If I wanna make a question like those, can I send it through the support section on the website?
"Moderation in everything, including moderation" it twist the Stoic's "Temperance" in a beautiful and refreshing way.
🙂
More Drew! 😍
This guy gets it
I've read your book for 4 times
Nice Video, This guy made my Life, his Books Just changed my Life, I like his all Videos. Congratulations Mark 😄.
About the marathon goal: I totally get it. I was a little judgmental when I saw you quit, but I did a half-marathon on March, and boy it was time consuming. I went through with it cuz the idea of quitting is not acceptable for me but I can see now if it doesn’t aligned with my current life situation why obsessing? Good video man
Still in middle of this wtf video, but already love your content Mark ! Xavier from France❤
I miss Drew, can’t wait to see that guy again
Best answer for me 'Can I play with madness'🤘
but nights are fun Mark!!
New studio looks great
💯 Night routine is king. 🌙✨️💫Maybe a good subject for a future podcast? I, for one, would like to hear more about this. 😊🙏
A true Gentleman, you should join our Movement 🤙
Mark, I’m loving the fit of your black T-shirt and I have a similar build as you. Can you share the brand and model of it?
We wanted more Drew Bernie 😂😂😂❤❤❤
Locking and unlocking of knee
17:22 This is were APPLE WATCH and other smart watch's comes in play by statification of data and motivate the user by that .
Can you make a video about the advantages of getting married?
To Failure. The goal is not that important, the way is and even with failure you have to go the way. 😊
i binge-watch this type of videos like self-help and about money making.
Good question on luck!
Ohhh, he tied luck and manifestation 😮
I see seeing the stars lining up with continuous intentions as the recipe for becoming fortunate. Luck is no different than stepping in dog💩
I have had more people tell me how lucky I am and they just don't get IT. I'm not lucky. I am fortunate. Very different. Not interchangeable.
Great questions and answers! Question - About the 'live your dream/manifestation' in business, do you think you should go for your big purpose or just for a smaller dream goal? All the personal development is about your 'one big purpose', that does feel kind of overwhelming. If i want to be a podcaster like you for example, its like kind of an impossible dream or go for (example) i am opening a studio and help some local people with video, for example. Its kind of sth that is really hard to get clear on..
don't shoot for the stars, that's the bullest shit ever and a huge motivation killer. set the bar low, then you might as well have some success along the way. if you want to be a podcaster, try making money with it by all means and keep trying different things until you can, if you manage to, that'll keep you going. as time passes you'll see how much you can earn and how fast you can grow. see if the hardships and problems that come with it are something you want to deal with in the long run, because that's what actually makes it or breaks it. solving these problems are supposed to be the source of your happiness and they're gonna just upscale and hopefully also upgrade as you go bigger and bigger, but fundamentally remain the same. success in the reality is findig the set of problems you are willing to fight on a constant basis, "money and fame" are just side effects. if the latter 2 are what motivate you, you'd better quit, otherwise you're just setting yourself up for failure. if you don't want to walk the road, only get there, you're fucked. it's the road that matters :) as soon as you realize that your freedom lies within the fact that you get to choose your own problems, you are already successful
Mark You have truly made a positive difference in my life. I'm currently reading your book "subtle art," but I'm having trouble understanding your second book, "everything is f*ck." Nevertheless, I'll keep reading your books until I figure out what they're about. Can i get a hi from you?
The timing of the (English) subtitles seems of.
I have just finished reading The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck. I'm surprised I actually finished it - kept finding pieces that held me. Especially took away three helpful Values to embrace and share with friends - Honesty, Authenticity, and Welcoming Doubt.
Watching you now for the first time, I feel offended and put off by the F word's habitual use. I have 7 Grandchildren. Three of them teenagers who use this word often.
I've grown used to the word's frequent use and am not averse to sometimes uttering it when expressing anger. Seeing you, and hearing the frequent use of it, I feel put-off. Don't want to recommend you to others.
Hi, Mark the Greatest
I make exercise into a competition if I can lift more or go harder than I did last time only then did it become fun.
저도 빨리 많은 사람에게 사랑받고 많음 사람들에게 웃음을 주는 유튜버가 되고싶네요! 항상 행복한 하루를 만들고 싶어요! 저도 200만 구독자를 꼭 달성할게요!
Mark Manson is into Iron Maiden? F Yeah
❤🎉❤ greetings from Austria!
54:52 I'm Polish, and I heard about Witold Pilecki ONCE in the entire if 12 years of education in School.
"The Goddess of good luck favors men of action"
With regard to making it in music, whatever ‘making it’ means. Being the best musician, song writer or performer doesn’t necessarily equate to being financially successful. Signing a record deal with one of the major labels is now mostly a matter of needing to firstly have developed a significant social media following and being saleable (physical attractiveness probably helps…)and that doesn’t automatically equate to earning money either. Perhaps rather than setting a deadline for success they firstly need to set a target of what success can actually look like for them.
Re music career. What is Mark’s definition of “making it”? Ultimately, do your thing if you’re good enough you’ll get paid for it if it meets your needs financially and in other ways then keep doing it.
Can you please do a video on developing humor
Mark, you look so much better since you quit alcohol.
To people who want to quit drinking: I highly recommend checking out Allen Carr's Easy Way to Control Alcohol. I know it's not for everyone, but won't hurt giving it a chance, right? Thanks to this book I quit drinking in December 2022, and I am so happy about it ❤
Yes. Caffeine and BJs sounds legit 😂
Apparently, I'm allergic to both 😮
F*ck It.
A book about chasing your most ambitious Dreams.
We need a hero who would put the timestamps
Funny guy
Nicee man
I was one of those 20 people who asked about your book
Invite James Clear to the podcast! It would be so cool to see you guys together
Do me a flavour and interview Dave Eggers!
Fuck yeah! Pokémon! Gotta catch 'em all!
Do you believe trust can rebuilt in a relationship/marriage?