Last birthday party our kids went to was around Christmas. We filled Stockings at Dollar Tree. All the kids had a blast. I'm not keeping up with the Jones.
for real my mom got all my party decorations and appliances from there,also she got cups and we made milk shakes with ice cream and cookies at home and it was the best
I'm sorry, a cover charge for a kids bday party???are you kidding me? If you can't afford it then dont have it. Simple. Your child just doesn't get to have a bday party that year. No one should have to foot the bill for your extravagance. I think it's a hustle b/c I dont know what the money is going toward. I didn't ask to be invited to your bday party....if that's the case, my kids are not attending.
@@ayanomar1408 that is acceptable. I'm not opposed to the idea of helping out, but a cover charge is ridiculous. Why have a $600 party if you can only afford a $50.00 one? Like Loni said, what happens if you have multiple kids? It's an issue of ego...
exactly! if I had kids they wouldn't be attending either! I was curious tho about something. not only do you have to pay a "cover charge", (by using that term shows this is a mom who has seen the inside of a club or two. lol!! why not call it a ticket price? passport to fun fee. something that's more kid friendly, but I digress.) but you also have to buy TWO gifts for these twins!!! this mom is getting over big time! so if you do the math and you are a parent with 3 kids all a year apart they would be attending this party. that's $30 + 2 gifts @$25 each = $80 total and you have no idea what the value is of this "gift" that your kids will get when they leave the party. I bet it will be a bunch of crap from those $1 bins @ Target. HA!
Candis it aint worth it, with my daughter I decided to make it about the family, every year on her birthday we go to a small weekend getaway to a place she loves that is 2 hours a drive away, in one stone me and her dad get to enjoy her birthday more and she gets a change of scenery, the day will come when she will be old enough to ask for her own party albut till then family party it is.
Chelsea Sanders I’m fairly certain this was a story in the UK and she said in an interview they asked for no gifts, just help paying for the party. She also said they would get a party bag at the end with a gift inside.
Chelsea Sanders party bags in the UK usually have a slice of the birthday cake, a small packet of sweets and maybe a small (£1) toy. The lady was suggesting there would be a better gift in their party bags due to the “cover charge”...but ok, thanks
@Lizbeth Torres The woman I'm referring to had twins but in different classes, so had 60+ kids to invite = very expensive birthday party. Most parents feel pressure to put on the best party and don't want their children to have to choose between their classmates. If you don't agree with it, then don't do it / attend those parties. But don't judge other people. She wasn't making a profit from it. Most parties I've been to as an adult ask people to bring something - food, drink or a contribution. Maybe instilling that expectation at an earlier age isn't a bad thing.
Right? Like...what kind of kid's birthday party is $600? Or, since they're twins, $300? I have literally never in my life spent that on my birthday. Hell, that's an expensive vacation, $300 a day. I went to Disney World for less than that a day. Catering for my wedding was less than 600.
If you don't have cash! Don't think about birthday party, take the kid to Mc Donalds ,get a burger and a slice of cake!! When you can afford it, give the kid a big great party! ! Meaning save beforehand! !
I agree with Loni. They just don’t need a party this year if they can’t afford it. It’s nothing wrong with having an intimate dinner at home with family, going out to eat, or doing something like McDonald’s take out and make a pallet on the floor and singing Happy Birthday.
I never understood why some parents go all out for their children's birthday parties. It's a waste of money imo. If you want to do something expensive and fun, how about taking your kid to an amusement/water park instead?
They left out so much important info.. it was ten dollars in place of brining a present. Your all spend atleast ten dollars on a gift. The kids have special needs and can't play with alot of toys, and they don't have a close circle of friends for the same reason. This was a great deal. Don't have to go out for a gift and wrap it, your kid has a good time, and gets their own little gift.
That's what I was thinking... Because where I'm from you don't go to a b-day party (as a kid or as an adult) without a gift. Is that not common in the US?
@@ramo4474 I mean, I was poor af as a kid. I never had parties (well the kind where your friends come over), partially because I'm a Christmas baby, but also because there was literally no extra money. None. Every gift I ever gave at a friend's party was regifting something I had. I mean, I'm in better shape now. I can afford to get nice, personalized gifts for all my friends and my family and I spoil my nephews rotten. But the truth is, I would NEVER judge someone for not giving a gift, and I legitimately believe that kids shouldn't be expected to give gifts like that. I hate pretty much any sense of "supposed to gift". Why teach our kids to expect other people to buy for them anyways? Just such a consumer culture.
She's not confused. I think she just has different standards. Nothing wrong with that. I don't think she's really ignorant about these type of situations. I think it's her way of approaching a talking point. I think she raises interesting points too.
lol because what is she talking about. The girlfriend wont be renting one of the rooms in the house, she'd be sleeping in the room with him. wth! If the guy wanted to rent rooms then she's not obstructing that.... lol that was so funny!
A family member lost their home and they had to stay with my family for a while, we didnt charge rent but it would have been nice to help pitch in. It really got uncomfortable when they took advantage of the situation, for example, they would use up the light, electricity bill. At that time, it would've be really helpful if they help pay the bills but they didnt and they didnt even consider helping. So if you are staying with someone or someone is staying with you, you should 100% chip in 🤷🏿♀️
A cousin's friend stayed with us for a while while she got back up, we didn't charged her rent, but she helped with the chores and when she fpund a job, she started pitching in with the groceries (it wasn't expected from us, but we were grateful for the help)
Yeah, living with someone is one of the most difficult things you have to do. People are so very different, they have different habits, values, whatever.
I have a cousin who includes a list of gifts on her daughter's birthday invitations. You MUST purchase one of the gifts on the list or you are not allowed to attend...Now that's Real Bogus!!!!
Tam reminded me of Tia when she said moms want to outdo the other moms 😂 just have the party on the cheap and only invite their actual friends. I had more fun at pizza and sleepover parties anyway.
I am NOT paying for a kid to attend a party of any kind! Why is it MY responsibility to pay for your kid's party??? Find a more cost effective party (as Tamara suggested) that fits within your budget or tell your twins they will not have the party of their dreams. Kids are resilient. They will bounce back no problem from disappointment. Give it to them like this: We can have the party you want or you can have the gifts you want. Go to a restaurant for a slice of cake they can share! There are so many ways to host a party w/o obligating your guests to chip in. The same goes for open bars at weddings! Don't even get me started about how this is so tacky. Why should I have to pay for my drink???
Love dont pay bills tf😂😂🤨 and also I'm not paying for a kids birthday party if the kids never hung out I don't know the parents and/or my kids doesn't feel comfortable going. Kids parties should be basic especially if they little they like they said only care about sugar and games
I don't believe in playing with animals like that. They have a life of their own and humans keep acting like they are objects or tools. These animals are no different from us. Respect them! We often talk about having animal issues or needing animal control... my gosh really? we need human control!
I was thinking the same thing too!!! That poor alligator having some strange woman's feet touching its head. That was such a weird thing to do and inhumane. For some reason we tend to think bc the animal doesn't have fur it's okay to treat it less than. They know they wouldn't do that with a kitten. The optics would be weird on camera.
they did talk about this. (9:08) the question started off by saying HE was buying a house. not THEY were buying a house. so if HE is buying the house it is his house in his name bc if they were both going in on the house it wouldn't be rent it would be a mortgage and this wouldn't be question. if you are both signing a mortgage you are both responsible. if your name is on something you are a responsible party and need to pay towards that investment.
Candis I am sorry I felt dump posting this before finishing the video, but like you said If the GF is not paying towards mortgage imagine they breakup and he boots her to the street? 😭😅 girl keep your place🗣
Bobby Brown usually when they are married and both bought the place together but if she is just the girlfriend, even with kids he can tell her to leave
Yeah that's some bs in my humble opinion and for the question isnt whether or not she should pay rent it's why are you buying a house without her? If you are at a point in life where you are capable of purchasing a house and you are in a relationship in which you are ready to move in together then why cant they purchase the house together? Cause there ain't no way in hell I'm moving into a boyfriend's house and paying rent I just think that's an odd dynamic, we can buy the house together and split the mortgage or I'm keeping my place cause why should you be helping him buy a house and you aren't reaping any of the benefits? You are just a tenant basically that he can kick out and then you have nothing.
If you’re grown living in my house you pay rent girl!!! And if you’re asking for money instead of a gift I see no problem there. It’s benefiting your kid more than the gift bc you’re paying for your child’s experience! +there’s no shade about any presents someone might bring
Maybe this lady had kids that attend one of those schools that forces you to invite the whole class. This could be the womans way of ensuring most of the kids DON'T come?!?
sticking to the question, “i am buying a house and my girlfriend is moving in with me, should i charge her rent?” he didnt say fiance or wife. if “i” decide that i want to buy a home (for myself) and i have a boy/girlfriend, it is not their responsibility to pay rent. they didnt ask for me to buy a home. they can either choose to remain where they are (living with their family/roommates, etc) or move in with me, whichever they feel comfortable with. however, if they make the choice to move into my home then yes, they should contribute sharing utility bills. there are living there after all.
Victoria Johnson the guy purchasing the house is fully aware of the mortage that would come with it, so there is an awareness of being able to have the income to afford it alone. she also doesnt have to move in, thats just an option presented:)
LuisLuxe I think the average person expects contribution from the other person like unless you’re Kylie Jenner rich and not worried about that but it says a lot about someone who expects to live rent free.
@@LuisLuxe and to add to that my name is not on your mortgage but I(whoever) will help with bills but making it compulsory to pay rent especially if the other couple has their own space and paying rent there too is just too much.
I'm sorry I'm not going to pay no $10 for no child's birthday party plus my child want to buy a birthday gift for that child not doing it don't make sense cake and ice cream and candy that's enough let them play Simple games
Born and raised in Puerto Rico but now living in Florida, I cannot thank Adrienne enough for helping Puerto Rico after the disastrous hurricane Maria, all my love to her ❤️❤️❤️
I had to pay 20 bucks for a party last week . I’ve never heard of that before I was confused. Edit : it didn’t think it was that big of a deal . They are my best friend please don’t be rude about it . Edit again because you guys aren’t reading this right . They had dinner at home then we went to a trampoline park where we had to pay to get in . We didn’t have to pay for dinner
I made my son's cake and bought a hotwheel car for the top when my husband wasn't making as much as he used to and we just had a baby and I did a dbl bday with my niece and daughter and again I made the cupcakes and they looked like ice cream cones because it was cheaper and my babies first bday was at a park with a splash pad. My husband had lost his job right before I gave birth so our savings was low and just had to work in a budget to get back to where we were and thankfully we are doing better than ever now
I like Jeannie's story. If you can afford to have a full party then ask your kid to pick 5 friends to hangout with you don't need the big shebang if you can't afford it. Live within your means.
Growing up my mom used to wait on Christmas on tough years I remember she sat us down and just told my brother what was going on I was really little so she told me Santa's sleigh broke down so shes just gunna wait to do Christmas till he fixed it and she would wait until income tax and then we would have our Christmas when you have kids you do what you gotta do
Don’t have a celebration you can’t afford You gave literally 1 full yr to prep If you don’t have enough money to just spend as /when you want then put maybe 30 dollars a side every month so yeah by the time you get to the bday ,you will have a pot of cash to throw into the celebration But don’t ask guests to pay for you to be able to treat your child to a bday
I never had birthday parties because we didn’t have money. If you can’t afford it, don’t have it. You’re kid should understand and be okay with that. I never complained
My mom would buy box cake mix and get real creative with the icing. That’s like a $10 cake MAX and we would reuse the candles every year lol. Then whoever was coming would bring food as well and we would pig out for my bday parties with all of our friends.
why don't you believe she had to split a burger? why would that be a lie? she grew up broke in the projects. I don't find that hard to believe. (I also wonder if you can still have a birthday party at McDonald's.)
@@CC-si3cr no worries it was a friendly/shady joke . it just went over your head and thats okay lol ☺ & a mc donalds party might be cool if they had more healthy options for the little ones but in my experience they seem to like those nuggets lol 😆
@@CC-si3cr I agree about splitting the burger but......broke in the projects? hahahaha...stop it, talking about the lower east side like it's east new york. give me a break. 🙄😂😂😂😂
Single and disabled mother of 5 and I just made it a tradition to get streamers and balloons from the dollar store and decorate the house as they sleep and I buy it bake a cake, and cook them their favorite meal and we celebrate by ourselves. When I have the extra money I’ll invite a few friends or just spend it on an extra gifts. The years I have been able to coordinate a bigger party they really appreciate it but when I can’t they still look forward to waking up to the decorations and their siblings making the day special.
Adrienne adds all this extra stuff to the topic to fit her point of view 😂 if you have a significant other living with you, yes split the bills but paying "rent" is a whole separate charge from utilities. Tf. I'm with tamera.
I'm sorry if the mother cant afford a big party than she shouldnt have one. How is it right & fair to ask the other moms for $10. She doesnt know their financial situation. Work with your budget! Invite a few friends over, buy a small cake ( or make a cake from a box) , buy a pack of hot dogs & buns , and a few juice boxes and call it a day!!! I would NEVER!!!.. and I'm sure she will still expect the moms to buy a gift... naaawwwe bye girl!! You asking for too much.
If she’s living there she should be helping pay utilities. I don’t think she should be paying towards the mortgage because IK I wouldn’t want to be putting money towards buying the house if I’m not married and 100% staying in his life.
Maddie Schmidt but if you’re renting an apartment from a landlord you’re paying towards their mortgage too and your not owning anything, one wouldn’t be paying to own but as a grown adult you’d just be paying to live in a space. Owning doesn’t mean it’s free
Sorry, but what kind of partner doesn't contribute? If you're working, you're not getting a free living space. If you're not working...you need to be looking, and there's a point at which its over and done.
No no no no.... just because you contribute something doesn't mean you are "part owner"... if your name isn't on that paperwork you are a tenant... period... that's called doing your part and being an adult.
If the parents don't have to bring gifts but simply pay 10$ per kid, that's a great idea imo. With those 600 $ the mother could make a great party and buy some bigger presents for her kids on behalf of everyone. If that's the scenario I am all in, but we don't know what that mother's reasoning was to charge 10$, so we can't really say. I don't judge though🤷🏼♀️
If you can't afford the birthday you don't have it. Period. Kids need to understand money doesn't grow on trees. Charging for a party is tacky and guaranteed to offend people you don't need to. Throw a party in the park, make your cake and plan for games. If the kid is older have them invite 1 or 2 of their best friends. Come on now.
Gm edagdwg thanks you tube for sharing this special time if you can't afford a party don't have a party I use to take my son and a friend out or buy him what he wanted it's his birthday linda j.peace
it is totally about competition ! my 5yo daughter was invited to a Bday party....the theme was "Disney Princesses", and there were 10 Princess stations with full cake and theme related deco, full dressed comedians dressed as Princesses and the Mom was also in a full "Princess gown, makeup and hair. That was a lot !
rememeber people its actually your mothers birth date not yours its actually your Earthday, the day your soul came to earth!!! birthdays are ways to make money period WAKE UP AMERICA!
Although this teaches children to be independent , it's not that good for the children my parent just decorated and put a cake on a table then called it a birthday party and we all call it the best party ever because we had quality time not a while parade to tire them out
First of all it’s a headache getting invited to a party personally I hate going to birthday parties so to ask for money on top of that no thanks we not going be happy ppl show up 🙄
What happened when it was the norm to bring a gift to a Child's Birthday Party? My Daughter's Teacher asked that each child bring $1.00 and my daughter had $40 at the end of the day!
Wait how did they know? Like if you talked to your friends out of school they wouldn’t know if you said “then no of the kids are coming to the party” they wouldn’t really know unless they showed up? I’m not being rude I’m just genuinely curious how this works bc I didn’t know that was a thing?
This convo is just proving what a privileged life tamara has had. If youve got a normal job and a normal non celebrity life youd find you literally cant survive without halving it
I agree. Some schools have that rule where you have to invite the WHOLE class. So if my child has to invite everyone even the kids that they don’t like, y’all gotta pay tf up. Especially if there’s a kid that picks on them, yea ima need that $10. I understand what loni is saying, but people are ultra sensitive these days and they’re not teaching their kids that everyone isn’t gonna be your friend and that’s ok.
I wouldn’t charge a significant other rent to live in my house. If we broke up, it wouldn’t be fair to keep the money that they also invested into the house. If I couldn’t afford to pay the mortgage on my income alone then I shouldn’t had bought the house to start with.
I just love all these people saying the cover charge of $10 is too much or unnecessary or whatever so a kid can have a birthday, yet they will buy plane tickets, hotels, new dress/suit, gift, and drinks (if it's a cash bar) for a friend's wedding.
Am I the only person who buys a cake and make pot of spaghetti or order pizza. I have never spent $600 on a kid's party. We have cake cuttings, even if there is school tomorrow. Can't relate.
Is the concept of birthday gifts foreign to y'all? I'm genuinely curious, do people in the US only get gifts on Christmas ? Cause where I'm from, whether you go to a kid's party or an adult's it's common courtesy to bring a gift. You don't need to go all out and spend a bunch on a present, but if you know you're gonna be eating half a pizza, a bag o pretzels and a slice of cake then spend some money on a gift cause guess what you didn't have to feed yourself today, the birthday boy/girl did.
It's tacky to charge people to attend your party. I'm with Loni on this. If you can't have a big party, just don't do it. It sends the wrong message to kids which is how we pass on the whole living beyond your means in low-income families. Tamara is right, you can also throw parties for real cheap...especially for young kids. You bake a cake, and some cookies, get some balloons and fill it the up with water, plan a couple of games/activities....get everything at the dollar store and you can probably even do it for under $50. If it's warm, have the party at the park so you don't have to deal with clean up. It's true, that when you don't have money you have to get a little more creative....but it builds character.
If my BF asked me to move in to his current apartment/house (or vise versa) I would 100% split utilities, internet, groceries, etc. but I wouldn't pay toward the mortgage or rent. If he asked me to move into a new place with him together as a couple I would contribute to rent also. My boyfriend and I live together currently but we chose to move into a new place together (apartment) and about half a year later bought a house. We split everything 50/50 until we get married and combine finances. Although we only rented for a short time I'm glad we did to know if we could be happy living together! Def. not a waste of money IMO. We have been together 5.5 years (living together 1.5 years now).
@Daniel St. Juste thank-you we try our best ^_^ open communication is key. No fighting happens and I am so glad we have that great communication. I was in past relationships that were NOTHING like this! so much easier when you know exactly what is going on and what to expect haha. It will be interesting to combine finances one day which will open a path of communicating our intentions and goals in life more precisely (he is into cars, I am into farming/homesteading). We keep a very strict budget and that allows us to have "fun guilt free" money to spend on what we love... even if the other person doesnt share the same passion hahaha
i mean like my mom had money when i was little but if she didn’t it would be so bad. she didn’t have much family in america and it would be really sad because she would have to end up asking a co worker or something.
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Theres a store called dollar tree. No kid needs a lavish birthday.
No but sometimes things like a sweet 16 have to be special
Last birthday party our kids went to was around Christmas. We filled Stockings at Dollar Tree. All the kids had a blast. I'm not keeping up with the Jones.
Not active account they are talking about KIDS not TEENAGERS dumbass
for real my mom got all my party decorations and appliances from there,also she got cups and we made milk shakes with ice cream and cookies at home and it was the best
THANK YOU
I'm sorry, a cover charge for a kids bday party???are you kidding me? If you can't afford it then dont have it. Simple. Your child just doesn't get to have a bday party that year. No one should have to foot the bill for your extravagance. I think it's a hustle b/c I dont know what the money is going toward. I didn't ask to be invited to your bday party....if that's the case, my kids are not attending.
Krazily Eclectic honestly🙅🏾♀️ I would rather I bring a dish if that is needed
@@ayanomar1408 that is acceptable. I'm not opposed to the idea of helping out, but a cover charge is ridiculous. Why have a $600 party if you can only afford a $50.00 one? Like Loni said, what happens if you have multiple kids? It's an issue of ego...
exactly! if I had kids they wouldn't be attending either! I was curious tho about something. not only do you have to pay a "cover charge", (by using that term shows this is a mom who has seen the inside of a club or two. lol!! why not call it a ticket price? passport to fun fee. something that's more kid friendly, but I digress.) but you also have to buy TWO gifts for these twins!!! this mom is getting over big time! so if you do the math and you are a parent with 3 kids all a year apart they would be attending this party. that's $30 + 2 gifts @$25 each = $80 total and you have no idea what the value is of this "gift" that your kids will get when they leave the party. I bet it will be a bunch of crap from those $1 bins @ Target. HA!
Candis it aint worth it, with my daughter I decided to make it about the family, every year on her birthday we go to a small weekend getaway to a place she loves that is 2 hours a drive away, in one stone me and her dad get to enjoy her birthday more and she gets a change of scenery, the day will come when she will be old enough to ask for her own party albut till then family party it is.
@@ayanomar1408 that sounds lovely, and you are creating wonderful memories that I'm sure she will cherish when she gets older.
So with this “cover charge” are you still expecting them to bring a gift?
Chelsea Sanders I’m fairly certain this was a story in the UK and she said in an interview they asked for no gifts, just help paying for the party. She also said they would get a party bag at the end with a gift inside.
Lizzie Harrison most child parties send them home with party favors, but ok, thanks
I'm sure you are expected to smh
Chelsea Sanders party bags in the UK usually have a slice of the birthday cake, a small packet of sweets and maybe a small (£1) toy. The lady was suggesting there would be a better gift in their party bags due to the “cover charge”...but ok, thanks
@Lizbeth Torres The woman I'm referring to had twins but in different classes, so had 60+ kids to invite = very expensive birthday party. Most parents feel pressure to put on the best party and don't want their children to have to choose between their classmates. If you don't agree with it, then don't do it / attend those parties. But don't judge other people. She wasn't making a profit from it. Most parties I've been to as an adult ask people to bring something - food, drink or a contribution. Maybe instilling that expectation at an earlier age isn't a bad thing.
Adrienne just has a good heart. But I think today kids are being raised with too high expectations for their birthdays.
Right? Like...what kind of kid's birthday party is $600? Or, since they're twins, $300? I have literally never in my life spent that on my birthday. Hell, that's an expensive vacation, $300 a day. I went to Disney World for less than that a day. Catering for my wedding was less than 600.
Lol my mom made me a Betty Crocker cake every year and a bish was thrilled 😁
Lol a bish was thrilled
OMGosh! ❤️❤️
Lmao right
And that’s on that! 😂
I still make box cakes. I love them. 🤷♀️
Charging for your child’s birthday party? That’s ghetto
Gheddoooooooo
If you don't have cash! Don't think about birthday party, take the kid to Mc Donalds ,get a burger and a slice of cake!! When you can afford it, give the kid a big great party! ! Meaning save beforehand! !
I agree with Loni. They just don’t need a party this year if they can’t afford it. It’s nothing wrong with having an intimate dinner at home with family, going out to eat, or doing something like McDonald’s take out and make a pallet on the floor and singing Happy Birthday.
Tam looks like a whole snack
I never understood why some parents go all out for their children's birthday parties. It's a waste of money imo. If you want to do something expensive and fun, how about taking your kid to an amusement/water park instead?
Right. Kids don’t be enjoying those extravagant parties. They enjoy amusement parks, water parks etc so much better. Just pay for that.
Right, they aren't going to remember it anyway or expect something more expensive the next year
I agree!
@T T YUP!
Narcissist parents.
y they never give drinks samples to the audience ? like who wants to sit and watch them have drinks🤷🏽♀️
Carla Maddison maybe they do, we don’t really know that
S. Jay exactly
Lmao right
S. Jay I’ve seen it before
@jolie also people have lots of allergies, then they would be liable if someone had an allergic reaction
They left out so much important info.. it was ten dollars in place of brining a present. Your all spend atleast ten dollars on a gift. The kids have special needs and can't play with alot of toys, and they don't have a close circle of friends for the same reason. This was a great deal. Don't have to go out for a gift and wrap it, your kid has a good time, and gets their own little gift.
That's what I was thinking... Because where I'm from you don't go to a b-day party (as a kid or as an adult) without a gift. Is that not common in the US?
@@ramo4474 some ppl be broke BUT some are just selfish
@@ramo4474 I mean, I was poor af as a kid. I never had parties (well the kind where your friends come over), partially because I'm a Christmas baby, but also because there was literally no extra money. None. Every gift I ever gave at a friend's party was regifting something I had. I mean, I'm in better shape now. I can afford to get nice, personalized gifts for all my friends and my family and I spoil my nephews rotten. But the truth is, I would NEVER judge someone for not giving a gift, and I legitimately believe that kids shouldn't be expected to give gifts like that. I hate pretty much any sense of "supposed to gift". Why teach our kids to expect other people to buy for them anyways? Just such a consumer culture.
No I'm sorry You don't ask for money to come to a party. You find ways to throw a party and pay for it.
Exactly. This is tacky.
Why is Tamera forever confused during this topic
Monica Cinco why is this so true😂🤦🏽♀️
Monica Cinco because she never was in that type of situation.
She's not confused. I think she just has different standards. Nothing wrong with that. I don't think she's really ignorant about these type of situations. I think it's her way of approaching a talking point. I think she raises interesting points too.
because her man takes care of her like a real man
@@queenbutterfly4888 Paying everything? is that the way for a "real man" ?
I love how real Jeannie and Loni are 😂😂
*Adrienne:* thats kind of the same thing, no?
*Audience:* no....😐 8:09
lol because what is she talking about. The girlfriend wont be renting one of the rooms in the house, she'd be sleeping in the room with him. wth! If the guy wanted to rent rooms then she's not obstructing that.... lol that was so funny!
@@laurnaeculmer980 no she was talking the food and the pay then
She’s always having disagreements with the audience 😂
A family member lost their home and they had to stay with my family for a while, we didnt charge rent but it would have been nice to help pitch in. It really got uncomfortable when they took advantage of the situation, for example, they would use up the light, electricity bill. At that time, it would've be really helpful if they help pay the bills but they didnt and they didnt even consider helping. So if you are staying with someone or someone is staying with you, you should 100% chip in 🤷🏿♀️
A cousin's friend stayed with us for a while while she got back up, we didn't charged her rent, but she helped with the chores and when she fpund a job, she started pitching in with the groceries (it wasn't expected from us, but we were grateful for the help)
Yeah, living with someone is one of the most difficult things you have to do. People are so very different, they have different habits, values, whatever.
Loni stay loosing weight yassss girl
MoonSparkles11 IKR? She looks amazing and gloooowiiing.
MoonSparkles11 this is a very old clip
L Doesn’t take away from that fact though. Does it?
Yes she does and im loving her wig also!!
She looks the same
This is bogus. However is the parents fools for charging or are the other parents fools for attending.
Journal Wright broke young parents having kids and then making us pay for their kids parties. No
Where do they get their topics from? Staring like hau reminds me of High school days.
I have a cousin who includes a list of gifts on her daughter's birthday invitations. You MUST purchase one of the gifts on the list or you are not allowed to attend...Now that's Real Bogus!!!!
If you are dating someone, you shouldn’t expect ANYONE to allow you to live with them for free.
Omg the McDonald’s birthday parties!! 😂 I had my 1st birthday there! I have a picture!
Tam reminded me of Tia when she said moms want to outdo the other moms 😂 just have the party on the cheap and only invite their actual friends. I had more fun at pizza and sleepover parties anyway.
For ten years, I've been called welfare birthday queen. I have 5 kids. Cake, ice cream, and 5 toys of your choice from Dollar Tree.
Sounds good to me.
I love this!!🥰 Great job mommy
ya'll go to dollar tree they have everything and just buy thing of cupcakes for $10
Exactly Loni! Start saving before hand.
Some of these women have money for their nails, hair and bars but not for their children.
Oooo Chile Adrienne forever contradicting herself. The kids are not paying $10 for food at McDonald’s.
I am NOT paying for a kid to attend a party of any kind! Why is it MY responsibility to pay for your kid's party??? Find a more cost effective party (as Tamara suggested) that fits within your budget or tell your twins they will not have the party of their dreams. Kids are resilient. They will bounce back no problem from disappointment. Give it to them like this: We can have the party you want or you can have the gifts you want. Go to a restaurant for a slice of cake they can share! There are so many ways to host a party w/o obligating your guests to chip in. The same goes for open bars at weddings! Don't even get me started about how this is so tacky. Why should I have to pay for my drink???
There was absolutely no reason for Tamera to be that confused!!! 🤦♀️
She actually understood the question.. It mentioned rent specifically not bills in general
If she can't afford the cake why THE HELL ARE YOU INVITING 60 KIDS???
I could plan a whole party with $10 of buying decorations from the Dollar Tree and baking a cake with ingredients I already have. Geesh.
Right.
Love dont pay bills tf😂😂🤨 and also I'm not paying for a kids birthday party if the kids never hung out I don't know the parents and/or my kids doesn't feel comfortable going. Kids parties should be basic especially if they little they like they said only care about sugar and games
I don't believe in playing with animals like that. They have a life of their own and humans keep acting like they are objects or tools. These animals are no different from us. Respect them! We often talk about having animal issues or needing animal control... my gosh really? we need human control!
I was thinking the same thing too!!! That poor alligator having some strange woman's feet touching its head. That was such a weird thing to do and inhumane. For some reason we tend to think bc the animal doesn't have fur it's okay to treat it less than. They know they wouldn't do that with a kitten. The optics would be weird on camera.
People dont remember that the animals were here way before us. Have some respect for the real land owners!
an important point they did not talk about: will the house be in both if thier names??? I wouldnt pay rent just to rent. I can keep my own place
they did talk about this. (9:08) the question started off by saying HE was buying a house. not THEY were buying a house. so if HE is buying the house it is his house in his name bc if they were both going in on the house it wouldn't be rent it would be a mortgage and this wouldn't be question. if you are both signing a mortgage you are both responsible. if your name is on something you are a responsible party and need to pay towards that investment.
Candis I am sorry I felt dump posting this before finishing the video, but like you said If the GF is not paying towards mortgage imagine they breakup and he boots her to the street? 😭😅 girl keep your place🗣
Does it matter in most cases the husband leaves the house and mom stays with the children
Bobby Brown usually when they are married and both bought the place together but if she is just the girlfriend, even with kids he can tell her to leave
Yeah that's some bs in my humble opinion and for the question isnt whether or not she should pay rent it's why are you buying a house without her? If you are at a point in life where you are capable of purchasing a house and you are in a relationship in which you are ready to move in together then why cant they purchase the house together? Cause there ain't no way in hell I'm moving into a boyfriend's house and paying rent I just think that's an odd dynamic, we can buy the house together and split the mortgage or I'm keeping my place cause why should you be helping him buy a house and you aren't reaping any of the benefits? You are just a tenant basically that he can kick out and then you have nothing.
If you’re grown living in my house you pay rent girl!!! And if you’re asking for money instead of a gift I see no problem there. It’s benefiting your kid more than the gift bc you’re paying for your child’s experience! +there’s no shade about any presents someone might bring
They're on point. Sounds like a mom who is trying to prove herself to herself or others. The kid probably doesn't care about that.
Maybe this lady had kids that attend one of those schools that forces you to invite the whole class. This could be the womans way of ensuring most of the kids DON'T come?!?
slumber parties were always the go to for birthdays! super fun and affordable!
Just had one last night for my daughter and we budgeted the snacks. I even included the 2 friends on the snack decisions.
Slumber party, with 60 kids...? Good luck 😂
@@LemonRose59 I think they're saying a slumber party with just a few friends. Like a reasonable slumber party in place of a 60 person party.
sticking to the question, “i am buying a house and my girlfriend is moving in with me, should i charge her rent?”
he didnt say fiance or wife. if “i” decide that i want to buy a home (for myself) and i have a boy/girlfriend, it is not their responsibility to pay rent. they didnt ask for me to buy a home. they can either choose to remain where they are (living with their family/roommates, etc) or move in with me, whichever they feel comfortable with. however, if they make the choice to move into my home then yes, they should contribute sharing utility bills. there are living there after all.
thank you
Disagree. They're gonna live with you rent free while you're paying a mortgage? Couldn't be me
Victoria Johnson the guy purchasing the house is fully aware of the mortage that would come with it, so there is an awareness of being able to have the income to afford it alone. she also doesnt have to move in, thats just an option presented:)
LuisLuxe I think the average person expects contribution from the other person like unless you’re Kylie Jenner rich and not worried about that but it says a lot about someone who expects to live rent free.
@@LuisLuxe and to add to that my name is not on your mortgage but I(whoever) will help with bills but making it compulsory to pay rent especially if the other couple has their own space and paying rent there too is just too much.
As a child some classes required us to invite the whole class or invite them after school personally
Ew.
I'm sorry I'm not going to pay no $10 for no child's birthday party plus my child want to buy a birthday gift for that child not doing it don't make sense cake and ice cream and candy that's enough let them play Simple games
Born and raised in Puerto Rico but now living in Florida, I cannot thank Adrienne enough for helping Puerto Rico after the disastrous hurricane Maria, all my love to her ❤️❤️❤️
I'm here for Loni's glowy makeup and Ad's messy hair-do!!!!
I had to pay 20 bucks for a party last week . I’ve never heard of that before I was confused. Edit : it didn’t think it was that big of a deal . They are my best friend please don’t be rude about it .
Edit again because you guys aren’t reading this right . They had dinner at home then we went to a trampoline park where we had to pay to get in . We didn’t have to pay for dinner
Syd&Cooper Vlogs yeah that’s so stupid why would someone arrange a party if they can’t afford it
@@saseenthira3105 Right like if I wanted to pay to get in somewhere, I would have went to the club
That’s insane
How was the party
saseenthira they had cake and pizza at their house then we paid to go to sky zone
Tamera looks tf good!!! Cant take my eyes off her
I made my son's cake and bought a hotwheel car for the top when my husband wasn't making as much as he used to and we just had a baby and I did a dbl bday with my niece and daughter and again I made the cupcakes and they looked like ice cream cones because it was cheaper and my babies first bday was at a park with a splash pad. My husband had lost his job right before I gave birth so our savings was low and just had to work in a budget to get back to where we were and thankfully we are doing better than ever now
First of all, I went to hella McDonald's birthdays 😂😂😂😂
I like Jeannie's story. If you can afford to have a full party then ask your kid to pick 5 friends to hangout with you don't need the big shebang if you can't afford it. Live within your means.
Growing up my mom used to wait on Christmas on tough years I remember she sat us down and just told my brother what was going on I was really little so she told me Santa's sleigh broke down so shes just gunna wait to do Christmas till he fixed it and she would wait until income tax and then we would have our Christmas when you have kids you do what you gotta do
Tamaras skin and eye look is hella glossy and shimmery
Don’t have a celebration you can’t afford
You gave literally 1 full yr to prep
If you don’t have enough money to just spend as /when you want then put maybe 30 dollars a side every month so yeah by the time you get to the bday ,you will have a pot of cash to throw into the celebration
But don’t ask guests to pay for you to be able to treat your child to a bday
Tam looks beautiful
At our parties, my mom made 2 box cakes and goodie bags, hotdogs, chips, cookies, and baked beans. We played games and had prizes, too 🤷🏾♀️
I never had birthday parties because we didn’t have money. If you can’t afford it, don’t have it. You’re kid should understand and be okay with that. I never complained
All 3 of them just repeated what the other person said before them lol
My mom would buy box cake mix and get real creative with the icing. That’s like a $10 cake MAX and we would reuse the candles every year lol. Then whoever was coming would bring food as well and we would pig out for my bday parties with all of our friends.
Jeannie is always the life of the party
After all that Adrienne tried to act like she had to split a $1 burger lol i love you Adrienne
why don't you believe she had to split a burger? why would that be a lie? she grew up broke in the projects. I don't find that hard to believe. (I also wonder if you can still have a birthday party at McDonald's.)
@@CC-si3cr no worries it was a friendly/shady joke . it just went over your head and thats okay lol ☺ & a mc donalds party might be cool if they had more healthy options for the little ones but in my experience they seem to like those nuggets lol 😆
@@CC-si3cr I agree about splitting the burger but......broke in the projects? hahahaha...stop it, talking about the lower east side like it's east new york. give me a break. 🙄😂😂😂😂
Jen J what about the LES?
I never celebrate my birthday nor my siblings. We feel nothing on it.
Single and disabled mother of 5 and I just made it a tradition to get streamers and balloons from the dollar store and decorate the house as they sleep and I buy it bake a cake, and cook them their favorite meal and we celebrate by ourselves. When I have the extra money I’ll invite a few friends or just spend it on an extra gifts. The years I have been able to coordinate a bigger party they really appreciate it but when I can’t they still look forward to waking up to the decorations and their siblings making the day special.
Adrienne adds all this extra stuff to the topic to fit her point of view 😂 if you have a significant other living with you, yes split the bills but paying "rent" is a whole separate charge from utilities. Tf. I'm with tamera.
“happy butday” 😂😂😂😂😂
ّI am absolutely with Ms. Loni on this one. There's no way I'am paying 10$ just for attending their child's party!
The Ariah an Aiden necklace on Tamera is so cute
I'm sorry if the mother cant afford a big party than she shouldnt have one. How is it right & fair to ask the other moms for $10. She doesnt know their financial situation. Work with your budget! Invite a few friends over, buy a small cake ( or make a cake from a box) , buy a pack of hot dogs & buns , and a few juice boxes and call it a day!!! I would NEVER!!!.. and I'm sure she will still expect the moms to buy a gift... naaawwwe bye girl!! You asking for too much.
If she’s living there she should be helping pay utilities. I don’t think she should be paying towards the mortgage because IK I wouldn’t want to be putting money towards buying the house if I’m not married and 100% staying in his life.
Maddie Schmidt but if you’re renting an apartment from a landlord you’re paying towards their mortgage too and your not owning anything, one wouldn’t be paying to own but as a grown adult you’d just be paying to live in a space. Owning doesn’t mean it’s free
Sorry, but what kind of partner doesn't contribute? If you're working, you're not getting a free living space. If you're not working...you need to be looking, and there's a point at which its over and done.
No no no no.... just because you contribute something doesn't mean you are "part owner"... if your name isn't on that paperwork you are a tenant... period... that's called doing your part and being an adult.
If the parents don't have to bring gifts but simply pay 10$ per kid, that's a great idea imo. With those 600 $ the mother could make a great party and buy some bigger presents for her kids on behalf of everyone. If that's the scenario I am all in, but we don't know what that mother's reasoning was to charge 10$, so we can't really say. I don't judge though🤷🏼♀️
If you can't afford the birthday you don't have it. Period. Kids need to understand money doesn't grow on trees. Charging for a party is tacky and guaranteed to offend people you don't need to. Throw a party in the park, make your cake and plan for games. If the kid is older have them invite 1 or 2 of their best friends. Come on now.
Tam looks amazing here!!!!!
Gm edagdwg thanks you tube for sharing this special time if you can't afford a party don't have a party I use to take my son and a friend out or buy him what he wanted it's his birthday linda j.peace
it is totally about competition ! my 5yo daughter was invited to a Bday party....the theme was "Disney Princesses", and there were 10 Princess stations with full cake and theme related deco, full dressed comedians dressed as Princesses and the Mom was also in a full "Princess gown, makeup and hair. That was a lot !
The real cast woman ♀️👠 should know the difference between an adult party and children party
I agree... Dont charge nobody nothing if you invited them.
rememeber people its actually your mothers birth date not yours its actually your Earthday, the day your soul came to earth!!! birthdays are ways to make money period
WAKE UP AMERICA!
Loni is looking real good and cute!!! And so does everybody else on the real. But LONI !!!
Although this teaches children to be independent , it's not that good for the children my parent just decorated and put a cake on a table then called it a birthday party and we all call it the best party ever because we had quality time not a while parade to tire them out
I'm first bc I love u guys 😘
First of all it’s a headache getting invited to a party personally I hate going to birthday parties so to ask for money on top of that no thanks we not going be happy ppl show up 🙄
What happened when it was the norm to bring a gift to a Child's Birthday Party? My Daughter's Teacher asked that each child bring $1.00 and my daughter had $40 at the end of the day!
I think it is HIGHLY inappropriate for a teacher to get involved. That is simply not ok.
In our school system it’s mandatory to invite the whole class to bday parties. So it does get expensive.
Wait how did they know? Like if you talked to your friends out of school they wouldn’t know if you said “then no of the kids are coming to the party” they wouldn’t really know unless they showed up? I’m not being rude I’m just genuinely curious how this works bc I didn’t know that was a thing?
Im traditional like tamera I’m not living with you until marriage and I’m not leaving without nothing
The real cast should own they're own dating apps company and stores
This convo is just proving what a privileged life tamara has had. If youve got a normal job and a normal non celebrity life youd find you literally cant survive without halving it
Yes she was privileged to do it the traditional way and there is absolutely nothing with that
I agree. Some schools have that rule where you have to invite the WHOLE class. So if my child has to invite everyone even the kids that they don’t like, y’all gotta pay tf up. Especially if there’s a kid that picks on them, yea ima need that $10. I understand what loni is saying, but people are ultra sensitive these days and they’re not teaching their kids that everyone isn’t gonna be your friend and that’s ok.
I fucking love when Jeannie does the momma mia impression 😂😂😂
I wouldn’t charge a significant other rent to live in my house. If we broke up, it wouldn’t be fair to keep the money that they also invested into the house. If I couldn’t afford to pay the mortgage on my income alone then I shouldn’t had bought the house to start with.
I just love all these people saying the cover charge of $10 is too much or unnecessary or whatever so a kid can have a birthday, yet they will buy plane tickets, hotels, new dress/suit, gift, and drinks (if it's a cash bar) for a friend's wedding.
Am I the only person who buys a cake and make pot of spaghetti or order pizza. I have never spent $600 on a kid's party. We have cake cuttings, even if there is school tomorrow. Can't relate.
Is the concept of birthday gifts foreign to y'all? I'm genuinely curious, do people in the US only get gifts on Christmas ? Cause where I'm from, whether you go to a kid's party or an adult's it's common courtesy to bring a gift. You don't need to go all out and spend a bunch on a present, but if you know you're gonna be eating half a pizza, a bag o pretzels and a slice of cake then spend some money on a gift cause guess what you didn't have to feed yourself today, the birthday boy/girl did.
No more birthday's for mine, I rather gift my kid an experience instead of presents that end up forgotten in a week.
It's tacky to charge people to attend your party. I'm with Loni on this. If you can't have a big party, just don't do it. It sends the wrong message to kids which is how we pass on the whole living beyond your means in low-income families. Tamara is right, you can also throw parties for real cheap...especially for young kids. You bake a cake, and some cookies, get some balloons and fill it the up with water, plan a couple of games/activities....get everything at the dollar store and you can probably even do it for under $50. If it's warm, have the party at the park so you don't have to deal with clean up. It's true, that when you don't have money you have to get a little more creative....but it builds character.
If my BF asked me to move in to his current apartment/house (or vise versa) I would 100% split utilities, internet, groceries, etc. but I wouldn't pay toward the mortgage or rent. If he asked me to move into a new place with him together as a couple I would contribute to rent also.
My boyfriend and I live together currently but we chose to move into a new place together (apartment) and about half a year later bought a house. We split everything 50/50 until we get married and combine finances. Although we only rented for a short time I'm glad we did to know if we could be happy living together! Def. not a waste of money IMO. We have been together 5.5 years (living together 1.5 years now).
@Daniel St. Juste thank-you we try our best ^_^ open communication is key. No fighting happens and I am so glad we have that great communication. I was in past relationships that were NOTHING like this! so much easier when you know exactly what is going on and what to expect haha.
It will be interesting to combine finances one day which will open a path of communicating our intentions and goals in life more precisely (he is into cars, I am into farming/homesteading). We keep a very strict budget and that allows us to have "fun guilt free" money to spend on what we love... even if the other person doesnt share the same passion hahaha
I never had a birthday party growing up. Spent it with siblings or cousins
I definitely had a McDonalds birthday party when I was 5 😂😂
Tamara came off very condescending and superior
Tamara is so old-fashioned, I cannot relate to her as much as the other ladies. She’s like Victorian, bless her heart! 😂😂
You went all the way to the Victorian era 😩😂🤣
Super tacky to charge a cover for a party, let alone a KIDS PARTY! If you can’t afford it, don’t have it. Simple.
i mean like my mom had money when i was little but if she didn’t it would be so bad. she didn’t have much family in america and it would be really sad because she would have to end up asking a co worker or something.
Alligators aren’t even scary when their mouth is taped and they are that small. It’s just like one large lizard at that point.