Can you do a video on how to actually manifest what you want then please. Because I’ve watched several interviews and videos where you say basically imagine you already have that thing so much that when you come out of the meditation you have to remind your self your just sat on your room. It’s very conflicting and two opposite practices to achieve what you want. Could you do a video where you speak holistically please ❤
Teal Swan's critique of "toxic positivity" raises an intriguing psychological issue, but let us approach it with a dose of rational skepticism. While the term "toxic positivity" may sound trendy, its premise requires more rigorous analysis. There is no evolutionary advantage in denying reality, which our brains are exquisitely tuned to detect and respond to, but this doesn’t mean positivity itself is harmful. Humans, as evolved beings, are capable of complex emotional processing, and one might argue that positivity, in reasonable doses, serves an adaptive function-helping us to persist in the face of adversity. Labeling it as "toxic" without considering its nuanced role in mental resilience is misleading. In fact, from an evolutionary perspective, optimism bias can enhance survival by encouraging action rather than paralyzing us with fear or negativity. We should, of course, be mindful of genuine human suffering and avoid superficial platitudes, but to frame this as inherently harmful is to miss the balance required in life’s emotional repertoire. Instead of peddling a dichotomy between toxic positivity and emotional authenticity, we ought to celebrate the flexibility of the human brain in navigating the complexity of both positive and negative experiences. Only then can we pursue growth grounded in rational inquiry, rather than mysticism disguised as psychological insight.
After hearing “just be grateful!” from a good friend during 3 years of dark night of the soul and ego death, I realized this motto she’d tell herself for 40 years was not serving me and not her. Every time a little thing becomes contrary to her “peace”, she explodes in vicious rages and words. Whether at the barista, dinner guests or friends, her viciousness has led me to removing myself. She refuses to acknowledge any negative in life, refuses to undergo therapy or any self-work yet says she wants to gain control over her anger. Those years in darkness were the hardest I have ever lived - and I haven’t had an easy life - but I’m deeply grateful for being thrown in that process and finding some awakening and illumination at the end.
I'm almost 70. My most profound lesson I've learned is that walking away from an ongoing bad situation is the most loving thing we can do for ourselves. I hung onto a 30 year "friendship" that sounds a lot like what you're describing. Then I heard someone say, *"Don't let the history keep you in misery."* I went no contact and felt like I used my GET OUT OF JAIL card afterwards.
When I had breast cancer I was told by some people , don’t you realise that you created this disease , also you must be positive , , well when you have been diagnosed with cancer , you have understandable fear as you watched your parents die from the disease , I let a lot of people go because of this , , , I do not miss or want them , there are better people to be with ❤ great vid needs to be said and understood
Oh wow. Unsolicited advice is always a dangerous thing, but especially so in this instance..I am sure youndidnt go around asking people what thay thought the cause of your cancer was...it astounds me that they were so disrespectful of your feelings and adamant that they had the right to tell you how to feel...I am glad to hear you let a lot of people go.
One of the most glaring examples of this is "body positivity." Instead of owning, feeling and exploring our negativity, it has become trendy to just mask it with positivity. Just another new coping mechanism to deny and suppress our discomforts. Not to confused with self-love, which is none of the above. Ironically, self-love is actually incompatible with body positivity.
I have family like this and toxic positivity is something I have spoken out again for a decent ten years and everyone though I was just negative when I brought it up, but now it’s become like a plague. It prevents true deep human connection.
Sometimes it feels like Teal is the only one who gets it. I’ve been saying what she just said for years. This very thing is a reason why many things have gotten worse.
I completely agree. Teal Swan and Gabor Maté are the only ones that truly provides tools for inner enhancement, yes even what feels like life/mind saving approaches .
isnt it sad, huh. 10y ago i though, maybe, just maybe, ppl will wake up more, but she is still pretty much the only public face saying what you&me are saying.
Practicing “staying positive” (done right) isn’t about putting a sticker over the oil pressure warning light. It’s about dealing with it in the attitude of, “I can fix this. I am capable.” Rather than freaking out and screaming “Oh my gawd, this is horrible, we’re all gonna die!” Positivity is about looking towards the best outcome in a bad situation. Not ignoring or denying the bad situation.
Teal is talking about toxic positivity which is putting a sticker over the oil warning light. It's different from " no big deal, a visit to a garage will sort this out"
nah sorry, I disagree. Sometimes saying "oh my gawd this is horrible, we're all gonna die!" Is in fact the first step and the only solution to recognizing that you are in a bad situation without freaking out. edit to clarify: It's okay to say things suck we don't have to be "capable," 24/7 it is about relinquishing that control (or taking the control back, but that method would vary from case to case...)
@@endriandri7914 Yes. I would love it if she would explain the difference to people about the nuance between toxic positivity and healthy positivity. We don’t want to demonize all positivity.
OMG this is something I’ve been talking alot about recently, it’s extremely difficult to talk deep to someone that struggles with toxic positivity. It’s like a delusion that everyone has to live in, it can feel like a dictatorship. I tend to go the opposite direction and find all the flaws, but I realise balance is always the goal and these people that try to push me into toxic positivity aren’t doing the better thing.
Great video! My five year relationship came to an end a month ago. The love of my life chose to leave, and I can't stop thinking about him; I love him so deeply. I've done everything I can to win him back, but nothing seems to work. I'm feeling frustrated and can't imagine my life with anyone else. Despite my efforts to move on, I just can't shake the thoughts of him. I don’t know why I’m sharing this, but I really miss him.
It's tough to let go of someone you care about. I can relate, my 12year relationship also ended, and I struggled to move on. I tried everything to get him back, even seeking help from a spiritual counselor who ultimately helped me reconnect with him.
I’ve been working with “isn’t it wonderful” type affirmations for almost 10 months now. Until recently (when spirit sat me down and started asking me and helping me “get real”) I struggled and saw little progress in the direction I wanted to go. And any progress I did see always felt fleeting. But ever since I started taking the time and effort to get real with the affirmations I write, things have been going much smoother. TIP: I write the affirmations as if I want to take on a certain quality or learn to become adept at a new skill, like navigating through situations of negativity and fear without feeling so deeply snared and torn up during and after. Or feeling genuine love for myself and for others.
I guess you don't want to be saying abuse is wonderful, or being off track is wonderful, and if you never discriminate, you def run the risk of supporting things you shouldnt be supporting.
THANK YOU FOR THIS!!! You have validated my lonely and isolating experience of being rejected for my pain. You have CLEARLY put into words what I could not explain to myself regarding these very dynamics that I am experiencing with someone close to me. P.S. I bought your Blind Spot Oracle some time ago and hated it at first, you know why, because it wasn't warm and fuzzy like most of the others, because it hits the nail on the head, like it or not, and that sometimes hurts. So I worked with it some more and came to realize that it was an AWESOME deck, and it has become my go-to whenever I have a dilemma I can't figure out on my own. Thank you for that too!! Love you, TEAL 💓
This video is so needed. This idea has been burning in me for a while but I just don’t know how to say to people I care about to “stop being so positive”.
Because "positivity" is status today since it is connected to "happiness". So if you challenge their toxic positivty, you challenge the status and also the illusion of happiness. And today when people are obsessed with it, people are going to fight you for it if they are maladjusted.
Another way to look at the so-called toxic positivity is people are trying to un-manifest what they dont want to accept has already manifested. They don't know to face squarely what is and find acceptance which then liberates the resistance while simultaneously helping making conscious certain aspects of yourself that need healing...which if you heal makes you a more powerful conscious manifestor. Shadow work.
"Over the last 4 years, life in human society has become a much more negative experience for people. In truth, for many people, life has become so emotionally hard to deal with, that they have turned to all kinds of coping mechanisms to deal with it. And one of these coping mechanisms is toxic positivity. It is absolutely rampant today. For this reason, let’s look at what toxic positivity is, why it is a problem and what to do about it". Teal Swan 🌎 thank you Teal 😘
Toxic positivity is what I think of when I saw all the denial of all the problems in California, especially the homeless issue. I often heard "It's just as bad everywhere else", when that definitely wasn't true.
synchronicity. I was writing about this today. If you imagine a continuum from bad to to good, or negative to positive, but cut off half the line, then you essentially have decreased your ability to tolerate anything, because what was once 'neutral' is now your bad. No matter how much good you experience, there is limit to anyone's ability to go infinitely good in this incarnation. the song 'accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative' is catchy, but the the more you suppress shadow, the more shadow you get. sublimation and integration of a greater whole is necessary for balance and health.
00:00 🌧️ Toxic positivity is increasingly common as people cope with emotional challenges. 01:18 💡 Positive thinking can be beneficial, but excessive positivity has a dark side. 03:37 🌀 Toxic positivity is used to deny negative emotions, creating willful denial of reality. 05:14 📉 It distorts reality by oversimplifying personal vibration and neglecting deeper issues. 06:50 🔍 Acknowledging both positive and negative experiences is crucial for personal growth. 08:12 🔒 Toxic positivity can destroy relationships by invalidating others' feelings. 09:58 ⛔ It leads to denial and suppresses the acknowledgment of truth, worsening situations. 12:15 🚫 It induces guilt for feeling negative, pressuring individuals to remain positive. 14:22 🔄 It escalates negativity in others, creating a cycle of pain and avoidance. 15:40 🌱 True personal growth requires facing and exploring negative emotions. 16:50 🕳️ Toxic positivity contributes to emotional ignorance and gaslighting of negative experiences. 18:03 🏊♂️ Healthy positivity involves embracing reality, including the negative aspects of life. 19:48 🧠 Pain should be viewed as valuable feedback rather than a threat to well-being. 20:25 🌈 The mantra of "good vibes only" is a societal issue that needs addressing for genuine change.
I spent so many years watching your videos and you have inspired me so much. May you always continue to make more videos and be the forefront of so many who love you. Your beauty shines within and all around you. Thank you for everything 💙💙💙💙💙💙💙✨
🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯Thank you Teal ! Love this.. What a match to my own approach. Earlier today I wrote in a comment: " Choose joy is one of the most patronizing expressions ever. If a person is stuck in traumas and conditioned beliefs it is not at all that simple. All you can do is to make a desicion to slowly and determined work your way out of whatever you are stuck in. To try and make it an easy choice to "choose joy" will just put a heavy load of quilt on those who are not able to choose pretty much instantly....."
This has been a corner stone in my family and I myself lived by it till my life collapsed 5 years ago. It's a delusion cope for sure. Staying in reality hurts at first but is just so much better.
I believe that is correct about having to face things without coping skills or mechanism also from time to time. Almost like fasting in a way. You have to drop the coping sometimes and pick up the gloves and go a few rounds. It's like shadow work at the same time. Cause like you said it can't be all good vibes all the time. Thankyou for sharing I'm still digesting the meaning but I understand most of it. I might watch it again to relearn some of the meaning.
Life’s hardships are what will make you wiser. You will never get stronger or wiser by having an easy life. A wise man once said. The definition of insanity is doing Things the same way over and over and wanted to have a different outcome. Don’t change your goals change your strategy ✌🏻👽
I feel a lot of anxiety hearing this tonight as a survivor of tons of abuse and a divorced alienated mother from her child. I feel a lot of anxiety from what you’re saying. I’m doing the best I can do to get through everything. I’ve made a lot of mistakes. I don’t understand a lot of things. It’s incredibly difficult to understand. I’m undo the generations I’ve been through. Being positive for me helps me and guides me. I don’t deny anything. The pain I’ve been through and the pain I’m going through. Just can’t solve it all at once. This pain takes time to process and understand. I wish I could understand it all and make it all go away instantly. But it takes time and I’m a super strong person which is why I feel sensitive to you saying people who deny pain with super positivity. I choose to be positiveto handle my days and I’m not denying anything. I just can’t handle more than I can and I choose positivity and it works for me. Hoping by the end of the conversation that you’re in a say something uplifting to people who choose positivity to handle negative circumstances in life.
Thank you very much for this important information. I noticed myself that accepting my emotions by giving them full attention brings new energy. Behind my fear is energy , behind my anger is love . Positivity is super powerful but only by accepting all that is.
One can be rooted in reality and see everything as its for highest good. Focusing on what the universe wants us to know and learn. Accepting what is and finding way to cope with issues in healthy ways. The Untethered Soul explains this perfectly.
This is very inspiring to me to hear you say all of these things about a plane, exploding cockpit, not knowing how to react. But when you are a child like I was, and there was nobody to take care of you. Except when I wanted to be mad at you, or save you from possibly dying. It really changes the way you feel about connecting to somebody to trust. You can’t undo it’s been done, but you can go forward and try to undo the notes of things. You may never understand but you realize you’re tied in too.
I used to disassociate too, now I ignore certain things and accept it a little at a time. It helps me because I used to just snap and it made me look more crazy than the truth at times.
”As people around the globe are feeling more and more powerless to the negative, unwanted stressors that currently exist in human society, they are turning more and more to coping mechanisms”. Teal Swan 🌎🙏😘
This is a great one. It points out the complexity and heaviness of the shadow. In many videos that can be missed which easily misleads people to a worldview of delusion and "toxic positivity". The way I can relate to these words is prove of the successful steps I've taken on my inner-work journey. Appreciate the intensity of these words.
I cut someone off whwn I was pregnant with my 2nd because I felt low (many people i went to school with were passing away) and was seeking emotional support, her response was "you need to hurry up and get this baby out of you, uts making you depressed" I've never been able to stand her since. Horrible girl.
This is a really good video. We really do need to come out of the emotional dark ages . We need to look at and recognize how our shadow selves and unhealthy coping mechanisms play into our perception
The first time I watched one of your videos, I thought what has happened to this woman. Your way and what you speak about exude trauma; pain and betrayal. I don’t even need to know your story. Years ago, a guy said to me. Always know what you are feeling as you don’t hold it back. It is on your face and in your body the way you carry it. And I still say, if I’m feeling miserable I take my miserableness with me everywhere I go. Until I don’t feel that miserable feeling. When I am feeling lighter and happier I lead with that. Some people have not had much trauma and certainly not severe trauma and they do feel more positive and happier more of the time.
I can feel when a person is just throwing positivity minus heartfelt empathy at me when I am facing something. It doesn't make me feel good, but makes me feel shamed for being real and expressing myself. It makes me feel less than or weak rather than helped. Their response didn't help me get through my situation.
I have been guilty of living through positive reality denial, and it has hurt me so much I chose to not see what I did not want to see and I cannot deny that because it hurt me so much. I am now in parent alienation because of it. I am learning how to handle the rest of my life, telling people dealing with people and truth. But I realize that I did positive positive denial to keep myself alive. I don’t know how to change myself except for saying no I am learning how to do that. It’s still pretty hard for me, I consider myself a positive ninja, which I am I give more love than I do anything else, but I am learning how to stand up and say what I really think every day
Sis is preaching. I know people that wrap themselves up in neville goddard and louise hay.... and i feel like thats major cope . Its basically a coping mechanism
i keep refreshing her page waiting for this week's video. she doesn t owe me nor anyone a free video, but damn, it's what i look forward every end of the week!!!
oh, for some of these things im glad i fell into the void and accepted some realities of myself, and at was mainly there already but my philosophy became accepting the fact that life is going to hurt, things will suck, i will die, and when i die my consciousness will enter the same state it was in before I was born. non-existent. it's not miserable either because of the events of life and my absolute morbid gallows humor. i look forward to the collapse and am happy i never made kids because that work they are getting is "you poor child".
it takes a lot of energy.. and when you don't deal with your negativity, it will show up in the ones, you have a strong connection to.. and their negativity aswell will not be seen and they have to turn crazy negative to be seen.. they start feeling, like feeling negative things, means, they did something wrong. - pain is never a threat itself - it's a feedback💗
I have been doing this all my life. Now I know what to look for. It is a relief as I could feel in those moments my response being a bit off yet not really sure what was causing the separation. I can see others reeling back as if the positive response negates their experience. I’ve always “looked on the bright side” too. It feels quite freeing somehow and I am looking forward to catching myself (🙏🏻🤞) before I do this to someone again. Thanks heaps for the clarity 🥰xx
This video reminds me of the very beginning of Teals videos. I love these longer videos very much and Im grateful for the insights this one gave me.❤ Thanks😊
This is 100% my boss. She ignored my team all year when we told her we did not have enough time or resources to complete a project by the deadline. Guess what, deadline has come and gone and we are still not done the project. And this affects our customers, who are schools in poverty. It’s been very upsetting for me personally. I will use this video for how to talk to her about this, if I ever get the chance to. Thank you, Teal.
Talk about the wisdom, of time how does it refine, and creates a solid tenses, that its not absolute, its just the best explanation till that moment, and explain how pain and despair has value in the process and it isn't for ever. Grateful 🙏
HI TEAL SWAN, GREETINGS TO YOU! I had not watched you for more than a year! It feels good to see you again, to watch this video about Vibes and to be back in your channel! Hope you notice and read my comment!
I understand people tend to have very negative attitudes and tend to respond with negativity if they don’t understand how to communicate with a negative situation, or expect others to communicate with their expectations or feelings… As for myself: To my fortunate, I have studied a bit of psychology and learned how to read people… and their reactions or negativity: But in the end, I have learned to have a positive outlook and attitude despite the negative attitude of others… like having a light in a dark place. But then what causes negativity in the world, are the negative thoughts, opinions, and feelings that emulate from people who have not found “proper” enlightenment.
I have been watching a few videos today , one made me cry this morning because you actually validated everything iv been thinking so thankyou . You speak sense and thankyou for your videos 👌
I only halfway agree with Teal Swan, because Teal is right that it is utterly impossible to solve your problems without taking any action. However, I disagree that you have to feel negative in order to take action inorder to solve your problems, unless someone makes you angry or if something tragic happens to you of course.
No you dont have to feel negative emotion in order to change something or take action. People often take action based on positive emotion. Like they love dancing so they sign up for a dance class or they see a negative outcome and chage direction. But this is not about that. Those people are in reality. The point it people are soooo resistant to negative emotion that they deny they feel it. They run away. They smoke. They pretent its all good. They tell themselfs the daughter is just going through a weird phase instead of facing the relationship issues with their adult child. So the relationship becomes more distant and breaks in the end. Maybe watch the video again ;)
Thank you Teal the time about witnessing that dog in distress or had been in distress 😣 at the water fall ? and how you felt about it and the incongruent gap with those others in the vicinity and inappropriate toxic positivity is still with me. 🙏 It was really moving touching raw and real and so on point. Like a clear magnifying glass that highlighted the actual or attempt of "phaned" positivity. Something profound was not being "honoured" somehow. I can't explain it but🙏I kinda know how you felt in that sad situation with the dog beside the river and remember that life's lesson and wisdom in your sharing it. 🙏
Toxic positivity also is found in “raising your vibration” only, some gurus keep using this term from the law of attraction. Teal, thanks for the truth bombs, it s about time to expose false light new agers. Btw, I love your pendant 😅
All experiences are for our own benefit that can act as catalysts that lead to growth and learning of our consciousness. Part of the reason we're here is to experience the contrast of what we are not to accentuate what we are in essence. Fully embrace and absorb all emotional energy for what it is and then release that energy back to the universe. Love and light to you, Teal!
@@summerchild5036 I suppose anything is possible, but it seems more likely that it would have a greater impact to identify imbalances and distortions that are within your own vibratory complex if it were actually experienced first hand at deeper levels. According to Q'uo, higher realm social memory complexes that were channeled, states the following: "Whereas intellectual thoughts have light energy, shall we say, it may be said that emotions have heart energy; and because of this, the emotions contain more profound information than any wisdom which the brain can encompass and speak concerning. For emotions move in waters too deep to contain words, and it is at this depth that the changes that you desired to make prior to this incarnation may be affected. Thusly, even though it seems as though reflecting upon one’s emotions is the work of analysis and intellect, indeed it is actually exercising that muscle of faith and allowing that opening between conscious and subconscious mind to be kept open while you do what you can to open the self to a wider and deeper grasp of the situation in which the emotions were concerned."
Been saying this for decades. I saw the disconnect between what was being espoused by proponents and what I was seeing in reality. Note that the Secret came out in 2007, the GFC was in 2008. When positive delusion reaches such a point the universe, and thus us, finds a way to balance out the equation. Extraordinary Popular Delusions and the Madness of Crowds.
My reality is in process of change, i would like to accommodate a very especial person in my mind, that saved my life multiple times, and brought wisdom to me, and it ain't no more the love of the relation patient for Doctor, is pure admiration for such a beautiful being, that showed to me part of her soul.
Humanity is doomed. But we must try even if we can only change ourselves. Very eye opening video. The more I learn the more I want to live single. If a friend stabs you in the back you can pull it out and exit no legal action needed. If married well,, not so easy.
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Can you do a video on how to actually manifest what you want then please. Because I’ve watched several interviews and videos where you say basically imagine you already have that thing so much that when you come out of the meditation you have to remind your self your just sat on your room. It’s very conflicting and two opposite practices to achieve what you want. Could you do a video where you speak holistically please ❤
Teal Swan's critique of "toxic positivity" raises an intriguing psychological issue, but let us approach it with a dose of rational skepticism. While the term "toxic positivity" may sound trendy, its premise requires more rigorous analysis. There is no evolutionary advantage in denying reality, which our brains are exquisitely tuned to detect and respond to, but this doesn’t mean positivity itself is harmful.
Humans, as evolved beings, are capable of complex emotional processing, and one might argue that positivity, in reasonable doses, serves an adaptive function-helping us to persist in the face of adversity. Labeling it as "toxic" without considering its nuanced role in mental resilience is misleading. In fact, from an evolutionary perspective, optimism bias can enhance survival by encouraging action rather than paralyzing us with fear or negativity.
We should, of course, be mindful of genuine human suffering and avoid superficial platitudes, but to frame this as inherently harmful is to miss the balance required in life’s emotional repertoire. Instead of peddling a dichotomy between toxic positivity and emotional authenticity, we ought to celebrate the flexibility of the human brain in navigating the complexity of both positive and negative experiences. Only then can we pursue growth grounded in rational inquiry, rather than mysticism disguised as psychological insight.
authentic vibes for all!
After hearing “just be grateful!” from a good friend during 3 years of dark night of the soul and ego death, I realized this motto she’d tell herself for 40 years was not serving me and not her. Every time a little thing becomes contrary to her “peace”, she explodes in vicious rages and words. Whether at the barista, dinner guests or friends, her viciousness has led me to removing myself. She refuses to acknowledge any negative in life, refuses to undergo therapy or any self-work yet says she wants to gain control over her anger. Those years in darkness were the hardest I have ever lived - and I haven’t had an easy life - but I’m deeply grateful for being thrown in that process and finding some awakening and illumination at the end.
I'm almost 70. My most profound lesson I've learned is that walking away from an ongoing bad situation is the most loving thing we can do for ourselves. I hung onto a 30 year "friendship" that sounds a lot like what you're describing. Then I heard someone say, *"Don't let the history keep you in misery."* I went no contact and felt like I used my GET OUT OF JAIL card afterwards.
@@georgecarlin2656 she found herself!!
Being grateful is the key but you gotta be able to actually be grateful, your friend wasn't truly grateful she was forcing it..
Im a great stoic, as long as nothing bad happens.
When I had breast cancer I was told by some people , don’t you realise that you created this disease , also you must be positive , , well when you have been diagnosed with cancer , you have understandable fear as you watched your parents die from the disease , I let a lot of people go because of this , , , I do not miss or want them , there are better people to be with ❤ great vid needs to be said and understood
Oh wow. Unsolicited advice is always a dangerous thing, but especially so in this instance..I am sure youndidnt go around asking people what thay thought the cause of your cancer was...it astounds me that they were so disrespectful of your feelings and adamant that they had the right to tell you how to feel...I am glad to hear you let a lot of people go.
One of the most glaring examples of this is "body positivity."
Instead of owning, feeling and exploring our negativity, it has become trendy to just mask it with positivity. Just another new coping mechanism to deny and suppress our discomforts.
Not to confused with self-love, which is none of the above. Ironically, self-love is actually incompatible with body positivity.
So fat shaming and body positivity are two sides of the same coin?
I have family like this and toxic positivity is something I have spoken out again for a decent ten years and everyone though I was just negative when I brought it up, but now it’s become like a plague. It prevents true deep human connection.
My family too
Sometimes it feels like Teal is the only one who gets it. I’ve been saying what she just said for years. This very thing is a reason why many things have gotten worse.
I completely agree. Teal Swan and Gabor Maté are the only ones that truly provides tools for inner enhancement, yes even what feels like life/mind saving approaches .
isnt it sad, huh. 10y ago i though, maybe, just maybe, ppl will wake up more, but she is still pretty much the only public face saying what you&me are saying.
I often feel like toxic positivity is a part of ''mean girl'' behaviour.
Practicing “staying positive” (done right) isn’t about putting a sticker over the oil pressure warning light. It’s about dealing with it in the attitude of, “I can fix this. I am capable.” Rather than freaking out and screaming “Oh my gawd, this is horrible, we’re all gonna die!” Positivity is about looking towards the best outcome in a bad situation. Not ignoring or denying the bad situation.
Teal is talking about toxic positivity which is putting a sticker over the oil warning light. It's different from " no big deal, a visit to a garage will sort this out"
Right- that’s the difference.
nah sorry, I disagree. Sometimes saying "oh my gawd this is horrible, we're all gonna die!" Is in fact the first step and the only solution to recognizing that you are in a bad situation without freaking out. edit to clarify: It's okay to say things suck we don't have to be "capable," 24/7 it is about relinquishing that control (or taking the control back, but that method would vary from case to case...)
@@monicaross4013 But that IS considered “freaking out”.
@@endriandri7914 Yes. I would love it if she would explain the difference to people about the nuance between toxic positivity and healthy positivity. We don’t want to demonize all positivity.
Whenever I call out people for having toxic positivity, all they do is tell me incessantly that *I'm* the toxic one.
Nobody likes the negative truth about themselves, be careful with that.
“Use the pain as a meditation bell to awaken you to valuable feedback.” YES ❤
OMG this is something I’ve been talking alot about recently, it’s extremely difficult to talk deep to someone that struggles with toxic positivity. It’s like a delusion that everyone has to live in, it can feel like a dictatorship. I tend to go the opposite direction and find all the flaws, but I realise balance is always the goal and these people that try to push me into toxic positivity aren’t doing the better thing.
Yes. Balance and truth.
When we haven't done anything wrong and someone is using toxic positivity as a weapon it hurts SO BAD.😭🥰🤟😇
The marketing industry enforces it and we have unprecedented financial bubbles that will likely wipe out a generation.
This is huge. Definitely worth a rewatch or 2
Healthy authenticity
Great video! My five year relationship came to an end a month ago. The love of my life chose to leave, and I can't stop thinking about him; I love him so deeply. I've done everything I can to win him back, but nothing seems to work. I'm feeling frustrated and can't imagine my life with anyone else. Despite my efforts to move on, I just can't shake the thoughts of him. I don’t know why I’m sharing this, but I really miss him.
It's tough to let go of someone you care about. I can relate, my 12year relationship also ended, and I struggled to move on. I tried everything to get him back, even seeking help from a spiritual counselor who ultimately helped me reconnect with him.
That's incredible! How did you find a spiritual counselor, and how can I contact one?
His name is Owen Abiola, and he’s an amazing spiritual counselor who specializes in bringing back lost loves.
Owen Abiola has incredible powers, and he can assist you.
Thank you for sharing this valuable information! I just looked him up online, and I'm impressed.
“Pain tells us something about ourselves and our environment. It’s time to stop and assess.” Wow
I’ve been working with “isn’t it wonderful” type affirmations for almost 10 months now. Until recently (when spirit sat me down and started asking me and helping me “get real”) I struggled and saw little progress in the direction I wanted to go. And any progress I did see always felt fleeting. But ever since I started taking the time and effort to get real with the affirmations I write, things have been going much smoother. TIP: I write the affirmations as if I want to take on a certain quality or learn to become adept at a new skill, like navigating through situations of negativity and fear without feeling so deeply snared and torn up during and after. Or feeling genuine love for myself and for others.
What are some of your newer affirmations?
I guess you don't want to be saying abuse is wonderful, or being off track is wonderful, and if you never discriminate, you def run the risk of supporting things you shouldnt be supporting.
THANK YOU FOR THIS!!! You have validated my lonely and isolating experience of being rejected for my pain. You have CLEARLY put into words what I could not explain to myself regarding these very dynamics that I am experiencing with someone close to me. P.S. I bought your Blind Spot Oracle some time ago and hated it at first, you know why, because it wasn't warm and fuzzy like most of the others, because it hits the nail on the head, like it or not, and that sometimes hurts. So I worked with it some more and came to realize that it was an AWESOME deck, and it has become my go-to whenever I have a dilemma I can't figure out on my own. Thank you for that too!! Love you, TEAL 💓
I love that deck
Me too ❤@@LauraVolpintesta
This video is so needed. This idea has been burning in me for a while but I just don’t know how to say to people I care about to “stop being so positive”.
Because "positivity" is status today since it is connected to "happiness". So if you challenge their toxic positivty, you challenge the status and also the illusion of happiness. And today when people are obsessed with it, people are going to fight you for it if they are maladjusted.
Another way to look at the so-called toxic positivity is people are trying to un-manifest what they dont want to accept has already manifested. They don't know to face squarely what is and find acceptance which then liberates the resistance while simultaneously helping making conscious certain aspects of yourself that need healing...which if you heal makes you a more powerful conscious manifestor. Shadow work.
You are freaking amazing, Teal, thank you!
"Over the last 4 years, life in human society has become a much more negative experience for people. In truth, for many people, life has become so emotionally hard to deal with, that they have turned to all kinds of coping mechanisms to deal with it. And one of these coping mechanisms is toxic positivity. It is absolutely rampant today. For this reason, let’s look at what toxic positivity is, why it is a problem and what to do about it". Teal Swan 🌎 thank you Teal 😘
Toxic positivity is what I think of when I saw all the denial of all the problems in California, especially the homeless issue. I often heard "It's just as bad everywhere else", when that definitely wasn't true.
synchronicity. I was writing about this today. If you imagine a continuum from bad to to good, or negative to positive, but cut off half the line, then you essentially have decreased your ability to tolerate anything, because what was once 'neutral' is now your bad. No matter how much good you experience, there is limit to anyone's ability to go infinitely good in this incarnation. the song 'accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative' is catchy, but the the more you suppress shadow, the more shadow you get. sublimation and integration of a greater whole is necessary for balance and health.
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00:00 🌧️ Toxic positivity is increasingly common as people cope with emotional challenges.
01:18 💡 Positive thinking can be beneficial, but excessive positivity has a dark side.
03:37 🌀 Toxic positivity is used to deny negative emotions, creating willful denial of reality.
05:14 📉 It distorts reality by oversimplifying personal vibration and neglecting deeper issues.
06:50 🔍 Acknowledging both positive and negative experiences is crucial for personal growth.
08:12 🔒 Toxic positivity can destroy relationships by invalidating others' feelings.
09:58 ⛔ It leads to denial and suppresses the acknowledgment of truth, worsening situations.
12:15 🚫 It induces guilt for feeling negative, pressuring individuals to remain positive.
14:22 🔄 It escalates negativity in others, creating a cycle of pain and avoidance.
15:40 🌱 True personal growth requires facing and exploring negative emotions.
16:50 🕳️ Toxic positivity contributes to emotional ignorance and gaslighting of negative experiences.
18:03 🏊♂️ Healthy positivity involves embracing reality, including the negative aspects of life.
19:48 🧠 Pain should be viewed as valuable feedback rather than a threat to well-being.
20:25 🌈 The mantra of "good vibes only" is a societal issue that needs addressing for genuine change.
yes! the 'pressure''s pushing me to this. to realize getting beyond all the shrink wrapping, the 'perfect' coating layer that's dampening things . . .
I spent so many years watching your videos and you have inspired me so much. May you always continue to make more videos and be the forefront of so many who love you. Your beauty shines within and all around you. Thank you for everything 💙💙💙💙💙💙💙✨
can i just say how amazing of a video this was and how incredibly creative and intelligent teal is with how she delivers!
I try to practice positive toxicity. Shine light on the positive aspects of being toxic.
🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯Thank you Teal ! Love this.. What a match to my own approach. Earlier today I wrote in a comment: " Choose joy is one of the most patronizing expressions ever. If a person is stuck in traumas and conditioned beliefs it is not at all that simple. All you can do is to make a desicion to slowly and determined work your way out of whatever you are stuck in. To try and make it an easy choice to "choose joy" will just put a heavy load of quilt on those who are not able to choose pretty much instantly....."
This has been a corner stone in my family and I myself lived by it till my life collapsed 5 years ago. It's a delusion cope for sure. Staying in reality hurts at first but is just so much better.
I believe that is correct about having to face things without coping skills or mechanism also from time to time. Almost like fasting in a way. You have to drop the coping sometimes and pick up the gloves and go a few rounds. It's like shadow work at the same time. Cause like you said it can't be all good vibes all the time. Thankyou for sharing I'm still digesting the meaning but I understand most of it. I might watch it again to relearn some of the meaning.
Life’s hardships are what will make you wiser.
You will never get stronger or wiser by having an easy life.
A wise man once said.
The definition of insanity is doing
Things the same way over and over and wanted to have a different outcome.
Don’t change your goals change your strategy ✌🏻👽
Life has taught me to be more of a stoic, @elsiemunoz199.
I feel a lot of anxiety hearing this tonight as a survivor of tons of abuse and a divorced alienated mother from her child. I feel a lot of anxiety from what you’re saying. I’m doing the best I can do to get through everything. I’ve made a lot of mistakes. I don’t understand a lot of things. It’s incredibly difficult to understand. I’m undo the generations I’ve been through. Being positive for me helps me and guides me. I don’t deny anything. The pain I’ve been through and the pain I’m going through. Just can’t solve it all at once. This pain takes time to process and understand. I wish I could understand it all and make it all go away instantly. But it takes time and I’m a super strong person which is why I feel sensitive to you saying people who deny pain with super positivity. I choose to be positiveto handle my days and I’m not denying anything. I just can’t handle more than I can and I choose positivity and it works for me. Hoping by the end of the conversation that you’re in a say something uplifting to people who choose positivity to handle negative circumstances in life.
Thank you very much for this important information. I noticed myself that accepting my emotions by giving them full attention brings new energy. Behind my fear is energy , behind my anger is love . Positivity is super powerful but only by accepting all that is.
One can be rooted in reality and see everything as its for highest good. Focusing on what the universe wants us to know and learn. Accepting what is and finding way to cope with issues in healthy ways. The Untethered Soul explains this perfectly.
I tip my hat to you. I think this is fabulous.
This is very inspiring to me to hear you say all of these things about a plane, exploding cockpit, not knowing how to react. But when you are a child like I was, and there was nobody to take care of you. Except when I wanted to be mad at you, or save you from possibly dying. It really changes the way you feel about connecting to somebody to trust. You can’t undo it’s been done, but you can go forward and try to undo the notes of things. You may never understand but you realize you’re tied in too.
Yes. I cannot handle the negativity and so I dissociatie
I used to disassociate too, now I ignore certain things and accept it a little at a time. It helps me because I used to just snap and it made me look more crazy than the truth at times.
”As people around the globe are feeling more and more powerless to the negative, unwanted stressors that currently exist in human society, they are turning more and more to coping mechanisms”. Teal Swan 🌎🙏😘
Yes! Thank you for explaining this so succinctly 🙏💖
The "have a good week" sign off was a great punchline this week 😂
Toxic Positivity is like having a bag of garbage under the sheets when you're trying to sleep
The "just feel the new reality and it will materialize" has completely messed with my mind. Thank you for this!!
This is a great one. It points out the complexity and heaviness of the shadow. In many videos that can be missed which easily misleads people to a worldview of delusion and "toxic positivity". The way I can relate to these words is prove of the successful steps I've taken on my inner-work journey. Appreciate the intensity of these words.
THANK YOU ‼️ Positive thoughts don't make water not wet & cold ...if you actively seek a life in that cold water 😁
I cut someone off whwn I was pregnant with my 2nd because I felt low (many people i went to school with were passing away) and was seeking emotional support, her response was "you need to hurry up and get this baby out of you, uts making you depressed" I've never been able to stand her since. Horrible girl.
Impressed bij your knowledge and wisdom, love your facial expression and a bit depressed that I’m officially old for not knowing what delulu means.
I agree and it is also a form of survival mechanism grounded on nervous system depletion and dysfunction.
Emotions are the key. The logical part is burnt up for now... Give it a break.. feel
Oh, Gosh….this is so true….i wish more people could see that truth surrounding positivity. Thank you Teal ❤️🦋
Thank you for this explanation of the topic!
This is a really good video. We really do need to come out of the emotional dark ages . We need to look at and recognize how our shadow selves and unhealthy coping mechanisms play into our perception
Much gratitude for your straightforward teachings!!❤💫🙏
The first time I watched one of your videos, I thought what has happened to this woman. Your way and what you speak about exude trauma; pain and betrayal. I don’t even need to know your story.
Years ago, a guy said to me. Always know what you are feeling as you don’t hold it back. It is on your face and in your body the way you carry it.
And I still say, if I’m feeling miserable I take my miserableness with me everywhere I go. Until I don’t feel that miserable feeling.
When I am feeling lighter and happier I lead with that.
Some people have not had much trauma and certainly not severe trauma and they do feel more positive and happier more of the time.
I so understand this.
I can feel when a person is just throwing positivity minus heartfelt empathy at me when I am facing something. It doesn't make me feel good, but makes me feel shamed for being real and expressing myself. It makes me feel less than or weak rather than helped. Their response didn't help me get through my situation.
I have been guilty of living through positive reality denial, and it has hurt me so much I chose to not see what I did not want to see and I cannot deny that because it hurt me so much. I am now in parent alienation because of it. I am learning how to handle the rest of my life, telling people dealing with people and truth. But I realize that I did positive positive denial to keep myself alive. I don’t know how to change myself except for saying no I am learning how to do that. It’s still pretty hard for me, I consider myself a positive ninja, which I am I give more love than I do anything else, but I am learning how to stand up and say what I really think every day
Sis is preaching. I know people that wrap themselves up in neville goddard and louise hay.... and i feel like thats major cope . Its basically a coping mechanism
i keep refreshing her page waiting for this week's video. she doesn t owe me nor anyone a free video, but damn, it's what i look forward every end of the week!!!
oh, for some of these things im glad i fell into the void and accepted some realities of myself, and at was mainly there already but my philosophy became accepting the fact that life is going to hurt, things will suck, i will die, and when i die my consciousness will enter the same state it was in before I was born. non-existent. it's not miserable either because of the events of life and my absolute morbid gallows humor. i look forward to the collapse and am happy i never made kids because that work they are getting is "you poor child".
it takes a lot of energy..
and when you don't deal with your negativity, it will show up in the ones, you have a strong connection to..
and their negativity aswell will not be seen and they have to turn crazy negative to be seen..
they start feeling, like feeling negative things, means, they did something wrong.
- pain is never a threat itself - it's a feedback💗
Amen Sistah!
I have been doing this all my life. Now I know what to look for. It is a relief as I could feel in those moments my response being a bit off yet not really sure what was causing the separation. I can see others reeling back as if the positive response negates their experience. I’ve always “looked on the bright side” too. It feels quite freeing somehow and I am looking forward to catching myself (🙏🏻🤞) before I do this to someone again. Thanks heaps for the clarity 🥰xx
Teal Swan, I love you.
This video reminds me of the very beginning of Teals videos.
I love these longer videos very much and Im grateful for the insights this one gave me.❤
Thanks😊
This is 100% my boss. She ignored my team all year when we told her we did not have enough time or resources to complete a project by the deadline. Guess what, deadline has come and gone and we are still not done the project. And this affects our customers, who are schools in poverty. It’s been very upsetting for me personally. I will use this video for how to talk to her about this, if I ever get the chance to. Thank you, Teal.
She is the most intelligent and wise person on this planet😁☀️😄
Talk about the wisdom, of time how does it refine, and creates a solid tenses, that its not absolute, its just the best explanation till that moment, and explain how pain and despair has value in the process and it isn't for ever. Grateful 🙏
HI TEAL SWAN, GREETINGS TO YOU! I had not watched you for more than a year! It feels good to see you again, to watch this video about Vibes and to be back in your channel! Hope you notice and read my comment!
I think she is absolutely brilliant.
Radical acceptance of reality NOW + heart based Consciousness
Great video Teal! some a bit over my head. This reminds me when people say i can be too negative. Yet i am positive.
I understand people tend to have very negative attitudes and tend to respond with negativity if they don’t understand how to communicate with a negative situation, or expect others to communicate with their expectations or feelings…
As for myself:
To my fortunate, I have studied a bit of psychology and learned how to read people… and their reactions or negativity: But in the end, I have learned to have a positive outlook and attitude despite the negative attitude of others… like having a light in a dark place.
But then what causes negativity in the world, are the negative thoughts, opinions, and feelings that emulate from people who have not found “proper” enlightenment.
Brilliant video Teal. One of my favourites so far. Thanks.
Thank you your recent videos have been very powerful I will definitely do the workbook on this one. Looking forward to the next workshop 🙏
Finally someone to say the truth about this topic! Thank you Teal! 💜
I have been watching a few videos today , one made me cry this morning because you actually validated everything iv been thinking so thankyou .
You speak sense and thankyou for your videos 👌
I only halfway agree with Teal Swan, because Teal is right that it is utterly impossible to solve your problems without taking any action. However, I disagree that you have to feel negative in order to take action inorder to solve your problems, unless someone makes you angry or if something tragic happens to you of course.
I agree with you
No you dont have to feel negative emotion in order to change something or take action. People often take action based on positive emotion. Like they love dancing so they sign up for a dance class or they see a negative outcome and chage direction. But this is not about that. Those people are in reality. The point it people are soooo resistant to negative emotion that they deny they feel it. They run away. They smoke. They pretent its all good. They tell themselfs the daughter is just going through a weird phase instead of facing the relationship issues with their adult child. So the relationship becomes more distant and breaks in the end. Maybe watch the video again ;)
Thank you. I really needed to hear this. It confirmed quite a lot.
Thank you Teal the time about witnessing that dog in distress or had been in distress 😣 at the water fall ? and how you felt about it and the incongruent gap with those others in the vicinity and inappropriate toxic positivity is still with me. 🙏 It was really moving touching raw and real and so on point. Like a clear magnifying glass that highlighted the actual or attempt of "phaned" positivity. Something profound was not being "honoured" somehow. I can't explain it but🙏I kinda know how you felt in that sad situation with the dog beside the river and remember that life's lesson and wisdom in your sharing it. 🙏
Please Talk HEAVY 💪🏿 Teal 👁️‼️
Thank you! Absolutely brilliant.
Thank you for this video Teal. Verry educational. Dealing with emotions is crucial to human existence.
Thank you for your excellent analysis!
Profound insights, thank you! 🙏
This topic was really helpful. Thank you Teal Swan✨✨
Incase you'd rather read about it instead and want to dive deeper into today's topic
Really good. As always. Thank you for your work 🙏🏼🩵
Thank you Real. This is so important.
Toxic positivity also is found in “raising your vibration” only, some gurus keep using this term from the law of attraction. Teal, thanks for the truth bombs, it s about time to expose false light new agers. Btw, I love your pendant 😅
Thanks Teal 🙏🏻 ❤
Thank you❤
All experiences are for our own benefit that can act as catalysts that lead to growth and learning of our consciousness. Part of the reason we're here is to experience the contrast of what we are not to accentuate what we are in essence. Fully embrace and absorb all emotional energy for what it is and then release that energy back to the universe. Love and light to you, Teal!
Do you think it's possible to bypass fully experiencing emotion by recognizing the contrast for what it is right away withiut getting involved in it??
@@summerchild5036 I suppose anything is possible, but it seems more likely that it would have a greater impact to identify imbalances and distortions that are within your own vibratory complex if it were actually experienced first hand at deeper levels.
According to Q'uo, higher realm social memory complexes that were channeled, states the following: "Whereas intellectual thoughts have light energy, shall we say, it may be said that emotions have heart energy; and because of this, the emotions contain more profound information than any wisdom which the brain can encompass and speak concerning. For emotions move in waters too deep to contain words, and it is at this depth that the changes that you desired to make prior to this incarnation may be affected. Thusly, even though it seems as though reflecting upon one’s emotions is the work of analysis and intellect, indeed it is actually exercising that muscle of faith and allowing that opening between conscious and subconscious mind to be kept open while you do what you can to open the self to a wider and deeper grasp of the situation in which the emotions were concerned."
Wow what an amazing video so very helpful thank you so much 💯
So much wisdom.
Thank you for that, Teal 🙏✨
Been saying this for decades. I saw the disconnect between what was being espoused by proponents and what I was seeing in reality. Note that the Secret came out in 2007, the GFC was in 2008. When positive delusion reaches such a point the universe, and thus us, finds a way to balance out the equation. Extraordinary Popular Delusions and the Madness of Crowds.
My reality is in process of change, i would like to accommodate a very especial person in my mind, that saved my life multiple times, and brought wisdom to me, and it ain't no more the love of the relation patient for Doctor, is pure admiration for such a beautiful being, that showed to me part of her soul.
Humanity is doomed.
But we must try even if we can only change ourselves.
Very eye opening video. The more I learn the more I want to live single. If a friend stabs you in the back you can pull it out and exit no legal action needed. If married well,, not so easy.
Well that's not toxic positivity that's straight up negative low frequency lol 🤷🏻♀️
Soooooo good! Bravo Teal!
Thank you Teal.