Why Do So Many Koreans Live With Their Parents? | Street Interview
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 6 ก.ค. 2024
- Did you know that in South Korea, over 50% of Koreans in their 30s and 40s still live with their parents? We are gonna hit the streets of Seoul to find out from the locals directly if this is in fact true, and to understand why this is happening.
The opinions expressed in this video are those of individual interviewees alone and do not reflect the views of ASIAN BOSS or the general Korean population.
0:00 - Intro
0:27 - Do you still live with your parents?
1:28 - Reaction to 50% of unmarried people in 30s and 40s still living with parents
2:54 - Can you confidently tell others that you live with your parents?
4:33 - Do your parents even want you to move out?
6:28 - Is it more acceptable for guys to move out than for girls?
7:32 - What are the pros and cons of living with parents?
9:25 - What would happen if young Koreans were forced to move out at 18 or 19?
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It’s something that should be embraced more in the US. Pushing 18 year olds out into this world where there are people 3x their age that are even struggling, is mind boggling to me. Maybe some are ready for it, but definitely not all. Stability is important during your youth/early adulthood!
Yeah, let’s hope it starts to get more normalized throughout this generation and moving forward
Ray, do you mean that in America some people who are 54 years old are struggling with making a living?
I disagree with the kids today in the US that think they have privilege and know nothing. They need to understand hardship and what it takes to build upon yourself.
@@asianprince8718 Oh absolutely, poverty doesn’t have an age limit here my friend. It’s unfortunate to see. But you have to realize that by the time some people turn 54, they no longer have living parents, they probably *have more items on their credit than an 18 year old would, and they probably have a family of their own to provide for. Also, they’re used to a time back when inflation for them was paying $1.20/gallon for gasoline and $3 milk gallons, or how one person could be a sole provider to the entire household with a salary of $45k/yr.
@@rg20322 what privileges? Boomers had the best economy, today’s economy is terrible
American here. Everything said in this video is highly relatable within a Western society right now. In the past it was much easier to live on the notion of individualism. But as the economy has gotten worse, staying longer with parents becomes normal again. I'm 27 and my sister is 30 and we're both still living with our parents presently. So thank you, Asian Boss, for making this feel way more normal than we think it is. It's very much appreciated.
I agree, I am from Spain and here people move out of their parents’ houses at 30 years old. Because of the house and flats’ prices. I think this can be applied in the developed countries, not only in Asia…
@@vikicruzb8823 Thank you for sharing.
I'm from Asia and this "moving out/kicking out at 18yrs of age" is something I was made aware of in Western movies. They often has that scene or conversation. That is not a common concept in Asia. I guess its cultural differences. They say the West is individualistic while Asia, in general, has a collectivist culture so family here, more or less, stays together. Common reason for moving out is really marriage not age or financial capability.
@@vikicruzb8823 developed countries, not only Asia.... wth do you mean? since when Korea was not a developed country
Same here! If wasn’t for my mom I wouldn’t be in the place I am today. I was able to get a career and now me and her have a business together. I’m 27 living with her but she doesn’t have to work a 9 to 5 now sense I can cover everything now. If it wasn’t for living at home and being to save money cause of that who knows how long it would of taken me
I'm from south america and still live with parents. Rent is just unaffordable these days and buying a house is a pipe dream.
There should be interview around
Why American parents kick their kids out as soon as they turn 18 ?
@@pikachuthunderbolt3919 Because you should WANT to move out.. it's normal
@@pikachuthunderbolt3919 Because independence.
@@pikachuthunderbolt3919
Lol... Because it's embarrassing
@@cooliipie Embarrassing to keep living with the folk who raised you and looked after you since you've been alive? Better than living with dodgy roommates who you don't know. Security over independence
In India living with parents is common. I'm 17 still living with my parents and my dad's 40 still living with his dad. It's nothing to be ashamed of. Our parents provide for us until we are able to make money, they provide for every need of ours from education to food,clothes. In return when our parents grow old we provide for them when they are not able to.
Rather than sending our parents to old age home, we take care of them. The children of the family give them love they deserve and the elders give them the care. For teenagers, our parents believe that they should take care of us. Instead of drinking and making money for daily necessities, we should study.
Yeah I'm 15 and I still live with my parents too.
True. I'm 22 and live with my parents while supporting them financially and by doing small household chores. I owe them a lot so leaving them without paying back is not imaginable for me
This makes sense, i like that about indian culture. I dont get concept of wanting to leave ur parents behind as they get older and weaker
100%
Yeah 19 and samee I'm a girl
Here in India we live with our parents and take care of them forever.
Same here in india too
I heard it's similar in India and India
@@cooliipie lmao
And that's how it ought to be. Imagine thinking its ok to leave your parents when they are no longer as beneficial to you...
but will you be planning to have children? or nah do you want them to take care for you?
As a person who lived with my parents before marriage, I lived with my parents and gave them living expenses every month(although I have been unemployed period), voluntarily washed and cleaned the dishes of my family, and was in charge of the laundry. Living at home, I used to fix drywall, change light bulbs, and repair roofs, and I gave them more cash for electricity bills for air conditioners in summer, and heating bills in winter too.
Rather than being ashamed to live with your parents, it is more important than anything else to maintain a balanced life that is not broken economically and mentally by anyone as a family member. Don't let your parents worry about you not coming out all day in the basement or small room. By doing some things for the house, then creating small values, and keeping them.
There should be interview around
Why American parents kick their kids out as soon as they turn 18 ?
@@pikachuthunderbolt3919 Why are you spamming the comments?
@@pikachuthunderbolt3919 I don't really care about parents' opinions in the United States. because That is the matter in their country. I am interested in how our family in our people's culture maintains a stable life. (even if they live with their parents)
Why should we care about the thoughts of parents in other countries in our culture? If you live in a foreign country, you may need to assimilate into their culture or know what they think, but here I don't think so. You just do what you have to do well.
@@NOKMANtube I think most of Asian boss is about learning about other cultures. By considering different cultures, you grow appreciation and tolerance.
The US is on an extreme and it is actually interesting that parenting is harsher in the West when it comes to young adults, while the stereotype is that white cultures spoil their kids the most.
@@hannesRSA On a relative basis, some may feel that Western culture is harsh on their children, but I, and some Asians, sometimes think that they are overprotected by kid's parents. Especially in terms of economic balance or independence.
I also know that because I have experience studying abroad, the harsh tendencies of US parents mentioned in the Asian Boss reply and their behavior to speed up self-reliance are eventually different for each family and person. that's the point. likewise, the Asian boss sometimes also says things that Koreans disagree with in interviews.
I'm a 27 woman living with my parents in Canada 🇨🇦 and im not financially stable to live on my own. My parents love me and will never kick me out. It's inhuman to do so to your child.
I do help them to pay rent and groceries. Daily spend.
Living on your own now it's for the rich ppl. I cant do it bcuz of that.
Dream, I read that living with parents in Canada is more common now than before....because when their parents getting old, they look after them that will save money from nursing...
I agree with what you said except for “it’s for rich people.” That’s a ridiculous statement. Plenty of people who are not rich live on their own or with roommates and have jobs.
@@Person-mh6xq if you’re living with roommates then that’s no different than living with your parents. You need other people to help with housing.
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Why American parents kick their kids out as soon as they turn 18 ?
At 27? ok
While I was finishing college, I lived at home and paid very low rent…once I graduated and got a good paying job, I got my own place. My parents were never in a rush to kick me out, and they actually gave me some pushback when I told them I wanted to move out (“you can stay longer”), but having my own place was always my end goal. I definitely couldn’t have accomplished that right out of high school or even college without that time.
it's very odd to me that people are so willing to move out and rent. I still think it's a good thing to move out for a little while, to actually learn what it's like to live by yourself and to see what kind of a home you'd want to buy, but not stay renting long term.
I'm part Korean, not in Korea. Moved out at 17, younger siblings did at 24 and 18. I'm now in the process of moving cities to be closer to my mother because I'm the eldest and I believe it is my right to care for her as she ages and needs more help to live independently
Did you have to go back to Korea to update the genealogy history or something? I believe that was one of the responsibilities of the first born as well.
@@anthonyju6392 I'm due to go back next year during autumn and will update the jokbo then. My mother did it last since she is the last surviving sibling.
As long as you realise that things change. I guess in Korea the eldest inherits more unless they decide to share, and property in Korea is worth a large fortune. But if you're in a culture where things have changed, don't assume you still have the same obligations.
I'm in the sandwich generation. While I am not the eldest nor under obligations to look after my parents in my culture, I do so because they lived too wastefully. My wife is under obligation to work for her family, though extending the benefit to her younger sibling for no good reason.
There should be interview around
Why American parents kick their kids out as soon as they turn 18 ?
@@pikachuthunderbolt3919 my parents just told me - if you don't like the way we do things - move out. I moved out as soon as I became of age without a fuss.. then she wanted to cry and ask why I have to do it suddenly.
Living with parents is a blessing since day by day they are growing old and it's good to support them during their old ages.
no it's not
@@nadiagifford9251 may be it's not for YOU
@@SivaRam1432-.- fuxx u i say what i want
Not everyone has the luxury of having a good family relationship. Some parents are abusive to their children which makes them want to move out as soon as they are old enough.
@@jenvu216 Understandable🙂
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I am 24 and still live with my parents and not ashamed of it, here even after marriage we lived with our parents and take care of them in whole life. It's cultural things even if you are poor or rich no matter, i have seen celebrities or business people also do the same so no surprise 😁😁😁
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Why American parents kick their kids out as soon as they turn 18 ?
@@pikachuthunderbolt3919 Some leave because it's a part of growing up.
@@gewglesux It's not western thing but American or UK thing
To multiply their economy ,and turn to pseudo world powers such culture was promoted back then .
No reason why these two countries have really become far unsafe for women , kids and very indiscipline too .
@@pikachuthunderbolt3919 Thanks for the reply. you make good sense.
@@gewglesux well, that would imply that it's the only way, or superior way, or in any shape or form "better" way. At least better for the select few.
And I'd be inclined to agree if there is a background of abuse within the parent-child-relationship, be it physical or psychological. The space of living naturally also may be of issue. Job too.
For the vast majority there are socio-cultural reasons why to move out.
Being brain washed by Hollywood movies really does play one very big role in it.
What I'm saying is, the "growing up" is way more often than not an argument adopted and made without ever really thinking about it. After all, who would dare to argue against "growing up"? It's the kill-argument that only holds ground as long as it is not challenged.
If you get along with your parents then that's great. It's also great if your parents even still have a place big enough for you to live in as well. Some people need their own space though and their own independence to grow as an adult. There's no right answer, just what's right for you.
Isn't it widespread AND traditional throughout Asia and South America? It's partly to care for parents, partly to reduce unnecessary spending in anticipation of getting married. In the Philippines, everyone I know lived with their parents when they were single (if they worked nearby). Because living on your own doubles the cost of living. Triple, even, since you also have to send a portion of your income to help your elderly parents for groceries and stuff.
They only moved out once they got married (usually late 20s to early 30s). And in most cases, they still lived very close to their parents (usually the women's parents). In more than a few cases, they just build another house within the family land, basically turning it into a compound.
Though most kids do have a period of independence during college. Because they usually went and lived in a city temporarily for school. But almost everyone comes back to the family house. Unless they got married early, or they got a job soon after graduating in the cities.
Still, a lot of them end up moving back to their hometowns when they reach their 40s or 50s, for the simple reason that their parents are becoming too old to live on their own. And it allows them to spend time with their grandkids, and vice versa, before it's too late. Most also want their kids to grow up in the same environment that they did. Since cities are not exactly ideal for raising kids.
I personally prefer the living with the parents arrangement. It allows you to spend far more time with them as they grow older. I shudder to think of the nursing home culture in the west. Seeing your kids like twice a year, if you're lucky, and then you die.
Ma mère est aide-soignante auprès de personnes âgées et, enfant, je l'accompagnais parfois au travail.
Je vis en France.
Je me souviens d'une des dames dont elle s'occupait que j'appréciais beaucoup. Elle est tombée tellement malade que sa famille a décidé de l'envoyer à l'hospice. Elle était dans le couloir, aidée par l'ambulancier, et je me rappelle sa fille et son fils qui se disputaient au sujet de livres et couverts en argent dans l'appartement. Un des choc, honte, peine et dégoût des plus violents de ma vie... Que vaut une vie, la vie de sa mère de surcroît, à côté de tout l'argent du monde ?
C'est un cas isolé, dans un famille riche, mais c'est vrai que parfois, à Paris en tous les cas, les enfants et les parents s'éloignent petit à petit. Vivre ensemble devient difficile, pour les uns comme pour les autres. Surtout dans les grandes villes. Je crois que c'est différent ailleurs en France.
J'ai vécu en Inde et la famille a une importance capitale, ainsi que la communauté. Je crois franchement qu'il n'y a pas de "bon" modèle, juste des modèles différents qui peuvent causer de grandes joies comme de grandes souffrances des deux côtés.
it's widespread in almost every country besides america
but what if you don't want 2 take care of your parents ? i see my parents every week once for an hour or so , that is more then enough .
they think so 2 , we got our own schedules and preferences , i dislike a lot of the food that my mother and father like , i want 2 be able 2 do things that with parents you cannot do, if they need my help they can call me anytime .
i think and i hope yours 2 that your parents want you 2 live your life 2 the fullest , not chained 2 1 place because parents cannot do what there parents wanted them 2 do anymore, so they pass it on .. be free and live life is what matters, it doesn't mean throwing away family bonds or w/e , what is wrong with people that chose 2 care for elderly{caregivers) 2 let them do there jobs, and then you have only the good times with your parents , it seems totally fine 2 me..
@@dslight113 That's the same thing? You do realize that you don't actually have to LIVE with your parents, right? The point here is taking care of them. You don't actually have to live under the same roof as them. Although that's what we Asians tend to do, because it's the cheapest option.
Although I am laughing at the way you try to justify nursing homes by pretending to care about the jobs of caregivers. As if it is THEIR opinion that matters here. It's not. It's your parents whom you threw away in a nursing home that matters.
Or are you really that naive to think old people in nursing homes are actually _happy_ ? LOL.
Remember, I'm from the Philippines. We are one of the largest exporters of caregivers and nurses. 4% of nurses and caregivers in the US are of Filipino descent. That's 1 out of every 25 people.
*WE KNOW HOW PEOPLE IN NURSING HOMES ACTUALLY FEEL*
And it's not the happy faces they show you when you visit them twice a year for a few hours.
It's loneliness, homesickness, increasing resignation. Every part of your life is regimented. You can't do the things you actually want to do. You sleep at a certain time, eat only certain meals, meet the same people every day.
Would YOU want to be in that situation when you grow too old to take care of yourself?
@@dslight113 En fait, je crois qu'il n'y a pas de "bonne réponse". À chaque famille sa vérité. D'accord aussi avec toi. J'ai posté mon témoignage dans un autre commentaire où je parle du fait que je suis partie de chez moi à 17 ans, etc. Je n'abandonnerai pas ma mère mais je ne la "subirais" jamais non plus. Sinon, c'est le malheur, et peut-être la colère, qui nous tiendront compagnie.
Living with your parents is a blessing. Why rent and pay another persons mortgage when you can live with your family and save money to purchase your own house
Yeah but how long is too long... if you stay past 30 that means you never will.
@@gewglesux it doesn't mean that
@@gewglesux or maybe you can inherit the house, unless ofcourse your parents are also just renting the place.
@@nooneshome8746 alot of the people i know inherited their homes... Nice if you can make that happen, I SUPPOSE.
@@detodosmoles ok if you say so.. I am just going by one instance of experience
As an asian living in Europe now, I do understand the need for independence. What I cannot fathom is putting my parents in an old people's home. It is now our responsibility to take care of them. Unless there's a medical reason.
It's not western thing but American or UK thing
To multiply their economy ,and turn to pseudo world powers such culture was promoted back then .
No reason why these two countries have really become far unsafe for women , kids and very indiscipline too .
It is our responsibility to take care of our parents bcoz they are the reason why we are her in this world.
Personally, I love that a lot of Koreans live at home. Even after they get married some still chose to live with parents. We usually only get one set of parents and we should cherish the time that we have with them because they won’t be around forever 😢
I think living with parents is part of an Asian culture....in PH living with parents is a common practice like in my case I'm in my late forties a solo parent with 2 kids I still live with my parents they helped me raised my kids even my brother who is in his late thirties.
We can't live with out our parents both of them are 75 y.o. they have health problems and I need to assist them.
Aside from that for practical reason we have a big house and sharing on expenses with my brother is very economical.
In Philippines is it very common that some very old parents stay in nursing home, not sure how you call it, when kids are too busy with works?
Is it called nursing home? You know, a place where they look after elders...
@@asianprince8718 I used to volunteer in an NGO for the elderlies in PH and yes..sadly most of them due to old age are abandoned by their families.
Or they decided to lived in a nursing home because they feel unwanted..
It's great that your kids can grow up in a multi-generational household and know more of their family
no i am black and we do it arabian too !
Not in Japan.
What's wrong in it? We all should take care of our parents in their old age. Remember when they were always there for us in every step of our life and never abandoned us? It's our responsibility to love and care for them back. I hope everyone realises this❤️
Theres nothing wrong with it of course but we young people should also learn how to live by ourselves because our parents are not gonna be alive forever to help us out. When you live by yourself you can visit your parents after work for dinner or every weekends to help them out with what they need, don't make excuses saying that work has kept you busy from visiting.
It seems it's only wrong in USA, because in Brazil is pretty common too, and isn't money's issue, we like to have our family close to us.
Absolutely..west should learn from east.
@@me-ee6mi we're stable . We're not depending on our parents. We actually help them financially because in their old ages, they can't do so much . It's our duty to pay them back in both company and finance. Most important is that to not make them feel lonely or abandoned. We just live with them so that they won't be lonely and to take care of them in their old ages. Living with our parents didn't hindered our independence. Instead we learn more about responsibility and respect and continue to learn more by living with our parents
@@me-ee6mi Yes I agree with your views. But as long you hv a job and is earning, there's nothing wrong in living with your parents in your adult age. In India its pretty common for married couples to live as a joint family, hence we have a really good bond with our parents.
Why are we asking this question? Humans are not solitary animals, we are communal and social beings. It is absolutely normal to live with one’s family. It is rather contrary to nature to live alone. No wonder there are so many people with social adjustment disorders in the US. In the US, therapists have replaced family members to provide emotional support.
its just a question calm down. no one feels insulted that its a cultural norm for them to stay with thier parents longer than in the west.
@@anthoni-yh9ts its not angry but constructive critism
@@TheScarp21 not saying they were angry , the video is just bringing awareness. this channel is about asian countries and their culture. this person is saying they shouldnt even have made a video on this topic which is a dumb thing to say. their comment is not constructive criticism.
@@anthoni-yh9ts oh I am very calm thanks lol. As an American I find it very odd that so many Asians take Western way of life as the “normal” way and see their own way of life as some sort of “deviation” when in fact nuclear family is the aberration and extended family living is the norm in vast majority part of the world.
@@sombrerogalaxy1 alright bro
I've always thought of this as ubiquitous, the notion of staying with your parents. Until I went to the US to visit my relatives. Apparently, children there (and certainly in many other countries as well, other than the US, of course) move out into the world independently at the age of 18(?), basically early adulthood. Kinda makes sense as individualism is valued in some countries. It's pretty intriguing to see distinctions like these between places around the world. This was an informative video 😁.
American here. In the past it was much easier to live on the notion of individualism. But as the economy has gotten worse, staying longer with parents becomes normal again. I'm 27 and my sister is 30 and we're both still living with our parents presently.
probably 80 percent of filipinos in their 30s still live with their parents. Its a culture thing. when you were young, your parents took care of you. Now that theyre old, youre the one whos supposed to take care of them
Really? Because when I was there, I observed that people in their 30s have kids and live in apartments or houses they bought...their parents usually don't live with them....correct me if I'm mistaken.
@@asianprince8718 i think in asia mostly only 1 of the kid is living with the parent even after getting marriend, usually the oldest or the youngest brother, depends on the culture
Not 80 percent, that's too high. There are alot of citizens here who live with their own family, but there are also alot of people 18+ above who live with their parents. As I observed, It's almost like 30-40% for me (including myself btw).
My Mom&Pops were so good to me living at home with them I never wanted to leave! I was working all the time & out with friends at night & most weekends so privacy wasn't an issue. I paid big share of mortgage, but in return my Mom's always had home cooked food, did housework & my Pops was my mechanic & never let me drive around in a dirty car. I never asked them to do these things, but it was their way of showing me love. I wouldn't have done it any differently. BTW I'm 1st Generation S.Korean in LA. Having your own place is great, but in most cases if you are younger you need roommates to offset cost, it made more sense to pay/spend on family, especially since it helped everyone! 😀😍
If you're paying mortgage, you're paying rent bro. You fully know you enjoy the luxury of having a mother as your own maid and your dad as your personal car cleaner.
@@sleepyearth You're clearly not Asian or from any family-oriented culture if you frame it in that twisted way. Asians show love through actions instead of words. And Asian parents will do that stuff without you asking or without saying a word to you, even if you don't want them to. And paying for your parent's mortgage is not paying rent. Asian parents don't expect their kids to pay for THEIR mortgage, but good Asian kids will try to help out if they can.
My gf is from The Philippines, and she still lives with her parents. Then I have another female friend from Thailand, she also lives with her parents and is 32.
Personally, I don't see a problem with this. If you can't afford to move out, then no big deal. There shouldn't be any pressure to move out and get married before you reach age 30. Something that more in the US need to acknowledge.
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Why American parents kick their kids out as soon as they turn 18 ?
@@pikachuthunderbolt3919 Yes
I moved out in my early twenties, and I am happy I have the experience of living with my parents, living alone and living with my husband now. For example if I am annoyed cause he did not clean something, I can always remember, if I would live alone again, I would need to do more household chores in the end 😊
Hahaha ✌️😂 your husband so lame and lazy.
This must be normalised.
Everyone has the right to live the way they wish to. I too live with my parents, sometimes people find it difficult to accept the fact that why in spite of being financially independent I live with my parents.
Well I would never leave them and take care of them till the very end. It's not just finances but a lot more emotions of mine attached to them.
Thanks for bringing this up.
I think you should live the way you at feel best also wanting to be handled as an adult at 18 or 19 when you reach the legal age should be normal.
Also there are certain families that are toxic so it's unhealthy for someone to stay in them
Off my chest. My parent wasn't good for my emotional and mental health even if they did provide food and a roof. I would've remained socially stunted and incredibly insecure if I didn't move out, and even then, I moved out at 20 to live with someone else and then started paying for my living situation. My parent was the cause of all the poor qualities they kept criticizing me about, and they acted helpless because I was amounting to nothing in their eyes and they didn't know what to do with me. At least I'm fairly resilient and I didn't let that experience bog me down forever. I was very eager to shed that old skin.
I am very sorry that you had a tough beginning of your life...
I’m American and I’m 22 still living with my parents as well as my 28 year old sister. Cost of living is too expensive nowadays 😩
males in the us get looked down on for living with their parents at a certain age
Not just cost of living..It's Son/daughter responsibility to take care of their parents
In the Balkans the average age of moving out is in your 30s, I would say it's just that families have a strong connection similar to in Asia
There's nothing wrong with living with your parents as long as your parents don't violate your privacy and boundaries. Unfortunately a lot of Asian parents do that because of "culture".
Well it is their house
I agree with this.
My mother is from El Salvador and by extent us, her children, have El Salvadoran ancestry. We’re told it’s very common for adults to live with their family and only move out when they get married or when they work overseas. Should we work overseas then it’s common for that child to send money back to their parents/ relatives though they are not pressured. That said I can only speak for ourselves as there are not many El Salvadorans here in my Canadian community.
Too many North American families have that notion you need to move out once you turn eighteen or twenty one. In places like Ontario/ California/ New York and various other cities you’re spending more on rent/ utilities/ food than you are saving and many of those who do move out discriminate or are biased against those who live with their families without thinking about differing cultures. I think it’s a European/ North American arrogance more than anything else.
I'm from the Netherlands and here it's pretty normal to move out between the ages 18-23. Us Dutch people just value freedom and independence, even if it's a little bit of a struggle financially. I'm 28 now, I've lived alone for 7 years now and I really enjoy having my own place, without anyone disturbing my peace or personal routines. Usually I visit my parents every 2 or 3 weeks for a weekend, or 3-4 days around the holidays. It's not that I don't love my family, it just that if I stayed there for longer than a week I'd probably go mad lol.
What a chad 🗿🗿🗿
I think it depends on what kind of parents do you have. I’m Asian but I have a dysfunctional family so staying with them until marriage is a struggle. If I had a loving and peaceful family I wouldn’t rush to live alone.
@@whitepouch0904 this makes all the difference. Well said.
That's a good thing nd no woman wants a guy a certain age still living with their parents
Actually many Westerners are living with their parents longer. If anything that momentary Western "Independence" was an abberatiion. I think most cultures are more ok with multi-generational households.
More importantly, the always increasing cost of housing prevents people from moving out more commonly yet most people in most places don't demand affordable housing.
From my point of view, the habit that North American parents have of throwing their children out into the street once they grow up always seemed abnormal to me. I used to watch Hollywood movies, they always showed as something shameful for parents the fact of having their adult children still in the house. Coming to a country, the custom is that the children leave the house when they get married or get a stable job, as in Asian countries. In many Latin American countries, due to the problem of poverty, it is normal to live in multigenerational homes, grandparents act as caregivers for grandchildren while parents can work quietly and at the same time these parents help their elderly financially. In the end, it is family cooperation that is what that allows to survive
Setting aside cultural reasons, if you look at it financially it makes more sense to live with your parents. Though there's the social stigma of needing to live on your own. The problem is that even if you do move out and live on your own, many people end up coming back home because of the way the economy is. So if you think about it long term, it would be better to stay with your parents instead of risking all of that money trying to live on your own; especially when you could avoid that all together.
It's not just a Korea thing. In the US (as I mentioned and mentioned in this video) many people might want to move out for a variety of reasons. But financially it might not be the best idea given the housing prices and the cost of living being ridiculously high these days, and then (as mentioned in the video) the issue of self discipline. Having all of this freedom you might get sucked into some bad habits.
부모님과 함께 사는 것이 더 편리하고 안전하며 가족과의 유대감도 커진다고 생각합니다.
I'm from Zimbabwe and moved from my parents' house after my 20th birthday. Been living by myself ever since and I'm 26 now ✌🏾🇿🇼
what the guy said in 2:28 is true.. here in our country it is like giving back to your parents, and not because you cannot afford to live on your own.. if you move out of your parents’ house you will somewhat feel bad because your parents feel they have been neglected and a lot of senior citizens don’t have enough money saved up for retirement to afford the cost of living nowadays... so if you are unmarried, you actually live with your parents as a family to help them with daily expenses
He is kinda cute tho someone give me his ig I'd plzzz 🥹🥹
The woman that said she is just exploiting her parents for their convenience, is me at 28 lol
not just SK, many asian countries also have adults that still lives with their parents.
Having lived in the US, I know there's this weird view of adults in their 30s still living at home with their parents. I don't think there's anything wrong with that unless that adult child lives in the basement playing video games & has Mommy bringing him his meals 3/day! In other words, as long as they're contributing by helping with housework and helping financially instead of becoming a burden to their parents, then I think that's fine.
I am Indian. I am absolutely not surprised from this video. All reasons too obvious. Asian cultures being Asian.
I'm from the Philippines, and I guess that kind of topic we Filipinos can relate to, first of all even if you have your own family you can live together with your parent together with your husband/wife cuz many Filipinos really love to live together with their family, and I think that is really the trait of Filipinos, but if you have enough money to live together in your own family there's no problem with that at all, but as long as you really want to live with your parent there's no problem
It the norm here in India to live with our parents until you are not married or you have to move to some other city for education or job. It definitely saves a lot of money plus you take care of each other.
I'm 22 and I live with my mother in California. I haven't moved out because my university is closer to my house so it's less expensive to live with my mother. Plus, I don't have a job and am not yet financially independent so I can't afford to move out. Plus, even if I can sustain myself financially, I still prefer to live with my mother because it is more convenient, less expensive, also less lonely. I can pool resources with my mother, my mother can cover some living expenses for me, and I have someone to hang out with. Plus, if I moved out, that would mean I have to part with my 30 stuffed animals at home~
What's the problem living with your parents? It is more enjoyable than living alone. Success doesn't mean being alone.
I dont think this need to be standard. People should chose whats best for their situation and not judge !
In India, it is common practice that you have to live with parents either u r beggar or billionaire ...
I'm Asian and not only do i live with my parents, they paid for my school, and now my college too. It's not shameful to live with our parents after all they take care of us until we can earn and we start taking care of them then
I live in the west and there's a stigma with adults living with their parents, I just don't understand it. I moved out of home at 17 and recently moved back in with my mom at 31. She's now a widow and reaching retirement age. I want to be there for her, I don't like the thought of having her live by herself as she ages. I also have a mortgage and I save a lot of money by living with my mom and having my house leased out until I pay it off.
It's not western thing but American or UK thing
To multiply their economy ,and turn to pseudo world powers such culture was promoted back then .
No reason why these two countries have really become far unsafe for women , kids and very indiscipline too .
It's not stigma but a pseudo culture created by real estate there to multiply economy
US could go anyway to increase its economy
You sound like you're a planner and that's great. At the end of leasing your home it will be paid off and you can move in and enjoy it.
Here (Brasil) we usually do something like: live with your parents until you're in your 30s +-, then, after marrying and saving money with your partner, usually we build our house almost inside our parents terrain (that when we don't build over our parents house 😂). In my neighborhood almost all houses are like this. Very rarely I see couple's moving into extra small apartments in giant and secure condos, but sometimes they don't have a family yet or are a very small family.
foda é quando você quer sair de casa, você tem condições de alugar um canto pra você, mas não sai porque sua mãe esta ficando velha e você se sente na obrigação de cuidar dela.
existe essa situação, e é a minha XD
eu também sinto que chegar aos 30 morando na casa dos pais, faz o cara parecer menos homem.
é um dilema, vou continuar morando com os pais, porque não tenho uma esposa.
mas ao mesmo tempo, arrumaria uma mulher mais fácil, se eu não morasse com os pais XD
minha casa é pequena, e se eu trago uma pessoa aqui, sinto que to tirando a privacidade da minha mãe.
é foda viver isso.
as vezes dá vontade de tacar o foda-se e pensar em mim, mas é complicado.
obs: morar sozinho támbem deve ser muito bom para pensar/estudar/ler
fora que deve te enriquecer como pessoa e te dar poder de decisão, saber que tudo esta em suas mãos, e que a responsa é toda sua.
@@will7620 You're right. People tend to work in The States mostly and save enough money to return to their country and buy or build a house because at least in Latin America is less expensive if we compare to buy a house in The States
As Asian, we should be proud of this part of our culture
Same me :) We are not westerners to live with our parents
I have been living with my parents after high schools and university , it is a blessings & best decision of my life spending time together with the elders , also helping each other . I can learn to cook from my mom and work skill sets from my dad .
After you graduated from university and lived with parents, did they have their own rules in the house that you had to follow? No family conflicts at all? Sometimes I heard young adults argue with parents because they don't feel want to listen to what parents say.
That’s what l love about the Korean culture, is the children love for their parents and not feeling shamed for living with them, and if a Korean person happened to read my comment, keep the good in your culture and do not change it, I admire Koreans for that, I come from Saudi Arabia and we have the same thing we (sons and daughters) live with our parents until the marriage, some children still live with theirs parents (usually the eldest child) to take care of the parents, in the west mostly they don’t have appreciation for their elders and they put their parents in home cares even if they can afford to take care of their parents with them in their houses
Living and staying with parents when children turned adults already very common, especially in Asia like Taiwan, Japan and Korea. Even kids who turned adults and had their kids later on, they could still stay and live with their parents.
Money could be a reason, because of housing prices that they cannot afford, best way is to stay with parents until they can buy new houses. Or, they stay so they can take care of their parents when parents getting older.
Indonesia too
Philippines too
lol we do not live with our parents in Japan, please stop lying.
@siti azka
Out of curiosity. In Indonesia is it common that a married couple live with their parents after they have children ?
@@asianprince8718 Yes, it's common because of economic problems..sorry poor english
I've lived abroad before but after that I went back to living with my parents and right now I am 25. I am having quite a hard time living with them and my 18 year old sister is having the same issue.. I don't see the point of moving out when everything is so expensive, but it's getting really tiring arguing with them about useless things.
They tell me I am using the house like a hotel even though I help with chores so many hours a week (probably more than when I lived by myself) and I do it whenever I see they need help. I do it gladly because they are my parents, but it hurts when they don't recognize that and just make me feel bad.
I am Kurdish and in our culture you don't really move out until you are married but since I grew up in the Netherlands it's a little bit different. My mom has said before that she wants me to be independent but I don't think it makes sense for her to say that because of our culture and religion. I'm not sure what I should do, am I going to make myself struggle financially just to live alone or do I put up with this longer and save money..
Can you and your sister move out together? Or live with roommates? Living with toxic relationships is too stressful.
I say, suck it up and put up with it a little longer until you save up some money… you could try moving out now and when you realize how difficult it is to live on your own when you’re responsible for bills, you might change your mind. Or, someone else had a good suggestion of possibly living with your sister to share costs. Your situation seems pretty classic for immigrants where there is a clash of a more conservative culture from the home country compared to the country you have immigrated to… good luck
I don't know your situation apart from what you detailed, but is it an option to move out with your sister? I'm half Arab and I understand that Middle Eastern parents can be challenging to live/interact with. If your emotional well-being and mental health is taking a toll, it could be an option to move out.... It won't be easy and there will be hurdles to hop over, especially with finances and daily expenses. In the meantime, you could start saving up (without telling anyone) until you're ready.
I don't know what support there is in Holland, but I get the impression it's similar to the UK, with social and public services available to young people. All the best.
Some of best years of my life is when I got married and my wife and I had nothing. We struggled but we eventually did very well. We learned sacrifices.
I wouldn't move out either if I have to get a huge loan from the bank to pay 전세. Even 월세 is too damn high for young people who are just starting out. Rental prices just no longer make sense.
Rina, are you from Korea?
Is rental currently a problem in Korea?
I'm Greek-American. Traditionally in a Greek family, you live with your parents until you get married (unless you move away to study or job offer). Also, then when your parents are elderly and of age or health where they can't take care of themselves, they usually live with their children. I married at 25, and lived at home until I married. Now my elderly Mom lives with us since she had some health problems.
Wellcome to INDIA🇮🇳....if we and our oarey live in the same city then we live together in the same house because we believe family is incomplete without our Parents..... even after marriage we live with our parents because HOME IS WHERE OUR PARENTS ARE🫶🏼🫶🏼
It's considered normal in Asia for an adult or adults to still live with their parents. Not all adult children can afford to either rent or buy housing and the price of living can be costly, and it's much cheaper to just live with their own families. To each their own, I guess.
I am from Pakistan, here parents will provide for you till y'all die if that's what you want. I am so grateful to be here💗.
My sister and I couldn't get along with our parents after a while. We moved out at 18 and 21. My oldest sister moved out at 18, as well (basically- she had summer internships). If I'd gotten along with my parents better, I might've lived with them longer. We were having screaming fights, though. We got along great once we didn't live together.
Carole....
Not getting along? Did you try to find a way to have a communication with parents in order to solve the conflicts ?
Or tell what happened to your friends or teachers, and they could advise your parents what to do to get along.
Same for me and my sister, when we lived with parents the house was in chaos. My parents were very strict and they also worry the environment in our country was very unsafe for women to live alone. When finally my sister got fed up screaming we moved out of the country living on our own. We used to never got along well but after we started living alone my relationship with my sister greatly improved. While my parents started to act “weird”… they never bothered much about my artworks when I was living with them but they started to upload my works (sadly without my consent) and whatever life we have on their social media like they are so proud. I think some parents don’t want their children moving out until they are perfect enough while they try to endure the stress of having to live with adult children.
I remember when I was in Korea for a months. Girlfriend's parents were so nice to let me stay with them in their house. Nice memories.
When your parents disapprove of everything you do it would be hell to live with them.
I’m surprised they didn’t mention lack of freedom more. I’m 28, from Portugal and still live with my parents. They are like the korean parents, where they dont want me to move out right away. However, I feel that they are over protective and I dont have a lot of freedom, and I want to move out soon, sharing a house with others so its cheap. Of course it’s not ideal but I think it’s still better.
Did not expect to hear many Koreans live with their parents well into adulthood. Personally I like that I have a shared cultural aspect even though I’m on the other side of the world. I should make friends with more Koreans.
In Italy it's normal living with your parents if you're alone or they need your help because they're older, but overall the problem is the low salary, and the highest price for rent or the impossibility of buying and house. for this reason a lots of young or quite young people living with their parents, it's not a choice, its a need, and I think it's the same in korea. I'm 22 and after covid I'm living with my parents because my mom is almost die during the illness, so I stay with her and take care of her all the day, but I think it's normal, she gives my life, it's the normal thing that now I 'm taking care of her. A lot of people criticize me, but I'm not feel guilty. I'm ok with my decision and I don't have any regrets. well I had to interrupted my study for two years, but when she'll be better I'll come back to university. this is my experience, but even if my mom is fine, here there's a lots of problem to find a works, and consequently it's hard paying a rent. this is one of the majority reason why young adults live with their parents. thanks for this video.
American here. Many young people go to college or technical schools after high school and live in dorms coming home to live at mom and dads for the summer. Some get internships and live in provided housing. Once graduated it is still the norm to strike out on your own, most parents continue to provide some assistance in form of keeping kids on health insurance, paying car insurance etc. even though they may not live under their parents roof they know if they “fall”, mom and dad will provide a soft landing
THIS!!!
I'm from the Philippines. Some of us still stay with our parents until we get married. I guess I am blessed to have my parents' guidance and support until I became financially stable.
I'm from the U.S , me (29) and my siblings from 4 siblings (26 to the eldest being 33) we still live with our parents. We bought a house so we can all live together. I feel these days living alone is difficult with the work and even the rent is to high
I do not have a good relationship with my mother who basically sees me as a failure in her eyes. I didn't move out till I was like 28 or 29. My oldest brother moved out when he was 20-21 for school and then never needed to come back. I did live away from my parents for school but then needed to come back home.
Whether you should move out or not depends on the child. You shouldn't be living with your parents if it is an excuse to do the minimum. This stunts your growth as a person. But the person is working hard contributing and saving money for the day you will move out then I see no problem with stay at home with your parents as it is a huge financial boost. Unfortunately the number of people who are completely self motivated and self driven are not as many as the number of people who take the path of least resistance.
The possibility of living on your own for a few years and then coming back could be a good compromise in this day and age.
What's left out of this conversation is yes young people like to move out & be independent but they also likely have roommates. It's increasingly rare that they'd live alone.
10000000%. Having roommates was amazing.
This is well and good when you get along with your family. When they love and support you. However with any kinds of abuse or bad boundaries it can be chaotic. There has to be an in between from rugged individualism and familial enmeshment.
It’s whatever works and whatever is healthy for the individuals involved. There shouldn’t be judgement either way as long as what is happening is healthy.
I think it's in general symbiotic for grown children to live with their parents, assuming they are indeed "grown up" and know to be responsible and to reciprocate. Family would be kept close, and there'd be much cost savings. But in any case, there's a big con just like the guy at 3:11 mentioned, that his prospective mates would not like it.
30 in France , here. I moved out at 24 in order to go study in another country. Now that I got my diploma, i'm looking for a job, and the question to move back at my mum's place is real : as long as i just have some odd jobs, it's hard to be financially stable enough to have my own home. But i also don't want to burden my mum who also have a very low income and wishes to keep the house my dad and her struggled to get. It's in a countryside, so i know i could not find a job there in my field of expertise. So, i think that despite not having a job, i'll probably keep struggling in my city in order to get a job rather than going back to my mum's.
In the Philippines living with parents is quite normal and once you start earning you get to share house expenses too. I moved out when I turned 18 for college and since then I've been living on my own but if given a chance I would prefer living with my parents.
My father is gone now and I regret not spending time with them more. When I landed a good job I made my parents move in with me but it didnt last long coz they prefer living in the countryside. I dont want to live in my hometown coz I wont get a decent job back there. I would however love visiting the place where I grew up. It was a dilemma and I chose what I wanted. In short I am kind of selfish and I felt guilty.
I don't see anything wrong with that, they're family after all, as long as they can provide for their parents and for themselves it's all good
Tellement étonnant au regard de ma situation personnelle. Merci pour ce reportage.
Ma situation n'est pas du tout représentative de la majorité des français mais le reportage montre quelque chose de tellement différent par rapport à ma vision des choses que je ne peux m'empêcher de réagir. N'y voyez aucun jugement de ma part, juste un sincère étonnement et une reflexion toute personnelle.
Je suis partie de chez moi (mi-paniquée, mi-soulagée) à 17 ans. Je précise que nous vivions avec maman dans la précarité et que grâce à ça je n'ai jamais eu peur d'être pauvre ou de manquer. Je n'avais déjà rien donc que pouvait-il m'arriver de pire ? Aussi, en France, sauf si on n'est vraiment pas débrouillard, on ne meurt pas de faim et on peut avoir un toit au dessus de la tête. J'ai de la chance d'etre née en France.
Aussi, je me souviens avoir supplié ma mère de m'envoyer en internat vers 13 ans car je n'arrivais pas à contruire mon identité en étant "sous son contrôle". Je vivais un calvaire intérieur.
J'ai 35 ans aujourd'hui, un bon travail à l'université, un logement en plein coeur de Paris, et pourtant vivre à 2, je l'envisage avec difficulté tellement l'indépendance m'est importante. J'ai été mariée 7 ans et je me sentais "emprisonnée". Je suffoquais mentalement. Ce sentiment d'asphyxie était tellement fort qu'il me consumait à petit feu.
J'en ai conclu que la vie, pour moi, c'est être libre d'être moi-même et je ne peux l'être si on m'impose trop de choses dans l'endroit qui est supposé être mon refuge, mon chez moi. Je n'envisage pas le couple/la famille/l'amitié comme un contrat avec des devoirs et partages de richesses mais comme une relation faite de respect et d'amour mutuel. Malheureusement, le quotidien dans sa réalité matérielle créé plus de problèmes que de belles choses de mon côté.
LOL ! On dirait le témoignage d'une asociale ! 😂 Je ne le suis pas du tout ; au contraire ! J'adore découvrir d'autres personnes, d'autres horizons. Chaque personne rencontrée m'a aidé à mieux me connaître et je continue à cheminer !
Bon courage à tous. Compliqué d'être Humain...
Toujours un plaisir ces vidéos Asian Boss. 🥰
Everyone is different. To each their own. You do you. If I had a controlling mother, I'd run away also.
It's part of our culture.. we can't leave our parents who took care of us alone .. it's blessing to see them home while i return from 9-5 duty.. ..
I'm of Arab British heritage, born and raised in London. I moved out at 26, which I thought was late... ( it wasn't ideal, and far from easy, but I had to do that for my own wellbeing and sanity, let's say! ). That was nearly a decade ago, and it has been a rollercoaster ride of experiences and painful growth that I don't think I would have gone through, if I just got complacent and stayed with my late Arab mother. Again, I stress that it wasn't easy, even up to now, but now that know who I am and what I can do for myself, I wouldn't swap it for anything! Even on the bad days and when money is tight!
Don't get me wrong, yes there are downsides, but after the various hurdles, as people we can adapt well to our (changing) circumstances, and naturally learn to become more self-sufficient. Now I just enjoy the solitude.
I think it's a matter of being comfortable of what you choose, and the lifestyle you're leading. If you choose to live with your parents without family pressure and societal expectations, that's great 👍. And if you choose and have the financial means to move out, that's ok too. It's about knowing our own circumstances well and making an informed choice based on the options available to us. That's what adulthood is all about - making informed decisions about our own lives, and being responsible for whatever consequences result from that.
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Because housing is UNAFFORDABLE. Geez this is WORLDWIDE issue. Thanks boomer.
I moved out (UK) when I was 16, I was working and attending school and since then have lived alone whilst my younger brother moved out in his 20s. In our case we lived with our mum since our parents
were divorced and lived on separate continents.
Don't treat our parents as emergency funds they have to save up money for their retirement. But then also parents shouldn't be treating children like retirement funds since they have their own life and own family to raise one day.
Same here in Indonesia! Eastern/Asian Culture is noble in term of How we care of our parents and treat people
In India mostly until you get married you live with your parents for girls and for boys some move out others still live as a joint family 👍
Indonesia too
@@MissCoco2109 Philippines too
The Koreans who live with their parents are mostly unmarried, but in the Philippines many Filipinos who have a family of their own still live with their own parents.
Coz we're not Americans who find it normal to throw teenagers out of their houses once they turn 18.
NOT TRUE. I don’t know anyone who has done that! Usually when they turn 18 they go to college and live in a dorm. They live at home during holiday breaks and summer breaks. And it is common for them to move back in wjth parents until they have a steady income. It would be considered bad parenting to through your child out of the house with no resources or help when they turn 18 “just cause.”
Parents would be angry if I told them I want to rent a place and move out, they would take it as "oh so you don't want to live with us now". But it'd be a different story if I buy my own house and move out (instead of renting), they will be very proud.
In the Philippines it’s pretty normal to bring your parents with you even when you get married lol. Nursing homes aren’t huge here, the only ones I know aren’t commercial, they’re all charity-run. Grandparents also participate in childcare.
If you have a good relationship with your parents, I don’t think it’s an issue. When you live with your parents, the idea is you participate in enriching your household. You’re not supposed to be a burden. I think in the US that’s not exactly their idea of living with parents, that’s why they call it “failure to launch”.
Growing up in post comunist Romania, when everyone had a job, women and men, since early life we were encouraged to move out when we finished school. Most of us from small towns decided to remain in the cities where we studied or move to bigger cities in search for job. As much as I love my parents they were still young so I guess they deserved to enjoy life without me and my brother :) I left the country but my brother still lives in the same town and traditionally families are very close even if they don't live together... grandparents look after grandkids, children look after parents and support them with doctors, shopping, house work. Living in UK now I see how hard it is not having the support system a traditional family offers, especially if you have kids
I'm from Egypt, and it's pretty normal for children to stay with their families until they get married. culture, i work for an international company and the US folks usually ask and get very surprised when they know that a lot of people live with their parents here
Here in India we always live with our parents and we take care of them once they become old.
Very similar to Turkey. Most of the Turkish people only move out if they're studying or working in a different city. And Turkish parents are totally okay with it. I think family bonds are way different in Asian and Eurasian countries.
Selen, what is the retirement age for Turkey ?
And is it common that son or daughter who retired from the work lives with their parents? Like parents very old like 90 years old, and son is like 60 something and is asked to live with mother...
@@asianprince8718 Not too common cause Turkish people mostly getting married when they get a stable life and starting their own families. But when they got divorce yeah, they tend to live with their parents again, especially women. Retirement age is 60 as i know.
U can take care and watch over ur parents when they r getting older and unable, like how they took care of us when we r still unable. U reap what u sow, u sow what u reaped. Balance.
This is normal in most asian countries and there is nothing wrong with it, both parents and children will benefits in this actually.
In Italy it is totally normal to live with parents till old age because the salaries are very low and the unemployment rate is high and almost nobody can afford an house
Most of the comments are in support of living with your parents and as a fellow Asian I can agree to some extent but you should definitely move out of your parents house as soon as you can. I've lived away from my parents since I started college and started paying for my own rent, groceries, and bills the moment I got a job. Living independently challenges you to persevere. Also, living with your parents can be problematic as they will still impose their rules upon you even when you're of legal age which can be a source of conflict. My parents don't do this but some of my friend's parents still police their kids even when they're already working professionals. When you live by yourself, you make your own rules.
If anything, leaving home a little bit after high school (assuming not for school or work reasons) is the weird practice. Saving money is the main factor, but why leave your family when you don't a good reason? You want to save money, and the parents want the family to stick together.
lily,
Do you mean the best way to make a living after high school is:
Stay with parents while working to make money?
What if the job opportunity is somewhere far away from home?
In Asia it's common to live with parents, being out in the world at age of 18 itself bring many dangers. It's definitely American culture to be out in the world without your parents at a young age of 18 when you should instead be focusing on your career to make your parents proud one day. And living with parents even in your 20 s and 30 s is not a big deal as you start to take financial responsibility in your hands and can even take care of your parents. Because at old age all parents need is their child's time not money.
In india we live with our parents and our grandparents too, and i don't even think about to leave my grandparents and parents, in indian society and culture it's significance of good secrament or something like this, we believe that our parents needs us bcoz they r old and it's our responsibility to take care of them bcoz they gave us everything when we were child and now we earning and can't take care of our parents it's should be shame for yourself and i Love 😘 my family they love me .