Sista please leave this podcast. The speaker and whoever is the background acting like they’re neutral. Gaslighting her also. This annoyed me so much! Everyone doesn’t need a podcast…please guys…stop following people that are so lost. Blind leading the blind. Sad. Time and place for everything. When u let someone take you out of your character( no matter what the case may be) they win. Emotional intelligence is key….period. It ties so much into self awareness. Kinda can’t have one without the other.
To the woman on this podcast: please save yourself. Participation in this level of toxicity on a regular basis can damage you in ways that you won’t even realize for many years. Both mentally and physically. These two men are not only emotionally immature, they are also emotionally violent. Take care of yourself ❤️🩹
Saw this pod on a different channel and just came here to say that this was one of the saddest conversations I've ever watched three black people have. You cannot constantly speak over someone expressing their opinion and then accuse them of the same when they're just trying to finish their point. That's kinda verbal abuse. I don't know how y'all read the definition of emotional maturity multiple times and never once asked how this man's behavior contributed to a positive relationship. Ones rebuttal to definitions being read cannot be rejection or ignorance. You've been given the information, you do not get to reject. You must actually reflect upon your behavior. This was a perfect example of not everyone needing a microphone.
He said himself that he’s heard that he’s emotionally immature in the past more than once. So why both of them are trying to make this a HER problem is beyond me. He doesn’t see the error in his approach. He’s agressive and doesn’t allow space for healthy dialogue. It’s uncomfortable to watch
Emotional Intelligence (EI) is the ability to manage both your own emotions and understand the emotions of people around you. There are five key elements to EI: self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy, and social skills.
They all gaslighting her. Even the producers telling her he’s keeps interrupting when the other guy kept interrupting and get louder and louder. Really shows how men will just stick up for their own. Both men be listening to respond not listening to understand.
He's listening to argue, not to understand. His ego needs him to win at all times and thus won't allow him to be checked on his behavior, regardless of right or wrong.
"Out of the mouths of two or three witnesses let every word be established." If you're hearing time and time again that you display certain character traits, from different people from different walks of life, YOU are the only common denominator. Emotional maturity is being able to receive information, regulate any hurt/anger you may feel, and move forward. Your feelings should not drive you. Blood pressure all out of whack and bridges burned unnecessarily because you can't talk yourself down is no way to live. I thank my dad every day for teaching us this.
She needs to drop them and start her own podcast because these men (even the one not on camera) are both emotionally immature. She lasted 34 episodes. Hrs long too… smh
1:10:11 Emotional maturity is understanding your emotions while simultaneously communicating them in a healthy way. Being able to listen is apart of healthy communication. Screaming is not healthy which is why typically emotional maturity is equated to calmness. Your body language in this instance isn’t really unhealthy (in my opinion) because it’s not threatening. If you were in her face that would be considered unhealthy. 1:10:24 The emotion you choose isn’t the issue, expressing that emotion (anger in your example) in an overtly negative manner is what makes you emotionally immature. Being able to regulate your emotions is understanding your emotions and allowing them emotions to flow without becoming abrasive to others. Hope this helps!
Never once did she cut them off either unless she was cut off which happened most of the time. Plus they were trying to change the subject multiple times
Wow this conversation on emotional immaturity gave me the ick. These men proved her point by how triggered they got and their inability to manage that. The host is clearly angry and telling her he’s not. These men would be a nightmare to be in a relationship with due to the level of defensiveness & lack of self awareness.
This is so sad. You can offer pushback but YOUR REACTION/ACTIONS displays maturity. If I punch you because I’m upset, that is emotional immaturity. If I throw a temper tantrum because I’m sad, that’s emotional immaturity. Saying “okay” and walking away is a form of emotional maturity. Accepting or rejecting someone’s opinion respectfully is emotional maturity. How is this a difficult concept?
40:52 "But you want us to express ourselves in a specific way" Yep, in a respectful manner. And this isn't just for men, it's for anyone. Why do they assume that feelings are only anger? Showing your joy, your sadness, your conflicts is even more difficult than being aggressive when angry, because being aggressive is not allowing yourself to be vulnerable. Vulnerability is good for a good relationship, not only romantic, but in friendships and family. This requires emotional maturity. It's also because the example he gave is someone lying about themselves. It makes even less sense to get aggressive with someone who lies about their own life, it's not even about you. "I don't want to live with liars", you don't need to, cut them out of your life. Don't waste your energy on useless things, it's like she said, you are not that person's parent, they are not your responsibility, why get mad at someone who is embarrassing themselves? And also there will be a time and place for everything, Maturity allows us to identify what to do appropriately, even for our own good. Not everything will be resolved with shouting and insults, and many things are not. To express frustration and irritation, there is no need for aggression, you can argue without being aggressive. Not being aggressive does not mean letting people walk all over you, quite the opposite, You effectively communicate what the problem is and if they don't understand, move on. Insisting on someone who doesn't want to listen to you will only give you more stress for nothing. You may feel irritated, but it's how you react that speaks volumes about your maturity and how you take care of yourself. And punching a wall isn't the best way to express yourself.
And that's why we talk about emotional maturity, children can't regulate their emotions and know how to express themselves appropriately, communicate, and also better develop the capacity for empathy, they don't know there's a time and place, etc. We learn from life experience and how we are taught. It's like realizing that investing a lot of energy into trying to make a pathological liar stop isn't worth it. And from then on, don't even engage with them, preventing yourself. It's realizing that when you're at work, your colleague listens better to your criticism when you speak slowly instead of shouting, because when you shout, they becomes defensive, and it makes it take you longer to reach an agreement to work together. It's realizing that there will be times when you need to be aggressive with certain people at certain times for your own protection. But if it is in the wrong situation, the result will be the opposite. That's why it's MATURITY. Children don't have it and it's something that can be learned.
I think the issue is intent. He’s not making the conscious decision to pop off, he’s letting his emotions cloud his judgement and reasoning. But his ego won’t allow himself to admit that so now’s he’s in a position of having to argue why yelling at anyone at anytime is actually a good thing.
I would like Pattie to be on her own show smh. Emotional maturity is equated to being calm because people FEEL their emotions and know how to process them and remain calm to the point of not letting it overtake them. Then those people can express those emotions clearly and respectfully in order to maintain their relationships. People who are quick to get angry AND ACT ANGRY are not calm. It is OKAY to feel angry. It’s not okay to act overly angry in disagreements like this. Those people cannot properly express their emotions and make the other person uncomfortable or antagonized. Communication is lost at that point because emotions weren’t regulated. I would say this is so simple, but if these things ARE NOT TAUGHT people to not understand them. Please teach your kids yall 😭
Emotional Immaturity is the fallback of basic emoting comparable to how when children (under 5 yrs of age) throw tantrums, get mad, cry or exhibit anger like tendencies to cope with any kind of hardships. I think all PattyJ was saying is that Jordan shouldn’t jump so quickly to anger (you’re getting me mad) when things are said that he doesn’t agree with. Because it is considered emotionally immature to get upset or angry so fast (within 60secs) of someone else’s perspective or personal decision making. Anger is a primal emotion an we’re at a BIG enough age to know what reason and understanding is.
She never said she was she said she’s on her journey but she owned that he didn’t just accept her opinion & differ he tried to make her change her mind by saying she wasn’t right but she never said it was facts just her opinion
He couldn't define emotional intelligence that was a big red flag. Especially after several ppl had told him he lacks emotional intelligence. The lack of self-awareness is wild. There is nothing wrong with feeling your emotions. Your response to said emotions shows your emotional intelligence. Someone who crashes out all the time lacks emotional intelligence because they dont understand crashing out and gets them further away from their goals
@@BeingBlackIsGHETTOWords have meaning. One of the guys mentioned that the definition of emotional intelligence doesn’t specify how you’re supposed to 'manage' your emotions. Based on that, he argued there’s nothing wrong with the way J is managing his emotions. But that’s not true. The word 'manage' means to handle, direct, and control. Emotional intelligence is the ability to manage your own emotions while understanding the emotions of those around you. It requires being aware of how your emotions and the way you express them impact others. Managing emotions also involves regulation-controlling your emotions. Anger, for instance, is an emotion that can be hard to control. Expressing anger without restraint requires no emotional regulation; it’s like driving without brakes. People with emotional intelligence regulate their emotions, even when they’re angry, because they understand the potential impact of their anger on themselves and others. Some questions that can help J determine if he is or isn't emotionally intelligent is, How is he manging his anger if he instantly gets mad? In what ways does he manage his anger? When he gets angry what is the outcome? I'm saying all this as someone with a temper and a sharp tongue. So I know how to slice and dice a person up. But I had to improve my EQ.
Words have meaning. One of the guys mentioned that the definition of emotional intelligence doesn’t specify how you’re supposed to 'manage' your emotions. Based on that, he argued there’s nothing wrong with the way J is managing his emotions. But that’s not true. The word 'manage' means to handle, direct, and control. Emotional intelligence is the ability to manage your own emotions while understanding the emotions of those around you. It requires being aware of how your emotions and the way you express them impact others. Managing emotions also involves regulation-controlling your emotions. Anger, for instance, is an emotion that can be hard to control. Expressing anger without restraint requires no emotional regulation; it’s like driving without brakes. People with emotional intelligence regulate their emotions, even when they’re angry, because they understand the potential impact of their anger on themselves and others.
It’s ok to get passionate over discussions but you can tell when someone’s just trying to win an argument to save their pride, and unfortunately bro gave himself away @ 1:02:35 everyone’s guilty of doing this, it’s human but it’s still what it is
41:03 being able the express yourself a specific way is the same as being able to . . . (And ima hold your hand while i say this ) MANAGE YOUR EMOTIONS
Because a calm individual has all the power and control in the situation. You can be mad all you want about this fact but your reaction, your tone, and your emotions are the most powerful tool that can be used against you if you do not know yourself well enough. That is why a person who is stoic or calm, have the most power in regards to these situations because nobody can determine how they are thinking and accuse them of anything. They are the most powerful individuals because there is power in knowing yourself, there is power in knowing what triggers you or when a person is trying to purposely trigger you on purpose, there is power in having balance and there is power when you know how to not allow a person's words to get a rise out of you. So yes, be mad at the game not the player there is no getting away from it a calm person is simply more tasteful and they are received alot better from the public then a loud, guy or girl. You keep bringing up calm and stoic people and how you don't understand why they set the tone for the highest emotionally intelligent people compared to the people who aren't calm, overly opinionated and outspoken when she just told you why. Number one, nobody should have to walk on eggshells because of you that's a complete different experience compared to a calm person, I don't know why you keep saying that a calm person is a pushover when that's not even true. Everyone knows that the quietest person is the most dangerous ones and people say that for a reason. There is science that goes behind this behavior. Some of y'all just don't understand that your emotions and the way you talk to people, and your tone, your facial expressions, all of these things go hand and hand, and matter. People don't want to always feel like they're dealing with a person that behaves like a ticking bomb. You can have your boundaries, but it has to be tasteful. Meaning, you cannot expect people to also have the same boundaries as you because not everyone will think like you. How you internalize something maybe completely different from how another person internalizes it. What is wrong to you maybe right to somebody else. That is self-centered of you to think that the world revolves around you and that people should placate to how you communicate and understand things. Newflash that's not even possible because everyone is different. That's not healthy, and it's not effective communication either you can be mad about something, your emotions are valid but that doesn't mean you can go outwardly expressing to everybody as you deem fit because you yourself don't know that person triggers. Oftentimes, I hear this a lot from blk elderly people who are constantly claiming to be passionate speakers when that's far from the truth. See, there's is a difference between being a passionate speaker, and just being a overly outspoken and opinionated person. I need blk people to write this down. You need to get out of that, not everybody is going to be in the head space to receive you projecting your emotions on how you feel about something all the time, OR how someone made you feel, OR something someone's done that didn't sit well with you when it's coming off and being expressed outwardly as negative or aggressive towards someone. This is very important to learn, because a lot of blk ppl don't seem to understand this basic fact because often times as we can see in our community is that you could essentially be called or seen as disrespectful to a elderly blk person for simply asking a question in a calm manner and now this person things they have the right to call you every name in the book because of how you made them feel in that moment. That is clearly lacking in emotional intelligence, you're being called out of your name and they think they have a right to be aggressive towards you, because you triggered them. That is a problem, and I need y'all to understand that. People are least likely to listen to you if you come off at them aggressively. That is just how the human mind works. You could be saying something true, but because you came off negative and aggressive this person is less likely willing to hear you out. That is why in schools, they teach you to be calm and how to manage your emotions because they tell you that you need to know how to talk to people when you go out there in the world. Yall ever heard of the saying it's not what you say it's how you say it? This is not about gender either because i noticed that y'all kept bringing it up, you got to stop seeing it that way that's very one-dimensional. Like she said we blk women get called aggressive for expressing ourselves vocally especially outwardly like how y'all were talking up there. We get called the angry bw when we are opinionated, so a lot of us learn to adjust earlier on in life because of the constant feedback and unsolicited opinions that people make and take issue with because of the way we express ourselves when it comes to our facial expressions, the way we roll our eyes, smack our lips, get an attitude, and the way we talk is constantly made into a problem. It's not just a male thing. If anything it's just a politics game and we gotta learn to play the game.
The man with glasses is emotionally immature and he’s unpleasant to look at. Im sure that’s where true majority of the anger comes from and he’s taking it out on everyone 😂
The lights arent on because nobody is home. Ofcourse he cant grasp the concept of emotional maturity. Cause he has no emotional intelligence. I can only imagine that his instant rebuttal for a lack of emotional intelligence would be "but i know how im feeling. How am i not emotionally intelligent when i pick my emotion off a magical wheel in my head?" 😂 And i bet hes the same type of person to say "facts dont care about your feelings" or that logic/facts and emotion cant coexist. I would love to see her in a podcast with people who are actually able to have productive dialogue.
I came all the way from Instagram to say this. Pattie, you need to find another podcast to be on where you are not the target of disrespect based on whatever triggers or mommy issues these men have. There are a lot of men and women on here who really hated how this host behaves when speaking to you. He tries to speak to you like a child, expecting you to only answer yes or no questions as if your opinions are invalid on this show. I understand your relationship might be more complex than this but you deserve to be respected on camera. PERIOD. Host, you wanna have a podcast? Work on not being so biased and have some patience. IN MY OPINION you are very very emotionally immature and you showed it in this video that you cannot handle other people’s opinions of you. If you can’t handle it, you will suffer behind this podcast. You better appreciate your obvious yes man cameraman because the rest of us see what’s going on and we are not here to watch you berate Pattie. She’s smart and capable and if you can’t handle that, you should probably just keep your podcast as the d*** fest you probably want it to be. Pattie figure out your next steps cause you don’t have to take this and if you already spoke about this and the issue isn’t rectified, they’ll probably push you out and it will probably be another male dominated podcast.
Emotionally, immaturity can be proven with evidence. Here is the evidence for Jordan being it's emotionally immature are as follows: 1. He is not manging his emotions well. (He has outbrust with his anger, overtalking, listening to response instead of listening to understand, being defensive, and he is not dealing with stress well) 2. Shifting the blame on to others. ( He said other ppl have called him immature in the past, but he is blaming P as if she came up with that out of nowhere). 3. He has poor conflict resolution skills. (He is not getting any closer to understand where P is coming from. Which was the point of him asking her for her opinion). 4. He Avoided all accountability. (He hasnt accepted that his reactions to ppl making him mad are an issue that several ppl have identified).
If someone chooses to lie to your face, yea you don’t have to like it but the way you handle the situation is what makes you emotionally mature vs immature. You getting emotional at every instance when someone does something that doesn’t align with your beliefs, can be mentally exhausting. You’re gonna pop off at anybody AND everybody? We’re not meant to be liked by everyone on Earth so you’re gonna pop off at 7 billion people? That’s doing too much. Why should you give af if someone lies to your face? Those lies are not gonna kill you, affect your income, nor stop you from living your life. So reacting emotionally to it, it’s a waste of emotions especially if the other party don’t give af about you like that lol. It’s not that deep.
@@DonaleeDiary With the context clues and literal statements made in this podcast coupled your lack of comprehension or dismissive attitude to what was said in this episode, I’m going summate you’re an idiot. Have a good day.
like the ending of this podcast truly leaves a bad taste in my mouth, and if she comes back? i truly think that she might not have much respect for herself because she truly could be something by herself. don’t let these men drag you down because they’re not worth a damn. but you YOU? intelligent, funny, a captivating speaker. you have it.
he and the other man behind the camera are definitely not emotionally mature. They constantly deflected and or gaslit her points even when she tried to hear them out!
emotional maturity is related to being calm because it demonstrates a control/ sense of stability over your reactions, behaviors and feelings irrespective of external forces
Clearly she is the only one that has ever been to any type of counseling. I’ve learned long ago to not have these kind of conversations with people who have never been to counseling. They will never understand the way I think or try to understand what I’m saying even tho they know it makes complete sense! Managing your emotions no matter the emotions is a hard skill and he doesn’t have it. You can be angry and not be loud, thats called managing. HOW YOU REACT IN YOUR ANGER IS WHAT DETERMINES IF YOUR ARE EMOTIONALLY IMMATURE OR NOT! You are in control of your own feelings…NO ONE CAN TAKE YOU OUT OF YOUR CHARACTER, IT’S YOUR CHARACTER! how you react to any situation will show if you can manage your emotions. I would have walked off the set. These men are immature far more than emotions!
58:58 she explained that your not emotionally immature but if someone can change how you feel based on words then that shows emotional immaturity and plus it's a podcast why are y'all taking her opinion as facts 😂😂1:01:54 😂 y'all proving her Rt ngl I fw Jordan tho and pattie not dat yes man
@@winterbelle708 no I understand that but because he is about facts like HE said he probably took it a different way because sometimes people confused the truth and facts like they are synonymous
@47:05 Emotional maturity does not mean being calm and silent its regulation of hostility at LEVELS. If you can't process things without getting wild instantly then no you have no emotional maturity.
59:48 that is exactly what she’s talking about, a and b, YOU ALL HAVE BEEN CUTTING HER OFF THE WHOLE TIME. like from the rip when yall started talking about this? dreads started interrupting her. you are very clearly a know it all who is incapable of learning because you think you know everything, and you were talking someone’s opinion about you VERY MUCH TO HEART. enough to start disrespecting said person on your FAILING podcast. please become a better host before no one cares to watch your media solely because you and the camera man are bad at what you do.
I enjoyed the little debate, but she ate the guys down with this one. I understood exactly what she was saying because it's like someone calling me a b----. I can be, and if I wasn't, I can be called one anyway because of someone being angry/rejected. I can be called one by a friend with a lack of guidance because that's a word of endearment to them. Female, male, car, tree, or alien, we'll be called that. WHY SNAP EVERY TIME. While you're trying to demand respect from the whole world, they're seeing how easily triggered you can get. Now if it's coming from your boss, parents, or another figure very important to you as you are to them then it's more understandable because these are individuals you actually invest time and energy into. Like she said, there's levels. You have emotional control to fully understand emotional maturity.
More so the expression of the emotion is the measuring factor of maturity. Children struggle to not control their expressed emotions. Adults have to be more mindful of the long term effects of emotions and determine how valuable an emotional reaction is. Feel how you Feel because i think its unfair to tell someone how to feel BUT react based on how valuable or important the final results are. Anger to me is an important emotion solely for protection - Unless the lie results in financial, mental, or physical decline it may be a waste of time to express and dwell in anger because time spent in more positive emotions usually result in positive fruits.
Emotional intelligence/maturity is knowing what exactly triggered said emotion and delivering a response that won’t escalate the situation further. So raising your voice every single time you get upset or angry will typically make a situation worse. Being able to discern the type of person you’re dealing with and what reaction they are deserving of is also part of it. Some people argue because they want to get a rise out of you, they want to disturb your spirit they get off on that, so in most cases it’s better to be calm and not give them the satisfaction of feeling accomplished for getting you out of character. If you’re getting out of character every single time something upsets you/makes you angry it suggests you don’t know how to regulate your big emotions, which is also apart of emotional intelligence/maturity. Also being aware of how your emotional reactions might affect/trigger a big emotional response from the other side as well is a big part of it. Being able to communicate concisely and calmly is the best way to effectively communicate. Which is why it’s so important because emotional intelligence/maturity will lead to better communication skills. “Work smarter not harder”
49:08 based off this example, if you weren’t the boyfriend that was cheated on , why would you get mad ? You know she’s lying and wht would you get out of proving she in fact did smash 5 other ppl ???? Yeah. Emotionally immature
That idiot said her being upset at him being upset is a sign of emotional immaturity. lol, pointing out something & being upset about something are 2 different things.
Would it be too much to ask to let the woman speak?? like gd the men were obnoxious and 100% proved her right while thinking they know it all and are right Is2g
If a person speaks to just win. Even when it’s over the most trivial of things - you’re EI. If you’re not even trying to understand what a person is saying (don’t have to agree) without getting loud and combative - you’re EI. 27:40 agree 🤣🤣. They really think we don’t know. Everything you said, is me 🤣🤣 and totally on point.
Even the example he gave is dumb. Why would a woman (friend) lying about how many people she slept with upset HIM? It has zero to do with him. He’s weird af. His problem is that he acts from his ego. It’s not so much that she lied, it’s that he feels like no one should lie to HIM. He has an ego issue when people lie to him like they would lie to any person.
I saw the show from another channel more mature that dissected the conversation. Seeing as the person behind the camera cannot be a unbiased mediator. I’ll say it I would never watch a show with that gentleman/crashout but as soon as this lady gets her own show, I’ll be there ❤
The definition of emotional immaturity went right over their head. As soon as she said it, dude gave a real time example. And then he's like "if you lying in my face that's disrespecting me and blah blah." This obsession with respect is how so many end up in prison or dead. It has no material impact on your life until you let it. Why? Because you're emotionally immature. Sis is way too mature for these dudes. Bro got all in his feelings because he asked her opinion and he didn't like it. Then called her a dictator? Like what? lol.
It’s human to raise your voice and get passionate but I gotta agree w sis on this, you can tell the difference between that and a guy with a short fuse pretty easily if you pop off at every negative opinion or disagreement, then yea it does come off emotionally immature
@@MO-zk8qsi think being able to to identify the emotion, express why it has upset you and are articulate said emotion correctly is part of being emotionally intelligent. “i don’t like lairs because i feel like it’s someone playing in my face” did he need to speak as aggressively? maybe not but i don’t think that makes him emotionally immature.
@58:35 ready for your answer...... BECAUSE THATS HOW 4 YEAR OLDS RESPOND! and if you are ok with that analogy then the shoe fits. Anger as a response for EVERYTHING is a emotion for children.
1st time watching this podcast but I don't like how these 2 men got on to the lady though. They both immature and she was completely right in what she was saying
K but my whole thing is that emotional immaturity is the able to manage your emotions if you told someone that you were mad during a conversation your emotionally immature because you aren’t able to control your emotions it clearly shows
A lie is disrespectful if it is from a relevant factoring(factoring meaning deteriorating ur money mental health physical health) or party of your life, then it is warranted a angry expression however, if that person or the lie does not hold any value in your life, they should not receive any time or emotional reaction at all because they do not deserve your time that is why it is immature to express anger for a lie just for the sake of lying. Also lying does seem like an insult to intelligence however, how important is it for this person to think that you're intelligent? does this person mean anything to you?
Constantly interrupting and shutting down the convo so you can't be proven wrong... sounds emotionally immature to me icl
Sista please leave this podcast. The speaker and whoever is the background acting like they’re neutral. Gaslighting her also. This annoyed me so much! Everyone doesn’t need a podcast…please guys…stop following people that are so lost. Blind leading the blind. Sad. Time and place for everything. When u let someone take you out of your character( no matter what the case may be) they win. Emotional intelligence is key….period. It ties so much into self awareness. Kinda can’t have one without the other.
To the woman on this podcast: please save yourself. Participation in this level of toxicity on a regular basis can damage you in ways that you won’t even realize for many years. Both mentally and physically. These two men are not only emotionally immature, they are also emotionally violent. Take care of yourself ❤️🩹
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Agree 💯. It’s exhausting to listen to, nevermind partake.
Saw this pod on a different channel and just came here to say that this was one of the saddest conversations I've ever watched three black people have. You cannot constantly speak over someone expressing their opinion and then accuse them of the same when they're just trying to finish their point. That's kinda verbal abuse. I don't know how y'all read the definition of emotional maturity multiple times and never once asked how this man's behavior contributed to a positive relationship. Ones rebuttal to definitions being read cannot be rejection or ignorance. You've been given the information, you do not get to reject. You must actually reflect upon your behavior. This was a perfect example of not everyone needing a microphone.
He said himself that he’s heard that he’s emotionally immature in the past more than once. So why both of them are trying to make this a HER problem is beyond me. He doesn’t see the error in his approach. He’s agressive and doesn’t allow space for healthy dialogue. It’s uncomfortable to watch
Exactly. He held on to what people said to him in the past & now wants to make her pay for all their sins
She’s above this podcast. 😫
Emotional Intelligence (EI) is the ability to manage both your own emotions and understand the emotions of people around you. There are five key elements to EI: self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy, and social skills.
this and a lot of people lack self regulation and empathy (in my opinion)
This man lacks 3.5/5 💀
They all gaslighting her. Even the producers telling her he’s keeps interrupting when the other guy kept interrupting and get louder and louder. Really shows how men will just stick up for their own. Both men be listening to respond not listening to understand.
Right, bloody ants
He's listening to argue, not to understand. His ego needs him to win at all times and thus won't allow him to be checked on his behavior, regardless of right or wrong.
Dude’s attitude and lack of respect for Pattie genuinely makes me not want to watch
Right… all she had to do was be quiet to prove her point.
"Out of the mouths of two or three witnesses let every word be established." If you're hearing time and time again that you display certain character traits, from different people from different walks of life, YOU are the only common denominator. Emotional maturity is being able to receive information, regulate any hurt/anger you may feel, and move forward. Your feelings should not drive you. Blood pressure all out of whack and bridges burned unnecessarily because you can't talk yourself down is no way to live. I thank my dad every day for teaching us this.
@@diamcole beautifully put 👏🏾👏🏾
She needs to drop them and start her own podcast because these men (even the one not on camera) are both emotionally immature.
She lasted 34 episodes. Hrs long too… smh
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I came to say the same thing because at some point she has to notice most of us are here for her
1:10:11 Emotional maturity is understanding your emotions while simultaneously communicating them in a healthy way. Being able to listen is apart of healthy communication. Screaming is not healthy which is why typically emotional maturity is equated to calmness. Your body language in this instance isn’t really unhealthy (in my opinion) because it’s not threatening. If you were in her face that would be considered unhealthy.
1:10:24 The emotion you choose isn’t the issue, expressing that emotion (anger in your example) in an overtly negative manner is what makes you emotionally immature. Being able to regulate your emotions is understanding your emotions and allowing them emotions to flow without becoming abrasive to others.
Hope this helps!
Not with a guy like him 😂
“There’s no such thing as emotional maturity” mind you, y’all read the definition of it already and proceeded to prove you lack it lol
The jokes write themselves
The dude hiding behind the camera is the biggest clown of all
Biggest yes man…this was disgraceful
He proved what she said…to a T.
Bro is the definition of emotional immaturity
And she definitely stayed on topic😂 y’all jus didn’t understand what she was trying to say. Lmaoo
Never once did she cut them off either unless she was cut off which happened most of the time. Plus they were trying to change the subject multiple times
I love how she stayed on topic while they kept trying to change the subject. Boss move. She needs her own pod with some grown-ups!
Jordan is mad immature, and let me clear, IN MY OPINION. If someone can make you mad, THEY are in control. And he Definitely has a yes man.
We all like opinions because its your personal thought and can't be right or wrong
Being mad is ok but, gaslighting manipulating and being aggressive, verbal or physical is where the problem comes in
Wow this conversation on emotional immaturity gave me the ick. These men proved her point by how triggered they got and their inability to manage that. The host is clearly angry and telling her he’s not. These men would be a nightmare to be in a relationship with due to the level of defensiveness & lack of self awareness.
This is so sad. You can offer pushback but YOUR REACTION/ACTIONS displays maturity. If I punch you because I’m upset, that is emotional immaturity. If I throw a temper tantrum because I’m sad, that’s emotional immaturity. Saying “okay” and walking away is a form of emotional maturity. Accepting or rejecting someone’s opinion respectfully is emotional maturity. How is this a difficult concept?
40:52 "But you want us to express ourselves in a specific way" Yep, in a respectful manner. And this isn't just for men, it's for anyone. Why do they assume that feelings are only anger? Showing your joy, your sadness, your conflicts is even more difficult than being aggressive when angry, because being aggressive is not allowing yourself to be vulnerable. Vulnerability is good for a good relationship, not only romantic, but in friendships and family. This requires emotional maturity.
It's also because the example he gave is someone lying about themselves. It makes even less sense to get aggressive with someone who lies about their own life, it's not even about you. "I don't want to live with liars", you don't need to, cut them out of your life. Don't waste your energy on useless things, it's like she said, you are not that person's parent, they are not your responsibility, why get mad at someone who is embarrassing themselves?
And also there will be a time and place for everything, Maturity allows us to identify what to do appropriately, even for our own good. Not everything will be resolved with shouting and insults, and many things are not. To express frustration and irritation, there is no need for aggression, you can argue without being aggressive. Not being aggressive does not mean letting people walk all over you, quite the opposite, You effectively communicate what the problem is and if they don't understand, move on. Insisting on someone who doesn't want to listen to you will only give you more stress for nothing.
You may feel irritated, but it's how you react that speaks volumes about your maturity and how you take care of yourself. And punching a wall isn't the best way to express yourself.
And that's why we talk about emotional maturity, children can't regulate their emotions and know how to express themselves appropriately, communicate, and also better develop the capacity for empathy, they don't know there's a time and place, etc.
We learn from life experience and how we are taught.
It's like realizing that investing a lot of energy into trying to make a pathological liar stop isn't worth it. And from then on, don't even engage with them, preventing yourself. It's realizing that when you're at work, your colleague listens better to your criticism when you speak slowly instead of shouting, because when you shout, they becomes defensive, and it makes it take you longer to reach an agreement to work together. It's realizing that there will be times when you need to be aggressive with certain people at certain times for your own protection. But if it is in the wrong situation, the result will be the opposite. That's why it's MATURITY. Children don't have it and it's something that can be learned.
You said prove it and you did during the entire podcast
I think the issue is intent. He’s not making the conscious decision to pop off, he’s letting his emotions cloud his judgement and reasoning. But his ego won’t allow himself to admit that so now’s he’s in a position of having to argue why yelling at anyone at anytime is actually a good thing.
I would like Pattie to be on her own show smh. Emotional maturity is equated to being calm because people FEEL their emotions and know how to process them and remain calm to the point of not letting it overtake them. Then those people can express those emotions clearly and respectfully in order to maintain their relationships. People who are quick to get angry AND ACT ANGRY are not calm. It is OKAY to feel angry. It’s not okay to act overly angry in disagreements like this. Those people cannot properly express their emotions and make the other person uncomfortable or antagonized. Communication is lost at that point because emotions weren’t regulated. I would say this is so simple, but if these things ARE NOT TAUGHT people to not understand them. Please teach your kids yall 😭
He’s completely ignoring the part about how your emotions effect your relationships matters.
I’m am here to say, the guy with the glasses, Bubble Bass, is emotionally immature and that is a FENDI FACT
I SCREAMED WHEN I READ YOUR COMMENT 😂
Bubble bassssss sent meeee
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I can’t unsee this and I thank you
My secondhand embarrassment won’t allow me to finish this whole thing yeesh 😬
I’m back to comments she lowkey did articulate it pretty fucking great 😂😂😂
They are proving her point
That voice without a face is a bonified “Yes man”.
It’s impossible to learn when you think you know it all
You need to leave this podcast you are too smart for these men
Emotional Immaturity is the fallback of basic emoting comparable to how when children (under 5 yrs of age) throw tantrums, get mad, cry or exhibit anger like tendencies to cope with any kind of hardships. I think all PattyJ was saying is that Jordan shouldn’t jump so quickly to anger (you’re getting me mad) when things are said that he doesn’t agree with. Because it is considered emotionally immature to get upset or angry so fast (within 60secs) of someone else’s perspective or personal decision making. Anger is a primal emotion an we’re at a BIG enough age to know what reason and understanding is.
Both of the guys are emotionally immature....
She never said she was she said she’s on her journey but she owned that he didn’t just accept her opinion & differ he tried to make her change her mind by saying she wasn’t right but she never said it was facts just her opinion
the one behind the cam was def being a yes man 😂😂😂😂
I’m sayingggggggg. Like . . .
Stayed on his knees glazing the whole pod!! STAND UP!!!😂😂😂
Facts! The kind that will fight a woman but will never step to a man😒
Definitely
the cameraman needs to be quiet like a proper camera man
Don’t let JD have any more cameos keep him behind the camera he is a goofy power bottom and a pick me . Worse type of gay.
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Guy off camera needs to get off tip bro
can she get her own podcast ??
He couldn't define emotional intelligence that was a big red flag. Especially after several ppl had told him he lacks emotional intelligence. The lack of self-awareness is wild. There is nothing wrong with feeling your emotions. Your response to said emotions shows your emotional intelligence. Someone who crashes out all the time lacks emotional intelligence because they dont understand crashing out and gets them further away from their goals
Says who?
@@BeingBlackIsGHETTOWords have meaning. One of the guys mentioned that the definition of emotional intelligence doesn’t specify how you’re supposed to 'manage' your emotions. Based on that, he argued there’s nothing wrong with the way J is managing his emotions. But that’s not true. The word 'manage' means to handle, direct, and control.
Emotional intelligence is the ability to manage your own emotions while understanding the emotions of those around you. It requires being aware of how your emotions and the way you express them impact others. Managing emotions also involves regulation-controlling your emotions. Anger, for instance, is an emotion that can be hard to control. Expressing anger without restraint requires no emotional regulation; it’s like driving without brakes. People with emotional intelligence regulate their emotions, even when they’re angry, because they understand the potential impact of their anger on themselves and others.
Some questions that can help J determine if he is or isn't emotionally intelligent is, How is he manging his anger if he instantly gets mad? In what ways does he manage his anger? When he gets angry what is the outcome?
I'm saying all this as someone with a temper and a sharp tongue. So I know how to slice and dice a person up. But I had to improve my EQ.
Words have meaning. One of the guys mentioned that the definition of emotional intelligence doesn’t specify how you’re supposed to 'manage' your emotions. Based on that, he argued there’s nothing wrong with the way J is managing his emotions. But that’s not true. The word 'manage' means to handle, direct, and control.
Emotional intelligence is the ability to manage your own emotions while understanding the emotions of those around you. It requires being aware of how your emotions and the way you express them impact others. Managing emotions also involves regulation-controlling your emotions. Anger, for instance, is an emotion that can be hard to control. Expressing anger without restraint requires no emotional regulation; it’s like driving without brakes. People with emotional intelligence regulate their emotions, even when they’re angry, because they understand the potential impact of their anger on themselves and others.
@@BeingBlackIsGHETTOsays any emotional mature adult. You clearing lack that still
@@BeingBlackIsGHETTO Proof that you act a clown
Emotional immaturity is an ego issue
It is in no way possible to "debunk" someone's opinion....but I digress 🤷🏾♀️
It’s ok to get passionate over discussions but you can tell when someone’s just trying to win an argument to save their pride, and unfortunately bro gave himself away @ 1:02:35
everyone’s guilty of doing this, it’s human but it’s still what it is
41:03 being able the express yourself a specific way is the same as being able to . . . (And ima hold your hand while i say this ) MANAGE YOUR EMOTIONS
Because a calm individual has all the power and control in the situation. You can be mad all you want about this fact but your reaction, your tone, and your emotions are the most powerful tool that can be used against you if you do not know yourself well enough. That is why a person who is stoic or calm, have the most power in regards to these situations because nobody can determine how they are thinking and accuse them of anything. They are the most powerful individuals because there is power in knowing yourself, there is power in knowing what triggers you or when a person is trying to purposely trigger you on purpose, there is power in having balance and there is power when you know how to not allow a person's words to get a rise out of you. So yes, be mad at the game not the player there is no getting away from it a calm person is simply more tasteful and they are received alot better from the public then a loud, guy or girl. You keep bringing up calm and stoic people and how you don't understand why they set the tone for the highest emotionally intelligent people compared to the people who aren't calm, overly opinionated and outspoken when she just told you why.
Number one, nobody should have to walk on eggshells because of you that's a complete different experience compared to a calm person, I don't know why you keep saying that a calm person is a pushover when that's not even true. Everyone knows that the quietest person is the most dangerous ones and people say that for a reason. There is science that goes behind this behavior. Some of y'all just don't understand that your emotions and the way you talk to people, and your tone, your facial expressions, all of these things go hand and hand, and matter.
People don't want to always feel like they're dealing with a person that behaves like a ticking bomb.
You can have your boundaries, but it has to be tasteful. Meaning, you cannot expect people to also have the same boundaries as you because not everyone will think like you.
How you internalize something maybe completely different from how another person internalizes it.
What is wrong to you maybe right to somebody else.
That is self-centered of you to think that the world revolves around you and that people should placate to how you communicate and understand things.
Newflash that's not even possible because everyone is different.
That's not healthy, and it's not effective communication either you can be mad about something, your emotions are valid but that doesn't mean you can go outwardly expressing to everybody as you deem fit because you yourself don't know that person triggers.
Oftentimes, I hear this a lot from blk elderly people who are constantly claiming to be passionate speakers when that's far from the truth. See, there's is a difference between being a passionate speaker, and just being a overly outspoken and opinionated person.
I need blk people to write this down. You need to get out of that, not everybody is going to be in the head space to receive you projecting your emotions on how you feel about something all the time, OR how someone made you feel, OR something someone's done that didn't sit well with you when it's coming off and being expressed outwardly as negative or aggressive towards someone.
This is very important to learn, because a lot of blk ppl don't seem to understand this basic fact because often times as we can see in our community is that you could essentially be called or seen as disrespectful to a elderly blk person for simply asking a question in a calm manner and now this person things they have the right to call you every name in the book because of how you made them feel in that moment. That is clearly lacking in emotional intelligence, you're being called out of your name and they think they have a right to be aggressive towards you, because you triggered them. That is a problem, and I need y'all to understand that.
People are least likely to listen to you if you come off at them aggressively. That is just how the human mind works. You could be saying something true, but because you came off negative and aggressive this person is less likely willing to hear you out. That is why in schools, they teach you to be calm and how to manage your emotions because they tell you that you need to know how to talk to people when you go out there in the world.
Yall ever heard of the saying it's not what you say it's how you say it? This is not about gender either because i noticed that y'all kept bringing it up, you got to stop seeing it that way that's very one-dimensional. Like she said we blk women get called aggressive for expressing ourselves vocally especially outwardly like how y'all were talking up there. We get called the angry bw when we are opinionated, so a lot of us learn to adjust earlier on in life because of the constant feedback and unsolicited opinions that people make and take issue with because of the way we express ourselves when it comes to our facial expressions, the way we roll our eyes, smack our lips, get an attitude, and the way we talk is constantly made into a problem. It's not just a male thing. If anything it's just a politics game and we gotta learn to play the game.
I came from another podcast to tell that beautiful woman if she leaves this podcast to start her own, I will support and subscribe.
1:06:22 😂 did he say emotional maturity is a tiktok buzzword??
The man with glasses is emotionally immature and he’s unpleasant to look at. Im sure that’s where true majority of the anger comes from and he’s taking it out on everyone 😂
The way the guy behind the camera and Bubble Bass are trying to social engineer the matter of the ACTUAL facts, is nasty work.
The lights arent on because nobody is home. Ofcourse he cant grasp the concept of emotional maturity. Cause he has no emotional intelligence. I can only imagine that his instant rebuttal for a lack of emotional intelligence would be "but i know how im feeling. How am i not emotionally intelligent when i pick my emotion off a magical wheel in my head?" 😂 And i bet hes the same type of person to say "facts dont care about your feelings" or that logic/facts and emotion cant coexist. I would love to see her in a podcast with people who are actually able to have productive dialogue.
yall need to watch the yes man movie and the anger management movie
I came all the way from Instagram to say this. Pattie, you need to find another podcast to be on where you are not the target of disrespect based on whatever triggers or mommy issues these men have.
There are a lot of men and women on here who really hated how this host behaves when speaking to you. He tries to speak to you like a child, expecting you to only answer yes or no questions as if your opinions are invalid on this show.
I understand your relationship might be more complex than this but you deserve to be respected on camera. PERIOD.
Host, you wanna have a podcast? Work on not being so biased and have some patience. IN MY OPINION you are very very emotionally immature and you showed it in this video that you cannot handle other people’s opinions of you. If you can’t handle it, you will suffer behind this podcast.
You better appreciate your obvious yes man cameraman because the rest of us see what’s going on and we are not here to watch you berate Pattie. She’s smart and capable and if you can’t handle that, you should probably just keep your podcast as the d*** fest you probably want it to be.
Pattie figure out your next steps cause you don’t have to take this and if you already spoke about this and the issue isn’t rectified, they’ll probably push you out and it will probably be another male dominated podcast.
You didn’t debunk anything. You reinforced her opinion…
Emotionally, immaturity can be proven with evidence. Here is the evidence for Jordan being it's emotionally immature are as follows: 1. He is not manging his emotions well. (He has outbrust with his anger, overtalking, listening to response instead of listening to understand, being defensive, and he is not dealing with stress well) 2. Shifting the blame on to others. ( He said other ppl have called him immature in the past, but he is blaming P as if she came up with that out of nowhere). 3. He has poor conflict resolution skills. (He is not getting any closer to understand where P is coming from. Which was the point of him asking her for her opinion). 4. He Avoided all accountability. (He hasnt accepted that his reactions to ppl making him mad are an issue that several ppl have identified).
Argh. What an exhausting, unintelligent dialogue. The girl should've walked out like Viola Davis.
If someone chooses to lie to your face, yea you don’t have to like it but the way you handle the situation is what makes you emotionally mature vs immature. You getting emotional at every instance when someone does something that doesn’t align with your beliefs, can be mentally exhausting. You’re gonna pop off at anybody AND everybody? We’re not meant to be liked by everyone on Earth so you’re gonna pop off at 7 billion people? That’s doing too much. Why should you give af if someone lies to your face? Those lies are not gonna kill you, affect your income, nor stop you from living your life. So reacting emotionally to it, it’s a waste of emotions especially if the other party don’t give af about you like that lol. It’s not that deep.
1:05:34 If yall argue everyday why are yall friends?????
Some people just have certain friends they agregue with they have good or bad days
@ What part of “everyday” did you not comprehend?
@ I’m saying some are just like that we don’t know them outside of this it could be petty arguments we don’t know the severity of said arguments
@@DonaleeDiary With the context clues and literal statements made in this podcast coupled your lack of comprehension or dismissive attitude to what was said in this episode, I’m going summate you’re an idiot. Have a good day.
like the ending of this podcast truly leaves a bad taste in my mouth, and if she comes back? i truly think that she might not have much respect for herself because she truly could be something by herself. don’t let these men drag you down because they’re not worth a damn. but you YOU? intelligent, funny, a captivating speaker. you have it.
he and the other man behind the camera are definitely not emotionally mature. They constantly deflected and or gaslit her points even when she tried to hear them out!
emotional maturity is related to being calm because it demonstrates a control/ sense of stability over your reactions, behaviors and feelings irrespective of external forces
He arguing with her because he feels like it’s a fact
Clearly she is the only one that has ever been to any type of counseling. I’ve learned long ago to not have these kind of conversations with people who have never been to counseling. They will never understand the way I think or try to understand what I’m saying even tho they know it makes complete sense! Managing your emotions no matter the emotions is a hard skill and he doesn’t have it. You can be angry and not be loud, thats called managing. HOW YOU REACT IN YOUR ANGER IS WHAT DETERMINES IF YOUR ARE EMOTIONALLY IMMATURE OR NOT! You are in control of your own feelings…NO ONE CAN TAKE YOU OUT OF YOUR CHARACTER, IT’S YOUR CHARACTER! how you react to any situation will show if you can manage your emotions.
I would have walked off the set. These men are immature far more than emotions!
Because being angry and loud have NEVER solved an adult problem. Ever
58:58 she explained that your not emotionally immature but if someone can change how you feel based on words then that shows emotional immaturity and plus it's a podcast why are y'all taking her opinion as facts 😂😂1:01:54 😂 y'all proving her Rt ngl I fw Jordan tho and pattie not dat yes man
The thing is she said you want to hear the lie or the truth and that is why he felt pattie was saying it as a fact, not her opinion
@@Ldraco17can I tell you something mind blowing that I had to look up myself. Truth and Facts are two different meanings.
@@Ldraco17 see now you’re playing semantics, because truth isn’t the opposite of lie, honesty is the opposite of a lie.
@@winterbelle708 no I understand that but because he is about facts like HE said he probably took it a different way because sometimes people confused the truth and facts like they are synonymous
1:10:31 we are not going to waist our time because she explained to you and you didn’t want to listen
Emotional intelligence and emotional maturity come hand in hand.
it’s possible to be angry without expressing it. you can feel angry without yelling, being aggressive
Jordan are you in therapy? Have you ever been?
@47:05 Emotional maturity does not mean being calm and silent its regulation of hostility at LEVELS. If you can't process things without getting wild instantly then no you have no emotional maturity.
59:48 that is exactly what she’s talking about, a and b, YOU ALL HAVE BEEN CUTTING HER OFF THE WHOLE TIME. like from the rip when yall started talking about this? dreads started interrupting her. you are very clearly a know it all who is incapable of learning because you think you know everything, and you were talking someone’s opinion about you VERY MUCH TO HEART. enough to start disrespecting said person on your FAILING podcast. please become a better host before no one cares to watch your media solely because you and the camera man are bad at what you do.
I enjoyed the little debate, but she ate the guys down with this one. I understood exactly what she was saying because it's like someone calling me a b----.
I can be, and if I wasn't, I can be called one anyway because of someone being angry/rejected. I can be called one by a friend with a lack of guidance because that's a word of endearment to them. Female, male, car, tree, or alien, we'll be called that. WHY SNAP EVERY TIME. While you're trying to demand respect from the whole world, they're seeing how easily triggered you can get.
Now if it's coming from your boss, parents, or another figure very important to you as you are to them then it's more understandable because these are individuals you actually invest time and energy into.
Like she said, there's levels. You have emotional control to fully understand emotional maturity.
I don't know how they edited that & watched it back, and not realized how immature they wetr being
More so the expression of the emotion is the measuring factor of maturity. Children struggle to not control their expressed emotions. Adults have to be more mindful of the long term effects of emotions and determine how valuable an emotional reaction is. Feel how you Feel because i think its unfair to tell someone how to feel BUT react based on how valuable or important the final results are. Anger to me is an important emotion solely for protection - Unless the lie results in financial, mental, or physical decline it may be a waste of time to express and dwell in anger because time spent in more positive emotions usually result in positive fruits.
Emotional intelligence/maturity is knowing what exactly triggered said emotion and delivering a response that won’t escalate the situation further. So raising your voice every single time you get upset or angry will typically make a situation worse. Being able to discern the type of person you’re dealing with and what reaction they are deserving of is also part of it. Some people argue because they want to get a rise out of you, they want to disturb your spirit they get off on that, so in most cases it’s better to be calm and not give them the satisfaction of feeling accomplished for getting you out of character. If you’re getting out of character every single time something upsets you/makes you angry it suggests you don’t know how to regulate your big emotions, which is also apart of emotional intelligence/maturity. Also being aware of how your emotional reactions might affect/trigger a big emotional response from the other side as well is a big part of it. Being able to communicate concisely and calmly is the best way to effectively communicate. Which is why it’s so important because emotional intelligence/maturity will lead to better communication skills. “Work smarter not harder”
Arguing isn’t a conversation btw, arguing is arguing, a conversation is a conversation. Though you should do the research yourself sir.
49:08 based off this example, if you weren’t the boyfriend that was cheated on , why would you get mad ? You know she’s lying and wht would you get out of proving she in fact did smash 5 other ppl ???? Yeah. Emotionally immature
That idiot said her being upset at him being upset is a sign of emotional immaturity. lol, pointing out something & being upset about something are 2 different things.
He gives Ick vibes🥴
they need to look up the definition of "opinion"😭
how can an opinion be logically proven ?
also him saying other people, girls, have called him emotionally immature. everyone cannot be lying
Emotional maturity and self control are two different things… and I think that’s where the disconnect is within this conversation
Would it be too much to ask to let the woman speak?? like gd the men were obnoxious and 100% proved her right while thinking they know it all and are right Is2g
Bro with the glasses is crashing out so hard over EI it almost feels like a skit 😭
If a person speaks to just win. Even when it’s over the most trivial of things - you’re EI. If you’re not even trying to understand what a person is saying (don’t have to agree) without getting loud and combative - you’re EI. 27:40 agree 🤣🤣. They really think we don’t know. Everything you said, is me 🤣🤣 and totally on point.
52:04 Because he couldn’t control BEHAVING angrily. Feeling angry & *displaying* it are 2 different things
Even the example he gave is dumb. Why would a woman (friend) lying about how many people she slept with upset HIM? It has zero to do with him. He’s weird af.
His problem is that he acts from his ego. It’s not so much that she lied, it’s that he feels like no one should lie to HIM. He has an ego issue when people lie to him like they would lie to any person.
I saw the show from another channel more mature that dissected the conversation. Seeing as the person behind the camera cannot be a unbiased mediator. I’ll say it I would never watch a show with that gentleman/crashout but as soon as this lady gets her own show, I’ll be there ❤
The definition of emotional immaturity went right over their head. As soon as she said it, dude gave a real time example. And then he's like "if you lying in my face that's disrespecting me and blah blah." This obsession with respect is how so many end up in prison or dead. It has no material impact on your life until you let it. Why? Because you're emotionally immature. Sis is way too mature for these dudes. Bro got all in his feelings because he asked her opinion and he didn't like it. Then called her a dictator? Like what? lol.
Being emotionally intelligent isn’t about suppressing your emotions if someone does something that bothers you or just letting them just do it.
I def would love to have this conversation with you‼️
@@BeingBlackIsGHETTO definitely let me know!
Hit my ig‼️
It’s human to raise your voice and get passionate but I gotta agree w sis on this, you can tell the difference between that and a guy with a short fuse pretty easily
if you pop off at every negative opinion or disagreement, then yea it does come off emotionally immature
@@MO-zk8qsi think being able to to identify the emotion, express why it has upset you and are articulate said emotion correctly is part of being emotionally intelligent. “i don’t like lairs because i feel like it’s someone playing in my face” did he need to speak as aggressively? maybe not but i don’t think that makes him emotionally immature.
How do you debunk a opinion
@58:35 ready for your answer...... BECAUSE THATS HOW 4 YEAR OLDS RESPOND! and if you are ok with that analogy then the shoe fits. Anger as a response for EVERYTHING is a emotion for children.
1st time watching this podcast but I don't like how these 2 men got on to the lady though. They both immature and she was completely right in what she was saying
is that man artistic 😂
The hilarious thing is she proved her point when he began to act like a toddler. 😭
You can argue you point and not yell out of frustration. Example Trevor Noah, Joe Rogan, that dad from Bluey.
The dad from bluey is peak ❤
K but my whole thing is that emotional immaturity is the able to manage your emotions if you told someone that you were mad during a conversation your emotionally immature because you aren’t able to control your emotions it clearly shows
A lie is disrespectful if it is from a relevant factoring(factoring meaning deteriorating ur money mental health physical health) or party of your life, then it is warranted a angry expression however, if that person or the lie does not hold any value in your life, they should not receive any time or emotional reaction at all because they do not deserve your time that is why it is immature to express anger for a lie just for the sake of lying. Also lying does seem like an insult to intelligence however, how important is it for this person to think that you're intelligent? does this person mean anything to you?
First time seeing this and I'm not on anyone's side. There's a yes man and intentionally missing the point.
these men are committed to misunderstanding her
47:56 he hasn’t matured to a level to realize that what someone else does shouldn’t cause his emotions to have him *behaving* angrily.