Oh my gosh!!!! I can't believe you answered my question!!! Thank you, thank you, thank you!!! I hope it's helped some others in a similar situation. It definitely has me!!! You don't know what it means to me 💗💗💗 Appreciate you, girl!!!
Donna Griffie thanks for asking this question Donna, I have been searching for the answer to this question for ages and most people only address the underweight side of an eating disorder
That's been my struggle too. It's like it's easier to give yourself permission to try to let go of restriction when some one straight up tells you it's ok. I've been restricting for 30 years! I was 9 or 10 when my mom started putting me on diets!
Thank you for asking this Donna. I've been restricting (on and off) for maybe 40ish years, and while I'm learning to eat whatever I want, I'm working on not labeling my choices. That's hard with all of those years of diet brainwashing. :)
"Restriction is a torture" - thank you for that! It struck me so hard, it's so true, I'm even crying over this. I thought that I'm doing well in my recovery. But lately I've felt that it's getting harder to keep going in much much larger body. I've felt that I still need support. Thanks for everything you do and this video in particular!
I was obese my whole life, and only weeks after I started counting calories for the first time at age 25 (I had 'dieted' before, but never counting calories) and eating the 'safe minimum' of 1200, I swiftly developed an eating disorder, eventually diagnosed as anorexia (after massive weight loss, it was obviously caught very late because people were just pleased that the fat girl was losing so much weight) as well as huge obsessive compulsive exercise issues So my obesity wasnt due to famine, at least, because when my body starves then I do the whole restrict more, migrate, anorexia 'thing'. ive stopped trying to figure it out and just eat stuff when Im hungry etc. strangely, in recovery, i didnt get to my pre-ED weight. my recovered weight seems to be much lower, it just stabalised much much lower. bodies are weird.
My story is very very similar, I use to be obese then I lost lots of weight and developed anorexia ,i then recovered from and ended up at a higher body weight than my lowest but no where near as high as my pre- ED weight. Bodies are indeed very weird.
This! This! This. This is so incredibly important for people to know. For ALL people to know. Not just for their own recovery, but ALSO - and also very importantly - so that the discrimination of people in larger bodies can stop! We can't prescribe to overweight people what we diagnose as an eating disorder in a thin person. This makes me MENTAL!
Thank you, thank you, thank you for this video! I am an obese binge eater, and it's so hard finding messages geared toward those of us in large bodies. I appreciate this, and while I work on feeding myself when I'm hungry, I'm going to try to let go of the notion of ever losing weight. It's so hard because I also have arthritis in both of my knees, and I feel that if I was lighter they wouldn't hurt as much, but while I'm learning how to not physically restrict (and I eat ALL kinds of food now), I haven't fully given up the hope of being at least somewhat lighter some day and placing moral value on the foods I eat. I'm thrilled there's a vid geared toward me.
I think the best thing while unlim eatinh is to remind yourself that you can have anythinh you want and you shouldnt feel guilty. A restrictige mindset is whatll hold you back
This is a very important question and topic. Restriction takes a tole on you mentally and physically. It might not happen immediately, it might not happen a few months out, but it will happen. I think restriction looks different on everyone. I can only tell you based on what happened to me. Deep down, it did not feel good. Something just felt ridiculously off all the time. Down to how I thought critically, slept, worked and interacted with people. I gained the most when I was dieting. Tabbitha is right. I'm not sure what restsriction looks like for you but it should be discussed more often than not. Trust in your body is super important. We get this idea to resrict and count calories. It is not normal and not a lifestyle. Lifestyle is eating and not over-thinking everything. Another con is the burn out. I don't know about you, but I was burnt out counting every single calorie and reading all the ingredients in foods. Aren't you?
Gastric bypass patient here aswell. 6 years post op now. Went fine for 5 years but since January everything i eat is not enough my body keeps craving more more more untill i'm super stuffed. Gained back 15kg since january with 6-8 hours cardio a week.
Hoorne, I'm the Donna. It's so so hard!!!! I told my therapist yesterday it's like the forced restriction set in motion the physical aspects of my ED and with the genetic predisposition for it etc it was like the perfect storm and just snowballed.
This makes me nervous. I haven't even been restricting for that long and even though a part of me knows I need to put on weight, a bigger part of me doesn't want to because I feel like I'll just balloon up my metabolism is that slow.
Accepting something doesn't mean you have to like it though. It just means you're not going to fight it anymore. Have you heard of "radical acceptance"? That's how I'm trying to work through the weight gain.
Hi Gina Marie I agree entirely. I don’t fight my body anymore but sometimes the internal struggle in accepting my new recovered body is unbearable. I thought it would go away with weight gain (as many of the anorexic brain things have) but it turns out im back where I started. Unable to accept the authentic “me”. I cognitively understand but the neural wiring and childhood memories are deeply imbedded leaving me feeling hopeless. I am still trying to trust in the process and continue to push through...choosing to continue to recover even though I don’t appear ill any longer. It is definitely a choice.
If you take antidepressants or meds that make you hungry, you must not change anything. Eat as much as you crave and go to your unsuppressed body weight. Tabitha said so and I had the same problem. I am cured now all the same !
What about me? I'm really worried about eating as much as I want now because when I started I was thin but now I'm obese and I'm still very hungry. Should I cut back or stick with it?
Oh my gosh!!!! I can't believe you answered my question!!! Thank you, thank you, thank you!!! I hope it's helped some others in a similar situation. It definitely has me!!! You don't know what it means to me 💗💗💗 Appreciate you, girl!!!
Donna Griffie thanks for asking this question Donna, I have been searching for the answer to this question for ages and most people only address the underweight side of an eating disorder
That's been my struggle too. It's like it's easier to give yourself permission to try to let go of restriction when some one straight up tells you it's ok. I've been restricting for 30 years! I was 9 or 10 when my mom started putting me on diets!
Thank you for asking this Donna. I've been restricting (on and off) for maybe 40ish years, and while I'm learning to eat whatever I want, I'm working on not labeling my choices. That's hard with all of those years of diet brainwashing. :)
Such an important question Donna and one so many are too afraid to ask
Tabitha Farrar I find myself coming back to this on days I struggle. Thanks for that gift of this reminder. 💗
"Restriction is a torture" - thank you for that! It struck me so hard, it's so true, I'm even crying over this. I thought that I'm doing well in my recovery. But lately I've felt that it's getting harder to keep going in much much larger body. I've felt that I still need support. Thanks for everything you do and this video in particular!
I was obese my whole life, and only weeks after I started counting calories for the first time at age 25 (I had 'dieted' before, but never counting calories) and eating the 'safe minimum' of 1200, I swiftly developed an eating disorder, eventually diagnosed as anorexia (after massive weight loss, it was obviously caught very late because people were just pleased that the fat girl was losing so much weight) as well as huge obsessive compulsive exercise issues
So my obesity wasnt due to famine, at least, because when my body starves then I do the whole restrict more, migrate, anorexia 'thing'. ive stopped trying to figure it out and just eat stuff when Im hungry etc. strangely, in recovery, i didnt get to my pre-ED weight. my recovered weight seems to be much lower, it just stabalised much much lower. bodies are weird.
My story is very very similar, I use to be obese then I lost lots of weight and developed anorexia ,i then recovered from and ended up at a higher body weight than my lowest but no where near as high as my pre- ED weight. Bodies are indeed very weird.
I think its the mental restriction that causes binge eating etc. and the physical restriction that causes the activation of the anorexia
This! This! This. This is so incredibly important for people to know. For ALL people to know. Not just for their own recovery, but ALSO - and also very importantly - so that the discrimination of people in larger bodies can stop! We can't prescribe to overweight people what we diagnose as an eating disorder in a thin person. This makes me MENTAL!
Thank you, thank you, thank you for this video! I am an obese binge eater, and it's so hard finding messages geared toward those of us in large bodies. I appreciate this, and while I work on feeding myself when I'm hungry, I'm going to try to let go of the notion of ever losing weight. It's so hard because I also have arthritis in both of my knees, and I feel that if I was lighter they wouldn't hurt as much, but while I'm learning how to not physically restrict (and I eat ALL kinds of food now), I haven't fully given up the hope of being at least somewhat lighter some day and placing moral value on the foods I eat. I'm thrilled there's a vid geared toward me.
I'm in peace with my body for the first time in my life at 28. Donna, thanks for asking that question.
I think the best thing while unlim eatinh is to remind yourself that you can have anythinh you want and you shouldnt feel guilty. A restrictige mindset is whatll hold you back
Thanks for addressing this question, I have been wondering this myself!
This is a very important question and topic. Restriction takes a tole on you mentally and physically. It might not happen immediately, it might not happen a few months out, but it will happen. I think restriction looks different on everyone. I can only tell you based on what happened to me. Deep down, it did not feel good. Something just felt ridiculously off all the time. Down to how I thought critically, slept, worked and interacted with people. I gained the most when I was dieting. Tabbitha is right. I'm not sure what restsriction looks like for you but it should be discussed more often than not. Trust in your body is super important. We get this idea to resrict and count calories. It is not normal and not a lifestyle. Lifestyle is eating and not over-thinking everything. Another con is the burn out. I don't know about you, but I was burnt out counting every single calorie and reading all the ingredients in foods. Aren't you?
Tabitha, great knowledge as always. Thank you for what you're doing so much. :))
I hate the diet industry!!!!!!!! Just messes people up in so many ways and people make £ from this! 😢
They just want us to look like fucking sculpture, but we are humans for god sake
Gastric bypass patient here aswell. 6 years post op now. Went fine for 5 years but since January everything i eat is not enough my body keeps craving more more more untill i'm super stuffed. Gained back 15kg since january with 6-8 hours cardio a week.
Hoorne, I'm the Donna. It's so so hard!!!! I told my therapist yesterday it's like the forced restriction set in motion the physical aspects of my ED and with the genetic predisposition for it etc it was like the perfect storm and just snowballed.
This makes me nervous. I haven't even been restricting for that long and even though a part of me knows I need to put on weight, a bigger part of me doesn't want to because I feel like I'll just balloon up my metabolism is that slow.
This is a beautiful video, tabitha x
Trusting your body and accepting your body are two different things.
Yes and I'm working on both now. It's hard!
Accepting something doesn't mean you have to like it though. It just means you're not going to fight it anymore. Have you heard of "radical acceptance"? That's how I'm trying to work through the weight gain.
Hi Gina Marie
I agree entirely. I don’t fight my body anymore but sometimes the internal struggle in accepting my new recovered body is unbearable. I thought it would go away with weight gain (as many of the anorexic brain things have) but it turns out im back where I started. Unable to accept the authentic “me”. I cognitively understand but the neural wiring and childhood memories are deeply imbedded leaving me feeling hopeless. I am still trying to trust in the process and continue to push through...choosing to continue to recover even though I don’t appear ill any longer. It is definitely a choice.
If set point theory is true, why do some people become obese?
Tabitha I’m so desperate for my question to be answered, but I don’t know how to send them to you!!
How can we explain obese people reaching the 600lbs, then ???
But does this apply if you take anti depressants that significantly increase your appetite?
Can you ask to try a different medication so that you're not having to deal with that while also trying to recover from an ED?
If you take antidepressants or meds that make you hungry, you must not change anything. Eat as much as you crave and go to your unsuppressed body weight. Tabitha said so and I had the same problem.
I am cured now all the same !
Thank you so much 💜
What about me? I'm really worried about eating as much as I want now because when I started I was thin but now I'm obese and I'm still very hungry. Should I cut back or stick with it?
This is my exact situation right now. How are you doing now?
How are y‘all doing? Happened to me aswell
Amazing💗👍