It's funny/ironic. I'm 26 & always been mannerable for the most part. When I was 24 the girl I dated at the time taught me chivalry. I already opened doors and such. But walking on the traffic side of roads, opening car doors, pulling out seats etc. Yeah she trained me & the thing is I was open to it! I actually wanted to treat her that way. It got to the point where we'd go some where and I gotta tell her not to touch the door, but lemme say for the most part I haven't found women who care or even WANT to be treated like a lady to that extent. Listen there are men that seriously WANT to present this kinda behavior to women but it's soooo many women that don't even care for a 'nice' man. So chilvary isn't even a topic for most women. Just as it's rare to find young men who are chivalrous it's also hard to find women who'd even accept or want that kind of behavior.
I think there are two key issues. 1. It’s all about compatibility. Be yourself. Then Others will know who you are and you get together or you don’t. 2. It’s all about numbers. You have to keep meeting many people to have the opportunity be attracted to one of them. 👍😀
The reason most men are not chivalrous is because women don't WANT chivalrous men. They might SAY they want it, but they really don't. They show with their actions or lackof that they don't want chivalrous men. What girls DO is much more important than what they say.
She's right. Steve where's the book for men where you teach them how to respect and treat a lady correctly. I'm tired of society always telling us women what we have to do to get a great guy but not the opposite.
@@KenyaVictoria The only difference is that a book would reach more people. I'm sure there are books out there for that but Steve has his reasons for aiming his books at women. Probably because there's a bigger market, for one thing. I doubt men buy books on how to be a gentleman lol.
Kathy Bates that’s not the point. Give me just ONE best selling book that’s teaching men. Give me just ONE man who is continuously teaching men more than women how to treat women correctly. It’s a societal problem
Men of God are here. Rather than chasing a woman and her image for us, we are walking with Christ seeking his perfect image of us. Ladies, God comes first, and men are waking up in these times and taking back their minds from doing all they can to impress women, and now their hearts are set to being the men Christ has us to be. We have a kingdom to inherit, and you can either join for the walk into the light or you can corner yourself back into the dark. No matter how much women in these times speak ill against men, Men of God are here & these dry bones shall live.
Narumon _BB he’s not a woman lol he can’t read their minds. A woman needs to write the book. Unfortunately woman are all different. Whereas men are all pretty similar with what we want from a girl
That is some bs if you tell a man what he should be doing he be like hell no I'm going to do what I want. It is just best to walk away. Just leave the situation.
Of course not it's the same reason Steve Nakamoto ended up writing Men Are Like Fish. He originallly intnted to write a dating book for men. His publisher wanted him to change the audience as women are 80% of the self help market. He expedites this on his Amazon p a ge years ago
1:10 This triggered me. I'm 25 years old, haven't had sex in 7 years, and when I was in a relationship, towards the end of college, I was understanding of my girlfriend on not having sex (she was afraid of getting pregnant; didn't have intercourse in the 9 months I was with her). I may be speaking for myself, but a real man, regardless of age, would wait any duration of time of no sex for their girlfriend, though I will concede that it may be less common the younger the man is. Besides, my past relationships has taught me that intimate moments, physical or otherwise, are way better than sex.
Its easier when you havent had sex in a long time tho. Atleast for me in my experience. Its like being a virgin again where you can let forgive not having sex. Because the sexual feeling is like getting high on a drug and if youve had alot of it before and your dealer runs out you go to another one some people can hold off but most cant
@@jacoryharrington7101 Oh, no it isn't. The sexual frustration is unbearable at this point, and though, when was in that relationship, we had our physical intimate moments, I would say it was akin to getting close, but not as satisfying as going all the way. But, like I said, the intimacy, namely the emotional moments and the little moments like cuddling made up for that in spades, which is what made it worth dealing with my sexual frustration.
What you said proved my point which is because you were used to having less sex you can be able to have other moments and not focus on sex. And your mind and patience alowed you to tolerate less intercourse than some one who per se has sex regularly. It like the less crack you smoke the least likely ypu are to become addicted
@@jacoryharrington7101 No, cause even when I was having sex regularly, I preferred the intimate moments. It's a person-by-person basis, you might be more inclined to the physical aspect, I happen to prefer the emotional and little things.
What I think he’s saying is that without sex, it’s easier to see people with whom you have a deep emotional and spiritual connection with. THAT DOESNT REPLACE SEX. But it makes it worth waiting.
@@argoneonoble Did that with plenty of girls. They either 1) Put me in the friend zone or 2) stopped talking to me and talked to someone else because they thought I was too scared to make a move. This is how dating is in 2019. There shouldn't a set of "rules" to follow. Everything should be natural. If both you and your date are vibing and feeling each other then no need to wait on anything
I was waiting- and everyone told me it was unrealistic. Guess what! My husband of now 8 years proposed in less than 90 days. We are happily married and he also happens to be very successful and had been divorced within 2 years in the past and also been w a woman for 18 years he never married. Foundation is key! Start off pure and allowing for decisions about the future to come into play before letting sex get in the way. I'm a testimony!
Im 21 and still a virgin and my girlfriend is 18 and still a virgin too. She wants to wait for marriage and I respect that. We have been together for almost 2 years. If a man can't have a relationship without sex then he doesn't have what it takes to be committed therefore he is no husband material. Same rule goes for woman. Peace and love everyone❤
@Aa 69 Steve Harvey professes to be Christian on one hand and on the other seems advise dating with premarital sex. .. True Christians tell the truth about God and the Bible.. 1 Corinthians 6:9,10 Or do you not know that unrighteous people will not inherit God’s Kingdom? Do not be misled. Those who are sexually immoral, idolaters, adulterers, men who submit to homosexual acts, men who practice homosexuality, 10 thieves, greedy people, drunkards, revilers, and extortioners will not inherit God’s Kingdom Hallelujah-Praise Jah you people...
@@GolfnMoreclips I don’t buy Js anymore, after Michael refused to shake my hand at Barber Motorsports back in 2005… Thanks for nothing and have a good day Mr. Dirtybird
Please do not follow this advice It does not stand on the word of God (if you’re a believer, but if not do you),go seek out the face of God for insight on your singleness (gain knowledge from God,so you won’t be ignorant) put your focus back on God and not focus on trying to have relationship with man (and God will add these things on to you when you seek Him 1st and His righteous) I have bought Steve book and read the 1st chapter; and it was contrary to the word of God. I’m not downplaying Steve (that’s not my intentions) but I pray God deal with him to enhance the kingdom of God (in grace and I’m Truth) the Bible has everything you need to live life! I pray for my single folks to live life to the fullest: go write a book, open a business, go back to school, travel the world and just do it in God divine purpose for your life❣️ Be blessed!
Amen fellow sister in Christ!! I will not be having sexual relations with any man until I am married!! Since Jesus saved me two years ago, a lot of my morals and beliefs have changed. I love reading the Bible and seeking God for answers about everything!! I love Him!! Thank you for sharing your thoughts and God bless you sis!! 😊🤍
Chivalry is not dead. Most of the guys I've dated opened my doors, took me out to nice dinners, & nice dates, walked me to the door, kissed me & drove home.
Simple solution. Find a man who is ready to settle down. Not just says hes ready to settle down, but actually is ready to settle down. The amount of time you wait to have sex is irrelevant in the grand scheme of things. Cause if a guy wants to be with you, whether it's day 1 or day 300 you have sex, he will want to be with you. Stop concentrating so much on the number if days and concentrate on the character of the man in front of you. The time you spend checking off days should be the time you spend checking off his character.
We check both. If we sleep with everybody quick, at the end of the day we would have so much men who saw us naked. To reduce the numbers we need to filter with this rule.
@@cassandracastillo2736 say anything, yes. Cause talking costs nothing. Do anything, no. Actions cost and they have repercussions. People don't vet people properly amd then wonder why it fails. Cause if you can't vet properly, then you need to engage others you trust to help you do it.
Your only mistake was getting with a man who does not have the same values you hold dear. You should not be the one to bring up waiting for marriage. He should have been doing so way before meeting you, not for you, but for the glory of God. Ladies, if a man is holding on for you, he will fail. If he is holding up for himself and his personal relationship with God, he will stick to it and won't even get with you if you want to have sex unwed
you are right. the more religious or spiritual a man is the more likely he will wait. the problem is that these men are not exciting to women. they are boring and women do not find them attractive.
@@whygiveup11 Why so worked up? Do what fits you and I'll continue doing what has been great to me till now. You meet a man and talk. His values align with yours, get together. His values do not align with yours, don't let him do it "for you", it's not sincere. He's doing it for you, not out of personal conviction. At some point he will go back to who he really is...
I couldn’t agree with him more. It’s like walking in for an interview you say all the right things and get the job. But if you don’t meet their requirements for the job in your 3 month probation you may not make the cut and will be fired. And they’ll continue to do this process until they find someone they believe is worth their time and benefits.
well, what's between my legs is important and means allot to me...if he can't wait, then oh well...bye.. I've told my boyfriend he has to wait and he's ok with it....
zero disagree . .. I know guys who wait 4 months or years and never give up on ., just depends the person..just be me .. never follow anyone advice.. or rules.. lol
Captain Everyman they teacherable .. as Steve said ..a man “ will change .. but he will change for one woman only ... and so ain’t you ..move on sister
No. Men _are_ teachable. If he wants you (the woman he desires), he will be taught to get what he wants. Keep in mind, that he wants sex. You have what he wants; once you give it to him, he is no longer obligated to you to do what YOU want. Or, even be treated to they way you want to be treated. If he does decide to go elsewhere because he can't wait 90 days (of even 12 days), then apparently he is not the one for you. He was after your *body* and *you* .
Two things come to mind after watching this and reading some of the comments. To wait 90 days, just to then find out that you were sexually incompatible, seems a waste. Secondly, how would a lady feel if that 90 got extended an extra 90 or 180? I've done it. Pissed her off majorly! After the 90 days had passed, and I didn't press... she questioned me. I was nonchalant about it. She was cool for maybe a little over a week. Then she pressed. I held my ground. And that's when the shenanigans started (and I'm being polite about the phrase.) That lady called me every name in the book before it was all over... 90 days in itself isn't in it self a long time... till you do it back.
Women want to be treated as equal yet gripe if you dont treat them like a woman. Damned if you do damned if you dont. My personal opinion a man needs to treat a woman like a lady. Open those doors pull out those chairs. It ain't gunna kill you to do those things.
I have no problem opening doors, but what I'm not about to do is walk all the way around the table just to pull out her chair. That has got to be the dumbest display of affection that I have ever seen.
@Utube Allday Nope the only way I'm pulling out her chair is if she don't have hands. And if she wants me to pull out the chair she's going to have to ask meaning the moment she does I'm only doing it because she's asking to making it a non-romantic act. Whoever thought this was a romantic gesture definitely don't have all their brain cells.
First off it’s on both male & female. Both must keep their Love, loyalty and consistency . Actions Speak louder then words. But in this new generation I doubt anybody is a ‘ Virgin ‘ anymore. Period
Yep. True. But chivalry was pretty bad for men. Have a look at all the things man I’ve done in the name of shivery and you find that a lot of it cost the men their lives. How many men have been killed in the process of saving somebody? Many, many men (and boys). How many women have been killed in the process of saving someone? Very, very few - if any. She will remotely benefited women and men are the ones who paid a price. I’m glad chivalry has gone.
What Steve needed to tell this young lady is this; When you're looking for Brad Pitt, and yet hoping to find a man who will honor you and your choice to honor your virginity. You will always be disappointed, because it is almost always the good looking guys who can have who ever they want who is not step up and do what is right. That doesn't it is all of them, but it is about 90% of them that won't step up.
I didn’t wait with my wife we sexed quickly into dating often an married 5 years later been married since together total 13 years still have sex often daily nightly etc an I stil open doors take on dates etc sex soon or waiting for sex doesn’t depict the dam man I’m sorry if he wants you an you give it to him he will still do these things if he wants you an waits for you he will still do these things only if he was raised right by his king an Queen that mothered an fathered him
We Arabs and Muslims are like that, we save ourselves for marriage and marriage only. We still keep those values like that, we are old fashioned and will continue to be. 34 years old and glad and happy that I am still pure and will save myself for marriage in sh'aa Allah.
Men with that kind of attitude towards women were so rare and it will always take some time. Just don't give up to the things that you believe is right.
I think it is very important to wait to have sex. I'm dating again after a very long marriage. I'm in my later 40s and have found there are men who just want sex without a commitment. That is not what I want. I want to get married again and find the person I'd like to spend the rest of my life with. I make it clear I am not going to sleep with a man until there is a commitment. Ideally, this would mean an engagement and marriage. I think if you maintain standards, you will find a quality man. Women don't need to drink the water that is pushing women to have casual sex and friends with benefits. NO! This usually only benefits men because women have hormone that bond us during and after sex. Women can become bonded to a man who is not good for her. Those hormones are powerful! It it too easy to catch feelings and be unable to see if the guy you're with is someone you SHOULD be with. Wait at least 90 days. But it is even better to wait until you know there is a serious commitment. A ring speaks a 1000 words.
Her: A real man will date for 90 days before having sex. Him: A real woman will not let a man pay a dime on her on all dates for 90 days. Her: What? Wait.... It don't work that way...
Tell me you haven’t read Steve Harvey’s book without telling me you haven’t read Steve Harvey’s book. According to Steve Harvey, one of the three ways a man shows his love is to provide. But I guess you’re too cheap to provide for your woman… if you have one.
What you are looking for is a Godly man. We are here..we do exist. I admit we are rare but we still out here. Godly men are still out here. You just gotta wait, be patient and trust God for yours 👍
A lot of men will be long gone if a woman tells them they have to wait three months, but, then, the woman would have the opportunity to weed out the ones who mainly wants sex from them. Ladies be proud for users to go, so you will not have to suffer the rejection and situational depression that could come after you have been used for your body.
I didn’t follow the 90 day rule...my bf then, husband now just has good common sense and good morals...it’s not something I had or should have to teach him..I guess I’m just one of those women who doesn’t want the men to pull their chair out for them or open/close their door for them...I got that part myself... I just don’t have the patience for it buuut, my husband always waits for me to walk ahead of him when we get home, he’ll always take the grocery cart and carry majority of the grocery inside, he cleans, cooks, does the laundry...he will pay for everything, he’ll hold my hand when we go for walk, everything he does is for me...he follows the motto: happy wife, happy life 😁
I don’t understand how a person can sleep with someone then claim that other person doesn’t respect themself, what about you? “Oh she’s so disgusting” so disgusting to the point that i risked impregnating her and having to pay child support for 18 plus years, or getting an incurable disease. But she’s the only disgusting one, not me.
Chivalry isn’t dead. The chivalrous guys just don’t want to put themselves out there because we know the likely result. We’re portrayed as weak and women never take us seriously.
I totally agree with Steve Harvey. We teach others how to treat us. If I'm seeing someone,and it hasn't been that long,hell,no,they are not getting in my pants. Not without a serious background check,and we both get tested for every std and sti. I mean,full spectrum testing. My health,their health,not something to play fast and loose with. And background check.self explanatory. Gotta know if they're serial killer,sex offenders,criminals married,involved with other people,romantically,do they have children,are they employed,any mental illness, anything that could put me in danger.and vice versa.
OKAY so here is my problem. I always had the 90 day rule instinctively if I met someone who I thought was possibly marriage material. my problem is this, there have been times when I've met someone I was very physically attracted to. The 90 day rule doesn't apply because this person may not be someone I would think of for marriage, but after 90 days I many times find out that I am no longer interested in this person for whatever reason. They are loving our relationship and I can't get rid of them. Sooo, how can I break up with someone after we've been so close without hurting their feelings.
This is a PERFECT example of why 90 days is disingenuous. Women only do it with "certain guys". 🤣 Like you said, guys you feel true lust for get it quickly. Then guys you deem as "providers" are made to wait. But here's the problem. All men want to be a guy a woman feels true lust for. That's why men ghost women who pull this 90 day crap. We all know that she didn't make other men wait. So if we accept the wait, it's a form of settling.
True that, its only effection if you are in a relationship otherwise it's just sex. If you just want sex, you aren't ready to commit and if you aren't ready ti commit you are not ready for a relationship ect. Couple now a days do not take the time to get to know eachother and rush into relationships, because 'they feel, when your in a relationship with someone thats when you get to know them'. It's true in a way, but people who don't have the period of getting to know someone have less of a chance to stay in a a relationship ect.
just because you think you’re a gentleman doesn’t make you one. If a woman isn’t attracted to you, leave her alone, you’re not entitled to anyone’s attraction
One group sang I can pull out my own share I can pay for my own meal and I don't need you to do anything for me and then you have another group saying the exact opposite of that.
But we shouldn’t be second guessing what they want. That is the path of automatic compliance. “I will give her what she wants so I will be more acceptable” Does not work. Either the woman will see you as being very compliant and malleable and therefore vulnerable to manipulation, I will see that you don’t have your own standards, rules, expectations, boundaries and You look weak, or unevolved, and she doesn’t know where she stands. What is wrong with just being ourselves? It’s all about compatibility not trying to be somebody we’re not. What if you did do all the things you thought she expected you to do? How can that possibly be satisfying for you even in the short term i.e. several months, let alone for years. It’s not like applying for a job where we try to meet their criteria! It’s about being our true self, about being authentic and of course looking for the other person to be authentic. What other way you could possibly work?
He kinda answered her but not really ... it’s not her it’s the men she has to trust God and keep being positive and don’t get frustrated#iKnowHerPain#whereIsHe
The good guy doesn’t get attention this is true you can take a good man that is ugly/good looking with normal money an he gets little to no chance at a girl but you can have a rich ugly guy or rich hot guy or poor but bad guy an they get all the attention
A man will only conform to the standards that you set for him. Set it low and he will go low, set it high and he will be forced to conform or search for another option. It's that simple !
Most men I know I have their own standards and and are not as pliable as you say. I think, perhaps, what you are saying applies to you, certainly not me.
Not a woman a live that deserves to be treated like a princess or put on a pedestal. Feminism is fine with me. You can pay your half for dinner and open your own door.
It's called the friendzone you woman friendzone the good guys and then hit us with this line "oh you're so nice why can I meet more nice guys like you" we right in front of you
I’m the nice guy that you never wanted. Women want the hot guy who’s popular and has money. When those guys treat you bad and use you up, and when you get older and feel like time is running out for you to find love, then and only then do you throw your hands up and take second place prize. You’re not happy because you didn’t get the ones you wanted, we aren’t happy because we know you are settling for us. The term nice guys finish last wasn’t just pulled out of a hat, it’s a saying that reflects the reality whether you see it or not, whether like it or not.
Gentlemen will wait, there are 10% of men who are chivalry. We will wait for you. There aren't that many of us left in the world. But we are here, we might not look like a model or have riches. But you have to set your priorities straight. Is it most important to have a man with a huge bank account or a huge heart who will value, cherish and love you all the days of his life. You have to keep the hopes, not all man are the same.
Smh why she telling a story about when she was a virgin at 19... Almost a decade has passed since. A more recent relationship or encounter would of been relevant and showed possibly the mistakes shes made to not be taken seriously by potential partners.
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“ We can only give you the behavior that you accept.”
Damn that’s good!
Right
It's funny/ironic. I'm 26 & always been mannerable for the most part. When I was 24 the girl I dated at the time taught me chivalry. I already opened doors and such. But walking on the traffic side of roads, opening car doors, pulling out seats etc. Yeah she trained me & the thing is I was open to it! I actually wanted to treat her that way. It got to the point where we'd go some where and I gotta tell her not to touch the door, but lemme say for the most part I haven't found women who care or even WANT to be treated like a lady to that extent. Listen there are men that seriously WANT to present this kinda behavior to women but it's soooo many women that don't even care for a 'nice' man. So chilvary isn't even a topic for most women. Just as it's rare to find young men who are chivalrous it's also hard to find women who'd even accept or want that kind of behavior.
They aren't used to it 🤷🏾♀️
It's sad but true
I think there are two key issues.
1. It’s all about compatibility. Be yourself. Then Others will know who you are and you get together or you don’t.
2. It’s all about numbers. You have to keep meeting many people to have the opportunity be attracted to one of them.
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Don’t give up!!
The reason most men are not chivalrous is because women don't WANT chivalrous men. They might SAY they want it, but they really don't. They show with their actions or lackof that they don't want chivalrous men. What girls DO is much more important than what they say.
That dress is GORGEOUS.
no the girl is gorgeous
She's right. Steve where's the book for men where you teach them how to respect and treat a lady correctly. I'm tired of society always telling us women what we have to do to get a great guy but not the opposite.
@ Kenya, where is the book where women quit using men for money then cry when they treated this way.
Actually Steve has tutored lots of young men on these sort of things.
Kathy Bates this doesn’t change the fact that I’m wondering where the book is. Tutoring is different than a best selling book.
@@KenyaVictoria The only difference is that a book would reach more people. I'm sure there are books out there for that but Steve has his reasons for aiming his books at women. Probably because there's a bigger market, for one thing. I doubt men buy books on how to be a gentleman lol.
Kathy Bates that’s not the point. Give me just ONE best selling book that’s teaching men. Give me just ONE man who is continuously teaching men more than women how to treat women correctly. It’s a societal problem
Men of God are here. Rather than chasing a woman and her image for us, we are walking with Christ seeking his perfect image of us. Ladies, God comes first, and men are waking up in these times and taking back their minds from doing all they can to impress women, and now their hearts are set to being the men Christ has us to be. We have a kingdom to inherit, and you can either join for the walk into the light or you can corner yourself back into the dark. No matter how much women in these times speak ill against men, Men of God are here & these dry bones shall live.
@You Tube Wait, I say, wait until marriage.
Speak on it!!!!!!!🗣
Ryan Faith 😂😂
Please let God write your love story, and not Steve Harvey.
This was very poetic. Thanks for your input.
Wait & Let patience have her perfect work.
Steve should write a book for men too - not just put all responsibility on women.
Narumon _BB he’s not a woman lol he can’t read their minds. A woman needs to write the book. Unfortunately woman are all different. Whereas men are all pretty similar with what we want from a girl
Men wouldn’t buy it, we are not going to follow someone who never took his own advice.
He has
Think like woman, talk like a man
Or think like a man, talk like a woman.
That is some bs if you tell a man what he should be doing he be like hell no I'm going to do what I want. It is just best to walk away. Just leave the situation.
Of course not it's the same reason Steve Nakamoto ended up writing Men Are Like Fish. He originallly intnted to write a dating book for men. His publisher wanted him to change the audience as women are 80% of the self help market. He expedites this on his Amazon p a ge years ago
1:10 This triggered me. I'm 25 years old, haven't had sex in 7 years, and when I was in a relationship, towards the end of college, I was understanding of my girlfriend on not having sex (she was afraid of getting pregnant; didn't have intercourse in the 9 months I was with her). I may be speaking for myself, but a real man, regardless of age, would wait any duration of time of no sex for their girlfriend, though I will concede that it may be less common the younger the man is. Besides, my past relationships has taught me that intimate moments, physical or otherwise, are way better than sex.
Its easier when you havent had sex in a long time tho. Atleast for me in my experience. Its like being a virgin again where you can let forgive not having sex. Because the sexual feeling is like getting high on a drug and if youve had alot of it before and your dealer runs out you go to another one some people can hold off but most cant
@@jacoryharrington7101 Oh, no it isn't. The sexual frustration is unbearable at this point, and though, when was in that relationship, we had our physical intimate moments, I would say it was akin to getting close, but not as satisfying as going all the way. But, like I said, the intimacy, namely the emotional moments and the little moments like cuddling made up for that in spades, which is what made it worth dealing with my sexual frustration.
What you said proved my point which is because you were used to having less sex you can be able to have other moments and not focus on sex. And your mind and patience alowed you to tolerate less intercourse than some one who per se has sex regularly. It like the less crack you smoke the least likely ypu are to become addicted
@@jacoryharrington7101 No, cause even when I was having sex regularly, I preferred the intimate moments. It's a person-by-person basis, you might be more inclined to the physical aspect, I happen to prefer the emotional and little things.
What I think he’s saying is that without sex, it’s easier to see people with whom you have a deep emotional and spiritual connection with. THAT DOESNT REPLACE SEX. But it makes it worth waiting.
We exist! We be right in front of y’all’s faces, but y’all refuse to give us the time of day!
because deep down women want to have sex too. they dont want nice guys.
@@etf42 um don't speak for all of us
@@memebladen3192 exceptions don't disprove the norm
Amen
Sometimes y'all be really ugly though lmao no shade but we want a fine ass man too.
The friend zone is where you will be at 90 days end. Close, but only friends.
Lori Whitbord thr right person won't turn into a friend. The intensity grows.
@@argoneonoble Did that with plenty of girls. They either 1) Put me in the friend zone or 2) stopped talking to me and talked to someone else because they thought I was too scared to make a move. This is how dating is in 2019. There shouldn't a set of "rules" to follow. Everything should be natural. If both you and your date are vibing and feeling each other then no need to wait on anything
So be it. Not a bad outcome.
I was waiting- and everyone told me it was unrealistic. Guess what! My husband of now 8 years proposed in less than 90 days. We are happily married and he also happens to be very successful and had been divorced within 2 years in the past and also been w a woman for 18 years he never married. Foundation is key! Start off pure and allowing for decisions about the future to come into play before letting sex get in the way. I'm a testimony!
@@argoneonoble Yeah keep looking for the "right person". Good luck, lol
Haha, she's delusional. That guy lied about being religious to get into her pants.
Im 21 and still a virgin and my girlfriend is 18 and still a virgin too. She wants to wait for marriage and I respect that. We have been together for almost 2 years. If a man can't have a relationship without sex then he doesn't have what it takes to be committed therefore he is no husband material. Same rule goes for woman. Peace and love everyone❤
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@Aa 69 Steve Harvey professes to be Christian on one hand and on the other seems advise dating with premarital sex. .. True Christians tell the truth about God and the Bible..
1 Corinthians 6:9,10
Or do you not know that unrighteous people will not inherit God’s Kingdom? Do not be misled. Those who are sexually immoral, idolaters, adulterers, men who submit to homosexual acts, men who practice homosexuality, 10 thieves, greedy people, drunkards, revilers, and extortioners will not inherit God’s Kingdom
Hallelujah-Praise Jah you people...
@@GolfnMoreclips We live on planet Earth… A lot of that stuff doesn’t matter right now
@@__deebzz__ If losing everlasting life doesn't matter, as long as we got J's on right?
@@GolfnMoreclips I don’t buy Js anymore, after Michael refused to shake my hand at Barber Motorsports back in 2005… Thanks for nothing and have a good day Mr. Dirtybird
Please do not follow this advice It does not stand on the word of God (if you’re a believer, but if not do you),go seek out the face of God for insight on your singleness (gain knowledge from God,so you won’t be ignorant) put your focus back on God and not focus on trying to have relationship with man (and God will add these things on to you when you seek Him 1st and His righteous)
I have bought Steve book and read the 1st chapter; and it was contrary to the word of God. I’m not downplaying Steve (that’s not my intentions) but I pray God deal with him to enhance the kingdom of God (in grace and I’m Truth) the Bible has everything you need to live life! I pray for my single folks to live life to the fullest: go write a book, open a business, go back to school, travel the world and just do it in God divine purpose for your life❣️ Be blessed!
Bess Menard
Are you single ?
can I get your instagram?
Amen fellow sister in Christ!! I will not be having sexual relations with any man until I am married!! Since Jesus saved me two years ago, a lot of my morals and beliefs have changed. I love reading the Bible and seeking God for answers about everything!! I love Him!! Thank you for sharing your thoughts and God bless you sis!! 😊🤍
Amen sister!
Chivalry is not dead. Most of the guys I've dated opened my doors, took me out to nice dinners, & nice dates, walked me to the door, kissed me & drove home.
It's absolutely does work! I stuck to it and now we MARRIED!
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Good for you but I bet money your husband couldn't get other women
I bet the rule didn't apply to Chad and Tyrone during college.
Men & Women( girls & guys)...know your Worth...dont be Worthless.Dont get passed around, choose & select who u want.
Love it! "Wheres the book you give to men how to treat a lady." You go girl!
Simple solution. Find a man who is ready to settle down. Not just says hes ready to settle down, but actually is ready to settle down.
The amount of time you wait to have sex is irrelevant in the grand scheme of things. Cause if a guy wants to be with you, whether it's day 1 or day 300 you have sex, he will want to be with you.
Stop concentrating so much on the number if days and concentrate on the character of the man in front of you.
The time you spend checking off days should be the time you spend checking off his character.
Perfect.
We check both. If we sleep with everybody quick, at the end of the day we would have so much men who saw us naked. To reduce the numbers we need to filter with this rule.
I wish all people thought like this
Guys Will say anything n do anything JUST to get the "cookie" 🙄
@@cassandracastillo2736 say anything, yes. Cause talking costs nothing.
Do anything, no. Actions cost and they have repercussions.
People don't vet people properly amd then wonder why it fails. Cause if you can't vet properly, then you need to engage others you trust to help you do it.
Your only mistake was getting with a man who does not have the same values you hold dear. You should not be the one to bring up waiting for marriage. He should have been doing so way before meeting you, not for you, but for the glory of God. Ladies, if a man is holding on for you, he will fail. If he is holding up for himself and his personal relationship with God, he will stick to it and won't even get with you if you want to have sex unwed
I'm shocked that you actually believe the words that are coming out of your mouth.
you are right. the more religious or spiritual a man is the more likely he will wait. the problem is that these men are not exciting to women. they are boring and women do not find them attractive.
@@etf42 No he isn't right everybody doesn't fit a 1 size fits all way of thinking. To believe such foolishness only shows how ignorant you are
@@whygiveup11 Why so worked up? Do what fits you and I'll continue doing what has been great to me till now. You meet a man and talk. His values align with yours, get together. His values do not align with yours, don't let him do it "for you", it's not sincere. He's doing it for you, not out of personal conviction. At some point he will go back to who he really is...
@@f.-j.j.5738 not worked up at all just letting you know that your words aren't true.
Always optimistic to meet a soul mate
I couldn’t agree with him more.
It’s like walking in for an interview you say all the right things and get the job. But if you don’t meet their requirements for the job in your 3 month probation you may not make the cut and will be fired. And they’ll continue to do this process until they find someone they believe is worth their time and benefits.
They never talk about the ones they friend-zone.
Being in the friend zone isn’t bad. We need to know who you REALLY ARE!
@@YasminYoruba Being in the friend zone is a slap in the face to men. If we wanted to be friends, then we would’ve stated that from the start
90 day rules is something guys follow if they want to end up in the friend zone
I have no problem with waiting 90 days as long as me and her are official.
actually Muslims for example do not have sex until they are married both (men and women), so it is not impossible mate
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well, what's between my legs is important and means allot to me...if he can't wait, then oh well...bye.. I've told my boyfriend he has to wait and he's ok with it....
zero disagree . .. I know guys who wait 4 months or years and never give up on ., just depends the person..just be me .. never follow anyone advice.. or rules.. lol
No, men are not teachable. You have to find the one who's already what you want.
Captain Everyman they teacherable .. as Steve said ..a man “ will change .. but he will change for one woman only ... and so ain’t you ..move on sister
@@perisndirangu1018 no, incorrect, people are what they are. Even when they want to, human beings have a very difficult time changing their behavior.
@Utube Allday yeah, I get that, that is a form of teaching. I'm saying, long term especially, that doesn't work.
No. Men _are_ teachable. If he wants you (the woman he desires), he will be taught to get what he wants. Keep in mind, that he wants sex. You have what he wants; once you give it to him, he is no longer obligated to you to do what YOU want. Or, even be treated to they way you want to be treated. If he does decide to go elsewhere because he can't wait 90 days (of even 12 days), then apparently he is not the one for you. He was after your *body* and *you* .
Captain Everyman Exactly.
Two things come to mind after watching this and reading some of the comments. To wait 90 days, just to then find out that you were sexually incompatible, seems a waste. Secondly, how would a lady feel if that 90 got extended an extra 90 or 180? I've done it. Pissed her off majorly! After the 90 days had passed, and I didn't press... she questioned me. I was nonchalant about it. She was cool for maybe a little over a week. Then she pressed. I held my ground. And that's when the shenanigans started (and I'm being polite about the phrase.) That lady called me every name in the book before it was all over... 90 days in itself isn't in it self a long time... till you do it back.
Women want to be treated as equal yet gripe if you dont treat them like a woman. Damned if you do damned if you dont. My personal opinion a man needs to treat a woman like a lady. Open those doors pull out those chairs. It ain't gunna kill you to do those things.
I have no problem opening doors, but what I'm not about to do is walk all the way around the table just to pull out her chair. That has got to be the dumbest display of affection that I have ever seen.
@Utube Allday Nope the only way I'm pulling out her chair is if she don't have hands. And if she wants me to pull out the chair she's going to have to ask meaning the moment she does I'm only doing it because she's asking to making it a non-romantic act. Whoever thought this was a romantic gesture definitely don't have all their brain cells.
Um i think you are speaking about feminist not all women think like that.
Why don’t ya give her your keys and pants while you’re at it
Survival Matters That’s fine too.😊
Some of us still stay virgins till mirrage
MKS Gaming Mirage is right. Get this fella some water, he’s hallucinating.
MUHAHAHAHAHAH....
....MIRAGE!!!!
the muh fukjn dry ass Sahara, my G
First off it’s on both male & female. Both must keep their Love, loyalty and consistency . Actions Speak louder then words. But in this new generation I doubt anybody is a ‘ Virgin ‘ anymore. Period
Chivalry is almost dead...and I blame radical feminism!
Yep. True. But chivalry was pretty bad for men. Have a look at all the things man I’ve done in the name of shivery and you find that a lot of it cost the men their lives. How many men have been killed in the process of saving somebody? Many, many men (and boys). How many women have been killed in the process of saving someone? Very, very few - if any.
She will remotely benefited women and men are the ones who paid a price. I’m glad chivalry has gone.
‘Take her out on vacation’ … 😂
90 day rule lol, I wouldn't be around for another 90 seconds if I ever heard this.
Totally agree.
What Steve needed to tell this young lady is this; When you're looking for Brad Pitt, and yet hoping to find a man who will honor you and your choice to honor your virginity. You will always be disappointed, because it is almost always the good looking guys who can have who ever they want who is not step up and do what is right. That doesn't it is all of them, but it is about 90% of them that won't step up.
I didn’t wait with my wife we sexed quickly into dating often an married 5 years later been married since together total 13 years still have sex often daily nightly etc an I stil open doors take on dates etc sex soon or waiting for sex doesn’t depict the dam man I’m sorry if he wants you an you give it to him he will still do these things if he wants you an waits for you he will still do these things only if he was raised right by his king an Queen that mothered an fathered him
You're from a different generation though
Only 34 not that much different generation
But yes these kids now days an Guys younger than me have no respect for ladies maybe a few do but I never see it
@ Dustin Johnson much respect but that is one long sentence!😊
Dustin Johnson that facts it’s sad to see though , especially when the good guys don’t get any attention
We Arabs and Muslims are like that, we save ourselves for marriage and marriage only. We still keep those values like that, we are old fashioned and will continue to be. 34 years old and glad and happy that I am still pure and will save myself for marriage in sh'aa Allah.
Y’all have a super high inbred percentage…
Men with that kind of attitude towards women were so rare and it will always take some time. Just don't give up to the things that you believe is right.
I think it is very important to wait to have sex. I'm dating again after a very long marriage. I'm in my later 40s and have found there are men who just want sex without a commitment. That is not what I want. I want to get married again and find the person I'd like to spend the rest of my life with. I make it clear I am not going to sleep with a man until there is a commitment. Ideally, this would mean an engagement and marriage.
I think if you maintain standards, you will find a quality man. Women don't need to drink the water that is pushing women to have casual sex and friends with benefits. NO! This usually only benefits men because women have hormone that bond us during and after sex. Women can become bonded to a man who is not good for her. Those hormones are powerful! It it too easy to catch feelings and be unable to see if the guy you're with is someone you SHOULD be with. Wait at least 90 days. But it is even better to wait until you know there is a serious commitment. A ring speaks a 1000 words.
How’s that working out? Curious 🧐
@@j0hnson8312 lol
Chivalry is important but don't be a nice guy
Her: A real man will date for 90 days before having sex.
Him: A real woman will not let a man pay a dime on her on all dates for 90 days.
Her: What? Wait.... It don't work that way...
Tell me you haven’t read Steve Harvey’s book without telling me you haven’t read Steve Harvey’s book. According to Steve Harvey, one of the three ways a man shows his love is to provide. But I guess you’re too cheap to provide for your woman… if you have one.
Some Woman:we want equality
also some woman:take us out for dates.pay for everything and also pander us .
Yup
What they don't get their value is no longer what it used to be. She really said vacation 😂.
What you are looking for is a Godly man. We are here..we do exist. I admit we are rare but we still out here. Godly men are still out here. You just gotta wait, be patient and trust God for yours 👍
Ah so happy to be in a 10 yr marriage w a chivalrous nice guy
A lot of men will be long gone if a woman tells them they have to wait three months, but, then, the woman would have the opportunity to weed out the ones who mainly wants sex from them. Ladies be proud for users to go, so you will not have to suffer the rejection and situational depression that could come after you have been used for your body.
I love how the first thing she says yo get sex is "men should take her on vacations"
I didn’t follow the 90 day rule...my bf then, husband now just has good common sense and good morals...it’s not something I had or should have to teach him..I guess I’m just one of those women who doesn’t want the men to pull their chair out for them or open/close their door for them...I got that part myself... I just don’t have the patience for it buuut, my husband always waits for me to walk ahead of him when we get home, he’ll always take the grocery cart and carry majority of the grocery inside, he cleans, cooks, does the laundry...he will pay for everything, he’ll hold my hand when we go for walk, everything he does is for me...he follows the motto: happy wife, happy life 😁
When they don't do the basic things, we don't have any other choice than to make them wait.
Most women have sex on the second or third date. And they wonder why their relationships don’t last. And the next guy doesn’t take them serious.
I don’t understand how a person can sleep with someone then claim that other person doesn’t respect themself, what about you? “Oh she’s so disgusting” so disgusting to the point that i risked impregnating her and having to pay child support for 18 plus years, or getting an incurable disease. But she’s the only disgusting one, not me.
Chivalry isn’t dead. The chivalrous guys just don’t want to put themselves out there because we know the likely result. We’re portrayed as weak and women never take us seriously.
Guess this Rule is 4 every woman but his daughter, She damn sure ain't waiting 90 days
MagneticQubzian % how do you know? Have you slept with his daughter?
@@Kuttie03 lol 😆
No problem but we go “Dutch” the first 90 days
I totally agree with Steve Harvey. We teach others how to treat us. If I'm seeing someone,and it hasn't been that long,hell,no,they are not getting in my pants. Not without a serious background check,and we both get tested for every std and sti. I mean,full spectrum testing. My health,their health,not something to play fast and loose with. And background check.self explanatory. Gotta know if they're serial killer,sex offenders,criminals married,involved with other people,romantically,do they have children,are they employed,any mental illness, anything that could put me in danger.and vice versa.
she already said her problem in the beginning she "keeps finding" men...she needs to let the right man find her
Now I know why this particular segment wasn't on TH-cam yesterday all others appeared
Why would a man wait 90 days??? This is a sure way to end up alone with cats
OKAY so here is my problem. I always had the 90 day rule instinctively if I met someone who I thought was possibly marriage material. my problem is this, there have been times when I've met someone I was very physically attracted to. The 90 day rule doesn't apply because this person may not be someone I would think of for marriage, but after 90 days I many times find out that I am no longer interested in this person for whatever reason. They are loving our relationship and I can't get rid of them. Sooo, how can I break up with someone after we've been so close without hurting their feelings.
Just leave them a text message.
This is a PERFECT example of why 90 days is disingenuous. Women only do it with "certain guys". 🤣
Like you said, guys you feel true lust for get it quickly. Then guys you deem as "providers" are made to wait. But here's the problem. All men want to be a guy a woman feels true lust for.
That's why men ghost women who pull this 90 day crap. We all know that she didn't make other men wait. So if we accept the wait, it's a form of settling.
@@ryandeffley7652💯
Where’s part 2
OMG it’s Shelise Ann Sola! Her YT/ podcast is actually really good. It’s called Cults to Consciousness. Also, she’s happily married with a baby now 🎉
Does the 90 day start from when you meet in person or start talking?
Woow it was very helpful. Thanks a million(:
please understand: there is not any rule when two person are in love
Lmaooo 😅😂😂
Affection? Sex isn’t affection 🤦🏽♂️
True that, its only effection if you are in a relationship otherwise it's just sex. If you just want sex, you aren't ready to commit and if you aren't ready ti commit you are not ready for a relationship ect. Couple now a days do not take the time to get to know eachother and rush into relationships, because 'they feel, when your in a relationship with someone thats when you get to know them'. It's true in a way, but people who don't have the period of getting to know someone have less of a chance to stay in a a relationship ect.
Of course it is, or at least it can be.
steve is a expert which in the field men and wowen dealing, his advice is no bad...
Y’all friendzone they asses 😂😂😂😂
"where are the gentleman?" I am pretty sure, the were friendzoned!
just because you think you’re a gentleman doesn’t make you one. If a woman isn’t attracted to you, leave her alone, you’re not entitled to anyone’s attraction
One group sang I can pull out my own share I can pay for my own meal and I don't need you to do anything for me and then you have another group saying the exact opposite of that.
But we shouldn’t be second guessing what they want. That is the path of automatic compliance. “I will give her what she wants so I will be more acceptable” Does not work. Either the woman will see you as being very compliant and malleable and therefore vulnerable to manipulation, I will see that you don’t have your own standards, rules, expectations, boundaries and You look weak, or unevolved, and she doesn’t know where she stands.
What is wrong with just being ourselves? It’s all about compatibility not trying to be somebody we’re not.
What if you did do all the things you thought she expected you to do? How can that possibly be satisfying for you even in the short term i.e. several months, let alone for years.
It’s not like applying for a job where we try to meet their criteria!
It’s about being our true self, about being authentic and of course looking for the other person to be authentic. What other way you could possibly work?
You should wait till marriage
I waited 5 Months lol
Some bitter men below🙄
I'm glad that he shaved his beard off it had to go, back to the old Steve I recognize
Where's part 2 at
So true know your power
Steve, come on man...
He kinda answered her but not really ... it’s not her it’s the men she has to trust God and keep being positive and don’t get frustrated#iKnowHerPain#whereIsHe
1:45 Not if you're a Narcissist.😏 Hey Hey Hey😬
The good guy doesn’t get attention this is true you can take a good man that is ugly/good looking with normal money an he gets little to no chance at a girl but you can have a rich ugly guy or rich hot guy or poor but bad guy an they get all the attention
u dont give the p and u wants vacation thats tough
She sounds crazy
Dam true... its only the benefit of her
@Paul Hogue I bet you are single
Men over 35 --- no different.
Sadly there are women that kick off for holding a door open for them :/
Sure, I just say “I’ve got manners. I hold the door open for anyone - not just females” and smile and walk away
Fellas. Our 90 day rule: spend no money on her for 90 while she proves she's the one.
Lmaooo 😂🤣🤣🤣
Exactly
A man will only conform to the standards that you set for him. Set it low and he will go low, set it high and he will be forced to conform or search for another option. It's that simple !
Most men I know I have their own standards and and are not as pliable as you say. I think, perhaps, what you are saying applies to you, certainly not me.
Christianity/Religion expects men to have morals and high standards. The rest of the world I guess doesn’t.
Not a woman a live that deserves to be treated like a princess or put on a pedestal. Feminism is fine with me. You can pay your half for dinner and open your own door.
Even if you do everything she says and put her on a pedestal, she will loose interest because women want a guy thats not easy to get.
exactly. chivalry get you in the 'nice guy' list. chivalry does not wet panties.
etf42 If wet panties is all you wanted, then you should’ve been honest from jump. That’s y’alls problem right there. Smh
ColouredNatural4c I completely agree! I don't recommend treating a woman like a girlfriend or potential partner if all you want is sex.
ColouredNatural4c I'm happy with wet panties. When I'm older il show chivalry to look for a wife
It's called the friendzone you woman friendzone the good guys and then hit us with this line "oh you're so nice why can I meet more nice guys like you" we right in front of you
I MISS THE BEARD!!
It worked for my sisters and my mom
We chivalrous guys exist but women choose to ignore us and then complain when a douche treats them bad smh
Only if she'll be 18 in 90 days
Those men exist but nice guys finish last, so they aren’t rare but the ones women actually like on a first impression ARE
That's too patriarchal sister haha
I’m the nice guy that you never wanted. Women want the hot guy who’s popular and has money. When those guys treat you bad and use you up, and when you get older and feel like time is running out for you to find love, then and only then do you throw your hands up and take second place prize. You’re not happy because you didn’t get the ones you wanted, we aren’t happy because we know you are settling for us. The term nice guys finish last wasn’t just pulled out of a hat, it’s a saying that reflects the reality whether you see it or not, whether like it or not.
Ain’t nobody gonna wait for you. Give it up or bye
chivalry is dead since feminist killed it -Dave Chappelle
Beautiful smile..😘😘
Gentlemen will wait, there are 10% of men who are chivalry. We will wait for you. There aren't that many of us left in the world. But we are here, we might not look like a model or have riches. But you have to set your priorities straight. Is it most important to have a man with a huge bank account or a huge heart who will value, cherish and love you all the days of his life. You have to keep the hopes, not all man are the same.
I will wait 4 months for that beautiful girl
Chivalry is dead.....and women killed it!
This is NOT the 90 day rule thought...she wants to wait all the way until marriage
He will use any opportunity to plug in his book I guess
Smh why she telling a story about when she was a virgin at 19... Almost a decade has passed since. A more recent relationship or encounter would of been relevant and showed possibly the mistakes shes made to not be taken seriously by potential partners.
I'm a perfect fit for her... I'm 23 and would treat her better
Probably... and you can tell her you Would wait till marriage also but if she dont Find you attractive she dont want you
@@xchino0427 I wouldnt wanna wait till marriage is overrated and its not all bout looks its more like personality. Like she said wait for 30/90 days.
De Fowl If she’s waiting until marriage and you’re not how are you a perfect fit for her?? LOL!
Kandungan video sangat baik, tahniah
How about wait till marriage. It’s a sin to have sex if you are not married. The Bible says so.
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