I have four siblings and not close to them at all. It's ridiculous that people say they feel sorry for Delilah that she is an only child. I'm so sorry Rhiannon, I think the way you addressed the question was really good and respectful x
When that little cutie said “when the germs have gone” my heart burst it’s so nice to see Delilah has such a positive outlook on the whole things it’s been awfully hard on little kids ❤️
these vlogs are my safety blanket and my encouragement for the same reason. it gives me hope to hold onto that i can also have a healthy and happy family in the future. sending you all so so much love 💛
Right, from now on I am definitely going to replace the sentence "when the pandemic is over" with "when the germs have gone". It sounds so sweet and much less depressing.
We decided on one child as well - like you, never felt the need for more. Our son is now 18 and we’re still the best of friends, us three musketeers ❤️❤️❤️ He’s thrived as a singleton. And none of the cliches have proved true - he’s extremely sociable, not selfish or spoiled, always shared politely when he was a kid, wasn’t lonely. If anyone wants just one child, we can certainly recommend it!
@@naehova the best advice I was given about raising a singleton is that sometimes you have to ‘put the telescope up to the blind eye’ - meaning sometimes you have to let the child get away with the odd thing, don’t hyper focus on every little detail of behaviour, let an occasional lapse go without making them the focus, which would happen naturally if they were one of a few kids. I think it’s really good advice because while it can be lovely to be the sole focus of your parents attention and love, it could also be a little intense! I hope that makes sense. Xx
as someone with secondary infertility; thank you ❤️ please stop asking people when they’re having a baby/another baby. it’s none of your business, and you don’t know what people are going through.
Thank you for talking about trying for a baby. We have a 2.5 year old and I get asked all the time about number 2. People don't know I miscarried last year and am going through complications right now which will probably lead to another. I actually had someone ask the other day and I was tempted to say 'I'm probably in the middle of a miscarriage right now, thanks for asking.' I know people don't mean to be hurtful but it kills me every time they ask.
Your answer on the child question was beautifully said. People really romanticize the idea of having children and starting a large family that they don't really consider the amount of work, time, money, stress and even trauma some families go through into that decision. They treat it like it's a simple decision when it's not. That's so much mental and emotional pressure to put on a person. They always say "you'll change your mind." Maybe, but maybe not. Either decision is perfectly fine and VALID! People other than the parents shouldn't have a say in their personal plans because it's really none of the business since they're not the ones going through it. Not everyone wants a big, traditional family. You and Doug are doing an amazing job with Delilah! Your time with her is so heart warming and comforting to watch. And I love that you used your voice to set your boundary and help educate people on familial perspectives that go against society's expectation. We love to see it
I agree, I would never ask anyone what their plans are for having children, even my own kids. That’s so very personal. I also think so many parents put so much pressure on their adult kids to have a baby. As much as I love my 2 grandbabies, I would never put that pressure on my kids. For my mental health, if I’m having a feeling down time, often a brisk walk helps too, or just sitting on the patio in the evening, with a fire in the fire pit..... Yes, San Francisco is wonderful, and my very favorite city in the world.
This is a lovely comment :) my husband and I are 32 and we have been married 6 years and omg we get asked all the time when we're going to "start a family"..... I'm always like "actually we're a family right now!" We don't want to have any children and the drama that causes when we tell people that! It's mostly followed by "oh you'll change your mind" which is so condescending! Thank you for sharing such a positive comment about parenthood x
@@CharlotteFurnessWriter you are so right, you are a family! I honestly think most just assume people get married or commit to each other, so they can have children. It’s still a throwback from back in the day, because of religion, if you were not married but had a child, you were a “sinner”, and both you and the child were condemned 🙄, so many just assume still that if you’re together the next step is having kids. Nowadays, our kids are grown up, and it’s just my hubby and me, and it’s honestly the best time of my life. I’m happy it just being me and my hubby 🥰(and our doggies and kitty). Don’t get me wrong, I love my kids and grandkids, but my life with my hubby is MY LIFE.
I was also a “one and done” mommy. When I remarried, my husband wasn’t sure whether he wanted a child. I decided that if he decided he did, I was open to discuss it. My son was 9(I had him at 17) at the time, and we also were very happy with just the 3 of us. After a few years I started to have a difficult time with birth control pills and discontinued taking them. We used alternate methods for awhile and decided we would just stop all methods. We both decided if it was meant to be, we would have another child, if not we were perfectly happy with 1. We also decided if it didn’t happen we would not go the route of fertility docs, etc. As fate may have it we never had another pregnancy and still lived happily ever after😁Everyone has their own road to travel, and we’ve happily been together 46 years! As they say “just do you” have a great weekend.
@@heatherjane4760 married 39.5 years, met when I was 22, married when I was 26.5.. I’m 68(next week) We have a 19 year old grandson( also an only)and I love watching TH-cam 😉
you articulated beautifully how I feel about having just one child...i get asked constantly when were having another and always feel a sense of guilt and need to justify why we have decided we are happy as a trio...I enjoy my daughter so much and feel blessed and complete but your the first person I've come across who seems to feel the same xx
I am on the Autism spectrum and the different things that you mention...the anxiety disorder, the introvert personality, the snapping your fingers or moving your wrist, the worrying, the constant thought flow, are all characteristics that I have too. I think that is why I enjoy your videos so much. Anyways, now that I know that my various mental health issues, depression, anxiety, worry, etc are all aspects of my Autism, it has made getting the right kind of assistance to help me cope soooooo much easier. I find it so much easier to function now that I know that I am on the Autism Spectrum. One of the things I struggle with is Seasonal Affective Disorder which makes me more depressed during the fall and winter. Having a special SAD lamp which stimulates my brain to think I am getting sunlight even if I don’t see the sun for weeks. (I live in the west coast of Canada where the weather is very similar to the UK). That helps a lot, especially as I start using it every morning once September arrives. I would highly recommend it to anyone who gets the blues in the fall and winter. Thank you for the lovely VLOG, you are hands down my favourite TH-camr, I have watched you since your early days and find you so lovely and soothing. I am looking forward to the rest of Vlogtober and then Vlogmas!!! Yayyyyyy!
oh my, we get "you'll change your mind" SO much when we tell people we don't want children... it's so condescending! Thanks for addressing the issue so kindly and gently x
I feel like a lot of us want something similar to what we grew up with regarding siblings. I grew up with a sister very close to my age and I really want to have two children close together. My mum grew up with two brothers and she wanted three children, but sadly she kept miscarrying and ended up with two. Whether you want one, two or five, it's 100% your choice and no one should tell you otherwise!
I have been veggie since i was 15. Vegan since two and a half years ago! I haven't eaten lamb since I was 6 and made the connection. Nobody else is veggie in my family but as soon as my niece started school, she learnt about farms and farm animals. She made the connection between meat and the animals and now does not want to eat them. Children have such big hearts. They know.
Also, you are such an incredible mother to Delilah. She's not missing out on anything. IF YOU DO choose to have another child, many years down the line, then it'll just add to the perfect life and up-bringing that she has. She's most certainly not missing out. xxxxxx
Oh girl... I'm only child and I LOVE it🙌🏻😍😂 don't get me wrong, i love seeing the relationship my friends have with their siblings but i just don't like it for me. Plus my mom had problem when trying to get pregnant and once she got pregnant she ended up losing the baby, so i can't imagine the pain she must have felt when someone ask her about having kids. (I'm adopted by the way)
Kids are such a personal subject, I’ve just had twins and almost everyone has been like ‘perfect, get it over and done with in one go’. I would actually love another one in a few years and it just annoys me that people think they know how our family situation should be. Delilah is such a lovely little girl, you’ve done and are doing such a brilliant job ❤️
I'm 29 and have never wanted children. When people find out they are either convinced you'll change your mind or make you feel guilty for not wanting them. Never say never, but I can never see myself in that position. That is ok, we all have a choice! 💜
I was watching this in bed with my three year old son. He was playing with his cars, and would pop his head over when he heard Delilah and said goodbye after she said goodbye with the endslate. My heart burst a bit ❤️
I know it’s not a competition or battle of the mums of TH-cam but you are one of the most pleasant and delightful people to watch, especially on screen as a mum, you don’t shove the camera in your child’s face and your videos just feel 100% authentic and natural. Keep doing what you’re doing. Also, loving the long hair! I loved the short but you suit both just as flawlessly! ❤️
You are such a great mum Rhiannon, don't feel pressured to have more children if you don't want to. I'm an only child and although I sometimes wished for a sister I'm very happy with my life. Delilah will be happy no matter what, she's such a lovely little girl xx I also think that being an only child has made me a lot closer to my mum, she's my best friend. I feel like when Delilah's older she will also have that relationship with you x
I’m 100% with you on just having one child. Our boy is 3.5 years old and everything you said about more kids, siblings, trying for babies, parents mental health is 100% true for us. We are on the exact same page as you and Doug x
After my mom had my sister her mental health declined.. it was one of the most challenging times in her life. She suffered a lot and was not herself anymore. It took her a long time to get back to being herself again. I’m so grateful that I do have my sister but the impact that pregnancy had on her was really scary. I don’t want to have any kids of my own for personal beliefs and reasons unrelated but my mom did want to have more kids but after my sister was born she couldn’t imagine going through it again it.
Thank you for addressing these questions, especially the one child topic that touched me. It’s currently plaguing me the decision to have another child, and the only reason was to ‘give’ my daughter a sibling. Not because I was desperate to have another. Having a child was my deepest want, and I’ve got that now. So it’s helped me find peace in the fact that I actually only want one child, and can continue soaking up and cherishing her - alone.. guilt free that I won’t be ‘giving’ her a sibling. She can have me 100% of the time and not shared with another child, and I think that’s great!
I appreciated the discussion about children. Some people just don’t have the urge to have human children also. I couldn’t imagine having a child but constantly am asked about having one due to my age creeping up and the clock ticking!! Thankyou. Delilah is adorable. Xx
I live about 40 minutes from San Fran. It’s a city like many others, there are the pretty sights and the not so pretty sites. I recommend going on weekdays if you ever visit just because weekends can be packed. I think you’d enjoy it and for sure it’s a whole day type of thing and prepare to walk a lot unless you rent a car😊
The baby response you gave made me feel better. I come from a huge family and this is always brought up but I feel the same right now as you. So thanks for sharing it calmed me
I’ve been watching your videos since I was in middle school. I’m 24 now and I found it really lovely how similar our current scenarios are. My fiancé and I have also been engaged for years and haven’t made many wedding plans, we have a daughter who is just a toddler right now and we don’t want anymore kids! Lol it’s so comforting for me to hear someone say exactly how I’ve felt about not having more kids because I’ve been feeling a little insecure about it whenever people bring it up. Your family is wonderful and I’m still loving watching your videos as I did when I was younger
I suffer with anxiety, very much like yourself, my brain has its own little mind and sometimes can’t switch off. Can I just say thank you, as I use your vlogs to take my mind away from everything, I find listening to you so calming xx
I am an only child, i cannot imagine having a brother or a sister. I see so many people arguing with their sisters and brothers. I love my parents to death, i would not change it for the world. It made me appreciate my life more. Also this vlog made me so happy to be so casual!! love your vlogs!!
I’m the only child and it’s just me,mum and dad and it’s brill being the only child it’s what your used to,my parents couldn’t financially afford it & also they didn’t feel the need to have another baby.People shouldn’t ask questions like that they don’t know how people feel about it
i have the best of both in terms of having siblings and being an only child. my brothers were late teens when i was born so i felt like i was an only child but had them around if i wanted to feel a sibling bond. turns out at times they have both done my head in! as long as there is a sense of love and family coming from somewhere for a child it doesnt matter if it comes from a sibling at all
I completely agree with people asking “the baby” questions. I have a four year old and a 6 month old but in between them I had a miscarriage at 12 weeks and was so desperately wanting to get pregnant again so the “come on when are you having another!” And “aw Sophia is desperate for a brother or sister!” Were soul destroying! I’ve learnt so much from that experience and would never ever ask any woman about babies now as you never know what is happening behind closed doors! Love your vlogs so much ♥️
Thank you for sharing how you honestly feel about having another child! My partner and I have a 3 1/2 yr old and do not want anymore. We only wanted one. We got questions literally daily much to the same as you, ‘when are you having your second’, ‘when will you give your daughter a sibling’, ‘she’ll be lonely’! It gets very draining trying to explain EVERY point you brought up! They’ve kind of gotten over it now, given it’s been 3 1/2 years and they’ve got the same answers haha! And thank you so much for sharing how you are an only child and you are fine! I think people think all only children are miserable and sad because they’re ‘alone’? I’m one of 3, and my partner is one of 4, and it has actually reassured me that only children are fine! ☺️
As an only myself, I loved being just me in my family. It afforded me so many opportunities, like those you’ve given Delilah, and I’m forever grateful for those opportunities. Plus, my parents made certain I had enough activities to participate in so that I could get my socializing in. (And I realised soon enough that I did not WANT a sibling, thanks to my friends with them!)
It’s so refreshing to hear someone talk about feeling that fulfilled feeling with one child! I had my little girl 2.5 years ago and I just don’t have the urge for anymore but often feel guilted by society to think I should have more x
Another only child over here 👋🏻 I also have a wonderful relationship with my parents and absolutely love being an only child. I honestly think it’s crazy that we are conditioned to think that 2+ children is ‘the norm’ and you should have a good reason for ‘only’ wanting one! People who say they want more than one NEVER have to deal with the ‘oh are you sure’ and ‘you’ll definitely change your mind’.
When you mentioned Biff & Chip at the end of the vlog, that brought back SO many memories! I'm 31 now and I remember getting those Biff & Chip books when I was 5 and just starting school! Great vlog. I love watching your videos, chilling with a cuppa! Xx
Just a few vlogs ago I was thinking about how unique the dynamic of your trio family is. It’s really sweet and the relationship Delilah has with both you and Doug is very special.
I’m an only child in my twenties, and I’m honestly so glad! My parents were much older and couldn’t have any more children after me. My mum used to find the questions so upsetting and I’ve been told that I’m spoilt countless times (prepare Delilah with a clever comeback now)! BUT I think only children are mature, very independent and creative! I have the most wonderful relationship with my parents now. We’re a strong trio!
I could relate to people assuming that you're going to have another baby but from a completely different perspective. I don't have kids and never will because I don't want to, and people almost find it offensive and say that I'll change my mind, that it's just a phase or that I'm selfish to not want to have a baby. So rude and so disrespectful. You do you, Rhiannon! ❤️
speaking of 'wrap with me' videos, it just occurred to me the other day my first ever video i saw of yours was actually a 'wrap with me' vid, and i think i just got addicted to those videos, and then got addicted to all of your videos, and then binged most of your content from maybe the past 3 years, and been a proud viewer here ever since :D
Honestly what you said about one child or no children really got to me. I’ve never heard of anyone totally agreeing with those beliefs in the way I do! I’m from a huge family and if I ever really wanted a child (I don’t atm) I would only want one. I think it would be enough for me and watching you with Delilah every day honestly gives me life!!! Xx
I don't want kids and I never used to mind when people said that I would change my mind and bring it up all the time but in the last year or so it has really started to annoy me! People have such strong opinions on it and it's bizarre. I loved Emily in Paris too!!! Can't wait for season 2 already
As an only child, I felt exactly the same as you did Rhiannon :). We're super close and I never felt lonely/ like I missed out. Often wonder what it'd have been like to have a sibling, but it doesn't bother me. I'm grateful my mum and dad could give me such a great childhood, and I'm sure Delilah will feel the same
Absolutely loved this video 🥺🥰 So happy you touched on the subject of asking people if they want another child - you articulated everything I think about often!! If we are lucky to be able to have kids, my fiancé and I only want the one (never say never that we will have more but we genuinely don't have the urge to have two or more). I get so fed up of people constantly asking WHEN we are having a baby, let alone how many we want (and when I say one they say all the clichés about giving them a sibling, how we will change our mind etc etc).
You are a gem. Love your family and your little Delilah is such a sweet girl. Thanks for answering so many questions and giving us all more of a glimpse into your life. BTW, I’m from San Francisco!
I have 2 babies, well they are 9 & nearly 8. I always get “don’t you want another” “when are you having another” never 🤷🏻♀️ I can’t! My body has said no more. I struggled for so long with it but now I’m at peace. I explain now to people and they are the ones that feel awful for asking. Not me feeling awful because I can’t produce another child x
People need to accept that having one child is fine, and shouldn’t automatically expect you to be having another. I got told that ‘an only child is a lonely child’ , or is a spoilt child which is total BS. I love my brother, but we argued & bickered and I rarely had my own space. I also couldn’t be myself because he had to copy everything that I did (because he wanted to do it better) which was very frustrating when trying to find myself as a teen. It puts me off from having another. My DD will make friends at school I’m sure. She will never be lonely.
Also a very happy only child, I never had any desire for a sibling. I remember being around 5 and my grandfather told my mom it was time to have another baby and I had a full blown mental break down. 😂😂😂
I love that Delilah just fulfills that desire for you. That's beautiful. I'm an only child too, raised by just my mom and love it as well. I wish people would lay off the sibling thing. It's the most environmentally friendly choice as well. Win win win.
I usually never comment on videos, but I wanted to say I really resonate with what you said about sleep, perfectionism, and overthinking. It is so so comforting to hear from someone I look up to that you struggle with it sometimes as well. Love to you and your family from San Francisco!
As someone who currently has no plans for ever having children, its super frustrating when people demand when I'm going to have children or they judge me for saying never. For now I'm happy with my fur babies. As a 24 year old I'm still so selfish, love being alone and love my job. But who knows this could all change in years to come. I have always dreamt of wanting to feel pregnant tho.
Absolutely loved your answer about having more children, it was so refreshing to hear. I grew up an only child as well, now have a 2-year-old daughter and neither myself or my partner are in any rush to have another (if at all) so I could relate to just about everything you said! I definitely didn't expect so many people to have such strong opinions about only having one but you're right, you never know someone's circumstances and I wish people were more mindful of that. Thank you for being such a lovely human being ❤️
Me and my husband are 100% on the same page as you guys when it comes to just the one child. Our little boy is 5 and we are happy with it just being us 3. It’s so true what you say it could be a number of factors....finance, mental health, just not having the urge to have more etc. You spoke very well on the topic 🙌🏻🙌🏻 xxx
You are just so lovely! Im a single mum to Matilda, she is the same age as Delilah, I'm part of the one and done club too! Your feelings of completeness resonate with me xx
I come from a family with 6 siblings and I do not see them!! I have 2 children a boy and a girl,37 and almost 34, they are not close at all!! So you do you!!
You're so right! Ironically, I have four siblings and I get along with them really well. At the same time, it's not been the greatest for my mental health. I have a lot of social anxiety. And then I am a little bit like a doormat around friends because I'm so easygoing.
We are around the same age and I have never dyed my hair and I don't see myself doing it in the near future. It does seem a bit strange to me to see so many people changing they hair color so often like they do it nowadays. And I'm not saying like it is a bad thing, that is fun, and experiments do bring joy and make life more interesting, maybe I'm just a boring person:) But that is me, but you, Rhiannon, you have such a lovely hair color. I can not imagine that any other color looking as good as your natural color does. You are very lucky!
Totally get the more kids question, we had our first and we both said we probably wouldn’t have another and didn’t for 10 years then decided to have another as we felt ready. Each to their own and people shouldn’t just presume you have another a couple of years after the first if at all 🤷🏻♀️ x
You're such a gem Rhiannon! I love your honesty and consideration for different peoples circumstances and particularly the different perspectives on having children. Myself, I'm unsure whether I want kids. Myself and my husband are asked about it by those around us a fair amount and we're just not sure! So refreshing to hear your open answer about this x
I’ve been watching your videos for years and years but I never really comment (on anyones videos that I watch), but I just wanted to say how much I enjoy them. They are so lovely and comforting, and watching you be such a loving mother to Delilah gives me inspiration for the type of parent I hope to be one day (if I’m lucky enough to have children). Thank you for your content 🤍
My son turned 5 before I had my daughter. I've always wanted 3 children and was so broody before I had my son but haven't been that broody since. Isn't it strange. I'm now pregnant with my 3rd and I'm looking forward to being a family of 5 finally but also glad that I don't have to be pregnant again beautiful as it is, sharing your body is hard. I also have the same worries about people's assumptions around pregnancy. A family member recently got married and all everyone talks about is them having a child and oh I think they have a boy etc. I have to remind them that they might not want children or might struggle to conceive so everyone should stop putting pressure on them. I know they're just excited but it's not great. Xx
I always thought that I wanted a big family with lots of kids but now that my son is here that urge is really slipping for me also. For me it has a lot to do with the anxiety of being a new mom too. He's the best thing to ever happen to me, but my goodness this is the hardest thing I've ever done.
My parents both grew up in households with multiple siblings. My mum only speaks to 1 of her 4 siblings, and my dad only speaks to 1 of his 2 siblings, though very rarely and only via social media - nothing especially personal, and they live on opposite sides of the world. Being raised in a family where broken down sibling relationships are rife has definitely given me the perspective that having big families with multiple children really isn't all it's romanticised to be.
Thank you for your answer about having more children. I'm currently going through IVF after three difficult years of unexplained infertility and really appreciate you using your channel to address such an important topic. It's just not that easy for some people to have babies sadly and being asked when you're having a family is so painful 💔
It’s so refreshing to hear you talk about having children. I am one of five children! I did love it growing up and we are all close but I only have one child. My pregnancy was high risk and my son was born very prematurely. I would like to have more children but it hasn’t happened for us (no reason that can be found) and I find it difficult when people ask (it’s always me they ask!!) At times I’m made to feel guilty about this. I like things the way they are despite all this so it’s nice to hear from someone who is an only child themselves and giving a different perspective to what I’m always hearing from well meaning people 😊
So nice to see other people on the same boat with having one child. I have a 9 month girl and I'm certain she'l be my only. I felt the same way when I was pregnant with her too. My husband would like another, but understand where I'm coming from. She fulfills me. I had a complicated upbringing with my parents splitting up when I was young and moving across the country etc. I want to give her absolutely everything I never had and more. Fundamentally, I don't know how we could afford another. I also want to work in a job I actually want to do, not in something that's mundane.
People tend to use the kids question as small talk, but I don't think they realize how loaded a question it can be! We felt so content with one for quite a while until the urge hit very suddenly. Now we'll be going for number 3 in the next year and there will be a much larger age gap (7/8 yrs). point is, each family is unique, and making a conscious choice about the size of your family based on so many factors is SUCH a beautiful, responsible thing. no matter if you want none at all, or 6. And I really hope people start thinking before asking that question. I have a couple friends who are going through fertility issues no one knows about, and those questions are so painful. Anyway, lovely chat. thank you for sharing! Xx
I had to tell my mum recently to stop saying "when you have a baby", I explained even when I wanted one this is going to put pressure on me. She's worries that I won't have one and said that I didn't need to worry about child care because she would look after the child. It confused me.... As I would be the primary carer and I wanted to have a child because of me and my partner wanted one not her. I never ask people if they want children. I think it's an extremely Personal subject and more people should respect that. It's driving me insane that my mum keeps saying it. Hopefully she will stop now. 😬 Thanks for bringing this up though ☺️
I have always wanted 2 children. After having my eldest son I had 3 consecutive miscarriages. Someone asked me, when are you having another?, you don’t want to leave it too long, you don’t want too big an age gap. I was so close to telling them “I’ve just had my third miscarriage last week” but managed to keep my mouth shut. Maybe I should have said something. They might have been a bit more thoughtful in the future. I was lucky enough to have another son. 😌
Rhiannon, I absolutely love your attitude to Delilah's diet and it's something that I've been thinking about a lot for my future kids, I am pescatarian but like you hardly eating fish, and my partner is vegan. But I'm definitely of the same attitude to let my future children choose themselves, without judgement. It's great to hear your insight and how you have practically achieved this with her. I always knew my thoughts but never really knew how that would work in practice, but the way you articulated it makes perfect sense :)
Thank you so much for talking about the children situation! My partner and I are in a very committed relationship and we've talked about children before (not planning on trying anytime now, I'm only 23) and he's said that he'd like to only have one child. At first I was taken aback because I've always imagined myself with three kids. I've always wanted children and felt the 'urge' you described. I have to admit I've always felt hesitant to only having one child because many of my friends and members of family are and none of them had a good experience. But when I see Delilah, I honestly can't imagine how she could be unhappy, you and Doug seem to be the perfect parents for her! At the end of the day, I think it really is a gut feeling. Who knows, maybe I'll feel complete after having my first child. Thank you for opening this conversation! And yes, people, let's stop asking women when they're going to have a baby! Maybe they don't want to, maybe they can't, maybe they've lost babies or their partner do not want one. Please be mindful! x
Love your music choice for the end of the vlog, it's perfect, and of course Delilah saying goodbye...cuteness. Watching Delilah play with her toys in the bath brought me right back to when my boys were her age and did exactly the same. Time flies. :-)
You talking about your ombré hair brings back so many memories and makes me feel a bit old 😢 The ombre hair tutorial was the first video of yours that I've seen and I've been hooked ever since. ❤️
I never comment and am watching these vlogs late, but I have to say I am very excited to hear you’re doing another gift wrapping vlog in December. That’s how I found your channel 🤗
I have four siblings and not close to them at all. It's ridiculous that people say they feel sorry for Delilah that she is an only child. I'm so sorry Rhiannon, I think the way you addressed the question was really good and respectful x
I also have 4 older siblings and they are all selfish idiots 😊 quality over quantity
@@heatherjane4760 oh i'm sorry. Mine aren't, it's just that we all live our own lives.
Exactly. You’re different people, it doesn’t mean the you will be best friends for the rest of your life.
I have 2 siblings and have 0 relationship with them there is no need for people to pressure others into big families
When that little cutie said “when the germs have gone” my heart burst it’s so nice to see Delilah has such a positive outlook on the whole things it’s been awfully hard on little kids ❤️
You are such a great mum and it's so comforting for someone who had a very unpleasant childhood to see how loved and happy Delilah is x
I was thinking that too.
i think about this all the time, its so nice to se them bonding 💜
I comment this all the time!! Sending love to you on your journey to finding healing and a loving family/friend unit xox
@@FourThousandMilesTogether thank you ♥️♥️
these vlogs are my safety blanket and my encouragement for the same reason. it gives me hope to hold onto that i can also have a healthy and happy family in the future. sending you all so so much love 💛
Right, from now on I am definitely going to replace the sentence "when the pandemic is over" with "when the germs have gone". It sounds so sweet and much less depressing.
Hopefully all germs won't go away. We would all die then. That's would be bit depressing too.
I use when the germs have gone when i talk to my mum ( she has dementia and in a care home) just less scarey for her 😊😊
We decided on one child as well - like you, never felt the need for more. Our son is now 18 and we’re still the best of friends, us three musketeers ❤️❤️❤️ He’s thrived as a singleton. And none of the cliches have proved true - he’s extremely sociable, not selfish or spoiled, always shared politely when he was a kid, wasn’t lonely. If anyone wants just one child, we can certainly recommend it!
Lovely message! Any parenting tips that stand out on raising an only child?
@@naehova the best advice I was given about raising a singleton is that sometimes you have to ‘put the telescope up to the blind eye’ - meaning sometimes you have to let the child get away with the odd thing, don’t hyper focus on every little detail of behaviour, let an occasional lapse go without making them the focus, which would happen naturally if they were one of a few kids. I think it’s really good advice because while it can be lovely to be the sole focus of your parents attention and love, it could also be a little intense! I hope that makes sense. Xx
as someone with secondary infertility; thank you ❤️
please stop asking people when they’re having a baby/another baby. it’s none of your business, and you don’t know what people are going through.
Thank you for talking about trying for a baby. We have a 2.5 year old and I get asked all the time about number 2. People don't know I miscarried last year and am going through complications right now which will probably lead to another. I actually had someone ask the other day and I was tempted to say 'I'm probably in the middle of a miscarriage right now, thanks for asking.' I know people don't mean to be hurtful but it kills me every time they ask.
Oh lovely, I hope you’re okay! Sending you an internet hug ❤️
Im so sorry 🥰
Thank you for telling your story, it’s something I’ll be aware of from now on because it’s not something I’d think of xx
Sending some love your way
Your answer on the child question was beautifully said. People really romanticize the idea of having children and starting a large family that they don't really consider the amount of work, time, money, stress and even trauma some families go through into that decision. They treat it like it's a simple decision when it's not. That's so much mental and emotional pressure to put on a person. They always say "you'll change your mind." Maybe, but maybe not. Either decision is perfectly fine and VALID! People other than the parents shouldn't have a say in their personal plans because it's really none of the business since they're not the ones going through it. Not everyone wants a big, traditional family.
You and Doug are doing an amazing job with Delilah! Your time with her is so heart warming and comforting to watch. And I love that you used your voice to set your boundary and help educate people on familial perspectives that go against society's expectation. We love to see it
I love the discussion about having more children. Totally agree with everything you said.
Appreciated the answer about kids, the amount of times people say 'oh you'll change your mind' is crazy! I'm also an Adventurer personality type haha.
I agree, I would never ask anyone what their plans are for having children, even my own kids. That’s so very personal. I also think so many parents put so much pressure on their adult kids to have a baby. As much as I love my 2 grandbabies, I would never put that pressure on my kids. For my mental health, if I’m having a feeling down time, often a brisk walk helps too, or just sitting on the patio in the evening, with a fire in the fire pit..... Yes, San Francisco is wonderful, and my very favorite city in the world.
This is a lovely comment :) my husband and I are 32 and we have been married 6 years and omg we get asked all the time when we're going to "start a family"..... I'm always like "actually we're a family right now!" We don't want to have any children and the drama that causes when we tell people that! It's mostly followed by "oh you'll change your mind" which is so condescending! Thank you for sharing such a positive comment about parenthood x
@@CharlotteFurnessWriter you are so right, you are a family! I honestly think most just assume people get married or commit to each other, so they can have children. It’s still a throwback from back in the day, because of religion, if you were not married but had a child, you were a “sinner”, and both you and the child were condemned 🙄, so many just assume still that if you’re together the next step is having kids. Nowadays, our kids are grown up, and it’s just my hubby and me, and it’s honestly the best time of my life. I’m happy it just being me and my hubby 🥰(and our doggies and kitty). Don’t get me wrong, I love my kids and grandkids, but my life with my hubby is MY LIFE.
I was also a “one and done” mommy. When I remarried, my husband wasn’t sure whether he wanted a child. I decided that if he decided he did, I was open to discuss it. My son was 9(I had him at 17) at the time, and we also were very happy with just the 3 of us. After a few years I started to have a difficult time with birth control pills and discontinued taking them. We used alternate methods for awhile and decided we would just stop all methods. We both decided if it was meant to be, we would have another child, if not we were perfectly happy with 1. We also decided if it didn’t happen we would not go the route of fertility docs, etc. As fate may have it we never had another pregnancy and still lived happily ever after😁Everyone has their own road to travel, and we’ve happily been together 46 years! As they say “just do you” have a great weekend.
Your 72 and on youtube!? Love itttt
@@heatherjane4760 married 39.5 years, met when I was 22, married when I was 26.5.. I’m 68(next week) We have a 19 year old grandson( also an only)and I love watching TH-cam 😉
@@hippygram aw brilliant! Love it 😍
I’m an only child and I never once wished for a sibling. I had lots of friends and was really social with my cousins growing up.
you articulated beautifully how I feel about having just one child...i get asked constantly when were having another and always feel a sense of guilt and need to justify why we have decided we are happy as a trio...I enjoy my daughter so much and feel blessed and complete but your the first person I've come across who seems to feel the same xx
I am on the Autism spectrum and the different things that you mention...the anxiety disorder, the introvert personality, the snapping your fingers or moving your wrist, the worrying, the constant thought flow, are all characteristics that I have too. I think that is why I enjoy your videos so much. Anyways, now that I know that my various mental health issues, depression, anxiety, worry, etc are all aspects of my Autism, it has made getting the right kind of assistance to help me cope soooooo much easier. I find it so much easier to function now that I know that I am on the Autism Spectrum. One of the things I struggle with is Seasonal Affective Disorder which makes me more depressed during the fall and winter. Having a special SAD lamp which stimulates my brain to think I am getting sunlight even if I don’t see the sun for weeks. (I live in the west coast of Canada where the weather is very similar to the UK). That helps a lot, especially as I start using it every morning once September arrives. I would highly recommend it to anyone who gets the blues in the fall and winter. Thank you for the lovely VLOG, you are hands down my favourite TH-camr, I have watched you since your early days and find you so lovely and soothing. I am looking forward to the rest of Vlogtober and then Vlogmas!!! Yayyyyyy!
@Peanut I have a weighted blanket and I find it works really well. Hope you are okay too! Cheers!
I’m an only child and I have the BEST relationship with my parents. They’re literally my best friends Cas it’s always just been us three 🤍🤍
Love this ❤️
Would love to see a “baby names we love but won’t be using” video from you!! ❤️
oh my, we get "you'll change your mind" SO much when we tell people we don't want children... it's so condescending! Thanks for addressing the issue so kindly and gently x
I feel like a lot of us want something similar to what we grew up with regarding siblings. I grew up with a sister very close to my age and I really want to have two children close together. My mum grew up with two brothers and she wanted three children, but sadly she kept miscarrying and ended up with two. Whether you want one, two or five, it's 100% your choice and no one should tell you otherwise!
I have been veggie since i was 15. Vegan since two and a half years ago! I haven't eaten lamb since I was 6 and made the connection.
Nobody else is veggie in my family but as soon as my niece started school, she learnt about farms and farm animals. She made the connection between meat and the animals and now does not want to eat them. Children have such big hearts. They know.
Also, you are such an incredible mother to Delilah. She's not missing out on anything. IF YOU DO choose to have another child, many years down the line, then it'll just add to the perfect life and up-bringing that she has. She's most certainly not missing out. xxxxxx
Oh girl... I'm only child and I LOVE it🙌🏻😍😂 don't get me wrong, i love seeing the relationship my friends have with their siblings but i just don't like it for me. Plus my mom had problem when trying to get pregnant and once she got pregnant she ended up losing the baby, so i can't imagine the pain she must have felt when someone ask her about having kids.
(I'm adopted by the way)
Kids are such a personal subject, I’ve just had twins and almost everyone has been like ‘perfect, get it over and done with in one go’. I would actually love another one in a few years and it just annoys me that people think they know how our family situation should be.
Delilah is such a lovely little girl, you’ve done and are doing such a brilliant job ❤️
I'm 29 and have never wanted children. When people find out they are either convinced you'll change your mind or make you feel guilty for not wanting them. Never say never, but I can never see myself in that position. That is ok, we all have a choice! 💜
I was watching this in bed with my three year old son. He was playing with his cars, and would pop his head over when he heard Delilah and said goodbye after she said goodbye with the endslate. My heart burst a bit ❤️
Too cute 😫
I know it’s not a competition or battle of the mums of TH-cam but you are one of the most pleasant and delightful people to watch, especially on screen as a mum, you don’t shove the camera in your child’s face and your videos just feel 100% authentic and natural. Keep doing what you’re doing. Also, loving the long hair! I loved the short but you suit both just as flawlessly! ❤️
You are such a great mum Rhiannon, don't feel pressured to have more children if you don't want to. I'm an only child and although I sometimes wished for a sister I'm very happy with my life. Delilah will be happy no matter what, she's such a lovely little girl xx
I also think that being an only child has made me a lot closer to my mum, she's my best friend. I feel like when Delilah's older she will also have that relationship with you x
I’m also an only child and there’s so many benefits ✨ you don’t need to have a sibling to have fun at home x
I’m 100% with you on just having one child. Our boy is 3.5 years old and everything you said about more kids, siblings, trying for babies, parents mental health is 100% true for us. We are on the exact same page as you and Doug x
Me too 😊
After my mom had my sister her mental health declined.. it was one of the most challenging times in her life. She suffered a lot and was not herself anymore. It took her a long time to get back to being herself again. I’m so grateful that I do have my sister but the impact that pregnancy had on her was really scary. I don’t want to have any kids of my own for personal beliefs and reasons unrelated but my mom did want to have more kids but after my sister was born she couldn’t imagine going through it again it.
Thank you for addressing these questions, especially the one child topic that touched me. It’s currently plaguing me the decision to have another child, and the only reason was to ‘give’ my daughter a sibling. Not because I was desperate to have another. Having a child was my deepest want, and I’ve got that now. So it’s helped me find peace in the fact that I actually only want one child, and can continue soaking up and cherishing her - alone.. guilt free that I won’t be ‘giving’ her a sibling.
She can have me 100% of the time and not shared with another child, and I think that’s great!
I appreciated the discussion about children. Some people just don’t have the urge to have human children also. I couldn’t imagine having a child but constantly am asked about having one due to my age creeping up and the clock ticking!!
Thankyou. Delilah is adorable. Xx
Never ever get bored of Delilah’s “Goodbyeee” warms my heart every time 💜
I live about 40 minutes from San Fran. It’s a city like many others, there are the pretty sights and the not so pretty sites. I recommend going on weekdays if you ever visit just because weekends can be packed. I think you’d enjoy it and for sure it’s a whole day type of thing and prepare to walk a lot unless you rent a car😊
The baby response you gave made me feel better. I come from a huge family and this is always brought up but I feel the same right now as you. So thanks for sharing it calmed me
I’ve been watching your videos since I was in middle school. I’m 24 now and I found it really lovely how similar our current scenarios are. My fiancé and I have also been engaged for years and haven’t made many wedding plans, we have a daughter who is just a toddler right now and we don’t want anymore kids! Lol it’s so comforting for me to hear someone say exactly how I’ve felt about not having more kids because I’ve been feeling a little insecure about it whenever people bring it up. Your family is wonderful and I’m still loving watching your videos as I did when I was younger
I suffer with anxiety, very much like yourself, my brain has its own little mind and sometimes can’t switch off. Can I just say thank you, as I use your vlogs to take my mind away from everything, I find listening to you so calming xx
I LOVE your wrap-with-me videos. I have 3 years worth of captures in my archives on insta stories.
I am an only child, i cannot imagine having a brother or a sister. I see so many people arguing with their sisters and brothers. I love my parents to death, i would not change it for the world. It made me appreciate my life more.
Also this vlog made me so happy to be so casual!! love your vlogs!!
I’m the only child and it’s just me,mum and dad and it’s brill being the only child it’s what your used to,my parents couldn’t financially afford it & also they didn’t feel the need to have another baby.People shouldn’t ask questions like that they don’t know how people feel about it
i have the best of both in terms of having siblings and being an only child. my brothers were late teens when i was born so i felt like i was an only child but had them around if i wanted to feel a sibling bond. turns out at times they have both done my head in! as long as there is a sense of love and family coming from somewhere for a child it doesnt matter if it comes from a sibling at all
I completely agree with people asking “the baby” questions. I have a four year old and a 6 month old but in between them I had a miscarriage at 12 weeks and was so desperately wanting to get pregnant again so the “come on when are you having another!” And “aw Sophia is desperate for a brother or sister!” Were soul destroying! I’ve learnt so much from that experience and would never ever ask any woman about babies now as you never know what is happening behind closed doors! Love your vlogs so much ♥️
Thank you for sharing how you honestly feel about having another child! My partner and I have a 3 1/2 yr old and do not want anymore. We only wanted one. We got questions literally daily much to the same as you, ‘when are you having your second’, ‘when will you give your daughter a sibling’, ‘she’ll be lonely’! It gets very draining trying to explain EVERY point you brought up! They’ve kind of gotten over it now, given it’s been 3 1/2 years and they’ve got the same answers haha! And thank you so much for sharing how you are an only child and you are fine! I think people think all only children are miserable and sad because they’re ‘alone’? I’m one of 3, and my partner is one of 4, and it has actually reassured me that only children are fine! ☺️
As an only myself, I loved being just me in my family. It afforded me so many opportunities, like those you’ve given Delilah, and I’m forever grateful for those opportunities. Plus, my parents made certain I had enough activities to participate in so that I could get my socializing in. (And I realised soon enough that I did not WANT a sibling, thanks to my friends with them!)
Delilah’s face when you were washing her hair- such a mood!😍
It’s so refreshing to hear someone talk about feeling that fulfilled feeling with one child! I had my little girl 2.5 years ago and I just don’t have the urge for anymore but often feel guilted by society to think I should have more x
Another only child over here 👋🏻 I also have a wonderful relationship with my parents and absolutely love being an only child. I honestly think it’s crazy that we are conditioned to think that 2+ children is ‘the norm’ and you should have a good reason for ‘only’ wanting one! People who say they want more than one NEVER have to deal with the ‘oh are you sure’ and ‘you’ll definitely change your mind’.
When you mentioned Biff & Chip at the end of the vlog, that brought back SO many memories! I'm 31 now and I remember getting those Biff & Chip books when I was 5 and just starting school! Great vlog. I love watching your videos, chilling with a cuppa! Xx
Just a few vlogs ago I was thinking about how unique the dynamic of your trio family is. It’s really sweet and the relationship Delilah has with both you and Doug is very special.
I’m an only child in my twenties, and I’m honestly so glad! My parents were much older and couldn’t have any more children after me. My mum used to find the questions so upsetting and I’ve been told that I’m spoilt countless times (prepare Delilah with a clever comeback now)! BUT I think only children are mature, very independent and creative! I have the most wonderful relationship with my parents now. We’re a strong trio!
I am an only child and it's the best thing! i feel very lucky to have my parents time
I could relate to people assuming that you're going to have another baby but from a completely different perspective. I don't have kids and never will because I don't want to, and people almost find it offensive and say that I'll change my mind, that it's just a phase or that I'm selfish to not want to have a baby. So rude and so disrespectful. You do you, Rhiannon! ❤️
speaking of 'wrap with me' videos, it just occurred to me the other day my first ever video i saw of yours was actually a 'wrap with me' vid, and i think i just got addicted to those videos, and then got addicted to all of your videos, and then binged most of your content from maybe the past 3 years, and been a proud viewer here ever since :D
Honestly what you said about one child or no children really got to me. I’ve never heard of anyone totally agreeing with those beliefs in the way I do! I’m from a huge family and if I ever really wanted a child (I don’t atm) I would only want one. I think it would be enough for me and watching you with Delilah every day honestly gives me life!!! Xx
As an only child myself, there are a lot of benefits! I'll never understand the push to have more than one if the parents don't want to/can't!
I'm an only child and I absolutely love it. I have a great connection with my parents and I never felt alone. Had a great childhood!
I don't want kids and I never used to mind when people said that I would change my mind and bring it up all the time but in the last year or so it has really started to annoy me! People have such strong opinions on it and it's bizarre. I loved Emily in Paris too!!! Can't wait for season 2 already
As an only child, I felt exactly the same as you did Rhiannon :). We're super close and I never felt lonely/ like I missed out. Often wonder what it'd have been like to have a sibling, but it doesn't bother me. I'm grateful my mum and dad could give me such a great childhood, and I'm sure Delilah will feel the same
Absolutely loved this video 🥺🥰 So happy you touched on the subject of asking people if they want another child - you articulated everything I think about often!! If we are lucky to be able to have kids, my fiancé and I only want the one (never say never that we will have more but we genuinely don't have the urge to have two or more). I get so fed up of people constantly asking WHEN we are having a baby, let alone how many we want (and when I say one they say all the clichés about giving them a sibling, how we will change our mind etc etc).
You are a gem. Love your family and your little Delilah is such a sweet girl. Thanks for answering so many questions and giving us all more of a glimpse into your life. BTW, I’m from San Francisco!
Such a lovely vlog and I love how you addressed the fact you may want another child you done in such a respectful and balanced way 💜
Oh phew, thank you. I do worry about these things. Thanks again x
My step mum constantly asks me and my sister my response was I think you are more likely to get a grand dog tbh 🤣
I have 2 babies, well they are 9 & nearly 8. I always get “don’t you want another” “when are you having another” never 🤷🏻♀️ I can’t! My body has said no more. I struggled for so long with it but now I’m at peace. I explain now to people and they are the ones that feel awful for asking. Not me feeling awful because I can’t produce another child x
People need to accept that having one child is fine, and shouldn’t automatically expect you to be having another. I got told that ‘an only child is a lonely child’ , or is a spoilt child which is total BS. I love my brother, but we argued & bickered and I rarely had my own space. I also couldn’t be myself because he had to copy everything that I did (because he wanted to do it better) which was very frustrating when trying to find myself as a teen. It puts me off from having another. My DD will make friends at school I’m sure. She will never be lonely.
Also a very happy only child, I never had any desire for a sibling. I remember being around 5 and my grandfather told my mom it was time to have another baby and I had a full blown mental break down. 😂😂😂
I love that Delilah just fulfills that desire for you. That's beautiful. I'm an only child too, raised by just my mom and love it as well. I wish people would lay off the sibling thing. It's the most environmentally friendly choice as well. Win win win.
I usually never comment on videos, but I wanted to say I really resonate with what you said about sleep, perfectionism, and overthinking. It is so so comforting to hear from someone I look up to that you struggle with it sometimes as well. Love to you and your family from San Francisco!
I appreciate your honesty and openness. Your vlogs are always my favourite!
As someone who currently has no plans for ever having children, its super frustrating when people demand when I'm going to have children or they judge me for saying never. For now I'm happy with my fur babies. As a 24 year old I'm still so selfish, love being alone and love my job. But who knows this could all change in years to come. I have always dreamt of wanting to feel pregnant tho.
the best way to end my week 🥰🥰
Absolutely loved your answer about having more children, it was so refreshing to hear. I grew up an only child as well, now have a 2-year-old daughter and neither myself or my partner are in any rush to have another (if at all) so I could relate to just about everything you said! I definitely didn't expect so many people to have such strong opinions about only having one but you're right, you never know someone's circumstances and I wish people were more mindful of that. Thank you for being such a lovely human being ❤️
Me and my husband are 100% on the same page as you guys when it comes to just the one child. Our little boy is 5 and we are happy with it just being us 3. It’s so true what you say it could be a number of factors....finance, mental health, just not having the urge to have more etc. You spoke very well on the topic 🙌🏻🙌🏻 xxx
You are just so lovely! Im a single mum to Matilda, she is the same age as Delilah, I'm part of the one and done club too! Your feelings of completeness resonate with me xx
I come from a family with 6 siblings and I do not see them!! I have 2 children a boy and a girl,37 and almost 34, they are not close at all!! So you do you!!
You're so right! Ironically, I have four siblings and I get along with them really well. At the same time, it's not been the greatest for my mental health. I have a lot of social anxiety. And then I am a little bit like a doormat around friends because I'm so easygoing.
We are around the same age and I have never dyed my hair and I don't see myself doing it in the near future. It does seem a bit strange to me to see so many people changing they hair color so often like they do it nowadays. And I'm not saying like it is a bad thing, that is fun, and experiments do bring joy and make life more interesting, maybe I'm just a boring person:)
But that is me, but you, Rhiannon, you have such a lovely hair color. I can not imagine that any other color looking as good as your natural color does. You are very lucky!
Totally get the more kids question, we had our first and we both said we probably wouldn’t have another and didn’t for 10 years then decided to have another as we felt ready. Each to their own and people shouldn’t just presume you have another a couple of years after the first if at all 🤷🏻♀️ x
You're such a gem Rhiannon! I love your honesty and consideration for different peoples circumstances and particularly the different perspectives on having children. Myself, I'm unsure whether I want kids. Myself and my husband are asked about it by those around us a fair amount and we're just not sure! So refreshing to hear your open answer about this x
I’ve been watching your videos for years and years but I never really comment (on anyones videos that I watch), but I just wanted to say how much I enjoy them. They are so lovely and comforting, and watching you be such a loving mother to Delilah gives me inspiration for the type of parent I hope to be one day (if I’m lucky enough to have children).
Thank you for your content 🤍
My son turned 5 before I had my daughter. I've always wanted 3 children and was so broody before I had my son but haven't been that broody since. Isn't it strange. I'm now pregnant with my 3rd and I'm looking forward to being a family of 5 finally but also glad that I don't have to be pregnant again beautiful as it is, sharing your body is hard.
I also have the same worries about people's assumptions around pregnancy. A family member recently got married and all everyone talks about is them having a child and oh I think they have a boy etc. I have to remind them that they might not want children or might struggle to conceive so everyone should stop putting pressure on them. I know they're just excited but it's not great. Xx
I always thought that I wanted a big family with lots of kids but now that my son is here that urge is really slipping for me also. For me it has a lot to do with the anxiety of being a new mom too. He's the best thing to ever happen to me, but my goodness this is the hardest thing I've ever done.
Delilah is honestly so adorable
My parents both grew up in households with multiple siblings. My mum only speaks to 1 of her 4 siblings, and my dad only speaks to 1 of his 2 siblings, though very rarely and only via social media - nothing especially personal, and they live on opposite sides of the world. Being raised in a family where broken down sibling relationships are rife has definitely given me the perspective that having big families with multiple children really isn't all it's romanticised to be.
The peanut butter falcon, was such a good and heartwarming film!!
I am an only child, i love it as a kid, but hate it as adult. I dont have close relationship with my parents, so i am very lonely
me too! :(
I'm also a ISFP-T !! It's so nice to find people that match this group 💕 you're such an inspiration to me. LOVE your vlogs 🖤
Thank you for your answer about having more children. I'm currently going through IVF after three difficult years of unexplained infertility and really appreciate you using your channel to address such an important topic. It's just not that easy for some people to have babies sadly and being asked when you're having a family is so painful 💔
Every question you answer im nodding my head. I can relate with regards to mental health and wearing yourself out. Thanks for being you x
Your vlogs are so comforting to watch. You are an amazing mum ✨
I remember the long blonde hair with the lightened ends!
It’s so refreshing to hear you talk about having children. I am one of five children! I did love it growing up and we are all close but I only have one child. My pregnancy was high risk and my son was born very prematurely. I would like to have more children but it hasn’t happened for us (no reason that can be found) and I find it difficult when people ask (it’s always me they ask!!) At times I’m made to feel guilty about this. I like things the way they are despite all this so it’s nice to hear from someone who is an only child themselves and giving a different perspective to what I’m always hearing from well meaning people 😊
So nice to see other people on the same boat with having one child. I have a 9 month girl and I'm certain she'l be my only. I felt the same way when I was pregnant with her too. My husband would like another, but understand where I'm coming from. She fulfills me. I had a complicated upbringing with my parents splitting up when I was young and moving across the country etc. I want to give her absolutely everything I never had and more. Fundamentally, I don't know how we could afford another. I also want to work in a job I actually want to do, not in something that's mundane.
People tend to use the kids question as small talk, but I don't think they realize how loaded a question it can be! We felt so content with one for quite a while until the urge hit very suddenly. Now we'll be going for number 3 in the next year and there will be a much larger age gap (7/8 yrs). point is, each family is unique, and making a conscious choice about the size of your family based on so many factors is SUCH a beautiful, responsible thing. no matter if you want none at all, or 6. And I really hope people start thinking before asking that question. I have a couple friends who are going through fertility issues no one knows about, and those questions are so painful. Anyway, lovely chat. thank you for sharing! Xx
I had to tell my mum recently to stop saying "when you have a baby", I explained even when I wanted one this is going to put pressure on me. She's worries that I won't have one and said that I didn't need to worry about child care because she would look after the child. It confused me.... As I would be the primary carer and I wanted to have a child because of me and my partner wanted one not her. I never ask people if they want children. I think it's an extremely Personal subject and more people should respect that. It's driving me insane that my mum keeps saying it. Hopefully she will stop now. 😬 Thanks for bringing this up though ☺️
Best way to spend a rainy day 🥰
I have always wanted 2 children.
After having my eldest son I had 3 consecutive miscarriages. Someone asked me, when are you having another?, you don’t want to leave it too long, you don’t want too big an age gap. I was so close to telling them “I’ve just had my third miscarriage last week” but managed to keep my mouth shut. Maybe I should have said something. They might have been a bit more thoughtful in the future.
I was lucky enough to have another son. 😌
Rhiannon, I absolutely love your attitude to Delilah's diet and it's something that I've been thinking about a lot for my future kids, I am pescatarian but like you hardly eating fish, and my partner is vegan. But I'm definitely of the same attitude to let my future children choose themselves, without judgement. It's great to hear your insight and how you have practically achieved this with her. I always knew my thoughts but never really knew how that would work in practice, but the way you articulated it makes perfect sense :)
Thank you so much for talking about the children situation! My partner and I are in a very committed relationship and we've talked about children before (not planning on trying anytime now, I'm only 23) and he's said that he'd like to only have one child. At first I was taken aback because I've always imagined myself with three kids. I've always wanted children and felt the 'urge' you described. I have to admit I've always felt hesitant to only having one child because many of my friends and members of family are and none of them had a good experience. But when I see Delilah, I honestly can't imagine how she could be unhappy, you and Doug seem to be the perfect parents for her! At the end of the day, I think it really is a gut feeling. Who knows, maybe I'll feel complete after having my first child. Thank you for opening this conversation! And yes, people, let's stop asking women when they're going to have a baby! Maybe they don't want to, maybe they can't, maybe they've lost babies or their partner do not want one. Please be mindful! x
I'm huge Paramore fan.. i love hearing other people/fans have special memories because of them!
We all need to share her channel, with how relaxing it is here and amazing mummy we need more to see her and her family 😍
Love your music choice for the end of the vlog, it's perfect, and of course Delilah saying goodbye...cuteness. Watching Delilah play with her toys in the bath brought me right back to when my boys were her age and did exactly the same. Time flies. :-)
You talking about your ombré hair brings back so many memories and makes me feel a bit old 😢
The ombre hair tutorial was the first video of yours that I've seen and I've been hooked ever since.
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I never comment and am watching these vlogs late, but I have to say I am very excited to hear you’re doing another gift wrapping vlog in December. That’s how I found your channel 🤗