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1. No one is coming to rescue you. 1:35 2. How you speak to yourself matters 2:38 3. Don't let idiots ruin your day 4:47 4. Don't burn bridges 5:42 5. Rejection is redirection 7:28 6. You can't change other people 9:38 7. It's okay to say "I don't know" 11:02 8. In five years, everything will be different 12:54 9. The best things in life aren't easy but they're worth it. 13:58 10. Romanticize your life 15:39
It took me a lot longer than I'd like to get my first "real" job out of college (in my field). Working a white collar job terrified me, but I took on a strategy. The night before work, I'd set up my coffee pot to brew right as my alarm was going to go off (programmable Mr. Coffee was the best college purchase ever), I'd plan an outfit I was excited to wear, I'd prepare a lunch I would be excited to eat, and plan one thing to do after work that I could get excited about. Sometimes that would be a board game event at a local bar, or sometimes its something as simple as reading a new book I got or playing video games with friends. Building these touchstones of joy into every day made coping with the new stress, schedule, information overload etc a lot easier, and I still do it every day. Prepping this stuff the night before also makes getting out of bed as low resistance as possible, At 6am when I am not even awake yet, coffee is already there, I don't have to think about what I'm going to wear. I just stumble around next thing I know I'm in my car jamming out to my music on my way to work.
One day I woke up and realized if I wanted to be an artist making decent money to at least pay the bills, I have to cut out a space in the world by myself and not wait for one to appear because it never will. I have no contacts, no network, no friends irl, so I'm starting literally from the NOTHING at 21 years old. Having a college degree in art won't magically give me a job, so I have to start working NOW and make the dream happen. We are our own fairy godmothers, people! Great video. ❤
I really appreciate how all the advice here is genuinely helpful and applicable to nearly anyone. No complicated investment “advice,” nothing telling me to buy a program for all the answers, nothing telling zoomers like me to stop buying coffee. This is real advice that I actually found to be helpful
Wow, you did not lie I feel very different. As a 20 year old, this was the best video I've yet seen on this topic (and I've seen a lot). Truly Thank You
i turn 29 this year, i need to hear some of these haha, even though i've been trying to work on most of it before i hit 30 next year. idk if i'll ever get the "dream job" bc i dont think i'll ever have one, but any job would be nice at this point after a year of job hunting and 10 billion rejections or ghostings, or toxic sounding job ads that gave me alarm bells instantly so i avoided them like wildfire.
Turning 24, this year, I have had a rough start of my 20s. Family members passing, having a job that wasn’t fulfilling, a long term relationship that ended. Leaving that job and being unemployed has allowed me to learn to love myself, find things I enjoy, find things I want to learn, and honestly I am so thankful for this time as well as your videos for both professional life, and this one about real life. Your videos are the right amount of realistic and optimistic, for me, at least, and here’s to a great rest of my and everyone else’s 20s 🎉.
I'm 44. This all applies! My advice to younger people... Opportunities crop up all the time, the trick is seeing them - keep your eyes open. Oh, and don't forget to moisturise your neck 😂
Thanks for the video it's been encouraging, I've been going through a lot with my current job not respecting me after i've worked for years with them, but i'm taking all the advice and change my life .
Thank you, Erin! As someone who just graduated with a master’s at 25, this advice was very helpful. I especially needed a reminder to be grateful for the little things in life. 😊
Erin, you are as encouraging and energetic as always! Love your video especailly the "I dont know" part, a great relieve to me who always fear people will look down on me if "I don't know". Thanks so much 😊
Another piece of advice I forgot to add to my earlier post: 20- somethings- don’t fear getting older. You will have to stretch more and you may want to go to bed earlier. But the trade-off is an improved sense of perspective (thanks to life experience) and a decreased concern with what others think of you. Those two things are so freeing! Your ability to see the big picture gets so much better and it can make you more sure of yourself. College and my 20s were alright but in hindsight they were a lot of pressure due to all the personal and educational/professional milestones I was trying to reach. I reached some and not others. When I was younger I would have been devastated if you told me I didn’t achieve all I planned to achieve. But older me sees it differently. I did just fine and I think I might actually be better off not having gone down paths that were nice goals but just were not meant to be. It is entirely possible you won’t achieve all your goals, and that might allow you to go on to something better!
It's not, if you approach it with maturity. Unfortunately many of my friends view their 20s as an extension of teen/college party life. They only live for the weekend and have no goals, no willingness to delay gratification, etc.
I just turned 25 mid May. So I’m halfway thru my 20s now. The first fews were rough, but that was in part due to lockdown. At this point now tho I’m the happiest I’ve never been. I feel so stable in my sense of self. I don’t care much any more about what others think of my appearance and stuff. It just doesn’t matter anymore. I’m never gonna look like I did as a kid anymore so why look back and hope for it? I’m aging and enjoying it cuz it’s like an adventure as to who I’m gonna be next. So good luck fellow human on your journey thru your 20s ❤
@@madeleinebright2590I didn’t do the typical teen stuff at those ages so doing it in my early early 20s was actually crucial for my social development. I’m autistic tho so lots of my “milestones” have happened at slightly different ages. However at 25 how I’m very much past the partying and reckless years. My brain is developed to the point that I can’t even imagine acting and doing stuff like I used to. 21 year old me and 25 year old me are two very very separate people
28 now, I learnt it all in theory by now, but still in the process of implementing them into the daily practice of my life. It's different to know and to do, to me it's a slow transition. This is great advide btw, good luck everyone, you'll manage!
I do not remeber how many times I have watched this video, at the end it makes me feel super good. Contrary to the 'gentle slap on the face' I actually watch it when I do not feel really good. Thanks Erin, lots of love to you. You are glowing, keep up with what you are doing!
This video deserves more viewsssss! I am in my early 20s and these are very great advice and reminders. Thank you as always for imparting your wisdom, Erin! 😊❤
With advice “don’t burn bridges” I mostly agree. But it is just as important to respect yourself, and if you’re being used or manipulated, you have all the rights in the world to ‘nope’ out of that professional relationship. That person isn’t going to completely ruin your career chances.
Would you be able to do chapters for your videos? It may be just me but I’ve become accustomed to seeing them and getting an idea of what’s being talked about in podcasts, lists, and advice videos.
I appreciate this however these feel less specific to someone in their 20s. It's still really great esp the last part about romanticizing life: it's made me remember the time I did this so well and I was GENUINELY happy during the pandemic.
I stil got a good 20 months before there's a 2 before my age, but man... I am already equally exited and nervous for the life ahead of me and what's already so soon to come. I just hope I get to make the best out of it and stuff like this is really helpful :)
Don't worry about me breaking rule #4. People have done so many messed up things to me that I became numb to it. It seems like suffering in silence is the only way people can see me as a mature person.
Interestingly when I silence the nasty internal voice that drags me down, I’m able to make choices that are more in harmony with my beliefs and morals. Also, I find myself much kinder in the thoughts I have about others too.
You beautiful, you English talking beautiful, you sound beautiful. I not understand you talking, I listen you talking every today. I not good in talking English but I love you English.
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1. No one is coming to rescue you. 1:35
2. How you speak to yourself matters 2:38
3. Don't let idiots ruin your day 4:47
4. Don't burn bridges 5:42
5. Rejection is redirection 7:28
6. You can't change other people 9:38
7. It's okay to say "I don't know" 11:02
8. In five years, everything will be different 12:54
9. The best things in life aren't easy but they're worth it. 13:58
10. Romanticize your life 15:39
Mid twenties right now and going through a quarter life crisis, so THANK YOU!
It took me a lot longer than I'd like to get my first "real" job out of college (in my field). Working a white collar job terrified me, but I took on a strategy. The night before work, I'd set up my coffee pot to brew right as my alarm was going to go off (programmable Mr. Coffee was the best college purchase ever), I'd plan an outfit I was excited to wear, I'd prepare a lunch I would be excited to eat, and plan one thing to do after work that I could get excited about. Sometimes that would be a board game event at a local bar, or sometimes its something as simple as reading a new book I got or playing video games with friends. Building these touchstones of joy into every day made coping with the new stress, schedule, information overload etc a lot easier, and I still do it every day.
Prepping this stuff the night before also makes getting out of bed as low resistance as possible, At 6am when I am not even awake yet, coffee is already there, I don't have to think about what I'm going to wear. I just stumble around next thing I know I'm in my car jamming out to my music on my way to work.
This sounds so great that I'm screenshotting it to keep. You really figured something out!
I have to try that
Love this!
this is wonderful thank you
One day I woke up and realized if I wanted to be an artist making decent money to at least pay the bills, I have to cut out a space in the world by myself and not wait for one to appear because it never will. I have no contacts, no network, no friends irl, so I'm starting literally from the NOTHING at 21 years old.
Having a college degree in art won't magically give me a job, so I have to start working NOW and make the dream happen. We are our own fairy godmothers, people!
Great video. ❤
As a 26 year old still looking for "purpose", thank you so much for this.
I really appreciate how all the advice here is genuinely helpful and applicable to nearly anyone. No complicated investment “advice,” nothing telling me to buy a program for all the answers, nothing telling zoomers like me to stop buying coffee. This is real advice that I actually found to be helpful
Wow, you did not lie I feel very different. As a 20 year old, this was the best video I've yet seen on this topic (and I've seen a lot). Truly Thank You
i turn 29 this year, i need to hear some of these haha, even though i've been trying to work on most of it before i hit 30 next year. idk if i'll ever get the "dream job" bc i dont think i'll ever have one, but any job would be nice at this point after a year of job hunting and 10 billion rejections or ghostings, or toxic sounding job ads that gave me alarm bells instantly so i avoided them like wildfire.
Turning 24, this year, I have had a rough start of my 20s. Family members passing, having a job that wasn’t fulfilling, a long term relationship that ended.
Leaving that job and being unemployed has allowed me to learn to love myself, find things I enjoy, find things I want to learn, and honestly I am so thankful for this time as well as your videos for both professional life, and this one about real life.
Your videos are the right amount of realistic and optimistic, for me, at least, and here’s to a great rest of my and everyone else’s 20s 🎉.
I hope things get better for you!
Thank you for this. My mom has dispensed this advice my whole life, and it's so comforting being 1000 miles away and hearing it all again ❤
This video was unexpectedly healing and made me feel better ! The words you have chosen to explain those points were heart touching for me.
I'm 44. This all applies! My advice to younger people... Opportunities crop up all the time, the trick is seeing them - keep your eyes open. Oh, and don't forget to moisturise your neck 😂
Thanks for the video it's been encouraging, I've been going through a lot with my current job not respecting me after i've worked for years with them, but i'm taking all the advice and change my life .
Thank you, Erin! As someone who just graduated with a master’s at 25, this advice was very helpful. I especially needed a reminder to be grateful for the little things in life. 😊
Erin, you are as encouraging and energetic as always! Love your video especailly the "I dont know" part, a great relieve to me who always fear people will look down on me if "I don't know". Thanks so much 😊
Another piece of advice I forgot to add to my earlier post:
20- somethings- don’t fear getting older. You will have to stretch more and you may want to go to bed earlier. But the trade-off is an improved sense of perspective (thanks to life experience) and a decreased concern with what others think of you. Those two things are so freeing! Your ability to see the big picture gets so much better and it can make you more sure of yourself.
College and my 20s were alright but in hindsight they were a lot of pressure due to all the personal and educational/professional milestones I was trying to reach. I reached some and not others. When I was younger I would have been devastated if you told me I didn’t achieve all I planned to achieve. But older me sees it differently. I did just fine and I think I might actually be better off not having gone down paths that were nice goals but just were not meant to be.
It is entirely possible you won’t achieve all your goals, and that might allow you to go on to something better!
Awesome content, as always Erin! At 57 your advice is still applicable!
Thank you for this !! Just turned 20 in February , hoping this decade isn't as scary and soul shattering as many people say it is :)
it's not it's great you are moving into your prime! believe it!
I agree with the previous commenter. It only gets better, esp bc you have more control over your life. That's irreplaceable
It's not, if you approach it with maturity. Unfortunately many of my friends view their 20s as an extension of teen/college party life. They only live for the weekend and have no goals, no willingness to delay gratification, etc.
I just turned 25 mid May. So I’m halfway thru my 20s now. The first fews were rough, but that was in part due to lockdown. At this point now tho I’m the happiest I’ve never been. I feel so stable in my sense of self. I don’t care much any more about what others think of my appearance and stuff. It just doesn’t matter anymore. I’m never gonna look like I did as a kid anymore so why look back and hope for it? I’m aging and enjoying it cuz it’s like an adventure as to who I’m gonna be next. So good luck fellow human on your journey thru your 20s ❤
@@madeleinebright2590I didn’t do the typical teen stuff at those ages so doing it in my early early 20s was actually crucial for my social development. I’m autistic tho so lots of my “milestones” have happened at slightly different ages. However at 25 how I’m very much past the partying and reckless years. My brain is developed to the point that I can’t even imagine acting and doing stuff like I used to. 21 year old me and 25 year old me are two very very separate people
28 now, I learnt it all in theory by now, but still in the process of implementing them into the daily practice of my life. It's different to know and to do, to me it's a slow transition.
This is great advide btw, good luck everyone, you'll manage!
Thanks for all your advice Erin ❤
I love TH-cam…and this is by far my fav video I’ve seen all year! Thank you!
Amazingly wise video, thank you Erin!❤
Exiting my 20s right now enjoying this video. ❤
I do not remeber how many times I have watched this video, at the end it makes me feel super good. Contrary to the 'gentle slap on the face' I actually watch it when I do not feel really good. Thanks Erin, lots of love to you. You are glowing, keep up with what you are doing!
I've graduated uni with a bachelor's degree a year ago and I'm yet to find a job, I really hope it gets better
This video deserves more viewsssss! I am in my early 20s and these are very great advice and reminders. Thank you as always for imparting your wisdom, Erin! 😊❤
With advice “don’t burn bridges” I mostly agree. But it is just as important to respect yourself, and if you’re being used or manipulated, you have all the rights in the world to ‘nope’ out of that professional relationship. That person isn’t going to completely ruin your career chances.
Erin, you're an absolute gem. I love you, thank you so much for your content ❤❤❤
Would you be able to do chapters for your videos? It may be just me but I’ve become accustomed to seeing them and getting an idea of what’s being talked about in podcasts, lists, and advice videos.
Yes, they are in the description! Not sure why they aren’t showing up 🧐
I appreciate this however these feel less specific to someone in their 20s. It's still really great esp the last part about romanticizing life: it's made me remember the time I did this so well and I was GENUINELY happy during the pandemic.
Erin, you make awesome videos! Keep up the good vibes!
I stil got a good 20 months before there's a 2 before my age, but man... I am already equally exited and nervous for the life ahead of me and what's already so soon to come.
I just hope I get to make the best out of it and stuff like this is really helpful :)
Erin, where in Sam hell were you 25 years ago when I needed you? Brilliant work!
Thank you Erin!
Love this!❤
Thank u so much for your awesome and helpful advice 🙏
That lip color looks amazing on you
36 and still find this very relevant. ❤
SAME I'm 41 haha
Don't worry about me breaking rule #4. People have done so many messed up things to me that I became numb to it. It seems like suffering in silence is the only way people can see me as a mature person.
A body in motion will stay in motion, unless acted upon buy an outside force
Great video! Do you have any recommendations on how to implement some of these tips? A specific planner/app/routine?
Don't just make a change to change. Have a direction. The grass is greener, and you might regret your decision if it wasn't focused.
Thanks Erin!
Thank you 🙏🌟😇💛
I love these rules!
Advices for life ✨️
Why am I crying erin!?
Thank you Erin
Interestingly when I silence the nasty internal voice that drags me down, I’m able to make choices that are more in harmony with my beliefs and morals. Also, I find myself much kinder in the thoughts I have about others too.
Erin, you’re so pretty 🙂
Actually, the not really needing more money thing does help. I'm not looking for that anyways, and everyone my age values that!
Thank you 😊
Muchas gracias ❤
thank you
Hi Erin I’m a student can u please include advice for teenagers?
✨I cried a bit
comments here makes me feel less bad that i don’t have a career yet and i’m turning 21 in a week 🥺
good video!
I am smiling. 😂😁
But I'm an introvert who's always hated dating. 🤬
Every 19 year old should be FORCED to watch this.
You beautiful, you English talking beautiful, you sound beautiful. I not understand you talking, I listen you talking every today. I not good in talking English but I love you English.
Oh shoot 10 years too late, but all still probably wonderful advise
Your prefrontal cortex isnt fully formed until about age 30. Fyi.
I hear shopify is expensive to sell with.
Can I just say… your preface before the video was so appreciated! Saved for a later date 🫶