Bilkul sahi saas or maa me ye fark hota hai ki saas apne bete ki najar me Bahu ko bura banati hai uski burai karke ..or maa kabhi bhi Aisa nahi karti vo ulta apni beti ko samjhati hai or dat deti hai ye kehke ki vahi tumhara Ghar hai or husband ko samjhne ki koshish Karo or apas me baith ke suljha lo masla ..in laws family aps me gossips karte hain or jab bahu jaati hai achanak se sab chup ho jate hain .. kyoki vo usko family member nahi mante ye kaam sabse jada ek saas ka hota hai .
Toxic relationship me hamesha acche logo ka he shoshan hota hai. Kyoki Jo bura hair go to gali galoch, jhuth bolana kabi nai chorte aur hum unke level me gir nahi sakte
Vo log har jagah hme badnam kar dete hain. Jbki hm koi bat hoti h to dono taraf ki izzat bachate hue answer dete hain. Pados mein bhi nikalti hu to log aise dekhte hain jaise kon aa gya ho.. Eyes se he bhut kuch kah jate hain
Saas toh samjhati h ki bahu toh free fund naukarani . Jab shadi hone wali hoti tab kehte beti banakar rakhenge. Ek insaan nahi samjhate beti kya banayenge
शादी-विवाह केवल लड़का-लड़की की जाँच-पड़ताल करने के साथ-साथ दोनों के परिवारों के रहन-सहन की भी पड़ताल करनी चाहिए । "एक परिवार से निकल कर दूसरे परिवार में सबके साथ मिलकर रहने में कोई दिक्कत नहीं होनी चाहिए ।" सबकुछ देख समझ कर अपने अनुकूल परिवार के साथ ही रिश्ता करना चाहिए । "क्रूर और असभ्य लोगों से रिश्ता करने की नौबत क्यों आती है?"
@@mswr3351 यदि माँ भीगी बिल्ली जैसी हो तो तात्पर्य ये भी हो सकता है कि "उस परिवार में स्त्रियों का सम्मान नहीं होता; उन्हें महत्व नहीं दिया जाता!" ✍️लडका या लड़की दोनों की प्रकृति का परिचय उनकी माताओं को देखकर भी जान सकते हैं 👍
Bhaiya Galti yahan pe pati ki bhi Hoti hai Uske maa baap uski biwi ke khilaaf use bhadkata rehte Hain toh Woh itna andha kyu ban Jata hai ki Woh aankhe band Karke uski BAAT pe bharosa Kar Lete Hain
Ek husband hi hota h jo sarural me samman dilva b skta h or sb kuch handle kr skta h but vhi agr problems create kre or sahi ko sahi or glt ko glat na bol ske to fir aise log shadi hi na kre plz. Apne parents ko glt hote hue b sahi btaye or partner ko sahi hote hue b glt bolte h.
@@parithakurpari2083 mere pati aesa hi h 15 saal baad choda h mene unko ki raho aap apne shi ke sath mei tjo galt hi thik hu and sach batau tho bhot khus ho apni life me or ye sochti hu ki kyu 15 saal barbaad kiye aesa inshaan ke piche jo kbbi mera tha hi nii
Nisha mahipal apki bat thik h but meri beti ka khyal aa jata h or apne parents or 3 siblings jo abi unmarried h unki marriage me problem na aaye kahi. Mere parents ne meri shadi me acha khasa invest kia tha aise kaise chod du. maine unke or unke parents k liye bhut kuch kia h apna paisa. Shadi se phle ki savings.bahu ki sari responsibility uthai working hote hue b bina kisi maid help k. apni feelings apne emotions sb kuch invest kia h maine vo alg bat h k inme se mujhe kuch b return nhi mila.
Samjhdari isme k jab tak unki sarkar hai tab tak chup chap sab sehan karo aur jab apne bachhe bade ho jaye aur sas budi ho jaye tab inko maza chakhana. Aise log isi k layak hote hai.
baat to bahot acchi kahi apne but ye but jab tak ye bude honge tak hum bude ho jayenge stress le le ke sara din dimag se baat nhi niklti ki ye aurat faltu ki shakayt galiyo mei kra lo but ghr ek kaam mei madad nhi krni
Bhaiya Maine aise bohot cases sune Hain jahan pe sas sasur apni bahu ke Saath Bura karte Hain lekin uska pati hi Kuch Nahi karta balki Woh Apne maa baap ke liye apni biwi ki hi chod deta hai aur Kayi log toh itne besharam hote Hain ki apni biwi ke Saath Saath Apne chote chote baccho ko bhi chod dete Hain
Aap ne jo kaha hain thik waisa mere sath hua hai...mere husband ne mere in laws ki wajah se mujhe chod diya sirf mujhe hi nahi mere 10 mahine ke bete ko v...pata nahi unhone aisa kaise kiya .....chalo thik hain main maan leti hu main hi acchi nhi hu lekin mera baccha uski kya galti hain... mujhe kuch samajh nahi aa raha main kya karu....
The biggest issue when dealing with toxic in-laws is that the problem is compounded by several orders of magnitude when the spouse refuses to stand up. We can of course say that we should not depend on others to stand up for us and we need to stand up for ourselves. I fully agree with that philosophy but when the spouse's support is there then toxicity of in laws automatically gets diluted. Although both men and women face toxicity from in laws, I am sticking my neck out and saying that women stand up for husbands way more often then men standing up for their wives. Men are in many case silent spectators to the atrocities committed by their parents on the wife. They should realize that their primary responsibility is towards their wife and children and be bold enough not to allow parental atrocities on their wife. If they are too scared to stand up then they dont deserve to be married in the first place
Fair nai hote log kabhi when it comes to their parents.... Mera ek muh bola bhai hai, he know that his mother is abusive, but still he never take side of his wife, he tell her you are younger, they are elders, you always listen them and don't answer.
sir , mujhe Lagta hai ki husband wife ko kuch sas shashur isliye Kami nikalte hai taki Husband wife ko ALag kar de . or Husband wife ko kharcha or property na deni pade. . . . . or kuch parents yeh chahte hai ki husband wife ke pas paise na rhe taki ....parents ki puri baat mante rhe... chahe galat ho.
Thanks for this video, bhaiya. Against the hateful dogmas preached by the Indian society, you are one of the very few who speaks out these truths so fearlessly.
Lekin jaha saas hi mind game khele waha kya krna hai pati k same to itna aache se baat krti hai mano mai to jese unke liye sub kuch hu..... Pr pati jese hi kahi gaye humari koi jizat hi nhi fir....ab har samy izat pane k liye pati ko samne nhi betha skte.... Tab kya kre
Ladkiyon ki life jyada barbaad hoti hai..In-laws ke sath unhe adjust karna hai, child birth unko karna hai, body fat unka badhna hai, insecurities unki jyada rehti hai coz of trust issues, bacche unhe dekhne hain..sab ki sunni unko hai. Men's life doesn't change much rather it becomes comfortable.
Agar husband apne parents ki galat baat ko support kare aur wife ko hi galat samjhe ...wo apni wife ko prefer na kar k parents ko prefer kare always to kya kare
Sab bekar hai sir, jiske dimag main yahi bhara ho ki unke mabaap bhai bahin sab thik hai baki sab bekar... I never spoke a single word to in laws...seva bhi bahut ki...still I m wrong.... Now I am at last step...
I am just a maid of my family.No attachments, no love. I am fearful every single moment here.I am not allowed to talk to neighbours, to post pictures of my parents that I miss them, talking to my mother, going out without my husband.
Independent bano please ajkal esa hi hota hai mere sath bhi same hai ,Mai pgdca kr rhi hu abhi , saas bahut matlabi hai meri bahut jada muh pe alag pith piche alag esi hai ,
i myself did the same too few years back and now I have been living extremely happy with my husband for 10 years till date🙏☺️ my in-laws were that much toxic that they asked us to leave their home bcz i did not bring dowry even after their demand when they asked money from my parents few months before the fixed marraige day now we r so so so happily living abroad 🙏🙏👏👏🤩🤩
Sir: I have one thought about the point you mentioned about the abusive language that in laws use and you suggested warning the in laws and taking action. This is a very mature and a logical level headed way of dealing. The only problem many people (particularly women) face is that their own parents wont support them. Please make a video about parents of girls not considering it a stigma if their daughter stands up against in laws. Please bust the myth that "beti parayi dhan hai" or "beti ki dholi maike se uthi hai aur arthi sasuraal se". Please make a video suggesting how parents can support their daughter in such scenarios without actually crossing the line and instigating the daughters to be offensive
Very difficult to accept. Sir i do not have mom. I thought I got a mom. But very difficult for me to handle. Now even my sil she is divorced. Staying with us. They have made my life miserable😔. But thanx God I have got a husband very supportive
Naa kro Naa bharo ..... Shadi krke jaate h koi kharid k nhi le jaata jo mnn m aaye vo kre ..... Beti bnke rhna saamne walo se hi bardasht nhi hota to fir Bahu ki aukaat pe aana hi pdta h ...... Tit for Tat 💯
Sir aap sahi khahte h mene ye sab Saha h to me bhi chahungi ki mere jesi life koie ladki na jiye thanku sir me apni beti ko aapke video dikhti hun jisse vo Meri tarh na sahe again thanku👍💯
Itne hi insecure hote hai to shadi kyu krte hai apne bete ki ?? Apne paas hi rkha krein usko , aur jinki soch hi galat ho wo log mummy papa mummy papa krne se samjhne wale nhi hote , girgitt hote hai rang badalne wale ..😏
Gali dete h to bol do.. Muh smbhal k bolo..insult krte hai to bolna bnd krdo.. Unse bilkul... Boldo agar mere ko pareshan kiya na to apne kr lungi kuch... Dra to skte ho unko.. Agar vo bkvas krte hai to.. Unse uchi awaj m bt kra kro. Jo pados m bhi sune... Or sarm k mare khud bolna bnd kr denge
I lost my husband 2 months back...I have left with 2 small kids...in-laws are spreading all sorts of allegations upon me and my parents...they want me to leave their house and property and forcing me to live with my parents
Same story here ,but after husband death ,a lady should be being a strong personality,tabhi wo sabkuch handle kr skti h,baccho ko hi apni takat banana chahiye,many ladies faced these difficulties after husban death
Right Jyothi ji and biggest problem is we ladies are homesick.. doing household work and raising kids and suddenly we have to walkout from the house... Start earning to live and now this is not enough ...so handle in laws also...!!
Bahut khoob sir ji kal raat hum apni girlfriend se isi baat par Discussion kar rahe the ki kis situation me kya karna chahiye to aapne same wohi baate boli jo kal hum apni girlfriend se bole the yani ki sirji hum apni jagah galat nhi the... aur sirji aapki aur humari bahut si baate same match karti he...🙏
Hello sir, I am a regular viewer of ur video. Sir please make a video about if any member of the husband's family side is more dependent financially. Then what to do as a wife. Because due to this husband and wife relationship is not good. Please sir give some idea how to deal it Thank u
What to do when they play mind games like they hurt but act like innocent which is not seen by others only DIL suffers silently to save relationship with husband & not get bad name to parents
Please make a video on when your in laws stop you from meeting your parents even once in three months and always why u go there ...flights mehngi hai dnt waste money ...though my husband is earning in lakhs
Sir hmesha apko sunti hu or jb mere sath kuch galt ho to apko sunkar apne gusse ko rok leti hu or ignore kr deti hu.meri life ab change ho rhi h khush rhne lgi hu.apke btaye tariko ko hmesha apnati hu 🙏
Sir, mein apne in-laws ke sath rehti hu.. mere husband abroad hai..n mein in-laws bhout toxic hai.. hum dono ke bich misunderstanding creat karvate hai
What about married sister-in-law..? If she’s too much want to be involved in everything in her brother’s home.. and family arrangements of all cooking dinner together with cooking skills being compared.. 😢 Is it an alright behaviour..?
@@lalitarani46 ye sb bate sune me acche lgte hai pta tb chlta hai ,jb hm us halat se gujr rhe hote hai Sir ki bate yekdm correct hai 👍 Lekin meri problem bhut alg
Sir mene bahut time diya in law's ko dil se maa papa maana but they treat as a slave. Ab mene study start kar di to ab to bahut ho raha h. Mera koi nhi h na ma or na hi papa I am not complain against all of these. Focus karna studies is too too hard . They are not happy with my studies. So what can I do sir?
Aap Apne study pe focus karo, aur job lo, mere Saath BHI AISA ho chuka h in law's Kabhi BHI support nhi kiye padhay ke liye, magar husband ne support Kiya aur aaj govt job BHI mil chuki h, eisliye aap study pe focus karo
@@Rahneet8891 di mere sath bhi aisa ho raha hai sasural me mujhe koyi pasand nahi karata mai bhi ab study karati hu. Aur mujhse koyi bat nahi karata...aur mai 4sal se taiyari kar rahi hu kahi koyi exam nahi nikalata ek beta hai....mai bahut paresan rahati hu pati bhi mujhe kuchh nahi samjhte...😭
Namaste bhaiya, mai aapke Sare vedio dekhti hu, fir v Mai bahot tension me rahti hu, mere sasural me sb gharwal jeth jethaani nd husband sab mujhe paresan karte hai, sasural me rahne nhi dete, agar mai rahti v hu to hmesa svi mil k paresan karte hai, husband v ghar walo ka sath dete hai, mujhe samajh nhi aata mai kya karu, plzzz sujhaav de
Bahut jabardast decision ke bathe bathaye gaye hai. Koi soach bhi nahi saktha aisa deceaion zindagi ko bahut kushiya San bana saktha hai shuriya dhanyavad
Sb kar k dekh li koi fayda nhi . Bdo ka sbse strong point ye hota hai ki wo bde hain Maa ka to khaskr ki unhone janam diya hai bete ko pala hai Kbhi kbhi in chijo ko itna bhuna diya jata hai ki ab wo kuch bhi kre apke sath sbkuch its ok hojata hai
बहुत सी सास तो बहू को बच्चा मनना तो दूर, इन्सान भी नही समझते 😔😔
Bilkul sahi
Sach bola aapne mujhe kabhi nii samjhte hai sans meri naa kabhi meri taklif halat ko samjhte hai bas husband achee hai mere baki sab se nafrat hai
Righttt
Sach me same story he sister
Absolutely right
Maa kabhi aapni bacche ki buraiya ,our mistakes nahi batati but ye laws pure colony mai batate hai .....kaise mane hamare parents 😭
In logo ko khud ye smjh nhi ata k in sbko btane se bezti to inhi k Ghar ki ho rhi h or SB mzak bi inhi Ka udae ge
Mirch masala daal ke batate hain
True
Haa sahi baat
Bilkul sahi saas or maa me ye fark hota hai ki saas apne bete ki najar me Bahu ko bura banati hai uski burai karke ..or maa kabhi bhi Aisa nahi karti vo ulta apni beti ko samjhati hai or dat deti hai ye kehke ki vahi tumhara Ghar hai or husband ko samjhne ki koshish Karo or apas me baith ke suljha lo masla ..in laws family aps me gossips karte hain or jab bahu jaati hai achanak se sab chup ho jate hain .. kyoki vo usko family member nahi mante ye kaam sabse jada ek saas ka hota hai .
Toxic relationship me hamesha acche logo ka he shoshan hota hai.
Kyoki Jo bura hair go to gali galoch, jhuth bolana kabi nai chorte aur hum unke level me gir nahi sakte
Vo log har jagah hme badnam kar dete hain. Jbki hm koi bat hoti h to dono taraf ki izzat bachate hue answer dete hain. Pados mein bhi nikalti hu to log aise dekhte hain jaise kon aa gya ho.. Eyes se he bhut kuch kah jate hain
True
Saas toh samjhati h ki bahu toh free fund naukarani . Jab shadi hone wali hoti tab kehte beti banakar rakhenge. Ek insaan nahi samjhate beti kya banayenge
😢😢😢
Khoon chusne ki machin hoti h
True , free fund servant
Ha axataly write
Bilkul sahi bol rahe ho aap , Bahu ko toh nokrani समझते है घर भी संभालो और चार बात भी सुनो।
Unfortunately In the name of Bahu, I am a unpaid maid. They are taking my kindness as granted.
Be kind to yourself and then to others.
@@AnubhavJain husband is not supportive, I m not his first priority
@@yasminmuneer3498 same here 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 kya Kru yrrr
Same here
Same here
शादी-विवाह केवल लड़का-लड़की की जाँच-पड़ताल करने के साथ-साथ दोनों के परिवारों के रहन-सहन की भी पड़ताल करनी चाहिए । "एक परिवार से निकल कर दूसरे परिवार में सबके साथ मिलकर रहने में कोई दिक्कत नहीं होनी चाहिए ।" सबकुछ देख समझ कर अपने अनुकूल परिवार के साथ ही रिश्ता करना चाहिए । "क्रूर और असभ्य लोगों से रिश्ता करने की नौबत क्यों आती है?"
Sir jb phle milte h tb sb acha hi feel krate h sath rhkr hi pta chla h k kaise log h असलियत तो tbi सामने आती h
@@deepikasingh444 "असली जाँच तो यहीं से शुरू होनी चाहिए!"👍👍👍
@@parithakurpari2083 yeh kahi ekdmm sahi baat
Sab se pehle ladke ki maa ko dekho!!! If she is boss of house then Mat karo shadi
@@mswr3351 यदि माँ भीगी बिल्ली जैसी हो तो तात्पर्य ये भी हो सकता है कि "उस परिवार में स्त्रियों का सम्मान नहीं होता; उन्हें महत्व नहीं दिया जाता!"
✍️लडका या लड़की दोनों की प्रकृति का परिचय उनकी माताओं को देखकर भी जान सकते हैं 👍
Bhaiya Galti yahan pe pati ki bhi Hoti hai Uske maa baap uski biwi ke khilaaf use bhadkata rehte Hain toh Woh itna andha kyu ban Jata hai ki Woh aankhe band Karke uski BAAT pe bharosa Kar Lete Hain
Vo esa is lye krte hai kyon k vo apne ma bap ko neecha nhi dikhana chate
Ryt ..... 👍
Ek husband hi hota h jo sarural me samman dilva b skta h or sb kuch handle kr skta h but vhi agr problems create kre or sahi ko sahi or glt ko glat na bol ske to fir aise log shadi hi na kre plz. Apne parents ko glt hote hue b sahi btaye or partner ko sahi hote hue b glt bolte h.
@@parithakurpari2083 mere pati aesa hi h 15 saal baad choda h mene unko ki raho aap apne shi ke sath mei tjo galt hi thik hu and sach batau tho bhot khus ho apni life me or ye sochti hu ki kyu 15 saal barbaad kiye aesa inshaan ke piche jo kbbi mera tha hi nii
Nisha mahipal apki bat thik h but meri beti ka khyal aa jata h or apne parents or 3 siblings jo abi unmarried h unki marriage me problem na aaye kahi. Mere parents ne meri shadi me acha khasa invest kia tha aise kaise chod du. maine unke or unke parents k liye bhut kuch kia h apna paisa. Shadi se phle ki savings.bahu ki sari responsibility uthai working hote hue b bina kisi maid help k. apni feelings apne emotions sb kuch invest kia h maine vo alg bat h k inme se mujhe kuch b return nhi mila.
Samjhdari isme k jab tak unki sarkar hai tab tak chup chap sab sehan karo aur jab apne bachhe bade ho jaye aur sas budi ho jaye tab inko maza chakhana. Aise log isi k layak hote hai.
baat to bahot acchi kahi apne but ye but jab tak ye bude honge tak hum bude ho jayenge stress le le ke sara din dimag se baat nhi niklti ki ye aurat faltu ki shakayt galiyo mei kra lo but ghr ek kaam mei madad nhi krni
Yar aise wait karte kRTe life Khrab karte rehna bohat galt hai
Aur unnecessary pressure ka kya karein...jiski wajah se bar bar padesani ho rahi?😢
Bhaiya Maine aise bohot cases sune Hain jahan pe sas sasur apni bahu ke Saath Bura karte Hain lekin uska pati hi Kuch Nahi karta balki Woh Apne maa baap ke liye apni biwi ki hi chod deta hai aur Kayi log toh itne besharam hote Hain ki apni biwi ke Saath Saath Apne chote chote baccho ko bhi chod dete Hain
🙏
Yes u are right...
Aap ne jo kaha hain thik waisa mere sath hua hai...mere husband ne mere in laws ki wajah se mujhe chod diya sirf mujhe hi nahi mere 10 mahine ke bete ko v...pata nahi unhone aisa kaise kiya .....chalo thik hain main maan leti hu main hi acchi nhi hu lekin mera baccha uski kya galti hain... mujhe kuch samajh nahi aa raha main kya karu....
Kya kare bhaiya please guide me 🙏🏻
@@umanandi4242 abhi apka divorce huwa he ki divroce case chal rhi he
The biggest issue when dealing with toxic in-laws is that the problem is compounded by several orders of magnitude when the spouse refuses to stand up. We can of course say that we should not depend on others to stand up for us and we need to stand up for ourselves. I fully agree with that philosophy but when the spouse's support is there then toxicity of in laws automatically gets diluted. Although both men and women face toxicity from in laws, I am sticking my neck out and saying that women stand up for husbands way more often then men standing up for their wives. Men are in many case silent spectators to the atrocities committed by their parents on the wife. They should realize that their primary responsibility is towards their wife and children and be bold enough not to allow parental atrocities on their wife. If they are too scared to stand up then they dont deserve to be married in the first place
I faced this today
True!
@@parnitasharma8898same mere sath bhi yhi ho rha hai
Vry true
Me and all my friends suffering from this.
Sas sasur ko esa hi krna he to bete ki shadi hi nhi krvani chahiye
Shaadi waah kro jaah saas sasur ho hi naaa problem khatam😂
Sahi bat h
Bahut sahi baat hai
Acha jii ☺☺☺
Sab saas buri nahi hoti hamare saas bought buri hai uanke teen bate hai teenoo ko Ghar ujaer diya kise ki ghar nahi basnay di.
@@RadhaRani-ln4nt to husband ko bolo alag ho jae dono sath rho hissa lekr
Fair nai hote log kabhi when it comes to their parents....
Mera ek muh bola bhai hai, he know that his mother is abusive, but still he never take side of his wife, he tell her you are younger, they are elders, you always listen them and don't answer.
Never heard anything so maturely talked about inlaws. This is empowering. Thank you.
God bless you :)
sir ,
mujhe Lagta hai ki husband wife ko kuch sas shashur isliye Kami nikalte hai taki Husband wife ko ALag kar de .
or Husband wife ko kharcha or property na deni pade.
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or kuch parents yeh chahte hai ki
husband wife ke pas paise na rhe
taki ....parents ki puri baat mante rhe... chahe galat ho.
Right
Gajabb politics hai parents hai ya netaa hai
Mere sath yahi hota h
Yes it happens . Ya bohat baar larki walo pe pressure banaya jata hai ki waha se help le lo financially and fir air baat Bigar jati hai
Jis ghar mein politics chalti hai waha kabbi pyar nahi banta members mein
Apki wife to bhot lucky hogi jinhe aap mile 😊😊🙏🙏
Ha sahi bat hai
Yar sab aise kehte h actuly krne aur bolne mei fark hota h ...tchwood my huby is nyc
Right
@@nidhimandape8158 x
Thanks for this video, bhaiya. Against the hateful dogmas preached by the Indian society, you are one of the very few who speaks out these truths so fearlessly.
Lekin jaha saas hi mind game khele waha kya krna hai pati k same to itna aache se baat krti hai mano mai to jese unke liye sub kuch hu..... Pr pati jese hi kahi gaye humari koi jizat hi nhi fir....ab har samy izat pane k liye pati ko samne nhi betha skte.... Tab kya kre
Tb vhi kro jo vo kr rhi h tum b pati k hi samne bhut achi bahu bno bad me jaise ko taisa
Very true,,, aajkal yahi karti hain mother in law, pata nhi kyun wo humko kabhi apnaate hi nhi, hum toh bas unka pyaar chahte hain.
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Mere sath bhi yhi hota hii PTI ko btao to bisbas hi nhi krte
@@parithakurpari2083 yes sahi bat kahi... Ham bhu hai unki koi gulam nahi...jaise ko taisa
Today ,I need this topic ,thank you bhaiya
Thanks sir ...For this video..Very clear cut and straightforward confident msg you have given... Thanks
Thanks a lot for creating awareness 🙏🙏
Ye video dekh ke to ab shadi ke naam se dar lagne laga hai 😟 peacefully life spend karna chahta hu but shaadi karke ye possible ni hai shayad.
Ladkiyon ki life jyada barbaad hoti hai..In-laws ke sath unhe adjust karna hai, child birth unko karna hai, body fat unka badhna hai, insecurities unki jyada rehti hai coz of trust issues, bacche unhe dekhne hain..sab ki sunni unko hai. Men's life doesn't change much rather it becomes comfortable.
@@creativetalks9215 😌😌🙄
Agar nhi kri bhai shadi to mat krna zindgi haram ho jayegi aurat or maa ke bich m
Agar husband apne parents ki galat baat ko support kare aur wife ko hi galat samjhe ...wo apni wife ko prefer na kar k parents ko prefer kare always to kya kare
Mere husbnd bhi aise hi hai,meri saas ne to chor hi bna diya hai,mujhe
Mare sath bhi bilkul aysa hi hai
They r controlling ur husband n bhadka rhe h, apne husband ko kaho ki mai apne jaga sahi hu ap khud observed kro, ap apna behaviour sahi rkho
Divorce de do
@@binishkhanam3161iljaam lagate waha self respect hurt hoti hai
You are absolutely correct, sir. Thanks.
Sir kitna bhi kar do in low apni aadat nhi badlte hume khud ko badlna padrta h.
सास ससुर अप भी बनोगी याद। रखना 🙏
Isliye Sadi se pehle husband ko bolna chahiye ki aap Sadi k baad In-laws k sath nahi rahoge,apne husband k sath akele tahogi
Thx sir...I needed this topic
Very matured way to handle... Thank u so much ur absolutely right..... U gave me best solution
Sab bekar hai sir, jiske dimag main yahi bhara ho ki unke mabaap bhai bahin sab thik hai baki sab bekar... I never spoke a single word to in laws...seva bhi bahut ki...still I m wrong.... Now I am at last step...
Very very helpful vedio .. Thankyou So Much Anubhav Sir... May God Bless U
Thank you :)
I am just a maid of my family.No attachments, no love.
I am fearful every single moment here.I am not allowed to talk to neighbours, to post pictures of my parents that I miss them, talking to my mother, going out without my husband.
I feel the same
Apko apni family se kbhi bi rista nhi todna h ase logo Ka koi bhrosa nhi
Independent bano please ajkal esa hi hota hai mere sath bhi same hai ,Mai pgdca kr rhi hu abhi , saas bahut matlabi hai meri bahut jada muh pe alag pith piche alag esi hai ,
@@Itsnitu_01_ right Apne bilkul Shi Kaha Apne khud k dum pr jio or apni Zindagi ko Apne hisab se jio glt ko glt bolo or Shi ko shi
@@shikshasharma1415 yes
Mai apni saas ke taano se bhut paresan ho gai hun. Mera uthna baithna, kisi se baat krna, n krna.... Unke anusar hi hota hai
Whatever you had said is so correct and practical in life.👍
Thank u sir for this video
i myself did the same too few years back and now I have been living extremely happy with my husband for 10 years till date🙏☺️
my in-laws were that much toxic that they asked us to leave their home bcz i did not bring dowry even after their demand when they asked money from my parents few months before the fixed marraige day
now we r so so so happily living abroad 🙏🙏👏👏🤩🤩
That's good as ur husband is supporting enough
yes, sister. he is the one for whom i am living otherwise it would have not been possible for me if he hadn't supported me.
Same with me....but husband tn.. sported a..but pta ni .kdo sada ghr bnuga..
@@gill92-R jaldi bnega ji...asi shift kita hn australia. and we r damn happy. toxicity ton Bach gye...kende ne sewa kro bt hajjm v kise nu hi hundi🤪
Thanks a lot this video is very useful.
Very practical & helpful video...👍 thanku!!
Me apke sare video dekhti hu.aap bahut acha samjhte ho..apki bajah se mene apni life me kuch changes kiye h..apko shukriya bhaiya 🙇
God bless you :)
@@AnubhavJainsir main bhut problem me hu kya mujhe aap suggest kr skte ho main kya kru mujhe kuch samjh nhi aa rha pls help me sir
Sir: I have one thought about the point you mentioned about the abusive language that in laws use and you suggested warning the in laws and taking action. This is a very mature and a logical level headed way of dealing. The only problem many people (particularly women) face is that their own parents wont support them. Please make a video about parents of girls not considering it a stigma if their daughter stands up against in laws. Please bust the myth that "beti parayi dhan hai" or "beti ki dholi maike se uthi hai aur arthi sasuraal se". Please make a video suggesting how parents can support their daughter in such scenarios without actually crossing the line and instigating the daughters to be offensive
Wah sir... Very sensible advice... Thank you so much
Very helpful suggestion sir,
Topic बहुत सही लिया है आपने,पर Anubhav ji हम Thanks बोलने वाले नहीं 😄 क्योंकि ससुराल वालों के मामले में हम बहुत lucky है।
Accha hai, lucky hi raho, God bless you :)
Tht's good khass iswar kre hr ldki aapki trh lucky rhe
Very difficult to accept. Sir i do not have mom. I thought I got a mom. But very difficult for me to handle. Now even my sil she is divorced. Staying with us. They have made my life miserable😔. But thanx God I have got a husband very supportive
😭same with me also dear
Same story but my husband supports blindly to sil and mil .
It’s all gonna be okay someday…. Bless you
Kafi sare motivators dkhe h..bt ur videos are vry relatable nd practical😊
Thanks 👍👍👍 Anubhav bhai u are so positive
Bahut sahi smjhaya h sir aapne ..thanks a lot😍
Ok billi ji 😂
Zabardast
Valuable!!!
Thank you bhaiya .....for discussing this topic ......it is very useful for me....
Naa kro Naa bharo ..... Shadi krke jaate h koi kharid k nhi le jaata jo mnn m aaye vo kre ..... Beti bnke rhna saamne walo se hi bardasht nhi hota to fir Bahu ki aukaat pe aana hi pdta h ...... Tit for Tat 💯
Exactly thodi si kuchh galti kar do ya unke mn k khilaf kar do to batane me 1 second nhi lgate ki tumhara ghar nhi h sasural h ye kayde se raho
@@kiranrajput6163 jb bole kayde se rho ...to unko apna rup bta do chandaal wala kalesh kro khub ..bhar jakr chilao unki ijjat ke falude kr do apne ap sidhe ho jaynge..jitna sidha bankr rhoge utna preshan krnge log ..badmash bankr rho bhut kuch milega ..krke dekhna guys ye sb
@@111jiya step mother h kya
@@111jiya real mother bhi aisa kr rhi h apni beti ke sath
@@111jiya ek din ke lye khi chle jao or ph aaye to khana ki tumne preshan kr rkha h ..phir kuch improvement aayega
Thank you bhaiya
Ap dono side se sahi bolte ho bahut se log ek side ki hi baat karte h ma baap sas sasur bhagvan hote h chahe vo kuchh bhi galat kare
After21 years I hurts badly I listen you thanks for helping in this mindset
ईश्वर अप की जिंदगी सफल बनाए और अप के कर्म के लिए शांति दे जय श्री राम
You encourage very well sir 🙏
Korona bimari tum kha se aa gye
Absolutely necessary actions 👍👍👍
भाई मेरे अपना कॉन्टैक्ट नंबर दो ना ....प्लीज🙏
Thank you sir. 🙏🙏
My MiL is narcissist...toxic to the core...very very hard to handle her....she is full of manipulation
Mine too... I haven't seen any toxic woman like mine
@@sabs4415 kyA hua 😥
Mine too bahut hi ghatiya
Meri v main kya karun help me kya unko jawab ulta dena shi hoga ya chup rehna hi
Sir aap sahi khahte h mene ye sab Saha h to me bhi chahungi ki mere jesi life koie ladki na jiye thanku sir me apni beti ko aapke video dikhti hun jisse vo Meri tarh na sahe again thanku👍💯
Thankyou sir 😊
Some inlaws are much more toxic . They think as we are slaves even they themselves don't leave in peace and try all means to make life hell
Itne hi insecure hote hai to shadi kyu krte hai apne bete ki ?? Apne paas hi rkha krein usko , aur jinki soch hi galat ho wo log mummy papa mummy papa krne se samjhne wale nhi hote , girgitt hote hai rang badalne wale ..😏
Vryvtrue same situn I face
Very very helpful video thank you so much sir
Tq so much sir
Sir ego nhi self respect hoti hai tok skte hain wo pr gaali dene lge to kya kre hadd se jyada insult krte hai
Gali dete h to bol do.. Muh smbhal k bolo..insult krte hai to bolna bnd krdo.. Unse bilkul... Boldo agar mere ko pareshan kiya na to apne kr lungi kuch... Dra to skte ho unko.. Agar vo bkvas krte hai to.. Unse uchi awaj m bt kra kro. Jo pados m bhi sune... Or sarm k mare khud bolna bnd kr denge
I lost my husband 2 months back...I have left with 2 small kids...in-laws are spreading all sorts of allegations upon me and my parents...they want me to leave their house and property and forcing me to live with my parents
Better file a case straightaway for your legal rights
Same story here ,but after husband death ,a lady should be being a strong personality,tabhi wo sabkuch handle kr skti h,baccho ko hi apni takat banana chahiye,many ladies faced these difficulties after husban death
Right Jyothi ji and biggest problem is we ladies are homesick.. doing household work and raising kids and suddenly we have to walkout from the house... Start earning to live and now this is not enough ...so handle in laws also...!!
bhai, lekin sas sasur hme bhi to apne baccho jaisa samjhe.
@@jhankarjs9709 khi niklo mt ldai krni pde to bi kro but niklna glt h
Right thinking
Thanks sir 😊
Sir apke video ki jitna tareef kru kam h kuki app hr ek cheez base se utate h 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Thank you:)
Namste sir🙏
Thank you...this topic is vry important...🙏
Bahut khoob sir ji kal raat hum apni girlfriend se isi baat par Discussion kar rahe the ki kis situation me kya karna chahiye to aapne same wohi baate boli jo kal hum apni girlfriend se bole the yani ki sirji hum apni jagah galat nhi the... aur sirji aapki aur humari bahut si baate same match karti he...🙏
Hello sir, I am a regular viewer of ur video. Sir please make a video about if any member of the husband's family side is more dependent financially. Then what to do as a wife. Because due to this husband and wife relationship is not good. Please sir give some idea how to deal it Thank u
What to do when they play mind games like they hurt but act like innocent which is not seen by others only DIL suffers silently to save relationship with husband & not get bad name to parents
Bilkul sahi kaha aapne......best wishes bhai😇
Very very nice and good advise
Please make a video on when your in laws stop you from meeting your parents even once in three months and always why u go there ...flights mehngi hai dnt waste money ...though my husband is earning in lakhs
🙏🙏🙏
Very helpful 👍 video thankyou sir
Thanks u......😊😊😊
Jay mata di bhaiya 🙏🌹
bahut achhe topic par apne video banaya ye ish topic ki bahut jarurat h aj ke samay me
Vvvvvvvvvv vvvvvvvvvv vvvvvvvvvv vvvvvvvvvv vvvvvvvvvv vvvvvvvvvv ñice bhai ♥️ se Love you so much 👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍
Very good sir ji
Sir hmesha apko sunti hu or jb mere sath kuch galt ho to apko sunkar apne gusse ko rok leti hu or ignore kr deti hu.meri life ab change ho rhi h khush rhne lgi hu.apke btaye tariko ko hmesha apnati hu 🙏
God bless you :)
Bahut acha bhaiya👌👍very good
Very common problem I am also victim
Thanks🙏🙏
Sir, mein apne in-laws ke sath rehti hu.. mere husband abroad hai..n mein in-laws bhout toxic hai.. hum dono ke bich misunderstanding creat karvate hai
What about married sister-in-law..? If she’s too much want to be involved in everything in her brother’s home.. and family arrangements of all cooking dinner together with cooking skills being compared.. 😢
Is it an alright behaviour..?
Thank you very nice sir
Agar husband always apni mummy ka sath de to Kya kare..
Ya to saas changgi ho ya photo tanggi ho🤗🤗🤗
Agr dono hi nhi ho to kya kre yrrrr
Mere saath yahi hai😏😏
@@lalitarani46 😔😔
@Arti Patil jab dono option nahi hai to Anubhav sir ki baate maano yahi 3 rd option hai hum jaiso ke liye☺☺
@@lalitarani46 ye sb bate sune me acche lgte hai pta tb chlta hai ,jb hm us halat se gujr rhe hote hai
Sir ki bate yekdm correct hai 👍
Lekin meri problem bhut alg
Aap yek dam sahi keh rahe h
Very very nice bhai ji🙏🙏👌👌👌
Sir 5 saal baad bhi kisi par mental torcher ya maan Hani ka case kiya ja sakta hai?
Yes bilkuk
Sir mene bahut time diya in law's ko dil se maa papa maana but they treat as a slave. Ab mene study start kar di to ab to bahut ho raha h. Mera koi nhi h na ma or na hi papa I am not complain against all of these. Focus karna studies is too too hard . They are not happy with my studies. So what can I do sir?
Aap Apne study pe focus karo, aur job lo, mere Saath BHI AISA ho chuka h in law's Kabhi BHI support nhi kiye padhay ke liye, magar husband ne support Kiya aur aaj govt job BHI mil chuki h, eisliye aap study pe focus karo
@@Rahneet8891 ok I will do this n show that I am also a human being like you.
@@chitrasingh2561 ya u can do it
@@Rahneet8891 di mere sath bhi aisa ho raha hai sasural me mujhe koyi pasand nahi karata mai bhi ab study karati hu. Aur mujhse koyi bat nahi karata...aur mai 4sal se taiyari kar rahi hu kahi koyi exam nahi nikalata ek beta hai....mai bahut paresan rahati hu pati bhi mujhe kuchh nahi samjhte...😭
@@studycorner7570 study n u show all of them that u are winner not loser. Just do it with all yours strength n u can do it . Raise confidence
Thanks so much sir ji
Namaste bhaiya, mai aapke Sare vedio dekhti hu, fir v Mai bahot tension me rahti hu, mere sasural me sb gharwal jeth jethaani nd husband sab mujhe paresan karte hai, sasural me rahne nhi dete, agar mai rahti v hu to hmesa svi mil k paresan karte hai, husband v ghar walo ka sath dete hai, mujhe samajh nhi aata mai kya karu, plzzz sujhaav de
Foot daalo raaj karoooo
Aise logo ke sath rehna hi kyun hai aapko?
Aour jub sas lalchi mil Jaye to Kya kare sir 😄
Husband lalchi na ho Bas,,,,
Sas sasur nand or husband sb lalchi ho tb kya kre sir
दीदी अप भी सास बनोगी 😀 सत्य क्या है यह कोई नहीं जानता आप के अलावा
दीदी यदि बीबी लालची मिल जाय छूटे केस करे ओर मायके में रहे ओर मोटी रकम मागे तो दीदी
@@user-yt5yj2gg1f biwi lalchi th nhi milti h magar saas sasur lalchi jarur hote hain, jo paray dhan ki ummid karne lagte h
Bahut jabardast decision ke bathe bathaye gaye hai. Koi soach bhi nahi saktha aisa deceaion zindagi ko bahut kushiya San bana saktha hai shuriya dhanyavad
Thank you so much sir 🙏🙏😄
Sb kar k dekh li koi fayda nhi .
Bdo ka sbse strong point ye hota hai ki wo bde hain
Maa ka to khaskr ki unhone janam diya hai bete ko pala hai
Kbhi kbhi in chijo ko itna bhuna diya jata hai ki ab wo kuch bhi kre apke sath sbkuch its ok hojata hai
Aap shi bol rhe ho
Aap bilkul sahi Kah rahi hai, same mere sath Hua hai, mai depressed ho chuki thi
Thanks🙏🙏